It's 1.5x for me this time 😂 thanks for this, what a cool idea for a video, I long have abandoned real reading, I listen to books and podcasts about the matter, also sped up. 😅
Ha I always speed up videos, even lectures and my Fam are always so surprised that I can follow it but I’m like my brain goes a million miles an hour soooooo lol
I was diagnosed last year at age 67 so I can relate! I wish the knowlege and resources of today had been available in my younger years. I, too, feel my life could have been so different but we can only go forward and that is what I'm trying to do. I have always enjoyed learning and exploring new things so that's how I've been trying to approach it.
Those (especially women) being diagnosed in adulthood 30s and up may have been missed as the research for so long was really around younger boys. I have a daughter in mid-30s and no one, including her therapist and school counselors, knew to suggest this issue when she was in middle and high school. It made me so sad when I found out as so many things made sense. It seems that now many women are learning what the issue was and yeah, it would have been nice if we’d known it decades ago.
Not that I would wish adhd on anyone, but it's so validating to see a youtuber you really like embrace their "new" adhd! I've been diagnosed for a long time but was diagnosed in adulthood too. Good luck on your new journey! Because even though you've lived with adhd your whole life, it's now you finally have the tools to find out what works for you and your brain. Ps. Your hair looks amazing!
Thank you so much! It’s been overwhelming and not always easy/happy, but it’s also been more healing and reassuring than I expected and I’m so glad I finally have access to treatment and that I am starting to learn to work with my brain instead of against it ❤️ I wouldn’t be surprised if there are quite a few of us ADHDers in this community! They do say we tend to congregate 😂❤️❤️
Laziness Does Not Exist was written by a neurospicy NB person and really hit me hard. And Divergent Mind is written by a woman and a lot of my friends and I resonated with it. I actually haven't heard of any of the books you reviewed, but I might need to check out that top one!
Omg I had the exact same feelings about Driven to Distraction. I’ve had it for months and can’t make it past chapter three. Definitely not an adhd friendly experience! I did love a book called Your Brain’s Not Broken though! Tons of helpful information and a quick read.
If you search Russell Barkley here on youtube, you'll find some recorded lectures which are a great introduction to his approach. He's a compelling speaker
Why buy one book when you can buy four? ADHD! Yup, that’s me too! Late diagnosed aged 38. I’ve found ‘ADD friendly ways to organise your life’ by Judith Kolberg & Kathleen Nadeau sooo helpful for my presentation of ADHD because I have the CHAOS issue… I also massively struggled with the Radical Guide for Women With ADHD and the toxic positivity vibes and the rather ‘young’ vibe it gave me. As a scientist I too prefer sources and rigorous studies so I read everything I can that is published by the King’s College London ADHD research group and Eleanor Dommett.
I’ve seen some of Dr. Barkley’s presentations on RUclips, but definitely checking this book out, it sounds really great! Hopefully I’ll actually finish it... In terms of tips and tricks, have you heard of the Antiplanner? I haven’t got mine yet, but it’s supposed to full of activities to help you through whatever roadblocks you have to help get yourself to Do the Thing. Not really a book book per se, but a lot of people seemed to like it!
As a teenager I was diagnosed with ADD, now know as ADHD. I was called stupid and lazy in my younger years. Having raised two girls with ADHD, and now 3 grandchildren with ADHD, I am constantly looking for new ways to cope and bring suggestions for parenting for my daughters. I have been following Dr Daniel Amen for quite some time, his studies on the brain and the various types of ADHD. I like his approach and his and his wife’s suggestions on diet and supplements to help with the various nutrients the brain might need for different ADHD types. We have tried some of these in our family, who is chock full of ADHD types, with some actual success. I like this approach because it does combine behavior mechanisms with holistic diet, exercise and supplements. ❤️🤗😻
this video comes just at the right time! I‘m now at the age of almost 28 getting officially evaluated in a few weeks, probably confirming ADHD and autism-spectrum-disorder :) I think I‘m gonna pick up „Taking charge of adult ADHD“ to accompany that and the steps following :) also, I‘m very happy for you that so much clicked into place with that diagnosis, I can only imagine how emotionally challenging but hopefully also relieving that must be ✨
wow, that new haircut!! you're really rocking those bangs 😍 you approached this theme & these books in such a great way. lots of variety & great commentary / criticism for people looking for more info on ADHD! you can really see you put a lot of time & effort into this, and i appreciate that so much. the medical field (and the more 'pop' science books) can be so tricky to navigate when looking for useful, practical (& true) information. i wish you all the best re: your ADHD diagnosis! everybody deals with these matters in a different way, and i hope you find the way that fits best for you 💖
Thank you so much! I’m still trying to figure out how to style my bangs and not just have them poking my retinas all the time 😂 I’m so glad you enjoyed the video! I thought if I was going to read these I might as well try to help others along the way ❤️ I have a great team of mental health professionals helping me out so I have hope! 🥰
It's such a relief when you realise it's not you, it's your brain! I was diagnosed in my early twenties, almost 20 years ago now and the biggest, the most important thing I've learned is, give yourself grace. Lots and lots and even more grace. Reading all the books and having all the strategies is amazing and helpful, but they can wear off and in a year or 5 or 10, you'll have the feeling you need to start all over again. And that ok, because you have adhd and starting over is a super power. Also remember all the strategies are aimed to have you function in a world that's not built for adhders. So if you find yourself burned out and still struggling after some time has passed, it's ok. I feel you have found ways to be you and now you can be you with even more strength and courage because you know your brain works differently. Hmm I feel like I'm all over the place and being negative.( I've just had a bad migraine day and need to go back to bed) can you tell I have adhd 😂 I'll end with yeay for you and your brain and your diagnosis and your enthusiasm diving into learning about your brain!
I’m on my way of getting a autism diagnosis and through that my mom at the age of 45 slowly realized that she might also have autism. It’s pretty hard for my mom to question her whole life and it’s also hard for me to witness. So it’s nice to see other adults having the same problems because it shows that she isnt alone with her feelings. It’s already hard for me at the age of 18 to realize that I have autism and i can’t even imagine how she is feeling. So thank you for being here and sharing yours with us. I think a lot of people appreciate it.✨🧡
I’m not diagnosed with ADHD and haven’t tried to be, but with my brother being autistic and one of my friends regularly posting ADHD memes on IG that I always really relate to, I’ve thought that it is possible. I really enjoyed this video, and I think I’ll check out the last book you mentioned to see if it’s worth looking into whether I have ADHD. I’m glad that the first and the last books resonated with you! I can’t deal with the example of the woman realizing she prefers different types of vacations though 😂
congrats on the diagnosis! im a teenager and was diagnosed at 12, but i can definitely sympathize with the realization that there are other people on this planet with my same disorder, and the anger of 'why wasnt i diagnosed earlier?'. i went into middle school during lockdown, and going into a new school online unmedicated was a really horrible experience for me. i have no recommendations for adhd related books, unfortunately, but if you ever get interested in researching autism i would very strongly recommend 'Unmasking Autism' by Devon Price, PhD. it's so so validating and people i know who aren't autistic have told me that it gives them a great view into the life of an autistic person. it is so incredibly validating to see that one of my favorite youtubers has ADHD! sometimes i would watch your videos and wonder if i could really do similar bullet journaling as what you do because i have adhd and have been told my entire life that i am lazy and always make silly mistakes etc etc. thank you so much for sharing your experience!
I've been in the process of trying to get a diagnosis for a couple years now (there's such a fun difference in how the hyperactive vs the inattentive types are viewed 🙃), so it's helpful hearing about these books from someone who understands. I definitely want to take a look at Taking Charge of Adult ADHD. But I will say, I picked up Delivered From Distraction (the follow up to Driven) and I think I'm connecting with it because I decided to just take my time so I'm not being hit with the repetitiveness. And at the beginning of it, he basically says to bounce around where interest takes me, and I'm letting myself do that, lol. But I agree, there are way more anecdotes than necessary!
I hope you’re able to get answers soon ❤️ I was told over and over again by a variety of medical and mental health professionals that I couldn’t have ADHD because I did well in school and didn’t interrupt during appointments/sessions. It can be so frustrating and demoralizing! I know they mentioned hopping around the book but I just can’t read that way haha I have to read everything from beginning to end. I find it overwhelming to try to decide what to read when and I worry I’m missing something important if I skip around! 😅
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Thank you for this video and for being so patient to read through the books that were hard to get through. I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 37 as I was also in the midst of emerging chronic illnesses so I couldn’t really focus on getting help or trying meds for ADHD until recently. It’s been almost 3 years and I’m finally trying some meds. I found a med that works so well for my ADHD, but unfortunately exacerbates some of my chronic illness symptoms and I have to try something else. I’m disappointed because it really was helping, but it feels like this video came to me right when I needed it. It can be hard to know even where to begin with resources and because of ADHD it can make one feel defeated and want to just give up. I’m definitely going to look into Taking Charge of Adult ADHD and I hope it helps as I’m getting off the medication. Anyway, thanks again. I really appreciate this in depth video.
Thank you for posting this. At 52, I am just discovering the possibility that I have ADHD and my mind is blown so I’m gathering as much information as I can. I always enjoy your videos and can’t wait to hear more about your journey once you are willing to share more of it. You are always such an inspiration.
Thank you so much! And I hope you’re able to get a diagnosis and support if that’s what you’re looking for ❤️ I’m in the process of rewriting my understanding of myself and my life in a bit of a destabilizing yet reassuring way at the minute 😅❤️
I wanted to say good luck with your diagnosis journey! Think it was a really great video to do (I experienced a lot of imposter syndrome/RSD in the first few months, so if you're anything like me it may not have been the easiest to film) and I thought you discussed and approached topics in a very open, curious and thoughtful way. I'm 27 and was also diagnosed in the last year. It was great listening to your reviews as I really value your opinions having watched all your vids (and tend to see very eye-to-eye with books). I haven't got around to reading any on ADHD since being diagnosed, so this video was really helpful and made me reflect on what it was I'd be looking for in a book. Love the fringe! One book I have loved recently (not on ADHD but by an autistic author) was 'A Kind of Spark' by Elle McNicholl, it's a children/ya book but honestly fantastic. Such a brilliant author. The first book I have read where the main character is a young autistic girl, written by an autistic woman.
