One thing I notice makes people very likable is to listen intentionally and remember things about your conversation partner, then casually mention those things in a later conversation. It makes the other person feel special for having a place in your memory.
Demonstrating that you believe the other person can be interesting, and thus deserves your attention (which will provoke something to stick inside your memory most likely so you can later recall it like you mention), makes so much sense. That's a core belief of mine that helps I think: everyone has a story to share, something to teach you. Memorizing things about people can come by so naturally if you approach things this way.
The problem for people who struggle with this is that they are so self-aware, at least half their attention goes to how other people perceive them, leaving little attention to what the other people are talking about.
I think that may have stood out the most of the entire video. I liked all the suggestions, but the reassurance that you'll be OK when things don't go as you plan them is something that is so valuable. Currently it is something I struggle with, but seeing it casually mentioned like this offers a reminder and I hope one day it becomes cemented within me.
00:16 1. Go into conversation with intention of having fun 03:27 2. Tell funny, embarrassing stories from your past 05:51 3. Create authenticity in your conversations 07:10 4. Make people feel good around you 08:58 5. Be playfully humble 10:08 6. Self validation
It‘s just the same things over and over again on this channel… I liked it when they analysed celebrities. But nowadays it‘s just the same advices you can read in any self-help book.
About 8 years ago, give or take, I heard a similar thing on one of your videos that changed my life forever. "Even if things don't go to plan, know that you'll be ok." It really turned my confidence around when I started to put it into practice. I went from a dead-end cleaning job in Scotland to having the guts to move to China for now going on 5 years as a teacher. I've made authentic friends and I am in a great relationship because I now feel comfortable navigating interactions because I WANT to have them, not because I need something from the other person. Thank you, Charisma On Command
@@justjoshin7740 Thanks man! As of the end of August, I am now on my 6th year here. I know just enough Mandarin Chinese to get myself into trouble, but not enough to get myself out of it :D My learning of the language isn't structured, so I know a random assortment of simple and advanced stuff, but my fundamentals are very shaky at a primary school academic level. I can manage my classroom in Chinese for the most part, but I can't always answer every random question from the kids (kids ask a lot of random things), so I need some help from my fellow room teachers from time to time
Men, FOCUS ON YOUR LIFE - Have a strict morning routine. - Invest in stocks, bonds, shares & funds. - Income Generating Activity eg business or a farm. - Lift weights. Eat healthy. - Read books. - Learn a skill & foreign language. Have DISCIPLINE.
Of all the tips in this video, I think the one I have the hardest time with (and many other people, I'm sure) is mixing playful humility with genuinely accepting a compliment. The playful humility isn't necessarily the hard part, but being able to accept a compliment in genuine and charismatic way is tough!
First, you need to be able to genuinely accept a compliment (no need to be charismatic, just be appreciative). A simple "thank you" with a genuine smile works. Something that I do, and which helps boost my own self-confidence, is I'll reflect on their compliment later on, and accept it at face value. Another way I work to help myself believe the compliments I'm given, is if I feel comfortable in the moment asking, I'll just ask, "Oh? What do you mean?" with a smile. That way the person complimenting me knows that I'm not offended, that I'm genuinely curious, and they have the chance to elaborate (which I can then take and reinforce the positive thoughts). If you're always turning a compliment into a joke, it tells others that you're not self-confident and you'll appear to deflect or be uncomfortable with compliments. Most nice people don't want to intentionally make someone uncomfortable so you'll stop receiving as many compliments. Also, playful humility should be readily apparent that it is a joke; would you want a friend or colleague to beat themself up in front of you if you complimented them?
In fact you can push this further if the compliment comes from someone you're interested, and make sure the response makes it clear you like them. Just change the word "sweet" to "beautiful/lovely" etc.
I just want to say I was so akward in highschool and your videos got me to a point where I actually can interact with people positively. I have transitioned into more stable stuff now but I was a freelance model for my early twenties and I really think a large part of my success was you teaching me a formula to apply to conversations. So thank you ❤
@@noeliagutierrez4223 I had a few photographer friends ask if they could take photos of me to build their portfolio and sort of fell into it through that. Though I should say it's lots of promotions work, think car shows and bar openings. If you want to be an actual fashion model, build a portfolio, go to angencies and try to get them to represent you. If someon says they are a headhunter and approaches you on the street, always look the agency up online and call the number associated with the website, not the card the man on the street gives you as a safety measure.
@@Nopeasaurus no it's actually pretty boring with lots of admin work. That's why most people go with agencies because it's frustrating dull to book and negotiate contracts alone. There are lots of beautiful people, there are not as many beautiful people wanting to negotiate contracts and maintain consistent working hours.
Jesus Christ wants a personal relationship with you through the Holy Spirit, not religion and blind faith. You see, we all have sinned and deserve punishment but God saved us from the eternal punishment of our sins by sending His Son Jesus Christ, fullness of God bodily, a perfect, sinless sacrifice to pay the penalty for our sins by shedding His blood on the cross. He died and rose from the dead so that we may have everlasting life. It is all finished and now for you to accept the free gift of grace you must believe from your heart in Jesus Christ, that He paid the price for your sins, that He is risen and alive. Don't trust in your own goodness but transfer your trust to Jesus and follow Him, get to know Him personally. By faith you will receive the Holy Spirit, become born again, know Jesus personally and He will transform your heart and clean you from the inside out. Believe in Him, read the Bible and pray for the Holy Spirit to fill you and change you, obey the Word. Much love and God bless you!
