Shariah (Islamic) Marriage in Jordan: What to expect + what to bring
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- Опубликовано: 24 фев 2020
- Hey guys! Everything I know about how to get married in a Shariah court in Amman, Jordan. We got married nearly five years ago so it's all a bit hazy, and things might have changed a bit... but this is what I know/understand. Are you marrying a Jordanian or an Arab? Everyone's got a funny story about getting engaged or married and I'd love to hear it in the comments! xx
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I got married in Amman at Sharia Court - I am non arab muslim and my husband is muslim from Yemen. It' s a long way to marry there, too much burocracy, stamps and permissions, translations , so you need patience, but at the end it is a wonderful way to marry someone you love. Alhamdulillah
How long did it take to do the kitab al kitaab? How long did you need to stay in amman?
Blood testing is essentially to lessen the possibility of transmitting thalassemia to offsprings as it is endemic in Jordan.
besides to know if they got aids or any infectious sexual blood disease in their blood
exactly....I'm Mad of her nice husband he is not reviewing the videos before publishing,,,,I watched a lot of this channel.....it starts to feel weird :)
Well, she is not totally wrong, thalassemia was endemic in Jordan, one of the contributing factors is consaguinity.
Rachelllllll!!!! I am so glad you posted this! This will be so helpful to so many women who are marrying a Arab/Or Jordanian! I’m glad I came to you & dm’ed you that time, you have been such a help. This is a awesome video! 😘
Its suuuuuch a great atmosphere drinking a coffee and driving to work while listening to ur videos!!
Haha drive safely!!
Thanks for sharing this video :) it was helpful.
Hello Rachel! Again, you have an interesting channel!! . Take care.
Thank you Carolina :)
Morniiinnng 😍😍 welcome againnn
I saw you at City Mall last week, you look even prettier in real life , mashallah! Useful info as always. All the best 🙏🏻
Haha I had such a (bad) adventure that day, I hope you didn’t catch me losing my rag while rushing up three floors with all my groceries 😅😅
Love how you take your time to explain everything! Even if I am a Palestinian from Jordan which live in Germany and is married to a Turkish man, who totally dont need to hear all this details, I find it so interesting to hear that from you, because of your super nice way to explain things 😂🥰
Palestinian the origin has a Jordanian nationality, living in Germany with Turk husband... Mashallah sounds full of eventful days lol
@@MohammadSrour it really is eventful 😂
بالتوفيق 😅👍
Merhabalar 🥰🥰 I love Palestin and Palestinian people :)
This is so scary dropping everything I'm moving across the world start a family not know in Arabic not knowing anything about the culture but you have helped me so much and I want to thank you
Finger crossed i will be there in a month . for a small stay. And yes email me any time. Any and all help is needed
Hello , it's simple culture
The money you are talking about is called Dowry (Maher in Arabic) and it has 2 parts:
1- Paid Dowry: advanced payment you take (can be money, gold, ..etc) the husband is obligated to provide it for you before the declaration of marriage (according to the mutual agreement between you guys). you can do whatever you want with it it's yours.
2- Deferred Dowry: post-payment you take (can be money, gold..etc) the husband is obligated to provide it for you (as agreed) after the declaration of marriage (Not after divorce). this is your money you can do whatever you can with it.
And the blood test is for thalassemia.
Thanks for sharing
New subscriber here. I married my Jordanian husband 10 and half years ago in Amman. We live in America. Jordan is a beautiful country. Planned on going in May for vacation but plans are haulted for the meantime due to the Corona. I've watched several of your videos so far and I am really enjoying them. :)
When you got married did you need any special approval from your father? I’m trying to get this information as I’m also planning to Marry Jordanian citizen
Yass! Creamy latte is the best type of Nescafe💙💙
Totally beats the red one!!
