Overcoming Loneliness after a Breakup or Divorce | Stephanie Lyn Coaching 2022 | Breakup Recovery
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Great advice. I think that's the hardest thing to remember..."I won't feel like this tomorrow".
It is but it is the truth. What you're feeling is just the detaching and the emotional fears that your mind will create.
The loneliness is almost overwhelming but the peace and quiet that I experience each day is wonderful! 🕊
I am loving the peace and quiet as well not really lonely been working on self care self love healing no contact been pretty much in solitude now for 2 months I don't know when that'll break...
@@lisavansant961 Thank you Lisa! Self-care and even self loving are so critical in times like this! I'm happy that you are finding peace in your solitude! BTW! Have you ever heard Billie Holiday's recording of "solitude"!
I hear you. I feel the same.
Never let the fear of being alone prevent you from leaving a toxic relationship. By taking baby steps each day to heal, feel, process and grieve your loss the trauma bond will burst. Once this happens you will begin to experience the pure joy of spending time alone with yourself, by yourself. 💛
9 months out and I agree with this statement. After work, college and babysitting, I enjoy alone time😌
@@realliving7340 Congratulations on your 9 months out.🎉 With how busy life is I absolutely love whenever I have time to myself. It's completely different when you're alone taking time to be with yourself then when you're alone and empty with a toxic partner sitting right next to you. Good luck in college. It's a lot of work, but it will be worth it in the end.💛
@@Goldenheart2911 Thank you so much! ❤
Divorce 3 months ago. Literally where I’m at and good to hear this is normal. I’m working on self. Just bought a new house. Joined a CrossFit gym. Did a weekend vacation to Austin by myself. Learning to love myself and grow.
@Patricia Tomson Such a liar & scammer. Peddle your crap somewhere else.
Man you are kicking butt. Hope you are a lot better today. I too joined a gym and learning how to live my new life. Hard and lonely but I know it’s not forever. How are you today? Wondering if things really changed in a year for you
Good stuff man. 2 months for me and I live in Austin
Thank you. At 74, living alone, this advice was good for me too. Being single is so peaceful, but it is lonely.
I hear you!
I don’t know if traveling is of any interest to you… there are groups on Facebook of women over 50 and over 60 who travel alone.
Many have way more courage and money 🤷♀️ then I do, but it’s fascinating to see new places and very inspiring to see women doing this on their own!
65 and trying for the first time in my life to live alone, after leavibg an abusive toxic 2nd marrage. Some days I get so overwhelmed with the lonliness for the 'Idealised' ruminations that it almost cripples me with anxiety and panic attacks. The trauma and destruction of living and leaving an abuser is incredibly deep and numbingly lonley.
@@veronicabrannigan6594 me too 69 and for the first time trying to live alone it's been peaceful and quiet finally but there is a flip side to the coin I am certainly not ready to go out and have another relationship.
I agree with you Wendy it is peaceful but lonely I'm living alone for the first time... 69
@@ThatNiravGuy yep I'm almost 10 months out from leaving him and right now just healing figuring out what would make me happy and create a new life it's not an easy task especially when you don't want to be out and about if you know what I mean.
Please make tips on how to overcome loneliness in general. People who are friendless. Without a partner. People who are literally alone. Thank you.
If you are open try to reach a small welcoming and lovely Church, being surrounded by a lovely community helps and makes a big change because you are not judged by them, join a women’s group.
You need to allow friends into your life and reach out more. Hopefully you have some family or some friends in your life.
I would like such a video too
@@saintejeannedarc9460
That does not help. Is like answering someone’s question about “how do I get more fish?” And answering it with “duh, you go fishing!”.
One does not simply go to a drive through and order a box of friends with some fries and a diet coke. That’s no advice at all.
@@americancitizen1885 I wasn't wordy and could have been more explicit, but you do have to reach out and allow people in. You can't catch fish if you never leave the house, never go near water and never get a rod. Most people have work acquaintences or maybe old friends they haven't hung out w/ in awhile. That's what I did. Got in contact w/ 3 old friends and they all wanted to reconnect. I started taking my family up on invitations and dropping in more.
