I've faced many toxic people and situations because I lacked the knowledge of self. I always sought validations from others since childhood. I'm still young ( 15 years old) and have realized that loving myself is what I need to do. I want to be a better person for myself and others around me hence I'm on the path of knowing myself. I'm really grateful for this video as it helped a lot. 🙏
You're so insightful! Seeking validation is what young people are programmed to do to integrate a community and learn. Unfortunately this natural tendency is exploited by powerful social institutions in an effort of self-serving formatting and control at the expense of human beings. Go go go young person and continue developing your beautiful independence, critical but also loving eye and power! Keep up the good work!
Good Gauri, what I can share after many years on the spiritual path, is that self love is indeed the foundation of it all along with being grounded, sovereign and have gained strong boundaries. Practice saying no and you don't have to explain why is crucial. Saying yes is of cause also very important, but too many people struggle with saying no because they don't want to upset other people. You can say no with a smile and if you are authentic people will respect it, if not remove yourself. Have a wonderful journey beautiful soul 😊❤🌏🌻
@@larsstougaard7097 yes I totally agree and have realized it myself as well that saying no could be the best thing we could do to help a person in some situations. For the sake of the personal developement of that person and of course for oneself as well. As in many situations, I myself asked for help from others and they declined which in the long run benefitted me to become more self-efficient.
I love how she doesn’t ever knock the toxic person down .. Because be honest we all can be toxic different times in life or have “tendencies”.. and we all love someone who is toxic .. it is what it is.. and she just keeps it in check and helps you and fact checks you.. No one is better or beneath..
I can admit that I had certain tendencies of a toxic person years ago... stemming from not being heard and understood. On my spiritual path I've become aware of my soul, love and my energy.
Same here, never met anybody who saw me or understood me, made me feel more alone and bitter....and somehow toxic. I self isolated mostly, so I didn't pull people down at a daily basis.
@@larsstougaard7097 I totally understand the isolation as it can be draining just to be around people who you can't connect with on things that interest you and always have to adjust to their mainstream topics of conversations. Parents too , however well meant their actions and words are , but through no fault because of their own upbringing in the type of society we live in ,add to children feeling misunderstood .
@@Arti-iChi very true, but some people don't wanna change even after they have become conscious of what is going on. I see patterns in my family going 100 years back, really sad the vicious circle continues, but not with me 😊.
@@larsstougaard7097I agree with you and someone has to break the cycle. Totally up to the individual to change... if you are not scared to lose contact with family and friends along the way.
@@larsstougaard7097 I can totally relate with the isolation in order not to spread the energy unconsciously or consciously. But you know what, I’m starting to realise that if we allow people to naturally come in (without seeking them out) we’ll attract people who are a vibrational match to us right now - and we can choose how we want to connect with them. Sometimes I feel we abandon ourselves before we can even give others a chance to connect with us - plus we’re a mix a good and shadow, as are others. Isolation didn’t help me at all. Going forward I’m going to be more transparent with what I’m going through whether I understand it or not, let people make their choice instead of denying them the chance to do so and work on my boundaries. I think boundaries are HUGE - our boundaries with ourselves and others. What we’ll tolerate and what we won’t tolerate.
Yes I was in a toxic relationship for years but didn’t realize it till I started to heal myself and got stronger and didn’t give him what he wanted and he broke it off . I went through a spiritual awakening and still healing but feel more powerful every day . Thank you
One thing to point out - autistic people like myself are often seen as self-centered because we use our experiences to relate in conversation, which is off putting for neurotypicals. We are actually working hard to relate and truly empathize. So not everyone who seems self-centered may actually be sucking energy out of the room, but adding light 💜🙏✨Intentions are what is key - never be afraid to clarify what someone’s intentions are. If they seem triggered, that’s a red flag IMO.
Good point. But something to remember about the signs of toxic people is that self centeredness is not by itself a sign of toxicity. Hence I pointed out more. 🙌
@@ChristinaLopes Absolutely! I love this video and I am grateful for you. I just wanted to chime in on a big point that not a lot of people are aware of.
As a mother of a 16 year old autistic boy and me being an empath, autistic people give off a certain energy so when I see other autistic people and children, I know that they are not self-centered.
@@SiriusBMermaid That’s so cool to know! I’m lucky that Ive finally surrounded myself with healthy people who seek to understand. Your son is so lucky to have you as a parent. Unfortunately, I’ve encountered people (mostly in more formal settings) that just don’t get it, but they tend to be folks that are unable to see past their own traumas. I just send love no matter what 💜
Alot of neurotypicals relate to themselves in conversations too, it's not abnormal. There's nothing wrong with referring to your own experiences we all do that. Now if it's always about you and no space is given to the other that can be off putting but in general most neurotypicals also have issues with communication don't use them as your yard stick❤❤❤ much love
@@kryssysmith1486 its crazy times, but if you know about the victim triangle 🔺️ and partners in pain, many keep repeating and empower each other in the same toxic and low energy circles. It's a real shame, but we are out of time now for these games. Go high vibration and focus on your own journey, those who resonate will find you ❤🌟❤
Wow. Something just clicked for me while reading your conversation! The red triangle has been a symbol that‘s been coming up this year when I was thinking about those people that do not feel, act in an empowering way. Thank you for the clarification 🙏🏼💜🌟
My mom used to bully me. She would stand in my face screaming about what ever she had bad going on in her day. I was too MUCH for her. As she would say, "Chrissy you just ask too many questions!" She said that bothered her and so she didn't know what else to do with me. I learned by the time I was 12 to ignore her. The next time she went to scream in my face, I stood there and I stared her right in the face. I told her that I loved her and that I was just going to let her scream in my face. I told her that I knew my questions sparked her and that I was going to just let her go off on me from now on and not say a word. That worked for her and my sister and aunts and grandmother 😳😊 But then it goes into your other video you had with me turning into a turtle shell. The wall I put up because of them was getting thicker and spreading to keep others that I know I needed in my life out. YOUR videos Christina, are a big reason I'm feeling like I remember my purpose here again. Thank you🧘🏾♀️🙏
"Youre not toxic when youre connected to your souls truth" So very true in my experience. When Ive strayed away from that greater awareness, its easier to fall into toxic behaviour
I‘ve let go of my soul‘s truth for a while this year. And I‘ve been to the darkest extreme . I didn’t know that these emotions were harbored within me! So I‘ve worked on connecting to myself more & now I feel relief :)
Me too, but my mother in law is so self absorbed it triggers me and makes me an angry person. In family therapy she is still in denial that she does anything wrong. I admit my faults.
Yes, but we have to return to John Gray. When all those aspects that Christina mention that means is an hormonal imbalance. Me me me for a women means she is in her masculine side and me me me man means they are in their feminine side hormonaly speaking.
I really enjoyed this video. Most of my “born into” family is toxic for me. They do drain my energy if I allow it. Heaviness is a good word for how it feels. I am still constantly looking for clues/messages as to what I need to learn from them. These relationships have taught me to spiritually retain my power and to set healthy boundaries, but I still feel great sadness when I am around my siblings. I have had a strong intuitive feeling that I am missing a lesson that I came here to learn. But, after watching this video I am thinking that maybe I have already learned it? Self love and self respect have been huge steps forward for me in this lifetime. Thanks for the topic.
♥️✨♥️✨ I completely understand. It breaks my heart to know that I have to accept my family as they are. It also has taken me years to release them with love so I can fully live my own life. Create my own adventure as I could give my entire energetic being to them and they would just continue to take it. Disempowering me as they continue empowering themselves. I do hope that this is all unconscious. Yet , I can’t help, wait or rely on a shift or change within them. I have to get on with my own life ✨ Sending you tons of good vibes ♥️❣️♥️ as you come fully into your power!
@@victoriabaker444 I felt your pain through your comment. I can relate. My whole life my sister and mother made my me feel that my free spirit was absurd. They are always embarrassed when I spark conversation with others because they SIMPLY can't do that. I once asked them WHY did they always feel the need to make me feel like I'm wrong for being so straightforward and friendly. My mom with a straight face said she didn't know. I then asked her how do you think I feel towards y'all that you guys act as if the world is against y'all all the time. Then here goes why I can't help them. She said this time with a frightened face. I never thought of that. SOOOOOO yes my dear you have to accept them for who there are. You just can't allow it to dictate your life as well as you not dictate theirs 🤷🏾♀️😆
This is in fact so true in my past I developed toxic treats from my trauma. I did not know I was toxic until I was able to acknowledge my actions where not genuine and only to get my needs across and not anyone else’s needs after my spiritual awakening I was able to just let go of those old habits.
