Isn't it interesting that so many people seem to have been "born married"? They seem to find a new relationship if the previous one ended as easy as buying a package of tube socks at Walmart? How is that? What is this gulf among humans that causes this?
Absolutely agreed. Being single is the best relationship I've ever had because I can turn my energies towards myself and my own development. I've found true contendmend in being single
Some very key points in this video. I've found that my single-ness should be embraced and utilized to develop my talents instead of pursuing dead-end relationships. It affords me the time and resources to nourish my soul and make me a better overall person. That's something that, quite honestly, a significant other can't provide for me.
This video speaks so much wisdom and truth. Fortunately, I can say that I’m not in the place where I’m actively seeking for someone nor needing a relationship (in fact, I think that I wouldn’t have the time and energy to spend on a relationship) but I’ve fallen into the trap of daydreaming about the "ideal" partner. I’m not sure whether it’s healthy or not. It occurs almost everyday (or every other day) and it gives me pleasure thinking about it.
We don’t necessarily need to be ‘in a relationship’. As a species we have spent the most part of our evolutionary history living in small to medium sized groups (hunter-gatherer groups of maybe a few dozen or villages of the same size). Everyone knew each other, and everyone supported each other’s needs, they weren’t necessarily ‘in relationships’, but they propped each other up. Where it all went wrong for us was when we started living in huge towns,then cities and tower blocks,isolated and eventually only communicating with devices, like we are now. I reckon it was the advent of the industrial revolution which finally screwed it up for all of us and it’s been a downward spiral ever since. Now we’re pretty much all psychologically or emotionally disturbed in some way. That’s why there’s so many nutters and perverts and psycho- killers about.
Good advice. I think most commentators forget about the pressing need for sex as if it doesn't exist! It's also a failure as a real topic of nearly all religious groups as well. Go out? To the pub? Here in Australia alcohol is just about the only way to socialise.
It’s not relationship with living together, it’s to travels, to seat in cofee bar together, to see each other some time, And every one continue to be busy with the things that he love in his home.
Your words are like music to my ears and heart because I know it’s truth what you saying. So liberating... totally agree with what you saying. And if it’s in my journey to meet someone, it will happen naturally and effortless... important is that I am enough and enjoying life as it is. Bowing to you in respect🙏🏾🙏🏾
Luckily I have so Many years behind me now, that I realise I do not need to look for a partner. A partner cannot make me happy. I could be happy with some one who do not need anyone to make Him happy. I would love Him without expectations. Unconditionally. Thats not what most of my generation was brought up. So I had to suffer to find out. I Hope the young generation learn to be aware and conscious in their life and have good teachers if not their parents. Loving one self is NOT loving Your ego, that is the big mistake we humans make. Thank You😊
Wow, perfect timing as always. Borrowed words "when you are starving for love, you will lick it off a knife." Also "to be completely with someone you must be complete yourself." I believe I am never awakened, simply always awakenING. So to have an authentic open hearted connected relationship we do have to do alot of work, focusing 'souly' on ourselves. For as I have learned being in the same live in relationship for years, as only I have grown. I am trapped in a constant bombardment of being so very alone with someone. Unable to reach that much needed state of choosing to be alone. A state I worry isn't even possible for me. But more hopeful with the adding of any friends of the sane gender & getting back to my own simple activities like art, poetry, & book club. If you are in a lonely relationship: take heart in that it can (if you will it so & stay out of the victim self pity trap) help you develop your own life. (Always acknowledge wrongness in your life, we must feel it to get through it, just choose not to stay in the pain. I never thought I'd start achieving more of a calm, more distant witness state, but I AM.
Also- I can attest to the truth of the honest allure of a healthy individual, happy being individual. Sadly it's a conundrum as they are NOT looking for a partner.
I like being single and rather than getting into a relationship is to me a waste of time for me, and as far as I'm concerned. it's not a mistake for me to be alone Forever......
2022 is a year for celebrating single hood! yes I’m working on my creative gifts and my talents!! I’m detached from wanting a mate!! It will happen universally I have time to grow my business and can spend time loving myself and my beautiful lab Honey!!!
Love how you said it is for sharing what we already have instead of filling a void! No romance whatsoever going on 20 years now,sometimes feel the need for basically validation in my mind I've decided. I know that it should come from within. Thank you for your calm & wise words ✌❤
Its unbelievable that someone would actually give a thumbs down on this video. A video offering free advice in an attempt to help them in a healthy positive way especially when its voluntary to watch the video, they would find the thumbs down button. It must have been a mistake of some type....I'm sure of it. Great video...
if only i had someone so simple and open minded :( i got tears in eyes.. bank balance is BS.. if you live in homestead you grow your food YOU ARE WEALTHY instead of think bank balance but 100's of ailments and diseases
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic! It gave me greater insight on my current situation and past relationships! I love your videos and often have nice conversations about them with my beloved friends!
