Dr. Gabor Maté ~ Compassionate Inquiry
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- Опубликовано: 27 сен 2024
- Compassionate Inquiry is a psychotherapeutic method developed by Dr. Gabor Maté that reveals what lies beneath the appearance we present to the world.
Using Compassionate Inquiry, the therapist unveils the level of consciousness, mental climate, hidden assumptions, implicit memories and body states that form the real message that words both express and conceal.
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I could listen to him all day. He makes so much sense.
You and me both 💝
He helps us build a bridge back to our hearts.
He is not a bridge. His words are but mere instructions for rebuilding our own.
So the only thing that made sense was your heart, when you used his words to came back into alignment
I feel the same way. And I feel the same way about his son Aaron Mate. He is a journalist (at The Gray Zone). So informative yet calming. He broke the Syria chemical weapons OPCW cover up. Beautiful souls that family ❤️
Same I can be so damn confused if I don’t hear stuff like this
3:30 "I won't make room for a lot of 'story' or 'history' telling...Real compassion isn't about making someone feel good; it's about guiding them to the truth." Fierce Compassion.
People are good in rationalizing but the real healing starts with helping people to feel what needs to be felt
Without going into the details of the history, how do you decipher all the present emotions correctly?
I have been looking for a therapist like him for myself. Since I couldn’t find one, I decided to heal myself by his teachings. I realize that I sometimes can’t really recognize many of my feelings. It is not easy to pinpoint the correct emotion. I think many therapist are failing doing that so.
How does he do that? Did he ever touch that anywhere?
@@bylayla00 If you struggle with recognising your feelings an emotion focused therapist in your area can help you to reconnect with your body and your emotions. Disconnection is often a trauma response. Support by someone who s trained in helping you to get back in touch with your feelings can make the healing process much easier. All the best for your beautiful journey.
@@dr.gbailey thank you.
Perhaps not making a person feel good, but providing a connection between therapist and client, where an sense of authenticity and safety is created, where by the client feels safe enough to discuss their woes, without the feeling of being judged, that the therapist time is truly invested in you, only wanting the best best outcomes possible.
Father Greg Boyle calls it "returning people to themselves." He quotes the phrase from a Christmas carol, "and the soul felt it's worth."
I love how different people say the same thing in different words, so we can get it.
Now, we just need to learn how to do this with each other, everyday!
That the source of ALL dysfunction is disconnection from self...the most important words I've ever heard. Thank you Dr Mate'💝
Dr. Mate, you are a wonderful man who has helped me very much. Thank you.
me too
Me three. Thank you so much Gabor.
Terry Bear me to
Really happy to hear this...Interestingly in a course in miracles it says a simular thing; That we do not need to search for love, we only need to let go of the barriers to loves presence. Because love is.
I have always known i could provide this with my students. I had one very depressed anger 3rd grade student whom I connected with just as you are speaking. He started out sleeping every day for an hour on his desk. I found out his mother passed the year before. And, after making a compassionate daily connection for 30 days - no more sleeping in class. I was a temporary teacher. I asked the kids what the other teacher did when he fell asleep. They said, "she yelled and said get up lazy".
such a great opportunity and gift to be able to do this as a teacher : )
@@lilyl5492 if that was one person whom i could help- my life was worth it;)
@@makaylahollywood3677, You changed a life. My God you’re an Angel, Makayla. No doubt his mother was watching over him. I hope his regular teacher was informed. So heartbreaking.
Thank you for being kind to him 🌸
@@poppybean7807thank you :-)
Compassion is a gift from Jesus 🙏
you are a good person and a brilliant intelectual person.
I'm not sure what I'd do without him, I'm so incredibly grateful for this Man ❤
Thank You Dr. Gabor Mate' for your understanding about human nature and the awesome work you do...you are amazing and have incredible insight and such wisdom, wit and humor, and you have a sweet gentle spirit... your empathy and sensitivity are your special gifts... you offer Hope for the hopeless, a pathway to freedom from the tyranny of delusion. Blessings to you dear healer...you have opened the door of our hearts, and have guided us back home to our true selves. Namaste' Om Shanti Om
Forever grateful. Dr. Gabor Maté helps us save ourselves and the world if only we open up and go there.
Thank you! You are my hero, my mentor and all that this world needs when it comes to the healing of the total dysfunction of human beings. I am now qualified as a compassionate Inquiry Counsellor, under your programme - no other Dr or psychiatrist comes CLOSE to you, or your knowledge. I believe that is because they are unable to understand these disorders, they either don't have them, or they've long lost interest in the person, waiting for the pay check.
Thank you Dr. Gabor. You are so so needed and loved and respected. Your work should go on and on, long after you are gone. Hopefully not soon.
Beautifully said and Compassionate Inquiry is a very eloquent way to describe the facilitating process.
Many contemporary psychodynamic psychotherapists practice this way, and not the old Freudian way. Moment by moment. Co creating meaning and inquiry. Getting at their truth and desire, and the blocks in the way.
I have never seen one who lived with all life long with happiness or sadly purely. In my opinion, if you are in trauma or painful, let's thinking, there is a good day for one who lives as you can do the better as the beginning the new. Painful is something in common. Let's live in reality not expect, but no hopelessly to be.
So simple and yet so compassionate.
Compassionate Inquiry seems like a dose of Frank Farrelly, dash of Milton Erickson, topped off with Richard Bandler. Pattern Interrupt, feedback loop, future pace
TODA GABOR MATE!!🙏
You nail it Gabor! Thank-you!
Thank you for your knowledge and your beautiful energy.
Thank you so much 🌈
Namaste & Heart Hugs, thank you
Thank you
Amazing! 2 thumbs up!!
Thank you sir!
