The Man Who Is Obsessed With The Number 12 (Mental Health Documentary) | Real Stories
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- Опубликовано: 10 окт 2016
- A remarkably intimate and moving film that offers an insight into the extreme Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Hugh is trapped in a world of endless order and repetition, where each day is spent with the same ritual placing of objects and counting in 12s. His condition places a huge strain on Hugh and his family. With the help of a leading psychiatric authority on OCD, Hugh is challenged to face the fears and anxieties that fuel his compulsive behaviour.
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I worked with Hughie for nearly 16yrs with British Rail, he wasn't just a workmate we were good buddies, drinking partners, we would go to the local pub on a Friday night and see some country & western bands then finish off with a meal. In all the years working with my mate I have to be honest I never thought there was anything wrong with him although sometimes when we were doing jobs he liked to speed the job up and now after seeing this video it seems that what he was trying to do was get the repair job done on the track before the train was due in both protecting the train/passengers plus us his workmates, at the time we thought nothing of it but it must have been his OCD coming through. As mentioned Hughie was and still is and will always be a great mate of mine even though I'm on the other side of the world in Australia and seeing this video upset me to see what he is going through. I know this is an old video but I hope my buddy has now got the help needed and is on the road to recovery. Hughie if you read this I would be made up to hear from you on how you are going.
Your old buddy
Tony
❤️💯💥
It truly is 12 seconds to midnight for ol' Hughie.
Did he ever find u ?
Awwwww…hope someone reads this
@@jordan3405 oh god really?!
People just don’t seem to understand the torment, torture and agony of OCD. It is Brutal. Brutal.
Very embarrassing.
And yet people love to copy it for woke attention
@@gdimond2060 that is not woke. Woke isn’t everything you don’t like.
@@noggin9306 Why ?
@@chanjackie2299 what?
The fact he keeps saying “so that’s perfect” breaks my heart for him.
I would glue the ornaments in place, but then he probably still has to check if the glue still holds everytime . I have OCD so understand the torment and the change of thoughts/compulsions.
OCD would not like that! Really good idea @@lucialuciferion6720
@@lucialuciferion6720 when i shower i have to very precisely make sure i clean each part of my body…can be very aggravating
There's a reason why diluting the meaning of OCD to cleanliness is so discouraged. The anxiety and the intrusive thoughts and the loneliness are utterly exhausting and there is nothing to desire in it
People who say they have ocd have sumthing much worse imo its called imposter syndrome these people are dangerous
the real sad part is that his compuslive revolves around him wanting to secure his family's safety
Homeboy8227 For many people that seems to be the reason they do things like this, or they obsessively clean to keep their families safe from germs
Slomofogo nah, I think that would only worsen it, indefinitely.
In most cases it starts like that,fear for loved ones.Wanna hear the weird thing?When it starts you can clearly hear a voice in your head telling you what to do.
Well, I had this OCD thing for half a year and I'm not schizophrenic.I am depressive however.
God forbid. he might feel responsible that he had not performed a ritual correctly. don't want him to even read this
"In sickness and health"
Respect to his wife for taking vows seriously. Really hope he gets the help he needs, feel for the poor bloke!
the guy is literally a ticking time bomb, potentially murdering someone which he said he would do, the more he finds stuff not his way the more the timer goes down. l know this episode is 20 years old but hopefully he is cured now.
@@zimankhan7411 Tad extreme mate
@@PeterCaptainObviousvastly
You're a fool. Don't you see her at the gym? No woman's instincts tell her to remain with a broken man. That line was something made up by men.
Absolutely not! NO. My mother did the "sickness and in health". Know what? All her kids are mentally ill and low functioning as a result. So is she. He's dead. And we continue suffer for it. Do not praise this. These kids will never be happy or normal.
As someone with OCD, cases like this as well as my own experiences are why I hate when people trivialise OCD. It is life altering. It wears you down beyond belief. To those who also have OCD, I am wishing you the best. ❤
Stop with the nonsense and that's it... look at the rest, they don't need to do any ritual so nothing is happening, it's not real.
@@Userfriendly116 Thanks for the perfect example of somebody failing to understand what's actually happening. Literally everybody with OCD is fully aware of the things you said and it changes nothing. So now what? What's your next piece of life-changing advice? Got any other mental disorders to cure in a single sentence?
@@Userfriendly116 Do you understand what the _compulsive_ part of OCD means?
And pls youtube or channel owner stop deleting my funny comments omg. So annoying.
same, i have it as well, but not as bad as a lot of cases. i repeat questions over and over, hold objects for a certain amount of time to evade 'certain doom', stuff like that, but i think the reason people trivialise it is because, in conversation, the term OCD is often used to describe a symptom of wanting something to be perfect. its used as a comparison and, eventually the condition and the light description get blended together so people find it hard to distinguish between whats legitimate and not.
Anxiety is a curse, it isnt satisfied until it takes you to the grave. I hope he finds comfort and a way to beat it
He's already dead
I have "Pure O" it started first as depression, and after it became into OCD. I have it now for almost 1 year and a half. It's really hard to live with but what can I do? I try to accept it but it's hard, like really hard.
Poor man. It's not his fault and he's sweet really
It's not his fault he's sick, it's his fault he isn't fighting. Like at all... But he sounds like he might not be aware there's treatment. His doctors doesn't seem to have told him either which they should have.
@Anonymous You didnt get a reply.........so I guess we know.
