"The Myth of Normal": Dr. Gabor Maté on Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture

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  • Опубликовано: 17 дек 2024

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  • @CatloafCreative
    @CatloafCreative 2 года назад +503

    Gabor Mate's work is essential to healing this world. Thank you for bringing him on!

    • @frankstared
      @frankstared 2 года назад +1

      Meh, Erich Fromm didn't go into medicalized explanations but he said what needed to be said back in the 60s.

    • @chasinglighttoo
      @chasinglighttoo 2 года назад +1

      @@frankstared So what are you doing here?

    • @frankstared
      @frankstared 2 года назад +1

      @@chasinglighttoo I'll tell you but will you reciprocate? I came to see if he is embracing equity...yet.

    • @ArabUluv2hate
      @ArabUluv2hate 2 года назад +4

      @@frankstared he spent 12 years working with drug addicts. Wtf are you talking about?

    • @frankstared
      @frankstared 2 года назад +1

      @@ArabUluv2hate All the more reason for equity advocacy. Trauma is rooted in inequity-nothing more, nothing less.

  • @TheJagjr4450
    @TheJagjr4450 2 года назад +228

    "Normal is just a cycle on the washing machine."
    One of the best sayings I have ever heard.

    • @jennyomalley7634
      @jennyomalley7634 2 года назад

      " Normality is not something to aspire too , but something too get away from ' is another silly saying. WHAT is normal ? is a question asked by people that don't fit in . Another word for normal is regular ( used by Americans ) people know full well what it means . Nothing wrong with being different , or abnormal . Get on with it , leave normal alone.

    • @rubytuesday7653
      @rubytuesday7653 2 года назад

      💛🙂💛

  • @banirahman4926
    @banirahman4926 2 года назад +79

    In the Indian subcontinent culture parents pick up the baby when he/she cries. I used to get shocked when I saw western parents not reacting to their baby crying. I also never liked the western idea of separating babies and toddlers from their parents at night. The warmth and comfort that babies and toddlers get from the mother cannot be compared to anything. I’m really glad I didn’t listen to those theories and let my kids sleep with me until they got much older.

    • @jillybe1873
      @jillybe1873 2 года назад +5

      Yes I ignored my native Western culture and followed my friends from South regions, kids fine thanks god

    • @pragmaticpoet
      @pragmaticpoet 2 года назад +10

      Oh the things I could say about abuse in all cultures, but what I have learned of prevalent trauma in India is heart breaking... no one culture is innocent of trauma cycling (authoritarian parenting, deifying parents, childhood prostitution, human trafficking, child labor, forced marriages, honor killings = but we cuddled our babies when they cry, but drop them on the ground and throw them under the bus when the start to grow up 🙄)

    • @pragmaticpoet
      @pragmaticpoet 2 года назад +4

      @@tarmynastyr the superoriy complex of sssuming that western parents do not comfort their children when crying is interesting propaganda for a nation with a predominant culture of authoritarian parenting = that on average doesn't even respect their childrens autonomy by raising them to have the confidence to choose for themselves the most important aspects of life - 1.) career, and 2.) spouse / oh wow, you comforted them when they cried as an infant (which many western parents do) but than gaslite them their whole lives so they have no sense of personal identity = wow, impressive parenting tips

    • @lunaridge4510
      @lunaridge4510 4 месяца назад

      This culture of child abuse originated way-way back in the Church-ruled Middle ages. it was one of many ways the Christian authorities managed to destroy the original European societies. Long before they descended on the native American and African societies. Motherhood / womanhood was one of the main object of destruction; the native knowledge of childrearing, mothering, gradnmotherhood, obstetric knowledge, herbalism, shamanism, etc. The Christian authorities invented tales of mothers "smothering their babies in bed" while co-sleeping with them. Or poisonings crying children with opioids. Our modern medicos repeat these nasty tales. Bottle "milk" is better than human milk, long term breastfeeding is bad, home birth is dangerous, picking up a crying child is to ruin them--and on and on. . .

  • @THandP_org
    @THandP_org 2 года назад +357

    "It is no measure of good health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society"
    Dr Gabor Maté has been one of the most consistent advocates for the intentionally marginalized and stigmatized, the most vulnerable, and has been the most vocal critic of the popular treatment modalities as they actually create the very problems they claim to be wanting to heal.
    Thank you so much for this beautiful segment Amy.

    • @SusanHopkinson
      @SusanHopkinson 2 года назад +13

      Quotation from Jiddu Krishnamurti, 1966

    • @frankstared
      @frankstared 2 года назад +1

      Yet, he does not advocate for equity. He says almost everything else but that. And that is inexcusable.

    • @Danny-dt1pe
      @Danny-dt1pe 2 года назад

      @@frankstared 🤦‍♂️ life must be horrible being you.

    • @allaboutdetox7526
      @allaboutdetox7526 2 года назад +1

      thats why NPD and all sort of cognitive dissonances in masses, psychopaths thrive in a sick society, yet they make sure that people get trauma regularly

    • @frankstared
      @frankstared 2 года назад +3

      @@allaboutdetox7526 Follow the money and power and you find the heart of darkness...trauma.

  • @marthamagee2055
    @marthamagee2055 2 года назад +65

    " What people need is Community, Compassion, Contact and Safety. That's what allows people to work through their traumas. And unfortunately, that's not readily available."
    - Gabor Maté MD

    • @dosiajaworska1049
      @dosiajaworska1049 Год назад

      I have released ¹on the way

    • @lunaridge4510
      @lunaridge4510 Год назад

      Little children shouldn't get traumatized to begin with.

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 7 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@lunaridge4510everyone knows that,but it's not how things are.

    • @DebNKY
      @DebNKY 4 месяца назад

      ​@@lunaridge4510but we do. So we have to deal with it.

