Men don't look at polygamy the way it was looked at in the final Prophets time which is why so many problems arise today. Back in the day polygamy was to actually provide/protect and help women who had no mahram, had no source of financial aid, were widowed, divorced, ie. Nowadays men are into polygamy for the wrong reasons. Now i will mute this post, bc the only replies im gonna get are the opinions from egotistical men who claim my opinion is "irrelevant" but take there sweet time to write me an essay, mansplaining or god knows what. :)
i agree most men nowadays play around with polygamy. but most women nowadays their main problem is not equal treatment or whether her husband will love her same as before, their main problem is that they dont like him to be with another woman and they dont like him to be intimate with another woman
Not true. Men were attracted to several women in the past and married them. It was not merely "necessity." But, you want to invalidate the rights that Allah ta'ala gave men, because you don't accept the Qur'an and Sunnah.
@@sonny7159 i never discussed for what reason men marry more than 1 and did i say anything abt islam allowing men to marry 4 wives no wht r u on abt islam has allowed it whether we like it or not we abide by it. dont accuse me nd say i dont accept the quran and sunnah without knowledge u know nothing abt me allah does not like the arrogant people
@@sonny7159 No one is trying to invalidate your rights Allah swt gave you as a man. By all means, marry however many women you want as long as it's 4 or fewer. Nothing is stopping you from pursuing 4 wives other than your ability to pull lol. It just be like that sometimes. Ofc this is the only Sunnah you'd actually like to follow and defend.
i agree amen brother hey brother i don't mean to be off topic but can i ask you a question there's a game called roblox that have a game inside of it called murderer mystery 2 this game have a gacha system would it be gambling if i spend no money in the game but be a free to play and use the gacha system which are crates and open them? It also have 5 rarities common, uncommon, rare, legendary, godly, now see this "godly" i feel like that it would be haram for me to play it cause i feel like it would be shirk but it's only a rarity name it doesn't promote it right?
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is." The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said: "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means." In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons. Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77
@@SammynAlgeriamurderer mystery, the name itself SubhanAllah Just try and avoid playing such games and use your time wisely. Use your youth to memorise or recite the Quran, study your deen, spend time with family and friends, exercise, walks…sitting in circles of pious brothers and time will go so fast you’ll forget about these games
Polygamy is not an obligation on men nor is it an obligation for women to accept it The men wanting polygamy think it’s all about sexual pleasure but forget the sunnah is to marry widows and single mums to support them How many men bring up the topic of polygamy by saying oh there’s a widow down the road and I want to support her so thinking of taking a second wife .. compared to the amount of men that think oh I just wanna sleep with another woman so I’ll look into getting another young wife They don’t follow the sunnah but think they have entitlement to marry multiple times
It's not an obligation to do polygamy, but it is an obligation for both muslim men and women to accept polygamy in Islam. You can't pick and chose what you like in Islam to make it fit your feminist religion.
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is." The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said: "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means." In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons. Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77
@@AliSidTexfeminist religion really??? So you think considering a woman's feelings and keeping her dignity in marriage is feminism but using her like sex toy and disregarding her feelings is normal just because your fake, lustful God said so? This proves to me that your God is man-made since he only seems to give you guys advantage and crushes a woman's heart. How do y'all brainwashed people get the nerve to demand loyalty from women with a adulterous mind?
And Islam does not condemn marrying for your desires. One of the best advices is to marry quickly so you do not fall into haram, WHICH is your desires. So marrying for the first reason or the 2nd reason is NOT of problem
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is." The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said: "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means." In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons. Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77
Discussions on the issue of polygamy will never end. The point is honesty, humility, mental readiness, financial readiness, readiness for religious knowledge, conflict management. Mental readiness needs to be fostered by everyone involved, be it husband, first wife, second wife. If someone is not ready, it will be difficult to achieve success.
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is." The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said: "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means." In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons. Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77
@@Hell...FireIsReal If someone wants to be successful in marriage, they need agreement, honesty, cooperation, respect, mutual understanding, love between husband and wife. Especially if someone plans polygamy.
@@maspikosanov5543Well man who does multi marriage cant love a women unconditionoly in today's gen,,Most of them are short tempered,ill mannered,,They dk about other sunnah but only polygamy ,,,Mostly they like to spend time with their new new wife
@@HelloPeople666 mostly doesn't mean all. In countries where polygamy is permitted, most men are not polygamous. At most, only 5% of families practice polygamy. So don't worry too much about polygamy. But if you are selected in it then remain patient as long as husband and wife carry out their respective roles consistently and do not wrong each other (according to Islam). Because the essence of our life in this world is only to seek Allah's approval (Ridha).
Why cant anyone see that Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) loved Hazrat Khadija (R.A) so much that he didnt marry anyone during her life? Although, she was a widower with 3 children, still Prophet loved her and didn't marry to anyone!
@@carljohnson2194 only cuz Allah commanded him to marry Never due to his desire but for Allah's will❤❤#MUHAMMAD (SAW) Read about him or atleast hear so that you can reason 😊
Polygamy is in islam and every Muslim must acknowledge that even if they don't wanna practice it. The problem is that marriage itself is very hard. Taking care of one family is quite hard. When some irresponsible and reckless men get second wife, they mess up badly. People who have experienced this first hand knows how bad it gets over time. Wives fight, children fights and everything becomes competitive instead of harmony. One of the wives get neglected and then began to hate and detest the husband, then the children from the neglected wives starts hating and feeling disrespectful towards the father. In my father's family only one of his uncle got two wives. The second was young and beautiful so he started to favor her then over time completely neglected the first wife and also the son from the first marriage. That never got better. My dad's that cousin grew up pretty neglected and had no good feelings for the father, for a pretty good reason obviously. So yeah, people who think polygamy is a piece of cake, they are stupid. You gotta be a real man to be in polygamy.
I agree I'm also a child of polygamous marriage and my dad has 2 wives, he spent 10 years with the second wife and did not spend with the first wife at all who's my mother and this made me hate and detest polygyny! I'm 19-year-old girl and I'm scared to get married, imagine if the same thing happens to me! Subhan Allah! Lately I've been blaming Allah for making such a bad thing to be halal for men, but I realized after reading the ayah that you have to be just and so what my dad did was wrong! I don't want to be abandoned like my mom after I get married! The second wife is always favored and its sad!
I know a woman who married a bad boy (who hid this part about himself, till married and she's pregnant) , had two kids with him, then divorced him. A few year later found an amazing man who's on the deen, with no kids and in his prime, looks good goes to hajj, nice job, accepted her even though she had kids and was older than him. The two married had 3 kids with him yet she eventually divorced him over something very trivial. By the way she's practicing daily, very religious. Yet she divorced even when she got a rare second chance in life. Her children had to suffer because of growing up fatherless. Now, should we see anecdotal experiences as the norm and how the world is and will always be like?
@@nami20622, did you discuss with you father why? What happened in a polite way? Perhaps something happened and you weren't informed as you're the child.
@@nami20622poor thing, they screwed you up for life. Leave that vile religion. If you ever marry a Muslim you’ll only have yourself to blame. You will be bashed, mistreated, cheated on.
