Bear attacks on people minding their own business are very rare. Men attacking women minding their own business are very much not. If i was in a forest and had a choice, I'd would 100% take the bear any day
Yea if a bear attacks a person it was either a) provoked, b) a mother that felt like she needed to protect her cubs, or c) (rather rare but still possible) sick. Men on the other hand...
@kayahigham8568 Most bear attacks I've heard of involved a cub in some way. Bears don't like people and tend to try not to interact with us. I can name several cases where a man killed or attacked a woman just because he didn't like her. A bear will attack to protect themselves or their babies. Some men will attack just because they didn't get what they wanted.
The other thing is, things are scary when they’re not where they are meant to be. Example: seeing a needle on the counter in a clinic: safe. Seeing a needle on the counter in your new boyfriend’s home: potentially dangerous. Seeing a random man walking down the street in a city: probably safe. Seeing a random man in the middle of the woods: potentially dangerous. But if it makes the “not all men” people happy I would also not like to run into a strange woman in the woods either. Humans are terrifying.
My favourite comment about the Man vs Bear situation is "even in a hypothetical situation, you won't take 'no' for an answer". I think that sums it up pretty nicely.
I want to point out: the forest is a bear's home. Finding a bear in the woods is normal. Finding a man in the woods, I have to go through a list of why he may be there
@@aiden3627great minds think alike they say. you could ask them to dig it big enough for two and save you the trouble. Things like this worry me for why people go to the woods though. As if the reason for someone walking outside is solely to find a victim. Sad times.
@@strangejune you have a good point there. It didn't occur to me that some people were just attacking others when they saw the chance, as opposed to planning and seeking them out. I was reading this whole situation more like " anyone who goes to the woods is probably a murderer. Why else would you like nature?" I was giving the woods more weight than I should in this case. It's really a serious problem when people can't even trust each other to not be the biggest monsters we have on our planet.
I’ve been trying to get men to see the man vs bear thing on their own level… Imagine a forest behind you and an open field in front, the open field is FULL of mines but only like 5% are active. Which way do you go? For the men that choose the forest; “so you choose the forest with bears in it?! but it’s not ALL mines, why not go forward? You should feel safe, not all mines are dangerous.” And for those that choose the field; “ooops, you tripped one on your way through, but you did CHOOSE the mines so it’s obviously your own fault. What were you wearing? Oh, you weren’t wearing protective clothing, so you must have been asking for it.”
I recently heard a particularly good refutement for the "not all men" argument, that went something like: Imagine someone gives you a plate of 10 chicken nuggets. You like chicken nuggets, you're hungry, so you think great! Thanks! But before you take a bite, they tell you "oh but wait, three of them are poisoned." A rational person would refuse to eat any of them, not because they think they're all bad, but because it's impossible to tell which ones might be.
I've seen one video of a woman asking her guy, "Would you rather leave the baby with a random man or random bear?" He had to think about it for a while.
That tradwife one hits close to home. The difference between supporting those who enjoy traditional/enjoying traditional gender roles and enforcing traditional gender roles onto others is a significant one.
Exactly! I've always wanted a more or less traditional lifestyle for myself. But I know it's not for everyone! Let's normalize being cool with others living their lives as they want!
It is specifically a RANDOM man. You could get anywhere in the spectrum from Keanu Reeves to Ted Bundy. That's the point. You don't know if this man will be violent. That's why people pick the bear. Because you could end up with a man that is worse than a bear.
The other important point about choosing the bear is that if a bear attacks you, people will believe you and not accuse you of “asking for it” or “leading them on” or ask what you were wearing when the bear attacked you.
"should have left their cubs alone" despite knowing nothing about what actually happened is likely to come out of someone's mouth. Some people like to blame victims. Helps justify it for them I think, like karma or something.
I met you and Jamie earlier this evening at the book signing in Birmingham. I was the dude with the Donna Noble t-shirt. I had an amazing time but there was something I had wanted to say but forgot. 😅 Jamie helped me to realise I'm a trans man and you helped me to see that I can find someone who will love me for who I am. So thank you to both of you. 💚
fellow dude who also feels safer with a bear. also, aside from how i would personally feel, i have empathy for, at the very least, the women in my life, my sister, my mom. even if i didn't pick the bear, i would still think about them and listen to their opinions
Not necessarily. Assertive could mean self-advocating and assertive about one's needs and just not being deferential, which is totally fine so long as you aren't claiming your wants/needs are more important than anyone else's.
I had a manager have the "toilet interrogation conversation" with me I was pregnant and hadn't told anyone yet so was being sick a lot. He stopped me asked the question... the urge to puke returned so I tried to leave he grabbed my arm and said I couldn't leave he was talking to me... so I puked on his shoes and announced my pregnancy.
I'm so sorry that happened to your friend. I wanted to ask, did you mean amenorrhea or premature menopause instead of natural menopause? Premature menopause affects about 1 in 1000 women under 30 and is caused by dysfunction of the reproductive system (cancer, thyroid condition, etc.), whereas an earlier start to menopause (early 40s) may be linked to chronic stress. PTSD does have an association with a younger age of menstrual cessation, however this link is likely explained by gynecologic surgeries.
Girl dinner is just a lazy dinner aka large portion of snacks instead of an actual meal. Sometimes we don’t want to cook after a long hard work shift and are too poor to go get fast food or takeout.
If I have a carb and a dip/sauce (or anything and a dip), I potentially have dinner. Pita and hummus, celery and peanut butter, Mac n' cheese, chips and salsa, graham crackers and butter (it's sweet and salty), a pile of spaghetti, etc.
@@Farimira Some of us can't be arsed with being a good girl though... If I fancy cake, or fruit and cheese, or a tin of chicken soup, then that's what I'm having.
Girl dinner is indeed a thing. Girl dinner is also very much not a routine thing. Me eating half a wheel of brie in one sitting with some tomatoes to “make it healthy” is not the norm, but I won’t say it hasn’t happened 😂 Also, I used to be a boy scout (it was a co-Ed group) and I can confidently say I would choose the bear in all situations….unless it’s a polar bear. But if I’m out alone in the wilderness in a winter tundra I have more things to worry about than whether I’d want a man or a bear to show up.
The last one made my blood boil! I”m the mother of a one year old baby and I strongly believe that society (mostly certain people) put SO MUCH pressure on women to have children when they: 1. Are not ready to do so (which happened in my case, my partner and I decided we were ready (mostly I) to have this baby when I was 36) - I want a grandchild! / You should have had a baby by now! / When are you going to have a baby?) I love this little gremlin with every fiber of my being and I spend most of my time trying to make sure I do my best to raise an optimistic, hopeful, secure, well adjusted human being, etc, but if I had had him earlier, I don”t know if I would have been able to. 2. May not even want to procreate - it”s NONE of anyone”s business if a someone gets pregnant or not! My mom had me because society dictated it and I was VERY unhappy throughout my childhood and adolescence! My mom was NOT MEANT to raise children! She was unhappy, limited, frustrated, and it all had an impact on me! (Still in therapy)
Or 3, they may want to have children but be struggling with fertility (or the partner may struggle with fertility) or have had a miscarriage. If someone would like kids but it is not happening for whatever reason, asking about it just makes it that much more painful.
I’m a trans man and even I would choose the bear because half the time I get read as a masc lesbian and bears don’t come up to me on a subway double my age try’s to “fix me”
Man or bear? I was hiking into a lake where I planned to camp. Half way I stopped dead in the path when I saw what I thought was a dog of the German Sheppard variety. My first thought was, were there is a dog, there is probably a man. I turned around and hiked out. I went to the DNR office to find a campground. Inside the door was a stuffed timberwolf. It was just like the "dog" I saw. If I'd known it was a timberwolf I'd have gone ahead and camped at the lake.
A "girl dinner" is just a picky tea for Americans. It's like antipasti or tapas but more chaotic. So you might have raw carrots, ham, cheese, crackers, fish fingers, & some left over pasta salad. It's kinda a cross between tapas & leftovers.
Also the bear lives in the forest so he is basically chilling in his own garden. His motivation is chilling, eating, maybe scratching his back against a tree or two.
just want to say thank you for explaining the man/bear thing. im a woman but i never understood why women would choose bear til you explained it. youre incredible at wording things like this!