2:30 You ask to contemplate about these questions, well here they go, I've came up with answers way before I ever found this video: It feels uncomfortable because I'm not 'enlightened' (if that even exists, you can't provide evidence for it, it's a *belief* in a state of non-suffering), 'I''m (or at least the impermanent, contemporary present manifestation of a human being) a human being, and I don't deny that. (most) Human beings *NEED* social contact. No matter how much you love yourself and your own company. Nothing can ever truly 'replace' another human being. Also, visiting prostitutes isn't making a deeper connection. It's a thing done because many times it's the only way to get physical contact in any form whatsoever. - Especially in a culture were hugging someone is considered more embarrassing, then essential for good health. - To get 'over it' for a short while, after which you realize nothing has truly changed. You're still lonely. Anecdotally, being in a relationship (only once yet, so I don't have much to base myself on) was better then being single ever has been. I have never found, nor believe I can find, something as fulfilling as being in a relationship.
I just wanted to say thabk you, you've really help me on my spiritual path and what i want from like, and I keep learning everyday day, could you do a video about idolization id really appreciate it (-:
Choosing to be single/ celibate. If my wife comes along ok but I’m not looking anymore. becoming happiness with myself without dating. accepting solitude
Yeah, especially it's a waste when your partner as toxic as you.... We want to be happy in this life, as depressing as it sounds, i guess being happy by own will be better than living with partner who constantly disrespect you.....
It's God's fault I am alone.I hate him for that. What set me off this time was my step brother lost his wife of 61 years October 2020. He had not been alone 15 months and has already married again. He's a good catch meaning with 2 goverment pensions.He is 79 and she is 51.This is not right when I have been alone forever 1984.I want to cry and cry.I am happy for them.His 2 sons are not happy because the sons are the same age in their fifities.I will not be going to my step brother celebration on May 4, 2022.
Choosing to be sane and single is serenity. Not desiring anyone cause you know better is joyous.
Love this. “The best relationship happen naturally”.
Isn't it interesting that so many people seem to have been "born married"? They seem to find a new relationship if the previous one ended as easy as buying a package of tube socks at Walmart? How is that? What is this gulf among humans that causes this?
They’re not picky.
Absolutely agreed. Being single is the best relationship I've ever had because I can turn my energies towards myself and my own development. I've found true contendmend in being single
Some very key points in this video. I've found that my single-ness should be embraced and utilized to develop my talents instead of pursuing dead-end relationships. It affords me the time and resources to nourish my soul and make me a better overall person. That's something that, quite honestly, a significant other can't provide for me.
This video speaks so much wisdom and truth. Fortunately, I can say that I’m not in the place where I’m actively seeking for someone nor needing a relationship (in fact, I think that I wouldn’t have the time and energy to spend on a relationship) but I’ve fallen into the trap of daydreaming about the "ideal" partner. I’m not sure whether it’s healthy or not. It occurs almost everyday (or every other day) and it gives me pleasure thinking about it.
We don’t necessarily need to be ‘in a relationship’. As a species we have spent the most part of our evolutionary history living in small to medium sized groups (hunter-gatherer groups of maybe a few dozen or villages of the same size). Everyone knew each other, and everyone supported each other’s needs, they weren’t necessarily ‘in relationships’, but they propped each other up. Where it all went wrong for us was when we started living in huge towns,then cities and tower blocks,isolated and eventually only communicating with devices, like we are now. I reckon it was the advent of the industrial revolution which finally screwed it up for all of us and it’s been a downward spiral ever since. Now we’re pretty much all psychologically or emotionally disturbed in some way. That’s why there’s so many nutters and perverts and psycho- killers about.
Thanks for sharing this interesting view.
True wisdom...thank you for making such videos full of wisdom and guidance
Good advice.
I think most commentators forget about the pressing need for sex as if it doesn't exist! It's also a failure as a real topic of nearly all religious groups as well.
Go out? To the pub? Here in Australia alcohol is just about the only way to socialise.
It’s not relationship with living together, it’s to travels, to seat in cofee bar together, to see each other some time,
And every one continue to be busy with the things that he love in his home.
Your words are like music to my ears and heart because I know it’s truth what you saying. So liberating... totally agree with what you saying. And if it’s in my journey to meet someone, it will happen naturally and effortless... important is that I am enough and enjoying life as it is. Bowing to you in respect🙏🏾🙏🏾
Dear Nada,
I completely agree, thank you for your gentle words of wisdom to those of us whom are single, independent and a little lonely.
