Yes. The possessions I own represent what has come before, what defines me and my happiness. I have reduced and continue to do so seasonally but when I look around and smile, it's because my "things" made me smile and reminisce. Losing a husband... I've lost enough
My daughter died when she was 4, almost 12 years ago. I have her photos around my home. I have her memory box: first piece of clothing, christening shawl, one pair of shoes, a birthday candle, two pieces of clothing that were unwashed at the time of her passing. It still has her smell. These bring me comfort on the days where sorrow is overwhelming - birthdays and anniversaries. I have my mother's brass deer and pottery my sister made in high school. They are both deceased but something of their presence lives on in my home.
My son and my mom passed away. I have all their stuff. And all my stuff. And I can’t hardly use my home. So much stuff I can’t get into some rooms. My mom kept all her parents stuff so now I have a lot of of my grandparents stuff. She kept it so I feel like I should keep it. I can’t get rid of my son’s stuff. I’m just stuck.
Only keep the precious items and take photos of the rest… your Son and mom will always be with you in your ❤️ They would want you to open your heart to new experiences and move on… ❤
I love your life philosophy and your new life in Costa Rica. At the moment I’m stuck in a life that’s giving many challenges, just surviving and not truly living! Your videos give me hope. I do appreciate the good things in my life now and I hope that I’ll have time left for some more adventures as well. ❤️
I think the key take away here for me is the willingness to let go of emotional attachment to things. There are some things that I choose to keep a memory alive, such as some of my photos or special gifts. We are human just doing life at our own pace.
Thank you Connie for this video 🙏 I have certain personal items from when I was married to the love of my life. There are many I no longer have. There are a few that the thought of letting them go actually gets my heart pounding and I feel like I can't breathe. Talk about attachment and not letting go. By letting these personal things go, the reality of us no longer being together is even.....more official, if that makes sense. I know after a short time I will feel fine; however it's the initial action that scares me. Fear. Sadness. When I hold these things in my hands, I cry. I do not feel joy. When I feel ready, I go on a splurge and purge things. I am hoping I will feel the same way with these items. I am still tethered to a relationship that has not existed for 15 months. 😢 Time to wake up Roberta 🙏
Awareness is the first step. I don’t know you but I have shared your thoughts and feeling and I am proud of you for taking the first step of observation and awareness.
Roberta, you are being incredibly hard on yourself! Allow yourself time to grieve. 15 months is nothing! It took me a few years (everyone is different), but I got rid of stuff from my old marriage in stages. It was cathartic to burn some things. I did it in a way that both honoured the past relationship and the person I was becoming. I did it with love and when the time was right. Honour yourself, allow yourself time. Be gentle with yourself. ❤
@@andeeanko7079 Thank you for your words Andee. I am still incredibly sad. Doing what I can to help myself..... however it is difficult. I appreciate you reaching out. 🙏
This video came at a time for when I have been making some big decisions in my life. I appreciate everything that you said in your video and am going to really do some soul searching. Thank you for this wonderful video.
Is that your home? Or are you still traveling and living out of a suitcase? I am in the process of walking away from the sale of a home with only a suitcase and backpack via Swedish Death Cleaning. So far it has been a fascinating experience. BUT I have not drilled down to the final part of the exercise. We'll see how well I do. I'm sure I will have a couple of boxes of choice items that I will implore one of my daughters to keep for me.
I am doing the same thing, I am meeting with a lady who does estate sales Monday to see what she thinks I should do with furniture etc. I have had 3 garage sales this year so far and taken plenty to The ARC for donations. Now I need to get really serious regarding clothes, handbags (my favorite) personal items and the photos and cards I kept over the years. It's hard to whittle down when it comes to these things for some reason, but I know I can do it. Good luck to you and happy travels!
Great question. Yes, I'm still traveling and living out of my suitcase. The home in this video is the temporary house we are staying in. Lucky for me rental homes have plenty of stuff, that I can use as examples. 😊 Swedish death cleaning is a wonderful technique for decluttering. You've got this!
Did your children take the glass jars? It’s easy to give away our treasured items to our kid or others we know would want them. I’m interested in how you actually got rid of items you loved, but no one wanted. Were there things you loved that you just through in the trash? Personal treasures that you couldn’t give to a second hand store. Seeing important things actually put in a trash bag would be helpful and give “permission” to get rid of the things, you just don’t know how to get rid of. I enjoy watching your journey on living minimally but I’m definitely hitting some huge hurdles!
