I refrain myself from commenting on such videos because most women might not agree with me. This video really sounds good for women in 20s. I'm 38 single independent women and let me tell you just the way marriage has its pros and cons being single also has it. I am not saying every woman has same experiences but I would like to give insight in my life. 1) being a single child I know my parents are senior citizens and they are worried if I can manage my life alone without them. We don't have extended family. I would be on my own after them. 2) All my friends are married and have school going children. They prefer hanging around with mothers of their children's friends. We rarely meet as they are busy with their families and when we do we don't have anything common to talk about. 3) my colleagues are my friends who are much younger than me who often come to me with their boyfriend problems. Senior colleagues though married feel I'm available n might want to make a pass. 4) yes I have learnt doing things on my own. Like watching a movie alone, going on solo trips, reading a book, dining alone... but don't forget it's ALONE. You feel good about it initially and keep saying better to be alone than in bad relationship but it's just like saying grapes r sour. 5) you see children around n u feel emptiness. Yes u can adopt. But does it make sense to go to a job and leave ur adopted child to ur old already tired parents. Coz as single mother u need finances to look after the child so job is important. 6) yes get involved in society work, social causes, spiritual work n then when u look around and see a couple holding hands or see a husband checking with his wife if she's ok n u feel that pang in ur stomach. Yes marriage can have it's disadvantages. I have gone through a failed marriage in my 20s n I completely agree marry for urself and not for a society. Do not stay in a marriage which doesn't give you love and respect. But dear girls no person is 100 % perfect if you meet someone who respects u and who supports you in thick and thin please consider marriage. It's about living thru differences and still sailing together.
I repeat this is my personal opinion. There might be single women in 30s who are living their life to fullest. I feel women have all the right to choose the kind of life she wants. I have only expressed the cons of being single in late 30s.
@Amandeep Wahi mene maar khane ko nahi kaha. Pura padhti toh samajh aata. I have clearly said that self respect is important. I had strength to walk out failed marriage. I'm just showing both sides.
I totally agree with you KP. I am a 31 year old single woman and totally agree. If as a girl, you find a man who cares for you and respects you and if there is mutual attraction between you two, totally go for that guy. Career is important , it can give you money, respect but at the end of day we are humans and crave for humanly love, be it form of spouse, kids, and parents. It's not only for women but for men as well. I understand, till 25-26, people should focus on their career but after that, if you find a guy/girl for whom their is mutual love between him or her, don't let go of that person. I don't believe in forced marriage but marriage done with mutual consent and love is of prime value.
My sister's husband CHEATED on her. She came back home with her 1mo BABY. She doesn't even want to face him but my family is asking her to adjust and COMPROMISE and live with him just to prevent a DIVORCE!! I hate that I can't stand for her. I just wanted to scream at their faces and ask to leave her alone.
@@niharika9446 I strongly agree with you. When it comes to arranged marriage it us arranged by parents or some relatives. And you do not even know that person. We can't spend the whole life with a stranger. They only enquire about Family, Job, Salary, age and physique. They won't enquire anything about his character. This is just absurd.
@@niharika9446Not True. You kids probably don't understand that cheating can happen whether it is love marriage or arranged marriage. Please sympathize with people instead of telling them that they made "bad decisions" because they probably didn't. I know many successful arranged marriages. And infact in this era, the concept of marriage itself should just go away. People should just date and live in.
Do they not know that a couple should mutually compromise? If they don't mutually compromise, it is better to get a divorce than stay. They need to understand that divorce is not a bad thing unless done for the wrong reasons.
@Shreyaawashere 😂😂😂Shaming & giving opinion. *Telling truth is always offensive. Truth should be there. & I can see your comments also everywhere. Get a life you also😂 Kon kisko gyan de raha hain
My parents are equally qualified but my mother got a job before my father and she was supporting financially and my father was preparing for competitive exam.😊
I don't know how I came to know your channel. But jab bola ki kharab he hamari generation toh kharab hi sahi. But we will stand up for what we believe, sach me laga k koi toh he jo bola. Mere saare dost mujhe left out kar diye he
Same here. Shayad isiliye meri kabhi same age vale friends se jami nahi. Mere bohot se friends mujse jyada chote hai magar they understand me a lot better. Idc what the society says at this point as I'm happy around them ♡
@Worldwide Handsome Because women accepted it for so long! And forced their daughters to do same.Women have been systematically misused for advocating and propogating exploitation in the name of tradition
I m getting divorce from my abusive husband.....he has cheated me upon his diseases .....parents are so tensed....that I ab pata nhi kya hoga ......dusra acha ladka milega ki nhi.....I m 25 and ca final student
Clear your CA and get a job. Then find a partner. Nothing wrong with marrying or finding a partner.. We all want a companion in life. It only makes sense when that companion is supportive of your dreams. You were cheated. You weren't in the wrong. If your partner is caring and knows you are a good person, then he won't care about your past. Good Luck!
You are a C.A student! Good gracious. Tumko koi bhi milega ! You are a lot more Qualified than other" Janta "! Sis you should become the best Of yourself. Become a C.A , this would be the best thing for you!
Naah a women will only chose a guy who is earning more than him because she always wants a provider who can protect her and there is nothing wrong in that it's natural.
@@powersoul4772 See women can also be a protector by the way becoz there are some men who needs protection, it is not only men responsiblity to protect women, but women is also responsible.
@@powersoul4772 don't generalize! These days girls wanna be shoulder to shoulder with guys.. Be independent.. Rather that being dependent.. Thats some ancient thought!
@@powersoul4772 Do not generalise please. There are increasing amount of girls who wants to earn as much as husbands and increasing amount of men who would prefer such a wife and much more financial stability.
Im 20 now...everyone was like when u r gng to get married...i was like ahhhh im very much depressed about it...i have boyfriend ...but i dont want to get married...i dont have that mental stability ...i want to study more and having dreams about my career..i could not explain about my feelings with my family members..im super frustated and trying to come out of this....anyone please give some suggestions
Take a stand for yourself and be bold enough to explain your parents that your Career is priority for you. And try to secure a decent job as quick as possible. Money is power. Money gives you ability to take decision of your life without depending on anyone.
@Quantum x Relativity tq so much it means a lot to me....i have tried everything but ended in vain...sure i will try untill they understand my depression level because of this.. now i preparing for my interview to get placed in job so that i will be financially independent....im trying my level best...
Don't be scared to tell about your life goals to your parents whether they support you or not. Especially after you get financially independent it's your life not your mom's!
@@noconversionpage8466 Taking care of parents is a fundamental duty of the children. But parents should also consider the fact that they were the ones deciding to raise the children. So obviously parents need to support their offsprings
@@annymondal6822 but if there is something wrong going on if parents Interrupt children should it tolerate or not 🤔🤔🤔🤣🤣 for me parents come first before anything whether it's about future goals or something else😑😑 now days it's easy to say it's my life my rules it's a western concept but my religion don't teach to me this 😂😂
@@noconversionpage8466 My religion teaches me to take care of my birth givers and those who have done so much hard work to raise me. But I have a question for you sir, if the parents are abusive, don't you think, it's okay for the children to maintain some distance from them?
@@annymondal6822 I never heard of any case parents being abused 😂😂😂 I am right now 19 all around me I not got a single case like this 😑😑 first of all what kind of abuse you talking about in my house my sisters have even more rights than I have but I never had any problems because they are my big sisters
If I’m being honest, I want a husband who will provide for and protect me. As much as I want to become a career-woman, I also want to have the option of being a stay-at-home mom. Women already have it hard physically, there’s nothing wrong, in fact it’s natural to want a masculine man. That is my opinion of course. :)
so if you want a man who will provide for and protect you, would you cook and clean for him ? Or is that being sexist to expect that from a girl? If this is sexist, aren't you being sexist by expecting a man to provide for you ? Shouldn't you also contribute financially?
Most of the factors originate from the belief that marriage = life long relationship = allowance for sex = moral right to reproduction. In my opinion there are 2 major reasons of gender discrimination in societies all over the world. a) biological buildup and b) institution of marriage. Now in point a) there are differences some of which needs to be embraced and some not and in b) as the dialog: concept me hi locha hai, we need an equal concept bounded by law
And another belief is marraige = now we can go to foreign countries and do our dream job because my dad tells me if you want to go to USA go after marraige!!!
Are live in bhi to nahi kar sakte, Usme false promise of marriage hai, 10 saal tak ka jail + fine. Tab larkio ki BC Independence g*** me ghus jati hai, ek baar pregnant hui nahi ki mai "abla" "Mujhe support chahiye" Wala ramdi rona chalu un logo ka
Commitment bh***re me jaaye, modern women o ki utni aukaad hi nahi hai ki wo morals follow kare, To ye cheez unse expect karna hi galat hai. Agar love hua pass aye, fir nahi bana chale gaye easily ye hota tab to koi problem hi nahi tha. Lekin sarkaar to ye nahi hone denge, divorce case chalayenge saalo se, fir mota rakam alimony fir child support ye wo.... Sab hai, shaadi se easily nikalna lagvag impossible hai
same this happen to my cousin sister also if their is no love so it's only arrangement for security purpose what family say but in indirect way and we thing it will love someone after marriage but it won't so rare if their is true love you need to find only one option live with someone you like and he really wants to live with you and then both think if we really want move on in life but family won't accept thats sad in india
I don't know how do I came across your channel but I am married before 3yrs but I am happy with as u say super supportive husband and supportive in laws....😅😅...Anyway nice video... If anyone think ki jaisa socha hai waisa husband mila to Shadi ka option is not that bad....and rahi baat in laws ki den I will say 1st preference husband best hona chaiye...then he can manage in laws agar koi mushkil aaye toh.....
These girl wil have a bright future with lots of cats & dogs. The last line she said "Your happiness is above all", I wanna know about her happinesses after 36. She also said live in relationship, hold on a sec my dear. Freedom comes with responsibilities. After few bedroom fun they all eventually lost purpose of the relationship, then blame all men are bad. God bless her.
When I was in my 20 I certanly dident think about marriage. I was more preoccupied with traveling the world and having fun. I met my husband when I was 48 and got married when I turned 50. Now we are happily married. We have no children either of us. I knew from an early age I never wanted children. We dont have arranged marriges. We marry on our own terms with the person we want. Love is essential. Lots of people prefer to live together and we did that too. Its a good way to find out if you are a good match. Divorce rate is about 50%. Nobody wants to stay in an unhappy marriage.
@@milkyway8104 haan wo to hai... but... just imagine... a marriage without sex and kids... is it said to be a successful marriage... marriage doesn't means only kids and sex... but... they are the most important pillars of marriage...
