Shooting Yourself in the Foot | Self-Sabotage
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
- Sometimes you take a risk and decide to drink or stay up late before a test, knowing that it might cause failure. Why do we do that? What happens when people take that behavior to the extreme?
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How have you self-handicapped in the past?
KnowingBetter Doing it right now. Should be making a video but I'm watching this one. It's all your fault.
Is there a difference between self handicap and procrastination or are they the same?
Procrastination can be a form a self-handicap. If you use it as an excuse for why you didn't get a good grade or whatnot.
When I first became a teacher, I spent hours late into the night making minor tweaks and improvements to lessons.
I would then be exhausted and do a bad job of running the class and communicating with students but I had given myself the excuse that I was working really, really hard so that I could never be blamed for teaching a bad lesson.
Ate a big bag of gummy bears before the cross country state final...
Telling the hero your evil plan and leaving him alone to die without confirming he is dead.
guycxz gold medal for this joke
I can't help it, it's in the script for this stupid movie.
Knocking down the bad guy, then focusing on the victim, giving the bad guy the opportunity to get a weapon again ... and again ...
Just evil monolaging in general lol
Leaving the final boss alive because you don't want to become like them despite the fact you had no qualms killing hordes of their henchmen just so they can threaten you and a your loved ones
I feel personaly attacked by this video. I'm gonna go comfort myself by watching minecraft lets plays.
I'm self-sabotaging by watching this video
@@eclogite Same here.
Im gonna go comfort myself with some Destiny 2. Lol
Yo, I watch MC too. Dream? Lmao.
I just felt this man speaking directly throughout the entire video
So I need to destroy my self-image to get better at studying?
LSD
*wink wink nudge nudge*
no, you just need to be honest about which excuses are valid and which are lame and stupid
Not at all. I have completely destroyed my self-image, call myself a POS (and believe that with every ounce of my being, whatever that means), yet I have taught myself organic chemistry, Chinese (Mandarin with simplified hanzi if you want specifics), French, Spanish, PDE's, medical science, and Java but put it all off as just me being bored. People constantly tell me I can do better in life and sometimes even present opportunities to do so and I will throw it back in their face. Objectively, I know I can do better but misery is comforting so nothing comes of it. My point here is that you can be awesome at studying just because of who you are, yet if you hate yourself to the point of drinking and smoking yourself to death but being too much of a wimp to pull that trigger, no amount of studying will help. Keep your self-image, just be more honest with yourself and learn time budgeting better.
+anonymous daphne Perhaps the self hatred is merely a cognitive dissonance. Perhaps subconsciously or intuitively you know "we're" not supposed to live like this. Unnaturally, self-deceptively, culturally self-degraded, and fake. So you compensate with knowledge. To obscure the fact, from yourself, your family, your peers, and your future self - that you possessed this knowledge all along and it makes you so vulnerable. So unalike. So ineffective. So truthful. Fighting knowledge with knowledge. Fire with inferno.Maybe that's why other's don't seek knowledge as you do. Maybe they intuitively know it too, and you're just like them. Just as capable of denying love as anyone. Thus, escalation to fighting self with self. Thus worthy.
Markus Aldawn My self-image is already -1000/10
Why is this so relatable? I should be concerned with myself.
I'm currently self sabotaging my presentation by watching this vid, lit lmao
Im self sabotaging by replying to the above comment
You're not the only one buddy
Many of us can relate to some if not all things said in this video, but only if all the symptoms are pronounced and you have all 5 of them you have reason for consern, if not I wouldn't worry, your normal.
@@rejectrealism omg i just realised how sad i was :(
Oof, a couple of these hit a little close to home.
Then you dont have it.
All of them hit close. Holy shit this is blowing me away. WTF I feel so uneasy right now.
It’s like you described my whole family
I was down this road and realized I didn’t have to and didn’t want to live this way
Took my whole 20s to change and now I love my life and help others!
I’m talking about self defeating
Oh I’m pretty good at self deprecation! It seems that it’s more common now than even 15 years ago
Cause: social media? Increase in entrepreneurship?
this video really changed my outlook and self-talk in a way i honestly cant articulate well enough to do it justice. This is an excellent video, thanks for posting.
