Intimacy in Our Marriage Q&A

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    Shane and Hannah have been together for over four years. They got married in September of 2020 in the midst of a global pandemic in their backyard, with their officiant conducting the ceremony via Zoom. Their interabled relationship often confuses people, because much of society still cannot fathom people with disabilities being involved in loving, intimate relationships. Anyone who watches these episodes will quickly see their relationship is just as “normal” as any other. Sure, Hannah helps Shane use the bathroom and brush his teeth, but those activities do not detract from the emotional, intellectual, and physical connection they experience together.

Комментарии • 997

  • @SquirmyandGrubs
    @SquirmyandGrubs  Год назад +270

    Oops! Thanks to everyone who pointed out the editing errors on our previous upload of this video. I (Shane) sped up the video and the timing of everything got messed up. It's been fixed! Enjoy!

    • @Sebastian16753
      @Sebastian16753 Год назад +6

      Day #69 asking if Shane is cut or uncut 🍌🤭

    • @AnayhiasMimi4619
      @AnayhiasMimi4619 Год назад +6

      I think love is beautiful😊

    • @shelbyatwell
      @shelbyatwell Год назад +21

      @@Sebastian16753 that’s such a weird question to ask someone that’s not your personal friend 😅

    • @buttfucker911
      @buttfucker911 Год назад

      ​@@shelbyatwellso you're saying it's normal to ask a personal male friend that question?😮

    • @Sebastian16753
      @Sebastian16753 Год назад +2

      @@shelbyatwell alright cutie

  • @pf4773
    @pf4773 Год назад +360

    A friend came to me years ago, telling me that she was going to marry her boyfriend because..."it was effortless." What she meant was that she and he did not have to constantly struggle to get to a place of peace and harmony. They could plan work, love, and play without constant fights and struggles. They accepted each other, wanted to give to each other, and tried to do those things that would make their partner happy. There are so few of us that are fortunate to have real love in our lives. Most of us are in relationships with pettiness, fighting, and many long for something better. When we see a couple who, of course is not perfect, but who truly can manage to be happy with each other, despite constant physical closeness and intimacy...wow, so rare. While I'm happy for both of you my deepest wish is that more humans could experience what you both seem to have, instead of your level of intimacy being so rare.

    • @kristennelson2480
      @kristennelson2480 Год назад +27

      I believe this is what brings the negative comments they receive….people are jealous of their relationship because they either aren’t in one at all, not happy in the one they are in and never experienced this type of relationship…..I did for a couple years with my last partner but things slowly started going south and either he turned into a different person or I was blinded by love

    • @nsanenthembrane
      @nsanenthembrane Год назад +6

      👏🏼👏🏼

    • @lc4life369
      @lc4life369 Год назад +2

      @@kristennelson2480 that and the fact that they address the negative comments so much. Alot of them are just looking for the attention they wont get by leaving a nice comment.

    • @anne-marieobrien3349
      @anne-marieobrien3349 Год назад +2

      😊

    • @nidaocampo3400
      @nidaocampo3400 2 месяца назад

      Hi​@@kristennelson2480

  • @wheeln00
    @wheeln00 Год назад +115

    Love the topic. I became a quadriplegic at 19 yrs old. My dating didn't slow down, however it did change. I've always been an open book and I believe good communication is key to any relationship. I've been happily married for 25 yrs and I don't see it changing anytime soon . I also taught Middle School and High school kids for 20 yrs. WOW, the questions they would ask about my disability and sexual function.......Some were very X-Rated. I did my best to answer them and it always led to a better understanding that disabled people aren't that different from non-disabled people. (we all want attention, love, respect, affection, communication, etc .....)

    • @redinabloogs8477
      @redinabloogs8477 Год назад +4

      Wow u should teach the rest of us about relationships and talking to teens. You obviously know what ur talking about.

    • @KIT9168
      @KIT9168 Год назад +7

      wow thats awesome. i wasnt gonna read the comments but im glad i read yours. love is love

    • @wheeln00
      @wheeln00 Год назад

      Thanks@@KIT9168

  • @Ladeedi73
    @Ladeedi73 Год назад +116

    I think it is natural curiosity for people to wonder when they see someone with a disability about intimacy. I appreciate your openness to share. It is, I don’t know the right adjective to say but “nice “to know that Shane has normal functions that make your intimacy fun for you both. I am looking forward to more videos like this because I find them interesting. Bottom line is I’m very very very very happy for you all.