Thank you!!! Finally somebody said it!!! I was so fed up of the usual "throw them out of your life...just cut the ties", I tried that with my family, but they messed up and made me come back to clean up their mess...I was really mad at them and at myself for being so gullible but I feel like these things triggered my spiritual awakening so I'm grateful for it now 😌🙏
This video encapsulates my life until 2 years ago. I was in a toxic work place and was at my lowest and grieving the loss of 3 pillars in my life. I was not empowered and had poor boundaries and several colleagues were toxic and spread untruths about me and it became untenable and I decided to leave my long time job to save my soul. I now know it was karmic and I had to empower myself and the job was not right for me. This video will help so many people! I wish I had it years ago. Thank you so much! 🥰❤🌈🌟🦋😇
I second that request. How does one build themselves up while still in that abusive relationship, so that they can get strong enough to move on? That is the question I would love to have answered - thank you
Something important that has been left out of this video. Certain toxic people will get worse as we change as they are loosing control. This can be dangerous (speaking from experience) so cutting people out is sometimes the best and safest way forward. Sometimes spiritual videos bipass the harsh reality. There is nothing wrong with cutting a toxic person out of our lives, it does not make us 'less spiritual' it makes us smart! 💚
I absolutely live with a toxic person, and I keep feeding this person tons of energy every time I react to their crap. It's exactly what they want and they poke at me till they get it. Learning how to not react to their behavior is going to be a challenge, but I'm up for it thanks to your help, Christina. Peace, love and happyness to all 🌼
I agree in everything you say , I walk away from people life just because I wanted my peace, and not to regret whatever bad thing that could have come out of my mouth🤷♀️
I love how you change having a toxic person in your life that is weighing you down , Into something positive and a challenge to better yourself ! I am feeling this truth in my soul ! You are Wonderfull Christina ❤
Contrary to what many think, the souls evolution process is not always roses and sunshine... hense why some call it the dark night of the soul I refer to it as dark night of the EGO! our souls are our light guiding us along this journey... So for me personally I refuse to think of my soul as dark, period I know that os simply not truth! I personally see the journey as an ebb and flow some days flowing good, and some days ebbing back a bit on the darker shades of light! Seeing this as growth, and being gentle with ourselves during these important transitions are important for our growth. I like to say (clear, cancel, and release) with a deep breath while saying release! Or erase, erase erase when catching my mind replaying old unserving thoughts... Just let it go... I've had many people in my life say this to me... however if you haven't been aware of this tactic (letting go) this statement is forigen and unhelpful. It's through becoming aware of this process within your personal experiences that creqtes the change and then it just begins happening more and more until before you know it... even those silly thoughts don't effect you the way they once did! And you smile ♡♡♡ Yeahit might be a thought or memory that sticks around for a while, however instead of feeling the hurt that once was attached to it, instead you smile and say, yeah I remember, and its ok now! Life is good, thank you♡♡♡
Yes, I have a toxic parent who is diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and now dementia. So life has been a struggle and I had to set strict boundaries and space to maintain my mental health.
I have many lessons to be in my power with toxic people, and really was so hard for me as an empath and sensitive. But I'm so happy that after many years of growing and changing ,I became much more powerful! ❤🌸🌸🌸 thank you ,Christina!
I have been on this earth for 35 years, the most toxic individuals in my life are the ones I grew up with, my mother, father and brother. I had to unlearn some of the terrible things they would put out there. breaking away from their narcissistic toxic behavior has been wonderful (due to the 2020 wake up call or great awakening) it’s sad, if you asked me to say a good memory from them, I’d have nothing to offer unfortunately. Yes I’m aware they’re family, but toxic is toxic so
OMG, I have so many toxic people around me, family and friends. I am caring for my 93 year old Mom. I can not cut her out of my life. I am trying to train myself into my power. Everything is for them. I have been siphoned throughout my life. Still trying everyday to understand my Mom. I will not have her control me. Boundaries are up , I have been so loving and understanding but need to plant the rules for expectations. You are right my highest sense of duty is always to myself. Thank you so much for your advice.
I did deal with toxic people this was my friends and family. Though I also had to do alot of work on myself the wounds, trauma and just bad communication and bad relationships. Now that I done that I been doing things that make me happy 💖🙌🙏♾☮☯️🙏🙌💖
I’m now widowed but my mother in law and immediate family are very toxic and manipulative. Definitely teaching me to be in my own power, have cut the cord of contact aswell as stated boundary of ‘if they attack me, they are attacking my children’ and I won’t have a bar of it.
This video content is so accurate. Two toxic people friends I had years ago were among the very best connections I ever had. In retrospect they were truly a godsend in terms of my empowerment exactly as described here. I developed and changed so much that the walk-away happened naturally. They were unchangeable and only got worse as they aged. Both are subclinical psychopaths. One eventually went to prison and the other is an incorrigible narcissist. They were at one time close friends.
@17:16 I literally got goosebumps! As if I need to listen to this! As I m currently working and living with a toxic person & my life is quite haywire... But spiritual awakening phase somehow holded me grounded... I cried so many times though of quitting the Job... But now I know why this toxic person came into my life from nowhere I didn't expected this to happen.. It's a lesson to be myself no matter what or who threatened to you! Thank you so much it means a lot.. 🙏🙏
I used to deal with it and at some point in my life I was toxic too, spiritual awakening process and dark night of the soul clear it out with a lot of shadow work. Today I'm grateful that I took this road which taught me to set healthy boundaries and stay in my power, it's a constant training like having an inside thermometer 🌡️ to measure any unbalanced behavior. Great video, thank you for sharing. Blessings. ⚛️☮️☯️🦉🌅
In January I had my spiritual awakening because my twin flame came into my life. Recently I have been working on how to deal with toxic people. I have a brother who is very negative and puts others down. On Monday my brother actually tried to put me down but I put my foot down I couldn’t take it no more. He didn’t like the fact I did it but I had to for myself. I feel very good since I did. I will be working on it so someone toxic won’t bring me down. Thank you for this information. 🙏🏽
There is also toxic positivity, which this video inadvertently espouses. Sometimes we go through hard times or depressions. Many of us have mental illness. Calling someone a Debbie Downer for having a low vibe at times is totally toxic. This is when we start to lack empathy for the very human reality of not being “high vibe” all the time.
I’ve just had to deal with this last week. I knew this was a lesson to listen to my inner voice. To stand up for myself, and take care of my own energy.
I did struggle with one person who was toxic in my life. I would listen to her over and over. I wanted to walk away nothing was working.... she decided to cut me out of her life. I felt so much lighter.
Ty for opening my eyes to the lessons we are to learn from toxic ppl! I never realized they were training me to be more powerful! I was surprised at my ability to laugh in the face of a very toxic person throwing a tantrum! It didn't bother me at all! I never lost my cool and did not react! In the past I would've gotten fired up and ready to fight! But, all I could do was laugh at the absurdity of the person's behavior! Then, I drew a VERY clear boundary that stated I would NOT tolerate that kind of behavior and if she wasn't dealt a consequence then I was OUT! I am NOT going to allow her to steal my joy and my peace and my blessings bc of her jealous rage!
Thank you! You answered a question I have been asking for a while now - Why does this person keep showing up in my life, in my relationships, and at work! Now I am aware of the reason. I now have tools to help my learn. Time to do the work! Thank you for being so open and enlightening!
This was really eye-opening for me in regards to my current relationship and how I've been behaving. I have a lot of work to do. Thanks for the slap on the wrist, Christina.
I really want to cry out loud and thank you and the universe for this. I was crying today as I wasn’t feeling nice after having an argument somewhere. I literally remember sighing and asking my sister “ how do you deal with such people” and this came in my RUclips 😩😩😩🤧🤧🤧
I've been running away from my sister since we were little, and she always gets me back, now we are partners in a business I started, I really don't know how it happened, but everything around the business and our relation became a mess, the coronavirus saved us, we got time apart and gave me the chance to re-connect with myself and what I really want, now we started to see each other more frequently and your advice suits me perfect. I must step in to my power asap! And make decisions later on, because as far as I run away she gets me, and I started attracting more people alike to my life.
