A Narcissist's LOVE LANGUAGE Exposed by a DIAGNOSED Narcissist
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- Опубликовано: 19 сен 2024
- A Narcissist's LOVE LANGUAGE Exposed by a DIAGNOSED Narcissist. If you ever wondered what a narcissist's love language is then this video is for you.
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Physical touch costs nothing, and narcissists are cheap.
My ex narc got mad at me because he was trying to get me back & i told him.he had to date me like he would any new woman in his life, he said so i gotta buy your love?! I said just like you are for the other females you talking to that you think i don't know about , but i only said that because he never spent any money on me i knew that would get him to leave me alone 😂
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@@malikaa9899 If it's cheaper to get back with you, he would!😁
He still tried after I said that but he didn't try as hard, he was offering to take me to events where their was free food , but I ended up blocking him so that's how I got rid of him for good
Physical touch requires effort and they are notoriously LAZY. Why would they rub your back to make you feel better ? They only give to get ....it's all about their needs being met not yours 🙄
They give us their love language, but at the same time they're very disrespectful & ungrateful. The best thing a narcissist can do for me is get away from me! Just be gone!!!
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Their love language is anything that provides them a release from tension and anxiety...their hate language is anything that reminds them the anxiety hasn't gone anywhere.
The only love language that narcissists have is for you to bow down and worship them.
Exactly 😂
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There's another RUclipsr who connects the phrase to them. "dumbass with a crown". 👑
This dude used to buy me tons of gifts that always somehow benefited himself.
The ONE TIME I asked for a favor he ghosted me for a couple days and popped back up like nothing happened😂😂😂
Lol
He loved physical touch and giving me cheap ass gifts all the time. Otherwise he was colder than a block of ice towards me. So glad that I left him behind. I don't miss it anymore.
He expected me to give him all the love languages, despite his mediocre performance.
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Them being able to receive and liking every love language gift given to them is so true, but yet they don't know how to put out anything.
Its really something when they tell you how they gonna get you something really special and then it seams to never happen and excuses for it even though they got for themselves. Then get angry at you for geting special gift for yourself months later because you planned on doing it even before they said they was.
Oh, this makes perfect sense. He’s so good physically, but the rest of the time, mostly avoidant. And yeah, gifts, once upon a time, extravagant, back when he could.
My mother is a 76 yr old narcissistic person and her love language is acts of service.
My ex was male and loved any supply including gifts. Told me what to get him for his birthday.
Oh wowb
The love language of a narc is just clapping cheeks 😡
💯 PERCENT ON 🎯 FACT'S about the NARC'S LOVE LANGUAGE... CLAPPING CHEEKS .. THAT'S IT
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That's great. The two languages I HATED were physical and gifts. I always felt that if you don't WORK WITH ME and SPEND TIME WITH ME, you don't DESERVE S3X. He was also really good at positive affirmations balanced with well placed insults. 😒
Oh man
Let us know what it’s like to love a porcupine 😂😂 but for real…. With that attitude and sense of entitlement -- no man will ever be good enough for you. What an ugly way of being…
The love language of a narcissist 👀 that is a Gr8 book title👌🏼
What I wanted from him didn’t cost a thing and he couldn’t meet the bare minimum. So sad.
I didn’t allow him to touch me. The spirit behind him was evil. We were never intimate. Thank God! I did not want his sexual transmitted demons. Yuck!
mind games is their sick love language …. it gets them off , feeling superior when in fact their insecurities are screaming
It’s wild
I love it when you say, "clapping cheeks". I literally laugh for about five minutes. Just tickles me! 🤣
Same
His love language is hunching!! That's it !! That's the only thing he is good at !!
Whenever I'm crying in front of him, he has no clue how to comfort me- I'll often have to ASK for a hug.
When I'm crying because we've argued, he'll leave me crying because 'why would I comfort you when this is your fault'. Lucky to receive cheap flowers twice a year... and I have to remind him my birthday is coming up. It's in 3 days, and I can already see the scrambling for a last minute card/cheap present (despite all my hints about what I would like!)