I've been doing things by myself for myself for years. Started out with little things like going to movies on $5 "Tuesdays and buying food and going to park and having a little picnic by myself. This past 4th of July weekend, I drove to Oregon from SF Bay area by myself and explored some beautiful waterfalls on my hikes there. Stopped at as many places as I wanted to and took all the pics to fill my heart.I love nature and photography. My family called me psycho for doing " stupid shit" by myself. No body saw my courage and bravery and acknowledged my strength and capabilities as a strong self loving, independent woman who didn't want another long weekend go to waste because of false promises. We are just at different stages of our journey. I love being with myself. It's the most rewarding care I can give myself. Thank you Stephanie for your continued inspiration 💗
Your comment is so motivating! I enjoy similar interests. Will start doing this❤
Your comment is lovely. I love doing the same kinds of things. It is hard to start doing them alone again but I will. You are an inspiration my dear. Good luck with your journey. From SE WI....Lake Country.
I’m so used to doing things by myself after many years of learning to become comfortable with solitude and loneliness, that when someone said “you went to the mall alone? “, I was quite confused about what they were talking about and frankly still am 😅😂
I'm proud of you!
Hi dear, nothing wrong with you! Greetings from Brazil!🇧🇷
Being alone is a superpower and strength!! It takes courage and bravery.
Look…. I’ve done all those things by myself. I’ve done everything by myself. To the point i am sick of it. It’s when it’s late at night that the loneliness gets me the hardest.
Yes I 100% agree. It's hardest at night. I've found that reading a book can help. Sending internet hugs
I'm a 76 year old retired man coming out of a trauma bonded marriage. I know I need to find myself, nuture myself at this late period of my life. It's the toughest thing I have done in 76 years. I often feel I will end before this feeling does. Stephanie's video is a real plus. Thank you Steph.
You are amazing. Enjoy your life❤
Right here with you brother. We men as well as women have to relearn things we never expected to do. You can make it. Small steps ..one at a time.
Same here at 63
Perfect timing. Feeling sad and lonely today and doing nothing. It’s been a little over 3 months since she left.
I feel ya brother. 2 months since mine ended. I'm choosing to walk the path of healing alone instead of dating to get over the x. I think I miss the interaction as much as anything. I go to the gym regularly and honestly have a fantastic life. But I'm still coming to terms with being alone most of the time.
Hanging tough with you guys. It's not easy but things worth doing never are.
Six months coming up, but who’s counting? (…whispers to himself, 150 days now).
Wounds take time to heal, …I’m learning not to pick at it.
@Nicki Chen thanks. One step forward and two back. At least the bad days are getting further apart.
Hang in there
7 months for me
It feels different after growing up spending most of my time alone and most of my time as an adult alone, finally meeting someone with similar interests and a similar perspective, spending so much time with that person, and then suddenly being alone all the time again. I don’t have to learn how to do things alone. I was already doing that. I just had this wonderful short period of my life where I didn’t, and now I’m back where I started off.
I get you, I feel the same 😢
Same! 3-4 years of not being lonely and here I'm again.
I am in the same boat as you. I have exactly same story as yours!! I keep asking myself "being alone is nothing new to me so why is it so hard and painful now? If you have any tips please let me knw.
Same. 4 years together a year apart then a few months back together and now back to square one. I hope we figure this out
Feeling overwhelming loneliness after a recent break up due to dishonesty and infidelity.
I understood to exit the relationship knowing it wasn't healthy or genuine.
I felt empowered walking away but I'm still grieving the loss of my partner. I miss him terribly.
But I am pulling myself together as best I can. It's been only a week, still recent so I know it's going to take longer than this to heal.
Thank you for your messages! ❤
I caught my wife cheating me 7 days ago. I'm sleeping in my frienda house with no idea of how to restart. So many things going through my mind now and she even calling me names and hating on me after what she did. It is insane someone can act like that . But you know what...it hurts like hell but I will survive. You will be fines...and we are both laughing about it soon
@@Luketa1978 Hi neighbor!
