This question is EXACTLY what I've been struggling with for years. Your answer was EXACTLY what I needed to hear. As with anything related to faith, we must actively choose to trust regardless of what our hearts tell us. But it is so freaking hard sometimes. The lies that come from our emotional center are so logical and convincing and powerful that ignoring them just feels like denial. And, yeah, while the Bible is full of the promises of God's love, the darkness that tells me I'm not included in them is very real. But, if over 40 years of walking with Jesus has taught me anything, it's that the darkness is a lie. Satan wants us to feel defeated and abandoned and alone. He derives joy from our pain. And I have no intention of giving him that satisfaction. So, despite the whisperings in my mind that tell me I'm not worthy, I choose to believe that I am because the Cross, and over 40 years of God's continual blessing, tell me so.
My dad has given the most helpful advice to me when I struggle with self worth because I truly don’t believe I deserve anything good… he tells me “you may not have deserved anything before you believed in Jesus. But you are now his child. You’re a princess and you should know your worth as royalty in the kingdom of God. You ARE worthy of good things BECAUSE of God” And man that wrecks me with overwhelming love that I can’t even comprehend
The Christian life is all about slowly learning three truths: 1. God is bigger than our suffering. 2. God uses our suffering for good. 3. God is glorified in our suffering.
This is my problem. Focusing on the feeling rather than the fact. Emotions don’t dictate reality and I know this. Emotional reasoning can be strong sometimes, can’t it?
Thank you for posting this. As someone who has always struggled with self-loathing and fear, it's difficult to wrap my head around these truths sometimes. I will pray and try to take this to heart.
It’s a constant battle for me too. I question my faith, my salvation, Gods love for me etc but I’ve realized it’s all just from poor mental health. It’s very difficult.
My son, 12 years old, hasn't said he struggles with this, but I know from his actions and his tone sometimes he is struggling with this same issue inside. I struggle with what to tell him when something like this comes up. Thank you for showing this video. It made me understand what I need to tell him.
Abandonment fear comes from abandoning God and his creation which we all have done. Reuniting with God is done by forgiving everyone. Sacrifice doesn't do that. “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly. Father will also forgive you. "If you had known what these words mean, 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice,' you would not have condemned the innocent.
Sometimes when a kid is withdrawn it also means there may be other issues going on such as current or past abuses, parental neglect and divorce, bullying at school, etc. Keep your eyes open and seek a good Christian counsellor if you think it's gotten to that point. It's best to catch these things early rather than letting them snowball into something larger.
Journaling helps. Just writing down what your feelings are and what makes you feel that way, addressing them with God’s Word and pointing out why your feelings are lying, and mapping out how you can feel/act because God’s Word is true, is really helpful. Try it daily for a month without giving up. It really helped me. Basically self-administered cognitive behavioral therapy but with the gospel instead of baseless self-affirmations.
I'm a survivor of SRA, Christ delivered me out from a generational occult family. What's helped me is understanding what you said. Christ sacrificed himself for me and my sins, fully knowing what I did and who I have been. I remind myself that he delivered me out from something no other power could have. That he never makes a mistake, it's not possible. I ask him regularly to help me see myself as he does. It's been a process, and remains one until the day I see him face to face. Until then, I am often reminded that it isn't about how I feel, that's been messed with by the best messer upper. God is reprogramming what never should have been messed with to begin with. God has promised to finished the good work he began in me...I can't hardly wait...Maranatha...and God bless
I've had these types of issues for a while. Maybe not the "God doesn't hear my prayers" part, but certainly feeling like I could be dropped by those around me at any point. The solution (like Mike said) is genuinely trusting in what I already "believe." I've found that the easiest way to go about that is to do as scripture commands and root, or saturate myself in scripture. I feel worthless when I *forget* that my worth comes not from me, but from Christ in me. Starting my morning with prayer that is fueled by what I am reading in scripture, as well as memorizing even just one new verse a week have been ways of making sure I don't forget. The result has been a profound joy in the LORD. Rejoice in the Lord, again I say rejoice! Let your gentle spirit be made known to all men. The Lord is near. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving make your requests known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. - Philippians 4:4-7
Your situation sounds so similar to mine, I always feel He hears my prayers but I feel like if I disappeared tomorrow no one would really care or if I mess something up people would just drop me any second. Thank you so much for this testimony. I have started reading the word more but definitely not everyday maybe like 2-3 times a week. I could be saturating myself so much more. I will also start memorizing some verses here and there to remind me of God's truth and not my own feelings.
God speaks yet again through our brother Mike Winger. Mike thank you so much for this message today. I recently have been struggling with this very thing. Thanks for reminding me to get out of my own way and trust Gods word ❤🙏
@@riverofthewood Hey, Mike isn’t saying that at all. He is saying that God loves you, and when you really see that, it changes EVERYTHING. Bless you friend.
Abandonment fear comes from abandoning God and his creation which we all have done. Reuniting with God is done by forgiving everyone. Sacrifice doesn't do that. “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly. Father will also forgive you. "If you had known what these words mean, 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice,' you would not have condemned the innocent.
@@riverofthewood You are outside of your area of expertise. This is spiritual knowledge, not worldly perception. "Judge not by appearance but judge by righteous judgment." Jesus Christ.
@@riverofthewood " that we can all see the same thing." We never all see the same thing. We all see everything through our own bias. We hear differently, too. Ever played Chinese whispers or telephone? That's why there is no truth in appearances or any perception. .
So tough to do when you have known is rejection, betrayal, constant misunderstanding! I suppose it really is just believing what He says no matter how I feel. Thank you for posting this. I really have been needing an answer for how to respond when all I feel is that I am worthless, or I need to earn God's love because it's felt like I've always had to earn love my whole life. I've understood obedience, and rule keeping very well, but true unconditional love has never been part of my understanding. I was converted 3 years ago, and when I felt that kind of the love for the first time, it scared me, and amazed me. I couldn't fathom someone loving me as I was. I was always rejected by everyone at school, betrayed by friends, emotionally absent parents, constantly belittled by a school system that failed me, etc (it gets worse in the details, but I'm keeping it short for brevity sake). I can see now after all that has happened, I can't keep giving into those feelings like they are still happening now. It's over with, and with God's help, I can now be healed from it to never be pained by those things again. I don't need to fear that's going to happen anymore, especially not with Him. I know in my brain He's trustworthy, now it's a matter of making His promise of love a matter of the heart. Thank you Pastor Mike. (P.s. the pastor at my church is also Mike, so I have 2 pastor Mike's!) To anyone else who have suffered alone terribly for many years with no one who seems to listen, or care hear this scripture. "Does He who formed the eye not see, and He who formed the ear not hear?" Psalm 94:9. He knows your pain, and He knows how hard it is to be vulnerable again. You can trust Him, He won't hurt you. You may have a heart like mine that had been almost completely turned off from love and trust because of what's happened, but I know He's trustworthy. He's been slowly opening my heart wounds and cleaning them up as I've surrendered. You may be able to be 100% vulnerable with God day one of you trusting Him, and I truly hope you can, but I know I have not been able to. I had no idea how to even be vulnerable! Good boy though I was (according to my parents), I had no real love, or vulnerability ever made known to me, or that I could be that way with anyone! You can know God loves you, and will work with you if you'll push past the fear. The most repeated phrase in the bible is "don't be afraid" and is said 366 times. One for every day of the year including the leap year. He intends us to keep that command as best we can, not suppressing our emotions, but laying them bare before Him, trusting Him with them and telling us how to deal with them based on His Word. Be blessed, in Jesus's name.
Xfactor, what an awesome testimony. I pray God keeps your heart strong and on the path. Satan wants nothing but our destruction, God wants nothing but our good. I quite frequently have used the comment to people regarding God saying "do not fear" to man, His creation. I feel like only a Creator who loves His creation would say that to it.
Abandonment fear comes from abandoning God and his creation which we all have done. Reuniting with God is done by forgiving everyone. Sacrifice doesn't do that. “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly. Father will also forgive you. "If you had known what these words mean, 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice,' you would not have condemned the innocent.
Since leaving the chruch Ive found that a lot of my low self worth was coming from the men of God I trusted. I did lose faith and trust in those men, but held my faith in God. I still feel unworthy of Gods love but def know He loves me, watches out for me, and gets me thru each day. At times wanting to end it all, yet He would lead me to what I needed every time. Now I dont even think about ending it (life), only expanding on it. Thanx so much, Many Blessings
So many churches peddle that worthless worm syndrome, saying that we aren't worthy of God's love. We are his creation though. The bible is full of proclaimations of his love, just chock full of it. I think we get a demented view from the accuser that warps the way we should see God's love for us, so as not to feel unloved or unworthy when we fall short. We will always fall short. We need to see our efforts and when we do good though and let ourselves bask in our heavenly father's approval once in a while.
