Your message is so good it shows the realness n kindess from a motheew soul. Thank you. I feel for the mom. So bas n i didnt even see the video ijust knoe ehat im going through myself n the mental break is serious. Your great
I had really bad postpartum depression with my youngest. I was doing it alone from the time i came home from the hospital. There were times my house was bad. But i had a friend that would come over and help me
I relate so hard to not connecting with your baby. I went through MAJOR depression and cried multiple times a day and still have hard days now at almost 7 months. Postpartum is tough and not a lot of people talk about it and there’s always negativity with “not feeling connected to your baby” “you’re the mom” it’s so frustrating and I feel for any mama going through a tough time you’re doing good mama I see you💗
Your right. I probably never had diapers laying around either, but I certainly had heaps of laundry and dishes. Being a mom is very hard, and shame on anyone that's says anything about a postpartum mom. No one understands your situation because everyone has a different experience.
Thank you for talking about feeling not connected to your child in the beginning. I didn't feel like my son and I were truly bonded until he was a few months old. And a lot of the time you hear these stories about feeling connected right away and I know they were meant to be mine and what they needed immediately. When that becomes the expectation and it doesn't happen I don't even know how to explain how it makes you feel. I'm so grateful that I had my parents to help me through that time.
I agree. I can relate to her in the sense of not having the strength to do much. Although i didnt do that i might have done something else. Plus most people may not know that she is a nurse that was working hard even throughout her last months.
Everyone has different abilities/supports/coping/recovery when recovering from illness or a life transition. As a nurse I’ve cared for many in WAY WORSE living conditions and I have not found a single time that judgement and criticism would have improved their situation. Connection with needed resources (sometimes mental healthcare, social services, etc.), education, and compassionate support can make a big difference. I encourage people who want to condemn people in these situations to think about situations like this as a red flag that more help is needed- not more judgement.
That’s really sad , i remember my sisters flat 24 years ago she had a awful birth gave birth at 2cm dilated and tore from the neck of her womb and front to back she slep sitting up on all fours for almost a year , and every few days I’d go there and the bath was full of washing and nappies everywhere dirty bottles because she couldn’t bend over and had life saving surgery six weeks after birth , anyone else looking in would think really bad stuff , but she was helpless and as long as the baby was fed she was happy, you never know what mums are going through offer help support a hug kindness or let them know what they are going through right now is temporary, don’t hold the baby clean up cook lighten the load , you just don’t know if your comments judgement or unkind words could be the thing the pushes a mama over the edge .
When i have children i hope i don't get pd, i hear how hard it is on the mother and baby, i really don't want to go through that, i hope all the moms ,even the dads are doing better now ❤
I can't relate with any of this . I am not judging in any way but what I am hearing is the younger generations tend to have more issues with life in general . We older generations have failed to teach you self reliance and self sufficiency. I was a military wife and had to do it alone most of the time and also had no familial help . My house was white glove clean (military housing -it was a must ) and my babies only used cloth diapers .
I had two in cloth nappies, a five year old, and a 7 year old. Cloth nappies start to smell pretty quickly, so I used to soak them in the washing machine... but they never got put on the coffee table 😮 ! Other things didn't get done...😂
Postpartum depression is something that need to be addressed. The focus is on the baby but mom is forgotten. I was already suffering with mental illness and when I had a baby my postpartum depression was terrible.
I could hardly brush my teeth for three months postpartum- of course it’s disgusting and sure brushing your teeth takes 2 minutes (same time to pick up dirty diapers) but I physically couldn’t take care of myself and my new born at the same time. It’s so wrong that people treated her like that because she was struggling
Some days... thats only 1 days worth of diapers. But about maybe 3 days worth. Not bad for infancy!!!! Those first few months are hell if your on your own!!!!
I think its because no one knew whether or not she was going through something mentally. As you said no one in thats doing great mentally would have 17 diapers lying around. I think it wouldve been different if she had said shes been going through depression or something. Also if she had a partner.
It’s so heartbreaking how vicious OTHER women can be towards other women. Like congratulations your PDD didn’t get the best of you, that’s not the case for many/most women, PPD has legit made women loose their absolute minds, so bad some have actually harmed their babies unfortunately. 17 diapers, is a WIN. That means the baby wasn’t neglected, wasn’t abused. Boo hoo the house got messy.