I'm sorry for what you are going through, I would be devastated and feel so personally offended, as you may feel.
Sounds like the way you are being treated is the result of her own guilt and so she is making you to be the bad guy, when you are the victim.
I hope you gain clarity on the truth, and find it in yourself to rebuild you, knowing you still have value, so much to offer. ♥
@@Luketa1978 Thank you!
Being alone after almost half of my life with someone, I’ve had two long-term relationships, one ended after 6 years, the other at 7 years… i’m finally experiencing what it feels like to be completely alone and it is scary and surreal. I hope I get through this. I’m still grieving the loss of my seven-year relationship as it just happened last March.
So sorry :(
😢I feel you on this 2 months for me I’m taking everyday as a blessing.
Things happen for a reason
14 years with someone then now we are total strangers the best way for me to move on
I hope you are doing well. We are all stronger than we think
About two months ago I went to a coffyshop on my own for the first time...thought everyone was going to stare and wonder why this guy is alone...but I was fine. Last week in June I went on holiday for a week on my own...loved it! Did what I wanted to do.
Good on you, there appears to be a stigma attached to men going to places alone whereas females do it all the time and no one blinks an eye
The end of my relationship was nasty. They really went out their way to hurt and scare me, cold and violent, then turning me into the villain. The loneliness is hard. The pain and fear is agonising. But I feel the smallest bit better than yesterday. I just want to be on my own for a while.
How are you going a year on?
@steveholden9139
I am okay! I got hurt again after this, pretty recently, with someone lovebombing me for a month, but I've found the power of boundaries and self love 😅 So, I take it day by day.
This is exactly what happened to me yesterday. Why is it so hard to be our best friend....
I wonder if it's bc I say the self parenting things and the affirmations. But the little voice in my head just rages that I'm fooling myself. It will be a process to build trust in myself and silence the critic that has haunted me for decades.
Sometimes we are the "worst enemy". But we can try to be a better friend a little at a time.
being your best friend is just about practice. it is not something you practice everyday. if you become super aware of this new skill then you can begin practicing it and you may not always be the nicest to yourself just like you are not always the perfect, daughter, son, or friend but we get up and do better next time.
Christian author and speaker Joyce Meyer suggests that loneliness is a result of not liking ourselves more than it is about not having people around us. She believes that our fears about ourselves as well as our fear of disapproval and rejection keep us behind walls in an effort to protect ourselves and avoid emotional pain. I believe this was true for me for a long time due to divorce and other relationship breakups. Grieving the losses, creating a new path, and building a relationship with Jesus have been part of my healing journey.
This is what helped get a more true of a relationship with God. I’ve watched a lot of Joyce Meyer. She’s helped me tremendously
Me too! Some don’t care for her but she helped me get into the Word. I appreciate her no-nonsense approach. Take care 🌸
Amen!
It stinks when you miss someone that in hindsight had so many red flags.
The summer kicks in, you have so many plans with them and now it’s not an option.
Nice knowing based off the comments you’re not alone.
Thank you so much. Single for 2,5 weeks. My ex broke up with me on a vacation and just 2 days later he downloaded all three dating apps and was telling me how we got invited on dates. I’m happy we broke up, but this feeling of loneliness sits in me so hard, it feels unbearable sometimes. Fortunately it comes in waves. But this hits so hard. To become my own best friend- this is my new goal. But I’m scared.
"Becoming your own best friend." I love this. Going through a breakup now and am shocked at how reliant I became on another person. There is a big shift of getting back to having a self reliant relationship with me, myself, and I. Thank you so much for this lovely video
I can not tell you how much this video means to me. You described how I’m feeling perfectly. My wife left me after 14 years. Even after I was there for her throughout her breast cancer treatment. This pain is so unbearable I can barely function. I would never harm myself but right now if death took me it would kind of be welcomed. When she explained how I would finally get better over time it gave me some hope. I pray for that time to come because I am in agony right now.