Considering I was a hoarder that came from a family of hoarders, I've made huge progress over the years! Atm I'm finding letting go of my previous home (after a marriage breakup) difficult. I no longer have a permanent home, nor most of the possessions in it. I now only have a room's worth of stuff (rather than a whole house) and I'm ok with that, which is a positive! Can you do a video on how to cope with that (not being attached to our physical home)? Ps I took photos of photos too & will take photos of stuff too, that's a great idea ❤🙏
Objects and photos do trigger memories.l can give the story behind an item: who, when, where, why. I treasure sentimental gifts from family and friends. Everyday l think of them, even those who have passed away. They tell your history without words. A handful of possessions are valuable to me. I could easily replace my sofa, dining table, lamps, clothing, laptop, TV. But not my mother's brass deer, my wall tapestry from New Orleans, my necklace with my children's initials or my grandmother's rosary beads.
@@mariastathopoulos744I've just lost the most important person to me. I'm having to choose what to keep and I know I'm keeping far too much, I just don't have enough space. How did you decide what to keep and what to let go?
That's not how Alzheimers works. If someone wants to let go of items but also keep some memories from them, then you can accomplish that by taking pictures of the items.
Thank you connie for your video I’ve been following you now for a year or so and you’ve helped me a lot I appreciate all you share I’ve decluttered a lot this year including a lot of photos I feel I need to move on to a new level starting with my health diet and exercise please can you point me in the best direction to start this many thanks I’m grateful 🍂🪴🌻
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Yes. The possessions I own represent what has come before, what defines me and my happiness.
I have reduced and continue to do so seasonally but when I look around and smile, it's because my "things" made me smile and reminisce.
Losing a husband... I've lost enough
Hugs Gail ❤️
My daughter died when she was 4, almost 12 years ago. I have her photos around my home. I have her memory box: first piece of clothing, christening shawl, one pair of shoes, a birthday candle, two pieces of clothing that were unwashed at the time of her passing. It still has her smell.
These bring me comfort on the days where sorrow is overwhelming - birthdays and anniversaries.
I have my mother's brass deer and pottery my sister made in high school. They are both deceased but something of their presence lives on in my home.
That is wonderful that your home is filled with things you cherish. 💗
My son and my mom passed away. I have all their stuff. And all my stuff. And I can’t hardly use my home. So much stuff I can’t get into some rooms. My mom kept all her parents stuff so now I have a lot of of my grandparents stuff. She kept it so I feel like I should keep it. I can’t get rid of my son’s stuff. I’m just stuck.
Only keep the precious items and take photos of the rest… your Son and mom will always be with you in your ❤️ They would want you to open your heart to new experiences and move on… ❤
I love your videos and consider myself a minimalist but I need a home with a few things that bring me joy. Both ways of living are fine. ❤
Absolutely! Whatever lifestyle you choose is perfect.😊
I love your life philosophy and your new life in Costa Rica. At the moment I’m stuck in a life that’s giving many challenges, just surviving and not truly living! Your videos give me hope. I do appreciate the good things in my life now and I hope that I’ll have time left for some more adventures as well. ❤️
I think the key take away here for me is the willingness to let go of emotional attachment to things. There are some things that I choose to keep a memory alive, such as some of my photos or special gifts. We are human just doing life at our own pace.
Beautiful video ❤ Letting go of sentimental items can be so difficult ❤
It is very difficult.
It's hard to rid some of my sentimental things. I need intervention haha. Love your videos.
I'm right there with you! 🖐🏼
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CHAPEAU, Connie…
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The digital record is a great idea. I think I hold onto some things especially is because they belonged to loved ones I lost too soon.
Thank you Connie for this video 🙏
I have certain personal items from when I was married to the love of my life. There are many I no longer have. There are a few that the thought of letting them go actually gets my heart pounding and I feel like I can't breathe. Talk about attachment and not letting go. By letting these personal things go, the reality of us no longer being together is even.....more official, if that makes sense. I know after a short time I will feel fine; however it's the initial action that scares me. Fear. Sadness. When I hold these things in my hands, I cry. I do not feel joy. When I feel ready, I go on a splurge and purge things. I am hoping I will feel the same way with these items. I am still tethered to a relationship that has not existed for 15 months. 😢 Time to wake up Roberta 🙏
Awareness is the first step. I don’t know you but I have shared your thoughts and feeling and I am proud of you for taking the first step of observation and awareness.
Roberta, you are being incredibly hard on yourself! Allow yourself time to grieve. 15 months is nothing! It took me a few years (everyone is different), but I got rid of stuff from my old marriage in stages. It was cathartic to burn some things. I did it in a way that both honoured the past relationship and the person I was becoming. I did it with love and when the time was right. Honour yourself, allow yourself time. Be gentle with yourself. ❤
@@andeeanko7079 Thank you for your words Andee. I am still incredibly sad. Doing what I can to help myself..... however it is difficult. I appreciate you reaching out. 🙏
@@authenticallytracy3421 Thank you so much Tracy. I appreciate your message 🙏
I divorced out of verbal and psychological trauma abuse and kept nothing of his as I’m not grieving!
This video couldn’t have come at a better time. Thank you. ❤
I'm glad!
Thanks I was trying to figure out how to get rid of my sentimental items. Now I know.
