DO YOUR CHILDREN GET ALONG?? Sibling Rivalry: Our Experiences vs Our Kids //
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- Опубликовано: 30 сен 2024
- What strategies are you using to manage sibling rivalry at your home?
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What strategies are you using to manage sibling rivalry at your home?
And have you thought about putting them on the same internet plan to stop the bickering?
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#siblings #newepisode #motherhood
Angie, you are glowing! Great show ladies... You are all amazing. You are blessings us all
Racheal is so eloquent. She speaks really good English.. sending u flowers..
Aww thank you😍
They all speak good English
Been waiting for today's episode since last Friday 😅. I"m afraid I'm addicted😊
I feel you girl...same here
😂😂let all addicts gather her
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Your not alone 😂😂😭
Since am.the last born...
All my brothers had rivalries with me...since I was the CCTV camera for my parents in their absence😂...until one time wen they used to segregate me wen carrying out their plans😢...I felt bad and changed there and then..we became good since then😂😂😂
Wow Rossette! I copy! Teaching these kids love, kindness and patience is the way to go!
Speaking into our kids is key too...
Comparison is so wrong!
Thank you ladies for today's episode! I learn so much with each episode! You're doing a great job! Love you all...😍
😂😂😂who else waits for Friday
I just be waiting for the notification 😅
Meee😂😂
Me teacher 😂.
Here I am
Me 😅
As a child...I don't remember being anyone's child in all the homes I have been to including the few times I HV been at both my real mom and father homes...I proudly say I was a rejected stone that is now a corner stone...I didn't fight with anyone in all those homes because I knew my position in their homes....😢😢 I pray I be the source of hope to everyone in my home
Hugs Gorreth
Fought with my twin brother to a point of death 🤣my mum intervened until she got fed up and just waited it out. We have a good relationship now. My advice is teach your children grace, love , forgiveness and peace when they fight, eventually they'll grow up and remember your teachings.
Thank you Ladies for today's episode!
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PUMLA and Angie..My forever Role models
Pumla's face when Angie said " The truth is mum says we shouldn't say this but we were clear mistakes"😂😂😂😂😂 . This has been refreshing!!! Smart ladies.
Hahahaaaa! I used to jokingly say this to my youngest sisters but had to stop when I realised they really didn't like it 😅. P
yeah , lol, wooww, as they say
Meanwhile this show 😅😅😅💯💯💯Pumla and Manuela mumpade enseko
I dreaded being a twin growing up because of the comparisons people used to make between us. Not knowing we are two different people with different interests and personalities. People should stop comparing children
Gwe katono oba now one episode aweek seems not enough😊 but i still appreciate your efforts ladies
We are 3 girls, am the second. I fought so much with my big sister, more especially in secondary because we were studying far from home, and she was always acting the parent. Yet I was the law breaker always. When we were younger there was no much fighting but she was smart, and somehow it was a motivation for me . I did better coz she was doing best. But I really hated it when they would compare us, saying she is better than me, and I would not make it to what she has done. So I would work even harder and either be better or at the same level. I never ever saw it as a competition. Right now, we are close because I am the one teaching her the life she missed while she was being a parent at a younger age 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. The mother figure in her comes up sometimes but I quickly remind her that am now old and know exactly what am doing.
We had verbal and action fights with my big ccta 1st born am 2rd even now we're still fighting 🙈Kati mama is using Manuela's method 🤣🤣kyoka am too close with 3rd born 🤔we never had any fight
Hello ladies…I’ve been patiently waiting for the next episode 🤗🤗
Thank you for talking about this. My relationship with my sister is like Rosette and her sister, but unfortunately for us, I still feel we are far from a happy ending. I have found that there is sibling rivalry between me and my younger sister up to this day. I am very sure it came from a place where my mum (my sister's mother) is always comparing us and putting her down while celebrating and praising me, her non-biological child. I wasn't paying much attention to it until we started to stay together. I started to realise that my sister would be bickering with mum all the time bit she would be happy whenever I fought with mum about something. I celebrate her. I support her, and I always fought for her as kids.
It's so sad because I love her, but I had to give her some distance until she learns to deal with what is in her heart.
