I'm still struggling working full time
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- Опубликовано: 27 сен 2020
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So I finally filmed an update! this covers pretty much everything since that video in 2018. Still working full time, still hating it and feeling unfulfilled lol
what blows my mind is the average person WORKS for 5 days a week but only gets 2 days to themselves. 5 days we have to do shit for other people so we get 2 days to do stuff for ourselves. mental
It's exploitative and dumb lol
I think 4 days of work and 3 for ourselves would be a lot better.
@@livemusic3829 3 work 4 for ourselves. so many people on the planet, spread the work out a bit
Yes, it's insane. And what's even more insane is the amount of people that actually defend working full time. smh. And in my industry it's not only 40 hours regular shift but also being on call every few weeks for a whole week in case there is an IT problem. Yikes.
Imagine Im frickin rich and I can go spend my money anywhere anytime. There will always be people that willingly service me and my money haha. The game is rigged. We will never be billionaires. Because if everybody is rich then nobody is rich, thank you.
Girl, me too. Working full time does not feel natural, it's not organic... Feels like I'm throwing my life away
Working full time does not feel natural because it's not. We're literally not meant to live all our waking hours for (what in the 21st century classifies as) work, and what's left of our "free" time to prepare for more work.
Hang on in there! You're not alone
@@TheFantastipotamus then what are we supposed to do?
i retreat into the wood do bushcraft to get away from it all
@@TheFantastipotamus hi I'm older than you I'm 50 next year .I left school in 87 in dialectic never learnt fuck all at school as back then I was treated like a idot so I acted like it never done well in work .I work hard but when all this modern way of life with computers I struggle and it's hard with reading and writing .I'm big into nature and got into bushcraft .it helps me . what I'm trying to say is get into the woods walk do Bushcraft it helps back to our ansters.
Hearing the line "I don't have a dream job, I don't dream of labour" changed my life and outlook.
If you have children, get ready to work 10 times more including for more money and their survival needs to ensure they are well taken care off.
Its actually terrifying seeing everyone around you doing really well while you dont know what you want to do
Tell me about it!!
meh
who is doing well?! nobody is doing well, that is not human, its fake news...
Felt this shit!!! You hear them talk about how much they love the job and you are looking at them half crazy
That's fake news I agree.. it looks like on the surface that they are doing well but you don't know how they really feel and what's going on behind the scenes
A small part of me dies when I go to work each day, desperate to go home and make jewellery.
I had no idea you worked alongside the store? Aw man I hope one day you can be able to run your store full time, it's a fantastic little business
@@pyrrhichos Yeah being self employed has many ups and downs, I do love it. But do have to work part time for when sales dib (don't sell much jewellery from jan-march).
I hope you find a job you like.
@@pyrrhichos Show us your jewelry please
www.etsy.com/uk/shop/SaskiaWrycroft?ref=seller-platform-mcnav is her etsy shop!!
@@pyrrhichos aw thanks
YES, I hate sooo much when I get upset and feel down about working all the time and allI hear is 'that's life' etc... I don't wanna be in a life like that if that's life
big fat agree, it shouldn't be the automated response :(
@Ultimate Keyboard Warrior I try but I constantly get put on overtime + my family just seem to get annoyed that I don't wanna work full time, it's bs
I agree I'd rather be poor and happy than doing 40hours a week weekend bank holidays Xmas being made to work it .sod em I'll stay on the dole .I never used to be like this but doing 30 years of dead end jobs I've had enough.im now 49 years old
@Matt B McConaughey I had a job a year ago on the interview it was agreed I'd be part time working 4 nights a week and 3 days off but when I started the changed the rota wanting me to work between 6 & 9 nights in a row so I asked them what about the agreement there reply was needs of the business plus they kept on asking me to do overtime .so I left signed on then covid 19 hit us so I've not worked since the dole office said there's no point in looking for work at the mo and they would pay me my benefits and they would tell me when to start looking for work that was back in March .I'm happy at the moment plus I'm in the high risk being over weight and diabetic .
@@madierin5967 just tell to f.. off and say im just working my contracted hours
"My dream job is to just not work". That's basically how I feel too. Somehow after doing a master's in psychology, I've been working office jobs for 15 years. It felt wrong from the start. In the early days I was constantly depressed and fighting the urge to resign. Some of the jobs I did eventually resign from and I tried to explore the whole "career paths" thing for some other way to earn money that I'd actually enjoy. Just like most people I didn't find the answer and I'm still in the world of office work, seemingly with no end in sight. The worst thing about modern day work culture isn't just that most of us have to work pointless jobs that we hate, it's that we have to spend most of our time doing it and do it for 40+ years. It's insane.
Some people seem to just mindlessly do it and think it's great. But for me it's always seemed a tragedy that so many of us are wasting our brief existence working pointless jobs in order to pay off debts created on a bank's computer screen. It's a trap and everything seems geared towards keeping people working and making sure they spend almost their entire life doing it.
That's why I don't have a credit card (my husband has it to pay for flights and hotels on our holidays and he pays it all off straight away and is never in debt either) and I am NOT a penny in debt and live within my means.
I went to law school and ended up in bureaucratic jobs with loads of stress that quickly drove me both insane and physically ill. Even after a month or two I would already feel suicidal. When I tell my parents or partner I want to be a housewife (even for a while) they tell me I wouldn't like it. Where is the feminism and free choice when all of a sudden you can't make money, huh... Gone feminism... Yikes.
@@helenarichard it's no better for us men being trapped supporting a family in a job that you hate because your wife don't earn much
We can't afford to just stop working
Working just to survive is no fun for any of us male or female
But unless you want no where to live and your kids to go hungry I honestly can't see a way out of working six days a week 😐
@@helenarichard In many ways, feminism is doing more bad than good for the modern woman. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to commit your time to raising children and a family. If done well, it's a very honorable life! Wishing the best for you Helena!
