U r right. Some relatives, family persons r toxic to us they try to put u down, put cracks in relationships with others, disrespect u so how much a person can bare. He is a human after all.
I love my family, and I would never stop the relation with them unless they are a harm to me... Of course sometimes I think it's the handiwork of shaytan... Like he does this so that we distance from each other... But I couldn't anymore for my mental health. From a good distance I wish well for them. I wish things change but right now it's becoming worse
What if you want to cut off a brother who is a monster in human form, he is extremely toxic. He destroyed my life, shattered my self esteem, gave me many mental illnesses and made my life miserable. I swear to Allah just talking with him makes me miserable and suicidal. He ruined my life for many years and ever since I cut him off my life became significantly better,I started feeling happiness, my self worth increased and I became social. Why should I be forced to talk with such a toxic brother??
I just had fight yesterday, in the middle of Maghrib prayer with my siblings who doesnt show respect and manners --- laughes and jokes!!! Nor prays neither even performs Jumma prayers, and Im a full time practicing muslims... His elder brother of me, makes pressing walking noises upstairs all day long in his tiny room with his wife who just came last year from Bangladesh, who doesnt follow any rules of UK lifestyle or even Healthy Bengali lifestyle;; I used to respect at first but it seems shes keep taking advantage and get comfy, so No more showing kindness and manners;; Now even makes more noise upsiars and J can focus on my study downsairs... Im living in Sittingroom, and doing Degree course in Art & Design, yet nobody seems understanding the sacrifice Im going through in the house;; They even make more noise Im trying to pray in the corridor corner, Its just Unbelievable of amount of disturbance they make being a practicing muslim;; Its best to ignore such siblings who doesnt help, instead makes things harder for you;; The Hadith goes for both the party of the justice, not just the Praying one--- We take the non-practicing-muslims lightly and they dont even care, but when you go serious they go cheap, the real face comes out!!!--- Its disgusting to be in this situation, its best to cut ties when theres no option --- after giving chance for so many years, and years!!!--- May Allah make it easy for our non-practicing-muslim, and help the practicing muslims to practice the deen of Him;; Ameen;
@@abuzaffarm dude, I'm going through a wierd phase. I havent said a word to my elder brother or sister in 5 to 6 years, we all live in the same house but we don't talk to each other, not because we have grudges on each other, only because before I was born my brother and sister were not talking to each other and when I was born I was use to it so I started doing the same even though we don't hate each other. I got goosebumps when I heard Allah curses those who don't speak with there siblings, I don't know what to do? I cant just randomly start talking to them because that would be too awkward knowing we havent spoke in years.. I'm just really scared that I might die in this position, I dont want to go hell, I'm literally 13! I usually prey 5 times a day and don't do alot of major sins, do you think Allah still hates me? Even though I love him more the myself..?
@@dsclan7126 no 🤍Allah doesn’t hate us if nothing happened between you guys that caused the tension you can try In sha Allah to talk to them in the best way possible it’s not healthy to live with people and act as complete strangers.It’ll take time obviously but just try also try find out why they weren’t speaking in the first place because if it’s something bad it could be done to you too.You can always save up money and move and finally live for yourself it’s not nice living in an environment where you can’t fully express yourself! 💎take care
In my opinion, Islamic scholars have failed to address the consequences of being patient and understanding to abusive relatives in terms of our mental health. I understand how important family ties are in Islam but allowing yourself to be treated badly by those who should love you can destroy your self-esteem and even enables their bad behaviour. Some family members treat you worse than strangers would treat you. That's how toxic they are. But I struggle to accept Allah would want us to put up with abuse just to keep the relationship alive.
These so called scholars have indeed failed understanding and providing solutions to such big problems. They lack the understanding and empathy to deal with this. You absolutely deserve respect and love from your family. And it sounds like they do not give that to you. And that is a big injustice. The Prophet said: "Allah will not be merciful to those that are not merciful to others". So they will be dealt with if Allah wills.
No I think people nowadays are to westernized. Do you think back around the time shortly after the prophet SAW died that these things didn't happen? It doesn't matter what happened a command from Allah Is a command from Allah if there was an exception prophet Muhammad SAW would have mentioned it.