Thank you for making my Friday special....you are my heroes in parenting....my children will not remain the same after watching this....more years of impacting generations...happy heroes' day to you ladies
Thanks bump love for the show, i request you guys to talk about whether parents especially mums should get involved in their kids differences/ fights with their friends in school or where they play from( entalo za baana). Much love from me❤
Banange you guys thanks alot and especially when you talked about words of encouragement.
Me growing up my family was chaotic and my dad would give me a hear full and those heart wrecking words.
So for this saying mbu “sticks and stones can break but words can never break me”.
That’s a lie, words can stick with you forever, they can either make you or break you.
Therefore let’s watch the way we use our tongue on our children.
Da way I always fought with ma elder bro but we are good friends
Angie, your rich auntie vibes just keep on giving ❤❤❤
Ladies thank you for this episode.
As an only child, can't relate😂😂
Hahahaaa! You and my son 😅
Angie....such a pleasant story teller❤...
I fought with my twin sister that time came when we couldn't stay in the same house together so we were separated and up to now we don't really get along at all and trust me most people around me don't know that am a twin coz I even refused to use the twin name she is really the opposite of me and of course when you find us you be able to tell if we are twins
Actually mine wasnt subling rivalry
I come from a blended family, so my step mum always referred to me as “ nabakyala” because she felt like i was favoured by my dad-her husband. She did alot to put me down.
Blended homes do bring a completely different perspective for sure.
Never compare your children, they are different human beings.
Intentionally speak into your children! -My take home.
Who else loved the ladies makeup , its so cool
Racheal truly stirred this Bump Love ship sooo... beautifully. What a Captain for the day! We ❤ her simplicity & eloquence. Also, her crew looked very, very stunning too. Thanks Bump Love, for always making our Sunday afternoon's quite delightful back here. Sunny 🌤️ regards & 💖 to you all, from Dubai. 🐿️🌨️🍃
Rosette dropped some major parenting sage nuggets-the kindness one ,that never goes out of style.❤
Rosette, always encouraging kindness..Thank-you
❤❤We need more kindness. The world is already cruel enough.
Thanx for the show ladies. Siblings rivalry is too bad if it proceeds into adulthood. One of my uncles lost a daughter and the siblings didn't show up for burial because of unresolved issues. Imagine! And now their children are also rivaling each other.
Let me drop a comment before listening through to really show I have been impatiently waiting for this Friday's episode hahaa
Me too
Angie you look so beautiful in this episode. Well done ladies.
Am the first born and my Brother came after 12 years trust me I never loved him for some good time that I have been struggling with it till now .sibling rivals are so serious ,its really painful that am still struggling to love my brother😢Thanks Bump love u talk my heart out in many of ur episodes ❤ silent majority🥰Live in Saudi Every friday Love u Ladies
Speaking to children is important. I can count the times and remember the moments my dad did talk to me. those moments are the only reason that I always worked hard. Just the 4 times, how much more would I have achieved if the affirmations were more? But I thank God I figured out a way of keeping myself motivated even without being affirmed... But I guess i realized we were many for my dad and he still had a hassle to deal with so he wasn't present for that.
fought over a remote and burnt my brother's forehead, unintentionally,I got the whooping of my life
Man, I think I wasn't affirmed much as a child so nowadays I find affirmations either weird or lies. Parents please affirm your little ones... Ofcourse I am now taught to affirm myself but I wish it came when I was little.. thank you Bump love for this honesty.
I can relate to this
On Rosette's view of talking to your children. I had to encourage myself most of the times..
We ought to be deliberate.. May God give us grace
my family is the word tight-knit. My sister and I are almost twins anyway so we rarely fight, I think the last time we had a major disagreement it was last year! Our mum saw to it that we are close and fight for each other as a family and that is exactly it! Ever since we were little kids, till now, our big brother fights tooth and nail for us and protects us, it is one of those ''perfect'' siblings life! haha! I hope to instill that in my kids someday!
I love this❤ so educative. Thanks to bump love✨💫
This topic triggers me in some type of way… middle child syndrome things… I am the 4th of 6 kids, we are 3 gals and 3 boys… not very nice memories.🥱 I think the other way to avoid sibling rivalry is not to have many children banange. Have few kids that you can attend to individually without making them feel inadequate because it’s honestly naturally hard for parents not to have favorites especially in families with big numbers.