It's a shame when toxic people are people in your family...like your mother. Its a very intricate dance interacting with them even at a minimum level. Thank you so much for this video! As always you are so appreciated Christina! 💙🖤🤍
I am beyond words. You ARE an earthbound Angel and an AMAZING Spirit Guide. A strong, beautiful presence. Thank you for everything you are and everything you do. I feel your soul hugging mine. Thank you Beautiful Soul
We cried... we wanted to get married, I wanted to leave. He said “give me a week, but I don’t think anything will change” asked him what he sees in his future, he said darkness. I’m giving him chances, I hope he finds out he needs to grow. He won’t let go of his toxic friends or understand how their gossip hurts us.
I was in that space of a toxic person for years before I put in the work to heal layers of baggage that distorted me. Doing shadow work is really liberating.
Thank you for mentioning how to deal with close family and friends.... especially parents... it’s very difficult when that person or persons are close to you and you realize they are toxic.
Being raised by toxic and abusive parents I became toxic myself but the beauty is that we can take accountability and choose not to repeat those old patterns. You really need to make the decision and stick to it no matter how uncomfortable or painful it gets because ultimately we can be the caring, loving people we want to be if we put in the effort.
This message is so important and timely. In my experience, energetic toxicity is increasing (not to impose judgement) and I’m feeling it so much..feels like the scene in “Never-ending Story” and Atreyu is trudging through mud. But it’s for the highest good, to keep going, keep dealing, and mostly keep improving, even through the mud.
Being an empath, I constantly attract narcissistic people in my life. They want to inflict harm to me no matter how far away I am from them. I will watch your video about narcissistic people now. Thank you Christina.
Thank you 🙏 for this video! My mom is the toxic person in my life and I can very much relate to the coming into self power and setting boundaries. Which have gone very well, however my mom seems to have worsened on some levels and now that I am pregnant I am struggling with the want to have her around as a grandmother and the need to keep boundaries/sanity. I know I will come into balance. Again amazing video and hit so many nails on the head ❤️
I had a very toxic friend, we hung out with each other all the time. But I eventually realized that I was suffering more than I was enjoying doing things together. I ended up telling him I will not deal with his toxicity anymore and left. Overall, that was such a healing move, my life is better now without his constant drama.
I levelled up, my ex and our daughter levelled up too. My mom, not so much...I'm still open to the lessons she continues to teach me. My boundaries are my responsibility ❣️
Thanks for this. I wasn't empowered and my relationship with a toxic relationship made me toxic as well. Took me taking control of my power to learn I didn't have to be toxic as well. Still have to deal with them but I'm more empowered to do it now. Thank you for all your help
thank you... I just left a job of dealing with such a boss, and it was HOW my chakras were reacting I knew i had to get out of situation ASAP. And thanking you helping me start on the path to get back to me, esp my lower chakra healing. And much more :).
Wow, you just made me realize I'M a toxic person, I've changed ALOT over the few months I've discovered you, but I KNOW I have a LONG way to go, thanks again Christina, you're great, I appreciate very much your help on my spiritual awakening. ❤
You're a great balanced presenter be straight with people, be kind yet create boundaries, learn to be indifferent but don't suffer. Change ourselves but if the other person doesn't change walk away. Thank you Christina l love your channel xxxx
I remember, around approximately year 2000, independently becoming aware that some people, for some reason suck energy. Feeling like being in the presence of a black hole; whereby, they don't give in an honest and open way, including honest conversation, attempting to make an open hearted connection, but constantly depending on another's conscious energy/efforts. P.s. I think I finally and fully realise, see exactly what the people-made matrix actually is... and so, why we all really need to wake up... and personally make free from all the contradictions and distractions there of.
We all can teach each other! Under the right circumstances when you are away from a few past relationship that were very crucial to survive in love you Christian you are awesome!!! When we can finally start building a new generation of people that we can learn from and teach. I'm still learning and it's a beautiful way to work with people who are in need and can feel more comfortable working with people like you that gives out love instead of confusion and the ability you have with the world is a great way to make sure that people don't give up on others as quickly as 123 your out. Love you lady
I use to think that there was something wrong with everyone around me, and I was trapped, until last year when I started to do shadow work. then I realized it was me! I was powerless and attracted all these toxic people into my life. It’s like magic the more work I dedicate to myself the more and more toxicity vanishes from my life!
Thank you... i already worked on myself with step 1 and 2, I work on my empowerment and setting boundaries in terms of how I will not accept to be treated and Now, I am ready to take decision to cut this person from place of power and confidence.
From my personal experience the negative people suck out my positive energy and then throw negative energy back at me. So technically they are giving back but it's negative energy that I don't want or need. Thanks Christina , Namaste
This came at the perfect time, thank you. I was just thinking about how do I deal with my friend who is so negative and energetically draining. The boundaries video was a gem and now on to self-empowerment. I am so grateful to have found your work, and deeply appreciative of all you do for us! Thank you!
At the beginning of this video, I was thinking to myself I really have to use the toxic people in my life as training tools. I mock their behavior. Nothing will change if I mock them and act like I have no control. I'm excited to practice flipping the energy!
I used to be the kind of person that the minute I would realise someone is toxic, I would cut them out of my life completely. It seems the last few months I'm evolving into someone who feels more empowered to allow these people to be in my life without them having a negative effect on me. Intuitively it feels right to be more accepting and to have faith in other's potential to heal themselves. This is a huge spiritual win for me! Though that being said, I still struggle with thoughts of wondering how much people can change vs those that will never change. I am a bit of a hopeless optimism that we'll all get there eventually but maybe I'm going to end up disappointed
I had a toxic conversation today. I felt a lot of my energy go away. So much so that my aura weakened a lot and I can tell because my feet started tingling a lot (not in a good way). A very ungrounding experience.
Thank you so much for your videos, I feel like I could be a toxic person at times, but when I catch myself doing it, I stop myself analyze my behavior and think of different ways that I could have behaved without causing damage. I trying to take feelings into consideration, I still have a long way to go but I’m working on it every day
Thank you ❤❤❤ I've been flying off the handle lately and it's come to my attention that I really need a strategy for dealing with the triggering people in my life.
I grew up in a toxic family & I’m still dealing with it. I recognize some of my past traits have been toxic, & I fear being toxic to others still. Just 2 days ago I had to attend a family function, I’m still exhausted from it
Oh Christina, once again, thank you. This is exactly what I am wondering lately. The problem is, they are my sisters and my daughter. I do NOT want to simply discard them, especially from a position of powerlessness. Your 3 step are perfect. They are a roadmap for me.
Great content, as a former toxic person, I can tell you this is spot on. Never take a toxic or narcissistic person seriously, don't empower them, keep your personal power. The level below toxic is the agenda-driven person, they are not as overwhelming, but share similar characteristics.
The toughest thing is to realize my own toxicity. And then again- so logical!- When I am absorbed in Ego and negative thought patterns I am toxic too! But I guess my Ego did not want to leave that victim-attitude / energy cycle. I am so grateful to hear this today- specially about the 'drama-queens' and attention seeking. And because I started already to work on all shadow aspects I don't throw shit on myself for being unaware and toxic at times. Now I can put my attention and awareness to it as well as to step into my power and help the people around me. They can't see their shadow as I couldn't see mine. Love and Light to all of us on the path and also to all who did not hear the call yet❤️❤️❤️❤️🦋🌟🦋❤️❤️❤️❤️
I for some reason have been known to struggle with toxic people or people who manipulate the situation quite a few times in my life. I'm going to take your advice here soon so I can get over that.
Thank you Thank you Thank you Cristina🙏 This made so much sense to me, I have a 17 year old son that I love more than anything and he’s very toxic but I have been noticing a shift on him as I come into my power, the problem is that he’s now dating another toxic girl but I will continue to be in my power because I always felt he has come as my child for a reason and I now know is to push me into my power. This was gold to me❤️ much love
Mindy, mother of a 17 year old son as well who's been mentally and spiritually struggling for years. Its kept him isolated from most of us. Im so sorry you are going through this as well and I pray you find the strength to endure💕
'Water is to oil, me to your aggression' is a favourite lyric of mine from Jamila Woods' song, 'Giovanni'. Becoming immune to toxicity is how we uplift ourselves and others, how we forgive ourselves and others, and how we rekindle old relationships, including family, romantic, professional, and social.