I explained it to my boyfriend that its because i know what to expect from a bear, but a man is completely unpredictable. I know what danger a bear poses to me, but I dont know what danger the man will pose to me, and some things are much worse than death.
@@hailyjohnson407 i think i came at it from the perspective of a woman who hikes quite a lot, although im from the uk and we dont have bears anymore so i wasnt familiar with how to react if i did come across a bear. but as shaaba explained, the bear likely wouldnt want anything to do with me anyway. all the men ive passed on a hike have simply greeted me and continued walking, however theres always a possibility they could do something very unexpected
@slendy4476 that definitely makes sense! I think the answer is definitely dependent on life experience and the context you imagine. If I was thinking more in terms of a public hiking trail, I would definitely rather run into a man than a bear. When I picture the situation, I imagined a remote area without trails, but where I'm from, bears also don't live, so coming across a bear or a man would be equally unexpected in a remote location. In that situation, I would rather deal with a bear than a man, because the bear won't bother me unless it's hungry or feeling threatened. Even though it shouldn't be there, it's behavior is more predictable. But the man, I have no idea why he's there or what harm he could/would do to me. I know exactly what danger the bear poses.
Dear Shaaba and community, as an aspiring filmmaker (entering film school this fall), I vow to create an excellent adaptation of the Man vs Bear debate. It will be a thriller with a heartwarming twist. A woman (wildlife rescuer) is hiking alone in the woods and, unbeknownst to her, is being stalked by her gaslighting ex who she finally escaped. Ex is also an avid hunter, and the last straw in their relationship was when she discovered he was poaching. The woman stumbles upon one of the ex's illegal snares and finds a bear trapped. Having realized she was being followed, the woman is in a hurry to GTFO, but can't just leave the poor creature behind. So, she frees the young bear and it repays her by showing her a place to hide from the ex. Over the course of a harrowing night, the woman and the bear must fend off the ex and find a way to contact help to rescue the woman and arrest the ex. It will be a beautiful story of men being the worst and even bears can see that.
"Men being the worst and even bears can see that" Making a short film just to hate men, very deep 😒. Bears and women are no better than men and the day people like you see that it will be great. I hope your misandrist short fails.
I think it's hilarious how many men heard the man vs bear thing and assumed that coming across a random woman in the forrest immediately means that you're going to attack her 😂 that's the whole point,but they still miss it and get mad
I had a male supervisor step into my way when I was trying to get to the bath room about 15 minutes after coming back from lunch. I had sneezed and...I thought I felt something happen. I was not due to start my period for another 4 days but...I am also smack dab in the middle of perimenopause so it at the time was either starting early late or one month i did not get one at all. He proceeds to stop me and ask"where are you going." I replied while gritting my teeth. "Bathroom." and proicced to try and move around him..he again stopped me and asked."why?" I replied "you don't want to know but I need to get to the bathroom.." he again asked why and I was like fine you wanna know? sure here we go. I replied. "well...I sneezed and what feels like a large blood clot is currently attempting to slide its way out of my vagina when its not supposed to do that for another 4 days...so I need to go check if that's what happened and then put on a pad. If you want I can come back and describe the size colour and viscosity of it to quell that curiosity of my bathroom habits you seem to have." He went pale and stepped aside and as i was walking away a female supervisor came over to him and he stammered. "did...did you hear that?" She replied. "well I mean...you did ask...so.." I did indeed start my period and thankfully with out much mess but it also stopped again by the end of the day. and then restarted by the right day...but yeah hormones are weird. Also on another note when I had to ask for 2 days off in a row (i had to go in for a uterine biopsy and the doc told me It would be recommended I am perfectly healthy just weird hormone fluctuations.) he asked why I needed the time off and I replied. "You really don't want to know." and this time he listened and nodded and gave me the time asked for because I am enough of an asshole I would have explained the entire thing to him. I did tell the female sup when I came back the third day because I was still bleeding and cramping so I was a bit slower than normal and she told me to head home half way through the day because I was looking pretty pale. But he did not come near me for the rest of that day and I then had the weekend to fully recover.
10:05 possibly the first and third wife has heard this same joke from their SO many times, so this reaction is understandable. Also, hearing the same joke told by a different person may be funny because of their delivery of the joke being different from what they're used to hearing.
18:35 this is a manager from hell oml. My periods are so bad i end up vomitting, crying and unable to move (hindsight is that I am realizing this might not be normal). I couldn't imagine going to work with this ahole. I feel so bad for the employee no one should be monitored and policed to this extent, especially since she must be in pain and discomfort.
@@SharylLacroix yikes okay yeah. I'm still a minor though and it's been hard getting someone taking me seriously. I'll definitely see a gynecologist who would hopefully take me seriously when I can though.
@@artheenbyrogue804 It's not necessarily something serious. But you shouldn't have to live with that if something can be done to ease it. And, yes, it can sometimes be hard to get people to take things like that seriously. Sometimes that is because they don't realize it isn't normal because that is what they experienced or heard. Assuming you see a family doctor, maybe you could try making notes about what you are experiencing so that can explain your symptoms more fully. (eg: how long symptoms last, pain on a scale of 1-10, stuff like that.)
@@SharylLacroix I've tried bringing it up to my family and my doctor I've been dismissed for the most part. I've also been dismissed about my chronic migraines too, it's been hard switching doctors because a lot of family doctors here aren't accepting patients. Thank you for the advice though :).
I grew up in a forest. I've encountered bears in the woods before. It's been frightening every single time, but they never once actually tried to harm me. Conversely, random men on the street have tried to harm me for absolutely no reason both before and after I transitioned to male.
I'm pretty sure girl dinner is just a meme thing that kinda refers to more easy snacky (in a gremlin-esque way) food just to consume something at the end of a long day 😂
I went into “early onset menopause.” I was perimenopausal when I was 25, by my hormone levels, fully menopausal by 30. It took a lot to get pregnant/maintain my pregnancies from then on. In 2017, on Valentine’s Day, I had my hysterectomy. It was the best thing that I could do for myself. Keep the coconut away please/thnx.
Oh hon, the menopause one...he meant menopause. He is trying to scare/bully women into having kids before they are 25, which usually includes settling for a terrible husband
The only time my dad "chose" my outfits for me was when I was going to be late for school. In other words, he yanked the uniform off the hangers and tossed it to me as he hurried off to warm up the car. :P
But those aren't trees. You can have Strawberrys as vines, they are hung onto some kind of scaffolding so they don't touch the ground and get dirty. It's a form of cultuvation
So I happen to work in the forest, and I have encountered 5-8 bears at moderately close distance* and quite a few random men. Now, luckily no injuries to me from either group. All the bears have left me alone because I left them alone, and I walked away going "Ooh, that got my adrenaline up for a second, but what a cool experience!" As for the men...well, two encounters during my latest camping trip will illustrate the unpredictability that is why most women say "bear". *Depending on if you count the mother and 3 cubs separately or not One pair of guys stopped by the campsite to ask if they could borrow a can opener. I was busy fending off wasps who were way too interested in my cooking, so I pointed them to it. They borrowed it, brought it back, said thanks, end of interaction. A+, no notes! Then another guy stopped by to admire the lean-to a previous campsite resident had built. My student employee and I didn't think anything of this at first, because it WAS impressive and we'd been encouraged by the nice friendly interaction we'd just had. Then he started going on about how you could use it as an altar. Then he told us he was in special forces. I was like "please let the logical segue be 'so I know a good lean-to when I see one!'" But no - he told us he was basically invisible, and might as well be a prince. And then how he'd killed a bunch of people and it haunts him...And we were looking VERY not into it by this point, and so he eventually got the message and drove away. We were a bit freaked out so we went down to the river to unwind - and 20 min later he tracked us down there to shout down that he thought he might have bummed us out but he'd smoked a joint and it was all better now! Mind you, can-opener guys' tents were not within view of ours, and no campsite employees had been seen in a couple of hours, so we were feeling quite creeped out. I ended up sleeping with the cooking knife in my tent. Which I have never felt the need to do on account of bears - Because they mainly want your food, and if you put it in the car or bear box they tend to leave your tent alone...but who knows WHAT the random dude in the woods might try! He never came back, fortunately, but it was a reminder of how many times a random guy, in woods or city, has ruined my day even if nothing terrible actually happened. (And yes, I know, there's probably some PTSD or something going on in that case...but there are women with PTSD and I've never had one follow me around before telling me things I didn't ask!)