My sister follower and I were always fighting...mummy got fed up settling the misunderstandings😅😅till she organised a wrestling match a d closed the door.we fought for two hours non stop 😅😂😊..till we stopped fighting to rest😅😂...but now,we get along very well ❤
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Sometimes u all see the world differently with different perspectives..just 3 different brains..😅😅😅 and now that's where the fights are FIGHTS!!!!😅😅
Rachel’s hair ❤
My brother came after 3 girls and 4 years later😂,i was also born. He always hated me having taken his last born spot.And he always used the privilege of being the only son to manipulate my mother. Most of the times, we see my mom doesn't see his mistake. Not long ago i lent him my ka money and he refused to return it back.i told momma about it and she was like,"when you were giving it to him i wasn't there,why are you telling me now?" We exchanged words and later she said im taking his side cause he's my son.i was shocked and disconnected the call and i wondered whose daughter am i?😅
Eh! We must do better by our kids for sure.
@@pumlanabachwa8668 true
As an only child raised by a single mum, the sibling rivalry was been me and her...we didn't agree on so many things...there was alot of friction. I stressed her alot bambi but now our relationship is great. There's a time she commented along the lines of " kumbe u were actually learning and listening amidst all the stubbornness and rebellion cz I am impressed with the wise woman uve become..."
Thanks ladies for another beautiful episode. ❤
I fought with my twin sister all the time and now she relocated to another city for university but she calls almost all the time, she even tells our little sis to tell me to go online so we can talk. She's always in my inbox asking when I'm going to visit here 😅😅
We're now there for each other like never before though we're more than 400km apart
Bianca's smile tells me she is nolonger going to believe the “ypu are both right strategy "😂😂
Bwahahahahahahaha
Thanks so so much ladies for the brilliant talk as for me I was the nalule at pumula house , thanks alot for make Ugandan family improve each day am so grtful each tym you pipo speak long live bump love programs 🙏🙏🙏♥️♥️♥️♥️
Rosette I like ur hair style. Which salon did u go to
Mariam’s beauty parlor
Honestly Bump Love is so underrated 🥲🥲🥲 we should have a million subscribers 🎉
Riiiiigggggghhhhhhttttttttt. Thanks Digna ❤
I totally agree
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Interesting topic and me I rmbr fighting wz my ccta often times over most thgs and we're like Rosette we had diff personality but worst thg was our moda didn't know how to handle da tension btn us coz she wasn't dat talking moda wic affected my ccta making her angry all da time. Now I think as parents let's relearn and learn new ways of nurturing our children diff from how we're raised and of course preaching kindness, empathy, sympathy and love. Thx for show ba dear
Can’t believe I have to wait till Friday again 🤦🏽♀️I think we need 2 episodes a week at this point 😅
Hahahahaaa! That would be overkill.
Huh. Thanks for this episode. It brought back so many memories. I fought with both my older sister and younger brother. I'm a middle child. Our last sister is my best friend to date, she came a few years later. We are now all grown and are good friends.
Rosette's- we need to speak more into our children. Affirm them.
That's very important.
So Aggie, Roset, Rachel, Manuela and Pamla as they sat , like finally I Know who is who, . I really find everyone interesting in a unique way
Thank you Bump love
Really loved this one🥰 I can't wait for the next show
Am always here to learn something new,I hope the next topic would be about parent-child rivarly please 🙏 Thank you ❤❤
Bring kasuku back please
This tile around with salvado 😂😂😂
Ladies you all awesome , good job. Could please talk about choice of names as parents we give to our children, for one thing I ve realized, here in USA, people struggle with identity and the true meaning of their names. For example, for those who have successfully done DNA, traced their roots eg Nigeria, one would pick a Nigerian name regardless of any ethnic tribes for TRUE/GENUINE identity. Surely am talking about English / American etc names we give to our children very common these days parents pick on the ones that sound , very fancy,children feel more superior, identifying themselves with such names and inferior with our own indigenous names!!! What do you think of such mentality? Is it captivity? “Does it make sense “ would be the topic of discussion.
Otherwise ,ladies! you Roooooooock ! are awesome.
