After Wife's Suicide, Dad Is On A Mission To Help Women With Postpartum Disorders | TODAY Originals
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- Опубликовано: 9 июл 2024
- TODAY’s Craig Melvin spotlights Pittsburgh dad Steven D’Achille, who lost his wife to suicide after her struggle with postpartum psychosis. He is now keeping her legacy alive (with his 6-year-old daughter, Adriana) by opening a treatment center specifically to help women with mental health challenges during and after pregnancy.
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Childbirth is too romanticized in the media I think. It can create unrealistic expectations that set one up for inability to deal with complications. Just one factor in the situation.
This is so true! I had an anything but normal birth from going 18 days overdue, to them calling me the morning of my scheduled delivery to come have my baby. I never dilated past a 1 even after having my water broken, and pitocin pumping., 2 epidurals since 1 failed, and his heart rate dropped in the 50's twice, and they wouldn't tell me he was in danger, just had me contorting into odd positions till the beeping stopped. All this for my "beautiful delivery" to end up in a semi emergency c-section. After which I went into major shock and couldn't even hold my baby till after midnight when I finally woke up. I had him at 7:39 PM. I have zero pictures of my son being born because of all the chaos upto my c-section, and them whisking my husband away to get suited up. I'll never forget what an absolutely horrible experience such a beautiful thing should have been, and was ALWAYS hyped up to be this amazingly wonderful experience for us women.
Of all the crazy oddball health scenarios you study in nursing school, childbirth is absolutely one of the most intense and profound, and potentially one of the most complicated.
Yea. All these baby mama on isnta doing gender reveals and every other wana be celeb getting rpegnat by SOME trash rapper.
Never thought of it that way. You’re so right.
@human being people do that with lots of things including college.lol. Society is the problem not parenting. We are not prepared for our jobs and if we are the adjustment is hard at first but then get used to it unfortunately people are not prepared therefore they do not adjust. People do not know everything about childbirth, raising children, parenting yet you have so many opinions.
We need more men like this in this world. God bless him and his daughter.
Adriana Espinosa there is ... they are just not as revealed as much.
RaRa Rodrigo Absolutely!!!
@M C Not really.
M C I’m not hating on men that’s just my opinion
M C that’s why I said opinion 🤦♀️
This ladies is how it looks when a man TRULY loves you. He honored her legacy even beyond his own grief 💕
Exactly
4LADYSWEET 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Absolutely 🙌🏾 God abundantly bless this wonderful man🙏🏾
A man that truly loves you won't knock you up !
SUGAR XYLER ! Oh please! Grow up!
Just FYI: some women WANT to have children, so we aren't all forced to get pregnant
I wonder how he explained his wife’s situation with his daughter. The fact that she kisses her photos like she knew her mother her whole life made me cry. What an amazing father
@IyamSoRayaheard her mother’s heartbeat
The first psychiatrist’s office called back 2 and a half months after her funeral. Wow that’s terrible
Imagine Susan Smith who was Diagnosed with Post Partum Depression after killing her boys and all the Woman who have gone through this and paying for it... My heart breaks for them because I too had Post Partum Depression as well
Katie Woodruff I know i cant accept that. This physchatrist couldve saved her life. Its so wrong, and such bad luck. 😡😭
Yes that is so awful!!!
Couldn’t even imagine how he felt answering that phone call. Just awful all around.
Psychiatrist, Social Work field are over worked and underpaid. Not enough mental health workers. Awareness in mental health needs more growing. maybe one they Social Workers will be valuable just perhaps as much as accounting is.
I suffered PPD after giving birth to my son. Saddest part is that no one was there for me. I had to do it alone cried every single night. Now my son is three and I’m working and going to school. Trying to make it in life for him.
You will surely make it. And he will be so proud of you
I proud of you. It’s hard, but you made it through.
You’re a strong women. Dealing with this alone is so hard. I have ppd and I’m seeking help. Good luck 👍🏽 💛
Hi Kimmy I heard some women go through PPD. Do doctor's tell you why you get PPD. I never went though this. I want to understand how can women be sad after giving birth. Wishing you all the best!!!! May God bless you 🙏 😇 and give you the light you need!!!! Wishing you all the best!!!!
Its super tough but i graduated from college with ppd. You can do it! I am rooting for u and praying for your success!
We do need more men like him. Many people don’t understand how much a mother sacrifices mentally and physically after birth.