You hit the nail on the head. Exactly what I’ve been dealing with. Sometimes I wonder if I’m even saved because of this pattern of sin.. and that worrying makes the pattern worse. And then I have all this anxiety about dying and being rejected by Christ, etc. It’s horrendous. I know I am so unholy and not a good representation of Christ.. It eats me alive every day. It causes an intense feeling of emptiness and loneliness. This answer brings me some peace..
everything you described is what i and many other christian’s deal with and it’s not talked about enough :(( may God give us the joy and assurance of our salvation, we are His 😭♥️
I feel this every single day. Thanks to never being taught what LOVE really looks like in my childhood, I just can't seem to trust in it. Ever. I feel like whatever in my brain is responsible for having trust in God's love just doesn't work. It's broken and beyond repair.
This is so true! But I want to add that this truth is sometimes a process to learn. Sometimes it takes time to shake off that hardened mud of lies that have caked on our hearts. Sometimes we need professional help as support while Jesus heals our hearts and embeds His word deep into us. So be encouraged that this may not be just a light switch transformation!
4:34 I am just recovering from an emotional injury that almost cost my life in 2010. My spiritual life has changed in a mature way now. I am a CHRISTian now solidly. Praise HIS NAME.
Pastor Mike, I thank God for you and this ministry. I struggle with emotional emptiness (complex PTSD). This same encouragement here (cling to the truth of Scripture and believe even when I don’t feel it) has helped me recover from 4 yeas of persistent depressive disorder. My problem now though is that I have a hard time shaking off insecurity and actually LIVING this new life. Is this still a belief/faith issue I’m having? I hope it’s not but I’m afraid it is. I’m being patient and compassionate about the process of unlearning all the coping mechanisms I’ve used since childhood. But I still struggle SO bad with obedience. To be “free.” Sometimes I feel I reyoke myself when I feel I’m being called to do something I don’t believe I’m qualified to do. Maybe that’s my problem? Still stuck on self-sufficiency? Worried about my qualifications instead of Gods. Ugh. It’s frustrating. Because I want to grow and mature, and I have grown tremendously. But I feel I’ve reached a place that’s really challenging me to trust God for provision and idk I guess I’m scared still. Sorry… idk what my question is. I guess I also still just feel alone in life and like no one understands me. But God of course. And so when I watched this short I just felt SEEN. Please pray that I may find rest for my weariness and strength where I’m weak… in the Lord and trust him to see me through whatever it is he’s doing in my life. God bless you.
I have what you have (CPTSD) and (PTSD) and I have found that Jesus, when studying the scriptures closely, had a difficult upbringing and suffered daily because of rejection and abuse from his family. They also probably used him since he was lowly and humble and always obedient. But when the appointed time came for him to minister he was bitter and highly discouraged with his world. His family in particular. Take a moment with me and look at the exchange Jesus has with his mother at the feast when he turns water into wine It is quite telling: “Woman” he says to his mother. The blessed Virgin Mary. “Woman”? He continues, “what have I to do with thee?” Is that a way someone should talk to their mother? Especially Jesus? If I said that to my mother…she would smack me in the face. And then she ignores him, telling the servants to “do what he says”. Not very nice of Mary in the least.The deeper meaning behind what she said tells me she probably made him, throughout his life, perform miracles, like turning water into wine (people were already drunk at the party), and he always humbly complied. God Bless you. Jesus gets you.I get you. I am praying for your the continued healing of your wounds that are taking way too long to heal. I praise God that I am no longer suicidal today and are no longer tormented nightly by demonic nightmares. Blessings to you. Rest when you can. And don’t ever apologize for resting, Jesus didn’t.
You have grown, Raven, and you acknowledged that you did. We all hit impasses. Pretty much every struggle you still have was faced by the bible greats. They struggled w/ obedience, like King David who fell into adultery and killed his mistresses' husband. Moses struggled w/ feeling qualified for his calling and said she was slow of speech. Jeremiah got depressed and discouraged to the point he wanted to die. Jonah ran away from a calling and got swallowed and transported to prophecy to Ninevah. And on it goes. You're growing. We all hit impasses.
Yes, thank you. I think that Jesus and the others before him were not quite prepared the level of disobedience, stubbornness and fear we humans exhibit. At the end of “the story” before Jesus makes his ascension he pleads his case in the simplest terms. Love God and Love Others and “feed my lambs and sheep”. (3 times to Peter) lambs are children, sheep are “the blessed” to be fed….food. Not more words, food. Literally food. Pretty simple since we couldn’t handle the 10 commandments or the resurrection it had to be spelled out for us. Cheers and God Bless.
I prayed to God The Father to help you with your weariness and to help you. I prayed that you would have peace in Jesus and that you would grow and strengthen in your faith. ❤
This is super helpful. I struggle w/ abandonment and love issues too - parent's divorced when I was 10, no dad, emotionally vacant mother etc etc. It's hard. This was I think the first time I've heard an answer to this question and need that helps towards a closer relationship with God. Thank you.
Abandonment fear comes from abandoning God and his creation which we all have done. Reuniting with God is done by forgiving everyone. Sacrifice doesn't do that. “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly. Father will also forgive you. "If you had known what these words mean, 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice,' you would not have condemned the innocent.
@@robertdouglas8895 No, abandonment fear came from trauma experienced as a young girl in tense and divisive adult situations for a long period of time and neglect from parents.
@@Swena76 We reap as we have sown. What goes around, comes around. Your life situation has come to you because it was exactly what you needed to learn to be more forgiving. Nothing in our lives is random. We are not victims of the world and we only know that when we learn and forgive.
The Lord healed me recently in the most miraculous way. Where I felt there was no way, He stepped in and undertook in such a perfect way. If anyone needs encouragement today, please call out to Jesus....I shall never ever forget what He has done for me....
The title felt very relevant to me, but it turned out to be something quite different. I'm currently in a deep process which seems to be the next chapter of this story. I've given my life to Christ about 3 years ago, and have been building up trust in the Lord. At this point I am in that place where I completely trust Him, and I know that the difficulties I'm in right now are part of His healing process for me. That said, this healing process seems to be the second chapter after this topic. I still have low self-worth and I still have something like "abandonment issues", although I would rather call them "trust issues", in relation to other people. I've had my trust betrayed so many times in my youth it has made me anxious to get involved with anyone unless they've proven to be trustworthy. I feel, tongue-in-cheek, like I've been kinda tricked by God's design for me, since I have many talents and many things are easy for me, except dealing with people. And then it turns out the most important thing in God's kingdom is dealing with people... So I'm actually really quite useless at the moment and I feel pathetic. I don't trust people, which makes it very hard to build or even start relationship as part of spreading the gospel message. I've only recently become aware of just how crucial a problem this is, and now I'm in the process of working through this. It seems the first step is to break through my reluctance, persist through any setbacks, achieve successes in building relationship, and stay in close contact with God and my close Christian friends. I'll try to return here in a couple of weeks/months to share how things progressed, in case it may help or encourage anyone else. I'm optimistic that God will pull me through, providing healing and growth. Prayer is appreciated.
Abandonment fear comes from abandoning God and his creation which we all have done. Reuniting with God is done by forgiving everyone. Sacrifice doesn't do that. “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly. Father will also forgive you. "If you had known what these words mean, 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice,' you would not have condemned the innocent.
@Robert Douglas Abandonment issues don’t always come from a place of hate or grudges. I would know. I used to be constantly on edge that everyone would leave me, but I was far more forgiving and merciful than I am now.
@@buddy6507 @Buddy spot on. I used to blindly trust and give my everything to the worst kinds of people when I was younger because of my abandonment issues. The people around me became more important to me than my relationship with God and (I don't know if this will help anyone) but maybe it's acknowledging that everyone could leave you, but God will still be there for you that will help take away some of the pain that comes with people going in and out of our life.
@Amadeus The Lord help you to see his doing in your life and others'. May he bless you with strength and wisdom to do his will. May he comfort you with the truth of his word and remind you of the joy of his salvation, especially in times of hardship. May his name be glorified through you, and may his kingdom come. In Jesus' name I pray, amen!
I want to add to this, sometime we feel these ways because it's a MINDSET and fall prey to thinking patterns. You have to relearn how you think and remind yourself the truth and not your fears
I'm extremely close to someone who very deeply feels these things... I think you hit the nail on the head... No matter how much love is given, if they don't FEEL it then it must not be real love... It's a struggle to believe the love is real regardless of how it feels...