Polygamy is not an obligation so if one actually respects his wife and loves her, he would not think of another marriage, so it's better to confirm that your man won't be having another wife before the marriage, if he insists on wanting more, that's it leave him, do not marry such a person who would break your heart just because of his whims and desires of sleeping with 3 more women, these are the same men who won't pray sunnah salah 5 times a day but this is the only sunnah they wanna follow, that's hypocrisy at it's peak
@@carljohnson2194 I never said they don't have the "right" I said it's not an obligation, and to be honest men of today can't even afford to have more than one wife, anyways getting to the point again, a woman has all rights to leave him if he is doing something which is obviously hurting her mental health, Moreover a woman has a right to get it written in her nikah contract that her man CANNOT marry a second wife
@@carljohnson2194 Also it IS their wife's business, your wife is A HUMAN who feels emotions, she's not an animal that you just married her, give her food and get your desires done with her, marriage is a relation of MUTUAL respect, if you don't have that much maturity to realise that, kindly don't get married and waste of woman's life
@@porenesianparapio6934 still it’s Allah who gave me the right to marry 4 wives and I never said a woman shouldn’t be cared about. If you can’t accept polygamy then you are a brainwashed liberal who can’t accept what Allah has made permissible
Now it is clear that the command polygamy by marrying widows with orphans listed in Ayaah 4/3 is not addressed to any particular man, but a rich man to avoid arrogance and injustice prevailing in society. So about marriage among adolescents as generally described in Ayaah 24/33. Both the sacred verse, well that is once again cited for a material analysis and comparison: وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلاَّ تُقْسِطُواْ فِي الْيَتَامَى فَانكِحُواْ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ النِّسَاء مَثْنَى وَثُلاَثَ وَرُبَاعَ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلاَّ تَعْدِلُواْ فَوَاحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ذَلِكَ أَدْنَى أَلاَّ تَعُولُواْ 4/3. . If you are worried do not be effective on orphans will marry youof women (who have orphans) two and three and four. If you worry can not do justice then one thing or the law you have(already married). So humbled that you do not do cocky. وَلۡيَسۡتَعۡفِفِ ٱلَّذِينَ لَا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحًا حَتَّىٰ يُغۡنِيَہُمُ ٱللَّهُ مِن فَضۡلِهِۦ*ۗ وَٱلَّذِينَ يَبۡتَغُونَ ٱلۡكِتَـٰبَ مِمَّا مَلَكَتۡ أَيۡمَـٰنُكُمۡ فَكَاتِبُوهُمۡ إِنۡ عَلِمۡتُمۡ فِيہِمۡ خَيۡرً۬ا*ۖ وَءَاتُوهُم مِّن مَّالِ ٱللَّهِ ٱلَّذِىٓ ءَاتَٮٰكُمۡ*ۚ وَلَا تُكۡرِهُواْ فَتَيَـٰتِكُمۡ عَلَى ٱلۡبِغَآءِ إِنۡ أَرَدۡنَ تَحَصُّنً۬ا لِّتَبۡتَغُواْ عَرَضَ ٱلۡحَيَوٰةِ ٱلدُّنۡيَا*ۚ وَمَن يُكۡرِههُّنَّ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ مِنۢ بَعۡدِ إِكۡرَٲهِهِنَّ غَفُورٌ۬ رَّحِيمٌ۬ 24/33. Be patient people who can not marry until help them with HIS gift. And those who seek provision (married) owned by your law then ordain them if you know there is good in them. And give them from the property ALLAH gave you. Do not force young children to seek your (marriage) if they want to (a girl) because you seek the pleasures of life of the world. Who forced ALLAH after the imposition of the (marriage) is forgiving merciful.
You are blatantly lying and fabricating. The verse is not addressing rich men. Rasulullah (sal Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa salam) was in dire hunger and could not provide food, and yet was married to several wives at the time. (ie. Muslims were poor at the time)
The sahabas were not some rich people either, neither was the prophet. Yet the prophet pbuh and most of the sahabas DID engage in polygamy, even while being poor
And there is no such verse or any instances from hadith that proves that ONLY rich men can marry 4 wives. You can marry any number of wives as long as you fullfill their rights.
It’s even worse that most of these men are not giving their wives their full rights but when they want to collect a second wife they say it’s because it’s their right the whole time the woman has been making sacrifices in her marriage and making it easy for him and when it comes to him making it easy for her he doesn’t care about that part.
Ya Allah make it easier for me and all muslims to become true muslims Ya ALLAH give magfirah and jannatul firdous to every muslim who has passed away and give shifa to every sick living thing and turn all our sins into good deeds and make this life and hereafter easier for us that are still alive and give us afiyah and jannatul firdous and make us good muslims and give iman to all non muslims Allahumma Ameen ❤❤ Jazakumullahu khairan Guys copy this dua and share it with everyone❤️ Shn
Assalamualaikum, sheikh. I enjoy listening to you. I have learned a lot from you. May Allah continue to increase your wisdom and knowledge. May he grant you good health, longlife and peace of mind. May all of us who are listening to you learn and put the knowledge into good use. May Allah azawajal grant us all the best of both worlds. Amin Ya Hayyu Ya Quayyum
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is." The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said: "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means." In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons. Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77
I am concerned, that the Sheikh didn’t fully express the betrayal of the husband. If he wants to marry another wife …, the wife cannot stop him. But in fairness, he should have informed his wife and given her the choice. Other than this, it is a very informative video. There are more rules for polygamy is Islam … than there are any other faith or western group. In the west polygamy is having a resurgence, the most mindful write contracts. But there is nothing stronger than the Quran … the warning is there for those that heed. I liked that the sheikh mentioned another wife for necessity … As a couples therapist, I can only say that sustaining a marriage takes effort and good intentions. So I triple this, with you want to have a second wife. Lovely video
Quran an-nisa 129 “Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women, even if it is your ardent desire....” Although Islam allows polygamy, it regards marriage with only one woman as essential.
You will never be able to maintain ˹emotional˺ justice between your wives-no matter how keen you are. So do not totally incline towards one leaving the other in suspense.1 And if you do what is right and are mindful ˹of Allah˺, surely Allah is All-Forgiving, Most Merciful. Don't cut it in half. It is misleading. Secondly, Ibrahim (A.S), Ishaq (A.S), Musa (A.S), Daud (A.S), Suleiman (A.S), Muhammad ﷺ all practiced it. Hating what Allah has made permissible is like a man saying he doesn't wanna give money as mehr, but something free. It's not him that decides it's the woman who decides as it's her right, the same way he has his rights that Allah gave him as well.
Its the opposite, Allah swt encourages polygame as he says in an nisa verse 3: marry 2,3,4 but if u fear to be unjust marry only one. look at how Allah starts with 2 and not 1.
I really like this sheikh but some of his videos are really problematic. What does he mean by "real man" here? It is perfectly normal for a woman to not be able to bear staying in a polygamy. In this case the man should of course use his judgement and divorce considering all the pros and cons. Prioritizing your 4 kids is clearly better than going for the 2nd wife. In fact, this is what a real man would do. If anything, it is extremely ungrateful to leave the 1st one just because she is extremely hurt and cannot bear it. Unless the sheikh is trying to blame the woman for it and thinks she deserves getting divorced, considering how the word used here is "threat", not that "it is impossible for her to stay". Not to mention there's also the toxic idea that a man should not listen to anyone, should always stick to his decision without considering others or even his own feelings.
It depends. A real man wouldnt compromise the deen of Allah for a woman. So if he sees that he is falling into haram then yes get second wife ASAP. Adultrty is major sin that puts you to Hell and it is recommended to have 4 wjves anyways
What do you mean she is "incredibly hurt"???? Her feelings arent abive Allahs command. Do her feelings come in hand wheb the call fir jihaaf comez??? No these men are weak...
@@taimurahmad yes, you should of course get a second wife if you fear falling into sin, there is no question about that. But this is a different issue. Btw, no, it isn't recommend in any of the four madhabs afaik. In fact, if I remember correctly malikis and hanbalis say that it is actually mushtahab to not engage in polygamy. (I might be wrong though)
And yes,if you are falling into sin she does deserve getting divorced because she isnt submitting to Allah. Does she not consider that shr will always be a second wife??? Ever seen men cry about providing fir their women?????? How about women actually give him his proper rights of intimacy first????? They simply refuse men basuc rights yet dont expect them to not even think about getting a secind wife. Yes blame IS on woman because she isny letting him do something halaal for him
The sheikh has also said that the wife can put a condition in the marriage contract that she does want the husband to have a second wife... If he does have her then the wife can demand divorce and doesn't have to pay the dowry back
Our prophet pbuh married to hazrat khadija (ra). She was his only wife until her death in 619 (the Year of Sorrow) ended their 24-year-long marriage. Later prophet pbuh married, but With the exception of Aisha, all of these women were previously widowed or divorced.
A man is a real man if he understands one wife is better. If he cares about his wife and family to decide he won't put it at risk. A real man is a man who can control himself, not a man driven by lust like animals
And in terms of social harmony is Ayaah 4/3 contains a function that: a. Orphans can be helped by making him a stepfather who will bear the expense and educating him or at least will lead as the head of the family in the household. b. widow can be married by a rich man to help alleviate the economic hardship and distress. If this is not resolved, will comes poverty and destitution suffered perhaps even she rebelled to get her needs, there was fraud, prostitution, fighting over the love of gentle persuasion, social disorder, and other complex issues resolved. c. Wife, who have a polygamous husband, if her husband did not heed it, then such an attitude means not obey the law of ALLAH, allowing chaos in the general social, selfish, ignores the widow with orphans suffer, and otherwise damage the harmony of her own household. Of all the reasons and circumstances on this can be seen that polygamy in Islam is a social element, not only based on the man advantage, or just to help the widow with orphans, but also for the stability of community life in all areas. A husband and his family had to mix properly, while in the act and said let the right implies. He must educate the children to obey the law of ALLAH revealed, planning for the future for their children including those who run the law of ALLAH as a human useful in society to live in a world of luck now and in the Hereafter later. The provision contained in the Qur’anic verse. Similarly, the polygamy that he must be good at allocating their time and gift shop associate at the wives and children are not fair to cause unrest and displeasure at the side. He also had to educate the orphans who are in custody until at a certain time that the child had been able to fend for themselves. When he had to give her property, if he was stupid, so save him until ALLAH opens another chance. For all that let people pay attention,
Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their chastity. That is purer for them. Surely Allah is All-Aware of what they do 24:30 Quran... Allah said: And do not forget kindness among yourselves. Surely Allah is All-Seeing of what you do 2:237 Qur'an. Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is." The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said: "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means." In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons. Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77
The attitude of him when he said "you don't force me because I'm a man"😏🥺. He can say he married because he had a necessity but he can't say ' you can't force me, I'm a man. I'll do what i want to do' but he expects her to obey. That's arrogance.