"Girl dinner" is a thing on TT. It's just women who may have ice cream and chocolate for dinner that night or an apple and some cheese. Just not "average" dinner foods but what they feel like at the time. It's not that deep. It's also not a daily event. It's just a now and then or when they're tired or hormonal, etc. No big deal unless it becomes a habit, which would then be unhealthy and maybe a concern. Also, some do troll and exaggerate what they're having when they're not really having that food.
The menopause one is definitely confusing menopause with "peak fertility" or something like that. It gets harder to get pregnant as you get older (on average) but people DO still get pregnant in their 40s BECAUSE THEY AREN'T MENOPAUSAL!
If I was that woman who matched with the guy who said he would be the 'father figure' in the relationship, my response would likely have been 'Okay. I don't have an incest kink, so bye.'
Don't need to look it up xD my uncles were friends with bear cubs when they were kids! Momma bear took kindly to them. Only problem was when said cubs got bigger and followed my uncles home.... at which point my grandma panicked and locked her kids outside... with bears 😂 they were fine but it's a funny story!
I’d like to say I’d also rather be killed by a bear than by a man. The bear might maul me rather brutally, and might cause a lot of pain, but the bear won’t keep me hostage for weeks, months, years. The bear won’t sell me. The bear won’t assault me. And most importantly the bear won’t kill me because it gets off on it. The bear would kill me to eat, to defend it young or because it was scared or rabid. The bear won’t kill me for any number of twisted, depraved reasons that a random man might, and millions of other bears won’t then torment my surviving loved ones about it.
Girl dinner is a thing. It's when you can't be bothered cooking so you throw together something together like cheese and crackers and grapes or something like that.
I have Endo and have had progressive walking issues and IBS issues. Every job I've had for the last 6 years has ended with me getting reprimanded, trying to explain, getting watched more and more, getting more stressed and eventually either leaving or getting "let go" for whatever stupid reason they can come up with to evade discrimination charges. It's actually horrible, I'm trying to get a diagnosis for whatever this is so that they'll finally leave me alone. Sad thing is, I'll probably have an even harder time finding a job simply because I'm disabled.
16:30 Menopause is literally the PAUSING of menses. When you start to end your menstrual cycles. It’s insane to know that someone out there thinks women are ending periods at 25 years old. Lmao I’m 36 and still going strong. My mil had until her late 60s. Lmaooooo I wish, bro. I wish.
I think i read this from someone else's post for the man v bear thing that 'the worst thing a bear would do is just kill you' and i think that truly captures the emotion working in this scenario.
"If you see me in the woods fighting a bear, HELP THE BEAR!" I don't know what this reference is from and I'm scared to look it up but I think about it every time this man or bear convo comes up lmao
Oh but there is a real dark downside of the people who think women menopause at 25, because technically they would seek teenage or very young aduld girls to have children with.
i’ve never been alone when i saw a large dangerous animal, but i have seen them. i did not feel like my life was threatened because i knew what to do to avoid attack. HOWEVER, i have been harassed by men. and i have known plenty fellow ladies who have had way worse done to them by men. i choose the bear.
9:15 WAIT but only do the slow back away and leave if the bear is not approaching. If you encounter a bear in the wild and it’s actively approaching you in an aggressive state, follow THIS: if it’s black, fight back; if it’s brown, lie down. Basically, if you see a black bear coming at you, make yourself seem big and make a lot of noise- hands over your head, yell, stomp, link arms with other people if you’re with them and stand together to seem bigger, etc. If you see a grizzly bear (larger brown bear), they’re more aggressive but tend to take care of prey and then bury/leave it for later. If you encounter one coming towards you, do NOT run and do NOT try to fight back- just play unalived. If it thinks you’re down for the count, it’ll most likely poke/sniff around at you a bit, then wander off and leave you for later. If you are ever unfortunate enough to encounter a polar bear approaching in the wild, either get your pew-pew or if you don’t have one: question your life choices, pray to anything that exists that you’re within shouting distance of someone who does, and make as much noise as you possibly can to get their attention, while staying out of the water as long as humanly possible. If you have no other choice, try to wedge their mouth open somehow, but you better have serious shelter very close by bc you will not outrun them and they WILL drown you 🙃
As a celebite cis Aro/Ace women with PCOS, I can confirm that my prescription birth control DOES change my behavior....it makes me FAR LESS LIKELY to snap and She-Hulk out😅
I would also like to say that the man vs bear hypothetical was never supposed to be a hypothetical the man who came up with it was trying to explain why women would chose the bear over the man and was trying to get other men to try to empathize with why women would chose the bear. I remember watching a video put out by Samantha Lux where she watched videos talking about the man vs bear and watched a video with the original creator that accidentally started the whole thing and he explains what I did but better (since I'm trying to paraphrase what he said) but it's all very interesting and if you have time I'd suggest go watching the video because it gives a whole variety of perspectives (most were kinda eh one was almost there but missing the entire point) but yeah. Man vs bear was never meant to become what it was an was made by a man to have other men to empathize with women!
Toilet AITA is insane! These are bodily functions. And, wow, 3 to 4 times vs 5 -6 times? I mean, I know that yes, there are, sadly, industries or jobs where toiltet time for employees is restricted or regulated. Depending on country, industry and level of work (it's never the upper levels, curiously), labor protection laws etc. And of course, yes, unproportinal toilet time can influece how well this go businesswise. But MY. GOD. NO! This does not hive you the right to know the reason for every - or any - toilet visit as an employer. This is WAAY to intimate and private and belongs ro bodily autonomy. Just you as the employer don't need to know the reason why some one is sick. Just the fact THAT they are sick (maybe with a note from a doctor to confirm) is enough.
I think when faced with a bear theres 2 options. It leaves you alone or ends you. And either way the interaction is over fast. With a man theres many more things that can happen and most of them are bad and last longer.
I think "girl dinner" started out as eating a meal "in pieces". Like you eat 3 grape tomatoes, a cheese stick, a slice of ham, 2 baby carrots, and a piece of toast... and you've basically had a sandwich. It's like picking at a charcuterie board that has a larger variety of options, like dry pasta lol (Also My roommate loves to eat dry pasta because it's very crunchy and that sensory experience is just very satisfying to him.) But now I think "girl dinner" somehow evolved into ED content? Which is sad. Some people are just snackers and not meal people. As long as you've got a full belly you're good imo. Sure, nutrition is important but if all you can manage is dry pasta and chocolate then that's all you can manage. One of my friends has a partially paralyzed stomach and that makes eating difficult most days. So snacking is just how they eat most of the time
The meme says nothing about fighting a bear. It's just, would you rather come across a bear in the forest or a man. I would pick the bear, because you would have a decent chance of scaring the bear off. I mean I've seen videos of them getting chased off by a cat 😺 Plus, a bear belongs in the forest. A random man in the forest could be sketchy.
The bear is probably equally surprised and trying to figure out if the random human is dangerous. Bears mostly just want to chill in their forest, they don’t schedule attacking humans into their agenda.
Ok I'd like to address the man or bear question. As someone, who literally lives at the top of mountain, IN THE WOODS, I'll take the bear. In fact, I have. I have bears wondering around all the time. My interactions with them go as follows.... Bear passing by "Sup..." (head nod) Me stacking firewood, "Stacking..." (head nod) Sometimes they like it with a spray them with the hose. I've put out a large paddling pool for them to sit in. I have a grassy hill where they spend a lot of time, rolling down the hill and running back up to do it all the time. When bears, realize you are NOT a danger, they are not dangerous. On the other hand... A man came to the house whilst I was gardening. He asked if he could use the phone to call for a tow. I said I would and told him to go back to the car. He said he needed to be the one to call. It was easy to see he was trying to take my phone so I could call for help. I'm a power lifter, I don't need to call for help btw. He lunged at me but before he could reach me, a bear, that had been sleeping in the hedge row, shot out and bit into his thigh and dragged in a few feet. I shouted at the bear, the bear let go and I beat the ever loving shite out of the b@stard. I gave the bear a whole watermelon. As for the man, 3 days in hospital and 2 years in the chokey.