To anyone trying to "become confident" let me tell you something: confidence is not something you are born with. Confidence is a skill, a habit, or even, sometimes, an act. The "confident" people around you have spent months, maybe years developing their ways of getting around in social situations and you can do that too, it's easy, but also A LOT of effort and repetition.
This is the first comment I read here that wasn't fortune cookie BS. I always watch these and think, "oh, yeah? The guy that walks on stage and women scream and fall over themselves to throw their underpants at him has confidence?" And all I need to do is be more like that guy, eh? My comment was: nothing makes me more confident than realizing I should act more like someone else. Your comment makes more sense to me than the whole video. Thanks.
after seeing this I realize that the reason I remained calm the other week in a big presentation over zoom where I had massive technical issues is because I thought the stakes weren't that high. Now I just need to apply that to other areas!
Hey, I've learned so much from this channel and would like to make a suggestion for future videos to help the advice be more applicable: using more realistic examples. The celebrity examples are helpful for general principles, but they're mostly performers (celebrities, talk show hosts, etc) interacting with other performers, and the extremely larger-than-life personalities/interactions are not only extremely rare in real life among strangers/acquaintances, but people like that would come off as mentally ill. For example, where I live (Pacific Northwest), touching people at all is very odd unless you're already very close to them, and people don't usually speak in such an animated loud way. Something to consider if you're open to feedback. Regardless, this channel is grade A content, so thank you for it!
These videos have helped me out in my personal life and professional life. I'm less in my head and more in the present and part of me is coming out that I never knew existed and it's making me connect with people at a higher level. It's incredible how small changes in your delivery changes everything. Anyone doubting taking tips from these videos, don't doubt it. take it and own it.
Being yourself but being the most confident version of yourself is the safest and best thing we can do. We might not all have million experiences to share in conversations but we can all still be fun people to hang out with!
What are the most important soft skills to have? The ability to understand people's motivations. If you don't understand people, they become arbitrary. You'll live in a world where people screw you over for no reason, and you'll waste a lot of energy being angry and depressed. You might also think people's actions have something to do with you when they don't. This will mess with your self-image and hinder your interactions with other people. You'll have a lot of trouble resolving conflicts because good conflict resolution requires both parties to see the other person's side. This will cause you to lose friends and put you at a disadvantage in your career. It also makes people hate you.
I knew Ryan Gosling before he became famous. After Mickey Mouse Club. He is genuinely a super kind, very thoughtful guy. He’s a rare, unique, amazing soul.
I forgot how good this channel was. I just got a new job and came here to learn how to talk to my colleagues without being embarrassed. I'm very grateful that this information is free, and it's very well organized with great, understandable examples. Thanks for doing what you do!
This video is about How to never be boring in conversation and how to stop worrying and start living 🎉 Thanks a lot for this great video, hope it goes viral ❤
It's amazing, I'm horribly quiet 90% of the time, but you get me out of my own head, and I'm making the whole room laugh. Get rid of your ego as soon as possible, even if you aren't impressed with yourself, that ego will still get ya.
This channel helped me realize that I wasn't an introvert, I just needed to learn communication skills. I am a completely different person, because I can be confident about making jokes and having amazing conversations. So much valuable advice over the years. Thank you Charisma on Command!
The self laugh trick were you laughing at a mistake you just made, it's actually very effective and reminded me of of an early 20th century politician and diplomat from my country It's during the talks about the peace talks after ww2 and his giving a speache in English that was basically self-told In some point he realize that he made a mistake pause gives a Naughty smile towards the camera and continues - a master piece
It's amazing to see just how difficult confidence is for some people. Extrovert personalities understand this better than most when they freely express themselves and receive ostracized belittlement. On the other side of the coin, Introvert personalities can have a tremendous amount of confidence when they're focused and goal oriented.
Every life has positive and negative ingredients that make up one’s history. Take a moment to let gratitude move through you now. Every pain that has grown into wisdom. Everything you know now that you did not know before. Ask how much you like who you are and create kindness around your answer, no matter what it is. Know that you have power over who you want to be.
Best Moments for me. Words in [square brackets] are my own thoughts Each key point I have put a heading for me to refer back to. But also making each key point useful for anyone reading it. For me, my top moments are Embarrassment Awareness Strategy 4:40 Compliment plus Joke 8:08 Superpower Moment 11:47 Ridiculous Comparisons 00:58 It is like the sun. I cannot stare directly at this dish towel !! Deadpan humour must lead to a smirk to show you are joking [so important to smile so then people know it is a safe space. Your face shows seriousness but you break then tension with a smile and a laugh] 02:23 Ryan to interviewer: I feel a kenergy between us. I feel a ken in you [ sounds like You have got a friend in me. Is he changing the words from Toy Story when Ryan says I feel a ken in you. This could be clever word play. In Toy Story 3, Barbie and Ken were 2 characters] Confidence Strategy 03:28 tell stories at your expense. Laugh when you tell them. ‘I wish I could say here you have to wear this but it was my idea to wear this outfit.’ Embarrassment Awareness Strategy 03:58 when you emphasize you are aware it is embarrassing, this invites others to laugh at you. Use this as a go-to story when meeting new people. 4:40 When your brain sends your toungue to investigate. Compliment plus Joke 08:08 You know I cant do the string dance. No one can. I had a friend die trying to do the string dance. [This is so funny. I don't know about you, dear reader, but I burst out laughing here !] Calmness Serenity Outlook 11:00 I thought someone had been hurt. Turns out they just read the wrong name off the card. [ High quality perspective moment by Ryan] Superpower moment perspective 11:47 It is a superpower to go into a conversation knowing you don’t need anything from it. Want it don’t need it.