2. It was narrated that al-Mugheerah said: Sa‘d ibn ‘Ubaadah said: If I saw a man with my wife, I would strike him with my sword, and not with the flat side of it. News of that reached the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and he said: “Are you surprised at the protective jealousy of Sa‘d? By Allah, I am more jealous than him, and Allah is more jealous than me. It is because of His protective jealousy that Allah forbade immoral deeds, both open and secret.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (6980) and Muslim (1499); Muslim narrated an extra phrase: “There is no one who is more jealous than Allah.” Is this arrogance???? Its manliness. Not arrogance. Umar ibn khattaab had this. Just look at where he said ao many times "O messenger of Allah let me take off the neck of this munaafiq"
that's not arrogance, he's saying if you marry another you shouldn't fold to pressure and be a man. Also, he said if she wants to leave then she can leave. He isn't forcing her to stay and obey
Assalamu alaikum sheikh. Insha Allah i hope you read this message and kindly answer. I have chronic kidney disease, blood pressure is high, insomnia, tiredness, asthma, chronic eczema on body most severe on my hand which i need to bandage several times a day after using bathroom. I also have urine and stool incompetence. I have bathroom accidents once or three times a day average some days more, i also choke while eating and urinate while choking. I wear several pads instead of nappy because of eczema. I am exhausted, with my physical and mental health but alhamdulillah i am coping as best as i can, struggling through day and night because i know this is what Allah wants for me and life is a blessing from Allah, there are many people who are bearing more than i am. If i do wudu or tayyamun it irritates my skin. Can i do salah without wudu or tayyamun in my situation because it has become overwhelming and i have stopped doing salah. Please make a vlog reguarding ill health and salah. Please make dua for me. May Allah grant shifa to all, ameen.
You need to speak to a holistic nutritionist. I know a certified muslim nutritionist that’s helped patients in even worse states with the help of Allah first of course.
Is this something Prophet Mohammed Peace upon him would say? Absolutely not. What is a man that makes concessions? If he is not a man is he now a woman? Prophet Mohammed Cut the prayer short for a baby crying. Everyone is important.
آتُواْ النَّسَاء صَدُقَاتِهِنَّ نِحْلَةً فَإِن طِبْنَ لَكُمْ عَن شَيْءٍ مِّنْهُ نَفْساً فَكُلُوهُ هَنِيئاً مَّرِيئاً 4/4. And give her spending money continuously. If they feel good about something for you personally, let her eat much as she pleased. وَلاَ تُؤْتُواْ السُّفَهَاء أَمْوَالَكُمُ الَّتِي جَعَلَ اللّهُ لَكُمْ قِيَاماً وَارْزُقُوهُمْ فِيهَا وَاكْسُوهُمْ وَقُولُواْ لَهُمْ قَوْلاً مَّعْرُوفاً 4/5. Do not give your treasure fools who ALLAH made you to stand. Give them at it and give their clothes and say to them the word of kindness. وَٱبۡتَلُواْ ٱلۡيَتَـٰمَىٰ حَتَّىٰٓ إِذَا بَلَغُواْ ٱلنِّكَاحَ فَإِنۡ ءَانَسۡتُم مِّنۡہُمۡ رُشۡدً۬ا فَٱدۡفَعُوٓاْ إِلَيۡہِمۡ أَمۡوَٲلَهُمۡ*ۖ وَلَا تَأۡكُلُوهَآ إِسۡرَافً۬ا وَبِدَارًا أَن يَكۡبَرُواْ*ۚ وَمَن كَانَ غَنِيًّ۬ا فَلۡيَسۡتَعۡفِفۡ*ۖ وَمَن كَانَ فَقِيرً۬ا فَلۡيَأۡكُلۡ بِٱلۡمَعۡرُوفِ*ۚ فَإِذَا دَفَعۡتُمۡ إِلَيۡہِمۡ أَمۡوَٲلَهُمۡ فَأَشۡہِدُواْ عَلَيۡہِمۡ*ۚ وَكَفَىٰ بِٱللَّهِ حَسِيبً۬ا 4/6. And test the orphans until when they came to marriage. If you see the awareness of them then give it to them their property, do not eat it as wasteful and frivolous before they were big. Who is rich and who must endure the privation may take a kindness. When you give them their treasures then make a witness to them, and GOD enough so the countdown. وَإِنْ أَرَدتُّمُ اسْتِبْدَالَ زَوْجٍ مَّكَانَ زَوْجٍ وَآتَيْتُمْ إِحْدَاهُنَّ قِنطَاراً فَلاَ تَأْخُذُواْ مِنْهُ شَيْئاً أَتَأْخُذُونَهُ بُهْتَاناً وَإِثْماً مُّبِينا 4/20. If you want to change a wife in place of the other wives while you have given them a one, then do not take from it a well. Are you going to pick it up with the confusion and the real sin? وَلَن تَسۡتَطِيعُوٓاْ أَن تَعۡدِلُواْ بَيۡنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ وَلَوۡ حَرَصۡتُمۡ*ۖ فَلَا تَمِيلُواْ ڪُلَّ ٱلۡمَيۡلِ فَتَذَرُوهَا كَٱلۡمُعَلَّقَةِ*ۚ وَإِن تُصۡلِحُواْ وَتَتَّقُواْ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ غَفُورً۬ا رَّحِيمً۬ا 4/129. you will not be able to be fair among the women (of polygamy), even if you expect, so do not fall on every fall and then you let him like a leech. If you realize the pious and compassionate merciful ALLAH. ALLAH of the provisions of Ayaah 4/3 and 4/129 can be concluded that the imprimatur polygamy for men can only marry a widow with orphans who overlooked her care and assistance as family members. The husband could not really do justice among his wife of more than one, especially in the inner relationship, therefore polygamy is obvious imprimatur for men not to marry several women who preferred because beautiful and a virgin.
If a man has been married for almost 10 years with no kids and all of a sudden his wife starts being disrespectful and rebellious due to social media influence, she is also denying him intimacy for no concrete reason. He tries his best to provide for her but she takes him for granted and is hardly contend. Can he marry a second wife?
First talk to her Akhi. Always communicate first and tell her what’s on your heart, with the guidance and permission of Allah swt. Then pray istikhara and do what’s right. Don’t rush and don’t let shaytan play with your head.
Here is what I think. Most muslim men want to marry more than 1 woman because they are not satisfied with one, being polygamous was men's nature biologically and women's nature was aligned with hypergamy. I am not saying the first wife will ever really accept having another sister wife. My 1 problem with women giving the example of prophet saw being married to hazrat khadija who was much older than him so logically no one can argue they were marrying for reasons common men marry for(They typically want virgins even if they are not) and our prophet did not marry another wife while Bibi Khadija RA was alive. Now muslim women put this argument which is actually a valid argument that our prophet was not eager to marry other wives and when he did except one all other were widow or divorced so why don't muslim men go after those women to marry again most men who say I want to complete sunnat of marrying 4 wives just for the sake of completing sunnat they are lying. It is our lust most of the time which isn't be completed by one woman but question is so what Allah gave them permission to do so to complete their desires the halal way on the condition that they provide everything equally(which most men can't so until you think you can provide all basic necessities for more than 1 wife don't delude yourself your life will be sunshine and rainbows). Now women say one should follow sunnat to the letter then there comes a counter argument which no women wants to bring up that why don't you follow Bibi khadija RA, every women would say i need a man to match my lifestyle that i was given at home(nothing wrong with that, that is your will) but she gave up all her money to our prophet which then was given to charity and they lived in simplicity with them. See what I am pointing out here is if women can be selfish in their needs why can't men be if it is permissible. Men: Don't delude yourself that you can justly provide everything equally to all your wives(and trust me on this point Allah will not be lenient). Women: Don't berate men if they want more wives if you don't want to be a cowive that is your will don't be. I don't really comment alot but I am seeing these miniscule topic of muslim ummah are so highlighted that we are forgetting our real problems that we need to strive for. To me all the men choose a mission in life(which in turn benefits ummah and the best way is to become filthy rich because only the you have influence to move any pieces on a global level) and as for women I don't like to give them advice I am not a women do what Allah ordained and just as I said Allah will not be lenient if men don't equally provide for their wives, as for women he is not lenient when you don't complete your responsibilities to your husband and sorry if this hurts you but every abrahmic religion is patriarchal nature including Islam so if feminism has got to you look at the state of women in most feminist country, research a little bit about their state and you will know on face values feminism looks good but is a evil doctrine. Sorry if I wrote something wrong here I am not a muslim scholar I am just sharing what little knowledge I have and my common sense.
