This makes a lot of sense to me .There are certain problems in life I handle just fine and certain ones which cause me chronic ocd .the thing the all the ocd fears have in common is that it is my fault and that people are going to turn on me and I will have to live with terrible guilt . This is my underlying belief .I have tried exposure , therapy, meds, distraction ,all of which seemed to help temporarily , but then bam !! It’s back and I’m all alone facing awful physical symptoms and mental torture . How to Stubbornly refuse… is helping a lot , especially replacing irrational catastrophising with a more rational outcome.I just need to work on getting under this fear now. Thank you for this very helpful video ❤
@@justmadeit2 yes I get insomnia , I sleep initially as I’m tired but when I wake up if I don’t grab my phone or something a thought gets in . It’s worse at night and my mind runs wild . I’m working on disputing my irrational beliefs after listening to Kirsty , Nick and Rob who I am so grateful for . I’m hoping this stops these awful thoughts at night . Hope that helps . Thanks for reply
This is me. I even have dreams about everyone turning their back on me. Constant fears of being accused of something I didn't do. Guilt is such a deep fear in me. If you have any advice, I would love it. Did the book help?
Yes Rob. Well said!! I would love to see more videos going into detail with examples of how to determine core beliefs and how to dispute them. Also, I know videos have been done on disputing on this channel but I would love to see many more with details and examples.
Excellent video. It’s amazing that the fruition of our deepest fears can sometimes catalyze the greatest leaps on the path to recovery. I’m still battling those despondent moments where it feels I’ve not made progress but it’s less and less often.
I'm really trying for recovery. Rampant perfectionism makes unconditional self acceptance one of the biggest obstacles in my recovery journey but I will never give up on recovery till the day I die. Even if I never beat OCD people will say I died trying. Reading the books and want to read them a few times. Watching the videos (trying not to make watching them too much of a compulsion, but HOPE is best after I just had a meltdown). My fear is related to sex, fear of fear, and a huge one is fear of being judged by society seen as weak and disliked at its core. I reckon it's rejection and fear of fear. I'm working on breaking down fear of fear. And, Unconditional self acceptance. The hard thing is the need to know if I will ever recover. Don't answer that question please because I don't want reassurance.
After OCD has been lying dormant for about 3 months and after what I would call a few successful therapy sessions where it was concluded I do not have any mental illness a theme has ‘come back from the dead’ and is haunting me currently. I used to do ERP by myself in the past and this thought used to subside, but my therapist hasn’t been approving of my ERP approaches. The question is, is it safe for me to do exposures, knowing they may have relieved me in the past? Thanks in advance.
What do you mean by thoughts are thoughts doesnt work? if i have a pink elephant thought that pops up every 5 minutes or lots of intrusive thoughts that pop up about others and myself every 20 seconds, what am i else supposed to do other than acknowledge its presence?
Please can you say if strange visions appearing in your head upon waking in the mornings eg animals or people with bad faces are part of ocd? the same as saliva and blinking fears are part of ocd.
So it's genetic and people are born with this, only best thing is to be free of simptoms until relapse again for minor trigger same as with GAD? So much hard work in recovery nothing seems.
This man is a gift to the ocd community. He’s walked the road and made it.
The best teacher and guide for helping me understand and deal with ocd, I’m so grateful I found this guys videos recently. Hope he reads this.
This makes a lot of sense to me .There are certain problems in life I handle just fine and certain ones which cause me chronic ocd .the thing the all the ocd fears have in common is that it is my fault and that people are going to turn on me and I will have to live with terrible guilt . This is my underlying belief .I have tried exposure , therapy, meds, distraction ,all of which seemed to help temporarily , but then bam !! It’s back and I’m all alone facing awful physical symptoms and mental torture . How to Stubbornly refuse… is helping a lot , especially replacing irrational catastrophising with a more rational outcome.I just need to work on getting under this fear now. Thank you for this very helpful video ❤
I often can’t even concentrate or think straight. I get insomnia too which only adds to things, have you ever had insomnia too with anxiety?
@@justmadeit2 yes I get insomnia , I sleep initially as I’m tired but when I wake up if I don’t grab my phone or something a thought gets in . It’s worse at night and my mind runs wild . I’m working on disputing my irrational beliefs after listening to Kirsty , Nick and Rob who I am so grateful for . I’m hoping this stops these awful thoughts at night .
Hope that helps . Thanks for reply
This is me. I even have dreams about everyone turning their back on me. Constant fears of being accused of something I didn't do. Guilt is such a deep fear in me. If you have any advice, I would love it. Did the book help?
Great video, Rob! I always appreciate your commitment to hammering home what actually works on the recovery journey.
we can all do this never give up
Thanks Rob!
Thanks for this video....really helped alot.
Great video rob
Great video.
Yes Rob. Well said!! I would love to see more videos going into detail with examples of how to determine core beliefs and how to dispute them. Also, I know videos have been done on disputing on this channel but I would love to see many more with details and examples.
great video!!!
Excellent video. It’s amazing that the fruition of our deepest fears can sometimes catalyze the greatest leaps on the path to recovery. I’m still battling those despondent moments where it feels I’ve not made progress but it’s less and less often.
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I'm really trying for recovery. Rampant perfectionism makes unconditional self acceptance one of the biggest obstacles in my recovery journey but I will never give up on recovery till the day I die. Even if I never beat OCD people will say I died trying. Reading the books and want to read them a few times. Watching the videos (trying not to make watching them too much of a compulsion, but HOPE is best after I just had a meltdown). My fear is related to sex, fear of fear, and a huge one is fear of being judged by society seen as weak and disliked at its core. I reckon it's rejection and fear of fear. I'm working on breaking down fear of fear. And, Unconditional self acceptance. The hard thing is the need to know if I will ever recover. Don't answer that question please because I don't want reassurance.
Good points
Great!!
After OCD has been lying dormant for about 3 months and after what I would call a few successful therapy sessions where it was concluded I do not have any mental illness a theme has ‘come back from the dead’ and is haunting me currently. I used to do ERP by myself in the past and this thought used to subside, but my therapist hasn’t been approving of my ERP approaches.
The question is, is it safe for me to do exposures, knowing they may have relieved me in the past?
Thanks in advance.
Byron Katies "The work" is worth reading?
What do you mean by thoughts are thoughts doesnt work? if i have a pink elephant thought that pops up every 5 minutes or lots of intrusive thoughts that pop up about others and myself every 20 seconds, what am i else supposed to do other than acknowledge its presence?
Please can you say if strange visions appearing in your head upon waking in the mornings eg animals or people with bad faces are part of ocd? the same as saliva and blinking fears are part of ocd.
I used to get this at nighttime.
Chronic muscle tension for me
Write the book for sensorimotor and I'll buy it!!
Hello! Pls write the name of it when you get it
So it's genetic and people are born with this, only best thing is to be free of simptoms until relapse again for minor trigger same as with GAD? So much hard work in recovery nothing seems.