OP YTJ bridezilla never learned how to rise above petty behavior and if she did not have a dress code in the contract with the aaterer that is OPs fault and threatening to call the cops was even worse behavior.
Hardly just his reputation but also his current and future freedom, potentially rights and potentially loss of future earnings on top of the reputation damage and social stigma. False accusations like that can bleed into every aspect of your life, they can completely destroy your life. False accusers are using a different type of violence than physical but it should be viewed as just as bad and penalties to reflect that. Psychological, financial, and social damage can be a lot harder to overcome than a physical injury. She should be happy he didn’t actually pummel her face when someone less disciplined might have done just that in anger.
@@jmfeathersword oh yeah, absolutely, her being outed on Facebook is something you can easily get away from, and she did. But what she accused him of doing might’ve actually killed him. There are some inmates in prison who target other inmates if they committed crimes like this, and he could’ve been sent to jail if her plan had worked. It actually wasn’t fair game at the end of it, he still didn’t get all the retribution he deserved.
it's not even just about reputation. she was going to ruin his LIFE. false SA accusations against men in particular, even if they're later proven false.... that stigma follows you for the rest of your life. from job to job, community to community... a lot of men who are falsely accused, regardless of if they are proven innocent, end up committing self-unalive to get away from all the pain and abuse. this culture of "believe all women" is so damaging, in a way to both sides. smh.
As a literal victim of SA, story 1 made my blood boil, it’s people like her who make everyone else seem like liars, I think OP didn’t do enough, she had everything coming to her.
100% agree. I am a victim of SA as well. And the dude walked because the jury didn't want to take it to supreme judicial court. So it got dismissed. Despite him doing it to a 15 year old boy that year before me. All he got from that case was that he had to take some classes and register as a sex offender. (Despite his parents literally catching him in the act) Wow such a great job those "don't sexually assault someone again" classes did, huh? (sarcasm) A year in the court wasted just for it to go nowhere. So hearing these people make false accusations really pisses me off. I agree he didn't do enough. She deserved worse.
@@sugarplums885 If only you could have seen the Jury's face. They looked bored and could honestly have cared less. They simply just did not want to deal with a long drawn out case. Gotta love the American "justice" system. And then people wonder why women just don't bother reporting it.
Anyone who makes a false SA accusation or report deserves 10-25 sentence only because if found guilty and they have to do time they are immediately in a life threatening situation not even to begin on the impact of they survive jail
I can't disagree on false accusers needing to be punished harshly; but obviously the accusation would need to be proven false, not just a not guilty verdict against the accused. You can't in good concious make people afraid to report actual crimes. These type of crimes are under reported as is.
Story #1: Seriously?! Has she never heard of DNA? One simple test would prove that it's not his baby! Plus he literally has everything she just said, in the facebook chat box thing! What? Just because she's female, does she not think that any of that stuff proving he's not the father and proving that she's just making the other thing up matters? Yeah, and they wonder why more and more guys don't want relationships these days! "Where have all the good men gone?" Women like you killed them!
@@ilyarepin7750That's stupid. DNA is evidence, making paternity tests illegal is like making it illegal to check for fingerprints in a crime scene. At least have it be legal in court investigations.
last story: jerk 100%. I can understand wanting to be the focus in your OWN wedding but calling the cops over too make makeup is totally unjustifiable. If a future wife ever tried that with me, i would run quite honestly
Imagine your wife being that insecure at her own wedding. She will be a total control freak over his life and lose it every time he comes near a woman.
At first I thought it was fair to comment. It was probably communicated to the catering company beforehand as the aesthetic was so important to this bride. The more the story progressed it felt like the bride was looking for this poor girl and was trying to get her fired.
Story 1: considering how nowadays with false accusations, people never look into it and just immediately find them guilty and the accuser never gets a good punishment for it, i'd say the dude was well justified
I can relate to the op in the first story. Years ago i was in a program that helped people get jobs (interview training and stuff like that) and there was a woman there that invited me and another male on a trip with some of her female friends and one of the friends sister. I never went on the trip but the next time i texted her she was trying to get me to do something by accusing me of statutory grape. I ended it by going to the person who was running the program and showed the text messages and they got the police involved. The woman had a history of doing this kind of thing so she ended up in jail
Last story, a jerk, she wanted to remove a person for not fulfilling a request she didn't made (it says she assumed the staff would follow the same dress code), and then simply order to remove the girl, never explaining the reason why, maybe the girl could have his jewelry and make up removed.... but if that kind of things are enough to feel "outshinned"....
Story 3: bro imagine your ceo hugging you and being like "it's alright I could tell that guy was an asshole, you're fine, I cherish you" like goddamn thanks dad. That's seriously heartwarming. I'd work for that company forever if they treated me that well
Thats sort of the stereotype of french people, stuck-up, assholeish, and snooty, the stereotype goes that if you're not french they see you as a lesser being.
1st story is the toss up between him going to jail for a VERY long time for something he didn't do, or her having to restart her life, like HE is already doing. She got off easy.
What I don't understand is why there isn't more retaliation against the false SA accusers. Take everything away from someone, why wouldn't they return the favor? They're better people than me, for sure.
Story 2 : Why did he admit it ? Saying his cousin was his first crush and sexual experience would have been enough to explain his depression... But throwing away wife and kids like that, hurting everyone in the process including himself ? Damn. I pity OP, but I'm worry about him too, looks like suicidal behaviour.