What ridiculous advice. Like Abraham(PBUH) we must not fear smashing the poisonous psychological idols (narcissism, sadism, sociopathy) of our families and leaving them if we are being subjected to degradation and hostility. No one has been given the liberty to subject us to abuse. I urge all Muslims out there to remember this and to never let their families 'shame' them into accepting abuse.
@Muslim Always You didnt get his point clearly--- People dont even listen to Imam, this days. Imam is been upset on community for the acts from people yet people dont interect with Imam rather they follow themself and buy with whimsical matters;; Back in the 80's-90's you almost never heard youngstars being rude to Parents but this days its everywhere!!!---
@@abuzaffarm You clearly don't see what is going on in this generation then... It isn't like in the past. Now is a different era and time. People speak up more and we are done with all the abuse that we had to just accept. Allah is The Most Just, and He does not accept abuse. Not from family, nor from others... Try to place yourself in another ones story, for what I see, is that it is very hard or impossible for you to do that.
What if they are narcissists. Jelous, liars, cause discords through slander. Those whose presence causes you unease. I keep salaam and make dua. And ensure that i don't behave the same way.. Success with such is through Patience....i will wait...Allah is never unjust.
same case and it is extremely hard. Sometimes i get discouraged of completing easy tasks after i visit them, they charge me with so much negativity. Please if you find a solution tag me in.
Angel indeed Allah is never unjust and I never saw a verse says no matter what happen you must contact your family and if that is tha case why our prophet emigrated to madina and imagine when got sixr and cayn because of them how on earth would anybody istil contact such people
@@robertisa9076 Allah talks about hypocrites within Muslims more than he talks about kufar and it seems to me we Muslims didn't pay attention to quran and it doesn't matter if they are family members or not evil is evil
I get bad anxiety almost panic attacks when my mother calls or when I have to visit my family. They don't even say hello to me since 11 years old. Having them around me hurts too much. I don't wanna be ignored, laughed at and humiliated anymore.
You don't deserve to be treated the way you are by your family. That is a big injustice, and Allah will deal with it if He wills. For He is The Most Just.
If a toxic family member or toxic family members do bad things to you, never apologize, always blame you and they never give you mercy you can cut them off if you feel they are too much. Prophet Muhammad PBUH is the best of creation so of course he was able to take a lot of pain and still be strong but, not everyone can do that. Keeping contact with toxic siblings can make you leave islam. It can lead to worse situations. It can cause a person to lose sanity, it can cause a person to be depressed. It can do more harm than good. Talk to them and give them time to change before you cut them off though. If they never changed for so many years then there’s no reason for you to keep contact with them. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala won’t punish you for cutting off people who have you so much pain for no reason if it means you getting closer to him.
U have got to open your eyes ND your mind most Muslim families are not unhappy... But almost all Christian families or other religions are broken thy cheat divorce so on
Being rude is one thing, but abusing emotionally & financially till causing another bankruptcy is another, some use Islam & not breaking ties for their own advantage. Some think that since ties not broken, it is OK to continue the abuse. So keeping up wth what's right & keeping your sanity went to two different directions.
Great, I'll just keep in contact with the uncle that molested me. The father who used to make me feel stupid. The mother who turned a blind eye. The aunt who tried to manipulate me into not testifying the grandmother that lied. I mean.... Allah surely knows best. It sounds too sarcastic to stop there. But really, I agree maybe we should give a little more thought, i.e., consideration on issues like this. I'm sick of hearing Allah knows best I KNOW THIS ALREADY!!!! Just a little frustrating at times. Thank you May Allah forgive all our shortcomings
It is a very sad reality subhanAllah. And you shouldn't have gone through all that abuse. You deserve better than that. Children are a great amanah Allah has given the parents. If that trust is abused, then I fear for those parents. Whoever does not show mercy to others, Allah will not be merciful to them.
