When I was young, my African Dad told me that, in marriage, we tolerate difficult times and sickness but not mistreatment. When I met my first husband, he beat me up one day until I was admitted in hospital, I woke up all swollen,bruised and bleeding, then I realized that my love for him had ended that moment, I walked away with my 3 year old child. Years on I met a more Educated, wealthy and polite man. The woman batterer lived a life of frustration and confusion. Fearing to raise children alone is stupidity, God is the one who provides and protects .
@@Geneviev285 You didn't see educated and polite there, you only saw wealthy abi. I guess you don't have issues with all, except wealthy. She can decide to describe her husband with any adjectives she likes. It's okay if you have issues with wealth, but allow people to breathe with their comment. Thanks!
Mine happened 3 weeks ago, after 7+ years I had to call d police when an hammer almost landed on my head. I'm in a shelter now with my 2 traumatized toddlers. I filed for restraining order and God and d law has been helping us. Women please speak up if not for yourself for the sake of your kids😢.
Remain Protected and Favoured with those divine gifts of the womb given to you by God who gave you life , and only Him, God has the right to take that life away from you, at His own time. I cover you with the Blood of Jesus. As your foot has touched the Whatever country you are, the Lord has given it in to you for an inheritance. My Dear take care and remain vigilant. Sometimes separation is never enough !
Living your life as a single mum and being there for your children is way better than staying in a toxic relationship that can land you 6 foot below. You are staying alive for your children, they will certainly appreciate you in future. As a single mum, don’t jump from bed to bed, focus on your children, set good examples for them and you will certainly reap good fruits. Shame on all abusive men!
Can we simply add it up that the trend occurs mostly in jobless people, people that are lazy n envious n do not want progress for their wives, having said that rich men beat too but I don’t think they murder their wives probably they are bn restricted cos of their own future n do not want to be kept behind bars
@morufatabd-salam3170 Exactly mostly the jobless and loafers .when I made this particular comment on a platform that talked about this issue ,if see the way I was been attacked by the likes of this man he !
Whatever action she took, as long as she is female. She would have been judged. Even in death, she is still judged. Now another Osinachi. Very heartbreaking. Thank you Nezeville for ALWAYS bring the real story
I lost my best friend in 2013 she was from Mali and her husband was from Nigeria he killed her the same way and she was nine months pregnant. He is in jail and claimed it was self-defence. This happened in New Jersey. Also, My older Sister left the USA and moved back to Brazzaville because of her boyfriend who also ended up killing her 3 years ago, dumped her body at the mortuary where she was 6 months pregnant. This thing is happening everywhere and has been going on for years we are just seeing it more because of social media
My goodness! So much sadness and pain, I am very sorry to hear of the loss of their precious lives sister. Their lives mattered indeed.💔💔💔 The leading cause of death among pregnant women is m*rder by their significant others. African women must begin to prioritize their safety and stop adhering to these toxic beliefs that support staying with abu$ers or reconciling with abu$ers for the children's sake. it rarely works.
Am sincerely sorry I can't imagine the pain you went through and maybe still going through because of the two incidences, peace ,peace that surpasses human understanding is my prayer for you. With love from Kenya.
What a tragic story! Society should stop giving bombastic side-eyes to people who have left their marriages. ‘What will people say’ has ended women’s lives too many times.
My dear the society isn’t demonising being a single parent abroad o! , even in Nigeria there a lot of single mothers doing great things with their children and their profession/business. I believe a lot of lies with the poor victims (who unfortunately have resided with a narcissist who constantly gaslights and in most cases ruined their self esteem, hence they worry about what is not).Really painful. May God help us all and May her gentle soul rest peacefully. May God also uphold and comfort the children
I am glad that our generation is unlike our mother's. Our generation is more aware and does not take shit sitted. I am glad people are getting educated on such matters and that more women are walking away despite the prejudice about being a single mother that society has. I am sad that when she finally got her voice. He could not believe she was standing up for herself.😢
There is something overwhelming disregarded in the African community: mental health. Most of people living abroad work themselves to death, to take care of the family home, to support themselves. 'holidays' back home is nothing but settling projects. People home see you as a bank. Those who had to do unthinkable things to survive 😢.
Yes I have heard people demonize Nigerian nurses. But people don't ask what their husbands are doing to them to make them react in like manners. Please women your life is more precious than what anybody Will say.
Hello dear God will bless you for this comment. I made a similar comment on this same story last week on another platform that carried the news ,I also spoke about how some of this men are loafers and irresponsible come and see insult including women.
@@stellaayodeji2501 I had an argument with a family member over this and to even think that she is also a nurse but from an older generation. She was seriously laying curse on another younger nurse who happened to divorce her husband in UK but the said husband is a distance cousin. I think that we women are sometimes our own biggest enemy.
Children watching a father abuse a mother are definitely going to be abusers to their partners.Single motherhood is not a bad thing ,it comes with so much freedom and peace .When a man finds a wife he finds a good thing .Marriage benefits husbands more than wives.Walk away and hide from abusive relationships .Save yourself and your children.
Children watching a father abuse a mother are definitely going to be abusers to their partners is not totally true they may grow up as abusers or become victims of abuse, and they may settle for abusers because that is what they are used to,. and there is a small fraction that would decide to do the right thing. because no one is sure if they will become abusers or settle for abusers, do not expose children to abuse because the consequences are 85-90% negative. Do not die in abuse, you will not be remembered after 2weeks except by the children you leave behind.