  • @marktaylor3489
    @marktaylor3489 2 года назад +368

    As a retired psychotherapist I find Mate to be brilliant. His assessment of the falling life expectancy being related to the crumbling economic and social conditions at about the 36:00-mark is absolutely spot on and explains many of the deaths to come.

    • @seniorlady5998
      @seniorlady5998 2 года назад +30

      I second your comment, as another retired psychotherapist, and have seen with many clients the physical consequences of abuse endured as children, manifesting in adulthood. It is tragic that often the connection is not made by those treating the patient.

    • @sheldonbodryn1003
      @sheldonbodryn1003 2 года назад +26

      After watching this entire interview, I believe this is the most important interview I have ever seen. I'd like every mature person to be able to see it, and gain insight into any illness they may have.

    • @laraoneal7284
      @laraoneal7284 2 года назад +10

      Mark Taylor. This has nothing to do with a falling economy but much more to do with the squelching of ppl with childhood trauma and shaming us for revealing the horrific things done to us as children. Survivors need to be listened to and validated for what we suffered through and how can we all help to be more aware of this MYTH of normalcy.

    • @99nej
      @99nej 2 года назад +22

      @@laraoneal7284 It's both though is what he is saying. This crazy society where we must dedicate our lives to the almighty dollar makes us leave behind behaviours that build community and connection, creating trauma from the disconnection.

    • @laraoneal7284
      @laraoneal7284 2 года назад +6

      @@99nej I get it but the childhood trauma is there before any of these problems existed. Bc of having this toxic society environment it DISALLOWS and shames ppl for discussing these things thus every other dysfunction collectively follows.

  • @DavidLindes
    @DavidLindes 2 года назад +71

    36:04 - "What people need is community, contact, compassion, safety... that's what allows people to work through their traumas." On point.
    Good stuff; thanks for sharing this, DN.

    • @beadmecreative9485
      @beadmecreative9485 2 года назад +5

      The social fabric is totally destroyed in western countries due to hyper individualism

  • @toyotaprius79
    @toyotaprius79 2 года назад +522

    This was profoundly heavy to listen to, thank goodness that we still have people the likes of Dr. Gabor Maté with us in this world

    • @TurtleKitty-357
      @TurtleKitty-357 2 года назад +20

      Yes, I’ve watched soooo many of his vids since I discovered him a few years ago…I think it was pre pandemic but I spent many months watching and re watching his videos. I so concur with his findings and statements. I haven’t yet bought any of his books but I’ve done a lot of therapy and consciousness-raising activities pretty much my whole life to heal childhood traumas, so I’m quite familiar with these concepts. That said, I am still on a journey of exploration and healing and watching his videos have really helped me connect more dots.

    • @tommiebrooks8573
      @tommiebrooks8573 2 года назад +12

      This response about shrooms above just shows you the problem here in America.
      Has nothing to do with what is being spoken about.

    • @neovxr
      @neovxr 2 года назад +13

      @@tommiebrooks8573 one should seek or create an understanding indigenous environment to use indigenous means of healing..

    • @tommiebrooks8573
      @tommiebrooks8573 2 года назад +15

      @@neovxr I agree 👍
      My mother is Cherokee from the South.
      She and my elder family members use plants for healing.

    • @frankstared
      @frankstared 2 года назад +6

      What's your community? Go visit the homeless shelter(s) where you live: you'll find the very best people there.

  • @truthinknowledge8312
    @truthinknowledge8312 2 года назад +241

    One of the few academics that stood up for Palestinians. Respect.

    • @CinCee-
      @CinCee- 2 года назад +24

      Gabor was actually born jewish in nazi occupied Hungary if I remember right.

    • @r3b3lvegan89
      @r3b3lvegan89 2 года назад

      Correct. It’s shown in the Wisdom of Trauma I have the clips saved. He’s one of the few OGs who understands that Israel is just a Zionist genocidal state system just like the US and AIPAC is the linkage for their war profiteering against Palestine.

    • @wade5941
      @wade5941 2 года назад +2

      Not so much.

    • @frankstared
      @frankstared 2 года назад +21

      Don't forget Chomsky, Chris Hedges, Arundhati Roy, Edward Said, etc.

    • @matthewingerson
      @matthewingerson 2 года назад +13

      Don't forget Dr. Rev. William Barber, Dr. Rev. Cornell West, Bernie Sanders. There really are many others.

  • @nonyabizness.original
    @nonyabizness.original 2 года назад +189

    "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" -- J. Krishnamurti

  • @Aikidragon_Prime
    @Aikidragon_Prime 2 года назад +56

    I tell people who push "Strength is everything", the majority of the mentality of the U.S., Strength without compassion is cruelty.

    • @tomsenft7434
      @tomsenft7434 2 года назад

      @@Thanksabunch the opposite of love is hate. If you reject power because you want to love, then you will not use the power of your love.

    • @TRSEnterprises-mm5ww
      @TRSEnterprises-mm5ww 8 месяцев назад

      ​@tomsenft7434 the opposite of love is indifference. Hate is love turned rotten

  • @susanparker1374
    @susanparker1374 2 года назад +85

    I’m 61 oct 7, and at my lowest, childhood was mayhem. Perfect timing. Thank you

    • @robertrichard6107
      @robertrichard6107 2 года назад +5

      I'll be 69, Dec. 23, shutting the door on disallusion seems to bring higher B/P.

    • @jamesowuor6572
      @jamesowuor6572 2 года назад +3

      The sun 🌞 always comes up another day 💗

    • @barbiekat6352
      @barbiekat6352 2 года назад +1

      @@robertrichard6107 can you explain what you mean?

    • @jillybe1873
      @jillybe1873 2 года назад +2

      With you ❤️🌹keep going 🤗

    • @glimps.
      @glimps. 2 года назад +1

      Hang on, Susan. You will get there. Take care🌺

  • @bluewaters3100
    @bluewaters3100 2 года назад +95

    So nice of Gabor to be on your show. He is a truly compassionate human being.