@@godloveskaren You are very welcome. Which was your favourite point? Out of these 3 points which I mentioned at the top Embarrassment Awareness Strategy 4:40 Compliment plus Joke 8:08 Superpower Moment 11:47 It is the last one on Superpower Moment 11:47 How about you?
I remember hearing that advice a number of years back, and even then thinking I wish someone had said it to me sooner in my life. The idea that: Confidence isn't thinking "I know I'll succeed." Confidence is thinking "I'd like to succeed, but whether I succeed or fail, I'll be just fine by the end."
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🤩 Focus on having fun in conversations rather than seeking approval. 00:28 😂 Use absurd analogies to make conversations more entertaining. 01:14 😄 Employ the Mind's Eye method to create amusing mental images. 01:45 😶 Use deadpan humor but be absurd enough to make it clear you're joking. 02:12 😬 Share funny embarrassing stories from your past to appear confident and relatable. 03:14 🙈 Embrace authenticity by acknowledging and appreciating genuine moments in conversations. 05:32 😅 Call out awkward moments and share embarrassing stories with a smile. 07:15 🤝 Compliment people genuinely to make them feel good about themselves. 09:07 🙌 Playfully accept compliments and mix in some humility for a charismatic response. 10:24 💪 Maintain unshakable confidence by internalizing that the stakes in most situations aren't that high. Made with HARPA AI
Confident is the Freedom of doing anything you want to do. You can get this freedom if you dont expect something from outside, because then you try hard to get this or force that. Hava simple goals for example: A funny conversation, not a that they like you only funny. Or anything else. And if you accept yourself with your strenghts and weaknesses the meaning of other peoble become irrelevant because you know what you are and what you want you dont need a meaning from outside. Thats also the trick to become fearless in society because noone and nothing can hurt you or bring you out of concept because have your own very strong meaning of yourself and about what you want from live. Take this mindset if you want to become free in society. Much Success!
The first joke, the Jackson Pollock joke, was also great because it was callback to a joke that the comedian to his left, Greg Davies, had made earlier in the interview.
I think you just have to be so happy with your life and situation that it just exudes from you. Someone who is suffering financially and not doing well just can’t feel like stirring up a convo
"The stakes aren't that high." I didn't want to go to a job interview. I went anyway, thought I messed it up but left thinking that even if I don't get it, they were good contacts to make. I got the job and I love it! But having that perspective was what made it possible to relax and even enjoy it a little.
🌸A WISE MAN ONCE SAID 1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to; 2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the person that borrowed you remember or ask for it. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes. 3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner. 4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don't you buy a car? For God’s sake it isn’t your problem; 5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public; 6. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time; 7. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember what's 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you. Besides, second opinion is good for an alternative; 8. Never interrupt people talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all; 9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and it shows how appreciative you're; 10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you. 11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately; 12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will; 13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next; 14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctors' appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I hope you’re okay". Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they'll do so without your inquisitiveness; 15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rude you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect; 16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude; 17. Never give advice until you’re asked; 18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary; 19. Mind your business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it; 20. Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreso, eye contact is as important as your speech; and 21. Never talk about your riches in the midst of the poor. Similarly, don't talk about your children in the midst of the barren.
My charisma has carried me far. Im 29 with no GED, no Diploma or real schooling. Despite this I have my dream job, dream wife and close to a dream life. My entire life I have done my best to make people laugh and enjoy companionship. I feel good making other people feel good. I work hard to make sure they know I see their skills, and what more they can still achieve yet. Perhaps my overall outlook and confidence in not only myself, but others I appreciate has contributed greatly to my luck. Life is short, remind not only others how great they are, but yourself as well. Talk yourself up, and TRUST IT. Stop taking everything so seriously, none of us make it out alive! 😅😉
@@richardgarrison8328magically there’s a thing called starting “starting a business” and wouldn’t you know it, it only requires your bare hands and ability to lead
@@filletmignon5221 I bet you don't have your own business if you talk about it like that. Starting, running and keeping your own business requires a lot more than just those two things. That childrens mentality of "you can do anything if you set your mind to it" has gotten too many people into trouble already.
This video is full of good advice that could even be used to have a friendly feeling with a stranger which can also be cool, on the other hand I think you have to be careful not to get a notebook in which you will try to respect all the requirements of this video. The problem is that human interactions and seduction are very complex, much too complex to be calculated in advance and during, that's why like Whether you're a racing driver or a musician, it's so intutive that thinking about it slows it down makes it less natural and can cause the crash by taking the example of the racing driver. So for me the best is to take the advice of this video, have them in mind but don't try to articulate around it during a conversation otherwise you lose your naturalness and then you lose absolutely all the charm of a human being
Honestly meeting him as a kid he was very different but I'm assuming wealth and his family and kids changed that 🎉 congrats on the journey Mr. Gosling.