That's not totally true,i grew up watching my dad beating my mum and at age 14 my mom relocated with 5 but one of her children. I'm now 40+ i can confidentially say,i had never raised my voice on all my ex's
I don't even know what to say. This is really sad. chidren's life ruined, entire family's life ruined. May God console the entire family she left behind and May her soul rest in peace. May the culprit meet the full wrath of the law. Useless man
I am not loving any more than myself. Even raise his voice too high is a hell no. Thank you, Lord. I was never in any relationship like that. As I said before, as I see any red flag, I'm out. Ladies, please, leave out of any bad marriage or relationship, don't let traditions, or feel guilty about leaving, RUNNNNNN. These people you are trying to impress are not the ones in it. Leave, and don't let anyone know where you are going. The end
I respect you madam. We should not force ourselves into a relationship when we are not ready. Marriage is sacrifice between the two. It shouldn't be one sided.
We African women must start putting our lives, safety, and happiness above what others think or will say about us. Staying with an abusive partner and thinking they will change is senseless, people's behaviors are like their shadow, it never leaves them.
She should have quietly walked away a long time ago. One Benin guy, I dated a long time ago for a few months, beat me twice mercilessly.On the two scenarios he went & reported himself to, our pastor said what exactly happened without lying. After the 2nd beating, I told myself that this guy would kill me one day and call 999 & report himself to d police but I must have gone. Mi, I quietly walked away Some women who refused to walk away cos of their kids end up dying and leaving d kids in another wo😊man's care.
Neze, also the fact that they were in the church, she wouldn’t want to report her husband either. I’ve seen this too many times. Such a sad story. Poor children left to suffer. May Taiwo, RIP
Firstly, why get married to a man who have got no job? Why has he still not gotten a steady job years into the marriage? What a waste of all her efforts in life! Building herself till the point of her demise. Heavenly father I refuse to stay in an abusive relationship with any man! And may you continually guide singles to chose right and give courage to those who are in an abusive marriage or relationship to end it ASAP before it ends them.
Oh my goodness!! I am a social worker in the `Uk and somehow `I missed this story. It is absolutely horrendous!!! That man was evil. Oh how I wish she never married him as she wasn't initially interested. Her poor sons,they might all be put in different homes as one family might not be able to take therm in. So so sad!!
This is so sad. Indeed, genuine and amazing women are still around. My mom chose not to bring my dad from Nigeria on account of DVA and I think she made the right choice [for her safety]. I grew up seeing her being battered with blows and she was hospitalised twice. May Taiwo's soul rest in peace and may God comfort her family.
Good. Then your dad should seek happiness and peace in Nigeria. There are many women in Nigeria that respect men. Men should not rely on their wives and vice versa. If it works good if it doesn't too bad.
Very sad. I was q6 years old when I grabbed my dad that he would never bea6my mother again as long as I was alive. I added that my younger children would join in. We were in a foreign country and I had heard and seen evidence of his violence since childhood. He never laid hands on my mother again. She also gained the confidence to speak her mind without fear of being treated like a punching bag. I'm sorry her male children were too scared to intervene or report their father 😢 May Taiwo rest in peace and her children and family find strength, peace and comfort during this dark time. NB: I was never I wild child, but I had a very strong sense of justice and fairness, hence my reaction to the last beating I witnessed. When I felt old and strong enough to effect some change - however little - I spoke up and give God thanks it didn't end in harm to me or my mother.
I thought that too but then they might not have been at home when it happened and she might have hid it from them. 3 teenage boys would be able to overpower their dad. Also they would have probably mentioned it in school if they had been seeing it happen regularly and social services would have been involved cos of the children. I think Taiwo hid it from them
@@GracefulKnots That's a great point that the children were most likely out. And only reason for this fatal outcome. There's also the secrecy. For the most part, my mum's beatings took place in their bedroom. When I would ask about her swollen face or anything, she would claim she was ill. She never discussed it. As I grew older, I was more clued up. Heartbreaking for her sons and loved ones Really pray for them.
What the man did is preposterous and cruel,in fact absolutely inexcusable. I think couples abroad should be given a broad spectrum advise to learn how to cohabit peacefully. So many things must ve been happening behind the scene,for this situation to skyrocket astronomically to this horrendous and despicable level. Men love your wives and women please i beg you,respect your husbands. Once again,men love your wives,just as Christ loved the church.
There is extensive sources and support for women and men who find themselves in domestic violence situations. I agree with everything you said but ‘cohabitating’ with an abusive spouse. This man was frustrated his wife was the bread winner while he waited for his non existent career to take off. In Nigeria, nurses are not paid enough and she was probably covering up for him financially. My advise, never stay for the sake of the kids or you’ll never live long to see them grow.
It’s all Africa, not only Nigeria. Some Ghana men are the same. Let’s blame our culture that make men think they own women and can end their life anytime. Yes our culture is rich, but some aspect need to change.
Not only that but depression is real and a lot of married couples are depressed and are not happy in their marital homes especially in the diaspora, these killings are becoming rampant!
@Krisbankz10 you are senseless... may your daughters be treated in such manner cause they'll obviously inherit the senselessness from you 😔 I mean what kind of bad character will make a person deserve to be murdered? Please grow up and have some sense...
Orlando FL. Nigerian husband killed his 43 yr old wife with a gun. With 5 children in the house on his birthday. And waited for the police. This happened in August 2023. She was my friend my niece and a beautiful kind and extremely generous woman. This life will never be the same without her. I miss her. Her husband sits in jail unapologetic and happy. She stayed because of what was stated in this video 😢
Nezeviel God will bless you real good for this update.A blogger reported this issue last week and i gave my comment on how some of these men that are married to the nurses are loafers and not ready to work leaving most of this responsibilities to these women, come and see insults ranging from nurses are bad why is it only the nurses bla bla they even insulted me on top of it even some women. I pray they all come across this for God to vindicate me.
