Im a blue belt. I had a tournament record of 1win and 2 losses. I got down on myself because i had a losing record. But then a light bulb when off. And i realized that it was better to be 1 and 2, then to be 0 wins and 0 losses. I stopped putting so much into winning and losing and just became glad for the experience.
I've made the same experience with pc games. When I don't go into the action in order not to die, I would still die because players went behind our lines, too, but I make no kills that way. When I go into the action though, yes, I die a whole lot but I also kill a whole lot, resulting in a much better impact on my overall kill/death ratio. In both cases, you don't have much to lose, but you'll only win by taking that risk.
I went a year without getting a tap in class when I started. I walked into a small gym, a busy night would be 10 people. We lived in a small town so that is to be expected. I was not athletic and most of the students had been there for a long time. I was on the verge of quitting because I felt like I was learning nothing. One day some new students walked in and I rolled with two of them. It was then that I realized I had learned much more than I thought. In most cases a more experienced fighter is not going to let you tap them. It can be hard to gauge what you have taken away from hours of sessions at a lower rank and athleticism. I am so glad and lucky those new students walked in when they did. Never give up out of frustration. Just realize you are always learning as long as you put forth the effort. You may not get taps, you may walk out everyday thinking what did I do wrong. As long as you are committed and do your best to stay positive, that question of "What did I do wrong?" is the proof that you are trying your best and one day it will pay off.
Exactly where I’m at now. Been at BJJ for about 6 months, and every session I tap, almost never get anyone else to tap, feeling behind like I’m not learning much, but I just keep showing up because to quit would be the ultimate tap.
One point to consider as well. Even when you're getting smashed in the school with higher belts, even as a white belt with six months on, you know so much more than the average non trained population.
Quitting is underrated. Not that I would ever quit jiu jitsu myself, but I've quit all sorts of things in my life... some of which I've spent hundreds or even thousands of hours doing. Jiu jitsu isn't what everyone needs in their life.
Man... 44 year old white belt 1 stripe 8 months in.. I feel like quitting all the time! What keeps me going is a few things. The community is amazing. And I refuse to be another statistic. Thanks for this video!
What helped me is concentrating on self-progress, technical execution and strategy planning. This all takes time and multiple repetitions. As we say "a thousand more times, and you will get it".
Just keep training! I started when I was 44 and trained 4 times a week for ten years. At 54, I received my Black Belt from Ralph Gracie!! Never give up!
2 year white belt here. 0-16 tournament match record. Honestly, I am just not a super competitive person and I like to do tournaments for the experience and getting to be around people that share a love of BJJ. Keep having fun with it! Sure, it is frustrating but it is really all about your personal approach and preferences. Maybe you're not destined to be a strong competitor and that's okay! Not everyone in BJJ will be. Maybe you will continue to compete because you enjoy it, and you'll be a killer at purple or something.
It’s awesome to hear you give your perspective. Having you in the trenches with us and constantly learning and improving with us is a huge advantage of our gym and overall environment. Lucky to train at the best gym around with one of the best BJJ practitioners and people. Thanks buddy.
One of the frustrations that I have is that I know I'm improving, but so is everyone else around me. I think that this masks the gains that I'm making. I'm better, faster and stronger, but so is everyone in my gym. It can make it feel like I'm stuck in place. However, when a new guy shows up or when I visit other gyms on my work travels, I can see my improvement. Really it is the relationships and encouragement of the higher belts that help me through those mentally tough days. Jiu Jitsu is so much fun for me that, it'd be a shame to wreck it by feeling frustrated I'm not progressing as quickly as I'd like. So I'm grateful to the guys in my gym for that.
Tracewell you know what bud you should be the weakest link in your chain. if you were beating the people at your gym all the time then how would you become better? its like a black smith with his sword. he heats it up and beats it repeatedly with his hammer and the cools it off in the water. your teamates are making you all the more stronger trust me bro.
To anyone reading this comment, I'm a 2 month white belt with no prior Martial Arts at age 32, everything is new and awkward for me. I just bumped up my training to 3x a week. It's 1 on 1 for 2 of those days and a 3rd guy comes in on the other. I recently got complimented on my improvements by the 3rd guy, maybe that's what you need some time is a guy who isn't there all the time and can say, hey you have really improved in this particular area. Even though I felt as though my defense had gotten tighter it is still nice to have someone pat you on the back and affirm it isn't all in your head. It's a real boost! But then again I don't care too much because I have been putting in a lot of effort, purchased books by some of the greats and actually reading them, trying to accelerate my progress with what I have available lol.
after 3 classes of getting "khabib smeshed" in my class, last day a new dude walked into our gym. now i train in Russia where white belts spar with everyone from the first day.i got to roll with him at the end of the class and i submitted him twice in 3 minutes via RNC. literally the ONLY submission ive learned in the past 3 classes except for triangle which i can't do against a resisting opponent yet. made me so proud of myself i forgot about all the pain i went through in every class getting ass whooped by tough dagistanis and chechens xD
I've been doing martial arts for years (from 12 yrs old to 45 now) and have black belts yadda yadda... Just recently started bjj and I'm a white belt (of course) this shit ain't easy, but martial arts is what you put into it,physically, mentally spiritually. If you only focus on the physical, then you are missing out on building your mind and spirit. Approach it like the old school masters used to.
One of my favorite video of yours, so relevant to most things in life. I love hearing about the masters' struggles: everyone is human, everyone doubts everyone is or was tempted to quit, it's very important to show everyone has weaknesses. Keep it up!
I'm glad this showed up in my recommendations. I've been training for a little over 5 years, 3 stripe blue belt, and this year with starting a new job my training went from 4-5X a week to 1-2X a week. It's been tough to watch people that I once could run through or give a tough time to pass me up. I haven't had thoughts about quitting as much loosing motivation to get to class. The new job also makes it so i have to train at 6:30 am which can be rough some mornings. Enough venting. Thanks for the video.
