Men Who Propose with No Intention of Marrying?!
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- Опубликовано: 17 янв 2022
- Is there such a thing as a “hush” ring? Is a long engagement a sign of trouble? We weigh in with guest co-host Kathy Hilton.
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Hubs asked me to marry him after 2 weeks of dating, we were married 6 months later. That was 27 years ago💗
Congratulations
@@agathachris9722
Thank you 😊
Exactly
Wow
What a blessing!!
This is why a woman should never pressure a man into marriage. Let it be known that you wanna be married yes but don't act desperate trying to pressure him. If he ain't into it or he's hesitating, LEAVE!!Life is too short to be wasting it on a man that plays games. If a man REALLY wants you, he'll marry you ASAP no matter what no need for $$$$. He ain't gonna waste your time.
AGREE 100%!!
I think if you feel ready, have a heart to hear with your partner about your intentions and desire to marry. Depending on his response, you either leave the relationship or move forward as a united front. He’ll either pop the question or drag you along and if that’s the case, stop wasting your time. If a man wants to marry you, he will.
A woman cannot pressure a man into anything.
Kathy is from the old school! She wouldn’t have gone for this type of game that men play 😂❤️
Okkkkkk love it!
Amen! You know it!
She sure wouldnt have.
Right! And I agree with her.
Facts!!
I was engaged for 8 months....we set a date immediately...I was not here for the 10year engagement....no ma'am 🙌
BTW my " wedding" dress was burgundy and cream from NYC Macys....
We went to the courthouse and been married 6 years ever since. The money we would have spent on a wedding, we bought a condo..maybe it's me, but people have to stop living in a fairytale and get down to what you really want: A healthy , loving relationship that works for you and your partner ♥
Congrats to you, honey! That’s the way it should be. Weddings and funerals…the two industries that know how to fleece you at the height of your emotions. Glad you didn’t fall into the trap so many of us do.
I bought my wedding dress from clearance at Macys. 🤣 it was cream and I’d say weddingesque looking. We eloped anyway so it was perfect for me and I think it was like $80 or something. It was definitely under 100 I remember that. Zero regrets about anything.
Agreed . It doesn't take perfect or forever to just do it .
Congrats beautiful! I agree when a man puts a ring on my finger and wife me up then we have to get it going. I'm not going to be engaged forever smh 😕 men nowadays propose but nothing happens after that
Love that for you👏
Lenny absolutely gave Adrienne a “ hush ring” 🙄 that man said “ give me four months” didn’t give her a key to the crib after 6 years.
Yeah I think she really dodged a bullet with that guy
Facts he played with her feelings 🤧 but my girl found her love and I'm happy for her
She was smart she knew what was up. I'm glad her and Israel seem happy and fit eachother perfectly
Right she knew after a while that he wasn’t really genuine.
@@melissalitus8879 Mr. Houghton is AMAZING !
Getting married and having a wedding are two different things. The wedding is a celebration. I’m with Kathy if you want to get married get it done. You can celebrate anytime.
As a wedding/event planner, I can say that lots of times, it takes longer than 6 months to plan a wedding... Some venues and vendors have no openings and are booked to capacity, even months to a year and a half away (if not more)... That being said, like she said, if you REALLY wanna marry someone, it doesn't take all of that... That's what the justice of the peace is for🤷🏾 HOWEVER, the couples that DO want to plan a celebration and share their love with family and friends shouldnt be shamed for doing so... To each their own...
But at least they are planning and have a date. Not parading with rings 3 years and no prep
Really depends
Prior to Covid I do feel that most weddings took a year to plan. However, since covid I have had a lot of last minute weddings. I would say 3-4 months is the booking window. Also, it seems that more and more clients are choosing weekdays compared to the weekend. Like Kathy said, you can have a wedding that isn't expensive. I think many people have that same mindset now.
I was able to plan a wedding in 6 months in LA, got a hotel on Sunday MLK weekend (just had 5th anniversary), got a custom gown (locally made, but almost got a Monique Lhurlier one and they were able to do 6 months). It can definitely be done in 6 months or less.
Home is a venue...
Kathy is a queen, no games no BS , love it😂
i dont think kathy likes when people use her money to minimize her point . kathy seems really unfazed by the money that usually happens when its old money . cause she's been rich for so long so she isn't too fazed by the glitz and glamour and this huge show of a big lavish wedding.
i like this angle
i agree most of the rich people have to have the lastest brands and most expensive are the ones that like to show others how rich they are some of the richest people in the world are the most humble when it comes to showing they got money
Kathy isn’t old money. She’s lucky she married up, with a Hilton.