Thank you so much! I’ve definitely felt a lot of imposter syndrome and RSD (but they aren’t really new) since getting diagnosed. It’s hard not to feel like I’m actually just making it all up and I’m fine, but having struggled with my mental health in the past (ED, depression, anxiety) I know that’s just my brain trying to trick me/shame me out of getting the support I need. I’m so glad you enjoyed the video and found it helpful to think about what you’d want out of a book on ADHD! I’ve always been insatiably curious, so I wanted all the answers as soon as I was diagnosed 😂 Oo thank you for the recommendation! I’ll definitely look it up and consider adding it to my TBR ❤️
Great review. I liked the contrast between Berkeley and Mate. The latter cites very little empirical research the former has conducted and published some of the most influential research in the field. I highly recommend his RUclips channel too - his recent, spicy response to Jordan Peterson is quite cathartic 😂.. edit: he’s also responded to some of Mate’s claims about childhood trauma being causative of adhd.
I think with ADHD (and any other neurological 'condition' or difference) is that so much curiousity is in trying to help people fit in (especially for Autistics) as opposed to looking at it from a perspective of our society kinda sucks and we could do it differently.
I definitely think it can be both! We can support neurodivergent people in their attempts to find coping mechanisms -and strategies that help them thrive to the best of their ability in our current world, while also working toward a world that is not so rigid and overwhelming and exhausting for everyone ❤️
@@PlantBasedBride 💯. My hackles go up immediately when I hear things like what was in the book for women that is in the toxic positivity sphere and leaves people who feel out of place and frustrated without support. I work with people whose self confidence has been destroyed by that attitude and it can be hard for people to see the many gifts they have as well ❤️
Dr Gabor Maté has a history as a family practice doctor, he has no history in neuroscience or psychiatry. He has no authority to say anything about ADHD. He bases his theory on personal experience and observations but they have absolutely no basis in science whatsoever. He is an expert on trauma and addiction, and I think that a lot of the work that he has done in those fields around taking the stigma away from these things can be helpful. But its important to distinguish between something that is helpful in a general sense, and him pushing problematic theories which contradict almost every scientific idea about ADHD. His coping strategies may help people, and thats great. But there are huge huge ethical problems with a man pushing ideas that he knows nothing about (But claims the exact opposite) and pushing cures to the uncurable in his payed courses and books. You mention that the brain is complex and we don't really know a lot about it, which is true and really interesting. The brain is unbelievably complex and the science around it is really complicated, which is why it is important to allow the real experts to be authority figures in the field. Not some random who has about as much experience in real psychiatry and you or I. Sorry for the essay but I thought I should say something. There is a reason why he doesn't put studies in his writing, its because there are none that confirm anything even close to what he is saying. Maté is, in this area of study, a complete charlatan. I'd advise viewers to look into his background before spending money on his writing. Sorry again, really don't like being negative. I hope everyone that pushed through their ADHD to read this long comment has a great day 😊
My understanding is that the basic concept of what he’s proposing (that attachment with parental figures impacts brain development) is widely accepted to be true by current scientific consensus, but that the sticking point is whether it has a hand in the development of ADHD specifically. He’s not spouting completely made up ideas, here. He also didn’t push a cure anywhere in the book, though I don’t know anything about his courses. I’m not sure how classifying a doctor with a medical degree is “some random who has about as much experience in real psychiatry as you or I” is really fair? He certainly understands more about early brain development than I do, with no medical training. There are also many trained psychiatrists who don’t understand adhd, so it’s a bit of a moot point anyway. Like I said repeatedly in the video, I’m taking his theory on the origins of ADHD with a grain of salt and weighing it against what I’m learning from other sources (I also largely don’t care what the cause is). His tips for parents would have helped me a lot as a child if my parents had been aware of them, and his stories about his/his family’s experiences and those of his patients helped me a lot with coming to terms with my diagnosis and understanding myself better. You say his theories are problematic - can I ask how? I’m certainly open to learning more if I missed something, but I’m honestly a little taken aback by the vehemence in your comment!
@@PlantBasedBride @Plant Based Bride All of my negativity in that comment was entirely focused on Dr Maté and not at all on you or your coverage of his book. I thought you were really fair in describing the book given what you know. If the book helped you thats great, and it helped others come to terms with their diagnosis and learn something then that's great too. Having only been diagnosed as an adult myself a few years ago, I understand that its important to get an understanding of this thing that has been so impactful on our lives. Maté may not use the work curable in his writing but he calls ADHD a reversible developmental delay, even on his website in the tagline when advertising this book. It is not reversible. You can deal with the symptoms through adulthood but it is by no means reversible. He may have a better grasp on the developing brain as you or I so calling him some random wasn't exactly fair and for that I apologise. However, there are different disciplines within medicine that require a certain specialist training, psychiatry is one of them. You wouldn't trust a family practice doctor to break down the intricate details of a surgery they were never trained to do, so you should not trust them to explain things in an incredibly complicated discipline they aren't trained in. If some specialist psychiatrists know nothing about ADHD, that shows its quite complicated even within trained psychiatrists, even more reason to not trust the untested theories of an untrained person. He says ADHD is not genetic, but the science says it has a major genetic component. He says its reversible, but the science says it is by no means reversible, you can only manage the symptoms. He says it is caused by environmental stresses and disturbed social conditions and then detaching from your environment due to these environmental stresses. None of this is based in the science at all. Childhood trauma or poor social conditions as a child have a small correlation with worsening ADHD symptoms, and its just a correlation there is no proven causation at all. He saw a correlation around detached parents and a stressed environment and a child with ADHD. (This can be explained by it being genetic. If your parents have undiagnosed and untreated ADHD, theyre going to be detached and stressed with a newborn.) And without a hint of study started screaming it as a causation with the conviction of a man who actually knows what he is talking about. When he doesn't, he is a charlatan. People may not care how it is caused, but a stressed out parent reading a book because their kid just got diagnosed should not have to face a reality where they supposedly caused this difficult and traumatic condition in their child due to their parenting or environment. When that is not the case whatsoever, they could have done nothing wrong. Its problematic and unethical. Again, none of this is focused on you, I just object to giving that fraud money and I dont think others should either. You expressed you didnt know much about him, so I thought I should say my piece. BTW, Dr K on youtube has done wonders for my personal journey understanding my own struggles with ADHD. You should check him out if you haven't already. His channel is HeathyGamerGG.
Very on brand for me (diagnosed at 35), after having had this in my "Watch Later" for a while (because I MUST but also "I can't now" and "oops, I forgot"), I'm watching this at double speed.
Always figured I had it but I was always too distracted to actually look into it! 😂 I’m 60 now and need to get a grip on it. I’ll try your book recommendations. Hope I get through them 😅
This was super helpful for me! I am by no means an adhd specialist, but do have clients who have adhd in addition to the things they are actively working with me on. It’s always good to have resources to recommend people that have been vetted by someone who actually has it (since I don’t)
I’m so happy it was helpful for you! I hope it will also be able to help any of your clients you recommend these books to ❤️ I gave a book report to my therapist so she can recommend them to her other clients 😂
Thanks for doing this and sharing with us! I was diagnosed in the summer of 2021 in my thirties and - whoa - it's a freaking journey (rollercoaster?). As someone with a separate chronic illness too, things get interwoven and very interconnected (also, the fact that women's menstrual cycle can directly impacts our ADHD and sometimes make medication ineffective) on top of the fact that women and girls were very poorly researched/studied if at all until the 1990's is frustrating! I agree with some of the other comments below...it can make you really angry and sad at times. The late-in-life realization and explanations although helpful, seem too little too late sometimes. We all need time to adjust and grieve this immense part of us that we are just now made aware of. The gen pop is really behind and stuck on stereotypes with ADHD too. It's definitely a winding road.
I'm reading Driven to Distraction right now and found this video from the review and link you posted for that book in Goodreads. The book was recommended on a podcast, but I forget which one. Mel Robbins maybe? (refers to notes ... yeah, I think it was the one entitled 6 Surprising Signs of Adult ADHD). I'm listening to the audiobook and it's decent enough, though I'm only at 4.5 hours of a 13.5-hour audiobook. I'll probably persevere because I'm enjoying some of the anecdotes, but I'll almost definitely get a copy of Taking Charge of Adult ADHD after seeing your video. And about your video - outstanding work! It was so well done that I even watched your ad section! I've subbed and look forward to watching more of your videos. Loved to see the NK Jemisin series behind you!
Thank you so much! I’m glad the video was helpful and I hope you get as much out of Taking Charge of Adult ADHD as I did. NK Jemisin is one of my favourite authors! ❤️
Thank you for this video! I'm also in my journey to search for a diagnosis (couldn't go on with my previous therapist and I'm looking for a new one in my area), and I'm also 30... The last book sounds really interesting for my case!
Better late than never, so I'm very excited for you and what this will mean for you going forward! It took me years to stop beating myself up about things I now realize were never my fault and even more years to learn how to advocate for myself and the quality of life I deserve. I'm so glad there are so many more resources now, and I'm definitely going to check out these books! Edit as always because I comment before I finish the video or I'll never remember to comment: looks like I'll be checking out ONE book 😂
Haha love the edit 😂 I hope you get a lot out of it if you pick it up! And I’m definitely on the journey of learning to give myself more compassion and advocating for my needs more. It’s a tough one!
I watched this when it first came out a month ago, and rewatching it/have it in the background as I go through Taking Charge of Adult ADHD again. It is SO good and your video is immensely helpful. It was probably not intentional, but seeing you use post-its and write in your books and take notes has been immensely helpful for me to actually absorb what I'm reading and making Barkley's book so much more useful. Long-winded way of saying thank you! Helpful review, love feeling Seen finding out you also have late-diagnosed ADHD and am excited to try to get back into regular reading by using post-its!