Just wanna say, I started watching you yesterday, and I really enjoy the channel. You seem honest, and that's important, especially in today's world. Keep up the good work.
Ugh, one time I helped my friend with homework via text messages. I practically wrote it for her in bullet points, SHE LITERALLY JUST HAD TO COPY THEM DOWN AND ADD A FEW FILLER WORDS TO MAKE THEM COHERENT SENTENCES! It was better written than mine was (I gave her the better written one because if she didn’t do well on this homework she’d get detention, but I’m a good student and the teacher would pay little mind to mine being below my usual quality of work). What a surprise it is the next day when she told me she forgot to copy it down! I added the best bit to mine and she got a detention... I now offer the minimum amount of help (mainly an explanation of what to do) and save the better work for myself.
I don’t hold any grudge, she was busy and truly didn’t have time, but damn, was I pissed at the time. 😂
Tbh,I kind of have this...
sometimes when I think of having a better life,having a girlfriend or being more active,I tend to feel some kind of fear,because meanwhile being happy is something that I don't know how it is,or how to handle it,being a loser is something more comfortable,I know how to deal with it,how to cope with,so I tend to maintain all of my unhealthy habits.
I started watching this video to procrastinate doing maths work but the sheer ridiculousness of what I was doing overcame me and got me to go study so thanks for that
That intro hit very close to home
it actually hit home.
Super glad that your channel is growing so fast. After all these great videos, you deserve it
Lmao I have a paper due tomorrow and am watching this instead of finishing it
This video was my "one more episode" the night before an exam, so thanks for inspiring me to actually stop watching!
This is like my favorite video of yours! All of these examples hit home Suuuuuuperrr Harrrrrddddd.
Holy shit. Thank you for this video. Literally perfectly describes me. I had no idea.
Considering the thumbnail and the fact you in the army, I thought this was about who shot themselves in the foot to avoid conscription. I am not disappointed
The last one is definitely me.... I mean that's the exact reason I tell people I'm self depreciating
What irony is this? I’m watching this video knowing that I have a major paper due in 3 days. Doh!
This hits to close to home.
lol oh man.. "it doesn't necessarily have to be as convoluted as that" sheeeeeeeeee- i was thinkin' that's a pretty watered-down version of my morning routine lol.
I usually just did homework at the last minute because it actually made things challenging for once.
Like what I'm doing right now by watching this RUclips video instead of studying. Oy!
It seems unlikely that I have this disorder, but I worry that a few people I know might be struggling with this
Feeling personally attacked in the first minute, I've got a final assignment due in an hour and a half.
This was either an attack on me or an intervention for me
Thankyou for this video
Is there any reason why you're using DSM-III-R instead of DSM-5?
Michael Spyridon Self-Defeating Personality Disorder, which the video is primarily based upon, was excluded from the DSM-4 and 5
We'll know better. We're gonna do it anyway, but we'll know better.
I do every single one of these actions. I have depression.
impostor syndrome?!?!! 🆘 🆘
That flirting with unavailable people thing opened my eyes man. I’ve been doing that for a long time after my first gf of three years cheated on me and dumped me. It even lead to my gf after being jealous and ruining that!
It’s weird seeing it from this perspective 🤔
I don’t know if it’s because of self-esteem. I attribute procrastination etc. to pure laziness. At least in my case
I feel intensely called out
Hell yeah, I do this all the time. It’s better to fail under constraints within your control, rather than trying your best only to fall short.
Hell yeah!
I have an financial statement for my finance class due tomorrow morning. I haven't started on it yet. I'll just watch one more video...
Since I just found your channel, guess what I'm doing instead of working on my own personal projects? Yup, binge watching. Thanks for being a great excuse for me. :)
I feel so called out its not ok
Wow great video.
I've only known about your work for about a week and I'm in love with your videos.
This one in particular hits too close for comfort.
Geez, now is the time where I should leave YT and do some shit, right ?