Ryan is always well dressed and makes every interview more fun. Whereas Ken naked and in the middle of the floor makes things awkward and wondering why I am here. LOL
He's not that handsome. Most guys if they had Ryan Gosling's persona, and if they wore decently fitting clothes, stood up straight, and grew a beard, would probably be considered more handsome then Ryan Gosling. For females, it's 90% in how men carry themselves. Also you don't need to be born with the jawline of a 1950s movie star if you have a beard. That's God helping you out.
@@johnathanpiper6378 I do na zi a problem here; seems perfectly normal to treat people differently based on how they look. Sign of a healthy society. Nothing wrong here. No problem at all.
after seeing this I realize that the reason I remained calm the other week in a big presentation over zoom where I had massive technical issues is because I thought the stakes weren't that high. Now I just need to apply that to other areas!
I don't usually comment, but this video was awesome, is important to know that even if charisma doesn't come as natural as other skills one may have, is still just that, a skill, something that can be improved on.
What is the harsh truth of life? 1. Never tell anyone what you are doing until it is done. 2. When it hurts, observe that life is trying to teach you something. 3. Sometimes, it's not about who has more talent, it's about who is hungrier. 4. If you are scared to do it, do it scared. 5. Nobody cares about your story until you win, so win. 6. Never forget how to take care of yourself because others won't forget how to use you. 7. We don't grow when things are easy. We grow when we face challenges. 8. Win in your mind, and you will win in your reality. 9. Where there is no struggle, there is no strength. 10. It's better to fight for something than to live for nothing.
I've noticed sometimes when I'm having a conversation especially with ppl i don't know i feel i got nothing to lose and throw one pun after the other, also many people tell me a lot that even though i don't talk much, when I do say wonderful things
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One thing I notice makes people very likable is to listen intentionally and remember things about your conversation partner, then casually mention those things in a later conversation. It makes the other person feel special for having a place in your memory.
Demonstrating that you believe the other person can be interesting, and thus deserves your attention (which will provoke something to stick inside your memory most likely so you can later recall it like you mention), makes so much sense. That's a core belief of mine that helps I think: everyone has a story to share, something to teach you. Memorizing things about people can come by so naturally if you approach things this way.
I mean I guess, but whenever I do that people seem to take it for granted. There’s no getting through to damaged people.
Me with adhd forgeting even the smallest details:
The problem for people who struggle with this is that they are so self-aware, at least half their attention goes to how other people perceive them, leaving little attention to what the other people are talking about.
Thanks! I’m a little forgetful lol but I’ll try
All what I got from this video is: "Be more like Ryan Gosling"
😂😂😂😂
not a bad motto
And really, just be more fun :)
"Just make a banter like a Hollywood actor on a talk show for old people"
Lol I bet it would work tho
“ Want it, but don’t need it.” That’s one powerful sentence.
No it’s not 😂
Agreed 👍🏻
I think that may have stood out the most of the entire video. I liked all the suggestions, but the reassurance that you'll be OK when things don't go as you plan them is something that is so valuable. Currently it is something I struggle with, but seeing it casually mentioned like this offers a reminder and I hope one day it becomes cemented within me.
Love this
@@taten007 no u
00:16 1. Go into conversation with intention of having fun
03:27 2. Tell funny, embarrassing stories from your past
05:51 3. Create authenticity in your conversations
07:10 4. Make people feel good around you
08:58 5. Be playfully humble
10:08 6. Self validation
Bless you
@@fewntug3760 🙏🙏
It‘s just the same things over and over again on this channel… I liked it when they analysed celebrities. But nowadays it‘s just the same advices you can read in any self-help book.
Thank you!
Thank you for doing this!
About 8 years ago, give or take, I heard a similar thing on one of your videos that changed my life forever. "Even if things don't go to plan, know that you'll be ok." It really turned my confidence around when I started to put it into practice. I went from a dead-end cleaning job in Scotland to having the guts to move to China for now going on 5 years as a teacher. I've made authentic friends and I am in a great relationship because I now feel comfortable navigating interactions because I WANT to have them, not because I need something from the other person. Thank you, Charisma On Command
thats amazing do you speak the language ?
@@justjoshin7740 Thanks man! As of the end of August, I am now on my 6th year here.
I know just enough Mandarin Chinese to get myself into trouble, but not enough to get myself out of it :D My learning of the language isn't structured, so I know a random assortment of simple and advanced stuff, but my fundamentals are very shaky at a primary school academic level. I can manage my classroom in Chinese for the most part, but I can't always answer every random question from the kids (kids ask a lot of random things), so I need some help from my fellow room teachers from time to time
Men,
FOCUS ON YOUR LIFE
- Have a strict morning routine.
- Invest in stocks, bonds, shares & funds.
- Income Generating Activity eg business or a farm.
- Lift weights. Eat healthy.
- Read books.
- Learn a skill & foreign language.
Have DISCIPLINE.
Which of these things you do?@@entreprenur00
The John Ham Mad Men episode!!! Definitely helped me a lot too!! Glad to here it for you!!!
Of all the tips in this video, I think the one I have the hardest time with (and many other people, I'm sure) is mixing playful humility with genuinely accepting a compliment. The playful humility isn't necessarily the hard part, but being able to accept a compliment in genuine and charismatic way is tough!