    • @Historian212
      @Historian212 2 года назад

      I’m a Gabor fan, but he’s promoting his work and latest book. He’s not doing it to be nice.

    • @annalisavajda252
      @annalisavajda252 2 года назад +1

      I agree Jordan Peterson seeks so much attention but he has trauma and addiction issues he has not remedied holistically either. Needs therapy too and is stubborn no one said he is not intelligent but that does not mean empathetic or emotional intelligence.

    • @lizzzarduh
      @lizzzarduh 2 года назад +1

      @@annalisavajda252 you are so right Anna….

    • @lizzzarduh
      @lizzzarduh 2 года назад

      @@annalisavajda252 don’t know who you’re replying too but I like your comment about him…he is so popular and has such a following but every time I listen to his talks it doesn’t speak to me. I think it’s the lack of emotional intelligence

  • @valkiehaider4544
    @valkiehaider4544 2 года назад +37

    He brings tears to my heart... I see too Dr. Mate !!!

  • @incognito3620
    @incognito3620 2 года назад +28

    Dr. Maté has hit the nail on the head on how society makes us feel inadequate, lacking. It took me until I was 65 to realized I was worthy. That I was useful and did not need others to verify this fact. I am an fine artist and my parents never understood how to deal with these attributes in a child. I understand them better now, but suffered because I never felt worthy in my ability to be creative. Art was considered a waste of time. They wanted “ more” from me. Who I was, was not enough or accepted in my family.

    • @dreamlife2351
      @dreamlife2351 2 года назад +1

      Over 49 years ago I said,”I could have been somebody ( if I wasn’t abused”) and today I know better but sometimes still struggle with it

  • @lindagarland5223
    @lindagarland5223 2 года назад +151

    I will be purchasing this book. I really believe our society could BE and raise healthier children if they studied under this insightful Dr.

    • @Malaikatrendy
      @Malaikatrendy 2 года назад +7

      I second that. He has three books in audible , assumingly - any other online book store.

    • @goldmother2238
      @goldmother2238 2 года назад +3

      Or maybe we should value women the primary caregiver for children

    • @lindagarland5223
      @lindagarland5223 2 года назад +3

      @@goldmother2238 yes! yes! yes! For families, towns, and countries!

    • @jabbermocky4520
      @jabbermocky4520 2 года назад

      A large number of American men are afflicted with the envy of children. They would prefer that ALL the love, acceptance and attention should be theirs alone. They do deliberate harm to children and mothers. It's a selfish pathology.

    • @poppymoon777
      @poppymoon777 2 года назад +1

      I just got the book too and looking forward to what he has to say

  • @zombiehampster1397
    @zombiehampster1397 2 года назад +63

    Mate and DemocracyNow!?!? It's like peanut butter and jelly for me. Perfect. I love his insight and his openess.

    • @wuhaninstituteofvirology
      @wuhaninstituteofvirology 2 года назад +7

      (his son Aaron Mate used to work @ democracy now)

    • @zombiehampster1397
      @zombiehampster1397 2 года назад +3

      @@wuhaninstituteofvirology Thank you, I had no idea :)

    • @JH-pt6ih
      @JH-pt6ih 2 года назад +6

      @@wuhaninstituteofvirology Aaron Mate is probably the best journalist out there right now. No corporate BS.

  • @COULGHOULLADY
    @COULGHOULLADY 2 года назад +89

    Struggling 3 months after my suicide attempt, glad I stuck around because I wouldn’t be able to read this book.

    • @nonyabizness.original
      @nonyabizness.original 2 года назад +22

      i'm glad you stuck around too 💖

    • @nishavasaikar2805
      @nishavasaikar2805 2 года назад +10

      The Law of Nature is Change. Stay Blessed Love.

    • @t_khon_o
      @t_khon_o 2 года назад +11

      hold on. :) there’s plenty of great books to discover :)

    • @Weiner-Worm
      @Weiner-Worm 2 года назад +11

      Glad to hear you are still here, you are worth fighting for 💕

    • @fighttheevilrobots3417
      @fighttheevilrobots3417 2 года назад +7

      We need you here, thank you for staying. There are so many good books.

  • @chinookvalley
    @chinookvalley 2 года назад +175

    I'm near 70 and am a white female. I cannot believe how in my lifetime I have been abused, used, and left for dead. Sadly our families are often what kills us, or at least they kill what we might have become. Jealously, greed, fear can turn people into living monsters. No matter how good we are, the devil lives and kills us while we breathe.

    • @paul2019monte
      @paul2019monte 2 года назад +29

      I'm right there with you. If I could go back in time I would have gone no contact with any family at 17. It's bad enough that Society takes advantage of us and our vulnerability but to have your family members backstab you and undermine you is the worst part. They have access.

    • @Lilly0170
      @Lilly0170 2 года назад +10

      I recommend the channels crappy childhood fairy and Josiah Trenham.

    • @lunaridge4510
      @lunaridge4510 2 года назад +10

      So you actually met my mother?

    • @frankstared
      @frankstared 2 года назад +13

      That is what our systems engineer.

    • @crystalbluewire3339
      @crystalbluewire3339 2 года назад +4

      @Luna Ridge. .Thanks for that laugh. Same same.

  • @rocioaguilera3555
    @rocioaguilera3555 2 года назад +14

    What we call civilization demands the denial of human needs. What a wise frase.
    I'm a Mexican cardiologist. Many of the medicine school professors talk to us about psychosomatic ailments.
    When I became a cardiology professor, I talked to my students about the relationship of anxiety and cardiovascular diseases.
    I always told them that mind and body are one identity and that we have to take in account the social factors that affect health.
    Thanks, Amy for this excellent video.