She had kid actor sisters, so what do you mean? Kyle said it on the show that their parents kept them all in the same house even after kyle and Kim made their money as kid actresses.
Being married for 40 plus years, she has a good balance of real life vs that wealth life so she can see the BS in it if it does not make sense
I agree whole heartedly with the ladies! ❤️
I bet.
Well… my husband asked me to marry him two years into our relationship but I didnt really care to get married. I just thought it was better to be engaged and call it a day. my parents never married and I honestly didn’t see what all the damn fuss was about. Until one day he said to me “are you really not going to marry me? I asked you because you are my soulmate, the mother of children and best friend. Marry me damn it!!” And child The next week we were married. Lol Point is… if a man wants to marry you he will do it regardless and ladies don’t feel pressured to get married. Enjoy being engaged then enjoy being married.
If I could go back in time, I would not have had a big wedding. My husband proposed to me after 6 months of dating, then we made it official the next week by going to the courthouse. Been married @13 years & counting. We had a big wedding 2 years after the courthouse wedding. I wish I would've used that money as a down payment on a house instead of a wedding.😔
Thanks for the advice girl ❣️
I totally agree and thanks for the advice. That's exactly what my husband and I are going to do. We got married at the courthouse. I kept saying for months after that I've always wanted a nice wedding. Now that feeling has passed. I told him to just buy some land and build a beautiful dream home. When we make it to 10 or 13 years we will have a nice dinner party/celebration.
Exactly! People just love that party part bec of fear of missing out if you do not have one. Bu in all seriousness, use the money for something worthwhile
So true about engagements. When you get engaged, this is the person you’re going to marry. Don’t need months or years to get hitched after you’re engaged. Your investigation needs to be thorough enough that you’re sure he/she’s the one by the time you ask/accept. If you’re still “dating” after a year without an engagement, you’re not doing your due diligence and you’re treating each other like placeholders. You want to be single? Don’t be exclusive. You want a partner for life? Either get married or let them know you want to cohabitate only. There should be no confusion as to what is expected by either party. Waiting for that ever elusive ring is a fool’s game.
Speak the truth!!!! Amen 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Yessss
Agree!
1 Year sounds too short to me. I think traditionally the sweet spot is 2.5 - 3 years, but that assumes you find Mr. Right in your 20s. If older, I can see why there's more of a rush put on things, but you want to really know this person first and get to know their family. No point in marriage to soon after get a divorced. I think it can work for some, but doubt it will work for most.
I don't think you need to be engaged after a year of dating, but you should definitely know after a year whether you'd marry that person.
Never beg or coerce a man to marry you. It will end with disaster. A man knows the woman he wants to marry and if he doesn't want to get married. Do not put yourself in a position of having a shut up ring or a man telling you he never wanted to marry you years down the line instead of being with someone who actually wants to marry you and shows it.
When there is no date, it's to keep her on the contined wait. He can commit to a sports team, vehicle, home, but you let him "play" with you. Nope. Stop.
Preach!! He will commit to everything in the world but his girl smh. Dudes know not to mess with me, we have to set boundaries from jump or they'll keep playing in our face 😒
I’d wait 6 months to a year tops. It reminds me of when Tam said, enjoy being a couple, enjoy being engaged and then enjoy being married. It’s sweet to enjoy the stages but engagement isn’t the final stage, set that date. Ideally I’d love a destination elopement turned honeymoon.
When Adrienne mentioned money Kathy was like “oh, yes” as if she forgot us regular people have to save up for these things 🤣🤷♀️
But if the guy is serious, he would secure that first before asking for marriage.
Pure insanity! We are adults and one thing about being an adult is that you should be upfront and clear with your intentions. Ladies, if you don’t get the ring after a year or two, it’s time to MOVE ON! 🗣🗣🗣
I agree, and I don’t think it’s pressuring or any of that stuff. If he knows that you are marriage minded from jump then there’s no discussion to have. A man Absolutely knows if you are his wife or not within a year of intentional dating. Adrienne made every excuse for Lenny and we as women need to stop giving men our precious youth.
