I'm 24 and recently I went through a break up with my ex of 3 years, and shortly after that a very close friend to us passed away suddenly. Although the initial breakup was ugly, the death of our friend led us to realize how short life can be, and although things between my ex didn't change we came to appreciate the lessons taught from one another. As painful as a heartbreak is, we often forget how much we grow and learn from them and that we ultimately become a better version of ourself because of it. Cherish the good times that you spent with your ex, grow from difficulties you experienced together. I know some days may feel more empty than others but trust the process and understand that the universe will bring what is meant for you, to you.
I read some studies that say to completely cut contact from your partner for at least 3 months after a breakup to give yourself the space to fully detach in a healthy way. I also read to avoid music that is sad or that reminds you of your relationship for the first bit of time after a breakup, because while it may feel cathartic, music has an ability to trick your brain into reliving a certain experience (in this case being in your relationship) which will actually increase attachment, prolonging the depressive detachment process. Let yourself feel your feelings, but it’s important to know when to tell yourself “ok, I feel the emotional release now. let’s get up and do something today!” My heart is with everyone going through the painful painful breakup process. You got this ❤️
RUclips knows what to recommend. I broke up with her a few days ago. She is a wonderful person; I loved her and am grateful for her love and everything she did for me. It's a pity that we didn't get along; I saw that we just have two different ways, I couldn't do anything with it and felt uncomfortable for several months. I wish her success and happiness.
Wow, I never understood attachment styles until you explained it so clearly and matter of fact, I always assumed I'd be "avoidant" but NOPE. I am definitely an "anxious" attachment style, when I look back at my last relationship which was 4 years ago, the way I reacted was pretty much exactly how you described, a lot of "what if's" and the beauty in that however is, I learned so much from her, there were big mistakes I made which I vow to never repeat as I recognize them consciously, and I remember what qualities I cherished in her personality to know where I set the bar in terms of whoever my future partner is, she also did things that pissed me off don't get me wrong, but at the end of the day, we can only learn, and never forget your exes, they were a lesson we learned and we appreciate them for that, I've grown and truly moved on ((after 4 years lol I am notoriously obsessive, NOT controlling but just, I get attached easily when I fall for someone and when it doesn't work out I take a while to move on and obsess about how I could have been different)) and while I don't have "feelings" for her anymore, and don't talk to her anymore, I'll NEVER forget her. It's because of the mistakes I made and the things we learned that I can be a better guy in my next relationship, also THANK YOU for existing! To be honest, whoever see's this will have a lightbulb go off in their mind I s2g :D to add one more thing, suppressing your feelings is never a good thing, that was my ultimate "post break-up" mistake.... To be real w you, I smoked a metric f*** ton of weed, and forced myself to not play those emotions out, well 3 years down the line, I quit smoking weed and after a few weeks, I started having very intense dreams about her, and felt the same way I did the day she broke up with me, I cried for 3 weeks straight and wrote a lot of songs and relived everything, but what that taught me is, you HAVE to be emotionally honest with yourself to truly be healthy, if you really loved this person and you're heartbroken to the worlds end, FEEL THAT.... Embrace it, go through it, cry a f***ing river, miss them, dream about them, reflect on how you messed up and how they messed up, reflect on the things you loved in that relationship and the good things each of you did.... Cause its only after you've processed all of that in a REAL way, that you will finally feel ready to spread your wings again and show up WAY better than you did before in your next relationship. Idk if anyone will ever read this, but I hope it resonates with someone :)
They’re not real. You’re supposed to get attached. We are in an era of depopulation. The schooling is ruining relationships, and social media is brainwashing the youth to normalize hookup and short term relationships. Life isn’t complex, our only real goal is to reproduce. Once you break up with someone you truly love, you find no enjoyment in old hobbies, or realize just how much of a waste everything is. Fostering a healthy relationship and family structure, is key to a good community and society.
I'm glad for the mistakes, for the breakups. It made me appreciate and learn what I really want. I know if I get into something again with someone someday, I will have more experience and emotional tools for our benefit.
To answer the last question: One thing I know I will uniquely bring is a genuine love of life to the other person. Make them appreciate that they are also existing and excited to see beautiful things too.
I think self respect the only thing matters in relationships. Two person should respect each other in relationship. If there is no respect then it is not love.