I am in 20s If I don't completely agree with your point,please don't mind,don't bash me with abusive language. MARRIAGE IS A BEAUTIFUL COMPANIONSHIP BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE and even between families. There is no need to fear this concept so much.because firstly it wasn't meant to be dowry driven, patriarchal ,one sided advantage ,or even kind of dealership ....some parts of society has made it look like the above said for their benefit. It is relationship between equals ,by equals ,I don't mean financially equal,I mean equal in terms of love,care, nurturing and respect... It's nurturing each other....be part of each other's growth and progress...life doesn't need just growth career wise,there is emotional ,spiritual growth as well.If you are with a partner who understands you,loves you,cares for you, supports you emotionally , that person may not be perfect for somebody else,but there is nothing more beautiful than being in committed relationship with that person... I am against patriarchy but in Marriage like relationship I really feel it's mutual giving ,mutual trust ,mutual understanding kind of khatti meethi relationship not always easy but yes good experience if you marry the one you want to be with whole life. I don't oppose the idea of marriage. Career is v important for a woman as well as personal relationships. Marry when you are mentally and emotionally ready. Marrying doesn't harm your career.if it is going to harm,either wait for right time or if your guy's side wants you to quit your job then don't marry that guy! Live in,is not always progressive or modern concept. And marriage is not outdated concept. Period!
#2 1:04, #6 2:35, #7 2:55 and #8 3:30 - I hope people watching this (including young girls and women) won't ignore these points and keep in mind. 4:44 you might not get married, but it's okay... You just have to be sure of living with the person you like and want to share your life with. Now that's a answer you'll get with time whether it's going to be lifelong or until-the-feeling-last (mind my words because compulsive decisions often reflect immature actions taken), or simply you get to know the other person better in real-time. 5:05 accept that you don't require a romantic companionship and can control the sexual urges you'll be having... Because trust me, that's where the most people fails. Good luck❤️🍀😃
@@rainaraonta347 most often these points get under the carpet because of the other points being so crucially attached to the identities of women. So that's why highlighted these. Nevertheless, great job at hosting and keep going ❤️
@@rainaraonta347 haha, sorry didn't know that. Guess I'll start reading the descriptions of the videos as well :p Interacting with you, I'm just having this one thought in mind... Do you think SheThePeopleTV should also have a male representative for any section/category of videos? I believe that will make arguments and/or any given information more neutral in the eyes of viewers, isn't it? Well, you can say I'm asking for an opportunity for myself, but haha, seriously - whether be it me or anyone, I really believe it's good.
i dont really think this is the case. and if a girl refuses to be with you because you are less qualified than her, then do you really want to be with that sort of a person? to a sensible person, your love and respect for her would be the only thing that would matter..
@@simransaini9468, I feel like boys have become lazy and women are overcompensating for that im saying this by oberving men around me it can be wrong too just an observation, not a fact. the girls have started taking over the responsibilities which typically men have. so they've become lazy. lots of boys around me don't think of education as a priority theyre like hum na business he to krna ha , theek ha kro business laikain iska matlub yeh to nahe k education ko bilkul he laat mar do bs womenising ki taraf lg gye ha sb . theyve really lost focus.
Not entirely true. I guess girls will/should also be comfortable in marrying a guy who is less successful but shares house chores. But don't marry a lazy one.
I dont agree exactly...live in relationships mostly end up in breakups..and friends are only there for timepass and fun...when you are hospitalized for example or you lost a job, who will support you? Although marriage can end in divorce it still is indeed the best bet to finding a lifelong partnership.
If a relationship ends in a breakup, it was never meant to be. You should not need marriage to forcibly hold two people together. Marriage as an institution should be dissolved because it is bad for women like this video says.
Marriage is the beautiful companionship of two people and you should only get married when you find the right partner for your self. It should be wholly and solely your decision . You shouldn't get married die the pressure by society and parents because at the end you have to live with your spouse for whole life and if you were not mentally prepared for marriage then you both can't live a happy and peaceful life. Thanks for making such awesome videos for empowering women ❤❤🌱
I disagree. No one should have to get married. When you find the "right" person, you should not need to be "married" to him/her. If he/she is right, they will remain in your lives forever without having a contractual agreement like marriage. Its high time the institution of marriage is dissolved.
Late 30 huge pressure but not interested what to wait for love may be it wouldn't come but I don't want to be stranger's wife. How many r here in same situation?
In Live in relationships there might be more chances of one partner taking advantage of other more bcoz families aren't there.. No one is here to stop you what ever you do.. Use and throw other person whenever you want.. For ever problems here solution is to have every woman supporting each other for good things ... This would be the biggest strength...
@@vidya109 A woman should be able to date or even just have sex with as many men as she wants, its really no ones business. But Indian society, what can we do.
@@vidya109 Because two *_consulting_* adults cannot live together without making a promise to live forever with supporting each other for the rest of their lives. Got it? That's why marriage is unnecessary and important. Period!!
@@vidya109 Nobody's individually deciding about how someone else should be living their life. We are here discussing about a topic with our free will because we like in a 21st century's democratic society. Internet allows everyone to discuss about any topic related to animals, science and society based on people's convenience.... And having said that, I don't think Marriage certificate is for the guarantee, it's basically for the *_dignity_* & self respect of a womén with a brain, because that's the thing that differentiate between us humans and animals.... Animals also doesn't need any certificate to live together and have séx- with each other and break up after their need is over. Understand? So we don't want such animalistic culture in our country. We have eloved to be civilized from our uncivilized ancestors, and hence we don't want to go behind back to downwards.
Career, marriage,kids everything could be managed together. Many couples were struggling when they got married and with time become successful. But never get married to 1.mumma's boy/ daddy's girl 2. In laws demanding dowry 3.gold diggers (both men and women) And yes arrange marriage is the perfect example of corporate some might get very lucky ,others get cheated Age is a huge factor in marriage as you get older especially women will get very few proposals, men if rich would have no problem at all. And men and women should actively participate in seeking partner rather than being passive about it ,it's a tough competition.
Good...analysis...I think you have a good knowledge of marrge business and the so called fake sanskar exchange in the name of marrge......marge is fake in India..atleast 70% of them are:(
@@aswathirajan7963 sister , I don't know what do you mean by fake . Having utopian ideas about marriage will only do bad than good.marriage is hard work. There is no perfect person waiting for us ,we need to work to make it perfect. But never tolerate abuse in any manner.
@@fathimashahjahan8906 by fake i meant marrge considered as joining of two families...but most cases the families don't even care about each other...next is soul mate...people don't care about their partners most of the times...they just fulfill their parents wishes by marrge....family wants society to be happy...and kids make sure that happens....thats it
@@aswathirajan7963 there is both good and bad to things , marriage is about husband and wife , not families, everyone needs companionship in life .These days most women don't stay with their in laws, times have changed Please don't be bitter , you might end up missing good opportunities .
@@fathimashahjahan8906 yeah...I am looking for a soul partner not a business partner...I hate dowry. I hate women leaving their house and family just because Indian marrge demand it..I hate the concept of marge as a lisecwnse for sex...I hate you have to cook do households as you are in a wife phase....but I love many things as well...having kids...spending time with them...spending time with good family members....I was sad only for women who don't get atleast these good parts as well
My grandparents make their children fight over property making me think that marriage does not guarantee peace of mind...its just like divorced parenthood gave you headache but a different way
Ek baar paadai puri ho jaye uske baad parents sirf shaadi ke liye force karte hai. Koi nahi chahta ke ladke job kare. Kahte hai job shaadi ke baad kar lena. Patti kehta hai bacche hone ke baad kar lena. Sab ke iccha puri ho jatte hai. Aur ladki ke zindagi gharab ho jatti hai.
Log force kar lete hai aur ladkiyaan accept kar leti hai? Jabardasti karne deti hai ladkiyan khud ke saath? Itna easy banake rakh diyaa hai hum logo ne ki humpe jabardasti hoti raahe? Kya yeh kamjori ki nishaani nahi hai? Kya hum kamjor hai? Sochne wali baat hai
@@shwetakaurbawa8451 That is your choice.But you shld know that you do have freewill and choice. One should have guts to take stand for oneself. Otherwise entire life becomes a complaint. It is in general discussion,I never said anything for you.Every choice has a consequence. Chup baith sehen karne ka bhi parinam hai aur bagwat karne ka bhi parinam hai. Kaunsa parinam chahiye ye hamari marji hoti hai. Yeh jo ek notion bann chuka hai 'sehna hi padta hai' ye galat hai. Lekin shayad sehna jyada easy hota hoga..issliye log sehte hai..sehte rehete hai puri life..saalon saal..rote hai complaint karte hai..fir bhi stand nahi lete
Is taking care of family, household, raising kids and managing relations considered to be success.? If not, then that's where feminism fails. I believe a woman who has taken care of her family and household and raised children is as successful as a giant company's CEO. Homemakers are not inferior to any professional working "independent" women. Let that be clear!
@@xylo5063 even if we are in 2100th century the households will still be needed to be taken care of and children will be required to be raised. Done by a man or woman none earns superiority by giving up on their family, and household for some stupid amount of money working outside.
@@santhoshm4680actually men are the ones who need someone not women it's proven men can't survive long after they loose their spouse but women survive longest despite loosing their husband
Not every girl can get job . Hence those girls who are in job must focus on job and be involve in building nation's economy. They must not be pressurized for marriage. Also the boys who want to marry can get n number of beautiful , caring and good cook girl to marry. They preferably must not marry a girl in job . Either it will spoil her carrier or it will spoil marriage life of both. So best way that boys wants a wife or a real better half ( gharwali), first they must make it sure before marriage. If they want gharwali then they must refrain from a working women or girl. She may not become a home maker completely.She can not serve you delicious meal. And even after marrige you have to be dependent on zomato,swiggy etc... She can only life become a partner. Girls have their right to choose their carrier objective and boys have their right to choose a best suiting home maker better half for them. Boys can have a trial and error relationship with a girl working. This will help them to know consequences after marriage with that girl. In relationship they can know and analyse how much time she can give to them and home,,,in kichen ,, on bed .. making coordination with her job. If you find in evening a women tired of job, stressed,,,, unable to make your stomach happy (ie actually way to men's heart) and not able to accept sex request as tired too much, boys can predict the situation after marriage. Hence best way to get break up here. It may be painful for short span but it will prevent whole life to be painful. Also if you find a women may be very good or great scientist or genius , she must not be distracted to ordinary activities such as marrige. They must be given full opportunity to serve nation and mankind. The ideal age for boys to be Father of first child is 27-28. If wants second child then 33-35. Hence they must marry a women only who can gift fatherhood to them in this time slot. Life is very small . Especially young age period. And this precious part of age must not just spoiled in fighting, divorce , separation just for sake of surviving a Baniya (employers) So any girl who is carrierstic should be given full freedom to make carrier.. to fulfill her and her employer's goals and objectives. Only some stupid boys expect marrige with them or they are after such girls to marry too and their marriages end to disaster after some time. You can see indian husbsnds of manny successful and busy women enjoying official tours at Pattaya, petppong thailand and at Cebu, Angeles, Burgos cities of Philippines. So what is the meaning of such marriages. I know some stupid people won't like my comments. But boys must not care those. Boy are free to prefer what they want irrespective of gender discrimination.
विवाह के बाद आपके ऊपर 1) 498A, 2)125 crpc, 3)406 IPC, 4)दहेज प्रतिषेध अधिनियम की धारा 5 ,6, 5)धारा 24 HMA, 6)घरेलू हिंसा अधिनियम की धारा 12 इत्यादि इतनी धाराएं लग सकती है।। सोच समझकर करे विवाह..... अगर नीच बाज़ारू के चक्कर मे फंस गए तो जीवन हो सकता है बर्बाद..... न्याय मंदीर मे काली पट्टी आैर एक तरफा झुकाव . निकाल देने के टाईम का ना काेई बंधन.
