McKinli Hatch's Story
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- Опубликовано: 11 ноя 2024
- 1 in 4 woman and 1 in 7 men have been victims of physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
I hope that Mckinli’s story of abuse can empower victims to leave, speak up and take action against their abusers.
If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic Violence call 800-799-7233 or text Start to 88788. You are not alone. Help is available and you deserve better.
Utah needs harsher DV laws. We have like the most lax laws in the country. We need to call our senators and push to get better laws.
the mormans allow too much
Because religion has too much place in government in Utah, and Christianity is steeped in misogyny.
That one friend that told her something was off.. 😢❤ Thank her! She deserves the world
Thank you for including men in this. My partner was abused by his girlfriend for a decade. Physical and emotional abuse as well as severe manipulation. That never gets talked about much at all. No one ever deserves to be treated that way. ❤
Maybe let's not bring gender into it at all. Because abuse has no gender. Most victims still are women tho, so we don't need to center men in this. Let's center victims
She is lucky to be alive! I wish her the best; and she stays safe.
Thanks for sharing your story McKinli. I’m also a DV survivor here and a single parent. Your story is very traumatic and im glad to hear your okay. I hope you find the treatment to heal and to be safe. I will say and agree about the protective service, its just a piece of paper and i feel the law doesn’t do much about “protecting you”. And your ex bf is definitely a narcissist and controlling. Much love for you mama for getting out of the relationship, no women should ever be in that position. We are worth more ❤️
well said. so much love.
When I heard that he had a knife, my heart dropped. We’ve all heard how unfortunately so many of the times these stories end worse. Mckinli I hope you are able to heal through this and never stop being your true self. Thank you for sharing your story ❤❤❤❤❤❤
This podcast gave me actual chills. I’m so glad she is okay!!
You are an amazing interviewer and person. I pray she stays away and can focus on healing. I pray he is held accountable.
This was hard to listen to so I can’t imagine actually going through this. Mckinli you’re so brave for speaking out and just know how much this will help others. I pray that POS gets what he deserves.
I appreciate this discussion. She was very honest and forthcoming with her journey and I feel this will open eyes for many women. Thank you.
Yet her other interview is different. 🧐
Before interviewing a DV victim/survivor, proper training is required for a role that carries such gravity for both the survivor being questioned, but also the many victims who will watch this. Several instances of secondary victimization occurred during this interview. 💔
I sent her questions before podcast, and she was okay with me asking. I think a lot of people who don’t understand DV, there first question is “ how could you let yourself get into that relationship” and that’s why the question was asked so she could open up to why and how it happens❤ she was extremely vulnerable and honest. Very proud of her for speaking on uncomfortable questions.
That was a very powerful story. McKinli you’re so strong and brave for telling your story. I know your story has already helped people in DV relationships. I pray that everyday you heal. ❤
Thank you for sharing your entire story. You have helped me realized from my DV a year ago almost exactly of him getting charges and a whole year that passed by in that relationship… that I have PTSD. From the DV, I now have permanent brain damage and one of the blows to my headed caused me to have a Multiple Sclerosis relapse. They found a brain lesion on the left lobe where he hit me, only a few weeks before. I was there for symptoms of tremors, slurred speech, and trouble walking. I know I’ll never be able to prove that is what caused the MS. But it’s so obvious, and that pain has stuck with me and the anger. I’m already getting help with therapy. But you really just made it click for me for some reason. And when it clicked I realized, I am strong. I can get through this. I will get through this. And I’m going to pick myself up bc unfortunately no one else will and I’m going to finally after a year and (he took a plea deal) try to stop being in the dumps and live my life. I know I’m strong but your story just reminded me who I am.
I don’t know you, but I just wanted to let you know I’m sorry you experienced what you did and am sending you all the good vibes as you continue your healing journey. You are strong. You are beautiful. You deserve the best.
You are so brave! And kind, and sweet! I hope you get the best outcome out of this awful situation. He deserves a long time to sit and think and rememeber what he’s done.