I left my ex because I was not feeling myself anymore and, also, felt like I just lost myself. It hurts a lot still and I’m glad you shared this one with us because my heart still hasn’t caught up with my mind. I know it’s for the better, I will be a better person should I fall in love again. I miss the idea I had of her - I don’t miss the abuse nor the anxiety. Thank you very much.
This was really well made. We broke up over a month ago, but I’ve been going through the roughest time healing. He was my first love and the first person who showed me how beautiful a romantic relationship could be. I will forever love him, but we’ve already gone our separate ways and there’s no chance for us to get back together. My brain has already moved on and rationalized everything, but my heart is still stuck on him
I hope you’re doing alright today 💗💗 also dealing with a breakup from my first relationship that I feel so much gratitude and awe towards, even the breakup was honest and loving. I really fear I’ll be stuck on them forever, as I know I’ll always love them in some way, I know there’s a possibility but also that I have to let go. It sucks :( wishing you the best 🫶🏻
i love this take or aspect about break ups and to be honest i really needed to see that video ,my break up took place nearly a month ago and to be honest its been a mess so many complex and layered emotions have surfaced and yeah getting through it at the moment.....thanks for making this video
Just went through a break up this summer, the cognitive dissonance is so real the attachment and detachment is so real the what if and everything I feel it all. I'm going to take the breakup as feedback to focus on myself for the year and be ok without being in a relationship
People talking about months when I still see him in my dreams, 2 years since breakup. It came from a place of love but destroyed me as well. We’re probably not even the same people we knew each other as anymore, but the love still haunts me. I just want to be able to experience a similar way of happiness now with someone more available and willing, and I’d like to do the kindness of letting his ghosts go :”)
I've had a cold heart ever since. I don't think it'll be easy to find another girl or woman. I just gave up. Looking around me, I feel like I'm not part of this world. Ah, I wish I could vanish somewhere else
Very hard breakups - was in complete shock affected me really badly to almost suicide, phoning Samaritans helped, even did some therapy, realised I have an anxious attachment style, due to upbringing and conditioning. I'ts tough navigating relationships. This is a good video with some good insights.
All my friends married their high school sweethearts and are getting kids. Meanwhile i've been cheated on multiple times, and been in very abusive relationships that nearly ended my life (suicide) How can i not be bitter?
I went through all three. “This is fine, maybe this is suppose to teach us something, I wish I could have done things differently but either way I’ve been alone before.”
Which attachment style are you? Recently found out I was anxious-attached but I can't stand the idea of setting myself up and letting myself down some more. I've sent myself on a journey to become secure instead and I'm pretty convinced I'm well on my way.
As time goes on, the longing and pain start to become one, and you will have more clarity over that relationship. It will become more like one experience rather than all pain or all longing.
As this video ends i actually enter a love affair with the 2nd of two very lovely and wonderful and amazing people in my life but still advice because ive been through bad breakups and is good to hear it so plainly
Been watching your these thought putting out videos from a while, i identified i am a person who goes full into love, maybe because it was my first relationship, she started reacting differently when we talked on text with each other, i reacted to this as a very kind of scared person, and did all things i could just to know the reason of that because she never shared it. Going through this time for around a month, one day she told me she wanted to end it all, i reacted to that peacefully thinking that our bond was unbreakable abd this was just not possible and this would get fixed for sure. I assumed it. It didnt go that way, maybe because i just kept assuming and blindly believing that without doing any improvement in myself. It was a summer relationship, now its end of the year. Through this time, i got a lot of recomendations through social media, but i ignored that content. Through all this time, i could not just digest the fact that it had ended. I just kept assuming this was not the reality and everything was going to fix. While in the past month i started to kind of get over it, by kind of telling myself that there are other people out there, but just could not believe that truly. Watched this today and found out a lot of things about myself. First, i was not acknowledging and accepting what was going on in my mind, being insecure. Second, going through a breakup feels as no hope, like the world just ended and its end for us, like we cannot move further in life now. But the reality is, yes it did ended, now you are on your own, and with others around you except your past partner. We need to accept this fact that now maybe doing something more about the past will not change anything, lets grow from it, give ourselves the space and stage to improve. Lets now take acknowledge our past mistakes and learn from them to be a better person. The world has not ended. Its still moving with the same speed as it did in the near past. You are the still the human that your partner loved in the past. Lets embrace that fact and yes we also feel like we lost a lot, but now instead of feeling lost, now give ourselves the space to improve and grow. Lets choose that option. Lets acknowlegde our true feelings. I wrote this all to acknowledge my feelings, maybe it is the first step i took. Kristine, its a christmas present to me, your this video is a true gift for me. I am truly very very thankful to you for this. Even though it not may be significant, but as a human, i am always ready to help you. I will feel very gratfeul in returning this favour. Thank you Kristine. To the pretty human reading it, lets grow and improve through this, lets choose that option. Merry Christmas ❤
I feel we all know the “right approach” to some degree in the back of our minds, but reality is often times much uglier and harder to maintain emotional control to properly execute these strategies. for me, it always took a lot of time grieving and to keep pressing forward even if it was hard and felt never ending. I’m glad i’m not dealing with any breakups anymore. people suck.