  • @artyy144
    @artyy144 2 года назад +26

    Gabor Mate, you changed my world and opened my eyes! Im a young mum and Im so greatful I have the power to make a better world ❤

  • @sheldonbodryn1003
    @sheldonbodryn1003 2 года назад +246

    Years ago I spent a couple of days in a simple Mexican home where I often saw the mother picking up her baby and holding him close whenever he cried out. I had never seen such love in any of my US family, friends or relatives. We could learn a lot from such people.

    • @PowerHaters
      @PowerHaters 2 года назад

      Look at what American mother's let happen to their baby boys, they amputate the foreskin without anesthesia!

    • @hmartin751
      @hmartin751 2 года назад

      Yes, then they grow up and cut people's heads off and become the cartel..lmao you've never seen a mom, loving a baby in the USA?wow. 👍 👌

    • @Ainttrippin
      @Ainttrippin 2 года назад +24

      I'm pretty sure american mothers also hold their crying baby's🤨

    • @urielarellano9828
      @urielarellano9828 2 года назад +18

      Look. Okay look. I'm Mexican and im just saying. Im just throwing it out there. My mom literally has said multiple times, and i quote "kids don't cry blood" when talking about dealing with tantrums. 😬
      Those are the facts, do with it what you will

    • @lunaridge4510
      @lunaridge4510 2 года назад +27

      @@Ainttrippin for way over a century, they have been told not to "spoil" them by picking them up when they cry and leave them alone at night. In traditional cultures, babies sleep with their mothers and breastfeed on demand. It was the Christian clergy that fought this normal behaviour in Europe to establish their supremacy in all things connected to family life; they originated those poisonous rumors that a mother would accidentally smother her baby during sleep, which could never happen of course. Your sleep changes completely after you give birth, you wake up after a single stir and feel your baby's body as a part of your own. Babies don't need to cry at all, mine never did.

  • @edvaca8419
    @edvaca8419 2 года назад +11

    Everyone needs to listen to this.

  • @nishasankaran
    @nishasankaran 2 года назад +18

    Dr Mate is one of the few men that actually see and treat women… as human. Just like men.
    DN is where I first heard of Gabor mate 11 years ago… and I’ve been listening and reading his work ever since. He’s a boon to humanity. I feel so lucky to watch his work unfold as I work on my own healing. Words can’t express my gratitude for him 🙏🏾✨❤️

  • @katnip198
    @katnip198 2 года назад +35

    What a wonderful talk. Thank you for having Gabor Mate on your show. This man is helping so many people. God bless him and keep him.

  • @joannebattersby8365
    @joannebattersby8365 2 года назад +37

    Thank you so much for this interveiw- Dr. Maté is a true Canadian heroe.

  • @badomaji
    @badomaji 2 года назад +205

    Thank you, Amy Goodman, for bringing us such an important and insightful story that is desperately needed during these challenging times.

    • @erica.7231
      @erica.7231 2 года назад +2

      For what lol. This channel's fanbase is at least 80% crystal healers. Weird as spiritual sht

    • @nejuw
      @nejuw 2 года назад +3

      A great lady

    • @nejuw
      @nejuw 2 года назад +4

      @@erica.7231 Nah, just cos your nan liked them doesn't mean the rest of us do.

    • @CippiCippiCippi
      @CippiCippiCippi 2 года назад

      Everything Dr Maté says ought to be obvious to everyone but that kind of thinking is driven out of us from kindergarten as Chomsky would put it

    • @erica.7231
      @erica.7231 2 года назад

      @@nejuw Ok you are spirit crystal adjacent then wtf lol Like an old bunch of grunging hippies. Most ended up becoming right-wing anyway but some crust was left over. Just some weirdos that think they fall on the left but really aren't

  • @suchard44
    @suchard44 2 года назад +103

    Dr. Gabor Mate is amazing! His approach to trauma has really helped me and still does. Can't wait to read his next book.

  • @akbarfarzin9857
    @akbarfarzin9857 2 года назад +9

    Good morning Democracy now team !!!🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻

  • @nishavasaikar2805
    @nishavasaikar2805 2 года назад +33

    Dr. Garbo Mate huge Respect. True it's not what happens outside but inside Your Body.

  • @JB-vb6dh
    @JB-vb6dh 2 года назад +9

    “It’s not that they’re trying to kill you, they just don’t care if you die” 😞27:45

  • @a.taylor8294
    @a.taylor8294 2 года назад +14

    And THANK YOU for pointing out the issues of pushing through. That's another one of those dramas with us Black women. We're made to feel so proud of how we "push through" that we just tolerate and ignore our nonsense and don't actually deal with it. And we have done this for entirely too long

  • @EnergyMedicine2012
    @EnergyMedicine2012 2 года назад +70

    Gabor is a pioneer of new medicine, where healing actually happens

    • @jenniferlynn2559
      @jenniferlynn2559 2 года назад +8

      And Has been for decades.

    • @SusanHopkinson
      @SusanHopkinson 2 года назад +4

      It is ancient medicine newly discovered by white men. Some of us have been working (in the margins) this way for decades, based on traditional medicine cultures from around the world.

    • @normski262
      @normski262 2 года назад +3

      NO he is not a pioneer, this has been known for a very, very long time, he is only Publishing it ..

  • @leafdesi5967
    @leafdesi5967 2 года назад +15

    Gabor is the best!

  • @davidhollingsworth1847
    @davidhollingsworth1847 2 года назад +121

    As an observation, in watching this thought-provoking, honest interview, it is safe to say that there is no more of a lonely feeling in the world for being needed or taken for granted for what you can provide, and being rejected or unwanted for who you are.
    Indeed, an awful feeling one can have, especially when empathy and compassion are on short supply for too long.