I agree completely. The system is broken, and now having a college degree is the same value as a high school diploma-expected and not adding any value to our salaries. I have a degree, but it’s not in something “marketable.” Most college grads I know didn’t use their degree for a “career” job, so boomers who told us it would fix our problems or are baffled as to why we are aimless in our career paths and are not moving forward in dead end jobs? What would they recommend? There aren’t enough “good jobs” that pay enough, have enough room for growth, and don’t expect 40 hours minimum. College doesn’t guarantee jobs, and any job that you can “work your way up” are thankless and want above and beyond, your blood, sweat, and tears. Over time, weekend availability, etc. Those jobs include: teachers, doctors, social workers, nurses, lawyers, etc. Those jobs are more stressful, but are more respected by society. Life is pointless when we have to work. If I had the chance to not be born (I’m adopted) I would have just told my birth mom to abort me. Life in this world is too exhausting, stressful, and expensive. Just WHY?
I knew a guy who straight up told me his salary of $73k at his job. I then asked him what his dream job would be if not this one, and he said, "not work!" Despite his great pay, he'd still truly rather not work at all!
I mean, obviously. I make 100k with no schooling or skills. What I do is plot different possible ways of life rather than This full time job
@@1m2a3t4t5what is your job if I may ask?
Thank you for this video. I am currently SO depressed thinking about the fact I’m 23 and I hate working already. This can’t be all there is to life 😭
Don’t feel bad I’m 20 and I’m fed up too!!
Sort yourself out then!
move abroad somewhere. tropical south east asia isn't bad. teach english you'll make a decent living.
FACTS. 😭😭😭😭
I'm 20 and I feel the same way. There's got to be more to life than just working every damn day I get only 1 day off. I work 6 days a week 50 hours. It's not fun.
I'm 50. Trust me, you're never going to know what you want to do when you grow up. There is no "dream job", in fact the real dream would be to not work at all because working sucks. People are literally just slaves and the oligarchs and the bankers and the politicians love the average stupid wage slaves. You're halfway there already to realizing the scam. It never gets any better and it never makes sense. You are a slave. Period. The best thing to do is learn how to live minimally and work as little as possible.
"My dream job is not to work at all"
This quote nicely summed up the whole video 😂👌.
Felt that
That is called retirement. How do you get to that point without work?
Trading forex is a way out...guys look at the Channel Jason Alerts here on yoUtube
@@saltyhamslam7991 ayo im planning to retire in a year, im 19:)
@@denisalbert2595 Yea trading is cool but you need a huge amount of capital most people don’t have that
We need to organize a general strike.
I also feel like "finding something that we love" is a myth because there are things that I love to do that I would not want to do for 8 hours a day and 5 days a week.
Time is our most important asset.
In 1933 America was EXTREMELY close to lowering the work week to 30 hours a week. The Black-Connery Bill got through the Senate, the President approved it and then lobbyist stepped in and beat out progress. Economist predicted that by now we'd be working 15 hours a week. It is more than possible.
We need to stop billionaires and demand a 20 hour work week AT LEAST through a general workers strike. Without people these companies are nothing. Let's leverage that.
I agree 40 hours is too much.... It should be 25-30 hours max
Agree
the problem is not one is going to do it bc no one is going to put theirselves at risk. literally the whole nation would have to do it at the same time
@@AC-ri2ph All we need is a leader. Maybe AOC
@Shep Proudfoot true. there are only a handful in congress. but it's all we've got. aoc is one. maybe nina turner too
Imagine all the people that went to school for 4 years or more to hate their job
Rip
Meee😍😂
How about those who spent 6 years, got a master's, moved across the world and then hate their jobs, but are helpless to make a change at this point?
Tell me about it😌
That’s how I feel. I’m so disappointed I wasted 5 years in school and $100k for this… I thought I would love teaching but it’s HORRIBLE
"Not doing what we love full time".
I'd hate to have to do ANYTHING full time, even if I love it. Think of one thing you love doing and then imagine you're forced to do it 9-5 Mon-Fri. I'm pretty sure I'd hate it by day 2.
Love you honesty and opening up. So many people feel this way.
Agreed. My current job has a lot of variety and is pretty fast-paced. I like it. I'm probably only having 1 day every 2 weeks where I end up having to do pretty much the same thing for 8 hours. Lots of different ways to do my job and lots of places to do it.
Part time is the best way to go. I felt the EXACT day way working full time. No energy, always feeling tired. The best way out is working part time and then started a side hustle. I couldn't imagine working 5 days a week.
I got a new job.... higher pay, new apartment, new city, etc... already burnt out. I was happier doing nothing between jobs. I hate my coworkers, I hate the bloody work, it's boring. I feel like this job is going to be the end of me.
Hello soulseeker! How is it going? Wishing you the best
Same, I am happier doing nothing. I quit job and now live on savings. I have time to do laundry and walk. I sat my ass off commuting and working full time before. In my 30's with no free time to explore and live which I like the most. Have you seen any jobs for 20 hours a week? Living frugally you may want to try them, they'll give more time.
Happening to me right now. First day on the job and now i remember again why i was unemployed for 2 years.
This is actually comforting to know that im not the only one to feel this way about trading valuable time for something worth less. Thanks for the vid
It feels like such a waste of time. The onlt life we get is wasted and work and what do we get? Money. Something that can be replaced that requires all our time something we can never get back.
