I’m a single parent and have been for many years this never crossed my mind when I was young and married, but now Subhan’Allah Allah has made me understand the benefits of sharing a husband. The sad thing is not enough men and women are on their deen enough to do this successfully I rate those who do. May Allah guide us with knowledge and patience to do the right thing Aameen.
Me too sister. When I was younger i hated men who practiced polygamy. Now I see the deep wisdom and need for it. We were programmed to think it's wrong and that it helps the man. All it really does for the man is feed his ego. The women win in the end.
@@JahannamHellfire If done in secret yes, if all people are happy it’s no one else’s business. Their are plenty of women that are going to be left childless and single, never will they experience having their own child. This can be the answer to a lot of modern day problems.
'''marry women,whom you think good '' two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then marry only one''' Al Quran Surah nisa 3
The laws of Nature: Truly, I say man don't live by that law, but truly man lives by the words that proceed out of God mouth. Now we must see that this is the desire of the heart and one must quickly deal with: We must not wave our eyes away as Christians have done so in God presences, but this is truly a topic that one must engage with God, with the matter of heart.
at least all parties agree in fornication. the first wife voice does not matter at all, her consent isnt even considered. the man just goes on his way marrying as many women as he wants ....In this day and age, polygamy does not benefit society. Prove me wrong.
alhamdulillah on my first steps being muslim ((2014-) i learned polygamy, why and so many why's was answered alhamdulillah, and never knew in future that Allah prepares me to be in polygamy marriage,(2016) and alhamdulillah all this years of being muslim and married into polygamous man, i can say i am blessed that Allah allows me understand about polygamy, my co-wife loves me for the sake of Allah and i love her for the sake of Allah, ❤️❤️❤️
@@alexianeves As-salaamu alaikum. Check out the "Outstanding Personal Relationships" channel. It will provide exactly what you're looking for. Insha Allah.
What happens if there are 5 women and only 2 men? Will 3 women live single and not have the opportunity to have a family? God has the solution....you dont. GOD knows his creation.
Sure there is, many divorced women and women with children struggle in finding a spouse. Allowing them to be a co-wife would allow them to easily find a husband. I also feel that Muslims have bought into 'culture' and attached a stigma to such sisters too but allowing polygamy (as one sister in a similar situation stated) would allow such sisters to find husbands.
Humaira Begum I agree with you, it’s ridiculous for a man to even think he can take care of one wife, no way he could be a good husband to more than one- plus, I’m sure that women would prefer to live alone rather than have to contend with her husband having multiple wives- as far as the single adult woman who wants children, there are so many children all over the world that need loving homes, and adoption would be the best thing for these children. A woman could live a much more peaceful life without a husband, in comparison to being one of many wives- talk about chaos!
Islam Explained oh great we helped so many women lol children are so happy knowing oh dad is with the second one sexing there tonight lol Let me make boy friends girl friend because dad playing making me all excited hahaha
true, true. but why doesnt he mention the part that says if you are afraid of being unfair towards your wives than marry only one that is best for you. 4:3
truthwillrule X because he's a typical mainstream "sheik": speak for woman as 'special' cases and make men seem innocent. he's. not Islamic and not following Islam in the right way.
To be able to maintain the family. In Islam, it is necessary for a man who wants to marry one woman or more to be able to meet their feeding, drinking, clothing and housing expenses. The Prophet (PBUH) said the following: “O young men! Those among you who can support a wife should marry…” (Bukhari, Sawm, 10, Nikah, 2, 3, 19; Muslim, Nikah, 1,3; Abu Dawud, Nikah, I; Ibn Majah, Nikah, ; Nasai, Siyam, 43) There is no doubt that the hardship of marriage lies in the expenses of the wife. “You are never able to do justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire: but turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air).” (an-Nisa, 4/129) “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
@@ImranKhan-xh3hr do you remember the story: a man came to our Prophet sav and complained of poor life. Our Prophet advised: marry. Then he came again complaining and our Prophet said: marry. And again... the man started living good life after 3rd marriage. Sahabiys were not rich when marrying the 2nd 3rd or 4th wives. I dont think it s a criteria if the man can be just with all, which is not easy.
@@jamessmart5291 To be able to maintain the family. In Islam, it is necessary for a man who wants to marry one woman or more to be able to meet their feeding, drinking, clothing and housing expenses. The Prophet (PBUH) said the following: “O young men! Those among you who can support a wife should marry…” (Bukhari, Sawm, 10, Nikah, 2, 3, 19; Muslim, Nikah, 1,3; Abu Dawud, Nikah, I; Ibn Majah, Nikah, ; Nasai, Siyam, 43) There is no doubt that the hardship of marriage lies in the expenses of the wife. “You are never able to do justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire: but turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air).” (an-Nisa, 4/129) “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
Imam Shaafi’i offered an additional exegesis for the final clause of the pivotal verse discussing the divine legislation of polygyny and the divine limitations imposed upon this ancient institution.[9] He espoused that the closing clause of verse 4:3, usually interpreted as ‘that is more suitable that you may not incline to injustice’ should be understood as ‘that is more suitable that you may not be financially strained by numerous children’. Imam Shaafi’i reasoned that divine decree had already listed fear of committing injustice as a reason to not wed more than once, hence it was pointless for the same reason (for not wedding more than once) to be expounded twice in the same verse. His alternative interpretation pursued the perception which held that the presence of a plurality of women in a man's conjugal life would produce undesirably large numbers of offspring, which could be a potential cause of financial hardship and poverty in the future. Given the emphasis that Islamic law stipulates on the welfare of children and nurturing children with permitted means of income, Imam Shaafi’i opined that it was legislated for a man to marry just once as an increase in the population of a family due to multiple marriages could potentially harbour harmful monetary consequences for the man who marries more than once.[9] Ash-Shaafi’i is of the view that it is desirable to confine oneself to marrying only one although it is permissible for him to marry more than one. This is to avoid being unfair by being more inclined to some of them than others, or being unable to financially support them. [al-Hawi al-Kabir 11/417].[11]
As Salaamu Alaykum Sheikh Yasin, I so enjoyed this information directed at the Muslimah in Palygamy. I was clapping and praising Allah all the way through your advise to my Sisters in Islam. You have been and still are a good source of information on this serious issue of sharing the love, etc of a married brother who has the desire for following the Quran and Sunnah of Islam, It is and was a pleasure listening and with clear explanation of this issue to receive a clear and truthful lesson on what Allah says and what His Prophet says in the Noble Quran and the Authentic Hadiths,. May Allah accept your fasting and continue to bless you with His Hikman and good and clear speech, Ameen. As Salaamu Alaykum wa Rahmatulilahi wa Barakatuh.
To be able to maintain the family. In Islam, it is necessary for a man who wants to marry one woman or more to be able to meet their feeding, drinking, clothing and housing expenses. The Prophet (PBUH) said the following: “O young men! Those among you who can support a wife should marry…” (Bukhari, Sawm, 10, Nikah, 2, 3, 19; Muslim, Nikah, 1,3; Abu Dawud, Nikah, I; Ibn Majah, Nikah, ; Nasai, Siyam, 43) There is no doubt that the hardship of marriage lies in the expenses of the wife. “You are never able to do justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire: but turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air).” (an-Nisa, 4/129) “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
Asalaamu alaykum, I encouraged my husband to marry a 2nd wife. He had no children I had 6 from my marriage before I became Muslim. He chose not to, but because of the marriage I had i truly just wanted a companion. MashAllah may Allah for give his sins and grant him Jannah. Ameen. My husband has returned to Allah but I learned a lot about myself from him.
@@djaz1054 very kind, but its my hope that Sisters will know love is not limited or less because of another Sister. Love deeper. Want for your Brother what you want for yourself. I live by it as much as I can. ❤
@U 571 thank you, but it is Allah who has made it To be. May Allah bring good in this world and the Hereafter and base your heart firmly upon faith and all your ibbadah be accepted. Ameen
Polygamy is not compulsory in Islam rather its allowed if someone wanted to practice polygamy or in certain circumstances which there are conditions that have to be fulfilled too, otherwise Quran says marry only one, it's permitted but not compulsory nor encouraged
Polygamy can or cannot work depending on the parties involved. I get a bit tired of the generalisations. We can accept polygamy is part of Islam, that's pretty obvious. But as it is in England at least, it is VERY HARD for a man to provide for a family. And that's without even being extravagant. And the man really needs to be intelligent before going into this. Because if he is insensitive and selfish, treats one better than the other, that's going to be disastrous. I frankly struggle to get over a lot of things that happened to me when I was in polygamy. The more some sisters give the more arrogant some brothers can get when they get comfortable. Pretty tragic. In sha'Allah brothers behave better. Forget a woman's jealousy. A woman numbs herself after time and kills her emotions to get by. But everyone has a breaking point.
🙏 There's is always a way.. Put الله Allah first in everything and day by day..step by step things will get better.. ان شاء الله .. Thanks for sharing.. I will put an extra layer to the way I am to be better.. after reading this.. I think just like there are good woman there are also good men.. ان شاء الله you will attract the good man to come to you with your positive.. energy 🙏 I want to help .. I am here to help.. and everyone with a good intention.. is ready to help too.. الله is with you الله معاك 🙏
@@mknmohamed Salaam. JazakAllah khair for your kind words. Alhamdulillah for everything. There are good men and women of course, and we also make mistakes. But we always have hope in Allah, and He is the Best of Planners.
Soo the husband will be lier,if he does not tell his wife the truet about a nother wife and children,that's like if be is a cheater,and a big time liar if he is a Muslim and a true believer the he should be hones and fear Allah much in his heart::
again the womas is not hidden. It's just that he doesn't have to innform her before getting married so she doesn't get in the way. but we prefer that there is an understanding between husband and wife
IM a woman convert and I live in the us and I am my husbands second wife . Alhamdulillah...... Mashallah .brother this video is amazing and very touching.
You should read up on some history young man/women about your beloved usa. The so-called whites of america invaded america 100's of years ago and slaughtered the people already living there. today they are still invading & slaughtering millions every due to false accusations of wmd or fake attacks made up & blasted through the devilish media. nothing has changed much. What hate speech....99% of Muslims preach peace. why dont you go listen yourself & stop watching fox & cnn..this is 'justice/
I just want to thank the sheik and may Allah reward him with the best in jannah for his efforts. This talk opened my eyes SubhanAllah. HasbunAllah wa naam alWakeel!
I don't understand why people make an issue of polygamy in Islam as if prior to Islam men only married one wife. The common culture was to marry as many wife as you want. Islam put a limit with strict conditions of someone wants to marry more than once.