First, you need to be able to genuinely accept a compliment (no need to be charismatic, just be appreciative). A simple "thank you" with a genuine smile works. Something that I do, and which helps boost my own self-confidence, is I'll reflect on their compliment later on, and accept it at face value. Another way I work to help myself believe the compliments I'm given, is if I feel comfortable in the moment asking, I'll just ask, "Oh? What do you mean?" with a smile. That way the person complimenting me knows that I'm not offended, that I'm genuinely curious, and they have the chance to elaborate (which I can then take and reinforce the positive thoughts).
If you're always turning a compliment into a joke, it tells others that you're not self-confident and you'll appear to deflect or be uncomfortable with compliments. Most nice people don't want to intentionally make someone uncomfortable so you'll stop receiving as many compliments. Also, playful humility should be readily apparent that it is a joke; would you want a friend or colleague to beat themself up in front of you if you complimented them?
@@jaredlash5002 would be funny if some people would beat themselves up if you compliment them tho 🤣
Just smile and say, "thank you, you're very sweet." or something similar
In fact you can push this further if the compliment comes from someone you're interested, and make sure the response makes it clear you like them. Just change the word "sweet" to "beautiful/lovely" etc.
I usually will say, “aw/wow thank you, that means a lot. my ego can never get enough compliments, please keep them coming”
I just want to say I was so akward in highschool and your videos got me to a point where I actually can interact with people positively. I have transitioned into more stable stuff now but I was a freelance model for my early twenties and I really think a large part of my success was you teaching me a formula to apply to conversations. So thank you ❤
Hello how are you doing
How do you get into freelance modeling?
@@noeliagutierrez4223 I had a few photographer friends ask if they could take photos of me to build their portfolio and sort of fell into it through that. Though I should say it's lots of promotions work, think car shows and bar openings. If you want to be an actual fashion model, build a portfolio, go to angencies and try to get them to represent you. If someon says they are a headhunter and approaches you on the street, always look the agency up online and call the number associated with the website, not the card the man on the street gives you as a safety measure.
@@Nopeasaurus no it's actually pretty boring with lots of admin work. That's why most people go with agencies because it's frustrating dull to book and negotiate contracts alone. There are lots of beautiful people, there are not as many beautiful people wanting to negotiate contracts and maintain consistent working hours.
I absolutely love Ryan cause hes a great example of an extremely likeable and confident person who everyone would love to be around
Canadian eh!
Jesus Christ wants a personal relationship with you through the Holy Spirit, not religion and blind faith. You see, we all have sinned and deserve punishment but God saved us from the eternal punishment of our sins by sending His Son Jesus Christ, fullness of God bodily, a perfect, sinless sacrifice to pay the penalty for our sins by shedding His blood on the cross. He died and rose from the dead so that we may have everlasting life. It is all finished and now for you to accept the free gift of grace you must believe from your heart in Jesus Christ, that He paid the price for your sins, that He is risen and alive. Don't trust in your own goodness but transfer your trust to Jesus and follow Him, get to know Him personally. By faith you will receive the Holy Spirit, become born again, know Jesus personally and He will transform your heart and clean you from the inside out. Believe in Him, read the Bible and pray for the Holy Spirit to fill you and change you, obey the Word. Much love and God bless you!
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Step 1: be Ryan gosling
been since birth
Step 2: Also be like Craig Ferguson
To anyone trying to "become confident" let me tell you something: confidence is not something you are born with. Confidence is a skill, a habit, or even, sometimes, an act. The "confident" people around you have spent months, maybe years developing their ways of getting around in social situations and you can do that too, it's easy, but also A LOT of effort and repetition.
Its a mindset. When you stop caring about what others think of you, confidence in a discussion becomes really easy.
This is the first comment I read here that wasn't fortune cookie BS. I always watch these and think, "oh, yeah? The guy that walks on stage and women scream and fall over themselves to throw their underpants at him has confidence?" And all I need to do is be more like that guy, eh?
My comment was: nothing makes me more confident than realizing I should act more like someone else.
Your comment makes more sense to me than the whole video. Thanks.
after seeing this I realize that the reason I remained calm the other week in a big presentation over zoom where I had massive technical issues is because I thought the stakes weren't that high. Now I just need to apply that to other areas!
This video just explained how to be Canadian. Humour, humility and honesty.
Well Ryan is quick witted, and that does at least 60% of the heavily lifting in his charisma lol
That is a skill anyone can develop
@@Vivi_9 How?
@@ZeeJayBaypractice
@@sathira_anuk5179 facts
Doesn't feel completely right, however his attractiveness probably allows him to have more practice at social situations.
Hey, I've learned so much from this channel and would like to make a suggestion for future videos to help the advice be more applicable: using more realistic examples. The celebrity examples are helpful for general principles, but they're mostly performers (celebrities, talk show hosts, etc) interacting with other performers, and the extremely larger-than-life personalities/interactions are not only extremely rare in real life among strangers/acquaintances, but people like that would come off as mentally ill. For example, where I live (Pacific Northwest), touching people at all is very odd unless you're already very close to them, and people don't usually speak in such an animated loud way.
Something to consider if you're open to feedback. Regardless, this channel is grade A content, so thank you for it!
