Tackling BASEMENT of HOARDED HOME to PREVENT EVICTION
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- Опубликовано: 28 сен 2024
- This is part 4 of Julie's home where my daughter Kaylee and I are working on the basement, sorting out boxes and bags into categories like Corelle, silverware, clothes, linens, kitchen items, pillows, bags, but especially SHOES. You won't believe how many shoes we found and how many were missing their mate.
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I know some people don't understand the banter between my daughter and I and it may come off as disrespectful, but I assure you it's all in good fun. I think she's absolutely hilarious and have a lot of fun with her!
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I would love too see more of you both together ❤
💕Love the fun you have with your daughter. These times are precious.
"You only smile when you hurt me.." pretty much define every teenager 😂 But, Mom, she's here among this mountain of a pile of stuff in someone's basement helping you out. So, she LOVES YOU and loves spending time with you. You did a great job as a mom! ❤
You two did an angel's work in there. 🙏
Lol! Yeah, she makes me laugh...even if I pretend otherwise. 😁
Your banter with your kid is hilarious 😂 That was my favorite part of this series.
I'm glad you think so because others were quite offended by it and I thought she was being disrespectful.🤔😅 I definitely would not have put it in my video if I thought she was being disrespectful. This is just the way we are, and I love spending time with her! This one was also my favorite video of this series because of my daughter. I laughed all the way through the editing process.🤣
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpit’s wild that people were offended! I could tell you guys were having a blast joking around with each other
When she said, "I do my laundry *fast*. It's like going from guitar to electric guitar." OMG! She is totally my new best friend!
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You swimming in the pillows was the funniest thing to watch 😂 The home owner really could organize a pillow fight with the whole neighborhood! 😊
😂 it was a pillow fight. Bonnie's the best.
The part of the video that I'm missing right before that was me calling for my mom who is upstairs to come help me dig out of the mess and she wasn't responding, but after I swam over the pillows and went upstairs, I found that she was stuck behind her own wall of things. That's the part I wish I could have included in the video that I'm now missing in that corrupted file. Oh well. At least I had a portion of it still.🤷♀️😊
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp that's hilarious! 😂
Ooh both stuck in and behind stuff .... Hilarious but also sad
Hahaha!! It really makes it less overwhelming when you can have some fun too 😅 @@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp
I watch you for 1/2hour….then i go through my house and find afew things to pitch. Repeat.
And my house is already decluttered. But your videos inspire me to find even more things to get rid of!
I love to hear that!😁❤️
I love your daughter’s sense of humor.
I'm so glad. I do, too. Some people really don't get it and think that she's being disrespectful, but she makes me laugh every time I'm around her.😄
I do too! As soon as I heard her talking I was like “I love this kid!”
In England they have an expression for people like Kayley: Cheeky. Not really naughty but teasing and making fun in a little "off" way. I LOVE her humor. "Wearable" and "shoeable". Cool.
I can force myself to kneed dough and make bread that way, but I prefer to put it in a mashine. Flour on my hands gives me goosebumps all over
She is a little cheeky. 😍 Oh my gosh, yes, I forgot about flour. That's another one that gives me the heebie-jeebies. It's not as bad as chalk, but still...yikes!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpI'm really good at bringing in the memory of things NOT to touch. My number one is Jellyfish - yikes.
Thank goodness I've never been stung by a jellyfish. 🤞
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp there are two types of jelly fish, the white and the red ones. The white ones are just jelly. the other ones are like stinging nettles. I like neither.
Did she say "Do you want a variety of wholesomeness? 😅 That was funny! Its great to see you two work together.
Bed, Bat & Beyond sounds like a winner. I’m in!!
My dad came up with Bed Bath and Beyoncé a long time ago, which NGL would be amazing. You're getting your towels and curtains and turn the corner and there's Beyoncé singing and dancing.
What about Bed, Bats, and Beyond? The store slowly becomes a haunted gothic castle the further back you go?
I like both these ideas. Why would Beyonce not want to spend her entire day at a store singing and dancing?😁 And I also love your second idea. That's actually right up my daughter's alley so she could help me start it. She loves horror movies and could do some cool things with that store.😂
That is wild on how many shoes there are there she has enough to start a shoe store 100% and Pillows. Anna In Ohio
Bonnie I just couldn’t! I salute you, I had second hand stress just from watching and I am a messy person. You are a trooper xx
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I think I might have already said this, but seeing the basement really brought home to me just how much stuff Julie has. It's absolutely mind blowing. It's going to take months to get through it all and I worry she might get fatigued with it all and still be adding to the hoard. You have worked so amazingly hard with all this I just hope Julie can appreciate that and keep at it.