just got dumped December 29th. What a good and horrible timing. We split up mainly because we don’t live in the same city anymore, and I’m studying and won’t be able to move to hers for at least a year and half. We were not toxic at all, tried talking for the most of our problems and loved each other, but distance really got to us, not in a lack of interest and commitment but rather a depressive way to be so apart from each other. Hopefully we’ll be able to reunite some time from now, but up until then I’ll try to become someone she would be proud of.
I broke up with my girlfriend 2 days ago and a series of unrelated videos on relationships and loneliness led me to your channel yesterday, so this is very ironic timing to me.
Always slightly surreal when i come across videos like this. Never having been in a romantic relationship, this sentence got me curious: "The feeling of hope stems from a habit rather than a genuine longing for the person." a) Hope for what? That everything will be resolved "happily ever after" so to speak? b) The feeling of hope can be habit? o_O Colour me surprised but I've only ever felt that for one week in the last two decades. I'm trying to think of how would one go about making it a habit (not that I could, even my bad habits are irregular xdd)..
I haven't ever been with someone, but I know that if given a chance, I'd be the best partner ever. The only thing is that's what I believe. When I think of what "they" might believe, I think that I'd be a let-down for them.
Here you go Buddy!!! Hee, hee, hee My baby's always dancin' And wouldn't be a bad thing But I don't get no lovin' And that's no lie We spent the night in Frisco At every kind of disco From that night I kissed our love goodbye Don't blame it on the sunshine Don't blame it on the moonlight Don't blame it on the good times Blame it on the boogie Don't blame it on the sunshine Don't blame it on the moonlight Don't blame it on the good times Blame it on the boogie That nasty boogie bugs me But somehow it has drugged me Spellbound rhythm gets me on my feet I've changed my life completely I've seen the lightning leave me And my baby just can't take her eyes off me Don't blame it on the sunshine Don't blame it on the moonlight Don't blame it on the good times Blame it on the boogie Don't you blame it on the sunshine Don't blame it on the moonlight Don't blame it on the good times Blame it on the boogie Woo I just can't I just can't I just can't control my feet I just can't I just can't (yeah) I just can't control (woo) my feet I just can't I just can't I just can't control my feet I just can't I just can't I just can't control my feet Sunshine Don't blame it on the moonlight Don't blame it on the good times Blame it on the boogie Don't blame it on the sunshine Don't blame it on the moonlight Don't, on the good times Blame it on the boogie This magic music grooves me That dirty rhythm fools me The Devil's gotten to me through this dance I'm full of funky fever A fire burns inside me Boogie's got me in a super trance Don't blame it on the sunshine Don't blame it on the moonlight Don't blame it on the good times Blame it on the boogie (Don't you blame it) Sunshine Don't blame it on the moonlight Don't blame it on the good times Blame it on the boogie Ow woo (Moonlight) yeah (Good times) mmm (Boogie) you just got to yeah (Moonlight) (Good times) good times (Boogie) Don't you blame it (sunshine) You just got to (moonlight) You just want to (good times) Yeah, oh (boogie) Blame it on yourself (sunshine) Ain't nobody's fault (moonlight) But yours and that boogie (good times) All, all night long (boogie) Can't stop that boogie (sunshine) Ain't nobody's fault (moonlight) But yours and that boogie (good times) Dancin' all night long (boogie) Blame it on yourself (sunshine) Ain't nobody's fault (moonlight) But yours and that funky Funky boogie, boogie, (woo) yeah
If it's about thoughts when u filter ur thoughts, U know the answer and deep down u know how any relationship is going. But always ask urself this - "Is this relationship serving me or preparing me for future".