    • @GarrettKjellberg
      @GarrettKjellberg 5 месяцев назад +4

      Um,it's obvious this is staged. They are not a couple, Shane doesn't have normal functions, lol. I feel bad for her,you can see she wants out,but is stuck living this lie,they are laughing all the way to the bank tho lol.

    • @Bryman5000
      @Bryman5000 5 месяцев назад

      They post this every month. They show her in underwear and she randomly grabs things in the back to show her but. It’s his third girlfriend who’s very attractive who “ fell I. Love with him” on tv and RUclips. It’s a scam. You can look at their video lust and see the thirst trap thumb nails. It’s subtle sometimes and others it’s obvious. These two are not dating. They are business partners

    • @brendan7968
      @brendan7968 Месяц назад

      Shut the hell up

    • @destroyingfear777
      @destroyingfear777 Месяц назад

      ​@user-uc7dc2dd4q How do you know that for sure? Do you know them personally? No you don't so stop with the Fake News!

    • @FIRING_BLIND
      @FIRING_BLIND 27 дней назад

      Mmmm but all kinda of disabilities exist. Shane's is unique. So no, usually the only ppl who think that about me want to have sex with me 😅😅

  • @miarand57
    @miarand57 Год назад +120

    Hannah - I had 13 years of Ballet training and one of the main stretches for doing splits was sitting on the floor and putting the bottoms of your feet together in front of your groin with your knees out to the sides. Pull your feet as close to your body as possible. Drop your knees as close to the floor as possible and put your hands on your knees on each side and gently bounce your knees down toward the floor. This stretches the major ligaments in your groin which is what you need to stretch to do splits. Practice this feet flat together as close to your body as possible, with your knees out to the sides, bouncing them toward the floor gently every day until you can hold your knees down completely parallel to the floor. You should find yourself able to do a split at that point! Good luck, as go slowly so you don’t TEAR the ligaments!😊🙏🏼💕

    • @beckycordell7038
      @beckycordell7038 Год назад +6

      We called these butterflies! I was hoping someone had commented on the best techniques. I would add sitting in a straddle position and trying to lay your chest flat to the floor, between your knees as another exercise.

    • @not.samcooke
      @not.samcooke Год назад +4

      yesss thank you! ligaments take wayyyy longer to heal than muscles cuz they get less blood flow so please go slow and be careful with the hamstring stretches; no yoga butt for Hannah!

    • @valvihk3649
      @valvihk3649 Год назад +3

      That's a butterfly, I can do it perfectly but I can't do a split :(

    • @kathyhand5219
      @kathyhand5219 3 месяца назад +2

      In martial arts class we would also put our but up against the wall, facing the wall with our legs up the wall. Then you just slowly let the weight of your legs move thenm into a side split position. Worked for me!

  • @megan7292
    @megan7292 8 месяцев назад +41

    I always appreciate people who are open about this stuff. I’m autistic and VERY naturally curious so people often feel as though i’m overstepping when really it’s just coming from a place of pure curiosity and intrigue. Love how open you guys are!

    • @mgnruth
      @mgnruth 7 месяцев назад

      Omg same and we have the same name Megan ❤😂.

    • @user-ex3cj9nc4g
      @user-ex3cj9nc4g 6 месяцев назад

      Hi my name is pandy me too hi family ​@@mgnruth

    • @Efflorescentey
      @Efflorescentey 20 дней назад

      Same 😂 I was curious as!!

  • @TedJamesLytle790
    @TedJamesLytle790 Год назад +439

    Chloe: "I am family. I need to go upstairs with Liz and spare myself from this intimate exchange." - Exits stage left. 😳

    • @MBroome1028
      @MBroome1028 Год назад +9

      😂😂😂😂😂😂 Poor Chloe! Our dog does the same…. I can hear him think…Oh God….doing this again? Yeah, I’m out! 😂😂😂😂

  • @tammiklusewitz7141
    @tammiklusewitz7141 Год назад +71

    When Hannah said, "Multiple previous partners...." I chuckled because I thought she hit the word 'multiple' pretty hard - just a second before Shane made the very same comment. 😂

