Same here. It’s very sad because I loved my job before my manager was hired. Then, as Lise said, I loved my new boss lady at first. She was full of promises and love bombing. She said, in front of everyone, I was her favorite! Who says that? Then she turned on me. Now my life is a living nightmare and I have lost 20 pounds because of the stress.
I just left a boss like this. I feel so much better. I didn't realize how much it was taking a toll on me. The sooner you leave the less time you'll need to recover
Actions speak louder than words. If they are speaking but thier actions are the polar oppisite of what they are saying. Well im sure you will find your answer.
People will actually quit and it won't phase the boss one bit. Soon the boss will tell us they were just bad employees, and that is why they quit. Then maybe a day or two later the boss will throw a pity party, saying "I don't deserve this." "I work so hard and these people just quit on me."
Raised by a narcissistic mother and now dealing with a narcissistic boss one thing's for sure. I never repay evil for evil as the Bible teaches not to but rather take a much different approach. This narc-boss I currently deal with has realized if you want to play head games with a psychiatrist, be my guest. What he's learned about me is I talk without showing emotion or anger and become somewhat of a mirror that reflects is own incompetence right back in his face so he definitely doesn't want to tangle with me on a verbal platform. I've shown him in word and actions that I've set borders that I won't allow him to cross. One other thing that I wouldn't suggest to anyone because I don't know your situation but this guy can't stand to be taken with a "whatever" attitude or laughed at. But I will say that I refuse to stand there and take a condescending snarky attitude talking down to me when I'm 25 years his senior. My $.02...
Hospital environment. Honeymoon phase ended and now everyone notices the extreme favoritism. With no effort whatsoever to hide it.. Management completely buys into her failure 100% . I just left. With no plans to return.
I live in a small town and work with a few narcissists. They went as far as breaking into my mailbox taking mail for my vehicle registration. So I don’t get a registration sticker on my license plate. So I went directly to the tax collectors office to get one. No limits on what they’ll do.
"...the most improper job of any man, even saints (who at any rate were at least unwilling to take it on), is bossing other men. Not one in a million is fit for it, and least of all those who seek the opportunity." J.R.R. Tolkien, Oxford Professor, writer, and linguist
Narcissistic bosses & workers will hinder a young man trying to get work experience!! I in my young twenties tried to get experience as a carpenter/cabinent maker over 7-8 years & it was x steps foward & xxx back & these narcs were afraid I would someday take their job!!
Wow, you just described my former boss and one of my former co-workers to a t. Overt and covert narcissists respectively. I wish I knew this before. They wreaked at her havoc on my mental well-being.
A study by a british psychologist named Kevin Dutton about the top 10 professions that attract the most dark triad personalities had Surgeon, Ceo/leadership, Religious leader, media persona etc, etc.. which makes a lot of sense. being in control enables them to have their narcissistic needs met. They influence, control and receive narcissistic supply through admiration, conflict, chaos and praise at work. People who have a lot of dark triad character traits are also able to make tough decisions without much empathy, or regard for people's feelings. Narcissists also tend to have no emotional empathy when it comes to sabotaging for others to further their own corporate growth.
I've experienced many N bosses over the last 30 years. Whether it be love, friendship, family, neighbors, bosses, coworkers, entertainment, sports, religion, politicians, presidents, etc., narcissism is the epidemic of the 21st century, and still rising...
Best I have heard on the narc boss. I have worked for one of these. Such wreckage he created. So many people damaged. I recorded most conversations with him. I survived. Incredible in a religious based small school. Lie, steal, lie again. And he goes on to do it all over again in another school.
Pretty sure my boss was a narc. At the beginning he treated me like royalty, then he had me working in basically two positions at once claiming that I was “earning more money than everyone else”, only to find out people were getting more than me and doing less. Not only, I was harassed (by customers and once by him) and he said it was “not that big of a deal”. Things were going so bad in the work environment but he was putting us employees one against each other, and he would never take accountability for the bad things (it was always someone else’s fault), only for the good ones where he was celebrated like a god. Left and never looking back!
My Current boss is an overt narcissist. She replaced another manager when they left, it was about 3 months of bliss, I was her go to, and she stated that she would not be able to the work without me. But then that all changed. I challenged her on one item and that was it, now it has been two years of hell. As well it turns out that she is a misandrist, she really really hates men. So Im screwed. She has run out all of the other men in the unit and hire two women who are her minions. Anything I do or say, gets back to the boss. Sadly it was my dream job, but now I am looking elsewhere. This job was in Law Enforcement.