It a sad situation but for my life and children what ever people say i will walk out and call the authority lord help us and give us sense of direction
It's very scary, as an African woman I can say , it all starts from our African homes, there is no accountability at all, and people Japa with the same mentality,Sadly Children are in the middle of most of these calamities😢To all my women out there, married or not, protect yourselves as early as possible by not making excuses for any poor behaviour in relationships.
This is really so sad😢. I left a 14 years marriage recently due to excessive domestic violence. Just like Taiwo, i stayed in the marriage because of the kids and i was praying and hopeful that things will get better but unfortunately I absconded with 7 kids recently. Though it's not easy being alone with 7 kids but i thank God that i am alive and i didn't continue with a toxic relationship because of what the world will say.
Bringing her abusive Tyrant of a husband to the UK was her undoing. Say what you like, i would have used the opportunity to jettison such a man. But then, she must have realised that, not bringing him along would have also meant losing her kids (he would have blocked her from taking the kids out of spite or revenge). So sad . May her soul rest in peace. My condolences to her kids and her family
Women should know when to live a marriage so also do men. We are adults and know when things go wrong. When a marriage becomes unbearable, separation should be the answer before had I known, this woman would have known better. This has been happening and yet women fall victim .So there is nothing to say or advice to give. If any woman wants to die in marriage because of an abusive husband , sorry for that woman. May her soul rest in peace and May God console her children. Amen .
This is prevalent abroad and not only Nigerian couples. An Indian man in my area in the UK k1lled his wife and 2 kids late last year. The wife is a nurse and works in the same hospital as myself, and it wasn't even up to a year they moved to the UK. It's quite sad honestly.
I really wish that the police came earlier and witnessed the struggling. He would have been deported back to Nigeria and the lady still alive. 😢😢😢😢😢😢. Honestly my heart bleeds. What type of monster is this man.even after the police warned you to stay away.😢😢😢😢
If a man beats a woman, whether boyfriend or husband, please leave him ASAP. Hiding your pain and bruises because of what people will say is what I don't understand.
This is always saddening to hear, women should shine their eyes, and should not settled down for an irresponsible and lazy men who are not ready to move forward, but rather wants to control and be jealous of their wives. The children emotional states are already damaged, and they will need a therapy to be better, if not, history might repeat itself. Women should learn to leave early, before much damage will be done. Also, women should not be desperate to get married. All these signs are there, women just chose to ignore for various reasons. May her soul rest in peace, and may God grant her family the fortitude to bear the loss. So painful and pathetic.😢 Same story everytime! 😢
😢Sad story indeed but can relate to it I'm 61 yrs old SA women who grew up in an ecxactely the same environment by God's grace my mom got born again in the early 70s and God deliverance from that bondage and my abusive father followed 1976 yes we kids were already damaged from trauma and fear were all urinating at night full of anger hatred beatterness
Neze such a great video. It is very important that we talk about it. Next year I will be ten years in marriage, I have never experienced abuse. I have noticed that most men like to be in control, get respect and be seen as the head that they are meant to be. Finances is a great part of what is causing all these quarrel due to all the bills both known and hidden that has to be paid.Abroad tend to favor women more than men.
Growing up in deprivation, the person in the family who has money is the king. This is usually the man. This establishes the hierarchy in the family. In an environment where there is no deprivation, people have enough for themselves, nobody really cares who has more. Nigerians try to bring that deprivation hierarchy with them when they migrate. That lordship based on who has more will not survive a prosperous environment. Everyone has their basic needs provided. The African men still seek the servant/master relationship that was promised them in heaven. Unfortunately many like the murderer in this video only have death or prison in store.
Not that it favours women. Rather, everyone has equal rights, a situation not found in many African cultures. Some African men find it hard to accept their African wives as equals. And an oppressed African wife will take advantage of the equal rights to secure better conditions for herself when she gets abroad. Interestingly, many of such African men will be subservient to Oyibo women. So, they know what is right. They are simply picking and choosing when to do it. In Western countries, the law recognises the high incidence of violence and inequality towards women and takes steps to prevent it. But only if affected women report their situation.
Besutiful Neze, Thanks once again for your clear explanation of all that transpired prior and up to the murder of Taiwo. This is so terrible and heartbreaking. I pray God alone comforts her children, siblings and mother. My simple thoughts here are these: Abusive personalities hardly change. Extreme abusers like Mr. Olubunmi do so repeatedly because they re constantly angry at their spouses who are doing and earning better. The ego in them translated to extreme bitterness and envy so much so that they re completely blinded to all the good sides of the wife. It's about the battle of complexes. He 's embittered about why it must be the wife earning and doing better than him instead of the other way round. Battering is his only way of stamping control and headship over her as husband. Poor Taiwo, she just felt trapped and must have been more fearful about leaving the man. To her leaving him meant death. Little did she know death was already in the corner. May her soul find eternal rest in her maker . The lesson here is for women to have a mindset of zero tolerance to wife battery. Never endure this habit in the hope for a change because it never happens. Simply walk away and see yourself do much better. For those in diaspora, run to the law as soon as this is a pattern. If you are not bold enough to leave, keep speaking to good friends and family members. Sometimes, they re the ones who will come and move you if they see you re so stuck and undecidede. Life should be lived and not endured .
If you saw your father beat up your mother.He was abusing her and it is wrong you can’t repeat the same.You must promise yourself never to do the same.God is clear about how a husband should treat your wife.You can’t honour your wife if you are abusing her (God said husband honour your wife)
I believe Nigerians in general especially the men should think it through seriously before leaving Nigeria. The lifestyle culture in Nigeria is non existence in any civilised country of the world. Women are never regarded as properties that should be treated inhumanely. That is the basic property.
