Autism & Communication: Differences in Processing and How That is Perceived
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- Опубликовано: 2 янв 2025
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i found myself relating to much of this video. it’s nice to hear someone’s perspective on a similar experience.
one thing that’s different is I almost have the opposite problem with processing. I often realize what someone is going to say before they finish their sentence. I’ve gotten much better, but I often struggled with interrupting people and speaking TOO much. it took me until high school to realize that this was the problem. People called me annoying but never told me why 🤣
@@h3llolime222 i can actually be that way sometimes too. when i’m having actual conversations with people i know well, i usually do know what they are going to say before they say it. and i can definitely struggle not to interrupt people if the topic of conversation is something i find extremely interesting or exciting. it seems to depend a lot on the setting, how well i know the person i’m speaking to, and the overall vibe. and context of the interaction. i’m realizing the times i have the most trouble with processing are when there are more stressors and more unknown or unexpected elements involved. so it’s like the more things there are in my environment that are causing me stress, the more trouble i have with processing and communicating. and so the more relaxed i am, the easier it is. and the topic of conversation is definitely a large component.
Soooo relatable! Thanks for sharing. I have experienced all of this too. Late diagnosed here 🙋♀️
Hey, new here - thanks YT algorithm! I identify with a lot of what you said here! I'm un-diagnosed but DEFINITELY on the spectrum and I'm constantly always feeling like people judge me for being 'stupid' when I'm having trouble processing what's being said, or a given social situation. It's so frustrating because I know I'm smarter than the average bear, but I'm constantly in this cycle of self-doubt that maybe I just am dumb for not getting it. I have trouble maintaining any close friendships & have never managed a relationship because I apparently just don't understand how to talk to people without upsetting them when I'm genuinely just trying to have normal conversations and understand their POV. I get frustrated and embarrassed a lot, and all of this together just triggers anxiety and depression and I constantly just hate myself and wish I was never born. I see people like you who struggle with some of the same things I do, but you just seem to have soo much confidence in yourself & who you are that you can just cope with the struggles of autism & can just be your authentic self - and I genuinely wish I knew how you do it. I would kill to have your level of confidence & - for the lack of a better term - 'chill-ness'. I've always wished for a friend like you who understands my struggles but could take me under their wing & give me advice. You seem really awesome & I'll be watching more of your videos and subscribing!
@@ChristopherBrunk i’m not sure that anyone who has seen me in real life would describe me as confident but i appreciate your words. i do not have in real life friends and i don’t talk to people in public unless i have to and i spend a lot of my time avoiding human interaction to the best of my ability. but what you are observing is the shift in my perspective that has only come in the last few years. i simply understand that i am not the problem, that i am not wrong for being who i am. and i know now that there are many other people who understand and accept me, i just haven’t found them here where i live. i have done a lot of work to understand and take care of myself but i have to be honest and tell you that i still hold myself back in big ways because like i said, i avoid people. i am still terrified of uncertainty and that often prevents me from doing new things and achieving any kind of success. so i don’t think you should want my current level of confidence but maybe you see the level i am striving to be at. but remember that comparison is the thief of joy and there is no journey more suitable for you than your own. you have your own kind of magic, you just have to be willing to see it within yourself. every person has something that no one else has, their own gift to the world.
Does snyone else run through scenarios of just talking to people and planning it and then completely lose it as soon as you actually start talking?
@@jackbenson3011 all the time
this is so real omg
Adran I resonate so much with your videos. I have similar communication issues that have caused me to be very embarrassed I try to follow what someone is telling me but the way they say it throws me off I have learned that if I don't understand and for what was said is rephrased and I have to do that a lot at work and I know people think I am stupid 😢
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@@cherylroberts5100 it’s probably not as bad as we think. i know it’s frustrating but i also want to remind you that we don’t always know what people are thinking. and also it doesn’t matter what people think anyway but trust me, i know it doesn’t feel that way most of the time. our minds can run wild with all sorts of stories about what other people think and chances are the other person is never thinking as much about it as we are. we tend to hurt ourselves more than we need to because we assume that every interaction will be as bad as some past experiences we’ve had. it’s hard when you’ve got a long history of being misunderstood but we’ve got to basically retrain ourselves not to ruminate about these things. even when interactions don’t go how we want, we don’t have to make it mean all these negative things about ourselves. we get to decide that these things do not actually define us. i hope that all came across how i was intending..
Hi Adran
I feel I have autism
But I did't take test to be diagnosed
And I'm suffering from socialising .and I start to masking and always I 'm silence
I want tto know how to meet people without feeling embrace