23:30... I am walking in the supermarket listening to you and your wise words (it soothes me and prevents me from giving my energy away, which I normally love doing, but I need it for myself now and I have not yet learned how to)... And I almost started crying. I was in a very abusive relationship which I fled from back in 2007. I suppose it still impacts me 😥
You r such a great massenger from the universe for me i did all those things and this vedio answers a quastion that was stuck in my head lately which is what happened to him f*ck he suddenly become another person and u tell me now it’s bc i got my power back he had no longer a toxic person to me also i come up a conclusion throug my journey which is the higest level of energy is when u r blanced. Thanks Cristina God bless u sis
This makes so much sense now. Thank you. I have always struggled with toxic people entering and whittling me away… this time I’m going to step out of the cycle
Thank you again for excellent guidance. One more thing that may happen after taking these 3 steps you address: the toxic people may get very angry with you for not playing by their old rules. Don't let their snide comments or criticisms about your new behavior get under your skin. Toxics don't like you to say "no" to them. But that's their problem, not yours.
Hi Christina I want to say after nearly 20 years of living with a toxic spouse, you described eloquently exactly what I have been going through over the last two years. You just gave meaning to everything I more or less blindly went through and came out the right end knowing I am having this relationship on my terms. Of course along the way I have been diligently pursuing source as during other periods in my life. Just found you a few days ago and look forward to learning more from your awesome way of delivering the facts in a somewhat simplistic way. Keep doing what your doing you are right where you are supposed to be. Maybe my story will spark someone to begin to empower themselves. There are blessings galore on the other side!
I live with a close family member who's hurting, suffering and can become unecessarily, defensive and angry. It's wearying. I work to send Love & Light healing but lots of unexpected, explosive and episodic explosions. Otherwise he's very quiet and soft spoken, socially a bit hesitant. I'm following these true insights you're offering. At times I'm far less affected than others, but today was a rough one. I could never cut him from my life. It's just us now. I can't not keep them in my life, even though I'd like to check in to a hotel. This video showed up exactly right for me. I'm going to have see your boundary setting video next. Thank you.
Toxic people will definitely continue to come till you step in your power and you’ll feel completely different once you do so.... This is my current space and not just from the relationship I just walked away from but I can see where I was powerless before to know how to create boundaries moving forward. We all know what we like and know that feeling so well but we make excuses and see potential in the things we don’t like instead of standing on that feeling.
Another great video! Christina's videos really saves my sanity so many times! Just a couple of points from an alternative perspective and to add another layer to this topic... 1. Don't forget most toxic people had grown up having their own boundaries absolutely obliterated as children and a whole ton of them had people break their trust and their own agency as kids. A lot of kids who grow up to be even abusers are actually quite powerless inside because they developed this "eat or be eaten" mentality due to growing up very rough. 2. Manipulation has a lot to do with survival. If someone simply respected your needs and you had choices in life to go towards situations and people who didn't need you to "convince" them to keep them safe etc, then you don't need any manipulating strategies to "make" people hear you, understand you or care for you. Again, lots of people who's been through childhood trauma. 3. There is a difference between a gossiping drama queen who talks too much about her own problems without any self awareness at all, and someone who has been through something really difficult and is in grief or trauma and hasn't been able to find the right therapist to help them work through things, or can't talk about their struggles due to isolation as is the case with lots of women who goes through domestic/family violence. 4. Be careful to not just label people as "toxic" without knowing the difference between someone who don't realise it and want to actually change, and might be horrified if they realised they are a toxic person (and lets face it, not everyone knows their own faults and if you ghost someone who is a toxic person they might never know the impact they had on you), and the people who have awareness of the damage they do to others, but are not willing to develop any self awareness and has no interest in changing for the betterment of themselves and others. Sometimes people have come from such abusive and toxic childhoods they don't know the difference between healthy relating and unhealthy relating. 5. I would also add people who withdraw and are avoidant and dismissive as also toxic people who cuts others out of their own lives without explaination (what Christina said about the weakness towards the end of the video). Their energies for me are often also stagnant and heavy and they have superficial relationships and reject "negative" emotions that Christina talks so beautifully about in her video "The Truth about Evil". *look up the 4 attachment styles and how this impact on adult relationships (attachment theory). 6. People with neurodiversity such as Autism and ADHD may not be able to recognise boundaries because of how their brain works. Sadly because of this, and regardless of their intellegence or compassion towards others, many people with Autism and ADHD ends up in prison because they had gone too far without being able to recognize the boundaries of others or they get "stuck" in certain destructive behaviours. No matter how strongly you set your boundaries they will not be able to recognize the social and psychological cues.
Thank you! I am struggling with toxic people at school and now I understand that I have been too weak to throw away the weight they are pushing me with. I understand that I have to be strong enough to let it go, and reclaim my power🔥♥️
As long as you dont turn into this aggressive person trying to protect her boundaries just to create a balance to her perceived "weakness", then its fine. Because that would not be the point. Respecting boundaries comes naturally for a person that truly loves and respects herself. Focus on finding that self-love, empowerment and respect first, and then setting boundaries and having others respect them will come so much easier.
@@carlosparra8976 I agree, thank you for the reminder☺️ I’m an empath that has been out of school for some time with social anxiety-issues, so this video was very helping. Thank you again😊
@@tirilnilsen3839 Good luck Tiril. There is a video on empaths by Christina. She describes the difference between empowered and dis-empowered empaths, which really helped me. It's not our empathy that attracts abuse, its our disempowerment. So we can stay true to our nature and still be strong, confident and empowered. Its great! Good luck again.
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How much I love you.
My dream is to see u someday and learn from you.
Can a toxic person with mental health issues change ?
Can u plz talk about the soulmate and how to find him
Can you please answer my question, why I automatically run away whn ever moms sis is near .??
What do you do if you're the toxic person in your life? How do you become less toxic?
I've faced many toxic people and situations because I lacked the knowledge of self. I always sought validations from others since childhood. I'm still young ( 15 years old) and have realized that loving myself is what I need to do. I want to be a better person for myself and others around me hence I'm on the path of knowing myself. I'm really grateful for this video as it helped a lot. 🙏
You're so insightful! Seeking validation is what young people are programmed to do to integrate a community and learn. Unfortunately this natural tendency is exploited by powerful social institutions in an effort of self-serving formatting and control at the expense of human beings. Go go go young person and continue developing your beautiful independence, critical but also loving eye and power! Keep up the good work!
@@kategibbens1536 Thank you for your words of encouragement. Lots of love to you as well 🙏💚
I'm proud of you, your going to grow into a beautiful and strong person.
Good Gauri, what I can share after many years on the spiritual path, is that self love is indeed the foundation of it all along with being grounded, sovereign and have gained strong boundaries. Practice saying no and you don't have to explain why is crucial. Saying yes is of cause also very important, but too many people struggle with saying no because they don't want to upset other people. You can say no with a smile and if you are authentic people will respect it, if not remove yourself. Have a wonderful journey beautiful soul 😊❤🌏🌻
@@larsstougaard7097 yes I totally agree and have realized it myself as well that saying no could be the best thing we could do to help a person in some situations. For the sake of the personal developement of that person and of course for oneself as well. As in many situations, I myself asked for help from others and they declined which in the long run benefitted me to become more self-efficient.
I love how she doesn’t ever knock the toxic person down .. Because be honest we all can be toxic different times in life or have “tendencies”.. and we all love someone who is toxic .. it is what it is.. and she just keeps it in check and helps you and fact checks you.. No one is better or beneath..
Love your comment.❤ I agree with it n noticed as well, she doesnt knock the toxic person down!!
I can admit that I had certain tendencies of a toxic person years ago... stemming from not being heard and understood. On my spiritual path I've become aware of my soul, love and my energy.
Same here, never met anybody who saw me or understood me, made me feel more alone and bitter....and somehow toxic. I self isolated mostly, so I didn't pull people down at a daily basis.