One, two, three Turn it up Big wheels keep on turnin' Carry me home to see my kin Singin' songs about the south-land I miss Alabamy once again and I think it's a sin, yes Well I heard Mister Young sing about her Well I heard ol' Neil put her down Well I hope Neil Young will remember A southern man don't need him around anyhow Sweet home Alabama Where the skies are so blue Sweet home Alabama Lord I'm comin' home to you In Birmingham they love the governor (boo-hoo-hoo) Now we all did what we could do Now Watergate does not bother me Does your conscience bother you? Tell the truth Sweet home Alabama Where the skies are so blue Sweet home Alabama (oh yeah) Lord I'm comin' home to you Here I come, Alabama Now Muscle Shoals has got the Swampers And they've been known to pick a song or two (yes they do) Lord they get me off so much They pick me up when I'm feelin' blue Now how about you? Sweet home Alabama Where the skies are so blue Sweet home Alabama Lord I'm comin' home to you Sweet home Alabama (oh, sweet home) Where the skies are so blue And the governor's true Sweet home Alabama (lordy) Lord I'm comin' home to you, yeah, yeah Montgomery's got the answer
The guy wants out. With the cousin dead nobody would have known about the affair. But the man is clearly not interested in continuing his marriage. He didn't even put up any kind of fight when the wife demanded full custody, the house, and other stuff. He just agreed with everything she asked. I agree with you that this seems like suicidal behaviour. And the way the wife wants everything gives some insight too on what their married life was like. 4 years into the marriage if the guy was happy, his cousin wouldn't even have a chance.
False accusers should be in jail.. people like them ruin people's lives.. it's the same as someone ruining said person's reputation.. it's fucked up 😮💨
Last Story: Wife was definitely the jerk. This woman was so insecure that she had to ask her guests to look muted and plain just so that she and her husband look better by comparison. This girl, serving food and drinks, works in a tip-based industry. She was just doing everything that she could to maximize her tips that night. Begrudging a random server that nobody there knows or will remember after for looking what you perceive to be better than you in the pursuit of making money is absolute Karen behaviour
I've been falsely accused, It is a horrible feeling. Especially during the Metoo era, where i thought i could share, but being a dude i was shamed for it. I was lucky enough to have video evidence and MANY witnesses that showed me on a couch not moving or doing anything. I think that girl moved down to the Houston area, and changed her name.
Im sorry you were made to feel that way all victums deserve a voice no matter gender. I am curious I always hear about thing empowering people I have never felt "empowered" because of someone else's victory/role in life. Did the AH/JD trial outcome make you feel empowered even though you were shamed watching another man justify himself for being falsely accused?
@MarrisaPlays no it didn't. Because things like false accusations shouldn't happen in the first place. My own experiences have put me in a distrustful frame of mind, and it shouldn't be that way. I find myself always needing to verify. I'm happy for Johnny, he had the money to take it to court tell his side, and when everything came to light he hit back where it hurt. Empowering though? No, a one off win of rich celeb doesn't empower me. It did provide some great comedic moments though, sassiness was off the chart.
My (F) wife's first wife passed away (she's a widow) and I've made it clear to her that she (first wife) is always welcome in our home, and we even had a memorial table for her at our wedding.
Thats an incredibly privedged thing to say. False accusation of Sexual Assault is undoubtedly very very bad, still it is not worse than the act itself.
@@asthajindal5275 maybe it is but a man who hasn’t harmed a woman being accused will break them and make them into monsters who believe women are always like that.
@@Morpheusdarkson or they off themselves over being accused...which is usually seen as an admission of guilt and never really looked deeper into after...that is also another possible outcome for men
@@Morpheusdarkson You are right, you are absolutely right. It is a terrible, terrible thing to do, to falsely accuse someone of SA. It has horrendous consequences for the accused. Loss of reputation is not just loss of standing in society(although that's plenty bad enough, what with disgust and hostility pouring in from all sides), but it also encompasses loss of job, housing, family, legal action. Strips a person of everything that makes them who they are. I am not trying to underestimate that. I am only trying to point out, that victims of SA also go through ALL of that social stuff, In Addition to being violently physically and sexually injured, loss of modesty and personal dignity. I understand the OP's sentiments, and agree with the premise wholeheartedly, I just want to point out that a statement like that "If there is something worse than raping, it is falsely accuse someone of raping" can be very easily misused. Society is not very kind to either the accused or the accuser.
@@asthajindal5275 wasn’t there a case where a girl in high school made a false accusation, guy gets in jail for about 5 years until she admits the truth, and she still received a million dollar settlement from the high school? I think the accusers gets off a lot easier than the accused.
As both a person who use to be homeless and had to spend jail time cause of false sa charges the girl deserved it on many levels cause even if the SA charge gets removed from your record it still damages you mentally like I can't even really hug my gf without worrying about if someday she'll charge me with sa
That's probably one of the reasons men are avoiding women like demons, they can ruin your life because when you're a man you're guilty until the opposite is proven unlike what the law should be...
@@edenstonneoh it goes far beyond that the onus of even being accused of sa is considered to be so horrible even if it's proven wrong that people will look at you as even worse than someone who actually murdered someone.
Story 3 is an amazing and beautiful story and I'm so glad I got to hear it, it even almost brought me to tears. So happy for that OP and his wife, I hope they're still doing well and going strong.
If you are scared that a 19 year old waiter with a bit of jewelry outshines you, the bride, then it's time for you to see a therapist for your insecurities. Why on earth would any of the guest - who all came for YOU - think the server was prettier than you, the person with a thousand dollar dress, professional makeup/hair done and wearing expensive jewelry yourself. And even if some people think the waiter is pretty, who cares! They're not marrying you. Wouldn't it be a great family story if your younger brother or a cousin asked out the waiter from your wedding and they end up marrying a few years later?