This has been happening a lot especially with Nigerians like Neze said, most people feel no matter what women should stay in their marriage, stay in a marriage that you are been beating and kill, I rather be single than to be in a loveless marriage. It’s sad, please stop forcing women to stay in marriages that is not working out. Sad
Most women keep mute in an abusive marriage in the name of am staying for my kids not knowing they are raising toxic kids in the name of marriage. Speak out, shout, scream till your voice is heard. What you tolerate you indirectly encourage
So Saad with all the stress nurses go through in UK to make both ends meet for their family. She would have left him and moved to another place. Now the children will suffer cos I believe the children will live a fulfilled life if the mother is alive than the father being alive
This time last year, it was the Nigerian renowned gospel singer Osinachi Nwachukwu, that was trending on Internet on the same subject....we are still counting 9ja women domestically abused and murdered by their insecure other halves. We mustn't let it happen to us for it to make an impact! It may be too late then
If she had left him in Nigeria she will be alive today….may he rot in jail for his wickedness. See the pain he has caused her family and their children
This woman is faultless , if she abandoned him at the Airport, head wd hv rolled, like a lady did few months ago, this is sad, my advice is this forget about what people wd say on any decision that is personal n life threatening , one shd know when to draw a line , I’m really heart broken, the woman tried to save the marriage , she acted well, she stood for her children, unfortunately the useless man called her husband sniffed her life out , oh my God , RIP Taiwo UKRN 😢
For me it's 2 things really der Neze. 1. Nigerian/African men are raised differently....with important values and principles missing and hidden in pride and ego. While the female gender is from very early thought how to be a woman....how to nurture (with bay dolls and all), how to be domestic (clean your room, dishes and laundry)....etc. So when the constant/environment changes.......the variables (ego, mindset, values and upbringing) become unstable and can't function......leading to an erruption/erractic/build-up of reaction. Truly sad, honestly.....I don't know how we can rectify this lacuna 😢
A friend of mine divorced her husband because of physical abuse. The man refused to go to counseling, she left everything for him and moved out and gave visitation with children. When I asked her she did not fight for house and things worked for,she tells me her life and children future worth more than married,money, house and property
Pls know wen to leave an abusive marriage be it mental abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse and put your life first before anything. Rest on Taiwo💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
Adult don't change my people. This goes to the singles like myself know whom you are dating and be careful what altitude u tolerate in the dating seen. If your expectations about the altitude doesn't go well with u please run
Thanks ma,may God console the people they all left behind,a man or a woman is not worth dieing for,if there is constant beating in marriage,a wise person should just work away,life is bigger and better than anything. May God give us the grace to come to a stage in life that what ever anybody say about us does not matter any more iJN.
This jobless murderer was jelous of his wife success and could not bear seeing her counting dollar or pounds. It is his jelousy that blinded him that he could not know that whatever the woman has is his also.if the woman was un cooperative, she would not file papers to bring him abroad, any way his wickedness has caught up with him,. he is going to pay with his life. Oh i feel for the innocent children in May her soul rest in peace Amen
When I was young, my African Dad told me that, in marriage, we tolerate difficult times and sickness but not mistreatment. When I met my first husband, he beat me up one day until I was admitted in hospital, I woke up all swollen,bruised and bleeding, then I realized that my love for him had ended that moment, I walked away with my 3 year old child. Years on I met a more Educated, wealthy and polite man. The woman batterer lived a life of frustration and confusion. Fearing to raise children alone is stupidity, God is the one who provides and protects .
Your last statement 🤍
So true.
@@LighterinmaAgreed. God always ALSO provides everything good in the Flesh in this Physical COMPLEX world we all reside in. Peace and God bless...
Agreed. God always ALSO provides everything good in the Flesh in this Physical COMPLEX world we all reside in. Peace and God bless...
Why add ‘wealthy’ to that narrative..???🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
I hate pompous and braggers..!
Mchew..!!
@@Geneviev285 You didn't see educated and polite there, you only saw wealthy abi. I guess you don't have issues with all, except wealthy. She can decide to describe her husband with any adjectives she likes. It's okay if you have issues with wealth, but allow people to breathe with their comment. Thanks!
Those telling me to bring my abusive husband to abroad,come and listen to this,an abuser will never change
Exactly my sister 😢
Don't try it
Seeing the new you will infuriate him more. Being near you will also present him an opportunity to harm you.
Please my sister keep your sanity 😅, you can’t underestimate him
No try am o
Mine happened 3 weeks ago, after 7+ years I had to call d police when an hammer almost landed on my head. I'm in a shelter now with my 2 traumatized toddlers. I filed for restraining order and God and d law has been helping us. Women please speak up if not for yourself for the sake of your kids😢.
God is with you sis 🙏 ❤️ 💕 sending love and prayers 🙏
@hawskamara Thank you. I appreciate your prayers - means a lot.
I'm soo happy you found the courage!! Pls let me know if you need anything. For real!
Remain Protected and Favoured with those divine gifts of the womb given to you by God who gave you life , and only Him, God has the right to take that life away from you, at His own time. I cover you with the Blood of Jesus. As your foot has touched the Whatever country you are, the Lord has given it in to you for an inheritance. My Dear take care and remain vigilant. Sometimes separation is never enough !
Please stay safe for your self, kids and loved ones sis❤❤
Living your life as a single mum and being there for your children is way better than staying in a toxic relationship that can land you 6 foot below.
You are staying alive for your children, they will certainly appreciate you in future.
As a single mum, don’t jump from bed to bed, focus on your children, set good examples for them and you will certainly reap good fruits. Shame on all abusive men!
I think he was envious of his wife's successes, and she couldn't see it. This man was a fake. He was no engineer, and he was jobless.
Said well
Can we simply add it up that the trend occurs mostly in jobless people, people that are lazy n envious n do not want progress for their wives, having said that rich men beat too but I don’t think they murder their wives probably they are bn restricted cos of their own future n do not want to be kept behind bars
@morufatabd-salam3170 Exactly mostly the jobless and loafers .when I made this particular comment on a platform that talked about this issue ,if see the way I was been attacked by the likes of this man he !