@@larsstougaard7097 I totally understand the isolation as it can be draining just to be around people who you can't connect with on things that interest you and always have to adjust to their mainstream topics of conversations.
Parents too , however well meant their actions and words are , but through no fault because of their own upbringing in the type of society we live in ,add to children feeling misunderstood .
@@Arti-iChi very true, but some people don't wanna change even after they have become conscious of what is going on. I see patterns in my family going 100 years back, really sad the vicious circle continues, but not with me 😊.
@@larsstougaard7097I agree with you and someone has to break the cycle. Totally up to the individual to change... if you are not scared to lose contact with family and friends along the way.
@@larsstougaard7097 I can totally relate with the isolation in order not to spread the energy unconsciously or consciously. But you know what, I’m starting to realise that if we allow people to naturally come in (without seeking them out) we’ll attract people who are a vibrational match to us right now - and we can choose how we want to connect with them. Sometimes I feel we abandon ourselves before we can even give others a chance to connect with us - plus we’re a mix a good and shadow, as are others.
Isolation didn’t help me at all. Going forward I’m going to be more transparent with what I’m going through whether I understand it or not, let people make their choice instead of denying them the chance to do so and work on my boundaries. I think boundaries are HUGE - our boundaries with ourselves and others. What we’ll tolerate and what we won’t tolerate.
Yes I was in a toxic relationship for years but didn’t realize it till I started to heal myself and got stronger and didn’t give him what he wanted and he broke it off . I went through a spiritual awakening and still healing but feel more powerful every day . Thank you
WELL DONE- congratulations my dear- you ARE NOT ALONE- you ARE VERY POWERFUL-
Absolutely the best spiritual teacher ever, hands down. Thank you for teaching us 🙏🏻🥰
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I know she’s absolutely amazing ❤️
I agree!! She's absolutely amazing!
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Agreed! So authentic and humble. Seems a bit rare these days. She has taught/guided me so much.
I just love how she simplifies things!
same!
me too
Right?
One thing to point out - autistic people like myself are often seen as self-centered because we use our experiences to relate in conversation, which is off putting for neurotypicals. We are actually working hard to relate and truly empathize. So not everyone who seems self-centered may actually be sucking energy out of the room, but adding light 💜🙏✨Intentions are what is key - never be afraid to clarify what someone’s intentions are. If they seem triggered, that’s a red flag IMO.
Good point. But something to remember about the signs of toxic people is that self centeredness is not by itself a sign of toxicity. Hence I pointed out more. 🙌
@@ChristinaLopes Absolutely! I love this video and I am grateful for you. I just wanted to chime in on a big point that not a lot of people are aware of.
As a mother of a 16 year old autistic boy and me being an empath, autistic people give off a certain energy so when I see other autistic people and children, I know that they are not self-centered.
@@SiriusBMermaid That’s so cool to know! I’m lucky that Ive finally surrounded myself with healthy people who seek to understand. Your son is so lucky to have you as a parent.
Unfortunately, I’ve encountered people (mostly in more formal settings) that just don’t get it, but they tend to be folks that are unable to see past their own traumas. I just send love no matter what 💜
Alot of neurotypicals relate to themselves in conversations too, it's not abnormal. There's nothing wrong with referring to your own experiences we all do that. Now if it's always about you and no space is given to the other that can be off putting but in general most neurotypicals also have issues with communication don't use them as your yard stick❤❤❤ much love
I kicked every single toxic person out of my life as of last month (that I grew up with). Once I put everything to bed I felt so much lighter.
Way to go Kryssy 😊🙏🌏🌻
@@larsstougaard7097 Thanks it's ashame some were non-toxic, but I had to cut them out because they were enabling the toxic people.
@@kryssysmith1486 its crazy times, but if you know about the victim triangle 🔺️ and partners in pain, many keep repeating and empower each other in the same toxic and low energy circles. It's a real shame, but we are out of time now for these games. Go high vibration and focus on your own journey, those who resonate will find you ❤🌟❤
@@larsstougaard7097 Thankl you :)
Wow. Something just clicked for me while reading your conversation! The red triangle has been a symbol that‘s been coming up this year when I was thinking about those people that do not feel, act in an empowering way. Thank you for the clarification 🙏🏼💜🌟
My mom used to bully me. She would stand in my face screaming about what ever she had bad going on in her day. I was too MUCH for her. As she would say, "Chrissy you just ask too many questions!" She said that bothered her and so she didn't know what else to do with me. I learned by the time I was 12 to ignore her. The next time she went to scream in my face, I stood there and I stared her right in the face. I told her that I loved her and that I was just going to let her scream in my face. I told her that I knew my questions sparked her and that I was going to just let her go off on me from now on and not say a word. That worked for her and my sister and aunts and grandmother 😳😊 But then it goes into your other video you had with me turning into a turtle shell. The wall I put up because of them was getting thicker and spreading to keep others that I know I needed in my life out. YOUR videos Christina, are a big reason I'm feeling like I remember my purpose here again. Thank you🧘🏾♀️🙏
"Youre not toxic when youre connected to your souls truth"
So very true in my experience. When Ive strayed away from that greater awareness, its easier to fall into toxic behaviour
I‘ve let go of my soul‘s truth for a while this year. And I‘ve been to the darkest extreme . I didn’t know that these emotions were harbored within me! So I‘ve worked on connecting to myself more & now I feel relief :)
i’ll be the first to admit i can be a negative person sometimes. we’re all a work in progress. thanks for this video❤️
Me too, but my mother in law is so self absorbed it triggers me and makes me an angry person. In family therapy she is still in denial that she does anything wrong. I admit my faults.
Yes, but we have to return to John Gray. When all those aspects that Christina mention that means is an hormonal imbalance. Me me me for a women means she is in her masculine side and me me me man means they are in their feminine side hormonaly speaking.
@@kathleenscirpoli9852 Maybe she brings out the anger in you. That’s an opportunity to learn how to deal with anger in an effective and healthy way :)
I really enjoyed this video. Most of my “born into” family is toxic for me. They do drain my energy if I allow it. Heaviness is a good word for how it feels. I am still constantly looking for clues/messages as to what I need to learn from them. These relationships have taught me to spiritually retain my power and to set healthy boundaries, but I still feel great sadness when I am around my siblings. I have had a strong intuitive feeling that I am missing a lesson that I came here to learn. But, after watching this video I am thinking that maybe I have already learned it? Self love and self respect have been huge steps forward for me in this lifetime. Thanks for the topic.
You sound like you got to be part of my family😊
Exactly same situation and same realizations
♥️✨♥️✨ I completely understand.
It breaks my heart to know that I have to accept my family as they are. It also has taken me years to release them with love so I can fully live my own life. Create my own adventure as I could give my entire energetic being to them and they would just continue to take it. Disempowering me as they continue empowering themselves. I do hope that this is all unconscious. Yet , I can’t help, wait or rely on a shift or change within them.
I have to get on with my own life ✨
Sending you tons of good vibes ♥️❣️♥️ as you come fully into your power!
@@victoriabaker444 I felt your pain through your comment. I can relate. My whole life my sister and mother made my me feel that my free spirit was absurd. They are always embarrassed when I spark conversation with others because they SIMPLY can't do that. I once asked them WHY did they always feel the need to make me feel like I'm wrong for being so straightforward and friendly. My mom with a straight face said she didn't know. I then asked her how do you think I feel towards y'all that you guys act as if the world is against y'all all the time. Then here goes why I can't help them. She said this time with a frightened face. I never thought of that. SOOOOOO yes my dear you have to accept them for who there are. You just can't allow it to dictate your life as well as you not dictate theirs 🤷🏾♀️😆
This is in fact so true in my past I developed toxic treats from my trauma. I did not know I was toxic until I was able to acknowledge my actions where not genuine and only to get my needs across and not anyone else’s needs after my spiritual awakening I was able to just let go of those old habits.
Amazing! So proud of you! 🙌
@@ChristinaLopes than you ; love your content.
