I agree that it's very good to be conscious of not solely relying upon someone else to do all the labor for us. However I disagree that it's often related to "toxic masculinity." I don't want to speak for you, but are you sure your procrastination wasn't more of a product of the difficulties of navigating the medical and insurance system rather than "toxic masculinity"? Wouldn't toughing it out be more so of an excuse we tell ourselves to avoid the mess medical appointments can often be? What you're saying is important, but I think you sometimes alienate your intended audience by making out what are normal feelings as being a moral failing.
I can't express the amount of freedom I feel now that I realize i have the ability to schedule my own appointments, and don't need to depend on a woman for it. I also wiped my own ass today! Thank you Zach, I can feel the toxic masculinity leaving me! Thing is, I think you're correct that a lot of men push off menial decisions and tasks on their wives & girlfriends. However, Jordan Peterson and Jocko Willink are getting men to take ownership & responsibility for their lives, and take undue burden off their wives' shoulders. And they don't need to dress it up as a need to repent of their toxic masculinity. But rather to embrace masculinity, and be conscious of the impact they have on the people around them - to make it better. If you had never used insurance before, and were single, so you called a good buddy to help you through the process, would he tell you "No, I can't do that emotional labor for you." Or would he just say, "Oh yeah, no problem man, you'll just need to do this and that and...." Hopefully he would, and not resent you for having to do your "mental labor". Also, you can just call the receptionist and possibly look stupid while you asked questions, they would do that mental labor for you, it's their job. Women should be loved & respected, treated as equals. But if a woman started a podcast & online presence built around giving women advice that kowtows to the male perspective, that could get weird - fast. And with Pearl, it has! Men should not be treated like perfect angels, neither should women. That's doing both a disservice. And it seems like you're kowtowing.
I agree that it's very good to be conscious of not solely relying upon someone else to do all the labor for us.
However I disagree that it's often related to "toxic masculinity."
I don't want to speak for you, but are you sure your procrastination wasn't more of a product of the difficulties of navigating the medical and insurance system rather than "toxic masculinity"? Wouldn't toughing it out be more so of an excuse we tell ourselves to avoid the mess medical appointments can often be?
What you're saying is important, but I think you sometimes alienate your intended audience by making out what are normal feelings as being a moral failing.
Totally invalidated everything you else you said when you said "toxic masculinity"
When I heard that, I turned it off.
Stay invisible, dude.
I can't express the amount of freedom I feel now that I realize i have the ability to schedule my own appointments, and don't need to depend on a woman for it. I also wiped my own ass today! Thank you Zach, I can feel the toxic masculinity leaving me!
Thing is, I think you're correct that a lot of men push off menial decisions and tasks on their wives & girlfriends. However, Jordan Peterson and Jocko Willink are getting men to take ownership & responsibility for their lives, and take undue burden off their wives' shoulders. And they don't need to dress it up as a need to repent of their toxic masculinity. But rather to embrace masculinity, and be conscious of the impact they have on the people around them - to make it better.
If you had never used insurance before, and were single, so you called a good buddy to help you through the process, would he tell you "No, I can't do that emotional labor for you." Or would he just say, "Oh yeah, no problem man, you'll just need to do this and that and...." Hopefully he would, and not resent you for having to do your "mental labor". Also, you can just call the receptionist and possibly look stupid while you asked questions, they would do that mental labor for you, it's their job.
Women should be loved & respected, treated as equals. But if a woman started a podcast & online presence built around giving women advice that kowtows to the male perspective, that could get weird - fast. And with Pearl, it has! Men should not be treated like perfect angels, neither should women. That's doing both a disservice. And it seems like you're kowtowing.
U call this labor