Thanks for this! Head knowledge and heart knowledge are two very different things. There is great value in obeying God, believing God even when you feel nothing. In fact, it’s such a blessing to glorify God in that way. Believing what He says because He is God - even if it will take time to sink into my heart. Faith doesn’t always manifest itself in great zeal or assurance, but in an unwavering commitment to truth. I struggle with low self-worth and a want for intimacy. I combat this by committing to what God wants me to do *today* and by remembering that no one will ever be more intimate with me than He who dwells in my heart at this very moment. Even when our hearts are weary and hard, the righteous shall walk by faith. ❤
Dang. 🤦♀️. I’m old. More than a couple years as a believer, saved. And I STILL feel like things between me and God are broken and distant when I have done something wrong. Shame and lack of trust. But the turnaround is shorter. 😂 🙌🏼🙏🏼😊 Many years ago the Lord planted this in my heart “receive your acceptance in the Lord”. Every day he’s walking that out in me. ❤️🙌🏼
Mike this is so good. You replied with sensitivity and compassion. Thank you for sharing so openly about your own struggles but at the same time considering your family. Yes there is a battle to believe in what God has said. I know this video will help a lot of people.
Thank you Lord Jesus Christ for your grace your mercy! Thank you brother Mike for being obedient to God. You have a wonderful gift of teaching and communicating things in a way that is truly edifying to me and to many others. Glory to God.
Thanks Mike. Just started on some low dose anti depressants and have been on the mend lately. Thanks for helping me get back on the straight and narrow. God is good. Your channel has blessed me so much 💕
I have been listening to quite a few of your videos and find you to be the perfect blend of rational, reasonable, humble but not compromising the Truth to be popular. Knowing what I know of you this far from your videos you would take a comment like this, appreciate it,but not let it sway you from continuing to be authentic and God pleasing. The temptation to be full of ourselves is a strong one on social media platforms. I imagine if Jesus himself was a You Tuber He’d be inclined to have the same approach . He was constantly redirecting the attention away from Himself and onto the Father. Keep up the good fight of faith. We desperately need this in our day and age. God has provided us with a way of escape to stay strong in this current generation through channels like yours. Thank you!!
This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear this morning. I have struggled with this for years and I know that God has been working with me to stop believing the lies the enemy tells me and that I tell myself and to believe HIS WORD - His written, irrevocable TRUTH. It may not happen overnight and though I may take two steps forward, sometimes there's a step back, but I will always get back up and persevere because in my weakness HE is strong; He will never leave me nor forsake me and He is the Author and FINISHER of my faith. I truly believe this. What helps tremendously is to know that I am not the only one who struggles with this issue. Thank you again, Pastor Winger, for bringing to light such an important topic for so many sincere followers of Jesus. I am so grateful.
I never knew I felt like that until you said this mark, thank you so much for this, and you’re SO RIGHT! I used to feel like I had to be good too for a while so I could talk to God again but I know it’s a lie from the Devil
I am just from The Beat Allen's RUclips Channel after I had searched (The Biggest Christian Channels) so that I can learn from them. In his video your channel was number 3. I started a youtube channel on 7th of this month celebrating my 6yrs in Christ Jesus. I have already subscribed to your channel and I believe I am here to stay. Thank you so much for this sharing on self-worth.
It seems like some of us high in neuroticism will always feel this way to a certain degree. We always have to fight the very strong feeling that we are unworthy of love even from God and no amount of prayer or faith can fully shake that feeling.
I think we can struggle w/ feelings of unworthiness from other people, but we can definitely reach a point where God's love penetrates even the most neurotic. We may not always feel it, but we can know it. God's love had healed me quite a lot from lack of love and insecurity from the way I was raised. I still have ongoing issues w/ my mother, and I'm 55 and it still smarts at times, since I'm the scape goat kid, and likely always will be. Being cheated on after a 10 yr relationship really brought my issues back and made me realize there were old scars, as well as raw open wounds now. What's been a revelation is the loving command and constant reminder to "love your neighbour, as you LOVE YOURSELF". We need to love ourselves. This is a previously untapped source of love, that somehow ties in and enhances my sense of God's love for me. It's almost like a lot of the church teaches the opposite, and I've had Christians strongly oppose me that we already love ourselves too much. It's been healing though.
The advice you gave in this video actually helped me tremendously. I've been dealing with the sense of abandonment and low self worth since my PawPaw passed away on August 19th of this year, and hearing what you said about how we're already valuable to GOD and loved by HIM because of what Jesus Christ did by dying on the Cross. That made my entire perspective on everything change in an instant, because my conscience knew that to be true. Thank you, brother, and may our LORD and Savior Jesus Christ be with you and your loved ones this Christmas.
Low self-worth? Read the Bible. It’s a love story. So many promises, so many statements that tell us how much He loves us. Come to know your worth in Christ. He died for you that you can be saved from the penalty of death. How much is a life worth? A lot! He said He would never leave you nor forsake you.
@Apsoy Pike wasn’t that because He thought His Father had forsaken Him not because He had? A lot of times we feel like that too but His Word tells us otherwise.
Yup! I started a thing that when I feel a certain way, I’d rebuke it with scripture or a biblical affirmation Eg: “ I feel as if no one cares for me”-> “ the creator of the universe died a gruesome way just to show how much He loves me” Makes me feel better
Thank you, Mike. Your answer hit me hard. One of my biggest struggles is projecting other people's abandonment and rejection of me onto God. The *only* thing that helps is resting in the fact that God has proven His love for me (and everyone) through Jesus. Also, I *know* God is not like fallible humans, even though my 'feelings' try to fool me. Knowing these things doesn't take the bad feelings or numbness away, but the facts help me to keep holding on. I pray Giant Mushroom Tree will be helped by this answer too. God bless you both.
Hey brother! Me and my fiancé are Both believers in Christ, and Newly born again! But we both still struggle with Anger and say things we Shouldn’t say, to each other, but a lot LESS now! How can me and her both come together and Stay in Christ even in those moments of anger, and choose peace and love when Satan has blinded us for a moment? I want nothing more but to Love her as Christ loves me, and she wants nothing more of the same! We do, but in those moments, we fail! Thank you so much, and may God continue to bless you for what you are doing for His people and the lost! Love you brother!
Another side to this that requires a different answer is when one has been abused emotionally, physically and psychologically. Many live with this daily so it’s a constant battle to just live let alone get in the right headspace.
I caught covid on Thursday and had to miss half a day of work on Friday and also all of Saturday (today). I'm in so much pain and trying to manage the symptoms, but I am not getting hardly any sleep. Please pray for me.
The enemy wants us to have those doubts..."Does God really love you?" Scripture says He does! The more we read the Bible the more we can get to know and grow closer our Heavenly Father. My mother died when I was young and my father was not a kind man, so I understand abandonment and having a Heavenly Father is the greatest joy! Praying is talking to God, but if you want to know how He feels about you, read His Word. That's Him talking to you. Just start loving Him with all your heart, mind and soul and see what happens! Love you all and I've prayed that everyone that is doubting, will know the Father's love for them as they think of the cross. He loved us first!!!! 💕
This a struggle for me as well. Thank you pastor Mike. Right now I’m wrestling with Romans 8 and how if we are children of God the Spirit will testify with our spirit. And how those not of children of God their minds are hostile towards Him. There are times where my mind is hostile towards God. It’s so shameful. And I don’t feel like God’s child. It’s putting me in so much fear. I’m so scared.
Great perspective !!! This is me --- I often feel like I fail God every day (which i do like everyone in some respect) and that HE couldn't possibly love me :). Thanks this helps!
Keep it up Mike Winger and staff. Glad that you guys try your best. You’re videos have helped me and changed my life. I have faith that God will bless you guys greatly. Blessing in Jesus Name!
I thought it was only me lol. You explained to a T, exactly how I'd feel, if I'd fall backwards here and there. It's hard to remember the constant finality of Jesus' sacrifice, sometimes we apply human emotions to it, and feel like God's shaking his head at us but that must be purely a human reponse to our guilt.
Abandonment fear comes from abandoning God and his creation which we all have done. Reuniting with God is done by forgiving everyone. Sacrifice doesn't do that. “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly. Father will also forgive you. "If you had known what these words mean, 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice,' you would not have condemned the innocent.
This was me ages ago. BUT, I heard... understood.. was struck by... the lyrics of an old song by Bob Fitts - "I will rejoice" The part that struck me the most was in the middle of the verse: "It doesn't depend on the way I feel, I've made up my mind." Whoa. Wait. What I know in my head needs to have precedence over what my feelings are telling me. My past still sometimes rears its ugly head, but I know how to shut it up. I don't live there anymore.