I am leaving this comment here today is 23rd December 2024, I had a breakup with my 4 years of gf. She left me for small arguments, I try to talk and I texted way too many messages and calls but she made her mind. In the past similar things happened but I always used to make her understand that this phase will go but she didn't understand it. We promised a lots of things and she really loved me but over a small fight I taken a small break oof thinking that things will be cool down, but it became worse. It's been 2 week we didn't even talk now. I am so tired of trying every way possible and now she's going back to the other country we didn't even meet as we planned so many things. I don't know what happened in this 7 days she changed this much. I can't even stop myself from thinking about her even for a min. i am feeling like suffocating a lot she was my only friend, best friend after her, I had no one so close. I hope no one ever feel this feeeling.
I'm not sure if this will help or comfort you but many people will be feeling this same way. Broke up with my 2 year gf and in just one night everything changed. I tried giving her 1 week for her to gather her thoughts to give her space and it feels like nothing came of it because i was blocked and left out of contact with someone i knew so deeply. With time things will change its been months now and i have changed I just wish i never had to go through that pain in the first place
Its difficult. This person left me in the past, and i only have myself to blame. No, she was not perfect, but I did the unforgivable. When i told her, i haven't seen her since. She was everything to me. I betrayed myself. Years pass by, i still dwell here. I have to live. But she was my lifeim nothing now
Idk why but first minutes or so felt like you just chanted some sort of mantra razer than you spoke through your heart cause it's feeling like you haven't overcome break up yet and trying to throw something inside that hole of yours that came after ending your relationships to not feel de pain of breaking up. I could be wrong but if I not then try not to stick with mantras, but try to create your own space where you could listen to that heart of your where you could feel that sorrow and everything else that you are feeling now because of breaking up and say to you how you feeling honestly, maybe you would cry but go forward and say to you wha are you feeling so, then again move forward an try to imagine your previous partner and say how you feelin and why to his image in your head, then say what wasn't said but wanted to be said an try to say goodbye like for real, take that hope that you plented in him, your dreams with him in it that you dreamed of and take away everything of yours that you put in him away to you and give him everything that he gave you even the happiest moments of your life together, return to you that everything that you put in himself and take back to him that everything that he put to yourself and you will feel relief, try doing it not overthinking just do it with hope in your heart and you will have relust
I'm 24 and recently I went through a break up with my ex of 3 years, and shortly after that a very close friend to us passed away suddenly. Although the initial breakup was ugly, the death of our friend led us to realize how short life can be, and although things between my ex didn't change we came to appreciate the lessons taught from one another. As painful as a heartbreak is, we often forget how much we grow and learn from them and that we ultimately become a better version of ourself because of it. Cherish the good times that you spent with your ex, grow from difficulties you experienced together. I know some days may feel more empty than others but trust the process and understand that the universe will bring what is meant for you, to you.
cosmic timing
too real for me it was about 14 hours ago
For real. It's like the universe knows what's happening and what to do lmao
Real
too real dude.
Yaaaaa!!
Truth is, when it comes to moving on, your heart needs more time to accept what your mind already knows.
Thank you❤️🥹
True.
I read some studies that say to completely cut contact from your partner for at least 3 months after a breakup to give yourself the space to fully detach in a healthy way. I also read to avoid music that is sad or that reminds you of your relationship for the first bit of time after a breakup, because while it may feel cathartic, music has an ability to trick your brain into reliving a certain experience (in this case being in your relationship) which will actually increase attachment, prolonging the depressive detachment process. Let yourself feel your feelings, but it’s important to know when to tell yourself “ok, I feel the emotional release now. let’s get up and do something today!”
My heart is with everyone going through the painful painful breakup process. You got this ❤️
That hesitation at 3:17 felt so honest and genuine, really tied the video together
RUclips knows what to recommend. I broke up with her a few days ago. She is a wonderful person; I loved her and am grateful for her love and everything she did for me. It's a pity that we didn't get along; I saw that we just have two different ways, I couldn't do anything with it and felt uncomfortable for several months. I wish her success and happiness.