I will actually talk a lot about how things ended up in my next video because I think, unless there are some serious changes in her mindset, I can't really do much more to help. She has got to get more stuff out of the house. It is really, really sad to see the reality of these situations and how it can feel like nothing is going to change. I have a lot of empathy for both her and her family because this is a seriously hard mental illness.😪
Cleaning out moms house and our own stuff. It is overwhelming but nearly done
If perseverance came with awards, the trophy would be yours!
The amount of work you do is truly breathtaking.
Thank you!
That piano room was amazing!
I have so much empathy for the woman who owns all this stuff. Hoping she is able to use this momentum to create some big changes in her life with the appropriate supports and help. Great job Bonnie.
Hey Bonnie… do you label the boxes as you go?
I hope so, too. Yes, I did label all the boxes with a date so that she knows when that label was from.
It has to be difficult for Julie.
When I open my bins and boxes, sometimes I am relieved to see what is in it. Ok, no bad memories in this box, or I might identify something that has an easy decision to keep or give, or something that I was looking for. So far I have only gotten a few things out the door.
Exactly 💯, I helped my neighbor clean his apartment, because it was the right 👍🏾 thing to do, and only someone who'd help, myself ❤ and didn't want him to be evicted because of. He wasn't able to, and appreciative to this day. He keeps it clean everyday since😂❤😂😊 that's what it's about... paying it forward with kindness 🌷 I've done like yourself,in my community ❤️ it keeps me from my own depression and anxiety 😔 helping others 😂 ❤, watching you to get added tips..thank you 👍🏾 for inspiring ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing, Shettikka! I love hearing stories of people helping each other. 🥰🙏
Wow Bonnie! An immense task! You did really well and I wish I had your persistence and patience! ❤😊
Thanks so much! 😊
Amazing job too All!! Soooo much stuff to go through, its overwhelming for anyone. Im sure the family is grateful for your help!! ❤🕉️
OMG, I love your daughter! She is hilarious and a little dark..I like that in a person, lol! Holy pillows Batman 😱
She's the best! I always laugh when I'm with her, even when I sound like I'm exasperated with her. We just get each other.😁
I think you and the crew have done enough for now. You have done the entire home and you have cleaned, organised, removed, as much as you can. Up to Julie where this goes next.
Exactly. I will actually talk a lot more about that very thing in the next one as it will be the final one in this series and I'm going to be a bit more candid about my experience.
Your perseverance and patience are amazing. I appreciate all the hard work you do to help others.❤
Thank you so much!
Me too. ❤❤❤😊
What an amazing job organizing everything ❤ Pillows everywhere. 😮 What a beautiful collection of them 😍 God bless all you do ❤
Thank you so much 🤗
That’s a thousand dollars just in pillows, if not more. Man. I like the “member of the free cleaning community” for the intro today.
I thought the same thing when I saw the pillow short! Throw pillows are $$$$$
Yeah, she has a small fortune just in pillows.🤔
Excellent work, Bonnie!
I have a friend that has a "pillow room" in his home. Seriously!
He probably has that many pillows in there. It is so cool, and comfy, to go there and listen to all kinds of music in candlelight. It is an immediate stress reliever.
I'm quite sure he made it for his lady guests, like me, to cuddle up. I just got a kick out of it, and we talked for hours. We still do.
I think there should be a program that donates large lots of pillows like that to make their own pillow rooms. I laugh younger in cheek, but honestly it would be excellent for mental health.
Some therapist could likely benefit from such!
I've been binging your shows and really like the organization. But. I mostly like how you talk about the hoarding being often from trauma. My home is in the worse shape ever. Listening to you, it is making sense, bc I have had a 6 surgeries in 3 years. The pain in between was terrible, as was the recovery. It has been truly traumatic. And, it is showing in my home and storage building. Just saying ... thank you for sharing your thoughts and knowledge!
May God's blessings be upon you as continue this "ministry😊" with a true "servants heart❤" for those in need!
Oh my goodness! A new business idea. Instead of all of the event centers that are popping up everywhere (at least here in Utah), we could have Pillow Palaces where there are just different rooms of different colored pillows and different textures of pillows where people come to spend an hour in a room with beautiful pillows. There would need to be a good way to sanitize them after each session, but I'm loving the thought of this... haha! Also, yes, I can imagine that you would be a little traumatized after that many surgeries in a row and not being able to do things the way you used to. I'm so sorry you are dealing with that!
Another sorting tour de force! It is miraculous what you can do, Bonnie!
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You are amazing and so nice of your daughter to come and help too! Some of the shoes were clearly worn while others looked new. Nothing worse than missing a match for a shoe you like.
Thank you. What's funny is I don't think she's actually worn any of these shoes. And I think she went on binge shopping sprees and bought all of them and then they got buried in all of this mess. That's the saddest part about this is that it seems she bought a lot of stuff for that dopamine hit, but has never actually used it or done anything with it. It breaks my heart because her mind is so broken.😪
Great job and alot of hard work! Amazing! I helped my daughter organize her pantry. She could barely get in there! Lol! It took us 2 days! I had her really think about all the stuff she had and was able to convince her to throw some stuff away. It looked better but I wish I could have done more.