Aw thank you! 🥺 I really appreciate you taking the time to leave this comment. It made my day! I was really hoping this video would help someone and I’m so glad to know it did 🥰
As someone with AuDHD I find the way that society thinks is super weird. Why do we all have to fit into their mould? Alot of these books are written either about how we dont fit in or how to make us fit in. Rather than the fact that being neurodiverse is an essential part of the world. We are the inventors, we see faster and easier ways of doing things, we experience emotion more strongly and can read people much easier. We see the solution way before neurotypical people. Why do we have to change to fit into some weird box that someone hundreds of years ago decided that men and women should be?
I would love to not have to fit in to society’s expectations, but I also have a job that has deadlines and requirements and requires organization etc etc. I also need to find ways to keep myself alive (feeding myself, remembering to install the smoke alarm, not forgetting to go to my medical appointments etc.) I would love society to move away from such rigidly neurotypical expectations about everything but unfortunately we just aren’t there yet, and in the meantime I want to thrive, not just survive ❤️
Been diagnosed in 35 (I think) and its so good to know these many books out there for Adults ADHD. Ive got to change my coping mechanisms from time to time. Im not happy about you been have diagnosed, but I might think how its liberating to finally having some answers. Thanks for yhis vídeo. 😍
It has definitely been liberating and healing, though it’s also been difficult and overwhelming, too ❤️ I’m still processing all of the feelings and reconfiguring my understanding of myself!
I was diagnosed around 2-3 but my family doesn't believe adhd is a "real diagnosis" so they never told me about it. I was diagnosed at 28 and they're like "yeah some quack doctor tried to tell us that too." 🙃 I have a lot of resentment on this.
What a coincidence! I am a teacher and my colleague was just mentioning when Barkley came to speak to our teachers a long time ago! I am also working with my primary care doctor to try and get to a clinician and get tested.
I opened youtube to start a mobility video for my morning workout and ended up watch this instead. I’m impressed you managed to finish the Radical Guide book. I think I gave up after the first chapter. The only ADHD book I’ve managed to finish was ADHD 2.0 and the sum total of what I remember is doing balance practice may help. I just bought Taking Charge on your recommendation. Thanks!
A few people have recommended that one so I might read it in my next batch when I recover from this braindump of ADHD info! 😂 I’m glad you enjoyed the video and I hope I didn’t keep you from your morning routine 😅❤️
I was diagnosed with ADHD and Autism at 48. I'm pretty frustrated bc I feel it's very obvious, and I have been so maligned by so many people. If I had just KNOWN!
somehow despite being pretty sure i have adhd (never received an official diagnosis from a clinician, only from a psychologist) it never occurred to me to pick up a book to read about it. i'm definitely going to check out some of these books after watching this -- thanks for making this video
Thank you so much for reading all these so I can skip straight to taking charge! I love your review style excited to watch more reading videos. Also your hair soooo beautiful omg 😍
Thank you for this video and the recommendation of Taking Charge. I suspect I might have ADHD so I'm definitely going to check that one out from the library.
I'm only just starting to watch now but I do want to comment on the irony of a video about ADHD being 70 minutes long. Like. Like that's kind of a long stretch for someone with ADHD to watch, so I'm going to play the Sims at the same time so I can keep paying attention. Absolutely no shade intended! I just find it really funny. Anyway, welcome to the Neurospicy(tm) Experience!
Interesting. I have ADHD and I couldn't stop watching/listening. The video is long but it is also neatly divided into chapters - which makes it easy to stop and start according to your individual capacity to focus.
I also did not like "A radical guide for women with ADHD" I couldn't put my finger on why, but I just did not enjoy the process and I felt like I didn't get anything out of it. I much preferred "Understanding Girld with ADHD" when it came to validation and an introduction to how adhd looks in girls and women. Though the focus is on girls it really helped my understanding when I was first diagnosed as an adult
two recommendations for books on my list, because am looking for something Up to date about ADHD, with more practical tips, and about Adults 1- How to ADHD: An Insider's Guide to Working with Your Brain Jessica McCabe 2- Extra Focus: The Quick Start Guide to Adult ADHD Jesse J. Anderson that a side. thanks for the video, as I couldnt grasp the video on more than x1.25 , i decided to watch the important parts, and it was the first and last parts ='D so thanks for making me put the last book on my list !
I learned about ADHD in college and for a time seriously thought I could have it. But then I met my best friend, who was diagnosed as child, and I now think I probably don't, haha. The topic still interests me a ton, though, to understand my friend better.
I do not have ADHD nor have I read "Scattered Minds," but I really enjoyed Maté's other book "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts" which discusses the homelessness epidemic in Vancouver (and beyond) particularly as it pertains to addiction. If you found his writing interesting, especially his patient interviews, I found it a very eye-opening look into an under-discussed topic. Major trauma CW's with that of course
I found out about his knowledge and experience around addiction while doing research on him last month, but I hadn’t heard any specifics about that book. It definitely sounds interesting! I’ll add it to my TBR ❤️
i loved this video and your bangs!! if you’re willing to share, i know i would love to hear your journey with getting a diagnosis since i know it can be so hard for women & adults in particular 💗
Oh man I have been trying to get through "taking charge of adult adhd" for months, I might be a lost cause... I'm 53% of the way through so I may pick it back up and see if I can just go straight to the coping strategy section of the book.
Thank you so much for this video!! I’m thinking about getting evaluated for ADHD myself, and I’m physician as well, so this was a super helpful vid!! :)
I’m so glad it was helpful! I hope your evaluation goes well/isn’t too stressful and you’re able to learn more about yourself regardless of the diagnosis ❤️
Ah yes, the clean sheets some out of the dryer, the cats appear to ensure the proper fur-to-fabric ratio. I know this routine well LOL ❤❤ Book related: not ADHD as a topic, but I read Reader's Block: A History of Reading Differences by Matthew Rubery last year which is just about how neurodiverse brains read (or don't, as the case may be depending on what's going on in the brain). It was really interesting just a general reading topic.
Ooo that sounds fascinating! Thank you for recommending it 🤗 and yes, they have to be involved any time a bed is being made 😂 they get very upset if they’re excluded
Hey, I have autism and at my school library I noticed there wasn’t many books about chacters with autism or neurodiversity like me, and those that were there were not very accurate. I talked to my reading teacher/librarian (long and boring story) and she said she is going to try to get more books about autism in there, I provided a great website that lists books about autism by autistic authors, but I didn’t want her to only get those and thus put smaller emphasis on other parts of nerudiversity. So I am working on finding similar websites or articles or pages for others. Do you have any places i could find similar things for ADHD?
Thanks for this video, it was helpful! Would love for you to do a video discussing different planner or productivity ideas, maybe like your previous bujo babble videos! I seen some people use theme days like Saturday- chores and Friday- self-care or theme meals: Friday- pizza and Tuesday- tacos. I also seen people divide the day into three or four time blocks or routines like morning, afternoon, evening, and night. Some use a daily planner/list/hourly schedule and other people just a weekly list or a weekly list with tasks for different categories. JashiiCorrin on her channel has ideas like a self-care bingo. I find that daily list and hourly schedules might not work for me. Maybe some people are just not planners and only need a monthly calendar. There is also the pomodoro timer method. So maybe discuss different methods like theme days, daily or weekly lists, hourly schedules, routines, bingo, pomodoro, just a calendar work, or a combination of these methods.
I got that surprise at just past turning 50 years of age. I was thinking Autism, did not expect the other 2, ADD/ADHD and OCD. I recommend How To ADHD youtube channel. I am drawn to those who have dual diagnosis of Autism and ADHD, the HtoADHD channel she is not dual diagnosed as of what I know right now. There is Orion Kelly and Dan at the Aspie World, Yo Sammidy Sam (spelling), Purple Ella, among many others now. Hard to keep up.
Chloe Hayden is AuDHD, from Heartbreak High (Quenni. I have listened to her book for free on audible, called Different Not Less. I am waiting for Jessica McCabe’s book to come out on ADHD. AuDHD, is autism and ADHD. I wanna see these books. I also recommend Devon Price PhD, there are two books here, there Is Laziness Does not Exist, and Discovering the New Faces of Neurodiversity. Halliday also has ADHD, which makes his book interesting to read. I am listening to Unmasking Autism by Devon Price currently.
The How To ADHD channel is what first made me wonder if I might have it! It’s such a great resource ❤️ my understanding is that ADHDers often have multiple diagnoses, and autism and OCD are common! I hope your diagnosis (though surprising) has been overall positive for you 🥰
I understand myself a lot better, Oh the lazy book, is not what I thought it was. I am sick and tired of some people thinking I am lazy though when I am not doing what they want me to do.
Ironically since confirmation (if not full diagnosis) of my own ADHD, I haven’t been able to settle to read any of the new adhd literature I’ve acquired. My counselor recommended A Radical Guide… to me, so I went ahead and bought it, but as I said,I haven’t been able to sit down to really read any of the books I got. Now I’m going to buy Taking Charge… Here’s hoping my reading slump goes away. Ok, what are those tabs you’re using?
First of all ty for video a lot. I read taking charge of adult adhd and it changed my life. I went a psychiatrist and diagnosed at 30. I started medication and it works very well for me. About book i have one question to ask for u or any readers. In chapter 10 (How can master it part) writer says "There is no scientific evidence for the effectiveness of intervention outside the points of performance in your life where your major problems occur. Avoid talk-or insight-oriented therapy, psychoanalysis, weekly group therapy focusing on complaining, and similar treatments.". I read the book online. Maybe there is a bug or smt idk but should i really avoid therapy like psychoanalysis? He literally says "avoid" these things. Is it bad for adhd? What do u think?
My kids have ADHD. I do have it as well but undiagnosed. I will buy the one you recommend. The book I recommend for the kids is “Mon cerveau a besoin de lunettes”. They also have an adult version but I haven’t read it.