Why you all people just watch anything and complain. I am from a Brahmin family (very conservative)but still no one in my entire family has been forced to marry. They all did by choice.
Age is not a factor theoretically. But, Practically Men not interested in old woman and women also not interested in Old men. So, Be practical. Please marry before 30...
Omg whatever we say they are always trying to manipulate us into this marriage things which is really out of syllabus for me right now! I am a South Indian girl and after watching certain women oriented movies recently released like ammu, great Indian kitchen, jayajayajayahey etc.., I lost interest in concept of Indian marriage! I don't understand why parents or society is so enthusiastic in marrying a stranger to thier own daughter and expect him to secure her for the rest of his life lol! How can you trust some stranger easily than your own daughter!? I think thier should be some special classes for women to learn how to manage this misogynists/dominants or how to deal with illogical rules in in-laws! Sorry if I made anyone angry with my words but these are my uncertain feelings about future!
As a south indian guy why there should be some special classes for women to learn how to manage this misoqynists/dominants? why not special special classes for men? instead of these kind of video is there any video tells a men how to be in an relationship? and remember reality is different.
1. Tum logo ko larke pasand nahi hai Fir bhi larko ke saath hi relationship karna hai??? Kiu les*o bano, raho larkiya ek saath milke. 2. Live in sahi hai, lekin fir break up ke baad tum logo ko "false promise of marriage" Bhi to lagana hai 3. Aur live in me pregnant ho gaye taab to koi khayar hi nahi, puri duniya ke larke kharab... Tab kudh ka jimmedaari khud nahi utha sakte???? 4. Larkio ka no means no aur larko ka no means fase cases, wah re wah
How dare you misogynist, although we are independent but it is our born right to lick husband shoes to get his income and expend on our extra marital affairs after all marriage is a patriarchial institution
Yea let's normalise divorce with no alimony and partition of wealth in a family equally amongst daughters and sons. That will end every problem for both men and women
If a girl gets married late ..it ll bcm lil difficult to give birth..this thing is being told as a major reason fo girls to get married...n also some parents think that marrying their daughter is their prime responsibility n once if it's done they r freed...n also they say the husband will take care of her.. But y should a man always take care of a woman , couldn't it b vice versa
@@amishere.05 successful aur paisa ho toh bonny Kapoor ko sridevi milti hai yeh India hai ladkiyan paise pe Marti hai aur bolti hai hum aajkal ki modern ladkiyan hai😅😅🤣🤣
When i tell my mom tht i don't wanna get married so soon she tells me kuch cheeze apni time pe ho jaani chahiye warna badme bacche hone me b problems hote hai... And I'm like shaadi or baccho k alawa b bht kuch hota hai zindagi me. 🙄🙄🙄🙄 Now tht im in my mid Twenties she has started nagging me even more. 😑😑😑
It is truly interesting that we are educating women to move into live-in relationships because we cannot fix the marriages in our society. If taken the same way, we shouldn't accept anything that isn't perfectly designed for us, because we're too childish and immature to face off with real life. Oh, and the best part is where women are supposedly the target of it all because, you poor lot never heard of men being riddled with torment by their wives, continuing with marriage just because of the kids. Y'all need to educate yourselves, marriage is a two-party project, you can't snooze and blame it all on the other person. Applies to either gender. The only alternative to marriage is you growing up. If you can't be mature enough to get married and adjust with each other (man or woman), you really shouldn't have kids because you're gonna set the worst possible example for them.
@Somesh Negi we need educated and mature people. We need people to stop living lives as if they're part of some TV show. Sharia law is only for Muslims. We need to fix the Indian social problem which is not limited to Muslims.
@Somesh Negi if they are not educated on the results of feminism by watching and learning from the western failures, are they really educated? Everyone has social media, and yet no one can see the failures of feminist ideals on the western world?? If you choose to learn only what you want and like instead of looking at reality unfold and appreciate what it teaches you, are you still calling yourself educated??
There is no problem with marriage. Problem is with individuals who get married. If everyone starts thinking like you, then world would end in next 100 years. You are here because of so called old traditional people.
First part is good. Suggestions at the end like live-in etc... Is something that's not justified in terms of security in long run. Doing marriage or not is completely one's person choice and & Yes u can stand up for urself and ua choices. However, degarding the marraige system shouldn't either be encouraged. Live-in doesn't provide the proper hindu culture life as per our indian system. In the long run, off chance the kids tend to suffer and lack proper parenting love. Still law is providing some clauses in live-in now a days. Well, it's a long debate to on this topic . But 👍 for the video as the first part clearly states not to get married in a rush. Please take time and plan your life with dignity and respectfully
Yes..it's better to get marry instead of being in live in with same person for life long.... after all it will provide more rights, happiness and emotional security.
Yes you r correct. Every country has a particular culture. Live ins are a part of western culture even in eastern Asia they dont support live in. So everyone has different culture to follow and respect
Even Abrahmic religions like Christianity , islam, Judaism is against to feminazi, live in relationships, homosexuality, pornography, perverts etc.......but liberals, atheist are ruining the entire good standards of religions And the conservatives are instigating violence on the basis of violence
@@blackwolf5771as per humanity, rational thinking and human rights....there is nothing wrong in homosexuality and live in......and so do I believe....so that's completely okay. But yes if someone wants live with Same person for life time...it's better to get marry
Aap jo kehe rhe ho wo sunne aur dikhne ke liye accha hai 😂😂 lekin is channel ka concept women empowerment hai ya fir western culture ko promote karna hai?? Aur ye bahut smartly kiya ja rha hai, so that girls would think this channel is all about strengthening a woman, but unfortunately it's about injecting western culture into indian culture.. after this comment people may think that I am one of those typical guy who doesn't want a woman to voice their opinions, but that's not the case..we all want real empowerment of women..I am not saying that indian society doesn't need a change..there are so many ugly concepts which should be changed...but there are so many beautiful things also exists in indian society which none of the RUclips channel shows.. and unfortunately people thinks adopting western culture is the only way of woman empowerment 🙏🙏
Bro, you are so much right👈 I couldn't understand how could so-called "Live-In-relationship, enhance "Woman Empowerment". Westerners are now a day's keen to explore indian way of life, traditions, or immotions, considering it more humane and scientific, but we Indians are very much egar to embrace their moralless savage way of life, just to be considered as Modern. 🤣🤣🤣
Stop being hypocrite. You are writing on twitter hijab is beautiful and free and other hand writting the bright red colour of sindhoor a mataphor for blood that oozes out of the opression of women. Matlab hijab accha h aur hm log jo sindhoor lagate wo bakwas h.🤮
@shethepeopletv - Great video, maybe you could add the pointer about how women are expected to leave their house, parents and live with strangers but men don't even consider it, even in the case of love marriages.
Logo ki baat sunna bandh karo. Staying in a live-in relationship, it helps men to understand they are making a wrong decision, so, now they can marry someone younger than them.
Before getting engaged, a girl presented herself to me as sanskari😂 bahu and all, by wearing every mask she could. In courtship period, I found many traits which could not work in our family. so had to reject. She happy, Me happy, family happy. Now, married to an apt woman.🔥 I mean, no need to mask urself as sanskari. This women in this video clip is atleast honest. Be like her dude.
I'm 25 ,my parents r in insearching operation ,I don't know why I don't feel so much connected ,excited about marriage ...I feel as I never thought of marriage ,I feel myself not that a marrying type girl ...the responsibilities ,childs etc ...I don't know what is going with me further ...but hnka I will remind ur suggestions
Ok . I am also 25, has a good boyfriend. Who wants to get maary to me out of love. We share a good romantic relationship. But still marriage scares the most out of me.
@Capt Ranvijay Rana bhai lekin sex ke liye frustrated feel karo to beech beech mein Caribbean islands ya Europe aur usa mein chale jaana casual hookups ke liye
I need these kind of motivational doses regularly because living with parents and facing all of isn’t easy because They make you drink the ‘sanskar and maryada’ ka poison everyday . Earlier jn my teenage I used to raise my voice against every little thing but they keep on dragging you down every single day for every little thing. Now Even though I know I should take my own decisions and be brave and still raise my voice against these sanskars .! I am not able to do that fully and feel they are right . They are parents they did alot for me and I should respect them and listen to their needs now .
The points u said all are correct but all are in negetive scenarios. I am married to love of my life. We knew each other for last 10yrs. We completed our education I work in IT she is an assistant professor. We both earn somewhat equally. Now we are blessed with a baby girl. My perents are completely ok with working daughter in law. Even my mother does all the household chores. She don't even expect anything from my wife. We are living happily. Then why to blame marriage? It's the people who brings bad name to the marriage. I feel after marriage it is lot fun living my life with my whole family.
Kaun bola pressure mein aana hi padta hai? Bagawat karne se accept karna aasan lagta hai issliye log accept karte hai. Kisi cheez ke khilaf khada hone se asan lagta hai ki atyachar sehen kare..
Tumhara concept hi galat hai didi..10 saal me aapko jo chahiye tha woh aap ko 20 saal nhi chahiye hoga, aur 30 me jo chahiye woh kuch or hi hoga, yeh baat sahi ki career bohut important hai,pehle career, lekin career k bahane apne aap ko dhoka toh mat de didi
Girls only and only see...big car, NRI, bunglow, salary to support luxuries, a free ride. IIT, IIM, 25 lpa package. Yes it their choice, she remain unmarried up to 40 years now and loose hope afterwards. What she is expecting is not available in India. What girls don't see good character, behaviour, attitude etc. If girl is employed even then she don't marry unemployed but good character and decent man. But if boy is employed then unemployed girl okay...we don't to adopt you, she neither work at home nor go out for job.
I think being a mother and getting married is not mandatory, but I am not supportive of live in relationship too, that's just how commitment less a person is . And Only a Manchild and womanchild go for this kind of casual way. Getting divorced after having kids over little thing like he is becoming fat and don't earn that much etc. is also not good , There is a reason why Asian is becoming more successful and black in America usually have a high rate of being brought by single parent than white, Jews and Asians .
Ma'am most of my IITs PhD friends including me are finding it difficult to find a partner. They are super good at studies but because we get 25-30k in hand, only average educated girls consider us. Kisne banaya ye hypocritical rule ki we should be earning much more than girls? 😂
@@anuranjana5927 They may have not studied from a good college or are not doing anything to make themselves a better person. I would love to be with a Bharatnatyam dancer but average educated girls I mean has not challenged or worked enough in her field/life.
@@AdityaKadamMechanical not everyone can afford a good college or high education .it might be better if you just say that I want a compatible partner. a person can be average educated but can earn more than you.