Such wise advice! I had an epiphany when I came to better understand God’s grace for us, and I can so relate to the story you were explaining in your younger years. Realizing God’s grace and love is a game changer. Im currently reading Chuck Smith’s book titled, “Why Grace Changes Everything.” Highly recommend it to anyone struggling with condemnation.
It's actually when you CEASE SIN and REPENT and walk NO longer therein it, is when Gabe kicks in, and Salvation THEN begins. It is SIN that Separates humans from the Grace and protection, by YHVH, from Its LAW of consequence. The satanic LIE Manichaeism theology teaches is "we're NOT under the LAW yada BS. That is demonic LIE from calvinism-lutheranism-baptism false gospel teachings. The LAW means Torah which Hosea & Isaiah BOTH taught it willl be taught in the eternal kingdom fr ever. You've been LED to by the Many False prophets on YT channels about what s what. There is NO Grace for repeating and chronic disobeying and doing SIN!! NO THERE ISN'T!! Thats what 9s called Offering yourself a Living SACRIFICE and HOPE he accepts IT and grants forgiveness and Grace wherein Salvation then can begin!! You absolutely cannot get SAVED in SINS or get Grace in SINS! Christ did NOT forgive Nor over "FUTURE SINS", that LIE he somehow does this channel kept deceiving you ppl with!! The wages of SIN is still death! As taught OPPOSITE this false gospel channels, misleading ppl with or like Manichaeism theology does. Grace means empowerment when YHVH couples your OBEDIENCE to What s written and walk as to what is written Then and Only THEN does Grace begin to be your helper spirit. scriptures say we is a WORKER TOGETHER with US!!
Wow! I don’t know whether that answer spoke to Giant Mushroom Tree (who is not alone in facing such feelings), but it was as if the Holy Spirit was speaking directly to me through you! Thank you and God bless you for that very edifying and beautifully articulated reminder of the fact of God’s promises in His Word that we can and must trust if we claim to truly believe.
Thanks. Much appreciated, Pastor Mike. Although the message was intended for the questioner, I still got something out of it. I, too, have felt that whenever I sin, I have strayed far away from God. I now know my feelings deceive the truth, so I must put faith in the word instead of my own self-perceived notions.
Wowzers. What you described is me EXACTLY! I have to wait a few days after willful sinning before I approach God and it usually takes weeks before I feel like the relationship is healed. Mike, the truth you spoke in this video is so good!
It needs to be and can be the opposite. Run right to God and confess and know you're forgiven. Think of a kid that hides something bad they did to their parent. If they just go right to their parent and tell them they feel bad for doing this thing and apologize and want to make it right, any loving parent is going to be proud of them. They'll get a hug or a shoulder squeeze and encouragement for doing the right thing.
I am so ugly by the standard of the world that even my own dad called me ugly. I feel so uncomfortable in my own skin and hate shopping for clothes because I have to see myself in the mirror. I came home from the store yesterday feeling so down because of it. There’s something that could be done to me to make me look more normal and feel better but I don’t know if I feel right about doing that.
Lean on Jesus, know that He ordained your life and appearance perfectly according to His will. ❤️I struggle greatly with this too, and what comforts me is that Jesus’s values are completely different from the world. Do not conform to the world’s values-conform to Christ’s values! and remember this verse, sweet friend! Luk 16:15 And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God. Know that God’s estimation of your appearance is completely different from the world’s, your dad’s, and your own heart’s. Look unto Jesus (hebrews 12:-1-2!) and see His values in scripture!!! Do not fret yourself with vain things of this world. Be content knowing that this world is temporal and passing away-and conforming to its vain demands is naught. But what you do in faithfulness to Jesus glorifies Him and endures for ever. Throw off, cast away the values of the world-those are foolish. Rest in Christ, trust Christ, be found in Christ. ❤️ Heb 12:1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, Heb 12:2 Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God. Do Not Grow Weary Heb 12:3 For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds. @anteater23
I had always approached God from the perspective that He was disappointed in me. I only just realized this this year. I’m 38 years old, and I’ve been a Christian since I was nine. Almost thirty years following the Lord, and it took me that long to BELIEVE that the Lord LOVES me. He loves me so very much, and I just, well, I get it now. Finally.
Mike we love the work you do for the Lord. Please unpack the power of lies we believe to be true about ourselves and HOW a person gets free. And please not just a new Christian cliche. Help us with a real legitimate process. Blessings to you!
I am so thankful to God that I find your and others' teachings. I just want you to make a video or talk to me personally about what to read other than The Holy Bible to be able to defend my faith from false teachings and also things that I should know as a Christian who lives in the end times. Thank you for your time.
this has helped me so much, i listened to this when you first posted it but have thought of it so many times these past few months. this has really strengthened my heart and helped me. thank you Mike. this here is a verse that has encouraged me to trust in the Lord rather than my feelings Isa 50:10 Who is among you that feareth the LORD, that obeyeth the voice of his servant, that walketh in darkness, and hath no light? let him trust in the name of the LORD, and stay upon his God.
Thank you, Pastor Mike. I needed to hear this, as someone who deals with the same issues. I hope this blesses GiantMushroomTree as much as it has blessed me.
Though He slay me, yet will I trust Him. My Savior and my God. This issue manifests most for me when I'm in a group with other Christians and thd topic turns to gifts and callings. Everyobd is there saying "I git this gift! I got this calling! God gave me this purpose in life!" And when I ask how I get gifts, calling, and purpjse it is always the same pat, trite, shalliw answere. "You get the default setting that everyone gets. You get etefnal life and your purpose is to praise Him!" Gee, thanks, Peggy Pew Sitter. How come you get the gift ofthis really cool thing and your calling is that really amazing thing and look at you, you special snowflake ... but I get a ripped brochure. How special. Yet will I trust Him. But the pain of knowing I just skated in and His promise was done at the salvation transaction so He can now forget I exist ... hurts. All this to say ... the modern Church has destroyed the faith of a great many people because its teachings on gifts and callings is infantile and narcissistic. It us time for mature teaching in this. The Body is in pain. Unbelievers don't want to ride the impossible, works based, dogma train any more than I do.
Thank you for sharing. I sometimes have to work through discerning between my emotions and the truth that God loves me regardless of what my neurological system is telling me. "If our hearts condemn us, we know that God is greater than our hearts, and he knows everything. Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God." (1 John 3:20-21)
It is so important as a Christian to preach the gospel to yourself everyday.
THIS WAS A WORDDDD!!! THANK YOU FOR THIS!!!❤️
The gospel is my favourite part of the whole Bible ❤ John 3:16 is my favourite verse
Wow. I never thought it like that.
@@travisbirket3987 I love that! Preach to yourself every day. Thank you my friend in Christ
"If your eyes are on the storm, you wonder if I love you still, but if your eyes are on the Cross, you know I always have and I always will"
This question is EXACTLY what I've been struggling with for years. Your answer was EXACTLY what I needed to hear. As with anything related to faith, we must actively choose to trust regardless of what our hearts tell us. But it is so freaking hard sometimes. The lies that come from our emotional center are so logical and convincing and powerful that ignoring them just feels like denial. And, yeah, while the Bible is full of the promises of God's love, the darkness that tells me I'm not included in them is very real. But, if over 40 years of walking with Jesus has taught me anything, it's that the darkness is a lie. Satan wants us to feel defeated and abandoned and alone. He derives joy from our pain. And I have no intention of giving him that satisfaction. So, despite the whisperings in my mind that tell me I'm not worthy, I choose to believe that I am because the Cross, and over 40 years of God's continual blessing, tell me so.
Amen! That’s a beautiful and encouraging comment that is a blessing because it’s a great thought template to contemplate! ☺️🙏🏼
Great thoughts, Susan!
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That's because ull never know the fullness of Jesus Christ on this earth till u experience him in the Eucharist.
This was blessing to read thanks for sharing
My dad has given the most helpful advice to me when I struggle with self worth because I truly don’t believe I deserve anything good… he tells me “you may not have deserved anything before you believed in Jesus. But you are now his child. You’re a princess and you should know your worth as royalty in the kingdom of God. You ARE worthy of good things BECAUSE of God”
And man that wrecks me with overwhelming love that I can’t even comprehend
You're so lucky. My dad is the reason I have no self worth
The Christian life is all about slowly learning three truths:
1. God is bigger than our suffering.
2. God uses our suffering for good.
3. God is glorified in our suffering.
Amen. True.
This is my problem. Focusing on the feeling rather than the fact. Emotions don’t dictate reality and I know this. Emotional reasoning can be strong sometimes, can’t it?
Hi, who do you say Jesus is?
Thank you for posting this. As someone who has always struggled with self-loathing and fear, it's difficult to wrap my head around these truths sometimes. I will pray and try to take this to heart.