@@heewatamsuen7252 peace brother do u no in the bible that the king had over 300 wives. And the only religion that stated man was able to only 4, was only Islam
You know before I used to think it was ok to mess around but since I fell in love, I know we can be with one person. Not every human is the one for you and sex isnt good with every person. You are blessed if God put's love in the man's and women's heart (who are married). People dont understand.
I'm not against polygamy, I know it's permitted by Allah under certain conditions, but If man takes marriage seriously he should tell his first wife, it's the mature, responsible, and respectful way to go about it. Respect and trust is everything in any relationship. When you marry behind your wife's back you're destroying any trust there was between you. And that's not a small thing. Instead some men take a second wife and end up losing both. Most second wives divorce their husbands because regardless of what men say, their real intention when marrying a second woman is to have her around for sex. Once the second wife realizes that, she'll leave because no woman wants to be just a sex toy. The first wife might stay if she has kids. But in today's society where a lot of people don't live close to their parents, and children are raised either by one parent or both with little help, it would probably be easier to get a divorce and move close to your parents. It would be easier than raising kids with someone who's not there 75% of the time or more since a lot of men don't divide their time equaly. If one wife fulfills her duties but isn't happy, he'll just go to the other wife. Today's societal structure and the upbringing of most men and women isn't compatible with polygamy. And if we're being honest it usually creates more problems than it solves. The whole family breaks up, or hatred grows between family members. Do men even consider the sexual desires of their wives? How can you possibly satisfy four when most men can't satisfy one? They love talking about how women are a test for men and so men should get more wives, but then that becomes a test on the wife too, because she's alone all the time. Why would you be okay with the person you love being anguishes, depressed and suicidal if you really loved them? Men put their desires first and humanity second, and I don't believe that's how it was intended to be. The way muslim men talk about marriage and women tests my faith more than anything else. Men want to be by the book when it comes to their rights, but expect their wives to be considerate, thoughtful and reasonable when it comes to the wife's rights. So many women help their husband pay bills and stuff willingly even though technically they don't have to no matter how much money they make. If she doesn't help she's stingy and self-centered. Thankfully most men will never find someone who wants to be their second wife (halal sex toy). If men were really serious about bringing polygamy back, they would focus on bringing good men back.
TSOC calm down please. She could be a daughter of a father who has multiple wives and affected by it. The conditions that Allah put to have multiple wives are so difficult that no men can do it.
I feel sorry for your husband if you have one. You message is sounds polluted with your personal issues and illness you have regarding this issue. You always starts with.."I don't have a problem with it, but....." And 'halal sex you?! Where did you get this talk from? Even if we speak your immature language, then as least it's 'Halal' which is permitted by Allah! Sort your issues out and get a grip!
Marriage is not always about Sex. It should be an unselfish relationship. There is more to marriage than Sex. If a sister can't see beyond Sex, then she is not matured and have the wrong influences around her. She need to find some mature women who will help her to focus on the suna and Our Prophet, Mohammed, saw. It is a wise person who can take correction and a fool who despises it. They should focus on themselves instead of the attacking the person who is trying to help you to mature and grow. Change is a good thing and one who stays the same their whole life is still a child and need to grow up. People who can't change is called "Developmentally challenged or disabled. ;~)
I’m here to see all the sisters comments.... 👀🌚 Masha’Allah this is an amazing lecture that covers so many things in this particular topic! All the women AND men of this Ummah need to watch this.
i disagree, i think even though the husband doesnt need his wifes permission, she should know that he has a second wife. Husbands cant just keep a secret second wife somewhere, thats lying. Everytime he goes to visit her or her child he would have to lie
+Wai Ai Yu no it IS mandatory, taking permission is mustajaba. Letting the wife know that she isnt his only wife is fard. Because its a lie to tell your wife that shes ur only wife when in fact shes not. Zakir naik gave a talk on this a few months back
Sadia Ahmed be careful with saying something is "Fardh" coz by saying that, you are implying that there is a verse in the Quran regarding it. In your claim, there isn't one! Only a statement in the Quran can make something Fardh. If it doesn't exist in the Quran, its not Fardh! Thank you.
He didn't say he should never tell her. What he means is that he can wait until after he has married the second before telling the first wife, so that the first wife would not prevent him from marrying the second wife.
Umar Muktar no that's not exactly what he said. He said to inform her out of kindness to her as it would affect her life as she is part of you now... He would need to be fair with his time and funds from the moment he made nikah to the 2nd wife. Surely the 1st wife would need to know he would be spending alternative nights with his other wife. There is so much benefit from polygyny I pray ppl would just accept and submit to the wisdom of ALLAH ﷻ. آمين يارب العالمين
I needed to hear this so bad! Allah is speaking to me! Thank you Ameen I wish I could speak to one of the Nation of Islam elders about how it should be done correctly in being in a dual marriage!
I was excited to learn more about Islam and excited to marry a Muslim Brother. Now I'm just sick. I'm not strong enough to deal with this. Maybe this isn't for me.
He doesn't necessarily need to marry more then one tho so if he agrees that he'll marry only then its ok nothing to be sick about just human preferences
Don't be discouraged sis. This is a hot topic for all these men but most Muslim men don't actually practice polygamy. It's a fantasy for most of them. In fact, according to world stats the practice of polygamy has been steadily declining. Most Muslim men are only willing or able to be monogamous. So if you're serious about Islam and marrying a Muslim man, continue to do your research and find a man who isn't interested in polygamy. To make sure it's not just lip service, you can put a no-polygamy clause in the nikah contract. If he breaks it, you have the right to annul the marriage contract. Understand that polygamy is halal for Muslim men but it's not haram for us to not want to engage in that lifestyle. May Allah have mercy on us all & guide you to the beauty of Islam. All the best to you.
You don't need to go with poligamy if you Don't want. It is dependent to the permussion of 1st wife. It is matter if choice not must to do. It is allowed in Islam for the guy who is not satisfied with one
Qur'an is the only book that said "Marry only one" According to Islamic laws, marrying more than one is "Optional" and the rule for that is to be "just". An Islamic Scholar Shafii said, "When the rule is corrupted, the only action is corrupted". It should be noted that Polygamy is not compulsory or encouraged act, it is "permitted". Even the close companions of the Prophet did not practise it. This video is there to educate us about the advantages of polygamy not reinforcing it.
It is simple, sisters if your man marries a second wife, just leave him if u cannot handle polygamy. Look for a single man. But it is not your right to.stop him, it is your right to leave him and stay alone
SubhanAllah...Allah has created all of humanity...Allah's wisdom is supreme...The creator knows us inside out and knows whats best for us, both men and women! Allah's laws are based on supreme practicality, wisdom, justice and fairness and not what we humans wrongly think as being right!!
May Allah bless Sheikh Khalid Yasin and increase him in knowledge and wisdom. As a muslim woman I am in agreeance with the Sheikh on everything expect one point. I agree that the husband does not require permission of the wife, but I disagree that he does not need to let her know. She must absolutely be informed of any plans to introduce another wife into the family, and at this point the sister also has the right to seek patience with Allah - or remove herself in kindness from the situation if this is something she feel sincerely she cannot deal with. It is absolutely a deception to keep this information from her and I believe it is a sin, as you will knowingly and purposely be creating mischief in doing so. This allowance for multiple wives is a protection for the wives as we get older is it not right for our husbands to trade us in for newer models and leave us to the curb after we have sacrificed our youth, body and beauty for them, but they are permitted to take on another wife while still being obligated to take care of us and give us a fair amount of attention and affection. Similarly there are those sisters who rather struggle and be alone than share their husband and Allah has made a way for them as well, in divorce.
The fear that is mentioned like there is not enough men(statistics)so settle and control your jealousy be an obedient sacrifice. GOD is an abundant GOD and your person is in the plan for you and your faith should give you the confidence of that. I don’t have a scarcity mindset when it comes to GOD but that’s just me. If this set up works for you great.
I am muslim.I have one wife until I leave this earth.Let me tell you something about muslims have to have so many wife.If you love them equally if you buy house one wife buy the other one the same thing, Al-Amin told us don't disrespectful to our sisters and don't abuse them.Only one man do that Al-Amin.Preach polygamy easy honestly practice very hard.A lot of men saw only the sexual aspect of it.There is no one verse in Koran said practice polygamy none zero.
Muslims Love For All Hate For None (Fight back with Love) My beloved sister in Islam. It's not for you to say you don't allow your husband. This is the Deen of Allah. Allah says , it's not befitting for one who believes in Allah and the last Day that when He and His messenger have decided on matter you have any say. This Deen is naseeha
Hayat Musa Wail I am bout to marry a married brother but my mum s against it but I wanna marry him for the sake of Allah...besides I 've never been married n never engaged in any illicit affair
One of those rules should be if the wive(s) agree to participate in a polygamy relationship. God has given you permission to pursue polygamy if that is what you wish but you still need permission from the women as well because marriage is a contract and someone cannot be part of a contract if she hasn't first agreed to it. She is a person, not property.
You know what he is talking about ? if you are litrate enough to watch his video in here, I hope your god has given you the brain and use google, to find out the real statastics. Why, he is talking about western, as there is 0.50 :1 ratio in east. Now the question is Why. So many from your religion marry to 4. 4:1, leaving 3 people without a wife. LOL, you ideots , no one can help you. you loosers.
Yes, keep listening to the senseless jiberish this dumbas is feeding you like mindless goats, cos that's what any of you who actually considers what he says are!!
As a muslimah I am agree with polygamous marriage. One of the reason is that I admitted I physically can't be with my future husband all the time. I need my me time. There's gonna be the time when I really don't wanna be touch by my husband. It would be nice if another wife be with him while I just wanna be by myself. It will eliminate flirty eyes, fornication and reduce the rate of single women.
Let me tell you that your men is not an animal,who need intercourse and you have to run!! You are his wife his honor the mother of his children and for that you have to be respected!! And if your future husband tells you he need a second wife he don't respect you.Period- A men who can't lower his caze it's not a real men- And why would you give your men to an other women? What I love i would never ever let others touch them from strangers. Our Prophet S.A.S. and the Shahadah was doing that at time of war because many women lost his husband or son in the wars (no Muharram) no help etc. and that's why he say'd it was a good thing to do. They married also very old women because of that. One day you go see if your idea was good or not-ALLAH S.W.T. Know's best.
Alhamdullilah, so much happy now that a sister is saying that, I would say Allah has blessed you with a wisdom of deen, MashAllah, that's spectacular. May Allah bless you with more happiness. Ameen
Mariyam try to read in Quar an Surah 8:17 ,9:29,59:2 if your God command you to SLAY,KILL CAST TERROR IN THIER HEARTH...OF YOUR ENEMY..THAT IS NOT...GOD.
if anyone sees this I have a question. Near the end of this video he said no one can question a man on choosing another wife, regarding his time, his money etc. No one should question him, but a man I know secretely married another woman. He didn't tell her, and when she discovered it he lied to her and said he didn't. First of all his first wife also had mental illness, e.g depression and anxiety because she was widowed in her early 20s. So being decieved by his actions had severe emotional implications for someone who is already mentally weak. So how can this advice be good in such a case? Secondly, he by no means has the finances to uphold his first family as well as a new one... but he determines himself he can have another wife for his own needs. He never gave his first wife her rights as a wife, nor his children e.g providing for them, but chooses to for his second wife. In such a case some of this advice cannot apply...?