Wow, I never understood attachment styles until you explained it so clearly and matter of fact, I always assumed I'd be "avoidant" but NOPE. I am definitely an "anxious" attachment style, when I look back at my last relationship which was 4 years ago, the way I reacted was pretty much exactly how you described, a lot of "what if's" and the beauty in that however is, I learned so much from her, there were big mistakes I made which I vow to never repeat as I recognize them consciously, and I remember what qualities I cherished in her personality to know where I set the bar in terms of whoever my future partner is, she also did things that pissed me off don't get me wrong, but at the end of the day, we can only learn, and never forget your exes, they were a lesson we learned and we appreciate them for that, I've grown and truly moved on ((after 4 years lol I am notoriously obsessive, NOT controlling but just, I get attached easily when I fall for someone and when it doesn't work out I take a while to move on and obsess about how I could have been different)) and while I don't have "feelings" for her anymore, and don't talk to her anymore, I'll NEVER forget her. It's because of the mistakes I made and the things we learned that I can be a better guy in my next relationship, also THANK YOU for existing! To be honest, whoever see's this will have a lightbulb go off in their mind I s2g :D to add one more thing, suppressing your feelings is never a good thing, that was my ultimate "post break-up" mistake.... To be real w you, I smoked a metric f*** ton of weed, and forced myself to not play those emotions out, well 3 years down the line, I quit smoking weed and after a few weeks, I started having very intense dreams about her, and felt the same way I did the day she broke up with me, I cried for 3 weeks straight and wrote a lot of songs and relived everything, but what that taught me is, you HAVE to be emotionally honest with yourself to truly be healthy, if you really loved this person and you're heartbroken to the worlds end, FEEL THAT.... Embrace it, go through it, cry a f***ing river, miss them, dream about them, reflect on how you messed up and how they messed up, reflect on the things you loved in that relationship and the good things each of you did.... Cause its only after you've processed all of that in a REAL way, that you will finally feel ready to spread your wings again and show up WAY better than you did before in your next relationship. Idk if anyone will ever read this, but I hope it resonates with someone :)
They’re not real. You’re supposed to get attached. We are in an era of depopulation. The schooling is ruining relationships, and social media is brainwashing the youth to normalize hookup and short term relationships. Life isn’t complex, our only real goal is to reproduce. Once you break up with someone you truly love, you find no enjoyment in old hobbies, or realize just how much of a waste everything is.
Fostering a healthy relationship and family structure, is key to a good community and society.
@@Benny_B0O0 Sometimes I'm scared of falling in love again and think to myself, but wait... Isn't that what we're SUPPOSED to do? 😅
@@SoftOceanBreeze Be not afraid
I'm glad for the mistakes, for the breakups. It made me appreciate and learn what I really want. I know if I get into something again with someone someday, I will have more experience and emotional tools for our benefit.
To answer the last question: One thing I know I will uniquely bring is a genuine love of life to the other person. Make them appreciate that they are also existing and excited to see beautiful things too.
I went through my first ever break up after my first relationship in my early 30s.
It hasnt been easy. I needed this.
In the same boat, glad I’m not alone in this especially at our age.
I think self respect the only thing matters in relationships. Two person should respect each other in relationship. If there is no respect then it is not love.
1 - aknowledge the dissonance
2 - focus on values and goals
3 - practice self compassion
4 - seek supports
5 - understand your attachment style (secure person, avoidant attachment, anxious attachment)
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Crazy how the universe hears the pain I've been going through
I left my ex because I was not feeling myself anymore and, also, felt like I just lost myself. It hurts a lot still and I’m glad you shared this one with us because my heart still hasn’t caught up with my mind. I know it’s for the better, I will be a better person should I fall in love again. I miss the idea I had of her - I don’t miss the abuse nor the anxiety. Thank you very much.
This was really well made. We broke up over a month ago, but I’ve been going through the roughest time healing. He was my first love and the first person who showed me how beautiful a romantic relationship could be. I will forever love him, but we’ve already gone our separate ways and there’s no chance for us to get back together. My brain has already moved on and rationalized everything, but my heart is still stuck on him
I hope you’re doing alright today 💗💗 also dealing with a breakup from my first relationship that I feel so much gratitude and awe towards, even the breakup was honest and loving. I really fear I’ll be stuck on them forever, as I know I’ll always love them in some way, I know there’s a possibility but also that I have to let go. It sucks :( wishing you the best 🫶🏻
Thankyou for this. The timing is literally surreal.
I love the sound of your voice ❤. Warm filled with nostalgia
Grazie.
Grazie!🥹
i love this take or aspect about break ups and to be honest i really needed to see that video ,my break up took place nearly a month ago and to be honest its been a mess so many complex and layered emotions have surfaced and yeah getting through it at the moment.....thanks for making this video
You’re not alone. It will be okay ❤️
Neat perspective on how attachment style affects a person's reaction after a breakup (detachment style?). Thank you!