This is such and non-issue, look polygamy is a right given by Allah to men, he says in surah an-Nisa that men can marry in 2,3or4 but IF HE CANT DO JUSTICE ONLY ONE. that means that if u can be just then go and marry another women IF YOU WANT, if u dont want its fine and if you want no one can ever stop you. If ur first wife wants to leave,let her because you are in the right of following what Allah says. No women has a say on men's polygamy and if a man is not just Allah will deal with him.
Subhan Allah. Too many feminists disguised as believers. Imagine on the day of qiyamah being asked "Who were you trying to forbid the rights I give men?".
My husband is a very good guy. I'm very satisfied with him and I really want to make him happy. I don't see any problem if he takes second wife. It doesn't mean he doesn't love me. Some man need more than one wife and it's permissible in islam. I can't understand why it's big issue for some. I'm trying to find a good second wife for my husband.
@@taimurahmad are you quite certain you read both her and my comment? In fact, did you even read your own comment before writing it? Are you even sure that prophet sm encouraged to marry women who "do not" have gheerah? Or is it that "it is better to not have extreme gheerah" in case of women? Abd when did he even "encourage" it? Naah, I ain't doing an argument against a comment with this many mistakes.
Men become Muslims when it comes to polygamy. And the same guys wouldn’t pray, don’t mind drinking alcohol, may be dishonest in dealings but with marriages they become devout Muslims.
Why are none of these sheikhs concerned about the fact that the man LIES to his wife, gaslights her, and lives a double-life for years sometimes! You won’t do that to your parents, and you surely should be ashamed of doing that to the woman who has sacrificed her time, effort and her body, everyday, for you, your family and your children. “But it is the mans right to marry again”. He has no right to lie like that, in most cases let his family collectively in on the lie as well, and later go around and complain about his first or second wife finding out he is a weak idiot who can’t stand up as a true mature husband and be truthful. Let’s face it - he only takes the second wife for his sexual pleasures. Yet his first wife is so loyal to him, that she won’t ask for a divorce when he is not satisfying HER, even though that is also her right. Would you treat your mother like that? Would you teach your sons to also lie and only think of their own needs? These women are the true family leaders, since they don’t gamble with the wellbeing of the whole family like that. In my nikah conditions, I didn’t allow polygami in my marriage. All the muslim women who couldn’t bear living under polygami, should make sure they make it as a condition in their nikah beforehand. Educate your sisters and daughters about the rights that Allah has given us. You can give your husband-to -be a set of conditions, that if he breaks them you get to do a divorce without him being the one who makes the decision. None of my muslim friends or family members used this right they have from Allah, to give their conditions, and most og them didn’t even know they had this right! Because our sheiks, fathers and brothers are more concerned about their rights. The sheikhs won’t remind you when your’re about to marry. But they do advice men on what to do with their problems with the first wife. *sighs* 🙄
Circumstances When a Man can marry another wife. Brother the thing is the women is insecure Here because she thinks she is not equal to you. Shes not your friend maybe you just treat her as a maid and give her salary by providing her food and clothing. Akhi you dont love her you realise that. If you do this bro Fear Allah what are you doing? Many men come up with the reasons...oh no Sister she cant give me a baby. Bro which century do you live in? Theres test tube babies, there Damm Adoption....you cant even adopt a kid or wide-spread the Population?? Your not even a good husband, not a good servant of Allah and not even a good citizen. So tell me brother, you wanna go get her a Gyno and solve the problem withing 18 months and have a medium budget expenses for those 18 months or marry a second wife and pay for her your entire life? Which one sounds better to you. Polygamy was more like adoption. You take care of widow women, women with no caretaker, men were loving and responsible then but now....as Sheikh said: men now marry for personal gain. Although its their loss somewhere if you think that the man is the gaurdian of the wives. And if hes not man enough to love his first wife, if he treats her like a choice or option....what makes him confident the next wife will trust him. Your supposed to love and support each other, your companions not bloody competitors. And if you think this is not working, get a divorce. Its that simple. Follow the Quran strictly and all your troubles will vanish regarding WHATEVER you have and want. And secondly if a man didn't love his wife properly....bro dont you people have feelings like how can you immediately find a women just after your marriage. So basically you didn't love her and if you dont EVEN LOVE...... whats the purpose of all this drama?
When islam never said poliginy is like adoption? This is tottaly false, marry a 2nd wife has loterraly nothing even similar to do with adoption, you dont marry a widow just because she is a widow, you marry a womab and satisfy your desire in lecit, nothing said marry women is for widows
Sheikh Assim please close the comment section. Your comment section gets filled with women who have no life and complain if you disagree with them. I liked the comment section closed before. Less whining before
This is how you talk about our sisters in deen? Is this what Muhammad ﷺ wants us to be? And how men should be? Is this the way he ﷺ was? What makes you so sure about WHY they do that, Akhi? Maybe they had a very rough time behind them? Be more sensitive towards our sisters. You are not better than them. May Allah swt. guide us. Allahumma Amin
@@roniii9 Impossible task to love each wife as you love God. 1 Corinthians 7 :: NIV. "But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband." Polygamy is immoral and therefore an abomination to God.
@@googleenjoyer1503 You are making a typical attempt at a logical fallacy argument rather than a discussion of fact. That is the technique used by those who have such a weak position they cannot argue from facts so resort to circular nonfactual arguments and fallacies. The fallacy you've used for this one is called an ad hominem fallacy. This fallacy occurs when you attack someone personally rather than using logic to refute their argument. Try again and please do better this time.
@@sandybennett_itsme Uhm I did state a fact. The authors of the bible are unknown. Knowing their names is not enough, their names are not even middle-eastern. Furthermore the earliest manuscript is more than 200 years after Jesus (pbuh) let alone the earliest full bible. Then you are also going to tell me, that these poor low class Aramaic speaking disciples wrote in Greek and also in such an eloquent way. The possibility they were literate to begin with isn't known, let alone in another language and in that manner. This is highly unlikely and even if it was them, you have to justify the gap between the manuscripts and their lifetime.
Men don't look at polygamy the way it was looked at in the final Prophets time which is why so many problems arise today. Back in the day polygamy was to actually provide/protect and help women who had no mahram, had no source of financial aid, were widowed, divorced, ie. Nowadays men are into polygamy for the wrong reasons. Now i will mute this post, bc the only replies im gonna get are the opinions from egotistical men who claim my opinion is "irrelevant" but take there sweet time to write me an essay, mansplaining or god knows what. :)
No such thing as wrong reasons. Do you have the knowledge on why allah made it permissible? What your doing is minor kuffar.
i agree most men nowadays play around with polygamy. but most women nowadays their main problem is not equal treatment or whether her husband will love her same as before, their main problem is that they dont like him to be with another woman and they dont like him to be intimate with another woman
Not true.
Men were attracted to several women in the past and married them.
It was not merely "necessity."
But, you want to invalidate the rights that Allah ta'ala gave men, because you don't accept the Qur'an and Sunnah.
@@sonny7159 i never discussed for what reason men marry more than 1 and did i say anything abt islam allowing men to marry 4 wives no wht r u on abt islam has allowed it whether we like it or not we abide by it. dont accuse me nd say i dont accept the quran and sunnah without knowledge u know nothing abt me allah does not like the arrogant people
@@sonny7159 No one is trying to invalidate your rights Allah swt gave you as a man. By all means, marry however many women you want as long as it's 4 or fewer. Nothing is stopping you from pursuing 4 wives other than your ability to pull lol. It just be like that sometimes. Ofc this is the only Sunnah you'd actually like to follow and defend.
Shaykh Hakeem gave very realistically grounded advice. May Allah bless him.
i agree amen brother hey brother i don't mean to be off topic but can i ask you a question there's a game called roblox that have a game inside of it called murderer mystery 2 this game have a gacha system would it be gambling if i spend no money in the game but be a free to play and use the gacha system which are crates and open them? It also have 5 rarities common, uncommon, rare, legendary, godly, now see this "godly" i feel like that it would be haram for me to play it cause i feel like it would be shirk but it's only a rarity name it doesn't promote it right?
I agree ameen
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is."
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said:
"Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means."
In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female
Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.
Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77
@@SammynAlgeriamurderer mystery, the name itself SubhanAllah
Just try and avoid playing such games and use your time wisely. Use your youth to memorise or recite the Quran, study your deen, spend time with family and friends, exercise, walks…sitting in circles of pious brothers and time will go so fast you’ll forget about these games
Polygamy is not an obligation on men nor is it an obligation for women to accept it
The men wanting polygamy think it’s all about sexual pleasure but forget the sunnah is to marry widows and single mums to support them
How many men bring up the topic of polygamy by saying oh there’s a widow down the road and I want to support her so thinking of taking a second wife .. compared to the amount of men that think oh I just wanna sleep with another woman so I’ll look into getting another young wife
They don’t follow the sunnah but think they have entitlement to marry multiple times
It's not an obligation to do polygamy, but it is an obligation for both muslim men and women to accept polygamy in Islam. You can't pick and chose what you like in Islam to make it fit your feminist religion.
