I always call my wife "my love" because that's exactly what she is.. she has all of my love. She's my best friend, and my gift from God. ❤ She's the best thing that happened to me and I thank God for her every day! We don't always agree, and sometimes we get into arguments. We also deal with a lot of stress, but at the end of the day, she's my everything and I try to let her know that as much as I can. She's faithful, loving and respectful to me, and we never call each other a bad name. Don't be toxic to each other, ever. Once you start doing that. It's a curse on the relationship.
It’s not just about submitting to your husband, doing what he says. There is trust that he will make wise decisions, trust that he will keep you safe-physically, financially, spiritually. There is respect and appreciation, which is reciprocal. Men and women have different roles because we think differently, we have different things we are good at but they complement each other. It’s kind of like riding on the back of a motorcycle your husband is driving. You put your life in his hands, you trust he will take care of you and keep you safe and do what is best for both of you. And you both pray to Jesus for guidance and protection from whatever may come at you both. And as a wife you take care of your husband so he can take care you. And if he is making a decision that you don’t agree with you don’t just do it, you talk about it together. Either you understand his thinking or you give him some other ideas. To submit doesn’t have to be a bad thing, it can be the best relationship you ever imagined when you both love to see each other happy. There is no competition, you complement each other. I have been married for a long time and I fall deeper in love with my husband all the time.
That is the timeless message for women. It is this way, because it goes against the fallen nature of women, to control and dominate- especially the husband.
@@joygibbons5482 “To the woman he said, "I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be contrary to your husband, but he shall rule over you."” Genesis 3:16
WOW! Thank you SO much for this message, Pastor Mark! "Always remember this. Before she was your wife, she was HIS daughter." I will carry that with me for the rest of my life and invest it into my boys as well. I took so many notes, but THAT brought tears to my eyes. What a beautiful, mic dropping prayer at the end as well, "May we be willing to learn this lesson: Not to be dominated or domineering, but to be lovingly united as one; ruling and reigning together under the authority of Jesus Christ, in whose name we pray. Amen!" God bless you, brother!
I'm still hurting over this to be honest. She's totally ghosted me and is in total avoidance of our marriage. When I wanted a divorce she said no and yet she isn't willing to reconcile. I've done my part and God is my witness.
This popped into my head while listening to the beginning of your sermon. “I am preparing you to have the huge family you’ve always wanted.” I had a counter thought of “you have no one” I responded with I may not have many people I can call family and friends. But God calls me beloved.
Brother! Keep faith and all you ask for will be given! Do not doubt it in your heart but keep faithful and keep Hos commandments and you will move mountains. I'll be praying for you Brother
Do you guys think we are at the very end of endtimes now? With all the crazy stuff happening in the world now? Definetly a lot more shady stuff going on now then say a decade ago. Some watchmen online seem to think so too.
Its not just if the man won’t lead, the devil will. There’s another side. If the woman wont follow the man’s leadership is a problem too and what I have faced in my marriage and satan has destroyed it. She claims to be a christian but doesn’t care about what Gods Word says about marriage. Just saying there is more to it than just the man not leading.
Look forGods leadership maybe she can be Influenced by Jezebel not necessarily possessed so fast pray and ask God to send Holy Spirit to send fire in Jesus name.
The fact that you left such a comment is proof you aren't leading properly, because you don't understand what leadership is. Satan could not have destroyed your marriage nor mislead your wife if you had been leading to begin with. If she doubts your leadership it's likely because you have shown yourself in the past to be unreliable. And here you are publicly blaming the woman just like Adam and telling the world it isn't your fault the marriage God put you in charge of is failing. If you hired someone to run your business and came back to find it in ruin, only for him to tell you it was the secretary's fault because she wouldn't listen to him or recognize his authority...you'd fire that guy right?
1 Cor 11:3&4 But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man and the head of Christ is God, 4 Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered dishounoreth his head (Christ)....can someone please take the time to explain to me how pastors preach with their heads covered ...(cap)?
Same thing happened to my Christian marriage. She comes up with many excuses and ideas why to abandon the marriage bond without putting in the effort to make it work. 💔
The government takes away a father's responsibility through family court. I'm a single dad with 50/50 physical/legal custody and I am fortunate I had the resources to fight for that hill to die on. Most fathers don't, and every father I have worked with through my volunteer capacity with the National Parent's Organization (NPO) desperately wants to be in their child's life in a meaningful way. The problem is solved by equal custody, yet no church talks about or advocates for this.
@@andrewmarshall7569 Yep. Society wants their established financial sources of income. Then when they don't need that anymore, we are kicked out again.
@@andrewmarshall7569 Brother, I'm not judging you, but I would like to add that the problem is actually solved when husbands and wives stay married and the family has a win. Again, I am not judging you for getting divorced. I don't know your circumstance. Maybe she divorced you and you had no choice. Maybe you were committed and wanted to make it work, but you just married a "Jezebel". I don't know. Either way, I am praying for you to be the father that your children need and that, with the LORD's help, you will be. GOD bless you, Andrew! 🙏
@@WatchList-xf8ic I don't take it as judgement at all, and thank you for being civil and kind. My ex wife had an affair and would not end it, so I filed for divorce, which is a Biblical reason to do so. I'm right there with you brother in regard to a mom and a dad staying together, if possible, but it's not a good thing to allow that behavior to continue. I thank God daily that their mom and I co-parent very well.
We had never heard of you until you took a stand against the enemy. We knew at that point we wanted to hear what you had to say. Excellent teacher!!! Thank you!
The SSPX Roman Catholic Church ripped my family apart. My Wife filed for Divorce when I left and went back to my Church (Milestone Church) in TX. Please pray for my family as God guides us through this season.
Been there and over last 10 years learned it Jezebel and why 70 to 80% of divorces are initiated by women, because they harden their hearts to Yahweh and refuse to humbly submit to him. The corrupt court systems actually enable this by incentivising child support and government assistance. If Mark would have read Isaiah 4 & 47 he wouldn't have a stage, because it clearly looks exactly like America today and what it will look like on the next few year? Read those verses and Revelation 2: 20 that leads to Revelation 6-18 (where we are currently) I openly teach this sound doctrine when most turn to the doctrines of demons to stay popular. Not me. I will not cowar like these hired hands.
Can you explain how the SSPX achieved this? The way you word it you sound like you’re saying it was a deliberate effort on their part. If not then what do you mean? How does an entire organisation of traditional Catholics, ‘rip a family apart’?
Great insights & analysis of today’s culture! Thank God for this man that can teach the Bible with humility, self deprecation / transparency & humor! Every young man should hear this sermon. I’ll be 67 soon and only wish I’d been exposed to this teaching when I was 18!
The man of God said it right here. It’s only been two months of listening to Pastor Mark but I’ve learned so much. He deals with issues that I have. Connection with my husband, power struggles and living together as one
As a natural woman it's been as obvious to me as today's gender stuff. It got our generation and your the first Man brave enough to say it. Stand firm. We need Godly male leaders.
This has to be be one of the best studies I have heard on this subject. Mark, thank you for clearly stating the way God has laid this out. God is good to give us good teachers.
Pastor Mark Driscoll you are the best teacher!!! Im going to share this with some young men. Hopefully they will hear you. So honestly spoken and lovingly taught. Lord Jesus bless this man and his family they are truly helping us.❤❤❤
Great sermon Mark! Great about the leadership…”if you as a man dont lead, then satan will” . Im a little older now and have 4 grown children and that has and will continue to add to my happiness
@@Raufm3 He leads our home in a biblical way. He’s a very slow angered, kind understanding man and he our needs before his every single day he has not once complained in 16 years takes his head ship very seriously. And in return, I can’t do nothing but respect him and let him lead me. He also encourages me to be closer with God. Marriage is hard and if two people are not led by God I just don’t see how you could make it especially in this world today. This world is all about “self”. And if you live your life like God commands you too you do what he says do not what your flesh says do. And I’ll tell you this I couldn’t live without God.
The landscape for young men to find a woman is horrible. Social Media, mostly TikTok, has set unrealistic standards in women. This makes too many young men not even try. Worthy young women need to speak out and be seen.
The dating scene and the way young people seem to do it is so sad. Young women seem to be doing such crazy things. Christian values have shrank in America.
And feminism, which is in the churches, does not help. Check out the comments under most YT men's issues vids and they're littered with plenty of Christian men who were messed over by Christian women and churches. Many were divorced by their Christian wives, and the churches turned their backs on the men. It's a mess for single men, Christian or non-Christian, really.
I'm a new follower and every sermon I've listened to has just been so spot on for me in life. Thank You Pastor Mark for your leadership. The Lord is truly working through you. God Bless!
The fact that I've never watched a video from this channel before rarely click on things like this and happen to have just made a plate of nachos and sat down to eat them.... Crazy!