Sis got the best timing in this universe.
Just went through a break up this summer, the cognitive dissonance is so real the attachment and detachment is so real the what if and everything I feel it all. I'm going to take the breakup as feedback to focus on myself for the year and be ok without being in a relationship
I love your timing and hope you are well! Thank you
you helped me again, thank you so much. What in the world is this timing😭😭
hello, thank you for posting this. you help so many people including myself
TIMING IS CRAZYYYY Thank you.
I love you so much, what you're saying is very important 😭 Its awesome that you make this work for sharing it to others. 💕💕
keep posting bro you never fail to make my day better :P
Listening to this in a hot bath goes crazy, great video!
I’ve so loved discovering your videos! And with each new one I feel like you’re becoming more and more comfortable on camera!!
there's an amazing book called 'Attached' that talks about attachment styles and how to deal with them
2 years and I’ve still been destroyed over the relationship l.. was young and still am. I needed this thank you
People talking about months when I still see him in my dreams, 2 years since breakup. It came from a place of love but destroyed me as well. We’re probably not even the same people we knew each other as anymore, but the love still haunts me. I just want to be able to experience a similar way of happiness now with someone more available and willing, and I’d like to do the kindness of letting his ghosts go :”)
I've had a cold heart ever since. I don't think it'll be easy to find another girl or woman. I just gave up. Looking around me, I feel like I'm not part of this world. Ah, I wish I could vanish somewhere else
this is fantastic, thank you for the new perspective from which I will look try to look from
Very hard breakups - was in complete shock affected me really badly to almost suicide, phoning Samaritans helped, even did some therapy, realised I have an anxious attachment style, due to upbringing and conditioning. I'ts tough navigating relationships. This is a good video with some good insights.
You posted right when i needed to hear it, thank you do much kristine
Three months on , i am healing from my first ever breakup and everyday is progress. Sure somedays feel otherwise but it is what it is.
All my friends married their high school sweethearts and are getting kids.
Meanwhile i've been cheated on multiple times, and been in very abusive relationships that nearly ended my life (suicide)
How can i not be bitter?
it's good to see people with great talent thrive from 1k and now she achive the 100k subs congrats yan. You gave us a fruitful contents keep it up
I went through all three. “This is fine, maybe this is suppose to teach us something, I wish I could have done things differently but either way I’ve been alone before.”
Your timing is on point.
love the video
i hope watching your video make me a better kind person
Thank you for this.
the timing of this, thank you
needed this :)
love it 🥺
perfect timing. got discarded with on christmas eve. thank u
Which attachment style are you? Recently found out I was anxious-attached but I can't stand the idea of setting myself up and letting myself down some more. I've sent myself on a journey to become secure instead and I'm pretty convinced I'm well on my way.
i love your chanel so much
I love your videos
As time goes on, the longing and pain start to become one, and you will have more clarity over that relationship. It will become more like one experience rather than all pain or all longing.
As this video ends i actually enter a love affair with the 2nd of two very lovely and wonderful and amazing people in my life but still advice because ive been through bad breakups and is good to hear it so plainly
Been watching your these thought putting out videos from a while, i identified i am a person who goes full into love, maybe because it was my first relationship, she started reacting differently when we talked on text with each other, i reacted to this as a very kind of scared person, and did all things i could just to know the reason of that because she never shared it. Going through this time for around a month, one day she told me she wanted to end it all, i reacted to that peacefully thinking that our bond was unbreakable abd this was just not possible and this would get fixed for sure. I assumed it. It didnt go that way, maybe because i just kept assuming and blindly believing that without doing any improvement in myself. It was a summer relationship, now its end of the year. Through this time, i got a lot of recomendations through social media, but i ignored that content. Through all this time, i could not just digest the fact that it had ended. I just kept assuming this was not the reality and everything was going to fix. While in the past month i started to kind of get over it, by kind of telling myself that there are other people out there, but just could not believe that truly. Watched this today and found out a lot of things about myself. First, i was not acknowledging and accepting what was going on in my mind, being insecure. Second, going through a breakup feels as no hope, like the world just ended and its end for us, like we cannot move further in life now. But the reality is, yes it did ended, now you are on your own, and with others around you except your past partner. We need to accept this fact that now maybe doing something more about the past will not change anything, lets grow from it, give ourselves the space and stage to improve. Lets now take acknowledge our past mistakes and learn from them to be a better person. The world has not ended. Its still moving with the same speed as it did in the near past. You are the still the human that your partner loved in the past. Lets embrace that fact and yes we also feel like we lost a lot, but now instead of feeling lost, now give ourselves the space to improve and grow. Lets choose that option. Lets acknowlegde our true feelings. I wrote this all to acknowledge my feelings, maybe it is the first step i took. Kristine, its a christmas present to me, your this video is a true gift for me. I am truly very very thankful to you for this. Even though it not may be significant, but as a human, i am always ready to help you. I will feel very gratfeul in returning this favour. Thank you Kristine. To the pretty human reading it, lets grow and improve through this, lets choose that option. Merry Christmas ❤
To be able to do things clearly the last part is to help others . I thank u for the help.