Sheikh Othman Khamees made a video kind of addressing this, where someone asked him if they were sinful for going no contact with their abusive father. His answer was no, that they were not. Mufti Menk also addressed this and said you can sever a relationship with an evil relative if it is deserving of that. I respect this man, but people like him and Assim al Hakeem are dead wrong when it comes to the issue of abusive family.
In case of extreme rowdyism from a sibling over property? Also is extremely arrogant and violent. Insults both me and my wife. What in this case? This happens often when we have a life of our own that needs focus towards work and household and other responsibilities.
What if you don't speak to your extended family anyway because of a language barrier? I never had a relationship with my dads side of the family for this reason. I would go to their house and would be ignored other than when saying salaam, goodbye or asking if I wanted something to eat. We never bonded, never had conversations and never went out together so we WERE complete strangers to begin with and this still goes on to this day. I don't consider it 'severance' seen as I never really had a relationship with them to begin with so is this still considered a sin? That I'm not talking to people I never spoke to to begin with??
What happens when your own flesh and blood poisons your father against you (and the father falls for their lies) after your mother's death and still doesn't realise when you speak to them about it? Still toxic, still negative, still stirring hatred and creating divisions? I wasn't the one that cut the ties of kinship, it was them. I tried a million times to keep things civil, but now I've had enough and I don't care what happens. They lost me forever! And what if a family member sexually abused you? Do you still keep the family ties in tact? Get real please!
Thanks for speaking out. And yes, a lot of people are not real with this subject. They put family on a pedestal, no matter what they do to you. They tell you to stay patient and that it is a test from Allah. And that cutting ties with these abusive people is a major sin. A lack of understanding it is...
May Allah forgive us, but when our mental health, wellbeing and Iman is destroyed by people I cannot physically put up with it anymore. InshAllah they will change but until than I have to save myself from the evil. May Allah have mercy with us and forgive us ❤
U need to consider the damage it causes to a person that stays in a toxic relationship in his life... I dont go by what the people said I do what's need to be done
I think there is not enough nuance on this rule and it is too black and white. What if the kinship is toxic, what if the kin has the potential to drive you away from your religion, what if they're abusive etc... How can cutting off ties with such people be the worst possible thing? Allah knows best.
IM do this. Why ? Cause my family always trying to insult me everyday eveytime as they want . Make me trauma .make me sad . Make me stress. Thanks u dad. And all ur followers which bully me again. Again. Make me stresssm thank u so much .
I am a targeted individual who has been gangstalked for decades until I woke up to the program. I don't want sympathy but there must be exceptions to severing ties. This cointelpro targets the innocent and the family and friends are paid huge amounts of money and act with impunity. It gets much worse and they thrive on the misery. I'm homeless, lost my business, family and friends because of their scheming. I don't take drugs or drink and have never committed a crime. Dealing with them is like a sheep and a wolf discussing what's for dinner. I kindly ask for valued opinions about my case. I discovered the training manual for this satanic program on targeted justice dot... it's not very long but definitely satanic in every way and I wonder which soul out there could possibly endure lifetime relentless torture. Salaam
what about a woman who is forced to break her relationship with first born son from previous marriage, the only reason being her husband's family dislikes divorcees and were against the marriage from the beginning. The woman tried to win them over with kindness, obedience, respect and loyalty but they refused to allow her to have a relationship with her son. The son is 22 years old now and despite showing great interest in Islam as a child the mother never had the opportunity to teach him and he has stopped taking any of her calls or messages because he is resentful towards her. Who will be accountable on judgment day for the separation of mother and son if she truly felt trapped not wanting to end up loosing second child if she sought divorce. The marriage has deteriorated after 20 years because the sister was tricked to live in a foreign country, she's been trapped more than a decade now. She lost all patience towards her husband and is very confused but is seeking guidance from Allah.
What can I do to convince my daughter from not cutting ties from relatives (the relatives have not done anything wrong at all) but my daughter just refuses to speak to any family not physically in front of her. Please someone advise me?
What if that family member physically and emotionally abuses you? And that person is also very religious? And gets mad for a mental disorder,(for example. Bipolar) that can’t be controlled? Am I getting more sins day by day by feeling that I can’t handle it as a person with a mental illness? and should just indulge it in the name of Allah? Also,They act nice when they feel pity and sinful. So am I in the wrong? Will it be one of the causes I go to hell ?