In my culture new moms spend the first 40 days at their Mom's place surrounded by family .. They have to be well-fed stay warm and get the help they need caring for the baby. Many relatives visit during that time and keep them company.. I wish we women would start caring for eachother during this time nobody understand this better than us. Great initiative as well.
Yas Yas i’m arabic too and we do have this habit my sisters was suffering too , for a while and so happy that we were all there to help and be supporting
In Punjabi culture too, same thing, the entire extended family is involved with care of the babies and mother for 40 days and beyond
I loved learning this about your culture! How nice that sounds!
same thing in my culture. parents take care of the mother and the baby. from bathing the baby to feeding the mother. i think women now days are lonely and all fall on them :(
In Hindu this is a thing too
I'm so happy he talks so much about his wife to their daughter, I think that's so important and she'll appreciate when shes older.
Wow God bless u, making a change n helping other woman that's wonderful, n u do it with soooo much love thnx u for helping us woman, we need more of u
She might grow up hating her mom for doing something to her that's she would never do to her own daughter.
Your pfp is disturbing
@@regaeontop6021
that's a disgusting thing to say
Depression is no joke, a lot of people battle with it, and no one chooses to develop it, that's why i am pro choice bc women can develop depression after giving birth
I also love the open and continuous dialogue he has with his daughter.
Lerato sangweni +
I know! She clearly knows about the postpartum psychosis but I wonder if she knows about the suicide. Either way he’s raising her to be proud of her mother and have an enlightened view of her illness.
@@jodiebug1 I'm sure as she gets older everything will come together and their daughter will study and become a doctor who specializes in helping women .
That’s why when men who want kids, say I sacrifice so much for my wife. Listen, you will never ever be able to repay a woman for childbirth ever. Men don’t have to risk death to have kids.
@Naomi Brown yeah many are like that my mom would often say that we cant afford sending u ppl to uni , that she sacrificed her body everything to give birth to us and had to deal with my dad during,taking care of us alone without any help etc etc then i asked her wht she would do if we sucide and shes like i would be soooo happy and give gifts to ppl lmao i asked why ppl get kifs if they cant afford and she said relatives pressuried her , ppl like that are ruining generations bruh
Exactly.
Foreal…thank you sis …thank you for this comment. He always asks me why am I so angry?? Hmm I wonder why 💭
What about the African chick with 40+ kids? xD Doesn't seem that hard for her lol. or that Israeli woman with 20+ kids
@@rudy1999 news flash, everyone is different. 💩🌈
When my grandmother lost a child in 1976, she was told to get back on the field and stop slacking off. She would dig, harvest, carry heavy baskets, just to get home in the evening and clean and cook for the next day and then get up bright and early to hand wash clothes. This is last century Europe. She never got a word of encouragement or a time to rest and grieve. Thankfully she never harmed herself because she was raised with a mentality that things just had to be that way. If it was me, I don't think I would have had the courage.
I know this was slightly off topic, it just makes me sad that women's struggles are so often overlooked. My grandma is a warrior.
Thank you Steven.
Women had to be soooooo strong back then. That was not right. N still till this day, it seems like we still have to deal with that. Us women may be strong, but we still need the world to care. Our family to care.
This story is so tragic...bless this man for starting this center.
I had PPD and no one took me serious. It was the hardest 10 months of my life. I’m lucky I’m alive honestly.
Im glad you are love
We're you married? We're you healthy was the baby healthy?
and i am dealing with PPD its 11 months now
@@pinkpostergirl who cares? You're asking this like you are trying to somehow shame a person who went through PPD even if they're healthy and well.
I felt the same way and I was too ashamed to talk about it
Now I'm crying at work.. and I'm not even a mom! Much respect to this man!
Vanessa Rae i know right haha
i'm not a mom either, not planning to have one in next 5 years but this is soo beautiful
I wish i had a partner who cared about my PPD. Mine left my side once my PPD started . I just pray everyday I can remain strong for mu daughter. If any of you all could just pray for me. I would really appreciate it
Iriona Glass Praying for you beautiful ❤️
We’re praying for you
R u feeling better?
Sweetheart how are you now?
@@madhatterloveswhiskey2445 yes feeling way better Thankyou so much ❤️
This man, husband and father is incredible. More men need this compassion and understanding for woman.....wow!
Seriously
I feel the same way.
I think so too!
Naomi Brown that’s not what
My comment meant and it is truly one beautiful story for sure ...amazing and inspiring for many
i totally agree
What a wonderful man you are. Best of luck to you. You are the best.