I was taking care of 3 kids one was 3 one was 1 and the other a newborn. And just had my third c section. And would get only 2 hours of sleep every night and cleaned the entire house and made every meal while having severe postpartum depression and postpartum schizophrenia and I still made sure the house was clean and everyone was taken care off
Has it ever occurred to you that maybe your postpartum schizophrenia made you manic and that's why you were able to do those things? Maybe, it gave you these bursts of energy/ elevated mood that made it possible to do that. I'm sure you didn't like the comments people made about you during that time so don't judge others for what they're going through. I am sorry that you had to experience that.
Honestly I adore the way she parents and looks after her babies buttt, a lot of her behavior is still unacceptable. Like her cats and dogs going numbers one and two then leaving it for DAYS without doing anything. Leaving moldy dishes with cat food on her counter which her cats continued to urinate on. And later posting it then getting slammed and then proceeded to attempt to defend herself. I get being a mother is hard and she’s struggling and I’m happy she’s prioritizing her children over herself but, cmon man that totally does not excuse any of the other things.
This is kind of a demented and unrealistic take. You shouldn't be dictating what people went through or did not go through in their postpartum phase. It's actually narcissistic of you to assume that lazy mothers are going through postpartum depression or that women that actually take care of their household and their kids in postpartum are getting help and are not suffering in any type of way. This is a very disgusting take.
I’d encourage you to consider that there is not one way to experience perinatal depression. Some people are highly functional and others are not- it doesn’t mean that one of those people was any less depressed. I also doubt that the mother in the video is lazy- but perhaps prioritizes other tasks or has not learned a more efficient way to keep up with the work. I feel so blessed to have people in my life that have taught me routines to take care of my family
Your message is so good it shows the realness n kindess from a motheew soul. Thank you. I feel for the mom. So bas n i didnt even see the video ijust knoe ehat im going through myself n the mental break is serious. Your great
I had really bad postpartum depression with my youngest. I was doing it alone from the time i came home from the hospital. There were times my house was bad. But i had a friend that would come over and help me
Thank God for your friend❤ society thinks that a new sleep deprived mom is superwoman. It truly takes a village
I relate so hard to not connecting with your baby. I went through MAJOR depression and cried multiple times a day and still have hard days now at almost 7 months. Postpartum is tough and not a lot of people talk about it and there’s always negativity with “not feeling connected to your baby” “you’re the mom” it’s so frustrating and I feel for any mama going through a tough time you’re doing good mama I see you💗
Your right. I probably never had diapers laying around either, but I certainly had heaps of laundry and dishes. Being a mom is very hard, and shame on anyone that's says anything about a postpartum mom. No one understands your situation because everyone has a different experience.
Thank you for talking about feeling not connected to your child in the beginning. I didn't feel like my son and I were truly bonded until he was a few months old. And a lot of the time you hear these stories about feeling connected right away and I know they were meant to be mine and what they needed immediately. When that becomes the expectation and it doesn't happen I don't even know how to explain how it makes you feel. I'm so grateful that I had my parents to help me through that time.
I agree. I can relate to her in the sense of not having the strength to do much. Although i didnt do that i might have done something else. Plus most people may not know that she is a nurse that was working hard even throughout her last months.
That makes a little more sense. I think It's more so whoever takes care of her kid when she's working shouldve cleaned up as well.
Everyone has different abilities/supports/coping/recovery when recovering from illness or a life transition. As a nurse I’ve cared for many in WAY WORSE living conditions and I have not found a single time that judgement and criticism would have improved their situation. Connection with needed resources (sometimes mental healthcare, social services, etc.), education, and compassionate support can make a big difference. I encourage people who want to condemn people in these situations to think about situations like this as a red flag that more help is needed- not more judgement.
Thank you for making more people aware of this problem! Also love ur vids❤
That’s really sad , i remember my sisters flat 24 years ago she had a awful birth gave birth at 2cm dilated and tore from the neck of her womb and front to back she slep sitting up on all fours for almost a year , and every few days I’d go there and the bath was full of washing and nappies everywhere dirty bottles because she couldn’t bend over and had life saving surgery six weeks after birth , anyone else looking in would think really bad stuff , but she was helpless and as long as the baby was fed she was happy, you never know what mums are going through offer help support a hug kindness or let them know what they are going through right now is temporary, don’t hold the baby clean up cook lighten the load , you just don’t know if your comments judgement or unkind words could be the thing the pushes a mama over the edge .