🎂 Happy Birthday! Please do something nice for yourself and don't involve him. Birthdays & holidays have been bad days in my house... I'm mostly relieved, if he doesn't remember them.
Physical touch was the one of the best ways he showed love oh and printing off his computer he was good at technology helped with that a couple of times boy I putty these chicks coming in after me he's going to give them hell
@@idid138 Thank you so very much 🙂 Please take care of yourself also!!
Happy Birthday! Get dressed up and do something for yourself. I know it's easier said than done, but don't let him see you sweat. Even if you have to cry about it when you are alone. You deserve better. ❤️
@@MonicaMontgomery_ Thank you so very much! Xx
Yes every narc I’ve been with said physical touch was very important to them But they were stingy with physical touch! I think what they meant was they like to be touched and worshipped but they don’t like to give touch. No snuggles, cuddles, nice kisses, hand holding. Except my ex husband, he’d hold my hand in the car. They did give gifts, rarely and when they did it was a bigger ticket item and really got a sense it was a show rather than an act of love.
My creepy X Narc, all he wanted was gifts, anything I could buy for him, he was always looking for what I could buy for HIM. He would have put me in bankruptcy if I hadn’t gotten rid of him. He was all about the money. So happy I kicked him out!!!
I kid you not. I just had an explosive argue that resulted in my just rather not interact with the narc at all. I said let’s just be platonic friends. She asked “can we be intimate one last time so I can get you out my system” 🤮 It all made clear sense to me now. If my answer was “NO!” An hour ago. She was still pleading for an hour for me to give in. Naw, I decline🤦🏾♀️
Oh wow
10:49 A bugs life is my baby sister and my favorite movie!!! And that pat you just quoted is MY FAVORITE PART!💛😍
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Absolutely true❤When we started dating he asked me ,,What is your love language?” I answered, when I asked the same question he didn’t answer ,only smiled. He knew what is important for me and never did unless I wanted broke up. When I gave him gifts he never say ,,thank u” instead told ,,all my girlfriends did it”. More strange part about act of service. Even his ex come to clean his house and pick up his kid to spend time. When I asked stop bringing exes to his home, he said ,,Why? If they voluntary want”. I just want peace.
The guy who was sexually attracted to me from my second job showing signs of being a narcissist there is something off about him I just get this pit in my stomach that if I'm not careful he can hurt me severely when I think about him he comes off as if he would want to get revenge for blocking him on social media I just know I will never meet up with him by myself probably would kill me
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@@PiscesNeoSoul listen to that inner voice.
Narcissism is a spectrum. If a person (male or female) feels like they own you or they are superior to everyone then they are entitled to everything you offer and more.
Money money money anything that makes in spotlight
Yep
Spot on!
My narc favorite love languages were physical touch & quality time. No gifts no acts of service..
His love language is physical touch which basically what leads to sexual intimacy .
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@@MentalHealness I know
Ex husband was buying me stuff. I thought it was love at first until I started wanting what money couldn’t but love and affection and he couldn’t give it.
I would say they would NOT be into giving words of affirmation because that is something that comes from inside, and their words are more of a weapon. Unless it's flattery during love bombing. And they probably won't want to give quality time like doing things in a meaningful way to bond. However they DO want to spend a ton of time in a shallow way to be controlling or "keep tabs" on you. When you don't answer the phone every two hours while they are at work and tell them where you are they will get pissed off etc.
Why can't narcissists go beyond the surface??
My soon to be ex narcissist "love language words of affirmation " always had a BUT. You're so smart. Why can't you figure out how to make more money?
ok, without watching my answer is attention, admiration, acts of service
Perhaps
At the end he will take everything he ever gave you. Birthday gifts, Christmas, valentines etc..