I want to read 'Scattered Minds' from a historical interest perspective, but from what I've read in terms of scientific research on ADHD, I am sceptical that it's activated by trauma. You absolutely need to cite sources with this kind of claim, and it's concerning that he didn't. ADHD is one of the most researched neurodevelopmental conditions, so Gabor really is choosing to ignore a lot of data to in favour of his own views. People with ADHD absolutely have trauma, but there isn't credible research to suggest that it is caused by trauma like CPTSD, DID etc. The problem with him claiming this further pathologizes ADHD in my opinion, and misleads people with ADHD into thinking that if they go to trauma therapy it will solve issues with executive dysfunction. Sure, that kind of therapy can be helpful, but things like CBT and coaching have been shown to help a lot more for day to day struggles. Anyway, I think you did a good job of explaining why this was a controversial pick😊
Okay I haven't watched everything - but I was wondering if you'll talk more about how BUJO has adapted / helped with ADHD as someone else who struggles but can not ever do nice bullet journals (and think in daily lists on everything)
I could definitely make a video on that! I’ve been thinking about it a lot, especially because I’ve received many comments over the years that my more artistic BuJo wasn’t valid because it wouldn’t work for an ADHDer (since Ryder has ADHD and developed the system to help himself). Learning that I, too, have ADHD and have managed to have an artistic bullet journal work for me for years is validating but also taking some time to get used to!
Also one thing that i've noticed in basically everything with our brains is that we have to admit everything is "controversial" because of the nature vs nurture debate that we will almost never be able to prove and / or disprove. SO There will always be that controversy in almost every author / researcher because of this debate being one of the biggest controversial things within any reserach of development
@@PlantBasedBride I absolutely love the artistic bullet journal and (While mine isnt nearly as artistic- ie paintings and intricate details- its very relaxing to sit there and devote time to letting my brain zone out and focus on my books with drawing layouts and drawing doodles or putting pictures.). I know I tend to feel discouraged because my brain is thinking so fast that any layout goes out the window and It feels like i'm constrained and not using it to the fullest potential, but I know that you've also shared that you struggle with layouts or just filling it from time to time. I think its absolutely an accomplishment to get an artistic bullet journal to work for you and It is really encouraging. (I've recently been into a bujo/commonplacing method like Megan Rhiannon and that is one of the only ways I've been consistently in my books now, but it's helped bring back my creative freedom and inspiration too) I bring that up because I feel that bullet journaling has been so blocked into an expectation of perfection and ridged (almost planner like) appearances and remembering that there is so much creative freedom within the entire system is refreshing, and reminding those of us who aspire for creativity that it doesn't need to be a system that works against our brains. (I really hope any of this makes sense and if not I am always more than willing to clarify! Typing it out is way harder than talking it out )
The authors of Driven to distraction have a new book called ADHD 2.0, I am more interested in that one, since it came out last year. I wonder if anyone here read it, and how does it compare to their first one? If you are willing, Elizabeth, to "take one for the team", read it and report back, that would be amazing, esp for me- an ADHD Mom with pretty much no resources readily available to me (living in a small town in a small country in Europe) and no support system raising a Neurodivergent kid on limited budget who would prefer not to spend it on a book that's not gonna help me.
Oooh someone else mentioned this one but I didn’t realize it was the same authors! I wish I’d taken the time to research them before buying D2D but obviously I didn’t do that and just bought it when I saw it recommended haha I’ll add it to the list for whenever I feel ready to read more adhd content!
Bummer to hear about Gabor Maté's book, I work in the field and have listened to a podcast by him and loved it and have been wanting to read a book by him. But I can totally understand why his book would be controversial, also, very disappointing that the language hasn't been updated.
Hi. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 43. The book that gave me the AHA moment and validation was Queen of Distraction by Terry Malten. It's a really good book. If you read it, let me know what you think. Isabella
There’s a lot information,some of it is helpful! I’m happy you are getting the help you need! Fortunately You seem very organized and that’s helpful!🐾🎄🐾
Try to read Women with Attentio deficit disorder: embrace your differences and transform your life By Sari Solden. That is the best book i have read about ADHD.
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@@PlantBasedBride thank you for the recommendation. Only I would be looking for beautiful, dee red, deep V sweaters in June where I am working outside in 90° weather lol.
Thank you for being so open-minded for such topics. 😊 I personally struggle with the words ADHD. Now years later I know more but the feelings were present in early school years because I had a classmate with adhd (yes, ok) but other than that she was also a nasty child always up to take profit from adults treating her differently. She got physically and verbally insulting and my class was never allowed to defense ourselves, our teachers just said that we had to accept whatever she did because she had ADHD and punished us for defensing ourselves from biting, hitting, yelling,damaging our stationary, ripping our books…)
That sounds a lot like ODD, which is often misdiagnosed as ADHD or comorbid with it. Regardless of their diagnosis, though, that’s not a fair burden to put on other children. No one should have to accept violence from others and I’m sorry you experienced that!
I agree with you- it shouldn’t be. But for three years not a single teacher (except for one at the very end) realized what was going on. I’m wishing you all the best for your new journey 😊
Gabor Mate isn't really an expert at ADHD, i haven't read the book but from my research he teaches some really damaging ideas. Also everything things points to his website seems like a scam.
I think your summary of why Gabor Mate is controversial is too generous. The problem with Gabor Mate and his ideas about ADHD is that he mingles factual, evidence-based knowledge with his own smattering of personal musings and anecdotes. This is a dangerous practice called "pseudoscience", and it is really one of the urgent problems of our time. It's deceptive when a medical doctor takes the findings of scientific research and mixes them with untested, invented theories and then "backs them up" with anecdotes from his work as a doctor. He is simultaneously abusing the research and abusing his trust as a medical professional. Doctors are professionally obligated to practice using the best possible available evidence. The highest level of evidence is systematic reviews of controlled trials. The worst possible evidence is anecdotal and "expert opinion".
Fantastic video! I've only just started watching and you give my ADHD brain hope that one day I can become a reader again! If anyone is looking for more ADHD books, I highly reccomend "The Year I Met My Brain" by Matilda Boseley. Specifically the audiobook version because it's narrated by the author who is a journalist by trade so she is so engaging to listen to. (Edit now that I've watched the whole video: It sounds a lot like "Taking Charge of Adult ADHD" but with more catharsis moments) Matilda started writing the book about a year after she was diagnosed so while the book is predominantly a long form research piece, it also has a meta side where the author comments on her own experiences (where appropriate) and often has the feeling of the author having an "ah ha!" moment along with the reader. The book is split into two parts with those personal anacdotes sprinkled through. The first part is that long form research piece that focuses on the facts. It explores symptoms, gender/race bias, social/societal aspects, the impacts of underdiagnosis/misdiagnosis, the impacts of not being diagnosed and the flip side of being diagnosed, medications, etc. The author approaches these topics with nuance and the gravity they deserve but she's also funny where appropriate. Like I said before, the author was also learning about her condition while writing the book and I think we all have those super heavy moments but also the "oh well that's silly and goofy" moments while we figure out our brains. I loved this first part and it's why I reccomend the book. It was an engaging way to learn about the bigger picture of the spicy brain I and so many other people live with. The second part goes through tips for ADHD that the author has found. I frankly don't remember a lot of them because I took to listening to it while playing City Skylines... And I think the tips would be more memorable as text as well so it could be notated and referred back to. I bought a physical copy of the book for this reason... It's on my to do list... Which I may get to in five years. The parts I do remember were useful, it's not just "oh write a list!" because it's written by someone who has ADHD. Overall, I really can't stress enough how good the audiobook is. It's definately worth a read.
Watch this video at 1.25x - 2x speed if you (like me) need a faster listening experience! 😅
It's 1.5x for me this time 😂 thanks for this, what a cool idea for a video, I long have abandoned real reading, I listen to books and podcasts about the matter, also sped up. 😅
Ha I always speed up videos, even lectures and my Fam are always so surprised that I can follow it but I’m like my brain goes a million miles an hour soooooo lol
me x1.5 before I saw this comment!! You know you’re people hahahah
I’m always at x2 speed on most videos ^_^
I was already at 1.5x the speed before reading this comment 😂 I usually watch most videos like this and I had no idea others did so too
I was diagnosed at 49. I was really angry for a long time that no one noticed before. My life could have been so different.
I definitely know that feeling! I’ve spent a lot of time over the past few months talking with my therapist about that and trying to accept it ❤️
I was diagnosed last year at age 67 so I can relate! I wish the knowlege and resources of today had been available in my younger years. I, too, feel my life could have been so different but we can only go forward and that is what I'm trying to do. I have always enjoyed learning and exploring new things so that's how I've been trying to approach it.
Maybe people noticed but we were in denial and ignored them? Pretty sure I did that.. 😂😅
Those (especially women) being diagnosed in adulthood 30s and up may have been missed as the research for so long was really around younger boys. I have a daughter in mid-30s and no one, including her therapist and school counselors, knew to suggest this issue when she was in middle and high school. It made me so sad when I found out as so many things made sense. It seems that now many women are learning what the issue was and yeah, it would have been nice if we’d known it decades ago.
Not that I would wish adhd on anyone, but it's so validating to see a youtuber you really like embrace their "new" adhd! I've been diagnosed for a long time but was diagnosed in adulthood too. Good luck on your new journey! Because even though you've lived with adhd your whole life, it's now you finally have the tools to find out what works for you and your brain.
Ps. Your hair looks amazing!
Thank you so much! It’s been overwhelming and not always easy/happy, but it’s also been more healing and reassuring than I expected and I’m so glad I finally have access to treatment and that I am starting to learn to work with my brain instead of against it ❤️ I wouldn’t be surprised if there are quite a few of us ADHDers in this community! They do say we tend to congregate 😂❤️❤️
Laziness Does Not Exist was written by a neurospicy NB person and really hit me hard. And Divergent Mind is written by a woman and a lot of my friends and I resonated with it. I actually haven't heard of any of the books you reviewed, but I might need to check out that top one!