OCD will make anyone sweet. The only way to get rid of it for me was to through away the sweetness and become rotten in a sense
@@annnee6818 It is difficult to fight something like that
Sweet?He can't keep from saying to his family are annoying him?At least keep his mouth shut knowing full well that it's all in his mind.He makes me sick.
I honestly don't know what is worse, being lost in a world where you dont know you're crazy, or being like him who is completely conscious of it. Neither seems fun. His wife seems like one of the most kind, caring and amazing people.
The world is crazy.
The second one is worse, believe me. And typically of OCD
@@vincentpeeters1157 maybe not
I’d rather be the first
My wife is very patient as well
I've suffered with OCD for 30 years. For the last 10 years, I've been meditating on a daily basis. I no longer suffer with intrusive thoughts, anxiety or compulsive behaviour. I hope that this helps someone else out there.
Yes, definitely this helps
How do you stop intrusive thoughts while meditating??
@@Lex_112 Use a mantra
@@Lex_112 You actually don’t stop them! You just accept them as thoughts - nothing more nothing less. They’ve already happened (nothing you can do about that) so the point is to return to your breath and cultivate awareness. It’s the same process for any thoughts that may pop up, intrusive/very emotionally charged or no. I like to occasionally use a mantra I learn from a great teacher called thich nhat hanh - “Breathing in - I know I’m breathing in, Breathing out - I know I’m breathing out.” It’s very grounding and helps me to understand that there is something so “real” about the visceral, steady experience of my breath, my thoughts are a bit more abstract and less essential. I hope you’re well and I hope this helps ❤️
@saoirserosenstock8144 Thank you so much for responding so thoroughly. I really have wondered how to deal with this issue. I'm so grateful to have gotten this alert rn, I've been dealing with a lot of stress lately, so this really helps, and I will also save this for future reference 🙏 ❣️ ty again!!!
This coverage is great and I really appreciate Hugh and his family for choosing to share this. The acknowledgement and acceptance of the need for help is uplifting. Truly wish them all the best ❤
I cried so hard when he explained why he does this for 18 hours a day. 😭 He thinks it'll help save his family.
Its common when you have OCD
Feels Good Man thats very common with ocd. Its a sad reality :(.
Feels Good Man
That isn’t why he does it. That’s his rationalization, but he was doing it before he even had a family
It’s crazy because I have this to an extent with objects touching other objects and things like that and you just feel off or like something bad will happen if you don’t do it correctly. It’s completely irrational and you know that, but it doesn’t stop you from wanting to do it if that makes sense.
The nitwit is destroying his family not saving it.
The wife laughs a lot at his fears, and at first I thought 'what an insensitive you-know- what', but I think it's a defense mechanism for her own mental health. Laugh a bit or go stark raving mad yourself.
I said the same thing in my head watching this. Laugh to keep from crying
La esposa y los hijos son bellísimas personas vivir con alguien así es destructivo aunque le quieras con toda el alma.
It most def is a defense mechanism. Hope she is seeing a counsellor.
Absolutely c
The problem is that this is dangerous and lacking in empathy. From my perspective atleast, I think it's also a betrayal of your responsibility as a carer for your partner. Leaving him may well have encouraged him to get help, or atleast put him in a situation where he didn't have a choice but to eventually get treated by a psychiatrist.
When Hugh was in the doctor's office facing his fears of his son dying, I teared up. That must have been so difficult for him, but he made it through. Incredible.
This guy's condition made me cry. Literally I went through a spell of being half as bad as this, and I feel for him. He's such a strong bloke for pushing on and on. Much respect 💪👊🙏
If Hugh's OCD is an 8-9 on a scale of 1-10 I don't wanna know what a 10 looks like. Poor, poor man. He's a beautiful soul, just wants to protect his family, but is trapped in a world of rituals and anxiety.
With a ten having a family around him likely wouldn't be feasible.
Imagine a 12
Maybe a 10 would be coordinating each strand of lint that comes out of the dryer by colour and length.
it’s not what he does but why he does it that is the problem. He never once said he did it to protect himself. Always to protect his family. I could cry for him.
There's a popular Brazilian actress named Luciana Vendramini, she is known for having to quit acting to deal with her severe OCD. She was way worse than this man. She would take 10 hour long showers, in her darkest period, she was weighing 36kg because she says that waking up, eating whatever, taking a shower and going back to sleep would take an entire day so she stopped eating altogether. And she also tells about this day when she went out after a friend begging her to come out of the house.. she was stuck on the sidewalk for like 16 hours trying to go back inside her apartment but couldn't because the rituals were so demanding. Like counting taxi cabs that were passing by and starting all over again if she heard a honk. And going back and forth below electric wire like a gazillion times. Back then ocd wasn't really talked about much but when this last episode happened their parents finally took her to the doctor and she was diagnosed and she's pretty mu h doing pretty well theses days. She even has a podcast. But she was way worse than this guy.
He needs meds as well as therapy. His case is very extreme. What a horrible existence to live like that.
ELAINE he needs med's 2 right very strong ones at that
After an attempted suicide I was hospitalized and I met a woman with OCD and Alcoholism. When she was sober the OCD was overwhelming and the OCD only died down some when drunk. A horrible catch 22. It was a difficult life for her.
i'm glad you are still here. I hope you are feeling better these days.
@@ascent8487 is she ok now if you still know her?
Yeah I’d like a follow up
Hope Hugh is feeling better these days and making progress with treatment.
He's got a great family behind him. Not easy for them either of course and they deserve a lot of praise for supporting him so much.
I solved my OCD problem by not giving into it as it just gets worse the more you give into it, by being busy with other stuff and most importantly realizing that OCD itself was the biggest imperfection in my life.
