Victim or Victor?

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  • Опубликовано: 11 дек 2024

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  • @sunnatural1272
    @sunnatural1272 4 года назад +108

    I am not a victim. I am bold as a lion, gentle as a dove and wise as a serpent.

  • @promisingrose8730
    @promisingrose8730 4 года назад +44

    Decision made... I am no longer a victim!

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt 4 года назад

      That simple choice is the difference between success and failure

  • @cpresley45
    @cpresley45 4 года назад +35

    Message well received. There are several quotes to live by....1) Stop trying to figure out something that you didnt cause..stop breaking yourself down into bite size pieces to serve others, stay whole and let them choke. ..2)How people treat you is on them, how you react is on you..You are not what happened to you, you are what you choose to become..3) Forget what hurt you,but never forget what it taught you..If you want to forget something or someone, never hate it, him,or her because everything you hate is engraved upon your heart..4) The best revenge is to show them that your life is much better with them gone.

  • @DunstanW
    @DunstanW 4 года назад +62

    Lord, now I see that it was not my fault, but it is my responsibility, how I respond to the situation 🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️ Thank you Tony 🙏🏾

  • @Itchpls
    @Itchpls 4 года назад +82

    I needed to hear this.. Never hurt someone who’s never hurt you, you will feel it 10x worst. That’s why I’m careful how I treat people. I have moved myself from those who have hurt me to the core.

    • @mariewalton7079
      @mariewalton7079 4 года назад +10

      I've been there too, but God has bought me a mighty long way. I will never do anyone like I've been done. I do believe in we reap what we sow. I want my blessings.

    • @Itchpls
      @Itchpls 4 года назад +1

      Marie Walton amen

    • @elainegomillion978
      @elainegomillion978 4 года назад +4

      I understand and know how to treat people, but I recently left a relationship that hurt me to my core, and I'm trying to get over it, and let it go. I really am, but its really hard and I want revenge REALLY bad. I know that its not okay to hold grudges, but I'm struggling with this, because I was good to him, and treated him like a King, and he didn't care about me at ALL, and really did me dirty!!😡😡😡😡😰😰😰

    • @Itchpls
      @Itchpls 4 года назад +4

      Elaine Gomillion revenge will only hurt you at the end.. so, let God seek that revenge for you. It’s goin to hurt for awhile but use that strength that you have and take your life back. I been there just recently and every time I get to that place I look at my kids ..

    • @elainegomillion978
      @elainegomillion978 4 года назад +1

      @@Itchpls
      Thank you

  • @pooh4025
    @pooh4025 4 года назад +47

    The title was enough for me ....and the first few words They will weep what they sow spoke to me ...I always say "I'm not bitter but better".

  • @DynamicallyDC
    @DynamicallyDC 4 года назад +24

    So true, as long as you have breath in your body, you have a chance to change your life and touch someone else's! 💎🙌🏾

  • @nataliekohler7988
    @nataliekohler7988 4 года назад +6

    I'm a nurse and I took care of an 89 year old woman who tripped and fell on her face, the facial trauma was horrendous, unrecognizable from purple bruising, but she was ok, no closed head injury nor neurological defiicits. She giggled when we talked I say look at you after such a traumatic fall, but you can still laugh and smile.
    She says if I don't laugh I will cry. She was a sharp, fun, and funny! Joyous woman I was so blessed to meet her and experience her light. She didn't feel sorry for herself and kept me smiling and laughing all day in spite of my job being challenging. I was blessed to be in the right time and place to meet her
    Great sermon Tony thank you

  • @wandalipscomb-lee736
    @wandalipscomb-lee736 4 года назад +23

    I didn't know how to get up from the Pain. I Pray I screamed I shout I got down right pissed the hell off, because I was tired of wasting time. Then God sent you Sir approx 1-2 months ago. Ive stopped talking to the x husband completely, because one day God spoke through you straight to my ears and gave me instruction on what to do and how to move. Everyday is a day of survival of not picking up the phone and calling him. Everyday is a survival putting those thoughts up under subjections. Everyday is a new day to push forward and do has God told me 7byears ago Dont Look Back. I did and yes I became a pillar of salt stuck right there in that place. God has shown me and released me again. Mr. Tony im moving with intent to speak and help another survive the bitter pain of rejection rebellion regret rewritten there story because my is now been rewritten.Much love Sir. You are the real deal out here in this world of hurt and pain

    • @michellemims9443
      @michellemims9443 4 года назад +1

      Thanks. You are amazing.