Depression help needs to change in this country... I can't believe there isn't enough resources on women's health like this! I once had to be on a 3 month waiting list to see a Therapist for me depression and felt like dying. So messed up. I even rushed myself to a hospital and told them I wanted to harm myself. But all they said was "well the crisis people already have too many people, and you haven't tried anything and these people have attempted it so we're gonna focus on them." 🖕🏻 every case should be treated important!
OMG! I am so sorry! Glad you stayed. 💕🙋
I swear I see you everywhere. I know it's been 2 years since you commented, but I hope things are going well for you.
Stories like these make me terrified to have children.. God bless him, and his daughter.
True but sometimes I'm scared to die alone too , imagine dying alone in your apartment with no one to check whether your alive or not
@@moonstarrstar5687 Having children is not a guarantee that you won't end up alone. I've seen some elders who were abandoned by their children.
Research hypnobirthing, not all births are horrendous. I had an amazing & natural birth.
Don't be terrified, not all us go through this unfortunate event. But if you do, seek help.
If you put your trust into God then don't be afraid. As it's written in Bible "perfect love overcomes fear". My brother was born dead and doctors told us to prepare funeral but we prayed over him and Jesus brought him back in life, doctors were shocked. I suffered from depression for 5 years but when i gave my life to Jesus it completely disappeared and hasn't returned now for 4 years or bit more. Don't worry, just trust God with all your heart because He loves you and will be there for you and all who call on Him. God bless
Bless this man. I am a mental health professional myself and suffered from PPD after the birth of my second child. I had never had suicidal thoughts in my entire life, even during bouts of depression. But during my struggle with PPD I couldn’t escape the suicidal thoughts. It’s scary when you start writing goodbye letters to your two tiny babies. It’s real. It’s scary. It’s chemical. And traumatic births can be a factor, which I experienced during that delivery. Moms, PPD does go away. But please find someone who can talk you through those dark times so you don’t feel so utterly alone. I love you all.
TARA 907. I JUST WANTED TO LET U KNOW HOW TOUCHED I WAS AFTER READING YOUR COMMENT. I STILL HAVE TEARS STREAMING DOWN MY FACE LOL. THANK U FOR PUTTING A SMILE ON MY FACE😉 FRIENDLY HUGS FROM CANADA🇨🇦 🤗🦋⚘
Tara 907 I also experienced a traumatic birth with my second child and I became really depressed. I don’t like to look back on photos during those times still to this day.
A beautiful man, father, husband, such a beautiful daughter.Its so sad 😭 his wife Alexis passed away. You should be so proud of yourself😘😊💖
wow subhan Allah , it is real and it is not talked much about . my sister in law had a big depression too after the birth of her twins ,it lasted months and months. It does go away !
Bless you , big cyber hugs from England
When she kissed the photo of her mommy in the hospital 😭
I know....that part! 😭😔
😭💔
I cried on that part. 😥
Mimi McGillicuddy I broke ❤️ beautiful story. Even thou it’s so tragic
That’s when I lost it too! 😪
THIS IS BEAUTIFUL! HE is BEAUTIFUL!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
When I had ppd my husband literally quit his job till I was mentally sane again and I love him so much ❤️❤️
Edit: he got me a therapist because the anti depressants just made it worst. He would force me to go out on every sunny day with him and the kids even for just a walk in the park. One thing I did enjoy was video games hed let me play mindless video games a couple hours a day kinda like a self care and he would take care of the kids. He would continue to constantly tell me he loves me and I'm beautiful. He didnt even trust me alone in the shower with my razors so he would hop right in with me and just having his constant support eventually I started to believe his words and slowly started to feel better and it helped too when the twins started sleeping longer at night and would sleep 7 hours straight at night and with mama getting more sleep mama was happier
You got a good one! :)
Your husband is amazing. I'm glad that you had a support system to get through it :)
That people is the definition of TRUE love!!!!
True love wears condoms !
@@SUGAR_XYLER we were trying for one baby and ended up with twins. You wanna complain you can come take it up with my uterus releasing 2 eggs in one month
I want to talk to the people that disliked this video?
They might of thought he killed her.
Maybe they thought it was just too sad
pSmall360 Why? I don’t waste my energy acknowledging people like that
I'm Listening 🤔
No need to talk to them. People don't realise everyone reacts to stress differently
Back in the day older female relatives moved in to ensure the new mom was ok. Hormones and lack of sleep cause a lot of havoc.
loliwe moyo I would of loved that 5 months ago when I had my daughter
Catty Lynn I agree, although I don’t encourage anyone to be naive, I do wish I didn’t have to get my concealed carry permit just to go to the movies or the grocery store. Just pure chaos!