    • @nolitetebastardescarborund9761
      @nolitetebastardescarborund9761 2 года назад +2

      David, your post reveals you as a compassionate, loving man. But I must tell you an anecdote. To your assertion, " there is no more of a lonely feeling in the world for being needed or taken for granted for what you can provide," I remember a cop's wife* who said she wanted her kids to love her for herself, not for what she could provide. How, tell me, can a baby love its mother apart from its receiving life support from its mother's breast?
      I agree, however, that taking Mom for granted years later can lead her to feelings of solitude & despair.
      * I mention cop's wife bc her kids in my English class were very uptight & ridiculed by their classmates. Plus other awful stuff.

    • @SovendeMay
      @SovendeMay 2 года назад

      Sorry you have felt that way David. It is awful. Sending love to you.

    • @davidhollingsworth1847
      @davidhollingsworth1847 2 года назад

      @@SovendeMay
      Thank you. But I am not really speaking of myself. I was just making an observation on this interview and based on what I've been seeing over time.
      Thanks for your thoughts though.
      Take care.

  • @hibisco345
    @hibisco345 2 года назад +39

    My husband experienced severe physical and emotional abuse since infancy. He has been in and out of therapy for years, but after hearing Dr. Maté, I'm going to be looking for someone more specialized in trauma and help him establish a regular therapy practice. He was at risk for colon cancer last year - a colonoscopy revealed a 1.5 inch polyp. It breaks my heart to think that because of what his parents did to him, our family might lose him.... This was a very difficult video to watch. Thank you, Dr. Maté, for everything you do and teach.

    • @melissaseago536
      @melissaseago536 2 года назад +1

      Hey Dr. Daniel Amen is a neuroscientist that does brain scans. He can help

    • @glimps.
      @glimps. 2 года назад +1

      Take care, both of you🌺

    • @rubytuesday7653
      @rubytuesday7653 2 года назад

      My thoughts of healing, happiness ....🌻💛🙂💛🌻

    • @veganworldpeace2649
      @veganworldpeace2649 2 года назад +1

      ❤️ & prayers to your Husband & you, too. I know the various problem, pain & low self-esteem as a result of being being victimized physically, mentally, emotionally & sexually as a young child, adolescent & onward as a young adult. I had been a Counselor and Advocate for Abuse Survivors.

  • @davidbarker7439
    @davidbarker7439 2 года назад +77

    Been a huge fan of Gabor's work in the past 5 years. So happy to see him getting more air-time. We need more truth-sayers like Gabor in our lives ❤️

  • @bigdaddy6025
    @bigdaddy6025 2 года назад +18

    Thank you, Amy ‼️ I appreciate all your work over the years...
    Hi 👋 from Texas 🤠 USA 🇺🇲

  • @pochovilla_
    @pochovilla_ 2 года назад +22

    I saw my first Democracy Now video twelve years ago when you brought Dr. Gabor Maté on to talk about "In the Realm of Hungry Ghost". I've been a fan of his and the show ever since. Here's to 12 + more years of excellent media!

  • @a.taylor8294
    @a.taylor8294 2 года назад +6

    THANK YOU, dude, Dr. Mate, for acknowledging how our societal and historic wrongs have had huge consequences to certain people that MUST be admitted to and NOT ignored or denied. People, colonization and slavery and racism and injustice EFFED people up!

  • @valkiehaider4544
    @valkiehaider4544 2 года назад +20

    Admirations...respect.. incredible love for this humanitarians work!!!

  • @renen5315
    @renen5315 2 года назад +8

    Not only a talented phisician and psychologist but a incredibly brave human being sharing what he shared!

  • @joshparrott8841
    @joshparrott8841 2 года назад +29

    "There is a taboo against knowing who you are in the West"- Alan Watts

  • @sallycasas4170
    @sallycasas4170 2 года назад +12

    "The spectrum of woundedness".... Compassion, transparency, integrity and accountability for all!

  • @marwansal4175
    @marwansal4175 2 года назад +25

    Thank you, thank you ,thank you Mrs. Goodman, Nermeen and Dr. Maté for this beautiful and informative interview. It brought tears to my eyes learning about trauma from Dr. Maté especially when he linked being forgotten at the airport to an early childhood abandonment trauma. I realize I am not alone. There's a lot of suffering in this world. Healing is possible and it starts with recognizing the trauma(s). We need more education around mental healthcare and a new generation of educators, healers, counselors to help us all.

    • @THandP_org
      @THandP_org 2 года назад +1

      Agreed!

    • @TurtleKitty-357
      @TurtleKitty-357 2 года назад +3

      No, you are definitely not alone!❤

    • @auntiebobbolink
      @auntiebobbolink 2 года назад

      Part of the problem is our for-profit medical system. When there are billions of dollars to be made by selling pills, actually healing people isn't going to be a priority. 🤬

  • @justinohea6086
    @justinohea6086 2 года назад +20

    Gabor Mate is a treasure. He oozes wisdom. Another great piece from Democracy Now.

  • @theshunzun
    @theshunzun 2 года назад +3

    I’m glad he spoke about the connection between mental health and the atomization capitalism creates. We need an economic system built on compassion and meeting everyone’s needs, not hierarchal competition and greed.

  • @terrylong641
    @terrylong641 2 года назад +7

    Thank you Amy & Democracy Now for airing this Dr. & Wonderful insightful human being. Love this man!

  • @saskiademoor8400
    @saskiademoor8400 2 года назад +9

    I fully resonate with what Gabor Mate is saying. What a breath of fresh air!!!

  • @dc174
    @dc174 2 года назад +16

    So true and Social media doesn't help!

    • @chaosdweller
      @chaosdweller 2 года назад

      Probably the most accurate and poignant comment here haha.

  • @joesegrove39
    @joesegrove39 2 года назад +10

    Amy, thank you so much for this interview of Dr Mate,
    I have been following Him for a few years, and he has totally changed my viewpoint of how Dr’s should understand and treat patients.
    This man is a true gem.