So sad, I was to the same 14 years it’s been 2 months since he left me, I was there for him when his father passed suddenly grief changes ppl I was there for him his family but
Later on I felt like a doormat, he was still grieving never
Opened up and just felt like he just needed to be with me not want to be with me, but I count the breakup as a blessing life i too short I have focused all my love to my family I no longer care for him what he does. I’ve rallied my value and what I want in life but I love the peace and quiet.
I know the feeling soomeone you spent alll you life with talk to everyday, see everyday now they are total strangers ppl change
I feel you I’m going through a divorce after 20 years and every song I hear and place I go reminds of my past with her. We have a 14 yo son and I talk to him a lot because I miss him too. I can’t tell you how to cope because I’m so sad I can’t breath,eat or sleep. Your not alone.
all i want is feeling companionship,true friendship, true love. I just spent 24 years without feeling desired/wanted, shown affection. to have someone caring. noone can understand how this pain is. :(
I was married for 51 yrs to same guy & now we’re going thru a divorce- he is an abusive card carrying narcissist- I stayed way too long & I finally left. I’m so angry with him, so bitter & so angry with myself for putting up with him all those years. The grief, sadness & loneliness I did not expect. No one told me how I would feel. I’m 72 - I feel like my life is over. I try going out & doing stuff by myself & it makes it even worse. People who promised they would be there for me, take me places etc aren’t. It’s like I scare them off & it’s not like I’m crying & talking about me & my divorce. I act happy when I’m around people so I guess they assume I just fine. I’m not- I’m broken.
God bless you. I pray you’re further along in your journey toward healing than 2 months ago when you wrote this comment. I’m also getting through a divorce from a “card carrying narcissist” We can do this!!!
This is true. I was so lonely at one point after my divorce my only outlet were gaming gambling online and Pornography, till I allowed a Ghanaian foreign student to live in my place. I can't put into words how much I came to value human interaction. My divorce had left me with nothing but my house and very little savings. Speaking to that young man in the evenings helped me a great deal and I was able to learn a thing or two from his world. I owned a cat and a dog but they weren't cutting it off for me.
I’ve left my 13 yrs of marriage last week. It’s very hard after walking away from it. I am watching your video to learn and take care of myself.
Great advice. As you said, just when i thought i passed that grieving stage after the divorce, this week the angry and loneliness came back. Instead of fighting back or repressing it, i allowed myself to cry and to feel angry. It is not an easy process but I will get over it.
I have never be this alone in my life, but I am now finding me. This is so scary at times. I know that it is the little hurt abandon boy inside me.
Thanks Stephanie you have been a GOD send in these dark days of my life.
Thank you for helping me see my work clearly.
Now, what am I to do? lol
Thank you so much for this! It was spot on. My best friend & fiancé just broke up with me last week. Right now, it feels like I will never get beyond this. Yesterday, I was thinking that it feels like a huge weight has been tied around my heart that hurts, exhausts me, & makes me feel like basic things are so hard to accomplish. This is everything I needed to hear! Thank you for all that you do, Stephanie!
That feeling like you can't even take a deep breath past the pain. I hope you're past that. I am, most of the time and I consider myself fortunate to be near that other side. Esp. considering it's only been a month that he moved out. He's still w/ the girl he cheated w/, but claims he regrets what he did every day and wishes he'd made the choice to really work it out w/ me. Too late for that, since he got one chance.
I'm sorry
Both are very painful. Praying better days are ahead.
You are the big part of my journey. I had just ended a Narcissistic relationship and I was so codepent and toxic. As I know you, I know what is true self-love and practice it day by day and my life had got better so far.
Watching your videos everyday. I just want to say thank you so much. Wish you the best 💜
You may experience grief, anger, sadness and even joy after a divorce... and know that the challenges you had to go through during that relationship, has made you the person that you are today.