I feel we all know the “right approach” to some degree in the back of our minds, but reality is often times much uglier and harder to maintain emotional control to properly execute these strategies. for me, it always took a lot of time grieving and to keep pressing forward even if it was hard and felt never ending. I’m glad i’m not dealing with any breakups anymore. people suck.
the subtitles give such a vibe
Thank you for your advice
been waiting for this vid for a min
Immaculate timing 😭🤌
Immaculate timing
Aw love thisssss
your voice sounds like you're holding something back. I hope you're doing well and getting better as you said. love you too
I hope that when i come back here, i am good.
just got dumped December 29th. What a good and horrible timing. We split up mainly because we don’t live in the same city anymore, and I’m studying and won’t be able to move to hers for at least a year and half. We were not toxic at all, tried talking for the most of our problems and loved each other, but distance really got to us, not in a lack of interest and commitment but rather a depressive way to be so apart from each other. Hopefully we’ll be able to reunite some time from now, but up until then I’ll try to become someone she would be proud of.
Congrats on 100k!
Weird this exact day is when it happened.
I broke up with my girlfriend 2 days ago and a series of unrelated videos on relationships and loneliness led me to your channel yesterday, so this is very ironic timing to me.
this video feels like a 2014 video
Was mercury in retrograde or something? Soo many people breaking up these past weeks. And on a random Tuesday aswell 😢
Always slightly surreal when i come across videos like this. Never having been in a romantic relationship, this sentence got me curious:
"The feeling of hope stems from a habit rather than a genuine longing for the person."
a) Hope for what? That everything will be resolved "happily ever after" so to speak?
b) The feeling of hope can be habit? o_O Colour me surprised but I've only ever felt that for one week in the last two decades. I'm trying to think of how would one go about making it a habit (not that I could, even my bad habits are irregular xdd)..
chad broke with me 😂😂😂😂😂😂
❤️
my name is Yan I'm a guy and going thru a 5 year relationship break up. Been 2 months almost. Thanks for this.
woa it showed up just in time.
thank you for this
lmfaoo i was contemplating to release a video with the same title yesterday and was watching you
Ah yes is this the video I ordered?
I haven't ever been with someone, but I know that if given a chance, I'd be the best partner ever. The only thing is that's what I believe. When I think of what "they" might believe, I think that I'd be a let-down for them.
thank you yan ❤
2 hours ago my girl left me with saying I don't wanna see u again.......and u drop this
Here you go Buddy!!!