It’s a constant battle for me too. I question my faith, my salvation, Gods love for me etc but I’ve realized it’s all just from poor mental health. It’s very difficult.
@Apsoy Pike yup, you’re unique. Just shows there’s quite a spectrum in responses to this.
@Apsoy Pike 1 Timothy 2:4
@Apsoy Pike I know what you are saying,here.
I don't understand why we so dislike ourselves but I have the same problem.
My son, 12 years old, hasn't said he struggles with this, but I know from his actions and his tone sometimes he is struggling with this same issue inside. I struggle with what to tell him when something like this comes up. Thank you for showing this video. It made me understand what I need to tell him.
you are a good parent, he's blessed
@@citygirl7702 I hope so. I try.
Abandonment fear comes from abandoning God and his creation which we all have done. Reuniting with God is done by forgiving everyone. Sacrifice doesn't do that.
“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly. Father will also forgive you.
"If you had known what these words mean, 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice,' you would not have condemned the innocent.
Sometimes when a kid is withdrawn it also means there may be other issues going on such as current or past abuses, parental neglect and divorce, bullying at school, etc. Keep your eyes open and seek a good Christian counsellor if you think it's gotten to that point. It's best to catch these things early rather than letting them snowball into something larger.
Journaling helps. Just writing down what your feelings are and what makes you feel that way, addressing them with God’s Word and pointing out why your feelings are lying, and mapping out how you can feel/act because God’s Word is true, is really helpful. Try it daily for a month without giving up. It really helped me. Basically self-administered cognitive behavioral therapy but with the gospel instead of baseless self-affirmations.
I'm a survivor of SRA, Christ delivered me out from a generational occult family. What's helped me is understanding what you said. Christ sacrificed himself for me and my sins, fully knowing what I did and who I have been. I remind myself that he delivered me out from something no other power could have. That he never makes a mistake, it's not possible. I ask him regularly to help me see myself as he does. It's been a process, and remains one until the day I see him face to face. Until then, I am often reminded that it isn't about how I feel, that's been messed with by the best messer upper. God is reprogramming what never should have been messed with to begin with. God has promised to finished the good work he began in me...I can't hardly wait...Maranatha...and God bless
I've had these types of issues for a while. Maybe not the "God doesn't hear my prayers" part, but certainly feeling like I could be dropped by those around me at any point. The solution (like Mike said) is genuinely trusting in what I already "believe." I've found that the easiest way to go about that is to do as scripture commands and root, or saturate myself in scripture. I feel worthless when I *forget* that my worth comes not from me, but from Christ in me. Starting my morning with prayer that is fueled by what I am reading in scripture, as well as memorizing even just one new verse a week have been ways of making sure I don't forget. The result has been a profound joy in the LORD.
Rejoice in the Lord, again I say rejoice! Let your gentle spirit be made known to all men. The Lord is near. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving make your requests known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. - Philippians 4:4-7
Your situation sounds so similar to mine, I always feel He hears my prayers but I feel like if I disappeared tomorrow no one would really care or if I mess something up people would just drop me any second. Thank you so much for this testimony. I have started reading the word more but definitely not everyday maybe like 2-3 times a week. I could be saturating myself so much more. I will also start memorizing some verses here and there to remind me of God's truth and not my own feelings.
God speaks yet again through our brother Mike Winger. Mike thank you so much for this message today. I recently have been struggling with this very thing. Thanks for reminding me to get out of my own way and trust Gods word ❤🙏
@@riverofthewood Hey, Mike isn’t saying that at all. He is saying that God loves you, and when you really see that, it changes EVERYTHING. Bless you friend.
@unclepauliesti Spot on brother. I feel the same way. You voiced it very well. I struggle with this exact thing, thank you.
Abandonment fear comes from abandoning God and his creation which we all have done. Reuniting with God is done by forgiving everyone. Sacrifice doesn't do that.
“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly. Father will also forgive you.
"If you had known what these words mean, 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice,' you would not have condemned the innocent.
@@riverofthewood You are outside of your area of expertise. This is spiritual knowledge, not worldly perception.
"Judge not by appearance but judge by righteous judgment." Jesus Christ.
@@riverofthewood " that we can all see the same thing." We never all see the same thing. We all see everything through our own bias. We hear differently, too. Ever played Chinese whispers or telephone?
That's why there is no truth in appearances or any perception. .
So tough to do when you have known is rejection, betrayal, constant misunderstanding! I suppose it really is just believing what He says no matter how I feel. Thank you for posting this. I really have been needing an answer for how to respond when all I feel is that I am worthless, or I need to earn God's love because it's felt like I've always had to earn love my whole life. I've understood obedience, and rule keeping very well, but true unconditional love has never been part of my understanding. I was converted 3 years ago, and when I felt that kind of the love for the first time, it scared me, and amazed me. I couldn't fathom someone loving me as I was. I was always rejected by everyone at school, betrayed by friends, emotionally absent parents, constantly belittled by a school system that failed me, etc (it gets worse in the details, but I'm keeping it short for brevity sake).
I can see now after all that has happened, I can't keep giving into those feelings like they are still happening now. It's over with, and with God's help, I can now be healed from it to never be pained by those things again.
I don't need to fear that's going to happen anymore, especially not with Him. I know in my brain He's trustworthy, now it's a matter of making His promise of love a matter of the heart. Thank you Pastor Mike. (P.s. the pastor at my church is also Mike, so I have 2 pastor Mike's!)
To anyone else who have suffered alone terribly for many years with no one who seems to listen, or care hear this scripture. "Does He who formed the eye not see, and He who formed the ear not hear?" Psalm 94:9.
He knows your pain, and He knows how hard it is to be vulnerable again. You can trust Him, He won't hurt you.
You may have a heart like mine that had been almost completely turned off from love and trust because of what's happened, but I know He's trustworthy. He's been slowly opening my heart wounds and cleaning them up as I've surrendered. You may be able to be 100% vulnerable with God day one of you trusting Him, and I truly hope you can, but I know I have not been able to. I had no idea how to even be vulnerable! Good boy though I was (according to my parents), I had no real love, or vulnerability ever made known to me, or that I could be that way with anyone! You can know God loves you, and will work with you if you'll push past the fear. The most repeated phrase in the bible is "don't be afraid" and is said 366 times. One for every day of the year including the leap year.
He intends us to keep that command as best we can, not suppressing our emotions, but laying them bare before Him, trusting Him with them and telling us how to deal with them based on His Word.
Be blessed, in Jesus's name.
Praying for you. Trust in Christ
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Xfactor, what an awesome testimony. I pray God keeps your heart strong and on the path. Satan wants nothing but our destruction, God wants nothing but our good. I quite frequently have used the comment to people regarding God saying "do not fear" to man, His creation. I feel like only a Creator who loves His creation would say that to it.
Beautifully said, this really stuck with me. God bless you
Abandonment fear comes from abandoning God and his creation which we all have done. Reuniting with God is done by forgiving everyone. Sacrifice doesn't do that.
“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly. Father will also forgive you.
"If you had known what these words mean, 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice,' you would not have condemned the innocent.
Props to Mike for not laughing at the name "Giant Mushroom Tree"
That is a badass name
Well said brother Mike! Jesus is Faithful and True! God bless you and your ministry!
Since leaving the chruch Ive found that a lot of my low self worth was coming from the men of God I trusted. I did lose faith and trust in those men, but held my faith in God. I still feel unworthy of Gods love but def know He loves me, watches out for me, and gets me thru each day. At times wanting to end it all, yet He would lead me to what I needed every time. Now I dont even think about ending it (life), only expanding on it. Thanx so much, Many Blessings
So many churches peddle that worthless worm syndrome, saying that we aren't worthy of God's love. We are his creation though. The bible is full of proclaimations of his love, just chock full of it. I think we get a demented view from the accuser that warps the way we should see God's love for us, so as not to feel unloved or unworthy when we fall short. We will always fall short. We need to see our efforts and when we do good though and let ourselves bask in our heavenly father's approval once in a while.
@@saintejeannedarc9460 Agree, I think to many see grace as a privilege to be earned. What a mistake. Thanx, Blessings
@@Fairygrl_TW Yes, grace wouldn't be grace if we actually could earn it. It's unmerited favour, after all.
You hit the nail on the head. Exactly what I’ve been dealing with. Sometimes I wonder if I’m even saved because of this pattern of sin.. and that worrying makes the pattern worse. And then I have all this anxiety about dying and being rejected by Christ, etc. It’s horrendous. I know I am so unholy and not a good representation of Christ.. It eats me alive every day. It causes an intense feeling of emptiness and loneliness. This answer brings me some peace..
everything you described is what i and many other christian’s deal with and it’s not talked about enough :(( may God give us the joy and assurance of our salvation, we are His 😭♥️
I feel this every single day. Thanks to never being taught what LOVE really looks like in my childhood, I just can't seem to trust in it. Ever. I feel like whatever in my brain is responsible for having trust in God's love just doesn't work. It's broken and beyond repair.