Why are some men so jealous of their wives that they'd wish her dead or kill her?
The writing was already on the wall . May her soul rest in peace . Hope it will change ……….. what a way to defend the wife abuser . Oga 😊😊
Whatever action she took, as long as she is female. She would have been judged. Even in death, she is still judged. Now another Osinachi. Very heartbreaking. Thank you Nezeville for ALWAYS bring the real story
If a man beats you once pls divorce him 10 times. It’s better to be single and stay alive than married and be dead . So pathetic
I lost my best friend in 2013 she was from Mali and her husband was from Nigeria he killed her the same way and she was nine months pregnant. He is in jail and claimed it was self-defence. This happened in New Jersey. Also, My older Sister left the USA and moved back to Brazzaville because of her boyfriend who also ended up killing her 3 years ago, dumped her body at the mortuary where she was 6 months pregnant. This thing is happening everywhere and has been going on for years we are just seeing it more because of social media
My goodness! So much sadness and pain, I am very sorry to hear of the loss of their precious lives sister. Their lives mattered indeed.💔💔💔
The leading cause of death among pregnant women is m*rder by their significant others. African women must begin to prioritize their safety and stop adhering to these toxic beliefs that support staying with abu$ers or reconciling with abu$ers for the children's sake. it rarely works.
Sorry dear for your loses. Sad for my sisters.
Am sincerely sorry I can't imagine the pain you went through and maybe still going through because of the two incidences, peace ,peace that surpasses human understanding is my prayer for you. With love from Kenya.
So sorry to hear this sis, Wow 2 lives just like that!!
It's a pity...may their souls rest in peace. Amen. Women really need to stop enduring toxicity. They need to start speaking up fast.
What a tragic story!
Society should stop giving bombastic side-eyes to people who have left their marriages.
‘What will people say’ has ended women’s lives too many times.
Even the church.
Why are you listening to what people will say, let them say! You are the managing director of your life
My dear the society isn’t demonising being a single parent abroad o! , even in Nigeria there a lot of single mothers doing great things with their children and their profession/business. I believe a lot of lies with the poor victims (who unfortunately have resided with a narcissist who constantly gaslights and in most cases ruined their self esteem, hence they worry about what is not).Really painful. May God help us all and May her gentle soul rest peacefully. May God also uphold and comfort the children
This is crazy.
Sometimes I think it’s nice to remain single, keep your hands clean and love your neighbor as yourself.
You read my mind.
Neze, you are such a great storyteller!!
"I guess some things follow us abroad without the need for a visa."
"Geography does not change people."
I am glad that our generation is unlike our mother's. Our generation is more aware and does not take shit sitted. I am glad people are getting educated on such matters and that more women are walking away despite the prejudice about being a single mother that society has. I am sad that when she finally got her voice. He could not believe she was standing up for herself.😢
She is my colleague, we worked in the same place in 2006/2007. May her soul RIP.
There is something overwhelming disregarded in the African community: mental health. Most of people living abroad work themselves to death, to take care of the family home, to support themselves. 'holidays' back home is nothing but settling projects. People home see you as a bank. Those who had to do unthinkable things to survive 😢.
Yes I have heard people demonize Nigerian nurses.
But people don't ask what their husbands are doing to them to make them react in like manners.
Please women your life is more precious than what anybody Will say.
Hello dear God will bless you for this comment. I made a similar comment on this same story last week on another platform that carried the news ,I also spoke about how some of this men are loafers and irresponsible come and see insult including women.
@@stellaayodeji2501
I had an argument with a family member over this and to even think that she is also a nurse but from an older generation.
She was seriously laying curse on another younger nurse who happened to divorce her husband in UK but the said husband is a distance cousin.
I think that we women are sometimes our own biggest enemy.
Children watching a father abuse a mother are definitely going to be abusers to their partners.Single motherhood is not a bad thing ,it comes with so much freedom and peace .When a man finds a wife he finds a good thing .Marriage benefits husbands more than wives.Walk away and hide from abusive relationships .Save yourself and your children.
Children watching a father abuse a mother are definitely going to be abusers to their partners is not totally true they may grow up as abusers or become victims of abuse, and they may settle for abusers because that is what they are used to,. and there is a small fraction that would decide to do the right thing. because no one is sure if they will become abusers or settle for abusers, do not expose children to abuse because the consequences are 85-90% negative. Do not die in abuse, you will not be remembered after 2weeks except by the children you leave behind.
That's not totally true,i grew up watching my dad beating my mum and at age 14 my mom relocated with 5 but one of her children. I'm now 40+ i can confidentially say,i had never raised my voice on all my ex's
I don't even know what to say. This is really sad. chidren's life ruined, entire family's life ruined. May God console the entire family she left behind and May her soul rest in peace. May the culprit meet the full wrath of the law. Useless man
I am not loving any more than myself. Even raise his voice too high is a hell no. Thank you, Lord. I was never in any relationship like that. As I said before, as I see any red flag, I'm out. Ladies, please, leave out of any bad marriage or relationship, don't let traditions, or feel guilty about leaving, RUNNNNNN. These people you are trying to impress are not the ones in it. Leave, and don't let anyone know where you are going. The end
Don’t let anyone know where you are going period
I respect you madam. We should not force ourselves into a relationship when we are not ready.
Marriage is sacrifice between the two. It shouldn't be one sided.
We African women must start putting our lives, safety, and happiness above what others think or will say about us. Staying with an abusive partner and thinking they will change is senseless, people's behaviors are like their shadow, it never leaves them.
No your shadow leaves you once you enter a dark room😢😢😢😢❤
@@uchennanwosu2488 it’s there, you just can’t see it because it’s dark.
