its either 1 someone someone who is in the wrong 2 someone talking about the person who's in the wrong 3 the saddest thing ever 4 the funniest thing ever
The alcohol was the hardest thing to break from as a twitch streamer. My wakeup call was when a former friend told me I was more fun drunk - I took it as I should have, an absolute major insult. I am now just as hilarious and fun being my sober self. You can do it❤
Oh same, I was mad cackling at the story right before that one, just in utter hysterics at it, and then had to choke back on my laughs as I started to hear what the title of the next confession was I kinda sat there in shock for a second, mouth agape, because even if no one is around me rn, it just feels so wrong to be continuing to laugh at the prior post when something so sad was immediately following it up and being read out, but I had that urge to do that sort of "haha wtf..???" kind of nervous laugh because that emotional whiplash was so palpable
Psychopaths are not inherently evil or bad. If anything, they have a lot of control over their internal clockwork. If he isn't violent or abusive to you, and it sounds like he's pretty understanding. This is probably him, loving you to the best of his ability.
Most of my life I thought to myself "Thank God I was born as a woman, and I don't have a drive for killing people or small animals!" because of this diagnosis. Thanks a lot "Criminal minds"😡 I literally thought all man psychopaths just can't go any different route but hurt everything.
That's what I thought. I have heard that psychopaths are mentally incapable of loving people or caring so he probably just could not love her at all. I find that very fascinating.
Manipulating others and being incapable of empathy or feeling guilt is not “ being in control over the internal clockwork.” it's a personality disorder! Humans are social creatures, and being unable to bond or trust your partner isn't good for a regular person!
The psycopath one made me a little sad. Its so ingrained in our society not to understand the word and diagnosis. As a disabled person with autsim, i know what its like to be in that position. people think its creepy when you over analyze every little thing you need to do to appear "normal". Its called masking. The guy clearly isnt trying to hurt anyone. And its not like she has a right to his medical history. It makes me sad the language she used talking about him.
Yeah low and no empathy are so incredibly stigmatized. It's so sad that people are seen as evil or less human just because they don't feel the same things others do.
And didn't OP say that when he did something to upset them he still corrected it despite not being able to feel bad? Sounds like if he's got the medical history and diagnosis to back up the symptoms he's getting or has gotten help for the disorder.... and how he's been functioning from what she's been saying has been working and positive. He's doing everything right, isn't he? And being "picked" for having your presence enjoyed is normal, he just worded it... poorly? Idk. I think this guy is good to go and just doing what he needs to in order to live a good life. Taking time to analyze people so you can make a decision to be their friend is *normal* and it's kind of childish to not do that, it's not creepy or weird. Not taking time to think about it might get you sucked into a low time in your life because of the actions of your friends. It's really sad how demonized those kinds of disorders are if they're being treated.. there is no cure for it, they can't help it, so as long as they're able to manage it with the help of a professional I'd say that they're a good person. Mental illness doesn't make an inherently bad character.
Absolutely could not agree more. I have autism, bipolar, and schizophrenia. I'm also homeless and I have heard so many people joke about my illness around me before they know that I have it. I guess you are around me and since you don't see the signs of mental illness you think I don't have any illnesses or you expect that any illness I have is the "socially acceptable" illness, not frickin schizophrenia (seen as one of the scary ones). But honestly, I have mental illnesses that affect me way worse than hearing voices and seeing things and dealing with delusions. People just seem to get freaked out over some illnesses and less freaked out over others. I also mentioned I'm homeless and yeah I've heard people crap talking homeless people around me too.
Every relationship reddit post involving ASPD and the like just makes me go :/ Like even his reasoning for "picking" her just sounds like he genuinely loves her the way he can??? She made him laugh and he realized how pretty she was and decided "Yes, this is the one." He had "The moment" and she's doubting that?!?!?! And the way the comments go straight to demonizing them. It's always awful. A while back I saw a series of threads where a woman ended a ltr because she found out her bf was a sociopath, and the way she questioned him was the most maliciously stereotypical bullshit. I would have been furious (and he lowkey sounded upset from the way she described him, but he _kept it in check_ like an adult and was demonized for that). Comments still acted like he was going to lock her in his basement. They broke up after a month or so and everyone's acting as if she evaded Ted fuckin' Bundy?!?! She gave no indication that he was manipulative or anything, which, y'know, doesn't mean he _wasn't,_ but so many comments were projecting their negative experiences and just.... Pain! Suffering!! Leave cluster Bs alone!! Jesus.
Last story: That's why any and all physical punishment should be outlawed. Abusers say to themselves they are doing good. Abused people think everyone goes trough that. Physical punishment teches children how to lie better. It can't and doesn't teach anything else. Everything I learned was how to lie better.
Everyone who says they are fine even though they were spanked is just perpetuating the cycle of abuse. They are not really fine if they defend hitting people weaker than them.
I got more than spanked. And I am now way stronger than my abuser. I wasn't taught how to lie. I was taught how to defend myself. Maybe I'm just built different
I'm autistic and my parents used to say they had no choice but to hit me during my meltdowns because it was "the only way" they could get me to calm down. I haven't spoken to either of them in close to a decade now because they still genuinely believe they did the right thing by beating a disabled child. I am now an adult with complex PTSD who is a phenomenal liar who loathes dishonesty and has an overwhelming instinct to flee when in emotional distress.
Bruh that dude staring at braless women is why I still force myself to wear bras in public even if it's hot outside. I have even considered top surgery to reduce the size, since men get to wear shirts that clearly show their nipples.
As someone with large breasts, all I can recommend is getting a high quality bra that is properly fitted. Most commercial bras are made to LOOK nice (especially those with lots of lace or small straps). A few years ago, I went with shopping with my aunt, who used to work in plus-size fashion, and she helped me find a bra that actually fit me... And it was a LIFE CHANGER. I barely feel it when worn and now I actually have good support, so I'm not sore and aching. It's more of a hassle to clean (handwash), but so far, that bra has survived 2 years where others break after 6 months. I got more of the same and I am really happy about that. Bras aren't inherently evil, it's just that most of them were not made for you or me. Get a proper, high quality one (even if it's expensive, it's worth investing) and make sure it's fitted properly. You can still wear "pretty" bras when going on dates or other intimate moments, but trust me, you'll want a GOOD bra to keep you going all day at work/school/college.
@@Windmelodie Do you happen to have any recommendations or not-recommended in terms of brands or places to look? And what to look for when finding your size??
If you live within the jurisdiction of I think it's the 10th Circuit Court of Appeals (LegalEagle mentions this in a video of his, I think it's the "Rights you didn't know you had" video), which covers Colorado among other states, you can actually go topless as a woman because the 10th Circuit found that discriminating against women over not wearing a shirt where a man can get away with not wearing a shirt is prohibited under federal law. This will only save you in places where the 10th Circuit covers though, and please check the video to make sure I got the details correct.
@@_nochi_ So I can only go with what fits me very well, since every breast size and shape is different. The one I'm using is a Felina Conturelle spacer bra with wires and 3 hooks (smaller sizes come with 2 hooks). Since I'm German, idk US sizes, but mine is 85E (before I thought I needed 95D and that was wrong) and my bust is very U-shaped (always has been). The bra offers great support, without making my bust stand out too far. I can now wear blouses with buttons that actually close all the way. However, everyone is different, so I'd highly recommend going into a professional store (not just any "random retail" store - not to sound derogatory but you do need people who really know what they're doing). If you have a bigger bust, I personally recommend 3 or 4 rows of hooks as well as broader bands to hold the cups in place, made from a more sturdy material (so less lace and stuff like that). Find a good one and get the same one, perhaps in different colours ("nude" if you wear lots of white, for example - I personally prefer black). You'll know you have the right bra, if you don't feel it while wearing it. It shouldn't pinch, it shouldn't squish and it shouldn't leave deep marks on your body.
About the psychopath story - everything the guy was saying about how he adapts to social environments and how he chose a girlfriend based on criteria sounded completely normal to me. Now I'm worried I'm the problem, because I thought that thinking that way is just how everyone is.
I think the problem is that he is unable to feel those normal human emotions (I am bad at describing disorders so please correct me if I say anything misinformed). So when he is in front of others, there is no actual interest or feeling behind his actions. Only what he thinks people wants, and what character can be of benefit. So essentially you can methodically choose your partner, but he will not be able to feel that love for them due to his emotional disorder.
@_nochi_ Ah, I could see that, too. But, in a way, being around the girlfriend for a while until deciding, "hey, I like being around this person, and I think they could be a good girlfriend, and I know society expects that of me, I should ask her out" sounds pretty normal
@nitrovan Yeah it is pretty normal. But it's not the most common way of thinking. Because most people would like a relationship to blossom out of genuine interest in the other, or at least have something bloom from that point. He is probably loving her the way that he can, but she lacks the understanding to like, how to say.. understand (lmao I can't think of words, forgive me. But you get what I mean). So yeah if you're getting older, you could start looking for a partner like that, but there is an emotional expectation from it too. There's nothing inherently wrong with it because you can just learn to love. How others perceive that method is just their own perspective/expectation on love. In my opinion anyway E: If you're worried about being a psychopath, you could always ask for an assessment. Just to be sure
@@mamamiaawoodenboy I think he just didn't want to lie. Because psychopaths typically can't feel those emotions, not strongly anyway. But I do think they are capable of loving in their own way, and his way was being willing to marry her
The last one really pissed me off and I am glad she was able to find some solace in telling the internet. Some parents **DO NOT DESERVE TO BE PARENTS*** it is disheartening to see people abuse their kid like that. I need to calm down before I go to work.I read last night about 3 school staff in that abused special needs kids (they are in jail and fired as they should be) and now this. Wow. and Damn @EmKay you always give Robin these types of reddits just because he is honest in sharing when something makes him angry. I love the reactions as they always are genuine. Love the vids
3:20 I tend to look at peoples chests because I struggle making eye contact due to my autism and plus not looking in people's direction while they are talking is disrespectful, but I try not to look there as not to be gross and make people uncomfortable so I tend to look at window and such even tho that's makes me seem like I'm not listening (btw I am a woman and If someone was staring at my chest I would be grossed out so I try to avoid it as much as I can, so if I'm talking to and looking around you like at what's behind you I'm not ignoring you I just can't make eye contact , I'm sorry) Edit: I don't look at peoples chest on purpose and I do feel upset at myself when I do stare , I am trying to get better so I don't do that , it's just I've been focusing on multiple things and it is all very stressful. Thank you for your understanding
As a fellow autistic: look to the left or right of their head, at their nose, their hair, or at their hands if they gesture. It took me a long time to even realize that I avoid eye contact, for me it mostly manifests as talking to people while looking at what I'm doing, gesturing a "thank you" at a car that's letting me pass while looking at the crosswalk in front of me etc. At least with people I'm talking to directly I'm generally capable of looking at their faces, but I often still have to consciously pick an eye to look at.
eye contact is kind of a myth, actually. when talking neurotypical people actually watch each others lips (the visual component is very important to speech processing) and only make brief, sporadic eye contact.