Upon marriage, one of the most common things that women normally include in a marriage contract is what we call in Arabic "3esmeh" العصمة , which is basically delegating her divorce to her. Other things are "Al-Maher" ألمهر and "Al-Mitakher" المتاخر. which basically are amounts of money that the man will have to furnish to the women upon marriage and upon divorce. In Many occasions, the former amount is symbolic, but the latter is taken seriously
Love your videos. I've lived in the Middle East for four years and I love it. One of the things I appreciate about it is the sense of family responsibility. I loved Jordan. He can take a second wife, but a woman can stipulate that if he does, she can divorce him. So she can't stop him taking another wife, but she will need to stipulate she'll leave; otherwise, she can't divorce because of that. Women in Western countries don't think about the contract because the laws in places like Europe, the US, Australia or Canada are egalitarian and womens' and mens' EQUAL rights are tacit. But, in Arabia, that isn't the case. So I just want to emphasise that the Shahria marriage contract is VERY important. Whatever it stipulates is binding; if a woman doesn't stipulate in the marriage contract exactly what she wants going into the marriage, during the marriage, and god forbid, should she divorce, what she'd be entitled to, she will end up with no legal claim. So to be on the safe side, and I know this isn't romantic, she could consider adding clauses in the marriage contract, such as:
if he takes a second with, she can divorce him;
she can work;
she can drive;
he will not put a travel ban on her in the system (or his and her children)
she can leave the country and keep her foreign passport,
she can visit her family or travel for ie 6 weeks in the summer and 3 weeks at Christmas
she can go shopping and to a salon as she likes;
she gets xxxxxx dinars if they divorce, etc
We all hope we will not get divorced and we will have a guy who will not restrict us, but it happens. We are in love and we can't imagine it ending and if you don't have any money when you are young and getting married and you are in love, you may not be thinking about financial security and what it could be like 20 years later. But the time will pass. Inheritance rights favour males and the wife does not receive 50% and if you don't put what you want in the case of the divorce and you successfully divorce your husband, which is much harder for a woman to do, you likely will have nothing unless he is a generous soul during a divorce :) About the Jordanian passport, be advised that dual nationality is not OFFICIALLY recognised. So you can maybe hold one, but if you have another one, legally, only one is recognised. Hope I don't sound like a party pooper. I just want to be clear since many women from the West assume egalitarian laws are universal, but they are country by country.
You should get a fluent English speaking lawyer and have the contract translated. The Arabic version is the one that will be binding, so make sure you have your own lawyer. Ask at your embassy. Articles of Laws are mentioned here: wbl.worldbank.org/en/data/exploreeconomies/jordan/2020#wbl_gp
Her name is rachel
Calm down. There r many women living happily in polygamous marriage as well.
Thank you very much for this information and explanation, especially in detail! I'll be going to Jordan to marry my husband I'm May. I knew about Sharia law and the contract made between the husband and wife, but couldn't really find details about them! Thank you again!
JZK this is very helpful sister. Is there anything else one should add to contract if planning on returning with spouse to America?
Thank you for your videos and sharing on this topic. I've been watching your videos since I first met my fiancé online. We don't want to wait for the K-1 Visa to get married so getting hints and tips through experiences shared in your videos makes the process that less stressful; especially in these pandemic times.
Good
How do you start that process
Creamy latte is my favorite too lol... This video is very interesting cuz we as locals don't really know about these things in details...
Welcome back, great video. Can you do a video about the top 5 suburbs to live in Amman if you are coming from overseas with good schools, safety, hospitals, parks etc...
I could relate so much to everything you discussed in this video. When I got married to my Jordanian husband, the Sheihk was very cautious and made sure that I understood everything that was happening. One thing that caught me completely off guard was the marriage contract and when they asked me what, if anything, I wanted to add to it. The only thing I could think to add at the time was that I wanted my husband to remain faithful. When I declined to add anything else they looked at me as though I was crazy lol. Another thing that caught me off guard was when they asked me how much money my husband had given me/my family before we got married (a type of dowry I suppose?) and how much I would expect to get if we ever were to get divorced. You're right though - I feel like a lot of Jordanian men don't really explain the process well to their future wives which makes it very confusing for us.