    • @lunamoon7539
      @lunamoon7539 4 года назад +1

      Thank you for sharing your story Wanda. Praise God. I feel the same way about my own pain I've gone through. I too rejoiced in the Lord knowing that he led me to Tony's videos. I left my ex as well, was wasting my time. 11yrs. I said, I knew this was not from the Lord yet I stayed.but then I said not today satan! I will surve my Lord Jesus with purpose from now on. Amen. I'm so happy that more women are seeing their worth and turning that pain to purpose. Stay blessed.

  • @pooh4025
    @pooh4025 4 года назад +48

    Short,sweet and to the point. This video may have only been 24min long but it was packed with so much truth all I could do was say "yassssss" to everything you were saying .

    • @CaramelKissez
      @CaramelKissez 4 года назад +1

      Yyyyyaaaassss Kiia🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽

  • @certifiedlifecoachdedras5916
    @certifiedlifecoachdedras5916 4 года назад +25

    Hello Mr. Gaskins! This Sunday sermon put the icing on the cake. When I first discovered you about 5 months ago, I was a victim & I never thought I would be a victim. Since then, I have never missed a video or a live because each video & live brought me closer to my healing & deliverance. Now, I am completely healed, whole & a victor! Currently, I am reaching back & sowing everything you sowed into me & others into victims & watching them become victors. You are God sent & if one listens to you & follows what you say-one will be healed-men & women both. I am a witness. Thanks a trillion because before meeting you-I was in complete darkness & now I have embraced the marvelous light & I am still “STANDING!” No one told me about you, God pointed me to you & your beautiful wife through You Tube...
    P.S.
    Life changing & God sent message!!!

  • @candegirl
    @candegirl 4 года назад +2

    Turning Pain to Power!!!!

  • @LisaGemini
    @LisaGemini 4 года назад +5

    "I'm gonna turn that mess into a message." Tony, I love that. You are wise beyond your years, a real old soul. God bless you.

  • @rena3660
    @rena3660 4 года назад +5

    I choose to be a victor because my children deserves a healthy mother.

  • @tiffanyg1419
    @tiffanyg1419 4 года назад +34

    Let’s get it with the Sunday sermon 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @LouiseJ-gh7vv
    @LouiseJ-gh7vv 4 года назад +5

    I prayed about it. God revealed who I was dealing with, and he set me free. I'm beginning to look around, see my blessings, and be more grateful for what I have worked so hard for in life. I got my joy back. (Find myself singing and dancing around the house...Covid 19😒). But still! Lol I'm also greatful that I listened when felt God saying to me, "This is sub-standard for your life." You had alot to do with my initial healing process Tony Gaskins. When you talked about "privacy vs secrecy", and so many other important topics you discussed, I got a fresh and real perspective on what is really going on out here. The way it ended was manipulated and contrived from the beginning, and I accept all of it so that I can move on. Thanks for opening my mind up about it all. The icing on the cake for me is that I have a second chance at actually experiencing real love. When it comes to this stuff, my personal advice would be to listen to God and then listen to Tony everyone. I promise it gets better y'all. Hang in there.💗💚

  • @pnutbuttababi24
    @pnutbuttababi24 4 года назад +22

    Sow good seeds for yourself and others when you stop people who sow bad seeds by setting boundaries and taking preventive measures.

  • @rosemarie5489
    @rosemarie5489 4 года назад +16

    You can only help a person who wants to be helped, not a person who would use the opportunity to use you. In that case, you would be the one who would end up in need of help.