I live and work in the UK , recently I had a massive argument with a supervisor who didn't know well the processes of the job and she tried to tell me what to do because of her authority . I pointed out where she was wrong then she initiated a very vicious attack on me. Very aggressive attitude verbally to try to silence me. She even lied. As much as she will try push me out I actually want to leave the job. When we identify an arrogant person, boss in our circle , workplace all we can do is distance, leave the workplace because ignorant people , toxic people don't change.
i'm gonna leave my narc bosses soon. It really drains my life mentally within weeks..days.. n u r right. They always blame me for their mistakes and when there are nothing for them to put me down, they make up stuff just to make me look bad in front of higher ups. what u said are all on point. Even with facts, i am not believed. they took my credit n was thought of as competent by the ceo even when they did nothing but boss my team around. some said that i should work longer till i get a job but personally i feel that before my reputation and mentality is down in the dumps, i should leave
Thank you for explaining. I knew I was dealing with one all signs are there. I felt something about it weeks after being promised so many perks after being hired.
The way to reverse what she said in the beginning of the video, where the Narcissist has the upper-level manager around their finger. That’s true until you expose them for the failure they are.
I’m lucky enough to be part of a great team who see the N boss for what he is. We’ve all got each other’s back. We stand up for each other when he tries to throw anyone under the bus. We hold him accountable. He hates it obviously. I e been in other workplaces where the N singled me out. We’re sweet as pie to everyone else. As a result no one else saw it and I came across as incompetent because they would sabotage me, or a bully and a liar if I tried to report them.
Best of luck to you and your team. This is my ultimate goal with my team to ensure we all have each other's backs. Unfortunately once trust is broken its incredibly difficult to rebuild.
How do i deal with a narcissistic employer who after losing control of me coz i terminated my employment due to his narcissism, proceeded to ruin my reputation with complete, unfounded, malicious, false allegations 2 weeks later?
I’m 99% certain my ex was narcissistic, she certainly had all the traits you mention and treated me like crap. This time last year I got engaged to my ex. A week after she’s talking to a so called make friend about her bedroom antics which I found inappropriate. I got accused of being jealous and she even said she didn’t even fancy the guy. Long story short she ends the relationship 8 months ago with no real reason as to why. Iv had 8 painful long months trying to get over what I now believe to be narcissistic abuse. I’m doing ok recentky and then by accident I find out she’s now on a relationship with that very person she was talking about sex with.. I’m not sure how I feel. Not sure how I should feel. I still feel betrayed.. 8 months on and I’m Angry about the fact she’s now with this guy.. she told me she’s never loved anyone ad much as she did me…. Now she appears so happy with the guy she claimed she didn’t even fancy.. Why do I feel like this after 8 months? Is it even acceptable?
Everyone kisses their arse and everyone gathers around them and they love it. They will be talking in a group being the center of attention and notice who isn't listening and if it's your boss they will make sure to reward you. I have been treated like a dog by who I expect to be a Narc and I avoid this person like it crapped it's pants. I think they know how I feel because I don't fake it.
That is my boss and her flying monkey minion. Through gossip, triangulation manipulation and outright covert intimidation, they've forced my friendships and work interactions with colleagues to go underground and in hiding because they were triggered by them. Now I'm totally isolated at work and basically in solitary confinement while surrounded by people. F 'em.
Who else has noticed how utterly incompetent narcs are at work, especially bosses?
that is my boss. I am sure I need to leave but it is not easy to find a new good job.
Same position. But it’s easier to leave than manage and repair the damage to physical and mental health 💜
Same here. It’s very sad because I loved my job before my manager was hired. Then, as Lise said, I loved my new boss lady at first. She was full of promises and love bombing. She said, in front of everyone, I was her favorite! Who says that? Then she turned on me. Now my life is a living nightmare and I have lost 20 pounds because of the stress.
Capitalism rewards the narcissists, psychopaths, and sociopaths.
And there are so many narcissistic bosses out there
Very true..I don't want to leave the job just because of a person but panic attacks aren't worth it 😢
I just left a boss like this. I feel so much better. I didn't realize how much it was taking a toll on me. The sooner you leave the less time you'll need to recover
So true! Glad you were able to leave
@@LiseLeblanc thank you.
Took me 2 years. Wicked people. They know how to bind you to a spell of confusion.
Actions speak louder than words. If they are speaking but thier actions are the polar oppisite of what they are saying. Well im sure you will find your answer.
I totally agree with that - my boss is all talk with NO follow-up.
People will actually quit and it won't phase the boss one bit. Soon the boss will tell us they were just bad employees, and that is why they quit. Then maybe a day or two later the boss will throw a pity party, saying "I don't deserve this." "I work so hard and these people just quit on me."
So true!