Very nice upload - Really point to he.... Very useful to every unmarried girls. They must watch this vdo. But please follow one thing - that explain you everything In Hindi don't use English words in your explanations because every Indian don't know English. Explain in easy Hindi Language .so ever one can follow you please. Thanks. Nice effort to support our PM. 🌱🌱🌾🌾🌴🌲🌲🌻🌿🌿🌿🌿🌿🍂🍂🍂🍀💐💐🌴🌴🌳🌳🌳☘☘🌷🍁🍁🍁🥀🥀⚘⚘⚘⚘🥀☘🌱🌱🌾🌾🌾🌾🍃
Stop listening to these advices lets me counter on all points she makes :- (I know its long, took me longer than what it will take you to read) 1st - For females - they should marry before 30. Because after that age in general, girls suffer from complications during child birth. But yeah you can marry at 32 and still bring a child to this world but you should also consider your age when you children are going to get married and then they have kids. It wont be even able to leave imprints on the new leaves of your tree. 2nd - No one will marry you if you tell them that you dont want to have kids. Marrying is all about making family and continuing you legacy. Yeah if couple cant have kids then you can go for adoption. But generally speaking, most people want to have their own family(their own blood). 3rd - So some truth in this statements, girls option gets less as she becomes successful. But why, because girls and their parents wont even consider guys earning less than her. If you just talk about the females, how many of them will even give a chance to guy or date guys who earn less than them. So you have your ans. 4rth - People around you especially your family are you well wishers and they will give you good advice. They know(as stated in 1st point), age matters for girls, so they will definitely push you to get married before you prime is gone. And being successful is good for both men and women, but men can be alone at 40 not being judged by society and even happy with himself, but its not the case for female. 5th - Relationship is about compromise for both. But why everyone thinks its more for women. Lets see. Girl has to change her job location when getting married. True but why this happens. Because job security for men is more imp than women, But why because women has to give birth and not work for atleast a year(now they leave their new born with grandparent and go to work. Its hard living in cities). Who going to bring food on the table at that time. MEN. Its just one example. But it doesnt mean guys sacrificing/compromising nothing at their end. But because of such examples, its always women, even men themselves will say that yeah its tough for women etc. 6th - Well again girls objectify(what a word to use here) men more than they do. Height matter more for women, income matters more for women, family background matters more to women, where he works matters to women, and list goes on. And as i stated in my previous point its tough living in a city, so these past couple of years guys want their partner to work so that they can do well for themselves. Buying a house in cities is like more than 1 cr. Working guy on average good job will earn 1L per month, with family you wont be even able to afford ac, well ac yes but not the bills. So yeah they want you to work. And the real hypocrisy is, if women works, she's like I work too and if not then, i have to take care of the house the children and what not. HYPOCRISY 7th - Ambitious women, but in what sense, she want to study, want to work and grow professionally. Who stopped you. And for the news adv, what they meant is these days even before marriage girls are interested in, what cars then guy have or he have at his house, we dont want that kind of ambition. 8th - What a big load of crap, no laws for marital rape. Martial rape is considered as domestic violence. And there are laws for domestic violence. Women must come out and seek justice for themselves in such situation and due to society where women are favoured they most probably will get something out of it. But What is not recognised is domestic violence against men. Go ahead and search for it. Also search for percentage, you will get to see results for yourself. Hypocrisy was the word used. And dowry, ask you parent to search for the family which doesnt ask for it and in love marriage things are in your hand. Well we dont have dowry in my state(HP), its almost zero. 9th - Divorce is not normalized , well, because we dont have that high percentage of divorces in india and we should work towards keeping it that way. We are example for the world in this case. Love marriages have more divorces than arrange and guess what women are in majority for filing divorce too. And divorce will never be normalised, even in west people will date divorce but never engage or marry them(very low percentage). 10th - I dont support LGBT, but i'm not even against them. People should be allowed to choose what they want, even if its a mistake, because it will be their mistake(HA HA). Ending :- Well you can live alone, but some points again(huh), you cant be forever with your friends, they will get married, might reallocate, or you get into a fight. Then you have no reason to be together, well you can talk, but you have to create a new social circle where you living. How many times you going to do that. You will work or make friends. People with job knows this. Now you can live with the people with same lifestyle, how many unmarried people do you see. Will young people even entertain you when you 40+? Live in relationships - Nothing wrong, do whatever you want to do. But will girls tell their body count publicly. NOOOO because they consciously know that it matter. So live all you want in LIVE IN RELATIONSHIPS, but you past gonna come haunt you ass. Be ready for it. Simple example - guys with high body count - stud, playboy. Women - slut, whore. And last yes marriage is not social obligation, but you should be mature enough by 30 to decide what you want in life. PEACE.
Thanks for your descriptive analysis. I would also add at last where she says, "Your happiness is above all". I find this statement a bit selfish. Being a girl, I can understand the societal pressure of marriage. But one cannot simply destroy a boys life on her whims. Girls like this " no marriage" idea in 20s...but as they age they feel lonely (their fault), and want to marry a guy for companionship. Now tell me, why would a guy marry an over aged girl? Even boys do have preferences.. And that girl is getting married for what? Companionship? Isn't it too much to expect. I don't intend to marry in life. ..n even if I feel lonely, I won't marry because loneliness is a personal problem...I should not exploit a man to get happiness. Girls should come out of this dream world where every people will go by their whims. Girls need to stop bashing men if they prefer younger women. You can't call his choice toxic masculinity. It's his life! If he thinks younger women is one stop solution in his marital life, let him deal with it.
Seems like these are the type of women who wants to live their independent life style in their 20s, which is fine do whatever you want. But when they turn 30 or 40 and hit the wall, they turn around and blame men for being single and they don’t want to be held accountable for their actions. Well let see what happened in 10 or 20 years.
Btw if any partner will genuinely love you , he will marry a girl doesn't matter what the age of a girl is . Also there are several examples of aged women getting marry with young boys .
I don't think so if a judge a guy for mony is bad because he should take care of you and should be able to provide for you. I am also a man and this is my openion.
I refrain myself from commenting on such videos because most women might not agree with me. This video really sounds good for women in 20s. I'm 38 single independent women and let me tell you just the way marriage has its pros and cons being single also has it. I am not saying every woman has same experiences but I would like to give insight in my life.
1) being a single child I know my parents are senior citizens and they are worried if I can manage my life alone without them. We don't have extended family. I would be on my own after them.
2) All my friends are married and have school going children. They prefer hanging around with mothers of their children's friends. We rarely meet as they are busy with their families and when we do we don't have anything common to talk about.
3) my colleagues are my friends who are much younger than me who often come to me with their boyfriend problems. Senior colleagues though married feel I'm available n might want to make a pass.
4) yes I have learnt doing things on my own. Like watching a movie alone, going on solo trips, reading a book, dining alone... but don't forget it's ALONE. You feel good about it initially and keep saying better to be alone than in bad relationship but it's just like saying grapes r sour.
5) you see children around n u feel emptiness. Yes u can adopt. But does it make sense to go to a job and leave ur adopted child to ur old already tired parents. Coz as single mother u need finances to look after the child so job is important.
6) yes get involved in society work, social causes, spiritual work n then when u look around and see a couple holding hands or see a husband checking with his wife if she's ok n u feel that pang in ur stomach.
Yes marriage can have it's disadvantages. I have gone through a failed marriage in my 20s n I completely agree marry for urself and not for a society. Do not stay in a marriage which doesn't give you love and respect. But dear girls no person is 100 % perfect if you meet someone who respects u and who supports you in thick and thin please consider marriage. It's about living thru differences and still sailing together.
I repeat this is my personal opinion. There might be single women in 30s who are living their life to fullest. I feel women have all the right to choose the kind of life she wants. I have only expressed the cons of being single in late 30s.
@Amandeep Wahi mene maar khane ko nahi kaha. Pura padhti toh samajh aata. I have clearly said that self respect is important. I had strength to walk out failed marriage. I'm just showing both sides.
@@kp4714 I agree with you
I totally agree with you KP. I am a 31 year old single woman and totally agree. If as a girl, you find a man who cares for you and respects you and if there is mutual attraction between you two, totally go for that guy. Career is important , it can give you money, respect but at the end of day we are humans and crave for humanly love, be it form of spouse, kids, and parents. It's not only for women but for men as well. I understand, till 25-26, people should focus on their career but after that, if you find a guy/girl for whom their is mutual love between him or her, don't let go of that person. I don't believe in forced marriage but marriage done with mutual consent and love is of prime value.
totally agree with you K P ji
My sister's husband CHEATED on her. She came back home with her 1mo BABY. She doesn't even want to face him but my family is asking her to adjust and COMPROMISE and live with him just to prevent a DIVORCE!! I hate that I can't stand for her. I just wanted to scream at their faces and ask to leave her alone.
@@niharika9446 love marraige or arrange marriage. Family must be supportive and i agree with your point that woman should be financially independent.
@@niharika9446 I strongly agree with you. When it comes to arranged marriage it us arranged by parents or some relatives. And you do not even know that person. We can't spend the whole life with a stranger. They only enquire about Family, Job, Salary, age and physique. They won't enquire anything about his character. This is just absurd.
@@niharika9446Not True. You kids probably don't understand that cheating can happen whether it is love marriage or arranged marriage. Please sympathize with people instead of telling them that they made "bad decisions" because they probably didn't. I know many successful arranged marriages. And infact in this era, the concept of marriage itself should just go away. People should just date and live in.
Do they not know that a couple should mutually compromise? If they don't mutually compromise, it is better to get a divorce than stay. They need to understand that divorce is not a bad thing unless done for the wrong reasons.
@@niharika9446
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I wanna get married defenitely! But I want to earn money and become independent first.
Recession time no job, better go for marriage
Yup
@Shreyaawashere
Did anyone ask you to tell me?
No.
Then keep your opinion to yourself 😂. Same pinch you know
@Shreyaawashere
That's my choice.😂
You don't need to teach me what should have to do in my life.
@Shreyaawashere
😂😂😂Shaming & giving opinion.
*Telling truth is always offensive. Truth should be there.
& I can see your comments also everywhere.
Get a life you also😂
Kon kisko gyan de raha hain
yes ofcourse my future wife must be overqualified than me and i will be proud to say
My mum is more qualified than my dad, and they're perfectly happy together.
How sweet
My parents are equally qualified but my mother got a job before my father and she was supporting financially and my father was preparing for competitive exam.😊
@@navya.8281 how cute to hear....😊
Wow nice thought 🙌
I don't know how I came to know your channel. But jab bola ki kharab he hamari generation toh kharab hi sahi. But we will stand up for what we believe, sach me laga k koi toh he jo bola. Mere saare dost mujhe left out kar diye he
I'm glad tumhe faida hua es video se. - Raina ❤️
Same here. Shayad isiliye meri kabhi same age vale friends se jami nahi. Mere bohot se friends mujse jyada chote hai magar they understand me a lot better. Idc what the society says at this point as I'm happy around them ♡
@@rainaraonta347 JAI MATA DI
20 and marriage?! 😱 I m 20 & I am still studying 🤩 everyone treat me like a lil baby 🤭 I am lucky ❤✨
U r lucky
@@MonikaMonikaaD 🤗
Same
I think that's why ur account name is baby panda?😆
(Just for fun) 😊
@@soniadhillon3067 hehe🤭 someone special used to call me by this name🤞
I am 31 years old and happily UNMARRIED😄😄😄😄😍😍😍😍😍....
you go girl
yooo👍👍👍keep growing
im 28 n unmarried..... 😅
Very good.....
Be unmarried for whole life....
And encourage others to do the same.....
@Intellectual One kya kiya jaye bhai.... Msg to yahi de rahin hai bahanji😂😅🤣😀
Motherhood is just an extension of a woman's life, not the definition 🙏
U are right bro
Also forcing women to leave her comfort zone and go and get uncomfortable with husband and his family..