A lot of humor is situational. I might laugh my head off when my grandmother says something that would completely creep me out if a stranger says it. Earlier today, I snort-laughed when my physical therapist said, "Speaking of serial killers . . ." It was only funny because of the context, since we had _not_ been talking about anything even close to the subject of serial killers. If hubs said the same thing, I'd want to know what his point was. Maybe it would be funny, maybe it would be interesting or educational or gross. Maybe it would just be a random observation. The same thing isn't necessarily funny when it comes from two different people. Also, I've heard hubs's jokes a thousand times. Weve been together for twenty-four years. I wouldn't trade that history for a quick laugh.
40, pcos, been on pill for years to manage symptoms... loads of symptom changes recently and asked if perimenopause and doctor laughed at me said I was nowhere near menopause
10:30 I just assumed the reason was that the wives have heard the same jokes many times from their husbands, so they don't find them funny anymore, but when it's coming from someone else, it's a new joke for them and hence more funny than it is for that person's wife who's heard it all the time. Or, you know, that the women roll their eyes at bad jokes told by their husbands, but laugh politely when a guest tell a bad joke instead, because common courtesy. But the dude who made this meme found that too threatening.
On the post of menopause there are some people (usually) men who have this weird mentality that once a woman is 25 years old her futility starts going down & will often act like they're elderly because in their minds someone who is between 18-24 years old is at the peak of their fertility even though 25 is often when someone's brain is fully developed & their is more to someone than if they can have kids or not
If I were in the woods with a bear, I can trust that bear to act like a bear. There are bear safety steps I can take to make it out of the woods perfectly safe and untouched by said bear. I stay away from the bear, away from the bear's cubs/den, I'll be fine. Replace the bear with an unknown man, however.... I have no idea if that man is an actual good person or a predator. I don't know if he'll decide to actively hunt me down to attack. I can only hope that he is a good person who won't hurt me as I find my way out of the woods. That's why I'd choose the bear.
18:33 I monitor my dog to make sure everything comes out ok and I try to take him out about every hour but I have no idea how often he actually goes potty. That's just insane
So I am afab and almost 39 years old, I have been using birth control since I was in high school because my periods were so bad that they would render me nearly unconscious and completely useless I would get migraines I would vomit and also the period farts that I would have could clear an entire classroom, at that point I would just stay home, until I started going on birth control and all of that started getting controlled better, my periods were still painful, but not nearly as such, I was able to function and not be in so much pain.
The man vs bear thing is also not, as I've seen at least one truly unfortunate individual attempt to claim, about which one women would rather have adult activities with. These people are the reason we pick the bear
There are no bears in the lovely park virtually on my doorstep, but as a 70-year-old woman (5 ft tall) I no longer walk alone on the trails. Also, when my husband would say he heard a joke, we started laughing immediately because he was so bad at telling jokes!
"Girl Dinner" is when you can't be arsed to cook for yourself, just grab some food, relax, you're the boss. Toast and olives? Fine. Fried egg and some pasta? Why not. It's not a diet, it's "I don't care tonight, and I don't have to. This is what I have at home so that's what I'm eating, maybe I'll make a bad attempt to make it fancy, just for the lolz". We all did it at least once, and those videos are hilarious.
I absolutely hate my birth control because I feel better body wise in general when I’m not on it. However, it helps my migraine and my PCOS so I take it.
11:14 I opened my trash can as this sound effect happened and it gave me a mini heart attack because I didn’t immediately realize where the sound came from
I was *trying* to do the right thing. I had a very bad UTI (and technically shouldn't have been at work but had 0 sicks days left) and told my employers that was the case and I'll be up and to the toilet a lot today at work, as , well.... UTI. And you guessed it. They got *mad* ?! They said that it woukd be a huge inconvenience and that i would need to try to limit how much I'd beed to go. They were also women managers i spoke to. Ummm. It's a UTI. Which means the urge to use the toilet is happens a *lot* and you go when you gotta go. I was *so* embarrassed and upset but still went to work and just went to the loo when i felt the need to. They did comment on it and got annoyed. But i said i can't help it, i shouldn't even be here, but i know we have a lot on and thought it best to come in and do the best overall job possible. They grumbled and left me to it but held it over my head at later dates when i needed the toilet at work. I also have a small bladder (it actually has to get stretched from time to time) and there was also a year there where i constantly got UTIs and then had to see a urologist and have minor surgery to recitify it. The fact that these were women managers as well, one who was menopausal, and they didn't understand, was beyond my comprehension. 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
It's far from a fail-safe, but another thing to look for with possibly AI images is how SMOOTH much of it looks. Like the background, faces, and fabrics tends to be sort of flat, like cell-shading applied to a photo. It's not a fail-safe because the same thing shows up in actual photos that have been overly touched-up, but to me, that's the first sign to look for something more telling.
The voice over about girl dinner saying "They should no be"??? Why should they not be? I disagree with this. It just describes a deconstructed type meal. It's the difference between eating a sandwich OR eating a slice of turkey, cubes of chees and handful of crackers. A lot of ADHD people eat this way too. That's girl dinner
This is partly why I never use the bathroom at work even when i had a period that lasted for a whole year non stop. I would rather diapers than people knowing my business and judging me for it.
There are only 2 people on this planet who I've ever tracked the toilet habits of. Those people? My kids. Any parent knows that doctors will always ask how many wet and dirty nappies your kid is having in a day and with the stresses of looking after babies just making a note of these things helps so much. The closest I've come to tracking another adults toilet habits is my husband when he decides he needs to take a 30 minute poop 5 minutes before we need to leave.
Shaaba, have you seen the cakes you’ve made?! You and Jamie work so much that it’s okay that you sleep in at the weekends, it’s okay anyway! It doesn’t make you inferior! Be kind to yourself! 💜🖤
Bear attacks on people minding their own business are very rare. Men attacking women minding their own business are very much not. If i was in a forest and had a choice, I'd would 100% take the bear any day
Yea if a bear attacks a person it was either a) provoked, b) a mother that felt like she needed to protect her cubs, or c) (rather rare but still possible) sick. Men on the other hand...
@kayahigham8568 Most bear attacks I've heard of involved a cub in some way. Bears don't like people and tend to try not to interact with us. I can name several cases where a man killed or attacked a woman just because he didn't like her. A bear will attack to protect themselves or their babies. Some men will attack just because they didn't get what they wanted.
Yeah, especially when you consider most women are attacked by men known to them.
The other thing is, things are scary when they’re not where they are meant to be. Example: seeing a needle on the counter in a clinic: safe. Seeing a needle on the counter in your new boyfriend’s home: potentially dangerous. Seeing a random man walking down the street in a city: probably safe. Seeing a random man in the middle of the woods: potentially dangerous. But if it makes the “not all men” people happy I would also not like to run into a strange woman in the woods either. Humans are terrifying.
My favourite comment about the Man vs Bear situation is "even in a hypothetical situation, you won't take 'no' for an answer". I think that sums it up pretty nicely.
I want to point out: the forest is a bear's home. Finding a bear in the woods is normal. Finding a man in the woods, I have to go through a list of why he may be there
And the fact that “disposing of a body” is in the list is concerning.
@@aiden3627great minds think alike they say. you could ask them to dig it big enough for two and save you the trouble. Things like this worry me for why people go to the woods though. As if the reason for someone walking outside is solely to find a victim. Sad times.
@@busterbeast999 You say this like violence against women is mostly premeditated and not random.
The bear is probably wondering what the random woman is doing in HIS forest
@@strangejune you have a good point there. It didn't occur to me that some people were just attacking others when they saw the chance, as opposed to planning and seeking them out. I was reading this whole situation more like " anyone who goes to the woods is probably a murderer. Why else would you like nature?" I was giving the woods more weight than I should in this case. It's really a serious problem when people can't even trust each other to not be the biggest monsters we have on our planet.
I’ve been trying to get men to see the man vs bear thing on their own level… Imagine a forest behind you and an open field in front, the open field is FULL of mines but only like 5% are active. Which way do you go?