If it's anything like my experience, it's more a mix of coping and keeping yourself honest about it. If I say it frequently, I remind myself to be cautious and pay attention to my drinking. Unfortunately, there's no "out"
Exactly. Women get laid all the time but men never do, they all lie except the top 10% that get all. Women have standards. Interesting how noone brought up That's r--- if when she did it to him but everyone was quick to blame the man when they thought he was as did I.
Very happy to see people supportive of ASPD in the comments. Too many times I've seen it further stigmatized in these threads and it's incredibly depressing. I have a friend with ASPD and they're incredibly kind. Lack of empathy doesn't stop them from being there for me when I need it. We're very good friends and ASPD doesn't make that friendship any less real. I think this boyfriend truly wants to be with this girl. He may not feel the same things she does, but it sounds like he's happy with her. If he wasn't, he would find someone else. I wish the both of them well :)
It’s so relieving to see honestly. ASPD is one of the most stigmatized mental disorders out there and usually (and strangely enough) it comes from people who claim to be educated on mental health and care for people’s mental health and trauma. Having these disorders can make dating hard and telling a partner you have ASPD of all things has no benefit and all risks. I’m proud of the bf for saying that. He’s a very strong person.
I have a very good friend who - among other diagnoses - has diagnosed Antisocial personality disorder _(one of the pre-requisites for being a psychopath or sociopath)_ and her long-term psychologist whom she has seen since she was 18, and still sees today at 35, has told her several times that she's a "full-blown" psychopath. Female psychopaths are rare, they often get the wrong diagnosis, just as she did before she was 20. She coped very poorly with life and people when she was younger, that's why she ended up in therapy to begin with. Her parents handled it very well though, because she's basically been in therapy since she was a kid. If I remember correctly she started therapy when she was 5 _(or it could have been 8),_ and it's been more or less ongoing since then. Some changes of psychologists, but otherwise more or less constant therapy for 30 years now _(30 years of therapy sounds expensive, but we're both Swedish, so it is free - as it should be)._ She's been in and out of jail and was doing wildly inappropriate things when she was very young. I still admire her and her dedication, because she's chosen to work on herself, and she takes that work *very* seriously. As she's gotten older and has learned a lot through life, friends and therapy she's begun to change and become a really fantastic friend. Or, well, she's always been a great friend to me and her other close friends, but I wouldn't have wanted to be anything *but* her friend back when she and I started to know each other. She could be vicious towards those she didn't care about or liked. We have known each other since we were 21 and 22 _(she's one year older than me),_ and I have seen her emotional and personal growth close up. We both used a lot of heavy drugs to cope with very similar types of trauma that we've been through, and we've both been deep into the criminal world in Sweden. I've had horrible shit happen to me, and she's been through equally horrific stuff. We've been sold, r-ped, beaten, almost k-lled among other traumatic crap... I don't say that for sympathy, life is life. To me, we are the lucky ones, because we survived and got clean. So many of my friends are dead, either from ODs, suicide, or violent men _(aka muuuurrrdddeeerrrr)._ It took her some time to open up and tell me about her diagnoses, since most times she had told others whom she cared about they almost always chose to "disappeare". I mean, I always knew she was different in some way, so it didn't really come as a huge shock or anything, and I was mostly like; "Ahaaa! That explains A LOT". Like how she *really* didn't care about anything or anyone except those she had "chosen" to have in her life - her friends - and how she asked why I cried when I was feeling like I'd been an asshole towards someone else. I mean, I have done some bad shit too, but I had to drug myself until I *felt* like I didn't care about anything to be able to do those things. Every time I started to sober up I was overcome by guilt, regret, sadness and self-hatred _(and I still feel that very intensely when I think back on some of it),_ while she *couldn't* understand, at all, why or *how* my empathy worked. I mean, I didn't have the clearest grip on empathy either back then, so it wasn't like she saw how an "ordinary" person would have reacted to what we used to do either. I have diagnosed C-PTSD, Borderline personality disorder, an anxiety disorder, some very specific delusions, and on top of all that I also have a tendency to get full-blown psychotic breaks from time to time. It's a trip. What I mean is that my baseline empathy isn't like the average person's, especially not back when I was in my early to late 20s and used a helluva lot of heroin etc. But she always became a mix of intrigued and irritated with me any time I got a "slap in the face" from my guilt and empathy. Anyway, she's done an amazing job in therapy and life in general! We both have. But I am so incredibly proud of how far she's come. She's a genuinely good person. Because she doesn't feel most of those incredibly unpleasant emotions that most of us do when we treat someone badly, but she still chooses to treat everyone as nicely as she can. And if she makes a mistake, she'll ask you exactly how and what she should have done differently and then she'll work on it until she, hopefully, doesn't do it again. I have *never* seen anyone work as hard as she does to become a "better" person. She's the most loyal friend I have ever had, and I love her to death. All this to say; I know I am lucky to have a friend who takes her different diagnoses seriously enough to work this hard on herself so she doesn't hurt other people. I know that this is *not* the norm when it comes to those with these types of disorders. She's the exception, not the rule. Okay? Don't go search up a psychopath/sociopath because you think that they all can "change". Most of them won't even care enough about other people to make the effort to become "better". My friend is very special in that regard, and she's had help since she was a tiny little kid. I don't think she would be as high-functioning as she is if she hadn't had that help from the get-go. Alright? :) And I am sorry for rambling. Sending all of you loads of love, from this Swedish woman who's living in Norway ;D
When he was found out, and after gaslighting didn't work, yeah. Not sure I'd classify that as making the effort to communicate - he tried to hide it but couldn't. But I guess he could've lied.
@@trishapellis Honestly, I'm not sure if he was intentionally gaslighting. It certaintly wasn't normal to us, but for him it might genuinely be normal. Given it's a throwaway line there's not enough information to really decide. Then of course there's the question of how to define gaslighting and what counts, which can cause all sorts of miscommunication. Some people define gaslighting through the malicious intent of the gaslighter, while others define it by the impact it has - both views change the nuances of the topic. Defining it by malicious intent creates a more stringent and harsh definition where by definition it cannot be accidental and is inherently abusive regardless of context, while also removing the power of interpretation by victims by inserting it's only gaslighting if done maliciously or intentionally by the gaslighter, which requires us to judge another person's internal thought processes through our Iran biases and cultures. Defining gaslighting by the impact it has on the victim empowers the victim to make their own judgement based on the impact it has, which is generally more useful for processing and asserting boundaries. It also opens the conversation to the possibility of unintentional gaslighting, which can allow victims to adopt a more complex view of their experiences to process why such things happened to them, and it opens potential dialogue for gaslighters to evaluate themselves and improve instead of being inherently evil and denied opportunities to learn. However, this also open others to downplaying the impact or severity of gaslighting and to make it easier to make excuses or insist such behavior is inherently normal. Given this I'm just going to state I'm following the second definition right now, and to clarify I am NOT saying that the woman should have stayed with the psychopath or that she's unjustified in how she feels. I don't hate the psychopath and I don't think he is inherently evil or a bad person, but I also don't think the two of them are compatible, and I don't think the girl should be compromising on her needs to give him a chance and just put up with it - that would be a toxic relationship if it came to that, for sure, and I am not trying to defend toxicity. I ultimately just don't think either of them are necessarily bad, and I think that they're not right for eachother due to different ways of processing the world. The impact of the behavior is real and that should be taken seriously - I just don't need the psychopath to be evil in order for the impact of his behavior to be real and valid. (Sorry for the long rant, I just wanted to make it absolutely clear what my thought process is since it is fairly complex compared to a lot of people's perspective on such things.)
@@Dreamheart101 The point is still that when the woman asked about his behavior, he initially tried to put it off as if nothing was going on, and if she had just dropped the subject at that point, he would not have told her he was a psychopath. He only did that because he was incapable of pushing her off the subject. Which is understandable, if you get right down to it - psychopaths do get a worse rep in the world than they really deserve, far from all of them are serial killers - but yeah, I may beg the question, who *is* compatible with a person like that?
@trishapellis I would assume another psychopath? Or some other similar mental illness/disorder that thinks in similar ways? Ultimately because of what psychopathy is, relationships to those individuals just aren't going to have the same meaning. Not to say that there isn't meaning, but rather it's a different type and the relationship serves different purposes for both partners. It'd be hard to find a compatible individual as going through and telling every person you're a psychopath would be social suicide due to the stigma and association, so it's one of those things that an individual would generally need to hide if they want to get anywhere in life and maintain their relationships, familial or platonic. There is a social expectation of getting married, which is the main reason why it's advantageous to do so if you're trying to perserve your life.
i'm glad i don't have to deal with people suspecting ulterior motives when i look at someones boobs instead of making eye contact. Eye contact is culturally overrated and an anxiety inducing mess.
It's kinda wild bc for many people it's anxiety inducing AND in animals it's most often a direct threat to make sustained eye contact, so there's evolutionary REASONS to NOT make eye contact.