    • @GODLYBEAUTY7
      @GODLYBEAUTY7 4 года назад

      @Eternity With Christ Hear, hear!

  • @denisedean8503
    @denisedean8503 4 года назад +7

    I am a victor still healing I'm still on the path with God 🙏

  • @candywilkins386
    @candywilkins386 4 года назад +4

    Thank you Sir Tony!!!👍👍👍 I'm trying to completely heal from a very taxic marriage of 31 years. We were together for 36 years and I'm disabled from his abuse. Then he abused me through the court system and I got almost nothing. I live with my narrisst parents!!! Its hard to heal when your still getting abused and triggered by narrisst but God will heal me completely!!! I thank God for that and and thank you for your word!!!❤❤❤

  • @TakishaDanet
    @TakishaDanet 4 года назад +14

    Ooo Lord “ CAST MY CARES ON THE LORD “ 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾😩 Jesus. Come on Tony !

  • @odb613
    @odb613 4 года назад +2

    This just changed my whole 2020.
    Can’t thank you enough.

  • @mooooobetter
    @mooooobetter 4 года назад +7

    Thank you Tony. I will never be a victim again. I have learned and changed for the better. I’ve received my karma and honestly i deserved it. Do not cast your anger for the past on others. Be pure. People love you. You truly reap what you sew.

  • @brandnuwkindofme6711
    @brandnuwkindofme6711 4 года назад +11

    I had to understand feel what I feel go through it cry, scream, kick,but I can not stay in it, I must move forward.

  • @peaceful_and_blessed2879
    @peaceful_and_blessed2879 4 года назад +5

    Love this video! Even though my ex who is very broken, tried to break me, i left but i still pray for him. I don’t like him but i loved him. I pray for all who suffer, because I understand and have suffered myself. I am whole now and able to offer kindness, compassion and understanding to anyone. Boy I am blessed! 🙌🙏🏻

  • @terribryant7699
    @terribryant7699 4 года назад +10

    I’m so glad I had that notification on 22 seconds after it dropped just what I needed to start my week and month off on a new mindset! Thank you Jesus 🙏🏽🔥mess to a message

  • @luulips
    @luulips 4 года назад +4

    Great Sunday sermon. I had to remove myself from an ex who goes to my church. The relationship ended over 20 years ago yet he’s still holding a grudge. Also still angry at me for not answering my phone a few years ago even though I was asleep. Now what sense does that make. He pretended to be a church friend but still throwing that in my face with anger. Lord help him.

  • @daniellehill4393
    @daniellehill4393 4 года назад +4

    Sooo much needed wisdom! I have been a that fork in the road for a few weeks! Peace be still in my life and I'm letting go and letting God..Amen

  • @sol_di_14
    @sol_di_14 4 года назад +5

    I, last month, started to remember a past that I wanted to forget and to hide from myself. And that hurted, but it helped me realize certain behaviors of mine and why I am how I am and why I do what I do or why I think the way I do...wich is what you need to do to change.
    I stayed in a victim place for a couple of weeks, then I gave myself compassion and I tryed to understand those who have hurted me and to accept what has happen. Now I know that the past doesn't have to define me. I'm trying to be happy again, and it's kinda working. I Still have a lot of things to work on, but I'm much better than I was, less bitter and more open.
    Allow yourself to be vulnerable but don't be a victim, take accountability and allow yourself to fail at the same time. Take action, but know that this is not gonna happen over a night.
    Once we're healed and on a healthy place, we will be able to help others. Its our responsibility to do that, at least that's what I think. I can't be waiting on people to be how I want them to if I'm not even willing to help them to do so.
    But now focus on your problems, then...try to help someone fix their problems. Helping people can be a distraction from helping yourself.

  • @lorajerdine9651
    @lorajerdine9651 4 года назад +1

    Tony, great message! I am that victor and I learned this through my pain. I realize it more and more. My stories have to be shared.