  • @mattyb808
    @mattyb808 2 года назад +10

    What a legend. Thank you for all you do Dr.Mate.

  • @99nej
    @99nej 2 года назад +4

    35:35 resilience as a communal endeavour and a communal attribute ... this part of the conversation is outstanding, every single adult in North America should hear this. The whole thing as great, though, thank you Democracy Now!

  • @soulkitty11
    @soulkitty11 2 года назад +28

    Mind blowing! Thank you for this interview! Sharing with everyone💜

  • @lynns4426
    @lynns4426 2 года назад +6

    "These are the people our society rewards with power..." DEEP

    • @chaosdweller
      @chaosdweller 2 года назад

      I know right that's what I've been saying!

  • @whiteraven69
    @whiteraven69 2 года назад +7

    Our indigenous elders have told us we carry generational trauma, the wounds from our ancestors…that anger is literally imbedded in our DNA . When we embark on our healing ..the wise ones remind us lovingly and with compassion. “ The longest journey you will take is from the mind to the heart”. When one is ready to confront the ghosts and the wounds the transformation awaits . When we individually heal we inspire and support our families and communities.

  • @acidspitpandas
    @acidspitpandas 2 года назад +7

    thank you amy, dr.mate and the DN crew

  • @youdonthavetoreadthispost.5850
    @youdonthavetoreadthispost.5850 2 года назад +19

    Absolute Sense Enlightens Absolutely - The Doctor and I are the same age. I too grew up in post WW2 Europe as a coal miner's son (half Catholic, half Protestant) in a Protestant land.
    I believe trauma begins in the womb, and as the family size increases the stress and trauma become, in a sense "congenital".

  • @makellyjt
    @makellyjt 2 года назад +19

    Amazing information and this interview. Thank you for your book and sharing this wisdom.

  • @andaydeniz
    @andaydeniz 2 года назад +1

    Bless him, Dr. Gabor Maté is a true gift.

  • @karenhousley610
    @karenhousley610 2 года назад +15

    Just purchased the book.
    Sounds very helpfull, for the whole family. Thank you

  • @jaygatsby3039
    @jaygatsby3039 2 года назад +21

    This really was an excellent speech and he is so incredibly right that the mind, our sense of self, and our physical health are interconnected. So very right that so many people suffer from trauma, and the problem with capitalism is that people are encouraged into the delusion that it doesn't exist. So wonderful to see him talk so openly from his own life, was incredibly eye-opening as always.

  • @julianbluefeather8491
    @julianbluefeather8491 2 года назад +34

    I was always distracted and had a hard time in school. I liked learning, I just had a hard time managing my time and staying focused, and I didn’t know how to ask for help. My parents struggled with addiction and mental illness and there was a lot chaos when I was young. I knew what was wrong with me but I never knew who could help me with that. Most doctors will just prescribe you meds. I wish someone could tap the root problem that’s at the source of this

    • @amytaylor21395
      @amytaylor21395 2 года назад +6

      Smiles 😃
      I know right
      Hope you are having a blessed day there?😊

    • @jillybe1873
      @jillybe1873 2 года назад +1

      Well YOU'RE not the root problem, so that's a start 😚

    • @Sam_jones1234
      @Sam_jones1234 2 года назад

      Have you been assessed for adhd x

    • @sherrybonnett4827
      @sherrybonnett4827 2 года назад

      🎯indeed. This cannot be overemphasized in the state of the world today.

    • @universaltruth2025
      @universaltruth2025 2 года назад

      They have - its called complex post traumatic stress disorder (cptsd) and has symptoms that are similar to having adhd. Look up Richard Grannon he is amazing.

  • @celestejones6315
    @celestejones6315 2 года назад +61

    I'm so excited to see him on here. His work has helped me so much for the last few years as a parent with PTSD, past postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety, this past several months as a single mom of two young kids, and other issues on a personal level; but also as a sociologist I love his perspectives, particularly because I've always felt there's never enough discussion and research on the impact of external, sociocultural forces on people's mental and physical health, and a great deal of existing research on parenting or any kind of field of health is extremely androsexist and racist among other things. The discourse on issues in that regard have improved tremendously in the past several years, but in large part thanks to people like Gabor Mate, and he just seems like such a genuine, compassionate soul, on top of being mind-blowingly insightful. Thank you so much for having him on here. This really just made my day.

    • @THandP_org
      @THandP_org 2 года назад +7

      @Celeste Jones I hope you are able to locate more supports, and are able to take some comfort in knowing that you are not alone.
      May all of your needs, and your children's needs, be easily met.

    • @sheldonbodryn1003
      @sheldonbodryn1003 2 года назад +8

      I think this is the most important interview I've ever seen. I'm so happy for the positive message this brings in this time of negativity.

    • @ince55ant
      @ince55ant 2 года назад +2

      the most common tools to soothe the effects of trauma tend to be really bad for health, from too much TV to opiate abuse. Basically all living things will sacrafice long term health for short term safety.

    • @joantendler6518
      @joantendler6518 2 года назад

      @@sheldonbodryn1003 I couldn't really get a positive message from this-could you be more specific? Thanks.

    • @sheldonbodryn1003
      @sheldonbodryn1003 2 года назад

      @@joantendler6518 It's the important connection between stress and related mental experiences, and how he's researched how so much of physical illness is caused or exacerbated by our emotional experiences as we go through life. It's been the usual practice to keep these medical fields separate.

  • @justbe1451
    @justbe1451 2 года назад +37

    Thank you for bringing this to me, found his books and downloaded my first read. I dance with me/cfs & Fibro, my life as I knew ended 32 months ago. My experience with mental health is only a buzz word in our medical care system. 💚

  • @dfinite1111
    @dfinite1111 2 года назад +7

    Dr Mate is so extremely bright. What insight, into our current human condition! I have read two books of his, they were just amazing. Truly.