Maybe he wants more wives. this has nothing to do with public advice. Because he did not tell the men their responsibility only their right to have many women they want and that is very dangerous advice 😒😒😏😏
A K Obviously this man is not man enough to even look after the first, Brother Khalid mentioned that a Man no doubt he was referring to a real Man and not one who is a irresponsible and gives his first wife a dogs life.
Thank you for this video! I already know what is righteous in Islam. Allah blessed me to be introduced to polygyny as a child. I accepted it then, for our family, and InshaAllh, I shall now embark on this way of life for myself. This is to please Allah as well as to please my beloved husband. To follow the life of the Prophet Mohammed (MPBUH), is a vital part of worship to Allah. My future husband is everything a man should be. Why would I deny his right to have the wives he chooses? I would not! He does all he can in pleasing me and making my life comfortable, so he deserves the same in return!!!!
***** you do have a right if he didn't let you know before marriage that he was already married or he wants couple more wifes then consider it being fooled or cheated on. I personally would ask for a divorce because if you are smart enough you wouldn't get involved with him to start with but then Allah knows best talk to your local imaams
Debra, I am seeking a good wife like yourself. Unfortunately, I am not Muslim, but a good man I am. I follow only African Spirituality belief system of Maat. So I am a moral individual. I believe polygamy is a good solution for Black America because of the crisis they face from White Supremacy. As the Brotha Khalid stated, the ratio between men and women are way off and many of our women are left alone to fend for themselves. WE have to change this paradigm to create better stability and ease of life burdens. www.panafricanalliance.com/polygamy/#comment-9509
It’s weird he subtracted the amount of men that are gay or do not want to marry but did not subtract the amount of women who do I want to marry or lesbians It’s a flawed calculation
most women turn lesbian afeter a ba experience with men. Most lesbians turn bi or stait when they get old because she understands she needs a man in her life.
What about the verse that says if you can not do justice between wives, then you should marry only one? And what about the verse that says, you can never do justice between wives even if it's your heart's desire? That verse alone let's you know that you can't so you should take only one, y'all know it's there, some of y'all have memorized the whole Quran. How many of you righteous brothers would still take a 2nd, 3rd or 4th wife, if you were only allowed to marry widows and single mothers? A lot of you brothers will have one shoulder higher than the other on the judgment day before being thrown into the hell 🔥 fire. In the end it will be your own lustful desires that ultimately destroy you.
2 things sister. 1. Rasulullah (alayhi salatu wa salaam) had more than one wife, and so did many of his contemporaries. So either you have the correct interpretation, or Rasulullah (alayhi salatu wa salaam) and the sahabah (radi allahu anhum) have the correct interpretation. It should be clear who does. 2. Be careful when talking about the punishment Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) will inflict in someone, that is left alone to Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala). There is a hadith about a rightgeous man who was talking to another man who was not rightheous. The rightheous man said the other one was sure to end up in Jahannam. On the day of judgement Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) will ask the rightgeous man about this. And he will tell him that judgement and punishment is left to him alone. In the end, all the good deeds the rightgeous man did will be credited to the other man, and he will enter Jannah, meanwhile the rightheous man will enter Jahannam. Just say Allahu alam. 'Cause it's true, Allah knows best, even everything I just wrote, Allah knows best. Salaam sister.
Safiyah Yasharahla “You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them (by giving her more of your time and provision) so as to leave the other hanging (i.e. neither divorced nor married). And if you do justice, and do all that is right and fear Allah by keeping away from all that is wrong, then Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” 4:129 this is the full ayah.
LOL so... did o you have an actual point or did you just wanna rant? Also.. my 2nd/3rd wife would only be widows or single mothers. There are lustful men out there but there are just as many good natured men if not more.
To inform first wife before second wife is a Good gesture and good faith It is Not Waaajeeb or Compulsion. This is Islam Take it or leave , a woman has the right to divorce. One cannot question the directives of Allah . Simple
Sub7anallah, what about the woman who are lesbian, trans, not interested in marriage, etc... everything you mentioned in men also happens in women. Don’t you see that? So actually in the end it should even out! Plus why is a woman’s feelings always disregarded by men? It’s not fair ya Allah... women go through soooooo much in life! Periods, pregnancies, child birth, menopause! You know it feels like men just use us and throw us away and they never taste the hardship the women goes through our entire life!! I don’t believe this is the definition of polygamy. I think it has a place in time and specific situations but I do not agree that a woman has to just sit there and take it while her husband is sleeping with another woman... you call it jealousy fine! Maybe you’ll know what that feels like if it where reverse!!! Men are way more jealous than woman. It truly is a mans world, I hope Allah swt sets you straight on the day of judgement. You are quiet harsh in all your lectures... I wouldn’t convert watching you!
Lesbians, Trans and Gays aren't a problem so that won't be a problem. But there are way more men than women in prison men have a higher mortality rate and there are already more women than men in this world. So no matter how you split it there will be more women than men available for marriage. Women going thru all those problems is one of Allah's tribulations. There isn't anything a man can do about a woman's hardships when it comes to physiological problems. Us men also go thru a lot, but as men we can't go about complaining about all of our problems like women do. Yes Men were given power over the women. But that is how Allah made it, I think the reward you will get from Allah is better than whatever hardships you might go through. Also I feel that your last 3 statements are quite harsh.
@@cupofmatcha7989 Does the Quran or Hadith say that is all I care about, you don't take everyone's opinion because any reasonable person tries not to have an opinion.
I don't think polygamy is good at all. From what I read the Quran presents polygamy as an exception rather than the rule and it's implied that it's a last resort of sorts. I personally don't see the wisdom in polygamy especially in this day and age.
Allah knew about this day and age so you need to be very careful not to make a comment that can take you out of Islam. If Allah says something is good for us then it is even if we do not understand or see the wisdom in it. This is a common problem today, especially with those living in the west have lost sight of what Islam is all about and adopted the ways of the kuffar. Allah Knows Best
Asalaam Alaikum wa Rahmantuallahi wa Barakatu this is great talk. Instant all sisters listen and take heed so that the sisters, such as myself may find a husband.
The message is an excellent. Alhamdulillah. Having spent my early years as a Catholic, polygamy was difficult to conceive, and I saw the effects of secret paramours on marriages. I accepted Islam and polygamy as Allah's command. Living in the west, it was, at first, hard to think of my spouse taking another wife, especially since, the newcomer's attitude often is.." something must be wrong with you if he wants me". Alhamdulillah, some brothers have the wisdom to involve his wife in his choice and decision and harmony prevails, especially if the husband fulfils his responsibility properly. Brothers need to see polygamy as a means of being responsible and fulfilling his duty as shown by the Prophet SAW. We need to see the justice in Allah's plan and submit. Brothers who CANNOT afford to maintain another wife, should NOT take on what he cannot deal with, abusing his wives in the process.
Have it been forgotten that ALLAH SUBHANA WA TA 'ALA declare 4 wives as a limit, but conclude to that verse by stating that ONE (wife) is best if man only knew....
What about the woman that like women, the women that join the military, the women that don't want kids, what about the women on drugs, the women in jail, the women with men of different races, but I respect your opinion brother
No offense, but the way you counted the 7.5:1 ration for men:women is utterly ridiculous. About 47% Americans are unmarried. This nonsense ratio will never concur. And if you could pls provide Quranic proof to say (In you traditional inherent rendition) that a man can marry a woman unless they are Al-Yathama or fatherless children I will give you, any of you my respect. I mean Quranic proof, not just belief or explanations without scriptural proof. And please explain why you are not quoting the full verse. It does not say "Marry women of your choice". When we Muslims ask Christians to quote their bible in context all the time like parrots why arent we following our own request? Where is the part about fatherless children or orphans? And Mathna, Thulatha, Rubah does not mean 2, 3 or 4, rather it means twos, threes or fours. Know your own scripture or rather dont change your scriptural meaning to support your cause. I dont mean to offend anyone but these are facts in the Furqan. Peace.
Karolein Jorgensen Polygamy is a practice that only makes sense at the macro level in certain situations (such as when famine or war reduces the availability of able husbands), whereas men are likely to take advantage of such institutions for their own gain if it is common. So, God provides for polygamy as an alternative, but only orders that His followers use it in certain situations.
We share a man whether by choice or not...I would prefer to be a second wife with this understanding. Than to be married to a man thinking I'm the ONLY woman in his life and find later he's a man who cheats...they are not the same
petra bach since I'm not a man, I can't answer that; perhaps you should ask one and see. The truth of the matter is; in the west the majority of men who do cheat on their spouses, don't give they're spouse a choice or say so. This behavior is deceptive & dangerous.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala said: وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا فِى الْيَتٰمٰى فَانْكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِّنَ النِّسَآءِ مَثْنٰى وَثُلٰثَ وَرُبٰعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا فَوٰحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمٰنُكُمْ ۚ ذٰلِكَ أَدْنٰىٓ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا "And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]." (QS. An-Nisaa 4: Verse 3) When Allah Subhana tala said marry once and this way the possibility is more that you won't do unjustice . Clearly if one can't do justice he should marry only once , clearly men nowadays can't do that.
@@a.n_artstudio7814 ameen. The thing is I have small kids otherwise mashallah I am beautiful and a good woman alhamdulilah. Once he remarries I will leave inshallah
@@user-ve4zw6jp9i get out of that marriage i hope you are safe with your kids and you find an amazing husband with 0 wives and he feels complete with you and your kids
@@Samsamxo ameen . Thank you . I doubt there is many real ones out there . For now my rent is being paid and my kids dont interact with him at all but I ask Allah for what is good for us insha Allah
These words sound beautiful. But how manage emotions when husband married younger one? How manage feelings about he married other because I am old, the same with him age. How manage wet eyes fŕom his mistakes regarding to be ok to all? I pray, yes, I ask Allah to help me, but unfortunatelly in mostly cases when husband has more than one, it is good for him only. Maybe there are and happy families, I don't argue, may Allah bless them. I really need a help, I don't have opportunities to go to the therapist. Maybe some one can recomend some book or video about this topic. I will be greatfull.
May Allah make it easy for our sisters. But if you want to understand that it is not for his benefit only, when yours gets a second, leave him for the second wife and u remain without a husband. ..