I will say this as someone who is 30 and fluffed around her entire 20s not knowing what I wanted to do.. As a creative soul, you will never know what you want to 100% do in life, and once you accept that and realise you can actually pursue everything it opens up your world. You don't have to make one decision, you can make several. I used to NEVER make a decision because I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life so I half-assed everything. I worked casual and part-time jobs in retail and hospitality my entire 20s which would seem fine except I could never afford anything. I couldn't go to an acting workshop, a writer's retreat, a painting class because I couldn't afford it and these were the things I valued and wanted to do with my life. Some weeks I could barely pay my rent on time and never afford to eat nutrient-dense food, this was a contributing factor to my mental health decline but I just couldn't afford better food. I couldn't afford the dentist, I paid my car registration late. And the thing is that living in constant financial turmoil is EXTREMELY depressing because you are trapped, your freedom isn't really freedom. The goal for me was never materialism it was just being able to afford to live and eat. I lived in a van and had low finances, complete freedom, I camped in beautiful places around the country but there was still something missing, a sense of purpose I couldn't find. When I traveled I lived in the cheapest possible hostels, never ate out at restaurants, took free tours, and while I do not regret my traveling adventures I watched my friends surpass me in finances and afford holidays I could never dream of and eat at exotic locations and go skydiving over the Himalayan mountains, you get the picture.. I decided to go back to uni and study a Communications degree because I have always been interested in writing and the arts. With this, I obtained a full-time job with an incredible boss and I write copy everyday and create graphics for clients (this was last year when I was 29). It's not a dream job, but nothing ever has been, and nothing ever will be because I have too many interests. I've worked with animals, kids, retail, hospitality, mini-golf etc.. But the fulfillment I have from working full-time, affording to pay off debt, building wealth for my dream house out in the country while I write my novels is so much more fulfilling than the half-life I was living struggling to get by financially. Working full-time is hard but I somehow have more time because my days are much more structured, meaningful and not everything is about my job either. I go to painting classes, I ride horses on the weekend, I write my novel at night, I edit RUclips videos and upload them for fun, I can afford a writing retreat, I can finally do the yoga and meditation course I've always wanted because I can afford it.
Life is about finding purpose and balance.
I loved your response because it’s like that is me except you sound like you have limited responsibilities. it is a struggle when you are a mother, add children and a husband into the mix. I have the 9-5, I have the creative interests you said and I have the financial ability to pay down things/needs/care etc. but I miss the part where I have time or the mental capacity left for my interests on top of trying to stabilize my own mental health with all the other things I have to do. I love my family and they make it worth it but it can be so very hard being my best for them when I have to struggle so hard that I have to lose me. When I finally get some time for me it’s like I don’t even know where to start.
Don’t know you but I am happy for you!!
i’m one of those creative types as well, i worked in the housekeeping department of a hospital in california for 5 years and just decided to try something new (traveling). i jumped ship, but unfortunately i had gotten way too excited and had no plan. so i moved states but i’m right back where i started because i ran out of money with no way to provide income for myself. i just finished an interview at another hospital for the same housekeeping position i just got out of… less than 6 months later. the momentary freedom, has actually contributed to crippling anxiety and depression. knowing i’ll be back at a 9-5 doing meaningless (for me anyway) work but without any of the people i know and the familiar environment quite honestly has me borderline suicidal. i know i want to do something creative based with my life, but i cant make up my mind what that would be and every day that passes i get more depressed.
i hope to fund some kind of etsy venture with my paychecks and maybe get out as fast as i can.
This was really enlightening Haley. It makes me feel alot better knowing I'm not the only one who's completely lost at 24. You mentioned you were living in financial turmoil but were still able to take a uni course. Did u just bite the bullet and go into debt, or was that something you were able to cover yourself?
Love this comment, and I had a very similar experience. I'm glad you were able to do the things you always wanted to do 🙂
society sucks
it's just
work work work
buy buy buy
impress impress impress
I am with you.
Exactly! There’s nothing special about life. Life sucks. Sometimes I wish I was never conceived.
Me too
Waking up every day, see the same f.... Faces, waiting for the weekend to get drunk, welcome to 95% of all humans
How else can we live?
"I'm getting stressed over a job that I don't even like."
So true. I have the same thought all the time. Agree 100% on not being able to make use of your free time. Once you're stuck in the stress, anxiety and depression of your 9-5; When you get your days off you're so mentally overwhelmed you dont have the energy to do anything. Some people just arent mentally wired to cope with this style of life and I'm definitely one of them as well.
Covid has been so bad for the situation as well. I planned to travel most of this year and quit my fulltime that I've been working for a year and a half. 7 months later, still stuck in the same 9-5 🌧😔🌧 and cant travel anywhere. Feel like I'm just wasting time.
Was also planning on quitting and travelling! Hopefully sooooon
I worked at a desk job for 21 and 1/2 years. After all that, my employer stole from me and would not give me all my benefits I accumulated after all those years. I literally crashed and mentally broke down. It took me about 3 years to recover. You are still young, go live life and be happy.
❤️❤️
How can i be happy and still need money tho. I love trading but i need money of course n it’s risky i’m still learning
Almost all the things you’ve said here resonates with me, especially when you said why is it normal for people to hate working but still do it anyway. That part I couldn’t agree with any more. I hate the fact that we have to work long, hard hours JUST FOR THE BARE MINIMUM WHICH IS A ROOF AND SOME FOOD. But What I hate more is that everyone around me, both family and friends, are just ok with life like these. We were born into slavery basically and so little people see that.
Yes. The Bare Minimum. I agree, this is how I think alot.
Dont worry. You sound chosen for.the new system. The bible says the world will change and the meek will posses the earth and live in the abundance of peace.
Yup I was just thinking “we were born into slavery” while at work and that I don’t want to selfishly bring kids into a world like this.
@@sigmasiren777 Same. I don't want to have family. Single. I feel sorry looking at kids going five days a week for a school to be programmed for the work season which lasts perhaps for 40 maybe 50 years. Working full time. I feel so sad, I will never go for having kids. Not even one. I feel so sorry for them going schools. It's insane world we live in.
Working, getting money (even if it might be little), having a roof and food and still free time (even if it might be little)... you're calling it slavery... what an insult that is to people who were actually enslaved...
I used to work full time for years, I had so much stress realizing I had no time to do anything cause I was too tired from work and just wanted to relax, I eventually had the strength to leave, but I left without finding another job. I thought leaving would make me happy, but It gave me even more stressed cause my mind was like, “you need a job, you need money” and so I couldn’t do what I wanted to do cause I was so bothered by the reality of society. It’s so sad seeing people work all their lives just for money, like retail, or corporate jobs. Some people might like doing that, but it’s not for me and I don’t want to waste my life making someone else get richer. Society is really screwing us.