@@Msladyrae92 Exactly! I hate to see women getting strung along for 10 - 20 years! We have to learn from the mistakes we’ve seen women make in the past so that we don’t wind up in those ditches ourselves!
My opinion, but I believe this is why the divorce rate is so high. Ppl are not getting to know each to see if they are on the same page financially, spiritual etc before rushing to get married under a year or two bc everyone on SM saying that's how it suppose to be now.
Ps:I don't believe in being a girlfriend for 5 or 10 years either. I prefer to have a balance and don't want to be rushed by societies rules
@@ToniaAlex13 I believe the divorce rate is a result of technology and entertainment shaping the minds of modern society rather than not getting to know one another. Decades or even hundreds of years ago, marriage was for life. Most people got married young and stayed married until their spouse passed away.
Social media and modern technology has created a “Burger King” culture of sorts where everyone wants to “have it their way.” So, fidelity to one’s spouse has gone right out the window as a result of how technology has changed our culture. People always think the grass is greener on the other side and, of course, there is a lot more temptation to cheat. People don’t have the same values as our grandparents and great grandparents.
Yep no engagement after two years you are wasting my time as a marriage minded woman.
Getting life lessons from Kathy and I LOVE it! Especially about getting clothes made at the dry cleaners. I forgot that they provide alterations etc., so if you have a pattern or an idea, why wouldn’t they be able to do an outfit if you find the right one? You know how many fashion students are out here looking for a project for their portfolio? Gotta think outside the box. All this “it takes months” to do or get anything is a scam by the wedding industry. Don’t accept it. Look elsewhere.
Getting your clothes made is very good for those who can afford it. But if you can afford to replace clothes every year or even every two years, you can afford to get something made.
This is why we love Kathy Hilton, she is more The Real than the View.
I wasn't playing. The minute I got the ring, I was asking what dates he was looking at. LOL We're actually going to the courthouse on February 25th due to COVID, but we will have a family ceremony next year if permitted.
Congratulations 💞✨
Congrats
@@arieal0elease0harris Thank you! :)
@@melissalitus8879 Thank you!
I agree with Kathy , aint no excuse hell if you really want to be married go to the courthouse and celebrate with others in a later time ! These men would sadly spend money on a ring to “hush you” and some girls fall for it for years . Not me , I’ll give you 2months with me asking for the date and if I don’t get no answer after that then you can have your ring back or I can get money for it. Don’t waste my time
Thank you 🙏🏽
well like they do it to themselves those women living with them playing house like why would he need to marry you you doing everything for free already why would he need to commit to u in marriage for ? like if a man wants to marry you he will ask you u should never have to beg for it or nag them about it why would you want to marry someone you have to nag to give you a ring ? int he first place
no girl, no
I think Adrienne got a hush ring. Glad she recognized it!
Ok if I’m honest… I’m not sure why but seeing how Adrienne was Season 1 VS Season 2 & 3… she went from acting like the cool gf that just accepted anything to the real version of herself that yearns for love and affection ! And I truly believe that Lenny had proposed to her in a way that wasn’t natural ! Because for one she gave hints that he didn’t put much thought into it when he tried to reserve a restaurant… then the carrots thing seems symbolic but it was… the execution and timing seemed off ! We went from we don’t want to get married and I’m cool just being with you without a title to him randomly deciding to propose in February… and that to me was very interesting cuz like… no way your mind is changed that quickly unless you’ve been pressured ! And that’s the part I felt bad but seeing the difference once she got with Israel… she’s found both herself and her life partner ! And that’s what I like ♥️🙏🏾
Yea she has spoken about the fact that she pushed for every stage of the relationship. It’s heartbreaking, as a woman I’ve been there and been a “ pick me “ . The growth you saw from season 1 to 2 was when she became a grown woman and loved herself enough to walk away. She did her “ eat, pray , love “ trip. It’s a shift that most of us have when we hit our thirties. Still so proud of her that was a major decision. These ladies are so inspiring and I love how honest they are about what they deal with, it absolutely helps me personally.
@@Msladyrae92 can I just say u are so pretty 💕💕
I don't blame Lenny in the sense that it's understandable that if you've been married before you may not be keen to do it again but he was dead wrong for dating such a young woman. Obviously she would want to get married🙄 He should date a fellow divorcée.
I'll neve see forget that lenny proposed with a box of carrots 🤣🤣
Anytime a woman says, "We don't believe in marriage," I never ever believe her. If she says she doesn't personally, maybe. But the moment she says "We", yeah no. He doesn't believe in marriage and you want him badly enough so you agree.