Luckily I have so Many years behind me now, that I realise I do not need to look for a partner. A partner cannot make me happy. I could be happy with some one who do not need anyone to make Him happy. I would love Him without expectations. Unconditionally. Thats not what most of my generation was brought up. So I had to suffer to find out. I Hope the young generation learn to be aware and conscious in their life and have good teachers if not their parents. Loving one self is NOT loving Your ego, that is the big mistake we humans make. Thank You😊
Wow, perfect timing as always. Borrowed words "when you are starving for love, you will lick it off a knife." Also "to be completely with someone you must be complete yourself." I believe I am never awakened, simply always awakenING. So to have an authentic open hearted connected relationship we do have to do alot of work, focusing 'souly' on ourselves. For as I have learned being in the same live in relationship for years, as only I have grown. I am trapped in a constant bombardment of being so very alone with someone. Unable to reach that much needed state of choosing to be alone. A state I worry isn't even possible for me. But more hopeful with the adding of any friends of the sane gender & getting back to my own simple activities like art, poetry, & book club. If you are in a lonely relationship: take heart in that it can (if you will it so & stay out of the victim self pity trap) help you develop your own life. (Always acknowledge wrongness in your life, we must feel it to get through it, just choose not to stay in the pain. I never thought I'd start achieving more of a calm, more distant witness state, but I AM.
* lol freudian slip "friends of the SAME gender".
Also- I can attest to the truth of the honest allure of a healthy individual, happy being individual. Sadly it's a conundrum as they are NOT looking for a partner.
This one really hit home for, life after divorce. Falling in love with myself!
Golden advice! So true and helpful!
I like being single and rather than getting into a relationship is to me a waste of time for me, and as far as I'm concerned. it's not a mistake for me to be alone Forever......
2022 is a year for celebrating single hood! yes I’m working on my creative gifts and my talents!! I’m detached from wanting a mate!! It will happen universally I have time to grow my business and can spend time loving myself and my beautiful lab Honey!!!
Love how you said it is for sharing what we already have instead of filling a void! No romance whatsoever going on 20 years now,sometimes feel the need for basically validation in my mind I've decided. I know that it should come from within. Thank you for your calm & wise words ✌❤
Its unbelievable that someone would actually give a thumbs down on this video. A video offering free advice in an attempt to help them in a healthy positive way especially when its voluntary to watch the video, they would find the thumbs down button. It must have been a mistake of some type....I'm sure of it. Great video...
if only i had someone so simple and open minded :( i got tears in eyes.. bank balance is BS.. if you live in homestead you grow your food YOU ARE WEALTHY instead of think bank balance but 100's of ailments and diseases
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic! It gave me greater insight on my current situation and past relationships! I love your videos and often have nice conversations about them with my beloved friends!
Beautiful video, very inspiring ✨✨
2:30
You ask to contemplate about these questions, well here they go, I've came up with answers way before I ever found this video:
It feels uncomfortable because I'm not 'enlightened' (if that even exists, you can't provide evidence for it, it's a *belief* in a state of non-suffering), 'I''m (or at least the impermanent, contemporary present manifestation of a human being) a human being, and I don't deny that.
(most) Human beings *NEED* social contact. No matter how much you love yourself and your own company. Nothing can ever truly 'replace' another human being.
Also, visiting prostitutes isn't making a deeper connection. It's a thing done because many times it's the only way to get physical contact in any form whatsoever.
- Especially in a culture were hugging someone is considered more embarrassing, then essential for good health. -
To get 'over it' for a short while, after which you realize nothing has truly changed. You're still lonely.
Anecdotally, being in a relationship (only once yet, so I don't have much to base myself on) was better then being single ever has been. I have never found, nor believe I can find, something as fulfilling as being in a relationship.
So helpful, thank you!
So true!
Wisdom❣🙏
Thanks...this what's happened to me.single for long time.keep looking for partner.but can't get it...
Same here. I search online since I don't have (social) life.😂😂 But listening to this, I'm going to deactivate my account on a dating site now.
Nin nin_stop looking for another. Find you.
K J thanks...I hope so 🙏❤️
I just wanted to say thabk you, you've really help me on my spiritual path and what i want from like, and I keep learning everyday day, could you do a video about idolization id really appreciate it (-:
This one really hit home for, life after divorce.
Thank you
Choosing to be single/ celibate. If my wife comes along ok but I’m not looking anymore. becoming happiness with myself without dating. accepting solitude
Yeah, especially it's a waste when your partner as toxic as you....
We want to be happy in this life, as depressing as it sounds, i guess being happy by own will be better than living with partner who constantly disrespect you.....
It’s never white and black. Life is one big leap of faith.
Married guy here… the common denominator is you and that’s a hard pill to swallow.
Independence....meaning money right? 😐
It's God's fault I am alone.I hate him for that. What set me off this time was my step brother lost his wife of 61 years October 2020. He had not been alone 15 months and has already married again. He's a good catch meaning with 2 goverment pensions.He is 79 and she is 51.This is not right when I have been alone forever 1984.I want to cry and cry.I am happy for them.His 2 sons are not happy because the sons are the same age in their fifities.I will not be going to my step brother celebration on May 4, 2022.
Check out Anthony Recenello, he's a cool yt who talks about this topic a lot
Thank you