Omg I had the exact same feelings about Driven to Distraction. I’ve had it for months and can’t make it past chapter three. Definitely not an adhd friendly experience! I did love a book called Your Brain’s Not Broken though! Tons of helpful information and a quick read.
I’m glad I wasn’t the only one struggling with it! The title is incredibly ironic lol. Oo, thank you for the recommendation!
If you search Russell Barkley here on youtube, you'll find some recorded lectures which are a great introduction to his approach. He's a compelling speaker
I’ve saved a bunch to my “watch later” playlist but then promptly forget about them 😂
Why buy one book when you can buy four? ADHD! Yup, that’s me too! Late diagnosed aged 38. I’ve found ‘ADD friendly ways to organise your life’ by Judith Kolberg & Kathleen Nadeau sooo helpful for my presentation of ADHD because I have the CHAOS issue…
I also massively struggled with the Radical Guide for Women With ADHD and the toxic positivity vibes and the rather ‘young’ vibe it gave me.
As a scientist I too prefer sources and rigorous studies so I read everything I can that is published by the King’s College London ADHD research group and Eleanor Dommett.
Haha glad it’s not just me! I’ll have to check that one out because chaos might as well be my middle name 😂
I was just diagnosed with ADHD at 33yo. And I am trying to be my true self and to be seen and heard. 😊
I’ve seen some of Dr. Barkley’s presentations on RUclips, but definitely checking this book out, it sounds really great! Hopefully I’ll actually finish it... In terms of tips and tricks, have you heard of the Antiplanner? I haven’t got mine yet, but it’s supposed to full of activities to help you through whatever roadblocks you have to help get yourself to Do the Thing. Not really a book book per se, but a lot of people seemed to like it!
I haven’t heard of it! It sounds cool 👀
As a teenager I was diagnosed with ADD, now know as ADHD. I was called stupid and lazy in my younger years. Having raised two girls with ADHD, and now 3 grandchildren with ADHD, I am constantly looking for new ways to cope and bring suggestions for parenting for my daughters. I have been following Dr Daniel Amen for quite some time, his studies on the brain and the various types of ADHD. I like his approach and his and his wife’s suggestions on diet and supplements to help with the various nutrients the brain might need for different ADHD types. We have tried some of these in our family, who is chock full of ADHD types, with some actual success. I like this approach because it does combine behavior mechanisms with holistic diet, exercise and supplements. ❤️🤗😻
this video comes just at the right time! I‘m now at the age of almost 28 getting officially evaluated in a few weeks, probably confirming ADHD and autism-spectrum-disorder :) I think I‘m gonna pick up „Taking charge of adult ADHD“ to accompany that and the steps following :)
also, I‘m very happy for you that so much clicked into place with that diagnosis, I can only imagine how emotionally challenging but hopefully also relieving that must be ✨
I hope you find the book as helpful as I did! And good luck for your evaluation ❤️ I hope you get the same feeling of relief!
wow, that new haircut!! you're really rocking those bangs 😍 you approached this theme & these books in such a great way. lots of variety & great commentary / criticism for people looking for more info on ADHD! you can really see you put a lot of time & effort into this, and i appreciate that so much. the medical field (and the more 'pop' science books) can be so tricky to navigate when looking for useful, practical (& true) information.
i wish you all the best re: your ADHD diagnosis! everybody deals with these matters in a different way, and i hope you find the way that fits best for you 💖
Thank you so much! I’m still trying to figure out how to style my bangs and not just have them poking my retinas all the time 😂 I’m so glad you enjoyed the video! I thought if I was going to read these I might as well try to help others along the way ❤️ I have a great team of mental health professionals helping me out so I have hope! 🥰
It's such a relief when you realise it's not you, it's your brain! I was diagnosed in my early twenties, almost 20 years ago now and the biggest, the most important thing I've learned is, give yourself grace. Lots and lots and even more grace. Reading all the books and having all the strategies is amazing and helpful, but they can wear off and in a year or 5 or 10, you'll have the feeling you need to start all over again. And that ok, because you have adhd and starting over is a super power. Also remember all the strategies are aimed to have you function in a world that's not built for adhders. So if you find yourself burned out and still struggling after some time has passed, it's ok. I feel you have found ways to be you and now you can be you with even more strength and courage because you know your brain works differently. Hmm I feel like I'm all over the place and being negative.( I've just had a bad migraine day and need to go back to bed) can you tell I have adhd 😂 I'll end with yeay for you and your brain and your diagnosis and your enthusiasm diving into learning about your brain!
I like the term Spicy Brain 😅
Haha yeah me too 😂
I’m on my way of getting a autism diagnosis and through that my mom at the age of 45 slowly realized that she might also have autism. It’s pretty hard for my mom to question her whole life and it’s also hard for me to witness. So it’s nice to see other adults having the same problems because it shows that she isnt alone with her feelings. It’s already hard for me at the age of 18 to realize that I have autism and i can’t even imagine how she is feeling.
So thank you for being here and sharing yours with us. I think a lot of people appreciate it.✨🧡
I’m not diagnosed with ADHD and haven’t tried to be, but with my brother being autistic and one of my friends regularly posting ADHD memes on IG that I always really relate to, I’ve thought that it is possible. I really enjoyed this video, and I think I’ll check out the last book you mentioned to see if it’s worth looking into whether I have ADHD. I’m glad that the first and the last books resonated with you!
I can’t deal with the example of the woman realizing she prefers different types of vacations though 😂
congrats on the diagnosis! im a teenager and was diagnosed at 12, but i can definitely sympathize with the realization that there are other people on this planet with my same disorder, and the anger of 'why wasnt i diagnosed earlier?'. i went into middle school during lockdown, and going into a new school online unmedicated was a really horrible experience for me.
i have no recommendations for adhd related books, unfortunately, but if you ever get interested in researching autism i would very strongly recommend 'Unmasking Autism' by Devon Price, PhD. it's so so validating and people i know who aren't autistic have told me that it gives them a great view into the life of an autistic person.
it is so incredibly validating to see that one of my favorite youtubers has ADHD! sometimes i would watch your videos and wonder if i could really do similar bullet journaling as what you do because i have adhd and have been told my entire life that i am lazy and always make silly mistakes etc etc. thank you so much for sharing your experience!
I've been in the process of trying to get a diagnosis for a couple years now (there's such a fun difference in how the hyperactive vs the inattentive types are viewed 🙃), so it's helpful hearing about these books from someone who understands. I definitely want to take a look at Taking Charge of Adult ADHD.
But I will say, I picked up Delivered From Distraction (the follow up to Driven) and I think I'm connecting with it because I decided to just take my time so I'm not being hit with the repetitiveness. And at the beginning of it, he basically says to bounce around where interest takes me, and I'm letting myself do that, lol. But I agree, there are way more anecdotes than necessary!
I hope you’re able to get answers soon ❤️ I was told over and over again by a variety of medical and mental health professionals that I couldn’t have ADHD because I did well in school and didn’t interrupt during appointments/sessions. It can be so frustrating and demoralizing! I know they mentioned hopping around the book but I just can’t read that way haha I have to read everything from beginning to end. I find it overwhelming to try to decide what to read when and I worry I’m missing something important if I skip around! 😅
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Which of these books fits your situation best? Is there another book on ADHD I should check out? I want to hear from you in the comments!😊
Thank you for this video and for being so patient to read through the books that were hard to get through. I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 37 as I was also in the midst of emerging chronic illnesses so I couldn’t really focus on getting help or trying meds for ADHD until recently. It’s been almost 3 years and I’m finally trying some meds. I found a med that works so well for my ADHD, but unfortunately exacerbates some of my chronic illness symptoms and I have to try something else. I’m disappointed because it really was helping, but it feels like this video came to me right when I needed it. It can be hard to know even where to begin with resources and because of ADHD it can make one feel defeated and want to just give up. I’m definitely going to look into Taking Charge of Adult ADHD and I hope it helps as I’m getting off the medication. Anyway, thanks again. I really appreciate this in depth video.
Thank you for posting this. At 52, I am just discovering the possibility that I have ADHD and my mind is blown so I’m gathering as much information as I can. I always enjoy your videos and can’t wait to hear more about your journey once you are willing to share more of it. You are always such an inspiration.
Thank you so much! And I hope you’re able to get a diagnosis and support if that’s what you’re looking for ❤️ I’m in the process of rewriting my understanding of myself and my life in a bit of a destabilizing yet reassuring way at the minute 😅❤️
I wanted to say good luck with your diagnosis journey! Think it was a really great video to do (I experienced a lot of imposter syndrome/RSD in the first few months, so if you're anything like me it may not have been the easiest to film) and I thought you discussed and approached topics in a very open, curious and thoughtful way. I'm 27 and was also diagnosed in the last year. It was great listening to your reviews as I really value your opinions having watched all your vids (and tend to see very eye-to-eye with books). I haven't got around to reading any on ADHD since being diagnosed, so this video was really helpful and made me reflect on what it was I'd be looking for in a book.
Love the fringe!
One book I have loved recently (not on ADHD but by an autistic author) was 'A Kind of Spark' by Elle McNicholl, it's a children/ya book but honestly fantastic. Such a brilliant author. The first book I have read where the main character is a young autistic girl, written by an autistic woman.
Thank you so much! I’ve definitely felt a lot of imposter syndrome and RSD (but they aren’t really new) since getting diagnosed. It’s hard not to feel like I’m actually just making it all up and I’m fine, but having struggled with my mental health in the past (ED, depression, anxiety) I know that’s just my brain trying to trick me/shame me out of getting the support I need. I’m so glad you enjoyed the video and found it helpful to think about what you’d want out of a book on ADHD! I’ve always been insatiably curious, so I wanted all the answers as soon as I was diagnosed 😂
Oo thank you for the recommendation! I’ll definitely look it up and consider adding it to my TBR ❤️
Great review. I liked the contrast between Berkeley and Mate. The latter cites very little empirical research the former has conducted and published some of the most influential research in the field. I highly recommend his RUclips channel too - his recent, spicy response to Jordan Peterson is quite cathartic 😂.. edit: he’s also responded to some of Mate’s claims about childhood trauma being causative of adhd.