Thank you!!! Finally somebody said it!!! I was so fed up of the usual "throw them out of your life...just cut the ties", I tried that with my family, but they messed up and made me come back to clean up their mess...I was really mad at them and at myself for being so gullible but I feel like these things triggered my spiritual awakening so I'm grateful for it now 😌🙏
This video encapsulates my life until 2 years ago. I was in a toxic work place and was at my lowest and grieving the loss of 3 pillars in my life. I was not empowered and had poor boundaries and several colleagues were toxic and spread untruths about me and it became untenable and I decided to leave my long time job to save my soul. I now know it was karmic and I had to empower myself and the job was not right for me. This video will help so many people! I wish I had it years ago. Thank you so much! 🥰❤🌈🌟🦋😇
True. Wow Im amazed especially when you said that toxic people are teaching us to be on our power
Spoting a toxic person is easy. Knowing what to about them is 🗝. Thank you for the solutions.
Yeah sometimes it's hard to find the right key 🔑 to the door 🚪😕
Please shoot a video about abusive people and how we should act, protect and then heal ourselves 🙏🏼🙏🏼
I second that request. How does one build themselves up while still in that abusive relationship, so that they can get strong enough to move on? That is the question I would love to have answered - thank you
She did a similar video on narcissism that you might find helpful
@@angelicabianca631 thank you, I will check that out - blessings
Yes please, alot of people are dealing with abusive people. Thank you ❤
" If a person wants to change who they are, they will need to disappear for a while"
Something important that has been left out of this video. Certain toxic people will get worse as we change as they are loosing control.
This can be dangerous (speaking from experience) so cutting people out is sometimes the best and safest way forward.
Sometimes spiritual videos bipass the harsh reality.
There is nothing wrong with cutting a toxic person out of our lives, it does not make us 'less spiritual' it makes us smart! 💚
I had weak boundaries before I had strong boundaries. It took time to get it right.
I absolutely live with a toxic person, and I keep feeding this person tons of energy every time I react to their crap. It's exactly what they want and they poke at me till they get it. Learning how to not react to their behavior is going to be a challenge, but I'm up for it thanks to your help, Christina. Peace, love and happyness to all 🌼
Learn how to disarm them. There’s free content on here. And focus on your self care & concept 🙏🏻
I agree in everything you say , I walk away from people life just because I wanted my peace, and not to regret whatever bad thing that could have come out of my mouth🤷♀️
I love how you change having a toxic person in your life that is weighing you down ,
Into something positive and a challenge to better yourself !
I am feeling this truth in my soul !
You are Wonderfull Christina ❤
I feel my energy has turned toxic during my awakening. I don’t plan to stay in this energy though.
it’s always fluctuating. i’ve been there. you’ll get out of that rut. good luck ❤️
Youll get out of it. There are ups and downs in awakenings. We become judgemental..but recognising our energies help us to change them.
Thank you 😊. Can’t wait for this to pass.
Contrary to what many think, the souls evolution process is not always roses and sunshine... hense why some call it the dark night of the soul I refer to it as dark night of the EGO! our souls are our light guiding us along this journey... So for me personally I refuse to think of my soul as dark, period I know that os simply not truth!
I personally see the journey as an ebb and flow some days flowing good, and some days ebbing back a bit on the darker shades of light!
Seeing this as growth, and being gentle with ourselves during these important transitions are important for our growth.
I like to say (clear, cancel, and release) with a deep breath while saying release! Or erase, erase erase when catching my mind replaying old unserving thoughts...
Just let it go...
I've had many people in my life say this to me... however if you haven't been aware of this tactic (letting go) this statement is forigen and unhelpful.
It's through becoming aware of this process within your personal experiences that creqtes the change and then it just begins happening more and more until before you know it... even those silly thoughts don't effect you the way they once did!
And you smile ♡♡♡
Yeahit might be a thought or memory that sticks around for a while, however instead of feeling the hurt that once was attached to it, instead you smile and say, yeah I remember, and its ok now!
Life is good, thank you♡♡♡
Me too, i feel heavy and needy, and anxious
I'm so tired of toxic people that all I can think tonight is that wouldn't it be better if I died in this pandemic. Am so drained and frustrated 😭
Sending you love ❤
Yes, I have a toxic parent who is diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and now dementia. So life has been a struggle and I had to set strict boundaries and space to maintain my mental health.
Interesting. Thankyou. Do u know what triggered borderline personality?
I have many lessons to be in my power with toxic people, and really was so hard for me as an empath and sensitive. But I'm so happy that after many years of growing and changing ,I became much more powerful! ❤🌸🌸🌸 thank you ,Christina!
I’ve been a victim of SO MANY toxic people in my life!😅
I have been on this earth for 35 years, the most toxic individuals in my life are the ones I grew up with, my mother, father and brother. I had to unlearn some of the terrible things they would put out there. breaking away from their narcissistic toxic behavior has been wonderful (due to the 2020 wake up call or great awakening) it’s sad, if you asked me to say a good memory from them, I’d have nothing to offer unfortunately. Yes I’m aware they’re family, but toxic is toxic so
I can relate. Especially on the 2020 awakening. I can’t say I have such a good memory about my mom growing up. She is the toxic person in my life
This video was RIGHT ON TIME! My ear chimed when I clicked on it, that is always my confirmation message.
OMG, I have so many toxic people around me, family and friends. I am caring for my 93 year old Mom. I can not cut her out of my life. I am trying to train myself into my power. Everything is for them. I have been siphoned throughout my life. Still trying everyday to understand my Mom. I will not have her control me. Boundaries are up , I have been so loving and understanding but need to plant the rules for expectations. You are right my highest sense of duty is always to myself. Thank you so much for your advice.
I did deal with toxic people this was my friends and family. Though I also had to do alot of work on myself the wounds, trauma and just bad communication and bad relationships. Now that I done that I been doing things that make me happy 💖🙌🙏♾☮☯️🙏🙌💖
I’m now widowed but my mother in law and immediate family are very toxic and manipulative. Definitely teaching me to be in my own power, have cut the cord of contact aswell as stated boundary of ‘if they attack me, they are attacking my children’ and I won’t have a bar of it.
This video content is so accurate. Two toxic people friends I had years ago were among the very best connections I ever had. In retrospect they were truly a godsend in terms of my empowerment exactly as described here. I developed and changed so much that the walk-away happened naturally. They were unchangeable and only got worse as they aged. Both are subclinical psychopaths. One eventually went to prison and the other is an incorrigible narcissist. They were at one time close friends.
@17:16 I literally got goosebumps! As if I need to listen to this! As I m currently working and living with a toxic person & my life is quite haywire... But spiritual awakening phase somehow holded me grounded... I cried so many times though of quitting the Job... But now I know why this toxic person came into my life from nowhere I didn't expected this to happen.. It's a lesson to be myself no matter what or who threatened to you! Thank you so much it means a lot.. 🙏🙏
I used to deal with it and at some point in my life I was toxic too, spiritual awakening process and dark night of the soul clear it out with a lot of shadow work. Today I'm grateful that I took this road which taught me to set healthy boundaries and stay in my power, it's a constant training like having an inside thermometer 🌡️ to measure any unbalanced behavior. Great video, thank you for sharing. Blessings. ⚛️☮️☯️🦉🌅
In January I had my spiritual awakening because my twin flame came into my life. Recently I have been working on how to deal with toxic people. I have a brother who is very negative and puts others down. On Monday my brother actually tried to put me down but I put my foot down I couldn’t take it no more. He didn’t like the fact I did it but I had to for myself. I feel very good since I did. I will be working on it so someone toxic won’t bring me down. Thank you for this information. 🙏🏽
There is also toxic positivity, which this video inadvertently espouses. Sometimes we go through hard times or depressions. Many of us have mental illness. Calling someone a Debbie Downer for having a low vibe at times is totally toxic. This is when we start to lack empathy for the very human reality of not being “high vibe” all the time.
I’ve just had to deal with this last week. I knew this was a lesson to listen to my inner voice. To stand up for myself, and take care of my own energy.
I did struggle with one person who was toxic in my life. I would listen to her over and over. I wanted to walk away nothing was working.... she decided to cut me out of her life. I felt so much lighter.
Ty for opening my eyes to the lessons we are to learn from toxic ppl! I never realized they were training me to be more powerful! I was surprised at my ability to laugh in the face of a very toxic person throwing a tantrum! It didn't bother me at all! I never lost my cool and did not react! In the past I would've gotten fired up and ready to fight! But, all I could do was laugh at the absurdity of the person's behavior! Then, I drew a VERY clear boundary that stated I would NOT tolerate that kind of behavior and if she wasn't dealt a consequence then I was OUT! I am NOT going to allow her to steal my joy and my peace and my blessings bc of her jealous rage!