This is so true! But I want to add that this truth is sometimes a process to learn. Sometimes it takes time to shake off that hardened mud of lies that have caked on our hearts. Sometimes we need professional help as support while Jesus heals our hearts and embeds His word deep into us. So be encouraged that this may not be just a light switch transformation!
Hello 👋 How are you doing today??
4:34 I am just recovering from an emotional injury that almost cost my life in 2010. My spiritual life has changed in a mature way now. I am a CHRISTian now solidly. Praise HIS NAME.
This makes sense. Something I struggle with. Thanks, Mike.
Pastor Mike, I thank God for you and this ministry. I struggle with emotional emptiness (complex PTSD). This same encouragement here (cling to the truth of Scripture and believe even when I don’t feel it) has helped me recover from 4 yeas of persistent depressive disorder. My problem now though is that I have a hard time shaking off insecurity and actually LIVING this new life. Is this still a belief/faith issue I’m having? I hope it’s not but I’m afraid it is. I’m being patient and compassionate about the process of unlearning all the coping mechanisms I’ve used since childhood. But I still struggle SO bad with obedience. To be “free.” Sometimes I feel I reyoke myself when I feel I’m being called to do something I don’t believe I’m qualified to do. Maybe that’s my problem? Still stuck on self-sufficiency? Worried about my qualifications instead of Gods. Ugh. It’s frustrating. Because I want to grow and mature, and I have grown tremendously. But I feel I’ve reached a place that’s really challenging me to trust God for provision and idk I guess I’m scared still. Sorry… idk what my question is. I guess I also still just feel alone in life and like no one understands me. But God of course. And so when I watched this short I just felt SEEN. Please pray that I may find rest for my weariness and strength where I’m weak… in the Lord and trust him to see me through whatever it is he’s doing in my life. God bless you.
I have what you have (CPTSD) and (PTSD) and I have found that Jesus, when studying the scriptures closely, had a difficult upbringing and suffered daily because of rejection and abuse from his family. They also probably used him since he was lowly and humble and always obedient. But when the appointed time came for him to minister he was bitter and highly discouraged with his world. His family in particular. Take a moment with me and look at the exchange Jesus has with his mother at the feast when he turns water into wine It is quite telling: “Woman” he says to his mother. The blessed Virgin Mary. “Woman”? He continues, “what have I to do with thee?” Is that a way someone should talk to their mother? Especially Jesus? If I said that to my mother…she would smack me in the face. And then she ignores him, telling the servants to “do what he says”. Not very nice of Mary in the least.The deeper meaning behind what she said tells me she probably made him, throughout his life, perform miracles, like turning water into wine (people were already drunk at the party), and he always humbly complied. God Bless you. Jesus gets you.I get you. I am praying for your the continued healing of your wounds that are taking way too long to heal. I praise God that I am no longer suicidal today and are no longer tormented nightly by demonic nightmares. Blessings to you. Rest when you can. And don’t ever apologize for resting, Jesus didn’t.
You have grown, Raven, and you acknowledged that you did. We all hit impasses. Pretty much every struggle you still have was faced by the bible greats. They struggled w/ obedience, like King David who fell into adultery and killed his mistresses' husband. Moses struggled w/ feeling qualified for his calling and said she was slow of speech. Jeremiah got depressed and discouraged to the point he wanted to die. Jonah ran away from a calling and got swallowed and transported to prophecy to Ninevah. And on it goes. You're growing. We all hit impasses.
Yes, thank you. I think that Jesus and the others before him were not quite prepared the level of disobedience, stubbornness and fear we humans exhibit. At the end of “the story” before Jesus makes his ascension he pleads his case in the simplest terms. Love God and Love Others and “feed my lambs and sheep”. (3 times to Peter) lambs are children, sheep are “the blessed” to be fed….food. Not more words, food. Literally food. Pretty simple since we couldn’t handle the 10 commandments or the resurrection it had to be spelled out for us. Cheers and God Bless.
@@jasonbold9956 Uh no
I prayed to God The Father to help you with your weariness and to help you. I prayed that you would have peace in Jesus and that you would grow and strengthen in your faith. ❤
This is super helpful. I struggle w/ abandonment and love issues too - parent's divorced when I was 10, no dad, emotionally vacant mother etc etc. It's hard. This was I think the first time I've heard an answer to this question and need that helps towards a closer relationship with God. Thank you.
Abandonment fear comes from abandoning God and his creation which we all have done. Reuniting with God is done by forgiving everyone. Sacrifice doesn't do that.
“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly. Father will also forgive you.
"If you had known what these words mean, 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice,' you would not have condemned the innocent.
@@robertdouglas8895 No, abandonment fear came from trauma experienced as a young girl in tense and divisive adult situations for a long period of time and neglect from parents.
@@Swena76 We reap as we have sown. What goes around, comes around. Your life situation has come to you because it was exactly what you needed to learn to be more forgiving. Nothing in our lives is random. We are not victims of the world and we only know that when we learn and forgive.
@@robertdouglas8895 Ok. Thanks for your opinion.
Self-worth is an identity issue. We need to focus on what it means to be in Christ and identify with Him.
The Lord healed me recently in the most miraculous way. Where I felt there was no way, He stepped in and undertook in such a perfect way. If anyone needs encouragement today, please call out to Jesus....I shall never ever forget what He has done for me....
The title felt very relevant to me, but it turned out to be something quite different. I'm currently in a deep process which seems to be the next chapter of this story. I've given my life to Christ about 3 years ago, and have been building up trust in the Lord. At this point I am in that place where I completely trust Him, and I know that the difficulties I'm in right now are part of His healing process for me. That said, this healing process seems to be the second chapter after this topic.
I still have low self-worth and I still have something like "abandonment issues", although I would rather call them "trust issues", in relation to other people. I've had my trust betrayed so many times in my youth it has made me anxious to get involved with anyone unless they've proven to be trustworthy. I feel, tongue-in-cheek, like I've been kinda tricked by God's design for me, since I have many talents and many things are easy for me, except dealing with people. And then it turns out the most important thing in God's kingdom is dealing with people... So I'm actually really quite useless at the moment and I feel pathetic.
I don't trust people, which makes it very hard to build or even start relationship as part of spreading the gospel message. I've only recently become aware of just how crucial a problem this is, and now I'm in the process of working through this. It seems the first step is to break through my reluctance, persist through any setbacks, achieve successes in building relationship, and stay in close contact with God and my close Christian friends. I'll try to return here in a couple of weeks/months to share how things progressed, in case it may help or encourage anyone else. I'm optimistic that God will pull me through, providing healing and growth. Prayer is appreciated.
Abandonment fear comes from abandoning God and his creation which we all have done. Reuniting with God is done by forgiving everyone. Sacrifice doesn't do that.
“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly. Father will also forgive you.
"If you had known what these words mean, 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice,' you would not have condemned the innocent.
@Robert Douglas
Abandonment issues don’t always come from a place of hate or grudges. I would know. I used to be constantly on edge that everyone would leave me, but I was far more forgiving and merciful than I am now.
@@buddy6507 @Buddy spot on. I used to blindly trust and give my everything to the worst kinds of people when I was younger because of my abandonment issues. The people around me became more important to me than my relationship with God and (I don't know if this will help anyone) but maybe it's acknowledging that everyone could leave you, but God will still be there for you that will help take away some of the pain that comes with people going in and out of our life.
@Amadeus
The Lord help you to see his doing in your life and others'. May he bless you with strength and wisdom to do his will. May he comfort you with the truth of his word and remind you of the joy of his salvation, especially in times of hardship. May his name be glorified through you, and may his kingdom come.
In Jesus' name I pray, amen!
@@Blablablahx3 Amen. Thank you. May God bless you, and those around you, as well. In Jesus' name.
Thanks for this, Mike! The cross is a daily reminder of God’s love and forgiveness for me ❤️
This was an excellent answer. Thank you for letting God use you to minister to us, Mike
I want to add to this, sometime we feel these ways because it's a MINDSET and fall prey to thinking patterns. You have to relearn how you think and remind yourself the truth and not your fears
Mike you answered that so well. Thankful to God for His truth spoken through you.
I'm extremely close to someone who very deeply feels these things... I think you hit the nail on the head... No matter how much love is given, if they don't FEEL it then it must not be real love... It's a struggle to believe the love is real regardless of how it feels...