  • @KristaSwims
    @KristaSwims 4 года назад +4

    "you can't change the past but what you can do is affect the future by what you decide in the present"

  • @KrystleLaughter
    @KrystleLaughter 4 года назад +12

    Right on time.😍

  • @cardiac711
    @cardiac711 4 года назад +8

    If I didn't know what it hurt like to be broken
    Then how would I know what it feels like to be whole
    If I didn't know what the cut's like to be rejected
    Then I wouldn't know that Your love coming home
    Maybe it's okay if I'm not okay
    'Cause the One who holds the world is holding onto me
    Maybe it's all right if I'm not all right
    'Cause the One who holds the stars is holding my whole life
    Borrowed from We Are Messengers
    Be blessed

  • @jackinfernandes8667
    @jackinfernandes8667 4 года назад +9

    Be blessed in Jesus name !✨keep going with the best spiritually aligned talks, needed this right now !

  • @lynnjones7695
    @lynnjones7695 4 года назад +6

    Yup, I know a lot of ppl who hold grudges & it’s been years. Half of the stuff they remember about me, I forgot..

  • @IAmTheQueen87
    @IAmTheQueen87 4 года назад +3

    Amen! I needed this reminder cuz lately I’ve been in a bit of a funk. I know that I am valuable and I can help people so I need to shift my energy to make it happen for myself and others. Thank you Tony

  • @yw6502
    @yw6502 4 года назад +6

    Heart and ears open..Amen 🙏🏿

  • @ashleylee651
    @ashleylee651 4 года назад +1

    Amen! Such a inspiring message that shifted me back into perspective 🙌🏽🦋

  • @ladennayoung2939
    @ladennayoung2939 4 года назад +4

    Thank you Tony. Blessings to you. This needed to be said. I don't know if you realize how much God is using you. I mean the Lord spoke through you directly to me. God is working on me. But I struggled recently. Because the enemy was trying to make me bitter based off of things that I have experienced. Trying to convince me that mindset was to protect me. But he is a lie. I know now that I'm an Empath, and I wasn't always using the gift God gave me properly. Lord help me/us to release our pain and hurt over to you in Jesus name. So we can do what you called and created us to do. Be blessed and encouraged in the Lord everyone.

  • @sharlitawilson6503
    @sharlitawilson6503 4 года назад

    Thank you Mr. Gaskins for that Sunday message. I felt like you were speaking directly to me. You are truly helping me. God bless you and continue to bless the ones who want to hear the word.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @keishamwms
    @keishamwms 4 года назад +2

    That was real talk.
    Message received and greatly appreciated!
    Thank you!!!!

  • @wandalipscomb-lee736
    @wandalipscomb-lee736 4 года назад +1

    Tony I've played the victim way to long. Listening this morning I didn't realize that how I've been showing up. Im no one victim. Im a Fearfully and Wonderfully Made Child of God, who see today this is my Exodus
    July 7,2020 starting over again. Focusing on being intentional of being intentional. Thank you Sir.

  • @patriciawatkins8248
    @patriciawatkins8248 4 года назад +4

    I have removed myself from a few people. I will never forgive those ppl who back stabbed me when l have supported them when they were going through things!They will never have my support IN LIFE!!! I don't weaponize my pain on others . I recognize the real from the fake. I support those who l see deserve it.

    • @sarahn3595
      @sarahn3595 4 года назад

      Weaponized pain..wow! That is so perfectly worded!

  • @jibbyrose6229
    @jibbyrose6229 4 года назад +2

    Thank you tony, so much! this resonated with me and made me cry because its true and it is from god, and helps me to continue to work on myself and to help my significant other by allowing him to work on himself at his pace

  • @brendajones9110
    @brendajones9110 4 года назад +1

    This was for me....amen
    Stay blessed

  • @597cherokee
    @597cherokee 4 года назад +1

    This video was for me I learned you have to look at everything as lesson you go threw sometimes it is hard to look at the pain one thing learned is pain that you've gone threw sometimes makes you stronger as person

  • @Bluntgirly
    @Bluntgirly Месяц назад +1

    Amazing video! Wonderfully articulated. I just did a video on this. It's not victim blaming! It's getting yourself out of the victim state

  • @LeafsIn2025
    @LeafsIn2025 4 года назад +1

    Thank you very much! Your message here really spoke to my mind and heart.
    Good night and God bless the Gaskins. ✝

  • @sheenaanderson8759
    @sheenaanderson8759 4 года назад +5

    I had to let him go it's hard I love him but my GOD has a better plan for me.