@M J
men dont hide it
they just dont care and focus on the marriage itself
thats why in islam there must be a sheikh and witnesses at the marriage contract to explain everything
islam is perfect people are not so choose the religious muslim who follow quran and sunna he will protect you and treat you very good
@M J
no
we believe everything in Quran
say it that you are gay and hate islam 😂
not strange
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The blood test is to check the general health status of both spouses:
1) Verify that factors that increase children's chances of developing future genetic disorders such as thalassemia (a blood disorder that affects haemoglobin) are not available.
2) Ensure that neither spouse carries the recessive genes of genetic diseases that may affect children.
3) Detecting infectious diseases, such as hepatitis C or AIDS.
4)Detection of any disorders that may cause sterility or delayed childbearing in both sexes (rarely).
Thank you for sharing these videos. I miss Jordan especially this time of year! I was married in Jordan almost 10 years ago. The process was the same for me then. The blood test is to check for thalassemia which is a blood disorder that can be passed on to your children. They want to be sure both parents don't carry the gene marker for it.
Hehehe so many us here. I been marriade in Jordan 8 years ago. Miss u also
I needed this video, cause my fiance is in Jordan and we just been waiting loool
Are you from the USA? I’m curious.
I'm a Filipina married to a Jordanian, some certain countries ask their embassies to give their subjects in Jordan a perrmission to marry a Jordanian such as Philippines embassy and it's a very complicated process tbh... BTW, this is my fifth year too 🙈 n I'm so excited!
Hello Rachel! Accidentally found ur vblog and u put some positive perspectives. I need it right now😉 may I ask if I can put in this marriage contract that I kids will stay with me in case of divorce? And did u make any additional agreement about this, cuz I know in case of divorce if u r not Muslim kids will stay with father. Thank you!
Thanks you very much it was a very interesting video
Great , confident and natural speech ,really amazing .Anyway Racel would you mind tell us how did you guys met ?
Rachel ,''happiness living it does not matter where you live but the way how you live , Racel give us a new attitude and example For this "
I just got engaged today😊
Very nice videos btw
Great video
Thank you!! Follow-up question: To the best of your knowledge, is anything different about this procedure if your fiance is from a different Arab country, and you both just happen to be in Jordan?
Hello. My husband and I got married in Jordan. We couldn't find those answers either, we're are both foreigners. If you still need help you can send us a message and we'll post a video soon.
From a medical point of view, blood testing is done to make sure that you have no HIV disease and that your Rh blood groups are compatible ... to prevent pregnancy miscarriages or child malformations due to Rh-blood groups incompatibility.
Thank u for ur amzing videos , my question how many u wanna add in your family book,cuz in Jordan it’s goona be big book , for example my parents add 12 times
You could add as much as kids you have, there isn't limit.
My grandpa have 9 boys and 7 girls. I'm Jordanian.
it is very interesting the Court gives us two certificate of marriage : one copy is just for the woman, and the other is just for the man, each one with our names, but I never know which one is mine, because the certificate is in arabic ( exactly like yours, in a beautiful paper) and I don't read arabic....
I don’t either! In fact I didn’t know there was a separate certificate and contract until after I filmed 😅
Hi, I'd like to ask if both parties are not Jordanian citizens, would that result in any additional required documents or any form of change in the process? Thanks!
Hi! My husband and I got married in Jordan. We are both foreigners. If you still need help you can send us a message and we'll post a video soon.
Thank you for this video ! Do you perhaps know if 2 foreigners can get married there without residency, please ?
Did you find the answer?
Thank you so much for sharing all this info! I would love to know what documents or how is the process for me being Mexican and I’m planning to move to Jordan is it difficult to get a permanent resident visa or something? Thanks again
Bro iam Jordanian I want to give you an advice don't do it the country is collapsed and no jobs even Jordanians are leaving the country for a better life . Unless if you want a salary of 12000 per year the cost of life very expensive and low salaries that if you are lucky just to find a job don't do it man trust me don't u will regret
monsss s thank you so much for the info! I really appreciated
@@robertopalomo2828 Hi did you end up moving to Jordan? I am mexican too lol.
@@astridastrid3780 I didn’t move , I stayed in Mexico but I’m going to Jordan this year ..how about you ?