  • @MissPoland77
    @MissPoland77 8 месяцев назад +13

    There are two sides to people’s curiously, one comes from a place of judgement and insincerity, while the other comes from a place of curiosity and education. Thank for talking about this openly and teaching so many people about how love is not physical, and when it has to be, it doesn’t care what it looks like. Additionally, I have been watching you guys for almost a decade and your relationship has always inspired me, and it has nothing to do with being abled or not. And one last thing, humanity is so upsets with sex like it’s the key to the universe. Sex is so overblown. It’s important, no doubt but not vital. Even with conception, people have children without even being physical. There are so many ways couples can be intimate without physicality. My boyfriend and I are perfectly able and last week we were talking about how, ‘even if we could never have sex again, we would still choose each other’ the connection goes beyond physicality. Love you both and I love your love!

  • @Amy_McFarland
    @Amy_McFarland Год назад +71

    Having had a brief (6 months) relationship with someone similar to Shane's disability my first experience with intimacy was awkward. I was very young at the time and I was not mature enough to see the bigger picture of the relationship. So I just smile when I see all these questions come up about your intimacy "challenges". When you really love a person none of this even matters. It is just different from the norm.
    While many cannot imagine such a relationship, it is the kind of bond that they will never understand, regardless of how you try to convey it to your viewers.

    • @Ihsgshshsjsjzj
      @Ihsgshshsjsjzj 5 месяцев назад

      There won't be any faithful relationship without sex, it's a need in us human, we are created in pairs for that reason, these two are just bullshit fooling naive people like you 🤣🤣

  • @Brombit
    @Brombit Год назад +15

    Thoughts from an asexual girl :)
    Libido difference in a couple is workable when it's small enough, so they can find a middle ground where the two peoplw are happy. If the sex drive is too different, it usually causes a problem. That's why asexual people often struggle in (romantic) relationships with "normally" sexual people. (Asexuality doesn't mean the lack of sex drive, but the lack of attraction, which means lack of will to have sex with another person)
    This is just one of the "technical" issues that a couple needs in order for the relationship to work. Fortunately for you, the only issue you had was the distance, and you knew from the beginning that you could solve it by moving to live together at some point.
    -
    Why do you sometimes call sex "intimacy" and sometimes "sex"? You know intimacy comes in many forms :) and sometimes I'm not sure if you're talking about intimacy in general or about sex.
    -
    Was it obvious for you that your relationship would be monogamic, or you needed a minute to consider it? that obviously applies to previous relationships too.
    Of course what I said in the first paragraph can be different in non-monogamic relationships (sexually open or polyamorous).
    On a different note - late congratulations on 1.5 million subscriberssssssss

    • @dianaray1470
      @dianaray1470 Год назад +2

      Omg girl…. Rest your brain.

    • @Brombit
      @Brombit Год назад +1

      @@dianaray1470
      my brain is fine, thanks for caring 😘

  • @phillipjones611
    @phillipjones611 Год назад +77

    Chloe's walk off timing was priceless and perfect.

  • @NiaDja
    @NiaDja Год назад +25

    You are helping so many others who are facing challenges. Thank you for sharing!

  • @Mom2Twins0806
    @Mom2Twins0806 Год назад +19

    I want to thank you two for sharing your lives with us. I don't remember how I found you but you have helped me change my thoughts on adults with disabilities. I didn't have a bad view of it before it just wasn't where is should be and I appreciate you two for helping me be a better person. Thank You.

  • @jerkytoo8184
    @jerkytoo8184 Год назад +35

    I very much appreciate the videos on this topic that you've done. I'm not disabled, nor is my wife, but it's good that you're willing to address the topic in an honest and clear manner. Along with all of the other content on your channel it shows that a person with a disability is not a 1-dimensional person, but is a person who can experience the full range of life.

  • @lillykelly2709
    @lillykelly2709 Год назад +78

    Thank you SO much for this video. A series of these would be brilliant. As a woman with a disability with an able bodied husband. These are potentially helpful to share with him. Awesome guys.

  • @milehighaaron4610
    @milehighaaron4610 Год назад +71

    You know, after viewing a lot of your videos, including those in this series, I don’t think anyone questions Shane’s functionality. It’s the logistics that people question. Not necessarily anyone’s business but it would offer some more insight on how this physical part works.

