How your CHILDHOOD affects your LOVE life
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- Опубликовано: 11 июл 2024
- What do each love style say about your childhood? Have you ever wondered how your childhood affects your relationships when you grow up? Psych2Go video: • How Your Childhood Inf...
also mom and dad: "wE gAvE yOu EvErYtHiNg wE hAd"
I think it's often true, but you know, parents also can get lost, they don't know what they actually have or want. The worst part is that they sometimes can't open their eyes and see what their kids might need or feel... That's just sad
@@ola7016 Aye. I'm actually talking about a situation when you - yourself - know what was/is going on with your mental health and what caused it and they act like they aren't at fault when confronted with facts lmao.
But yes, sometimes they don't know - that's why at this moment I cannot blame them for not knowing if I didn't know myself.
@@marsin23 Yeah sure, I get that now :)
My dad: I wAs A gOd DaD
Also my dad: were drunk all the time and sometime used cocaine
Quick Summary
1) Secure: No problem, Healthy Relationship, Don't mind being single
2) Anxious: Insecure, Trust issues, might become needy or obsessive
3) Avoidant: Need to feel independent, seems dismissive and unavailable, resist deep emotions
4) Fearful Avoidant: Fear of rejection, don't let anyone close out of fear, try running away from feelings
Where is Disorganized Attachment?
Is Disorganized Attachment style also Anxious or no?
@@kolfoster6926 Children with a disorganized attachment style usually fail to develop an organized strategy for coping with separation distress, and tend to display aggression, disruptive behaviors, and social isolation. They are more likely to see others as threats than sources of support, and thus may switch between social withdrawal and defensively aggressive behavior (Kennedy & Kennedy, 2004).
Thank you for the mention!!!
Didn't you mention them?
thank you kat, i needed this, recently i've been very confused about what i feel.
i've talked to my mom, and i was really scared of how would she react, and she literally sended me to therapy and wanted to help me.
i always thought asking for help was easy, until i needed that help, then i didn't know how to ask for it, but i finally did it, and i know i have a long way, but im trying.
Thanks for the video it hits home 🏡 now I understand why it was so hard to date when I was younger ( it was almost impossible to show feelings…even knowing I was feeling them inside ) your awesome 😎 stay safe !!
I find myself relating to the Fearful Avoidant type. I'm always the one to push people away when they start actually knowing me beneath the surface.. Even my friends and I have ended relationships when everything was absolutely fine and told myself that I was brave enough to leave them before they leave me.
My father is abusive and narcissistic and my mother has always been unavailable emotionally and unstable herself. I understand my attachment style so much better thanks to this.
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I did not know that I was anxious and avoidant in my relationship. I knew that my parents not always be there and support me when I need it, but I did not know that this effected me. Thanks for your videos🙏🏽💕💞 Love thrm, always.
*I think you have found the perfect niche! If you keep educating people with content like this, your channel is going to explode over the next 12 months.* I learned so much in such a short amount of time and I have a background in medicine, so that shows you how good your teaching style is. Keep it up! I can’t wait to see you go to the moon! 😊🙌
I am very surprised that even though I come from lots of trauma with two alcoholic, violent and abusive parents, my attachement style is secure. I struggle with other things a lot. My mental health has always been an issue. I've been depressed for pretty much 2 years now. But I never had any trouble building up and keeping relationships, trusting my partner or leaving when it's time.
And I'm very grateful for that.
Well tbh 'never had' is a lie. I used to have trouble leaving. But after I stood in a relationship that I wasn't able to leave for 4 years, I finally understood how important it is to let go. And since then I don't have trouble leaving anymore.
Feels like I developed every attachment style except secure... But the one describing me the best is fearful avoidant
Thank you for making this lovely video. I got lonely a few years ago and was seeking help on loneliness. Stumbled into attachment styles and learned a lot about myself. It makes me really sad that I don't have secure attachment style but it also gives me hope that there's chance for communication.
What love life?
Escaping from reality, doesn't change the reality .
I am diagnosed with attachement disorder, makes relationship impossible, I just gave up on relationships.
Why this made me cry
You must have got triggered by something inside you that needs healing. Look up: inner child work. Gl
i love your videos.
Great, im fearful avoidant. What a great life huh?
Try being the other person. It's not any better. Everyone should be working on their issues instead of hurting everyone in their path.
@@hgzmatt im single, probably always will be ✌🏻
@@kamilatoscana3269 I hope it's by choice.
I feel like AVOIDANT
I just wanted to stop wanting a relationship. But it just doesn't work that way. And maybe it's the way it should be... Still confused
Thank You
I would highly recommend book by R Schwartz: You Are The One You've Been Waiting For. Never ever read anything more wise and beautiful. IFS has been transformative for me in so many ways !
Hi Kat! Lots of love from Kerala
I love your videos
I have been feeling like I can't love or give love, it is very hard cause my mental health is really not good. I just can't love deeply right now, I feel weird when I say " I love u " it doesn't feel real or like an emotion it feels like something I pushed away completely. I feel bad for my bf cause I can't give what a gf should give I think. It has been different but now it's just like this
That's exactly how it works for me I feel bad but can't help either
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I probably have the last one🙃
Black sheep in a black family. Growing up with a family who were against each other in every facet of life. To come together for the sake of showing of their well being; to come together to simulate emotions of caring and kind when jealousy, gossip and pettiness became dominant. When your family is supposed to be the ones you trust through and through but caused you more suffering than your worst enemies; you're in a family full of strangers. Media, philosophers, other people and maybe friends and individuals you may look up to would tell you to endure. That your family is all you have, and to make peace etc. You can not make peace with fire. I'd say more but abandonment and loneliness whether due to family, friends or both... even yourself is the true pandemic. They do not have a cure for any of that.
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Hiya
I am the fearful avoidant and yes my dad is really an alcoholic
Dlaczego już nie ma polskich napisów 😢
4 :'(
I feel like I'm fairly secure at this point, definitely wasn't for most of my life. Sadly, it's no cure all. You can run into all kinds of dysfunctional people. Like you said.. people sometimes run from relationships for no good reason at all. You are left behind to pick up the pieces. I'd really appreciate some luck for once.. give me a break, would you. I deserve some love too..