@Worldwide Handsome Because women accepted it for so long! And forced their daughters to do same.Women have been systematically misused for advocating and propogating exploitation in the name of tradition
Remember chicks
Men are king and master of women🔥
@Capt Ranvijay Rana but today girls don't even give a fuck about men and their needs and setting an example and living happily
@@blackwolf5771 NO They aren't. Period
So true. Marriage is stupid.
I m getting divorce from my abusive husband.....he has cheated me upon his diseases .....parents are so tensed....that I ab pata nhi kya hoga ......dusra acha ladka milega ki nhi.....I m 25 and ca final student
Try to complete your CA........other problem will start settling down.
Clear your CA and get a job. Then find a partner. Nothing wrong with marrying or finding a partner.. We all want a companion in life. It only makes sense when that companion is supportive of your dreams. You were cheated. You weren't in the wrong. If your partner is caring and knows you are a good person, then he won't care about your past. Good Luck!
You are a C.A student! Good gracious. Tumko koi bhi milega ! You are a lot more Qualified than other" Janta "! Sis you should become the best Of yourself. Become a C.A , this would be the best thing for you!
CA final ho
Why you want to marry
Apne career pe focus kar bhena
Try to complete your studies and focus on your career. Please don't waste your time and energy by thinking only about the marriage.
I think I should move to abroad now... India will only change after so many years. I will be dead by that time
Hahaha 👍
Sameeee
😂😂😂😂Nice jokes
Not like all other countries in world are good lol you are so naive ! They are all racist
@@important3985 lol indians comes first when it comes to racism
Girls.. Be successful than your husband and give him the life he wants 🤣🤣😗
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Naah a women will only chose a guy who is earning more than him because she always wants a provider who can protect her and there is nothing wrong in that it's natural.
@@powersoul4772 See women can also be a protector by the way becoz there are some men who needs protection, it is not only men responsiblity to protect women, but women is also responsible.
@@powersoul4772 don't generalize! These days girls wanna be shoulder to shoulder with guys.. Be independent.. Rather that being dependent.. Thats some ancient thought!
@@powersoul4772 Do not generalise please. There are increasing amount of girls who wants to earn as much as husbands and increasing amount of men who would prefer such a wife and much more financial stability.
Why this channel is so underrated? 🤔 Let's support this....
Im 20 now...everyone was like when u r gng to get married...i was like ahhhh im very much depressed about it...i have boyfriend ...but i dont want to get married...i dont have that mental stability ...i want to study more and having dreams about my career..i could not explain about my feelings with my family members..im super frustated and trying to come out of this....anyone please give some suggestions
Take a stand for yourself and be bold enough to explain your parents that your Career is priority for you. And try to secure a decent job as quick as possible. Money is power. Money gives you ability to take decision of your life without depending on anyone.
@@PriyanshuSingh-hk5lv sure tq so much im trying...and i will try untill my parents came to know that my decisions will always right
@Quantum x Relativity tq so much it means a lot to me....i have tried everything but ended in vain...sure i will try untill they understand my depression level because of this.. now i preparing for my interview to get placed in job so that i will be financially independent....im trying my level best...
Ghar se bhag jaa....XD): 😂😂😂
@@subhadeepdas7551 sometimes i will think like that...but emotinal connections with family members thats the main reason im still staying
Don't be scared to tell about your life goals to your parents whether they support you or not. Especially after you get financially independent it's your life not your mom's!
Oh really 🤣🤣🤣 that's why they given birth to you when you Will independent you will leave them
@@noconversionpage8466 Taking care of parents is a fundamental duty of the children. But parents should also consider the fact that they were the ones deciding to raise the children. So obviously parents need to support their offsprings
@@annymondal6822 but if there is something wrong going on if parents Interrupt children should it tolerate or not 🤔🤔🤔🤣🤣 for me parents come first before anything whether it's about future goals or something else😑😑 now days it's easy to say it's my life my rules it's a western concept but my religion don't teach to me this 😂😂
@@noconversionpage8466 My religion teaches me to take care of my birth givers and those who have done so much hard work to raise me. But I have a question for you sir, if the parents are abusive, don't you think, it's okay for the children to maintain some distance from them?
@@annymondal6822 I never heard of any case parents being abused 😂😂😂 I am right now 19 all around me I not got a single case like this 😑😑 first of all what kind of abuse you talking about in my house my sisters have even more rights than I have but I never had any problems because they are my big sisters
If I’m being honest, I want a husband who will provide for and protect me. As much as I want to become a career-woman, I also want to have the option of being a stay-at-home mom. Women already have it hard physically, there’s nothing wrong, in fact it’s natural to want a masculine man. That is my opinion of course. :)
That's natural
And I love girls like you.
Yeah thats true
A woman will become a mother someday so she should have the option to stay at home and take care of her child
@@riteshvashisht4605 It was an technical mistake dude maine to ek baar hi kiya tha
so if you want a man who will provide for and protect you, would you cook and clean for him ? Or is that being sexist to expect that from a girl? If this is sexist, aren't you being sexist by expecting a man to provide for you ? Shouldn't you also contribute financially?
@Capt Ranvijay Rana lmao💀
Finally, someone got the exact points and the absolute explanation and interpretation of the same.
Most of the factors originate from the belief that marriage = life long relationship = allowance for sex = moral right to reproduction.
In my opinion there are 2 major reasons of gender discrimination in societies all over the world. a) biological buildup and b) institution of marriage. Now in point a) there are differences some of which needs to be embraced and some not and in b) as the dialog: concept me hi locha hai, we need an equal concept bounded by law
And another belief is marraige = now we can go to foreign countries and do our dream job because my dad tells me if you want to go to USA go after marraige!!!
@@naishikamaddireddy1597 another is now its marriage so we can sleep with other man and get alimony from husband
Are live in bhi to nahi kar sakte,
Usme false promise of marriage hai, 10 saal tak ka jail + fine.
Tab larkio ki BC Independence g*** me ghus jati hai, ek baar pregnant hui nahi ki mai "abla" "Mujhe support chahiye" Wala ramdi rona chalu un logo ka
Commitment bh***re me jaaye, modern women o ki utni aukaad hi nahi hai ki wo morals follow kare,
To ye cheez unse expect karna hi galat hai.
Agar love hua pass aye, fir nahi bana chale gaye easily ye hota tab to koi problem hi nahi tha.
Lekin sarkaar to ye nahi hone denge, divorce case chalayenge saalo se, fir mota rakam alimony fir child support ye wo.... Sab hai, shaadi se easily nikalna lagvag impossible hai
"When you goona marriage " is the most annoying thing ever.. 😒😒
Omg u nailed it!!... this is wat we r going through 😔
Yes. I feel you totally. ❤️❤️
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Yeah
same this happen to my cousin sister also if their is no love so it's only arrangement for security purpose what family say but in indirect way and we thing it will love someone after marriage but it won't so rare if their is true love you need to find only one option live with someone you like and he really wants to live with you and then both think if we really want move on in life but family won't accept thats sad in india
I don't know how do I came across your channel but I am married before 3yrs but I am happy with as u say super supportive husband and supportive in laws....😅😅...Anyway nice video... If anyone think ki jaisa socha hai waisa husband mila to Shadi ka option is not that bad....and rahi baat in laws ki den I will say 1st preference husband best hona chaiye...then he can manage in laws agar koi mushkil aaye toh.....
ये चॅनेल बूढ़े लोगोंका BP जरूर बढ़ाता होगा😂😂😂😂, अच्छा है
बेचारे 🤣
😂😂😂😂
Thora jhatka lagna hi chaiye
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These girl wil have a bright future with lots of cats & dogs. The last line she said "Your happiness is above all", I wanna know about her happinesses after 36. She also said live in relationship, hold on a sec my dear. Freedom comes with responsibilities. After few bedroom fun they all eventually lost purpose of the relationship, then blame all men are bad. God bless her.
When I was in my 20 I certanly dident think about marriage. I was more preoccupied with traveling the world and having fun. I met my husband when I was 48 and got married when I turned 50. Now we are happily married. We have no children either of us. I knew from an early age I never wanted children. We dont have arranged marriges. We marry on our own terms with the person we want. Love is essential. Lots of people prefer to live together and we did that too. Its a good way to find out if you are a good match. Divorce rate is about 50%. Nobody wants to stay in an unhappy marriage.
age is not a factor at all... yes... then menopause is a myth... sahi kaha didi ne... 😂😂
Leave menapause there are medical condition u many get to ur child if ur pregnant above 30 years
@@xylo5063 yah me tooo ... 😂
Marriage is a lot more than sex and children
@@milkyway8104 haan wo to hai... but... just imagine... a marriage without sex and kids... is it said to be a successful marriage... marriage doesn't means only kids and sex... but... they are the most important pillars of marriage...
Really this types of videos r very much needed in our society
I am in 20s
If I don't completely agree with your point,please don't mind,don't bash me with abusive language.
MARRIAGE IS A BEAUTIFUL COMPANIONSHIP BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE and even between families.
There is no need to fear this concept so much.because firstly it wasn't meant to be dowry driven, patriarchal ,one sided advantage ,or even kind of dealership ....some parts of society has made it look like the above said for their benefit.
It is relationship between equals ,by equals ,I don't mean financially equal,I mean equal in terms of love,care, nurturing and respect...
It's nurturing each other....be part of each other's growth and progress...life doesn't need just growth career wise,there is emotional ,spiritual growth as well.If you are with a partner who understands you,loves you,cares for you, supports you emotionally , that person may not be perfect for somebody else,but there is nothing more beautiful than being in committed relationship with that person...
I am against patriarchy but in Marriage like relationship I really feel it's mutual giving ,mutual trust ,mutual understanding kind of khatti meethi relationship not always easy but yes good experience if you marry the one you want to be with whole life.
I don't oppose the idea of marriage.
Career is v important for a woman as well as personal relationships.
Marry when you are mentally and emotionally ready.
Marrying doesn't harm your career.if it is going to harm,either wait for right time or if your guy's side wants you to quit your job then don't marry that guy!
Live in,is not always progressive or modern concept.
And marriage is not outdated concept.
Period!
Wow, well said
Girl go do ur hw
#2 1:04, #6 2:35, #7 2:55 and #8 3:30 - I hope people watching this (including young girls and women) won't ignore these points and keep in mind.
4:44 you might not get married, but it's okay... You just have to be sure of living with the person you like and want to share your life with. Now that's a answer you'll get with time whether it's going to be lifelong or until-the-feeling-last (mind my words because compulsive decisions often reflect immature actions taken), or simply you get to know the other person better in real-time.
5:05 accept that you don't require a romantic companionship and can control the sexual urges you'll be having... Because trust me, that's where the most people fails.
Good luck❤️🍀😃
Yes. All important points.
@@rainaraonta347 most often these points get under the carpet because of the other points being so crucially attached to the identities of women. So that's why highlighted these. Nevertheless, great job at hosting and keep going ❤️
Not just hosting. I have written the script and also edited the video. 😅
And thank you. :D
@@rainaraonta347 haha, sorry didn't know that. Guess I'll start reading the descriptions of the videos as well :p
Interacting with you, I'm just having this one thought in mind... Do you think SheThePeopleTV should also have a male representative for any section/category of videos? I believe that will make arguments and/or any given information more neutral in the eyes of viewers, isn't it? Well, you can say I'm asking for an opportunity for myself, but haha, seriously - whether be it me or anyone, I really believe it's good.