For the men that choose the forest; “so you choose the forest with bears in it?! but it’s not ALL mines, why not go forward? You should feel safe, not all mines are dangerous.”
And for those that choose the field; “ooops, you tripped one on your way through, but you did CHOOSE the mines so it’s obviously your own fault. What were you wearing? Oh, you weren’t wearing protective clothing, so you must have been asking for it.”
I recently heard a particularly good refutement for the "not all men" argument, that went something like: Imagine someone gives you a plate of 10 chicken nuggets. You like chicken nuggets, you're hungry, so you think great! Thanks! But before you take a bite, they tell you "oh but wait, three of them are poisoned." A rational person would refuse to eat any of them, not because they think they're all bad, but because it's impossible to tell which ones might be.
I've seen one video of a woman asking her guy, "Would you rather leave the baby with a random man or random bear?" He had to think about it for a while.
That tradwife one hits close to home. The difference between supporting those who enjoy traditional/enjoying traditional gender roles and enforcing traditional gender roles onto others is a significant one.
Exactly! I've always wanted a more or less traditional lifestyle for myself. But I know it's not for everyone! Let's normalize being cool with others living their lives as they want!
The bear would just think “human here? Did human bring food? Hmm I don’t smell any food… moving on”
Damn, my bear said that this morning. So rude.
It is specifically a RANDOM man. You could get anywhere in the spectrum from Keanu Reeves to Ted Bundy. That's the point. You don't know if this man will be violent. That's why people pick the bear. Because you could end up with a man that is worse than a bear.
The other important point about choosing the bear is that if a bear attacks you, people will believe you and not accuse you of “asking for it” or “leading them on” or ask what you were wearing when the bear attacked you.
"should have left their cubs alone" despite knowing nothing about what actually happened is likely to come out of someone's mouth. Some people like to blame victims. Helps justify it for them I think, like karma or something.
I met you and Jamie earlier this evening at the book signing in Birmingham. I was the dude with the Donna Noble t-shirt. I had an amazing time but there was something I had wanted to say but forgot. 😅 Jamie helped me to realise I'm a trans man and you helped me to see that I can find someone who will love me for who I am. So thank you to both of you. 💚
As I've said multiple times: I'm a guy and I'd still feel safer with the bear. Also, assertive =/= controlling.
fellow dude who also feels safer with a bear. also, aside from how i would personally feel, i have empathy for, at the very least, the women in my life, my sister, my mom. even if i didn't pick the bear, i would still think about them and listen to their opinions
Not necessarily. Assertive could mean self-advocating and assertive about one's needs and just not being deferential, which is totally fine so long as you aren't claiming your wants/needs are more important than anyone else's.
@@rage_of_aquariusSo you agree with this commenter that assertive is not equal to controlling?
I had a manager have the "toilet interrogation conversation" with me I was pregnant and hadn't told anyone yet so was being sick a lot. He stopped me asked the question... the urge to puke returned so I tried to leave he grabbed my arm and said I couldn't leave he was talking to me... so I puked on his shoes and announced my pregnancy.
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After my friend was assaulted when she was 15 the stress of that trauma made her start menopause when she was 15 and it was irreversible so yeah
I'm so sorry that happened to your friend.
I wanted to ask, did you mean amenorrhea or premature menopause instead of natural menopause? Premature menopause affects about 1 in 1000 women under 30 and is caused by dysfunction of the reproductive system (cancer, thyroid condition, etc.), whereas an earlier start to menopause (early 40s) may be linked to chronic stress. PTSD does have an association with a younger age of menstrual cessation, however this link is likely explained by gynecologic surgeries.
I hope your friend is doing ok
Girl dinner is just a lazy dinner aka large portion of snacks instead of an actual meal.
Sometimes we don’t want to cook after a long hard work shift and are too poor to go get fast food or takeout.
It’s basically just my average ADHD dinner lol
@@thecolorjune lol yes exactly like that
If I have a carb and a dip/sauce (or anything and a dip), I potentially have dinner. Pita and hummus, celery and peanut butter, Mac n' cheese, chips and salsa, graham crackers and butter (it's sweet and salty), a pile of spaghetti, etc.
A good girl dinner should be nutritious but low effort, with veg and protein.
@@Farimira Some of us can't be arsed with being a good girl though... If I fancy cake, or fruit and cheese, or a tin of chicken soup, then that's what I'm having.
Girl dinner is indeed a thing. Girl dinner is also very much not a routine thing. Me eating half a wheel of brie in one sitting with some tomatoes to “make it healthy” is not the norm, but I won’t say it hasn’t happened 😂
Also, I used to be a boy scout (it was a co-Ed group) and I can confidently say I would choose the bear in all situations….unless it’s a polar bear. But if I’m out alone in the wilderness in a winter tundra I have more things to worry about than whether I’d want a man or a bear to show up.
This is my BG3 entrenched mind saying it: Why choose man or bear when you can have both? Man and bear = Halsin
I just spit my food out laughing 😂 you caught me off guard with that lmao
The last one made my blood boil! I”m the mother of a one year old baby and I strongly believe that society (mostly certain people) put SO MUCH pressure on women to have children when they:
1. Are not ready to do so (which happened in my case, my partner and I decided we were ready (mostly I) to have this baby when I was 36) - I want a grandchild! / You should have had a baby by now! / When are you going to have a baby?) I love this little gremlin with every fiber of my being and I spend most of my time trying to make sure I do my best to raise an optimistic, hopeful, secure, well adjusted human being, etc, but if I had had him earlier, I don”t know if I would have been able to.
2. May not even want to procreate - it”s NONE of anyone”s business if a someone gets pregnant or not! My mom had me because society dictated it and I was VERY unhappy throughout my childhood and adolescence! My mom was NOT MEANT to raise children! She was unhappy, limited, frustrated, and it all had an impact on me! (Still in therapy)
Or 3, they may want to have children but be struggling with fertility (or the partner may struggle with fertility) or have had a miscarriage. If someone would like kids but it is not happening for whatever reason, asking about it just makes it that much more painful.
I’m a trans man and even I would choose the bear because half the time I get read as a masc lesbian and bears don’t come up to me on a subway double my age try’s to “fix me”
I have a tiny bladder and have always gotten shit for excessive bathroom visits, even as a kid in school.
Man or bear? I was hiking into a lake where I planned to camp. Half way I stopped dead in the path when I saw what I thought was a dog of the German Sheppard variety. My first thought was, were there is a dog, there is probably a man. I turned around and hiked out. I went to the DNR office to find a campground. Inside the door was a stuffed timberwolf. It was just like the "dog" I saw. If I'd known it was a timberwolf I'd have gone ahead and camped at the lake.
A "girl dinner" is just a picky tea for Americans. It's like antipasti or tapas but more chaotic. So you might have raw carrots, ham, cheese, crackers, fish fingers, & some left over pasta salad. It's kinda a cross between tapas & leftovers.
Bear vs Man, I'd take the bear. Animals don't bother you, if you don't bother them. The Man, you have NO IDEA what their motivation is.
This one actually makes sence
Also the bear lives in the forest so he is basically chilling in his own garden. His motivation is chilling, eating, maybe scratching his back against a tree or two.
just want to say thank you for explaining the man/bear thing. im a woman but i never understood why women would choose bear til you explained it. youre incredible at wording things like this!
I explained it to my boyfriend that its because i know what to expect from a bear, but a man is completely unpredictable. I know what danger a bear poses to me, but I dont know what danger the man will pose to me, and some things are much worse than death.
@@hailyjohnson407 i think i came at it from the perspective of a woman who hikes quite a lot, although im from the uk and we dont have bears anymore so i wasnt familiar with how to react if i did come across a bear. but as shaaba explained, the bear likely wouldnt want anything to do with me anyway. all the men ive passed on a hike have simply greeted me and continued walking, however theres always a possibility they could do something very unexpected
@slendy4476 that definitely makes sense! I think the answer is definitely dependent on life experience and the context you imagine. If I was thinking more in terms of a public hiking trail, I would definitely rather run into a man than a bear. When I picture the situation, I imagined a remote area without trails, but where I'm from, bears also don't live, so coming across a bear or a man would be equally unexpected in a remote location. In that situation, I would rather deal with a bear than a man, because the bear won't bother me unless it's hungry or feeling threatened. Even though it shouldn't be there, it's behavior is more predictable. But the man, I have no idea why he's there or what harm he could/would do to me. I know exactly what danger the bear poses.