I think with ADHD (and any other neurological 'condition' or difference) is that so much curiousity is in trying to help people fit in (especially for Autistics) as opposed to looking at it from a perspective of our society kinda sucks and we could do it differently.
I definitely think it can be both! We can support neurodivergent people in their attempts to find coping mechanisms -and strategies that help them thrive to the best of their ability in our current world, while also working toward a world that is not so rigid and overwhelming and exhausting for everyone ❤️
@@PlantBasedBride 💯. My hackles go up immediately when I hear things like what was in the book for women that is in the toxic positivity sphere and leaves people who feel out of place and frustrated without support. I work with people whose self confidence has been destroyed by that attitude and it can be hard for people to see the many gifts they have as well ❤️
Dr Gabor Maté has a history as a family practice doctor, he has no history in neuroscience or psychiatry. He has no authority to say anything about ADHD.
He bases his theory on personal experience and observations but they have absolutely no basis in science whatsoever.
He is an expert on trauma and addiction, and I think that a lot of the work that he has done in those fields around taking the stigma away from these things can be helpful. But its important to distinguish between something that is helpful in a general sense, and him pushing problematic theories which contradict almost every scientific idea about ADHD.
His coping strategies may help people, and thats great. But there are huge huge ethical problems with a man pushing ideas that he knows nothing about (But claims the exact opposite) and pushing cures to the uncurable in his payed courses and books.
You mention that the brain is complex and we don't really know a lot about it, which is true and really interesting. The brain is unbelievably complex and the science around it is really complicated, which is why it is important to allow the real experts to be authority figures in the field. Not some random who has about as much experience in real psychiatry and you or I.
Sorry for the essay but I thought I should say something. There is a reason why he doesn't put studies in his writing, its because there are none that confirm anything even close to what he is saying. Maté is, in this area of study, a complete charlatan.
I'd advise viewers to look into his background before spending money on his writing.
Sorry again, really don't like being negative. I hope everyone that pushed through their ADHD to read this long comment has a great day 😊
My understanding is that the basic concept of what he’s proposing (that attachment with parental figures impacts brain development) is widely accepted to be true by current scientific consensus, but that the sticking point is whether it has a hand in the development of ADHD specifically. He’s not spouting completely made up ideas, here. He also didn’t push a cure anywhere in the book, though I don’t know anything about his courses.
I’m not sure how classifying a doctor with a medical degree is “some random who has about as much experience in real psychiatry as you or I” is really fair? He certainly understands more about early brain development than I do, with no medical training. There are also many trained psychiatrists who don’t understand adhd, so it’s a bit of a moot point anyway.
Like I said repeatedly in the video, I’m taking his theory on the origins of ADHD with a grain of salt and weighing it against what I’m learning from other sources (I also largely don’t care what the cause is). His tips for parents would have helped me a lot as a child if my parents had been aware of them, and his stories about his/his family’s experiences and those of his patients helped me a lot with coming to terms with my diagnosis and understanding myself better.
You say his theories are problematic - can I ask how? I’m certainly open to learning more if I missed something, but I’m honestly a little taken aback by the vehemence in your comment!
@@PlantBasedBride @Plant Based Bride All of my negativity in that comment was entirely focused on Dr Maté and not at all on you or your coverage of his book. I thought you were really fair in describing the book given what you know.
If the book helped you thats great, and it helped others come to terms with their diagnosis and learn something then that's great too. Having only been diagnosed as an adult myself a few years ago, I understand that its important to get an understanding of this thing that has been so impactful on our lives.
Maté may not use the work curable in his writing but he calls ADHD a reversible developmental delay, even on his website in the tagline when advertising this book. It is not reversible. You can deal with the symptoms through adulthood but it is by no means reversible.
He may have a better grasp on the developing brain as you or I so calling him some random wasn't exactly fair and for that I apologise. However, there are different disciplines within medicine that require a certain specialist training, psychiatry is one of them. You wouldn't trust a family practice doctor to break down the intricate details of a surgery they were never trained to do, so you should not trust them to explain things in an incredibly complicated discipline they aren't trained in. If some specialist psychiatrists know nothing about ADHD, that shows its quite complicated even within trained psychiatrists, even more reason to not trust the untested theories of an untrained person.
He says ADHD is not genetic, but the science says it has a major genetic component. He says its reversible, but the science says it is by no means reversible, you can only manage the symptoms.
He says it is caused by environmental stresses and disturbed social conditions and then detaching from your environment due to these environmental stresses. None of this is based in the science at all. Childhood trauma or poor social conditions as a child have a small correlation with worsening ADHD symptoms, and its just a correlation there is no proven causation at all.
He saw a correlation around detached parents and a stressed environment and a child with ADHD. (This can be explained by it being genetic. If your parents have undiagnosed and untreated ADHD, theyre going to be detached and stressed with a newborn.) And without a hint of study started screaming it as a causation with the conviction of a man who actually knows what he is talking about. When he doesn't, he is a charlatan.
People may not care how it is caused, but a stressed out parent reading a book because their kid just got diagnosed should not have to face a reality where they supposedly caused this difficult and traumatic condition in their child due to their parenting or environment. When that is not the case whatsoever, they could have done nothing wrong. Its problematic and unethical.
Again, none of this is focused on you, I just object to giving that fraud money and I dont think others should either. You expressed you didnt know much about him, so I thought I should say my piece.
BTW, Dr K on youtube has done wonders for my personal journey understanding my own struggles with ADHD. You should check him out if you haven't already. His channel is HeathyGamerGG.
Very on brand for me (diagnosed at 35), after having had this in my "Watch Later" for a while (because I MUST but also "I can't now" and "oops, I forgot"), I'm watching this at double speed.
2x speed people are my people lol
Always figured I had it but I was always too distracted to actually look into it! 😂 I’m 60 now and need to get a grip on it. I’ll try your book recommendations. Hope I get through them 😅
This was super helpful for me! I am by no means an adhd specialist, but do have clients who have adhd in addition to the things they are actively working with me on. It’s always good to have resources to recommend people that have been vetted by someone who actually has it (since I don’t)
I’m so happy it was helpful for you! I hope it will also be able to help any of your clients you recommend these books to ❤️ I gave a book report to my therapist so she can recommend them to her other clients 😂
Thanks for doing this and sharing with us! I was diagnosed in the summer of 2021 in my thirties and - whoa - it's a freaking journey (rollercoaster?). As someone with a separate chronic illness too, things get interwoven and very interconnected (also, the fact that women's menstrual cycle can directly impacts our ADHD and sometimes make medication ineffective) on top of the fact that women and girls were very poorly researched/studied if at all until the 1990's is frustrating! I agree with some of the other comments below...it can make you really angry and sad at times. The late-in-life realization and explanations although helpful, seem too little too late sometimes. We all need time to adjust and grieve this immense part of us that we are just now made aware of. The gen pop is really behind and stuck on stereotypes with ADHD too. It's definitely a winding road.
I'm reading Driven to Distraction right now and found this video from the review and link you posted for that book in Goodreads. The book was recommended on a podcast, but I forget which one. Mel Robbins maybe? (refers to notes ... yeah, I think it was the one entitled 6 Surprising Signs of Adult ADHD). I'm listening to the audiobook and it's decent enough, though I'm only at 4.5 hours of a 13.5-hour audiobook. I'll probably persevere because I'm enjoying some of the anecdotes, but I'll almost definitely get a copy of Taking Charge of Adult ADHD after seeing your video.
And about your video - outstanding work! It was so well done that I even watched your ad section! I've subbed and look forward to watching more of your videos. Loved to see the NK Jemisin series behind you!
Thank you so much! I’m glad the video was helpful and I hope you get as much out of Taking Charge of Adult ADHD as I did. NK Jemisin is one of my favourite authors! ❤️
I absolutely ADORE your new hair. and your videos, of course!
Thank you so much! 🥰
Thank you for this video!
I'm also in my journey to search for a diagnosis (couldn't go on with my previous therapist and I'm looking for a new one in my area), and I'm also 30... The last book sounds really interesting for my case!
Good luck with getting your evaluation/possible diagnosis! It can be a long and frustrating process ❤️
Better late than never, so I'm very excited for you and what this will mean for you going forward! It took me years to stop beating myself up about things I now realize were never my fault and even more years to learn how to advocate for myself and the quality of life I deserve. I'm so glad there are so many more resources now, and I'm definitely going to check out these books!
Edit as always because I comment before I finish the video or I'll never remember to comment: looks like I'll be checking out ONE book 😂
Haha love the edit 😂 I hope you get a lot out of it if you pick it up! And I’m definitely on the journey of learning to give myself more compassion and advocating for my needs more. It’s a tough one!
I watched this when it first came out a month ago, and rewatching it/have it in the background as I go through Taking Charge of Adult ADHD again. It is SO good and your video is immensely helpful. It was probably not intentional, but seeing you use post-its and write in your books and take notes has been immensely helpful for me to actually absorb what I'm reading and making Barkley's book so much more useful.
Long-winded way of saying thank you! Helpful review, love feeling Seen finding out you also have late-diagnosed ADHD and am excited to try to get back into regular reading by using post-its!
Aw thank you! 🥺 I really appreciate you taking the time to leave this comment. It made my day! I was really hoping this video would help someone and I’m so glad to know it did 🥰
As someone with AuDHD I find the way that society thinks is super weird. Why do we all have to fit into their mould? Alot of these books are written either about how we dont fit in or how to make us fit in. Rather than the fact that being neurodiverse is an essential part of the world. We are the inventors, we see faster and easier ways of doing things, we experience emotion more strongly and can read people much easier. We see the solution way before neurotypical people. Why do we have to change to fit into some weird box that someone hundreds of years ago decided that men and women should be?