Why is it that our society always puts the happiness of the wife before the husband? I think an even better quote would be to say find a husband and wife who both have beat up Bibles and are BOTH smiling. Marriage isn't just about the woman.
Yes patronizing tired cliched quote of the day from condescending Pastor Mark. The men who do what he says will be shamed on Father’s and Mother’s Day and in every sitcom regardless.
Thank you for this wonderful message. As a mother of three boys and a wife, I found it to be very encouraging and validating. I will be sure to share this with others. God bless.
I'm so excited to make my girlfriend my wife. Shes such a good woman and even though there are problems (like with any relationship) they are OUR problems that GOD will help us solve. They arent my problems or her problems theyre our problems. Edit: and I'm glad that God trusts me to lead this beautiful woman.
An honest pastor is better pastor. Thanks for the teachings, i hope this can be shared to all the men for better understanding. It takes two to be married but it takes Christ, man & woman to stay married.. may you continue with teachings as these may God bless you and your family in Jesus name..
I really hope ppl start marrying and having kids at a more "normalized" rate. It's so great. You don't need to be rich to do it, but doing it will make you rich (with untold joy and growth/challenges).
Being overbearing and domineering ISN'T the only way to make your way feel unsafe and insecure in the marriage...the opposite is also true....absent, neglectful , emotionally unavailable will do tge exact same thing.
MUST WATCH! I loved every minute! I've been married almost 30 years and I thank GOD for showing me that I have a place in my marriage and I was going about it all wrong for so long! God bless you, Pastor Mark!
Blessed to have heard this message. Much needed in today's society. We married men carry so much weight and talks like this allow us to exhale. Thanks Pastor.
This popped up and spoke to me so much. I forwarded it to my fiance. Sadly he got really defensive? Said why is there always video’s on men, what about women, they have to submit. I am so trying to see Godly leadership in him, overlook flaws etc, but Spiritual leadership is what I need in a man. I was married 17 years to a “Christian” alcoholic, the drinking and issues with that were bad but the lack of spiritual head of the home is what hurt the most. I would try show him his ways, scripture on being drunk or lukewarm and was rebuffed and told scripture is not black and white. I feel torn. I love this man. When he is in a good mood he calls me God’s daughter, reads the bible and prays with me. When he gets upset he turns on me, I can’t express needs, and I don’t even see Christian character/fruits, let alone any of the biblical qualities of a husband. I am scared to marry him. Having to leave one marriage due to alcohol abuse was bad, and I don’t want to end up in a worse situation. He can be very harsh, refuse to hear my heart and flip it back on me. I am often scared to talk. I love him. But I also want to be happy, to feel safe and secure 😢 he makes me feel like I can’t do anything right or it’s all my fault. He has massive pride. Please pray for wisdom. I don’t need perfection, but the constant mood flips are hard to deal with.
Sugar, that whole"submit" thing is bad news. Can you put off the wedding? I wish you the very best and ask you to listen to your discernment. Listen to that 35 minute segment again.
I made that mistake.. Don’t do it. Being unequally yoked does not work even if he displays some signs of a Christian man. If he’s not true believer, run. Wait on Gods timing.
Thanks! You started this like every divorced guy, it's horrible (challenging) being married. Made me question if i wanted to get married. But if you're use to giving more than you get, that's what marriage seems to be about. I do good things, because i can. Not because i sometimes get rewards. God created a servants heart. The devil created an entitled heart. Though what scares me about marriage is that if I give it all and I get nothing in return ever. That's what dating feminists is like. Giving everything and that not being enough.
There are good girls out there, just watch out for narcissistic traits or signs of entitlement, and do test your future wife a looot, then follow your heart, may Jesus guide and bless you brother!
Amazing sermon Pastor Mark! I listen each week because I love your messaging for the men. I know this world is brutal for men and these sermons help me, as a woman, wife & mom to understand the enormous stress and struggle they are dealing with every day in the world. My husband goes to Real Men whenever he’s not business traveling and enjoys it so much. He’s grown, spiritually, in the last 2 years…like I never imagined! Truly beautiful to witness. Our marriage is stronger than ever now, thanks to Pastor Mark, Trinity Church, Real Men and Real Women❤ My favorite line of your sermon was telling the single guys who complain they can’t imagine being married to one woman for life: “Don’t worry, trust me, she’ll change” 🎯 😂
The real problem is Preachers not preaching the gospel. Issues we see today in our culture are issues of the heart, and the only thing that can change a sinful heart is the power of the gospel of Jesus Christ. To many ministries are trying to sell their books or “Secret Sauce” when dealing with life issues when they should preach the gospel itself and these issues would resolve themselves.
I get tired of women saying "strong independent woman" or especially "strong independent black woman" (I'm a blk married woman by the way) These are single and married women saying this. It's ok to be strong but they act like being married is a sin. Also, these same women I know that are still waiting on a husband ain't ready to submit....They still go out to clubs LOLOL...what they want is a strong independent marriage LOLOLOL I love being married to my husband...He is definitely my blessing from the Lord.
@@catnagle3762 Great... My husband and I are strong. Nothing is wrong with being strong, man or woman. The problem is the so called "I don't need a man or husband to raise my children...ON PURPOSE" having multiple children out of wedlock and a lot of times with multiple men. God created man...then he create for the man a helpmeet...Woman...A wife...
I grew up in the 80s and our dads in the neighborhood worked long hours, only to come home to us crazy kids tearing up their yards as the sun was setting. Other than maybe the summer block party, the dads didn't hang out with the other dads. They were stoic, disciplinary figures. They weren't beacons of happiness, but we didn't expect them to be either.
Whether people want to diss or second-guess Driscoll, it’s clear he does care a lot about what he’s doing and is serious about what he’s saying. That alone is helpful and raises the bar, bc it seems like not many men really do
Sure, until you realize how far off he is from teaching us to follow Yahshua. That's to hard for him, Jezebel has him under his heal. I cover all this in "The Watchman and The Warning Ezekiel 33 & 34" He's just another hired hand after the glory. "Few be there that find it." Also worth noting, admitting that your wife has to approve of what you teach is proof he shouldn't be teaching. It will all be exposed soon.
I am one of the wives that watch "Real Men" every week to gain more insight not just for an instance to share with my husband or my brothers but for myself as well. It has definitely boosted my relationship with God as well as my relationship with my husband.
My husband gave me a new name right after we got engaged..he named me "Joan" and told me that it means "God's gift"...which i didn understand back then.
Wow simply amazing! I've been searching and searching and searching for probably years years and years for this specific message in my life. I was trying to figure out what was wrong with my marriage and the lightbulb the proverbial lightbulb went off of my head after listening to Mark Driscoll! Amen brother keep preaching because I'm going to keep listening! I couldn't figure out what the heck was wrong with my marriage until now this is authentic right on Bible preaching! I'm so thankful for Mark Driscoll and the content that he delivers! Now if I can just pray in the spirit that God will deliver Us from this hellish marriage and get through this time in our lives I will be truly thankful!
One thing that seems to recur in almost every sermon I hear on the issues of families is the absence of addressing young and middle aged widows. Yes unmarried women with children have it hard, but what about the widows ? It’s like the church is blind to these people - it’s not a choice for a widow with children and it’s so disheartening and discouraging to hear continuously about the importance of a father in a child’s life, when they have lost their father.
Woman. UK. Congratulations. I’m 67 & have never had children, had uterine cancer at 43. I only have 1 cat & I wish I had a family! Am enjoying your words, but may have to sleep soon, more tomorrow……
@@Raufm3 interesting question from someone I don’t know ! But Y once in my early 20s, which lasted about 2 years. Then I got a call to come up to London to work on Demo’s (banks & banks of.glorious harmony). Divorce followed soon after!, Then I married again in the early 80’s which was a silly mistake. Music & the people I played it with have always been my ‘true’ loves. Thank you for asking. Love & Peace to you x J
@jennbamboo Warm Thanks for your reply Jenn, did you think about getting a dog? I believe it will give you a sense of a child more than a cat.. I wish you happiness and good health 🙏
The devil only attacks that are a threat to him. A strong Christian man with a strong Christian woman can conquer and preach, destroying his world . If healing and reconciliation is GOD'S plan for you, it will happen, HIS TIME, HIS WAY. Keep having faith, trusting, and believing. GOD has you in HIS Righteous Right Hand.
I'm with you Deborah. I have a very strong personality, but I love being a partner in marriage. I strongly have my husbands back. We discuss our goals together and I head straight to completion. I try to not challenge my husband, as that is really emasculating. But I don't mind asking for clarification. Men are awesome and think completely different than we do. Don't try to change them, enjoy the differences and learn more about them. Men have been abused since the 70's and we need to nurture them. But they also need to grow up. I think that was a big part of what Pastor Driscoll was talking about. Good luck.
Amen my former wife used God and the devil to mistreat their spouse. Since being truly connected to the Church I focus on finding a truly godly woman who is connected to the Lord.