How can you maintain your iman if your mental state is not intact, due to the toxicity you face from family and/or relatives, there has to be a more clear explanation to this.
Sometimes these kind of things is unfair. In treated like rubbish, a slave and the cursing I hear from them hurt more than they know. The whole family is dysfunctional. I can't stand this, I'm 18 now and I want to leave but I fear Allah. Why does Allah make things difficult for us? Why is it like this?
But what will that mean in the life here after? After you die, do you really think you'll enter paradise when you've committed one of the worst sins in Islam?
It is easier said than done. Because only family can trully hurt you...
Ah'At Bishokuya trust me I agree
I was neglected by my parents what is this guy on
U r right. Some relatives, family persons r toxic to us they try to put u down, put cracks in relationships with others, disrespect u so how much a person can bare. He is a human after all.
Same here bruh...
I love my family, and I would never stop the relation with them unless they are a harm to me... Of course sometimes I think it's the handiwork of shaytan... Like he does this so that we distance from each other... But I couldn't anymore for my mental health. From a good distance I wish well for them. I wish things change but right now it's becoming worse
What if you want to cut off a brother who is a monster in human form, he is extremely toxic. He destroyed my life, shattered my self esteem, gave me many mental illnesses and made my life miserable. I swear to Allah just talking with him makes me miserable and suicidal.
He ruined my life for many years and ever since I cut him off my life became significantly better,I started feeling happiness, my self worth increased and I became social. Why should I be forced to talk with such a toxic brother??
You're mental health holds a higher priority. You have a right to protect yourself from abuse in Islam
I just had fight yesterday, in the middle of Maghrib prayer with my siblings who doesnt show respect and manners --- laughes and jokes!!!
Nor prays neither even performs Jumma prayers, and Im a full time practicing muslims...
His elder brother of me, makes pressing walking noises upstairs all day long in his tiny room with his wife who just came last year from Bangladesh, who doesnt follow any rules of UK lifestyle or even Healthy Bengali lifestyle;;
I used to respect at first but it seems shes keep taking advantage and get comfy, so No more showing kindness and manners;; Now even makes more noise upsiars and J can focus on my study downsairs...
Im living in Sittingroom, and doing Degree course in Art & Design, yet nobody seems understanding the sacrifice Im going through in the house;;
They even make more noise Im trying to pray in the corridor corner, Its just Unbelievable of amount of disturbance they make being a practicing muslim;;
Its best to ignore such siblings who doesnt help, instead makes things harder for you;;
The Hadith goes for both the party of the justice, not just the Praying one--- We take the non-practicing-muslims lightly and they dont even care, but when you go serious they go cheap, the real face comes out!!!---
Its disgusting to be in this situation, its best to cut ties when theres no option --- after giving chance for so many years, and years!!!---
May Allah make it easy for our non-practicing-muslim, and help the practicing muslims to practice the deen of Him;;
Ameen;
@@abuzaffarm dude, I'm going through a wierd phase. I havent said a word to my elder brother or sister in 5 to 6 years, we all live in the same house but we don't talk to each other, not because we have grudges on each other, only because before I was born my brother and sister were not talking to each other and when I was born I was use to it so I started doing the same even though we don't hate each other. I got goosebumps when I heard Allah curses those who don't speak with there siblings, I don't know what to do? I cant just randomly start talking to them because that would be too awkward knowing we havent spoke in years..
I'm just really scared that I might die in this position, I dont want to go hell, I'm literally 13!
I usually prey 5 times a day and don't do alot of major sins, do you think Allah still hates me? Even though I love him more the myself..?
@@dsclan7126 no 🤍Allah doesn’t hate us if nothing happened between you guys that caused the tension you can try In sha Allah to talk to them in the best way possible it’s not healthy to live with people and act as complete strangers.It’ll take time obviously but just try also try find out why they weren’t speaking in the first place because if it’s something bad it could be done to you too.You can always save up money and move and finally live for yourself it’s not nice living in an environment where you can’t fully express yourself! 💎take care
@@aishab2902 yes you are right!