I don’t know how I found your channel but thank you am from the USA and moving to Jordan inshallah this year and get married and live there I would love to get in contact with you
Hey sis! I am Mexican from USA too did you end up moving?
Thank-you for that , when you said you are a Christian marrying there in Jordan to a Muslim did you have to produce paperwork confirming your Christian faith or not ?
pre- marriage blood testing is a form of screening for thalassemia carriers to give counsel for two thalassemia carriers about the possible consequences if they did get married
can you talk about residences types in jordan
Thanks a lot for the video. Just to clarify:
You can get the money you put in the contract without being divorced; you have the right to ask for it at any time you wish.
You could add to the contract the authorisation to divorce yourself without going to court (In Islam, the man has the right to divorce the woman, but women need courts order).
Hello there,
You do a blood test to make sure neither you nor your husband have thalassemia, which may be passed to your children if both of you had it,
and the government prohibits the marriage between two people that have thalassemia major or if one of them has thalassemia major and the other has thalassemia minor ^^
so they force you to do Complete blood count (CBC) test that shows the signs of thalassemia
You can adjust yourself to a certain situation in your life ,but you can’t change who you really are there will be always a fight inside you no Matter how much you try to convince your self what’s normal to you it’s not to others and the other way around interracial marriage works out fine without family interference it’s a lotta pressure on the women 🌿🌿
After 4 years I finally married my husband in sharia court. The only thing that MummyinAnman seem to get wrong was about getting English translators in front of the sheik. I repeated my vows in Arabic and my husband's 2 brothers were witnesses. When requested what I would like should the marriage come to an end. ..I asked for 1jod.
how much is 1 JOD? what else should one add to contract?
Hey there! If you're thinking of offering details regarding a Christian marriage in Jordan, hit me up, I can provide details. I'm married to a Christian Jordanian and the process is a bit different than yours. (just slightly)
That would be great! How can I contact you?
@@MummyinAmman Yes as above do I have to show any paperwork declaring I am Christian when marrying a Muslim in Jordan ?
does anyone know if this Is the same process to get married in Jordan if both people are foreigners? and not residents in Jordan?
Did you get any answers in regard to this?
I know this is late to respond. But we have some info on on our channel. We had a hard time finding those answers too.
Do you have a discord server ?
Hello! Regarding the blood test, Yeah I think you mean testing for B-Thal trait!
Masha Allah you still remember all of these procedures 😁 I thought you got married in the UK 🇬🇧 🙂
5:35 just a little explanation
in islam god allows men to marry 4 wifes BUT before getting married if the women demands her husband in the marrige contract to only marry her and the man accepts it
then in the future he cant marry a second or third or fourth wife (this demand can be applied by women if they want too in the contract before getting married while they are at the sheikh )
and this demand is a right for the women if they want and it does not interfere with islam it is a recognized right for the women if they want too
So, how did you do Nikah? And are you a Muslim now? If you Christian how the Nikah works? I just don’t know the rules on that?
Ministry of Interior not foreign Affair give permission , i got married to UK citizen before , fortunately we got divorced
Blood test is for thalassemia , to be sure that not both cables have thalassemia .
Hi Rachel.. Iam married a Jordanian too.. It's been 3 years now... Iam from hk.. And don't have friend in Jordan... Feels so boring and lonely..
Are u converter? Am Indonesian, my bf from Jordan. I wanna ask u some questions if u don't mind give ur any contact like telegram, email, or Instagram so I could direct message u... Thanks
Thank you
Have you informed yourself about divorce before your marriage? What will be your rights in Jordan in regards to your children ?
javaskin in shareah law the mom have the right to keep the children in her custody and the dad should provide for them and give the mom money to take care of them, also the dad have the right to see and have time with his children. This custody will last until puberty, when the children have the right to choose if they want to keep living with their mom or move to their dad’s. Also it’s important to say that the mom should be qualified to raise the children in the first place.
@@user-bl4bx6jg3c Jordan has Sharia law? Uh, I didn't know that.
That regulation for childrens' custody sounds sensible though.