He is 100% correct, I'm 46 years old and I'm scared to death of dieing alone but that's probably what will happen and i only have myself to blame for that!
Evan, in your picture, you are wearing a wife beater and have your tongue hanging out. Try being dependable and gracious, not a party boy. If I'm mistaken, excuse me. But honestly, most women would see your picture and move on. Good luck.
It's funny how the Bible teaches the wife to submit to her husband. I guess in you're world this means nothing. Co-leading means she's leading. Do better than bowing down to these feminist.
I looked up Genesis 3:16 in Bible Gateway in many other versions (the last sentence of the verse): Living Bible, The Message, New American Standard, NIV, New King James, New Living Translation, Revised Standard, **The Voice, English Standard Version, American Standard, Amplified, KING JAMES, Wycliffe, Young Literal Translation and more! If they ALL say the same thing, that's enough for me! It's just the way we were made by our creator! BUT, like I said before, with this authority comes much responsibility! We BETTER get it right!
Hey Mark, Appreciate the lesson. Though I do have some questions about your interpretation of scripture. I believe I heard you say that, the husband and wife are equal leaders. But, the ultimate responsibility falls on the man. Providing I understood correctly, my response would be, "you can't have both". Whether you intended that to be the interpretation or not, it needs to be said that there is a dangerous implication in much teaching about marriage that men are too incompetent to lead in marriage without their wife's help. Men lead armies, large companies, counsel, build from vision and are the first to die for what they believe in. But, from the church we frequently hear that men can't lead in marriage. Ask a man at church to meet for coffe and he has to check with his wife for permission. The church (in some ways) has softened the man by continuously telling us that we're too incompetent to lead (subliminally). What's displayed in biblical marriage is nothing like what we teach in today's culture. Men do know how to be loving leaders and lead their families into godly success. Wives must trust God and pray for their husbands. Actually, they shouldn't marry a man that they can't follow. So much more to say. But, please consider the things.
Genesis 3:16. Theres a reason why God says “and he will rule over you”. We can’t leave off that part of scripture. Bc of the fall bc of sin there will be a constant fighting for headship. There is a godly way to rule over your wife and there’s an ungodly way. When talking about marriage no pastor should leave out headship, and submission. The women submits to man as he submits/loves Christ. Ephesians 5:22-30. When this pastor mentions coequal dominion thats a two headed monster. Very scary, and not biblical. Ephesians 5:21 is actually a continuation of 5:1-20. Hence the “further more” (NLT.) Believers are to submit to one another.
Men you are the leader you will give an account Don’t abuse it Women be submissive to him Women when u try to take control from him he will rule over you So don’t
@@joygibbons5482Normally, men of God are super kind, problem is the frequent misunderstandings between masculine and feminine logic in my humble opinion
Pastor Mark, please do a sermon on wives who refuse to respect their husbands. My wife is a wonderful woman- I love her deeply- but she has a hard, independent streak (I think from her father dying when she was a baby, growing up with a single mother). She agrees “intellectually” with Biblical gender roles, but in practice her heart is far far far from wanting to practice any respect. I am committed to lead and am not passive. It is a delicate balance to avoid huge arguments, and all I can do is constantly forgive her for sinning against me. And pastor, I am wearing thin. I’m doing everything I can - I am a good, hard working man who puts God first. I have no desire to dominate anyone (indeed it seems she has the desire to dominate ME). I will absolutely not abdicate. But I don’t know how to handle this - I have no hope of changing her by my efforts- that won’t work. But nothing is working. Please help
Have you ever read the book “The Masculine in Relationship: A Blueprint for Inspiring the Trust, Lust, and Devotion of a Strong Woman” by GS Youngblood. It has a lot of tips and advice on this matter.
48:57 ....but what about when its reversed? I would hope that God would say to the wife "Until you treat my son different, you're on your own. I'm not going to help the woman who's hurting my son." Emotional abuse and using physical intimacy as the weapon is hurtful and has given the enemy a virtual playground in my marriage currently :(
Exactly. And while husbands are called to forgive and love endlessly (like Jesus does the church), this kind of toxic femininity will damage the man and the marriage irreparably. And nobody is holding women accountable for their sins.
As always, I appreciate much of what you said here. There is one thing I would like to point out in love. I know it is not popular but what you taught about dominion 31:00 is not biblical (Eph 5: 21-33, 1Co 11:3-12). When we become part of the Church, we become one with Christ. We become one by accepting HIS domination and authority over us. To say that a man is the head of the house but has equal dominion. Is like telling Christ HE is the head of the Church but has no authority / dominion over her. When a man submits to GOD and loves his wife as Christ loves the Church. He has dominion over his household, but he will never abuse that dominion in any way. If he does, he is not loving her as Christ loves the Church. He has final say but also takes full responsibility. That is what a leader / head does. This is the arrangement set by GOD. When it is accepted before and throughout the marriage. All potential power struggles in the house are eliminated.
Mark, I heard truth intermixed with what seemed to be compromise. You spoke about the hierarchy within a marriage, the man being the head like Christ is over the church, but then you seemed to muddle the topic by establishing equality in marital headship. Ephesians 5 does a good job of explaining the roles and responsibilities of men and women in marriage. You were correct in stating that men are responsible for leading their family spiritually and that they are accountable, to a significant extent, for the behaviors of their family….including their wife. But how can God hold men accountable if He doesn’t give them the leadership role from which to be accountable. Yes, men are supposed to love their wives and it is clear that should not be done iron fisted, but just as Adam should have intervened in Satan’s deception of Eve, so should we as husbands, interfere with societal influences that would deceive our wives and our children, and we should do that with authority. I understand that it is not a popular position, but it is Biblical. Don’t get me wrong, I do not deny that wives are very capable of helping their husbands overcome sin that they are struggling with as well, but I don’t believe that it should be done authoritatively. It should be done in a similar way as a soldier would try to correct a commanding officer, delicately. btw- I think it is important to note, the sins of Adam and Eve in Genesis chapter 3: Eve - was deceived into thinking that God was holding out on them. She was convinced that there was something missing in her life that could be found in the one thing God denied them. Adam - chose to follow Eve instead of following God. He desired Eve more than he desired God. It is for that reason that Adam emphasized the fact that he only ate because of the woman “who God gave him”. The inference is, if God had not made Eve then Adam would not have eaten, so then it is God’s fault for making him a helpmate.
After navigating almost two decades of seeking clarity on this topic in and outside the church, it's the first time i heard this message presented so effectively in a way that makes sense and is consistent with evidence of good examples in the world around us. Thanks pastor Mark!~
After becoming well-acquainted with female nature, I have absolutely no desire to get married. Sex is a carrot on a stick, a taste of the forbidden fruit that brings toil and suffering into your life.
Godly Christian leadership is never supposed to be abusive or selfish. With that context being said, it's very confusing to tell a man that he is not his wife's ruler. She is called to obey him. You talked about how Christ leads the church. Did Christ not give the church commands? Did Christ not teach the church that if you love him you will keep his Commandments? Did Christ not tell the church that all authority was given unto him? Are we not called to teach each other to observe all things whatsoever he has commanded us? Are you really saying that Christ is not the ruler of the church? That is absolutely silly. A husband's leadership should be selfless, sacrificial, and demonstrated in service, but he is still the leader of his wife. A home where a man is a strong leader and a wife is a sincere follower is a good home.
This is the biggest problem with Egalitarianism. God gave us the picture of Christ and His bride to illustrate marriage. If you start with a feminist view of marriage, that picture doesn’t work. We must not equivocate like Mark Driscoll has here. Men lead the family. Like Jesus leads the church. So you can’t be a jerk to her and insist on your way (because Jesus didn’t). But a man’s failure (where Jesus never failed) in no way makes that an invalid picture of what we aim for. To lose this is to lose the most important concept God gave us about both Christ and our marriages.
I was on a Christian single's group for 8 years. I met more than 400 divorced Christian people and had high quality conversations with many of them. Many of them went back to the same mistakes they made in previous relationships. Most of the women liked the same 4 or 5 handsome, rich guys, and most of the men like the same 4 or 5 hot women. You have no idea how much I did to get a woman's attention. I went to help a woman to clean her garage and she didn't even offer a sandwich. I helped a woman to move and paid first month of rent for her. She started going out with her former neighbor who was not a Christian and never called me back. There is a TV series which is really sincere in showing how things are. "Two and a Half Man" is the most sincere and shocking description of how things happen among Christians. All elements of Christian relationships in church are there. The good Christian guys don't have a chance and the jerks get all the girls. I saw that many times. How Christian women fall for the jerks? That is a mystery I am trying to solve.