Robin, if you read this brother, you had better figure out how to get off the alcohol. I was addicted for decades and I literally had no idea how to fight it. I was miserable, desperate and barrelling towards oblivion. It got to the point where I was drinking more than a handle (basically a half gallon) of vodka every day. For real. It culminated with me lying on the couch in my living room with pneumonia, my larynx so severely swollen from the stomach acid I was regurgitating every day that I was literally unable to even force water down it. I didn't care. I was so miserable that I just waited to see if I woke up the next day. Miraculously, I survived and through no effort on my part had entirely lost all interest in alcohol. This was around 4 years ago now, and although I thank whatever power every day that I no longer live in that walking hopeless nightmare, it was terrifying. And even worse for my wife. Figure it out, dude. Don't go down my road. I survived, but barely, and I spent over a decade in perpetual hell. I wish I could give you an answer or even direction, but I can only offer a warning. It won't get better, and it won't go away on its own. You're my favorite on Emkay, and I have grown rather fond of you. Get out if you can. Love you brother. Peace.
24:20, man.. I feel for ya. I once dated a very nice woman who had been "SA'd" by her grandfather (or uncle, it has been over 30 years) and I had no problems with her at all, nor her family. However I couldn't deal with the 'intimate times' together. Every time we got 'frisky' it was a coin toss .. either it would be great, or it would end in misery (for her mainly). Meaning if she initiated 'frisky' then everything was fine, if I initiated 'frisky' I had to take things very very slow and carefully and it had a chance to be OK, but most times it would end in her being very unhappy, AND if she couldn't remember who initiated 'frisky' then it was going to be miserable even if she had initiated it. I was in my early 20's and this was the fourth woman I had ever dated and the third I had ever gotten 'frisky' with I had also not yet reached my alcoholic bottom yet, so I was not at all able to deal with this situation. We stopped dating after several months, and I have seen her a couple of times out and about, she looks like she is doing much better, I don't hate her at all, I just wasn't at all prepared for her (and my) situation. It isn't an easy one to deal with. Lots of luck to the original poster, and if you think she is worth it, work it out. It can be gotten through if you both are willing. In my case, I wasn't at all ready.
@@scotthodgins7975 You weren’t wrong for leaving, and it doesn’t make you a bad person. (I know you didn’t say anything about feeling like a bad person, but I get the self-critical vibe from your comment)
@@fredskull1618 I totally get that, and I never felt wrong about leaving. She is/was a great person, just that both of us had many 'demons' that we each had to deal with. My demons were still years into the future. I have no idea how she is doing, and I really wish her well. I am pretty certain that she had a good life, much better than if I had stayed with her (just due to my alcoholism and depression).
24:00 To be honest idk how to feel about this one, cause sometimes, some people will literally hide dark secrets about themself until it eats away at them entirely and just stay stuck in that loop of never telling but getting worse. if something had happened to someone i love in their past and it was something that fucked them up badly and could be released by an action of mine, I WOULD WANT TO KNOW SO I WOULDN'T ACCIDENTALLY HURT THEM
idk if it's good advice or not but i feel like a good approach is to step away from thinking about it in all all or nothing way, if the details are hard to relive or embarrassing be subtle or vague, like "something happened in the past i'm less comfortable with _____". if the other person needs 100% of the details to be understanding then that's maybe not the person to try and be in a relationship with
It's not on you to decide when they're ready to share that part of themselves, though. For lots of reasons (safety, dragging up trauma, etc.) Mans shouldn't have snooped, full stop. Like, if his gf finds out how do you think she's gonna feel?
@@thatdude337 okay but she should also not be in a relationship right now if she is still having those inner issues because OP is right here the guy could have accidentally hurt her and not realized
@@ChrissaTodd If she was setting boundaries and OP was respecting them, they'd likely be fine. As far as we know she did the former, but he's kinda flubbing the latter. Also, trauma or no, it's really not anyone else's job to decide whether or not she should be in a relationship. She's an adult, and a stranger. And OP's whole "she should have told me! I could have helped!" spiel is copium because he did some headass shit. Hell, she may not appreciate being treated differently in the first place (and for some SA survivors being treated "carefully" can just make shit worse). She is a stranger-we really don't know until she says something herself.
@@therealoatmeal4642 This quote is attributed to Winston Churchill: "If you're a conservative at 20, you have no heart, if you're a liberal at 50, you have no brain." In the past 10 years though it's also becoming well documented that the younger generations (Gen X, Millennials, and Gen Z) are actually trending more liberal as they get older, in defiance of a long understood pattern.
I mean it’s called ASPD but people will say Sociopath or Psychopath to explain it more or be less technical. Psychopath implies that he was born with ASPD rather than him developing it from trauma. Diagnosed psychopath just means diagnosed with ASPD but specifically, he is a psychopath.
25:09 I mean it’s not like he went into it knowing that what she was trying to hide was trauma he thought she might be cheating which is common enough for it to be understandable
@@kaibaiarrio1299 If it is real, then it's pretty horrifying as it suggests OP just doesn't understand he was r*ped due to social perceptions of r*pe being something that happens to women rather than men.
7:10 people diagnosed with psychopathy have an underdeveloped amygdala and often can't feel emotions, including love. He is faking it, not for selfishness, but as a replacement for real love.
I feel like It's not as simple as emotions. Emotions are handled in multiple parts of the brain. Psychopathy is more about inability to feel empathy right? Anyway the point is whether or not they value a relationship or feel love isn't that simple. First we have to define what love even is. And all of the conversations that come with it. It's kind of discriminatory to say that they can't feel emotions and therefore inherently were faking it. From an outside point of view we can never actually know.
That feels like an unfair simplification, like saying someone with BPD "can't control their emotions and is a ticking time bomb". What is "faking" for a concept that we can only vaguely define, can't measure, and is different for everyone?
Not really. Their emotions are muted for the most part and they normally have a crippling feeling of boredom. They can only have cognitive empathy, not emotional empathy. But they carry sympathy. They also don’t have guilt or remorse.
15:18 As someone who went through EKG training -- yeah that's unfortunately a very easy mistake to make, since you had to fumble around blindly. You'd think that the electrode patches and human skin would have very different textures, and you'd be right...but you're _wearing rubber gloves_ when you touch a patient, and the only texture you're gonna be feeling _is_ the glove. You can't easily differentiate between the patches and skin bc of that lmao
10:15 I have seen the video. He shaked and tossed the kitten, seemingly for fun. All one can do is report the vid - but honestly, hundreds did by the time I saw it, so I was surprised it was still up.. The doxxing was discussed in the comments, with some saying it's rumors. But either way. One does not simply hurt an animal on purpose, enjoys it, records themselves and shares it to the world *without repercussion.* So, he got doxxed? Good, I hope the parents learned from it, moved away and got him into therapy YESTERDAY. He's a serial killer in the making and this is no joke.
There are two main types of stories in this sub; "I accidentally farted in my bosses face while I was picking up a box next to him three weeks ago and he hasn't stopped laughing since", and "While I was driving to visit my parents I picked up a hitchhiker who I beat, tortured and sold to a sperm donor facility for $5000, before heading home for Father's Day"
the "psychopath" story is... so weird. the boyfriend just explained his disorder, what masking is, and what, essentially, love is in clinical terms and OP is just... being an ass lmao. "i would marry you" is saying, yes, he does love OP. everyone loves differently. people with low empathy (aka ASPD, what OP is calling "being a psychopath") don't always feel emotions as intensely or strongly, but that doesn't make their emotions not real. OP says repeatedly shit like "he doesnt GAF" or "he tried gaslighting me" but like... in reality BF is just doing what she told him to, because he cares about her. he left because she said she needed time. he didn't contact her for two days because likely 1) he was thinking about what to do (should he confess his diagnosis to her? etc etc) and 2) he was giving her time to cool off, because OP said it herself, she was mad. and idk. i dont think she knows what gaslighting is, because "acting normal" is not gaslighting. the BF deserves better than OP. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
people marry people they don't love all the time as a way to settle lol the i would marry you isn't proof :P and also he would have kept lying if she didn't push it but nice projection :)
Robin, I'm really sorry to hear how you're struggling with alcohol. I hope you're able to find a way to reduce your use and be healthy again. Going cold turkey can kill you, so please go slow. We need you love yourself as much as we do. ♥
9:20 my little sister got cancer when she was a teenager. Her boyfriend stood by her the whole way. During the pandemic this happened, so it was even more difficult. He was a teenager, a child. No adult (and MARRIED to that person) has any excuse whatsoever to dump/leave someone because they have a serious illness. If there are other reasons, sure. But by being sick alone, you are a deplorable human being if you think that is an ok thing to do.
I was REALLY not ok with the one where OP was ok with a literal SEVEN YEAR OLD getting doxxed and getting sent death threats. I know abusing a cat is terrible, but someone DOXXED A SEVEN YEAR OLD.
Yeah I was surprised by the narrator's take on this story as well. I understand that SA messes people up and she wasn't ready to tell him about it yet, but he had genuine reasons to be suspicious, and it sounds like he handled it really maturely by not confronting her about it and waiting for her to tell him when she's ready.
I have a friend who has ASPD. They’re capable of caring and building genuine relationships. It’s not always the most “normal” conversations when they stop masking but that’s okay. They’re very open about it with me and it’s been an interesting thing to navigate but I wouldn’t trade them for the world. They’re my best friend and they’re definitely capable of love even if it isn’t the same. It makes me mad when people compare those with psychopathy/sociopathy to fake TV show serial killers or shitty manipulative people. Yeah maybe people can end up like that but it doesn’t mean they absolutely will. They’re people too.
For they psychopath story, you're probably in the situation that everyone complains about movies over. Chances are you aren't in danger because he hasn't shown any interest in killing (ask his parents if he was a violent child) but you're as close to love that a psychopath will get to. He enjoys your company he thinks you're pretty if that isn't enough for you break up, but if you enjoy being with him and you can get past knowing he won't feel the emotions you feel roll with it.
As a woman we are totally NOT okay with someone looking at our nipples. What the fuck do you mean you can't help it like it's not a human instinct to just look at people's boobs and I know we like looking at our other sex but all of us already know not to look at people's private parts? Like excuse me? Boy bye I think you should not be allowed to look at a woman again🤚
Especially the fact that he asked the guys of reddit hoe women feel about it (implied by the fact that it is majority men on reddit) when there are more than enough sources of outspoken women daily all the time about not liking it.
22:00 ok so, as a SA survivor, i have to say here, when i enter into a relationship with someone, i TELL THEM. I know its scary. and i know its hard. but if you are not ready to tell your partner you were assaulted, than you are NOT ready for a relationship. trauma therapy is needed. treatment is needed.