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is."
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said:
"Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means."
In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female
Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.
Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77
@@AliSidTexfeminist religion really??? So you think considering a woman's feelings and keeping her dignity in marriage is feminism but using her like sex toy and disregarding her feelings is normal just because your fake, lustful God said so? This proves to me that your God is man-made since he only seems to give you guys advantage and crushes a woman's heart. How do y'all brainwashed people get the nerve to demand loyalty from women with a adulterous mind?
And Islam does not condemn marrying for your desires. One of the best advices is to marry quickly so you do not fall into haram, WHICH is your desires. So marrying for the first reason or the 2nd reason is NOT of problem
@@Hell...FireIsRealwhich verse in the quran states men and women are equal?
Men who insist on four wives often can't even get one 😂
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is."
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said:
"Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means."
In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female
Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.
Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77
Voumen who insist on not becoming a second third fourth wife often can't even become First 😂
they say dogs who bark don't bite. It's a similar thing
these men are just plain horny. they need to discipline themselves andd treat the first wife very well...
Today feminists have problem with polygyny, maybe tomorrow they'll have problem with prophet Muhammad PBUH himself.
Discussions on the issue of polygamy will never end. The point is honesty, humility, mental readiness, financial readiness, readiness for religious knowledge, conflict management. Mental readiness needs to be fostered by everyone involved, be it husband, first wife, second wife. If someone is not ready, it will be difficult to achieve success.
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is."
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said:
"Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means."
In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female
Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.
Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77
@@Hell...FireIsReal If someone wants to be successful in marriage, they need agreement, honesty, cooperation, respect, mutual understanding, love between husband and wife. Especially if someone plans polygamy.
@@maspikosanov5543Well man who does multi marriage cant love a women unconditionoly in today's gen,,Most of them are short tempered,ill mannered,,They dk about other sunnah but only polygamy ,,,Mostly they like to spend time with their new new wife
Ov course most men that want it does not have the shoulder for it
@@HelloPeople666 mostly doesn't mean all. In countries where polygamy is permitted, most men are not polygamous. At most, only 5% of families practice polygamy. So don't worry too much about polygamy. But if you are selected in it then remain patient as long as husband and wife carry out their respective roles consistently and do not wrong each other (according to Islam). Because the essence of our life in this world is only to seek Allah's approval (Ridha).
Why cant anyone see that Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) loved Hazrat Khadija (R.A) so much that he didnt marry anyone during her life? Although, she was a widower with 3 children, still Prophet loved her and didn't marry to anyone!
Later he had 11 wives
If only many women today were 10% as selfless, loving and submissive as our mother Khadijah (رضي الله عنها)
Its their right and halal whats your problem
Did you also complain about how men need to provide? No right because it benefit you. Stop complaining and everyone has their own right
@@carljohnson2194 only cuz Allah commanded him to marry
Never due to his desire but for Allah's will❤❤#MUHAMMAD (SAW)
Read about him or atleast hear so that you can reason 😊
Polygamy is in islam and every Muslim must acknowledge that even if they don't wanna practice it. The problem is that marriage itself is very hard. Taking care of one family is quite hard. When some irresponsible and reckless men get second wife, they mess up badly. People who have experienced this first hand knows how bad it gets over time. Wives fight, children fights and everything becomes competitive instead of harmony. One of the wives get neglected and then began to hate and detest the husband, then the children from the neglected wives starts hating and feeling disrespectful towards the father. In my father's family only one of his uncle got two wives. The second was young and beautiful so he started to favor her then over time completely neglected the first wife and also the son from the first marriage. That never got better. My dad's that cousin grew up pretty neglected and had no good feelings for the father, for a pretty good reason obviously.
So yeah, people who think polygamy is a piece of cake, they are stupid. You gotta be a real man to be in polygamy.
I agree I'm also a child of polygamous marriage and my dad has 2 wives, he spent 10 years with the second wife and did not spend with the first wife at all who's my mother and this made me hate and detest polygyny! I'm 19-year-old girl and I'm scared to get married, imagine if the same thing happens to me! Subhan Allah! Lately I've been blaming Allah for making such a bad thing to be halal for men, but I realized after reading the ayah that you have to be just and so what my dad did was wrong! I don't want to be abandoned like my mom after I get married! The second wife is always favored and its sad!
I know a woman who married a bad boy (who hid this part about himself, till married and she's pregnant) , had two kids with him, then divorced him.
A few year later found an amazing man who's on the deen, with no kids and in his prime, looks good goes to hajj, nice job, accepted her even though she had kids and was older than him. The two married had 3 kids with him yet she eventually divorced him over something very trivial.
By the way she's practicing daily, very religious. Yet she divorced even when she got a rare second chance in life. Her children had to suffer because of growing up fatherless.
Now, should we see anecdotal experiences as the norm and how the world is and will always be like?
@@nami20622, did you discuss with you father why? What happened in a polite way? Perhaps something happened and you weren't informed as you're the child.
@@JEAGERlST What do you mean what happened? My comment says what happened!
@@nami20622poor thing, they screwed you up for life. Leave that vile religion. If you ever marry a Muslim you’ll only have yourself to blame. You will be bashed, mistreated, cheated on.
Polygamy is not an obligation so if one actually respects his wife and loves her, he would not think of another marriage, so it's better to confirm that your man won't be having another wife before the marriage, if he insists on wanting more, that's it leave him, do not marry such a person who would break your heart just because of his whims and desires of sleeping with 3 more women, these are the same men who won't pray sunnah salah 5 times a day but this is the only sunnah they wanna follow, that's hypocrisy at it's peak
Men have the right to marry 4 wives in Islam it’s none of your business or anyone else’s business nor their wives can force them not to
@@carljohnson2194 I never said they don't have the "right" I said it's not an obligation, and to be honest men of today can't even afford to have more than one wife, anyways getting to the point again, a woman has all rights to leave him if he is doing something which is obviously hurting her mental health, Moreover a woman has a right to get it written in her nikah contract that her man CANNOT marry a second wife
@@carljohnson2194 Also it IS their wife's business, your wife is A HUMAN who feels emotions, she's not an animal that you just married her, give her food and get your desires done with her, marriage is a relation of MUTUAL respect, if you don't have that much maturity to realise that, kindly don't get married and waste of woman's life
It’s also extremely disgusting to share your husband’s penis with other women.
@@porenesianparapio6934 still it’s Allah who gave me the right to marry 4 wives and I never said a woman shouldn’t be cared about. If you can’t accept polygamy then you are a brainwashed liberal who can’t accept what Allah has made permissible
Now it is clear that the command polygamy by marrying widows with orphans listed in Ayaah 4/3 is not addressed to any particular man, but a rich man to avoid arrogance and injustice prevailing in society. So about marriage among adolescents as generally described in Ayaah 24/33. Both the sacred verse, well that is once again cited for a material analysis and comparison:
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلاَّ تُقْسِطُواْ
فِي الْيَتَامَى فَانكِحُواْ مَا طَابَ لَكُم
مِّنَ النِّسَاء مَثْنَى وَثُلاَثَ وَرُبَاعَ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلاَّ
تَعْدِلُواْ فَوَاحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ذَلِكَ أَدْنَى أَلاَّ تَعُولُواْ
4/3. . If you are worried do not be effective on orphans
will marry youof women (who have orphans) two and three
and four. If you worry can not do justice then one thing or
the law you have(already married). So humbled
that you do not do cocky.
وَلۡيَسۡتَعۡفِفِ ٱلَّذِينَ لَا
يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحًا حَتَّىٰ يُغۡنِيَہُمُ ٱللَّهُ
مِن فَضۡلِهِۦ*ۗ وَٱلَّذِينَ يَبۡتَغُونَ ٱلۡكِتَـٰبَ مِمَّا مَلَكَتۡ
أَيۡمَـٰنُكُمۡ فَكَاتِبُوهُمۡ إِنۡ عَلِمۡتُمۡ فِيہِمۡ خَيۡرً۬ا*ۖ وَءَاتُوهُم مِّن مَّالِ
ٱللَّهِ ٱلَّذِىٓ ءَاتَٮٰكُمۡ*ۚ وَلَا تُكۡرِهُواْ فَتَيَـٰتِكُمۡ عَلَى ٱلۡبِغَآءِ إِنۡ أَرَدۡنَ تَحَصُّنً۬ا
لِّتَبۡتَغُواْ عَرَضَ ٱلۡحَيَوٰةِ ٱلدُّنۡيَا*ۚ وَمَن يُكۡرِههُّنَّ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ مِنۢ بَعۡدِ إِكۡرَٲهِهِنَّ غَفُورٌ۬ رَّحِيمٌ۬
24/33. Be patient people who can not marry until help them with HIS gift.