EXACTLY. Exercise + good nutrition - processed food also helps a lot! I also have another tactic, when I have an ocd attack, I threaten myself: "if you do this, your mom will die." or "if you do this, you will gain another 0.1kg on the scale." it's silly, but personally it helped me a lot.
If rituals can change over time to be worse, then they can also change over time to be better. It just has to be slow
Ow, The good doctors here know everything
Some people have it way worse than you likely had it, so your advice doesn't work for many, especially not this guy
u never had ocd to begin with if u can just "not give into it"
A few years ago, I had a friend who suffered with OCD. It was heartbreaking to witness him go through his repetitive and pointless rituals.
Tragically, he couldn't cope and ended up taking his own life....he was just 18 years old when he died.
RIP Rob
I was just thinking about how I'd rather be dead than like that. I bet there's a lot of suicides!
@@joycebrackbill-henderly8311 it's crazy to think about, but I was like that back in the day. The rituals and repeating routines, everything. I was able to get rid of it without any help from psychologist or psychiatrist. At first when I tried ignoring the urges it hurt me like the pain was actually physical (and sometimes it was, especially in the chest). But the more I tried the less painful it became. Eventually I just got rid of it completely. I still get the urges from time to time (once a month maybe) but nothing happens when I just ignore them now. OCD is not curable as far as I know, but you can get rid of the "punishment" your mind puts on you for not doing the rituals, if you are strong willed enough.
@@joycebrackbill-henderly8311so yeah, you shouldn't say things like that. You shouldn't commit suicide over a puny OCD lol. There are stuff way worse than that, psychologically speaking.
I had ocd too. My whole family have ocd. My father, my grandma, grandpa, my aunt. My mother and I tried to change ourselves and we did changed. Im happy abt that
@@joycebrackbill-henderly8311 seek therapy dude I've had OCD and ADHD for as long as I can remember and as I grew rn I'm 21 it started getting worse till there was a breaking point and I finally decided to either take it all at once and end the struggle or keep struggling forever...those last few months were the hardest for me and my family first getting it thru them for the very first time opening up about the darkest of what I used to experience and then ultimately seeking professional help sure was rigorous had it's ups and downs but now that I see it I'm glad that I did cuz now my life is changing for the better every single day...still on medication and therapy but now I can do what I've always wanted but could never do cuz OCD used to cripple me down but slowly you gotta coupe and fight thru... don't lose hope it's not as big of a deal as it seems...only seems larger than life until u seek help
Poor poor man. I feel so sorry for him.
victoria wiberg If you feel that bad there are various of charities sponsoring ocd. You could donate.
the two holes in the door tells you there's potentially some level of domestic violence going on, so don't be too quick to feel sorry for him. it's his wife i feel sorry for
+frank death that's probably from the sons tbh
Amberlei Moon the thought had crossed my mind. u could be right
+frank death He does these rituals because he wants to protect his family, so I don't think he would be the type to harm his family.
Hughie comes across as an exceptionally lovely man. To see someone so crippled by fear for the safety of people around him he tortures himself to breaking point is so sad. Hughie has some issues in his past for sure but needs love and reassurance and a lot of hard work to get him better. I really hope things have improved for this man.
its crazy that this was originally broadcast 18 years ago!!! hope hes still ok
His wife is a 1 in-a-million lady, unbelievable that she holds to him. Even tho he is so unlucky with his illness, he won the lottery with his family.
Maybe she likes his 12 figures and his 12 inches ;)
This was 20 yrs ago. In 2023 she would leave him in a heartbeat and start on OnlyFans
@@NoContextRDH You clearly need to go outside more.
@@NoContextRDH😭😭🤣😂😂😂😂 bruv i've had a fcking asthma attack from laughing at these comments, i love society/social media mate🤣🤣
@@arthurmorgan9944 😂😂😂😂
The angst on his face is visceral. Bless him.
113 likes... needs to be 12
Hilly feeks
Angst or fear ?
@@Felixdehuiskat-ul2mb Angst
You know...there is something kind of wonderful about him in the sense that he is doing these thing because he loves his family so much. It stresses him to the point that he needs to these things everyday all the time. I wish there were more people who was that compassionate for their family.
I cried during this.. Not a lot of people feel what he is feeling but I do and I feel for him
I wanna show this to my sister who said "ocd isn't that bad"
Realmkeeper do it. People need to be educated
Realmkeeper ocd is a bitch
before I was medicated, my ocd was bad enough that I couldn't hide it from my sister. she had the nerve to accuse me of doing it just to bother her. it had nothing to do with her being there at all. as a matter of fact, the ocd occurring in front of her meant it was more important than her witnessing it.
Realmkeeper She sounds like somebody living the false 'ignorance is bliss' saying.
Realmkeeper lm japanese.
I think so too whats yoursister means light. But my parents sister narciss disdor …I cant forgive them and hate them‼‼
Kudos to his wife for sticking around, not many people would be able to deal with living with someone who is that severely affected by OCD, I can’t even imagine living with it myself, it must be a scary condition
She could of cared more and helped him to get help
Or he could take care of his own mental health and get help since es a full grown man.
@@hr-hq8ji if your homeless…just buy a house right lol i hope you never experience mental health mate
@@trealin4730
You aren't in any position to say "she could have cared more"! She obviously loves him dearly to have stuck around so long. As harsh as this sounds there's also 3 grown up children and a grandchild. Many wives would have left their mentally ill husband years ago for far less!