Catty Lynn I absolutely agree. Well said.
loliwe moyo so true which is sad meaning how low have we gotten in life that no one is there for you beyond all the excitement and baby shower
@Catty Lynn I couldn't trust a lot of people with my baby though, or kids. There's so many pedophiles and creeps and you hear a great deal of stories of a family friend, a cousin or uncle. It's too risky. The only one I trust is my mother and my grandmother. Maybe we should be more friendly, but strangers aren't coming around my kids without my supervision.
I love how instead of cocooning her daughter he is making her strong by telling the right things... the girl is a mature one and she has gotten an amazing father.....lots of love and strength to both
This hit me so hard. I'm sitting here crying, holding my 2 month-old son, thinking about how she never got to revel the beauty of her baby's life. The fact that so many women have to endure this kind of pain and mental illness is beyond heartbreaking. I'm grateful that he turned such a tragedy into so many blessings...
I wish I had a man like this😭
When I had our first child I had post partum depression. No one listened to me. I spent days alone crying until I managed to pull myself out of it.
you are so strong ❤️
Anahi Xo Days...? You had what they call the “baby blues,” not PPD. Like yours did, baby blues typically only last several days to two weeks at the most. PPD can last for up to a year (sometimes even longer) after giving birth. Mine didn’t go away until my baby was five months old.
Ashley R - Who are you to diagnose what she was going through? Then, pathetically, you compared your situation to hers to try and come up on top? .. or come off as "more miserable" than she.
You're ridiculous and it's people like you that exasperate others when they are trying to deal with *their own* stuff!
How about shutting up and letting people speak their own heartache out without some self absorbed bitty chiming in.
Ashley R days can mean weeks, months, or years to some. think before you decide to speak on things that don’t concern you :) it’s easy! now, don’t go around trying to diagnose others. have a good day!
Personal Information Umm, take a chill pill, seriously. I was not trying to “diagnose” her, I was simply pointing out the facts about PPD and the difference between just the “baby blues” and actual PPD. In no way, shape or form was I trying to “come up on top” (which doesn’t even make any sense) or “come off as ‘more miserable’ than she.” It’s actually “her,” not “she.” I’m just quoting you. Also, I’M bitty⁉️ Talk about the pot calling the kettle black! 😂 How about you maybe, hmmm, I don’t know, THINK before you post a comment? You got it all wrong and took everything I said waaay out of context. And while you’re at it, consider installing the app called “Grammarly Keyboard.” I think you could really benefit from using it. 😉👍
Having a kid is dangerous...people forget that.
Mercurial Pierrot right. Nobody talks about the mental affect.
And not just mentally. So many things can happen where you die during childbirth and women do it for complete losers everyday. Thankfully this woman had her child with a good man. Can you imagine?
yet billions of ppl have it everyday wow...its dangerous in 3rd world countries but to call the act of giving life dangerous is a lil unnerving and a lil false. its a seriouse choice def
@@christinestephens191 Stop acting like woman have babies for men, they should have babies for themselves and the child. Any woman that seriosly is having a baby for a man is stupid. Can't value a child's life on who their father is.
He said Dangerous, now that is funny.
he is a real man! god bless him and his daughter
Naomi Brown that’s exactly what i meant x
What is a real man? Or a real woman?
“Most importantly Adriana’s father” 😭😭
His wife was beautiful...and so is he for what he is doing ♥️
Lots of couples break up during this stage of baby's life too we need to shed more light on this. Sorry for your loss.
Why? Wouldn't the lack of support make it worse?!
Sue V because they unintentionally push their partners away
@@brebitzer2066 What do you mean by unintentionally? Are guys usually that selfish that even after a new addition to the family gets there, they would still want ALL the attention just like a child would want for their moms after their new baby brother or sister comes along?! If that is the case, he's too immature to be in any type of relationship!
Try to think of yr baby before anyone commit suicide...
I had this with my second child and my husband left. Doing much better 8 years later. No one was there for me, it was my kids that gave me reason to live and fight through PPD and get well.
I cried while watching this.
Her photo in the center is hauntingly beautiful. So personal. Like she’s guiding the suffering to help.
I love the way he talks about his wife to his daughter. He is helping so many people . God bless all his works.
"My wife really really believed with every fibre of her being that her first act of motherhood was harming her child", this made me understand my PPD and birth trauma so much more than I've realised
It'sGeraldine I hope you are seeking the help you need. It is perfectly ok to not be ok, but you will get better with time and the right tools ❤️
❤🙏.