@Wytchfinde mate I am 50 / 50 aboit quitting it's so fkn hard and I don't get enough guidance just smashed in rolls But I think I can have the fortitude to at least show up and step on to the mats. Fuck it. Thanks brother for your comment it really helped me decide what to do. hopefully If I keep showing up things will turn for me
Thanks for the pep-talk. Though not related to BJJ, I've been frustrated to the point of feeling ill from stress about not getting into the IT industry. Hearing your story will help me put things into perspective. I appreciate that.
What is fascinating to me is that many people who reach a high level of proficiency in any discipline, not just BJJ, are not necessarily the most gifted or "naturals". Now, I'm not talking about the apex predator, top of the heap people who eventually become pro fighters since you need to be genetically and physically gifted as well as having a passion for it. But in many areas, a good deal of people who seem to reach an expert level are those that just hung in there. It's not just working through the lows either. These people genuinely love each and every moment of their passions even if they are not the best in the class. They just show up everyday with a smile on their face. Even the most mundane things are fun or rewarding to them. A passionate runner who runs the same field in circles day after day and love it. What makes them tick? And the opposite is also true. Some of the gifted people drop out because they come flying out of the starting gates, have a fast learning curve, then peak, then get bored or frustrated and quit. You have to enjoy whatever you are doing in order to keep doing it. The million dollar question is how some people just never get bored doing the same thing?
When I wrestled I lost almost every match my first two years then as a junior I did a bit better but nowhere near a champion and as a senior I won the conference championship at 145 lbs and qualified for the state championship and was ranked 12 in the state in the 3a North Carolina high school athletic association state championship!!! Never give up I never did and I prospered because of it!! You will take your lumps and loses on your way to the top just believe in yourself and keep grinding!!
3:20 I know you were probably just running out of air, but the tone that "why is he getting better?" came out as resonated with me emotionally. True in the feels on the mats stuff
I'll use a quote I heard. "Nothing worth doing is easy". And that has always stuck with me because it is the most truthful statement I have ever heard.
Awesome video. Your content is getting better as it doesn't only encompass bjj content but "life" issues. And BJJ is like a microcosm of life. In regards to this video, I am inspired by your journey, man. Being content with the journey... not being overwhelmed with comparison is something that is essential to growth.
This is the truth. Video is spot on!I just got my blue belt last month. Thursday night I had a stellar class. I was hitting everything right. Rolled with a state champion college wrestler and he shot for the single, I sprawled and took his back. Then I rolled with a four stripe brown belt and while I didn't submit him (I did sweep and briefly mount him), he also didn't submit me. Fast forward to today where I got tapped by a white belt! Lol its like a sine wave. Up and down. Can't stop, won't stop!!
I love your videos Chewy. I’ve been watching them since before my first competition as a white belt and they’ve given me valuable advice about BJJ and life as well. I hope I’m able to meet you at a comp one day. Keep doing what you’re doing!
Vote your best line of the video Is everybody dying? Or Sailing ships...ships with a sail Great video, this will also be a great one for the next blooper edition
Thank you Chewie i needed this video. I'm a whitebelt on the verge of bluebelt in a gym that's notoriously hard to get promoted in rank. There's been a few students fast tracked for their athleticism and wrestling talents. Sometimes I feel disheartened that I'll be a whitebelt forever. But this video put everything into perspective to me. It's not about the destination it's about the journey. Oss!
Or, if you listened to what he actually said, he said it's about being present and appreciating every moment because the Jiu Jitsu experience is NOT a journey because as he said, a journey implies a destination and there is no end point in self development and skill acquisition. It's the focusing on the end point and comparing yourself to others which brings frustration, makes you tense and that tension, physical and mental takes you away from being in the moment, from"immediacy", from "what's happening now".
I appreciate your videos brother, I have watched quite a few in the last 2 days. I feel like shit for not training consistently, I have probably lost my game, lost my stripes, but most importantly I lost my best friends.
"..you'd be so just..wishing you could have another rough day on the mats" fuck yea thank you brother. as an overwhelmed white belt, this is the perspective I needed.
6 months in and I tore my meniscus! I can't wait to get back. Honestly, I love how difficult it is! That is my motivation, if it were easy I'd probably be bored already. Great video!
DONT FOCUS ON OTHERS.. FIGHT AGAINST YOUR SELF....WE ALL LEARN BY LOOSING AND MAKING MISTAKES...YOU WILL EXPIRIENCE PROBLEMS ALL YOUR LIFE.. AND ITS OKAY COS WHIT OUT THESE PROBLEMS AND DISOLVING THESE PROBLEMS.. THERE WILL BE NO SATISFACTION. 🙏🙏🙏
Man, almost threw my white belt out the window on my drive home today because I had a bad last two days. In my head I thought after just over a year I should be better. All the purple belts keep telling me I am doing really good and when I said something today they all laughed. I get it now. Thanks, I needed to hear this.
i'm at the point of quitting. i'm a skinny dude ( 1,75m, 70 kg ). 2 years of BJJ and still a 3 stripe white belt, inconsistent training because life gets in the way (change jobs, change rent, injury sometimes). Never acted as a douche, never bragged when i tap someone, when i get tapped i blame no other then myself for not working hard enough. I roll when anyone, any colored belt, any weight : every roll is a learning opportunity. I tap, i ask questions and i try to retain and apply to my best. All i want is to learn. But now it's different. I get wrecked, i get no constructive criticism or advice just mockeries. I feel like i don't progress. My coach not only favors the competiting students and the ones paying privates but also called me a pussy during a roll with him and help colored belts beat me during rolls ! Now i even get DM from other team mates calling me girl names. wtf? So in your opinion, should i quit? is that a process some black belts went through? Is that part of the learning process? Personally i don't believe toughening the caracter makes up for better technique but what do i know, right? In such case, should i still stick to that gym?