I'm so glad it gave you ideas.
Thank you Always Peaceful Kind Friend. 🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂
This video came at a time for when I have been making some big decisions in my life. I appreciate everything that you said in your video and am going to really do some soul searching. Thank you for this wonderful video.
I'm so glad this video found you at the right time.
Connie, much needed video,thank you❤
Love your videos' Connie...they are so special and amazing...thank you!!!xxx
Really enjoyed this video format, felt like we were sitting down together, thank you 🙏
my pleasure.
Loved this video. Been following you for a while and just love the peacefulness of your videos ❤
OH! Thanks so much
Thank you! Many helpful suggestions.
Thanks
Is that your home? Or are you still traveling and living out of a suitcase? I am in the process of walking away from the sale of a home with only a suitcase and backpack via Swedish Death Cleaning. So far it has been a fascinating experience. BUT I have not drilled down to the final part of the exercise. We'll see how well I do. I'm sure I will have a couple of boxes of choice items that I will implore one of my daughters to keep for me.
I am doing the same thing, I am meeting with a lady who does estate sales Monday to see what she thinks I should do with furniture etc. I have had 3 garage sales this year so far and taken plenty to The ARC for donations. Now I need to get really serious regarding clothes, handbags (my favorite) personal items and the photos and cards I kept over the years. It's hard to whittle down when it comes to these things for some reason, but I know I can do it. Good luck to you and happy travels!
Great question. Yes, I'm still traveling and living out of my suitcase. The home in this video is the temporary house we are staying in. Lucky for me rental homes have plenty of stuff, that I can use as examples. 😊 Swedish death cleaning is a wonderful technique for decluttering. You've got this!
Beautiful video ❤
Did your children take the glass jars? It’s easy to give away our treasured items to our kid or others we know would want them. I’m interested in how you actually got rid of items you loved, but no one wanted. Were there things you loved that you just through in the trash? Personal treasures that you couldn’t give to a second hand store. Seeing important things actually put in a trash bag would be helpful and give “permission” to get rid of the things, you just don’t know how to get rid of. I enjoy watching your journey on living minimally but I’m definitely hitting some huge hurdles!
Hi Connie thank you for always inspiring and teaching because everytime I watch your videos I learn something new to think about and keep in mind.❤
I'm so glad you enjoy my content. Thank you for your kind words.
Considering I was a hoarder that came from a family of hoarders, I've made huge progress over the years! Atm I'm finding letting go of my previous home (after a marriage breakup) difficult. I no longer have a permanent home, nor most of the possessions in it. I now only have a room's worth of stuff (rather than a whole house) and I'm ok with that, which is a positive! Can you do a video on how to cope with that (not being attached to our physical home)? Ps I took photos of photos too & will take photos of stuff too, that's a great idea ❤🙏
😊WOW! Thank you for sharing your journey with us. You have done so much work and come so far. Thank you for the video idea
In what app do you keep these pictures, if I may ask.
Also. I love your videos and thank you for sharing with us ❤
I use a free scanner app called Tiny Scanner. I keep The pictures I take in file folder in my photos on iCloud.
Thank you so much!!!!
Ty, ❤
Hi Connie, how can I get in touch with you? I have some questions if that’s ok? Thank you! 😊
Hey! You can email me at contact@connieriet.com. You can also reach me on my website under contact. connieriet.com
I respect your decisions but it’s not for everyone 😢
I completely agree. Each person should live a lifestyle that is as unique as they are and aligns with their values. 😊
Attachments connect to memories. When you get rid of your memories it is called Alzheimers.
you are so right, Connie is not connected to reality
Objects and photos do trigger memories.l can give the story behind an item: who, when, where, why.
I treasure sentimental gifts from family and friends. Everyday l think of them, even those who have passed away.
They tell your history without words.
A handful of possessions are valuable to me. I could easily replace my sofa, dining table, lamps, clothing, laptop, TV.
But not my mother's brass deer, my wall tapestry from New Orleans, my necklace with my children's initials or my grandmother's rosary beads.
@@mariastathopoulos744I've just lost the most important person to me. I'm having to choose what to keep and I know I'm keeping far too much, I just don't have enough space. How did you decide what to keep and what to let go?
@@Beth1300check out a video from the Minimalist Mom she did on sentimental items. Honestly changed my life.
That's not how Alzheimers works. If someone wants to let go of items but also keep some memories from them, then you can accomplish that by taking pictures of the items.
A women should not practice minimalism
That's not funny @wnklee6878
Thank you connie for your video I’ve been following you now for a year or so and you’ve helped me a lot I appreciate all you share I’ve decluttered a lot this year including a lot of photos I feel I need to move on to a new level starting with my health diet and exercise please can you point me in the best direction to start this many thanks I’m grateful 🍂🪴🌻
I'm so glad my videos resonate with you.