In my opinion, Islamic scholars have failed to address the consequences of being patient and understanding to abusive relatives in terms of our mental health. I understand how important family ties are in Islam but allowing yourself to be treated badly by those who should love you can destroy your self-esteem and even enables their bad behaviour. Some family members treat you worse than strangers would treat you. That's how toxic they are. But I struggle to accept Allah would want us to put up with abuse just to keep the relationship alive.
A flawed scholar of a flawed religion
It's a test from Allah indeed, just stay focused on Allah's command it's only a matter of time before we return to Him
I would agree. It destroys you, and your family. You can love them of course! But to remain in a suffering condition?
These so called scholars have indeed failed understanding and providing solutions to such big problems. They lack the understanding and empathy to deal with this. You absolutely deserve respect and love from your family. And it sounds like they do not give that to you. And that is a big injustice. The Prophet said: "Allah will not be merciful to those that are not merciful to others". So they will be dealt with if Allah wills.
No I think people nowadays are to westernized. Do you think back around the time shortly after the prophet SAW died that these things didn't happen? It doesn't matter what happened a command from Allah Is a command from Allah if there was an exception prophet Muhammad SAW would have mentioned it.
What ridiculous advice. Like Abraham(PBUH) we must not fear smashing the poisonous psychological idols (narcissism, sadism, sociopathy) of our families and leaving them if we are being subjected to degradation and hostility. No one has been given the liberty to subject us to abuse. I urge all Muslims out there to remember this and to never let their families 'shame' them into accepting abuse.
@Muslim Always You didnt get his point clearly---
People dont even listen to Imam, this days. Imam is been upset on community for the acts from people yet people dont interect with Imam rather they follow themself and buy with whimsical matters;;
Back in the 80's-90's you almost never heard youngstars being rude to Parents but this days its everywhere!!!---
@@abuzaffarm You clearly don't see what is going on in this generation then...
It isn't like in the past. Now is a different era and time. People speak up more and we are done with all the abuse that we had to just accept. Allah is The Most Just, and He does not accept abuse. Not from family, nor from others...
Try to place yourself in another ones story, for what I see, is that it is very hard or impossible for you to do that.
What if they are narcissists. Jelous, liars, cause discords through slander. Those whose presence causes you unease. I keep salaam and make dua. And ensure that i don't behave the same way..
Success with such is through Patience....i will wait...Allah is never unjust.
same case and it is extremely hard. Sometimes i get discouraged of completing easy tasks after i visit them, they charge me with so much negativity. Please if you find a solution tag me in.
Angel indeed Allah is never unjust and I never saw a verse says no matter what happen you must contact your family and if that is tha case why our prophet emigrated to madina and imagine when got sixr and cayn because of them how on earth would anybody istil contact such people
Listen man, I have the same problem, some people are Muslim by looks and names, but inside is blacker than black
@@robertisa9076 Allah talks about hypocrites within Muslims more than he talks about kufar and it seems to me we Muslims didn't pay attention to quran and it doesn't matter if they are family members or not evil is evil
@@hodanc6255 but whatever the case we musnt break family ties
I get bad anxiety almost panic attacks when my mother calls or when I have to visit my family. They don't even say hello to me since 11 years old. Having them around me hurts too much. I don't wanna be ignored, laughed at and humiliated anymore.
May Allah grant you a solution. Nobody should have to endure so much pain from their family.
I feel you. And being your own mother leaves me speechless
May Allah remove your anxiety, forgiveness heals the heart. May Allah make your relationship with your family healthy and loving.
Then distance yourself. You can continue to love them, but from a distance.
You don't deserve to be treated the way you are by your family. That is a big injustice, and Allah will deal with it if He wills. For He is The Most Just.
If a toxic family member or toxic family members do bad things to you, never apologize, always blame you and they never give you mercy you can cut them off if you feel they are too much. Prophet Muhammad PBUH is the best of creation so of course he was able to take a lot of pain and still be strong but, not everyone can do that. Keeping contact with toxic siblings can make you leave islam. It can lead to worse situations. It can cause a person to lose sanity, it can cause a person to be depressed. It can do more harm than good. Talk to them and give them time to change before you cut them off though. If they never changed for so many years then there’s no reason for you to keep contact with them. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala won’t punish you for cutting off people who have you so much pain for no reason if it means you getting closer to him.