Thanks for this video #chewjitsu ... I'm a bjj blue belt and it crossed my mind when it gets tough to quit but I have kept going. I have lost all my tournaments... but have grown from this experience. From Mr Waratah from Australia
You're my therapist... I just started about a month ago and I am 56. A ton of excuses come in my head. Jitsu is physically tough but just as tough mentally.
So true my friend, 9 years doing Judo and my body is so broken (I have 38 years old) but I never going to quit, for example now all black belts on my dojo respect me :D and it only cost me 4 broken toes, 2 bulge disks, a couple broke fingers, several concussions, etc. But I am so happy :D Big Hugs from L.A.! (sorry for my bad English I am still learning it)
at first when I saw my first video off your channel dude I must admit I was not a fan of your type (wrestler and aggressive) but I have gotten better at bjj and for some reason I always come back to your videos there's is just a hand full of people who I pay attention to and dude I must say now that you have got a lot of truth and you speak from that which I respect a ton hardwork now my biggest fear is quitting and I prey 🤞that I will have the the honor to stick to bjj till I die, I am a 35 year old 3 stripe white belt and im proud of it and I hope I can always digest out of my system that quitting bug
In it for self defense. Maybe once in a great while I might compete, but that will be an exception. I am worried more about being able to survive from my back now. It is what I am worst at and I will make it a strength.
This video is a very good commentary on how you need to prioritize things, there is no tracked Path documenting rolls or tournaments it is just improvements, if you win a white belt tournament what did you really accomplish In the future it’s going to mean nothing.
Hey Chewy, I really enjoy your videos, even though I am not a Jiu Jitsuka (yet). I feel like a lot of the advice you give can often be applied to other Martial arts, or even just every day stuff. I'm thinking getting of started doing Jiu Jitsu, and after finding your and a few other channels, I've been getting the vibe that BJJ practitioners in general tend to be really passionate about what they are doing. So now I pretty much can't wait to get started. However, I do have some concerns. One of the main reasons I've gotten into martial arts are for the health benefits. And while BJJ in short term may be a great workout, I'm worried that long term it might be really bad for the joints. Looking at a few different forums, It wasn't hard to find an uncomfortable amount of people with all sorts of long term injuries. Of course, I don't know much about how, and with who they've been trainning, if they are stubborn when it comes to tapping and such. But still, it's concerning. Another concern is the chokes. Should I expect to end up unconscious once a week? Every other month? Twice a year? how often do people get choked unconscious? I would love to hear about some thoughts, and experiences with these things. - Keep up the good work.
It's a long answer served for another video. But in short. 1. You will experience injuries. But you'll get injured doing weight lifting, running, being alive, etc. No way around it. Our bodies break down. 2. You won't go unconscious unless you don't tap. Most people never go out.
The way to get better as fast as possible? Train. The way to get over a hump? Train. The way to get past a frustrating situation? Train. STOP JUDGING YOURSELF ON HOW OTHERS ARE DOING.
Dont Quit! Embrace every loss as a learning opportunity, and then your "losses", will actually become moments of growth. The most important part of BJJ, SHOW UP. Whatever you do, dont stop showing up.
Awesome video man. When sailboats turn to catch the wind it's called tacking and gybing depending on whether they're heading into the wind or running with the wind.
If student A is not performing well, then this is on the coach. The coach should know the reason(s) why and he should, as a good coach, be taking student A aside to work on his deficiencies, and improve - teach him to win!
It’s like setting goals vs setting intentions. At the end of a goal you become lost and the high of achieving the goal vanishes but each day you set an intention and if you hit it that’s great if not you set a new intention the next day. Live your life intentionally
The unique thing about jiu-jitsu so that is is evolving. It's evolving faster than I'm evolving. Blue belts are getting better, purple belts are getting better all the time. The standard for black belt is crazy now a days. The art is actually evolving faster than I am as a practitioner. Realistically I think I can train for the rest of my life and not get to black belt. I'm inventive and have some talent for jiu-jitsu but I don't have the natural athletic ability and I'm a slow learner (still don't have a decent guard pass after 2 years) but I don't let that get to me. I think once you stop caring about chasing belts and just enjoy it for the fun of the game, it frees you to do so much more. But this is just my perspective as someone who doesn't really have a competitive nature.
I've been doing jiu jitsu for 4 months now. Never did any other sports. I go into class once or twice a week. And I get beat up. But I love it. Because I know the more I go the more I learn
Osu I'm a bb (brown)... I recently got back into jiu-jitsu training again after a four month layoff... I'm in my fifties and I at times feel my timing is off... I remember my go-to moves and my escapes but man it's very hard now. When I begin rolling I get frustrated with myself constantly... Not so much of my endurance because after a four month layoff it's expected... It's the fact that know I rolled better than this and now I feel it's a huge challenge for me now... I say I'm getting old for the sport and I should just except getting tapped out by younger/ranks or just plain getting hammered. But I know in my heart I could really get back into shape and roll better but it's too hard now and I'm getting impatient. Even though I know I shouldn't. All I could think about is how long will it take for this fifty something year old man to get back into the grind again... Is this normal. I need to know. Phillip from NJ
I quit my gym 2 days ago. The one thing that most instructors fail to realize is that their training methodology is shitty. Instead of teaching in such a way that develops athletes, they create a system where strong or fast people develop their game and some people don't make progress. No progress at all. I'm not worried about bjj being easy, I'm done with shitty teaching methods where instructors use athletic students to justify their teaching ways. Also, I'm sick of the journey crap, either my training is productive or it's not. If I'm not making progress I can tell.