  • @wrenlittle8826
    @wrenlittle8826 2 года назад +4

    A voice of compassion, truth and courage. I cried

  • @garya7775
    @garya7775 2 года назад +19

    This episode shows how we address trauma we spend more time talking about traumas and less time on how to heal.
    Look at our inter-trainment media, movies, music, books, news etc.
    even the so called spiritual sanctuary of a church is beyond traumatic.
    I look forward to democracy now next episode that gives the whole time to the healing remedies.

  • @chyethiamsoh7338
    @chyethiamsoh7338 2 года назад +3

    GOD Bless you Dr. Gabor.

  • @StephiSensei26
    @StephiSensei26 2 года назад +1

    The applications of this illuminated mindset are boundless. Bravo Dr. Gabor Mate'!

  • @geraldinegranger9186
    @geraldinegranger9186 2 года назад +6

    Brilliant! I’m so grateful for this segment.

  • @elyseambrose2616
    @elyseambrose2616 2 года назад +2

    I had not heard of Dr. Maté before but I am profoundly moved by his wisdom and attunement to the way things are. This is a moving and necessary and beautiful talk.

  • @louisesumrell6331
    @louisesumrell6331 2 года назад +17

    The cure for everything, every time, is necessarily comprized of a big dose of Loving kindness and compassionate understanding. 💖🙏

  • @solpractices
    @solpractices 2 года назад +1

    AMAZING DR. GABOR MATE! Simply, brilliant! Thank you for existing!

  • @kosmikprince6561
    @kosmikprince6561 2 года назад +5

    Powerful closure with quote from Author James Baldwin.

  • @ForNika
    @ForNika 2 года назад +2

    Hard Cover or Audible, this book is absolutely necessary. Makes the Best gift. Thank you Mate Gabor.

  • @teeokeefe
    @teeokeefe 2 года назад +11

    When hearing information like this, I feel compelled to share with everyone I know, because in some way it can help every single human recalibrate and heal, if they believe and take action on it.
    For myself, there were plenty of traumatic events in my childhood that were obvious and I have spent years working to address the effects. But listening, I realize there’s even more I haven’t considered. Due to the circumstances around my conception, my mother was experiencing trauma during her pregnancy. She also had a traumatic childhood. The work to be done is like peeling away the layers of an onion.
    I think the most powerful and efficient way as an adult to reconcile and take action,without having to dig through all the what’s and why’s is to acknowledge the truth of how we’ve been effected, work towards change while exploring the origins instead of trying to figure out what happened before taking positive action and learning new ways to apply meaning to daily events. It’s like triage. You see the symptoms, and treat the most critical without seeking the source of the damage BEFORE treatment.
    I see this work as not just Dr. Mate’s mission, but also the duty to those who hear, to share and spread the word. In this way, perhaps the message of compassion and acceptance will spread more quickly,and we can begin to see a shift in the state of people living in this toxic environment.

  • @denise2169
    @denise2169 2 года назад +3

    « Nothing that’s not faced can be healed. ». Another informative interview with Dr Maté. Excellent interview questions as well.
    Thank you, Dr Maté. Your talks have helped me put the pieces of the puzzle of my life together, and have finally helped me get free from lifelong depression!

  • @alfiemendo
    @alfiemendo 2 года назад +7

    Love this man! Thanks for having him on!

    • @chaosdweller
      @chaosdweller 2 года назад

      I'm just now getting introduced, I'm loving it , and Im only half way now , unfortunately from my experience dealing with a unhealthy culture, and trends , most likely I'll be hit with a negative bombshell at the very end of the video haha marketing gimics like that is something i pay attention to now haha.
      I hope! 🤞 I'm wrong......., and hes better than that haha.

  • @ruthpicon2203
    @ruthpicon2203 2 года назад +1

    Dr Gabor Mate's interviews are always worth listening to.

  • @Sammyandbobsdad
    @Sammyandbobsdad 2 года назад +19

    In my Psychology of personality in college we did a questionnaire on stress that caused trauma and I scored nearly 100% (parent dying after they separated, moving, new troubled relationship, etc). We live in trauma, we need awareness and support to recover.

    • @normski262
      @normski262 2 года назад

      True, but you won't get it!!

    • @globalheartwarming
      @globalheartwarming 2 года назад +2

      @@normski262 Is that your trauma talking?

    • @normski262
      @normski262 2 года назад

      @@globalheartwarming NO they are external forces. If I beat you with stick. do you say, I and the stick have done no harm, you are only suffering YOUR or pain or trauma have allowed on yourself /

    • @globalheartwarming
      @globalheartwarming 2 года назад +1

      @@normski262 I don't. And if you were beaten, I care about your pain and anger. I want you and all of us to have trust, empathy, and understanding to recover.

    • @Sammyandbobsdad
      @Sammyandbobsdad 2 года назад +2

      @@globalheartwarming he’s just a troll, don’t waste time trying to help him, his joy comes from messing around with people on the internet as he sits in his mom’s basement wallowing I’m the trauma that causes him to troll comments on RUclips and vote for a rather obvious conman.

