One Essential Element You Need When Processing Your Emotions
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- Опубликовано: 5 авг 2023
- I’m Tanner Murtagh, a therapist making videos on chronic pain and symptoms. I will teach you how to rewire your brain, regulate your nervous system, and unlearn your chronic symptoms!
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*Education and techniques discussed in this video originates from Polyvagal Theory, Pain Reprocessing Therapy, and Emotional Awareness and Expression Therapy.
*Reference: the Reference: Alan Gordon, Dr. Stephen Porges, Deb Dana, Dr. Schubiner, & Dr. Lumley.
Disclaimer: The information provided by Pain Psychotherapy Canada Inc., and its director Tanner Murtagh, on this channel is for general informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice, psychotherapy, or counselling. If you choose to utilize any of the education, strategies, or techniques in this video you agree you are doing so at your own risk and you assume all risk of injury to yourself.
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Intro music by Alex Klassen.
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Chronic pain taught me feelings are valid. Thanks for the upload. 🙏🏼
You're welcome. Keep going!
Really enjoyed your 'Drop Into Your Body' short - it definitely helps!
Could you explain more (perhaps in a video?) about how to feel self-compassion, please?
I wonder if quite a lot of us can feel strong compassion for others, but have no idea how to turn this inward?
Thank you.
I'm so glad it was helpful. Yes, in a future video I can explain more of how to cultivate self-compassion. It is so common to be able to have compassion for others, but not for ourselves.
@painpsychotherapy Wonderful! Thank you so much - it would be great to know how to divert this ocean of compassion into the desert within!!!
I used to be one of them, Alix, who found it difficult to turn the same compassion I'd express easily to a friend on myself. I tended to be much harsher and more critical to myself than I ever would be to a friend. The two things that changed that for me was thinking of my body - despite the pain - as a friend and companion, not an enemy. The other was what Tanner mentioned - doing inner child and trauma work. Discovering the wounded inner children of my past - the bullied 4-year-old, for example - and working with that little girl helped me turn the love I'd give to any hurt child on myself. Now I feel such love and self-acceptance for myself and all my inner wounded children who suffered abuse, grief, and pain. I would never harshly criticize a child, so I choose not to abuse myself in any way any more either. That helped change my attitude completely - and now I give myself unconditional love (while also doing necessary Shadow work). I ook forward to Tanner's video on self-compassion myself. His videos are SO helpful in working with mind-body health problems and learning to change my state from Fight or Flight to Ventral Vagal - even after a lifetime of hypervigilance. Thanks, Tanner! - Linda
@@thedancingdivaofdaviestree2320 It is great to hear about your healing work! Keep going!
@@painpsychotherapy Thanks so much Tanner. With your help and all the valuable information you teach so ably, I hope to recover the 80% improvement I achieved before and surpass it. Knowledge is power, and these videos empower us all.
thank you tanner !i just discovered you at exactly the right moment i have been haveing throat pain on and off for about three weeks i have listened to four videos in a row not only did the discomfort subside as i was listening and learning but my mind began to roll out a myriad of historical causes from childhood on as to why i would be haveing throat pain at this time in my life it simply had to be dealt with i am deeply grateful !
I'm so glad my content has been helpful. I wish you the best in your healing!
Thanks Tanner; I am very gratefully for your amazing content.
I'm so glad it has been helpful!
Thanks for sharing
You're welcome! Keep going!
Fantastic therapist truly
Thank you for your kind words. Happy healing!
Thank you for this video. Im about to hug myself. I need it.❤
I'm so glad it was helpful. A self hug can be so healing! Keep going!
Thanks Tanner. A great video and so helpful. After having spent at least 60 years stuffing down emotions, it’s hard to let myself feel them, let alone express them to someone else. Any suggestions?
Also the short of drop into your body was superb! I appreciate your concrete advice.
I'm so glad it was helpful! Keep going!
This video made me thing of how women and girls are always told to "smile" if their faces aren't showing a pleasing expression. I have always resented when people say that to me. If I want to frown, I have the right to frown!
Agreed. It is so important we feel and express what is occurring for us. I wish you the best in your healing!
Love the comparison to soothing your son. Timely reminder for me in dealing with myself. However I think I still struggle to feel the sensation of the emotion. I sit there and can't quite connect to how it feels in my body. Not sure if there is a technique that can help with that. Thanks for posting all your videos they help me alot👍
I'm so glad my content is helpful. Yes, this can be tricky. You could check out my somatic basics video for more of a process!
Two questions: - what do you do about the emotions triggered by/surrounding the pain (frustration, anger, bitterness etc)?
- is venting anger at external triggers (at the workplace, home, the bigger world, politicians and other assholes) healthy for a CPPS sufferer? Is it okay to swear or shout? This is more a personal question because for me anger is a fairly regular emotion. I actually thrive on it (especially when I can lace it with a healthy dose of cynicism and sarcasm) 😊
Generally I would utilize somatic tracking for emotions regarding the pain, or somatic tracking for the emotions themselves. In terms of anger, this can be really individual on what works best for people: it can be EAET, somatic practices, self-compassion practices, or different strategies for regulating the nervous system. I cannot say what would be best for your case over social media.
Do you do telehealth in the US?🙏🏼
Unfortunately we don't provide services in the USA. Sorry about this. You could check out the Pain Psychology Center, as they do.
What if I am getting angry about something small. Like a noise outside. Is it ok to talk to myself and tell myself that it is just a noise and I don't need to be angry about it? Or should I let myself feel angry about it? I want to have less things trigger me but I also want to be kind to myself and feel my feelings.
That‘s exactly what i‘m struggling with… in some situations we cannot show our emotions- work/boss we cannot start screaming all day long?!
So sorry for the delay! Good question. This will really depend person to person, and I cannot give specific advise over social media. Generally it can be useful to feel emotions (even if they seem extreme for the situation) and also give cognitive messages of safety. Not always but often we can have an extreme emotional reaction due to nervous system dysregulation or trauma.
I am struggling with this idea about not controlling emotions. Society does indeed ask us to, I think it's a form of protection. You see on the news when people are not in control of their emotions and the pain it causes the community. Or do I misunderstood your point? I am trying to heal but this emotional stuff is very hard to understand.
Yes, this can be tricky. Of course we don't want to externally allow our emotions to be out of control and cause harm. It is more that controlling our emotions and not feeling them internally can increase pain to increase, and in private we want to learn to fully feel them overtime with a sense of safety. Of course I cannot say what will be best for your case.
This is of course generally how we want to work with emotions, and it can be important to work with a therapist who could give you personal guidance.