Dear Shaaba and community, as an aspiring filmmaker (entering film school this fall), I vow to create an excellent adaptation of the Man vs Bear debate. It will be a thriller with a heartwarming twist. A woman (wildlife rescuer) is hiking alone in the woods and, unbeknownst to her, is being stalked by her gaslighting ex who she finally escaped. Ex is also an avid hunter, and the last straw in their relationship was when she discovered he was poaching. The woman stumbles upon one of the ex's illegal snares and finds a bear trapped. Having realized she was being followed, the woman is in a hurry to GTFO, but can't just leave the poor creature behind. So, she frees the young bear and it repays her by showing her a place to hide from the ex.
Over the course of a harrowing night, the woman and the bear must fend off the ex and find a way to contact help to rescue the woman and arrest the ex. It will be a beautiful story of men being the worst and even bears can see that.
"Men being the worst and even bears can see that" Making a short film just to hate men, very deep 😒. Bears and women are no better than men and the day people like you see that it will be great. I hope your misandrist short fails.
You have to update us, when you publish this film
@@aeron6199 it'll be awhile since I'll be raising and training an orphaned bear while going through film school, but will do lol
I think it's hilarious how many men heard the man vs bear thing and assumed that coming across a random woman in the forrest immediately means that you're going to attack her 😂 that's the whole point,but they still miss it and get mad
The worst thing a bear can do to me is kill me.
Not Shaaba accidentally triggering my tourettes with the popping noises lol
HAHAH SAME
@@ArsonBr tourettes gang unite haha
@@Nyxxeonn we are forming. An army. :}
@@ArsonBr And I shall join as well!
@@ArsonBr we ride at dawn! not sure where we are going to, but we are riding!
I had a male supervisor step into my way when I was trying to get to the bath room about 15 minutes after coming back from lunch. I had sneezed and...I thought I felt something happen. I was not due to start my period for another 4 days but...I am also smack dab in the middle of perimenopause so it at the time was either starting early late or one month i did not get one at all. He proceeds to stop me and ask"where are you going." I replied while gritting my teeth. "Bathroom." and proicced to try and move around him..he again stopped me and asked."why?" I replied "you don't want to know but I need to get to the bathroom.." he again asked why and I was like fine you wanna know? sure here we go. I replied. "well...I sneezed and what feels like a large blood clot is currently attempting to slide its way out of my vagina when its not supposed to do that for another 4 days...so I need to go check if that's what happened and then put on a pad. If you want I can come back and describe the size colour and viscosity of it to quell that curiosity of my bathroom habits you seem to have." He went pale and stepped aside and as i was walking away a female supervisor came over to him and he stammered. "did...did you hear that?" She replied. "well I mean...you did ask...so.." I did indeed start my period and thankfully with out much mess but it also stopped again by the end of the day. and then restarted by the right day...but yeah hormones are weird. Also on another note when I had to ask for 2 days off in a row (i had to go in for a uterine biopsy and the doc told me It would be recommended I am perfectly healthy just weird hormone fluctuations.) he asked why I needed the time off and I replied. "You really don't want to know." and this time he listened and nodded and gave me the time asked for because I am enough of an asshole I would have explained the entire thing to him. I did tell the female sup when I came back the third day because I was still bleeding and cramping so I was a bit slower than normal and she told me to head home half way through the day because I was looking pretty pale. But he did not come near me for the rest of that day and I then had the weekend to fully recover.
10:05 possibly the first and third wife has heard this same joke from their SO many times, so this reaction is understandable. Also, hearing the same joke told by a different person may be funny because of their delivery of the joke being different from what they're used to hearing.
18:35 this is a manager from hell oml. My periods are so bad i end up vomitting, crying and unable to move (hindsight is that I am realizing this might not be normal). I couldn't imagine going to work with this ahole. I feel so bad for the employee no one should be monitored and policed to this extent, especially since she must be in pain and discomfort.
That is not normal. Please talk to a gynecologist about it. (I had endometriosis and this sounds worse than what I suffered.)
@@SharylLacroix yikes okay yeah. I'm still a minor though and it's been hard getting someone taking me seriously. I'll definitely see a gynecologist who would hopefully take me seriously when I can though.
@@artheenbyrogue804 It's not necessarily something serious. But you shouldn't have to live with that if something can be done to ease it.
And, yes, it can sometimes be hard to get people to take things like that seriously. Sometimes that is because they don't realize it isn't normal because that is what they experienced or heard.
Assuming you see a family doctor, maybe you could try making notes about what you are experiencing so that can explain your symptoms more fully. (eg: how long symptoms last, pain on a scale of 1-10, stuff like that.)
@@SharylLacroix I've tried bringing it up to my family and my doctor I've been dismissed for the most part. I've also been dismissed about my chronic migraines too, it's been hard switching doctors because a lot of family doctors here aren't accepting patients. Thank you for the advice though :).
@@artheenbyrogue804 Good luck! Wish I could help.
I grew up in a forest. I've encountered bears in the woods before. It's been frightening every single time, but they never once actually tried to harm me. Conversely, random men on the street have tried to harm me for absolutely no reason both before and after I transitioned to male.
I'm pretty sure girl dinner is just a meme thing that kinda refers to more easy snacky (in a gremlin-esque way) food just to consume something at the end of a long day 😂
I went into “early onset menopause.” I was perimenopausal when I was 25, by my hormone levels, fully menopausal by 30. It took a lot to get pregnant/maintain my pregnancies from then on. In 2017, on Valentine’s Day, I had my hysterectomy. It was the best thing that I could do for myself.
Keep the coconut away please/thnx.
Oh hon, the menopause one...he meant menopause. He is trying to scare/bully women into having kids before they are 25, which usually includes settling for a terrible husband
The only time my dad "chose" my outfits for me was when I was going to be late for school. In other words, he yanked the uniform off the hangers and tossed it to me as he hurried off to warm up the car. :P
But those aren't trees. You can have Strawberrys as vines, they are hung onto some kind of scaffolding so they don't touch the ground and get dirty. It's a form of cultuvation
When I saw a closer up version of that pic in another video, it didn't look like vines at all. It was very much a tree.
So I happen to work in the forest, and I have encountered 5-8 bears at moderately close distance* and quite a few random men. Now, luckily no injuries to me from either group. All the bears have left me alone because I left them alone, and I walked away going "Ooh, that got my adrenaline up for a second, but what a cool experience!" As for the men...well, two encounters during my latest camping trip will illustrate the unpredictability that is why most women say "bear".
*Depending on if you count the mother and 3 cubs separately or not
One pair of guys stopped by the campsite to ask if they could borrow a can opener. I was busy fending off wasps who were way too interested in my cooking, so I pointed them to it. They borrowed it, brought it back, said thanks, end of interaction. A+, no notes!
Then another guy stopped by to admire the lean-to a previous campsite resident had built. My student employee and I didn't think anything of this at first, because it WAS impressive and we'd been encouraged by the nice friendly interaction we'd just had. Then he started going on about how you could use it as an altar. Then he told us he was in special forces. I was like "please let the logical segue be 'so I know a good lean-to when I see one!'" But no - he told us he was basically invisible, and might as well be a prince. And then how he'd killed a bunch of people and it haunts him...And we were looking VERY not into it by this point, and so he eventually got the message and drove away. We were a bit freaked out so we went down to the river to unwind - and 20 min later he tracked us down there to shout down that he thought he might have bummed us out but he'd smoked a joint and it was all better now! Mind you, can-opener guys' tents were not within view of ours, and no campsite employees had been seen in a couple of hours, so we were feeling quite creeped out. I ended up sleeping with the cooking knife in my tent. Which I have never felt the need to do on account of bears - Because they mainly want your food, and if you put it in the car or bear box they tend to leave your tent alone...but who knows WHAT the random dude in the woods might try! He never came back, fortunately, but it was a reminder of how many times a random guy, in woods or city, has ruined my day even if nothing terrible actually happened.