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It been over 3 years since my ex cheated and left haven't dated anyone since. I try to focus on being there for my 16 year old son but it is so lonely. I refuse to go on dating sites to meet someone but my biggest fear is never finding honest love again. Part of me is scared of being hurt the other part is still hoping life would go back to the way it was. Learning how-to take care of me and my son alone has been hard however I am proud of how far we both have come!!! Gods timing right
I’m right there with you on refusing to go on dating sites and I also fear that love won’t find me or I won’t be able to find it. I’m hoping that after a year you might have an update and some words of wisdom? All the best
I agree with not going on dating sites. I did accept a friend's date with a male friend this Saturday. I can't stay at home forever.
I agree with not going on dating sites. I did accept a friend's date with a male friend this Saturday. I can't stay at home forever.
I’m just now coming to this realization and pushing myself to do things for myself and by myself like going to the gym and the pool alone! It is empowering and I didn’t want to do any of it but I did it anyway and I was really proud of myself and felt good about myself afterwards. Good to know I’m on the right track.
I played your video because I was feeling lonely after a recent break up of three years living with my ex. Your words were comforting and uplifting and really great. Thank You ❤
Spot on. Can't wait until I get there. 2 steps forward, one back
🙏🏽🌸The loneliness I can live with ☮️🕊the chaos & control I couldn’t 💃🏽
just got dumped after 6 years relationship...I am hoping to get some good advice from this video. The feeling of loneliness, without love, without the effection and touch of a loving partner is killing me, nearly literally.
How are you currently?
“Healing is a lifestyle”~yours truly ❤️❤️
Stephanie, I have to tell you how incredibly impactful your channel and insight has helped me through so much ❤️ Your heartfelt and thoughtful advice somehow speaks to me like others haven’t been able to get me🙂 Thank you so much for sharing your healing journey with us as it’s incredibly healing and helpful ❤️❤️
I'm so glad the videos have helped!
The magic phrase..." being my best friend " ... love it. Thank you.
Wow. Thank you for this video. I need to write every word down
You can be alone and yet not lonely when you learn to embrace your uniqueness one step at a time 🤍
This is a hard thing to learn...and a great tool if you can do it.
You just hit it on the nail for me. Helps having someone outside of myself say everything I’ve been thinking but won’t say out loud to anyone
The things you had to say about learning from loneliness are the first I’ve heard in my 42 years. So life changing for me to hear your words. Thank you. 💙
This video made me
Burst in tears, it’s like you knew exactly the way I am feeling and you had the exact words to say about this, thank you so so much
I gave this to my mom she suffers horrible loneliness.
Empathy is a nice thing in a child. Sadly I don't see much in my two teens but get a fair amount from my 7yr old. I wonder if he will lose it as he ages.
I've always been okay being by myself. Even when I was in a marriage, I was by myself. But when I divorced, I suddenly couldn't be by myself.
I don’t mind doing stuff by myself. The issue is that I am getting tired of it. Some days I am fine, some other days I am miserable and I see no end to it. I guess i just need to believe that I will not feel like this forever. I am a few months into a separation.
I am still struggling with this after three months. Granted it was a ten year relationship that had its ups and downs. Ex moved on immediately after breakup (we are no contact) and I’m honestly trying to be ok with being single. Your videos are helpful. Thank you
That's true, something to hold on to... "I didn't sign up for this". Absolutely!
Thank you for this video! Perfect timing. I been going through a very hard time the past few days and feel I need help. I know I need to work on myself but the process doing it alone is so hard. I appreciate your videos and helping the community.
I have a good friend who reminds me, "I'm single, I'm not alone". That does help my perspective. It's still hard to be single again, but the perspective of feeling lonely, rather than alone does help a bit.
@@saintejeannedarc9460 thank you for this!
@@djstreamtv You're welcome, and I'm glad it helped in some way. What do you feel you need help w/? If you want to tell a bit of your story here, it might help to get it off your chest. I, or others may be able to offer some insights.
Great advice. You're amazing. I needed this today. Thank you.
3yr now lose of friends family all are to into there lives I'm a fifth wheel now there so much disconnect with all. So each day that goes buy I'm grateful for I like building and restoring. I have notice that a lot of women are home body's I'm getting ready to turn 70 been thru 3 toxic narc relationship and learned who I am. It just seems sad this late in life. Love your videos keep up the good work.