No. It's not anyone's right to know their trauma if the person doesn't want to tell it. It can also be really dangerous/traumatic to tell someone so early into a relationship. You have found a way to cope, but that is not the fix for everyone. Making it as though a person isn't ready for a relationship if they can't talk about it is also a very disgraceful mindset to have. People are not just victims. The most traumatic experience of their life is not their main focus in life. They don't have to share that trauma with anyone if they don't want to or are not ready to. Please never give this as actual advice to anyone.
@StarrChild. it is NOT anyone's right to enter into an intimate relationship (intimacy is not just sex!) without sharing something THAT IMPORTANT. END OF STORY. if you are not ready to tell your partner, then you are not ready to be with your partner. please do not spread misinformation. that is dangerous for everyone involved!
@@StarrChild. Cool your jets there friend. A healthy relationship is built on good communication between both parties. IrishHeart didn't say that a victim of SA needs to be able to give a full description of what happened to any/all potential partners. Just that they need to be able to say "I was SA'd in the past so I might not be comfortable with certain things". We see in that story how the girl trying to hide this important information lead to the guy inadvertently causing her more trauma whenever they "did the deed", and sowed to mistrust between the two. (not trying to victim blame here, the guy is in the wrong for snooping, but her inability to talk about her SA did mean that she caused herself further trauma) In a serious relationship you should talk to your partner about these kinds of things. You can limit the amount of information as is applicable to the level of the relationship, i.e. just saying "something happened in my past and now I'm not comfortable doing certain things" would be enough in the early stages of a relationship, but eventually you're going to have to talk to your partner about these kinds of things so your partner doesn't do things that re-triggers your trauma. If you can't do that, then yes, you're not ready for a serious relationship.
my parents TAUGHT me to stand and wipe and then treated me like I was stupid for doing it instead of while I was sitting. It's like... you had 13 years to make up your mind
That "can't believe you're the younger sister" is genuinely sinister and the exact same as "ì can't believe you're in high school/so young" genuinely sickening
Scapegoating the wrong kid is grounds for their narcissist-parents to escalate abusive contingencies; rerouting their entire existence off the rails: I think people are only inventing greater-unfairness. The last two things people learn are negotiating encyclopedic-comprehensive-narcissism, & how irrelevant colloquialisms have become.
As a woman, I can attest to the fact that bras are uncomfortable prisons. They are sometimes referred to as boob jail for a reason. Also no woman likes being stared at by randos on the street....unless they are also weird but that's a whole other can of horses.
Imma need a shower after this or something.. EDIT I’m going to have to watch a happier Robin video The relationship posts make me absolutely sure I made the right decision when I unofficially of course, married my fictional character wife. 27:23 heartbreaking. I hope OP is okay genuinely.
Person in that that last story would probably benefit from one of those text therapy programs. For some folks it's a lot easier to type out words & share them through a screen than it is to look someone in the face & say it.
If you need to stop alcoholism in yourself, it will take the same strategic measured step-down procedure that psychoactive-pharmaceuticals require: psych-Rx's are paired with competent analysts or therapists, & stepping off Rx's is very-gradual; so it will take a measured calendar of staged-amounts while quiet-quitting in descending steps.
Talk to a doctor about these concerns, get into some behavior counseling or go to a clinic for 3 months at very least. I am 1 year, 4 months and 28 days sober from alcohol. I had to get into treatment to stop, but medication can help and there's no shame in counseling or treatment. Also, secular sobriety is also available as well as S.M.A.R.T recovery. I did it, so can you Robin. So can you.
ROBIN, these sad stories are part of the reason we all drink. Fucking surrounding ourselves with sad stuff, it just gets to you man, no matter how thick-skinned one may think they are
The guy who is divorcing his wife of two years should have never married her to begin with because she hadn’t actually been ready from the start. Her dad died when she was 14. From 14 to 16 years plus she didn’t have friends. He basically got involved with this woman while she was very young. She’s finally growing up and enjoying herself because he was the only person she had known since she was a teenager. She’s basically discovering who she is and wants to enjoy herself while she’s still young. He made certain to not include his age which makes him a bit suspect. She had made him her whole world until she started enjoying some freedom from him. This newfound freedom is why she’s stopped living her life for him and started living for herself. Unlike most of you I don’t trust this guy because it looks like he targeted this woman when she was most vulnerable and used this to his advantage. Now it’s no longer advantageous for him. The fact that she didn’t care when he told her that he wanted out just means that she had already checked out of their relationship. I wish them both luck.
"i lied about being sick because [insert extreme emotional distress]" always makes me upset to read. You didn't lie about being sick, our mind needs to be taken care of just like our body does. If you're experiencing trauma or mental illness badly enough that its impairing your ability to live your life then thats just as valid a reason to call off plans as any physical illness
I'm calling BS on the psychopath one. My mother had ASPD, so I'm intimately familiar with it, and quite a few details are off. First, "psychopath" isn't a condition, so you can't be diagnosed with it. it's a descriptor of a type of ASPD, so one can't be diagnosed a psychopath in the same way one can't be diagnosed as "High functioning Autistic"; only "autistic" and only "Antisocial." This normally wouldn't be too much of a problem because it's an accurate description of a specific behavioral pattern, but she made a point that he apparently has diagnosis paperwork, and that's simply not possible. Second, what she's describing is how people with ASPD act in movies. In real life, Antisocials don't choose their masks, they have one, very superficial personality. This personality does change quickly and draw from its surroundings, but it's more akin to one ever-changing personality than a whole bunch of them. They're are born unable to feel emphatic connections to people, and therefore are physically incapable of connecting in way that would make adjusting themselves to specific groups possible. On that note, I'm not sure if OP is lying, or if her boyfriend has ASPD and was able to prove that, and relied on the common understanding of what a "psychopath" is to gaslight her.
Celebrate each day you resist your addictions, and find you a friend that will be as thrilled about it as you are. You there, person reading! Good job today. Did you resist? Amazing! Did you struggle and succumb to your addiction? That means you're doing better! That feeling of guilt and disappointment you have just shows how dedicated you are to recovery! Remember, giving in doesn't mean you failed. Giving in is your current default, it's not worse, it's not better. Tomorrow, I bet you'll resist even longer! You got this!
But it was his responsibility as the non drunk one to make her stop. If he wanted to he could have. He said himself he liked it. He doesn't see it that way. She was not in her right mind and he used that to feel better about it. I think both of them are fucked don't get me wrong. But he was sober and she was not.
its either
1 someone someone who is in the wrong
2 someone talking about the person who's in the wrong
3 the saddest thing ever
4 the funniest thing ever
One time a kid at school threatened to sue me for spoiling the first chapter of a book. Needless to say that that didn't go down well.
This is phrased like a bad two sentence horror story 😭
Alright but what book was it? You should be sued for spoiling some books 😂
Just the first chapter?
For you or the kid?
@@milkshakedraws6944It’s better than “I went 2 poo. The toilet ate me”
The boob one made me SO creeped out, i physically covered my own because it made me feel so icky
Which one? There are at least 3.
@gabrielhermes1627 the staring one I think
I grabbed my balls i was so scared
@@Chompywomper NAAHHH LMAO😭
yea that first one was such a pig.
2:38 "trying not to make it obvious." I guarantee bro was staring like the neuron activated monkey.
This is funny af 💀💀
The alcohol was the hardest thing to break from as a twitch streamer. My wakeup call was when a former friend told me I was more fun drunk - I took it as I should have, an absolute major insult.
I am now just as hilarious and fun being my sober self.
You can do it❤
you can also take it as you're a pushover and manipulatable when you're drunk. super gross thing to say to someone all around
I'm sorry but the emotional whiplash of the post about the guy's wife passing away to the debate about wiping is taking me out. Holy shit
Oh same, I was mad cackling at the story right before that one, just in utter hysterics at it, and then had to choke back on my laughs as I started to hear what the title of the next confession was
I kinda sat there in shock for a second, mouth agape, because even if no one is around me rn, it just feels so wrong to be continuing to laugh at the prior post when something so sad was immediately following it up and being read out, but I had that urge to do that sort of "haha wtf..???" kind of nervous laugh because that emotional whiplash was so palpable
Psychopaths are not inherently evil or bad. If anything, they have a lot of control over their internal clockwork.
If he isn't violent or abusive to you, and it sounds like he's pretty understanding. This is probably him, loving you to the best of his ability.
Most of my life I thought to myself "Thank God I was born as a woman, and I don't have a drive for killing people or small animals!" because of this diagnosis. Thanks a lot "Criminal minds"😡 I literally thought all man psychopaths just can't go any different route but hurt everything.
That's what I thought. I have heard that psychopaths are mentally incapable of loving people or caring so he probably just could not love her at all. I find that very fascinating.
@@ArcaneShadowPHD yeah. I find it fascinating, not a viable romantic partner though
Manipulating others and being incapable of empathy or feeling guilt is not “ being in control over the internal clockwork.” it's a personality disorder! Humans are social creatures, and being unable to bond or trust your partner isn't good for a regular person!
@@MorganVsTheInternet its
That sigma mindset nonsense
The psycopath one made me a little sad. Its so ingrained in our society not to understand the word and diagnosis. As a disabled person with autsim, i know what its like to be in that position. people think its creepy when you over analyze every little thing you need to do to appear "normal". Its called masking. The guy clearly isnt trying to hurt anyone. And its not like she has a right to his medical history. It makes me sad the language she used talking about him.
Yeah low and no empathy are so incredibly stigmatized. It's so sad that people are seen as evil or less human just because they don't feel the same things others do.
And didn't OP say that when he did something to upset them he still corrected it despite not being able to feel bad? Sounds like if he's got the medical history and diagnosis to back up the symptoms he's getting or has gotten help for the disorder.... and how he's been functioning from what she's been saying has been working and positive. He's doing everything right, isn't he? And being "picked" for having your presence enjoyed is normal, he just worded it... poorly? Idk. I think this guy is good to go and just doing what he needs to in order to live a good life. Taking time to analyze people so you can make a decision to be their friend is *normal* and it's kind of childish to not do that, it's not creepy or weird. Not taking time to think about it might get you sucked into a low time in your life because of the actions of your friends. It's really sad how demonized those kinds of disorders are if they're being treated.. there is no cure for it, they can't help it, so as long as they're able to manage it with the help of a professional I'd say that they're a good person. Mental illness doesn't make an inherently bad character.