If nine people quit in frustration for every student that stays, that should tell the school that how they teach is the problem, not the students dedication. It's built into the bjj culture this tough it out, sink or swim mentality.
Just chill and enjoy the value of the games. I had a young kids lots of matches.....until one day he stopped losing. Then he was exceptionally hard to beat. You learn more from your losses! :-)
I doubt anyone cares but this seems like an appropriate video for me to share. I’m like 16 so I don’t have much wisdom tbh. But I wrestled my 5th and 6th grades and I liked the sport but it wasn’t what I wanted at the time, and I came back to it in 9th grade and absolutely loved it. I got destroyed every time being a beginner again but I absolutely loved the sport. I started doing football to help stay in shape, I wrestled over the summer with some friends who had a dad who coached and owned a mat. But when it came to sophomore year, we had merged with another school and I basically had no friends who were still doing it. So I tried a couple of practices and just couldn’t stand getting whooped by everyone and it felt worse cause I just didn’t know anyone. So I quit and I hated myself for a year, just cause I dropped the only sport I really enjoyed and had any potential in. But recently I found jiu jitsu and honestly I think I like it even more than I liked wrestling. I don’t plan on quitting and it was hard to do something like this being this young but I’m happy to be doing it.
@@mystery18993 I came from a wrestling background and preferred standing or being on top like 90% of the time but now, while I still have that, I’m also much more comfortable on the ground to the point where they’re practically even. I like my half guard and lockdown game. Love armbars and leglocks since my gym allows them. I’ve only competed once since I didn’t want to compete during track season, but I’m gonna start competing again here soon. And at my gym I usually win against most white belts within a 50 pound gap. And I probably get a good sub on a blue in maybe 1 in 4 rolls. Being smaller than everyone kinda forced me to be technical. So sometimes I’ll just get simply overpowered and overwhelmed, but I usually find at least something good every now and then
"Why are there so many ambulances?" -guy who trains all the time how to strangle people
Thats what I thought , and oh look an Empty Gym, where are the bodies...
Probably located next to a fire department
Im a blue belt. I had a tournament record of 1win and 2 losses. I got down on myself because i had a losing record. But then a light bulb when off. And i realized that it was better to be 1 and 2, then to be 0 wins and 0 losses. I stopped putting so much into winning and losing and just became glad for the experience.
I've made the same experience with pc games. When I don't go into the action in order not to die, I would still die because players went behind our lines, too, but I make no kills that way. When I go into the action though, yes, I die a whole lot but I also kill a whole lot, resulting in a much better impact on my overall kill/death ratio.
In both cases, you don't have much to lose, but you'll only win by taking that risk.
Push through man. It’s all in ur head
Perspective is powerful stuff man.
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I went a year without getting a tap in class when I started. I walked into a small gym, a busy night would be 10 people. We lived in a small town so that is to be expected. I was not athletic and most of the students had been there for a long time. I was on the verge of quitting because I felt like I was learning nothing. One day some new students walked in and I rolled with two of them. It was then that I realized I had learned much more than I thought. In most cases a more experienced fighter is not going to let you tap them. It can be hard to gauge what you have taken away from hours of sessions at a lower rank and athleticism. I am so glad and lucky those new students walked in when they did. Never give up out of frustration. Just realize you are always learning as long as you put forth the effort. You may not get taps, you may walk out everyday thinking what did I do wrong. As long as you are committed and do your best to stay positive, that question of "What did I do wrong?" is the proof that you are trying your best and one day it will pay off.
What a great comment. Thanks for posting this.
Exactly where I’m at now. Been at BJJ for about 6 months, and every session I tap, almost never get anyone else to tap, feeling behind like I’m not learning much, but I just keep showing up because to quit would be the ultimate tap.
One point to consider as well. Even when you're getting smashed in the school with higher belts, even as a white belt with six months on, you know so much more than the average non trained population.
That’s truly what it’s all about for me. I don’t care if I’m ever “good” at bjj. As long as I can crush people that don’t train. 🤣👍🏻👍🏻
@@pauldigga5419 lol ditto. I'm only 4.5 months in but have so much fun wrestling all my friends at the beach. Makes me feel like a black belt
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Thanks for your honesty, and to an extent, your vulnerability. Role model material mate.
Simon Elof appreciate the kind words brother.
Roll model* (I'll show myself out...)
@@SevenRiderAirForce Literally thought the same thing lol
1:05 "is everyone dying?" 😂😂😂
he's killing me sometimes :-)
They need to do more jiu jitsu lol jk
Well, yeah, everybody dies 🤷🏾♂️
I had to check the date on this
Quitting is underrated.
Not that I would ever quit jiu jitsu myself, but I've quit all sorts of things in my life... some of which I've spent hundreds or even thousands of hours doing.
Jiu jitsu isn't what everyone needs in their life.
I agree. I just believe that succumbing to frustration along is a bad precedent to set.
It's like with everything. Never stop on a bad day. But if it's a good day and you still want to quit then do it.
LemonNation thats how I feel about boxing bro I love boxing I can't quit but I wanna learn ju jitsu
TRAP MONEY BOY CHEEK, *w h y d o n ‘ t y o u j u s t l e a r n b o t h ?*
@@Chewjitsu Well put. I don't believe in quitting anything based on emotion or frustration.
The ambulances are rolling up to the parking lot because that "No Liabilities" dude came up and kicked Adam and Chad's ass.
Damn. . . that's harsh. That leaves me by myself to fend him off. 0_0
You should have made up those "No Liabilities" T shirts and sold them while you had the chance. That way you guys could pay your medical bills.