The prophet's daughter Fatima's husband, Ali, wanted to take a 2nd wife but she objected to his 2nd marriage so the Prophet told Ali that if he wanted to marry a 2nd wife, he would have to divorce Fatima 1st. So, he did not marry a 2nd wife and stayed with Fatima.
Yes, that's a good example, he has to respect her feelings too, Sheikh did mention that, as far as I remember he didn't have to divorce Fatima but Prophet Muhammad PBUH said that Ali would be going against his wishes too, in this case, if a Muslim man is deciding whether or not to take another wife he must consider the opinion of his first wife's father/wali
No man? Jesus was a man? And christianity is your religion? Jesus was a great prophet and he will return soon to prove how wrong you were to turn into a god.
My father’s first wife had 10 children with him and only 3 girls survived out of the 10. When she saw that she’s getting older and can no longer bear children she persuaded him to marry again so that he may have sons and went and found him a young beautiful widow, my mother. My father had 5 children with my mother 3 sons and 2 daughters. The relationship of my father and two mothers was not the best and all three of them made mistakes may Allah have mercy on them but if polygamy was not allowed today me and my brothers and sisters would not be here. I personally don’t wanna do it because I don’t think I can be fair to more then one women but Allah knows me best and he knows what’s best for me, so I never say anything with certainty because only Allah knows the future. My sisters as the brother said in this video please do not let your feelings override the decree of Allah for he knows us best and my brothers please be fair with your wives for they are the most precious gifts that Allah has given us men, Alhamdullilah.
May Allah fill our hearts with patience and fear of Allah, as a first wife I can't go against what Allah has allowed, that's what a muslimah who submits to Allah's will. May Allah make it easy for us all.
Yeah, it clears my mind too! I can't even being to measure all the brain cells that have died while I watched this video. Glad we could agree on something.
Women share their love between all of her children, other family, parents, friends all the time. A heart big enough to love a sister-in-law is also big enough to love a sister wife/co-wife
Mala Orealz true, thats why this is not easy for a woman. Even a mother in law & sister-in-law have this animosity towards son’s wife they can’t share their son/brother.
I agree. Today most men are unfaithful and most women are willing to help. Polygamy works with human nature and calls for us to regulate it and act responsibly.
What if the man wants a 2nd wife but his current relationship needs attention... There are men who are capable of doing it and some are not. Also some women can handle it and some can not...
each case is different but also in islam this is why a woman has a wali or a guardian who can make a judgement on her behalf and assure she is not being taken advantage of.
@@ImranKhan-xh3hr You are taking that out of context. Here is the full verse "And you will never be able to be equal [in feeling] between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. So do not incline completely [toward one] and leave another hanging. And if you amend [your affairs] and fear Allah - then indeed, Allah is ever Forgiving and Merciful."
If you support him to get married 2nd wife he can start to more respect on you because you have done a favour for him. Till he gets married 2nd wife he cannot pay attention for you because he's in need of 2nd wife.
As a Sheikh whom people listen to and follow, I would expect a better job from you. You have great responsibility and you are not bearing it well. It is critical to mention that in Islam the Prophet pbuh himself stressed that it is BEST and recommended to have only 1 wife Only 1. What was allowed to the Prophet pbuh was special and you can not keep comparing any man to the Prophet pbuh. The husband should always seek to be 100% fair to his 2 (or 3 or 4) wives AND he will NEVER be 100% fair. This has great meaning. The fact that allowing the husband to marry another is considered equivalent to jihad only emphasizes how DIFFICULT it is to the woman to accept this and how great a task it is for her. Hence, the great reward. Another important point is, the existing wife should approve of the new wife, as a condition. Otherwise, it is more an act of breaking a good home and damaging a halal relationship and family, rather than adding value to it. I understand that the ego of men and their appetite for pleasure plays a role here. Most brothers are not seeking to take care of their sisters in Islam. No. They are dreaming of sleeping with more than one woman and enjoying themselves under the umbrella of "halal". They are not broken hearted over sisters who are single. I see mostly comments from men here, excited over the idea. Polygamy, which is not encouraged, should have a reason. For example inability to bear children, etc. Again, if the husband and wife agree, then expanding the family with another wife is a blessing. On the other hand, if it causes issues or is forced by the husband, it can be a curse. Actions should be weighed carefully. AlhamduliLlah for the wisdom and mercy of Allah swt and him guiding us towards a pious life. May we choose wisely and treat our spouses the way we wish to be treated: with love, respect and kindness.
May Allah guide us ALL and forgive you for your comments. Please provide evidence for your claim that it is "BEST" [in caps] to have just one wife. If you do not have evidence for your claim, make tawbah for talking about something in Islam without knowledge and evidence. Allah knows best.
alhamdulilahi..thanks for the upload but no matter what some people will always find hypocrisy in whatever we do or say just cos we muslims..look at the big picture
Am a woman ,and am married
I say JazzakAllah kheir brother khalid,it’s truth we need to accept Allah’s plan for us....
Do your own research in Tafseer
@MAC MA the creator
@MAC MA Allah is unseen so he is not an idol
@MAC MA I believe in one God we call him.Allah and I hope he has mercy on Me one say Aameen
Mashallah may your husband get 4 new younger wives and talaq you when you old and ugly..alahamdulila!
This man gave the best explanation I ever heard.. Mashallah
I’m a single parent and have been for many years this never crossed my mind when I was young and married, but now Subhan’Allah Allah has made me understand the benefits of sharing a husband. The sad thing is not enough men and women are on their deen enough to do this successfully I rate those who do. May Allah guide us with knowledge and patience to do the right thing Aameen.
Sigh your stupidity is astonishing.
Polygamy is destroying marriages! Terrible
Me too sister. When I was younger i hated men who practiced polygamy. Now I see the deep wisdom and need for it. We were programmed to think it's wrong and that it helps the man. All it really does for the man is feed his ego. The women win in the end.
@@JahannamHellfire If done in secret yes, if all people are happy it’s no one else’s business. Their are plenty of women that are going to be left childless and single, never will they experience having their own child. This can be the answer to a lot of modern day problems.
@@safiyyahumar3915 Indeed my sister yes x
'''marry women,whom you think good '' two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then marry only one''' Al Quran Surah nisa 3
this video makes me wanna marry 2 wives
Bismillah.
@@BigBoy.African This is not as easy as you think.
@@BigBoy.African Good luck, this is truly a blessing if done correctly.
The sura starts as " if you wish to protect orphans or widows then marry women of your choice in 2s 3s or 4s........"
They’re against polygamy but grateful to formication. Insane
Your Ans:
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@@TechnicalEmir no one clock ur link
The laws of Nature: Truly, I say man don't live by that law, but truly man lives by the words that proceed out of God mouth. Now we must see that this is the desire of the heart and one must quickly deal with: We must not wave our eyes away as Christians have done so in God presences, but this is truly a topic that one must engage with God, with the matter of heart.
at least all parties agree in fornication. the first wife voice does not matter at all, her consent isnt even considered. the man just goes on his way marrying as many women as he wants ....In this day and age, polygamy does not benefit society. Prove me wrong.
Also polyamory that's becoming a new trend in the west and it's ok since LGBT people do it they get away with everything double standards
alhamdulillah on my first steps being muslim ((2014-) i learned polygamy, why and so many why's was answered alhamdulillah, and never knew in future that Allah prepares me to be in polygamy marriage,(2016) and alhamdulillah all this years of being muslim and married into polygamous man, i can say i am blessed that Allah allows me understand about polygamy, my co-wife loves me for the sake of Allah and i love her for the sake of Allah, ❤️❤️❤️
Can you tell me more about your experience? I’d like to diversify my knowledge and what better way than a healthy polygamy thank you so much sis!
Mashallah 😊
Mashallah
@@alexianeves As-salaamu alaikum. Check out the "Outstanding Personal Relationships" channel. It will provide exactly what you're looking for. Insha Allah.
@@Back2traditional do you feel good if your wife will have another husband?
What happens if there are 5 women and only 2 men? Will 3 women live single and not have the opportunity to have a family? God has the solution....you dont. GOD knows his creation.
There is no such scenario now in the modern times. Lol 😂...
I don't understand in anyway how men can marry upto 4 women. Lol!!
Sure there is, many divorced women and women with children struggle in finding a spouse. Allowing them to be a co-wife would allow them to easily find a husband. I also feel that Muslims have bought into 'culture' and attached a stigma to such sisters too but allowing polygamy (as one sister in a similar situation stated) would allow such sisters to find husbands.
Humaira Begum I agree with you, it’s ridiculous for a man to even think he can take care of one wife, no way he could be a good husband to more than one- plus, I’m sure that women would prefer to live alone rather than have to contend with her husband having multiple wives- as far as the single adult woman who wants children, there are so many children all over the world that need loving homes, and adoption would be the best thing for these children. A woman could live a much more peaceful life without a husband, in comparison to being one of many wives- talk about chaos!
Islam Explained oh great we helped so many women lol children are so happy knowing oh dad is with the second one sexing there tonight lol
Let me make boy friends girl friend because dad playing making me all excited hahaha
Humaira Begum clearly you are a frog in a well
true, true. but why doesnt he mention the part that says if you are afraid of being unfair towards your wives than marry only one that is best for you. 4:3
truthwillrule X he did
truthwillrule X
he is trying to emphasise on polygomy because people reject it
truthwillrule X because he's a typical mainstream "sheik": speak for woman as 'special' cases and make men seem innocent. he's. not Islamic and not following Islam in the right way.
Namo rin what evidence do you have for your claim that he is not following Islam the right way?
truthwillrule X Allah actually says “i know you WON’T be able to be just”.. Allah knows his creation and this isn’t mentioned by most shaikhs
I love how Khalid Yasin makes statement. So much respect!
Well you married four wife nah your wife mustby happy
To be able to maintain the family. In Islam, it is necessary for a man who wants to marry one woman or more to be able to meet their feeding, drinking, clothing and housing expenses. The Prophet (PBUH) said the following:
“O young men! Those among you who can support a wife should marry…” (Bukhari, Sawm, 10, Nikah, 2, 3, 19; Muslim, Nikah, 1,3; Abu Dawud, Nikah, I; Ibn Majah, Nikah, ; Nasai, Siyam, 43)
There is no doubt that the hardship of marriage lies in the expenses of the wife.
“You are never able to do justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire: but turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air).” (an-Nisa, 4/129)
“A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196)
A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to.
It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it.
No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter.
By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
@@ImranKhan-xh3hr do you remember the story: a man came to our Prophet sav and complained of poor life. Our Prophet advised: marry. Then he came again complaining and our Prophet said: marry. And again... the man started living good life after 3rd marriage. Sahabiys were not rich when marrying the 2nd 3rd or 4th wives. I dont think it s a criteria if the man can be just with all, which is not easy.