    • @aurelia3494
      @aurelia3494 Год назад +3

      Googling it might be better bc yeah as you said it's pretty much no one's business

    • @Tampafan33
      @Tampafan33 Год назад +4

      It doesn’t this is bs. I’m paralyzed from the waist down which isn’t even as bad as him and this shit doesn’t work. It’s fake as fuck and it pisses me off they’re profiting off lying about disabilities and shit

    • @Mario-ob8es
      @Mario-ob8es Год назад +32

      It doesn't. It's simply impossible. His knees are stuck bent hugging his ribs. The gap is mere inches. You think Hannah is going to fit into a 4 or 6 inch gap? Lol ain't happening. This is just for views and image.

    • @geenskeen
      @geenskeen Год назад

      ​@@aurelia3494You wouldn't be able to Google for it if everyone had the "it's no one else's business" attitude. Someone has to share about their experience for it to exist in a public space.

    • @JaneRLeBlanc
      @JaneRLeBlanc Год назад

      @@Mario-ob8es You sound like a bore in bed with that lack of imagination.

  • @yomama5304
    @yomama5304 Год назад +106

    You two could talk an hour about your garbage/recycling collection day and I am all in. I don't care the topic. I just like you guys! 😊

    • @traceykuntz7888
      @traceykuntz7888 Год назад +1

      I agree but losing interest rapidly because the content is desperate babble.

    • @bobs1356
      @bobs1356 Год назад +1

      There both boring.

    • @Jabroni2U
      @Jabroni2U Год назад

      you desperately need a life😂😂😂

    • @kyfarm
      @kyfarm Год назад

      @@traceykuntz7888 I've only seen a handful or so of their videos and it seems Hannah doesn't wear much in a lot of them. And I saw one where they were being interviewed and she stripped clothing off herself and Shane after every question. I didn't get that at all. In more than half of the ones I've seen, Hannah is flexing. I don't understand that either if this channel is just about an inter-abled couple.

  • @MasterRahl221
    @MasterRahl221 Год назад +127

    Shane's sad little "happy birthday to me" was gold

  • @joemarlett8590
    @joemarlett8590 Год назад +30

    Your videos are so easy to watch. No matter the discussion you guys are on the same page. Many more years of happiness.

  • @carolinecarruthers7415
    @carolinecarruthers7415 Год назад +3

    I really admire the way you protect your privacy, and I am not saying that sarcastically. You must get such invasive, "But HOW does IT work? Can you walk us through it with dolls and be really explicit?" questions ALL the time (because people are invasive as 🤬) and the fact that you have very firmly set the boundary of, "Yes, we have an intimate life. Yes, it works. And yes, that is as graphic as we will get." and remained consistent is so refreshing. You have privacy, you don't share EVERYTHING. And you do it respectfully-- you know people are curious, but that's your boundary. I really like it, and applaud you for how you've approached this topic. 😊

  • @stacyfabiszewski4633
    @stacyfabiszewski4633 Год назад +9

    Thank you so much for talking about this, please keep talking about it and please be open with this subject. A lot of people don't know. I admire you Shane and Hannah, you both are so sweet and kind hearted, as well as loving and genuine

  • @tinashort9098
    @tinashort9098 Год назад +316

    I wish people were smarter. Why would anyone question this relationship?? I’ve been here a very long time. Shane and Hannah are the typical married couple. I watch because they’re funny and smart and they love each other. Not because of Shane’s disability and Hannah being his person. I just love both of them!!!

    • @Bigbirdreese1600
      @Bigbirdreese1600 Год назад +14

      I don't think they meant to question.the relationship, it's just out of the norm most people see this young man, woman as a married couple, she is so gorgeous.
      No disrespect to anyone ..❤❤

    • @sharonbrown6595
      @sharonbrown6595 Год назад +9

      Totally and would you go up to any other couple and say tell me about your sex life. I would say none of your business. They r brave to say anything but I wouldn’t and for some woman to say they r lying. What gives with people eh? So far Hannah and Shane have a Normal married life. Eat, wash dress go out stretch, run play and walk the dog the list goes on, you two you don’t have to do this. At all you were attracted to each other seem happy so we don’t need to know this part of your life. Actually Shane you just said everything works. Good enough end of the video