2nd story struck me as disturbing because I fact that I couldn't dismiss was his saying that his cousins "seduced him when she was 13 and he was 16". How can a 13 year old even do that? And why did he indulge? In thinking he flubbed the truth to save face as much as possible...
I've seen this story elsewhere and for some reason none of the RUclipsrs seem to catch on to that little nugget as if a sexual relationship between 16 year old and 13 year old isn't gross. It's not necessarily illegal depending on where you live, but it would b e in a lot of places.
@@carlrood4457 we have that situation going on with my cousins kid. The daughter is 12 and the boy is 14. The parents originally thought it was the guy only to find out that their daughter was the one who started everything. Their daughter has lied to everyone about the relationship. She claimed they were just friends and told his parent that her parents were ok with it. Mind you she is only 12 and had this boy wrapped around her finger. They haven’t had sex yet as far as anyone can tell but it scares me. I have a 3 year old daughter and this is not something I would ever want to deal with. The parents only realized something was off when their daughter started getting new very expensive electronics that they didn’t buy her. Most of my family and extended family gives expensive gifts, so stuff like that would have been bought by her parents. Gift giving with us is almost humble bragging. Who can make the most elaborate gift for others. They don’t do store bought anything for birthdays or Christmas. My wife and I don’t do that but we also avoid giving my extended family expensive gifts. No matter how much thought we put into it, it we would look like we are flaunting our wealth.
Yeah, totally gross. I bet, if it was the other way round, a thirteen year boy dating a 16 year old girl, would be considered a rockstar. Two kids having a relationship isn't gross, the cousin thing a bit much but not illegal.
@@KaitoKiara no he wouldn't what are you talking about like 90 percent of most of my family and friends have all have lost our v to someone older from 8 to 13. Im king about mom friends, teachers, wife's it seems like that as a teenager but once you get grown you realize even if it fucks you up most if the time nobody gives af lol I am 24 with 25 + and ateast 12 were older than me
Story One. Op is not a jerk. He just played a full on uno reverse card. The reputational damage she suffered was on par to the same damage he would have gotten if she followed through. Carma was delt and the universe is now at balance.
The story about the Husband cheating with his cusion is a bit concerning. The cousin is dead and we don't know for sure that Husband is cheating on his wife since we don't have another perspective. Am just saying that this could potentially be the Husband wanting to divorce his wife and using his dead cusion as an excuse to have the wife Initiate the action. Now idk who would do that, but that’s what my personal thoughts are since we only have the Husband perspective and no one else to confirm if it's true.
Plus the wife immediately wanting everything kind of tell us what their marriage was like, if he was truly happy, the cousin would never have had a chance (especially 4 years into the relationship). I also could be reading into it too much... But it just feels fishy.
That last one OP is so obviously the jerk. If it was a guest fine but an EMPLOYEE is just awful. I hate when wedding stories become just "it's all about me today and nobody else is ever allowed to have any attention"
Really thought he was gonna do so much worse from the way he framed his "survival mode" but that is precisely exactly what any man SHOULD do if they were faced with the threat of a false accusation, nip that shit right on the bud
First story definitely not the jerk. False forced naughty time accusations definitely do NOT get enough punishment nor are taken seriously enough. He did exactly what he should have done and she got off SUPER lucky she didn’t get worse
I wouldn't dwell on this too much because you are not the jerk you barely able to survive on your own how can you help someone else this makes about as much sense as trying to feed somebody when you have an empty cupboard
As someone who is a victim of a false SA claim I understand completely what something like that will do to a human being. This boils my blood more than I've ever experienced and I feel that she got off easy for throwing such a serious threat like it was nothing
Also pathetic that most barely get any trouble for the false accusations when proven false. Bullshit part is if a man goes to prison for false accusation but freed once it's found out that it was a false accusation, they are still on list of sexual predators and have to pay to get off it.
I do wonder about the second story. Op said that the husbands relationship with his cousin started when he was 16 and she was 13, and ended when he started dating op. What are the odds that the cousin blackmailed him into resuming relations with that fact? I mean it would only take 2 years of their initial relationship for the dude to be 18 and the cousin to be 15. Could explain a lot about his behavior, but I guess we wont ever know
Story 3 : the soon to be wife obviously ain't over her late partner but she definitely ain't ready for anyone else like really if u r not ready to move on don't like it ain't fair for OP he well always be second to her glad they worked out but still don't think she over her late partner
Story 1: As someone who's been r worded MULTIPULE times, she is a disgusting person for that. Good for the op getting his revenge. This isn't stuff to take lightly, and it's even worse when you lie about it.
This is why I ghost girls that don't seem serious with me or those that are dealing with issues. Trying to talk to them never works out when you are dealing with a woman that isnt attracted to you because their emotions will cause them to do dumb things without thinking things through.
Story 2: While I believe in forgiving and second chances, take it from someone who cheated - this behavior is 99% NOT a "one and done" type thing. Meaning, they will cheat again if given the opportunity. I did. I was a piece of trash. Scratch that, trash has purpose. I was a despicable person who got what he deserved. While I applaud the guys honesty, sadly I do believe he would repeat this behavior if a similar (or other) situation presented itself. Best advice I can give is to leave guys like me where we belong, and find someone with integrity and an honest heart.
Last story: Catering manager should have firmly told Jerk Bride that his staff member was dressed appropriately and to company standard, and would continue to do her job. Any issues would result in the team withdrawing service. Jerk Bride, Jerk Manager.
The first story could’ve been such an easy solution. The girl could’ve gotten an Uber to the abortion clinic or something else. She is a grown women, she can go to the abortion clinic herself.