And those who seek provision (married) owned by your law then ordain them if
you know there is good in them. And give them from the property ALLAH gave you.
Do not force young children to seek your (marriage) if they want to (a girl) because
you seek the pleasures of life of the world. Who forced ALLAH after
the imposition of the (marriage) is forgiving merciful.
You are blatantly lying and fabricating.
The verse is not addressing rich men.
Rasulullah (sal Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa salam) was in dire hunger and could not provide food, and yet was married to several wives at the time. (ie. Muslims were poor at the time)
The sahabas were not some rich people either, neither was the prophet. Yet the prophet pbuh and most of the sahabas DID engage in polygamy, even while being poor
And there is no such verse or any instances from hadith that proves that ONLY rich men can marry 4 wives. You can marry any number of wives as long as you fullfill their rights.
Did you attach "who have orphan" by yourself? Who gave you such right to change the meaning of Quran?
@@dadearinto5546 Nauzubillah. How can you brazenly change the verse of the Quran and claim to be a Muslim.
Men do extra marital affairs, and then come to first wife,asking for 2nd wife!! What the shit is this? Is it permissible?
How men in this comment can just give explanation only about the polygamy yet donot know the other sunnahs.
It’s even worse that most of these men are not giving their wives their full rights but when they want to collect a second wife they say it’s because it’s their right the whole time the woman has been making sacrifices in her marriage and making it easy for him and when it comes to him making it easy for her he doesn’t care about that part.
@@Khadiyah01kya tumne aise case dekhe hai, mere khandan me hui hai par unko barabar right diye hai
Tell me what other Sunnahs I don't know about, please.
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Assalamualaikum, sheikh. I enjoy listening to you. I have learned a lot from you. May Allah continue to increase your wisdom and knowledge. May he grant you good health, longlife and peace of mind. May all of us who are listening to you learn and put the knowledge into good use. May Allah azawajal grant us all the best of both worlds. Amin Ya Hayyu Ya Quayyum
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is."
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said:
"Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means."
In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female
Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.
Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77
I am concerned, that the Sheikh didn’t fully express the betrayal of the husband.
If he wants to marry another wife …, the wife cannot stop him.
But in fairness, he should have informed his wife and given her the choice.
Other than this, it is a very informative video.
There are more rules for polygamy is Islam … than there are any other faith or western group.
In the west polygamy is having a resurgence, the most mindful write contracts.
But there is nothing stronger than the Quran … the warning is there for those that heed.
I liked that the sheikh mentioned another wife for necessity …
As a couples therapist, I can only say that sustaining a marriage takes effort and good intentions.
So I triple this, with you want to have a second wife.
Lovely video
Quran an-nisa 129
“Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women, even if it is your ardent desire....”
Although Islam allows polygamy, it regards marriage with only one woman as essential.
You will never be able to maintain ˹emotional˺ justice between your wives-no matter how keen you are. So do not totally incline towards one leaving the other in suspense.1 And if you do what is right and are mindful ˹of Allah˺, surely Allah is All-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
Don't cut it in half. It is misleading. Secondly,
Ibrahim (A.S), Ishaq (A.S), Musa (A.S), Daud (A.S), Suleiman (A.S), Muhammad ﷺ all practiced it. Hating what Allah has made permissible is like a man saying he doesn't wanna give money as mehr, but something free. It's not him that decides it's the woman who decides as it's her right, the same way he has his rights that Allah gave him as well.
Its the opposite, Allah swt encourages polygame as he says in an nisa verse 3: marry 2,3,4 but if u fear to be unjust marry only one. look at how Allah starts with 2 and not 1.
@@Adam-bc2ov If you fear to be unjust....
@@JEAGERlSTwrite the full version not AS
@@Adam-bc2ov read the tafsir, it's just how the sentence is structured, Allah is not recommending to marry more
I really like this sheikh but some of his videos are really problematic. What does he mean by "real man" here? It is perfectly normal for a woman to not be able to bear staying in a polygamy. In this case the man should of course use his judgement and divorce considering all the pros and cons. Prioritizing your 4 kids is clearly better than going for the 2nd wife. In fact, this is what a real man would do. If anything, it is extremely ungrateful to leave the 1st one just because she is extremely hurt and cannot bear it. Unless the sheikh is trying to blame the woman for it and thinks she deserves getting divorced, considering how the word used here is "threat", not that "it is impossible for her to stay".
Not to mention there's also the toxic idea that a man should not listen to anyone, should always stick to his decision without considering others or even his own feelings.
It depends.
A real man wouldnt compromise the deen of Allah for a woman. So if he sees that he is falling into haram then yes get second wife ASAP.
Adultrty is major sin that puts you to Hell and it is recommended to have 4 wjves anyways
What do you mean she is "incredibly hurt"????
Her feelings arent abive Allahs command.
Do her feelings come in hand wheb the call fir jihaaf comez???
No these men are weak...
@@taimurahmad yes, you should of course get a second wife if you fear falling into sin, there is no question about that. But this is a different issue.
Btw, no, it isn't recommend in any of the four madhabs afaik. In fact, if I remember correctly malikis and hanbalis say that it is actually mushtahab to not engage in polygamy. (I might be wrong though)
@@taimurahmad did you even see the video? No one here is talking about not following Allah's command. That is a whole different topic.
And yes,if you are falling into sin she does deserve getting divorced because she isnt submitting to Allah. Does she not consider that shr will always be a second wife???
Ever seen men cry about providing fir their women??????
How about women actually give him his proper rights of intimacy first?????
They simply refuse men basuc rights yet dont expect them to not even think about getting a secind wife.
Yes blame IS on woman because she isny letting him do something halaal for him
polygamy is forbidden in Western countries.
The sheikh has also said that the wife can put a condition in the marriage contract that she does want the husband to have a second wife... If he does have her then the wife can demand divorce and doesn't have to pay the dowry back
Jazak'Allah khair, may Allah bless you and all of us with Jannah thanks to his mercy❤
Our prophet pbuh married to hazrat khadija (ra). She was his only wife until her death in 619 (the Year of Sorrow) ended their 24-year-long marriage.
Later prophet pbuh married, but With the exception of Aisha, all of these women were previously widowed or divorced.
Thank you, *Sheikh Assim bin Luqman al-Hakeem* ♥️♥️♥️♥️
جزاكم الله خيرا • بارك الله فيكم ♥️
A man is a real man if he understands one wife is better. If he cares about his wife and family to decide he won't put it at risk. A real man is a man who can control himself, not a man driven by lust like animals
And in terms of social harmony is Ayaah 4/3 contains a function that:
a. Orphans can be helped by making him a stepfather who will bear the expense and educating him or at least will lead as the head of the family in the household.
b. widow can be married by a rich man to help alleviate the economic hardship and distress. If this is not resolved, will comes poverty and destitution suffered perhaps even she rebelled to get her needs, there was fraud, prostitution, fighting over the love of gentle persuasion, social disorder, and other complex issues resolved.
c. Wife, who have a polygamous husband, if her husband did not heed it, then such an attitude means not obey the law of ALLAH, allowing chaos in the general social, selfish, ignores the widow with orphans suffer, and otherwise damage the harmony of her own household.
Of all the reasons and circumstances on this can be seen that polygamy in Islam is a social element, not only based on the man advantage, or just to help the widow with orphans, but also for the stability of community life in all areas.
A husband and his family had to mix properly, while in the act and said let the right implies. He must educate the children to obey the law of ALLAH revealed, planning for the future for their children including those who run the law of ALLAH as a human useful in society to live in a world of luck now and in the Hereafter later. The provision contained in the Qur’anic verse.
Similarly, the polygamy that he must be good at allocating their time and gift shop associate at the wives and children are not fair to cause unrest and displeasure at the side. He also had to educate the orphans who are in custody until at a certain time that the child had been able to fend for themselves. When he had to give her property, if he was stupid, so save him until ALLAH opens another chance. For all that let people pay attention,
Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their chastity. That is purer for them. Surely Allah is All-Aware of what they do 24:30 Quran... Allah said: And do not forget kindness among yourselves. Surely Allah is All-Seeing of what you do 2:237 Qur'an. Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is."
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said:
"Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means."
In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female
Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.
Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77
The attitude of him when he said "you don't force me because I'm a man"😏🥺. He can say he married because he had a necessity but he can't say ' you can't force me, I'm a man. I'll do what i want to do' but he expects her to obey. That's arrogance.
Thats not arrogance. Thats manliness.
Uh huh, completely agree with you
@@taimurahmad better not discuss anything with morans like you
2. It was narrated that al-Mugheerah said: Sa‘d ibn ‘Ubaadah said: If I saw a man with my wife, I would strike him with my sword, and not with the flat side of it. News of that reached the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and he said: “Are you surprised at the protective jealousy of Sa‘d? By Allah, I am more jealous than him, and Allah is more jealous than me. It is because of His protective jealousy that Allah forbade immoral deeds, both open and secret.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (6980) and Muslim (1499); Muslim narrated an extra phrase: “There is no one who is more jealous than Allah.”