THIS!!!!!!! I had a traumatic birth and PPD and then my permanent “treated” mental health illnesses (bipolar and ADHD), I didn’t even seem to think about the traumatic birth and NICU !!! I couldn’t get it out of my head though I kept replaying it in my head over and over again and just now thinking about it I wanna cry I spent most of the first year in tears not anger but extremely sad, worried, guilt, intrusive thoughts like “what it my baby falls” “ what if he quits breathing” and so forth, scared to get help the first 4 months but the suicidal thoughts scared me so I got help still receiving help 2 years later I still feel like this from time to time but I know I’m doing good because my child is happy
@@aqua1210 I'm praying for you!🙏
Postpartum disorder is no joke. Thank you so much ❤️💯❤️
yes true but sadly people take it as a joke in the society
neither is post abortion depression
I wish more people were educated and aware of it! I actually had NO idea this was a thing (because of the way I saw on media childbirth being romanticised) until I've watched documentaries on women who do suicide or murder their children because no one takes their Postpartum depression seriously
That is because society pushes marriage and children. I never fell for that trick. Been with my boyfriend for 17 years. No marriage, no kids, *NO PROBLEMS*
@@fulldem6888 Or post miscarriage depression
The fact that people don’t have medical leave for pregnancy is so upsetting and then you put this into it and that is so sad
We have mat leave in canada its much much needed
He is a real man, the world needs more men like him. He is a hero to all mother's ❤ it broke my heart when their daughter kissed her mother's picture Rip mom. All mother's deserves to know their not alone.
When we had our daughter in 1982, services like this weren’t even dreamed about. Myself and others were basically told “get up and get over it, you’ve got a healthy baby stop being the baby” This is a godsend to women everywhere because only another woman can understand the feelings. May God always bless Alexis, Steven and Adrianna.
They still say that, "get up and get over it ,God blessed u with beautiful baby and the baby needs u" .It's your job as a mother to take care of your baby and stop behaving like a baby , pull up your big girl pants God will help u.God will help u only when u help yourself first .
@@snehadhanawade8226 this would make people feel worse. How horrible of you to say.
@@jazzycat2990 I am saying stuff which other people told me ,u didn't read my comment completely and that's why u took stuff out of context. U misunderstood me .
@@jazzycat2990 what did she way wrong I'm confused
Sneha Dhanawade Should have used quotation marks.
“They didn’t believe my mommy” I cried! I saw this guy on Where my Moms at with Christina P. He is so inspirational and I pray for him and his daughter ..
Mimi M what episode was it?
Speaking from someone who also lost their momma to suicide this broke my heart . We need more dads like you out there !🖤
Hey same. It’s nice to have some people to relate to if you ever want to talk.
So Very Sorry For Your Loss ❤🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
I remember right after I had my daughter I couldn’t get her to breastfeed I felt like a failure. I was crying while walking in the room trying to get her to stop crying I felt so alone the nurse just happened to walk by she stopped came in and said it was ok asked me if I needed a break the nursery would take her for a hour. I was reluctant but she said your a new mom it’s ok if it doesn’t happen right away we are here to help so I agreed. I never did get the hang of breastfeeding but they said I wasn’t a failure if I gave her formula. They helped me that day and I was sooo grateful❤️
Dolores Chavarria I felt the same way after giving birth to my son. You are strong.
This is amazing. Too many of us suffer in silence
Hope you are okay now.
Get help, pls
I suffered for an entire year and felt so alone. This is heart breaking 😭
Hope you're okay now ❤❤❤
I've since gotten help, thank you!
Kate Wells I’m glad you are ok.
How does this feel? If you don't mind me asking? So good to hear ur okay now 💛
It feels so traumatizing. Nothing much changed and the place where I live in doesn't have much medical help as such, and even I m not in a position to afford if found any..so trying myself to deal with myself but still on and off, sometimes I feel disconnected.. what brings me light is just the smile of my pure innocent baby which reminds me to fight frm depression, which is hard to deal .. but I decided to fight for myself
I just had my daughter almost 3 months ago and before being pregnant i suffered from panic disorder and anxiety and I was afraid to have a baby and get postpartum disorder. It was very hard the first weeks of my babys life but somehow ive pulled through. Having a baby changes a woman so much
I suffered from severe PPD after the births of both my children. THANK YOU for raising awareness and showcasing something that is making a difference. ❤️
I suffered with postpartum after my son was born 29 years ago. Thank God it lasted a week, but it was debilitating. I was also lucky that I didn’t experience it with my daughter 3 years later. God bless this man!!