@@jessikatkins1173 ‘in sickness and in health’ talking nonsense
This documentary was eye opening for me, i suffer with this same OCD and felt like i was the only person in the world experiencing it, especially the thoughts of dread, if i dont count to a certain number or do something a certain way a terrible thing will happen to me or my family, making noises a specific amount of times, touching things, body movements, almost everything you can think of. It can be genuinely exhausting and can cause depression and worsen your anxiety even more, and it may even sound/look completely ridiculous to somebody who doesnt understand and or experience it to this extent but it is a horrible thing to have to live with, it destroyed my social life, stopped me from working, ruined relationships etc... But if anyone reading this is currently suffering, just know, im alot better now and very rarely experience it and if i do its only minor things like having to have the tv volume on a certain number and so on, so dont despair too much because you really can get better with time, you just need to allow yourself to understand that nothing bad will come from not doing the thing that satisfies your OCD.
To have your worst enemy be your own mind is a torture that no good person should have to deal with
This is so upsetting to see this man trapped like this
You can see he has a good heart
Its is not real, this is faked, staged!
the love that any human displays to you is faked and staged@@VicGreenBitcoin
@@VicGreenBitcoin no its real
@@VicGreenBitcoin What has happened that so many people nowadays, mostly online, deny the existence of mental diseases? is it soley because of fake gurus saying that?
Mental healh exists. Mental diseases exists. Denying the reality does not benefit anyone, believe it or not.
@@VicGreenBitcoin you know nothing. you just want to believe it's fake because deep down you're a miserable person. sad.
Only someone who has experienced what it is like can understand this man's pain. I suffer from anxiety not even close to this man's level and it nearly crushed me. I hope he finds peace.
Me too
And me
@@samuelsantos7455 today 1 in 5 people suffers from anxiety this man has much bigger problem is his obsessive compulsive disorder, it doesn't allow him to live at all he doesn't have time for anything but these rituals that exist only in his head.
Same, anxiety and panic attacks and they are debilitating enough that I can't function, a lot of things relate to me from this video
I have issues as profound as this man... and I can relate completely with the nightmare that this is
Really sad, but his rituals/compulsions are keeping the anxiety going and making the anxiety come back stronger each time. I hope he has got the help he needs so desperately. 😢
I watched this years ago but returned to watch it after suffering my own bout of OCD and feel nothing but empathy for what this poor man went through and couldn’t help but cheer on his son not only fighting to win but for his dad’s courage. Respect Hugh🫡Top man
I think he should go for a minimalist decor in that house . Cut his work load down a bit.
Its not as simple as that. He would find other compulsions and rituals to replace them.
Live like Japanese no clutter
i TOTALLY agree. I have mild OCD and the less u have, the less u have to worry about.
yeah exactly, i mean i don't have OCD but god his house have like 10 million bottles and 20 million decoration stuff... i would opt for more minimalistic decor tbh.
😂😂
My father started suffering with OCD & health anxiety about 5 years ago - came straight outta the blue. He used to wash his hands upwards of 80 times a day, would 'self-diagnose' food as 'gone off' and throw 90% of his meals away. Became borderline unbearable for my mild-mannered mother. He would boil the kettle four times just to make one cup of tea.
One day, about a year ago whilst taking his car for an MOT he slipped on a patch of ice and smashed his hip and due to his inability to walk during the healing process his symptoms just disappeared as quickly as they appeared. It's like his mind had something new to focus on. The brain is such a complex organ!!
I hope Hugh is in a better place with his health these days 🙏
Has your father had his blood checked thoroughly? Not just very basic blood tests, something more detailed. And neurologic tests. OCD symptoms can come up with physical illnesses, like neurological and autoimmune illnesses. When it's not physical it often arises from a traumatic event. But there's actually a lot of people who get diagnosed with a mental illness, who actually have an underlying physical illness that manifests in these ways, ocd, anxiety, sometimes even psychosis and hallucinations, personality changes, etc. When it's physical, it's often treatable and the mental symptoms will go away once the illness is kept in check. I'm saying that especially since for your father it's come up this late in life and seemingly out of nowhere, unless he went through some traumatic event around that time. With physical causes, these flare ups can come on with something as simple as a bacterial/viral infection, strep throat, anything triggering the physical autoimmune illness or similar
man i used to think i wash my hands about 40 times a day thinking that was bad i have even like tanned red hands it is brutal man i cant even think that is enough theres so much germs going about and lockdown made that even worse no joke i feel like frank from its always sunny when he shaves off all of his hair and wants to be "PURE"😂😂
@@SomethingWetyess! You seconded what I said. This looks more like encephalitis caused OCD than normal OCD.
That's intriguing! How long did his OCD last?
I can totally relate to this Man. My Sister & I have what we can describe as typical OCD & it can get quite bad of we don't catch it in time. Its a terrible affliction, I believe OCD is created by trauma of some sort, mine was created when someone else took control of my life & i had no say about it. I was also crown ward of the Catholic Children's Aid Society at the time my control was taken away from me. I wasn't allowed to be myself ever & that led to a life of crime & violence as a way of say **** *** to those who took that control away.
With these videos, I came to realize I had OCD where I didn't see it before so I am truly grateful for this video & ones like it & the people who share it & I can see myself in each person who makes a video of this nature.
I want to thank you for making this video. It truly helps me not feel alone now helps me recognise my problems that I need to address. God Bless you all.
I know that this was years ago, but wow this makes me sad to see. I hope that this gentleman got the help he so clearly needed. I hope that he's now living his life in peace.