Well... ok.
Thank you for this video.
Bugger, I definitely fit 5 of those 8 criteria, this interesting. and potentially a little worrying.
I feel so attacked, I think you just declared war against me...
My favorite part of this video was the ad for a sketchy looking life coach from Mumbai.
Cheat days actually help keep you on the diet. I've lost thirty pounds at a healthy rate of about a pound to half a pound a week and haven't given up and binged because every friday I can have a steak, a beer, and whatever else I have been missing out on.
Love the video but the diet cheat day thing is really useful if done right and kept very consistent like every Friday. Important note if you overdo it it won’t help. But if you are going for a long term or permanent diet it helps to occasionally eat something that isn’t in your diet. A Oreo a week won’t kill you however eating Macdonalds every Friday will mitigate and diet attempt
6:14 I’m dying!!!
four 3 hour assignments due in six hours o _ o
Thenks
The word isn't "perteckt" is PROtect!
I'm trying to stay away from self-deprecation since it hasn't helped me and ultimately lowers my self-esteem
I don’t think I have the full disorder, but one of those symptoms hit me like a truck and uhhh... was not expecting that rewatching a 2 year old video for edutainment while eating my dinner
Edit: maybe this is just me
I self deprecate about my emotions and about my weight.
Regarding the former, I tend to have emotional breakdowns every once in a while if I feel particularly overwhelmed, nervous, or upset. So I make jokes about being crazy and a mess so if I have a meltdown and start crying in public, the odd looks and prying glaces stings less because me being emotional is a funny joke most of the time. So when I gather myself, it's easier to recover from the embarrassment and I can go back to normal.
As far my weight is concerned, people don't point it out as much as reality does. No one makes fun of me for being fat, but the numbers on the scale creep up, my jeans fit a bit tighter, the bed creaks a little when I climb into it, etc. So when I make jokes, it's less emotionally devastating when I have a bad day or even a bad week. I try to eat healthy, control portions, and cut out junk, but if I'm having a hard time at life, I tend to eat my emotions and indulge in fast food and sugary baked goods. So when I inevitably gain weight, I don't get super depressed about my failure, meaning I don't keep eating my emotions, and I don't feed into a cycle that would take a huge amount of willpower to break. Instead, since I already knew I was fat, it's funny, it's less disheartening, and I can get back on the health wagon before I go too far off the rails.
I once ate a big bag of gummy bears before the state final cross country race. Somehow I did better than I thougt I would've.
Sad to happy. I'm fucking terrified, the meds seem to work I think. But Jesus Christ I'm terrified.
this is my "oh shit" moment.
I think I have self defeating personality disorder. I had the opportunity to submit my music piece for nysma composition competition but chose the last day just because I felt like there was no use and my work was just mediocre and it would honestly be a waste of time.
Spend entire night playing Destiny, and not completing your work? That sounds like a subscription to me.
I didn't start watching this channel to be personal attacked.
I thought this would be about soldiers that shoot themselves to get sent home
What happens if every time you try to find joy you are hurt?
This video makes it seem like this is something you can overcome but what if it's your truth?
Like what happens when you think you are good enough but the feedback you receive is that you aren't?
Are you?
How are you generating this feedback? Is it wrong to fight or reject this feedback?
If you're my dad, you do that then make everyone feel guilty for making you fail
I feel personally attacked. lol
This is made worse with ADD because not only do you have something to blame but it actually does make it worse. I have it and I hate it
Stop judging me! I know I need to be doing my science right now but I’ll get to it later...
I appreciate that you logically breakdown the reasons of such behaviors but I missed the references for fact checking. I like your channel but the lack of evidence makes it hard for me to absorb the knowledge that you are sharing.
Can't make myself PT or complete my PME...
Hmm...... I'm doing this right now ...I'm watching RUclips instead of chemistry
i feel personally attacked by this video
Another example: Fucking up the world climate.
Humanity doesn't explicitly do it to commit suicide. But we do it knowing the risk.