Premarital counseling is important and that takes time too
I love Kathy. Please have her back again on the show!!!
I can't believe y'all never heard of this. How many of us have known people that have been engaged for like 10 years? I knew this girl who stayed with this guy for over 10 years and he never married her. They ended up breaking up. So to quote Kim Zolciak... "The ring don't mean a thing... Whoa ooh whoa ooh whoa ooh whoa..."
Or, they date someone for years on end only to finally break up finding your partner and marry that new partner within 2 years.
People be honest with each other if you're not into that person or if you're not looking for marriage get out.
So ridiculous! I have a coworker who was telling me about her 10 year engagement. I abruptly shouted out “10 years!” and just zipped my mouth afterwards. Not my problem 🍵
It takes me back to Tanya from Season 11-13 of RHOA she says she’s been engaged to her fiancé for about 9 years now and they call each other wife and husband but they haven’t had a wedding or a actual paper stating that they’re married
Lmaooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo not Kim’s song. I’m dying
I legit heard Kim’s voice singing “whoa ooh” and I’m dying🤣🤣🤣
I think if you do want the wedding, it shouldn’t take you longer than a month to book a venue and pick a date. Everything else stems from that date.
But Kathy is right, if he really wants to marry you, it won’t matter who what when where and why.
Yup! Exactly it took us ONE month to book a venue and pick my dress. We just waited 7 more months to the actual day we book. The wedding was fully planned within a couple months.
honestly its women that care about the wedding part men just wanna marry you and would be fine with eloping most men anyway
Paris mother is too real 🥰..,,,I love her straight too point ,attitude.....are you sure that Paris mother 😆😆😆🥰🥰
Whoooo God bless Kathy 😂 she ain’t playin!!
Facts! 🙌🏾 My hubby asked me to marry him and two weeks later I was at our church walking down the aisle. 😭☺️ Six years have passed and I’m pregnant 🤰🏾with our first bundle of joy! If you want it bad enough you make it happen. I thank God for consistently blessing our union. ❤️
Kathy is not taking any prisoners 😂😂
She was not playing with all the excuses people come up with prolonging their engagement. I don’t blame her. That’s how people get bitter & angry for having their time wasted.
If a man wants to actually marry you, he will. They always do. They know quickly when you are the one. If he hasn't asked you - or taken clear steps to SHOW you - that he wants to marry, then he ain't into it and you need to roll out.
My oldest son knew after a week. They were together 3 years but he knew. Then he proposed in late September 2021. The engagement party was in late October 2021. They set the date for mid-September 2022. Meanwhile, my youngest has had an engagement ring for his amazing Lady Love in his pocket since August 2021! And we have been forced to keep the secret because he wants to propose on our family cruise set for April 2022. A CRUISE! How is that even gonna happen during this Pandemic Life?! I'm so mad. We keep begging him to just friggin propose NOW! But he won't. He wants it to be special for her and got ALL of us to book cabins on this cruise so she can be surrounded by everyone who loves them. *When a man knows, He Knows!*
Exactly 💯 agree with you.
I was with my husband for 3 years before he proposed. Got engaged in late January, set a date in February , and married in late October of the same year. I wanted more time to plan the wedding along with my husband and I didn't go into ANY debt for this wedding including our honeymoon at a 5 star luxury resort, all-inclusive. We have been married for over 4 years and bought a house this month :)
Find out what works BEST FOR YOU! But if you have been engaged for more than 3 years and haven't set a date, you guys need to talk!
Congrats on the home
@@MamaCeesay98 Thank you so much :)
@@Taliaboo17 you are welcome, sis!
I also think Kathy means, if you’ve gone past 6 months with no planning too. Ya might be barking up the wrong tree.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with waiting a year.
It's basically a guarantee that you'll have to wait at least a year (if not 2) if you're having a destination or church wedding
@@ellandecampbell6279 Exactly. No issue with the guest host as a person, she was nice to see. But how dare she judge how people want their wedding? Some young girls have a dream of what they envision it to be & that's ok. I personally got married quickly after the engagement & had a court house wedding 5 yrs ago. Everyone has their own personal reasons on why they want to do things a certain way. However imo if its 3 yrs that's when I would start to sweat a little lol
@@chinnjk calm down with the “how dare she” she literally was speaking the truth about how weddings are a bunch of bull and if you wanna marry someone you marry them. If you’re too worried about the wedding details you’re not ready to be married. THAT was her whole point.