For a man that struggles so much with severe OCD, his strength of mind to pack and go on holiday with his family as well as walk over the glass absolutely astounds me. I wish him and his family all the best. I hope he got the supports he needs because he clearly has the determination. So proud of a stranger ❤
If only he could’ve seen earlier all this support and love for him that there is here. I hope he’s seen this and reads the comments.
He doesn't have strength of mind that's why he has OCD, he doesn't have the mental strength to confront his own scary irrational thoughts so they take over him. The key word is 'scary', fear is his driving force, he keeps saying something bad will happen if he doesn't do his rituals, so he's scared and that's what's at the bottom of it.
This is a weakling, and it only carries on because people are SUPPORTIVE, just like you. That's why we need compulsory military service, they don't give you time for being feeble and teary faced, you get it rough from the Sargent until you toughen up. 🤬
great acting
Someone I knew that suffered with severe OCD presented very few behaviours when we knew them initially, they became more and more apparent as they became comfortable around us. We went on holiday and the same thing happened it started relatively ok but then it got progressively worse over the two week period.
They had to wear and travel home in the same clothes they wore on the outbound journey.
I truly believe the cure for many of you can be found in plants specifically the chemical compound dimethyltriptamine
Big ups to the wifey for being there for him thru thick and thin. What a great woman
fr
She is nice but at the same time, I dunno, I'd have stopped him saying "stop this craziness" or "those arranged toys never will save us from any catastrophe" or something like that to force him to face the truth. The man is too tolerant with his obsessions and the wife is too tolerant with his husband in my opinion... tolerance doesn't help him to live a normal life but lets him sinking. You have to be true and then your patience helps.
I'm reading all of yer comments in a thick Liverpudlian accent. Have I gotten the OCD too? God help meh. 😜
@@jancsikusOCD isnt something you can be convinced out of. You couldnt tell someone to just not have cancer, this is an illness in the same way.
@@TSE_WOODY There's no point, their mind is shut off to anything out of their norm obviously.
His wife is an incredibly kind and patient person ❤ I work in a facility that helps people with different types of mental disorders. It’s important for them to get help, not give into their ‘habits’ and for the family to avoid having the optimistic view of ‘everything will be ok in the future’. Being real and not making them comfortable enough to keep on going forever like that is important.
This just came up on my youtube home page, I've never heard of you or seen your videos before but after reading the video title I just had to come on and wish you the very best. I really do hope that things improve for you despite your prognosis. I wish a could afford to contribute some money like other people have, but from one human to another, stay strong, stay positive and again, I really do hope for the best for you.
This show was filmed 18 years ago.
His wife demonstrates a remarkable degree of patience
SOMEBODY... ANYBODY....HELP HIM :(
Funny your comment has 12 likes lol
They are lol.
The Rare Gadget and it's Jesus 👑💛 that can help him
Kristen Spottedwarbonnet Awesome. Let’s test this. Go find him and offer your solution. Im game for that.
@@iananderson6994 to u
His OCD is so severe and horrible man. I'm so glad that I can control mine and it's always been "light"
I have put up with my OCD since the age of seven. It can be irritating and time consuming, but it's part of who I am and I accept it. I even laugh at it. This poor gentleman in the video has my sympathy, and I wish I could have a conversation with him. This is because I am a very good listener, and I may be able to help based on my own experiences. I managed to cure my terrible levels of anxiety permanently fifteen years ago, so I would be happy to share my story, even if it's not of significant assistance.
i wanna give him a massive hug, i understand what he’s going through it’s awful crying several times throughout the day from being anxious over irrational things. sending my love to him
He probablywon’t like that
@@terrytownsend5583why's that then.
I have a few things I always do but I do understand how ridiculous it could get if I allowed it to develope more so I stop it.
12 hugs
You honestly have no clue good try tho
It's strange how psychologists usually want to take a surface level approach of attacking the obsessions and not addressing the fundamental root trauma that drives OCD. As someone who has recovered from OCD; I can say it was 100% a coping mechanism for dealing the abuse of my childhood and the incredible feelings of insecurity of being raised in severely a dysfunctional home. Once I was able to come to terms with the trauma, the OCD just evaporated.
It's pretty much the same for all types of mental health, they mask the problem with drugs but the source of the issue will never be resolved, it's like putting a band aid on the issue as a quick fix 😕😕
That definitely isn’t what caused mine. Maybe needing two surgeries before the age of 6 didn’t help.
Spot on ❤
Right? I was baffled. I have no experience with psychologists and the like, but my gut reaction aligned with what you say entirelly.
@@sookie4195 well 2 surgeries at that young age? that would be considered as traumatic.. especially in a childs brain.. it's not always abuse or neglect that creates trauma. It can be life events ( particularly at a very early age) that can cause ingrained behaviour, even if we are not aware of why we act like we do...
This is heartbreaking! This was posted years ago so I really hope he's happier now and has had the help he so deserves. Bless him
This must definitely be from the mid 2000’s. The TV and furniture is all from my childhood. Hughie must be almost 70 or over now I’m guessing.
Hugh is such a sweet man. I hope he’s doing better and has his OCD under control.
No one can understand the torture and torment ppl have with OCD .its so easy to laugh ,but it is hell on Earth.
Victoria smith yeahp
Victoria smith it honestly is and it's soul destroying when people make light of it
Victoria smith I think I can the pain I saw in that mans face brought me to tears
Absolute respect for this guy being open on his disorder, and the family sticking it out with him.