She should have quietly walked away a long time ago.
One Benin guy, I dated a long time ago for a few months, beat me twice mercilessly.On the two scenarios he went & reported himself to, our pastor said what exactly happened without lying.
After the 2nd beating, I told myself that this guy would kill me one day and call 999 & report himself to d police but I must have gone.
Mi, I quietly walked away
Some women who refused to walk away cos of their kids end up dying and leaving d kids in another wo😊man's care.
Neze, also the fact that they were in the church, she wouldn’t want to report her husband either. I’ve seen this too many times. Such a sad story. Poor children left to suffer. May Taiwo, RIP
Firstly, why get married to a man who have got no job? Why has he still not gotten a steady job years into the marriage? What a waste of all her efforts in life! Building herself till the point of her demise.
Heavenly father I refuse to stay in an abusive relationship with any man! And may you continually guide singles to chose right and give courage to those who are in an abusive marriage or relationship to end it ASAP before it ends them.
Oh my goodness!! I am a social worker in the `Uk and somehow `I missed this story. It is absolutely horrendous!!! That man was evil. Oh how I wish she never married him as she wasn't initially interested. Her poor sons,they might all be put in different homes as one family might not be able to take therm in. So so sad!!
This is so sad. Indeed, genuine and amazing women are still around. My mom chose not to bring my dad from Nigeria on account of DVA and I think she made the right choice [for her safety]. I grew up seeing her being battered with blows and she was hospitalised twice. May Taiwo's soul rest in peace and may God comfort her family.
Good. Then your dad should seek happiness and peace in Nigeria. There are many women in Nigeria that respect men. Men should not rely on their wives and vice versa. If it works good if it doesn't too bad.
I really feel bad for the kids (3 boys), the trauma they had to go through. I hope they heal and the stronghold is broken in that family
Amen!
Their sons need prayers ,they must me devastated
Very sad. I was q6 years old when I grabbed my dad that he would never bea6my mother again as long as I was alive. I added that my younger children would join in. We were in a foreign country and I had heard and seen evidence of his violence since childhood. He never laid hands on my mother again. She also gained the confidence to speak her mind without fear of being treated like a punching bag. I'm sorry her male children were too scared to intervene or report their father 😢 May Taiwo rest in peace and her children and family find strength, peace and comfort during this dark time.
NB: I was never I wild child, but I had a very strong sense of justice and fairness, hence my reaction to the last beating I witnessed. When I felt old and strong enough to effect some change - however little - I spoke up and give God thanks it didn't end in harm to me or my mother.
I thought that too but then they might not have been at home when it happened and she might have hid it from them. 3 teenage boys would be able to overpower their dad. Also they would have probably mentioned it in school if they had been seeing it happen regularly and social services would have been involved cos of the children. I think Taiwo hid it from them
@@GracefulKnots That's a great point that the children were most likely out. And only reason for this fatal outcome.
There's also the secrecy. For the most part, my mum's beatings took place in their bedroom. When I would ask about her swollen face or anything, she would claim she was ill. She never discussed it. As I grew older, I was more clued up. Heartbreaking for her sons and loved ones Really pray for them.
@@libbylib1819 yeah we hide things we shouldn't and expose things that we should hide. Extremely sad story
Thank you and God bless you for standing up for your mum
Very sad indeed those boys will for ever be traumatised 😢
What the man did is preposterous and cruel,in fact absolutely inexcusable. I think couples abroad should be given a broad spectrum advise to learn how to cohabit peacefully. So many things must ve been happening behind the scene,for this situation to skyrocket astronomically to this horrendous and despicable level. Men love your wives and women please i beg you,respect your husbands. Once again,men love your wives,just as Christ loved the church.
There is extensive sources and support for women and men who find themselves in domestic violence situations. I agree with everything you said but ‘cohabitating’ with an abusive spouse. This man was frustrated his wife was the bread winner while he waited for his non existent career to take off. In Nigeria, nurses are not paid enough and she was probably covering up for him financially. My advise, never stay for the sake of the kids or you’ll never live long to see them grow.
It’s all Africa, not only Nigeria. Some Ghana men are the same. Let’s blame our culture that make men think they own women and can end their life anytime. Yes our culture is rich, but some aspect need to change.
Fact
Not only that but depression is real and a lot of married couples are depressed and are not happy in their marital homes especially in the diaspora, these killings are becoming rampant!
U women needs to change too, some of u has bad character.
@@Krisbankz10you should hide your face in shame
@Krisbankz10 you are senseless... may your daughters be treated in such manner cause they'll obviously inherit the senselessness from you 😔 I mean what kind of bad character will make a person deserve to be murdered? Please grow up and have some sense...
Orlando FL. Nigerian husband killed his 43 yr old wife with a gun. With 5 children in the house on his birthday. And waited for the police. This happened in August 2023. She was my friend my niece and a beautiful kind and extremely generous woman. This life will never be the same without her. I miss her. Her husband sits in jail unapologetic and happy. She stayed because of what was stated in this video 😢
Always love your delivery
Nezeviel God will bless you real good for this update.A blogger reported this issue last week and i gave my comment on how some of these men that are married to the nurses are loafers and not ready to work leaving most of this responsibilities to these women, come and see insults ranging from nurses are bad why is it only the nurses bla bla they even insulted me on top of it even some women.
I pray they all come across this for God to vindicate me.
It a sad situation but for my life and children what ever people say i will walk out and call the authority lord help us and give us sense of direction
Hello sis, you always look gorgeous, I love what you do.🥳🥳🥳🥳
It's very scary, as an African woman I can say , it all starts from our African homes, there is no accountability at all, and people Japa with the same mentality,Sadly Children are in the middle of most of these calamities😢To all my women out there, married or not, protect yourselves as early as possible by not making excuses for any poor behaviour in relationships.