Haha. I laughed out loud to that.
Chewjitsu "No liabilities". 😂😂😂 that was hilarious.
Man... 44 year old white belt 1 stripe 8 months in.. I feel like quitting all the time! What keeps me going is a few things. The community is amazing. And I refuse to be another statistic. Thanks for this video!
I like your mindset.
What helped me is concentrating on self-progress, technical execution and strategy planning. This all takes time and multiple repetitions. As we say "a thousand more times, and you will get it".
Just keep training! I started when I was 44 and trained 4 times a week for ten years. At 54, I received my Black Belt from Ralph Gracie!! Never give up!
are you still training?
"Man is sometimes extraordinarily, passionately in love with suffering and that is a fact." - Fyodor Dostoyevsky
2 year white belt here. 0-16 tournament match record. Honestly, I am just not a super competitive person and I like to do tournaments for the experience and getting to be around people that share a love of BJJ. Keep having fun with it! Sure, it is frustrating but it is really all about your personal approach and preferences. Maybe you're not destined to be a strong competitor and that's okay! Not everyone in BJJ will be. Maybe you will continue to compete because you enjoy it, and you'll be a killer at purple or something.
It’s awesome to hear you give your perspective. Having you in the trenches with us and constantly learning and improving with us is a huge advantage of our gym and overall environment. Lucky to train at the best gym around with one of the best BJJ practitioners and people. Thanks buddy.
Love ya big guy, U'm glad you're a part of the gym. :)
One of the frustrations that I have is that I know I'm improving, but so is everyone else around me. I think that this masks the gains that I'm making. I'm better, faster and stronger, but so is everyone in my gym. It can make it feel like I'm stuck in place. However, when a new guy shows up or when I visit other gyms on my work travels, I can see my improvement. Really it is the relationships and encouragement of the higher belts that help me through those mentally tough days. Jiu Jitsu is so much fun for me that, it'd be a shame to wreck it by feeling frustrated I'm not progressing as quickly as I'd like. So I'm grateful to the guys in my gym for that.
Tracewell you know what bud you should be the weakest link in your chain. if you were beating the people at your gym all the time then how would you become better? its like a black smith with his sword. he heats it up and beats it repeatedly with his hammer and the cools it off in the water. your teamates are making you all the more stronger trust me bro.
To anyone reading this comment, I'm a 2 month white belt with no prior Martial Arts at age 32, everything is new and awkward for me. I just bumped up my training to 3x a week. It's 1 on 1 for 2 of those days and a 3rd guy comes in on the other. I recently got complimented on my improvements by the 3rd guy, maybe that's what you need some time is a guy who isn't there all the time and can say, hey you have really improved in this particular area. Even though I felt as though my defense had gotten tighter it is still nice to have someone pat you on the back and affirm it isn't all in your head. It's a real boost! But then again I don't care too much because I have been putting in a lot of effort, purchased books by some of the greats and actually reading them, trying to accelerate my progress with what I have available lol.
RSPR5 DRST I’m glad there are teenagers and white belts in my gym as well as blues. So there are people who I’m miles ahead of behind in one place.
after 3 classes of getting "khabib smeshed" in my class, last day a new dude walked into our gym. now i train in Russia where white belts spar with everyone from the first day.i got to roll with him at the end of the class and i submitted him twice in 3 minutes via RNC. literally the ONLY submission ive learned in the past 3 classes except for triangle which i can't do against a resisting opponent yet.
made me so proud of myself i forgot about all the pain i went through in every class getting ass whooped by tough dagistanis and chechens xD
I've been doing martial arts for years (from 12 yrs old to 45 now) and have black belts yadda yadda... Just recently started bjj and I'm a white belt (of course) this shit ain't easy, but martial arts is what you put into it,physically, mentally spiritually. If you only focus on the physical, then you are missing out on building your mind and spirit. Approach it like the old school masters used to.
Bush Ninja you wont cause its impossible being always right. The moment you stopped learn and correct youre mistakes its the moment you will plateau
Aesthetic Path I agree with the replies
How do you grow spiritual in martial arts?
Soy tu papi By not winning every fight
Let's roll.... I will kick your ass!
It's the struggle that enables the progress. Without struggle there is no progress. EMBRACE THE STRUGGLE!
Thanks for the positivity man, I have a lot of rough days and I really like to hear you talk. Motivating!
One of my favorite video of yours, so relevant to most things in life. I love hearing about the masters' struggles: everyone is human, everyone doubts everyone is or was tempted to quit, it's very important to show everyone has weaknesses. Keep it up!
Chewy and the ambulances is like Elliott and the garbage man lmao
same look as their eyes follow the sound haha
more like adam and eve
Hhahhahahahaha
I'm glad this showed up in my recommendations. I've been training for a little over 5 years, 3 stripe blue belt, and this year with starting a new job my training went from 4-5X a week to 1-2X a week. It's been tough to watch people that I once could run through or give a tough time to pass me up. I haven't had thoughts about quitting as much loosing motivation to get to class. The new job also makes it so i have to train at 6:30 am which can be rough some mornings. Enough venting. Thanks for the video.
@Wytchfinde mate I am 50 / 50 aboit quitting it's so fkn hard and I don't get enough guidance just smashed in rolls
But I think I can have the fortitude to at least show up and step on to the mats. Fuck it.
Thanks brother for your comment it really helped me decide what to do. hopefully If I keep showing up things will turn for me
Thanks for the pep-talk. Though not related to BJJ, I've been frustrated to the point of feeling ill from stress about not getting into the IT industry. Hearing your story will help me put things into perspective. I appreciate that.