Your happiness should be above all💯
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That's true 👍🏻👍🏻
Sure shot way of never being happy.
When a woman gives an advice, just do the opposite and you’ll be fine.
FACTOR #3 : GIRLS WONT MARRY SOMEONE LESS SUCCESSFUL OR LESS QUALIFIED. AND THIS IS SO TRUE. I WISH THIS CHANGE. *TAKE STEPS TO CHANGE THIS, GIRLS*
i dont really think this is the case. and if a girl refuses to be with you because you are less qualified than her, then do you really want to be with that sort of a person? to a sensible person, your love and respect for her would be the only thing that would matter..
@@simransaini9468, I feel like boys have become lazy and women are overcompensating for that im saying this by oberving men around me it can be wrong too just an observation, not a fact. the girls have started taking over the responsibilities which typically men have. so they've become lazy. lots of boys around me don't think of education as a priority theyre like hum na business he to krna ha , theek ha kro business laikain iska matlub yeh to nahe k education ko bilkul he laat mar do bs womenising ki taraf lg gye ha sb . theyve really lost focus.
Yes!!
Not entirely true. I guess girls will/should also be comfortable in marrying a guy who is less successful but shares house chores. But don't marry a lazy one.
@@Thesassyintrovert
Hmm, protector, provider jabb tha tabb that's male ego.😂
Now they're lazy, coward etc.
Amazing manipulation by feminazis
I dont agree exactly...live in relationships mostly end up in breakups..and friends are only there for timepass and fun...when you are hospitalized for example or you lost a job, who will support you? Although marriage can end in divorce it still is indeed the best bet to finding a lifelong partnership.
Agree!
There is something called love and I don't think you believe that it's real
If a relationship ends in a breakup, it was never meant to be. You should not need marriage to forcibly hold two people together. Marriage as an institution should be dissolved because it is bad for women like this video says.
Women are treating marriage the same way. Live in is better, at least you don’t have as much legal hassle.
@@aditibisht22 love is what a man has for a woman and it is what the woman has for his money.
Marriage is the beautiful companionship of two people and you should only get married when you find the right partner for your self. It should be wholly and solely your decision . You shouldn't get married die the pressure by society and parents because at the end you have to live with your spouse for whole life and if you were not mentally prepared for marriage then you both can't live a happy and peaceful life.
Thanks for making such awesome videos for empowering women ❤❤🌱
At the same time it needs kids of patience and compromise to work out any relation
@@chandran5270 Marraige needs understanding, not compromises. There's a difference.
There is no right partner.....It's all about what type of man you are searching for.
@@userwithcommonname dude compromise is sub part of understanding
I disagree. No one should have to get married. When you find the "right" person, you should not need to be "married" to him/her. If he/she is right, they will remain in your lives forever without having a contractual agreement like marriage. Its high time the institution of marriage is dissolved.
Parents don't care for our happiness... Just care for getting rid of responsibility
They care for THEIR happiness. 😂😂😂
U have not raised a child I guess if u have had a stable life good food education then u dont know how lucky and loved u are
Koi bhi responsibility Nahi chata.... Issliye to aaj kal ki generation ko freedom important hai.....
Your voice is somewhat like Deepika Padukone's.
Late 30 huge pressure but not interested what to wait for love may be it wouldn't come but I don't want to be stranger's wife.
How many r here in same situation?
In Live in relationships there might be more chances of one partner taking advantage of other more bcoz families aren't there.. No one is here to stop you what ever you do.. Use and throw other person whenever you want..
For ever problems here solution is to have every woman supporting each other for good things ... This would be the biggest strength...
how can there be use and throw when you can walk out practically anytime. Please explain.
@Capt Ranvijay Rana what do you mean by use and throw ?
@@vidya109 A woman should be able to date or even just have sex with as many men as she wants, its really no ones business. But Indian society, what can we do.
@@vidya109 Because two *_consulting_* adults cannot live together without making a promise to live forever with supporting each other for the rest of their lives. Got it? That's why marriage is unnecessary and important. Period!!
@@vidya109 Nobody's individually deciding about how someone else should be living their life. We are here discussing about a topic with our free will because we like in a 21st century's democratic society. Internet allows everyone to discuss about any topic related to animals, science and society based on people's convenience.... And having said that, I don't think Marriage certificate is for the guarantee, it's basically for the *_dignity_* & self respect of a womén with a brain, because that's the thing that differentiate between us humans and animals.... Animals also doesn't need any certificate to live together and have séx- with each other and break up after their need is over. Understand? So we don't want such animalistic culture in our country. We have eloved to be civilized from our uncivilized ancestors, and hence we don't want to go behind back to downwards.
Career, marriage,kids everything could be managed together. Many couples were struggling when they got married and with time become successful.
But never get married to
1.mumma's boy/ daddy's girl
2. In laws demanding dowry
3.gold diggers (both men and women)
And yes arrange marriage is the perfect example of corporate some might get very lucky ,others get cheated
Age is a huge factor in marriage as you get older especially women will get very few proposals, men if rich would have no problem at all.
And men and women should actively participate in seeking partner rather than being passive about it ,it's a tough competition.
Good...analysis...I think you have a good knowledge of marrge business and the so called fake sanskar exchange in the name of marrge......marge is fake in India..atleast 70% of them are:(
@@aswathirajan7963 sister , I don't know what do you mean by fake . Having utopian ideas about marriage will only do bad than good.marriage is hard work. There is no perfect person waiting for us ,we need to work to make it perfect.
But never tolerate abuse in any manner.
@@fathimashahjahan8906 by fake i meant marrge considered as joining of two families...but most cases the families don't even care about each other...next is soul mate...people don't care about their partners most of the times...they just fulfill their parents wishes by marrge....family wants society to be happy...and kids make sure that happens....thats it
@@aswathirajan7963 there is both good and bad to things , marriage is about husband and wife , not families, everyone needs companionship in life .These days most women don't stay with their in laws, times have changed
Please don't be bitter , you might end up missing good opportunities .
@@fathimashahjahan8906 yeah...I am looking for a soul partner not a business partner...I hate dowry. I hate women leaving their house and family just because Indian marrge demand it..I hate the concept of marge as a lisecwnse for sex...I hate you have to cook do households as you are in a wife phase....but I love many things as well...having kids...spending time with them...spending time with good family members....I was sad only for women who don't get atleast these good parts as well
ONCE AGAIN AN EPIC ONE🔥LOVE FROM KOLKATA.
Thank you ❤️🤗
My grandparents make their children fight over property making me think that marriage does not guarantee peace of mind...its just like divorced parenthood gave you headache but a different way
Bahen aapke charan kaha hai main chuna chahungi ... you are fabulous.. itna sach kaise bol lete ho aap.. hats off
बहोत प्यारी हो
33, single, with no man in sight.
32 and single woman, never married.
You guys are inspiration for today's girls (like me) who tryna be single & independent. Stay strong ♡
Great
Its okay to be single
@Capt Ranvijay Rana 😂😂😂
Point 5 - kahi se support na mile toh bardash bhi karna padta hai.
well i am little lucky my father alwys wanted me to be way more educated than my brother
yeah, pretty sexist of him to do that.
I don't its right.there should be equality.
That's great Vijeta 😁👍👍👍❤❤
He's sexist
Ek baar paadai puri ho jaye uske baad parents sirf shaadi ke liye force karte hai. Koi nahi chahta ke ladke job kare.
Kahte hai job shaadi ke baad kar lena. Patti kehta hai bacche hone ke baad kar lena. Sab ke iccha puri ho jatte hai. Aur ladki ke zindagi gharab ho jatti hai.
Log force kar lete hai aur ladkiyaan accept kar leti hai? Jabardasti karne deti hai ladkiyan khud ke saath? Itna easy banake rakh diyaa hai hum logo ne ki humpe jabardasti hoti raahe? Kya yeh kamjori ki nishaani nahi hai? Kya hum kamjor hai? Sochne wali baat hai
@@Charruta family pressure mein toh aana he hota hai. Aur dusre pressure ignore kar bhi do.
@@shwetakaurbawa8451 Nope ..one doesnt have to .No one can force anything or anyone. also it is a crime by law
@@Charruta toh kya apne Maa - Baap ki complain karu police mein.
@@shwetakaurbawa8451 That is your choice.But you shld know that you do have freewill and choice. One should have guts to take stand for oneself. Otherwise entire life becomes a complaint. It is in general discussion,I never said anything for you.Every choice has a consequence. Chup baith sehen karne ka bhi parinam hai aur bagwat karne ka bhi parinam hai. Kaunsa parinam chahiye ye hamari marji hoti hai. Yeh jo ek notion bann chuka hai 'sehna hi padta hai' ye galat hai. Lekin shayad sehna jyada easy hota hoga..issliye log sehte hai..sehte rehete hai puri life..saalon saal..rote hai complaint karte hai..fir bhi stand nahi lete
Best time to marry for girl should be 30-35years 😊
U r right bro
Mid 20s is best age (23-27)
After 35 pregnancy complication occurs
Is taking care of family, household, raising kids and managing relations considered to be success.?
If not, then that's where feminism fails.
I believe a woman who has taken care of her family and household and raised children is as successful as a giant company's CEO. Homemakers are not inferior to any professional working "independent" women.
Let that be clear!
@@xylo5063 even if we are in 2100th century the households will still be needed to be taken care of and children will be required to be raised. Done by a man or woman none earns superiority by giving up on their family, and household for some stupid amount of money working outside.
To tum ban jao na ese CEO
@@xylo5063 Aunty even in 21 st century 70% of women don't work by choice and 20% of total are working and earning peanuts
@@xylo5063women ☕😂😂
But being unmarried is ok till 40 or 45 but after that it's difficult..
For women
Not for men
*PREACH*
@@santhoshm4680 lol as if men don't age..
@@santhoshm4680actually men are the ones who need someone not women it's proven men can't survive long after they loose their spouse but women survive longest despite loosing their husband
Being married is even more difficult better to be alone than being in suffering relationship
Not every girl can get job . Hence those girls who are in job must focus on job and be involve in building nation's economy. They must not be pressurized for marriage.
Also the boys who want to marry can get n number of beautiful , caring and good cook girl to marry. They preferably must not marry a girl in job . Either it will spoil her carrier or it will spoil marriage life of both. So best way that boys wants a wife or a real better half ( gharwali), first they must make it sure before marriage. If they want gharwali then they must refrain from a working women or girl. She may not become a home maker completely.She can not serve you delicious meal. And even after marrige you have to be dependent on zomato,swiggy etc... She can only life become a partner.
Girls have their right to choose their carrier objective and boys have their right to choose a best suiting home maker better half for them.
Boys can have a trial and error relationship with a girl working. This will help them to know consequences after marriage with that girl. In relationship they can know and analyse how much time she can give to them and home,,,in kichen ,, on bed .. making coordination with her job. If you find in evening a women tired of job, stressed,,,, unable to make your stomach happy (ie actually way to men's heart) and not able to accept sex request as tired too much, boys can predict the situation after marriage. Hence best way to get break up here. It may be painful for short span but it will prevent whole life to be painful.