I would love to not have to fit in to society’s expectations, but I also have a job that has deadlines and requirements and requires organization etc etc. I also need to find ways to keep myself alive (feeding myself, remembering to install the smoke alarm, not forgetting to go to my medical appointments etc.) I would love society to move away from such rigidly neurotypical expectations about everything but unfortunately we just aren’t there yet, and in the meantime I want to thrive, not just survive ❤️
Been diagnosed in 35 (I think) and its so good to know these many books out there for Adults ADHD. Ive got to change my coping mechanisms from time to time. Im not happy about you been have diagnosed, but I might think how its liberating to finally having some answers.
Thanks for yhis vídeo. 😍
It has definitely been liberating and healing, though it’s also been difficult and overwhelming, too ❤️ I’m still processing all of the feelings and reconfiguring my understanding of myself!
I was diagnosed around 2-3 but my family doesn't believe adhd is a "real diagnosis" so they never told me about it. I was diagnosed at 28 and they're like "yeah some quack doctor tried to tell us that too." 🙃 I have a lot of resentment on this.
What a coincidence! I am a teacher and my colleague was just mentioning when Barkley came to speak to our teachers a long time ago! I am also working with my primary care doctor to try and get to a clinician and get tested.
Oh how cool! I hope you’re able to get evaluated soon ❤️
My assessment is next week. I too want to create a video on my reading journey.
I struggle with reading so I feel I need to make a video to actually read.
I opened youtube to start a mobility video for my morning workout and ended up watch this instead. I’m impressed you managed to finish the Radical Guide book. I think I gave up after the first chapter. The only ADHD book I’ve managed to finish was ADHD 2.0 and the sum total of what I remember is doing balance practice may help. I just bought Taking Charge on your recommendation. Thanks!
A few people have recommended that one so I might read it in my next batch when I recover from this braindump of ADHD info! 😂 I’m glad you enjoyed the video and I hope I didn’t keep you from your morning routine 😅❤️
I was diagnosed with ADHD and Autism at 48. I'm pretty frustrated bc I feel it's very obvious, and I have been so maligned by so many people. If I had just KNOWN!
somehow despite being pretty sure i have adhd (never received an official diagnosis from a clinician, only from a psychologist) it never occurred to me to pick up a book to read about it. i'm definitely going to check out some of these books after watching this -- thanks for making this video
I'm so glad this video inspired you to read up on ADHD! Knowledge is power ❤️
Thank you so much for reading all these so I can skip straight to taking charge! I love your review style excited to watch more reading videos. Also your hair soooo beautiful omg 😍
Thank you for this video and the recommendation of Taking Charge. I suspect I might have ADHD so I'm definitely going to check that one out from the library.
I'm only just starting to watch now but I do want to comment on the irony of a video about ADHD being 70 minutes long. Like. Like that's kind of a long stretch for someone with ADHD to watch, so I'm going to play the Sims at the same time so I can keep paying attention. Absolutely no shade intended! I just find it really funny.
Anyway, welcome to the Neurospicy(tm) Experience!
Interesting. I have ADHD and I couldn't stop watching/listening. The video is long but it is also neatly divided into chapters - which makes it easy to stop and start according to your individual capacity to focus.
I also did not like "A radical guide for women with ADHD" I couldn't put my finger on why, but I just did not enjoy the process and I felt like I didn't get anything out of it. I much preferred "Understanding Girld with ADHD" when it came to validation and an introduction to how adhd looks in girls and women. Though the focus is on girls it really helped my understanding when I was first diagnosed as an adult
I haven’t heard of that one, but I’ll definitely add it to my list to check out in the future! Thank you for the recommendation ❤️
two recommendations for books on my list, because am looking for something Up to date about ADHD, with more practical tips, and about Adults
1- How to ADHD: An Insider's Guide to Working with Your Brain
Jessica McCabe
2- Extra Focus: The Quick Start Guide to Adult ADHD
Jesse J. Anderson
that a side. thanks for the video, as I couldnt grasp the video on more than x1.25 , i decided to watch the important parts, and it was the first and last parts ='D
so thanks for making me put the last book on my list !
I learned about ADHD in college and for a time seriously thought I could have it. But then I met my best friend, who was diagnosed as child, and I now think I probably don't, haha. The topic still interests me a ton, though, to understand my friend better.
I do not have ADHD nor have I read "Scattered Minds," but I really enjoyed Maté's other book "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts" which discusses the homelessness epidemic in Vancouver (and beyond) particularly as it pertains to addiction. If you found his writing interesting, especially his patient interviews, I found it a very eye-opening look into an under-discussed topic. Major trauma CW's with that of course
I found out about his knowledge and experience around addiction while doing research on him last month, but I hadn’t heard any specifics about that book. It definitely sounds interesting! I’ll add it to my TBR ❤️
i loved this video and your bangs!! if you’re willing to share, i know i would love to hear your journey with getting a diagnosis since i know it can be so hard for women & adults in particular 💗
Thank you so much! ❤️ I’m not sure if I’ll make a video about that here on RUclips, but I might do a livestream for my patrons if there’s interest!
Oh man I have been trying to get through "taking charge of adult adhd" for months, I might be a lost cause... I'm 53% of the way through so I may pick it back up and see if I can just go straight to the coping strategy section of the book.
This video was very helpful! Thank youuuu 🥹🙏❤️
Thank you so much for this video!! I’m thinking about getting evaluated for ADHD myself, and I’m physician as well, so this was a super helpful vid!! :)
I’m so glad it was helpful! I hope your evaluation goes well/isn’t too stressful and you’re able to learn more about yourself regardless of the diagnosis ❤️
I wish i could talk as well as you, you are very articulate.
This was so helpful! Thank you so much!
Ah yes, the clean sheets some out of the dryer, the cats appear to ensure the proper fur-to-fabric ratio. I know this routine well LOL ❤❤
Book related: not ADHD as a topic, but I read Reader's Block: A History of Reading Differences by Matthew Rubery last year which is just about how neurodiverse brains read (or don't, as the case may be depending on what's going on in the brain). It was really interesting just a general reading topic.
Ooo that sounds fascinating! Thank you for recommending it 🤗 and yes, they have to be involved any time a bed is being made 😂 they get very upset if they’re excluded
Hey, I have autism and at my school library I noticed there wasn’t many books about chacters with autism or neurodiversity like me, and those that were there were not very accurate. I talked to my reading teacher/librarian (long and boring story) and she said she is going to try to get more books about autism in there, I provided a great website that lists books about autism by autistic authors, but I didn’t want her to only get those and thus put smaller emphasis on other parts of nerudiversity. So I am working on finding similar websites or articles or pages for others. Do you have any places i could find similar things for ADHD?
Thanks for this video, it was helpful! Would love for you to do a video discussing different planner or productivity ideas, maybe like your previous bujo babble videos! I seen some people use theme days like Saturday- chores and Friday- self-care or theme meals: Friday- pizza and Tuesday- tacos. I also seen people divide the day into three or four time blocks or routines like morning, afternoon, evening, and night. Some use a daily planner/list/hourly schedule and other people just a weekly list or a weekly list with tasks for different categories. JashiiCorrin on her channel has ideas like a self-care bingo. I find that daily list and hourly schedules might not work for me. Maybe some people are just not planners and only need a monthly calendar. There is also the pomodoro timer method. So maybe discuss different methods like theme days, daily or weekly lists, hourly schedules, routines, bingo, pomodoro, just a calendar work, or a combination of these methods.
I got that surprise at just past turning 50 years of age. I was thinking Autism, did not expect the other 2, ADD/ADHD and OCD. I recommend How To ADHD youtube channel. I am drawn to those who have dual diagnosis of Autism and ADHD, the HtoADHD channel she is not dual diagnosed as of what I know right now. There is Orion Kelly and Dan at the Aspie World, Yo Sammidy Sam (spelling), Purple Ella, among many others now. Hard to keep up.
Chloe Hayden is AuDHD, from Heartbreak High (Quenni. I have listened to her book for free on audible, called Different Not Less. I am waiting for Jessica McCabe’s book to come out on ADHD. AuDHD, is autism and ADHD. I wanna see these books. I also recommend Devon Price PhD, there are two books here, there Is Laziness Does not Exist, and Discovering the New Faces of Neurodiversity. Halliday also has ADHD, which makes his book interesting to read. I am listening to Unmasking Autism by Devon Price currently.
The How To ADHD channel is what first made me wonder if I might have it! It’s such a great resource ❤️ my understanding is that ADHDers often have multiple diagnoses, and autism and OCD are common! I hope your diagnosis (though surprising) has been overall positive for you 🥰
I understand myself a lot better, Oh the lazy book, is not what I thought it was. I am sick and tired of some people thinking I am lazy though when I am not doing what they want me to do.
Ironically since confirmation (if not full diagnosis) of my own ADHD, I haven’t been able to settle to read any of the new adhd literature I’ve acquired.
My counselor recommended A Radical Guide… to me, so I went ahead and bought it, but as I said,I haven’t been able to sit down to really read any of the books I got. Now I’m going to buy Taking Charge… Here’s hoping my reading slump goes away.
Ok, what are those tabs you’re using?
First of all ty for video a lot. I read taking charge of adult adhd and it changed my life. I went a psychiatrist and diagnosed at 30. I started medication and it works very well for me. About book i have one question to ask for u or any readers. In chapter 10 (How can master it part) writer says "There is no scientific evidence for the effectiveness of intervention outside the points of performance in your life where your major problems occur. Avoid talk-or insight-oriented therapy, psychoanalysis, weekly group therapy focusing on complaining, and similar treatments.". I read the book online. Maybe there is a bug or smt idk but should i really avoid therapy like psychoanalysis? He literally says "avoid" these things. Is it bad for adhd? What do u think?
Thank you for such a wonderful review!