Absolutely could not agree more. I have autism, bipolar, and schizophrenia. I'm also homeless and I have heard so many people joke about my illness around me before they know that I have it. I guess you are around me and since you don't see the signs of mental illness you think I don't have any illnesses or you expect that any illness I have is the "socially acceptable" illness, not frickin schizophrenia (seen as one of the scary ones). But honestly, I have mental illnesses that affect me way worse than hearing voices and seeing things and dealing with delusions. People just seem to get freaked out over some illnesses and less freaked out over others. I also mentioned I'm homeless and yeah I've heard people crap talking homeless people around me too.
@adumbooctopus1115 and I'm sure it's the 1% that makes the rest of them seem worse
Every relationship reddit post involving ASPD and the like just makes me go :/
Like even his reasoning for "picking" her just sounds like he genuinely loves her the way he can??? She made him laugh and he realized how pretty she was and decided "Yes, this is the one." He had "The moment" and she's doubting that?!?!?!
And the way the comments go straight to demonizing them. It's always awful.
A while back I saw a series of threads where a woman ended a ltr because she found out her bf was a sociopath, and the way she questioned him was the most maliciously stereotypical bullshit. I would have been furious (and he lowkey sounded upset from the way she described him, but he _kept it in check_ like an adult and was demonized for that).
Comments still acted like he was going to lock her in his basement. They broke up after a month or so and everyone's acting as if she evaded Ted fuckin' Bundy?!?!
She gave no indication that he was manipulative or anything, which, y'know, doesn't mean he _wasn't,_ but so many comments were projecting their negative experiences and just....
Pain! Suffering!! Leave cluster Bs alone!! Jesus.
Last story: That's why any and all physical punishment should be outlawed. Abusers say to themselves they are doing good. Abused people think everyone goes trough that. Physical punishment teches children how to lie better. It can't and doesn't teach anything else. Everything I learned was how to lie better.
Everyone who says they are fine even though they were spanked is just perpetuating the cycle of abuse. They are not really fine if they defend hitting people weaker than them.
Facts. Physical punishment should not be allowed.
I got more than spanked. And I am now way stronger than my abuser. I wasn't taught how to lie. I was taught how to defend myself. Maybe I'm just built different
I'm autistic and my parents used to say they had no choice but to hit me during my meltdowns because it was "the only way" they could get me to calm down.
I haven't spoken to either of them in close to a decade now because they still genuinely believe they did the right thing by beating a disabled child.
I am now an adult with complex PTSD who is a phenomenal liar who loathes dishonesty and has an overwhelming instinct to flee when in emotional distress.
@LilChuunosuke I see we are cut from a similar cloth. I'm sorry to hear you went through that.
Bruh that dude staring at braless women is why I still force myself to wear bras in public even if it's hot outside. I have even considered top surgery to reduce the size, since men get to wear shirts that clearly show their nipples.
As someone with large breasts, all I can recommend is getting a high quality bra that is properly fitted. Most commercial bras are made to LOOK nice (especially those with lots of lace or small straps). A few years ago, I went with shopping with my aunt, who used to work in plus-size fashion, and she helped me find a bra that actually fit me...
And it was a LIFE CHANGER. I barely feel it when worn and now I actually have good support, so I'm not sore and aching. It's more of a hassle to clean (handwash), but so far, that bra has survived 2 years where others break after 6 months. I got more of the same and I am really happy about that. Bras aren't inherently evil, it's just that most of them were not made for you or me. Get a proper, high quality one (even if it's expensive, it's worth investing) and make sure it's fitted properly. You can still wear "pretty" bras when going on dates or other intimate moments, but trust me, you'll want a GOOD bra to keep you going all day at work/school/college.
@@Windmelodie Do you happen to have any recommendations or not-recommended in terms of brands or places to look? And what to look for when finding your size??
If you live within the jurisdiction of I think it's the 10th Circuit Court of Appeals (LegalEagle mentions this in a video of his, I think it's the "Rights you didn't know you had" video), which covers Colorado among other states, you can actually go topless as a woman because the 10th Circuit found that discriminating against women over not wearing a shirt where a man can get away with not wearing a shirt is prohibited under federal law. This will only save you in places where the 10th Circuit covers though, and please check the video to make sure I got the details correct.
@@_nochi_ So I can only go with what fits me very well, since every breast size and shape is different. The one I'm using is a Felina Conturelle spacer bra with wires and 3 hooks (smaller sizes come with 2 hooks). Since I'm German, idk US sizes, but mine is 85E (before I thought I needed 95D and that was wrong) and my bust is very U-shaped (always has been). The bra offers great support, without making my bust stand out too far. I can now wear blouses with buttons that actually close all the way.
However, everyone is different, so I'd highly recommend going into a professional store (not just any "random retail" store - not to sound derogatory but you do need people who really know what they're doing). If you have a bigger bust, I personally recommend 3 or 4 rows of hooks as well as broader bands to hold the cups in place, made from a more sturdy material (so less lace and stuff like that). Find a good one and get the same one, perhaps in different colours ("nude" if you wear lots of white, for example - I personally prefer black).
You'll know you have the right bra, if you don't feel it while wearing it. It shouldn't pinch, it shouldn't squish and it shouldn't leave deep marks on your body.
About the psychopath story - everything the guy was saying about how he adapts to social environments and how he chose a girlfriend based on criteria sounded completely normal to me. Now I'm worried I'm the problem, because I thought that thinking that way is just how everyone is.
I think the problem is that he is unable to feel those normal human emotions (I am bad at describing disorders so please correct me if I say anything misinformed). So when he is in front of others, there is no actual interest or feeling behind his actions. Only what he thinks people wants, and what character can be of benefit. So essentially you can methodically choose your partner, but he will not be able to feel that love for them due to his emotional disorder.
@_nochi_ Ah, I could see that, too. But, in a way, being around the girlfriend for a while until deciding, "hey, I like being around this person, and I think they could be a good girlfriend, and I know society expects that of me, I should ask her out" sounds pretty normal
@nitrovan Yeah it is pretty normal. But it's not the most common way of thinking. Because most people would like a relationship to blossom out of genuine interest in the other, or at least have something bloom from that point. He is probably loving her the way that he can, but she lacks the understanding to like, how to say.. understand (lmao I can't think of words, forgive me. But you get what I mean).
So yeah if you're getting older, you could start looking for a partner like that, but there is an emotional expectation from it too. There's nothing inherently wrong with it because you can just learn to love. How others perceive that method is just their own perspective/expectation on love. In my opinion anyway
E: If you're worried about being a psychopath, you could always ask for an assessment. Just to be sure
@@nitrovanI think was pretty clear the psychopath didn’t love her. All he said was that he would marry her.
@@mamamiaawoodenboy I think he just didn't want to lie. Because psychopaths typically can't feel those emotions, not strongly anyway. But I do think they are capable of loving in their own way, and his way was being willing to marry her
28:22 Mental health is no less real then a broken bone.
OP was sick. From the realisation how wrong things had been their entire life.
The last one really pissed me off and I am glad she was able to find some solace in telling the internet. Some parents **DO NOT DESERVE TO BE PARENTS*** it is disheartening to see people abuse their kid like that. I need to calm down before I go to work.I read last night about 3 school staff in that abused special needs kids (they are in jail and fired as they should be) and now this. Wow. and Damn @EmKay you always give Robin these types of reddits just because he is honest in sharing when something makes him angry. I love the reactions as they always are genuine.
Love the vids
3:20 I tend to look at peoples chests because I struggle making eye contact due to my autism and plus not looking in people's direction while they are talking is disrespectful, but I try not to look there as not to be gross and make people uncomfortable so I tend to look at window and such even tho that's makes me seem like I'm not listening
(btw I am a woman and If someone was staring at my chest I would be grossed out so I try to avoid it as much as I can, so if I'm talking to and looking around you like at what's behind you I'm not ignoring you I just can't make eye contact , I'm sorry)
Edit: I don't look at peoples chest on purpose and I do feel upset at myself when I do stare , I am trying to get better so I don't do that , it's just I've been focusing on multiple things and it is all very stressful.
Thank you for your understanding
My hearing kinda sucks, so I watch people's lips. I also hate eye contact, so tend to look at the spot between the eyebrows to switch things up.
I have autism, I try to look near people's face but not actually at their face (their ear, just behind them, etc.)
As a fellow autistic: look to the left or right of their head, at their nose, their hair, or at their hands if they gesture.
It took me a long time to even realize that I avoid eye contact, for me it mostly manifests as talking to people while looking at what I'm doing, gesturing a "thank you" at a car that's letting me pass while looking at the crosswalk in front of me etc. At least with people I'm talking to directly I'm generally capable of looking at their faces, but I often still have to consciously pick an eye to look at.
eye contact is kind of a myth, actually. when talking neurotypical people actually watch each others lips (the visual component is very important to speech processing) and only make brief, sporadic eye contact.
@trishapellis thank you 💜
Hey man, just know you bring joy to a lot of people, both here and on your own channel. Hang in there, yeah? you're good people.
@@Hershewed nah.
Regardless of if you shit and wipe or stand and wipe, what's important is you're wiping your ass. Just be thorough about it.
And wash your ass when you shower.
People who wonder "do you just have a constantly dirty ass", do you not wash yourself when you shower or bathe?
He talks about his alcoholism a lot in videos. It feels like a cry for help at this point tbh. “Let me out, let me out, this is not a dance!”
If it's anything like my experience, it's more a mix of coping and keeping yourself honest about it. If I say it frequently, I remind myself to be cautious and pay attention to my drinking. Unfortunately, there's no "out"
The drug dealer one? No she didn't. That just did not happen.
Exactly. Women get laid all the time but men never do, they all lie except the top 10% that get all. Women have standards.
Interesting how noone brought up That's r--- if when she did it to him but everyone was quick to blame the man when they thought he was as did I.
Very happy to see people supportive of ASPD in the comments. Too many times I've seen it further stigmatized in these threads and it's incredibly depressing.