Me using this video to self sabotage
You're not fat buddy. You're... uh... plump! Plump is alright! :)
I have social anxiety and depression and this applies to me too. Is that normal ?
by watching this, i'm going start the my day now! lol
I would love for happiness to be some kind of consumable pellet you just happen to find on the street someday but usually it sneaks up on you. I'm no Sally Sunshine or Happy Harold, more of a Lugubrious Luke or a Bitchy Becky, but I am the happiest when I least expect it. Like when you tune to a random radio station and catch the whole 8 and a half minute version of Master of Puppets from the beginning (actual thing that happened to me one christmas eve after I got out of work
This is basically me...
I've done all of these oh god oh fuck
well, how do you undo his habit?
How many people just watched this then mumbled to themselves: 'holy shit I'm a masochist'
10:08 Aren't those 2 things kinda contradictory?
I thought the title said Soothing yourself in the foot
Supposed to be writing a paper, but I'm watching a video on self sabotage instead.
Same!
I triple that notion.
Self ception
M E T A
Quad
Thank you man!
ive had problems with this for ages. I've never spoken about it to anyone but this video inspired me to seek help. I didn't know that the problem wasn't me just being lazy. Turns out i have some stuff to work on and there is help I can get!
All the best!
I had similar experience 10 years ago and I'm struggling with it upto this point without even knowing that's the problem. You are not alone bro.
I will try to seek help hope you get better too🙂
You can tell this is legitimate because the blame is still being pushed unto the syndrome
Did you end up finding help? Been struggling with self sabotage for my entire life and I've pretty much given up at this point.
Talk to a psychiatrist. I mustered up the courage and it is helping. it's hard but im making progress.
man. i know right?
I should be finishing my homework.
Did you do it?
@@guilhermesiebeneichler1663you're a year late
I should be starting
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Did you finish
I was severely depressed for a very long time. It becomes part of your self-perception. I wouldn't call it comforting, but rather say that taking risks and doing "what you're supposed to" is incredibly discomforting. You feel anxious constantly until you just leave it behind and let it fall apart. Then you don't feel anxious any more. Free.
And then a month later you realized you were much happier being anxious.
The reason I can't get out of bed easily is not because I don't want to blame my time management skills. I don't have time management skills. It's because the bed is comforting. I used to show up for work 20 minutes late every day. Because the bed is comforting. Not because I was re-enacting a failure to show up on time; It was just that the only thing that actually got me out of bed was a feeling that I'm definitely too late and I have to get out.
It's legit hard to get out of bed in the morning if you get absolutely nothing out of life. ;)
Concretely...
I have left a lot of online communities (in MMO's) where I was really fitting in because I kept getting anxious about losing my place in those communities. Like, what would happen when they all realized I was boring?
And this was a time when online communities were my only social contacts.
I've done this so many times, and regretted it every single time, and I wound up just playing singleplayer games instead of trying to meet people online.
When you're dealing with serious depression and psychogenic pain, you may just not have the strength to have a perceived risk hanging over your head, waiting to somehow make your life even worse.
For a mentally healthy person, self-sabotage is a mistake. For a mentally ill person, it may be the only choice they have.
Emil Sørensen
I completely understand where you're coming from. I spent a good decade in that dark, lonely pit.
I know it's not worth a damn, but I hope you're feeling better these days.
Emil Sørensen: it took me years to realize that my crippling anxiety was no longer useful for self protection. Years to realize I held onto that shell and defined myself in this way because I was afraid if I dropped my persona other people who feel disjointed at the shift, or like I was abandoning my ‘true’ self. Fake it til you make it sounds superficial or laughable, though from my experience it truly is a great therapy to normalize behaviors that you want to adopt. Hang in there bro
Getting out of bed is literally the hardest thing i do on a daily basis
I understand how you feel. I myself do the same thing and if I get behind I feel very discouraged and in my mind I feel like: shit I failed, that is it for today, I will do it tommorow.
I've hated being happy since I was 10, which I knew was weird but didn't know why I did it. When you said that happiness is fleeting and scary but sadness is always and comforting it clicked. Thank you for the video.