I feel like if my wife wanted to dance with the father of her late husband I would be happy. It is a nice gesture towards both the husbands parents and himself. Its unreasonable to demand she acts like past never happened. This would be like her final goodbye's to him before she moves on her life with me its bittersweet and I am completely supporting it.
I don't think the bride knew that she paid for the caterer, even though she was sent home. It's a set price. More than likely, the woman was paid for the day, by the family, even though she was sent home.
Oh I'm absolutely OK with Luke/Kayla situation as I have something of that situation right now. I give her full space to talk about her ex GF and I will not interfere nor judge since it's not my duty at all, I only promise her that I will love her as much as she should receive from someone, and will compensate for any love she should have received but didn't.
I lived in my car for five years while holding down an IT job. I don't know why anyone would think that makes you extra untrustworthy. You have A LOT to lose when you're living like that and you're VERY vulnerable. You're basically on your absolute best behaviour at all times and you still get regular visits from cops.
For the last story, 100% the jerk. The top comment basically sums up what I was thinking about the OP "YTA but don't worry, I'm sure the catering team will get it right at your next wedding."
Story 1: absolutely NOT the jerk any kind of r*pe accusation false or otherwise will destroy a man's reputation. It doesn't matter weather or not you can prove the accusation false that the accusation will follow you. I absolutely support destroying both the danger of a FALSE accusation and the person accusing you.
She is actually extremely lucky. He had absolutely nothing to lose. Point of fact a person's life is actually ruined less. If they are considered a murderer, then if they're considered an individual that took someone against their will, they're also less likely to get destroyed in prison if they are considered a murderer rather than taking someone against their will. If you get someone absolutely desperate and they have absolutely nothing to lose, she was lucky that he was decent that he hasn't been pushed that far. Human beings are capable of great cruelty when pushed too far.
False accusers should be in prison.
@@hansb.jaeyni8230 You think that's a realistic option?
@@POOKIE5592 yes, you can always sprint away from women. *sarcasm
Absolutely and they should get the same punishment the accused would’ve got. This goes for any crime.
There is writing a false police report. That's a crime.
OP YTJ bridezilla never learned how to rise above petty behavior and if she did not have a dress code in the contract with the aaterer that is OPs fault and threatening to call the cops was even worse behavior.
Story1: dude she tried to ruin your reputation, so you ruined hers, fair play, fair game.
Hardly just his reputation but also his current and future freedom, potentially rights and potentially loss of future earnings on top of the reputation damage and social stigma. False accusations like that can bleed into every aspect of your life, they can completely destroy your life. False accusers are using a different type of violence than physical but it should be viewed as just as bad and penalties to reflect that. Psychological, financial, and social damage can be a lot harder to overcome than a physical injury. She should be happy he didn’t actually pummel her face when someone less disciplined might have done just that in anger.
@@jmfeathersword oh yeah, absolutely, her being outed on Facebook is something you can easily get away from, and she did. But what she accused him of doing might’ve actually killed him. There are some inmates in prison who target other inmates if they committed crimes like this, and he could’ve been sent to jail if her plan had worked. It actually wasn’t fair game at the end of it, he still didn’t get all the retribution he deserved.
Absolutely true. Facts right there😊
This type of stuff scares me. They can ruin your life with one sentence.
it's not even just about reputation. she was going to ruin his LIFE. false SA accusations against men in particular, even if they're later proven false.... that stigma follows you for the rest of your life. from job to job, community to community... a lot of men who are falsely accused, regardless of if they are proven innocent, end up committing self-unalive to get away from all the pain and abuse. this culture of "believe all women" is so damaging, in a way to both sides. smh.
As a literal victim of SA, story 1 made my blood boil, it’s people like her who make everyone else seem like liars, I think OP didn’t do enough, she had everything coming to her.
i am also a victim of sa and like its no joke that stuff ruins you mentally
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100% agree. I am a victim of SA as well. And the dude walked because the jury didn't want to take it to supreme judicial court. So it got dismissed. Despite him doing it to a 15 year old boy that year before me. All he got from that case was that he had to take some classes and register as a sex offender. (Despite his parents literally catching him in the act) Wow such a great job those "don't sexually assault someone again" classes did, huh? (sarcasm) A year in the court wasted just for it to go nowhere. So hearing these people make false accusations really pisses me off. I agree he didn't do enough. She deserved worse.
@@zuzu8345 jesus so sorry to hear this
I sense immense anger in your comment. This shows me that you are telling the truth.
@@sugarplums885 If only you could have seen the Jury's face. They looked bored and could honestly have cared less. They simply just did not want to deal with a long drawn out case. Gotta love the American "justice" system. And then people wonder why women just don't bother reporting it.
Anyone who makes a false SA accusation or report deserves 10-25 sentence only because if found guilty and they have to do time they are immediately in a life threatening situation not even to begin on the impact of they survive jail
they deserve the same sentence of the crime they accused the person of along with years for slander
@@Bamba06 Personally, I say they deserve more; not only for ruining innocent lives: but also wasting judicial resources.
I can't disagree on false accusers needing to be punished harshly; but obviously the accusation would need to be proven false, not just a not guilty verdict against the accused. You can't in good concious make people afraid to report actual crimes. These type of crimes are under reported as is.
@@khiljaz9245 if it is the truth then there should be no fear or guilt and the numbers of false accusations almost are comparable in numbers
SA charges if found false do result in a sentence, for how long I do not know.