I have a friend with ASPD and they're incredibly kind. Lack of empathy doesn't stop them from being there for me when I need it. We're very good friends and ASPD doesn't make that friendship any less real.
I think this boyfriend truly wants to be with this girl. He may not feel the same things she does, but it sounds like he's happy with her. If he wasn't, he would find someone else. I wish the both of them well :)
It’s so relieving to see honestly. ASPD is one of the most stigmatized mental disorders out there and usually (and strangely enough) it comes from people who claim to be educated on mental health and care for people’s mental health and trauma.
Having these disorders can make dating hard and telling a partner you have ASPD of all things has no benefit and all risks. I’m proud of the bf for saying that. He’s a very strong person.
I have a very good friend who - among other diagnoses - has diagnosed Antisocial personality disorder _(one of the pre-requisites for being a psychopath or sociopath)_ and her long-term psychologist whom she has seen since she was 18, and still sees today at 35, has told her several times that she's a "full-blown" psychopath. Female psychopaths are rare, they often get the wrong diagnosis, just as she did before she was 20. She coped very poorly with life and people when she was younger, that's why she ended up in therapy to begin with. Her parents handled it very well though, because she's basically been in therapy since she was a kid. If I remember correctly she started therapy when she was 5 _(or it could have been 8),_ and it's been more or less ongoing since then. Some changes of psychologists, but otherwise more or less constant therapy for 30 years now _(30 years of therapy sounds expensive, but we're both Swedish, so it is free - as it should be)._ She's been in and out of jail and was doing wildly inappropriate things when she was very young. I still admire her and her dedication, because she's chosen to work on herself, and she takes that work *very* seriously.
As she's gotten older and has learned a lot through life, friends and therapy she's begun to change and become a really fantastic friend. Or, well, she's always been a great friend to me and her other close friends, but I wouldn't have wanted to be anything *but* her friend back when she and I started to know each other. She could be vicious towards those she didn't care about or liked. We have known each other since we were 21 and 22 _(she's one year older than me),_ and I have seen her emotional and personal growth close up. We both used a lot of heavy drugs to cope with very similar types of trauma that we've been through, and we've both been deep into the criminal world in Sweden. I've had horrible shit happen to me, and she's been through equally horrific stuff. We've been sold, r-ped, beaten, almost k-lled among other traumatic crap... I don't say that for sympathy, life is life. To me, we are the lucky ones, because we survived and got clean. So many of my friends are dead, either from ODs, suicide, or violent men _(aka muuuurrrdddeeerrrr)._
It took her some time to open up and tell me about her diagnoses, since most times she had told others whom she cared about they almost always chose to "disappeare". I mean, I always knew she was different in some way, so it didn't really come as a huge shock or anything, and I was mostly like; "Ahaaa! That explains A LOT". Like how she *really* didn't care about anything or anyone except those she had "chosen" to have in her life - her friends - and how she asked why I cried when I was feeling like I'd been an asshole towards someone else. I mean, I have done some bad shit too, but I had to drug myself until I *felt* like I didn't care about anything to be able to do those things. Every time I started to sober up I was overcome by guilt, regret, sadness and self-hatred _(and I still feel that very intensely when I think back on some of it),_ while she *couldn't* understand, at all, why or *how* my empathy worked. I mean, I didn't have the clearest grip on empathy either back then, so it wasn't like she saw how an "ordinary" person would have reacted to what we used to do either. I have diagnosed C-PTSD, Borderline personality disorder, an anxiety disorder, some very specific delusions, and on top of all that I also have a tendency to get full-blown psychotic breaks from time to time. It's a trip. What I mean is that my baseline empathy isn't like the average person's, especially not back when I was in my early to late 20s and used a helluva lot of heroin etc. But she always became a mix of intrigued and irritated with me any time I got a "slap in the face" from my guilt and empathy. Anyway, she's done an amazing job in therapy and life in general! We both have. But I am so incredibly proud of how far she's come.
She's a genuinely good person. Because she doesn't feel most of those incredibly unpleasant emotions that most of us do when we treat someone badly, but she still chooses to treat everyone as nicely as she can. And if she makes a mistake, she'll ask you exactly how and what she should have done differently and then she'll work on it until she, hopefully, doesn't do it again. I have *never* seen anyone work as hard as she does to become a "better" person. She's the most loyal friend I have ever had, and I love her to death.
All this to say; I know I am lucky to have a friend who takes her different diagnoses seriously enough to work this hard on herself so she doesn't hurt other people. I know that this is *not* the norm when it comes to those with these types of disorders. She's the exception, not the rule. Okay? Don't go search up a psychopath/sociopath because you think that they all can "change". Most of them won't even care enough about other people to make the effort to become "better". My friend is very special in that regard, and she's had help since she was a tiny little kid. I don't think she would be as high-functioning as she is if she hadn't had that help from the get-go. Alright? :)
And I am sorry for rambling.
Sending all of you loads of love, from this Swedish woman who's living in Norway ;D
For the psychopath, definitely not compatible, but at least he made the effort to communicate honestly.
Yeah, honestly seems like the least toxic psychopath.
When he was found out, and after gaslighting didn't work, yeah. Not sure I'd classify that as making the effort to communicate - he tried to hide it but couldn't. But I guess he could've lied.
@@trishapellis
Honestly, I'm not sure if he was intentionally gaslighting. It certaintly wasn't normal to us, but for him it might genuinely be normal. Given it's a throwaway line there's not enough information to really decide.
Then of course there's the question of how to define gaslighting and what counts, which can cause all sorts of miscommunication.
Some people define gaslighting through the malicious intent of the gaslighter, while others define it by the impact it has - both views change the nuances of the topic.
Defining it by malicious intent creates a more stringent and harsh definition where by definition it cannot be accidental and is inherently abusive regardless of context, while also removing the power of interpretation by victims by inserting it's only gaslighting if done maliciously or intentionally by the gaslighter, which requires us to judge another person's internal thought processes through our Iran biases and cultures.
Defining gaslighting by the impact it has on the victim empowers the victim to make their own judgement based on the impact it has, which is generally more useful for processing and asserting boundaries. It also opens the conversation to the possibility of unintentional gaslighting, which can allow victims to adopt a more complex view of their experiences to process why such things happened to them, and it opens potential dialogue for gaslighters to evaluate themselves and improve instead of being inherently evil and denied opportunities to learn. However, this also open others to downplaying the impact or severity of gaslighting and to make it easier to make excuses or insist such behavior is inherently normal.
Given this I'm just going to state I'm following the second definition right now, and to clarify I am NOT saying that the woman should have stayed with the psychopath or that she's unjustified in how she feels. I don't hate the psychopath and I don't think he is inherently evil or a bad person, but I also don't think the two of them are compatible, and I don't think the girl should be compromising on her needs to give him a chance and just put up with it - that would be a toxic relationship if it came to that, for sure, and I am not trying to defend toxicity.
I ultimately just don't think either of them are necessarily bad, and I think that they're not right for eachother due to different ways of processing the world. The impact of the behavior is real and that should be taken seriously - I just don't need the psychopath to be evil in order for the impact of his behavior to be real and valid.
(Sorry for the long rant, I just wanted to make it absolutely clear what my thought process is since it is fairly complex compared to a lot of people's perspective on such things.)
@@Dreamheart101 The point is still that when the woman asked about his behavior, he initially tried to put it off as if nothing was going on, and if she had just dropped the subject at that point, he would not have told her he was a psychopath. He only did that because he was incapable of pushing her off the subject.
Which is understandable, if you get right down to it - psychopaths do get a worse rep in the world than they really deserve, far from all of them are serial killers - but yeah, I may beg the question, who *is* compatible with a person like that?
@trishapellis
I would assume another psychopath? Or some other similar mental illness/disorder that thinks in similar ways?
Ultimately because of what psychopathy is, relationships to those individuals just aren't going to have the same meaning. Not to say that there isn't meaning, but rather it's a different type and the relationship serves different purposes for both partners.
It'd be hard to find a compatible individual as going through and telling every person you're a psychopath would be social suicide due to the stigma and association, so it's one of those things that an individual would generally need to hide if they want to get anywhere in life and maintain their relationships, familial or platonic.
There is a social expectation of getting married, which is the main reason why it's advantageous to do so if you're trying to perserve your life.
i'm glad i don't have to deal with people suspecting ulterior motives when i look at someones boobs instead of making eye contact.
Eye contact is culturally overrated and an anxiety inducing mess.
i agree with the last statement
It's kinda wild bc for many people it's anxiety inducing AND in animals it's most often a direct threat to make sustained eye contact, so there's evolutionary REASONS to NOT make eye contact.
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"I slipped on mah beans"
i'll slip on yours if you ever quote stuff like that again
bro 😭😭 @@GeraldGERALDGerald
@@GeraldGERALDGeraldNot if i slip on yours first lad‼️
@ please do
@@kier0063 Ill slip on everyones 🔥
Robin, if you read this brother, you had better figure out how to get off the alcohol. I was addicted for decades and I literally had no idea how to fight it. I was miserable, desperate and barrelling towards oblivion. It got to the point where I was drinking more than a handle (basically a half gallon) of vodka every day. For real. It culminated with me lying on the couch in my living room with pneumonia, my larynx so severely swollen from the stomach acid I was regurgitating every day that I was literally unable to even force water down it. I didn't care. I was so miserable that I just waited to see if I woke up the next day. Miraculously, I survived and through no effort on my part had entirely lost all interest in alcohol. This was around 4 years ago now, and although I thank whatever power every day that I no longer live in that walking hopeless nightmare, it was terrifying. And even worse for my wife. Figure it out, dude. Don't go down my road. I survived, but barely, and I spent over a decade in perpetual hell. I wish I could give you an answer or even direction, but I can only offer a warning. It won't get better, and it won't go away on its own. You're my favorite on Emkay, and I have grown rather fond of you. Get out if you can. Love you brother. Peace.
@ItsBoobin
@ltsBoobin
24:20, man.. I feel for ya. I once dated a very nice woman who had been "SA'd" by her grandfather (or uncle, it has been over 30 years) and I had no problems with her at all, nor her family. However I couldn't deal with the 'intimate times' together. Every time we got 'frisky' it was a coin toss .. either it would be great, or it would end in misery (for her mainly). Meaning if she initiated 'frisky' then everything was fine, if I initiated 'frisky' I had to take things very very slow and carefully and it had a chance to be OK, but most times it would end in her being very unhappy, AND if she couldn't remember who initiated 'frisky' then it was going to be miserable even if she had initiated it.