    • @Zbittersweetz
      @Zbittersweetz Год назад +8

      They love each others souls

    • @DevotedDisciple-x
      @DevotedDisciple-x Год назад +36

      @tinashort9098 You answered your own question. You've been here a long time, many people probably haven't. In the year 2023 how often do you see a beautiful woman with a man who is completely disabled and has a body like his. She also probably has to take care of him a lot which would be a huge turn off for many people. Most women are attracted to confident and capable men and not so much the men who are physically incapable. So naturally, many people may think that maybe he is doing better than her financially and she's with him for that reason. And to be honest, I'm not sure how it is that she gets turned on by him. I'm sure that she loves him but being turned on is something totally different. I think it's quite natural for people to have many questions about their relationship as it is highly unusual.
      Also, everyone can go ahead and be offended and curse me or whatever, but it doesn't change the fact that I'm speaking the truth and it's just reality. And for what it's worth, I dislike that our world is this way more than many people and wish people cared more about what's on the inside. The truth is most people don't.

    • @sweetness583
      @sweetness583 Год назад +12

      Omg get real

  • @ashlynhueffer151
    @ashlynhueffer151 Год назад +10

    I adore you both, have watched for years. This was such a real and funny conversation. Shane is shameless, I can only imagine the chapter you had to throw out! I’m thrilled we get to watch your split progress, I can’t wait to see you victorious!

  • @PuffyPinkPoodle
    @PuffyPinkPoodle 6 месяцев назад +1

    I just adore you two! And, as a fellow person with disabilities, you inspire me more than you could imagine. Disregard the thoughtless comments people utter -- you are so much better and brighter, and you deserve to enjoy each and everyday together! Thank you for sharing your joy as well as your struggles -- it means a lot, you lovelies! xoxo

  • @Shamelslife
    @Shamelslife Год назад +72

    I think people who are disabled know better than most, even from a young age, what specifically will work or not for them logistically concerning intimacy. And I feel like many of us are more comfortable sharing such information with any/everyone. I guess I’m saying, the lack of a filter is just part of the territory.

    • @DoctorJoanieTool
      @DoctorJoanieTool Год назад +3

      Exactly. And like every couple on earth; it is always an evolving and changing dynamic. What worked in an marriage at age 22 may be very different at 42 or 62 … we are all sexual beings and so many things affect intimacy. Sex begins with the brain!

  • @deserabailey8500
    @deserabailey8500 Год назад +5

    Hey! youre doing great on those splits!!! :) Ive been able to do them my whole life because i have hyper-mobile joints, but ive taught SEVERAL friends to do it over the years and some were WAY further than you from the splits and still got there! I think youre at a great starting point though! Also randomly stretching throughout the day (like a thigh stretch when waiting for coffee, or a toe touch when getting up for a glass of water) really goes a long way :) Good luck!

  • @Familylawgroup
    @Familylawgroup Год назад +20

    Here is a question for you - once Hannah is pregnant, how are you going to handle physical transfers that Hannah currently does? I believe a pregnant person is given weight lifting caps that I am sure Shane will exceed. Is Shane’s mom going to move it during the pregnancy to help or will you hire a live in nurse, etc? Pls, if Hannah needs a C-Section (which sounds frightening and sounds awful but is common) she will have even more strict weight lifting limits. My daughter-in-law couldn’t even lift her newborn for the first 6 weeks or so.

    • @annettes965
      @annettes965 Год назад +2

      Why couldn't she lift her baby after a c section? I had a 9lbs 2 Oz baby girl and I lifted her with no problem and I to had a c section....

    • @stefaniekasal8620
      @stefaniekasal8620 Год назад +7

      Doctors recommend you don't lift more than around 5 lbs after a c section...there are so many layers in your body healing from the surgery that heavy lifting might stress

    • @geenskeen
      @geenskeen Год назад +4

      They have already discussed this topic several times. Liz can help but also they will hire a caregiver

    • @rebeccaxodonq7893
      @rebeccaxodonq7893 7 месяцев назад +5

      😂😂😂😂😂 don't worry they are only married in online for business, in off line they won't be married n they will go in their own way. And she is his nurse. His parents might be wealthy n hiring her