This Sheikh has got great knowledge..Masha Allah.
This is why most islamic families are unhappy because they're clearly dysfunctional but they force themselves to stay together
U have got to open your eyes ND your mind most Muslim families are not unhappy... But almost all Christian families or other religions are broken thy cheat divorce so on
Amen 🙏 sister
@@yakhuda1 Dude 99% of muslims are unhappy.. because the mindset of this cows parents has.
@@775.- where do u get ur statics from.... the Muslim families that are broken are mostly in the western countries... they are inspired by thr culture
@@yakhuda1 Just look at all arab people faces they all grumpys or fake smile smh
Being rude is one thing, but abusing emotionally & financially till causing another bankruptcy is another, some use Islam & not breaking ties for their own advantage. Some think that since ties not broken, it is OK to continue the abuse. So keeping up wth what's right & keeping your sanity went to two different directions.
Great, I'll just keep in contact with the uncle that molested me. The father who used to make me feel stupid. The mother who turned a blind eye. The aunt who tried to manipulate me into not testifying the grandmother that lied. I mean.... Allah surely knows best. It sounds too sarcastic to stop there. But really, I agree maybe we should give a little more thought, i.e., consideration on issues like this. I'm sick of hearing Allah knows best I KNOW THIS ALREADY!!!! Just a little frustrating at times. Thank you May Allah forgive all our shortcomings
It is a very sad reality subhanAllah. And you shouldn't have gone through all that abuse. You deserve better than that. Children are a great amanah Allah has given the parents. If that trust is abused, then I fear for those parents. Whoever does not show mercy to others, Allah will not be merciful to them.
Sheikh Othman Khamees made a video kind of addressing this, where someone asked him if they were sinful for going no contact with their abusive father. His answer was no, that they were not. Mufti Menk also addressed this and said you can sever a relationship with an evil relative if it is deserving of that. I respect this man, but people like him and Assim al Hakeem are dead wrong when it comes to the issue of abusive family.
In case of extreme rowdyism from a sibling over property? Also is extremely arrogant and violent. Insults both me and my wife. What in this case? This happens often when we have a life of our own that needs focus towards work and household and other responsibilities.
Jazaakallaahu khayran shiekh , i will take this beautiful advice😊
What if you don't speak to your extended family anyway because of a language barrier? I never had a relationship with my dads side of the family for this reason. I would go to their house and would be ignored other than when saying salaam, goodbye or asking if I wanted something to eat. We never bonded, never had conversations and never went out together so we WERE complete strangers to begin with and this still goes on to this day. I don't consider it 'severance' seen as I never really had a relationship with them to begin with so is this still considered a sin? That I'm not talking to people I never spoke to to begin with??
What happens when your own flesh and blood poisons your father against you (and the father falls for their lies) after your mother's death and still doesn't realise when you speak to them about it?
Still toxic, still negative, still stirring hatred and creating divisions?
I wasn't the one that cut the ties of kinship, it was them. I tried a million times to keep things civil, but now I've had enough and I don't care what happens.
They lost me forever!
And what if a family member sexually abused you? Do you still keep the family ties in tact?
Get real please!
Thanks for speaking out. And yes, a lot of people are not real with this subject. They put family on a pedestal, no matter what they do to you. They tell you to stay patient and that it is a test from Allah. And that cutting ties with these abusive people is a major sin. A lack of understanding it is...
May Allah forgive us, but when our mental health, wellbeing and Iman is destroyed by people I cannot physically put up with it anymore.
InshAllah they will change but until than I have to save myself from the evil.
May Allah have mercy with us and forgive us ❤
U need to consider the damage it causes to a person that stays in a toxic relationship in his life... I dont go by what the people said I do what's need to be done
My own brother is trying to make my parents disown me he uses his money to buy his ways and love with them
I think there is not enough nuance on this rule and it is too black and white. What if the kinship is toxic, what if the kin has the potential to drive you away from your religion, what if they're abusive etc... How can cutting off ties with such people be the worst possible thing? Allah knows best.