Story #1: Seriously?! Has she never heard of DNA? One simple test would prove that it's not his baby! Plus he literally has everything she just said, in the facebook chat box thing! What? Just because she's female, does she not think that any of that stuff proving he's not the father and proving that she's just making the other thing up matters? Yeah, and they wonder why more and more guys don't want relationships these days! "Where have all the good men gone?" Women like you killed them!
well she wanted to kill her pregancy so you cant make dna test and it could destroy his life
paternity tests are illegal in many countries such as france without a court order (good luck getting one).
A false accusation will do damage. By the time it comes out to be false the damage is already done.
@@ilyarepin7750 this is absolutely insane. but hey! you can "accidentally" spend a family vacation in a country where paternity tests are on demand.
@@ilyarepin7750That's stupid. DNA is evidence, making paternity tests illegal is like making it illegal to check for fingerprints in a crime scene. At least have it be legal in court investigations.
last story: jerk 100%. I can understand wanting to be the focus in your OWN wedding but calling the cops over too make makeup is totally unjustifiable. If a future wife ever tried that with me, i would run quite honestly
Imagine your wife being that insecure at her own wedding. She will be a total control freak over his life and lose it every time he comes near a woman.
911 dispatcher: 911. What’s your emergency?
Bridezilla: A girl has too much make up on.
*Dispatcher hangs up*
Bridezilla: Hello? Hellooooooo!
Ok this story seems over exaggerated to me. But if this is true than bridezilla is an understatement.
At first I thought it was fair to comment. It was probably communicated to the catering company beforehand as the aesthetic was so important to this bride. The more the story progressed it felt like the bride was looking for this poor girl and was trying to get her fired.
Yeah, that's Meghan Markle-level Bridezilla.
Girl in first story is 100% a jerk, the guy did nothing wrong, all he did was screenshot the conversation and for good reason
The guy was just trying to defend himself, he already has had it rough.
If I was the judge I send her to prison.
Story 1: considering how nowadays with false accusations, people never look into it and just immediately find them guilty and the accuser never gets a good punishment for it, i'd say the dude was well justified
Its incredibly stupid too, in my family I'm looked at as a monster and misogynist simply because I don't immediatley trust the women.
I can relate to the op in the first story. Years ago i was in a program that helped people get jobs (interview training and stuff like that) and there was a woman there that invited me and another male on a trip with some of her female friends and one of the friends sister. I never went on the trip but the next time i texted her she was trying to get me to do something by accusing me of statutory grape. I ended it by going to the person who was running the program and showed the text messages and they got the police involved. The woman had a history of doing this kind of thing so she ended up in jail
Good to hear you were not coerced into anything.
It's terrible that people end up like that, threatening to ruin other people's lives just to get what they want
for the first story I would pre-emptively file a police report for her threats
That’s what I was thinking
Last story, a jerk, she wanted to remove a person for not fulfilling a request she didn't made (it says she assumed the staff would follow the same dress code), and then simply order to remove the girl, never explaining the reason why, maybe the girl could have his jewelry and make up removed.... but if that kind of things are enough to feel "outshinned"....
She was a literal bridezilla
Story 3: bro imagine your ceo hugging you and being like "it's alright I could tell that guy was an asshole, you're fine, I cherish you" like goddamn thanks dad. That's seriously heartwarming. I'd work for that company forever if they treated me that well
Thats sort of the stereotype of french people, stuck-up, assholeish, and snooty, the stereotype goes that if you're not french they see you as a lesser being.
1st story is the toss up between him going to jail for a VERY long time for something he didn't do, or her having to restart her life, like HE is already doing. She got off easy.
What I don't understand is why there isn't more retaliation against the false SA accusers. Take everything away from someone, why wouldn't they return the favor? They're better people than me, for sure.
He really just said I’m about to end this man’s whole career.
Story 2 : Why did he admit it ? Saying his cousin was his first crush and sexual experience would have been enough to explain his depression... But throwing away wife and kids like that, hurting everyone in the process including himself ? Damn.
I pity OP, but I'm worry about him too, looks like suicidal behaviour.
Guilt.
He didn't fight over custody and the house because he feels guilty, same reason he told her.
One, two, three
Turn it up
Big wheels keep on turnin'
Carry me home to see my kin
Singin' songs about the south-land
I miss Alabamy once again and I think it's a sin, yes
Well I heard Mister Young sing about her
Well I heard ol' Neil put her down
Well I hope Neil Young will remember
A southern man don't need him around anyhow
Sweet home Alabama
Where the skies are so blue
Sweet home Alabama
Lord I'm comin' home to you
In Birmingham they love the governor (boo-hoo-hoo)
Now we all did what we could do
Now Watergate does not bother me
Does your conscience bother you?
Tell the truth
Sweet home Alabama
Where the skies are so blue
Sweet home Alabama (oh yeah)
Lord I'm comin' home to you
Here I come, Alabama
Now Muscle Shoals has got the Swampers
And they've been known to pick a song or two (yes they do)
Lord they get me off so much
They pick me up when I'm feelin' blue
Now how about you?
Sweet home Alabama
Where the skies are so blue
Sweet home Alabama
Lord I'm comin' home to you
Sweet home Alabama (oh, sweet home)
Where the skies are so blue
And the governor's true
Sweet home Alabama (lordy)
Lord I'm comin' home to you, yeah, yeah
Montgomery's got the answer
The guy wants out. With the cousin dead nobody would have known about the affair. But the man is clearly not interested in continuing his marriage. He didn't even put up any kind of fight when the wife demanded full custody, the house, and other stuff. He just agreed with everything she asked. I agree with you that this seems like suicidal behaviour. And the way the wife wants everything gives some insight too on what their married life was like. 4 years into the marriage if the guy was happy, his cousin wouldn't even have a chance.