I also highly recommend "Your Brain's Not Broken" by Tamara Rosier. :)
I, too, was diagnosed with ADHD at the blessed age of 30.
(Which is right now- I’m 30 now)
Haha twins! Isn’t it fun to learn something so fundamental about our brains after 3 decades of existence? 🙃😂
Me too! Mine was in 2020 though hehe. Seriously like everything in my life finally made sense.
I figured out I had ADHD through getting my kid diagnosed 😅.
I’ve heard that’s a common experience! Was it a surprise for you?
Same!! Same same!! 😅😅
My bestie has ADHD so your book selection is super useful!
How often fo You buy the same book twice, bc You forget that You already got it?
Happens to me at times ...
A few too many times 🙃 especially in a different format or on another app since I have so many 😅
My kids have ADHD. I do have it as well but undiagnosed. I will buy the one you recommend. The book I recommend for the kids is “Mon cerveau a besoin de lunettes”. They also have an adult version but I haven’t read it.
Oh interesting! I've heard the glasses for the brain metaphor before. It's a great way to think about ADHD and medication!
I wish I could read the wrong book! That would mean my brain stfu long enough for me to get through at least one sentence!
I want to read 'Scattered Minds' from a historical interest perspective, but from what I've read in terms of scientific research on ADHD, I am sceptical that it's activated by trauma. You absolutely need to cite sources with this kind of claim, and it's concerning that he didn't. ADHD is one of the most researched neurodevelopmental conditions, so Gabor really is choosing to ignore a lot of data to in favour of his own views. People with ADHD absolutely have trauma, but there isn't credible research to suggest that it is caused by trauma like CPTSD, DID etc. The problem with him claiming this further pathologizes ADHD in my opinion, and misleads people with ADHD into thinking that if they go to trauma therapy it will solve issues with executive dysfunction. Sure, that kind of therapy can be helpful, but things like CBT and coaching have been shown to help a lot more for day to day struggles. Anyway, I think you did a good job of explaining why this was a controversial pick😊
This is a great point, thank you for sharing your perspective!
Okay I haven't watched everything - but I was wondering if you'll talk more about how BUJO has adapted / helped with ADHD as someone else who struggles but can not ever do nice bullet journals (and think in daily lists on everything)
I could definitely make a video on that! I’ve been thinking about it a lot, especially because I’ve received many comments over the years that my more artistic BuJo wasn’t valid because it wouldn’t work for an ADHDer (since Ryder has ADHD and developed the system to help himself). Learning that I, too, have ADHD and have managed to have an artistic bullet journal work for me for years is validating but also taking some time to get used to!
Also one thing that i've noticed in basically everything with our brains is that we have to admit everything is "controversial" because of the nature vs nurture debate that we will almost never be able to prove and / or disprove. SO There will always be that controversy in almost every author / researcher because of this debate being one of the biggest controversial things within any reserach of development
@@PlantBasedBride I absolutely love the artistic bullet journal and (While mine isnt nearly as artistic- ie paintings and intricate details- its very relaxing to sit there and devote time to letting my brain zone out and focus on my books with drawing layouts and drawing doodles or putting pictures.). I know I tend to feel discouraged because my brain is thinking so fast that any layout goes out the window and It feels like i'm constrained and not using it to the fullest potential, but I know that you've also shared that you struggle with layouts or just filling it from time to time.
I think its absolutely an accomplishment to get an artistic bullet journal to work for you and It is really encouraging.
(I've recently been into a bujo/commonplacing method like Megan Rhiannon and that is one of the only ways I've been consistently in my books now, but it's helped bring back my creative freedom and inspiration too) I bring that up because I feel that bullet journaling has been so blocked into an expectation of perfection and ridged (almost planner like) appearances and remembering that there is so much creative freedom within the entire system is refreshing, and reminding those of us who aspire for creativity that it doesn't need to be a system that works against our brains.
(I really hope any of this makes sense and if not I am always more than willing to clarify! Typing it out is way harder than talking it out )
Great Video ❤
Thank you! ❤️
The authors of Driven to distraction have a new book called ADHD 2.0, I am more interested in that one, since it came out last year. I wonder if anyone here read it, and how does it compare to their first one? If you are willing, Elizabeth, to "take one for the team", read it and report back, that would be amazing, esp for me- an ADHD Mom with pretty much no resources readily available to me (living in a small town in a small country in Europe) and no support system raising a Neurodivergent kid on limited budget who would prefer not to spend it on a book that's not gonna help me.
Oooh someone else mentioned this one but I didn’t realize it was the same authors! I wish I’d taken the time to research them before buying D2D but obviously I didn’t do that and just bought it when I saw it recommended haha I’ll add it to the list for whenever I feel ready to read more adhd content!
Bummer to hear about Gabor Maté's book, I work in the field and have listened to a podcast by him and loved it and have been wanting to read a book by him. But I can totally understand why his book would be controversial, also, very disappointing that the language hasn't been updated.
Hi. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 43. The book that gave me the AHA moment and validation was Queen of Distraction by Terry Malten. It's a really good book. If you read it, let me know what you think. Isabella
There’s a lot information,some of it is helpful! I’m happy you are getting the help you need! Fortunately
You seem very organized and that’s helpful!🐾🎄🐾
Ahhhhhhhh My life motto too :D :D :D
Fellow ADHD Brain here xD
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Thank you
ADHD 2.0, written by the same authors who wrote driven to distraction, is a much better and modern book.
Try to read Women with Attentio deficit disorder: embrace your differences and transform your life By Sari Solden. That is the best book i have read about ADHD.
just read one book: how to adhd by jessica mccabe who is behind the youtube channel how to adhd. it‘s fantastic. ♥️
Gabor Mate is wild for this one not the birth canal wtf
I mean, that’s just evolution? Lol. Childbirth is a natural and necessary part of human existence
Please please tell me what is your red sweater?
Unfortunately I bought it from a small sustainable Canadian company that went out of business because of the panini 😔 I love PACT for their knitwear if you’re looking for sustainability made sweaters!
@@PlantBasedBride thank you for the recommendation. Only I would be looking for beautiful, dee red, deep V sweaters in June where I am working outside in 90° weather lol.
I’m a failure and I hate myself
Thank you for being so open-minded for such topics. 😊
I personally struggle with the words ADHD. Now years later I know more but the feelings were present in early school years because I had a classmate with adhd (yes, ok) but other than that she was also a nasty child always up to take profit from adults treating her differently. She got physically and verbally insulting and my class was never allowed to defense ourselves, our teachers just said that we had to accept whatever she did because she had ADHD and punished us for defensing ourselves from biting, hitting, yelling,damaging our stationary, ripping our books…)
That sounds a lot like ODD, which is often misdiagnosed as ADHD or comorbid with it. Regardless of their diagnosis, though, that’s not a fair burden to put on other children. No one should have to accept violence from others and I’m sorry you experienced that!
I agree with you- it shouldn’t be. But for three years not a single teacher (except for one at the very end) realized what was going on.
I’m wishing you all the best for your new journey 😊
Gabor Mate isn't really an expert at ADHD, i haven't read the book but from my research he teaches some really damaging ideas. Also everything things points to his website seems like a scam.
I SO wanna play with your hair. It's so long and pretty! (totally cis-female but I LOVE pretty hair! LOL!!!!)
But can people with ADHD sit through an hour-long video to get to the answers?
We watch at 2x speed so it’s only 30 minutes and we multitask 🙃
Me woth ADHD
i will get it . Tell your doctor
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Are you single by any chance i want to be with my own kind very much🤣🤣
I think your summary of why Gabor Mate is controversial is too generous. The problem with Gabor Mate and his ideas about ADHD is that he mingles factual, evidence-based knowledge with his own smattering of personal musings and anecdotes. This is a dangerous practice called "pseudoscience", and it is really one of the urgent problems of our time.
It's deceptive when a medical doctor takes the findings of scientific research and mixes them with untested, invented theories and then "backs them up" with anecdotes from his work as a doctor. He is simultaneously abusing the research and abusing his trust as a medical professional. Doctors are professionally obligated to practice using the best possible available evidence. The highest level of evidence is systematic reviews of controlled trials. The worst possible evidence is anecdotal and "expert opinion".
The video is tooo long. Remember we have ADHD?
I have adhd and I love long videos. We’re not all the same 🙃
Fantastic video! I've only just started watching and you give my ADHD brain hope that one day I can become a reader again! If anyone is looking for more ADHD books, I highly reccomend "The Year I Met My Brain" by Matilda Boseley. Specifically the audiobook version because it's narrated by the author who is a journalist by trade so she is so engaging to listen to. (Edit now that I've watched the whole video: It sounds a lot like "Taking Charge of Adult ADHD" but with more catharsis moments)
Matilda started writing the book about a year after she was diagnosed so while the book is predominantly a long form research piece, it also has a meta side where the author comments on her own experiences (where appropriate) and often has the feeling of the author having an "ah ha!" moment along with the reader. The book is split into two parts with those personal anacdotes sprinkled through.
The first part is that long form research piece that focuses on the facts. It explores symptoms, gender/race bias, social/societal aspects, the impacts of underdiagnosis/misdiagnosis, the impacts of not being diagnosed and the flip side of being diagnosed, medications, etc. The author approaches these topics with nuance and the gravity they deserve but she's also funny where appropriate. Like I said before, the author was also learning about her condition while writing the book and I think we all have those super heavy moments but also the "oh well that's silly and goofy" moments while we figure out our brains. I loved this first part and it's why I reccomend the book. It was an engaging way to learn about the bigger picture of the spicy brain I and so many other people live with.
The second part goes through tips for ADHD that the author has found. I frankly don't remember a lot of them because I took to listening to it while playing City Skylines... And I think the tips would be more memorable as text as well so it could be notated and referred back to. I bought a physical copy of the book for this reason... It's on my to do list... Which I may get to in five years. The parts I do remember were useful, it's not just "oh write a list!" because it's written by someone who has ADHD.
Overall, I really can't stress enough how good the audiobook is. It's definately worth a read.