Almost my story to a T. These men are professionals at what they do. I hope she’s really learned from this ❤️
I think someone needs to look into the death of his friend a few years back that “fell off his balcony” and died. Very strange
Oh my gosh!! Well hell yeah they need to check that out now omg
What was the name of this friend?
Thank you for sharing. You are very strong. He needs to be behind bars for eternity.
Commend her courage and strength. This type of situation is hard enough without it all being posted before she was ready to share. Now she is taking back her control and sharing on her terms. Sending love and prayers.❤
For this person, it goes all the way back to 10+ years ago. As soon as it was possible/he turned 18 to be legally charged he was charged. I went to school with him, I'll leave it at that. When she says his family has money, unfortunately this is the case and his parents will bail him out as they have always done. He won't change. I am so sad she had to deal with this abuse. No one deserves this.
You don’t think she is making $$$ by this?
@@Sueelaine She’s raising awareness for Domestic Abuse. Why is money even on your mind?
Thank you so much for sharing this story. You are so brave McKinli, this is going to help so many people to hear this story. You are so strong to do this. ❤
Holy shit!!! That is terrifying. She is living a nightmare.
McKinli ask your Attorney or Advocate if you can break your lease as a Victim of a Violent Crime. Your Landlord should be understanding 🙏🏻💐💖
She was 19 and he was in his 30's #Predator My first marriage i was 22 and he was 32 and talk about mental abuse, manipulation, controlling, Narcissistic etc.. That man had me so beat down that i felt like i was nothing. My attorney told me it was the worst divorce he'd EVER seen. I left that marriage with NOTHING an i was fine with it. I just wanted to get away from him. I moved to a completely different state because he had a hit put on my life and had a 3.2 million dollars life insurance policy on me during the divorce.
She wasn't 19- she had already been married for 10 years and divorced for like...3. She couldn't have been 19 with this ex that she is talking about for the majority of this podcast. That math wouldn't make sense, she was likely about 30 or so.
You need a gun girl. Start carrying. It’s easy to get a CCW in Utah. Very gun friendly state
Gun friendly state that does bare minimum to protect domestic violence survivors
Oh my goodness really? And wonder why there are so many drastic massive shootings in the USA.
I’m not sure about Utah but in New York there is advocates for domestic abuse. You may be able to break your lease or speak to your landlord about breaking it. I would hope they would be understanding of your situation and your safety. Please move as soon as possible and turn him in as soon as/if he contacts you again. Your story is so similar to my second marriage and it was the most terrifying experience, and it wasn’t nearly as bad. I’m so sorry you have had to go through this. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤
Why can’t the name be publicly shared during the video? Articles are out there, records are public, just curious. Absolutely terrifying story. Played sports growing up against him in middle school/HS and just speechless.
Probably legal reasons.
@@jaclynm7122 probably. I don’t agree with it. But probably.
What a beautiful and beautiful person! I am so sorry you were put through this, but you’re right - this happened for a reason, and the reason is awareness. How fast these situations can happen and the nuances are hard to know unless you’re in it. Sending you all the best!! 💖
Beauty comes from ashes! The beauty is now you’re able to help other women!
Beautiful Mckinli my heart just broke when you said you feel he will only get a few months 💔 praying for justice for you 🙏🏻💐💖
Thank you so much for doing this, this helps 🙏
That poor woman. I don’t think it’s fair to ask a victim of DV or any kind of assault “why do you think you let yourself get into that relationship” or “why did she let that happen to her”. I could see her breathing hard immediately after that question 🥺
Like…you don’t know what that kind of trauma does to your brain. It’s such a shock you literally can’t think straight. Especially to have it happen at 18 and then immediately have a THIRTY SOMETHING YEAR OLD MAN take advantage of her vulnerability. She was a freaking CHILD and these older (sick, imo) men took advantage of her. It doesn’t sound like the second husband abused her physically but marrying someone that much younger who is in a vulnerable situation (which he knew damn well about) is pretty freaking manipulative and sociopathic. Which imo is also abusive. So let’s not ask how she “let” this happen to her. These men did this to her. DV, rape, abuse is never the victim’s fault. Her abusers are the ones who did this. People like this and her now ex boyfriend intentionally seek out women who are in situations like hers because they think it will be easier to perpetrate their control and abuse. And they’re really good at hiding who they really are.