I thank you.
Margaret Mugagga.
Thanks Mugagga. We have a past episode that speaks partially to this. You can look for it but yes we need to speak about Western Vs Indeginous names.
But the person on camera!!! couldn't you stop capturing Manuela's Stomach? Also, Pumla's dress went up and you kept focusing there. Otherwise its a great piece
My Mum loves drama. She loves seeing children at each other. If siblings arent fighting she conflicts them. She pick gossips from one to another and she keeps fueling it. So what i have done all my life is ignore her drama. She has her favourates and she ensures that she conflicts them with her unfavorites. 😅she is a drama queen in the clan. Typical narcisstic/Jezebelic😊
Proverbs 27:17 Iron sharpens iron.... Pumla's proverb
I've not really understood that right right model, or wrong wrong model. there are things which are black and white. For example, when a sibling has beaten another, you can't say they are both wrong.. Thanks for the show
Ha😂😂😂😂 I've loved the both of u are wrong or right. My gals fight... now I know better how to handle coz banage its tiring
Reporting to mum and she replying “mbwenu wahendera oryooha”😂😂😂
Angie in her own world as usual 😂😂😂😂
The longest awaited. Thank you ladies before I even watch
My elder brother was so calm and I don't remember fighting with him and then there is my follower, we fought at every little thing but most especially doing chores coz my mum would leave me to take cake of the home and goes for work for days and this boy wouldn't want to help, he was always messing up things, breaking things and all he wanted to do was to eat. I couldn't accept that so we fought fought fought but it reached a point when he would beat me seriously 😀😀
My siblings fought until mum threatened to chase them out of her house 😂
I have no comment here ,I have never had such an experience coz everyone grew up from different places since we lost our Dad and before our parents had seperated 🥺we don't know the love of staying together as a family
My baby sister came in after 11years and we were always fighting with mum I would try to tell her do the right thing Naye mama was everytime muno muleke
I am here for guided healthy competition...in my case, I was viewed as the golden child. I never put effort really, naturally, I am responsible, the youngest, I am an introvert and the sibling I follow is the opposite. I think our rivalry comes from the outside because personally, I wanted us to be twins lol. My sister also used to throw me under the bus in our early 20s, I thought what did I do to this person? But the animosity came from outside. Now we are trying again because I am not giving up hehhe.
Twins 😊
But manuela my sister has never accepted the differences. U can tell she's not hapi coz was kind of pumla growing up I feel she sought I wud never make it in life en she's still struggling with it for real parents should give more attention on how to their children are brought up inze nakolozako nga my sister reported me hooooo
I'm the last born and only girl with two elder brothers so clearly i have no idea what sibling rivalry is🤣🤣🤣🤣however, my rivalry is different. When our first born was getting married, i was loosing it, not for anything just because my dad he then had two daughters, that doesn't sit well. I was used to being the only princess, Lastborn problems. Anyway, I'd love to here your experiences with your in-laws
Wow I love you guys you always make my day always watching bump love in my free time.
This conversation has been so informative, thanks bump love
😂😂😂, oh I see this in my house everyday among my kids. And to be honest btn me and my siblings, we still fight, though not physical. When we all meet under one roof? We can disagree until cows come home😂
I faught with my bro till university its just that i learnt to be the stupid one now and that's why we aren't fighting. His my favorite by the way
I agree eith Rosie with that preaching
Bump love❤..I never used to understand the chemistry between sibling rivalries..You can only understand the why?? On bump love😍.
I grew up alone at my home !It is hard for me now with my four children.
🤣 Mimi (Manuela) I hope that was not Sarah you faught with, when growing up.
I am just glad that, I am not alone. Honestly, my kids fight, and i was even scared that they don't love each other, and i was praying for them. But i hope they will grow out of it.
Thank you Rosette....!!! Learnt alot from you today...❤❤
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I fought with my elder brother now we are the bestest. But my two sisters it's worse till today,to the extent we can't talk they wish mi death every time and then . Due to competition and I think my parents contributed much .