Um... sweet home alabama??
@@ferdinanddiaz7021 I've never said it's OK to bang your cousin, I'm saying this guy acts self-destructive...
False accusers should be in jail.. people like them ruin people's lives.. it's the same as someone ruining said person's reputation.. it's fucked up 😮💨
The last woman there worried about what 19-year-old is wearing. That's Ultra Mega Karen material. I hope that husband runs away. She's being neurotic.
Specifically, the bridezilla variant of karen.
@@ShadeSlayer1911 Krakaren Bridezilla?
@@teddychu1177 Karenus bridezillus
@@ShadeSlayer1911 That also sounds like an evil Harry Potter Spell
@@teddychu1177 I wouldn't wish to use it on my worst enemy. Truly, too horrific.
Story 2: 😧 What in the hell? That is wrong on literally every conceivable level.
Sweet Home Alabama
@@alpatraxel Rick: WOOOO!
@@alpatraxel I'm thinking Kansas and Arkansas
Alaska
Sweet Jome alabama
Last Story: Wife was definitely the jerk. This woman was so insecure that she had to ask her guests to look muted and plain just so that she and her husband look better by comparison. This girl, serving food and drinks, works in a tip-based industry. She was just doing everything that she could to maximize her tips that night. Begrudging a random server that nobody there knows or will remember after for looking what you perceive to be better than you in the pursuit of making money is absolute Karen behaviour
I've been falsely accused, It is a horrible feeling. Especially during the Metoo era, where i thought i could share, but being a dude i was shamed for it. I was lucky enough to have video evidence and MANY witnesses that showed me on a couch not moving or doing anything. I think that girl moved down to the Houston area, and changed her name.
Im sorry you were made to feel that way all victums deserve a voice no matter gender. I am curious I always hear about thing empowering people I have never felt "empowered" because of someone else's victory/role in life. Did the AH/JD trial outcome make you feel empowered even though you were shamed watching another man justify himself for being falsely accused?
@MarrisaPlays no it didn't. Because things like false accusations shouldn't happen in the first place. My own experiences have put me in a distrustful frame of mind, and it shouldn't be that way. I find myself always needing to verify.
I'm happy for Johnny, he had the money to take it to court tell his side, and when everything came to light he hit back where it hurt. Empowering though? No, a one off win of rich celeb doesn't empower me. It did provide some great comedic moments though, sassiness was off the chart.
My (F) wife's first wife passed away (she's a widow) and I've made it clear to her that she (first wife) is always welcome in our home, and we even had a memorial table for her at our wedding.
If there is something worse than raping, it is falsely accuse someone of raping.
Thats an incredibly privedged thing to say. False accusation of Sexual Assault is undoubtedly very very bad, still it is not worse than the act itself.
@@asthajindal5275 maybe it is but a man who hasn’t harmed a woman being accused will break them and make them into monsters who believe women are always like that.
@@Morpheusdarkson or they off themselves over being accused...which is usually seen as an admission of guilt and never really looked deeper into after...that is also another possible outcome for men
@@Morpheusdarkson You are right, you are absolutely right. It is a terrible, terrible thing to do, to falsely accuse someone of SA. It has horrendous consequences for the accused. Loss of reputation is not just loss of standing in society(although that's plenty bad enough, what with disgust and hostility pouring in from all sides), but it also encompasses loss of job, housing, family, legal action. Strips a person of everything that makes them who they are. I am not trying to underestimate that. I am only trying to point out, that victims of SA also go through ALL of that social stuff, In Addition to being violently physically and sexually injured, loss of modesty and personal dignity. I understand the OP's sentiments, and agree with the premise wholeheartedly, I just want to point out that a statement like that "If there is something worse than raping, it is falsely accuse someone of raping" can be very easily misused.
Society is not very kind to either the accused or the accuser.
@@asthajindal5275 wasn’t there a case where a girl in high school made a false accusation, guy gets in jail for about 5 years until she admits the truth, and she still received a million dollar settlement from the high school? I think the accusers gets off a lot easier than the accused.
Story 1: Karma came back to bite her in the ass. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes
Karma tore her to shreds like ducks on a loaf of bread
As both a person who use to be homeless and had to spend jail time cause of false sa charges the girl deserved it on many levels cause even if the SA charge gets removed from your record it still damages you mentally like I can't even really hug my gf without worrying about if someday she'll charge me with sa
That's probably one of the reasons men are avoiding women like demons, they can ruin your life because when you're a man you're guilty until the opposite is proven unlike what the law should be...
Holy sh*t that's a level of trauma that I've never thought possible
@@edenstonneoh it goes far beyond that the onus of even being accused of sa is considered to be so horrible even if it's proven wrong that people will look at you as even worse than someone who actually murdered someone.
First story was a flawless victory,
I mean desperate times desperate measures. Anything goes
First one. Not the jerk. Anyone who threatens that deserves the worse even if they don’t do what they promised.
Story 3 is an amazing and beautiful story and I'm so glad I got to hear it, it even almost brought me to tears. So happy for that OP and his wife, I hope they're still doing well and going strong.
Now that is what we call karma. She should be in jail for false allegations
Great story about the fiancé that passed. It was nice that it all worked out.
if that woman on the first storry is ready to ruin someone elses live she gotta be ready to have her live ruined
Last Story: OMG! I feel so very sorry for the husband of this bridezilla!
It's all downhill from here.
Story 1: Do not underestimate false grape charge. It will destroy you bigtime.