@@chinnjk Keep in mind men get married too lol. The wedding isn't only about the bride.
@@hannahwalmer1124 Duh. Lots of men don't care traditionally. Common sense it's their wedding too. You have no idea how much energy & time I tried to get any info out of my husband & he didn't care. Then I got tired of having to plan it all because it's very expensive so I was like just courthouse then
Years ago when a man asked to marry you a date was thought about and immediately set. No years of engagement. If someone wants to marry you why such a long engagement.. either you want to get married or you don't.
Speak the TRUTH Kathy!!!! Straight FACTS 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 My mom always tell me 3 to 6 months is enough time for a man to know if you wants to marry you or not. Because what I'm not about to do is wait a year or longer the devil is a lie!!!
Kathy said y’all broke and wasting time 🤣
😂
Basically 😂😅
Right lol
Get married. Have the party later. People have kids then marry so why the cant find funds or venue drama?
I UNDERSTOOD what Kathy was saying. Thank You Kathy for expressing your informative facts.
My ex proposed with no intention to marry me. The engagement was 2 and half months. It happens. I agree with Kathy. It doesn’t take a year.
I like Kathy.
During a wedding the most important thing is the bride and groom as long as they attend everything else is not important
I agree, you don't have to spend 2 years planning a wedding after engagement. I got married 7 months after being engaged, the very night he proposed, we started planning, 2 weeks after that a date was set and venue was already chosen 😅
Kathy is a breath of fresh air. Love her
I was engaged for 5 years before married. We are still married 23 years later. Communication is key.
Why engaged for so long if you don’t mind me asking? I’ve been engaged for almost 3 years.
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I got engaged in July 2021 and am getting married December 2022. For me what takes longest is the requirements of the católica church. In the First 6 month I took 13 premarital clases with my fiancee and have just last week did my presentation with the Catholic church that involved interviews with both our parents, each other, and 2 non family witness each. Your right to say we don't know where we will be in 1 year but I'm in medical school so december is when I get a month off. Hopefully God willing all goes well. But there are many requirements to go. I still got to get married legagally and that in itself is another set of requirements. Really it depends on your state and your religious views
Omg I got engaged July 4 2020 married December 22 2020! Crazy
My husband and I were engaged for 3 years.. he was in pharmacy school, and I wasn’t trying to get married on Saturday only for him to have class on Monday. Lol so I get waiting until you have that time off to actually spend with the person you’re marrying. I think there are more variables that come into play than the ones being presented here.
Your church is purposely holding up your wedding💀
Congratulations! I’m getting married in December 2022 also. It’s also because I’ll be done with grad school by then. Plus, weddings are expensive! We’re saving and budgeting now. I got engaged in October 2021.
FYI, at minimum engagements are 1 to 1.5 years if planning a wedding. Some people may need more time to save for the wedding they want.
First off, enjoy your engagement. No need to rush into marriage. It is a wonderful time, enjoy the commitment and bringing your families together.
Second, some people do not live together prior to marriage, so it will take time to find a place to live and at least partially combine finances (creating joint accounts).
Third, if you will be married by the church, pre-marital classes are likely required and I had to be on their schedule, not my own.
Fourth, pre-pandemic, it typically took at least 7 months to get a wedding dress delivered after choosing from the dress store. I don't know anyone who bought a dress off the rack. As far as I know, buying off the rack ain't typical for a wedding in a hall, and even more unlikely if you're plus size.
Fifth, wedding venues tend to be booked at least 9 - 10 months out, and you need months to visit and interview venues, DJs, florists, photographers, etc. This is a whole production.
Overall, ain't none of this being done in 6 months. If you don't want to have a wedding at a wedding hall... then sure to 6 months. For more context I'm in the NYC area, don't know if it's different in other states.
Some advice. Don't rush into marriage after engagement. This is the time to be absolutely sure you want to spend the rest of your life with this person. It will test your relationship with finances and making big financial decisions together (one of the top reasons for divorce) and dealing with family and their opinions on how your wedding should be and how to combine the families, and will truly show how well you work together under pressure. This is the make or break time. Don't rush it. I think anything beyond 2 years is too long though, but sometimes people need 2.5 to save. If longer than that, ask yourself if you even still want to be married. This advice may likely be best for women under 40, maybe over 40, I see why there's more of an inclination to just get on with it. I got married in my mid-20s.