She had the strength and courage to get out of it and now share her story with the hope of healing others. And she’s doing it all while this is still clearly difficult and traumatizing for her to talk about.
So girl, if you’re reading this please put this in the deepest part of your heart. You did NOT deserve this. Do not feel ashamed that this happened to you. Make damn sure you keep the blame where it belongs. With the motherfuckers that did this to you.
I pray for your peace and healing.
I sent her questions before podcast, and she was okay with me asking. I think a lot of people who don’t understand DV, there first question is “ how could you let yourself get into that relationship” and that’s why the question was asked so she could open up to why and how it happens❤ she was extremely vulnerable and honest. Very proud of her for speaking on uncomfortable questions.
@@Theeweeklytrash oh no I saw why you were doing it, and where you went with it. I should’ve pointed out that I wasn’t speaking specifically to or criticizing your interview style. I meant as a society we need to stop asking victims this question, because you’re 100% right. This is a very common thing they’re asked first. I apologize for not being clearer.
Right? And it doesn’t matter if she agreed to the questions, to even suggest to her these are the questions you will ask shows a DEEP ignorance of DV.
Just found this channel through TikTok! Subscribed!
You can see how she was still being manipulated by him. The fact she was still answering her calls to him right up until he broke into her house. The mental hold will take a long time to unravel
I have a feeling that there will be a documentary about this soon. Very interesting but sad story .. glad she’s okay
Getting the one story hopefully.
This girl is extremely resilient. She’s a badass
❤❤ thank you for sharing.
Idk why u don’t just go no contact with Ryan…
You can tell she's so deep still in it. She still has a hard time wrapping her mind around that he was going to hurt her for NO reason. None of this is for any reason besides he's evil.
Stay Strong Mama bear…. Your soulmate is around the corner. 😊 ❤& ☮️
Oh ffs.....she could stand to be alone for a long while and not have a man in her life.
Mickinli- if you’re reading this…this man won’t get much time. The longer he stays, the madder at you he becomes! You and your children aren’t safe! He knows where you live. You MUST break your least, and leave asap. Because you’re in the public eye….that makes you even more unsafe. The next time you agree to talk to him, you could die. He could come when your kids are there, and they could die!!!! My ex is still chasing me 20 years later. This will never stop! He will never just forget and give up. You have to take your life and the lives of your children to a safe place. No matter what! I don’t care if you have the money or not…you can literally die from this. He could go after your children to get back at you. None of you are safe!
I wonder if he manipulates his family the way he manipulated you… I hope that’s the case. If my future child was ever the abuser I’d call the police. I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if my future child hurt or killed someone…
Is this Ryan?
From Experience, they absolutely do. Their families are the biggest enablers.
@@Sachaairyes it is
There is so many discrepancies between this interview and the one she did with Savannah Chrisley(latest).
Example: She allowed him into her home last time and yet on Savannah’s interview she said she hid in the basement.
Apparently listening is not your strong suit.
Really hard to listen to the host ask her why she “allowed” herself to get into the abusive relationship. she obviously knows nothing about DV or the cycle of abuse… something that I would think she’d educate herself a little, knowing she was interviewing an abuse survivor.
I sent her questions before podcast, and she was okay with me asking. I think a lot of people who don’t understand DV, there first question is “ how could you let yourself get into that relationship” and that’s why the question was asked so she could open up to why and how it happens❤ she was extremely vulnerable and honest. Very proud of her for speaking on uncomfortable questions.
Well she has been in a few abusive relationships, time to stop being naive
Wow. I TRULY hope you NEVER have to endure what she went through! These people are experts and have practiced how to get their victims to fall in love, feel sorry for them and forgive them. Should she get counseling to make sure she gets over this and learns the signs early on to protect herself...yes! But that's not her being naive. How about blame HIM for being abusive and not her for being naive!! Your statement is part of the reason this will continue sadly.