I love the way the camera zoomed in towards Bianca
Banange nali nakoowa ba assistant mother🤣🤣🙌
I only fought with my sister (RIP), immediate follower during adolescent stage. I think it was triggered by change of environment. We moved from a space where we had separate beds, close to our parents, small nuclear family, going to a good school to a space where we were sharing a small mattress, big extended family, going to school that started at midday where pupils fought regularly 😥😥, mummy not working cheiii. It wasn't nice at all.
To my elder siblings, I always wanted to be the leader 😄😄 I was the boss. I stopped fighting when our big bro canned me 😃😃 for fighting my sister.
Parents should know that comparison is not motivation
In my adult life, i've gone through alot of therapy to uproot the damage from childhood. Because i was older than my sister, i was expected to be patient with her when she started a fight, i was not to complain or report her. When it got to going back to school, my list was taken care of last and sometimes not, because i was the older and patient one. Our parent threw a party everytime my sister was returning for holidays and for me on the other hand, she one time forgot to pick me up after a long term without a visit. I was not to use any of her things or borrow her clothes but if i didn't share mine with her, my mum would scold me. I hated my sister but couldn't fight her! I shut down and stopped relating with my sister and mum. I would be in isolation all the time because i didn't feel like i belonged or even heard. I've had issues with confidence, low self esteem and self worth. We're friends with my sister now, i don't hate her anymore. I love her dearly because she's my own. I loved my brother because he would be the one to talk to me and comfort me. I remember he used to sacrifice and secretly give me all his pocket money, grab and groceries to take to school.
Parents have to learn to listen to all their children. Hear them and get into their little positions. We shouldn't ignore their complaints. As a parent now, i'm intentional with my children. Every night during our devotional time, we all go through what we have done during the day and identify areas where each of us felt hurt , happy, not heard. If any of us wronged another or has something against another, we talk about it and apologize. This includes us, the parents.
Whew... i've had to drop a few tears but it is well.
Woooo
I'm sorry for what you went through as a child 🫂. I'm glad that you are now at a better place and are even friends with your sister...it takes alot to let go of such memories.Kudos for being intentional with how you're parenting now so that your kids don't experience what you did.All the best girl.
Oh WoW! I'm glad you've got some therapy because this is true childhood trauma mixed with a mother wound. Hugs to you and love that you're being interionally better with your kids.
Ladies you really look thimati, I just love you ❤❤❤❤❤
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 looking beautiful 😍😍😍
Store time now... am glad you gotta have talked about sibling rivalry. Well for us we are two, we were two for a very long time till my mum recently got married abroad and has just given birth to my little sister. Am 23 and my sister is 20 naaye banange guys it has been a tag of war😢. We are more like Rosette, am an introvert and sister is extroverted so you can imagine. We've not been so much with our mum because you know she had to make a living for us so it has phone parenting for us wirh our mum. But guys I've tried my best, she doesnt respect me at all, she's always the i kniw person all the damn time, the worsr part is that she will never accept her mistakes banange it kills me inside😔. So the only way i solve this is by keeping quiet and let her be. Just like Manuela said this rivalry can go till adulthood because am at a point in life where i just keep asking myself when is she leaving to go and stay with Mummy in Finland otherwise have tried naaye biganye.
Thanks guys for the show it has been so helpful but i think for us it's because we didn't grow up with our parent or stayed with them more often. Would surely refer to this video 10 years from now when i give birth😊.
This was such a lovely episode. Angie is so soft spoken and I can listen to her all day. Good job ladies
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Thank you so much ladies for the show.
Sibling rivalry is so bad to a point of being toxic if not attended to by parents/guardians at a young age when raising children up.
😢 It is sad when competition due sibling rivalry is still happening when the siblings are all grown and even out of their parents' homes. Even when they take different career paths, get married to different men; they still compare the incomparables like she gave our parents the first grandchild, she did a course better than mine.
I pray that God restores peace in siblings who still rival and seem to have silent competition going on between them.
As parents, it's important to speak positivity into our children and help them to constantly appreciate that they're who they are as individuals and different from each other. That releases tension and reduces competition between them as they grow.
Keep up the encouraging and educative shows!
Much love,
Racheal
Angie’s looks ❤,i loved everyone’s ideas keep it up
Hello Bump Love,
You really do us good. Thanks so much for the words of wisdom.
We are looking forward to a kids programme just like the men did.
God bless you.