I just graduated and started working full time recently. I work in Accounting. My god, is it soul crushing. The mental toll it takes on you every single day. All the stresses of getting minute details right, doing it this way or that way, meeting deadlines. It's such a miserable fucking existence. And when you think about it, it's not just 40 hours a week. Time getting ready, commuting there and back should be a part of it, too. And idk about you, but when I'm off I'm absolutely fucking exhausted to actually do things I want. Sometimes I'm so tired, I just lay in bed and just be on my laptop doing fuck all. Also, when work ends, you just blink and the next shift starts. Like you said, didn't choose to be born. Still looking for an escape from this lifestyle. Your work rant videos really help, I look forward to the next one. Please make em more frequently.
P.s you're beautiful
Bro you described me to a T. I am so checked out of my job. I dread going to sleep knowing I have to wake up the next morning and go into the office. It is so draining. We go in and just make billions of dollars for other people. I have gained so much weight from stress and inactivity. I am not sure how much more I can take. At this point, I’d rather they fire me.
How bad is accounting yall cuz i think my ass bout to get into it 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️ i hear horror stories about the soul crushing nature. I hate wearing suits n kissing ass im very quiet n in my mind i say F this
@@nathanieljones1367wearing suits and kissing ass is 90% of the job. It's the worst.
my job gets 5 days a week out of my life but i only get 2 days to rest, spend time with friends and family and get things done for myself. working full time is driving me crazy.
I think if you have a partner, both couples get a part time job (3/4 days a week) and don't go down the 'more is better' trap of materialism is definitely a strategy to combat this crazy world these days.
Same!! 😫 Always feeling stressed & depressed when I leave for work every morning. Also always “living” for the weekend or a day off... & when I have a day off I’m usually stressed about having to go to work again the next day🙄
I can relate to this so much. Sitting on my ass 9-5 in an office and then sitting on my ass on the commute home used to make me feel like I was going to have a heart attack from all the sitting. I transitioned to working from home last year and I feel like I've gotten my life back. I honestly don't mind working anymore. Those Sunday night blues are almost all gone. I'm still as productive as I ever was (and maybe even more so because I'm not so distracted by how much I hate being stuck at the office). I feel like besides not working at all this is probably the next best thing. Hopefully with time more jobs will be done from home.
Working from home works so much better for me too!
Working from home gives me back sooo much time. I can listen to the radio, grab some proper food from the kitchen, have my oil burner on and no commute! I'm actively fighting to be allowed to stay at home and not go back. I've also finally cracked and asked to go from 5 days to 4. I'll just make do with less money. Soooo hate full time work it just makes me panic after a bit.
I’m gonna start working from home
I feel your frustration 100%, the 9-5 Monday to Friday grind is mental torture.
I'm late to the party but wow I feel like I am hearing myself talk. I also did retail, then office jobs, and realized it wasn't much better and that my pants were getting tighter and my neck was so stiff. Now I work in a school library and the schedule and vacation time is great but I still get tired working with people all the time and I still crave working 3-4 days max. I may ask for it next year, schools are usually more flexible. It also blows my mind that everyone just seems to accept working so much as the norm. I could retire today and never be bored. I have so many things I want to do but when I get back from work all I want to do is sleep and watch TV... Sigh
This video brought me to tears when you made certain points. I’m so unhappy with this society that we live in. I feel like people even look down on me when I say I wanna work part time.
I used to work in a flower shop and that was something that truly brought me joy. Messing around with flowers and plants was free therapy! So like as far as choosing a ‘career path’ ask yourself “what would this look like if it were simple?” What do you enjoy doing? Painting? Caring for Plants? Customer service? Also being open minded to all job possibilities no matter how seemingly small or unpopular they may be. I work twice a week cleaning people’s houses with my husband. It’s a humble job but we have five days off.
Similar here.I work in beekeepers shop, and I love variosity of work, I can get in touch with honey and bees wax and cosmetics...Also more technical things.And Also talking to people...
I tried also more Office like Jobs, but its torture fór me.I need to be active , dont just sit in front od the screen.
Althought my ideal work would be a litlle bit more outside, really working more with products and bees itself but its already a good step ahead.
Also I have very peacefull enviroment thanks to my boss, which became my friend and we respect each others needs.
"I don't know what I want. I don't have a dream job, I don't have a goal. My dream job is to just NOT WORK"
Subbed immediately!!!
I thought I was the only one who felt that. I always ask myself"what's the point of all this"
The system is perfectly designed to keep you tired and make sure you cant progress in life unfortunately - they dont want you being happy and doing well for yourself. Lets say the average take home pay is 1600 quid a month and rent is 900ish .. wtf?
I feel this video so much! 🥺 Been working in an office job for the past 7 years. quit mentally years ago.. the point you mentioned with the body hits home. I gained 20 kg in a couple of years. I've never been a size zero but it just frustrates me. And after a soul sucking day at the office you do not even have the urge to work out.. its a vicious cycle. To anyone who is working in a call center like me: my heart goes out to you. ❤
This month I have hit my personal rock bottom.. I realized my job had taken my joy of life away completely. There is nothing to look forward to except RUclips and creating art in the little time besides the 9 to 5. I've had 2 weeks off, written my resignation letter. Going to send it in at the end of the month. even though i have no job lined up, I think its my "last call". i'm 31 , feels as if i have wasted my 20ies. But crying over it doesnt make it better.
For me the only option is building my own business.
omg, girl.. feel you 100%. I am now at exact same position. I'm 31, also worked full time for almost 7 ears and I just can't do this anymore. It's against human nature. No wonder it kills our souls. How can you spend most of your time doing something that you don't want to, be exhaustwd from that and be happy?? And to have no energy -->no chance to do what you really want? Or to make some change, start a business. I have 0 energy to do anything when I get back home!!!! It's a slavery. What kind of " life" is this!!?? I developed anxiety and panic attacks from that and from lack of sleep, so I'm 2 months on medical excuse now, but in a week I have to decide whats next... I think I will lower my expences, go part time to any job and work on side hustles. I want to dance, take as many dance classes as possible, go to the gym, spend more time with my friends. I wish you findung the way to life the life that you want and be happy!!