(And yes, I know, there's probably some PTSD or something going on in that case...but there are women with PTSD and I've never had one follow me around before telling me things I didn't ask!)
"Girl dinner" is a thing on TT. It's just women who may have ice cream and chocolate for dinner that night or an apple and some cheese. Just not "average" dinner foods but what they feel like at the time.
It's not that deep.
It's also not a daily event. It's just a now and then or when they're tired or hormonal, etc. No big deal unless it becomes a habit, which would then be unhealthy and maybe a concern.
Also, some do troll and exaggerate what they're having when they're not really having that food.
The menopause one is definitely confusing menopause with "peak fertility" or something like that. It gets harder to get pregnant as you get older (on average) but people DO still get pregnant in their 40s BECAUSE THEY AREN'T MENOPAUSAL!
If I was that woman who matched with the guy who said he would be the 'father figure' in the relationship, my response would likely have been 'Okay. I don't have an incest kink, so bye.'
Fun Fact: bears are actually pretty chill half the time, there's stories about mother bears finding lost kids and taking care of them. (Look it up :3)
Don't need to look it up xD my uncles were friends with bear cubs when they were kids! Momma bear took kindly to them. Only problem was when said cubs got bigger and followed my uncles home.... at which point my grandma panicked and locked her kids outside... with bears 😂 they were fine but it's a funny story!
I’d like to say I’d also rather be killed by a bear than by a man.
The bear might maul me rather brutally, and might cause a lot of pain, but the bear won’t keep me hostage for weeks, months, years. The bear won’t sell me. The bear won’t assault me. And most importantly the bear won’t kill me because it gets off on it. The bear would kill me to eat, to defend it young or because it was scared or rabid. The bear won’t kill me for any number of twisted, depraved reasons that a random man might, and millions of other bears won’t then torment my surviving loved ones about it.
Girl dinner is a thing. It's when you can't be bothered cooking so you throw together something together like cheese and crackers and grapes or something like that.
I have Endo and have had progressive walking issues and IBS issues. Every job I've had for the last 6 years has ended with me getting reprimanded, trying to explain, getting watched more and more, getting more stressed and eventually either leaving or getting "let go" for whatever stupid reason they can come up with to evade discrimination charges. It's actually horrible, I'm trying to get a diagnosis for whatever this is so that they'll finally leave me alone. Sad thing is, I'll probably have an even harder time finding a job simply because I'm disabled.
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Menopause is literally the PAUSING of menses. When you start to end your menstrual cycles. It’s insane to know that someone out there thinks women are ending periods at 25 years old. Lmao I’m 36 and still going strong. My mil had until her late 60s. Lmaooooo I wish, bro. I wish.
People treat AI with basic dignity and not people who put everything into their work.
I swear people actually hate artists. like actually despise them.
I confess to rolling my eyes at Hubby's jokes... only because it's the 900th time I've heard it.
I think i read this from someone else's post for the man v bear thing that 'the worst thing a bear would do is just kill you' and i think that truly captures the emotion working in this scenario.
Early menopause isn't that uncommon, but it's certainly not common enough to drag the average down to 25 😂
I like «girl dinner» 😅 I feel its fun to have a term for an easy dinner that migjt consist of some weird combos 😅
We're learning, we're growing!
Growing more hands!!
"If you see me in the woods fighting a bear, HELP THE BEAR!" I don't know what this reference is from and I'm scared to look it up but I think about it every time this man or bear convo comes up lmao
Oh but there is a real dark downside of the people who think women menopause at 25, because technically they would seek teenage or very young aduld girls to have children with.
i’ve never been alone when i saw a large dangerous animal, but i have seen them. i did not feel like my life was threatened because i knew what to do to avoid attack. HOWEVER, i have been harassed by men. and i have known plenty fellow ladies who have had way worse done to them by men. i choose the bear.
9:15 WAIT but only do the slow back away and leave if the bear is not approaching. If you encounter a bear in the wild and it’s actively approaching you in an aggressive state, follow THIS: if it’s black, fight back; if it’s brown, lie down.
Basically, if you see a black bear coming at you, make yourself seem big and make a lot of noise- hands over your head, yell, stomp, link arms with other people if you’re with them and stand together to seem bigger, etc.
If you see a grizzly bear (larger brown bear), they’re more aggressive but tend to take care of prey and then bury/leave it for later. If you encounter one coming towards you, do NOT run and do NOT try to fight back- just play unalived. If it thinks you’re down for the count, it’ll most likely poke/sniff around at you a bit, then wander off and leave you for later.
If you are ever unfortunate enough to encounter a polar bear approaching in the wild, either get your pew-pew or if you don’t have one: question your life choices, pray to anything that exists that you’re within shouting distance of someone who does, and make as much noise as you possibly can to get their attention, while staying out of the water as long as humanly possible. If you have no other choice, try to wedge their mouth open somehow, but you better have serious shelter very close by bc you will not outrun them and they WILL drown you 🙃
I have a red poofy floral dress that I use for gardening because i wrecked it by gardening. I added huge hidden pockets
As a celebite cis Aro/Ace women with PCOS, I can confirm that my prescription birth control DOES change my behavior....it makes me FAR LESS LIKELY to snap and She-Hulk out😅
I would also like to say that the man vs bear hypothetical was never supposed to be a hypothetical the man who came up with it was trying to explain why women would chose the bear over the man and was trying to get other men to try to empathize with why women would chose the bear. I remember watching a video put out by Samantha Lux where she watched videos talking about the man vs bear and watched a video with the original creator that accidentally started the whole thing and he explains what I did but better (since I'm trying to paraphrase what he said) but it's all very interesting and if you have time I'd suggest go watching the video because it gives a whole variety of perspectives (most were kinda eh one was almost there but missing the entire point) but yeah. Man vs bear was never meant to become what it was an was made by a man to have other men to empathize with women!
Toilet AITA is insane! These are bodily functions. And, wow, 3 to 4 times vs 5 -6 times? I mean, I know that yes,
there are, sadly, industries or jobs where toiltet time for employees is restricted or regulated. Depending on country, industry and level of work (it's never the upper levels, curiously), labor protection laws etc. And of course, yes, unproportinal toilet time can influece how well this go businesswise. But MY. GOD. NO! This does not hive you the right to know the reason for every - or any - toilet visit as an employer. This is WAAY to intimate and private and belongs ro bodily autonomy. Just you as the employer don't need to know the reason why some one is sick. Just the fact THAT they are sick (maybe with a note from a doctor to confirm) is enough.
Tracking bathroom habits guy, what are you Amazon? YTA
I think when faced with a bear theres 2 options. It leaves you alone or ends you. And either way the interaction is over fast.
With a man theres many more things that can happen and most of them are bad and last longer.
I think "girl dinner" started out as eating a meal "in pieces". Like you eat 3 grape tomatoes, a cheese stick, a slice of ham, 2 baby carrots, and a piece of toast... and you've basically had a sandwich. It's like picking at a charcuterie board that has a larger variety of options, like dry pasta lol
(Also My roommate loves to eat dry pasta because it's very crunchy and that sensory experience is just very satisfying to him.)
But now I think "girl dinner" somehow evolved into ED content? Which is sad. Some people are just snackers and not meal people. As long as you've got a full belly you're good imo. Sure, nutrition is important but if all you can manage is dry pasta and chocolate then that's all you can manage.
One of my friends has a partially paralyzed stomach and that makes eating difficult most days. So snacking is just how they eat most of the time
The meme says nothing about fighting a bear. It's just, would you rather come across a bear in the forest or a man. I would pick the bear, because you would have a decent chance of scaring the bear off. I mean I've seen videos of them getting chased off by a cat 😺 Plus, a bear belongs in the forest. A random man in the forest could be sketchy.
The bear is probably equally surprised and trying to figure out if the random human is dangerous. Bears mostly just want to chill in their forest, they don’t schedule attacking humans into their agenda.
The voiceover at 21:08 took me tf OUT 🤣 😂
Ok I'd like to address the man or bear question. As someone, who literally lives at the top of mountain, IN THE WOODS, I'll take the bear. In fact, I have.
I have bears wondering around all the time. My interactions with them go as follows....