That sounds similar to my experience; I always have an emotional crash after elation, so it's easier for me to stay emotionally neutral or negative.
@@slappy8941 Thank you. This sounds relatable. After every enjoyable event I feel so down, because it's over and ask myself if it is even worth persuing enjoyment at all.
Y'all sound like kotomine kirei from fate
Interesting stuff. The same happened to me a few months before turning 10 in the 4th grade
The cinema sins gag always gets me.
it's funnier than actual CinemaSins
I bet on losing dogs.
Not a joke, but rather a Mitski song.
I know they’re losing but I pay for my place by the ring...
Awwwwww cute puppies
IHE. Solid choice.
Wow you really sabotaged your video
Also Casually Explained is seriously self-depreciating.
Or acts seriously self-depricating for comedic value. Probably both.
Felix Maier he most have a sad life :)
I'm pretty sure he's legit depressed a lot. It's hard to imagine him being so good at expressing those dark feelings, even while making them light-hearted, if he didn't feel them.
My mind is blown. He describes my life to a point. I need to get a grip. Than you
remember not to grip sandpaper tho :>
Haha
The real self sabotage is playing destiny
Yup, I still do it. Too much admittedly
"Happiness is uncertain, depression is forever." Beautiful 😂😂😂
I watched this video while procrastinating
Interesting, I do a lot of these things, I just thought that this was just being really humble and kind.
Seriously this video hit close to home. I've had some health issue and failed my semester due to big lack of attendance (or maybe I am just using health issue to justify the fact I didn't study enough/ or maybe I made myself sick to be more comfortable in case of failure (which is what happend)). Last year I actually achieved the diploma that allowed me to go to college but I never took it like a win and always said that everyone could do it.
I thought I should see a specialist but I didn't feel like I have the right to be depressed because my family is always behind me to help me and make my life easier. I guess I will take an appointment. it can't hurt anyway :)
like I knew I was a masochist in bed but apparently that bed is also a metaphor for literally every aspect of my life, to a degree of 8, out of 8.
I really disagree with you dismissing a cheat day. As long as you don't go overboard, or have the too often, they are a good way to keep you motivated on a diet. They can even give you something to look forward to or "earn". I made a lot of progress on a diet where I had a cheat day. Lost 80 pounds and I haven't put it back on.
Cheat days are dismissed because *most* people that do cheat days eat _so much_ on their cheat days, that they make the rest of the diet pointless.
Doesn't really matter if you spend most of the week on an 300kcal deficit, if on your cheat day you eat 5000kcal of saturated fats and sugar.
If you have the self-discipline to stick to a diet and stay disciplined even on your cheat day, you most likely could've done it without the cheat day as well.
Not necessarily, there's a reason we love fat and sugar, it's how our minds are biologically programmed by evolution. The denser a food is in carbs, the more desirable it should be, because it's the kind of food that'll most easily help us survive and thrive.
As a result foods that we love and crave will often be "unhealthy", especially when you're on a diet, so having a cheat day is acknowledging that we biologically will have those cravings.
The problem however is discipline. Definitely not everyone, but a lot of people that need a diet need one because they lack discipline with food. Because that's why they're overweight in the first place. So as I said above, when most people on a diet have a "cheat day", they feel like it's okay to let go of all discipline and eat what they want and end up eating so many calories that day, that it completely nullifies any deficit they suffered through in the week before.
Like +raney150 said, if you do it properly, you can totally have cheat days while losing weight. You just have to still eat a normal amount.
eating healthy is in fact not as desirable as eating junk.
bodying dummies - Why would you follow a keto diet if you're going to kick your body out of keto every weekend. That sounds like just about the worst idea.
+bodying dummies - But why would you? It's not good for your body to get kicked in and out of ketosis constantly. Why do you think you felt so shit every time?
I have this and recently talked to my physician for help. I start my meds this week, let's hope I can finally function like a normal person.
JointedSpagel: congrats! I’m seeing the doctor next week to try chantix (medicine that blocks out the pleasure response from smoking). I’ve heard only cold turkey works, though I’m confident this time it will be different than the other times I quit.