@@jamessmart5291 To be able to maintain the family. In Islam, it is necessary for a man who wants to marry one woman or more to be able to meet their feeding, drinking, clothing and housing expenses. The Prophet (PBUH) said the following:
“O young men! Those among you who can support a wife should marry…” (Bukhari, Sawm, 10, Nikah, 2, 3, 19; Muslim, Nikah, 1,3; Abu Dawud, Nikah, I; Ibn Majah, Nikah, ; Nasai, Siyam, 43)
There is no doubt that the hardship of marriage lies in the expenses of the wife.
“You are never able to do justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire: but turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air).” (an-Nisa, 4/129)
“A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196)
A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to.
It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it.
No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter.
By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
Imam Shaafi’i offered an additional exegesis for the final clause of the pivotal verse discussing the divine legislation of polygyny and the divine limitations imposed upon this ancient institution.[9] He espoused that the closing clause of verse 4:3, usually interpreted as ‘that is more suitable that you may not incline to injustice’ should be understood as ‘that is more suitable that you may not be financially strained by numerous children’.
Imam Shaafi’i reasoned that divine decree had already listed fear of committing injustice as a reason to not wed more than once, hence it was pointless for the same reason (for not wedding more than once) to be expounded twice in the same verse.
His alternative interpretation pursued the perception which held that the presence of a plurality of women in a man's conjugal life would produce undesirably large numbers of offspring, which could be a potential cause of financial hardship and poverty in the future.
Given the emphasis that Islamic law stipulates on the welfare of children and nurturing children with permitted means of income, Imam Shaafi’i opined that it was legislated for a man to marry just once as an increase in the population of a family due to multiple marriages could potentially harbour harmful monetary consequences for the man who marries more than once.[9]
Ash-Shaafi’i is of the view that it is desirable to confine oneself to marrying only one although it is permissible for him to marry more than one. This is to avoid being unfair by being more inclined to some of them than others, or being unable to financially support them. [al-Hawi al-Kabir 11/417].[11]
As Salaamu Alaykum Sheikh Yasin, I so enjoyed this information directed at the Muslimah in Palygamy. I was clapping and praising Allah all the way through your advise to my Sisters in Islam. You have been and still are a good source of information on this serious issue of sharing the love, etc of a married brother who has the desire for following the Quran and Sunnah of Islam, It is and was a pleasure listening and with clear explanation of this issue to receive a clear and truthful lesson on what Allah says and what His Prophet says in the Noble Quran and the Authentic Hadiths,. May Allah accept your fasting and continue to bless you with His Hikman and good and clear speech, Ameen. As Salaamu Alaykum wa Rahmatulilahi wa Barakatuh.
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To be able to maintain the family. In Islam, it is necessary for a man who wants to marry one woman or more to be able to meet their feeding, drinking, clothing and housing expenses. The Prophet (PBUH) said the following:
“O young men! Those among you who can support a wife should marry…” (Bukhari, Sawm, 10, Nikah, 2, 3, 19; Muslim, Nikah, 1,3; Abu Dawud, Nikah, I; Ibn Majah, Nikah, ; Nasai, Siyam, 43)
There is no doubt that the hardship of marriage lies in the expenses of the wife.
“You are never able to do justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire: but turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air).” (an-Nisa, 4/129)
“A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196)
A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to.
It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it.
No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter.
By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
Asalaamu alaykum, I encouraged my husband to marry a 2nd wife. He had no children I had 6 from my marriage before I became Muslim. He chose not to, but because of the marriage I had i truly just wanted a companion. MashAllah may Allah for give his sins and grant him Jannah. Ameen. My husband has returned to Allah but I learned a lot about myself from him.
You're truly a good wife sister kind heart n trully love your husband
@@djaz1054 very kind, but its my hope that Sisters will know love is not limited or less because of another Sister. Love deeper. Want for your Brother what you want for yourself. I live by it as much as I can. ❤
@U 571 thank you, but it is Allah who has made it To be. May Allah bring good in this world and the Hereafter and base your heart firmly upon faith and all your ibbadah be accepted. Ameen
May Allah give you child sister
A'Siyah Ad-Deen Islam As salaam alakuim sis my husband wants 2nd wife I’m trying to get over my fear of having a cowife
Polygamy is not compulsory in Islam rather its allowed if someone wanted to practice polygamy or in certain circumstances which there are conditions that have to be fulfilled too, otherwise Quran says marry only one, it's permitted but not compulsory nor encouraged
Saeema Jabeen It's halal so the man can do it if he wants and needs to.
So true sist.. Its only allowed
@TerrorByte I agree. We must follow Islam only.
@Akoben Renaissance you are fool
Polygamy is fatna
Yaa Khalid, your lectures are always powerful and pertinent, may Allah reward you. Be blessed.
Polygamy can or cannot work depending on the parties involved. I get a bit tired of the generalisations. We can accept polygamy is part of Islam, that's pretty obvious. But as it is in England at least, it is VERY HARD for a man to provide for a family. And that's without even being extravagant. And the man really needs to be intelligent before going into this. Because if he is insensitive and selfish, treats one better than the other, that's going to be disastrous. I frankly struggle to get over a lot of things that happened to me when I was in polygamy. The more some sisters give the more arrogant some brothers can get when they get comfortable. Pretty tragic. In sha'Allah brothers behave better. Forget a woman's jealousy. A woman numbs herself after time and kills her emotions to get by. But everyone has a breaking point.
🙏 There's is always a way..
Put الله Allah first in everything and day by day..step by step things will get better.. ان شاء الله ..
Thanks for sharing..
I will put an extra layer to the way I am to be better.. after reading this..
I think just like there are good woman there are also good men..
ان شاء الله
you will attract the good man to come to you with your positive.. energy
🙏 I want to help .. I am here to help..
and everyone with a good intention.. is ready to help too..
الله
is with you
الله معاك 🙏
@@mknmohamed Salaam. JazakAllah khair for your kind words. Alhamdulillah for everything. There are good men and women of course, and we also make mistakes. But we always have hope in Allah, and He is the Best of Planners.
@@wingchun6036 😊😊
This showed me another perspective of my relationship with my husband.
Soo the husband will be lier,if he does not tell his wife the truet about a nother wife and children,that's like if be is a cheater,and a big time liar if he is a Muslim and a true believer the he should be hones and fear Allah much in his heart::
again the womas is not hidden. It's just that he doesn't have to innform her before getting married so she doesn't get in the way. but we prefer that there is an understanding between husband and wife
IM a woman convert and I live in the us and I am my husbands second wife . Alhamdulillah...... Mashallah .brother this video is amazing and very touching.
haley plascensia ,convert from what?
@haley plascensia If you live in the USA you should know polygamy is prohibited. What you are is a “side chick”.
May Allah grant his man a high place in Jannah Inshallah Ameen🤲🏼❤️
Allahumabarik for his knowledge!
You should read up on some history young man/women about your beloved usa. The so-called whites of america invaded america 100's of years ago and slaughtered the people already living there. today they are still invading & slaughtering millions every due to false accusations of wmd or fake attacks made up & blasted through the devilish media. nothing has changed much. What hate speech....99% of Muslims preach peace. why dont you go listen yourself & stop watching fox & cnn..this is 'justice/
I just want to thank the sheik and may Allah reward him with the best in jannah for his efforts. This talk opened my eyes SubhanAllah. HasbunAllah wa naam alWakeel!
Baarakallah fii. In need you are wise
Polygamy is not about a man having many wives, it is about every woman having a husband.
Truth ..
awww...you are so coniderate to think for all women to have a husband. I'm sure that s why you want more wives to help humanity ..
Not every woman wants a husband.
Wisdom behind polygamy we can't comprehend accurately. Once almighty granted something none has the right prohibit. As muslim we obey almighty.
Truth
Masya Allah Shiekh.. you speak the truth.. same what we have taught here in Malaysia. Every answer was accurate. Parallel with as sunnah.
I love you brother wonderful take
I don't understand why people make an issue of polygamy in Islam as if prior to Islam men only married one wife. The common culture was to marry as many wife as you want. Islam put a limit with strict conditions of someone wants to marry more than once.
+Waqas Nazir Now men marry one wife because they care about their wife and know they are not dogs
That's not true. One man and one woman has always existed in Christianity. It's also the norm in Judaism since, at least since the time of Christ.
@Honor Don't know what you're replying to.
@@heewatamsuen7252 peace brother do u no in the bible that the king had over 300 wives. And the only religion that stated man was able to only 4, was only Islam
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Lol for your own convenience
You know before I used to think it was ok to mess around but since I fell in love, I know we can be with one person. Not every human is the one for you and sex isnt good with every person. You are blessed if God put's love in the man's and women's heart (who are married). People dont understand.
I'm not against polygamy, I know it's permitted by Allah under certain conditions, but If man takes marriage seriously he should tell his first wife, it's the mature, responsible, and respectful way to go about it. Respect and trust is everything in any relationship. When you marry behind your wife's back you're destroying any trust there was between you. And that's not a small thing.
Instead some men take a second wife and end up losing both.
Most second wives divorce their husbands because regardless of what men say, their real intention when marrying a second woman is to have her around for sex. Once the second wife realizes that, she'll leave because no woman wants to be just a sex toy.
The first wife might stay if she has kids. But in today's society where a lot of people don't live close to their parents, and children are raised either by one parent or both with little help, it would probably be easier to get a divorce and move close to your parents. It would be easier than raising kids with someone who's not there 75% of the time or more since a lot of men don't divide their time equaly. If one wife fulfills her duties but isn't happy, he'll just go to the other wife.
Today's societal structure and the upbringing of most men and women isn't compatible with polygamy. And if we're being honest it usually creates more problems than it solves. The whole family breaks up, or hatred grows between family members.
Do men even consider the sexual desires of their wives? How can you possibly satisfy four when most men can't satisfy one? They love talking about how women are a test for men and so men should get more wives, but then that becomes a test on the wife too, because she's alone all the time.
Why would you be okay with the person you love being anguishes, depressed and suicidal if you really loved them? Men put their desires first and humanity second, and I don't believe that's how it was intended to be.
The way muslim men talk about marriage and women tests my faith more than anything else. Men want to be by the book when it comes to their rights, but expect their wives to be considerate, thoughtful and reasonable when it comes to the wife's rights. So many women help their husband pay bills and stuff willingly even though technically they don't have to no matter how much money they make. If she doesn't help she's stingy and self-centered.
Thankfully most men will never find someone who wants to be their second wife (halal sex toy).
If men were really serious about bringing polygamy back, they would focus on bringing good men back.
TSOC calm down please. She could be a daughter of a father who has multiple wives and affected by it.
The conditions that Allah put to have multiple wives are so difficult that no men can do it.