Maria Lewis not my family. My mom barely raised five kids and I am the youngest. So when I had kids she did not want to be bothered w helping. I suffered w PPD after I had my children and had to move away from home bc husband was in military. Also, would come home to get help w babies and my mother always threw it up in face. One of the many reasons I no longer talk to her today! She was such an uneducated selfish woman who was such a trouble maker.
@@katierojas8066 I can imagine the frustration you had to live with your mother... My mother is exactly the same way. Impossible to live with, only wants things her way, won't listen to reason, only thinks about herself and has done horrible things to me and my dad. You're not the only one ❤️
Sounds like you both have narcissistic mothers
Sorry to break it to you, but what you had was baby blues not depression. Every mom has baby blues but some develop depression unfortunately.
I remember having some depression after giving birth, I was so ashamed.
Me too and nobody cared. Not even my husband... came out of it through homeopathic medicine... and meditation..
Tamira Bennett Volk both of you are so strong ❤️
I am sorry you felt ashamed when you shouldn’t had to
Me too NO ONE understands, unless they went thru it ... I was told I’m just a weak woman by my husbands family
Same here. I remember crying on the bathroom floor when my son was like 5 days old and nobody cared
I can’t stop crying...thank you for what you’ve done with your pain; so many prayers for you and your sweet daughter!
What an amazing father and husband. May his lovely wife Rest In Peace. 🙏🏼
I want to give him the biggest hug this is a man who deserves a WORLD of JOY ❤️
I had severe PPD after the birth of my daughter, and it was so traumatic I can feel it as if it was yesterday.
She is 32 years old.
God bless this man for the work he is doing.
Really?! Wow.. that's too long! I am 35 so I'm am not much older than her! I'm happy you were able to move past it but I will NEVER understand PPD! You just gave birth to a beautiful baby! Not all women are able to do what you just did, ...and yet you feel depressed and hopeless?! You should have been overjoyed/over the moon!
Sue V You would think so, wouldn’t you?
I can only say that PPD is a monster that creeps up on you out of nowhere, and fighting it can be a lonely battle. Some don’t survive it, but with research there is hope.
Phyllis Clarke what is ppd?
Luna Styles post partum depression
Phyllis Clarke Yah but what is that
I can’t imagine what she went through, and what he must have been feeling. It’s awesome that he was able to turn such a painful event into something that can help others. ❤️
PPD is probably one of the saddest things I've felt. I was a teen mom and lived with my baby daddy. Every time I would be left alone with her for more than maybe 30 minutes, I would cry about how I brought such a pure human being to this terrible world, and that I would love to leave it but I would cry more knowing that I couldn't leave it because then who would take care of my baby, and then she would grow up not knowing her mom. I felt so useless as a wife, a mother, and just a human in general. I would always make up excuses for my mom to come to my house to visit me or anyone just so I wouldn't be home alone until my husband got home. And if he was late even 5 minutes, I would start bawling again. It was the probably one of the worst times 🤦🏻♀️
I suffered from PPD after having my son on top of just coming home from the Iraq Invasion prior to being pregnant and my husband being newly deployed to Iraq. I was so alone and all I did was cry. More hospitals should support moms like this.
So very sorry, Meghan, for what you went through and feeling alone during that time must have been extremely difficult~Sending many prayers🙏and lots of gentle hugs to you, tonight💖:) In great appreciation of your and Husband's BRAVEST SERVICE for ALL of us here in America🇺🇸❣...
Holly Fisher thank you Holly! If it wasn’t for the support of my family and friends I would have been in a much deeper place. I really appreciate your kind words. Love and hugs 🤗
Thanks and love to you, Meghan.
Such important work and very much needed. I suffered with post natal depression for 18 months after the birth of my first child. It was mentally excruciating. Please don’t suffer in silence. What a legacy. ⭐️
Whenever his daughter kissed the picture of her mom I said awe & busted out in tears 🥺😭
& for all the broken daughters no matter how old you are MOST DEFINITELY NEEDS fathers like her father he deserves the WORLD!
🥺😭💯❤️
"There's no money in medicine for this!" Meaning there's no way to profit off of these women suffering...😡 I hate how medicine has just turned into pill pushing corporations!💊💲💊
On a more positive note there is going to be a special place in Heaven for this man!
causing more problems than solving them
When he said "mommy's center" I cried...awww man. This guy is amazing
The fact that the little girl was born with the umbilical cord wrapped around her neck, and then the way that she playfully wrapped her braids around her neck was so eerily poignant to me.