The challenge I think is that people are often thinking only through ideological bubbles that don't necessarily capture the entirety of reality for every particular circumstance. I have been looking at different pieces of advice given from a variety of sources to piece together a clearer picture. What I noticed with a good number of Christian channels is that they often have a hard time being able to address societal phenomena with precision and accuracy. Don't get me wrong. As a Christian and one who reads the Bible, I understand the importance of always keeping the Bible at the core of our thinking. However, what a lot of popular Christian channels have a hard time grappling with are specific developments in the modern era that don't have a clear resolution or specific remedies outlined in the Bible. For example, there are people who have adopted social norms so that man should be head of the household and perform the responsibility of providing for the family. That is fine. But, this only describes an ideal and does not address how this can occur when inflation causes costs of living to rise making a man the sole breadwinner a very unlikely scenario in most cases. There needs to be more discussion on how to reconcile what we understand as the ideal in the Bible and how to get there from what is happening in our modern times. A tendency to simply dismiss the entirety of RedPill ideology without trying to filter the important insightful elements leaves everyone operating from a degree of naivety. I fully recognize that there is distaste with RedPill ideology for going to extremes in its recommendations and critiques of women and that is understandable. But, there are also societal observations that should not be ignored simply because of its perceived association with that ideology. Some of the claims that are made include that our legal system, societal norms, and subconscious tendencies favor women. These claims are not out of the blue and can be seen when reflecting on how divorce is handled including division of assets. Social messaging even seemingly benign ones seem to always emphasize that "men are at fault, should be made responsible, or are incompetent". Aside from small pockets of the internet that go against this prevailing trend, are we able to think of any public messaging in our media that suggests "women should show restraint, carefully act with wise judgment, or reflect on wrongful actions towards others"? In almost all modern era messaging we see women in only positive light or an argument for how they should not be accountable even for actions that are a result of poorly considered decisions. Even though both men and women are susceptible to the sinful nature and both are quite capable of horrendous actions towards their fellow human being, there definitely is a tendency to portray women as angels on a pedestal and men as monsters that need to be controlled, chained, or subdued. In terms of romance, I think the biggest challenge is that a lot of men are instinctively operating with the mindset of being a provider which is understandable and even Biblical. But, there is a fracture in how women view men that creates a divide. Instead of looking at a good provider as a characteristic or a sign that this is a person to consider as a partner, that provider is looked at as a person they can use but not necessarily respect as a partner to whom they would share intimacy. Now a good number of women look at the adventurous, physically built, or otherwise virile looking man as the person to share intimacy. You basically have to be two different people at the same time in order to have a successful marriage (provider mindset and the adventurous/bold mindset).
Don’t chase women. They’ll chase you. You were chasing in your examples, cleaning someone’s garage is ridiculous, that’s not how you win a woman, she will have no respect for you. Chase your vision, your work, God, wisdom. You will be found by the right woman. All men doing these things will be found. Similarly, all women that are wife material are found, they don’t stay single for long.
@@cameronosborne7405 That is exactly what Charlie Harper teaches on "Two and a Half Men". This will depend on the kind of leverage you have. Money and looks can make women like you. If you don't have that you need to use other ways to approach someone.
This video has been removed from Mark Driscolls channel! It still can be found by typing "Your wife is your toughest challenge" in youtube search bar but MANY recent comments are NOT there! ------Huh!!!
I'm one of the women who enjoy pastor Mark's sermons. I have been married for 33 years and we go to church but my husband wont read his bible and so he doesn't know scripture. When i try to teach him about something biblical he gets defensive and doesn't want to hear it. He thinks I'm being critical but I'm trying to help him learn. I would like to have a biblical marriage but how can i let him lead when hes not being a biblical husband. Im thankful he supports our family and gives his time to the church or to help someone but this marriage has been a real struggle.
Every marriage is so! A tipp from a brother; some men are stubborn or get triggered by advices, just stop advising him, lead by example, and most important thing make an effort to change your perception about him, let God do his work and let go! Praise him more often, show him that you care, I swear he will change to be the husband you dream of!
This sermon ought to be a prerequisite to a marriage license. Understanding what marriage is, what it’s supposed to look like, and the inevitable challenges/power struggles that await would probably lower the divorce rate by 75%!
The only thing that will lower the divorce rate is women choosing not to divorce for frivolous reasons. It is that simple. I know why you like this sermon and Mark. He MO is telling you women that nothing is your fault and everything is your husband’s fault.
@@electric5hadowI feel like your comment shows tunnel vision on the topic. You can't see the forest for the trees. Look, Pastor Mark is a MAN, preaching a sermon on the MAN'S role in a godly marriage. If the topic was a WOMAN'S role in a godly marriage then the message would've been geared more towards that. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.
"Even if God gave you everything, if you don't lead it.... you lose it". We learn so much from you, Pastor Mark. Thank you
wow.🤔😬😳
It’s difficult to lead a women who refuses to be led.
I always call my wife "my love" because that's exactly what she is.. she has all of my love. She's my best friend, and my gift from God. ❤ She's the best thing that happened to me and I thank God for her every day!
We don't always agree, and sometimes we get into arguments. We also deal with a lot of stress, but at the end of the day, she's my everything and I try to let her know that as much as I can. She's faithful, loving and respectful to me, and we never call each other a bad name.
Don't be toxic to each other, ever. Once you start doing that. It's a curse on the relationship.
i had saved my wife mob no as my love but sadly we divorced.may god take care of her.
You need to reach the young men
As a woman these are excellent. It's not just men who should be listening to these.
I’d love to see something like this for women. ❤ biblical guidance and direction for women beyond just the “submit” message we so often see.
It’s not just about submitting to your husband, doing what he says.
There is trust that he will make wise decisions, trust that he will keep you safe-physically, financially, spiritually. There is respect and appreciation, which is reciprocal.
Men and women have different roles because we think differently, we have different things we are good at but they complement each other.
It’s kind of like riding on the back of a motorcycle your husband is driving. You put your life in his hands, you trust he will take care of you and keep you safe and do what is best for both of you. And you both pray to Jesus for guidance and protection from whatever may come at you both.
And as a wife you take care of your husband so he can take care you.
And if he is making a decision that you don’t agree with you don’t just do it, you talk about it together. Either you understand his thinking or you give him some other ideas.
To submit doesn’t have to be a bad thing, it can be the best relationship you ever imagined when you both love to see each other happy. There is no competition, you complement each other.
I have been married for a long time and I fall deeper in love with my husband all the time.
Hopefully his wife would do one
That is the timeless message for women. It is this way, because it goes against the fallen nature of women, to control and dominate- especially the husband.
@@subjecttochrist sad you can only see 2 alternatives. Control and dominate or be controlled and dominated
@@joygibbons5482 “To the woman he said, "I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be contrary to your husband, but he shall rule over you."”
Genesis 3:16
Wife and boy mom! 🙋♀️ I tune in every week. Real Men has been transformative for our entire family!
WOW! Thank you SO much for this message, Pastor Mark! "Always remember this. Before she was your wife, she was HIS daughter." I will carry that with me for the rest of my life and invest it into my boys as well. I took so many notes, but THAT brought tears to my eyes. What a beautiful, mic dropping prayer at the end as well, "May we be willing to learn this lesson: Not to be dominated or domineering, but to be lovingly united as one; ruling and reigning together under the authority of Jesus Christ, in whose name we pray. Amen!" God bless you, brother!
Very well said and absolute truth!
I'm still hurting over this to be honest. She's totally ghosted me and is in total avoidance of our marriage. When I wanted a divorce she said no and yet she isn't willing to reconcile. I've done my part and God is my witness.
Something demonic could be influence, like the jezabel spirit.
Keep praying for her and asked the lord for his guidance.
@dougbrown7023 how did it turn out brother?
This popped into my head while listening to the beginning of your sermon. “I am preparing you to have the huge family you’ve always wanted.” I had a counter thought of “you have no one” I responded with I may not have many people I can call family and friends. But God calls me beloved.
I have one friend like really 1 friend but I have 5 kids and a wife it'll happen for you. God's got you in, Jesus name
Brother! Keep faith and all you ask for will be given! Do not doubt it in your heart but keep faithful and keep Hos commandments and you will move mountains. I'll be praying for you Brother
God bless you!!! You have a family in Christ, we are all your family an there are many of us, LOVE YOU BROTHERS!
Do you guys think we are at the very end of endtimes now? With all the crazy stuff happening in the world now? Definetly a lot more shady stuff going on now then say a decade ago. Some watchmen online seem to think so too.
Its not just if the man won’t lead, the devil will. There’s another side. If the woman wont follow the man’s leadership is a problem too and what I have faced in my marriage and satan has destroyed it. She claims to be a christian but doesn’t care about what Gods Word says about marriage. Just saying there is more to it than just the man not leading.
Look forGods leadership maybe she can be Influenced by Jezebel not necessarily possessed so fast pray and ask God to send Holy Spirit to send fire in Jesus name.