Fair, but I don’t think you’d get nearly as much clicks with general principles and NOT having a famous celebrity in the thumbnail/examples!
I feel it's so rare to see Ford laugh out loud and the fact that Ryan is able to make him do that multiple times IN THE SAME INTERVIEW is remarkable😂🔥
These videos have helped me out in my personal life and professional life. I'm less in my head and more in the present and part of me is coming out that I never knew existed and it's making me connect with people at a higher level. It's incredible how small changes in your delivery changes everything. Anyone doubting taking tips from these videos, don't doubt it. take it and own it.
Congratulations my friend 😊
Keep it up!
“Do you guys need help with the cameras?” That was so funny, definitely gonna use these tips!😆
Just pretend you are constantly in front of a camera, that will make you memorable.
How did you get so good at reading people in these different situations? Truly awesome content. I keep coming back to this channel👍
How to be Ryan Gosling
You can't
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We r literally him
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“I feel a ken in you” lmao I always knew he seemed nice, is handsome, etc but did not know he was actually funny 😂
Being yourself but being the most confident version of yourself is the safest and best thing we can do.
We might not all have million experiences to share in conversations but we can all still be fun people to hang out with!
What are the most important soft skills to have?
The ability to understand people's motivations.
If you don't understand people, they become arbitrary. You'll live in a world where people screw you over for no reason, and you'll waste a lot of energy being angry and depressed. You might also think people's actions have something to do with you when they don't. This will mess with your self-image and hinder your interactions with other people.
You'll have a lot of trouble resolving conflicts because good conflict resolution requires both parties to see the other person's side. This will cause you to lose friends and put you at a disadvantage in your career. It also makes people hate you.
Wow I never paid attention to Ryan gosling before but the man is a charisma legend. Thanks for this video
I knew Ryan Gosling before he became famous. After Mickey Mouse Club. He is genuinely a super kind, very thoughtful guy. He’s a rare, unique, amazing soul.
I hope this channel comes back soon! My life always gets better when I binge these videos.
"The stakes aren't that high" - I appreciate that knowing the ground is underneath you and you're not walking a tightrope
Ryan is just a great example of a polite down to earth person
As an aside: my wife once literally saw Ryan Gosling run into LA traffic to rescue a dog. He legit rescues dogs I guess.
The fact that nobody talks about the book Social Secrets Mastery speaks volumes about why people struggle to build real connections…
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I forgot how good this channel was. I just got a new job and came here to learn how to talk to my colleagues without being embarrassed. I'm very grateful that this information is free, and it's very well organized with great, understandable examples. Thanks for doing what you do!
This video is about How to never be boring in conversation and how to stop worrying and start living 🎉
Thanks a lot for this great video, hope it goes viral ❤
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Its like hes incredibly PRESENT. Amd confident in himself.
Ryan is a good man. More than that actually.
my best part of this video is " Want it don't need it, u'll have another opportunities and no matter what, u'll be okay".
It's amazing, I'm horribly quiet 90% of the time, but you get me out of my own head, and I'm making the whole room laugh.
Get rid of your ego as soon as possible, even if you aren't impressed with yourself, that ego will still get ya.
Ryan is pretty much Stoicism personified - great video example!
If i understand right, you may refer to the part where the award is handed out?
This channel helped me realize that I wasn't an introvert, I just needed to learn communication skills. I am a completely different person, because I can be confident about making jokes and having amazing conversations. So much valuable advice over the years. Thank you Charisma on Command!
The guy saying "you're better than that" while Ryan is having the time of his life being Ken 😂😂😂
The self laugh trick were you laughing at a mistake you just made, it's actually very effective and reminded me of of an early 20th century politician and diplomat from my country
It's during the talks about the peace talks after ww2 and his giving a speache in English that was basically self-told
In some point he realize that he made a mistake pause gives a Naughty smile towards the camera and continues - a master piece
It's amazing to see just how difficult confidence is for some people. Extrovert personalities understand this better than most when they freely express themselves and receive ostracized belittlement.
On the other side of the coin, Introvert personalities can have a tremendous amount of confidence when they're focused and goal oriented.
This is so cool. “You don’t have to be perfect for people to like you”
"the stakes aren't that high" I needed that. Thank you so much!
I already do most of this stuff, but now I know how to use it consciously. Thanks.
Authenticity and empathy are the simplest keys to attracting others and forming genuine connections.
Every life has positive and negative ingredients that make up one’s history. Take a moment to let gratitude move through you now. Every pain that has grown into wisdom. Everything you know now that you did not know before.
Ask how much you like who you are and create kindness around your answer, no matter what it is. Know that you have power over who you want to be.
Great supportive clips 👌 Really ties together with the voiceover to make a point.
Best Moments for me. Words in [square brackets] are my own thoughts
Each key point I have put a heading for me to refer back to. But also making each key point useful for anyone reading it.
For me, my top moments are
Embarrassment Awareness Strategy 4:40
Compliment plus Joke 8:08
Superpower Moment 11:47
Ridiculous Comparisons
00:58 It is like the sun. I cannot stare directly at this dish towel !!
Deadpan humour must lead to a smirk to show you are joking
[so important to smile so then people know it is a safe space. Your face shows seriousness but you break then tension with a smile and a laugh]
02:23 Ryan to interviewer: I feel a kenergy between us. I feel a ken in you
[ sounds like You have got a friend in me. Is he changing the words from Toy Story when Ryan says I feel a ken in you.