Thank you! You answered a question I have been asking for a while now - Why does this person keep showing up in my life, in my relationships, and at work! Now I am aware of the reason. I now have tools to help my learn. Time to do the work! Thank you for being so open and enlightening!
Now I understand why toxic ppl keep retuning. I love this video thank you so much. I adore you ♾️💜
This was really eye-opening for me in regards to my current relationship and how I've been behaving. I have a lot of work to do. Thanks for the slap on the wrist, Christina.
She definitely has a way of adding a little bit of sweetness to the bitter of truth.
Have you been cheated on
@@mariafitts I can neither confirm or deny.
I really want to cry out loud and thank you and the universe for this. I was crying today as I wasn’t feeling nice after having an argument somewhere. I literally remember sighing and asking my sister “ how do you deal with such people” and this came in my RUclips 😩😩😩🤧🤧🤧
Thank you Christina Lopes, I was married to one, 34 years ( -1 day). Sending healing love, light and prayers 🙂❤️🌟🙏🏼
I've been running away from my sister since we were little, and she always gets me back, now we are partners in a business I started, I really don't know how it happened, but everything around the business and our relation became a mess, the coronavirus saved us, we got time apart and gave me the chance to re-connect with myself and what I really want, now we started to see each other more frequently and your advice suits me perfect. I must step in to my power asap! And make decisions later on, because as far as I run away she gets me, and I started attracting more people alike to my life.
It's a shame when toxic people are people in your family...like your mother. Its a very intricate dance interacting with them even at a minimum level. Thank you so much for this video! As always you are so appreciated Christina! 💙🖤🤍
I am beyond words. You ARE an earthbound Angel and an AMAZING Spirit Guide.
A strong, beautiful presence.
Thank you for everything you are and everything you do. I feel your soul hugging mine.
Thank you Beautiful Soul
We cried... we wanted to get married, I wanted to leave. He said “give me a week, but I don’t think anything will change” asked him what he sees in his future, he said darkness. I’m giving him chances, I hope he finds out he needs to grow. He won’t let go of his toxic friends or understand how their gossip hurts us.
I hope you find the strength to leave. Men like this usually turn abusive and then you may never leave him.
I was in that space of a toxic person for years before I put in the work to heal layers of baggage that distorted me. Doing shadow work is really liberating.
Thank you for mentioning how to deal with close family and friends.... especially parents... it’s very difficult when that person or persons are close to you and you realize they are toxic.
Being raised by toxic and abusive parents I became toxic myself but the beauty is that we can take accountability and choose not to repeat those old patterns. You really need to make the decision and stick to it no matter how uncomfortable or painful it gets because ultimately we can be the caring, loving people we want to be if we put in the effort.
This message is so important and timely. In my experience, energetic toxicity is increasing (not to impose judgement) and I’m feeling it so much..feels like the scene in “Never-ending Story” and Atreyu is trudging through mud. But it’s for the highest good, to keep going, keep dealing, and mostly keep improving, even through the mud.
Being an empath, I constantly attract narcissistic people in my life. They want to inflict harm to me no matter how far away I am from them. I will watch your video about narcissistic people now. Thank you Christina.
Thank you 🙏 for this video! My mom is the toxic person in my life and I can very much relate to the coming into self power and setting boundaries. Which have gone very well, however my mom seems to have worsened on some levels and now that I am pregnant I am struggling with the want to have her around as a grandmother and the need to keep boundaries/sanity. I know I will come into balance. Again amazing video and hit so many nails on the head ❤️
Cutting out is resistance. Shifting your focus is flowing. 🙏💖
I had a very toxic friend, we hung out with each other all the time. But I eventually realized that I was suffering more than I was enjoying doing things together. I ended up telling him I will not deal with his toxicity anymore and left. Overall, that was such a healing move, my life is better now without his constant drama.
I levelled up, my ex and our daughter levelled up too. My mom, not so much...I'm still open to the lessons she continues to teach me. My boundaries are my responsibility ❣️
Thanks for this. I wasn't empowered and my relationship with a toxic relationship made me toxic as well. Took me taking control of my power to learn I didn't have to be toxic as well. Still have to deal with them but I'm more empowered to do it now. Thank you for all your help
thank you... I just left a job of dealing with such a boss, and it was HOW my chakras were reacting I knew i had to get out of situation ASAP. And thanking you helping me start on the path to get back to me, esp my lower chakra healing. And much more :).
Wow, you just made me realize I'M a toxic person, I've changed ALOT over the few months I've discovered you, but I KNOW I have a LONG way to go, thanks again Christina, you're great, I appreciate very much your help on my spiritual awakening. ❤
You're a great balanced presenter be straight with people, be kind yet create boundaries, learn to be indifferent but don't suffer.
Change ourselves but if the other person doesn't change walk away.
Thank you Christina l love your channel xxxx
I struggle with my mom and she is obviously important to me. So thank you Christina! Você é linda
I remember, around approximately year 2000, independently becoming aware that some people, for some reason suck energy. Feeling like being in the presence of a black hole; whereby, they don't give in an honest and open way, including honest conversation, attempting to make an open hearted connection, but constantly depending on another's conscious energy/efforts.
P.s. I think I finally and fully realise, see exactly what the people-made matrix actually is... and so, why we all really need to wake up... and personally make free from all the contradictions and distractions there of.
Wonderful video, I have reached a stage where toxic people can no longer impact me.
We all can teach each other! Under the right circumstances when you are away from a few past relationship that were very crucial to survive in love you Christian you are awesome!!! When we can finally start building a new generation of people that we can learn from and teach. I'm still learning and it's a beautiful way to work with people who are in need and can feel more comfortable working with people like you that gives out love instead of confusion and the ability you have with the world is a great way to make sure that people don't give up on others as quickly as 123 your out. Love you lady
All i can say is that Christina is an EARTH ANGEL.
I use to think that there was something wrong with everyone around me, and I was trapped, until last year when I started to do shadow work. then I realized it was me! I was powerless and attracted all these toxic people into my life. It’s like magic the more work I dedicate to myself the more and more toxicity vanishes from my life!
I think me husband and I are both toxic in a way...thank you for saying you dont have to cut them out of our lives...we are growing and spiritual.
Thank you... i already worked on myself with step 1 and 2, I work on my empowerment and setting boundaries in terms of how I will not accept to be treated and Now, I am ready to take decision to cut this person from place of power and confidence.
From my personal experience the negative people suck out my positive energy and then throw negative energy back at me. So technically they are giving back but it's negative energy that I don't want or need.
Thanks Christina , Namaste
This came at the perfect time, thank you. I was just thinking about how do I deal with my friend who is so negative and energetically draining. The boundaries video was a gem and now on to self-empowerment.
I am so grateful to have found your work, and deeply appreciative of all you do for us! Thank you!
At the beginning of this video, I was thinking to myself I really have to use the toxic people in my life as training tools. I mock their behavior. Nothing will change if I mock them and act like I have no control. I'm excited to practice flipping the energy!
I used to be the kind of person that the minute I would realise someone is toxic, I would cut them out of my life completely. It seems the last few months I'm evolving into someone who feels more empowered to allow these people to be in my life without them having a negative effect on me. Intuitively it feels right to be more accepting and to have faith in other's potential to heal themselves. This is a huge spiritual win for me!
Though that being said, I still struggle with thoughts of wondering how much people can change vs those that will never change. I am a bit of a hopeless optimism that we'll all get there eventually but maybe I'm going to end up disappointed
I had a toxic conversation today. I felt a lot of my energy go away. So much so that my aura weakened a lot and I can tell because my feet started tingling a lot (not in a good way). A very ungrounding experience.
Thank you so much for your videos, I feel like I could be a toxic person at times, but when I catch myself doing it, I stop myself analyze my behavior and think of different ways that I could have behaved without causing damage. I trying to take feelings into consideration, I still have a long way to go but I’m working on it every day
Thank you ❤❤❤ I've been flying off the handle lately and it's come to my attention that I really need a strategy for dealing with the triggering people in my life.