Thank you so much, you are the first one to ever say it was normal for the grief to reappear maybe even years later. That's exactly what I'm in the midst of ....7 yrs later😢
Thank you I received this BIG HUG!
You are so welcome!
I’ve learnt to love and accept myself and do the things you mention on my own. Still it’d be lovely to share life with someone. I am hopeful, which is I think a good sign🌞
Awesome advice Stephanie! I've been following you for quite a while now, your words and wisdom got me through the end of a Narcissistic relationship. I've come through it! I Wish I had found you years ago, but I know life unfolds as it should. I'm post 3 years from that relationship and still single, I on a very rare occasion think of him when I get lonely, but soon remind myself it's not him I miss, it's human connection etc... I've been meeting men , however now being free from codependency I can see the person in front of me without rose colored glasses on! In part from your help! God bless you for taking your time, your knowledge and commitment to helping others! Thank you! 🙏💞
been doing all of this for over a year now. I have accomplished things that terrified me. I challenge myself daily ..yet I still feel I will be alone the rest of my life.
I like the 'we' concept of us being our own best friend and taking it from there one day at a time. All your words are gold. They hit the deepest part of the soul and i am thankful i found this channel as i am going through a rough phase of heartbreak.
When a person starts dating someone new, there is an adjustment period. Most people know this.
When a person moves from one area to another, there is an adjustment period. People just accept this.
Every time there is a major change in life, it's healthy to allow yourself time to adjust.
Adjusting to being single, living alone is also a life situation that requires an adjustment time.
Most people fight this.
They go out looking for someone out of loneliness, fear of being alone, maybe even a bit horny, wanting to fit in as most of the world is based on couples. This is so unhealthy, it often leads to someone taking up with someone, just about anyone will do.
In place of fighting the loneliness, fighting the fear, feeling like a misfit, let yourself adjust to being single & doing things by yourself. Fighting the adjustment period only produces loneliness plus many other unpleasantries in life.
When you let yourself adjust, instead of fighting it, it makes you a stronger, happier person. You will know that you have adjusted when you feel happy & content with your own company. Also, when having a romantic engagement with another person in your life is not essential to your happiness.
With someone or without someone, you are happy either way.
Yep, I have done this. It gives the peace in mind, body, spirit better than being with another person could ever give.
@Esther Hicks Seriously, scammer???? Using a name that is not yours, insinuating that you are someone who is famous is stooping low, even for a scammer.
I’m 1month in to being single divorce is in progress I’ve lost my self love &self care this guy had numerous affairs all ‘23 and I just found out about a month ago😩 it’s so heartbreaking I’ve nvr been alone I’ve always raced to bring him home and keep him here! Now that I’m by myself I FEEL LIKE I CRY EVERYDAY I find excuses to not go out in public I look at myself in the mirror and I feel like a I’m a sickly person 😭 I recently got myself together to tell him to leave and to set up Dr appointments for my health BUT IM SCARED IDK WHERE IM GOING😭💔💔💔 not only that but my phone rings off the hook hopefully it’ll be changed soon
Thank you Stephanie for your work. Have learnt so much real n useful stuff from you. :)
This, too, shall pass, was great
Thank you for the hope❤️😭
This too shall pass
This message the really helpful, easy to understand, and is share-worthy with a plethora of others.
Stephanie you speak to me like nobody else. Your compassion and love towards as is amazing and I just want to tell you that you are being appreciated.
Thank you for your time effort and care 😘
I went through a lot of financial crisis after my divorce, I had to raise my two kids alone, Currently I'm living smart and frugal with my money. Bought my second house already. Saving and investing lifestyle made it possible for me; even till now I earn monthly through passive income. I'm planning on retiring when my kids finish college,just hope it encourages someone that it doesn’t matter if you don’t have any of them right now, you can start TODAY regardless your age INVEST and change your future! Investing is a grand choice I made. Great video!