IM do this. Why ? Cause my family always trying to insult me everyday eveytime as they want . Make me trauma .make me sad . Make me stress. Thanks u dad. And all ur followers which bully me again. Again. Make me stresssm thank u so much .
this is why the ummah is falling apart
The truth is always hidden
I am a targeted individual who has been gangstalked for decades until I woke up to the program. I don't want sympathy but there must be exceptions to severing ties. This cointelpro targets the innocent and the family and friends are paid huge amounts of money and act with impunity. It gets much worse and they thrive on the misery. I'm homeless, lost my business, family and friends because of their scheming. I don't take drugs or drink and have never committed a crime. Dealing with them is like a sheep and a wolf discussing what's for dinner.
I kindly ask for valued opinions about my case.
I discovered the training manual for this satanic program on targeted justice dot... it's not very long but definitely satanic in every way and I wonder which soul out there could possibly endure lifetime relentless torture.
Salaam
What if they stole ur home and left u homeless and stole money from you? Can we forgive but stay away from them?
Exactly my situation
Sheikh Mohammed Salah is one of the best
what about a woman who is forced to break her relationship with first born son from previous marriage, the only reason being her husband's family dislikes divorcees and were against the marriage from the beginning.
The woman tried to win them over with kindness, obedience, respect and loyalty but they refused to allow her to have a relationship with her son. The son is 22 years old now and despite showing great interest in Islam as a child the mother never had the opportunity to teach him and he has stopped taking any of her calls or messages because he is resentful towards her. Who will be accountable on judgment day for the separation of mother and son if she truly felt trapped not wanting to end up loosing second child if she sought divorce. The marriage has deteriorated after 20 years because the sister was tricked to live in a foreign country, she's been trapped more than a decade now. She lost all patience towards her husband and is very confused but is seeking guidance from Allah.
I would sever ties with family members who have left the religion.
I started to good but for their un acceptable behaivour of my mother I dont want to be with her.
What can I do to convince my daughter from not cutting ties from relatives (the relatives have not done anything wrong at all) but my daughter just refuses to speak to any family not physically in front of her. Please someone advise me?
Masha Allah
what if they did extreme wrong to you?
What if the relative if ur relative has disshoner ur Mother and u see ur Mother cry and suffer because of it ?
What if that family member physically and emotionally abuses you? And that person is also very religious? And gets mad for a mental disorder,(for example. Bipolar) that can’t be controlled? Am I getting more sins day by day by feeling that I can’t handle it as a person with a mental illness? and should just indulge it in the name of Allah? Also,They act nice when they feel pity and sinful.
So am I in the wrong? Will it be one of the causes I go to hell ?
what if they are not your blood relatives just an outsider then is it allowed?
How can you maintain your iman if your mental state is not intact, due to the toxicity you face from family and/or relatives, there has to be a more clear explanation to this.
Sometimes these kind of things is unfair. In treated like rubbish, a slave and the cursing I hear from them hurt more than they know. The whole family is dysfunctional. I can't stand this, I'm 18 now and I want to leave but I fear Allah. Why does Allah make things difficult for us? Why is it like this?
no wonder why we islams aint happy in our life :)
Lol Spamm exactly the family is clearly dysfunctional but we force ourselves to stay together
A religion is a person???
Honestly, I think it’s better to suffer for the sake of Allah than be selfish.
🤔
Bullshit
In my opinion it is best of best to cut the relationships in families.Because it holds relief to mind and soul after cutting ties
But what will that mean in the life here after? After you die, do you really think you'll enter paradise when you've committed one of the worst sins in Islam?
Lol, what are you? An Imam? Scholar? Prophet?
As Salamu Alaykum 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩
I dont not agree with this teachings honesty even Allah does cut the ties with a believer who commits adultery and shrik it's common sense
Salam! Are in-laws considered as kins?
Walaikumassalam, no they're not
Are you using drugs!?!?