  • @acajudi100
    @acajudi100 2 года назад +1

    I am 80 now, and loving living in Queretaro.
    Sharing is caring. I love your excellent videos, and a little more about me, before I check out:
    I am American, born in Chicago in 1942, educated and learned to work, travel, and to help non beggars. I am in my 79th year, but had Chicago been as deadly, as it is here, I would not be here. I gave God the glory for the protection and safety of my life.
    I started learning Spanish at age 14 at DuSable high, with Mrs. Lemon, who was an excellent teacher.
    I was 20 , when I started to travel in 1962, and I never allowed evil demons to stop me from enjoying life.
    I never worked in any country, but USA.
    I always watch in depth all countries, especially the countries, that your friends visited. I married my own brown American at 27, and had our only daughter at 37. I gave her the love of travel, and she teaches English around the world, currently in Bali. I am a widow, who speaks several languages, I speak Spanish fluently. Acapulco and Singapore are my favorite places to live as a second home.
    I have donated my body, and my family knows to open the door, and allow who they invite to carry out my stuff, after they close the bank account.
    My travel has been limited to virtual, but I have enjoyed traveling from age 20-73.
    I missed grits in Acapulco, and my daughter mail me a box, and some mustard greens seeds. I am Muslim, so I do not eat pork.
    Most people in my travels felt I was African, but my DNA is African, First Nation, and Scotland, but I am USA to the bone.
    I know God will stop the genocide in Chicago, that has been going on for over 60 years, and I had to leave. I have kept written, , audio and video journals since age 15.
    Computers and education is how I earned my income from 7-70. I was raised never beg or steal from anyone, and I was not better than anyone, nor were they better than me. RESPECT is the name of the game.
    Death can come at anytime, but I enjoy every day, until the final day. I am happy that I help non beggars help themselves.
    Thank you for your EXCELLENT videos.
    JUDI

  • @brucer782
    @brucer782 2 года назад +24

    "To be sane in an insane society is INSANE." Thus spake Ezra Pound

  • @freeperson5444
    @freeperson5444 2 года назад +7

    Love to hear his thoughts on healing narcissism and other cluster B personality disorders .
    This guy gets to the root cause of alot of it ! 👏👏

    • @Campfire30
      @Campfire30 2 года назад +2

      You just heard it. The social systems need to be healed, rather than focusing on “the brain or the personality of the individual.”

  • @juanreza4500
    @juanreza4500 2 года назад +6

    Thank you Dr Maté and Democracy Now. You further human civilization. I reply my trauma of ~70 years ago and the "get over it" repeat traumas since then.

  • @StaggerHome
    @StaggerHome 2 года назад

    Thank you @democracynow and @drgabormate for both being there and for being so compassionate with respect to so many people out there in the world. It was an extra delight to see Dr. Maté get interviewed by both Amy and Nermeen Shaikh, and for them all to be so engaged in conversation. I just ordered a copy of "The Myth of Normal" to answer my own questions in helping myself and someone else I deeply care for. Watching this just made my day.

  • @shaniom913
    @shaniom913 2 года назад +3

    I have worked with Dr. Maté. His trauma work may have saved my life & is certainly a gift to this world. Thank you for this feature.

  • @williamlaws9338
    @williamlaws9338 2 года назад +3

    All world leaders must listen to this beautiful man !

  • @FernandoDeJesusPonce
    @FernandoDeJesusPonce 2 года назад +11

    Great Interview. Brain and body can NEVER be separated, this video would help/heal (or at least get the idea to start processing in the brain)of an ANSWER to who they/we really are and what they can do to help themselves. Love this

  • @lyubabogan2280
    @lyubabogan2280 2 года назад +3

    Really enjoyed this interview. I am completely disillusioned as to how this country treats its people starting with the lack of maternity leave and lack of universal healthcare. People are being traumatized and brutalized here every day, treated like expendable resource/consumer, no more. I cannot comprehend it.😢

  • @BarbaraDominick7999
    @BarbaraDominick7999 2 года назад +4

    Awesome interview with Dr. Gabor!!!! "it is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" J. Krishnamurti

    • @meghan42
      @meghan42 2 года назад +1

      Love that quote by J. Krishnamurthi!

  • @janetgunson5680
    @janetgunson5680 2 года назад +1

    Thank you so much for shining a light and sharing Dr Maté's wonderful wisdom.

  • @luperamos7307
    @luperamos7307 2 года назад +8

    I watch Dr. Gabor Mate in the Zeitgeist movie. His comments on Gene expression and how the social environment affects those were extremely interesting.

  • @patrickdoyle2510
    @patrickdoyle2510 2 года назад

    The guy's a national treasure. Thanks for having him on.

  • @timothypulliam2177
    @timothypulliam2177 2 года назад +6

    This is the most sane person

  • @nightoftheworld
    @nightoftheworld 2 года назад +1

    34:50 This is excellent Hegelian philosophy. Amazing example of a community which embraces its contradictions.

  • @alin81-82
    @alin81-82 2 года назад +6

    I've been dealing w trauma my whole life. Listening to what this man said made so much sense. I think we know what's wrong w us & the causes, but what do we do about it is the question. I'll definitely get this book.

    • @nolitetebastardescarborund9761
      @nolitetebastardescarborund9761 2 года назад +1

      Yes, some of us know what's wrong & the causes, BUT… what do we do about it? Asking for at least the last 20 years. ???????

  • @wilfredsterling2124
    @wilfredsterling2124 2 года назад +5

    Gabor Mate is great thinker and voice with huge evidence to back up his arguments. I am sure of this and intend to investigate his work further. I think he is becoming more mainstream. Although I was told this week by an organisation working with people with addictions that they were the only organisation in the UK taking his approach to the support of their clients.

  • @janedvinsson
    @janedvinsson 2 года назад +3

    Amy and Nermeen are so well read in so many topics and also in this one, I feel the questions land so well with Dr Gabor, the interview flows well...Gabor explains simple and adequate and backs it up with what scientifc reaserch has found, no hokus pokus so to speak. The core is that mind and body are a whole (and also good contact with society), and so I think many of us find it to be, although the "mechanics of society" many times makes them go astray (the "capitalistic drive"). But things can be healed...if we face it, as James Baldiwn so wisely said...if we don't, they won't...so we know then what we have to work on.

  • @paulheydarian1281
    @paulheydarian1281 2 года назад +2

    This may be the most important topic that Amy Goodman will cover this year. This is an extremely important interview. There are few things more important than the mother-child relationship. We need to take back our mental space.