That last one man. Rip for the husband
If you are scared that a 19 year old waiter with a bit of jewelry outshines you, the bride, then it's time for you to see a therapist for your insecurities. Why on earth would any of the guest - who all came for YOU - think the server was prettier than you, the person with a thousand dollar dress, professional makeup/hair done and wearing expensive jewelry yourself. And even if some people think the waiter is pretty, who cares! They're not marrying you. Wouldn't it be a great family story if your younger brother or a cousin asked out the waiter from your wedding and they end up marrying a few years later?
2nd story struck me as disturbing because I fact that I couldn't dismiss was his saying that his cousins "seduced him when she was 13 and he was 16". How can a 13 year old even do that? And why did he indulge? In thinking he flubbed the truth to save face as much as possible...
I've seen this story elsewhere and for some reason none of the RUclipsrs seem to catch on to that little nugget as if a sexual relationship between 16 year old and 13 year old isn't gross. It's not necessarily illegal depending on where you live, but it would b e in a lot of places.
@@carlrood4457 we have that situation going on with my cousins kid. The daughter is 12 and the boy is 14. The parents originally thought it was the guy only to find out that their daughter was the one who started everything. Their daughter has lied to everyone about the relationship. She claimed they were just friends and told his parent that her parents were ok with it. Mind you she is only 12 and had this boy wrapped around her finger. They haven’t had sex yet as far as anyone can tell but it scares me. I have a 3 year old daughter and this is not something I would ever want to deal with.
The parents only realized something was off when their daughter started getting new very expensive electronics that they didn’t buy her. Most of my family and extended family gives expensive gifts, so stuff like that would have been bought by her parents. Gift giving with us is almost humble bragging. Who can make the most elaborate gift for others. They don’t do store bought anything for birthdays or Christmas. My wife and I don’t do that but we also avoid giving my extended family expensive gifts. No matter how much thought we put into it, it we would look like we are flaunting our wealth.
@@carlrood4457 it doesn't matter whether or not it's illegal, it's still really, really gross
Yeah, totally gross.
I bet, if it was the other way round, a thirteen year boy dating a 16 year old girl, would be considered a rockstar.
Two kids having a relationship isn't gross, the cousin thing a bit much but not illegal.
@@KaitoKiara no he wouldn't what are you talking about like 90 percent of most of my family and friends have all have lost our v to someone older from 8 to 13. Im king about mom friends, teachers, wife's it seems like that as a teenager but once you get grown you realize even if it fucks you up most if the time nobody gives af lol I am 24 with 25 + and ateast 12 were older than me
The woman that threatened to make a false grape accusation should spend time in prison
r u me?
Story One. Op is not a jerk. He just played a full on uno reverse card. The reputational damage she suffered was on par to the same damage he would have gotten if she followed through. Carma was delt and the universe is now at balance.
The lost story the OP threatening to call the police is just way to ridiculous
First story, she had it coming
The story about the Husband cheating with his cusion is a bit concerning. The cousin is dead and we don't know for sure that Husband is cheating on his wife since we don't have another perspective. Am just saying that this could potentially be the Husband wanting to divorce his wife and using his dead cusion as an excuse to have the wife Initiate the action. Now idk who would do that, but that’s what my personal thoughts are since we only have the Husband perspective and no one else to confirm if it's true.
Plus the wife immediately wanting everything kind of tell us what their marriage was like, if he was truly happy, the cousin would never have had a chance (especially 4 years into the relationship). I also could be reading into it too much... But it just feels fishy.
French CEO is a stereotypical French everyone perceive them to be. Never beating being rude for no reason allegations at this point 💀
Also most French people refuse to speak English. 1 of the reasons I despise them!
I promise most of us is not like that. But we do have a sort of tradition to consider bosses as jerks.
4:09 even his inner demon was too pissed to hold back 💀
First story gave me another tip to keep in my record book
That last one OP is so obviously the jerk. If it was a guest fine but an EMPLOYEE is just awful. I hate when wedding stories become just "it's all about me today and nobody else is ever allowed to have any attention"
Really thought he was gonna do so much worse from the way he framed his "survival mode" but that is precisely exactly what any man SHOULD do if they were faced with the threat of a false accusation, nip that shit right on the bud
First story definitely not the jerk. False forced naughty time accusations definitely do NOT get enough punishment nor are taken seriously enough. He did exactly what he should have done and she got off SUPER lucky she didn’t get worse
I definitely agree with the host on all of his thoughts after the stories.
I wouldn't dwell on this too much because you are not the jerk you barely able to survive on your own how can you help someone else this makes about as much sense as trying to feed somebody when you have an empty cupboard
As someone who is a victim of a false SA claim I understand completely what something like that will do to a human being. This boils my blood more than I've ever experienced and I feel that she got off easy for throwing such a serious threat like it was nothing
wow that girl in the first story is seriously fucked up i really feel bad for this guy but he thankfully got the revenge
False accusers should get 9-20 years in prison. Its pathetic how they falsely accuse people of crimes over the littlest slight.
Also pathetic that most barely get any trouble for the false accusations when proven false. Bullshit part is if a man goes to prison for false accusation but freed once it's found out that it was a false accusation, they are still on list of sexual predators and have to pay to get off it.
I say clear false accusers should get punishment mirrored.
I'm glad that guy got revenge on that crazy woman
Honestly if someone lied about something serious like that should get the same jail time
The first wedding story absolutely warmed my cold broken heart
I do wonder about the second story. Op said that the husbands relationship with his cousin started when he was 16 and she was 13, and ended when he started dating op. What are the odds that the cousin blackmailed him into resuming relations with that fact? I mean it would only take 2 years of their initial relationship for the dude to be 18 and the cousin to be 15. Could explain a lot about his behavior, but I guess we wont ever know
Story 3 : the soon to be wife obviously ain't over her late partner but she definitely ain't ready for anyone else like really if u r not ready to move on don't like it ain't fair for OP he well always be second to her glad they worked out but still don't think she over her late partner
She was ready she just wanted to do something to honor him one last time before she moved on with her husband I hate people like you go somewhere else
These stories are AMAZING.