The fact that you left such a comment is proof you aren't leading properly, because you don't understand what leadership is. Satan could not have destroyed your marriage nor mislead your wife if you had been leading to begin with. If she doubts your leadership it's likely because you have shown yourself in the past to be unreliable. And here you are publicly blaming the woman just like Adam and telling the world it isn't your fault the marriage God put you in charge of is failing. If you hired someone to run your business and came back to find it in ruin, only for him to tell you it was the secretary's fault because she wouldn't listen to him or recognize his authority...you'd fire that guy right?
1 Cor 11:3&4 But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man and the head of Christ is God, 4 Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered dishounoreth his head (Christ)....can someone please take the time to explain to me how pastors preach with their heads covered ...(cap)?
Correct, I also notice a lot of non-submitting women out there, even a lot of Christians.
Same thing happened to my Christian marriage. She comes up with many excuses and ideas why to abandon the marriage bond without putting in the effort to make it work. 💔
“More fathers, less government.”
The government takes away a father's responsibility through family court. I'm a single dad with 50/50 physical/legal custody and I am fortunate I had the resources to fight for that hill to die on. Most fathers don't, and every father I have worked with through my volunteer capacity with the National Parent's Organization (NPO) desperately wants to be in their child's life in a meaningful way. The problem is solved by equal custody, yet no church talks about or advocates for this.
@@andrewmarshall7569 Yep. Society wants their established financial sources of income. Then when they don't need that anymore, we are kicked out again.
@@cccdy6375 can’t lose if you refuse to play the game
@@andrewmarshall7569 Brother, I'm not judging you, but I would like to add that the problem is actually solved when husbands and wives stay married and the family has a win. Again, I am not judging you for getting divorced. I don't know your circumstance. Maybe she divorced you and you had no choice. Maybe you were committed and wanted to make it work, but you just married a "Jezebel". I don't know. Either way, I am praying for you to be the father that your children need and that, with the LORD's help, you will be. GOD bless you, Andrew! 🙏
@@WatchList-xf8ic I don't take it as judgement at all, and thank you for being civil and kind. My ex wife had an affair and would not end it, so I filed for divorce, which is a Biblical reason to do so.
I'm right there with you brother in regard to a mom and a dad staying together, if possible, but it's not a good thing to allow that behavior to continue. I thank God daily that their mom and I co-parent very well.
We had never heard of you until you took a stand against the enemy. We knew at that point we wanted to hear what you had to say. Excellent teacher!!! Thank you!
Woman & wife that watches every week! 👋 thanks guys. I love pastor Mark & his sermons/messages
57 yr old man, 38 yr marriage and I really needed to hear this. Thank You
I don’t know if you’ll see this comment or not but this is exactly the message I needed because of the struggles I’m going through thank you
The SSPX Roman Catholic Church ripped my family apart. My Wife filed for Divorce when I left and went back to my Church (Milestone Church) in TX. Please pray for my family as God guides us through this season.
Been there and over last 10 years learned it Jezebel and why 70 to 80% of divorces are initiated by women, because they harden their hearts to Yahweh and refuse to humbly submit to him. The corrupt court systems actually enable this by incentivising child support and government assistance. If Mark would have read Isaiah 4 & 47 he wouldn't have a stage, because it clearly looks exactly like America today and what it will look like on the next few year? Read those verses and Revelation 2: 20 that leads to Revelation 6-18 (where we are currently)
I openly teach this sound doctrine when most turn to the doctrines of demons to stay popular. Not me. I will not cowar like these hired hands.
Unfortunately the devil has had a hold on women in our country. Statistics state that over 70% of divorces are initiated and filed by women.
@@FAKERED7Are you serious?
Can you explain how the SSPX achieved this? The way you word it you sound like you’re saying it was a deliberate effort on their part. If not then what do you mean? How does an entire organisation of traditional Catholics, ‘rip a family apart’?
@@richyburnettthis is my question, too. Doesn't sound on-brand.
This sermon convicted me. Paster mark, thank you. My wife is gods daughter, Beautiful i have to do better.
Great insights & analysis of today’s culture! Thank God for this man that can teach the Bible with humility, self deprecation / transparency & humor! Every young man should hear this sermon. I’ll be 67 soon and only wish I’d been exposed to this teaching when I was 18!
AMEN THE BATTLE REALLY BEGINS IN MARRIAGE . Be strong fellas . Its up to godly men to lead.
Line of the night, " I can't be with one woman" "Let me tell ya, she's gonna change, you're gonna get some variety" SO TRUE!! 😆
That line was gold 😂😂😂
Just hope she has Jesus before that change happens.
🤣😢indeed
Lol
The man of God said it right here. It’s only been two months of listening to Pastor Mark but I’ve learned so much. He deals with issues that I have. Connection with my husband, power struggles and living together as one
As a natural woman it's been as obvious to me as today's gender stuff. It got our generation and your the first Man brave enough to say it. Stand firm. We need Godly male leaders.
This has to be be one of the best studies I have heard on this subject. Mark, thank you for clearly stating the way God has laid this out. God is good to give us good teachers.
Do you believe we are at the end of endtimes now?
@@dayseven28 if you are asking me, yes, I believe the Rapture is closer then we think and I believe this war is escalating things.
@@dayseven28100% I have ZERO doubts that we’re living in the last days!
Pastor Mark Driscoll you are the best teacher!!! Im going to share this with some young men. Hopefully they will hear you. So honestly spoken and lovingly taught. Lord Jesus bless this man and his family they are truly helping us.❤❤❤
Leave them young boys alone, wierdo.
He is spot on about marriage! Great sermon. ❤
Great sermon Mark! Great about the leadership…”if you as a man dont lead, then satan will” .
Im a little older now and have 4 grown children and that has and will continue to add to my happiness
Love having a strong God-fearing Christian man♥️ I thank God every day for him.
Me too, AMEN!
What are his virtues that you do like or can't live without?
@@aracelibelaski4768What are his virtues that you do like or can't live without?
@@Raufm3 He leads our home in a biblical way. He’s a very slow angered, kind understanding man and he our needs before his every single day he has not once complained in 16 years takes his head ship very seriously. And in return, I can’t do nothing but respect him and let him lead me. He also encourages me to be closer with God. Marriage is hard and if two people are not led by God I just don’t see how you could make it especially in this world today. This world is all about “self”. And if you live your life like God commands you too you do what he says do not what your flesh says do. And I’ll tell you this I couldn’t live without God.
@tinafreeman6245 Wow! You, loving God and your husband this way, say a lot about too! May God bless your family amen 🙏
Single woman here, continuing to learn and grow from some personal experiences and continue to prepare myself for being a good wife someday!
Your comment is very refreshing
The landscape for young men to find a woman is horrible. Social Media, mostly TikTok, has set unrealistic standards in women. This makes too many young men not even try. Worthy young women need to speak out and be seen.
The dating scene and the way young people seem to do it is so sad. Young women seem to be doing such crazy things. Christian values have shrank in America.
And feminism, which is in the churches, does not help. Check out the comments under most YT men's issues vids and they're littered with plenty of Christian men who were messed over by Christian women and churches. Many were divorced by their Christian wives, and the churches turned their backs on the men. It's a mess for single men, Christian or non-Christian, really.
Yes I know that in order to have control over any issue… I gotta make me the problem. It’s called humility❤
I'm a new follower and every sermon I've listened to has just been so spot on for me in life. Thank You Pastor Mark for your leadership. The Lord is truly working through you. God Bless!
Too late for me, my wife already left me for another man, please always pray together for your marriage
same here god bless u and fill the gap
You can’t lead today’s women. They are owned by the government, “Satan”
As a young single woman that absolutely breaks my heart 💔I’m so sorry for your loss. Praying Jesus fills in the gap for you and your marriage.
The fact that I've never watched a video from this channel before rarely click on things like this and happen to have just made a plate of nachos and sat down to eat them.... Crazy!
This sermon was amazing. Love the humor and seriousness. Everything you say is so true. Everyone needs to watch this. I will share this to no end
I'm a wife in waiting!
Just found pastor Mark today!
LORD, i pray every man gets the urge to watch this video. this is beautifully said, so biblical.
Find an old guy with a beat up Bible and a smiling wife and talk with him. Quote of the day!
Why is it that our society always puts the happiness of the wife before the husband? I think an even better quote would be to say find a husband and wife who both have beat up Bibles and are BOTH smiling. Marriage isn't just about the woman.
Right, because she is smiling after you knelt down and did exactly what she told you to do, sheesh
Bingo! Right to the point
Didn't need to watch the rest of the 50mins.
Yes patronizing tired cliched quote of the day from condescending Pastor Mark. The men who do what he says will be shamed on Father’s and Mother’s Day and in every sitcom regardless.
Thank you for this wonderful message. As a mother of three boys and a wife, I found it to be very encouraging and validating. I will be sure to share this with others. God bless.