Isn't it crazy the amount of time it can take to clean and organize one little area? I'm always shocked at how far off I am on my estimation of how long something will take. And I totally understand wanting to do more. It's a lot easier to do that with someone else's stuff because you want to just toss half of it. 😅I'm sure she appreciated the help.😊
You are doing an excellent job. I know many people may think sorting it all but not getting rid of anything is useless, but this is huge first step in the process for the home owner. She’s letting you into her home, touching her stuff, and she’ll see the multiples of everything she has. And it’s getting everything up off the floor, consolidated, organized, making a path for fire and safety. If she were open to seeing a therapist, maybe she would eventually let you take the next step…letting go of some of the stuff. You have a heart of gold ❤🇨🇦
I agree it does help to have everything in one place. I think the biggest struggle here is that she has limited time to get through all of this so that she isn't evicted (I think end of May is the deadline) and I don't think she is making progress quick enough. She kept canceling or wanting to reschedule things, so it was a struggle to get things organized enough for her to really go through and make the best decisions. I'll actually talk more about some of the sad realities of this situation on my next video. Hoarding disorder is a seriously rough thing for both the hoarder and their family. It's been eye-opening to witness it firsthand. She is getting therapy, but I'm afraid it's not the kind she really needs...more like talk therapy rather than CBT which I understand is the best treatment for hoarding disorder. So, we will see what happens. I have other jobs I'm working on, but my mom is still keeping tabs on the situation and hopefully she will be ready for me to come back in May to help with one last push to keep her from being evicted.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpYes, people with hoarding disorders don’t seem to do well with absolute deadlines and pressure. It took years for them to get like this and it takes years to acknowledge they have a problem and learn how to overcome it. I have a couple family members that suffer from this. For them it is because of trauma and loss. I didn’t mean to come across as judging or be critical. I only mean to say thank you for trying to help. It’s unfortunate this case has a hard deadline and eviction.
Awwww, i totally get your banter together. My son is 'on the spectrum' with A.D.H.D & autism. He is probably the funniest person i know & has me in stitches all the time. Sometimes people dont get our relationship & may view him as being disrespectful. But he is anything but!
Hes extremely loving and kind, even though he will be 30 soon, and has moved away with his girlfriend, he still calls me every day to chat & check on me. He visits often & i visit him & his lovely girlfriend.
There was a time that i was so worried about him. He barely left the house and had zero self confidence. But he is so happy now and a young man i am very proud of.
Please let me assure you, that patience (which you obviously have) and love (also obvious) between you two, and good communication, will conquer any problems. You are so lucky to have each other. 😊
So if anyone doesn't 'get it', that is their problem not yours.
Sorry to waffle on. 🤦🏻♀️
I think what you do is incredible btw. So kind.
Sending you lots & lots of love from the U.K.
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Same situation here. I actually had to come watch the video after the author posted about the responses she had had about this video. It all looks and sounds pretty familiar. When every thing is hard the dark humour can be the only think that saves you
I love you guys so much for understanding and getting our banter together. I love my daughter so much and find her absolutely hilarious! She is one of my favorite people to be around because she always has me laughing! So, thank you for being part of our "tribe."❤️🙏😊
@@lisabullock5864 absolutely! Sending you a hug too! 🤗 X
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp you are so welcome hun. 🤗🩷Xxx
Great job with all of this, I look forward to seeing you help Mira 💕💕💕
Thank you! 🤗
Beautiful lady you had your hands full on this one. This looks amazing God bless you 🙏❤️
Thank you so much 🤗
The plug is worn out and needs to be replaced. You're doing amazing as a cleaner and a mother. You have far more patience then I. ❤❤❤
Amazing job! You work so hard Bonnie!
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AMAZING your daughter and mum has helped you take on an enormous task and you are all inspirational I’ve so enjoyed your videos so thank you so so much .
Eva from Scotland xxx
Awwwww ❤ you mentioned me again! Thank you so much!!! I got over 400 new subscribers for your mentioning!! You’re so awesome!! One day maybe I’ll come help you clean haha I promise not throw pillows at you 😂
I'm so happy you got so many new subscribers! And if you do ever come help me, I would totally let you throw pillows at me. I don't mind.🤷♀️😁
“Oh look more shoes”
“Mom, I am doing a process” 😂😂
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A job well done! Thanks for sharing the footage of your interactions with your daughter! Looking forward to the next video!
Thank you!😊
Great job. Unbelievable amount of shoes.