I was in my early 20's and this was the fourth woman I had ever dated and the third I had ever gotten 'frisky' with I had also not yet reached my alcoholic bottom yet, so I was not at all able to deal with this situation. We stopped dating after several months, and I have seen her a couple of times out and about, she looks like she is doing much better, I don't hate her at all, I just wasn't at all prepared for her (and my) situation.
It isn't an easy one to deal with.
Lots of luck to the original poster, and if you think she is worth it, work it out. It can be gotten through if you both are willing. In my case, I wasn't at all ready.
@@scotthodgins7975 You weren’t wrong for leaving, and it doesn’t make you a bad person. (I know you didn’t say anything about feeling like a bad person, but I get the self-critical vibe from your comment)
@@fredskull1618 I totally get that, and I never felt wrong about leaving. She is/was a great person, just that both of us had many 'demons' that we each had to deal with. My demons were still years into the future. I have no idea how she is doing, and I really wish her well. I am pretty certain that she had a good life, much better than if I had stayed with her (just due to my alcoholism and depression).
My confession.. I love Emkay. 😔
He's my EmPookay
The channel or the people because there are like 3 people that run the channel
@HudsonDoesRUclips All of emkay
I love Em, and I love kay too.
so brave 🙏
@@shrekchicken506 ok
24:00
To be honest idk how to feel about this one, cause sometimes, some people will literally hide dark secrets about themself until it eats away at them entirely and just stay stuck in that loop of never telling but getting worse. if something had happened to someone i love in their past and it was something that fucked them up badly and could be released by an action of mine, I WOULD WANT TO KNOW SO I WOULDN'T ACCIDENTALLY HURT THEM
idk if it's good advice or not but i feel like a good approach is to step away from thinking about it in all all or nothing way, if the details are hard to relive or embarrassing be subtle or vague, like "something happened in the past i'm less comfortable with _____". if the other person needs 100% of the details to be understanding then that's maybe not the person to try and be in a relationship with
It's not on you to decide when they're ready to share that part of themselves, though. For lots of reasons (safety, dragging up trauma, etc.) Mans shouldn't have snooped, full stop.
Like, if his gf finds out how do you think she's gonna feel?
@@thatdude337 okay but she should also not be in a relationship right now if she is still having those inner issues
because OP is right here the guy could have accidentally hurt her and not realized
@@ChrissaTodd If she was setting boundaries and OP was respecting them, they'd likely be fine. As far as we know she did the former, but he's kinda flubbing the latter.
Also, trauma or no, it's really not anyone else's job to decide whether or not she should be in a relationship. She's an adult, and a stranger. And OP's whole "she should have told me! I could have helped!" spiel is copium because he did some headass shit. Hell, she may not appreciate being treated differently in the first place (and for some SA survivors being treated "carefully" can just make shit worse). She is a stranger-we really don't know until she says something herself.
8:22 tell your sister. Jesus Christ. Eww
13:00 either at 42 or 50 people instantly start the mental effects of ageing. Including ageing conservatism (documented syndrome)
Yo that’s actually really interesting. Could you share where you read about that?
@@therealoatmeal4642 This quote is attributed to Winston Churchill: "If you're a conservative at 20, you have no heart, if you're a liberal at 50, you have no brain." In the past 10 years though it's also becoming well documented that the younger generations (Gen X, Millennials, and Gen Z) are actually trending more liberal as they get older, in defiance of a long understood pattern.
Psychopath has NOT been a diagnosis in the DSM since (at least the DSM IV) 1994. So, if the paperwork is legitimate, your boyfriend is old AF!!!!
Or the actual diagnosis is eg ASPD and they just use the colloquial therm.
I mean it’s called ASPD but people will say Sociopath or Psychopath to explain it more or be less technical. Psychopath implies that he was born with ASPD rather than him developing it from trauma.
Diagnosed psychopath just means diagnosed with ASPD but specifically, he is a psychopath.
or it's ASPD and he just calls it that straight up :P not caring about terminology as he doesn't care for much else either
can anyone help me put these beans back in the can?
25:09 I mean it’s not like he went into it knowing that what she was trying to hide was trauma he thought she might be cheating which is common enough for it to be understandable
Less than 2 minutes in and there's already r*pe...
Fr. Like tbh imo it doesnt sound like a real story, it sounds like a bad fetish rp
@@kaibaiarrio1299honestly so many fake reddit stories feel like The Author's Poorly Disguised Fetish lmao.
@@kaibaiarrio1299
If it is real, then it's pretty horrifying as it suggests OP just doesn't understand he was r*ped due to social perceptions of r*pe being something that happens to women rather than men.
Yeah that one made me have to pause. It was so gross I wanted to cry. Wish we got a content warning.
Im so sorry are you ok? Chill watch anothet video or listen to some music you like to forget@icanexplain5974
7:10 people diagnosed with psychopathy have an underdeveloped amygdala and often can't feel emotions, including love. He is faking it, not for selfishness, but as a replacement for real love.
Yeah, they just don't know any different and want to do what they're "supposed" to do at that point in life.
I feel like It's not as simple as emotions. Emotions are handled in multiple parts of the brain. Psychopathy is more about inability to feel empathy right? Anyway the point is whether or not they value a relationship or feel love isn't that simple. First we have to define what love even is. And all of the conversations that come with it. It's kind of discriminatory to say that they can't feel emotions and therefore inherently were faking it. From an outside point of view we can never actually know.
@@icanexplain5974 It's many emotions. And yes, it effects more than just emotions.
That feels like an unfair simplification, like saying someone with BPD "can't control their emotions and is a ticking time bomb".
What is "faking" for a concept that we can only vaguely define, can't measure, and is different for everyone?
Not really. Their emotions are muted for the most part and they normally have a crippling feeling of boredom. They can only have cognitive empathy, not emotional empathy. But they carry sympathy.
They also don’t have guilt or remorse.
the boob one made physically make a face, fall over and start crying i feel so uncomfortable especially because I AM A MINOR
1:30 (2nd confession), that's SA. He didn't consent to that. Just because he enjoyed it later doesn't mean that he consented.
15:18 As someone who went through EKG training -- yeah that's unfortunately a very easy mistake to make, since you had to fumble around blindly. You'd think that the electrode patches and human skin would have very different textures, and you'd be right...but you're _wearing rubber gloves_ when you touch a patient, and the only texture you're gonna be feeling _is_ the glove. You can't easily differentiate between the patches and skin bc of that lmao
i'm a hybrid wiper, once i'm done sitting i do one last one for the road standing up
The kid in that was Hasbulla, who isn't a kid, but has a disease where he didn't age physically. He's plan adult who abused a cat
Is the cat alright? I genuinely couldn’t care less about the asshole human
10:15 I have seen the video. He shaked and tossed the kitten, seemingly for fun. All one can do is report the vid - but honestly, hundreds did by the time I saw it, so I was surprised it was still up.. The doxxing was discussed in the comments, with some saying it's rumors. But either way.
One does not simply hurt an animal on purpose, enjoys it, records themselves and shares it to the world *without repercussion.*
So, he got doxxed? Good, I hope the parents learned from it, moved away and got him into therapy YESTERDAY. He's a serial killer in the making and this is no joke.
100% agreed
There are two main types of stories in this sub; "I accidentally farted in my bosses face while I was picking up a box next to him three weeks ago and he hasn't stopped laughing since", and "While I was driving to visit my parents I picked up a hitchhiker who I beat, tortured and sold to a sperm donor facility for $5000, before heading home for Father's Day"
I get so exited when there’s a new emkay video
turn the psychopath one into an anime and thats a free show of the year award
21:58 Is Robin ok? Do you need to talk to someone, buddy? 😢
the "psychopath" story is... so weird. the boyfriend just explained his disorder, what masking is, and what, essentially, love is in clinical terms and OP is just... being an ass lmao. "i would marry you" is saying, yes, he does love OP. everyone loves differently. people with low empathy (aka ASPD, what OP is calling "being a psychopath") don't always feel emotions as intensely or strongly, but that doesn't make their emotions not real.
OP says repeatedly shit like "he doesnt GAF" or "he tried gaslighting me" but like... in reality BF is just doing what she told him to, because he cares about her. he left because she said she needed time. he didn't contact her for two days because likely 1) he was thinking about what to do (should he confess his diagnosis to her? etc etc) and 2) he was giving her time to cool off, because OP said it herself, she was mad.
and idk. i dont think she knows what gaslighting is, because "acting normal" is not gaslighting.
the BF deserves better than OP. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
people marry people they don't love all the time as a way to settle lol the i would marry you isn't proof :P and also he would have kept lying if she didn't push it
but nice projection :)
Jaysus! The last one was rough, but it needed to be posted!
best of luck with quitting alcohol, Robin. recovering addict here. it is possible
Robin, I'm really sorry to hear how you're struggling with alcohol. I hope you're able to find a way to reduce your use and be healthy again. Going cold turkey can kill you, so please go slow.
We need you love yourself as much as we do. ♥
ASPD ≠ EVIL.
They didn't say that
no one said that :)
9:20 my little sister got cancer when she was a teenager. Her boyfriend stood by her the whole way. During the pandemic this happened, so it was even more difficult. He was a teenager, a child. No adult (and MARRIED to that person) has any excuse whatsoever to dump/leave someone because they have a serious illness. If there are other reasons, sure. But by being sick alone, you are a deplorable human being if you think that is an ok thing to do.
13:00 In fact it is totally legitimate to leave someone because they've decided to become a Nazi
This guy is such a good narrator he should become a RUclipsr or something
Bro what is the "eeeehhh" sound effect they use to censor slurs? anybody knows?
Call of the Witch from Re:Zero.
@@doomsdayrabbit4398 Thank you bruv
15 years ago I had multiple families across the state and half the town debating whether sitting or standing to wipe was correct
It's really just down to preference, what's incorrect about either?
OH NAURR THE BEANS
I was REALLY not ok with the one where OP was ok with a literal SEVEN YEAR OLD getting doxxed and getting sent death threats. I know abusing a cat is terrible, but someone DOXXED A SEVEN YEAR OLD.