Yes that’s me I feel like when the time is right for a new relationship, it’s not hard to do things on my own, I just miss being in a relationship the pros and cons. But I know it was for the best just gotta move forward
While I can't say I'm not that magical "other side" quite yet, I'm getting much closer. I ended a 10 year relationship due his 2nd infidelity, w/ a girl half our age. The whole ordeal of finding out, then the redo, then to find out he was back w/ her months later was devastating. I had to be the one to end it and drive him out. He's only been out this month, and the adjustment to single again is difficult. Cheating trauma aside, there are so many little things like you mentioned to adjusting to doing the dailies alone. I have a good friend who pounds it into me, "You are not alone", if I slip up and say that. He reminds me I'm single now and it's a big difference from being alone and having no one. A reminder that so many others go through all these difficult reajustments is comforting too. There are so many little triggers in a day that remind me I'm doing things single. Like simply getting a laundry ready, but no elses cloths to mix it w/ sooner. I'm adjusting though. In so many months, these little things will be more second nature again as that void closes and the new normal becomes more comfortable. It was so discombobulating at first, along w/ the grief.
Thank you, this really helped me.
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I love every word in This message. Thank you!
Thank you this helped a lot.
The reality ,surpression ,logic points
Thank you!
You always make me feel better after watching your videos.
God bless you 🙏
😢divorce is very painful. 2 years after I still feel a bit bitter I did a lot better alone with my life like I am healthy I got my driving license all by myself. I'm 90% responsible with my financial situation with our child.but I still feel bitter sometimes knowing his with somebody. 😢😢
Great instructional video
Loved this ❤
Life...by myself
Sometimes I want to cry.
I feel like I just broke out of my cocoon and now I’m getting used to being a butterfly.
I hope there’s a video related to forgiving myself when I know it was all my fault and I was the one who sabotaged the relationship.
Great Video and tip`s :D i have sort of accepted and managed the loneliness from young age becauuse of no frends and later never girlfrend, but now in my 36 i struggle more with loneliness, but you had great tips on going outside and push doing things :D ps you look like a angel :)
You read my mind Stephanie ..I’ve been so lonely after breakup with dismissive avoidant ex. Why do I miss him? There’s other guys trying to be with me and they’re nicer but my heart is shattered so how can I love or trust again?
YOU ARE SOOOOO AMAZING!!!!
Thank you for posting this. I needed it.
This was so extremely helpful, thank you. ❤️❤️
Your voice makes me feel lonely and cold.
Thanks for the powerful and uplifting message. Do have a wonderful day and remain blessed Steff!
After my wife had affair and her and my daughter left I feel really horrible - it’s very bad because you had all this family time activity , it’s hell and horrific
ThAts why feeling suicidal is common
The absolute best advice that I needed at exactly the right time! Thank you so much Stephanie!
I quit. Just gonna go build an empire of fun for a lot of people and never looking back.
Thank you
Great information, very helpful. Thanks
Going through a break up right now, don’t feel like I can talk to much persons cuz it hurts. when I love I love hard so I kinda feel like I’m missing a piece of me and that I kinda lost my best friend and the place I called home. It didn’t end bitterly we just he just had some things that needs to work on that would have gotten a bit toxic if left unattended. And his child’s mother was making it hard for everyone in his life even his own child so I had to set boundaries and we eventually had to part maybe for a while idk.
But I’m relearning how to depend on myself all over again and fighting feelings of not being enough this situation kinda made me feel like I wasn’t a priority.
So learning to prioritize my self and not being afraid of doing things by myself and finding joy in that is difficult but I’m trying to take it day by day.
Thank you for sharing this video Stephanie, your channel has helped me to find answers to so many questions❤
But how do you do when you need to make more friends because you feel you had outgrown the old ones in your healing and self- love journey?
Depending on where you live there's an app called meetups. Not a dating thing but organised activities. I've join in short walks in both USA and Australia meeting wonderful people
Thank you!
Love you Stephanie! ☀️
Thank you & God bless!
I am turn off from men's. 12 years after divorce, with 2 teenagers sons now. I got big trauma from my ex. Can't trust anyone anymore.
Happy New Year! I had to find this video bc I’m going through it!
Thank you!!!