Thank you so much Sis for reporting this. It’s definitely time for us to do something about this our women are being killed, abused, etc so so sad
This is really so sad😢. I left a 14 years marriage recently due to excessive domestic violence. Just like Taiwo, i stayed in the marriage because of the kids and i was praying and hopeful that things will get better but unfortunately I absconded with 7 kids recently. Though it's not easy being alone with 7 kids but i thank God that i am alive and i didn't continue with a toxic relationship because of what the world will say.
Huggs
Kudos sister
The Lord is your strength!
Bringing her abusive Tyrant of a husband to the UK was her undoing. Say what you like, i would have used the opportunity to jettison such a man. But then, she must have realised that, not bringing him along would have also meant losing her kids (he would have blocked her from taking the kids out of spite or revenge). So sad . May her soul rest in peace. My condolences to her kids and her family
He needs to be deported to spend that his life imprisonment in Nigeria. British jail is too good for him.
If u do a thorough investigation.....money has a major role to play in this...
She was actually paying almost all the bills
Women should know when to live a marriage so also do men. We are adults and know when things go wrong. When a marriage becomes unbearable, separation should be the answer before had I known, this woman would have known better. This has been happening and yet women fall victim .So there is nothing to say or advice to give. If any woman wants to die in marriage because of an abusive husband , sorry for that woman. May her soul rest in peace and May God console her children. Amen .
This is prevalent abroad and not only Nigerian couples. An Indian man in my area in the UK k1lled his wife and 2 kids late last year. The wife is a nurse and works in the same hospital as myself, and it wasn't even up to a year they moved to the UK. It's quite sad honestly.
Very unfortunate ,may he rot in jail😮
I really wish that the police came earlier and witnessed the struggling. He would have been deported back to Nigeria and the lady still alive. 😢😢😢😢😢😢. Honestly my heart bleeds. What type of monster is this man.even after the police warned you to stay away.😢😢😢😢
So sad. Pity for the kids. May God strength them😢 More updates nnem
Neze thanks so much for full details.
May her soul rest in perfect peace.
You are GEM 🎉
If a man beats a woman, whether boyfriend or husband, please leave him ASAP. Hiding your pain and bruises because of what people will say is what I don't understand.
Bless the poor mother may God Almighty give them strength to see this through sis Neze for that man i have 6 words for him monster ...
How many more women are undergoing abuse as we are watching this video?😢 Very sad story.
May God keep and protect her children, and may that man get what he deserves and to you Neze happy Christmas in advance .
Neze you're glowing ❤😊
This is always saddening to hear, women should shine their eyes, and should not settled down for an irresponsible and lazy men who are not ready to move forward, but rather wants to control and be jealous of their wives. The children emotional states are already damaged, and they will need a therapy to be better, if not, history might repeat itself. Women should learn to leave early, before much damage will be done. Also, women should not be desperate to get married. All these signs are there, women just chose to ignore for various reasons. May her soul rest in peace, and may God grant her family the fortitude to bear the loss. So painful and pathetic.😢 Same story everytime! 😢
Heartbreaking 💔. May Taiwo’s soul rest in peace 😂
You’re using a laughing emoji 😔
Oh it was emoji typo . It wasn’t intentional.
😢Sad story indeed but can relate to it I'm 61 yrs old SA women who grew up in an ecxactely the same environment by God's grace my mom got born again in the early 70s and God deliverance from that bondage and my abusive father followed 1976 yes we kids were already damaged from trauma and fear were all urinating at night full of anger hatred beatterness
Neze such a great video. It is very important that we talk about it.
Next year I will be ten years in marriage, I have never experienced abuse.
I have noticed that most men like to be in control, get respect and be seen as the head that they are meant to be. Finances is a great part of what is causing all these quarrel due to all the bills both known and hidden that has to be paid.Abroad tend to favor women more than men.
Growing up in deprivation, the person in the family who has money is the king. This is usually the man. This establishes the hierarchy in the family.
In an environment where there is no deprivation, people have enough for themselves, nobody really cares who has more.
Nigerians try to bring that deprivation hierarchy with them when they migrate. That lordship based on who has more will not survive a prosperous environment. Everyone has their basic needs provided. The African men still seek the servant/master relationship that was promised them in heaven. Unfortunately many like the murderer in this video only have death or prison in store.
Not that it favours women. Rather, everyone has equal rights, a situation not found in many African cultures. Some African men find it hard to accept their African wives as equals. And an oppressed African wife will take advantage of the equal rights to secure better conditions for herself when she gets abroad. Interestingly, many of such African men will be subservient to Oyibo women. So, they know what is right. They are simply picking and choosing when to do it. In Western countries, the law recognises the high incidence of violence and inequality towards women and takes steps to prevent it. But only if affected women report their situation.
Besutiful Neze, Thanks once again for your clear explanation of all that transpired prior and up to the murder of Taiwo. This is so terrible and heartbreaking. I pray God alone comforts her children, siblings and mother.
My simple thoughts here are these:
Abusive personalities hardly change. Extreme abusers like Mr. Olubunmi do so repeatedly because they re constantly angry at their spouses who are doing and earning better. The ego in them translated to extreme bitterness and envy so much so that they re completely blinded to all the good sides of the wife. It's about the battle of complexes. He 's embittered about why it must be the wife earning and doing better than him instead of the other way round. Battering is his only way of stamping control and headship over her as husband.
Poor Taiwo, she just felt trapped and must have been more fearful about leaving the man. To her leaving him meant death. Little did she know death was already in the corner. May her soul find eternal rest in her maker .