The men are not supposed to get another or three or four wives if he can't treat ALL of them justly
I feel sorry for your husband if you have one. You message is sounds polluted with your personal issues and illness you have regarding this issue.
You always starts with.."I don't have a problem with it, but....."
And 'halal sex you?! Where did you get this talk from? Even if we speak your immature language, then as least it's 'Halal' which is permitted by Allah! Sort your issues out and get a grip!
*it always starts with*
*Halal sex toy*
@Fatima salaam
Marriage is not always about Sex. It should be an unselfish relationship. There is more to marriage than Sex. If a sister can't see beyond Sex, then she is not matured and have the wrong influences around her. She need to find some mature women who will help her to focus on the suna and Our Prophet, Mohammed, saw. It is a wise person who can take correction and a fool who despises it. They should focus on themselves instead of the attacking the person who is trying to help you to mature and grow. Change is a good thing and one who stays the same their whole life is still a child and need to grow up. People who can't change is called "Developmentally challenged or disabled. ;~)
Nikah is about responsibility & negotiability coming to common grounds fulfilling one another's promises . Barakallah hu fikum
Was Salaam W W
I think that's crap one wife is more than enough
Mala Seepersad thats your personal opinion.
I’m here to see all the sisters comments.... 👀🌚
Masha’Allah this is an amazing lecture that covers so many things in this particular topic! All the women AND men of this Ummah need to watch this.
what it means bro friend of ilah what is your reason saying friend of ilah what do you mean. If you can explain to me
i disagree, i think even though the husband doesnt need his wifes permission, she should know that he has a second wife. Husbands cant just keep a secret second wife somewhere, thats lying. Everytime he goes to visit her or her child he would have to lie
He said it is mustajaba but not wajib. He must not tell his wife but he should... out of respect.
+Wai Ai Yu no it IS mandatory, taking permission is mustajaba. Letting the wife know that she isnt his only wife is fard. Because its a lie to tell your wife that shes ur only wife when in fact shes not. Zakir naik gave a talk on this a few months back
Sadia Ahmed be careful with saying something is "Fardh" coz by saying that, you are implying that there is a verse in the Quran regarding it. In your claim, there isn't one!
Only a statement in the Quran can make something Fardh.
If it doesn't exist in the Quran, its not Fardh!
Thank you.
He didn't say he should never tell her. What he means is that he can wait until after he has married the second before telling the first wife, so that the first wife would not prevent him from marrying the second wife.
Umar Muktar no that's not exactly what he said. He said to inform her out of kindness to her as it would affect her life as she is part of you now...
He would need to be fair with his time and funds from the moment he made nikah to the 2nd wife. Surely the 1st wife would need to know he would be spending alternative nights with his other wife.
There is so much benefit from polygyny I pray ppl would just accept and submit to the wisdom of ALLAH ﷻ. آمين يارب العالمين
I needed to hear this so bad! Allah is speaking to me! Thank you Ameen I wish I could speak to one of the Nation of Islam elders about how it should be done correctly in being in a dual marriage!
That’s a deviant sect
I was excited to learn more about Islam and excited to marry a Muslim Brother. Now I'm just sick. I'm not strong enough to deal with this. Maybe this isn't for me.
if u have any questions please list !
Hi
He doesn't necessarily need to marry more then one tho so if he agrees that he'll marry only then its ok nothing to be sick about just human preferences
Don't be discouraged sis. This is a hot topic for all these men but most Muslim men don't actually practice polygamy. It's a fantasy for most of them. In fact, according to world stats the practice of polygamy has been steadily declining. Most Muslim men are only willing or able to be monogamous. So if you're serious about Islam and marrying a Muslim man, continue to do your research and find a man who isn't interested in polygamy. To make sure it's not just lip service, you can put a no-polygamy clause in the nikah contract. If he breaks it, you have the right to annul the marriage contract. Understand that polygamy is halal for Muslim men but it's not haram for us to not want to engage in that lifestyle. May Allah have mercy on us all & guide you to the beauty of Islam. All the best to you.
You don't need to go with poligamy if you Don't want. It is dependent to the permussion of 1st wife. It is matter if choice not must to do. It is allowed in Islam for the guy who is not satisfied with one
Yes it is....we Muslims are so content to be following GOD. One of GOD's 99 Names is THE LIGHT - (AL-NOUR)
One Islam Productions an-nur
You spoke the truth
Qur'an is the only book that said "Marry only one" According to Islamic laws, marrying more than one is "Optional" and the rule for that is to be "just". An Islamic Scholar Shafii said, "When the rule is corrupted, the only action is corrupted". It should be noted that Polygamy is not compulsory or encouraged act, it is "permitted". Even the close companions of the Prophet did not practise it. This video is there to educate us about the advantages of polygamy not reinforcing it.
Whatever your encourageis always best for your own benefit. It is more blessing sister's.
May Allah bless brother Khalid! This was the best lecture on polygamy I've ever seen.
It is simple, sisters if your man marries a second wife, just leave him if u cannot handle polygamy. Look for a single man. But it is not your right to.stop him, it is your right to leave him and stay alone
@East african 123 Because a man is not your property. If u cant share him then just leave him
SubhanAllah...Allah has created all of humanity...Allah's wisdom is supreme...The creator knows us inside out and knows whats best for us, both men and women! Allah's laws are based on supreme practicality, wisdom, justice and fairness and not what we humans wrongly think as being right!!
May Allah bless Sheikh Khalid Yasin and increase him in knowledge and wisdom. As a muslim woman I am in agreeance with the Sheikh on everything expect one point. I agree that the husband does not require permission of the wife, but I disagree that he does not need to let her know.
She must absolutely be informed of any plans to introduce another wife into the family, and at this point the sister also has the right to seek patience with Allah - or remove herself in kindness from the situation if this is something she feel sincerely she cannot deal with. It is absolutely a deception to keep this information from her and I believe it is a sin, as you will knowingly and purposely be creating mischief in doing so.
This allowance for multiple wives is a protection for the wives as we get older is it not right for our husbands to trade us in for newer models and leave us to the curb after we have sacrificed our youth, body and beauty for them, but they are permitted to take on another wife while still being obligated to take care of us and give us a fair amount of attention and affection. Similarly there are those sisters who rather struggle and be alone than share their husband and Allah has made a way for them as well, in divorce.
ALLAH bless you
Katia Wojcik
Yea but he did say it's better you mention it....don't see the point of you making a fuss
Agree with you wholeheartedly katia
Katia Wojcik 👍👍👍👍👌👌👌👋👋👋👏👏👏
Katia Wojcik wow the very fact that u accept him telling u that u must accept ur husband taking as many wives as he wants makes u stupid
It is lawful but it is not compulsory though, it is not by force to have multiple wives
Also the man should be able to take care of finically side if he has more than wife .
@@7577ia right, you cant even make one happy and you're thinking of more lol
It's a fact of life. In and outside of islam one can hve multiple women. There are lots of women willing to participate.
The fear that is mentioned like there is not enough men(statistics)so settle and control your jealousy be an obedient sacrifice. GOD is an abundant GOD and your person is in the plan for you and your faith should give you the confidence of that. I don’t have a scarcity mindset when it comes to GOD but that’s just me. If this set up works for you great.
Wallahi this was a very important topic and Sheikh Khalid Yasin nailed it. Jazakallah khair
No, he did trash, this made absolutely no sense.
I'm so happy that God made man and women
One man for one woman and one woman for one man.
I am muslim.I have one wife until I leave this earth.Let me tell you something about muslims have to have so many wife.If you love them equally if you buy house one wife buy the other one the same thing, Al-Amin told us don't disrespectful to our sisters and don't abuse them.Only one man do that Al-Amin.Preach polygamy easy honestly practice very hard.A lot of men saw only the sexual aspect of it.There is no one verse in Koran said practice polygamy none zero.
good man
Im happy to be 2.nd wife and can only tell my sisters in deen,to get the knowledge about this theme then you will understand.
Wallai its wonderfull
why? :) how it can be beautiful? :)
Please dont tell me what to do! I dont allow my husband to have other wives!
Hayat Musa Wail masha allah
Muslims Love For All Hate For None (Fight back with Love)
My beloved sister in Islam. It's not for you to say you don't allow your husband. This is the Deen of Allah. Allah says , it's not befitting for one who believes in Allah and the last Day that when He and His messenger have decided on matter you have any say.
This Deen is naseeha
Hayat Musa Wail I am bout to marry a married brother but my mum s against it but I wanna marry him for the sake of Allah...besides I 've never been married n never engaged in any illicit affair
he's right on. we all in this together
In the Quran GOD said that a man may marry one, two, three or four women. There are many rules to marrying more than one.
What are the rules ? I’m Christian and the first wife who is Muslim is not accepting me bring number 2
One of those rules should be if the wive(s) agree to participate in a polygamy relationship. God has given you permission to pursue polygamy if that is what you wish but you still need permission from the women as well because marriage is a contract and someone cannot be part of a contract if she hasn't first agreed to it. She is a person, not property.
Only one rule..that is justice between wives
@@heregoes8839 you don't you only need the permission of the girl you marry & her guardians
Jazakallah Khair for this message! I learned a lot and I truly enjoyed listening. May Allah continue to reward you.
Interesting POV.
You know what he is talking about ?
if you are litrate enough to watch his video in here, I hope your god has given you the brain and use google, to find out the real statastics. Why, he is talking about western, as there is 0.50 :1 ratio in east. Now the question is Why. So many from your religion marry to 4. 4:1, leaving 3 people without a wife. LOL, you ideots , no one can help you. you loosers.
Yes, keep listening to the senseless jiberish this dumbas is feeding you like mindless goats, cos that's what any of you who actually considers what he says are!!
As a muslimah I am agree with polygamous marriage. One of the reason is that I admitted I physically can't be with my future husband all the time. I need my me time. There's gonna be the time when I really don't wanna be touch by my husband. It would be nice if another wife be with him while I just wanna be by myself. It will eliminate flirty eyes, fornication and reduce the rate of single women.
Fika T You are not affraid from carrying her infections from your husband?
@@Cookie20244 thank you, you understand
Let me tell you that your men is not an animal,who need intercourse and you have to run!!
You are his wife his honor the mother of his children and for that you have to be respected!! And if your future husband tells you he need a second wife he don't respect you.Period-
A men who can't lower his caze it's not a real men-
And why would you give your men to an other women? What I love i would never ever let others touch them from strangers.
Our Prophet S.A.S. and the Shahadah was doing that at time of war because many women lost his husband or son in the wars (no Muharram) no help etc. and that's why he say'd it was a good thing to do.
They married also very old women because of that.
One day you go see if your idea was good or not-ALLAH S.W.T. Know's best.
Alhamdullilah, so much happy now that a sister is saying that, I would say Allah has blessed you with a wisdom of deen, MashAllah, that's spectacular.