Mostly if someone knows your dealing with this condition they rather laugh in your face. I find it really disgusting behaviour, it reveals there level of intelligence
@@filipvanwalleghemit is a little funny though
The irony of your (terribly spelt) comment, questioning other people’s intelligence 🤣🤣
@@ronaldlymm7248 its really not at all. If you'd ever experienced ocd or extreme anxiety you wouldn't be laughing
@@Nantosuelta and that’s why you play air soft.
It must be so difficult to have severe OCD and for his family. God bless all of them!
I hope for this man he got help now.
And a lot of respect for his wife an children.
I feel for this man so much.. I suffer from anxiety and depression and often wish I could flee my thoughts and just take a break for a moment.. I often feel like I am drowning.. Every day I have to fight and it's exhausting.. I feel for all those suffering from OCD.. I am sorry that so many people suffer from mental disorders.. Makes me very sad..
i have felt that way most of my life. I take two meds, paxil and welbutrin. Since menopause i have felt so much better. Keep trying new things, different meds. Dont give up.
I'm a great believer in alternative therapies obviously the medication he's taken is useless so hypnosis, eating healthier and praying daily for Jesus to help cure him and I bet he would feel better. This is driving him crazy you can see it in his face, poor guy, your cure lies within you.🌻
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Jaegerson23 why?
Jaegerson23 but marijuana causes paranoia..and may cause cancer so it's a double edge sword...you'd best drink chamomile tea 😆
He needs people that don't enable this and break his patterns. At 16-17 years old I remember crying whilst turning a tap on and off 40 times and slamming the draw over and over. My family started to interfere. Every pattern destroyed and I don't do any of it anymore. You can recover.
Luke Petersen I agree for me having a partner and kids helped so much I couldn't control everything so I slowly let alot go
wha was the cause for you¿
Yes but some people's condition is alot more severe than your own, no ones is ever the same
@@sikandarhabib7056 just take more work and persistence. But can very well be done. Break the patterns.
My heart goes out to anyone with ocd it’s heartbreaking to see people live this way I hope one day we can find a cure
god bless these people
it makes me so sad that he puts himself through all the exhausting rituals not to save himself but out of utter fear for his family. upsetting but humbling at the same time :(
I don't understand why the doctor doesn't medicate him for his anxiety?Won't medication for anxiety give him some relief?
medication combined with exposure therapy is the only scientifically proven method for "curing" OCD. You are completely right about that and I don't understand either why the documentary included no mention of medication.
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Medication worked miracles for me.... I hope he is happy & doing well now
The right medication can and does work. The only thing I can think of is that he may be refusing medication because he believes it will kill him. Another symptom but they can't force him to take it.
I had terrible OCD for the majority of my childhood. very similar to the man in the video. I started taking Abilify in 8th grade and it completely changed me. I still had the obsessive thoughts but I stopped the rituals. I'm 18 now, and in my first semester of college I stopped taking the drug and I still feel way better. part of me feel like my brain just matured over time, but everyone has it differently.
May god protect this man from his own mind and l understand him 'cos l used to have some rituals involving similar fears and it's so annoying knowing they may not be true but u comply.....just in case which makes u come back to the same spot until one day l began trying to do other things in between and now l am free. But one must always be careful. Old habits die hard so u need to find new healthu ones and DO NOT THINK IT's ur fault dude. Peace and regards to ur family. U will get through !!!! Why? Cos that is the habit u gotta think about. YOU ARE THE MASTER OF UR MIND. ONLY U
this is why it pisses me off when people say they have OCD just because they like being minimally tidy or when objects align. they have no idea what OCD actually is like. how it destroys people and their families...
Omfg I feel so bad for this guy just rips me up to watch him cry :(
why doesnt have Benzodiazepines? they would cure him. and some cannabis too... and he would be ok.
Or rather over 9000
@@rilluma Sadly it's not as easy as that, the benzos could be a short term fix but sadly the problem will always be there in the morning
Well said Liam you got heart pal all the best fae Falkirk
rilluma it wouldn’t. It might help in a crisis but the problem is he haves so many crises he would become addicted and then have that to deal with too
Hughie, if you ever see this,
You're an amazing human being.
Dealing with what you have for so long and facing your fears head on.
Nothing but massive respect to you fella.
Mental health is cruel, cruel as cruel can be.
But it can be undone and you can live a happy, content, relaxed life.
I sincerely hope things are going well for you fella.
Keep at it and beat it.
You have no idea of he can ever live happily and content. It can not always be undone. And that's no failure. It's a struggle, sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. Hoping the best for him
Lies again? UEFA SW Age 12
Make sure you mention 12 in your comment otherwise you'll get a telling off from Hughie lmao
he is the living proof that all may not go well, even with time. There needs to more than just time.
I have autism and ocd. If I’ve ever seen anyone who needed to be the the hospital-it’s him! Bless his heart. That is SO sad, but he’s destroying his family.
Gosh, I was tearing up watching this video. Hugh seems like a really sweet, loving husband and father. He doesn't deserve to suffer like this.
Yeah, such a sweet guy punching holes through the bedroom door because his wife moved a china dog one inch.
@@jamesflames6987 You don't understand, James.
No, he sure doesn't deserve it. Neither do I. I understand, I have OCD, too.
I was laughing
He should not have become a father in the first place. sorry for the kids
I feel so bad for him, cause it is an actual FEAR for him that these bad things will happen if he doesn't do all his rituals.
I knew someone who had to touch certain things and make sure the light switch was certainly off and not stuck in the middle before he left his house. But, this is taking it to a whole new level.