Is this arrogance???? Its manliness. Not arrogance.
Umar ibn khattaab had this. Just look at where he said ao many times "O messenger of Allah let me take off the neck of this munaafiq"
that's not arrogance, he's saying if you marry another you shouldn't fold to pressure and be a man. Also, he said if she wants to leave then she can leave. He isn't forcing her to stay and obey
Haqq sheikh. I want to do ta'addud and this really adds to my considerations in the matter.
Beautiful. We have to protect the umma, polygamy is not what the disbelievers strive to make it appear
الحمد لله حاضر وجزاكم الله خيرا
So True!
Standards have gone down .
Polygyny!! Please brothers and sisters know the difference between polygyny and polygamy.
What tha difference
@@ZAKIRRANA7692 Polygamy includes women having multiple husbands, Polygyny is only men marrying more than 1 wife.
@@Nattie_4 thanks
Assalamu alaikum sheikh. Insha Allah i hope you read this message and kindly answer. I have chronic kidney disease, blood pressure is high, insomnia, tiredness, asthma, chronic eczema on body most severe on my hand which i need to bandage several times a day after using bathroom. I also have urine and stool incompetence. I have bathroom accidents once or three times a day average some days more, i also choke while eating and urinate while choking. I wear several pads instead of nappy because of eczema. I am exhausted, with my physical and mental health but alhamdulillah i am coping as best as i can, struggling through day and night because i know this is what Allah wants for me and life is a blessing from Allah, there are many people who are bearing more than i am. If i do wudu or tayyamun it irritates my skin. Can i do salah without wudu or tayyamun in my situation because it has become overwhelming and i have stopped doing salah. Please make a vlog reguarding ill health and salah. Please make dua for me. May Allah grant shifa to all, ameen.
أسأل الله العظيم رب العرش العظيم أن يشفيك
(امين)
You need to speak to a holistic nutritionist. I know a certified muslim nutritionist that’s helped patients in even worse states with the help of Allah first of course.
Ameen may Allah give you shifa a kameela and you can do taimum. My brother inlawa has skin problems so he does taymum
Shaykh what about the ayah 129 Surah Nisa.
Fair enough. 😅
My x husband was sleeping with another bro wife .Even made a shariat nikar and two children .Degusting habits .The world has become a dirty place .
Is this something Prophet Mohammed Peace upon him would say? Absolutely not. What is a man that makes concessions? If he is not a man is he now a woman? Prophet Mohammed Cut the prayer short for a baby crying. Everyone is important.
Did you forget he married 11 wives?
Today feminists have problem with polygamy, maybe tomorrow they'll have problem with prophet Muhammad PBUH himself.
and what If first wife not allow to fare with second wife.she expand her expenses forcley take more then?
The husband isn’t her atm machine
He will get the cloths and foods and pay for the bills
آتُواْ النَّسَاء صَدُقَاتِهِنَّ
نِحْلَةً فَإِن طِبْنَ لَكُمْ عَن شَيْءٍ مِّنْهُ نَفْساً فَكُلُوهُ هَنِيئاً مَّرِيئاً
4/4. And give her spending money continuously. If they
feel good about something for you personally,
let her eat much as she pleased.
وَلاَ تُؤْتُواْ السُّفَهَاء أَمْوَالَكُمُ الَّتِي
جَعَلَ اللّهُ لَكُمْ قِيَاماً وَارْزُقُوهُمْ فِيهَا وَاكْسُوهُمْ وَقُولُواْ لَهُمْ قَوْلاً مَّعْرُوفاً
4/5. Do not give your treasure fools who ALLAH made you to stand.
Give them at it and give their clothes and say
to them the word of kindness.
وَٱبۡتَلُواْ ٱلۡيَتَـٰمَىٰ حَتَّىٰٓ إِذَا
بَلَغُواْ ٱلنِّكَاحَ فَإِنۡ ءَانَسۡتُم مِّنۡہُمۡ رُشۡدً۬ا
فَٱدۡفَعُوٓاْ إِلَيۡہِمۡ أَمۡوَٲلَهُمۡ*ۖ وَلَا تَأۡكُلُوهَآ إِسۡرَافً۬ا وَبِدَارًا
أَن يَكۡبَرُواْ*ۚ وَمَن كَانَ غَنِيًّ۬ا فَلۡيَسۡتَعۡفِفۡ*ۖ وَمَن كَانَ فَقِيرً۬ا فَلۡيَأۡكُلۡ
بِٱلۡمَعۡرُوفِ*ۚ فَإِذَا دَفَعۡتُمۡ إِلَيۡہِمۡ أَمۡوَٲلَهُمۡ فَأَشۡہِدُواْ عَلَيۡہِمۡ*ۚ وَكَفَىٰ بِٱللَّهِ حَسِيبً۬ا
4/6. And test the orphans until when they came to marriage. If you see
the awareness of them then give it to them their property, do not eat it as
wasteful and frivolous before they were big. Who is rich and who must
endure the privation may take a kindness. When you give them
their treasures then make a witness to them, and GOD
enough so the countdown.
وَإِنْ أَرَدتُّمُ اسْتِبْدَالَ زَوْجٍ مَّكَانَ زَوْجٍ
وَآتَيْتُمْ إِحْدَاهُنَّ قِنطَاراً فَلاَ تَأْخُذُواْ مِنْهُ شَيْئاً أَتَأْخُذُونَهُ بُهْتَاناً وَإِثْماً مُّبِينا
4/20. If you want to change a wife in place of the other wives while you
have given them a one, then do not take from it a well. Are you going
to pick it up with the confusion and the real sin?
وَلَن تَسۡتَطِيعُوٓاْ أَن تَعۡدِلُواْ
بَيۡنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ وَلَوۡ حَرَصۡتُمۡ*ۖ فَلَا تَمِيلُواْ ڪُلَّ ٱلۡمَيۡلِ
فَتَذَرُوهَا كَٱلۡمُعَلَّقَةِ*ۚ وَإِن تُصۡلِحُواْ وَتَتَّقُواْ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ غَفُورً۬ا رَّحِيمً۬ا
4/129. you will not be able to be fair among the women (of polygamy), even if you expect,
so do not fall on every fall and then you let him like a leech. If you realize the pious and
compassionate merciful ALLAH.
ALLAH of the provisions of Ayaah 4/3 and 4/129 can be concluded that the imprimatur polygamy for men can only marry a widow with orphans who overlooked her care and assistance as family members. The husband could not really do justice among his wife of more than one, especially in the inner relationship, therefore polygamy is obvious imprimatur for men not to marry several women who preferred because beautiful and a virgin.
If a man has been married for almost 10 years with no kids and all of a sudden his wife starts being disrespectful and rebellious due to social media influence, she is also denying him intimacy for no concrete reason. He tries his best to provide for her but she takes him for granted and is hardly contend. Can he marry a second wife?
divorce the first one and get married to a second
@@arshadmediadotcomwhy divorce the first one?
First talk to her Akhi. Always communicate first and tell her what’s on your heart, with the guidance and permission of Allah swt.
Then pray istikhara and do what’s right. Don’t rush and don’t let shaytan play with your head.
Is he rich enough to provide for 2 wives?
What about when men has medical issues and cannot bear children and denys the wife intimacy? Shouldn't she divorce him and remarry?
SUBHAN ALLAH ALHUMDULILLAH ALLAH AKBAR.
Here is what I think. Most muslim men want to marry more than 1 woman because they are not satisfied with one, being polygamous was men's nature biologically and women's nature was aligned with hypergamy. I am not saying the first wife will ever really accept having another sister wife.
My 1 problem with women giving the example of prophet saw being married to hazrat khadija who was much older than him so logically no one can argue they were marrying for reasons common men marry for(They typically want virgins even if they are not) and our prophet did not marry another wife while Bibi Khadija RA was alive. Now muslim women put this argument which is actually a valid argument that our prophet was not eager to marry other wives and when he did except one all other were widow or divorced so why don't muslim men go after those women to marry again most men who say I want to complete sunnat of marrying 4 wives just for the sake of completing sunnat they are lying. It is our lust most of the time which isn't be completed by one woman but question is so what Allah gave them permission to do so to complete their desires the halal way on the condition that they provide everything equally(which most men can't so until you think you can provide all basic necessities for more than 1 wife don't delude yourself your life will be sunshine and rainbows).
Now women say one should follow sunnat to the letter then there comes a counter argument which no women wants to bring up that why don't you follow Bibi khadija RA, every women would say i need a man to match my lifestyle that i was given at home(nothing wrong with that, that is your will) but she gave up all her money to our prophet which then was given to charity and they lived in simplicity with them.
See what I am pointing out here is if women can be selfish in their needs why can't men be if it is permissible. Men: Don't delude yourself that you can justly provide everything equally to all your wives(and trust me on this point Allah will not be lenient). Women: Don't berate men if they want more wives if you don't want to be a cowive that is your will don't be.