Amazing job as always Bonnie, don’t be disheartened! You have made a huge visible difference and a definite positive impact on the owners quality of life. Keep at it😊 take care, from the UK Xxx
👞 👟 👠 I found a match! I found a match!! Nope no match 😂
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Well done .Never seen so much stuff ❤
I love the interactions you have with your daughter - it sounds like my daughter and myself!!! ❤
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You totally just unlocked my memory with The Shoe People! Holy cow, that was deeply hidden in my brain 🤣🤯
I actually know nothing about The Shoe People. I was just thinking about a "shoe person" in my head and wondered if there was some kind of picture out there of a shoe person, and then I stumbled across The Shoe People. I don't remember the show at all even though apparently it was in 1987. It must not have been on TV very long because I have no memory of it. It was just funny that I actually found a picture to go along with the dumb thought in my head.😅
Looking forward to you and Mirs
My mom is a shoe hoarder. In fact it is clothing in general. When we moved my parents out of a rental house and into another one closer to us, my niece and I found a pile of shoes almost 4ft tall. Most of them weren't in this good of shape. A lot were moldy and falling apart. When we tried to get rid of the moldy shoes she had a HUGE hissy fit, insisting they could be cleaned and worn. We had he sit down and try on about 6 pair that disintegrated before they got on her feet. My dad ended up having to take her out of the house while we got rid of them. 19 bags of nasty shoes.
That is heartbreaking. 😞It's really sad when hoarding gets to the point where even garbage becomes valuable to a person. I was thankful that at least almost everything in this house was in pretty good condition.
I can relate to this. Have been helping a friend who I think has difficulty with compulsive shopping and hoarding. Her apartment was very mouldy and a lot of her hoarded clothing and shoes that had never been worn were mouldy and in piles mixed with trash.
It made the cleanup so much easier when we tried to make an agreement that if it was really mouldy we would throw it away, so we really only tried to clean and save the ones that she got upset over. Many of the mouldy items she was able to see as trash eventually - although we built up to that and skipped a lot of stuff to start with
I didn't try to fight her on it - I just said we could try to clean things, skipped it, or even just put them away dirty and moved on. There was so much that it was about pushing on with easy decisions and coming back to anything hard another time when it might seem less hard.
We made huge progress following Dana K White's steps about trash, easy stuff that has a home already, and donating. And I talked about the container concept a lot.... straightforward stuff like all the clothing needed to fit into the cupboards and drawers and couldn't be in extra bags on the floor (I blamed the mould, which helped). And we actually got there in the end ❤ but I think that gentle, factual/non emotional process, and skipping hard things really helped her make big changes without too many tears.
Hopefully you found a way as well over time.. its so hard though especially when the hoarding gets so bad.
Helping people with hoarding disorder is so hard and doesn't always seem logical I think, but can definitely feel a huge sense of victory when you start to see some floor and wall!!🎉
Thank you for sharing that experience. I love Dana K. White's method of tackling easy stuff first to just get those decision-making muscles primed. 💪 Sadly, I'm not sure that she is making decisions quickly enough to make the deadline so that she doesn't get evicted. Every time I would think we were making some good progress, it seemed we took two steps back and had to start over again. I will talk about this in my next video, but I will basically wrap up my experience at this house because I think I've pretty much done all I can do and have turned things back over to the family. It breaks my heart, but I can't force her to get rid of things and it's sad that she can't see that she's going to lose it ALL unless she gets rid of SOME now. 😞
@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp I really hope it turns out okay but I can understand why it wouldn't. It's such a hard thing to overcome even with so much help and support. You've done your best and worked a miracle. Nothing more you can do than that.
Woke up Sunday and whoo-hoo, Beautiful Bonnie uploaded !!! I haven't even watched yet lmbo 😅😅😅
You're the best!😊❤️
Your daughter is hilarious 😂 good comeback “you don’t know about you illegitimate brother”
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Bravo 👏 for your labors! I wouldn't even consider doing a job like that. Just would trigger too many negative thoughts and emotions and I'd be a massive wreck for my own family to deal with at the end of the day. I'm all for making a mess go away and cleaning and actually enjoy that but just to make other stacks and piles of stuff that isn't going away, just sorted and moved to a new pile or stack, nope. Not doing that. 😢
I will be talking a lot more candidly about this whole experience in my next video/ last video of this series because it has been a very interesting and different experience than any of the other homes I have cleaned, for sure. It's been a huge learning experience and I definitely have a lot of empathy for those with hoarding disorder and their families. It is a seriously hard mental illness.😞
Thanks for another great video of decluttering. I feel a little bit better after watching your video. I have such a mess at my house. You’re giving me encouragement that I can clean it up one trash bag at a time.
Aw, I'm so glad!🤗❤️
I enjoyed your small talk, minor shenanigans etc.
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❤bless you beautiful mess!😢 your a great mother !!