I'm here for Kathy!
Engagements longer than 2 years are a sign of trouble for me. Couples that drag their feet or run down the aisle need to spend the engagement making sure they're sure. Divorce/annulment is a lot harder than a break up even if deposits and things were put down. Men might do the proposing for most cultures/religions; but women have the power of choice. Keep your eyes open and talk and show up til you're blue in the face about expectations and how you feel.
I was engaged for almost 2 years we had a very happy relationship. We have been together for 5 years. We just couldn’t afford/ have the time to plan. I was in school (5 classes), internship, working full time to buy a home. I graduated we bought a home at 23 and both make pretty good amount of money now. Our wedding was fully paid and we have. A savings and are saving for another home. No student loans or debt due to working hard together and we always knew and treated our relationship as we were married. I’m currently 6 months pregnant now. Our relationship is exactly the same as before still happy and in love. I don’t feel any different then before or do anything different then before. The only thing is we both have rings and my last name changed.
So I didn't do things right. My husband and I had kids before we got married. When we did get married we got married in a chapel with only 18 people. It was perfect and absolutely NO stress.
🙏😘🙏 WOW!!! KATHY HILTON IS AN OG...GOTTA LOVE HER HONESTY...CUT/DRY NO GAME...THANK-YOU MA'AM...GOD BLESS YOU!!! 🙏😇🙏
Kathy gives the best advice!
Love Kathy’s inputs man love thats gold.
I say do what's best for you and your relationship. No one can tell or decide the best way to get married. There's no right or wrong way nowadays. No matter what you say, there will ALWAYS be someone who disagrees. Some people believe I'm marriage some don't. Some people want traditional weddings Some don't. Who cares, do what makes you and your fiance happy. It's your life. No one else's.
Yes, Kathy! 💍
I'm not going to lie. My wife and I had our first date in May. Asked her to be my girlfriend May 16th Asked her to marry me 1 week later. And we were married that next week, June 1st. That was almost 11 years ago. If a man wants to marry you he's going to make that happen. But she's was an epic woman and we weren't playing games
That is such an amazing timeline. I remember my father saying it doesn't take a man 6 months to know whether he wants to marry a woman but you really knew what you wanted! Congratulations to you and your wife.
PREACH KATHY
Anyone else find Kathy’s voice soothing or just like hearing her lol
We were engaged in April and married in June. The pandemic was a big reason behind it BUT we had the most beautiful New Orleans wedding and because we didn’t invite a million people we were able to really go all out for our close loved ones. I agree with Kathy! 😊
My sister didn’t and her husband didn’t have enough money to buy the whole wedding dress. She got her dress knitted by her friend and she got married. They were both studying Medicine. They can now afford anything together. So, u don’t have to have money to get married.
Kathy, is very articulate. I like her voice. Sometimes she sounds just like Leah Remini.
I agree with A, one year is ok. My husband proposed to me in August 2014 and we got married in September 2015. And the timing definitely works for us.♥️
😂😂😂😂😂Kathy words are point, blank and period as Adrienne put it!
Straight up Loni time is important, don't waffle on time!😊
Absolutely great segment!
Great discussion! It's true. Just do it. If a msn's serious, he's not wasting time.
Btw My friend told the dressmaker it was for a formal occasion - never mentioned wedding and got a deal. Lol
I've said this for years if a man gives me a promise ring...I promise I will shove that ring where the sun doesn't shine (that is for teenagers that want to play house) imho...In your 20's to be engaged for a year or two that's okay. 30's and maybe 6 months...but if you are in your 40's or 50's and he's still saying "we will soon" nah bro...either you're going to marry me now or never...I don't need a big wedding ...Like Kathy said you can get married on the beach or in a backyard. If the place doesn't matter to you...you can get married @ city hall...🙂🙂🙂...communication is key...😁😁😁
I love Kathy so much !!
I love Kathy 😂
I was engaged for a year and half. We took a few months to plan before making any decisions.
I'm with Kathy! Love everyone's commentary about the dress! 🤣🤣🤣
I am cracking up @ the JCP dress cause that’s EXACTLY where I ordered my dress from. And I loved it, still love it.. and if I can lose a few pounds its a dress I could wear again and again and again!!!