  • @kenishalperkins
    @kenishalperkins 4 года назад +6

    Happy Sunday Tony and Blessed Tribe !!

  • @nicnat68
    @nicnat68 4 года назад +2

    My motto.... I’m breathing! Amen & Thank you!

  • @toniparrilla2244
    @toniparrilla2244 4 года назад +4

    Wow!! This was so on point!! Thank you Tony.

  • @vchild
    @vchild 4 года назад

    Delivered! Thank you TG. This message was confirmation I'm on the right path. I released the pain and let God carry my pain for me. Because without God I would be nothing. All Glory to God.

  • @mrsimmacula6562
    @mrsimmacula6562 4 года назад

    Many people think that they have to be in a pulpit to share truth, but here is an example of how God can use you to bring Glory to His Kingdom. To God be all the Glory and thank you for this message.

  • @annapendleton9500
    @annapendleton9500 4 года назад +5

    Yes Yes Tony G. Thank you so so much cause you’re telling the truth I love listening to you cause when we fall down, we can get back up again and help someone in life. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY

  • @shshshha17
    @shshshha17 4 года назад +1

    Hello Blessed Tribe! Thanks for the Sunday Sermon Mr. Gaskins! Be Blessed Everybody!

  • @tiffC_
    @tiffC_ 4 года назад

    This is a word! A lot of us has been through things and if we would just remove the fear of judgement and allow God to use us for his glory then we could touch so many others! Lord give me the boldness to open my mouth to help others as you’ve helped me. It is because of you that I am a victor and no longer a victim.

  • @ChareEll
    @ChareEll 4 года назад +4

    Thank you! I needed this.

  • @eyesaidit5195
    @eyesaidit5195 4 года назад

    Today's sermon was for me. Thank You Jesus!!

  • @Ms.Haleyy
    @Ms.Haleyy 4 года назад +1

    I am really enjoying these Sunday Sermons Tony. Thank you. God bless. I’ve listened to this twice while doing some chores and running errands...probably need to hear it once more. God bless Gaskins Family 🙏🏾

  • @curlz_line7068
    @curlz_line7068 4 года назад +4

    I needed to hear this today 😢

  • @lialia8073
    @lialia8073 4 года назад +7

    Happy Sunday!

    • @michelecolbert6420
      @michelecolbert6420 4 года назад

      Great message Tony!; An on time word! Thank you for allowing the Lord to use you. You are truly a blessing to those who follow you. I am definitely turning my mess into a message and allowing my story to be used for His glory!!

  • @jacquelineking8706
    @jacquelineking8706 4 года назад +1

    Very encouraging message. Once I decided to live my life like an overcomer, the strength and power of God took away any thoughts of being a victim.

  • @lisamcpherson7027
    @lisamcpherson7027 4 года назад +1

    You are a blessing to people thanks for your message 🙏

  • @lisat6101
    @lisat6101 4 года назад +1

    Thank you 🙏🏽 again Tony for today’s Sunday Sermon and giving us all “Food for Thought. “ Be blessed.

  • @RubyRoxxie
    @RubyRoxxie 4 года назад

    Wasn’t able to listen right when this was uploaded but listening while at the gym now and it couldn’t be a more perfect reminder!!! 🙌🏽🔥

  • @carlathomas2697
    @carlathomas2697 4 года назад

    Excellent message on turning your pain into purpose, recognizing your strengths and not allowing others to cause you to relapse. Rely on our Heavenly Father. Thank you!

  • @virtuouswoman1846
    @virtuouswoman1846 4 года назад +3

    Thank you Tony
    Your videos have changed my life

  • @dariataylor1488
    @dariataylor1488 4 года назад +2

    Thank you Tony!! Well said, I need to keep this message on repeat!