Coz we are all capable of anything, under a particular combination of triggers; may we return back to self and other, so we can return back to our nature, in our Gardens of Eden in Shambhala
Brilliant ..
Wow!
Great
Gabor the Grand.
To be someone who practices companionate inquiry you have to know yourself very well that goes without saying for all therapists but it simple isn’t the case. Carl Jung indicated that therapy was as much as lesson for the therapist as the patient.
AA's Clancy Imislund is one of these leaders.
I was hit this morning with the realization of how angry I truly am I don’t want to go into the story but the rage and anger toward men i realize I have lived hating men with all my heart I do hate them it is because of obvious things I’m sure that you can figure out it’s because of childhood abuse in many forms and men had continued to treat me like shit till I had turned angry and cold towards them I love people aside from men I feel hatred and apathy towards men and masculinity I see that I had separated from myself a long time ago in regards to men in order to protect myself I developed a fear that turned to hatred and to this morning I realized the truth my fear turned to anger my anger turned to hate and apathy towards men I don’t hate all people in fact there are people I love fiercely with all of my heart but not men I have definitely now seen how I separated from myself and to this moment have to find a way within me for myself to heal the wounds that created the protective behaviour that does work unfortunately to keep men away from me because they where terrible violent hurtful mean and nothing loyal or caring or enjoyable about them I hate being near them dealing with them or talking to them I don’t feel safe comfortable or secure I hate when they look at me to be truthful I feel a bit better admitting to this yes the story was years of childhood abuse that happened and abuse into adulthood that happened but it’s because I’m disconnected from myself I feel that hatred and just wanting them to go away ( men) so i have to really re connect to myself because the burden of the anger and hatred feels so heavy I’m not needing to heal for men it’s so I can be free of the hatred and anger and not carry that burden of it with me
Hope your doing well Katie 🌸
i love you MATE
I tried compassionate enquiry but I didn't find it helpful, can you offer and advice?
❤
You are my mother Theresa
When he is silent I get scared. What's that about?
Because the pause of the speaker turns the focus to you and requires you to really process what he has just said, so now you have the responsibility to in a sense respond inwardly, what you do with the information he is giving you is like a responsibility that really carries weight. What are you doing now that you have this knowledge… his pause is your turn in the dialogue, he’s asking you to not only listen but to take in the gravity of what he is saying and act on it. He is passing you the baton
Clancy imislund and other AA bullies don't have compassionate inquiry abilities toward good people.
I will have to repeat this entirely .I'd better not.
Earnestness now
AA's Clancy imislund tried to destroy Anthony Hopkins with his "me belief"
Those are all buddhist teachings, he has influenced a lot
I like this vid.. but the world is structured to draw you away from compassionate enquiry. Are you not just setting yourself up to fail.. Will the Robot not just become confused if it has to handle it's awareness.
I didn't find it helpful
I want Gabor to be my therapist......😭
He is looking (and sounding) more and more like an aged Jesus. The weight of understanding the fact of how much pain we are all in, is etched in his face
He’s not. Maybe a false Jesus or which there are many. But how would you know what the real Jesus Christ of Nazareth looks like. He is fully God and yet was fully man… he that knew no sin, became sin for us (so that we might become the righteousness of God in Christ) died a horrific death on a cross for our sins not for his own sins, went to the grave. And three days later rose again and walked and talked and ate with his fiends and disciples for 40 days before he ascended to sit at the right hand of The Father.
Also Jesus wouldn’t have that demonic statue of kali or whatever that thing is behind Gabor, in his midst.
I like Gabor. He has helped me. But he’s no Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Love you ❤️
@@AyeWitness fascinating! You seem to know what Jesus is not then share a slew of myths as if factual. Dogma has no place in love, and your intolerance (is your faith so shaken by a statue?) shows how far you are from love, despite ending your proselytising with nice words.
@@AyeWitness disgusting and ignorant. You call yourself thee truth teller…? You’ve got some serious inner work to do.
I love you 💕💞🧡💜I wish there were more Drs. like yourself. You are absolutely amazing. The contribution you have made to humanity, are beyond words. Thank you so much! 🙏🙏🙏
Many thanks Dr Gabor Mate for your contributions to mankind . For helping all who desire to troubleshoot and identify the problem areas . That one day when one knows better he - she can do better in a timely matter . Your insights have helped me so much-needed . Julia Penson i
Why is there only one man like this?! Ugh I love him and his work so much. So helpful❤️
There are people who think like this…however, very few with the opportunity to be heard…
Very beautiful message.
God Bless you with much love and gratitude in Christ Jesus
Thank you so much🙏
This is what i want to do 🧡🤍
Beautiful soul
i love you Gabor
Dr Mate! Hello! Loving your background design! Very fitting! The flowers - are they real? Beautiful bouquet and great dancing statue. One of your listeners here - appreciating your honesty and calm manner despite the chaos.......
could you enable automatic english subtitles?
I gave him credit until he gave this caricature of the psychoanalyst. I can't help but wonder why he felt the need to do that.
Because people fear therapy, and they fear the act of spilling their guts to a quiet, nearly non-responsive 'expert.' In that scenario, one could easily feel judged. He wanted to contrast the interactivity of his Compassionate Inquiry vs. the attentive listening of the therapist. I think it's great that he cuts through the stories because stories are filled with truth and lies, and his point is to help one figure out what is authentic in the present moment.
There are still tons of horrible therapists out there that fall right into that stereotypical category where years go by without any progress being made for the client or the therapist.
I would check out his books and other videos before writing him off.
Thank you Dr. Mate!
I find little compassionate inquiry from AA leaders(and there are) toward members who think for him or her self.
John Jakle step four is a clear and organized effort at compassionate inquiry- brought with non-judgement on a members ego and fear driven characteristics
Right on!!!!!!
Perfect