Hee, hee, hee
My baby's always dancin'
And wouldn't be a bad thing
But I don't get no lovin'
And that's no lie
We spent the night in Frisco
At every kind of disco
From that night I kissed our love goodbye
Don't blame it on the sunshine
Don't blame it on the moonlight
Don't blame it on the good times
Blame it on the boogie
Don't blame it on the sunshine
Don't blame it on the moonlight
Don't blame it on the good times
Blame it on the boogie
That nasty boogie bugs me
But somehow it has drugged me
Spellbound rhythm gets me on my feet
I've changed my life completely
I've seen the lightning leave me
And my baby just can't take her eyes off me
Don't blame it on the sunshine
Don't blame it on the moonlight
Don't blame it on the good times
Blame it on the boogie
Don't you blame it on the sunshine
Don't blame it on the moonlight
Don't blame it on the good times
Blame it on the boogie
Woo
I just can't
I just can't
I just can't control my feet
I just can't
I just can't (yeah)
I just can't control (woo) my feet
I just can't
I just can't
I just can't control my feet
I just can't
I just can't
I just can't control my feet
Sunshine
Don't blame it on the moonlight
Don't blame it on the good times
Blame it on the boogie
Don't blame it on the sunshine
Don't blame it on the moonlight
Don't, on the good times
Blame it on the boogie
This magic music grooves me
That dirty rhythm fools me
The Devil's gotten to me through this dance
I'm full of funky fever
A fire burns inside me
Boogie's got me in a super trance
Don't blame it on the sunshine
Don't blame it on the moonlight
Don't blame it on the good times
Blame it on the boogie
(Don't you blame it)
Sunshine
Don't blame it on the moonlight
Don't blame it on the good times
Blame it on the boogie
Ow
woo
(Moonlight) yeah
(Good times) mmm
(Boogie) you just got to
yeah
(Moonlight)
(Good times) good times
(Boogie)
Don't you blame it (sunshine)
You just got to (moonlight)
You just want to (good times)
Yeah, oh (boogie)
Blame it on yourself (sunshine)
Ain't nobody's fault (moonlight)
But yours and that boogie (good times)
All, all night long (boogie)
Can't stop that boogie (sunshine)
Ain't nobody's fault (moonlight)
But yours and that boogie (good times)
Dancin' all night long (boogie)
Blame it on yourself (sunshine)
Ain't nobody's fault (moonlight)
But yours and that funky
Funky boogie, boogie, (woo) yeah
If it's about thoughts when u filter ur thoughts, U know the answer and deep down u know how any relationship is going. But always ask urself this - "Is this relationship serving me or preparing me for future".
I am leaving this comment here today is 23rd December 2024, I had a breakup with my 4 years of gf. She left me for small arguments, I try to talk and I texted way too many messages and calls but she made her mind. In the past similar things happened but I always used to make her understand that this phase will go but she didn't understand it. We promised a lots of things and she really loved me but over a small fight I taken a small break oof thinking that things will be cool down, but it became worse. It's been 2 week we didn't even talk now. I am so tired of trying every way possible and now she's going back to the other country we didn't even meet as we planned so many things. I don't know what happened in this 7 days she changed this much. I can't even stop myself from thinking about her even for a min. i am feeling like suffocating a lot she was my only friend, best friend after her, I had no one so close. I hope no one ever feel this feeeling.
I'm not sure if this will help or comfort you but many people will be feeling this same way. Broke up with my 2 year gf and in just one night everything changed. I tried giving her 1 week for her to gather her thoughts to give her space and it feels like nothing came of it because i was blocked and left out of contact with someone i knew so deeply. With time things will change its been months now and i have changed I just wish i never had to go through that pain in the first place
Thank you sis 🧎
yan too real fr. i hope you're doing well. :*)
Thanks youtube, recommending a video about this subject with a girl that has the same eyes as her, Thanks for the video thou :)
exact day of my break today what timing the vide is yestrda
Let's go another banger
Its difficult. This person left me in the past, and i only have myself to blame. No, she was not perfect, but I did the unforgivable. When i told her, i haven't seen her since. She was everything to me. I betrayed myself. Years pass by, i still dwell here. I have to live. But she was my lifeim nothing now
It woulda been 3 years today
I love you too. 🌹
Idk why but first minutes or so felt like you just chanted some sort of mantra razer than you spoke through your heart cause it's feeling like you haven't overcome break up yet and trying to throw something inside that hole of yours that came after ending your relationships to not feel de pain of breaking up. I could be wrong but if I not then try not to stick with mantras, but try to create your own space where you could listen to that heart of your where you could feel that sorrow and everything else that you are feeling now because of breaking up and say to you how you feeling honestly, maybe you would cry but go forward and say to you wha are you feeling so, then again move forward an try to imagine your previous partner and say how you feelin and why to his image in your head, then say what wasn't said but wanted to be said an try to say goodbye like for real, take that hope that you plented in him, your dreams with him in it that you dreamed of and take away everything of yours that you put in him away to you and give him everything that he gave you even the happiest moments of your life together, return to you that everything that you put in himself and take back to him that everything that he put to yourself and you will feel relief, try doing it not overthinking just do it with hope in your heart and you will have relust
who are you and why were you recommended to me and why did I watch the whole video and learned something
not a brakup for me, but im in a similar situation, thanks.
any tips? it hurts , we used to walk after every class , if i see her ill break.
I love you too internet lady ❤
Ty Yan
My coworker talking about her ex and I’m like, couldn’t be me since I’m unattractive. 🤭
neva been so early to a vid
Timing is crazy