Believe me - you do not need that IT industry, there is nothing exciting, only a lot of time spent near the computer without socializing
What is fascinating to me is that many people who reach a high level of proficiency in any discipline, not just BJJ, are not necessarily the most gifted or "naturals". Now, I'm not talking about the apex predator, top of the heap people who eventually become pro fighters since you need to be genetically and physically gifted as well as having a passion for it.
But in many areas, a good deal of people who seem to reach an expert level are those that just hung in there. It's not just working through the lows either. These people genuinely love each and every moment of their passions even if they are not the best in the class. They just show up everyday with a smile on their face. Even the most mundane things are fun or rewarding to them. A passionate runner who runs the same field in circles day after day and love it. What makes them tick?
And the opposite is also true. Some of the gifted people drop out because they come flying out of the starting gates, have a fast learning curve, then peak, then get bored or frustrated and quit.
You have to enjoy whatever you are doing in order to keep doing it. The million dollar question is how some people just never get bored doing the same thing?
Learning is the one thing you can never get bored of. If you think you’ve arrived, you stop learning. My 2 cents.
Everybody was kungfu fighting.. a few blocks away
The ambulances are for the dude who took Chad in the parking lot! #noliabilities
When I wrestled I lost almost every match my first two years then as a junior I did a bit better but nowhere near a champion and as a senior I won the conference championship at 145 lbs and qualified for the state championship and was ranked 12 in the state in the 3a North Carolina high school athletic association state championship!!! Never give up I never did and I prospered because of it!! You will take your lumps and loses on your way to the top just believe in yourself and keep grinding!!
I feel like you always know what people are thinking. I’m glad I heard this video. 🙏🏽
You are the Elliot Hulse of the bjj community.
Ruben Guevara love this strength camp reference
Elliot never actually answered the questions that people asked him. He just rambled on about bio-energetics and breathing into your balls.
He did actually answer questions from his fans early into his youtube career. Now he's just crazy.
Thats an insult
The ambulance reminded me of an Elliot House video but these stories have relevance
Man if Chewy's life story was a anime I would watch the hell out of it.
3:20 I know you were probably just running out of air, but the tone that "why is he getting better?" came out as resonated with me emotionally. True in the feels on the mats stuff
I'll use a quote I heard. "Nothing worth doing is easy". And that has always stuck with me because it is the most truthful statement I have ever heard.
Scrubs?
Thanks Chewy, this video is motivating. I just got off the phone with my instructor and talked about me quitting. We came up with a solution.
Puffy clouds and honey is what the body feels when you're passed out from a choke. AHAHA! ;)
generallychillinLA so true 😂
CHilliN Everytime Ive been knocked out I think Im waking up and trying to figure why all this crap around me is in my bedroom.
Awesome video. Your content is getting better as it doesn't only encompass bjj content but "life" issues. And BJJ is like a microcosm of life. In regards to this video, I am inspired by your journey, man. Being content with the journey... not being overwhelmed with comparison is something that is essential to growth.
Glad you enjoy the videos brother.
This is the truth. Video is spot on!I just got my blue belt last month. Thursday night I had a stellar class. I was hitting everything right. Rolled with a state champion college wrestler and he shot for the single, I sprawled and took his back. Then I rolled with a four stripe brown belt and while I didn't submit him (I did sweep and briefly mount him), he also didn't submit me.
Fast forward to today where I got tapped by a white belt! Lol its like a sine wave. Up and down. Can't stop, won't stop!!
I love your videos Chewy. I’ve been watching them since before my first competition as a white belt and they’ve given me valuable advice about BJJ and life as well. I hope I’m able to meet you at a comp one day. Keep doing what you’re doing!
Vote your best line of the video
Is everybody dying?
Or
Sailing ships...ships with a sail
Great video, this will also be a great one for the next blooper edition
haha. I found them funny so I left them in.
Thank you Chewie i needed this video. I'm a whitebelt on the verge of bluebelt in a gym that's notoriously hard to get promoted in rank. There's been a few students fast tracked for their athleticism and wrestling talents. Sometimes I feel disheartened that I'll be a whitebelt forever. But this video put everything into perspective to me. It's not about the destination it's about the journey. Oss!
Or, if you listened to what he actually said, he said it's about being present and appreciating every moment because the Jiu Jitsu experience is NOT a journey because as he said, a journey implies a destination and there is no end point in self development and skill acquisition. It's the focusing on the end point and comparing yourself to others which brings frustration, makes you tense and that tension, physical and mental takes you away from being in the moment, from"immediacy", from "what's happening now".
I appreciate your videos brother, I have watched quite a few in the last 2 days. I feel like shit for not training consistently, I have probably lost my game, lost my stripes, but most importantly I lost my best friends.
"..you'd be so just..wishing you could have another rough day on the mats" fuck yea thank you brother. as an overwhelmed white belt, this is the perspective I needed.
Brother I can't tell you how much I needed this video right now. Thank you.
I'm not a BJJ player but this is an awesome life lesson. Thanks.
6 months in and I tore my meniscus! I can't wait to get back. Honestly, I love how difficult it is! That is my motivation, if it were easy I'd probably be bored already. Great video!
Youre crazy 😂 I hate hospitals
Cheers, Chewie. I really needed to hear this right now. 🤙
DONT FOCUS ON OTHERS.. FIGHT AGAINST YOUR SELF....WE ALL LEARN BY LOOSING AND MAKING MISTAKES...YOU WILL EXPIRIENCE PROBLEMS ALL YOUR LIFE.. AND ITS OKAY COS WHIT OUT THESE PROBLEMS AND DISOLVING THESE PROBLEMS.. THERE WILL BE NO SATISFACTION. 🙏🙏🙏
You explain Jiu jitsu so beautifully
Man, almost threw my white belt out the window on my drive home today because I had a bad last two days. In my head I thought after just over a year I should be better. All the purple belts keep telling me I am doing really good and when I said something today they all laughed. I get it now. Thanks, I needed to hear this.
i'm at the point of quitting. i'm a skinny dude ( 1,75m, 70 kg ). 2 years of BJJ and still a 3 stripe white belt, inconsistent training because life gets in the way (change jobs, change rent, injury sometimes). Never acted as a douche, never bragged when i tap someone, when i get tapped i blame no other then myself for not working hard enough.