We have to remember that not all narcissists are romantic partners. My mom isn’t a clinically diagnosed narcissist, but she has extremely controlling tendencies.
She hates physical touch. I think she likes quality time and words of affirmation. Yes, I said I think. I don’t actually know.
I gave her the five love languages quiz, and she couldn’t decide how to answer the questions.🤦🏾♀️
She definitely likes buying gifts and spending time with me, but she wants ALL of my time and she wants to be praised for everything. It’s exhausting.
The only time my ex narc got deep is when he was digging holes for my flower bed!😂We hardly ever had a deep conversation. He said I was too serious for him and I was boring for wanting to have a deep conversation. He also gave me lots of gifts he loved spending money on me. Cars, jewelry, clothes, shoes. But those were "dont hold me accountable" or "I did you wrong but dont wanna talk about it" gifts to cover up the cheating he was doing on me. He loved talking about himself while I stayed silent. SMH.... I cant believe I spent 10 years in that!
I was with someone who said he loved whole-walletly, not wholeheartedly!
YOU MAKE ALOT OF SENSE /THANKS FOR THE HELP.
My ex-husband never liked to receive gifts. He always gave me an uncomfortable smile.. && would always tell me he never knew what to give me.. even after being married over a decade. lol. He always told me he didn’t like getting gifts though. I never knew why.
Probably not to "feel indebted". They hate that.
@@alexk3217 just hurts knowing that.. I never did it to hold one over on him, just love. And to see that this is the reason, is bitter sweet. Haha.
You have hit tbe nail on the head in this video. I really wish that I knew this a long time ago.
You got it
You always talking about “clapping cheeks.” 😂😂😂
Id say anything that benefits him..
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Or her….women are narcs as well
I don't know if it's the bias in me knowing he's a narcissist,but the intro being footages after footages of,multiple shots of himself yapping,just checks out for me 😂
Lol, true
My ex spoke of these all the time along with soulmate, twin flame etc etc and one thing i couldnt stand was her saying. I love you love you. Wtc. All just words
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Lee I’m not sure you will ever run out of supply on this issue!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Giving Money, giving time and physical touch was his. BUT he would ask me for favors constantly for things I think he already had the answers for. He would 99% walk away from the thing he asked me for and I never knew if he used or needed it
My male ex hated gifts or me paying for dinner. He felt it was his role to pay for things - BUT HE WAS BROKE. So my experience matches what you describe.
Today I witnessed my narc ex wife explain to the judge (one year hearing to extend the RO protecting me and the kids from her) that it’s actually me that’s abusive to her, that she only signed over the children to me and left to Miami because she’s a victim, that I’m a narc and that her arrests and the binders of evidence against her is all fake, she fake cried…anyway the RO extended for another year lol
The show never ends 😂
You know to give gifts is nice - yeah they do or bring you all kind of stuff. BUT what is missing is honesty and empathy. Those people see only themselves but not others. You just can´t buy love - that´s simple not possible. Behaviour tells everything not words... I have two suggestions for narcissists: Write a fairy tale or be an actor (both would suite them). But in the fairy tale they surely would be the wolve (like the wolve in the seven goats - you know he painted his paw and tricked the goats).
One of mine is physical touch, but for me, it has nothing to do with sex. It's about closeness...back rubs, holding hands, cuddling, a hand around my waist or resting on my leg.
Lee on your website you should sell a T shirt that says “Clappin cheeks is my ❤ language.” 😊
Each of my narc husbands has been very weird about sex. So, not all narcs show love that way. One mostly did gifts and the occasional act of service. The current narc mostly use words of affirmation and acts of service (usually done wrong, or to show how great he is and how ungrateful I am, lol)
I didn't even hardly get physical touch or gifts but damn did I ever have to provide all the love languages on Earth even though we were only ever just friends. I dated 2 overt vs. My boss being a covert and only one gave SOME gifts but LOVED keeping shit like my clothes I need for winter, etc. 😩
You're right... male narcissist hate to receive gifts...