@@lisamaddox7860someone above said they're an ex of this guy and she said she warned Mkinli and she was blocked for it. And she seen the warning signs, but ignored it. There also has to be some responsibility on her too or it'll never change for herself. Figuring out why she ignores these huge red flags and other women who tell her this man is no good will stop it for her. At least for her kids sake, her little son is in a video saying he wants to save his money so he can get his mom security so no one hurts her again. Like at what point do you stop moving on to the next man without figuring out why she does this. She's already dating other guys, like where's the healing especially where her little one wants to hire security. I was in a highly emotionally abusive relationship, it's been almost 4 yrs, I still haven't dated bc I'm still fixing myself & focusing on my child so I'm not picking the same narcissistic abusive guy.
Um.....It's a question that needs to be answered so more women can see patterns and learn to avoid them. PLUS she agreed to "tell her story" so asking how she got this far with this type of man is a legit question. Stop being so holy telling the interviewer to "educate" herself YOU educate yourself.
That’s the thing with any abuse…it has to filed in person no matter where you live. It makes things way harder for the victim! It’s like it’s accommodation for the abuser!!!
The amount of ads that interrupted this video are crazy.
Listen as podcast, there are no ads.
McKinli please move immediately to a new place
A really good movie about domestic violence is The Burning Bed. It's heartbreaking and its a true story. It's about Francine Hughes. The movie came out in 1984.
FYI everyone. If you're ever afraid to talk when calling 911, you can text 911!!! Stay safe everyone and God bless you all ❤
I’m not understanding how the police can get three separate 911 calls to one house and not bust down the door at that point...?
I have a question what does texting start or calling the Domistic Volience do? Like what happens
It’s a hotline to call if you need help, and they can assist you.
Some of those DV numbers to call for help are a joke and police are a joke in DV situations as well. It’s a lonely road and sometimes it feels like you’ll never get out.
She also needs to dig deep and figure out why she has devalued herself and allows this in her romantic life seeing this is not the first time.
It is not her fault…she’s obviously a kind hearted woman, who leads her life based off of her emotions. Sometimes when you love someone it’s hard to believe someone can be so evil. She clearly stated she wanted to see the good in him. It’s not like the first date he was abusing her. Love is blinding. I think it’s sickening we should feel the need to dig deep on the people we love. This world is disgusting.
@@sarahusband9174 Totally agree w u..seeing how this was the 2nd abusive relationship, sure hope she puts her & her kiddos first 🩵 thank you for leaving a comment. Always interesting to listen to the feedback.
@@sarahusband9174oh stop it, she’s naive end story.
@@denswa91 lmao love can make you naive hence why i said love is blinding. 😂😭
@@denswa91 and stop taking away from the fact that she’s a victim and a survivor. you’re weird.
Thought u said there would be no ads…..Im like 5 min in and hit 2 ads already
No ads if you listen as podcast. RUclips controls ads.
Wait so both exes were abusive ? I had one and I could never!
this sounds like my ex and his family! 😒
I hear you on all this…. I have no faith in the law. Yes, a restraining order is a nice piece of paper…. But it seems that the law doesn’t care until something really bad happens physically
Taylor Frankie Paul got off easy on her dv case.
May want to remove the part about you guys being neighbors.. This guy sounds completely unstable and may choose to get back at the person who’s helping McKinli share her story..
I’m sure it not a neighbour!
EMDR might be a better idea over ketamine
Good luck to you
I’m glad she’s alright but the more I learn about this girl it just seems like she goes from one guy and then to another immediately after a break up.
And the fact she married someone who was literally in her first wedding… the patterns here are crazy
And I believe this is more about social media influence. So many discrepancies from one podcast to another. I would think she would watch what she said from one to another.
Sure seems like it. She is now posting with some tool and back at the perfect life on IG. She is the perpetual victim.