Oh! You're right!!
Maybe it was a comfort for her
I saw that, too, but I think that she was just playing with her hair because she felt a bit nervous talking on camera.
It wasn't intentional.
Truly a profound moment, wasn't it? Thank you for sharing such a beautiful and important point of view for others! Life is so very precious and amazing. Our minds certainly think alike. ❤
Such a beautiful outcome from a tragedy. I love how he included their daughter. Such a touching story.
How can you get a center like this everywhere? It's definitely needed.
So sad. I just moved to Pittsburgh for a public health job. This guy is amazing 😢
@Psalm 139 agreed. Plenty of opportunities in tech too.
I had my little girl 19 months ago and I still suffer with post natal depression. I am on meds but it is the most debilitating thing ever. I had a traumatic pregnancy and delivery which also made me develop OCD. Some days it feels tough. It can be very isolating. People are very quick to judge. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. Intrusive thoughts, not feeling good enough the list goes on. Everywhere in the world should have facilities like this. Your little girl is very lucky to have a great father like you.
Jimi MaGee don't give up. ❤️
Jimi MaGee ❤️ I’m sorry you have to deal with this
do u know how pathetic you sound ?
I hope you get better ❤️❤️
pebbles987 please stop
After I gave birth to my son, I ended up hating him, my husband, and myself. I put him in his crib and just let him scream while I sat in another room, bawling my eyes out because I felt alone, and frankly felt like I was loosing control and loosing my mind all at the same time. I thought about suicide more than once, but I never told anyone. I needed help, and I didn’t have any. I think a men should be allowed a maternity leave period as well. I needed my husband home with me, but he was back at work 3 days after we had our son.
Sadly, America, & it's profit-driven healthcare, is not the safest place for mental illness sufferers. Paternity leave is granted in those countries that actually care and that, usually, have a socialized healthcare system within the nation. As Americans we're supposed to pull ourselves up by our own bootstraps. How wrong we are to expect such a thing in times of need, imo! We all need human support...throughout our lives.
Jo Jo very well said. I completely agree.
I feel so sorry for that mother. She thought that the umbilical cord was her fault but it wasn’t. I really feel that’s what contributed to a lot of her depression. His daughter loves her mom and the husband still loved her. What a great man and what a great child!
Both my parents were code blue. They survived, and Idk both my grandmas just got out and went out of the hospital
I started crying when she kissed the picture of her mommy 😭😭💔💔
Amazing man!! We need more men like this. God bless you!
A girl that lives in my city gave birth maybe last week or so, after some time she hated that kid and couldn't even hold him, the next morning that girl hung her self in her own house alone she was only 20 yo, we need more centers to help women with mental health. this incident happened in ALGERIA
How tragic…poor girl and her poor son. Sometimes things get out of hand. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone
I went thru it and barely survived. Thank you Steven, you wonderful precious man.
Oh my heart. The BEST people go through the worst things, but he has really turned tragedy to triumph. Great job, Dad!
I am a survivor. Every effort made is an effort made. Congratulations for helping the world when most just suffer in silence. God bless you and your daughter.
Having a baby is emotionally draining. Sometimes the stress and sleep deprivation is too much to handle that women end up killing the baby instead of themselves. Either way is so devastating. That is why it is so important to get help asap if you feel like killing yourself or the baby.
I wholeheartedly agree
In the 1970s after delivering my second son, I went thru post partum psychosis and depression. My husband took me to the ER several times where I cried and begged to be admitted because I feared I was going to hurt myself or my new baby. They didn’t believe me or take it seriously and kept sending me back home! By the grace of God I got thru it with medication and a supportive family ! I’m so glad the medical profession is finally paying attention and becoming proactive!
Gweneth Rogers I had those fears but therapy and meds helped. I knew I would hurt myself before I ever laid a finger on my baby. So I would remind myself of that if I had a scary thought about my baby. I’m so happy that it over.
This is beautiful. What a wonderful legacy to continue on in your wife's memory.
Such a sad story but the outcome is wonderful. What a wonderful man to go this far to do this for other women. God bless him and his family.
Where was god when his wife was suffering?
@@eveharris30 I don't know. Where is God when anyone is suffering?
He is a Real Man. He has done something out of his loss. His love for his wife was so deep.
In India....a new mother is always having elders around her. Keeping her in good mood and guiding her. This is a good way to tackle any ppt and insecurities a new mother faces.