May Allah bless you with more happiness. Ameen
"reduce the rate of single women" but male population is higher than female population 🤔
Allah knows best. Allah doesn't make laws without a reason behind it.
Mariyam try to read in Quar an Surah 8:17 ,9:29,59:2 if your God command you to SLAY,KILL CAST TERROR IN THIER HEARTH...OF YOUR ENEMY..THAT IS NOT...GOD.
@@heewatamsuen7252 are you lgbt?
There is solutions for this sick gender,remind that
Borsalino Kizaru no, male population is higher than female population do your research again thx
Damn Fool
if anyone sees this I have a question. Near the end of this video he said no one can question a man on choosing another wife, regarding his time, his money etc. No one should question him, but a man I know secretely married another woman. He didn't tell her, and when she discovered it he lied to her and said he didn't.
First of all his first wife also had mental illness, e.g depression and anxiety because she was widowed in her early 20s. So being decieved by his actions had severe emotional implications for someone who is already mentally weak. So how can this advice be good in such a case?
Secondly, he by no means has the finances to uphold his first family as well as a new one... but he determines himself he can have another wife for his own needs. He never gave his first wife her rights as a wife, nor his children e.g providing for them, but chooses to for his second wife. In such a case some of this advice cannot apply...?
very good he was wrong 2x's. He lied. It was not fair to his wife. He should have told her. Allah sees all.
Maybe he wants more wives. this has nothing to do with public advice. Because he did not tell the men their responsibility only their right to have many women they want and that is very dangerous advice 😒😒😏😏
A K Obviously this man is not man enough to even look after the first, Brother Khalid mentioned that a Man no doubt he was referring to a real Man and not one who is a irresponsible and gives his first wife a dogs life.
Quran An Nisa-129 And you will never be able to be just between wives, even if you should strive.
You should fear Allah SWT, you must never lie to the women, never. Fear Allah SWT.
Thank you for this video! I already know what is righteous in Islam. Allah blessed me to be introduced to polygyny as a child. I accepted it then, for our family, and InshaAllh, I shall now embark on this way of life for myself. This is to please Allah as well as to please my beloved husband. To follow the life of the Prophet Mohammed (MPBUH), is a vital part of worship to Allah. My future husband is everything a man should be. Why would I deny his right to have the wives he chooses? I would not! He does all he can in pleasing me and making my life comfortable, so he deserves the same in return!!!!
***** you do have a right if he didn't let you know before marriage that he was already married or he wants couple more wifes then consider it being fooled or cheated on. I personally would ask for a divorce because if you are smart enough you wouldn't get involved with him to start with but then Allah knows best talk to your local imaams
Amen
Debra, I am seeking a good wife like yourself. Unfortunately, I am not Muslim, but a good man I am. I follow only African Spirituality belief system of Maat. So I am a moral individual. I believe polygamy is a good solution for Black America because of the crisis they face from White Supremacy. As the Brotha Khalid stated, the ratio between men and women are way off and many of our women are left alone to fend for themselves. WE have to change this paradigm to create better stability and ease of life burdens.
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debra glenn i hope there are women like you
debra glenn Have you found a husband yet? How has the experience been growing up in polygyny home?
It’s weird he subtracted the amount of men that are gay or do not want to marry but did not subtract the amount of women who do I want to marry or lesbians It’s a flawed calculation
most women turn lesbian afeter a ba experience with men. Most lesbians turn bi or stait when they get old because she understands she needs a man in her life.
I was thinking this and also thouse who are not Muslim is also big in number
What about the verse that says if you can not do justice between wives, then you should marry only one? And what about the verse that says, you can never do justice between wives even if it's your heart's desire? That verse alone let's you know that you can't so you should take only one, y'all know it's there, some of y'all have memorized the whole Quran. How many of you righteous brothers would still take a 2nd, 3rd or 4th wife, if you were only allowed to marry widows and single mothers? A lot of you brothers will have one shoulder higher than the other on the judgment day before being thrown into the hell 🔥 fire. In the end it will be your own lustful desires that ultimately destroy you.
Safiyah Yisrael how come you didn't quote the verses fully?
Quote them fully and you will have your answer
2 things sister.
1. Rasulullah (alayhi salatu wa salaam) had more than one wife, and so did many of his contemporaries. So either you have the correct interpretation, or Rasulullah (alayhi salatu wa salaam) and the sahabah (radi allahu anhum) have the correct interpretation. It should be clear who does.
2. Be careful when talking about the punishment Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) will inflict in someone, that is left alone to Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala). There is a hadith about a rightgeous man who was talking to another man who was not rightheous. The rightheous man said the other one was sure to end up in Jahannam.
On the day of judgement Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) will ask the rightgeous man about this. And he will tell him that judgement and punishment is left to him alone.
In the end, all the good deeds the rightgeous man did will be credited to the other man, and he will enter Jannah, meanwhile the rightheous man will enter Jahannam. Just say Allahu alam.
'Cause it's true, Allah knows best, even everything I just wrote, Allah knows best.
Salaam sister.
Safiyah Yasharahla “You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them (by giving her more of your time and provision) so as to leave the other hanging (i.e. neither divorced nor married). And if you do justice, and do all that is right and fear Allah by keeping away from all that is wrong, then Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” 4:129 this is the full ayah.
LOL so... did o you have an actual point or did you just wanna rant? Also.. my 2nd/3rd wife would only be widows or single mothers. There are lustful men out there but there are just as many good natured men if not more.
Polygamy will take Muslim brothers to hellfire!
To inform first wife before second wife is a Good gesture and good faith
It is Not Waaajeeb or Compulsion.
This is Islam
Take it or leave , a woman has the right to divorce.
One cannot question the directives of Allah . Simple
Sub7anallah, what about the woman who are lesbian, trans, not interested in marriage, etc... everything you mentioned in men also happens in women. Don’t you see that? So actually in the end it should even out! Plus why is a woman’s feelings always disregarded by men? It’s not fair ya Allah... women go through soooooo much in life! Periods, pregnancies, child birth, menopause! You know it feels like men just use us and throw us away and they never taste the hardship the women goes through our entire life!! I don’t believe this is the definition of polygamy. I think it has a place in time and specific situations but I do not agree that a woman has to just sit there and take it while her husband is sleeping with another woman... you call it jealousy fine! Maybe you’ll know what that feels like if it where reverse!!! Men are way more jealous than woman. It truly is a mans world, I hope Allah swt sets you straight on the day of judgement. You are quiet harsh in all your lectures... I wouldn’t convert watching you!
Lesbians, Trans and Gays aren't a problem so that won't be a problem. But there are way more men than women in prison men have a higher mortality rate and there are already more women than men in this world. So no matter how you split it there will be more women than men available for marriage. Women going thru all those problems is one of Allah's tribulations. There isn't anything a man can do about a woman's hardships when it comes to physiological problems. Us men also go thru a lot, but as men we can't go about complaining about all of our problems like women do. Yes Men were given power over the women. But that is how Allah made it, I think the reward you will get from Allah is better than whatever hardships you might go through. Also I feel that your last 3 statements are quite harsh.
@Wajma Zahir I understand and if you're not okay with it he shouldn't marry another, but if he does Allah is with the patient
Some people sometimes make Islam look misogynistic, I even heard some Muslims say wives are not more than slaves to their husbands
@@cupofmatcha7989 Does the Quran or Hadith say that is all I care about, you don't take everyone's opinion because any reasonable person tries not to have an opinion.
@@kingkatiin2658 no, I just hate those people who make up assumptions and try so hard to connect it to Quran verses and Hadith only to benefit them
thank you for this post... i understand better and my mum Yvette is looking for husband and she is not the jealous type... she's a good woman...
Your Ans:
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I don't think polygamy is good at all. From what I read the Quran presents polygamy as an exception rather than the rule and it's implied that it's a last resort of sorts. I personally don't see the wisdom in polygamy especially in this day and age.
Allah knew about this day and age so you need to be very careful not to make a comment that can take you out of Islam. If Allah says something is good for us then it is even if we do not understand or see the wisdom in it. This is a common problem today, especially with those living in the west have lost sight of what Islam is all about and adopted the ways of the kuffar. Allah Knows Best
Adam G you're not a real man
One Islam Productions “When the Quran allowed polygamy, it was for a fair reason. When men use that provision today, they do it for a selfish reason,"
@@ibeelia_3056 anything Allah states is for the best.
Asalaam Alaikum wa Rahmantuallahi wa Barakatu this is great talk. Instant all sisters listen and take heed so that the sisters, such as myself may find a husband.
W salaam are you married?
The message is an excellent. Alhamdulillah. Having spent my early years as a Catholic, polygamy was difficult to conceive, and I saw the effects of secret paramours on marriages. I accepted Islam and polygamy as Allah's command. Living in the west, it was, at first, hard to think of my spouse taking another wife, especially since, the newcomer's attitude often is.." something must be wrong with you if he wants me".
Alhamdulillah, some brothers have the wisdom to involve his wife in his choice and decision and harmony prevails, especially if the husband fulfils his responsibility properly. Brothers need to see polygamy as a means of being responsible and fulfilling his duty as shown by the Prophet SAW. We need to see the justice in Allah's plan and submit. Brothers who CANNOT afford to maintain another wife, should NOT take on what he cannot deal with, abusing his wives in the process.
He forgets that the stuff he applies to men can also be applied to women as well
sure , what is a ratio of man to woman in jail , what is a ratio of man to woman die on a border as a soldier
@@mirzafardeen1257 so according to you, muslim men and women are either in jail or die at borders?
This isn't applicable to only muslims
Have it been forgotten that ALLAH SUBHANA WA TA 'ALA declare 4 wives as a limit, but conclude to that verse by stating that ONE (wife) is best if man only knew....
What about the woman that like women, the women that join the military, the women that don't want kids, what about the women on drugs, the women in jail, the women with men of different races, but I respect your opinion brother
No offense, but the way you counted the 7.5:1 ration for men:women is utterly ridiculous. About 47% Americans are unmarried. This nonsense ratio will never concur.
And if you could pls provide Quranic proof to say (In you traditional inherent rendition) that a man can marry a woman unless they are Al-Yathama or fatherless children I will give you, any of you my respect. I mean Quranic proof, not just belief or explanations without scriptural proof.
And please explain why you are not quoting the full verse. It does not say "Marry women of your choice". When we Muslims ask Christians to quote their bible in context all the time like parrots why arent we following our own request? Where is the part about fatherless children or orphans?
And Mathna, Thulatha, Rubah does not mean 2, 3 or 4, rather it means twos, threes or fours. Know your own scripture or rather dont change your scriptural meaning to support your cause.
I dont mean to offend anyone but these are facts in the Furqan.
Peace.