I roll when anyone, any colored belt, any weight : every roll is a learning opportunity. I tap, i ask questions and i try to retain and apply to my best. All i want is to learn.
But now it's different. I get wrecked, i get no constructive criticism or advice just mockeries. I feel like i don't progress. My coach not only favors the competiting students and the ones paying privates but also called me a pussy during a roll with him and help colored belts beat me during rolls ! Now i even get DM from other team mates calling me girl names. wtf?
So in your opinion, should i quit? is that a process some black belts went through? Is that part of the learning process?
Personally i don't believe toughening the caracter makes up for better technique but what do i know, right?
In such case, should i still stick to that gym?
I'd try to find a new gym that was more supportive.
Love the videos man, really changed my perspective on how I approach training and my fellow practitioners, great stuff!
Thanks for this video #chewjitsu ... I'm a bjj blue belt and it crossed my mind when it gets tough to quit but I have kept going.
I have lost all my tournaments... but have grown from this experience.
From Mr Waratah from Australia
You're my therapist... I just started about a month ago and I am 56. A ton of excuses come in my head. Jitsu is physically tough but just as tough mentally.
Starting at 1:36
Literally explains all my friends, family, co workers and anyone I've spoken to. How they see Jujitsu
I really like this guy! He is a real person. Thanks
Right on man. Quality 10 minutes.
Well said chewy, oss.
this is really good advice for any sport or skill.
So true my friend, 9 years doing Judo and my body is so broken (I have 38 years old) but I never going to quit, for example now all black belts on my dojo respect me :D and it only cost me 4 broken toes, 2 bulge disks, a couple broke fingers, several concussions, etc. But I am so happy :D Big Hugs from L.A.! (sorry for my bad English I am still learning it)
Sometimes a new gym can bring a much needed change. All depends on why you want out.
I love your channel , I’m a 34 year old blue belt that just got back into it after five year absence.
at first when I saw my first video off your channel dude I must admit I was not a fan of your type (wrestler and aggressive) but I have gotten better at bjj and for some reason I always come back to your videos there's is just a hand full of people who I pay attention to and dude I must say now that you have got a lot of truth and you speak from that which I respect a ton hardwork now my biggest fear is quitting and I prey 🤞that I will have the the honor to stick to bjj till I die, I am a 35 year old 3 stripe white belt and im proud of it and I hope I can always digest out of my system that quitting bug
Gonna be 1m subs within 2 years. This is quality media. Please keep it up!
There is a sign up in the studio where I train that reads "Don't Expect, Don't Compare". I've found that to be very helpful.
In it for self defense. Maybe once in a great while I might compete, but that will be an exception. I am worried more about being able to survive from my back now. It is what I am worst at and I will make it a strength.
I think he almost cried there. I love that he cares so much
Great perspective
This video is a very good commentary on how you need to prioritize things, there is no tracked
Path documenting rolls or tournaments it is just improvements, if you win a white belt tournament what did you really accomplish
In the future it’s going to mean nothing.
Hey Chewy, I really enjoy your videos, even though I am not a Jiu Jitsuka (yet).
I feel like a lot of the advice you give can often be applied to other Martial arts, or even just every day stuff.
I'm thinking getting of started doing Jiu Jitsu, and after finding your and a few other channels, I've been getting the vibe that BJJ practitioners in general tend to be really passionate about what they are doing. So now I pretty much can't wait to get started.
However, I do have some concerns.
One of the main reasons I've gotten into martial arts are for the health benefits. And while BJJ in short term may be a great workout, I'm worried that long term it might be really bad for the joints.
Looking at a few different forums, It wasn't hard to find an uncomfortable amount of people with all sorts of long term injuries.
Of course, I don't know much about how, and with who they've been trainning, if they are stubborn when it comes to tapping and such. But still, it's concerning.
Another concern is the chokes. Should I expect to end up unconscious once a week? Every other month? Twice a year? how often do people get choked unconscious?
I would love to hear about some thoughts, and experiences with these things.
- Keep up the good work.
It's a long answer served for another video. But in short.
1. You will experience injuries. But you'll get injured doing weight lifting, running, being alive, etc. No way around it. Our bodies break down.
2. You won't go unconscious unless you don't tap. Most people never go out.
Remember that new club that moved in down the street? That's why there are ambulances.
Thanks Chewy! This is just what I needed, off to roll I go!
You start witg motivation.
When you push trough it changes to détermination, and from there finally to habitation.
Man I love your perspective on everything!
The way to get better as fast as possible? Train. The way to get over a hump? Train. The way to get past a frustrating situation? Train. STOP JUDGING YOURSELF ON HOW OTHERS ARE DOING.
I don't compete because I'm not very good. But I train for how much I love it and what it does for me.
Dont Quit! Embrace every loss as a learning opportunity, and then your "losses", will actually become moments of growth. The most important part of BJJ, SHOW UP. Whatever you do, dont stop showing up.
That sailing analogy was amazing
Awesome video man. When sailboats turn to catch the wind it's called tacking and gybing depending on whether they're heading into the wind or running with the wind.
Haha cool. Thanks for the info. I couldn't remember. :)
You are so well spoken and articulate. Please consider writing, if you already aren’t. Also badass perfect beard
I write weekly emails for my email list and am putting a few things together in the future.