Thank you so much, Carolyn!😊❤️🙏
You are so amazing!!! I would not have the patience 😂 And I thought you & your daughter were adorable together!!! 💜
Thank you so much!!😁
Omg ye worked on Valentines Day that’s love of the job 🥰 or madness 😂 With so much stuff I’m not surprised you kept changing how you were going to organise it. Bonnie you are absolutely amazing to help anyone in this situation. I would have cried so many times with so many emotions. With the stuff ye didn’t sell was it donated or did it come back into the house. The space you made in the basement was brilliant. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏👍💪🙏💐👢🩴👞👟🥾🥿👡👠🕶👓
To answer your question about the stuff being donated, I actually couldn't tell you because I wasn't able to go back the next week like I was supposed to to finish things up and get my final footage because she woke up sick the morning that I was supposed to go and so I wasn't able to see if things actually got taken to the thrift store or if they came back into the house. Sadly, my guess is that they never made it to the thrift store, but I hope I'm wrong. I will talk a lot more candidly about this whole experience in my next video as I think there is not anything more I can do to help this woman until she gets some serious therapy. It's really, really sad.😞
We need a shirt with oh more pillows 😊 you did such a good job with your daughter and mom! Thank you so much for this video and the motivation to declutter my house more ❤
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You are a champion pillow swimmer! Hugs!
Wow!! Good job Bonnie and team. Tremendous amount of flammable material in that basement. I wonder if Julie appreciates how concerning this is for her family and her neighbors. 🎉I hope she can see her way clear to get rid of a huge amount.
That's actually really good motivation for getting rid of stuff if you live in a wildfire- prone area. It helped me get rid of a lot after we had a close call. You look at all the extra stuff as fuel for fire.
That's kind of how this all started was her neighbor being concerned about a fire since this is a duplex, and she should absolutely be concerned because, you're right, that is a lot of flammable material. And especially where the outlets seem to have an issue with things staying plugged in, if the plug is halfway hanging out, that is a huge fire risk! It is pretty scary.
@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp thank you for the extra insight Bonnie. It is a troubling situation. I think it must be extremely difficult to get the hoarder to see things differently...shift their long held perspective...even in the face of all the fire fuel and bad wiring. If they have been made clearly aware and continue to hang on to mega boxes of stuff, I don't know if I could go back. This is a very hard place to be, for you. My heart goes out to you. Wondering if the fire Marshall walked thru w her might change her mind.🙏
There is definitely something broken with the wiring in her brain right now and I don't think she can make good sound decisions. It's heartbreaking to watch. 🤔😕
You are doing awesome. Myself, I prefer to sort like items and toss trash then start the storing of all sorted items.
Good videos wish you more views.
I appreciate that!
What a mess good luck!
I love organizing, and you do it so well, but I have to tell you that this house gave me anxiety and I could barely get through the entire video. I just felt like I was suffocating. Good job again, Bonnie!
I love, love, love organizing, but it does get frustrating when I can't complete a job because there are so many missing "parts" (i.e. matches to shoes). This entire experience has really tested my patience, but I also have a lot of empathy towards the homeowner and know that she really needs some serious therapy to actually be successful at this. I have done as much as I think I can do and now it will be up to her and her family.🤔
That basement looks fabulous and hopefully she can use that room to organize things better.
she won't unless she gets therapy
Not to spoil the last video of this house, but I really doubt that she actually used it for that purpose. I will talk about how things ended up as far as my involvement in my next video. But, like @fjkldasdf responded, I think she will need some serious therapy in order to part with a lot of this stuff. I hate even saying that with all the time that was spent here, but I think that's the sad reality.😪
Tobin the cat is so cute.
Thanks for the video!! Loved it
So glad!😊❤️
I hope Julie can get some counselling for her issues. If she could manage to part with any clothes, shoes and blankets there are plenty of people who would appreciate it if she could donate some things as well. I know this is very difficult for her and I am in no way finding fault. I think she is very brave to have started this process. Please do not apologise for your conversations with your daughter. You are both amazing people with such bright minds. Remember what other people think of you is none of your business. If you do not love them their opinion is of no consequence whatsoever. Whenever you can get the videos out is fine, you are a busy mum and it should be family first. Thanks from Canada.
Thank you for your comments. I really hope she does get the help she needs to part with most of this stuff. The funny thing is, she used to help a lot of people in the same way that I do now and so I know there is that very compassionate side of her where she wants to help others. I'm not sure she is seeing the connection between giving some of this stuff away without selling it and blessing someone else's life because of her willingness to give up that item. It's such a hard mental illness to understand and to treat.
And thank you for your comments about my interactions with my daughter. She's pretty special to me and it's not really a conventional type of relationship, but it works for us.😁
Good video!!!