When i have children i hope i don't get pd, i hear how hard it is on the mother and baby, i really don't want to go through that, i hope all the moms ,even the dads are doing better now ❤
I can't relate with any of this . I am not judging in any way but what I am hearing is the younger generations tend to have more issues with life in general . We older generations have failed to teach you self reliance and self sufficiency. I was a military wife and had to do it alone most of the time and also had no familial help . My house was white glove clean (military housing -it was a must ) and my babies only used cloth diapers .
I had two in cloth nappies, a five year old, and a 7 year old. Cloth nappies start to smell pretty quickly, so I used to soak them in the washing machine... but they never got put on the coffee table 😮 !
Other things didn't get done...😂
Postpartum depression is something that need to be addressed. The focus is on the baby but mom is forgotten. I was already suffering with mental illness and when I had a baby my postpartum depression was terrible.
I could hardly brush my teeth for three months postpartum- of course it’s disgusting and sure brushing your teeth takes 2 minutes (same time to pick up dirty diapers) but I physically couldn’t take care of myself and my new born at the same time. It’s so wrong that people treated her like that because she was struggling
💛You are such a perfect person 💛
Also perfect does not mean having no flaws at all
Some days... thats only 1 days worth of diapers. But about maybe 3 days worth. Not bad for infancy!!!! Those first few months are hell if your on your own!!!!
You have the cutest baby I’ve ever seen and I love your videos so much and you are so pretty too
I think its because no one knew whether or not she was going through something mentally. As you said no one in thats doing great mentally would have 17 diapers lying around. I think it wouldve been different if she had said shes been going through depression or something. Also if she had a partner.
It’s so heartbreaking how vicious OTHER women can be towards other women. Like congratulations your PDD didn’t get the best of you, that’s not the case for many/most women, PPD has legit made women loose their absolute minds, so bad some have actually harmed their babies unfortunately. 17 diapers, is a WIN. That means the baby wasn’t neglected, wasn’t abused. Boo hoo the house got messy.
I was taking care of 3 kids one was 3 one was 1 and the other a newborn. And just had my third c section. And would get only 2 hours of sleep every night and cleaned the entire house and made every meal while having severe postpartum depression and postpartum schizophrenia and I still made sure the house was clean and everyone was taken care off
Okay but are you every woman in the world? No! It’s great you were able to pick yourself up and clean but not everyone can do that.
Has it ever occurred to you that maybe your postpartum schizophrenia made you manic and that's why you were able to do those things? Maybe, it gave you these bursts of energy/ elevated mood that made it possible to do that. I'm sure you didn't like the comments people made about you during that time so don't judge others for what they're going through.
I am sorry that you had to experience that.
I don't think she was being rude or judgemental it's sounds like she was just saying what her experience was
Honestly I adore the way she parents and looks after her babies buttt, a lot of her behavior is still unacceptable. Like her cats and dogs going numbers one and two then leaving it for DAYS without doing anything. Leaving moldy dishes with cat food on her counter which her cats continued to urinate on. And later posting it then getting slammed and then proceeded to attempt to defend herself. I get being a mother is hard and she’s struggling and I’m happy she’s prioritizing her children over herself but, cmon man that totally does not excuse any of the other things.
I had twins. Probably had a lot diapers around the house 😂😂
Agreed ❤❤❤❤
The people calling her gross probably had a village behind them helping. .or aren’t parents themselves
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That's bs about post partim, if you you didn't want to have a kid, you should have allowed yourself to get pregnant
I aint nobody should judge.Nobody because you ain't never been in that position then you shouldn't talk
You are fine dear people suck
This is kind of a demented and unrealistic take. You shouldn't be dictating what people went through or did not go through in their postpartum phase. It's actually narcissistic of you to assume that lazy mothers are going through postpartum depression or that women that actually take care of their household and their kids in postpartum are getting help and are not suffering in any type of way. This is a very disgusting take.
I’d encourage you to consider that there is not one way to experience perinatal depression. Some people are highly functional and others are not- it doesn’t mean that one of those people was any less depressed. I also doubt that the mother in the video is lazy- but perhaps prioritizes other tasks or has not learned a more efficient way to keep up with the work. I feel so blessed to have people in my life that have taught me routines to take care of my family
Not allowed
There's no excuse for tht level of nasty