My first best friend in childhood hated me. I carried the friendship for years until someone else had to tell me the truth. I think it really messed with my heart and head and ive spent years attaching myself to people who were not genuine. I leave all that behind in 2024!
I'm actually dealing with this right now. I had to isolate myself from that friendship, and I realized that I literally was the glue to that whole friendship. I saw some red flags, but I thought I was overthinking (that's my fault), so I dismissed it. I recently just got some major good news, and she literally didn't support me genuinely. All false praises and became distant. That friendship is so over. I walked away silently as of recently.
That "becomes friends with you for the asthetic, for the feeling but after a time..." part rang so true for me. I know i'm fun to be around, but it's not cool to get a friend like a social boost or a accessarary
22:04 I learned this just recently. I ended a "friendship" after 12 yrs. I've always kept her at a distance, never really told her anything personal. There was a lot that didn't make sense. I believe in following my gut and discernment. Honestly, i remember when she claimed me as her big sister, that's when I PUSHED away. I know that should be an honor. But I dont have any sisters, I have 3 older bro's. The female cousin I was close to, well was, should say it all. Anytime a female wanted to claim me as family, including family, it was normally something to it.
So true! One of my first realizations of a frenemy was in college. This girl pretended I was her best friend after a year and a half to 2 years of her not liking me or wanting to acknowledge me. When she finally got to know me, she instantly wanted to make it seem like we were best friends and cut me out from all the people who actually leaned in to get to know me my first couple years in college. I have another one that's testing me and I'm about to pass 😆 One of her red flags was she called me her best friend after maybe just a few months of hanging out... From there, there have been lots of moments, micro moments, if you will, that have hinted at something... insidious.
This is CRAZY! I would ask an ex friend to take a full body pic of me, and she would always zoom in and get only a headshot and my full body pics would be super blurry. Wow! I thought I was the only one that went through this! Lol
Is anybody going to talk about that one kind of friend who takes time to get ready and want to rush you to go out anyhow or want to know what you are wearing, telling you it's not going to work just for them to try to beat you out by your own creativity of the look. I'm introvert, Intelligent, pretty, got long thick beautifull hair, good energy, I never have to talk to anybody first, they always come at me, always being the first choice in my group of friends, always being the cutest guy first choice, loved by teachers, principals and elders etc.... So I don't have to tell you about all the s** I went trough, I've done have all these experiences. Know my friend list is worse than close like I have 2 real friends, I have them on levels, like thoss 2 would be on level 1 and level 2 are for those who are family friends etc...
My first best friend in childhood hated me. I carried the friendship for years until someone else had to tell me the truth. I think it really messed with my heart and head and ive spent years attaching myself to people who were not genuine. I leave all that behind in 2024!
I understand that feeling, I wish you all the best coming next year
You deserve better!!
My friend after 15 years cursed me out randomly. She called me all type of dumb bitches. Because I didn’t know the ceiling fan wasn’t on all the way.
@ she probably had secret animosity towards you
I'm actually dealing with this right now. I had to isolate myself from that friendship, and I realized that I literally was the glue to that whole friendship. I saw some red flags, but I thought I was overthinking (that's my fault), so I dismissed it. I recently just got some major good news, and she literally didn't support me genuinely. All false praises and became distant. That friendship is so over. I walked away silently as of recently.
@ glad you stood up!!
That "becomes friends with you for the asthetic, for the feeling but after a time..." part rang so true for me. I know i'm fun to be around, but it's not cool to get a friend like a social boost or a accessarary
@@SteppingStonevlogs it’s mostly short lived always
22:04 I learned this just recently. I ended a "friendship" after 12 yrs. I've always kept her at a distance, never really told her anything personal. There was a lot that didn't make sense. I believe in following my gut and discernment. Honestly, i remember when she claimed me as her big sister, that's when I PUSHED away. I know that should be an honor. But I dont have any sisters, I have 3 older bro's. The female cousin I was close to, well was, should say it all. Anytime a female wanted to claim me as family, including family, it was normally something to it.
@@blaquepearlzchocolatediamndz77 lesson learnt 👍🏾
So true! One of my first realizations of a frenemy was in college. This girl pretended I was her best friend after a year and a half to 2 years of her not liking me or wanting to acknowledge me. When she finally got to know me, she instantly wanted to make it seem like we were best friends and cut me out from all the people who actually leaned in to get to know me my first couple years in college. I have another one that's testing me and I'm about to pass 😆 One of her red flags was she called me her best friend after maybe just a few months of hanging out... From there, there have been lots of moments, micro moments, if you will, that have hinted at something... insidious.
@@krystal8715 less tolerance of such people love.
This is CRAZY! I would ask an ex friend to take a full body pic of me, and she would always zoom in and get only a headshot and my full body pics would be super blurry. Wow! I thought I was the only one that went through this! Lol
@@snapshotmarie6949 not a good sign
Great video, keep them coming they’re so helpful! I’ve always unfortunately experienced having friends that are jealous of me sadly!
@@tamaraford6634 thank you I’m glad it helped💕 sorry to hear about your experiences, it is well.
Is anybody going to talk about that one kind of friend who takes time to get ready and want to rush you to go out anyhow or want to know what you are wearing, telling you it's not going to work just for them to try to beat you out by your own creativity of the look.
I'm introvert, Intelligent, pretty, got long thick beautifull hair, good energy, I never have to talk to anybody first, they always come at me, always being the first choice in my group of friends, always being the cutest guy first choice, loved by teachers, principals and elders etc.... So I don't have to tell you about all the s** I went trough, I've done have all these experiences. Know my friend list is worse than close like I have 2 real friends, I have them on levels, like thoss 2 would be on level 1 and level 2 are for those who are family friends etc...
@@AlexandrineDelva less tolerance of those people. New and better friends 2025
Stay alert!
Sad but true❤🙏🙏🙏🙏
Truth tho
@@nekocat12 glad you enjoyed it