In my marriage, "letting go" meant GRIEVING the death of what I thought our marriage would be, and letting the Lord be my husband and father of our children. There has been a great deal of pain involved in "letting go," but the blessings have been far greater. The Lord is now the center of both of our lives and that has made all the difference 🙌🏼 praise His holy name
My hubz tells his daughter and grandkids "I will help you, but I will NOT do it FOR you, or care MORE about your problem than YOU do" Great way of letting God and letting Go😊
1:07 “make sure there’s real heart change” [before you welcome him back home]. I know Leslie is not in a destructive marriage and I don’t know about the coach…but ladies, it is not that simple to distinguish real heart change if you are married to a destructive spouse. They are EXPERTS are faking change and they will even do all the things Leslie says are the indicators of real heart change…but once you welcome them back, they will go back to old patterns. Also don’t forget about trauma bond. Only when you’ve *lived* through this you can TRULY understand that it’s not that easy. There’s no easy solution otherwise there wouldn’t be SO many women feeling stuck and struggling.
I would have to say a lot of us have great theories - until we have actually been through something like this - it’s heart rendering and breaks you. I think most of us in this situation know no matter what choice you make, it will be hard 😢
Wow, yes I have a lot to let go of. The letting go of making mistakes was huge. I am in this process. I don't understand why I have believed some of the things I did. I did think that I needed to be perfect. I am now accepting my imperfection that I will make mistakes and I will sin. I remember a talk I heard where the father was telling a story about his daughters little doll that was broken. And I think he wanted to throw it away and or get her a new one. And he said his daughter said something like: It's doesn't have to be perfect for me to love it. That is really stuck in my mind.
There's so much in this video to unpack it's unbelievable. Leslie shines a light on so many areas of unhealthy relating in our partners but mostly in ourselves 😢. Maturing to who God made us is truly be is hard work certainly not a walk in the park.😮 This is so much so when especially when there was poor mirroring of this in your childhood followed by your now marriage and other adult relationships. I pray the Lord open our eyes to see things clearly and give us the strength and courage needed to make our way to who created us to be🙏🙏
Leslie - Did you get your tattoo at Razzouk? I just got a Jerusalem cross on mu wrist as a reminder that I need to put Him before my narcissistic husband. Thanks for your transparency and wise counsel🙏🏼
Im so sorry for the mom that lost her son. I’m wondering whether your 34 year old son is grieving the loss of his brother and doesn’t know how to communicate that
I had the same “let go” of my mother. I didn’t want to. She forced me to. Her actions again: said I do not love you. But I still took care of her. Not the way I would have liked.
Husband has said he wishes me dead twice and when he’s ready to make up , he claims he did not mean what he said , he only said it because he was angry. I now sleep in my daughters room , because I feel he means what he said , so I don’t want to sleep in the same room anymore. It hurts me very much with the words that he said about wishing me dead . Should I worry?
My h admits his issues but has many blind spots. He doesn't see the issue while in it. His mindfulness is low or very sporadic. He also has many fears he chooses not to fight. He says he's not acting out in SA PA anymore. I haven't seen evidence. His change with surrender is lacking. It's concerning. I'm not sure what to do. I have boundaries for me. We have not had relations for 3 months. Disclosure happened 4 yrs ago.
In my marriage, "letting go" meant GRIEVING the death of what I thought our marriage would be, and letting the Lord be my husband and father of our children. There has been a great deal of pain involved in "letting go," but the blessings have been far greater. The Lord is now the center of both of our lives and that has made all the difference 🙌🏼 praise His holy name
It is somehow comforting to know others in the same position
My hubz tells his daughter and grandkids "I will help you, but I will NOT do it FOR you, or care MORE about your problem than YOU do" Great way of letting God and letting Go😊
1:07 “make sure there’s real heart change” [before you welcome him back home]. I know Leslie is not in a destructive marriage and I don’t know about the coach…but ladies, it is not that simple to distinguish real heart change if you are married to a destructive spouse. They are EXPERTS are faking change and they will even do all the things Leslie says are the indicators of real heart change…but once you welcome them back, they will go back to old patterns. Also don’t forget about trauma bond.
Only when you’ve *lived* through this you can TRULY understand that it’s not that easy. There’s no easy solution otherwise there wouldn’t be SO many women feeling stuck and struggling.
I would have to say a lot of us have great theories - until we have actually been through something like this - it’s heart rendering and breaks you. I think most of us in this situation know no matter what choice you make, it will be hard 😢
I absolutely love Leslie's illustrations and analogies. They are perfect and clarify so much.
Love this! Speaks volumes and confirms I did the right thing by leaving ❤
Wow, yes I have a lot to let go of. The letting go of making mistakes was huge. I am in this process. I don't understand why I have believed some of the things I did. I did think that I needed to be perfect. I am now accepting my imperfection that I will make mistakes and I will sin. I remember a talk I heard where the father was telling a story about his daughters little doll that was broken. And I think he wanted to throw it away and or get her a new one. And he said his daughter said something like: It's doesn't have to be perfect for me to love it. That is really stuck in my mind.
soooooo good and soooooooo helpful ! Thank you!!!!
There's so much in this video to unpack it's unbelievable. Leslie shines a light on so many areas of unhealthy relating in our partners but mostly in ourselves 😢. Maturing to who God made us is truly be is hard work certainly not a walk in the park.😮 This is so much so when especially when there was poor mirroring of this in your childhood followed by your now marriage and other adult relationships. I pray the Lord open our eyes to see things clearly and give us the strength and courage needed to make our way to who created us to be🙏🙏
I love your ministry! Thank you! 🥰
Right on !❤
Excellent thanks very much. I did a Bible study on being known by God and it brought so much healing to my 💜 heart.🙏🙏
Leslie - Did you get your tattoo at Razzouk? I just got a Jerusalem cross on mu wrist as a reminder that I need to put Him before my narcissistic husband. Thanks for your transparency and wise counsel🙏🏼
Thank you! I feel there was a lot ....especially in the first half that has been keeping me stuck and not moving forward.
Amen!
Im so sorry for the mom that lost her son. I’m wondering whether your 34 year old son is grieving the loss of his brother and doesn’t know how to communicate that
Giving it to God trusting He will take good care of my problems
I had the same “let go” of my mother. I didn’t want to. She forced me to. Her actions again: said I do not love you. But I still took care of her. Not the way I would have liked.
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Wow, the stewardship part really gave me pause. Thanks very much ladies 🙏💜👍👍
Hi there! From PA
Husband has said he wishes me dead twice and when he’s ready to make up , he claims he did not mean what he said , he only said it because he was angry. I now sleep in my daughters room , because I feel he means what he said , so I don’t want to sleep in the same room anymore. It hurts me very much with the words that he said about wishing me dead . Should I worry?
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My h admits his issues but has many blind spots. He doesn't see the issue while in it. His mindfulness is low or very sporadic. He also has many fears he chooses not to fight. He says he's not acting out in SA PA anymore. I haven't seen evidence. His change with surrender is lacking. It's concerning. I'm not sure what to do. I have boundaries for me. We have not had relations for 3 months. Disclosure happened 4 yrs ago.
Keep praying girlfriend! Take care of you with Jesus!! Stay with him. ❤
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