Raised by a narcissistic mother and now dealing with a narcissistic boss one thing's for sure. I never repay evil for evil as the Bible teaches not to but rather take a much different approach. This narc-boss I currently deal with has realized if you want to play head games with a psychiatrist, be my guest. What he's learned about me is I talk without showing emotion or anger and become somewhat of a mirror that reflects is own incompetence right back in his face so he definitely doesn't want to tangle with me on a verbal platform. I've shown him in word and actions that I've set borders that I won't allow him to cross. One other thing that I wouldn't suggest to anyone because I don't know your situation but this guy can't stand to be taken with a "whatever" attitude or laughed at. But I will say that I refuse to stand there and take a condescending snarky attitude talking down to me when I'm 25 years his senior. My $.02...
Wow, I worked for both the overt manager and covert supervisor simultaneously. it was a tag team of gas liters.
Hospital environment. Honeymoon phase ended and now everyone notices the extreme favoritism. With no effort whatsoever to hide it.. Management completely buys into her failure 100% .
I just left. With no plans to return.
Bingo 🎯
I agree with everything you said, but also think there's a mixture of vulnerable and grandiose traits sometimes.
In my experience with these people, you are absolutely correct. No clear line between the two.
I live in a small town and work with a few narcissists. They went as far as breaking into my mailbox taking mail for my vehicle registration. So I don’t get a registration sticker on my license plate. So I went directly to the tax collectors office to get one. No limits on what they’ll do.
I recorded her today ranting about her boss. I’m working on getting an appointment with her higher up!
Good luck. It probably won't work. They can lie their way out of almost anything.
One thing is for sure... no two. They are never held accountable by upper management and they get away with everything.
But why?!
Capitalism rewards the narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths.
@@mohamedmagdy3697money
@@mohamedmagdy3697because they wear a mask that others cant see
To be frank they are the upper management most of the times
"...the most improper job of any man, even saints (who at any rate were at least unwilling to take it on), is bossing other men. Not one in a million is fit for it, and least of all those who seek the opportunity."
J.R.R. Tolkien, Oxford Professor, writer, and linguist
Right. We should work under leaders, not managers, not bosses.
Narcissistic bosses & workers will hinder a young man trying to get work experience!! I in my young twenties tried to get experience as a carpenter/cabinent maker over 7-8 years & it was x steps foward & xxx back & these narcs were afraid I would someday take their job!!
Wow, you just described my former boss and one of my former co-workers to a t. Overt and covert narcissists respectively. I wish I knew this before. They wreaked at her havoc on my mental well-being.
A study by a british psychologist named Kevin Dutton about the top 10 professions that attract the most dark triad personalities had Surgeon, Ceo/leadership, Religious leader, media persona etc, etc.. which makes a lot of sense. being in control enables them to have their narcissistic needs met. They influence, control and receive narcissistic supply through admiration, conflict, chaos and praise at work. People who have a lot of dark triad character traits are also able to make tough decisions without much empathy, or regard for people's feelings. Narcissists also tend to have no emotional empathy when it comes to sabotaging for others to further their own corporate growth.
I've experienced many N bosses over the last 30 years. Whether it be love, friendship, family, neighbors, bosses, coworkers, entertainment, sports, religion, politicians, presidents, etc., narcissism is the epidemic of the 21st century, and still rising...
yepp
Hiding in their office - exactly.
How much work can she get away with not doing before someone notices??
Sad but true they suck up to corporate bosses for sure.
Best I have heard on the narc boss. I have worked for one of these. Such wreckage he created. So many people damaged.
I recorded most conversations with him.
I survived. Incredible in a religious based small school. Lie, steal, lie again.
And he goes on to do it all over again in another school.
Pretty sure my boss was a narc. At the beginning he treated me like royalty, then he had me working in basically two positions at once claiming that I was “earning more money than everyone else”, only to find out people were getting more than me and doing less.
Not only, I was harassed (by customers and once by him) and he said it was “not that big of a deal”.
Things were going so bad in the work environment but he was putting us employees one against each other, and he would never take accountability for the bad things (it was always someone else’s fault), only for the good ones where he was celebrated like a god. Left and never looking back!
Effin spot ON!
My Current boss is an overt narcissist. She replaced another manager when they left, it was about 3 months of bliss, I was her go to, and she stated that she would not be able to the work without me. But then that all changed. I challenged her on one item and that was it, now it has been two years of hell. As well it turns out that she is a misandrist, she really really hates men. So Im screwed. She has run out all of the other men in the unit and hire two women who are her minions. Anything I do or say, gets back to the boss. Sadly it was my dream job, but now I am looking elsewhere. This job was in Law Enforcement.
Look for another job.