25:00 she was hiding stuff from him and you wanna make him up as the bad guy? STFU with your misandry.
Yeah I was surprised by the narrator's take on this story as well. I understand that SA messes people up and she wasn't ready to tell him about it yet, but he had genuine reasons to be suspicious, and it sounds like he handled it really maturely by not confronting her about it and waiting for her to tell him when she's ready.
I have a friend who has ASPD. They’re capable of caring and building genuine relationships. It’s not always the most “normal” conversations when they stop masking but that’s okay. They’re very open about it with me and it’s been an interesting thing to navigate but I wouldn’t trade them for the world. They’re my best friend and they’re definitely capable of love even if it isn’t the same. It makes me mad when people compare those with psychopathy/sociopathy to fake TV show serial killers or shitty manipulative people. Yeah maybe people can end up like that but it doesn’t mean they absolutely will. They’re people too.
For they psychopath story, you're probably in the situation that everyone complains about movies over. Chances are you aren't in danger because he hasn't shown any interest in killing (ask his parents if he was a violent child) but you're as close to love that a psychopath will get to. He enjoys your company he thinks you're pretty if that isn't enough for you break up, but if you enjoy being with him and you can get past knowing he won't feel the emotions you feel roll with it.
That makes me think of in my state we can be topless as long as we don’t disrupt traffic
Is it New York? I heard that they passed a law that women can be topless in public, tho not all officers there know that
@ Oregon
There needs ro be a subreddit just called Regrettit!
Good idea! 👍
As a woman we are totally NOT okay with someone looking at our nipples. What the fuck do you mean you can't help it like it's not a human instinct to just look at people's boobs and I know we like looking at our other sex but all of us already know not to look at people's private parts? Like excuse me? Boy bye I think you should not be allowed to look at a woman again🤚
Especially the fact that he asked the guys of reddit hoe women feel about it (implied by the fact that it is majority men on reddit) when there are more than enough sources of outspoken women daily all the time about not liking it.
22:00 ok so, as a SA survivor, i have to say here, when i enter into a relationship with someone, i TELL THEM.
I know its scary. and i know its hard. but if you are not ready to tell your partner you were assaulted, than you are NOT ready for a relationship. trauma therapy is needed. treatment is needed.
No. It's not anyone's right to know their trauma if the person doesn't want to tell it. It can also be really dangerous/traumatic to tell someone so early into a relationship.
You have found a way to cope, but that is not the fix for everyone. Making it as though a person isn't ready for a relationship if they can't talk about it is also a very disgraceful mindset to have. People are not just victims. The most traumatic experience of their life is not their main focus in life. They don't have to share that trauma with anyone if they don't want to or are not ready to.
Please never give this as actual advice to anyone.
@StarrChild. it is NOT anyone's right to enter into an intimate relationship (intimacy is not just sex!) without sharing something THAT IMPORTANT. END OF STORY. if you are not ready to tell your partner, then you are not ready to be with your partner.
please do not spread misinformation. that is dangerous for everyone involved!
@@StarrChild. Cool your jets there friend. A healthy relationship is built on good communication between both parties.
IrishHeart didn't say that a victim of SA needs to be able to give a full description of what happened to any/all potential partners. Just that they need to be able to say "I was SA'd in the past so I might not be comfortable with certain things".
We see in that story how the girl trying to hide this important information lead to the guy inadvertently causing her more trauma whenever they "did the deed", and sowed to mistrust between the two. (not trying to victim blame here, the guy is in the wrong for snooping, but her inability to talk about her SA did mean that she caused herself further trauma)
In a serious relationship you should talk to your partner about these kinds of things. You can limit the amount of information as is applicable to the level of the relationship, i.e. just saying "something happened in my past and now I'm not comfortable doing certain things" would be enough in the early stages of a relationship, but eventually you're going to have to talk to your partner about these kinds of things so your partner doesn't do things that re-triggers your trauma.
If you can't do that, then yes, you're not ready for a serious relationship.
my parents TAUGHT me to stand and wipe and then treated me like I was stupid for doing it instead of while I was sitting. It's like... you had 13 years to make up your mind
Some of these just feel like fetish content
Love Robin narrating
That "can't believe you're the younger sister" is genuinely sinister and the exact same as "ì can't believe you're in high school/so young" genuinely sickening
Scapegoating the wrong kid is grounds for their narcissist-parents to escalate abusive contingencies; rerouting their entire existence off the rails: I think people are only inventing greater-unfairness. The last two things people learn are negotiating encyclopedic-comprehensive-narcissism, & how irrelevant colloquialisms have become.
I love these subreddits that I can listen to when I go places
27:38 wait people sit down for that?
died 2024 born 2024 welcome back ask emkay
As a woman, I can attest to the fact that bras are uncomfortable prisons. They are sometimes referred to as boob jail for a reason. Also no woman likes being stared at by randos on the street....unless they are also weird but that's a whole other can of horses.
Dexter ahh 3:37
Imma need a shower after this or something.. EDIT I’m going to have to watch a happier Robin video
The relationship posts make me absolutely sure I made the right decision when I unofficially of course, married my fictional character wife.
27:23 heartbreaking. I hope OP is okay genuinely.
2:30 i go braless cause im sick and just need to go to CVS JOHN!! lmao
Is it just me, or does Robin sound exactly like Sheldon at 21:22 ??? If Robin’s regular voice was higher, they’d sound exactly like Sheldon
Person in that that last story would probably benefit from one of those text therapy programs. For some folks it's a lot easier to type out words & share them through a screen than it is to look someone in the face & say it.
If you need to stop alcoholism in yourself, it will take the same strategic measured step-down procedure that psychoactive-pharmaceuticals require: psych-Rx's are paired with competent analysts or therapists, & stepping off Rx's is very-gradual; so it will take a measured calendar of staged-amounts while quiet-quitting in descending steps.
Nothing in this video prepared me for the last story
NAWR MY BEANS 😭😭😭
The only correct way is
Pooping while standing up
Wiping when seated on the toilet
Talk to a doctor about these concerns, get into some behavior counseling or go to a clinic for 3 months at very least. I am 1 year, 4 months and 28 days sober from alcohol. I had to get into treatment to stop, but medication can help and there's no shame in counseling or treatment. Also, secular sobriety is also available as well as S.M.A.R.T recovery. I did it, so can you Robin. So can you.
sit and wipe? I do the splits over the toilet to wipe... peasants./j
Barns Courtney is now a professional music artist, you will never be forgiven
What do you think the book guy thinks about developing children…?
Stand n wipe squad
Lmao I feel attacked about the Warhammer thing 😂
ROBIN, these sad stories are part of the reason we all drink. Fucking surrounding ourselves with sad stuff, it just gets to you man, no matter how thick-skinned one may think they are
The guy who is divorcing his wife of two years should have never married her to begin with because she hadn’t actually been ready from the start.
Her dad died when she was 14.
From 14 to 16 years plus she didn’t have friends.
He basically got involved with this woman while she was very young.
She’s finally growing up and enjoying herself because he was the only person she had known since she was a teenager.
She’s basically discovering who she is and wants to enjoy herself while she’s still young.
He made certain to not include his age which makes him a bit suspect.
She had made him her whole world until she started enjoying some freedom from him.
This newfound freedom is why she’s stopped living her life for him and started living for herself.
Unlike most of you I don’t trust this guy because it looks like he targeted this woman when she was most vulnerable and used this to his advantage. Now it’s no longer advantageous for him.
The fact that she didn’t care when he told her that he wanted out just means that she had already checked out of their relationship.
I wish them both luck.
"i lied about being sick because [insert extreme emotional distress]" always makes me upset to read. You didn't lie about being sick, our mind needs to be taken care of just like our body does. If you're experiencing trauma or mental illness badly enough that its impairing your ability to live your life then thats just as valid a reason to call off plans as any physical illness
The bruses story. You are sock, you didnt lie. Your just mentally sick today rather than physically.
bpilling the seans
Slippin jimmy
2:17 as a young girl this scares the crap outta me 😨
I'm calling BS on the psychopath one. My mother had ASPD, so I'm intimately familiar with it, and quite a few details are off.
First, "psychopath" isn't a condition, so you can't be diagnosed with it. it's a descriptor of a type of ASPD, so one can't be diagnosed a psychopath in the same way one can't be diagnosed as "High functioning Autistic"; only "autistic" and only "Antisocial." This normally wouldn't be too much of a problem because it's an accurate description of a specific behavioral pattern, but she made a point that he apparently has diagnosis paperwork, and that's simply not possible.
Second, what she's describing is how people with ASPD act in movies. In real life, Antisocials don't choose their masks, they have one, very superficial personality. This personality does change quickly and draw from its surroundings, but it's more akin to one ever-changing personality than a whole bunch of them. They're are born unable to feel emphatic connections to people, and therefore are physically incapable of connecting in way that would make adjusting themselves to specific groups possible.
On that note, I'm not sure if OP is lying, or if her boyfriend has ASPD and was able to prove that, and relied on the common understanding of what a "psychopath" is to gaslight her.
hoo boy...this was a tough subreddit to listen to...
Celebrate each day you resist your addictions, and find you a friend that will be as thrilled about it as you are. You there, person reading! Good job today. Did you resist? Amazing! Did you struggle and succumb to your addiction? That means you're doing better! That feeling of guilt and disappointment you have just shows how dedicated you are to recovery! Remember, giving in doesn't mean you failed. Giving in is your current default, it's not worse, it's not better. Tomorrow, I bet you'll resist even longer! You got this!
Next time please put a content warning for sa and grape. That first one was pretty overwhelming. And i doubt im the only one...
1:53 yea thats legally called sexual assault lmao (on her part, this guy frequently said Hey Thats Not Me and was, per the writing, uncomfy)
But it was his responsibility as the non drunk one to make her stop. If he wanted to he could have. He said himself he liked it. He doesn't see it that way. She was not in her right mind and he used that to feel better about it. I think both of them are fucked don't get me wrong. But he was sober and she was not.
@@icanexplain5974 yeah it's also pretty skeevy to sleep with someone if they think you're someone else (revenge of the nerds anyone?)
28:13 once a week lil bro