  • @chizobaogu2558
    @chizobaogu2558 4 года назад +1

    Coming at the right time.
    God bless you and your family🙏🙏
    **I am a Victor in Christ name Amen**

  • @shajordan3202
    @shajordan3202 4 года назад +1

    I needed this confirmation today. Right on time. God is truly blessings lives through you🙌

  • @kpg0110
    @kpg0110 4 года назад +18

    Cast your cares and receive God's prayers for you.

  • @koraniabraxton-brown5242
    @koraniabraxton-brown5242 4 года назад

    Thank you for letting Him use you Tony!🙏🏾

  • @cher361
    @cher361 4 года назад +1

    Great message! Thank you Tony💛💛

  • @tiffanyglass259
    @tiffanyglass259 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for the Sunday sermon 🧎🏾‍♀️

  • @triassicfarm1561
    @triassicfarm1561 4 года назад

    Every word of this felt as though it was a message directly from the lord.
    I have found my purpose through this message. From victim to Victor
    God bless!

  • @aishiaspruill2454
    @aishiaspruill2454 4 месяца назад

    Tony even 4 years later, i would like u to knw tht this video is helping in my healing process, deciding to use this pain into purpose, with prayer & faith, although my heart feels fragmented... i bless God for u & your witness, & relationship ministry.... i listen to u almost daily fr edifying & male wisdom!!

  • @FutureAttyInTheMaking
    @FutureAttyInTheMaking 4 года назад

    AMEN, AMEN, AMEN (confirmation as always). Thank you for the Sunday Sermon. Honorary Pastor Gaskin 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @arielhenry1189
    @arielhenry1189 4 года назад

    Thank you for that message Tony 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @mollypaskie5039
    @mollypaskie5039 2 года назад

    Amazing message, been holding on trying to stay positive through a very painful breakup...

  • @lamiaallen7830
    @lamiaallen7830 4 года назад

    What an encouraging Excellent way 2 move 4ward. I am NOT a victim & I have the "Victory" N Jesus Christ & He will Never abandon me!!! Blessings my 4Ever bro, Tony G...💯🙏🏾

  • @annettesolomon1347
    @annettesolomon1347 4 года назад +5

    I had to keep it moving ,the ore I showed love ,spoke with love and encouraged them did it all sleep life and all they gave me was rejection because they wanted t wallow in their pain and be a victim . they were comfortable in their mess.

  • @LifeCoachSheriAnnette111
    @LifeCoachSheriAnnette111 4 года назад +1

    Wow. So much wisdom. God bless you for this message.

  • @pasno74
    @pasno74 4 года назад

    Grateful for this message. Be blessed Tony 🙏🏽

  • @queenofthesouth4205
    @queenofthesouth4205 4 года назад +1

    Be blessed. Thank you for the sermon Tony Gaskins.

  • @miamore1421
    @miamore1421 4 года назад

    Thank you Tony for this message today! I really needed this. I appreciate all that you do. I'm very emotional as I'm writing this but you are definitely GOD SENT. God bless you and your family exceedingly and abundantly. 🙏🏽❤

  • @folmarfamilyroyalty3929
    @folmarfamilyroyalty3929 4 года назад +1

    You have spoke to my HEART ❤ My LIFE❤ ❤ My situation in life💯 Your words of wisdom are PRICELESS! GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY 💙 BEAUTIFUL SUNDAY SERMON🙏💙

  • @phaedink12
    @phaedink12 4 года назад

    This was an amazing message. God bless you! I hear you! I’m putting in the work and I can’t feel bad when I need to take what is necessary to continue to heal. I need me first then I will be blessed to help others.

  • @catherinechannah6097
    @catherinechannah6097 4 года назад +4

    Thank You Pastor❤

  • @sandrawilliams6164
    @sandrawilliams6164 4 года назад

    Bless tribe, Tony, glad to here this message. I was a victim and a test of someone else pain, and i thank God to know His living word and to speak it to my self and allowed it to give me clarity n bring me thru and out to continue to move forward n help n share my gifts with others. Tony you also have sparked my interest in mental health counseling particularly for my black population. Peace, Love n Light.