Some of us need time to raise money to buy the ring, reception and wedding. We can’t all hire a dress maker and a planner 🙄
Actually you don’t need that much time. What people need to do is have a wedding within their means. Most venues and vendors only require deposits and then you have to pay the balance with a week or so of the event. If you put money aside from all of your paychecks over the course of 6-12 months from the time you get engaged you’ll have the money you need pay the balance in time for your wedding day. That’s how my parents did it and it worked out well for them. People want to spend an entire year’s salary on one day and that’s not the purpose of a wedding.
Met in March, by December 27 we were married of the same year. Its been 8 beautiful years so far!
So true. Either you do or you don't. Life is short.
Kathy speaking facts 🗣🗣🗣
Yessss Kathy!!!! 6 months engagement is the one!!
Kathy daughter is the queen of getting engaged and calling it off lol
Lol, I am so glad Loni called her out on having a dress made in three days. Like ma'am, we all don't have that privilege. Even when she tried to act "relatable" by saying it was done by a dry cleaner. . .naw fam. Again, you have the money and power to be able to make sure it's done within that time frame.
The wedding industry has made it hard to plan and pay for a wedding in a short time period. Times have changed. Things aren’t so simple. Venues are booked months in advance.
I love having Cathy around- she’s just coming in with plain salt- plain plain😂🤣😂🤣😂. I wish my mom had a friend like her
A Hush ring 💍 sounds like a break up ring lol
Freaking LOVE KATHY on here. Refreshing!
6 months? most venues I contacted wanted almost 2 years in advance because they were already fully booked on most weekends and Fridays! Plus dresses DO take a long time to come in and especially during these past few years with Covid it can be up to a year if there were customizations! I guess if you have a wedding planner they can stress themselves with the tight timelines lol.
She also mentioned Thursday weddings 😄
I think 1 year is fair and acceptable. If it's 3/4 years and nothing happened yet after proposing then he's playing sis run fast lol
@@melissalitus8879 Exactly 🤣🤣😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Imagine being engaged 💍 for 10yrs....what on earth is that???
You’re talking about having a wedding. Kathy is talking about getting married. There’s a difference. If you’re focusing on having your dream wedding then yes it can take a long time to plan. If you’re focused on getting married then there’s always a venue that can be booked on short notice and there’s always a wedding dress available somewhere. I know many couples that have had beautiful weddings with little planning time and a small budget.
@@anonnona6433 facts might as well not proposed if you don't have intentions of marriage 💯
this was one of the best episdoes y'all had. the laughs Loni and Adrienne shared...#3days
Katy said you don’t need to order the food a year in advance 😂😭😭 she’s funny with out even trying
Loving miss Kathy Hilton on the show 💅
HUGE TIP: Spend more money on the honeymoon and a condo/house than the wedding!!! You can cut costs on weddings, but please don't on a house or vacay!!
they talked about this when tamar was on the show & that’s one of my favorite clips from the real :(
Damn they can’t get a word in 😂
Kathy girl, you need to let them get a word in 😫
I feel you but she’s a guest so they’re supposed to let her speak
@@Rokia2003 But it’s giving narcissistic vibes, she is not even showing the tiniest bit of interest in what they have to say..
@@alina9924 exactly lmao Adrienne said something and she brought up a whole other topic😂
@@Rokia2003 right💀💀
I am old school and I think one should get engaged with a date for the wedding in mind. If not, just date for as long as you want. Why get engaged for 5yrs + ???? 10yrs ++++.....
I always said you know who you want to marry the moment you meet get to know the person but it's up to the man to know be ready time is thee essences
Fabulous outfit, Adrienne!
I love Kathy on this show...
Loni bussing on Kathy had me dying. Kathy was so confused 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Whose the guy laughing in the background?! I love his laugh😃🤣
They all funny in this clip 😂😂!
Love Kathy
I totally get where Kathy is coming from however certain circumstances are different for everybody. Destination wedding vs. Wedding at Home, Age, Money, Family circumstances, etc. 6 months is a little short of a deadline to plan for certain seasons of your life and the plan is to only do it once ideally! (but) I also don't think a 10 year engagement is okay either lol.
Well, I had one ex-colleague who had been with a guy for 10 years before getting engaged. Lost touch with her, so I am not sure if she is actually married or not, but why tolerate a man that can't commit after such a long time???! If he can't make a determination after a couple of years or so, then why have her waste her time?!