I don't really comment alot but I am seeing these miniscule topic of muslim ummah are so highlighted that we are forgetting our real problems that we need to strive for. To me all the men choose a mission in life(which in turn benefits ummah and the best way is to become filthy rich because only the you have influence to move any pieces on a global level) and as for women I don't like to give them advice I am not a women do what Allah ordained and just as I said Allah will not be lenient if men don't equally provide for their wives, as for women he is not lenient when you don't complete your responsibilities to your husband and sorry if this hurts you but every abrahmic religion is patriarchal nature including Islam so if feminism has got to you look at the state of women in most feminist country, research a little bit about their state and you will know on face values feminism looks good but is a evil doctrine.
Sorry if I wrote something wrong here I am not a muslim scholar I am just sharing what little knowledge I have and my common sense.
Ну он был наверно хорошим мужем раз развелся с женой...
This is such and non-issue, look polygamy is a right given by Allah to men, he says in surah an-Nisa that men can marry in 2,3or4 but IF HE CANT DO JUSTICE ONLY ONE. that means that if u can be just then go and marry another women IF YOU WANT, if u dont want its fine and if you want no one can ever stop you. If ur first wife wants to leave,let her because you are in the right of following what Allah says. No women has a say on men's polygamy and if a man is not just Allah will deal with him.
Subhan Allah. Too many feminists disguised as believers. Imagine on the day of qiyamah being asked "Who were you trying to forbid the rights I give men?".
His wife. And it's a right, not an obligation. So if you want to marry another woman but your first wife doesn't want you to then divorce her.
@@malalachuyup just divorce her if you still want second and wife and she cant accept it. But its men right the wife has no say
@@polaos5435 I know. And I never said the wife can stop him from marrying. But she can ask for divorce. And you can marry after you divorce her.
@@polaos5435 the wife cannot prevent him, but she is fully in her right to divorce him if he gets a 2nd wife
My husband is a very good guy. I'm very satisfied with him and I really want to make him happy. I don't see any problem if he takes second wife. It doesn't mean he doesn't love me. Some man need more than one wife and it's permissible in islam. I can't understand why it's big issue for some. I'm trying to find a good second wife for my husband.
That means you don't have gheerah. It's not a bad thing for a woman though. It's only a problem if men lack gheerah.
No she isnt lacking "ghayrah" prophet mohammed encourgaed to marry women who are not jealous
@@taimurahmad are you quite certain you read both her and my comment? In fact, did you even read your own comment before writing it? Are you even sure that prophet sm encouraged to marry women who "do not" have gheerah? Or is it that "it is better to not have extreme gheerah" in case of women? Abd when did he even "encourage" it? Naah, I ain't doing an argument against a comment with this many mistakes.
@@zara-he3jhWho hurt you lmao 🤣
Yes
What??? Sheikh Assim married 2 wives?
Men become Muslims when it comes to polygamy. And the same guys wouldn’t pray, don’t mind drinking alcohol, may be dishonest in dealings but with marriages they become devout Muslims.
Why are none of these sheikhs concerned about the fact that the man LIES to his wife, gaslights her, and lives a double-life for years sometimes! You won’t do that to your parents, and you surely should be ashamed of doing that to the woman who has sacrificed her time, effort and her body, everyday, for you, your family and your children.
“But it is the mans right to marry again”.
He has no right to lie like that, in most cases let his family collectively in on the lie as well, and later go around and complain about his first or second wife finding out he is a weak idiot who can’t stand up as a true mature husband and be truthful.
Let’s face it - he only takes the second wife for his sexual pleasures. Yet his first wife is so loyal to him, that she won’t ask for a divorce when he is not satisfying HER, even though that is also her right.
Would you treat your mother like that? Would you teach your sons to also lie and only think of their own needs? These women are the true family leaders, since they don’t gamble with the wellbeing of the whole family like that.
In my nikah conditions, I didn’t allow polygami in my marriage. All the muslim women who couldn’t bear living under polygami, should make sure they make it as a condition in their nikah beforehand. Educate your sisters and daughters about the rights that Allah has given us. You can give your husband-to -be a set of conditions, that if he breaks them you get to do a divorce without him being the one who makes the decision. None of my muslim friends or family members used this right they have from Allah, to give their conditions, and most og them didn’t even know they had this right! Because our sheiks, fathers and brothers are more concerned about their rights.
The sheikhs won’t remind you when your’re about to marry. But they do advice men on what to do with their problems with the first wife.
*sighs*
🙄
Polygamy is a beautiful thing. We need to stepnaway from this westernised mindset.
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Was not the best presentation for polygamy and everyone is hahahaha !!!! but May Allah reward you for your effort
That is reality
Put your desire aside and get a slap of reality this isn't easy
Circumstances When a Man can marry another wife. Brother the thing is the women is insecure Here because she thinks she is not equal to you. Shes not your friend maybe you just treat her as a maid and give her salary by providing her food and clothing. Akhi you dont love her you realise that. If you do this bro Fear Allah what are you doing?
Many men come up with the reasons...oh no Sister she cant give me a baby.
Bro which century do you live in? Theres test tube babies, there Damm Adoption....you cant even adopt a kid or wide-spread the Population??
Your not even a good husband, not a good servant of Allah and not even a good citizen.
So tell me brother, you wanna go get her a Gyno and solve the problem withing 18 months and have a medium budget expenses for those 18 months or marry a second wife and pay for her your entire life?
Which one sounds better to you.
Polygamy was more like adoption. You take care of widow women, women with no caretaker, men were loving and responsible then but now....as Sheikh said: men now marry for personal gain. Although its their loss somewhere if you think that the man is the gaurdian of the wives.
And if hes not man enough to love his first wife, if he treats her like a choice or option....what makes him confident the next wife will trust him. Your supposed to love and support each other, your companions not bloody competitors. And if you think this is not working, get a divorce.
Its that simple. Follow the Quran strictly and all your troubles will vanish regarding WHATEVER you have and want.
And secondly if a man didn't love his wife properly....bro dont you people have feelings like how can you immediately find a women just after your marriage. So basically you didn't love her and if you dont EVEN LOVE...... whats the purpose of all this drama?
When islam never said poliginy is like adoption? This is tottaly false, marry a 2nd wife has loterraly nothing even similar to do with adoption, you dont marry a widow just because she is a widow, you marry a womab and satisfy your desire in lecit, nothing said marry women is for widows
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Sheikh Assim please close the comment section. Your comment section gets filled with women who have no life and complain if you disagree with them. I liked the comment section closed before. Less whining before
Yep,
You are a spinesless weisel who is afraid of a comment section. Better call yourself 😺
This is how you talk about our sisters in deen? Is this what Muhammad ﷺ wants us to be? And how men should be? Is this the way he ﷺ was?
What makes you so sure about WHY they do that, Akhi? Maybe they had a very rough time behind them? Be more sensitive towards our sisters. You are not better than them.
May Allah swt. guide us. Allahumma Amin
@@simsimx723put the emotions aside first then talk.
@@rpt6214 I'm an arab and my name is altair but nice try though. You did nothing but prove my point of how emotional womenfolk are.
SubhanAllah
Salam😊
و عليكم السلام و رحمة الله و بركاته
The Bible says "Husband love your wife as you love your God" How many Gods does that mean?
you dont need to increase the amount of god (astagfirullah) just apply that to each wife
@@roniii9 Impossible task to love each wife as you love God. 1 Corinthians 7 :: NIV. "But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband."
Polygamy is immoral and therefore an abomination to God.
@@sandybennett_itsme You don't even know who wrote the bible and try to tell us what God said?
@@googleenjoyer1503 You are making a typical attempt at a logical fallacy argument rather than a discussion of fact. That is the technique used by those who have such a weak position they cannot argue from facts so resort to circular nonfactual arguments and fallacies. The fallacy you've used for this one is called an ad hominem fallacy. This fallacy occurs when you attack someone personally rather than using logic to refute their argument. Try again and please do better this time.
@@sandybennett_itsme Uhm I did state a fact. The authors of the bible are unknown.
Knowing their names is not enough, their names are not even middle-eastern. Furthermore the earliest manuscript is more than 200 years after Jesus (pbuh) let alone the earliest full bible. Then you are also going to tell me, that these poor low class Aramaic speaking disciples wrote in Greek and also in such an eloquent way. The possibility they were literate to begin with isn't known, let alone in another language and in that manner.
This is highly unlikely and even if it was them, you have to justify the gap between the manuscripts and their lifetime.
God bless yall,
Christianity is the only way😁
Be aware of false Sheikhs and teachers nowadays, he’s one of them
😂
A real King have only one Queen. King can’t have Queens
Yes they can
Yes they can
Yes they can
@@polaos5435yes kings can have multiple queens but not beggars like you.
Yes