Excatly they hate male narc dnt like receving gifts.
Yeah right 😂. Lots of them don't have a problem taking those gifts
Cheek clappin. Excuse me- "physical touch".
My ex liked physical touch for the first year. Then he decided he wasnt into touch, love, intimacy or communication. I actually thought he may have dementia 😂 Nope!
Great information. The cartoon comedy is great as well.
My ex would always jump to offering a back massage after being on a break. I knew he was just doing it so he could get me in bed. But his love language for receiving was gifts.
My narcissist family members give gifts 🎁 as apologies. In my relationship he liked to receive gifts 🎁
Naw some narcissistic men love gifts and to receive more than give.
Their love Language (How they received)
is Words of affirmation , They like their EGO boost ! But they Give out love with Everything physical
Depends the person !!
I guess control, they are the victim in all ways.
A narcissist love language? Telling them how great they are, repeatedly, even if they do shitty stuff
Also gift giving
What about receiving gifts, seems very surface level to me
Their love language is u doing whatever they say
He told me words of affirmation
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Words of affirmation 😂
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@princeandoh366 this is what mines said she was a covert narcissist but she loved tryna give gifts etc
But that's not giving love it's ridiculous
He must love a lot of people 💀😩🙄
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Mine just told me he's sad I don't try to have fun with him in bed anymore. It makes me sad that he's sad. I spent ten years trying to even get one kiss. And his friend told me it's the "20 year plan". He let me chase him for ten years and I never gave up. I even reunited him with his family he had run far away from. He was impressed by that and then let me be friends with two of his siblings long distance. Then finally it happened and he opened up to me and kissed me all night long and the rest of it. And then kept making love for ten years. I'm glad I never gave up before I finally got him to say he loves me and I wasted all those years with my only ambition to conquer him sexually and boy did he finally fall in love with me because I thought of everything to make him feel nurtured all that time. With a narcissist, when they finally open up it feels like a dream.
I gave plenty gifts to my kids daddy but he gave gifts even though he was a narcissist he did gifts
Acts of service lol. They want you to do shit for them lol
why am i able to play a narcissist's own game and win when i have no desire to hurt other people? (i have high-functioning autism if it is ever related)
Bugs Life was a dope movie.
It was
It was food for her, cooking. Sex was actually weird with the narcissist i was with i think she was sexually abused in her past tbh, so it was usually uncomfortable and she had endometriosis. I'm not gonna lie, that's the longest relationship i was in and the sex isn't what kept me. I remember talking to my Dad about problems in the relationship and he told me I'm "pssy whipped" pissed me off I about hung up on him. Sex was not what kept me, in fact the food was better than that, that's literally the only thing i sort of miss about her was her cooking...i actually don't like when some people say things like "narcissist don't have skills" yes they do, they might be lazy with them, i can relate to that i have ADHD, they definitely can have skills like any other human. The FOG is what had me stuck and codependency.
I thought you'd say words of affirmation since they need a lot of validation. 🤷🏽♂️
The narc im dealing with now told me a while back that his d*** is lonely and needs attention , so i made moves to show mu segual interest and he ran off , im like wat the heck , you approached me and flirted and now youre avoiding me , i feel so gaslit. Did this really happen ?
Yea they love it till they dont
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Surface level will be all you get
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@@MentalHealness Surface level at it's finest u know it. 😂😂😂
SMH
Is this pre-taped is your facebook still hacked?
I got the Facebook back
my x narc used to touch me 8 hours a day
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HOLD UP!!!! You married a NARCISSIST?????
Not I
Don't nobody care 💅🏾✌🏾✌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🥱🥱🤣
I stopped at 2:30 and here is the count for how many times you said 'like', 'right' 'y'all' and 'you know' totally out of context:
y'all : 1 1 1
you know: 1
like: 1 1 1 1 1
right: 1 1 1
Focus on the message. He's not an elocutionist.