Also if you find a women may be very good or great scientist or genius , she must not be distracted to ordinary activities such as marrige. They must be given full opportunity to serve nation and mankind.
The ideal age for boys to be Father of first child is 27-28. If wants second child then 33-35. Hence they must marry a women only who can gift fatherhood to them in this time slot. Life is very small . Especially young age period. And this precious part of age must not just spoiled in fighting, divorce , separation just for sake of surviving a Baniya (employers)
So any girl who is carrierstic should be given full freedom to make carrier.. to fulfill her and her employer's goals and objectives. Only some stupid boys expect marrige with them or they are after such girls to marry too and their marriages end to disaster after some time.
You can see indian husbsnds of manny successful and busy women enjoying official tours at Pattaya, petppong thailand and at Cebu, Angeles, Burgos cities of Philippines. So what is the meaning of such marriages.
I know some stupid people won't like my comments. But boys must not care those. Boy are free to prefer what they want irrespective of gender discrimination.
Well you nailed it but LGBTQ COMMUNITY now can get married as they want to its legal in India now😊
🙏💐
It's not yet legal, sadly. But I can't wait for it to be!
Same sex relation is legal but they still cannot marry. Indian law only recognises heterosexual marriage.
Well High Court just rejected it 2 days ago
@@rolandpereira4161 great news
Who are not 20 but still come here because your mind thinking that let's listen it , I will also faced this so I should know about it☺ hit like .
विवाह के बाद आपके ऊपर
1) 498A,
2)125 crpc,
3)406 IPC,
4)दहेज प्रतिषेध अधिनियम की धारा 5 ,6,
5)धारा 24 HMA,
6)घरेलू हिंसा अधिनियम की धारा 12
इत्यादि इतनी धाराएं लग सकती है।।
सोच समझकर करे विवाह..... अगर नीच बाज़ारू के चक्कर मे फंस गए तो जीवन हो सकता है बर्बाद.....
न्याय मंदीर मे काली पट्टी आैर एक तरफा झुकाव . निकाल देने के टाईम का ना काेई बंधन.
She is entitled to her opinion.
Why you all people just watch anything and complain.
I am from a Brahmin family (very conservative)but still no one in my entire family has been forced to marry.
They all did by choice.
Age is not a factor theoretically. But, Practically Men not interested in old woman and women also not interested in Old men. So, Be practical. Please marry before 30...
No bro women are interested in old men bcz men prefer youth &fertility while females prefer financial stability
@@Mrjollly828 might be True...
Omg whatever we say they are always trying to manipulate us into this marriage things which is really out of syllabus for me right now! I am a South Indian girl and after watching certain women oriented movies recently released like ammu, great Indian kitchen, jayajayajayahey etc.., I lost interest in concept of Indian marriage! I don't understand why parents or society is so enthusiastic in marrying a stranger to thier own daughter and expect him to secure her for the rest of his life lol! How can you trust some stranger easily than your own daughter!? I think thier should be some special classes for women to learn how to manage this misogynists/dominants or how to deal with illogical rules in in-laws! Sorry if I made anyone angry with my words but these are my uncertain feelings about future!
As a south indian guy why there should be some special classes for women to learn how to manage this misoqynists/dominants? why not special special classes for men? instead of these kind of video is there any video tells a men how to be in an relationship? and remember reality is different.
1. Tum logo ko larke pasand nahi hai
Fir bhi larko ke saath hi relationship karna hai???
Kiu les*o bano, raho larkiya ek saath milke.
2. Live in sahi hai, lekin fir break up ke baad tum logo ko "false promise of marriage" Bhi to lagana hai
3. Aur live in me pregnant ho gaye taab to koi khayar hi nahi, puri duniya ke larke kharab... Tab kudh ka jimmedaari khud nahi utha sakte????
4. Larkio ka no means no aur larko ka no means fase cases, wah re wah
It's unfortunate that we even have to say these things aloud still. I long for the day when gender parity is the norm. Rise up India, it's high time.
Where do you not have parity?
Let's normalize divorce with no alimony
Yes
How dare you misogynist, although we are independent but it is our born right to lick husband shoes to get his income and expend on our extra marital affairs after all marriage is a patriarchial institution
@@siddhantmishra9980 Nice irony
Yea let's normalise divorce with no alimony and partition of wealth in a family equally amongst daughters and sons. That will end every problem for both men and women
Let's normalize not getting married.
What factors have people given you as reasons to get married?
If a girl gets married late ..it ll bcm lil difficult to give birth..this thing is being told as a major reason fo girls to get married...n also some parents think that marrying their daughter is their prime responsibility n once if it's done they r freed...n also they say the husband will take care of her..
But y should a man always take care of a woman , couldn't it b vice versa
Girls jhuriya aane do😂😂😂, samajh apne aap ajayga shadi kiyu jaruri hain.
Ladke bhao nehi denge, do din baad.
'Shadi toh karni hi padti hai'
@@promptbookstore boys ko bhi jhuriya aane do budha ho jaane doh koi ladki shaadi nhi karna chahegi 😂 .
@@amishere.05 successful aur paisa ho toh bonny Kapoor ko sridevi milti hai yeh India hai ladkiyan paise pe Marti hai aur bolti hai hum aajkal ki modern ladkiyan hai😅😅🤣🤣
Marriage is not necessarily bad, it’s the unfair patriarchy marriage system in our nation that gives it a bad name
marriage should not exist as an institution anymore since both men and women are independent
Who agrees she uses the perfect scenes to complement her points 😘
K 🤔🤔
I do :)
They are comparing marriages with Bollywood movie. How funny is that??
And youths will think that they will look cool
When i tell my mom tht i don't wanna get married so soon she tells me kuch cheeze apni time pe ho jaani chahiye warna badme bacche hone me b problems hote hai... And I'm like shaadi or baccho k alawa b bht kuch hota hai zindagi me. 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Now tht im in my mid Twenties she has started nagging me even more. 😑😑😑
Underrated channel
I have seen men get intimated by wife's success
And women dont like less successful man
It is truly interesting that we are educating women to move into live-in relationships because we cannot fix the marriages in our society. If taken the same way, we shouldn't accept anything that isn't perfectly designed for us, because we're too childish and immature to face off with real life. Oh, and the best part is where women are supposedly the target of it all because, you poor lot never heard of men being riddled with torment by their wives, continuing with marriage just because of the kids. Y'all need to educate yourselves, marriage is a two-party project, you can't snooze and blame it all on the other person. Applies to either gender. The only alternative to marriage is you growing up. If you can't be mature enough to get married and adjust with each other (man or woman), you really shouldn't have kids because you're gonna set the worst possible example for them.
@Somesh Negi we need educated and mature people. We need people to stop living lives as if they're part of some TV show. Sharia law is only for Muslims. We need to fix the Indian social problem which is not limited to Muslims.
@Somesh Negi if they are not educated on the results of feminism by watching and learning from the western failures, are they really educated? Everyone has social media, and yet no one can see the failures of feminist ideals on the western world?? If you choose to learn only what you want and like instead of looking at reality unfold and appreciate what it teaches you, are you still calling yourself educated??
There is no problem with marriage. Problem is with individuals who get married. If everyone starts thinking like you, then world would end in next 100 years. You are here because of so called old traditional people.
First part is good. Suggestions at the end like live-in etc... Is something that's not justified in terms of security in long run. Doing marriage or not is completely one's person choice and & Yes u can stand up for urself and ua choices. However, degarding the marraige system shouldn't either be encouraged. Live-in doesn't provide the proper hindu culture life as per our indian system. In the long run, off chance the kids tend to suffer and lack proper parenting love. Still law is providing some clauses in live-in now a days. Well, it's a long debate to on this topic . But 👍 for the video as the first part clearly states not to get married in a rush. Please take time and plan your life with dignity and respectfully
Yes..it's better to get marry instead of being in live in with same person for life long.... after all it will provide more rights, happiness and emotional security.
Yes you r correct. Every country has a particular culture. Live ins are a part of western culture even in eastern Asia they dont support live in. So everyone has different culture to follow and respect
Even Abrahmic religions like Christianity , islam, Judaism is against to feminazi, live in relationships, homosexuality, pornography, perverts etc.......but liberals, atheist are ruining the entire good standards of religions
And the conservatives are instigating violence on the basis of violence
@@blackwolf5771as per humanity, rational thinking and human rights....there is nothing wrong in homosexuality and live in......and so do I believe....so that's completely okay.
But yes if someone wants live with Same person for life time...it's better to get marry
@@kuntalverma7143 I'm saying the views of religions all around the world...
Aap jo kehe rhe ho wo sunne aur dikhne ke liye accha hai 😂😂 lekin is channel ka concept women empowerment hai ya fir western culture ko promote karna hai?? Aur ye bahut smartly kiya ja rha hai, so that girls would think this channel is all about strengthening a woman, but unfortunately it's about injecting western culture into indian culture.. after this comment
people may think that I am one of those typical guy who doesn't want a woman to voice their opinions, but that's not the case..we all want real empowerment of women..I am not saying that indian society doesn't need a change..there are so many ugly concepts which should be changed...but there are so many beautiful things also exists in indian society which none of the RUclips channel shows.. and unfortunately people thinks adopting western culture is the only way of woman empowerment 🙏🙏
bro u need to just chill out for real🤣
Bro, you are so much right👈 I couldn't understand how could so-called "Live-In-relationship, enhance "Woman Empowerment".
Westerners are now a day's keen to explore indian way of life, traditions, or immotions, considering it more humane and scientific, but we Indians are very much egar to embrace their moralless savage way of life, just to be considered as Modern. 🤣🤣🤣
@@santanuhazra1520 🙏
@@monomaykarmakar2469 👍
@@amourrein1619 age kya hai tumhari bhai.no offense just curious
Stop being hypocrite. You are writing on twitter hijab is beautiful and free and other hand writting the bright red colour of sindhoor a mataphor for blood that oozes out of the opression of women. Matlab hijab accha h aur hm log jo sindhoor lagate wo bakwas h.🤮
@shethepeopletv - Great video, maybe you could add the pointer about how women are expected to leave their house, parents and live with strangers but men don't even consider it, even in the case of love marriages.
U show him guts to take him home bringing baarat . Change start from ourself only right??
This channel just staisfies my mind !!
I think their vdo frequency r exactly matchung with young population of India !!
Logo ki baat sunna bandh karo. Staying in a live-in relationship, it helps men to understand they are making a wrong decision, so, now they can marry someone younger than them.
Before getting engaged, a girl presented herself to me as sanskari😂 bahu and all, by wearing every mask she could. In courtship period, I found many traits which could not work in our family. so had to reject. She happy, Me happy, family happy. Now, married to an apt woman.🔥 I mean, no need to mask urself as sanskari. This women in this video clip is atleast honest. Be like her dude.
Seems like she dodged a bullet. Good for her.
Reality of most women nowadays
Well most of the men also lie about their salary and age to many woman. I have seen many such men. So I guess we need to change that too.
@@aaryakulkarni787 never happens, stop making sh!t up.
