This is a great message. The need to be needed can be very draining on those felt needed by. When a person has the freedom to be who they are and come and go doing what is important to them.. I believe it will create healthier overall lifestyle and personal freedom. It's very easy to fall into ruts and roles with people and essentially using them for self gain. My kids need me.. they are dependant upon me until they reach an age where they are able to do for themselves.. but it's my role to try and create independence from an early age so that they can stand on their own two feet because there's times in life when you can't count on others. That's just facing reality. While God (biblical) himself calls me into closer relationship with him.. there is still a similar relationship within that believe it or not. He is the one I can turn to for strength or wisdom or understanding and yet I still have a freedom to make choices within that understanding and wisdom given. Including the freedom to say no to people or materialism. Within the ten commandments it's thou shalt not.. but that's setting the healthy boundaries and the only reason he had to be so firm about it was that those claiming his name.. were entering into unhealthy relationships and situations. It's the same as if I said to my kids don't do this and that and yet they did it anyway.. they would need to be corrected because basically if they using my name and lying or living against what I stand for and have said is to be within my household then say but mum said.. that would be using my name in vain. Boundaries do actually create freedoms. In the same ways if my kids live within my boundaries then they have freedom to do many other things. The aim is to lessen their need and dependancy upon me. That's why I think this is a great message about losing the need to be needed.
This is oh so true... And like lots of people I needed to be needed when I was younger but I no longer do... I now need to feel free, as free as possible even though I am always ready to help when those I love or those in need ( whether humans or animals) need help... However I will now refuse any of those "give and take" relationships as soon as I realize it is one... I have to get better at recognizing them in the beginning, it is not easy to get rid of them afterwards... Once more, thanks for your insight!!!
Yeah I say you don't need friends or food or water or anything I let go of everything and rely on myself I'm happy just the way I am i just wanna give this girl i like a really big hug
You said it all in only 7 minutes lol. Well done and straight forward. Your metaphors were quite profound :) I enjoy your videos, Jason. Thanks for this particular one though. I've struggled so long with feeling the need to be needed. Only recently has that changed and I'm happier than I was even a year ago. Once I learned to detach myself from that "illusion" I started realizing that a large number of people live day by day grasping on to "needs." It's something, really. I am very grateful to be out of that "trap."
Great video Jason! as you say, you're being an important tool in my life atm! I did find your videos some days ago, watched a lot of them, had a lot of epiphanies and even bought your book (liking a lot btw). I'm very gratefull, Thanks!
Hello Jason great clip and so timely!!!!! I've had both parents to abandon me. Which was very hard for me to get pass as an adult. Even though I lived with them it was as if I didn't exist. I really wasn't wanted that's the truth of the matter. Add abuse and dysfunction to the equation and you have a total mess!!!!! Well this year as I have hold you has been a year of transformation for me. I realized as it kept playing out over and over again in my relationships that the other person was always manipulating me in some kind of way to get their needs met. And the pay off ( there's always a pay off) for me was I thought I was getting the love I never got from my parents. Which was not love because as you just said in the clip the other person can't love because the heart charka is closed. The funny thing is in those relationships I always I mean always ended up being betrayed by the other person because they also feared abandonment from some other family member or person close to them. This Hurt me extremely which only kept perpetuating the same pain from my childhood. I know this is long but I'm almost done!!!!! Lol! Well this year I also realized that all my relationships stemmed from the relationship I had with my stepfather. He had been manipulating me since I was a child. He uses financial means, the family thing and it kept me stuck for decades. I was miserable the relationship was very abusive as all my others were. I cut the cord and severed all ties with him. Also with the rest of the family. It was not love. I've never felt so free. I am in my 40s now and the single parent of a teenager. Over the course of my life I have surrendered to the plan of the universe. It was not easy but now it's a daily process to surrender my way and so call plan over to the universe. I have never felt so free!!!! Jason, I have been betrayed twice this year and I went out of my way to be good and help these people, but they were afraid to do the right thing because they feared the loss of family. I didn't think I would survive this one cause it hurt me so bad. Well the pain caused me to look at the manipulation and abuse I was allowing with my stepfather, which caused the shift. Now I can truly say that what happened to me was for my good!!!!! XOXO Namaste!!!!! Keep up the good work!!!!!
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“The need to be needed will always create this manipulation game.” TRUTH!!! 💯🏆
No one's going too acknowledge the badass song / intro ! Nice beat !!!
Thanks Jason stuck home strongly on a chord I wasn't expecting, thought needed.
Wonderful...Truth.....insightful...