IMO, this is why this problem is so bad here. In America, mothers are expected to be able to handle it all alone. And we feel like failures when we can't
I have PSTD and suffered with PPD after I had all 4 of my children It was so bad every time that my doc said no more children.....I also choose not to have anymore children due to the PPD....I thank God for this man helping other women who suffer.....Sorry to his lost.....It is a scary time after you have a baby. Some woman just can't get passed the PPD. I had great support after all my children and I had God to help me get through that hard time. He is the only reason I am alive today.......God Bless this man and his beautiful daughter.
Same! I’d never give a man another child for as long as I live.
This is beautiful ❤️ to turn something so personal in something so selfless and helpful is really inspiring! Good job dad!! 💕
Postpartum depression is real! The closest i ever came to ending my life after having my twins.
Take this seriously! Your wife or gf is going through ALOT❤️
Mental health awareness has improved over the years but there’s still a long way to go and progress is slow especially in the area of postpartum depression
What an amazing way to channel his grief and honor his daughter's loss.
The UK already has a system like this in place where they come check on the mother after childbirth, ask her how shes feeling, etc.,I'm glad to see the US is finally upgrading to 2019
I'm from the US and when I had my son in 2015 I had a nurse come to my home to check on me and my son the first few weeks so we do a system like that even back then I guess just not everywhere out here
So what you got out of this amazing story is “The UK is better than the U.S.”?
Lonelyheartsclub I didn’t get that impression from their comment at all. Someone’s projecting.
Thank you. That's why it's called a comment section not a synopsis section.
Yup, they do
I suffered terribly after my son's birth. I used to cry for hours and hours through out the day... If you are reading this and you are a new parent or anyone suffering from depression in general... please hang in there, help will come.. you are loved, you are important. wishing everyone so much love and health.
When his daughter kissed her mom’s picture, that was it for me. There’s currently a river of tears in my room.
As a mother that has had and still has ppd, we definitely need more programs like this. When my three year old was 3 months I had a failed suicide attempt, I was there for two weeks, they let me go and that was it, when my 2 year old was 4 months i tried again, and again they didn't do much besides let me out and be on my way. I now have a eight month old with no more attempts but I had to fight tooth and nail to find people that took me seriously and wanted to help and now I'm finally doing alright on medications and vigorous counseling. This man is doing great things
WOW, I'm so sorry I had my daughter, and after 2 weeks I sat on the couch holding my daughter, and cried after about 30 minutes, I was over and done, with my son it was a week after he was born post partum, was a bit longer with him but never thought of taking my own life, I believe the Dr. should talk to the woman before birth about postpartum depression, mine never did. Before the women leave the hospital, they should have a schedule appointment with a counselor, how sad to die because you had a baby.
What a inspiring man, sorry that you lost your wife. Your daughter is beautiful just like her mommy.
I had postpartum back in the day-- it was so taboo, and shameful AND nobody believed me. This man is an angel disguise- wonderful story..
I’m pregnant with my first a little boy due in November there’s a reason I’m watching this. I live near Philadelphia and I’m so glad to have watched this I already struggle with some mental illness I lost my brother a year ago suddenly and have suffered from depression and anxiety my entire life. I have been worried about my baby and my mental health the entire pregnancy. This makes me feel so much better some relief knowing there is help out there if we need it. Thank you so much
You'll be fine ...
I'm not saying it as a guarantee.. but as something to give you hope❤❤
I’m due this November and lost my sister to suicide. I too have these concerns and worries! I hope you have loved motherhood and that your okay.
amazing. amazing man. amazing story. amazing. thinking of you and hoping many women find peace!
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT!🙌🏽
I’m tearing up, it so beautiful how he talks about his late wife to their child. He puts a beautiful spin on such a tragedy.
Movies have set false expectations for childbirth. They paint it as pretty, when in reality, many times, it is anything but that.
lyn. Agreed! They set false expectations for a lot of things. But this you’re absolutely right
I know I never heard about this until like 1 year ago
He so handsome beautiful daddy and daughter
What a wonderful man!!!! Wish their was more compassionate men like him!!! He's definitely a great Blessing!!!! Best of EVERYTHING to him and his adorable daughter!!!!❤❤
What an amazing man.. I struggled through post pardon depression after the birth of my son, and there was nothing like this to help myself. It’s very hard for others to see a disease that’s not visible to the naked eye. God bless this man and everything he’s doing to help all the mommas out there but not only the moms the whole family, because it is the whole family that suffers along. ❤️❤️❤️
He is a true fighter, and so is his beautiful daughter! ❤️❤️