Great speech..speaking practicality of the ratio of men to women in the world
i am happy to be the second wife too and a revert, and it is great Alhamduallah
Karolein Jorgensen same like me-I am happy for that.
Alhamdulilah, I hope EVERYONE is happy. The second wife chooses to be in a polygamous marriage, the first wife usually can't
Karolein Jorgensen Polygamy is a practice that only makes sense at the macro level in certain situations (such as when famine or war reduces the availability of able husbands), whereas men are likely to take advantage of such institutions for their own gain if it is common. So, God provides for polygamy as an alternative, but only orders that His followers use it in certain situations.
Fatimah Salaam I wouldn t be happy if someone is sad because of me.
fab M false
We share a man whether by choice or not...I would prefer to be a second wife with this understanding.
Than to be married to a man thinking I'm the ONLY woman in his life and find later he's a man who cheats...they are not the same
petra bach since I'm not a man, I can't answer that; perhaps you should ask one and see.
The truth of the matter is; in the west the majority of men who do cheat on their spouses, don't give they're spouse a choice or say so. This behavior is deceptive & dangerous.
@@TheLockhartPerspective totally agree since the act of betrayal is beyond the woman power and consent
@petra bach how you would feel if you have to share your wife with 3 dudes ??
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala said:
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا فِى الْيَتٰمٰى فَانْكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِّنَ النِّسَآءِ مَثْنٰى وَثُلٰثَ وَرُبٰعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا فَوٰحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمٰنُكُمْ ۚ ذٰلِكَ أَدْنٰىٓ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا
"And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]."
(QS. An-Nisaa 4: Verse 3)
When Allah Subhana tala said marry once and this way the possibility is more that you won't do unjustice .
Clearly if one can't do justice he should marry only once , clearly men nowadays can't do that.
You've just mentioned slavery and paedophilia and thought nothing of it. Are you backward ?
Not because of sisters but because of Allahs love .
..i ll bear because i want Allah's mercy n love upon me ...❤
I'm in this situation right now. I would rather be a second wife to another man than be this man's first wife anymore .
Have faith ...
Make Allah make it easy for you
@@a.n_artstudio7814 ameen. The thing is I have small kids otherwise mashallah I am beautiful and a good woman alhamdulilah. Once he remarries I will leave inshallah
@@user-ve4zw6jp9i get out of that marriage i hope you are safe with your kids and you find an amazing husband with 0 wives and he feels complete with you and your kids
@@Samsamxo ameen . Thank you . I doubt there is many real ones out there . For now my rent is being paid and my kids dont interact with him at all but I ask Allah for what is good for us insha Allah
These words sound beautiful. But how manage emotions when husband married younger one? How manage feelings about he married other because I am old, the same with him age.
How manage wet eyes fŕom his mistakes regarding to be ok to
all? I pray, yes, I ask Allah to help me, but unfortunatelly in mostly cases when husband has more than one, it is good for him only. Maybe there are and happy families, I don't argue, may Allah bless them.
I really need a help, I don't have opportunities to go to the therapist. Maybe some one can recomend some book or video about this topic. I will be greatfull.
Amina sister may Allah reward you for your patience i hope & pray that you can go through this tough time.
help can only come from Jesus Christ. accept him ad Lord and you shall find peace
May Allah make it easy for you sister. Janna would be your reward in shaa Allah.
Read tafseer of those ayah.
May Allah make it easy for our sisters. But if you want to understand that it is not for his benefit only, when yours gets a second, leave him for the second wife and u remain without a husband. ..
The prophet's daughter Fatima's husband, Ali, wanted to take a 2nd wife but she objected to his 2nd marriage so the Prophet told Ali that if he wanted to marry a 2nd wife, he would have to divorce Fatima 1st. So, he did not marry a 2nd wife and stayed with Fatima.
Yes, that's a good example, he has to respect her feelings too, Sheikh did mention that, as far as I remember he didn't have to divorce Fatima but Prophet Muhammad PBUH said that Ali would be going against his wishes too, in this case, if a Muslim man is deciding whether or not to take another wife he must consider the opinion of his first wife's father/wali
Alhamdulillah. We must live as He said. Great muslimina wal muslimaati. Wal muuminina wal muuminaati.....
Thanks Sheikh. Mashallah
No man? Jesus was a man? And christianity is your religion?
Jesus was a great prophet and he will return soon to prove how wrong you were to turn into a god.
So God plays hide and seek,
Maa sha Allah. I love this lecture
When america can accept LGBTQ why they cant accept polygami?
divi amesia Ameen aki
divi amesia simple many wives means many children...expensive to have a lots of children.in america.
@john cameron polygamy is not ungodly!
The government hasn't found a way to benefit from it yet. The benefit from the prison system and broken homes
Same reason why nakedness is promoted on magazines and in fashion while burqa and niqab is being banned
dirty minds need washing....the media has corrupted minds and hearts
My father’s first wife had 10 children with him and only 3 girls survived out of the 10. When she saw that she’s getting older and can no longer bear children she persuaded him to marry again so that he may have sons and went and found him a young beautiful widow, my mother. My father had 5 children with my mother 3 sons and 2 daughters. The relationship of my father and two mothers was not the best and all three of them made mistakes may Allah have mercy on them but if polygamy was not allowed today me and my brothers and sisters would not be here. I personally don’t wanna do it because I don’t think I can be fair to more then one women but Allah knows me best and he knows what’s best for me, so I never say anything with certainty because only Allah knows the future. My sisters as the brother said in this video please do not let your feelings override the decree of Allah for he knows us best and my brothers please be fair with your wives for they are the most precious gifts that Allah has given us men, Alhamdullilah.
You would have been born.. Just different parents.
May Allah fill our hearts with patience and fear of Allah, as a first wife I can't go against what Allah has allowed, that's what a muslimah who submits to Allah's will. May Allah make it easy for us all.
Masha Allah very good lecture. It clears my mind.
Yeah, it clears my mind too! I can't even being to measure all the brain cells that have died while I watched this video. Glad we could agree on something.
Im Christian this is high class information... thank you Khalid. God bless you
High class and reasonable...Islam in a nutshell.
See Jake the muslim metaphysician channel videos regarding comparative discussion between Islam and Christianity
What are permitted to us is not haram
A wise lecture ---- may God bless you
Why Polygamy aka polygyny is legal by biblical law and biologically correct:
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All these women in the world I still struggled to get one woman
The Lord has surely blessed this man
Not all women are ment to be wives, and not all men are ment to be husbands.
Specify your answer
Truth.
May Allaah guide us and keep us guided. Ameen.
No woman wants to share her love. That's it!
possession
Women share their love between all of her children, other family, parents, friends all the time. A heart big enough to love a sister-in-law is also big enough to love a sister wife/co-wife
Mala Orealz true, thats why this is not easy for a woman. Even a mother in law & sister-in-law have this animosity towards son’s wife they can’t share their son/brother.
@@daveyork0 it's not the same in that tho
May Allah bless you the admin and the shaykh
As Salam Alaikum Brother. Interesting...
Hahaha you joking 😉
We alejkumu selam we rahmetullah
Its not just jealousy, there's more problems comes with second marriage,evil eye,black magic and etc
Masha Allah bless you brother you telling the truth
God doesn't changes his words.
What he said is not only for his followers but for all humanbeings.
I agree. Today most men are unfaithful and most women are willing to help. Polygamy works with human nature and calls for us to regulate it and act responsibly.
What if the man wants a 2nd wife but his current relationship needs attention...
There are men who are capable of doing it and some are not.
Also some women can handle it and some can not...
each case is different but also in islam this is why a woman has a wali or a guardian who can make a judgement on her behalf and assure she is not being taken advantage of.
Quran An Nisa-129 And you will never be able to be just between wives, even if you should strive.
@@ImranKhan-xh3hr You are taking that out of context. Here is the full verse "And you will never be able to be equal [in feeling] between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. So do not incline completely [toward one] and leave another hanging. And if you amend [your affairs] and fear Allah - then indeed, Allah is ever Forgiving and Merciful."
If you support him to get married 2nd wife he can start to more respect on you because you have done a favour for him. Till he gets married 2nd wife he cannot pay attention for you because he's in need of 2nd wife.
How beautiful is your teaching Alahuakber MAy Allah raise your place in Jennah
Mashallah...
Islam is amazing 👌👌👌
Correct
❤true
Barak'Allah Feek Ya Sheikh
Would the men be jealous if the wife had multiple husbands?
Greating from somalia
As a Sheikh whom people listen to and follow, I would expect a better job from you. You have great responsibility and you are not bearing it well.
It is critical to mention that in Islam the Prophet pbuh himself stressed that it is BEST and recommended to have only 1 wife Only 1. What was allowed to the Prophet pbuh was special and you can not keep comparing any man to the Prophet pbuh.
The husband should always seek to be 100% fair to his 2 (or 3 or 4) wives AND he will NEVER be 100% fair. This has great meaning.
The fact that allowing the husband to marry another is considered equivalent to jihad only emphasizes how DIFFICULT it is to the woman to accept this and how great a task it is for her. Hence, the great reward.
Another important point is, the existing wife should approve of the new wife, as a condition. Otherwise, it is more an act of breaking a good home and damaging a halal relationship and family, rather than adding value to it.
I understand that the ego of men and their appetite for pleasure plays a role here. Most brothers are not seeking to take care of their sisters in Islam. No. They are dreaming of sleeping with more than one woman and enjoying themselves under the umbrella of "halal". They are not broken hearted over sisters who are single. I see mostly comments from men here, excited over the idea.
Polygamy, which is not encouraged, should have a reason. For example inability to bear children, etc. Again, if the husband and wife agree, then expanding the family with another wife is a blessing. On the other hand, if it causes issues or is forced by the husband, it can be a curse.
Actions should be weighed carefully.
AlhamduliLlah for the wisdom and mercy of Allah swt and him guiding us towards a pious life.
May we choose wisely and treat our spouses the way we wish to be treated: with love, respect and kindness.
Arya May you have explained it very well, here mostly the men marry for lust and pleasure, they are no where near also what Allah is saying in Quran.
May Allah guide us ALL and forgive you for your comments. Please provide evidence for your claim that it is "BEST" [in caps] to have just one wife. If you do not have evidence for your claim, make tawbah for talking about something in Islam without knowledge and evidence.
Allah knows best.
alhamdulilahi..thanks for the upload but no matter what some people will always find hypocrisy in whatever we do or say just cos we muslims..look at the big picture
It's not cos ur Muslims, it's cos u say dumb shit like this
Excellent informative message my brother 👍🏽✊🏽🌙⭐️☀️
Powerful lecture. May Allah bless you and your effort to explain the wisdom of our creator. Jazak Allah
May Allah reward you.
mashaAllah...may Allah bless you for this session...