Thanks for this! Head knowledge and heart knowledge are two very different things. There is great value in obeying God, believing God even when you feel nothing. In fact, it’s such a blessing to glorify God in that way. Believing what He says because He is God - even if it will take time to sink into my heart. Faith doesn’t always manifest itself in great zeal or assurance, but in an unwavering commitment to truth. I struggle with low self-worth and a want for intimacy. I combat this by committing to what God wants me to do *today* and by remembering that no one will ever be more intimate with me than He who dwells in my heart at this very moment. Even when our hearts are weary and hard, the righteous shall walk by faith. ❤
Dang. 🤦♀️. I’m old. More than a couple years as a believer, saved.
And I STILL feel like things between me and God are broken and distant when I have done something wrong.
Shame and lack of trust. But the turnaround is shorter. 😂 🙌🏼🙏🏼😊
Many years ago the Lord planted this in my heart “receive your acceptance in the Lord”. Every day he’s walking that out in me. ❤️🙌🏼
Mike this is so good. You replied with sensitivity and compassion. Thank you for sharing so openly about your own struggles but at the same time considering your family. Yes there is a battle to believe in what God has said. I know this video will help a lot of people.
YES Brother! We do have an Abchor! And we grab hold of Him, by trust.
Thank you Lord Jesus Christ for your grace your mercy! Thank you brother Mike for being obedient to God. You have a wonderful gift of teaching and communicating things in a way that is truly edifying to me and to many others. Glory to God.
Thanks Mike. Just started on some low dose anti depressants and have been on the mend lately. Thanks for helping me get back on the straight and narrow. God is good. Your channel has blessed me so much 💕
God bless you
I have been listening to quite a few of your videos and find you to be the perfect blend of rational, reasonable, humble but not compromising the Truth to be popular. Knowing what I know of you this far from your videos you would take a comment like this, appreciate it,but not let it sway you from continuing to be authentic and God pleasing. The temptation to be full of ourselves is a strong one on social media platforms. I imagine if Jesus himself was a You Tuber He’d be inclined to have the same approach . He was constantly redirecting the attention away from Himself and onto the Father. Keep up the good fight of faith. We desperately need this in our day and age. God has provided us with a way of escape to stay strong in this current generation through channels like yours. Thank you!!
It blesses me too, Mike
This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear this morning. I have struggled with this for years and I know that God has been working with me to stop believing the lies the enemy tells me and that I tell myself and to believe HIS WORD - His written, irrevocable TRUTH. It may not happen overnight and though I may take two steps forward, sometimes there's a step back, but I will always get back up and persevere because in my weakness HE is strong; He will never leave me nor forsake me and He is the Author and FINISHER of my faith. I truly believe this. What helps tremendously is to know that I am not the only one who struggles with this issue. Thank you again, Pastor Winger, for bringing to light such an important topic for so many sincere followers of Jesus. I am so grateful.
Thanks for this one Mike!
I'm praying for the questioner! I hope they are able to sink into His constant love, and be filled.
You're not alone.
I never knew I felt like that until you said this mark, thank you so much for this, and you’re SO RIGHT!
I used to feel like I had to be good too for a while so I could talk to God again but I know it’s a lie from the Devil
Mike I have struggled with this exact issue recently and I completely agree with you. God bless you and everyone and thank you so much for your videos
I too have been kicking myself for past mistakes. Your words were very helpful. Thanks for sharing!!🙏
I am just from The Beat Allen's RUclips Channel after I had searched (The Biggest Christian Channels) so that I can learn from them. In his video your channel was number 3. I started a youtube channel on 7th of this month celebrating my 6yrs in Christ Jesus. I have already subscribed to your channel and I believe I am here to stay. Thank you so much for this sharing on self-worth.
It seems like some of us high in neuroticism will always feel this way to a certain degree. We always have to fight the very strong feeling that we are unworthy of love even from God and no amount of prayer or faith can fully shake that feeling.
I think we can struggle w/ feelings of unworthiness from other people, but we can definitely reach a point where God's love penetrates even the most neurotic. We may not always feel it, but we can know it. God's love had healed me quite a lot from lack of love and insecurity from the way I was raised. I still have ongoing issues w/ my mother, and I'm 55 and it still smarts at times, since I'm the scape goat kid, and likely always will be. Being cheated on after a 10 yr relationship really brought my issues back and made me realize there were old scars, as well as raw open wounds now. What's been a revelation is the loving command and constant reminder to "love your neighbour, as you LOVE YOURSELF". We need to love ourselves. This is a previously untapped source of love, that somehow ties in and enhances my sense of God's love for me. It's almost like a lot of the church teaches the opposite, and I've had Christians strongly oppose me that we already love ourselves too much. It's been healing though.
This helped me. It made me think back to when God did act in my life in a very powerful way and reminded me that he chose me.
Pathetic. Learn to think for yourself. god is clearly indifferent.
Bro… I didn’t think I needed to hear that but I did. Super helpful… excuse me while I go work on my baggage.
Congrats on 500k 🎉
The advice you gave in this video actually helped me tremendously. I've been dealing with the sense of abandonment and low self worth since my PawPaw passed away on August 19th of this year, and hearing what you said about how we're already valuable to GOD and loved by HIM because of what Jesus Christ did by dying on the Cross. That made my entire perspective on everything change in an instant, because my conscience knew that to be true. Thank you, brother, and may our LORD and Savior Jesus Christ be with you and your loved ones this Christmas.
Low self-worth? Read the Bible. It’s a love story. So many promises, so many statements that tell us how much He loves us. Come to know your worth in Christ. He died for you that you can be saved from the penalty of death. How much is a life worth? A lot! He said He would never leave you nor forsake you.
@Apsoy Pike wasn’t that because He thought His Father had forsaken Him not because He had? A lot of times we feel like that too but His Word tells us otherwise.
Yup!
I started a thing that when I feel a certain way, I’d rebuke it with scripture or a biblical affirmation
Eg: “ I feel as if no one cares for me”-> “ the creator of the universe died a gruesome way just to show how much He loves me”
Makes me feel better
Pastor Mike you are truly God sent I am currently going through this....Your word at the right time.
Thank you, Mike. Your answer hit me hard.
One of my biggest struggles is projecting other people's abandonment and rejection of me onto God. The *only* thing that helps is resting in the fact that God has proven His love for me (and everyone) through Jesus.
Also, I *know* God is not like fallible humans, even though my 'feelings' try to fool me.
Knowing these things doesn't take the bad feelings or numbness away, but the facts help me to keep holding on.
I pray Giant Mushroom Tree will be helped by this answer too. God bless you both.
Hey brother! Me and my fiancé are Both believers in Christ, and Newly born again! But we both still struggle with Anger and say things we Shouldn’t say, to each other, but a lot LESS now! How can me and her both come together and Stay in Christ even in those moments of anger, and choose peace and love when Satan has blinded us for a moment? I want nothing more but to Love her as Christ loves me, and she wants nothing more of the same! We do, but in those moments, we fail! Thank you so much, and may God continue to bless you for what you are doing for His people and the lost! Love you brother!
Brilliant answer to that question Mike 🤗🙏
Another side to this that requires a different answer is when one has been abused emotionally, physically and psychologically. Many live with this daily so it’s a constant battle to just live let alone get in the right headspace.
I caught covid on Thursday and had to miss half a day of work on Friday and also all of Saturday (today). I'm in so much pain and trying to manage the symptoms, but I am not getting hardly any sleep. Please pray for me.
It's amazing how often the message I need to hear comes up when I need to hear it. God is at work in our lives.
The enemy wants us to have those doubts..."Does God really love you?"
Scripture says He does! The more we read the Bible the more we can get to know and grow closer our Heavenly Father.
My mother died when I was young and my father was not a kind man, so I understand abandonment and having a Heavenly Father is the greatest joy!
Praying is talking to God, but if you want to know how He feels about you, read His Word. That's Him talking to you. Just start loving Him with all your heart, mind and soul and see what happens!
Love you all and I've prayed that everyone that is doubting, will know the Father's love for them as they think of the cross. He loved us first!!!! 💕
This a struggle for me as well. Thank you pastor Mike. Right now I’m wrestling with Romans 8 and how if we are children of God the Spirit will testify with our spirit. And how those not of children of God their minds are hostile towards Him. There are times where my mind is hostile towards God. It’s so shameful. And I don’t feel like God’s child. It’s putting me in so much fear. I’m so scared.
Great perspective !!! This is me --- I often feel like I fail God every day (which i do like everyone in some respect) and that HE couldn't possibly love me :). Thanks this helps!