I don’t think anyone can really understand a mother daughter relationship, clearly you love each other. Xx
I'm so glad you can see that we do actually love each other despite the fact my daughter talks about beating the crap out of me with whatever that thing was.. haha! 😅We just have a very unique relationship, but we definitely love each other.😊❤️
What a huge undertaking! I am wondering if you feel theres never going to be an end! You are doing an awesome job in spite of it. 😊
Well, I will talk about that more and my next video. Sadly, things came to a screeching halt on the last day that I was supposed to be there. I didn't get nearly what I wanted to done, but, again, I will talk about that experience in my next video.😬
Sure looks better than it did
I very much enjoyed your bantering with your daughter. 😂 Its my kind of humor, too. 😊
I don't comment often, because I mostly watch on my TV, but I kind of relate to how challenging it is to "get rid" of stuff. I don't really have an issue with hoarding exactly, except I used to have well over a thousand books and I've slowly dwindled it down to less than 200. I also used to have about 6 of those 18 gallon sterelite totes full of school supplies, for some reason. 🤷🏻♀️ Lol. I did end up donating it to a local church for their school program, but I don't have any children and its been a couple of decades since I was in college, but for some reason I had a thing for school supplies. 🤦🏻♀️😆
Anyway, after my mom passed away, it took me about 7 years to finally finish sorting through and letting go of most of her stuff. She didn't have nearly the hoard this lady does, but it was a lot. Very overwhelming for me, so I just think you're amazing for helping people with this and I hope you give yourself lots of grace in those moments when it starts to feel like a lot for you. 🙏🏻💐
Take care and thank you for sharing your family with us. Many blessings! 🙏🏻💜
Thank you for sharing your experience. I think there are very few people who don't struggle with getting rid of at least a couple of different types of things, whether that's paperwork, pillows, clothes, boxes, or school supplies. And it doesn't always make sense why we have attachment to certain things. So, you are definitely not alone in the struggle. Good boxes really are hard for me to get rid of even though I know I have plenty of them and should just use the ones I have before I start collecting anymore. The Human Experience can be really baffling sometimes. I just love that we all have our struggles. Even if it's not with the same thing, just knowing that everyone does struggle with something is unifying and makes you feel connected to other people. Good for you for being able to get rid of some of that stuff you were hanging on to for so long. It's not easy, but it does feel good once you have managed to do it.👏❤️
My son is exactly like her, could we be related?😃
I love her!
Oh, I'm so glad you understand our odd and sometimes dark humor. Not everyone does. She is one of a kind and I love her to pieces! How old is your son? Maybe they should meet. Or not. That could be a little dangerous...😂
See you on the next one, get some rest. ❤
The chalk thing makes sense to me. Anyone who has choked on chalk dust would have the same feeling. It is so dry and clings. The wood thing makes sense as well because splinters are the worst.
It would make sense if that's what actually made me feel like I can't breathe, but even the thought of chalk and touching it makes my chest feel tight and I have to take deep breaths. I agree about the wood. I don't like the feel of wood after my hands have been wet or touching paper, which makes sense because it is wood, but I can touch it. It's not my favorite, but I am definitely not as a verse to it as my daughter. And yes, splinters do suck.😄
Loved the interaction between you and your daughter! Thankfully, there are people in the world like you with such patience that c😢an help others like this. Honestly, I don't know if I could handle it, I would get too frustrated with the amount of stuff, especially with things like the shoes. One thing I can say though is at least it seems that Julie cares about her stuff because even though there's a lot she's kept things clean so they can be donated or sold.
Well, my next video I am going to share a little bit more of my raw feelings because I definitely have been frustrated with some things. I know this has been hard for her, but I don't know how much more I can do to help her if she doesn't allow more things to go. But, yes, I have been grateful that at least everything is pretty clean.
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Funny thing, I have learnt a month ago that I have an elder brother... apparently my parents and three sisters are very good at secrets... they all have known since 2016)))
Oh wow! I watch a channel from Canada, Curiosity Incorporated, and he has found out that he has two siblings he never knew about from 2 different moms.
That is so crazy! It's happening so much more now that there are ways of finding out that stuff through DNA testing and the genealogy websites. My niece and nephew who were given up for adoption over 30 years ago tracked down a relative so that they could find their biological mom, my sister-in-law, so it is pretty cool the things that can happen with all of this new DNA stuff. I guess it's not cool if you were trying to keep those secrets, though! That can create some big drama in families.😬😊
Hoarding is so so devastating 😢 from what I've seen I don't see how she avoids issues with the hoa. Hopefully her family support stays strong as she's going to need it. But the burn out her family will experience is real 😢. I hope you put a firm boundary on how long you will pay for that storage pod.