I'm so excited to make my girlfriend my wife. Shes such a good woman and even though there are problems (like with any relationship) they are OUR problems that GOD will help us solve. They arent my problems or her problems theyre our problems.
Edit: and I'm glad that God trusts me to lead this beautiful woman.
Good luck, Jordan.
Good luck! She won’t be the same person in 5 years or sooner. You better understand that
@@chadsullivan9778Spot on! What exactly happens to women after some years of marriage?
Lead? Are her father? No wonder you have problems.
@@A100Aic isn't this the Christian language in regards to marriage? Why do you find the verb lead problematic? An Ernst question..
61 y/o man 41 years of marriage this was so good I’m learning a lot
Everyman needs to see and listen to this great surman. Thank you pastor Mark.
An honest pastor is better pastor. Thanks for the teachings, i hope this can be shared to all the men for better understanding. It takes two to be married but it takes Christ, man & woman to stay married.. may you continue with teachings as these may God bless you and your family in Jesus name..
No. His wife is his biggest challenge. Projecting to its fullest extent. My wife is my glory.
She has to live with MD. She is a victim or heroine.
What is your recipe for a happy marriage / joyful wife?
@@Raufm3 be honest with one another. Be gentle. Be courageous.
My fiance and I are so grateful for your teachings. I plan on ordering the book for his birthday 😊
I really hope ppl start marrying and having kids at a more "normalized" rate. It's so great. You don't need to be rich to do it, but doing it will make you rich (with untold joy and growth/challenges).
Being overbearing and domineering ISN'T the only way to make your way feel unsafe and insecure in the marriage...the opposite is also true....absent, neglectful , emotionally unavailable will do tge exact same thing.
💯- I’m in this place sadly
MUST WATCH! I loved every minute! I've been married almost 30 years and I thank GOD for showing me that I have a place in my marriage and I was going about it all wrong for so long! God bless you, Pastor Mark!
I still believe in the resurrection power for myself, and my wife. We've been divorced for over four years now, but i still believe!
Blessed to have heard this message. Much needed in today's society. We married men carry so much weight and talks like this allow us to exhale. Thanks Pastor.
Yes those land whale women weight too much.
@@johnmadsen37Hahaha
This popped up and spoke to me so much. I forwarded it to my fiance. Sadly he got really defensive? Said why is there always video’s on men, what about women, they have to submit. I am so trying to see Godly leadership in him, overlook flaws etc, but Spiritual leadership is what I need in a man. I was married 17 years to a “Christian” alcoholic, the drinking and issues with that were bad but the lack of spiritual head of the home is what hurt the most. I would try show him his ways, scripture on being drunk or lukewarm and was rebuffed and told scripture is not black and white.
I feel torn. I love this man. When he is in a good mood he calls me God’s daughter, reads the bible and prays with me. When he gets upset he turns on me, I can’t express needs, and I don’t even see Christian character/fruits, let alone any of the biblical qualities of a husband.
I am scared to marry him. Having to leave one marriage due to alcohol abuse was bad, and I don’t want to end up in a worse situation. He can be very harsh, refuse to hear my heart and flip it back on me. I am often scared to talk. I love him. But I also want to be happy, to feel safe and secure 😢 he makes me feel like I can’t do anything right or it’s all my fault. He has massive pride.
Please pray for wisdom. I don’t need perfection, but the constant mood flips are hard to deal with.
Sugar, that whole"submit" thing is bad news. Can you put off the wedding? I wish you the very best and ask you to listen to your discernment. Listen to that 35 minute segment again.
I say run. Wait on the Lord
Don’t marry him. That’s a lot of red flags
I made that mistake.. Don’t do it. Being unequally yoked does not work even if he displays some signs of a Christian man. If he’s not true believer, run. Wait on Gods timing.
God sent pastor Mark to minister to me during cov 19 and he's still doing it today!Praise God Praise God 🙌
Thanks! You started this like every divorced guy, it's horrible (challenging) being married. Made me question if i wanted to get married. But if you're use to giving more than you get, that's what marriage seems to be about. I do good things, because i can. Not because i sometimes get rewards. God created a servants heart. The devil created an entitled heart. Though what scares me about marriage is that if I give it all and I get nothing in return ever. That's what dating feminists is like. Giving everything and that not being enough.
There are good girls out there, just watch out for narcissistic traits or signs of entitlement, and do test your future wife a looot, then follow your heart, may Jesus guide and bless you brother!
Amazing sermon Pastor Mark! I listen each week because I love your messaging for the men. I know this world is brutal for men and these sermons help me, as a woman, wife & mom to understand the enormous stress and struggle they are dealing with every day in the world. My husband goes to Real Men whenever he’s not business traveling and enjoys it so much. He’s grown, spiritually, in the last 2 years…like I never imagined! Truly beautiful to witness. Our marriage is stronger than ever now, thanks to Pastor Mark, Trinity Church, Real Men and Real Women❤ My favorite line of your sermon was telling the single guys who complain they can’t imagine being married to one woman for life: “Don’t worry, trust me, she’ll change” 🎯 😂
My wife used to tell me, leave your superintendent hat outside!
The real problem is Preachers not preaching the gospel. Issues we see today in our culture are issues of the heart, and the only thing that can change a sinful heart is the power of the gospel of Jesus Christ. To many ministries are trying to sell their books or “Secret Sauce” when dealing with life issues when they should preach the gospel itself and these issues would resolve themselves.
A-MEN
I get tired of women saying "strong independent woman" or especially "strong independent black woman" (I'm a blk married woman by the way) These are single and married women saying this. It's ok to be strong but they act like being married is a sin. Also, these same women I know that are still waiting on a husband ain't ready to submit....They still go out to clubs LOLOL...what they want is a strong independent marriage LOLOLOL I love being married to my husband...He is definitely my blessing from the Lord.
I’m blessed to be married to a strong Warrior! He calls me Queen and I call him my Warrior!
@@catnagle3762 Great... My husband and I are strong. Nothing is wrong with being strong, man or woman. The problem is the so called "I don't need a man or husband to raise my children...ON PURPOSE" having multiple children out of wedlock and a lot of times with multiple men. God created man...then he create for the man a helpmeet...Woman...A wife...
I grew up in the 80s and our dads in the neighborhood worked long hours, only to come home to us crazy kids tearing up their yards as the sun was setting. Other than maybe the summer block party, the dads didn't hang out with the other dads. They were stoic, disciplinary figures. They weren't beacons of happiness, but we didn't expect them to be either.
Great post about your Stoic dad. I grew up in the 60’s. Same thing with my dad.
That "Dominion for Dudes" cowboy boot and logo is awesome! Will that ever be a T-shirt?
Whether people want to diss or second-guess Driscoll, it’s clear he does care a lot about what he’s doing and is serious about what he’s saying.
That alone is helpful and raises the bar, bc it seems like not many men really do
Sure, until you realize how far off he is from teaching us to follow Yahshua. That's to hard for him, Jezebel has him under his heal. I cover all this in "The Watchman and The Warning Ezekiel 33 & 34" He's just another hired hand after the glory. "Few be there that find it." Also worth noting, admitting that your wife has to approve of what you teach is proof he shouldn't be teaching. It will all be exposed soon.
I am one of the wives that watch "Real Men" every week to gain more insight not just for an instance to share with my husband or my brothers but for myself as well. It has definitely boosted my relationship with God as well as my relationship with my husband.
As a woman I approve of this message
Any man who can openly admit to having faults will always have my greatest respect anyday
You have no idea
My husband gave me a new name right after we got engaged..he named me "Joan" and told me that it means "God's gift"...which i didn understand back then.
That is so sweet!!!!
What lmao
As a woman I am so glad I found this prior to marriage.
Wow simply amazing! I've been searching and searching and searching for probably years years and years for this specific message in my life. I was trying to figure out what was wrong with my marriage and the lightbulb the proverbial lightbulb went off of my head after listening to Mark Driscoll! Amen brother keep preaching because I'm going to keep listening! I couldn't figure out what the heck was wrong with my marriage until now this is authentic right on Bible preaching! I'm so thankful for Mark Driscoll and the content that he delivers! Now if I can just pray in the spirit that God will deliver Us from this hellish marriage and get through this time in our lives I will be truly thankful!
Communication, Sarah. Long, sober conversations about where you have been, where you are and where you want to be in the relationship. Good luck.
😮 it happened to me a long time ago..... But don't blame him. These cold ruthless heartless women never loved us.....
One thing that seems to recur in almost every sermon I hear on the issues of families is the absence of addressing young and middle aged widows. Yes unmarried women with children have it hard, but what about the widows ? It’s like the church is blind to these people - it’s not a choice for a widow with children and it’s so disheartening and discouraging to hear continuously about the importance of a father in a child’s life, when they have lost their father.