Bear passing by "Sup..." (head nod)
Me stacking firewood, "Stacking..." (head nod)
Sometimes they like it with a spray them with the hose. I've put out a large paddling pool for them to sit in.
I have a grassy hill where they spend a lot of time, rolling down the hill and running back up to do it all the time.
When bears, realize you are NOT a danger, they are not dangerous.
On the other hand...
A man came to the house whilst I was gardening. He asked if he could use the phone to call for a tow. I said I would and told him to go back to the car. He said he needed to be the one to call.
It was easy to see he was trying to take my phone so I could call for help. I'm a power lifter, I don't need to call for help btw.
He lunged at me but before he could reach me, a bear, that had been sleeping in the hedge row, shot out and bit into his thigh and dragged in a few feet. I shouted at the bear, the bear let go and I beat the ever loving shite out of the b@stard.
I gave the bear a whole watermelon.
As for the man, 3 days in hospital and 2 years in the chokey.
Bear earned that watermelon xxx
@@elaineb7065 yes she did. God rest her soul.
Is this a true story??
A lot of humor is situational. I might laugh my head off when my grandmother says something that would completely creep me out if a stranger says it.
Earlier today, I snort-laughed when my physical therapist said, "Speaking of serial killers . . ." It was only funny because of the context, since we had _not_ been talking about anything even close to the subject of serial killers. If hubs said the same thing, I'd want to know what his point was. Maybe it would be funny, maybe it would be interesting or educational or gross. Maybe it would just be a random observation.
The same thing isn't necessarily funny when it comes from two different people. Also, I've heard hubs's jokes a thousand times. Weve been together for twenty-four years. I wouldn't trade that history for a quick laugh.
40, pcos, been on pill for years to manage symptoms... loads of symptom changes recently and asked if perimenopause and doctor laughed at me said I was nowhere near menopause
Sounds like the doctor may be making assumptions. Maybe get a 2nd opinion?
No that could be it. A doctor also dismissed me at 42. I will never know if I was right though because I now have zero ovaries.
Aw I love when I happen to get here right away! Love you Shaaba!
These videos are equally draining and absolutely hilarious. Also hi momma Shaaba ♥️
10:30 I just assumed the reason was that the wives have heard the same jokes many times from their husbands, so they don't find them funny anymore, but when it's coming from someone else, it's a new joke for them and hence more funny than it is for that person's wife who's heard it all the time.
Or, you know, that the women roll their eyes at bad jokes told by their husbands, but laugh politely when a guest tell a bad joke instead, because common courtesy. But the dude who made this meme found that too threatening.
Or maybe the husband makes bad jokes WAY too often and the wife is trying to discourage him.
i think shaaba might be thinking of the skype sound effect? not sure lol
On the post of menopause there are some people (usually) men who have this weird mentality that once a woman is 25 years old her futility starts going down & will often act like they're elderly because in their minds someone who is between 18-24 years old is at the peak of their fertility even though 25 is often when someone's brain is fully developed & their is more to someone than if they can have kids or not
If I were in the woods with a bear, I can trust that bear to act like a bear. There are bear safety steps I can take to make it out of the woods perfectly safe and untouched by said bear. I stay away from the bear, away from the bear's cubs/den, I'll be fine. Replace the bear with an unknown man, however.... I have no idea if that man is an actual good person or a predator. I don't know if he'll decide to actively hunt me down to attack. I can only hope that he is a good person who won't hurt me as I find my way out of the woods. That's why I'd choose the bear.
18:33 I monitor my dog to make sure everything comes out ok and I try to take him out about every hour but I have no idea how often he actually goes potty. That's just insane
So I am afab and almost 39 years old, I have been using birth control since I was in high school because my periods were so bad that they would render me nearly unconscious and completely useless I would get migraines I would vomit and also the period farts that I would have could clear an entire classroom, at that point I would just stay home, until I started going on birth control and all of that started getting controlled better, my periods were still painful, but not nearly as such, I was able to function and not be in so much pain.
The man vs bear thing is also not, as I've seen at least one truly unfortunate individual attempt to claim, about which one women would rather have adult activities with. These people are the reason we pick the bear
There are no bears in the lovely park virtually on my doorstep, but as a 70-year-old woman (5 ft tall) I no longer walk alone on the trails. Also, when my husband would say he heard a joke, we started laughing immediately because he was so bad at telling jokes!
Shabba is slaying with these one liners.🩸🩸
22:32 I use Vaseline cocoa butter every day (eczema) and I have 4 kids lmao
"Girl Dinner" is when you can't be arsed to cook for yourself, just grab some food, relax, you're the boss. Toast and olives? Fine. Fried egg and some pasta? Why not. It's not a diet, it's "I don't care tonight, and I don't have to. This is what I have at home so that's what I'm eating, maybe I'll make a bad attempt to make it fancy, just for the lolz". We all did it at least once, and those videos are hilarious.
I absolutely hate my birth control because I feel better body wise in general when I’m not on it. However, it helps my migraine and my PCOS so I take it.
11:14 I opened my trash can as this sound effect happened and it gave me a mini heart attack because I didn’t immediately realize where the sound came from
Menopause can happen pretty early. Happens.
Also. I really love your videos
I was *trying* to do the right thing. I had a very bad UTI (and technically shouldn't have been at work but had 0 sicks days left) and told my employers that was the case and I'll be up and to the toilet a lot today at work, as , well.... UTI.
And you guessed it. They got *mad* ?!
They said that it woukd be a huge inconvenience and that i would need to try to limit how much I'd beed to go.
They were also women managers i spoke to.
Ummm. It's a UTI. Which means the urge to use the toilet is happens a *lot* and you go when you gotta go.
I was *so* embarrassed and upset but still went to work and just went to the loo when i felt the need to. They did comment on it and got annoyed. But i said i can't help it, i shouldn't even be here, but i know we have a lot on and thought it best to come in and do the best overall job possible.
They grumbled and left me to it but held it over my head at later dates when i needed the toilet at work.
I also have a small bladder (it actually has to get stretched from time to time) and there was also a year there where i constantly got UTIs and then had to see a urologist and have minor surgery to recitify it.
The fact that these were women managers as well, one who was menopausal, and they didn't understand, was beyond my comprehension.
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Love you Shaaba!!🩷🩷🍑🍑
It's far from a fail-safe, but another thing to look for with possibly AI images is how SMOOTH much of it looks. Like the background, faces, and fabrics tends to be sort of flat, like cell-shading applied to a photo. It's not a fail-safe because the same thing shows up in actual photos that have been overly touched-up, but to me, that's the first sign to look for something more telling.
The voice over about girl dinner saying "They should no be"??? Why should they not be? I disagree with this. It just describes a deconstructed type meal. It's the difference between eating a sandwich OR eating a slice of turkey, cubes of chees and handful of crackers. A lot of ADHD people eat this way too. That's girl dinner
I enjoyed listening to this when I was cleaning out the fridge.
This is partly why I never use the bathroom at work even when i had a period that lasted for a whole year non stop. I would rather diapers than people knowing my business and judging me for it.
I love when you’re sassy!
In my mid 40's, waiting on menopause like it's late picking me up for prom.
There are only 2 people on this planet who I've ever tracked the toilet habits of. Those people? My kids. Any parent knows that doctors will always ask how many wet and dirty nappies your kid is having in a day and with the stresses of looking after babies just making a note of these things helps so much. The closest I've come to tracking another adults toilet habits is my husband when he decides he needs to take a 30 minute poop 5 minutes before we need to leave.
My hair would definitely be up, but I would totally garden in a dress.
If I could only organize myself I would be making quarts and quarts of pickles.
The age of menopause is correlated to when you start puberty so earlier puberty earlier menopause.
Homemade Nutella is awesome and if you've got a food processor, it's super easy to make
Lol I'm pretty sure girl dinner is when you eat a bunch if snacks instead of a cooked meal.
My aunt had a rare menopause at 38. The rest had theirs in their early 50s
It's 50ish, because I'm 50 & going through it now
I wear my most expensive dress to garden Just because it matches my sunhat.
Shaaba, have you seen the cakes you’ve made?! You and Jamie work so much that it’s okay that you sleep in at the weekends, it’s okay anyway! It doesn’t make you inferior! Be kind to yourself! 💜🖤