I feel the same way girll. You're not alone❤ I hope your business will turn out well. That's what I also plan to do cause I can't deal with the shitth lifestyle of 9-5, 2 days off and almost no time for yourself shit.
I worked a 9-5 call center job at a desk, cried hours after work because of how emotionally worked up I’d get from sitting in one place and so much ringing in your ears and so monotonous, now I’m in a salon (I love making others feel beautiful) and it’s still way too many hours. I will never find one task I will enjoy doing 40+ hours a week with 2 days off. It’s fucking insane and my parents look at me like I’m a lazy ungrateful millennial not wanting to work. I just want some more time for me!!!!
This is the leading cause of my depression
Whew girl. You get it. You’ve said some of the exact same words I’ve told friends and family when I talk about this. Most people don’t get it.
It’s gotten to the point where I wish for a car accident on the way to work just so I can have the day off.
🥲
Been there no joke. I even thought about crushing my car on purpose 😂😂😂
did this allllll the time but now i walk to work🙃
It's bad ain't it
Haha Damn i Think of doing that sometimes when im May Way to work 🤣🤣
People have become less content with their work since the advent of the internet, mass access to information causes everyone to dream big and realise they have so much potential to do more.
Even before the internet people just worked to survive. Not really a mentally sound way to live but...
Depressing.
When we sit down and think how much annual leave we get, it’s frightening. In one year, we get 20-28 days ... that is horrific and utterly preposterous. I got terminated in my last job, where I was working for a law firm. I have two law degrees and kinda hate my field. Uni is a legal fraud and not worth the money. I’m trying to pursue a career as a writer on the side and trying to get my RUclips channel going with gaming videos and book discussion videos. Money has made us all into slaves.
Your education has helped you write though. People with a high school education can’t write easily.
@@Amateur_Pianist_472 Not particularly. University gave me nothing. School and Sixth Form yes. I'm not for uni.
Working in retail was the final straw that made my neck and back pain unbearable. Now I am written of work and struggling to do what I have always loved to do, writing. It’s not fun when a lingering neck injury leads to instances of pain and numbness in your hands. Was uni fraud? Perhaps. But at least it gave us a few more years not to face the soul crushing world of work.
Working is not the way of life but being broke is not either
I have never seen anything I can relate to more! So glad to know I'm not alone in feeling so miserable. My mum is always saying to me "its life" and "you've never liked any of your jobs" and honestly that's true, I havent.
Couldnt agree more. Every time I am at work I just feel like I am wasting my time and life. I have yet to find a fulfilling job and I have a 4 year degree in computer science. I need to find a way I can work for myself. I wouldn’t even mind working 7 days a week if I can plan out my own days and choose when I want to do things. I hate having somebody else dictate what I do and when I do it. I cant stand being forced to be at this place for 8 hours the same time everyday, I just cant do it.
I resonated with this and the previous video a lot, damnnn. I’m 24 and so over it already, it’s exhausting... like being on a hamster wheel.
As a civil engineer which was my “dream job”, I also work 45 hours a week..
Working this much really effects your mental health, as humans we weren’t made for this, and it’s just part of the system we are part of.
It’s better to have a job working 4 days a week with a bit less money(probably won’t get taxed as much either)
And at the same time you can enjoy them 3 days off to actually learn something new, enjoy time with friends and family, travelling etc
Holy fuck, I thought I was the only one who felt like this. This struck such a chord with me!
I'm posting very late but maybe someone who finds this video needs to hear this. If you are unhappy you simply can't give up trying to change your current situation.
I studied to be a Psychologist and ended up hating it. My entire twenties I worked full time jumping from job, while studying at night. In my thirties I worked for myself as a Psychologist in my own practice. It was all a mistake because for nearly twenty years I had stumbled along blindly thinking I was doing what I was supposed to while dying inside. Eventually I couldn't keep lying to myself and closed my practice. I am creative and love plants and flowers and have opened my own business. Money is about half of what I was earning but I don't care. I feel free, content and at peace with how I spend my time each day. Start investigating options and ideas so you can plan your escape. I would also recommend working for yourself instead of being a prisoner working for some company. Just don't give up. You can do it 💪 😊
Omg, absolutely hit the nail on the head!
I went from working at Starbucks, which I loved but I didn’t like working on a rota and like you say - isn’t a “career” I wanted to pursue, to working 9-5 in an office, which I hated cause of everything you said! Somehow I had less time to do things, everywhere’s busier on a weekend and I put on so much weight from sitting down all day! Now I work at a hotel, either starting work really early in the morning or finishing really late at night and I hate that too, I’m tired a l l t h e t i m e and any days off I get I’m too burnt out to do anything. I’ve had an ASOS parcel sitting in my room for weeks cause I just haven’t had time to go to the post office! It’s ridiculous. I’m now panicking cause I have no idea what I want to do. I also don’t have any career goals, I don’t wanna work “unsociable hours” from a rota (which we currently receive the day before the week begins....) but I don’t wanna work office hours either! My dream job is also to not work 😂 This is a huge rant but I don’t talk about this much cause most of my friends seem happy where they are or at least know where they want to be!
I hope we, and everyone in these comments who feels the same, get out of this rut we’re in and find something we end up loving 🤞
I feel you!! you're damned if you do either! Im tempted to go back into hospitality just so i can work on my feet again but its also so draining and you're right you spend your days off feeling burnt out! It's sucky :-(
I keep coming back to these videos because you’re always absolutely spot on about “real work” and the “working life” we’ve been conditioned to believe and swallow. Keep going and keep doing cool shit! I told my old bosses to go fuck themselves and I set up a production company, scary, but I was spiritually and physically dying sat in a hotel office as their marketing manager all day every day.
Employers don't care about what employees value. They just want you to make money for them. That's the only thing they want.