1:00 everyone is just dying! lmao
Oh boy that's me, thanks for the advice
Needed to hear this, thanks.
Thank you, this video is gold brother
You're welcome.
I love you man. This was so inspiring....
If student A is not performing well, then this is on the coach. The coach should know the reason(s) why and he should, as a good coach, be taking student A aside to work on his deficiencies, and improve - teach him to win!
Great concept. Get tough, and pass through it. BJJ DO change myself.
You remind me sooo much of Elliot Hulse and his good old videos explaining everything from his garage gym
I needed this. Thanks.
It’s like setting goals vs setting intentions. At the end of a goal you become lost and the high of achieving the goal vanishes but each day you set an intention and if you hit it that’s great if not you set a new intention the next day. Live your life intentionally
Great 👍🏼 analogy with sailing ⛵️...
“Everyone’s just dying.” Killed me 🤣
The unique thing about jiu-jitsu so that is is evolving. It's evolving faster than I'm evolving. Blue belts are getting better, purple belts are getting better all the time. The standard for black belt is crazy now a days. The art is actually evolving faster than I am as a practitioner. Realistically I think I can train for the rest of my life and not get to black belt. I'm inventive and have some talent for jiu-jitsu but I don't have the natural athletic ability and I'm a slow learner (still don't have a decent guard pass after 2 years) but I don't let that get to me. I think once you stop caring about chasing belts and just enjoy it for the fun of the game, it frees you to do so much more. But this is just my perspective as someone who doesn't really have a competitive nature.
Do you work on your guard passes a lot? I would do a ridiculous amount of guard pass attempts even if they all fail
Don't chase the belt chase the time, ur success taste better when u go through failure..
Great stuff !!
You are like a big beardy Yoda... Love the inspiration your videos give me
Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not who someone else is today
Wise words.
This is not compatible with the self-defense aspect of the art. Only possible if you see it as a hobby and/or a sport.
I've been doing jiu jitsu for 4 months now. Never did any other sports. I go into class once or twice a week. And I get beat up. But I love it. Because I know the more I go the more I learn
"Do what is easy, and your life will be hard. Do what is hard, and your life will be easy." - Les Brown
I always think emphasizing the journey rather than the competition is key.
Osu I'm a bb (brown)... I recently got back into jiu-jitsu training again after a four month layoff... I'm in my fifties and I at times feel my timing is off... I remember my go-to moves and my escapes but man it's very hard now. When I begin rolling I get frustrated with myself constantly... Not so much of my endurance because after a four month layoff it's expected... It's the fact that know I rolled better than this and now I feel it's a huge challenge for me now... I say I'm getting old for the sport and I should just except getting tapped out by younger/ranks or just plain getting hammered. But I know in my heart I could really get back into shape and roll better but it's too hard now and I'm getting impatient. Even though I know I shouldn't. All I could think about is how long will it take for this fifty something year old man to get back into the grind again... Is this normal. I need to know. Phillip from NJ
I quit my gym 2 days ago. The one thing that most instructors fail to realize is that their training methodology is shitty. Instead of teaching in such a way that develops athletes, they create a system where strong or fast people develop their game and some people don't make progress. No progress at all. I'm not worried about bjj being easy, I'm done with shitty teaching methods where instructors use athletic students to justify their teaching ways. Also, I'm sick of the journey crap, either my training is productive or it's not. If I'm not making progress I can tell.
If nine people quit in frustration for every student that stays, that should tell the school that how they teach is the problem, not the students dedication. It's built into the bjj culture this tough it out, sink or swim mentality.
It's hard to tell when you're improving.. yeah a lot of coaches are dicks but that's in any sport, work with what you got
Just chill and enjoy the value of the games. I had a young kids lots of matches.....until one day he stopped losing. Then he was exceptionally hard to beat. You learn more from your losses! :-)
I doubt anyone cares but this seems like an appropriate video for me to share. I’m like 16 so I don’t have much wisdom tbh. But I wrestled my 5th and 6th grades and I liked the sport but it wasn’t what I wanted at the time, and I came back to it in 9th grade and absolutely loved it. I got destroyed every time being a beginner again but I absolutely loved the sport. I started doing football to help stay in shape, I wrestled over the summer with some friends who had a dad who coached and owned a mat. But when it came to sophomore year, we had merged with another school and I basically had no friends who were still doing it. So I tried a couple of practices and just couldn’t stand getting whooped by everyone and it felt worse cause I just didn’t know anyone. So I quit and I hated myself for a year, just cause I dropped the only sport I really enjoyed and had any potential in. But recently I found jiu jitsu and honestly I think I like it even more than I liked wrestling. I don’t plan on quitting and it was hard to do something like this being this young but I’m happy to be doing it.
Do you still do jiu jitsu
@@mystery18993 for sure
@@Camaro-dy4tj you still at white belt? How have you developed skill wise since you started
@@mystery18993 I came from a wrestling background and preferred standing or being on top like 90% of the time but now, while I still have that, I’m also much more comfortable on the ground to the point where they’re practically even. I like my half guard and lockdown game. Love armbars and leglocks since my gym allows them. I’ve only competed once since I didn’t want to compete during track season, but I’m gonna start competing again here soon. And at my gym I usually win against most white belts within a 50 pound gap. And I probably get a good sub on a blue in maybe 1 in 4 rolls. Being smaller than everyone kinda forced me to be technical. So sometimes I’ll just get simply overpowered and overwhelmed, but I usually find at least something good every now and then
@@Camaro-dy4tj that's cool, how did you first competition go? Also how is it rolling with the higher levels
Jiu-Jitsu has been super helpful for my suicidal ideation.
So glad to hear that it has helped you 🙏🏻 Stay strong my friend!