I'm 25 ,my parents r in insearching operation ,I don't know why I don't feel so much connected ,excited about marriage ...I feel as I never thought of marriage ,I feel myself not that a marrying type girl ...the responsibilities ,childs etc ...I don't know what is going with me further ...but hnka I will remind ur suggestions
Me also still I'm younger than you but I'm also feeling like i don't made for marry or household. ☹️
Ok . I am also 25, has a good boyfriend. Who wants to get maary to me out of love. We share a good romantic relationship.
But still marriage scares the most out of me.
@Capt Ranvijay Rana bhai lekin sex ke liye frustrated feel karo to beech beech mein Caribbean islands ya Europe aur usa mein chale jaana casual hookups ke liye
Don't get married. Simple.
I need these kind of motivational doses regularly because living with parents and facing all of isn’t easy because They make you drink the ‘sanskar and maryada’ ka poison everyday .
Earlier jn my teenage I used to raise my voice against every little thing but they keep on dragging you down every single day for every little thing.
Now Even though I know I should take my own decisions and be brave and still raise my voice against these sanskars .!
I am not able to do that fully and feel they are right . They are parents they did alot for me and I should respect them and listen to their needs now .
Going through the same situation sister.... Just don't give in no matter what.. Your dreams aspirations matter.... Its not selfish.
They are wrong and their love is conditional
The points u said all are correct but all are in negetive scenarios. I am married to love of my life. We knew each other for last 10yrs. We completed our education I work in IT she is an assistant professor. We both earn somewhat equally. Now we are blessed with a baby girl. My perents are completely ok with working daughter in law. Even my mother does all the household chores. She don't even expect anything from my wife. We are living happily. Then why to blame marriage? It's the people who brings bad name to the marriage. I feel after marriage it is lot fun living my life with my whole family.
Marriage is not blamed here. Forced marriage is.
Marriage isn't wrong but marriage for the sake of others to please others isn't good though.
4 point - family ke pressure mein toh aana he padta hai bakki sab phir bhi ignore kar do.
Kaun bola pressure mein aana hi padta hai? Bagawat karne se accept karna aasan lagta hai issliye log accept karte hai. Kisi cheez ke khilaf khada hone se asan lagta hai ki atyachar sehen kare..
Tumhara concept hi galat hai didi..10 saal me aapko jo chahiye tha woh aap ko 20 saal nhi chahiye hoga, aur 30 me jo chahiye woh kuch or hi hoga, yeh baat sahi ki career bohut important hai,pehle career, lekin career k bahane apne aap ko dhoka toh mat de didi
Girls only and only see...big car, NRI, bunglow, salary to support luxuries, a free ride. IIT, IIM, 25 lpa package. Yes it their choice, she remain unmarried up to 40 years now and loose hope afterwards. What she is expecting is not available in India.
What girls don't see good character, behaviour, attitude etc.
If girl is employed even then she don't marry unemployed but good character and decent man.
But if boy is employed then unemployed girl okay...we don't to adopt you, she neither work at home nor go out for job.
Today only my mom was telling me kab hogi teri shaadi..... and I was like jab mein chahu thab... tension math lo maa..🙏
Whenever I m listening anything about shadi ... instantly I get annoyed
Your voice and way of talking is exactly like kriti sanon💞
My mother is more qualified than my father and he has proud on my mother
Does she earn more too ? And does she run the house as well ?
@@rockwithyou2006 yes she is the backbone of our family ❤️
@@chakshuchadha1668 nice
@ɪ ᴀᴍ ʙᴀᴅ tumhari jaisi soch vale bando ki kbi soch bi badal skti... Chahe zamana badal jayega 😂
Great content like always.
I think being a mother and getting married is not mandatory, but I am not supportive of live in relationship too, that's just how commitment less a person is . And Only a Manchild and womanchild go for this kind of casual way. Getting divorced after having kids over little thing like he is becoming fat and don't earn that much etc. is also not good , There is a reason why Asian is becoming more successful and black in America usually have a high rate of being brought by single parent than white, Jews and Asians .
Adoption is a great option as you can provide support to an orphan and helpless child or issey population bhi control hogi.
Ma'am most of my IITs PhD friends including me are finding it difficult to find a partner.
They are super good at studies but because we get 25-30k in hand, only average educated girls consider us.
Kisne banaya ye hypocritical rule ki we should be earning much more than girls?
😂
average educated girls? what is average education according to you sir ?
I mean that's a direct consequence of patriarchy... So lol.
@@anuranjana5927 They may have not studied from a good college or are not doing anything to make themselves a better person. I would love to be with a Bharatnatyam dancer but average educated girls I mean has not challenged or worked enough in her field/life.
@@AdityaKadamMechanical not everyone can afford a good college or high education .it might be better if you just say that I want a compatible partner. a person can be average educated but can earn more than you.
I think you need to renegotiate your salary. I mean this as actual advice. Not trying to make fun of you or anything.
Very nice upload - Really point to he....
Very useful to every unmarried girls.
They must watch this vdo.
But please follow one thing - that explain you everything In Hindi don't use English words in your explanations because every Indian don't know English. Explain in easy Hindi Language .so ever one can follow you please. Thanks.
Nice effort to support our PM.
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Every indian don't know hindi either!
SC says it is hard to distinguish marital rape and half of dowry claim are false...I hope you read newspaper.....
Stop listening to these advices
lets me counter on all points she makes :- (I know its long, took me longer than what it will take you to read)
1st - For females - they should marry before 30. Because after that age in general, girls suffer from complications during child birth. But yeah you can marry at 32 and still bring a child to this world but you should also consider your age when you children are going to get married and then they have kids. It wont be even able to leave imprints on the new leaves of your tree.
2nd - No one will marry you if you tell them that you dont want to have kids. Marrying is all about making family and continuing you legacy. Yeah if couple cant have kids then you can go for adoption. But generally speaking, most people want to have their own family(their own blood).
3rd - So some truth in this statements, girls option gets less as she becomes successful. But why, because girls and their parents wont even consider guys earning less than her. If you just talk about the females, how many of them will even give a chance to guy or date guys who earn less than them. So you have your ans.
4rth - People around you especially your family are you well wishers and they will give you good advice. They know(as stated in 1st point), age matters for girls, so they will definitely push you to get married before you prime is gone. And being successful is good for both men and women, but men can be alone at 40 not being judged by society and even happy with himself, but its not the case for female.
5th - Relationship is about compromise for both. But why everyone thinks its more for women. Lets see. Girl has to change her job location when getting married. True but why this happens. Because job security for men is more imp than women, But why because women has to give birth and not work for atleast a year(now they leave their new born with grandparent and go to work. Its hard living in cities). Who going to bring food on the table at that time. MEN. Its just one example. But it doesnt mean guys sacrificing/compromising nothing at their end. But because of such examples, its always women, even men themselves will say that yeah its tough for women etc.
6th - Well again girls objectify(what a word to use here) men more than they do. Height matter more for women, income matters more for women, family background matters more to women, where he works matters to women, and list goes on. And as i stated in my previous point its tough living in a city, so these past couple of years guys want their partner to work so that they can do well for themselves. Buying a house in cities is like more than 1 cr. Working guy on average good job will earn 1L per month, with family you wont be even able to afford ac, well ac yes but not the bills. So yeah they want you to work. And the real hypocrisy is, if women works, she's like I work too and if not then, i have to take care of the house the children and what not. HYPOCRISY
7th - Ambitious women, but in what sense, she want to study, want to work and grow professionally. Who stopped you. And for the news adv, what they meant is these days even before marriage girls are interested in, what cars then guy have or he have at his house, we dont want that kind of ambition.
8th - What a big load of crap, no laws for marital rape. Martial rape is considered as domestic violence. And there are laws for domestic violence. Women must come out and seek justice for themselves in such situation and due to society where women are favoured they most probably will get something out of it. But What is not recognised is domestic violence against men. Go ahead and search for it. Also search for percentage, you will get to see results for yourself. Hypocrisy was the word used.
And dowry, ask you parent to search for the family which doesnt ask for it and in love marriage things are in your hand. Well we dont have dowry in my state(HP), its almost zero.
9th - Divorce is not normalized , well, because we dont have that high percentage of divorces in india and we should work towards keeping it that way. We are example for the world in this case. Love marriages have more divorces than arrange and guess what women are in majority for filing divorce too. And divorce will never be normalised, even in west people will date divorce but never engage or marry them(very low percentage).
10th - I dont support LGBT, but i'm not even against them. People should be allowed to choose what they want, even if its a mistake, because it will be their mistake(HA HA).
Ending :-
Well you can live alone, but some points again(huh), you cant be forever with your friends, they will get married, might reallocate, or you get into a fight. Then you have no reason to be together, well you can talk, but you have to create a new social circle where you living. How many times you going to do that. You will work or make friends. People with job knows this.
Now you can live with the people with same lifestyle, how many unmarried people do you see. Will young people even entertain you when you 40+?
Live in relationships - Nothing wrong, do whatever you want to do. But will girls tell their body count publicly. NOOOO because they consciously know that it matter. So live all you want in LIVE IN RELATIONSHIPS, but you past gonna come haunt you ass.
Be ready for it. Simple example - guys with high body count - stud, playboy. Women - slut, whore.
And last yes marriage is not social obligation, but you should be mature enough by 30 to decide what you want in life. PEACE.
Thanks for your descriptive analysis. I would also add at last where she says,
"Your happiness is above all".
I find this statement a bit selfish. Being a girl, I can understand the societal pressure of marriage. But one cannot simply destroy a boys life on her whims.
Girls like this " no marriage" idea in 20s...but as they age they feel lonely (their fault), and want to marry a guy for companionship.
Now tell me, why would a guy marry an over aged girl? Even boys do have preferences.. And that girl is getting married for what? Companionship? Isn't it too much to expect.
I don't intend to marry in life. ..n even if I feel lonely, I won't marry because loneliness is a personal problem...I should not exploit a man to get happiness.
Girls should come out of this dream world where every people will go by their whims.
Girls need to stop bashing men if they prefer younger women. You can't call his choice toxic masculinity. It's his life! If he thinks younger women is one stop solution in his marital life, let him deal with it.
I lived too much conditionally that I feel like I should get married now. Neither I love anyone nor I feel like I should...😑
I don't wanna get married 😂😂
Seems like these are the type of women who wants to live their independent life style in their 20s, which is fine do whatever you want. But when they turn 30 or 40 and hit the wall, they turn around and blame men for being single and they don’t want to be held accountable for their actions. Well let see what happened in 10 or 20 years.
@Capt Ranvijay Rana same goes with men too.
Btw if any partner will genuinely love you , he will marry a girl doesn't matter what the age of a girl is . Also there are several examples of aged women getting marry with young boys .
@@amishere.05 celebrity ko common ppl se compare mat karo madam
Point 3 👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌 exactly what the society should understand...
yes I want that my wife should earn and I will cook for her for entire life 💜💜 .
I don't think so if a judge a guy for mony is bad because he should take care of you and should be able to provide for you.
I am also a man and this is my openion.
I don't know what's this obsession with "Adjust karna padta hai". Find a guy and a family that's like you, where things are like what you are.
Baat wohi pe bigadti hai kyunki ladki apne se jyada amir ladka se rishta banati hai
Lady you are subscribed !
This is the first time i saw you abhi tak kaha thi aap
Thank you yaar
Woow. Amazing well said !! 🙏👏👏
Thank you. 🤗