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SAME 😭😭😭 this shi* is not for me. Like i can do the job but everyday i go to work a little part of me dies inside
Tell me about it, it shouldn't be "tolerable" to hate going into work everyday lmao
Working from home since the lockdown is so much better for me I honestly can’t imagine going back to doing a commute and sitting in an office tbh it’s giving me severe anxiety just knowing how soon work will make me go back
I feel the same way x
i feel exactly the same, the thought of coming back to office makes me sick
I feel the same but I’m still unhappy mainly because I know we will eventually have to go back.
@@SharlenesJourney Hi all, I actually got a new job that requires me to come to the office ( although I can tell you right now that everything can be done from home anyway), my 2nd day today and I am crying so much. Hate my life so so so much.
@0 to hero thanks dear, I started applying for jobs already!
Exactly how I feel. I wish people who have found the way to freedom would post on this video and share their stories of how they made it happen.
Have you ever thought about having a rural life? I've been thinking about this because we're basically doing things for ourselves, for example; growing our own food, we have our own grocery store, we cook our own food. Everything that we do "working" tending our farms is for ourselves, and nobody else.
Similar as you, I also hate my job. I'm 24, and I've worked in 2 different companies. My current company drains me more than the previous one. I went home and still being called, emailed, texted by my coworkers and customers. I'm questioning myself, what am I doing? People said, that I can just make my own business, but then again, I feel like I'm going to end up making other people feel the way I did when I was working for other people. I can't bear the guilt. I don't know what am I doing anymore really.
I'm glad that I found your video, that there are people like me who don't always say something like "you should be grateful!"
I should be grateful for being overworked and unhappy?? How??
My plan is to save up enough money to survive without work for two years and then try to start my own business in e-commerce.
I currently have one year saved up, my current job is hell but I survive off of hope for the future. I've been planning my escape from this hellscape since
2017 and I am now 23. I can't see myself working a 9-5 for 42 more years because this lifestyle is miserable and I don't see the point in wasting 9 hours a day at work + 1h commute + extra hours spent dreading the next day. The lack of free time is also hilarious. I can't do anything that I enjoy after work without feeling guilty of not putting that time into my business plan.
My dream is to move from Sweden to the Cayman islands and this dream will for certain never
come true if I never pursue the entrepreneurial path. Quitting my job is a risky path to take but I feel that I'll regret it for the rest of my life if I don't decide to follow my heart.
I hope it works out for you! Best of luck
@@pyrrhichos Thanks! Best of luck to you too
It's really sad that I hope for a tragedy to happen to me where I become hurt so bad I can't legally work. This is the system America has built its people.
The part I hate so much about FT work, is the limit of vacation you can take (even if it's unpaid). I worked at a company that gave 2 weeks PTO for the whole year, and after 10 years of working there they would increase it to 3. To me that is just absurd
The last time I asked for time of my employer ask what for. Being the person I am I felt I needed to be honest and my response was basically... "I don't have plans I just don't want to be here for a while" the look (facial expression) I recieved was that of pure disgust.. my holiday form was denied... so I saw a GP and after a short discussion I was given a 4 week sick note for "stress at work" and my wages were paid as normal. Not bad as I initially only asked for a week of... I don't think my boss likes me very much now.
it's refreshing to hear someone being honest about this
I quit my full time job without having anything else lined up and ended up being a freelance charity worker. Total control over my own hours and what days I work, fulfilling work, time to pursue other hobbies. Yes there’s a small sacrifice in terms of pay but I’m MUCH happier now. I really resonate with what you’re saying, we’re just not made to spend 40-50 hours a week pretending to work.
I finished your first video about this topic and I went to this one. And again. The same thing happened to me. I’m currently at an office job, I’ve just switched and like you said there’s so many cons that people don’t tell you about.
I want to go adventure the world and I just don’t understand why that is such a hard thing to obtain. Working 40 hours a week every week is miserable. I’ve jobbed hopped a lot and I just want I have freedom. And be able to have time for myself to really take care of myself. I don’t understand why as a society everyone has just agreed to live this miserable way. Life should be more play than work.. not the other way around.
Look up the FIRE movement or “financial independence retire early”. I feel the same way and this is what I’m working towards because I don’t want to be working into my 60s
Literally sobbing right now because I have to go to work in an hour. Some days I would rather eat a bullet than waste my life working.
❤️❤️ You're going to be okay, same as me
I never really comment on anything, but I had to for this. I feel this so much, everything you said I'm going through right now. And I don't know why more people don't bring this up. I feel so stuck, lost, and don't know what to do or want to do, and I want more time. I want to travel, I want to make art and meet people.
I know we have to have money to survive. But I hate the way things are. But maybe I'm also not thankfully enough for what I have as well. Know it could always be worse.
But this way of living isn't for me either. But I feel like I'm not good enough to have my own business or make videos or make art and sell it. I don't have time/motivation to either and don't think I have any great skills.
Why is this normal?
I hope we'll all find a better way of living. I hope we'll become more caring for each other.
Hope we'll get to enjoy life.
I could probably go on all day.
Its truly is frustrating and sad. I stress so much and search for anything that could be better. But it all feels like everything will be the same.
i can relate so so much with everything you said...
im just so happy I’ve found others out there that are just like me. Now i just need to meet them in real life just so we can talk.
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I literally discovered your video "The reality of working full time" tonight and saw you updated some hours ago. I relate so much. I'm only 18 and it just feels like everything is slowly falling apart. I'm pressured to find a job but I don't really feel like I want to. Tomorrow I have to go to an organization that is supposed to help you find your dream job / studies / etc, and it just feels like I'm losing time. I'm constantly stressed : I wake up doing panic attacks, I go through the day stressed and I go to bed thinking about all of this, still stressed. Since high school finished, the only thing I'm thinking about is "WORK WORK WORK" although I don't even have one !
There's nothing I'm necessarily passionate about, I don't have specific "dreams", I don't care about the money, I just wanna live you know... It always feels like I'm the one who's wrong, like working full time is the normal thing to do. I don't wanna work full time but how am I supposed to do when nearly the whole society is pressuring you to do so ?! Sometimes I just feel like taking my backpack and running away from my home bc it feels impossible and then I remember that living outside is probably worse. So I'm still stuck there. How do you people do it ? Did you find a way out of this hell ?