Yeah, it has been a long road for the poor family. I will talk more about this in my next video, but, sadly, I had to call it quits last week after she canceled on me again. It was supposed to be my last day there before we took a break until May while I worked on other houses and I couldn't get the final footage that I wanted. She wanted to see if I could come a different day, but I only have certain days that I can work on it and can't be adjusting my schedule all the time. I have talked to the family so that they know I'm turning things back over to them and I'm also turning the Pod over to her brother who will be in charge of it. This has been a very challenging experience. It makes me sad for both her and her family. I just don't know what more to do.
It is amazing how people hold on to stuff that they can’t see and aren’t using. There is a declutter I watched who said, “If this item is so important to you then why is it covered in dust or in a box under boxes?”
Yes, sadly there is something not working right in their brain and, as soon as they see an item, it immediately becomes valuable even if they haven't seen it in years. It's a really sad disorder.😞
This reminds me a lot of an analogy that I often use. Let's say your pickup truck can carry 2500 lb. You can carry 1000 lb pretty easy most of the time. 2000 lb? Sure. 3000 lb? Mmmmaybe. 5000, 10,000. Ok, now that truck will not move. If you try to move, you're likely to just break down completely. When someone is overloaded, like that room, it's just too much. Luckily, Bonnie, the Big Rig, is here to save the day!
Also, kudos for your daughter wanting to use that draft dodger as a weapon. I've always thought it would be so satisfying to swing that thing around and hit, no, not a person 😏. She'll do well in a second-rate prison movie. Of course, she'll have to change her name to Gerta or or Bertha.
Thanks again!
I love your analogy! Not sure that I have saved the day though. Wait until my next video where I will tell you the end result of all of this. It's not quite what I was hoping for, but it has been a huge learning experience.
And I'm so glad you weren't offended by my daughter and her dark humor. She could totally be in a prison movie. She used to make movies with her friends as a teenager and they were hilarious. That was never a theme, though. She still hangs out with those same people who she made the movies with. I will have to make that suggestion.😄
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp If nothing else, you saved MY day!
Omg, your fear of touching chalk! It's not a fear, maybe more of a sensory issue for me, but I hate the feeling of anything powdery/sandy on my fingers/under my nails, like ya it's feel like I kinda can't breath if that happens and I always felt like I'm weird because of that 😂 Like I would prefer to have hands caked in mud, but dry chalky fingertips no thank you haha!
Yep. Even talking about it, I start to feel a little out of breath.😬 I also have this weird thing where, if I wear sunglasses, I don't feel like I can hear as well.🤷♀️😊 I definitely have some very weird sensory issues.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp You just reminded me that the first time I wore my glasses full time (I use to just put them on in class to see the board) I couldn't eat without wanting to take them off😂 But it didn't last very long I believe since I had forgot about it😝.
After the yard sale, did the leftovers go to donation?
That was the plan and I really hope so, but I don't actually know as I didn't go back the next week like I was supposed to because she woke up sick the day that I was supposed to be there to finish things up and get my final footage. I was really sad about that and even insisted on still coming and working in the basement on my own while she rested, but she said she wasn't up for that.😞 So, I'm not sure, but somehow, I really doubt it. This has definitely been one long and exhausting learning experience, and it makes me really sad to witness how difficult this is for both her and her family. I will be talking more about that in my next (and last) video of this house.
Wow! Pillows R Us!
Good thing you were a gymnast!
Too bad they don’t have “pillow swimming” in the Olympics! You would’ve won GOLD!
I think me and all of the other RUclips cleaners should come up with a cleaning Olympics where we have events like pillow swimming and Lightning Fast folding. I think speed dishwasher loading would be a well attended event. Oh wow, you have got my brain juices flowing. I'm going to have to think of more events to add to this and try to coordinate something.🤔🤣🤣🤣❤️
Honest question. It seems to me that this is not so much a hoarding situation as a shopping addiction. She seems to not, that I've been able to see, have major issues with discarding stuff. Both need our compassion.
It's funny you ask that question because, while it may seem she doesn't have a problem getting rid of stuff and that's what she told me from the very beginning, there has been hardly anything that has actually left this house. 😬I'm going to sum up my experience in my next video as I think I am done at this house. I've done really all I can do and, until she is ready to part with more things, I can't just keep organizing and shifting stuff around. So, stay tuned...😉
Oh dear. I didn't fully understand the situation. I hope, for her sake, that she starts to discard. Keep your chin up!