How are the schools there for children?
Free? Provide breakfast,lunch? Transportation? Education good? Taught in english?
Video maybe?
Thanks!
Hi. In Jordan there are public schools, which are free, and there are private schools, which are not free. Of course, schools provide students with meals. Education in Jordan is very advanced, and our universities are among the best. Transportation is widely available in Jordan. If you choose government schools, you will study in Arabic, but if you study in private schools, you can study in English.😊💛
@@user-fd3ur2qq6u I'm curious what school did you go to? Cause I've never heard of a school providing meals here
@@yasmeenhassan891Schools here provide food, whether it is government schools or private schools. Students can buy food from the canteen
Schools provide food for the kids to buy, from their allowance that you give them every day.. it is not expensive.. government schools don’t have school busses, put private schools do... some private schools do provide the food, but u pay for it anyway in the semester fees...
Hey I got a question
Non Arab men getting married to an Arab women
Plz make a video about that
Does Jordan have spouse visa.?
God bless you! I wouldn't never marry a guy from one of theses countries very brave of you
Hello Rachel! I just wanted to let you know I tried to follow you on IG - my name is kareema_rashdan. Also, my husband and I were married in NYC. My mother and father in law sent us beautiful 22 kt gold rings, hijabs for me, food and a beautiful wedding dress (and ALOT of money - very, very generous people). We have to get the family book and we are working on that now. We are having a big issue with the US government and USCIS right now as they took my husband’s passport five years ago and still have not returned it
Hey, I’ll look out for you :) inshallah you get your husbands passport back soon!
In islam you can ask your to be husband not to marry a second time and if he agrees to that request it's got written in the marriage contract as solemn oath that he can't break . But women rarely do that either because they are ignorant or because they dont want to demean themselves by asking that early on . My grandma asked my grandpa not to marry a second time when they were engaged and my grandpa kept his promise . Even though it wasnt officially written in the contract . Women can request anything and have it written in the marriage contract as long as her to be husband agrees .
Salaam sis what else should I add?
I wanted to ask you which religion your children will follow? How did you decide? Will you be okay with them being Muslims?
I am so confused and lost 😢 - anyone here in Jordan that I can chat with - I’m engaged - want to get married in December in Amman … his family has not quite approved because I’m Christian - we are in our 40’s and are VERY competent.
I traveled this November there but the language barrier was very hard .
I will take any advise , suggestions, new Jordanian friends, wedding planner help … 🙏🏼
In Iran people put in their marriage contract rights for the woman that aren’t upheld by the normal laws. They can put in it the right to travel outside the country without permission, to work etc.
نتمنى اضافة الترجمة الى اللغة العربية❤❤
I hope everything will be OK for u and for those people who are coming to live here or just get married 😊 I wanna say that life is short do what u think is right 🌺👍
Very good advice! ☺️
@@MummyinAmman thanks
Hello, I read that Jordanian Muslim men are allowed to marry non-Muslim women. Does that only for Abrahamic religious? For example, can a Muslim man marry a Hindu woman in Jordan?
No, Muslim man can only marry woman of Abrahamic faith
Good efforts! But please make sure of every piece of information before sharing. Ask and search then share.
You can put in the contract that he couldn't take a second wife so if he do so the marriage will be canceled.. I am certain about it
It seems to be up to the sheikh as many people are told by the sheikh that he won’t put it in the contract
@@MummyinAmman yep it's up to the shikh believes some of them do it and some not ... Thank u for the videos it's interesting keep it up
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yes that is correct! you can put that in the marriage contract. in case he wanted to marry another wife he will have to divorce the first one.
Nope u both sister should know that no obadian for creation in disobadian of allah (god) وكما جا في القران فيما معنا ماكان للمؤمنين او المؤمنات ان يكون لهم الخيرة فيما امر الله ورسوله
So the taking other wife its hala and aprovel but u cant but something that goes agints what allah make halal and not everyone have more than wife maybe 1 to 20 maybe less and as u now that the women have more number then men so its only logic way that the other women to have family or healthy sexsual life without commet adultery so be fair to other women not selfish
@@alisamkre2971 she can put anything in the contract if it's not prevented from allah, and if something is halal it doesn't mean you must do it and it doesn't mean that you go against allah if you wouldn't let your haspend do it, it's your life your own contract your own choice put anything if it's not prevented
Do Christian couples also have to have shariah marriage?