It’s amazing that she is still with him. Many would’ve left him and moved with their lifes
This statement, "I'm two people, I'm trapped in my own world," is such an accurate representation to OCD for me. For people who struggle to cope with it (myself included) you are often 100% completely aware of how batshit you look ALL the time. You know that it's ridiculous and it's wasting time and it's destroying you-- but it wouldn't hurt to just continue the routine? Because if you stop, something bad could happen. Because nothing bad happened so long as you did that routine. You validate yourself, the compulsions quell the anxiety; even for a moment.
You become trapped in this viscous cycle of insanity that FEELS so logical and rational at that point, after all, it's for yours and your family's safety; and you can't escape it.
BK it really really is that's exactly how I felt when mine was at it's worst urgh it was literally a living hell
BK - I actually said this to my partner the other night. I said it is like there is two of me. Was gonna skip this doco, but once he said that, it resonated with me and I watched the whole thing. I have OCD - luckily not as bad as this man.
Accurate. Well said bro ;)
BK sir lm japanese. My parents are narciss disodor. They took my everything. I have a muderous design to my parents.
It's a self fulfilling " loser " behavior. Stop justification you clown. Cowards and twits let this ocd destroy them. Good on you all. Cowards
His love and concern for his family struck me. And this is what is driving his OCD. He spends so much time concerned for his family when he is the one worst off. I hope this show will help him access a lot of really good therapy to improve things
Thing with OCD is hypothetically speaking if his family disappeared tomorrow , his OCD would not disappear it will just manifest and latch onto something else he's trying to save.. Whether it's himself or doing the compulsions just so random people in his head aren't hurt
@@lov305mia Yeah, that's the unfortunate part. A part of me was thinking that someone who loves him should coordinate a pseudo-kidnapping of his grandkid after he does all his rituals just to prove that it's unrelated, but that's not realistic. I feel for the guy. Seems like total torment.
This is a case in which it’s better not to have the father in the home
I have severe ocd as well but it doesn’t manifest in this way. I obsess over my electronics. Always thinking they’re faulty and broken no matter what. It really is exhausting. I just learned to live with it. It’s a tough battle you fight every day.
He is truly suffering, every ounce of the word. Truly tough and courageous individual
I just want to hug him and take away his fear if I could.
Make sure to hug him 12 times
@@markp1881 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 (12 mojis)
ur a girl
I don't think I have ever seen a case of OCD so bad. It actually triggered and disturbed me
i am on a way to become this man
I have some OCD I must tern off all electronics and put certain electronics in the oven to minimise fire. The other is to go back and put the key back in the front door lock to make sure its locked, I do it so much that the key stapped from twisting the key.
@@mladendenni7062
I think you're just effectively empathizing because it looks terrifying.
I wonder what he'd be like if they got him drunk? Maybe 12 beers would help him to forget to do the 12 this and that.
The way he says "perfect" is like an artist. He would be a great artist or sculturer that can make the perfect piece
My heart really goes out to this man and his family. This has to be an absolutely EXHAUSTING way to go through life not only for him but for his wife and son as well. I have a very mild form of OCD that makes me a bit of a neat freak but nothing in comparison to this. I'm wondering if anyone knows if there is any direction connection to OCD and childhood trauma? I ask because being raised Catholic in the 60s and 70s there was a major emphasis in school to always be neat and tidy. Its that whole "cleanliness in next to godliness" messaging that was taught back then. I'm 63 now and to this very day my anxiety goes through the roof the minute I walk into a church. My heart rate goes up and my palms sweat. Thankfully I haven't been a practicing Catholic for more than 40 years so I'm only exposed to this when attending weddings or funerals.
I didn't realize OCD was this bad I'm sorry😟
Its ok 😊
Well... Now you've educated yourself which is great. All any of us can do...
@Ivan But much better than this. Much. The shame about mild OCD is that it usually gets worse if not countered. By the time it gets this bad it's very difficult to treat.
He may have the worst case of ocd in the world I want to know if he got help it’s not 2017 anymore it’s 2019 now what has happened to him
I work with people who have mental health issues, and OCD is one that is very hard to handle.
I had this exact same thing when I was little. I had repetitive feelings in trying to make myself not feel guilty over things or making things perfect. I eventually grew out of it but it really drew me crazy.
It broke me when he said “I throw a challenge out to anyone that thinks they can help me”. There’s something so desperate in that plea…
I suffer from BPD and I’ve found myself thinking the same. The hopelessness of feeling beyond help. This poor man - I hope he finds peace ❤
I was diagnosed BPD about a year back, took 30 years or so to get the diagnosis and I can't exagerate just how beyond help and hopeless it feels. I can't comprehend another level above, which this man clearly seems to be. Good luck to him, he's being honest and open and that is the first step, and the hardest to take. Take care people, lifes short so make the most of the enjoyment you get.
Thats true, at the same time, that also reads like a show of defiance. Like, "You can try all you want to help me, but I refuse to accept it"
It doesn't matter how hard you try to help someone, if they themselves refuse to work on it. The only way you can be "cured" or get control of things, weather that's OCD, drug/alcohol addiction, etc, is for the person to want to get better.
If they keep giving into their compulsions, it doesn't matter what you try to do, you will fail, because they're not ready. Seems to me like he's become so lost in his thoughts, that he's convinced himself he'll never get better.
If you believe you'll never get better, then you won't. Its just that simple. The treatment portion isn't, its a long road, but its a road you need to be on together. If he's not on the same path, he'll make sure he always fails.