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Hi. I just started watching your channel and truly enjoy all so far. But if I may, your teenage daughter?, she's a teen, right? Even kidding, she should use other words when kidding w you. Nowadays its too weird what social media teaches young adults and parents need to be more parents than friends. Just a thought, but you can always tell me to mind my own business. Either way, I love how you help people and go the extra mile. ❤
Hahaha...yeah, I get it. I knew some people wouldn't understand our relationship, but I actually love our interactions. We are both on the spectrum, so I'm not sure if that has anything to do with it, but I love hanging out with her (she's 21 BTW, but could still pass as 16). She's quirky and weird and understands me better than almost anyone. So, yes, I'm sure it looks disrespectful at times, but I love every minute I spend with her. 😊❤️
Save the blessed sign and add the New Zealand pronunciation Blessed pron.: buh - leased. Say it its hilarious. 😎
I love it! I would love to live in New Zealand. It sounds like such a pleasant place.😊
I pull the plug prongs apart or push them closer together before i plug into the loose socket. it works tho im sure im breaking some OSHA or federal law 😂
I've done that with my own plugs in my home. I tried that here and it still would fall out. I don't know what is wrong with some of the outlets in her house. I was happy when I found a couple of outlets that actually allowed me to plug in my phone to charge without it falling right out.😄
Wow there is enough shoes for a large homeless shelter and pillows for 20 houses. There has to be a purge
For sure👍
Any electricians feel free to correct me, but I seem to remember hearing that plugs should not be really loose in outlets. They might want to get that checked. I think plugs are supposed to fit tightly (so they don't hang out halfway causing a fire hazard).
Thank you for bringing that up because I was quite concerned about it myself as it is a fire hazard to have plugs hanging halfway out of the outlet and, with a hoarded home, you definitely don't want any increase risk of fire.😬
Your daughter should go with you on every visit.
I would love that! She cracks me up. Even though I sound like I'm being stern with her, this is just the way we banter back and forth. I just love her to death!
Wonderful daughter to help! You two act just like sisters picking at each other, lol.
That's how I have always looked at our relationship. As much as I want to be the mother figure, we just have this odd way of interacting. I have said several times while joking around with her, "what is wrong with us?" It's definitely a very different mother/daughter relationship, but it works for us. I just love her to pieces and find her hilarious!😁❤️
Your daughter is hilarious! Bring her around more often!
I try to get her there as often as I can. She's pretty busy, though. I always enjoy my time with her even with her violence. We just share that dark humor.😄
I know I already commented, but just moving things around doesn't make any sense to me. Why not have the owner down there to sort in piles to donate or discard. I'm sorry to say this, but I feel doing things this way appears to be enabling the hoarder. This is not said to be mean. I'm an almost 76 year old lady who so enjoys your videos.
You are spot on, actually. In my final video of this house, I will be talking a lot more about how things have ended up and if doing things the way that the owner wanted actually improved anything. This has been quite a learning experience and I am not sure if I can do another hoarder house unless I know they are actually ready to get rid of a lot of stuff.
Absolutely! I do piles for: “Trash” “Keep” “Donate” “Sell” “Recycle”
Cardboard Boxes and Paperwork/Junk Mail seen to be my ultimate nemesis when it comes to accumulating unnecessary stuff.
Toss the junk mail daily. Break down and Recycle boxes daily or as soon as they arrive. You might try a freedom filer to help you tame the paper.❤❤ regularly toss expired stuff. Best wishes. ❤❤🎉 you can do this!!
I'm a hoarder at the beginning of my clean-up/deal with hoarding journey. Admittedly I have a small a fraction of a hoard that Julie has. But what I'm struggling with right now is the sorting. I really have to struggle past perfectionism & executive decision making to just set up containers to sort into. So this help could really assist Julie! Julie could come down, see the tower of shoes, be sick and tired of it, and say "let's just get it out of here". OR she could be petrified to get rid if it and just add boxes of new shoes. Hoarding is a complicated mental health condition (I have a few others I'm managing (depression, bpd) and for me it's the last one I don't have a handle on yet). Hoarding impulses are mystifying and incredibly frustrating for me as a hoarder. So anyway, tldr, organizing things actually could be a big help to a hoarder. ❤
They are donating, they are having a yard sale and the owner now has a space where she can do sorting. All of those were addressed during the video.
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Clearly, I am not a shoe person. I have 5 (five) pairs in my rotation (sandals, black flats, brown ankle boots, black ankle boots, and a pair of Converse sneakers). And 2 pairs of formal heels just in case. Lol.
That sounds pretty much like me. I have more athletic type shoes than I ever have before just because of my cleaning business and rotating through those since I wash pairs in between cleanings, but other than that, you pretty much described my shoes. I have never really understood the whole shoe obsession.🤷♀️😊
Cushions for SALE $1 each
Your daughter and your relationship is similar to mine and my son, joking and goofy. Next time if you have an issue with an electrical plug in just try spin kicking it😂 just kidding been watching to much Mack but seriously try pinching the plug in probes a little bit towards each other I have found it helps keep them in to the outlet
I think I would have been better off spin-kicking it.😂 I actually did try adjusting the prongs on the cord and it didn't help. There were several outlets in the house that were like this and I don't know why.🤔 At least the ones in the bathroom I was able to keep stuff plugged into.