What about a christian man and a muslim woman, how do they get married in Jordan?
They cant get married. The man needs to convert to Islam
@@siemensbot5940 well that is not very nice...
Pretty sad and disappointing TBH
@@noamto Thats how it is.
وين الترجمة
By the time you’re done ✅ with the marriage process..please order a filing cabinet to store all of your marriage documents..lol
nice mug!
Hahaha thanks!
Did they not ask you to have a legal guardian when signing the contract?
Yeah but now she have the right if she is over 20
Jawad Aryaz thankyou
@@yaranawaiseh2633 U R welcome
Kazoza on your shirt is the local term for pebsi lol
It is the same in all Arabic countries
Salaam sis did your family go with you or was this just you?
Wa alaykom al salam wa rahmato Allah wabarakatoh
Did you (as the bride) need a wali at the Civil ceremony?
Did you find the answer to this question i am also curious
Did you find the answer?
♡
As a non muslim guy from India how come to maariage a girlfriend over there & we both will resides in India after that
Shukran it will help
In Islam the man can have 4 wives max
And there is no conditions to do or not to do,
And you can put condition in the marriage contract that you will not accept that and if he agree, he can't have more than one wive
I think some one surely told some information and there is big chance that issue explained to you in wrong way
It is complicated and you need to study the Quran and shareaa
Anyway I really respect you and your family, wish you the safe and happy life
Do couples in Jordon kiss in thier wedding like in Christianity?
Nooo, well, some people are doing it now but they are a minority. Personally, as an arab and as my daddy’s girl, never in a million years would I be able to kiss my husband in front of my parents, especially not in front of my dad! imagine his horror of seeing his little girl kissing someone, he still hasn't made his peace with me getting married and I’ve been married for almost 2 years xD
@@meerabalbaisi6576 thanks for replying I had this doubt because my gf is from Jordon Milan and even she was confused about this 😊👍
😂😂
فحص الدم قبل الارتباط بيكون عشان التلاسيميا يا حبوبة 😀
I think is better to also do a marriage in your other country the civil one just in case of a bad future divorce is not a tabuu but a reality, just an advice !
I think you’re right. Many don’t even consider divorce until it happens, let alone take precautions and think logically when getting married 😅
7:45 😂😂😂😂😂
Can the black woman be married to a Jordan man ,will she be accepted,?
Yes.
Blood tests that u dont carry thalassemia gene ( blood disease)😊
Whats your religion? and your husband?
I want to translate it.
You should. It will be very useful
@@wisamhazimeh4402 👍
In my contract we put 1 dinar 😅
I need to know where on earth u found a good one. Cos ive had very bad experience with Arab who used me, abuse me mentally🙁false promises etc
You can put in the contract that you don't want your husband to have a second wife, Allah allowed another wife for some situations, but Allah is fair and allows a woman to want to be the only woman in her husband's life, not against islam
Are you british
Your shirt omg like mine 😂😂 I have got it from one minute 😂😂
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You do realize that shariah means law or way of life, right? You do know that right?
Obviously lmao it's called Shariah Law in English for a reason....
Shariah is Islamic Law. You don't call American law an American Shariah
@@ddootzles but Sharia law translates as "Law law"
Im dreaming about this jordonian beautiful soul of a lady, ive been dreaming for three years now. Pray for me please, she rocks my world, my soul my heart and mind. ..ill update you if it ever happens.
May God join you with her rightfully and blissfully, don't forget to invite me to the wedding when -by God's will- get married ... I don't care ... I want Mansaf & Kunafa
I love to visit Jordan, soon
Hopefully you will!
It won’t hurt to put that your husband shall not re marry while married to you plus put a huge payment amount just Incase there is a divorce. But it’s still rare to have 2 wives these days anyways lol