I think if he smoked dmt 1 time he would be otw to being cured
@@mainy1984 Same here. Went my entire life not knowing. I suffered so much because of it. Was diagnosed with bpd a few years ago and had to pay out of my own pocket, because the nhs just messed me about and went round in circles with me. Was then also diagnosed with adhd less than 6 months ago. I’m now 25 and can’t help but think what if it had been caught on earlier. It would have eliminated so much suffering. Best of luck to you x
That got me too! You could see the very real pain on his face, his eyes. That was heavy. Are there any updates on his progress?
“On a scale of a 10 he I would give him a 8 or 9’”....
Then what does a 10 look like !
Was thinking exactly the same thing. One up from this is rocking back and forth in a chair all day
I know right! I was like okay where's the documentary on the guy that has 10 level OCD,
I once saw a man trapped in a ritual late-night at a Carls Jr. He kept pacing and counting inside the establishment and I think even outside. He was mumbling to himself, and alone. I can't say I know what was going on in his mind, but he definitely seemed trapped and seemingly unaware of his surroundings as he was enslaved by his ritual/s. I wouldn't compare these two men, but the dude I saw definitely seemed like he needed real help, real fast. :( Regardless, this man in the documentary seems so destroyed (I am half-ways through it currently) and I honestly was surprised to hear 8 - 9, I thought it would be a 10 ...
my thoughts exactly!
Some people want to see the world burning
This isn't just OCD. It's extreme paranoia and delusions.
You'd be surprised at just how bad OCD can be
Wow, i had no idea how absolutely crippling this disorder could be.
I think he actually did quite well considering his anxieties. He faced his fears numerous times, which is more than most manage.
I was diagnosed with OCD and hypercondria very early on in my life. This is so relatable and sad. It's an awful illness to live with and very difficult for people who don't have it to understand. Please don't say you have OCD unless you've been diagnosed with it and are being treated for it. Being tidy or colour coding is not OCD.
I think its degrees. I used to do counting rituals when I was in early teens. I realized it was senseless and counterproductive and was able to just stop. Apparently these guys are much more deeply compulsed. Frightening.
Olivia McMichael that's literally what ive been trying to tell people. People are like "oml i cant stand having my room dirty." Um not thats not ocd honey. Like im so glad ive found someone who understands.
SidtheKid but were diagnosed lol. Its not ab being tidy. We may have to have things a certain way but our certain way could be messy. No hate tho.
@SidtheKid The self diagnosis is really jumping out here. Literally all she is asking for people who haven't been diagnosed not to say that they have it.
Is repeating the things you say out lound in your head 3 or 4 times every time you say something out loud OCD?
The man in tears. Really broke my heart. You can tell hes in absoloute dispair
i had ocd for years but have been ok for a long time now and so i feel the pain just by watching. The things you do to avoid pain is the pain so it just goes round and round and thats why numbers are so common as thats a way to have a point where you try and make it stop. when i started to get better i could make it stop when i told it "that was mean and i dont listen to mean things" but when tired it can can make it be harder to believe in yourself.
the trick is to be uncomfortable and wait until you feel calmer and only then do the rituals when you feel calm as then the brain will think "why am i doing these boring things?" and it will slowly go away.
Sending my best wishes to Hugh.Hope he got the help he needed, he was living in a nightmare.
Every time I think I’m a complete mess, I watch vids like this and am so thankful I don’t have disorders like this. I have nothing but sympathy and respect for those that have to live in these obsessive worlds.
It can happen to anyone too. Like, watch, once it get in your head or you are exposed to it, you may feel the need to start doing some rituals because it is like a virus, bad stuff could start happening if you dont start doing it yourself after watching this.
My wife suffers from OCD. Nothing like as bad as this, not even close, but Hugh’s story has given me a new understanding of the kind of thing she deals with.
If I were you I would go before it gets worse, even though its a made up so called illness. Its a joke but a damn selfish one.
My heart breaks for this guy. You can see how truly desperate he is. The poor guy literally has no life. His family are so patient with him too. Bless him, i hope he got the help he desperately needed. Also, im not actually sure when this was filmed but their house decor looked late 80's to 90's maybe? Could be wrong but just looks like its quite an old video.
2005
If he spends that much time aligning those little 'decorations'... I would get rid of all unnecessary items.
Sadly there's always more to trigger it, he has to work on the root of the issue and learn coping methods if the problem is to be solved.
You son of satan!
A glitter bomb would be like a nuclear device in his eyes.
they should try living minimalist, although as said theres an actual root needed to be solved
if you know about OCD you'll know that 3 things to align is better than taking them away and seeing every little crinkle and crease in everything else
It’s hard to imagine what a 10/10 ocd case is like if this is a 9. Poor man, it’s all for his family as well
This is all I could think the whole time. Have to imagine that things like going away for the weekend or going to London for the doctor wouldn’t even be an option for a 10
no way this is a nine, its a 12/12
I've never heard of a case of OCD that comes even close. He's absolutely a 10
Keeps his family 'safe' by making their lives miserable.
@@Alien_Observer_ It’s not a rational mental disorder. That’s why it’s a mental disorder. To those not suffering of course it makes no sense. I do similar things, but I’m autistic and doing my rituals doesn’t harm anyone in my family.
Sometimes I have intrusive OCDlike thoughts but they are very few and far between. I can’t imagine worrying for my family’s safety and believing my tasks will prevent harm. I hope he was able to find a little peace.
I’m a prior psych nurse - and have had patients with this illness - it is a terrible disease and interferes with the entirety of a person’s life.
I really, really hope the therapy works for him. Behind it I see a great guy with a good sense of humour and a good heart who cares for his loving family