My marriage is in a bad place could really use some prayers thank you
Keep it up Mike Winger and staff. Glad that you guys try your best. You’re videos have helped me and changed my life. I have faith that God will bless you guys greatly. Blessing in Jesus Name!
I thought it was only me lol. You explained to a T, exactly how I'd feel, if I'd fall backwards here and there. It's hard to remember the constant finality of Jesus' sacrifice, sometimes we apply human emotions to it, and feel like God's shaking his head at us but that must be purely a human reponse to our guilt.
Abandonment fear comes from abandoning God and his creation which we all have done. Reuniting with God is done by forgiving everyone. Sacrifice doesn't do that.
“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly. Father will also forgive you.
"If you had known what these words mean, 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice,' you would not have condemned the innocent.
They need deliverance Pastor Mike....
This was me ages ago.
BUT, I heard... understood.. was struck by... the lyrics of an old song by Bob Fitts - "I will rejoice"
The part that struck me the most was in the middle of the verse: "It doesn't depend on the way I feel, I've made up my mind."
Whoa. Wait. What I know in my head needs to have precedence over what my feelings are telling me.
My past still sometimes rears its ugly head, but I know how to shut it up. I don't live there anymore.
Such wise advice! I had an epiphany when I came to better understand God’s grace for us, and I can so relate to the story you were explaining in your younger years. Realizing God’s grace and love is a game changer. Im currently reading Chuck Smith’s book titled, “Why Grace Changes Everything.” Highly recommend it to anyone struggling with condemnation.
Hello 👋 How are you doing today??
It's actually when you CEASE SIN and REPENT and walk NO longer therein it, is when Gabe kicks in, and Salvation THEN begins.
It is SIN that Separates humans from the Grace and protection, by YHVH, from Its LAW of consequence.
The satanic LIE Manichaeism theology teaches is "we're NOT under the LAW yada BS.
That is demonic LIE from calvinism-lutheranism-baptism false gospel teachings.
The LAW means Torah which Hosea & Isaiah BOTH taught it willl be taught in the eternal kingdom fr ever.
You've been LED to by the Many False prophets on YT channels about what s what.
There is NO Grace for repeating and chronic disobeying and doing SIN!! NO THERE ISN'T!!
Thats what 9s called Offering yourself a Living SACRIFICE and HOPE he accepts IT and grants forgiveness and Grace wherein Salvation then can begin!!
You absolutely cannot get SAVED in SINS or get Grace in SINS! Christ did NOT forgive Nor over "FUTURE SINS", that LIE he somehow does this channel kept deceiving you ppl with!!
The wages of SIN is still death!
As taught OPPOSITE this false gospel channels, misleading ppl with or like Manichaeism theology does.
Grace means empowerment when YHVH couples your OBEDIENCE to What s written and walk as to what is written Then and Only THEN does Grace begin to be your helper spirit.
scriptures say we is a WORKER TOGETHER with US!!
Believe the fact not the lie love it!!! Helpful thank you
Wow! I don’t know whether that answer spoke to Giant Mushroom Tree (who is not alone in facing such feelings), but it was as if the Holy Spirit was speaking directly to me through you! Thank you and God bless you for that very edifying and beautifully articulated reminder of the fact of God’s promises in His Word that we can and must trust if we claim to truly believe.
Very good answer. Heavenly Father does love us.
Thanks. Much appreciated, Pastor Mike. Although the message was intended for the questioner, I still got something out of it. I, too, have felt that whenever I sin, I have strayed far away from God. I now know my feelings deceive the truth, so I must put faith in the word instead of my own self-perceived notions.
Wowzers. What you described is me EXACTLY! I have to wait a few days after willful sinning before I approach God and it usually takes weeks before I feel like the relationship is healed. Mike, the truth you spoke in this video is so good!
It needs to be and can be the opposite. Run right to God and confess and know you're forgiven. Think of a kid that hides something bad they did to their parent. If they just go right to their parent and tell them they feel bad for doing this thing and apologize and want to make it right, any loving parent is going to be proud of them. They'll get a hug or a shoulder squeeze and encouragement for doing the right thing.
I am so ugly by the standard of the world that even my own dad called me ugly. I feel so uncomfortable in my own skin and hate shopping for clothes because I have to see myself in the mirror. I came home from the store yesterday feeling so down because of it. There’s something that could be done to me to make me look more normal and feel better but I don’t know if I feel right about doing that.
Lean on Jesus, know that He ordained your life and appearance perfectly according to His will. ❤️I struggle greatly with this too, and what comforts me is that Jesus’s values are completely different from the world. Do not conform to the world’s values-conform to Christ’s values! and remember this verse, sweet friend!
Luk 16:15 And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God.
Know that God’s estimation of your appearance is completely different from the world’s, your dad’s, and your own heart’s. Look unto Jesus (hebrews 12:-1-2!) and see His values in scripture!!! Do not fret yourself with vain things of this world. Be content knowing that this world is temporal and passing away-and conforming to its vain demands is naught. But what you do in faithfulness to Jesus glorifies Him and endures for ever. Throw off, cast away the values of the world-those are foolish. Rest in Christ, trust Christ, be found in Christ. ❤️
Heb 12:1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,
Heb 12:2 Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.
Do Not Grow Weary
Heb 12:3 For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds.
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This is exactly how I feel!!! Thank you so much for this Mike :)
His mercies are new every morning. Praise God.
What a phenomenal answer.
I appreciate the fact that you did NOT give the pat answer.
Thank you for actually thinking about the question and giving a genuine response.
This right here is exactly what has kept me going all of these years!
thx for this Mike really showed me im not alone. Continue holding strong in the faith bro.
Awesome response Pastor Mike, as someone who struggles with these issues, it really helped me a lot. Thank you!
This was very relevant for me Mike. Thank you
I would love to hear more of your advice on this topic. God bless!
I had always approached God from the perspective that He was disappointed in me. I only just realized this this year. I’m 38 years old, and I’ve been a Christian since I was nine. Almost thirty years following the Lord, and it took me that long to BELIEVE that the Lord LOVES me. He loves me so very much, and I just, well, I get it now. Finally.
Well said because Society tells you go by how you feel do what makes you feel better instead of what you know that God has said to us by his scripture
Mike we love the work you do for the Lord. Please unpack the power of lies we believe to be true about ourselves and HOW a person gets free. And please not just a new Christian cliche. Help us with a real legitimate process.
Blessings to you!
I am so thankful to God that I find your and others' teachings. I just want you to make a video or talk to me personally about what to read other than The Holy Bible to be able to defend my faith from false teachings and also things that I should know as a Christian who lives in the end times. Thank you for your time.
This is a blessing to me, Keep up the good work Mike :)
Pastor Mike is a genius! Faith is the evidence of things not seen!!
this has helped me so much, i listened to this when you first posted it but have thought of it so many times these past few months. this has really strengthened my heart and helped me. thank you Mike. this here is a verse that has encouraged me to trust in the Lord rather than my feelings
Isa 50:10 Who is among you that feareth the LORD, that obeyeth the voice of his servant, that walketh in darkness, and hath no light? let him trust in the name of the LORD, and stay upon his God.
Thank you, Pastor Mike. I needed to hear this, as someone who deals with the same issues. I hope this blesses GiantMushroomTree as much as it has blessed me.
A grounded message from grounded man...
Though He slay me, yet will I trust Him. My Savior and my God.
This issue manifests most for me when I'm in a group with other Christians and thd topic turns to gifts and callings. Everyobd is there saying "I git this gift! I got this calling! God gave me this purpose in life!"
And when I ask how I get gifts, calling, and purpjse it is always the same pat, trite, shalliw answere. "You get the default setting that everyone gets. You get etefnal life and your purpose is to praise Him!"
Gee, thanks, Peggy Pew Sitter. How come you get the gift ofthis really cool thing and your calling is that really amazing thing and look at you, you special snowflake ... but I get a ripped brochure. How special.
Yet will I trust Him. But the pain of knowing I just skated in and His promise was done at the salvation transaction so He can now forget I exist ... hurts.
All this to say ... the modern Church has destroyed the faith of a great many people because its teachings on gifts and callings is infantile and narcissistic.
It us time for mature teaching in this. The Body is in pain. Unbelievers don't want to ride the impossible, works based, dogma train any more than I do.
Exactly what I needed today! Thank you so much!!!
I needed this right now.
I think this will help a lot of people. Thank u.
Thanks for this!
Thank you for sharing. I sometimes have to work through discerning between my emotions and the truth that God loves me regardless of what my neurological system is telling me. "If our hearts condemn us, we know that God is greater than our hearts, and he knows everything. Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God." (1 John 3:20-21)
Trauma beyond. Thank you you helped me so much. ❤❤🙏
Awesome advice Mike. Always on point!
Thank you very much!