This could be clever word play. In Toy Story 3, Barbie and Ken were 2 characters]
Confidence Strategy
03:28 tell stories at your expense. Laugh when you tell them. ‘I wish I could say here you have to wear this but it was my idea to wear this outfit.’
Embarrassment Awareness Strategy
03:58 when you emphasize you are aware it is embarrassing, this invites others to laugh at you.
Use this as a go-to story when meeting new people. 4:40 When your brain sends your toungue to investigate.
Compliment plus Joke
08:08 You know I cant do the string dance. No one can. I had a friend die trying to do the string dance. [This is so funny. I don't know about you, dear reader, but I burst out laughing here !]
Calmness Serenity Outlook
11:00 I thought someone had been hurt. Turns out they just read the wrong name off the card. [ High quality perspective moment by Ryan]
Superpower moment perspective
11:47 It is a superpower to go into a conversation knowing you don’t need anything from it. Want it don’t need it.
Thanks 😊.
@@godloveskaren You are very welcome. Which was your favourite point?
Out of these 3 points which I mentioned at the top
Embarrassment Awareness Strategy 4:40
Compliment plus Joke 8:08
Superpower Moment 11:47
It is the last one on Superpower Moment 11:47
How about you?
@@WilliamJonesChess superpower
Hello how are you doing
Hello how are you doing
I remember hearing that advice a number of years back, and even then thinking I wish someone had said it to me sooner in my life.
The idea that: Confidence isn't thinking "I know I'll succeed." Confidence is thinking "I'd like to succeed, but whether I succeed or fail, I'll be just fine by the end."
I love that Ryan Gosling was used as THE example in this
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🤩 Focus on having fun in conversations rather than seeking approval.
00:28 😂 Use absurd analogies to make conversations more entertaining.
01:14 😄 Employ the Mind's Eye method to create amusing mental images.
01:45 😶 Use deadpan humor but be absurd enough to make it clear you're joking.
02:12 😬 Share funny embarrassing stories from your past to appear confident and relatable.
03:14 🙈 Embrace authenticity by acknowledging and appreciating genuine moments in conversations.
05:32 😅 Call out awkward moments and share embarrassing stories with a smile.
07:15 🤝 Compliment people genuinely to make them feel good about themselves.
09:07 🙌 Playfully accept compliments and mix in some humility for a charismatic response.
10:24 💪 Maintain unshakable confidence by internalizing that the stakes in most situations aren't that high.
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Confident is the Freedom of doing anything you want to do. You can get this freedom if you dont expect something from outside, because then you try hard to get this or force that. Hava simple goals for example: A funny conversation, not a that they like you only funny. Or anything else. And if you accept yourself with your strenghts and weaknesses the meaning of other peoble become irrelevant because you know what you are and what you want you dont need a meaning from outside. Thats also the trick to become fearless in society because noone and nothing can hurt you or bring you out of concept because have your own very strong meaning of yourself and about what you want from live. Take this mindset if you want to become free in society. Much Success!
Watching these videos every once in a while has helped alot over the last couple years!!
My man took the im literally Ryan Gosling to a whole new level!!!
The first joke, the Jackson Pollock joke, was also great because it was callback to a joke that the comedian to his left, Greg Davies, had made earlier in the interview.
actually, it is the opposite. Greg said it after. He even looked at Ryan when he repeated the joke
@@salomemunoz2110yeah ive seen those clips soo many times and I didn’t realise that until recently
You should do a video on Shawn from Psych, he is very either
1 charismatic, or
2 just the main character.
This feels so good to believe. I am living vicariously through his confidence. It's no big deal. The sun will rise once more.
I think you just have to be so happy with your life and situation that it just exudes from you. Someone who is suffering financially and not doing well just can’t feel like stirring up a convo
What I learned from this is I need to see more Ryan Gosling interview. "Fecal Jackson Pollock" has me in stitches.
Thank you for this step by step guide on how to act differently that I can follow to be my authentic self
how to be ryan gosling tutorial
Loved the video. Ryan is truly amazing!
Ryan Gosling is extremely charismatic! His personality is so attractive and damn he's soooo fine!
Such an amazing collection of ways to make things more positive in life!
Needed that message at the end, thanks Ben 🙏🏾
I love Alison Hammond her laugh is incredible
That whole interview is one of the funniest things I've ever seen
"The stakes aren't that high." I didn't want to go to a job interview. I went anyway, thought I messed it up but left thinking that even if I don't get it, they were good contacts to make. I got the job and I love it! But having that perspective was what made it possible to relax and even enjoy it a little.
The best tips I've never even heard of before! Awesome!
🌸A WISE MAN ONCE SAID
1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to;
2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the person that borrowed you remember or ask for it. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes.
3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner.
4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don't you buy a car? For God’s sake it isn’t your problem;
5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public;
6. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time;
7. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember what's 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you. Besides, second opinion is good for an alternative;
8. Never interrupt people talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all;
9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and it shows how appreciative you're;
10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.