He ain't living in survival mode he be on abyssal mode
Story 1: As someone who's been r worded MULTIPULE times, she is a disgusting person for that. Good for the op getting his revenge. This isn't stuff to take lightly, and it's even worse when you lie about it.
This is why I ghost girls that don't seem serious with me or those that are dealing with issues. Trying to talk to them never works out when you are dealing with a woman that isnt attracted to you because their emotions will cause them to do dumb things without thinking things through.
karma is gettin all the cod assist
Story 2: While I believe in forgiving and second chances, take it from someone who cheated - this behavior is 99% NOT a "one and done" type thing. Meaning, they will cheat again if given the opportunity. I did. I was a piece of trash. Scratch that, trash has purpose. I was a despicable person who got what he deserved. While I applaud the guys honesty, sadly I do believe he would repeat this behavior if a similar (or other) situation presented itself. Best advice I can give is to leave guys like me where we belong, and find someone with integrity and an honest heart.
Sweet home alabama
these stories show me I still love drama, I don't cause it but if there is something I will want to hear.
Last story: Catering manager should have firmly told Jerk Bride that his staff member was dressed appropriately and to company standard, and would continue to do her job. Any issues would result in the team withdrawing service. Jerk Bride, Jerk Manager.
Story 1: I love story's when the OP gets super over the top absolute devastation revenge, false accusers suck
The wedding dance story was SOOOOO touching!!!!!
Even threatening to make a false allegation to blackmail someone is enough to more than warrent the response there.
Lean on me is my husband & mine song. There is just such a deep emotional connection behind that song 💜
That revenge was sooo deserved
No falsely accusing people of grape should get that reaction.
The first story could’ve been such an easy solution. The girl could’ve gotten an Uber to the abortion clinic or something else. She is a grown women, she can go to the abortion clinic herself.
If I was the OP in Story #2, I would've been throwing hands with his cousin 💀 (If she was still alive)
The cousin died
His cousin died tho
I find it absolutely disgusting when a woman tries to discredit a man's reputation. All because of some toxic harpy's false SA accusations. Smh
I feel like if my wife wanted to dance with the father of her late husband I would be happy. It is a nice gesture towards both the husbands parents and himself. Its unreasonable to demand she acts like past never happened. This would be like her final goodbye's to him before she moves on her life with me its bittersweet and I am completely supporting it.
Last story; damn bridezilla
When he first said "someone who can't turn on survival mode" I immediately thought "so they can't turn on creative mode?". Lol
As they say an eye for an eye and a teeth for a teeth
I don't think the bride knew that she paid for the caterer, even though she was sent home. It's a set price. More than likely, the woman was paid for the day, by the family, even though she was sent home.
I've not listened to all the first one yet but... she just sent you a message with her intentions, take it to the police and you're done
Story one:I’d take pictures and take her to court because of the stuff she sent me.
Falsely accusing someone of something this serious can land them years in prison
Psycho girl went from 0-100. OP was completely justified in going nuclear
3rd story is so wholesome especially with the update why is nobody talking about it
Oh I'm absolutely OK with Luke/Kayla situation as I have something of that situation right now. I give her full space to talk about her ex GF and I will not interfere nor judge since it's not my duty at all, I only promise her that I will love her as much as she should receive from someone, and will compensate for any love she should have received but didn't.
The fact that you already have a picture on the mantle & commemorate his BD & death is enough. The wedding is YOUR wedding day.
9:57 i'm glad to hear the update i almost cry of happines
I lived in my car for five years while holding down an IT job. I don't know why anyone would think that makes you extra untrustworthy. You have A LOT to lose when you're living like that and you're VERY vulnerable. You're basically on your absolute best behaviour at all times and you still get regular visits from cops.
Hold on can we talk about the man that cheated on his wife with his cousin 🤣🤣
story 2
SWEET HOME ALABAMA
For the last story, 100% the jerk. The top comment basically sums up what I was thinking about the OP "YTA but don't worry, I'm sure the catering team will get it right at your next wedding."
The second story gives me SWEET HOME ALABAMA vibes
Awesome! This dude is a hero! (First Story)
"and that you graped me"
Story 1: absolutely NOT the jerk any kind of r*pe accusation false or otherwise will destroy a man's reputation. It doesn't matter weather or not you can prove the accusation false that the accusation will follow you. I absolutely support destroying both the danger of a FALSE accusation and the person accusing you.
That first person is the f*cking boss level but has infinite damage
That first sentence made me laugh
It is not overboard. Probably not enough. She should be in jail.
"Sides were picked..."
I am failing to understand how ANYONE could pick her side.
If It's Me Heh! Don't Expect A Mercy Coming From Me
Me:"Mercy? What The Heck Is A Mercy Is That Some Kind Type Of Food Or Something"
She is actually extremely lucky. He had absolutely nothing to lose. Point of fact a person's life is actually ruined less. If they are considered a murderer, then if they're considered an individual that took someone against their will, they're also less likely to get destroyed in prison if they are considered a murderer rather than taking someone against their will. If you get someone absolutely desperate and they have absolutely nothing to lose, she was lucky that he was decent that he hasn't been pushed that far. Human beings are capable of great cruelty when pushed too far.