(Sorry if I made mistake or if the way I word my sentences is weird : I'm from France haha ^^)
don't burn yourself out stressing at 18! You've still got years to figure it out, don't feel like you're trapped, there's a way out - you're not alone trying to find it :)
I'm 18 as well was kicked out my moms house and needed a job so I'm working rn and the job is ass literally picking boxes gotta find the correct one, tag it, collect it and gotta find 80 more just like it and gotta do it again until the weekend arrives and then do it again it's draining me slowly man and I feel like I'm going to be doing this for years and that worries me bc I don't want to do this, honestly I want to smoke weed and earn money watching tv but the reality is until I die I have no choice to work a boring job
Currently im on the same boat. These organisations youre talking about are pointless. Aint nobody gonna help you to find a meaningful Job.The only purpose of those programs are to make you used to the 9to5 workday again.
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Been at an office job for 17 yrs. Sounds crazy saying that. After so long you become complacent...had a friend here I spoke to about him wanting to leave and pursue his passion, few weeks later he passed. God willing we'll all find our calling and He'll open a door out for us. 🙏
28 years this April. UUGGGGHHhhhhhh..........
I think the answer is to just make the fucking hours SHORTER! Why does full time have to 40 hours?? If i knew i only had to work 4 hours a day, i hardly would have anything to complain about. I work 9 hours at amazon for 4 days over night. Its brain dead work genuinely. If we could work 4 hours hell even 5 hours and be able to live alone off of that then i think a lot of us would be happier. Full time shouldnt have to be 40 hours a week. Thats out dated as shit
I even enjoy my job sometimes, there are some cool things, but when I stop and think about deadlines, client's complains, manager rushing the team to deliver and the fact that a beautiful day is going outside and you are sitting for 8 hours and can't enjoy the day I think I just give up and think I'll never find a job I really enjoy.
It's tough seeing the world go by when you're glued to your seat, hang in there !
Stay strong and independent ladies
It gets better, everyone goes through that feeling
I respect all of you for sticking it to the man
Have you ever noticed that we work so much because we want money to buy things?? It was how capitalism has designed social engineering.
i feeeeel you 100% lol. 4 years of working full time, and i just know it's not for me. I actually like the work I do now, and I work from home instead of the office due to covid (which I LOVE). I'm very lucky my company gives us 27 days Paid time off (including holidays). But I still don't like having to spend the majority of my time working for someone else at the same monotonous schedule M-F 8-5pm. I NEED freedom. my dream is to not have to work!!
I feel you right back! Working from home really takes the edge off
I think the point is to not give us time off because if you have time off you have time to think critically about how horrid this all is and the energy to organize and change things. The few people I know who enjoy working have not had any break in employment in their lives.
Oh how much I resonate with you. I am a 34 year old guy with a PhD in electrical engineering, who spent 16 years in university and works in a well-known automotive company in EU. There is not a day that passes that I don't think about quitting my job since I started. Seeing my life getting wasted through my eyes while knowing how much potential I have is painful. Of course, I am taking action to start my own online business, but it is really difficult given that I am a corpse when I get home. As you said, there is no way people like us can adapt to this BS way of living (or can we even call it living?).
I think the best way to get out of this rat race is to find a part-time job and then do something on the side to become financially free. Easier said than done, but we gotta do it anyways, one way or another. As they say, there is no easy time to make a hard decision.
I'm glad you still feel this way, makes me feel less alone. xx
For me, doing mundane tasks 6 days a week breeds long periods of thought. Depending on your life this could be okay or your worst nightmare. After one year of job hatred - I realize I don't hate living, I just hate my life.
I found your video last year when I really needed some motivation in my life, and it really helped me realize that I need to get to work on my dreams and goals that I have procrastinated on. Just want to say Thanks for inspiring me!!
As someone who just escaped the most dead end job that is full time fundraising, I'm so relieved to be free of this dread filled cycle of rejection, pandering, quotas, coaching sessions that blamed me for my shortcomings, so on 'n so forth.
I also have no desire to work full time. I am a Staff Accountant and I feel like my life is wasting away in an office. My husband and I are debt free as of 2 weeks ago. We have a 2 year old and a baby girl coming in August. My husband currently cares for our son and various flexible gig economy jobs so he can take our son with him. He actually makes quite a bit of money. Aside from my full time job I have 2 very flexible part time bookkeeping jobs where I'm able to take my son to. I also have a few bookkeeping clients. I am going to use my 12 week bonding leave to determine if we will be fine without my full time job. I am so over it, I can feel my performance declining because I am so bored sitting in an office all day. I should be spending this time with my son and husband. Everyday I thinking about how I can't wait to be on maternity leave! With no debt I am sure my plan will work, especially of I can get a few more clients and I'll be able to work on my own schedule.
Had a mild mental breakdown at work today, which led me to thought trains and google searches that brought me here. Watched your first video and this one immediately after. The metabolism drop is very real. I went from restaurant work to an office job, and lost the abs, started breathing heavily after mild exertion, etc. started lifting! The muscle being sore and repairing while you sit around all day really helps, since you have a caloric need again. Thing is… working out takes time out of your day, of course. :(
It's rough isn't it! I took for granted my step count and high metab while working in retail, wish I could have it all back apart from the job
I'm so happy I found this video. Thank you so much for sharing your feelings! I have never related to a video more. It feels nice to not be alone.
Working full time is the biggest joke on us working class. We are essentially slaves…paid just enough to get by but not enough to retire until your almost dead.
You literally are saying everything on my mind. I did the same thing - worked in sales for a Gym - where I worked literally 12 hour days (I'm not kidding) Then quit then went into an office job - but HATE sitting down. I feel like I'm eroding and everyone is complacent. Society tells us to do this, friends do also. Hell, if there are people out there that make millions playing video games online then what's stopping you from doing something utterly out of the norm?
The best job, is not having a job. That doesn't mean you won't make money though...think about it. If you do what you love to do, you do it well and when you do something well, you get paid for it.