  • @crystalpryor8639
    @crystalpryor8639 4 года назад +4

    Happy Sunday 🌞

  • @Grelly103111
    @Grelly103111 4 года назад +7

    Blessed

  • @JustBeingJae01
    @JustBeingJae01 4 года назад

    This video is just what I needed! Thank you for the ad removal on this video

  • @ruthdavis8020
    @ruthdavis8020 4 года назад

    Thank you lord!! thank u lord. And thank you Tony for delivering this message today. I cant even put into words but Wow wow wow goosebumps!!

  • @tyoung8123
    @tyoung8123 4 года назад +17

    Hi Tony, can you PLEASE do a video on being in relationship with a man that have kids! Especially for women who are 40 and up! What should a balanced relationship look like with the man, the new woman, and the kids and their mother. When Timeframe when she should meet the kids and their mother, etc. I don't have any kids. I would like to hear your perspective on this topic. Thanks in advance!!!
    💯 truth speaking

    • @serenar.magwood8186
      @serenar.magwood8186 4 года назад +2

      Idk if he can speak to that... not saying that requires real life experiences but ppl over 40 plus has to realize it goes to his self love course. When you understand yourself you know what boundaries to put into place. Being over 40 has already taught you some life lessons, but you have to acknowledge and accept them. Communication about his/ your kids has to have boundaries. His relationship with you should never feel like it's being compromised or placed on the back burner. If you express that with respect and it's not unreasonable and this the big one not coming from a totally selfish place. You also have to accept that he is co-parenting so you got to take the sidelines.If he is willing to hear you and ACT differently then there are not going to be a lot of issues. When y'all are together that's y'alls time and when he is with them that's their time. Then y'all have to set aside time all together. A man with kids can be managed when you love yourself enough to know the boundaries and what YOU are going to come to terms with. If he is great with his and your kids awesome but us 40+ see that as a means to sticking with something that ain't working in your spirit. It's hard for us out here that are over 40 dating and marrying into set families but self love goes both ways. He has to love himself not just as a great father but a overall great man. I know great fathers who suck in relationships. So I'm saying all that to say is love yourself, communicate your feelings and above all you and him demand the respect of the boundaries you all have discussed and agreed on. When you love yourself the truth speaks to you with clarity. Tony's self love university is the best. Sometimes I play it just as a little reminder to follow the steps I placed on myself. Good luck and Be blessed The struggle is real for us. Stay in encouraged and enlightened ❤

    • @MichElle-py8lk
      @MichElle-py8lk 4 года назад

      @@serenar.magwood8186 lovely response 🥰

    • @serenar.magwood8186
      @serenar.magwood8186 4 года назад

      @@MichElle-py8lk black sista hood has to be real thank you my sista ❤

    • @tracyb2291
      @tracyb2291 4 года назад

      @@serenar.magwood8186 Well said, self love and boundaries are key...

    • @tyoung8123
      @tyoung8123 4 года назад

      @@serenar.magwood8186 Thank you so much for this response. Yes! The struggle is real. I'm going to check out that course.
      Be Blessed 🙏

  • @tmakesha198725
    @tmakesha198725 2 года назад

    Thank you for this deep message! 🙏 I am listening

  • @LingLeeProductions
    @LingLeeProductions 4 года назад +1

    Tony, you betta preach!!❤🙌🏽

  • @renee2x656
    @renee2x656 4 года назад

    This was so good and powerful. To God be the Glory! Thank you so much! You and your beautiful family!

  • @truvy_5544
    @truvy_5544 4 года назад +3

    I need to hear this, this guy ended up being friends with someone that hurts him the most & I can’t get played like I’m that person.

  • @redmeigeyembet1293
    @redmeigeyembet1293 4 года назад

    Hey bro, you are really changing lives here. God bless you😍😍