My husband was! He has changed
And you are right, when I got my power he changed.
I grew up in a toxic family & I’m still dealing with it. I recognize some of my past traits have been toxic, & I fear being toxic to others still. Just 2 days ago I had to attend a family function, I’m still exhausted from it
Oh Christina, once again, thank you. This is exactly what I am wondering lately. The problem is, they are my sisters and my daughter. I do NOT want to simply discard them, especially from a position of powerlessness. Your 3 step are perfect. They are a roadmap for me.
Great content, as a former toxic person, I can tell you this is spot on. Never take a toxic or narcissistic person seriously, don't empower them, keep your personal power. The level below toxic is the agenda-driven person, they are not as overwhelming, but share similar characteristics.
The toughest thing is to realize my own toxicity. And then again- so logical!- When I am absorbed in Ego and negative thought patterns I am toxic too! But I guess my Ego did not want to leave that victim-attitude / energy cycle. I am so grateful to hear this today- specially about the 'drama-queens' and attention seeking. And because I started already to work on all shadow aspects I don't throw shit on myself for being unaware and toxic at times. Now I can put my attention and awareness to it as well as to step into my power and help the people around me. They can't see their shadow as I couldn't see mine. Love and Light to all of us on the path and also to all who did not hear the call yet❤️❤️❤️❤️🦋🌟🦋❤️❤️❤️❤️
I for some reason have been known to struggle with toxic people or people who manipulate the situation quite a few times in my life. I'm going to take your advice here soon so I can get over that.
I'm trying my best not to be negative and to not suck the life out of ppl ☺️
Thank you Thank you Thank you Cristina🙏 This made so much sense to me, I have a 17 year old son that I love more than anything and he’s very toxic but I have been noticing a shift on him as I come into my power, the problem is that he’s now dating another toxic girl but I will continue to be in my power because I always felt he has come as my child for a reason and I now know is to push me into my power.
This was gold to me❤️ much love
Mindy, mother of a 17 year old son as well who's been mentally and spiritually struggling for years. Its kept him isolated from most of us. Im so sorry you are going through this as well and I pray you find the strength to endure💕
'Water is to oil, me to your aggression' is a favourite lyric of mine from Jamila Woods' song, 'Giovanni'. Becoming immune to toxicity is how we uplift ourselves and others, how we forgive ourselves and others, and how we rekindle old relationships, including family, romantic, professional, and social.
wow the other day only I was trying to undrstand all this in my head and today I stumble upon this… you are lightworker
23:30... I am walking in the supermarket listening to you and your wise words (it soothes me and prevents me from giving my energy away, which I normally love doing, but I need it for myself now and I have not yet learned how to)... And I almost started crying. I was in a very abusive relationship which I fled from back in 2007. I suppose it still impacts me 😥
Very enlightening. You have the best advice because it's always coming from a place of Love. Thank you 💐
You r such a great massenger from the universe for me i did all those things and this vedio answers a quastion that was stuck in my head lately which is what happened to him f*ck he suddenly become another person and u tell me now it’s bc i got my power back he had no longer a toxic person to me also i come up a conclusion throug my journey which is the higest level of energy is when u r blanced.
Thanks Cristina God bless u sis
This makes so much sense now. Thank you. I have always struggled with toxic people entering and whittling me away… this time I’m going to step out of the cycle
Thank you again for excellent guidance. One more thing that may happen after taking these 3 steps you address: the toxic people may get very angry with you for not playing by their old rules. Don't let their snide comments or criticisms about your new behavior get under your skin. Toxics don't like you to say "no" to them. But that's their problem, not yours.
Hi Christina I want to say after nearly 20 years of living with a toxic spouse, you described eloquently exactly what I have been going through over the last two years. You just gave meaning to everything I more or less blindly went through and came out the right end knowing I am having this relationship on my terms. Of course along the way I have been diligently pursuing source as during other periods in my life. Just found you a few days ago and look forward to learning more from your awesome way of delivering the facts in a somewhat simplistic way. Keep doing what your doing you are right where you are supposed to be. Maybe my story will spark someone to begin to empower themselves. There are blessings galore on the other side!
I live with a close family member who's hurting, suffering and can become unecessarily, defensive and angry. It's wearying. I work to send Love & Light healing but lots of unexpected, explosive and episodic explosions. Otherwise he's very quiet and soft spoken, socially a bit hesitant. I'm following these true insights you're offering. At times I'm far less affected than others, but today was a rough one. I could never cut him from my life. It's just us now. I can't not keep them in my life, even though I'd like to check in to a hotel. This video showed up exactly right for me. I'm going to have see your boundary setting video next.
Thank you.
Toxic people will definitely continue to come till you step in your power and you’ll feel completely different once you do so.... This is my current space and not just from the relationship I just walked away from but I can see where I was powerless before to know how to create boundaries moving forward. We all know what we like and know that feeling so well but we make excuses and see potential in the things we don’t like instead of standing on that feeling.
Another great video! Christina's videos really saves my sanity so many times! Just a couple of points from an alternative perspective and to add another layer to this topic...
1. Don't forget most toxic people had grown up having their own boundaries absolutely obliterated as children and a whole ton of them had people break their trust and their own agency as kids. A lot of kids who grow up to be even abusers are actually quite powerless inside because they developed this "eat or be eaten" mentality due to growing up very rough.
2. Manipulation has a lot to do with survival. If someone simply respected your needs and you had choices in life to go towards situations and people who didn't need you to "convince" them to keep them safe etc, then you don't need any manipulating strategies to "make" people hear you, understand you or care for you. Again, lots of people who's been through childhood trauma.
3. There is a difference between a gossiping drama queen who talks too much about her own problems without any self awareness at all, and someone who has been through something really difficult and is in grief or trauma and hasn't been able to find the right therapist to help them work through things, or can't talk about their struggles due to isolation as is the case with lots of women who goes through domestic/family violence.
4. Be careful to not just label people as "toxic" without knowing the difference between someone who don't realise it and want to actually change, and might be horrified if they realised they are a toxic person (and lets face it, not everyone knows their own faults and if you ghost someone who is a toxic person they might never know the impact they had on you), and the people who have awareness of the damage they do to others, but are not willing to develop any self awareness and has no interest in changing for the betterment of themselves and others. Sometimes people have come from such abusive and toxic childhoods they don't know the difference between healthy relating and unhealthy relating.
5. I would also add people who withdraw and are avoidant and dismissive as also toxic people who cuts others out of their own lives without explaination (what Christina said about the weakness towards the end of the video). Their energies for me are often also stagnant and heavy and they have superficial relationships and reject "negative" emotions that Christina talks so beautifully about in her video "The Truth about Evil". *look up the 4 attachment styles and how this impact on adult relationships (attachment theory).
6. People with neurodiversity such as Autism and ADHD may not be able to recognise boundaries because of how their brain works. Sadly because of this, and regardless of their intellegence or compassion towards others, many people with Autism and ADHD ends up in prison because they had gone too far without being able to recognize the boundaries of others or they get "stuck" in certain destructive behaviours. No matter how strongly you set your boundaries they will not be able to recognize the social and psychological cues.
Thank you! I am struggling with toxic people at school and now I understand that I have been too weak to throw away the weight they are pushing me with. I understand that I have to be strong enough to let it go, and reclaim my power🔥♥️
As long as you dont turn into this aggressive person trying to protect her boundaries just to create a balance to her perceived "weakness", then its fine. Because that would not be the point. Respecting boundaries comes naturally for a person that truly loves and respects herself. Focus on finding that self-love, empowerment and respect first, and then setting boundaries and having others respect them will come so much easier.
@@carlosparra8976 I agree, thank you for the reminder☺️ I’m an empath that has been out of school for some time with social anxiety-issues, so this video was very helping. Thank you again😊
@@tirilnilsen3839 Good luck Tiril. There is a video on empaths by Christina. She describes the difference between empowered and dis-empowered empaths, which really helped me. It's not our empathy that attracts abuse, its our disempowerment. So we can stay true to our nature and still be strong, confident and empowered. Its great! Good luck again.
@@carlosparra8976 Thank you!💚🙏
This is the biggest thing I’ve been struggling with after my spiritual awakening I was so excited when I saw this title!!