Woman. UK. Congratulations. I’m 67 & have never had children, had uterine cancer at 43. I only have 1 cat & I wish I had a family! Am enjoying your words, but may have to sleep soon, more tomorrow……
Were you married Jenn?
@@Raufm3 interesting question from someone I don’t know ! But Y once in my early 20s, which lasted about 2 years. Then I got a call to come up to London to work on Demo’s (banks & banks of.glorious harmony). Divorce followed soon after!, Then I married again in the early 80’s which was a silly mistake. Music & the people I played it with have always been my ‘true’ loves.
Thank you for asking. Love & Peace to you x J
@jennbamboo Warm Thanks for your reply Jenn, did you think about getting a dog? I believe it will give you a sense of a child more than a cat.. I wish you happiness and good health 🙏
Praying for restoration in my marriage. Going through a divorce for almost 2 years now. The devil has been attacking marriage heavily
The devil only attacks that are a threat to him. A strong Christian man with a strong Christian woman can conquer and preach, destroying his world . If healing and reconciliation is GOD'S plan for you, it will happen, HIS TIME, HIS WAY. Keep having faith, trusting, and believing. GOD has you in HIS Righteous Right Hand.
I'm here as a woman to learn how to balance my feminine and masculine energies within myself. I'm wanting to be a better bride for Jesus!!!
you should not have masculine energies except coming from your husband.
You don't need a pastor to show you this
Well said! Thank you❤
I’m with @mooneymakes359 on this one…. Deborah’s comment is not in accordance with scripture; rather, it sounds pagan.
I'm with you Deborah. I have a very strong personality, but I love being a partner in marriage. I strongly have my husbands back. We discuss our goals together and I head straight to completion. I try to not challenge my husband, as that is really emasculating. But I don't mind asking for clarification. Men are awesome and think completely different than we do. Don't try to change them, enjoy the differences and learn more about them. Men have been abused since the 70's and we need to nurture them. But they also need to grow up. I think that was a big part of what Pastor Driscoll was talking about. Good luck.
Amen my former wife used God and the devil to mistreat their spouse. Since being truly connected to the Church I focus on finding a truly godly woman who is connected to the Lord.
He is 100% correct, I'm 46 years old and I'm scared to death of dieing alone but that's probably what will happen and i only have myself to blame for that!
Brother, you are still young, have faith in Jesus and a positive attitude and you will attract your future wife in the right time for you!
I’m 34 and not married. It’s kind of hard to meet someone to marry 🤷🏼♂️
38 here, and 20:35 was a bit of a slap in the face. I have barely found any women to date, much less marry.
Evan, in your picture, you are wearing a wife beater and have your tongue hanging out. Try being dependable and gracious, not a party boy. If I'm mistaken, excuse me. But honestly, most women would see your picture and move on. Good luck.
If that was my daughter I would re evaluate my parenting. I wouldn't place blame on the husband.
You have all the answers and know all the tricks for my wife to be your new sister wife. Good luck.
The success of a man can be seen in the countenance of his wife.
Everything he saying is 100 percent tru...but it also paints a bad picture for getting married
It's funny how the Bible teaches the wife to submit to her husband. I guess in you're world this means nothing. Co-leading means she's leading. Do better than bowing down to these feminist.
God's Word is EVERYTHING..His True and Living Word+
I looked up Genesis 3:16 in Bible Gateway in many other versions (the last sentence of the verse): Living Bible, The Message, New American Standard, NIV, New King James, New Living Translation, Revised Standard, **The Voice, English Standard Version, American Standard, Amplified, KING JAMES, Wycliffe, Young Literal Translation and more! If they ALL say the same thing, that's enough for me! It's just the way we were made by our creator! BUT, like I said before, with this authority comes much responsibility! We BETTER get it right!
Hey Mark,
Appreciate the lesson. Though I do have some questions about your interpretation of scripture. I believe I heard you say that, the husband and wife are equal leaders. But, the ultimate responsibility falls on the man. Providing I understood correctly, my response would be, "you can't have both". Whether you intended that to be the interpretation or not, it needs to be said that there is a dangerous implication in much teaching about marriage that men are too incompetent to lead in marriage without their wife's help. Men lead armies, large companies, counsel, build from vision and are the first to die for what they believe in. But, from the church we frequently hear that men can't lead in marriage. Ask a man at church to meet for coffe and he has to check with his wife for permission. The church (in some ways) has softened the man by continuously telling us that we're too incompetent to lead (subliminally). What's displayed in biblical marriage is nothing like what we teach in today's culture. Men do know how to be loving leaders and lead their families into godly success. Wives must trust God and pray for their husbands. Actually, they shouldn't marry a man that they can't follow. So much more to say. But, please consider the things.
Exactly So is the false teaching that domineers the pulpits today
The church doesn’t tell Christ what to do or co lead The Holy Spirit leads
Genesis 3:16. Theres a reason why God says “and he will rule over you”. We can’t leave off that part of scripture. Bc of the fall bc of sin there will be a constant fighting for headship. There is a godly way to rule over your wife and there’s an ungodly way. When talking about marriage no pastor should leave out headship, and submission. The women submits to man as he submits/loves Christ. Ephesians 5:22-30. When this pastor mentions coequal dominion thats a two headed monster. Very scary, and not biblical. Ephesians 5:21 is actually a continuation of 5:1-20. Hence the “further more” (NLT.) Believers are to submit to one another.
I had the same sentiments, you cannot lead if your wife doesn't submit. Otherwise it's a stalemate.
Men you are the leader you will give an account
Don’t abuse it
Women be submissive to him
Women when u try to take control from him he will rule over you
So don’t
Or even better, avoid men altogether
@@joygibbons5482Normally, men of God are super kind, problem is the frequent misunderstandings between masculine and feminine logic in my humble opinion
The head is the head
If something has 2 heads it’s a monster
A king is the leader no co leader
Pastor Mark, please do a sermon on wives who refuse to respect their husbands.
My wife is a wonderful woman- I love her deeply- but she has a hard, independent streak (I think from her father dying when she was a baby, growing up with a single mother).
She agrees “intellectually” with Biblical gender roles, but in practice her heart is far far far from wanting to practice any respect.
I am committed to lead and am not passive. It is a delicate balance to avoid huge arguments, and all I can do is constantly forgive her for sinning against me. And pastor, I am wearing thin.
I’m doing everything I can - I am a good, hard working man who puts God first. I have no desire to dominate anyone (indeed it seems she has the desire to dominate ME). I will absolutely not abdicate. But I don’t know how to handle this - I have no hope of changing her by my efforts- that won’t work.
But nothing is working. Please help
Don't give up my brother. He who is in you is STRONGER than him who is in the world! 🙏🏾
@@missionpossible6796 amen! Thank you brother
Have you ever read the book “The Masculine in Relationship: A Blueprint for Inspiring the Trust, Lust, and Devotion of a Strong Woman” by GS Youngblood. It has a lot of tips and advice on this matter.
This was a good one Pastor Mark!
48:57 ....but what about when its reversed? I would hope that God would say to the wife "Until you treat my son different, you're on your own. I'm not going to help the woman who's hurting my son." Emotional abuse and using physical intimacy as the weapon is hurtful and has given the enemy a virtual playground in my marriage currently :(
Exactly. And while husbands are called to forgive and love endlessly (like Jesus does the church), this kind of toxic femininity will damage the man and the marriage irreparably. And nobody is holding women accountable for their sins.
As always, I appreciate much of what you said here. There is one thing I would like to point out in love. I know it is not popular but what you taught about dominion 31:00 is not biblical (Eph 5: 21-33, 1Co 11:3-12). When we become part of the Church, we become one with Christ. We become one by accepting HIS domination and authority over us. To say that a man is the head of the house but has equal dominion. Is like telling Christ HE is the head of the Church but has no authority / dominion over her. When a man submits to GOD and loves his wife as Christ loves the Church. He has dominion over his household, but he will never abuse that dominion in any way. If he does, he is not loving her as Christ loves the Church. He has final say but also takes full responsibility. That is what a leader / head does. This is the arrangement set by GOD. When it is accepted before and throughout the marriage. All potential power struggles in the house are eliminated.
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Mark is pandering to the culture (or his wife) here
The devil stole my husband.. Honestly.. His mother has Jezebel, he has Ahab, and I have the Elijah spirit… She got her way and tore apart my family..
Dan Mohler explains it very well.