Can’t do a completely standing job or sitting job, I love to write, I love to read and I have gotten into video games, now if only there were a way to make money with that.
@@melindagallegan5093 there is
I love how genuine and transparent you are. It's as though you're talking to me, please never change your authenticity, it's so refreshing to witness on RUclips 👑. A lot of what you said really resignate with me on so many levels... I could go on and on of how much I despise the 9 to 5 lifestyle or having to work full time in general, year after year. I am still battling this harsh reality and dread having to wake up super early Mon-Fri especially when I feel exhausted, overworked and under appreciated. It's equivalent to a nightmare I have to repeat on daily basis, it is soul sucking. Life would be so much better if it were easy to make a living from enjoying your favorite hobby. Or even creating a fulfilling job from something that's fun and brings joy. Not to make this too lengthy but if you think about it working constantly for somebody else full time is essentially modern day slavery. Freedom would be working for yourself or whenever you want, having flexibility. The older I get the more I value time than money. Yes we need money to survive but I've come to the realization that if we didn't need money to pay bills, buy food and travel... Most of us would spend more time having fun with family/friends, etc. Your previous video titled "the reality of working full time" is what brought me to this one :). Nonetheless, I am sincerely wishing you a better upcoming New Year. You have also earned a new subscriber. God bless you. Peace and love 👑🙏🏾💛
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“30 hours a week sat on my ass.” 😂😂 I relate to this so much
I am so happy to find yet another video from someone that has their eyes opened. Myself I always hated working for a boss, asking for a day off to go to the doctor or whatever. I am figuring it out and finally found something I can do for myself. My own online business, making my own plans, I am almost there. Hope you figure it out too for yourself.
Some people who work part time in retail ( supermarkets mainly) can't make ends meet to pay rent and other bills and need to work full time. However, when approaching employers to request full time hours in order to afford the basics like rent and food, all to often the request is denied because it's not in the company budget!
I relate to this a lot I'm 20 (21 in a few days) and am just about to start my first job which is part-time, I always got upset that I couldn't find a job but sitting down and thinking about what full time entails always made me feel miles better. working full time seems horrible Idk why people do it hopefully I can make ends meet just working part-time but it's not likely.
My dream job is being a game reviewer is what I do on my channel, unfortunately, I don't have many subscribers so making this my job is definitely not in the cards (at least not right now) so I'm probably gonna have to work a regular job which I dread since I'm the creative type and my mental health is always affected when I try to go down the conventional route like going to uni or working a proper job like everyone else.
Sorry for gushing and just telling you my life story lmao, I'm just happy there are people out there that get me and the way I feel about working
perfect timing to see this video, wasn't feeling great over it all so stumbled across the old one yday and now this has arrived!
Glad you're here :-)))
Thank you for updating us. I stumbled across the first video one night whilst very down about the mundane lifestyle of working full time and it really helped hearing somebody feeling the same. I work in an office also now and totally get how it's perceived as having more time off (weekends) but in reality it feels pointless. Agree with the effects on our bodies too, it doesn't feel natural being sat down so much and I feel a lot more aches and pains than I should for my age. Best of luck moving forwards, I hope you find something that makes you happier 💕
Thanks Lizzie! Hope you make it doing whatever fulfills you :-)
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I watched this video and your initial video about hating working. I completely agree. I also value time so immensely, as you do.
I will say, I have felt like this most of my working life. However, I'm approaching 40 years old, and my perspective has recently changed. I stopped looking at work like work, but as an opportunity to serve others. Even if it's at the expense of so spending less time with my beloved family, I'm contributing so much to the world, one service act at a time. It honestly helps. Eventually, you'll find your calling, but you have to change your perspective first.
Thank you for being so honest with us.
Ahhhhhh *sighs* the eternal dilemma. I’m also in my 20’s. I’m 27 now and also have that feeling of spending my best years/my life away. I know what I would love to do, but it is a very “niche” market, completely overcrowded, so I do it as an hobby, at night. It feeds my soul :) I don’t really have any goals right now in my day job, but I have goals and dreams for my hobby :)
Keep grinding with the side hustle though! You never know what could happen
I’ve felt like this the whole time i’ve worked. I hate it, i’m autistic so hanging on to a job where people don’t value you and you get so burned out is so hard. I’m a charted accountant and a talented artist and I feel like I put a lot of effort in but it never pays off, I don’t feel like the work world really had a place for me to be happy, its sad.
I completely understand where you're coming from it's so funny to hear and you say that, because I think these things regularly
Deeply relatable! I appreciate that work gives me the money I need to do things, but not that it leaves me no time to do them...
Like you I still have no idea what I want to do, in reality I'd probably be content working part time instead of full time, the trade off would probably be far more bearable and at least leave more time for hobbies and creativity, but even that feels like a dream, especially living in London!
Most days at work I'm like I did all my work assignments and I got 5 more hours to go so why the hell do I have to still be here for the next remaining 5 hours if my work is done, and you don't want the boss to know that because they will give you some busy work to waste your time and crush your soul.
I was in this position... if you complain it will just make things worse
I feel the same pain and it’s really nice to know that I’m not crazy. Working become something painful. 😓
I know this video is a couple of years old, but I stumbled upon it, and I TRULY needed the sense of solidarity. Thank you for your videos about the nature of dead-end full-time work.
I'm generally a practical and easy to please person who just likes having stuff to do and nice people around me, but my mood has become SO unpredictable since working hospitality full-time (its been a few years of it now and how wild the hours get messes me up). It's similar struggles to your last retail job.
When Im at work and have hit my flow, I'm happy and bubbly, but I emotionally crash so regularly. Not knowing what I want to do and our 'success driven' culture makes me feel like a failure. I keep wondering if an office job will be better, but I feel if I did switch, a lot of me will miss my hospitality job for various reasons (even for reasons as shallow as its an aesthetically pleasing place to work). I feel like I must be ungrateful for not being satisfied/being indecisive, and that leads to some depression.
I hope you keep doing these updates. This is like Noah Kalina's "Everyday" except that instead of every day, it's every few years and it's about being unhappy in your job and how it changes a person.