Thank you. Amazing how accurate everything you said is
I live and work in the UK , recently I had a massive argument with a supervisor who didn't know well the processes of the job and she tried to tell me what to do because of her authority . I pointed out where she was wrong then she initiated a very vicious attack on me. Very aggressive attitude verbally to try to silence me. She even lied. As much as she will try push me out I actually want to leave the job.
When we identify an arrogant person, boss in our circle , workplace all we can do is distance, leave the workplace because ignorant people , toxic people don't change.
I’d love to work for someone like Lise! Maybe one day.
i'm gonna leave my narc bosses soon. It really drains my life mentally within weeks..days.. n u r right. They always blame me for their mistakes and when there are nothing for them to put me down, they make up stuff just to make me look bad in front of higher ups. what u said are all on point. Even with facts, i am not believed. they took my credit n was thought of as competent by the ceo even when they did nothing but boss my team around. some said that i should work longer till i get a job but personally i feel that before my reputation and mentality is down in the dumps, i should leave
Bulldozer! The right word
Thank you for explaining. I knew I was dealing with one all signs are there. I felt something about it weeks after being promised so many perks after being hired.
6:36 Sounds like my husband at work and at home… wants a leadership position without the responsibility or accountability for anything.
Yes .My GENERAL Foreman is THAT GUY! Keeps a little black book that the terminal superintendent believes is the “holy grail “!
The way to reverse what she said in the beginning of the video, where the Narcissist has the upper-level manager around their finger. That’s true until you expose them for the failure they are.
We work 8-6 for their own pleasure while we keep sacrificing our own happiness every single day? Not worth it!
I’m lucky enough to be part of a great team who see the N boss for what he is. We’ve all got each other’s back. We stand up for each other when he tries to throw anyone under the bus. We hold him accountable. He hates it obviously.
I e been in other workplaces where the N singled me out. We’re sweet as pie to everyone else. As a result no one else saw it and I came across as incompetent because they would sabotage me, or a bully and a liar if I tried to report them.
Best of luck to you and your team. This is my ultimate goal with my team to ensure we all have each other's backs. Unfortunately once trust is broken its incredibly difficult to rebuild.
100% accurate!
You are so right! I'm on her radar. Second individual with these Tendencies.
But now finally i match the energy. Praise God
Great information and explanation - spot on!!
How do i deal with a narcissistic employer who after losing control of me coz i terminated my employment due to his narcissism, proceeded to ruin my reputation with complete, unfounded, malicious, false allegations 2 weeks later?
This is my supervisor 100%!!
This is the one... ❤
I’m 99% certain my ex was narcissistic, she certainly had all the traits you mention and treated me like crap.
This time last year I got engaged to my ex. A week after she’s talking to a so called make friend about her bedroom antics which I found inappropriate. I got accused of being jealous and she even said she didn’t even fancy the guy.
Long story short she ends the relationship 8 months ago with no real reason as to why. Iv had 8 painful long months trying to get over what I now believe to be narcissistic abuse. I’m doing ok recentky and then by accident I find out she’s now on a relationship with that very person she was talking about sex with..
I’m not sure how I feel. Not sure how I should feel. I still feel betrayed.. 8 months on and I’m Angry about the fact she’s now with this guy.. she told me she’s never loved anyone ad much as she did me…. Now she appears so happy with the guy she claimed she didn’t even fancy..
Why do I feel like this after 8 months? Is it even acceptable?
Alot of women doing this mate... i was with one did the same thing now she married the guy and had another kid. Her name's not Lozi B is it? lol
@@MrSwaggOn na mate, she’s known as NARC to me now..😀
@@Farm_Sim_Brisco Thats what i see too!
Virtual hug. You got this. I was in hell this time last year as well. Time heals. Thankfully I escaped but not unscathed.
You will be okay . Rest, breathe, workout, take time out for yourself.
How true is this, thanks for sharing
Wow! You hit the nails on the head 🎉
Spot on again
1: kinda 2:yes absolutely 3: kinda 4: no 5: yes
Thanks
Everyone kisses their arse and everyone gathers around them and they love it. They will be talking in a group being the center of attention and notice who isn't listening and if it's your boss they will make sure to reward you. I have been treated like a dog by who I expect to be a Narc and I avoid this person like it crapped it's pants. I think they know how I feel because I don't fake it.
That is my boss and her flying monkey minion. Through gossip, triangulation manipulation and outright covert intimidation, they've forced my friendships and work interactions with colleagues to go underground and in hiding because they were triggered by them. Now I'm totally isolated at work and basically in solitary confinement while surrounded by people. F 'em.
All tasks come with a legion of flying monkeys.
PREACH!!!!
Anyone that fails to listen to your perspective is betraying you behind your back
When the moon is finally colonised we should put narco bosses on it