I am a wife watching and I love this. ❤
Mark, I heard truth intermixed with what seemed to be compromise. You spoke about the hierarchy within a marriage, the man being the head like Christ is over the church, but then you seemed to muddle the topic by establishing equality in marital headship. Ephesians 5 does a good job of explaining the roles and responsibilities of men and women in marriage. You were correct in stating that men are responsible for leading their family spiritually and that they are accountable, to a significant extent, for the behaviors of their family….including their wife. But how can God hold men accountable if He doesn’t give them the leadership role from which to be accountable. Yes, men are supposed to love their wives and it is clear that should not be done iron fisted, but just as Adam should have intervened in Satan’s deception of Eve, so should we as husbands, interfere with societal influences that would deceive our wives and our children, and we should do that with authority. I understand that it is not a popular position, but it is Biblical. Don’t get me wrong, I do not deny that wives are very capable of helping their husbands overcome sin that they are struggling with as well, but I don’t believe that it should be done authoritatively. It should be done in a similar way as a soldier would try to correct a commanding officer, delicately.
btw- I think it is important to note, the sins of Adam and Eve in Genesis chapter 3:
Eve - was deceived into thinking that God was holding out on them. She was convinced that there was something missing in her life that could be found in the one thing God denied them.
Adam - chose to follow Eve instead of following God. He desired Eve more than he desired God. It is for that reason that Adam emphasized the fact that he only ate because of the woman “who God gave him”. The inference is, if God had not made Eve then Adam would not have eaten, so then it is God’s fault for making him a helpmate.
So funny... Love you .. and thank you 🎉9 children . Single Mama 7 grandchildren
I was abused
Lol, she's gonna change, you're gonna get a variety 😅
After navigating almost two decades of seeking clarity on this topic in and outside the church, it's the first time i heard this message presented so effectively in a way that makes sense and is consistent with evidence of good examples in the world around us. Thanks pastor Mark!~
After becoming well-acquainted with female nature, I have absolutely no desire to get married. Sex is a carrot on a stick, a taste of the forbidden fruit that brings toil and suffering into your life.
I think this is true for my ex-wife. All the manipulation, then She cheated & split up our family.
Eve was brought to Adam
Man was made for God
Women were made for man
Don’t abuse this
We all come from women
This is a story with a talking snake. You silly gullible man.
I think this is a great sermon. Funny is good and very real!
Godly Christian leadership is never supposed to be abusive or selfish. With that context being said, it's very confusing to tell a man that he is not his wife's ruler. She is called to obey him. You talked about how Christ leads the church. Did Christ not give the church commands? Did Christ not teach the church that if you love him you will keep his Commandments? Did Christ not tell the church that all authority was given unto him? Are we not called to teach each other to observe all things whatsoever he has commanded us? Are you really saying that Christ is not the ruler of the church? That is absolutely silly. A husband's leadership should be selfless, sacrificial, and demonstrated in service, but he is still the leader of his wife. A home where a man is a strong leader and a wife is a sincere follower is a good home.
This is the biggest problem with Egalitarianism.
God gave us the picture of Christ and His bride to illustrate marriage. If you start with a feminist view of marriage, that picture doesn’t work.
We must not equivocate like Mark Driscoll has here.
Men lead the family. Like Jesus leads the church. So you can’t be a jerk to her and insist on your way (because Jesus didn’t).
But a man’s failure (where Jesus never failed) in no way makes that an invalid picture of what we aim for. To lose this is to lose the most important concept God gave us about both Christ and our marriages.
I was on a Christian single's group for 8 years. I met more than 400 divorced Christian people and had high quality conversations with many of them. Many of them went back to the same mistakes they made in previous relationships. Most of the women liked the same 4 or 5 handsome, rich guys, and most of the men like the same 4 or 5 hot women. You have no idea how much I did to get a woman's attention. I went to help a woman to clean her garage and she didn't even offer a sandwich. I helped a woman to move and paid first month of rent for her. She started going out with her former neighbor who was not a Christian and never called me back. There is a TV series which is really sincere in showing how things are. "Two and a Half Man" is the most sincere and shocking description of how things happen among Christians. All elements of Christian relationships in church are there. The good Christian guys don't have a chance and the jerks get all the girls. I saw that many times. How Christian women fall for the jerks? That is a mystery I am trying to solve.
The Christian women aligning with worldly men are nominal Christian women. You don't claim Christ and seek the world.
The challenge I think is that people are often thinking only through ideological bubbles that don't necessarily capture the entirety of reality for every particular circumstance. I have been looking at different pieces of advice given from a variety of sources to piece together a clearer picture. What I noticed with a good number of Christian channels is that they often have a hard time being able to address societal phenomena with precision and accuracy. Don't get me wrong. As a Christian and one who reads the Bible, I understand the importance of always keeping the Bible at the core of our thinking.
However, what a lot of popular Christian channels have a hard time grappling with are specific developments in the modern era that don't have a clear resolution or specific remedies outlined in the Bible. For example, there are people who have adopted social norms so that man should be head of the household and perform the responsibility of providing for the family. That is fine. But, this only describes an ideal and does not address how this can occur when inflation causes costs of living to rise making a man the sole breadwinner a very unlikely scenario in most cases.
There needs to be more discussion on how to reconcile what we understand as the ideal in the Bible and how to get there from what is happening in our modern times. A tendency to simply dismiss the entirety of RedPill ideology without trying to filter the important insightful elements leaves everyone operating from a degree of naivety.
I fully recognize that there is distaste with RedPill ideology for going to extremes in its recommendations and critiques of women and that is understandable. But, there are also societal observations that should not be ignored simply because of its perceived association with that ideology.
Some of the claims that are made include that our legal system, societal norms, and subconscious tendencies favor women. These claims are not out of the blue and can be seen when reflecting on how divorce is handled including division of assets. Social messaging even seemingly benign ones seem to always emphasize that "men are at fault, should be made responsible, or are incompetent". Aside from small pockets of the internet that go against this prevailing trend, are we able to think of any public messaging in our media that suggests "women should show restraint, carefully act with wise judgment, or reflect on wrongful actions towards others"? In almost all modern era messaging we see women in only positive light or an argument for how they should not be accountable even for actions that are a result of poorly considered decisions.
Even though both men and women are susceptible to the sinful nature and both are quite capable of horrendous actions towards their fellow human being, there definitely is a tendency to portray women as angels on a pedestal and men as monsters that need to be controlled, chained, or subdued.
In terms of romance, I think the biggest challenge is that a lot of men are instinctively operating with the mindset of being a provider which is understandable and even Biblical. But, there is a fracture in how women view men that creates a divide. Instead of looking at a good provider as a characteristic or a sign that this is a person to consider as a partner, that provider is looked at as a person they can use but not necessarily respect as a partner to whom they would share intimacy. Now a good number of women look at the adventurous, physically built, or otherwise virile looking man as the person to share intimacy. You basically have to be two different people at the same time in order to have a successful marriage (provider mindset and the adventurous/bold mindset).
You need to be red pilled
Don’t chase women. They’ll chase you.
You were chasing in your examples, cleaning someone’s garage is ridiculous, that’s not how you win a woman, she will have no respect for you.
Chase your vision, your work, God, wisdom. You will be found by the right woman. All men doing these things will be found. Similarly, all women that are wife material are found, they don’t stay single for long.
@@cameronosborne7405 That is exactly what Charlie Harper teaches on "Two and a Half Men". This will depend on the kind of leverage you have. Money and looks can make women like you. If you don't have that you need to use other ways to approach someone.
This video has been removed from Mark Driscolls channel! It still can be found by typing "Your wife is your toughest challenge" in youtube search bar but MANY recent comments are NOT there! ------Huh!!!
I'm one of the women who enjoy pastor Mark's sermons. I have been married for 33 years and we go to church but my husband wont read his bible and so he doesn't know scripture. When i try to teach him about something biblical he gets defensive and doesn't want to hear it. He thinks I'm being critical but I'm trying to help him learn. I would like to have a biblical marriage but how can i let him lead when hes not being a biblical husband. Im thankful he supports our family and gives his time to the church or to help someone but this marriage has been a real struggle.
Every marriage is so! A tipp from a brother; some men are stubborn or get triggered by advices, just stop advising him, lead by example, and most important thing make an effort to change your perception about him, let God do his work and let go! Praise him more often, show him that you care, I swear he will change to be the husband you dream of!
This sermon ought to be a prerequisite to a marriage license. Understanding what marriage is, what it’s supposed to look like, and the inevitable challenges/power struggles that await would probably lower the divorce rate by 75%!
The only thing that will lower the divorce rate is women choosing not to divorce for frivolous reasons. It is that simple. I know why you like this sermon and Mark. He MO is telling you women that nothing is your fault and everything is your husband’s fault.
@@electric5hadow yep, he's a typical hired hand, bowing to Jezebel to avoid the onslaught or slander.
@@electric5hadowI feel like your comment shows tunnel vision on the topic. You can't see the forest for the trees. Look, Pastor Mark is a MAN, preaching a sermon on the MAN'S role in a godly marriage. If the topic was a WOMAN'S role in a godly marriage then the message would've been geared more towards that. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.
Oh yes, 100%. To demonstrate exactly what asshole dude I DONT want to be with lmfao
Watching to stay focused on being the kind of woman I need to be in order to be a blessing to a good man.