11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately;
12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will;
13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next;
14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctors' appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I hope you’re okay". Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they'll do so without your inquisitiveness;
15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rude you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect;
16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude;
17. Never give advice until you’re asked;
18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary;
19. Mind your business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it;
20. Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreso, eye contact is as important as your speech; and
21. Never talk about your riches in the midst of the poor. Similarly, don't talk about your children in the midst of the barren.
As someone who has done charisma university, it is actually amazing and great
Kenergy 😂 Ryan G is hilarious what a great guy to learn from ❤
My charisma has carried me far.
Im 29 with no GED, no Diploma or real schooling.
Despite this I have my dream job, dream wife and close to a dream life. My entire life I have done my best to make people laugh and enjoy companionship. I feel good making other people feel good. I work hard to make sure they know I see their skills, and what more they can still achieve yet. Perhaps my overall outlook and confidence in not only myself, but others I appreciate has contributed greatly to my luck.
Life is short, remind not only others how great they are, but yourself as well. Talk yourself up, and TRUST IT. Stop taking everything so seriously, none of us make it out alive! 😅😉
How do you have no schooling and your dream job?
@@richardgarrison8328magically there’s a thing called starting “starting a business” and wouldn’t you know it, it only requires your bare hands and ability to lead
@@filletmignon5221 I bet you don't have your own business if you talk about it like that. Starting, running and keeping your own business requires a lot more than just those two things. That childrens mentality of "you can do anything if you set your mind to it" has gotten too many people into trouble already.
A truly excellent video!!! Thanks for sharing!
Nothing helps me build my confidence like realizing that all I have to do is be more like someone else.
Awesome content like always! Thank you
It is flattering to be featured on such a popular channel. Its actually literally me in the thumbnail
This video is full of good advice that could even be used to have a friendly feeling with a stranger which can also be cool, on the other hand I think you have to be careful not to get a notebook in which you will try to respect all the requirements of this video. The problem is that human interactions and seduction are very complex, much too complex to be calculated in advance and during, that's why like Whether you're a racing driver or a musician, it's so intutive that thinking about it slows it down makes it less natural and can cause the crash by taking the example of the racing driver. So for me the best is to take the advice of this video, have them in mind but don't try to articulate around it during a conversation otherwise you lose your naturalness and then you lose absolutely all the charm of a human being
Honestly meeting him as a kid he was very different but I'm assuming wealth and his family and kids changed that 🎉 congrats on the journey Mr. Gosling.
Oh this video was amazing, the best way to start your day thank you so much
Perfect for breaking up tension: "that's what she said".
Great episode!
Ryan is always well dressed and makes every interview more fun. Whereas Ken naked and in the middle of the floor makes things awkward and wondering why I am here. LOL
How to be authentic by using Hollywood actors as your examples. Interesting. In all seriousness, great video though. Love what you do!
Step #1: don't forget to be handsome.
Handsome af
He's not that handsome. Most guys if they had Ryan Gosling's persona, and if they wore decently fitting clothes, stood up straight, and grew a beard, would probably be considered more handsome then Ryan Gosling. For females, it's 90% in how men carry themselves. Also you don't need to be born with the jawline of a 1950s movie star if you have a beard. That's God helping you out.
I don't have that
Unfortunately does make it MUCH easier. People are already willing to give you more attention from the start of the convo if you're beautiful
@@johnathanpiper6378 I do na zi a problem here; seems perfectly normal to treat people differently based on how they look. Sign of a healthy society. Nothing wrong here. No problem at all.
I like the video . Thanks for posting this. Honesty is important. So is doing your job and researching before interviewing.
6:59 Her laugh made it TEN times more funny 😂😂
the video made me a Ryan Gosling fan. no joke the way he is just super good. you have to take over.
9:16 is my favorite part 😂😂
Wow, I didn't know I liked Ryan Gosling so much. Thanks for the video.
What about shy, timid, quiet people?
after seeing this I realize that the reason I remained calm the other week in a big presentation over zoom where I had massive technical issues is because I thought the stakes weren't that high. Now I just need to apply that to other areas!
I don't usually comment, but this video was awesome, is important to know that even if charisma doesn't come as natural as other skills one may have, is still just that, a skill, something that can be improved on.
What is the harsh truth of life?
1. Never tell anyone what you are doing until it is done.
2. When it hurts, observe that life is trying to teach you something.
3. Sometimes, it's not about who has more talent, it's about who is hungrier.
4. If you are scared to do it, do it scared.
5. Nobody cares about your story until you win, so win.
6. Never forget how to take care of yourself because others won't forget how to use you.
7. We don't grow when things are easy. We grow when we face challenges.
8. Win in your mind, and you will win in your reality.
9. Where there is no struggle, there is no strength.
10. It's better to fight for something than to live for nothing.
This taught me more than my school ever could
@@fzfzfzfz499 glad to help.
Gosling is a good role model in social skills and attitude.
i literally thought in my mind "well i would say 'its like looking at the sun' but he probably wouldn't say something like that"
I don’t need more friends. I’ve got too many as it is. Haha. Thank you for sharing this video!
He is a really funny guy! I actually laughed 3 times here 😂😂
I've noticed sometimes when I'm having a conversation especially with ppl i don't know i feel i got nothing to lose and throw one pun after the other, also many people tell me a lot that even though i don't talk much, when I do say wonderful things
Just remember to always be you and be authentic, it won't work if youre faking it.
Really helpful! Want more videos like this! 🙂