The lesson here is for women to have a mindset of zero tolerance to wife battery. Never endure this habit in the hope for a change because it never happens. Simply walk away and see yourself do much better. For those in diaspora, run to the law as soon as this is a pattern. If you are not bold enough to leave, keep speaking to good friends and family members. Sometimes, they re the ones who will come and move you if they see you re so stuck and undecidede. Life should be lived and not endured .
This is so sad.much love from the Gambia
The church will judge her, the society has will judge her and sometimes, the family too
If you saw your father beat up your mother.He was abusing her and it is wrong you can’t repeat the same.You must promise yourself never to do the same.God is clear about how a husband should treat your wife.You can’t honour your wife if you are abusing her (God said husband honour your wife)
I believe Nigerians in general especially the men should think it through seriously before leaving Nigeria. The lifestyle culture in Nigeria is non existence in any civilised country of the world.
Women are never regarded as properties that should be treated inhumanely. That is the basic property.
Very sad, the children i pray for God to take care of them, and heal their hearts
He is narcissistic 😢hope he spends the rest of his life behind bars and not even in his own country
Oh! Dear, thank you for this story. May her soul rest in perfect peace. Ladies please leave while you are still alive.
This has been happening a lot especially with Nigerians like Neze said, most people feel no matter what women should stay in their marriage, stay in a marriage that you are been beating and kill, I rather be single than to be in a loveless marriage. It’s sad, please stop forcing women to stay in marriages that is not working out. Sad
What,s going On ? So Sad . . .Thanks for Sharing
Most women keep mute in an abusive marriage in the name of am staying for my kids not knowing they are raising toxic kids in the name of marriage. Speak out, shout, scream till your voice is heard. What you tolerate you indirectly encourage
I think every woman should learn from osinachi 's case and stop being a victim of domestic violence.
This is sad in deed! I wish she had gotten out before she left Nigeria. I wish the abuse had been resolved before she left Nigeria. 😢😢
So Saad with all the stress nurses go through in UK to make both ends meet for their family. She would have left him and moved to another place. Now the children will suffer cos I believe the children will live a fulfilled life if the mother is alive than the father being alive
This time last year, it was the Nigerian renowned gospel singer Osinachi Nwachukwu, that was trending on Internet on the same subject....we are still counting 9ja women domestically abused and murdered by their insecure other halves. We mustn't let it happen to us for it to make an impact! It may be too late then
If she had left him in Nigeria she will be alive today….may he rot in jail for his wickedness. See the pain he has caused her family and their children
Exactly she should have left him in Nigeria to rot, wat an evil man
This woman is faultless , if she abandoned him at the Airport, head wd hv rolled, like a lady did few months ago, this is sad, my advice is this forget about what people wd say on any decision that is personal n life threatening , one shd know when to draw a line , I’m really heart broken, the woman tried to save the marriage , she acted well, she stood for her children, unfortunately the useless man called her husband sniffed her life out , oh my God , RIP Taiwo UKRN 😢
For me it's 2 things really der Neze.
1. Nigerian/African men are raised differently....with important values and principles missing and hidden in pride and ego. While the female gender is from very early thought how to be a woman....how to nurture (with bay dolls and all), how to be domestic (clean your room, dishes and laundry)....etc.
So when the constant/environment changes.......the variables (ego, mindset, values and upbringing) become unstable and can't function......leading to an erruption/erractic/build-up of reaction.
Truly sad, honestly.....I don't know how we can rectify this lacuna 😢
A friend of mine divorced her husband because of physical abuse. The man refused to go to counseling, she left everything for him and moved out and gave visitation with children. When I asked her she did not fight for house and things worked for,she tells me her life and children future worth more than married,money, house and property
So heartbreaking. Poor kids.
Self first. Always.
I just love your voice.
I feel so SAD..!!! THE WOMAN s death breaks my heart ....ooh men that fill jealous and ownership...
That's why I always say that with only one slap I will be on my own
This is so sad. Hmmm my condolence to the family. Me living here in Abroad knows how hard it is to settle down n even bring 4 more ppl.😢😢😢😢😢😢
I wept profusely.Deeply sad .
Thanks Neze. This is really sad. I feel for the kids😢😢
What a heartbreaking story 💔may her soul rest in perfect peace Amen😢😢
Pls know wen to leave an abusive marriage be it mental abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse and put your life first before anything. Rest on Taiwo💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
Thank you
What's really happening !?
It's becoming too prevalent!!! God help us all!!!
Adult don't change my people.
This goes to the singles like myself know whom you are dating and be careful what altitude u tolerate in the dating seen.
If your expectations about the altitude doesn't go well with u please run
Thanks ma,may God console the people they all left behind,a man or a woman is not worth dieing for,if there is constant beating in marriage,a wise person should just work away,life is bigger and better than anything.
May God give us the grace to come to a stage in life that what ever anybody say about us does not matter any more iJN.
It so sad that their sons may end up being like their father. I just hope not.😢
Very sympathetic.
And Men are here they have watched this but they wont comment😂😂😂😂
So sad it happened this way
Haaaa this is so sad. Oh if only the police arrived earlier. May her soul rest peacefully.
Oh I feel like crying
Horror stories who is save now😢😢😢😢😢
So sad! May God rest her soul. Her husband must have been a frustrated proud man. Ego has landed him in trouble.
Money stresses and cultural differences. Relocation is not easy.
This jobless murderer was jelous of his wife success and could not bear seeing her counting dollar or pounds. It is his jelousy that blinded him that he could not know that whatever the woman has is his also.if the woman was un cooperative, she would not file papers to bring him abroad, any way his wickedness has caught up with him,. he is going to pay with his life. Oh i feel for the innocent children in May her soul rest in peace Amen
Some things follow us to abroad without the need for a visa,very sad but the phrase is amusing
She was a junior colleague before she travelled 😢