This is a great message. The need to be needed can be very draining on those felt needed by. When a person has the freedom to be who they are and come and go doing what is important to them.. I believe it will create healthier overall lifestyle and personal freedom. It's very easy to fall into ruts and roles with people and essentially using them for self gain. My kids need me.. they are dependant upon me until they reach an age where they are able to do for themselves.. but it's my role to try and create independence from an early age so that they can stand on their own two feet because there's times in life when you can't count on others. That's just facing reality. While God (biblical) himself calls me into closer relationship with him.. there is still a similar relationship within that believe it or not. He is the one I can turn to for strength or wisdom or understanding and yet I still have a freedom to make choices within that understanding and wisdom given. Including the freedom to say no to people or materialism. Within the ten commandments it's thou shalt not.. but that's setting the healthy boundaries and the only reason he had to be so firm about it was that those claiming his name.. were entering into unhealthy relationships and situations. It's the same as if I said to my kids don't do this and that and yet they did it anyway.. they would need to be corrected because basically if they using my name and lying or living against what I stand for and have said is to be within my household then say but mum said.. that would be using my name in vain. Boundaries do actually create freedoms. In the same ways if my kids live within my boundaries then they have freedom to do many other things. The aim is to lessen their need and dependancy upon me. That's why I think this is a great message about losing the need to be needed.
This is oh so true... And like lots of people I needed to be needed when I was younger but I no longer do... I now need to feel free, as free as possible even though I am always ready to help when those I love or those in need ( whether humans or animals) need help...
However I will now refuse any of those "give and take" relationships as soon as I realize it is one... I have to get better at recognizing them in the beginning, it is not easy to get rid of them afterwards...
Once more, thanks for your insight!!!
Yeah I say you don't need friends or food or water or anything I let go of everything and rely on myself I'm happy just the way I am i just wanna give this girl i like a really big hug
You said it all in only 7 minutes lol. Well done and straight forward. Your metaphors were quite profound :) I enjoy your videos, Jason. Thanks for this particular one though. I've struggled so long with feeling the need to be needed. Only recently has that changed and I'm happier than I was even a year ago. Once I learned to detach myself from that "illusion" I started realizing that a large number of people live day by day grasping on to "needs." It's something, really. I am very grateful to be out of that "trap."
Thank you for these words, they made me smile
I'm so glad!
Excellent!
Very helpful! Thank you, Jason.
Thank you.
Great video Jason! as you say, you're being an important tool in my life atm!
I did find your videos some days ago, watched a lot of them, had a lot of epiphanies and even bought your book (liking a lot btw). I'm very gratefull, Thanks!
Thanks so much for being with me! Be sure to check out my art too. It carries a healing vibration that you might enjoy!
I'll check it out for sure!
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Hello Jason great clip and so timely!!!!! I've had both parents to abandon me. Which was very hard for me to get pass as an adult. Even though I lived with them it was as if I didn't exist. I really wasn't wanted that's the truth of the matter. Add abuse and dysfunction to the equation and you have a total mess!!!!! Well this year as I have hold you has been a year of transformation for me. I realized as it kept playing out over and over again in my relationships that the other person was always manipulating me in some kind of way to get their needs met. And the pay off ( there's always a pay off) for me was I thought I was getting the love I never got from my parents. Which was not love because as you just said in the clip the other person can't love because the heart charka is closed. The funny thing is in those relationships I always I mean always ended up being betrayed by the other person because they also feared abandonment from some other family member or person close to them. This Hurt me extremely which only kept perpetuating the same pain from my childhood. I know this is long but I'm almost done!!!!! Lol! Well this year I also realized that all my relationships stemmed from the relationship I had with my stepfather. He had been manipulating me since I was a child. He uses financial means, the family thing and it kept me stuck for decades. I was miserable the relationship was very abusive as all my others were. I cut the cord and severed all ties with him. Also with the rest of the family. It was not love. I've never felt so free. I am in my 40s now and the single parent of a teenager. Over the course of my life I have surrendered to the plan of the universe. It was not easy but now it's a daily process to surrender my way and so call plan over to the universe. I have never felt so free!!!! Jason, I have been betrayed twice this year and I went out of my way to be good and help these people, but they were afraid to do the right thing because they feared the loss of family. I didn't think I would survive this one cause it hurt me so bad. Well the pain caused me to look at the manipulation and abuse I was allowing with my stepfather, which caused the shift. Now I can truly say that what happened to me was for my good!!!!! XOXO Namaste!!!!! Keep up the good work!!!!!
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