    • @j-life8502
      @j-life8502 3 месяца назад +2

      ​@rebeccaExaxodonq7893 EXACTLY.. no one in thier right mind would ever buy this lunacy! He is either loaded or ol Hannah has some screws loose. It's super disturbing 😳

  • @devonleighrogers9766
    @devonleighrogers9766 Год назад +37

    When he said “I cannot think of a single thing that would be more fun” I verbally laughed out loud 😂 that’s exactly what my husband would say 😂😂😂

  • @cq1903
    @cq1903 Год назад +9

    The 2 previous girlfriends you tried to start a RUclips channel, or a tv show with them. Because you dating another disabled person wouldn't be a big sensation

  • @bryantfalk7021
    @bryantfalk7021 6 месяцев назад +1

    First just want to say thanks for sharing your life with everyone. Next how can people not see the way you, Hannah look lovingly at your man. I find it very wonderful and energizing that you both have a strong connection with each other. Wish you both the best and look forward to seeing more adventures as you post.

  • @ericalavallee4625
    @ericalavallee4625 Год назад +52

    I had a boyfriend in a wheelchair. He was paralyzed from the waist down. It just didn't work out because him as a person wasn't feeding my soul. We are still friends n never had an issue w intimacy ❤

    • @dionisiocastillo2392
      @dionisiocastillo2392 Год назад +7

      Who cares

    • @solangelalebron1348
      @solangelalebron1348 Год назад +1

      @@dionisiocastillo2392 People care because it's Absolute FRAUD! It's more annoying than the sham of the Government Presidency. People will endure one, but not two jokes in this country!

    • @lesleyhughes3174
      @lesleyhughes3174 Год назад

      ​@@dionisiocastillo2392👶

    • @thunderation
      @thunderation Год назад

      ​@@dionisiocastillo2392I do. Thanks for sharing @ericalavallee4625 It's good to hear that relationships with people with disabilities are *gasp* normal. Hope you find the one x

    • @911eVoX
      @911eVoX Год назад +4

      Yea, you were definitely settling with the intimacy aspect. No harm to you, some women just don't need that for fulfillment

  • @jims6884
    @jims6884 Год назад +28

    When in college/university at SWMS IN MN. a a/b female ( friend with benefits) & myself (disabled) started a on campus discussion group about sexuality with disabled people. As word spread around campus both able bodied students & more disabled students began to attend. We then became a open sexually discussion group. Included films & ligature. An yes some open minds with positive attitudes followed by dating &. Hook-up’s. Hannah & Shane you are excellent role models as to life liberty ,love,& happiness. So many people can benefit from your life as a couple.

    • @compunurse
      @compunurse Год назад +7

      Films and "ligature?"

    • @13thAMG
      @13thAMG Год назад +2

      I picked up on that too. 🤣🤣🤣
      Films? Interesting group. Ha ha.
      Innocent error, I know. But funny. 😁

    • @SF-zf1ik
      @SF-zf1ik 9 месяцев назад

      I'm surprised as someone (you) who has a disability and probably has been rejected for superficial reasons that you would be comfortable with using someone else's daughter and letting her use you through hook up culture. yes sex feels good but you honestly as a person deserve so much more. to have someone love and know your body and have eternal love for you. meaningless sex goes out the window the minute you make love with you husband or wife. sex is so much deeper than pleasure

  • @brynbailey7132
    @brynbailey7132 Год назад +10

    Hannah with the splits is like Creed and his perfect cartwheel 😂😂😂

  • @darlouthia5153
    @darlouthia5153 Год назад +43

    This applies to basically any healthy couple. I love how normal it is ❤

    • @7177faith
      @7177faith Год назад

      I was going to say this as well sounds like every other married couple. Except they are a lot nicer to each other lol

    • @rebeccaxodonq7893
      @rebeccaxodonq7893 7 месяцев назад

      😂

  • @gotica
    @gotica Год назад +3

    I'm addicted to love & pies.. Been playing for months.. I feel special now as I get the clash thing every time

  • @lilpopcandy
    @lilpopcandy Год назад +64

    I have muscular dystrophy and I find it interesting that the people I would never be intimate with question my sexuality the most. None of my actual partners asked me the crazy things that random strangers ask 😅😅

    • @cmaggie5748
      @cmaggie5748 Год назад +9

      It's none of their business!

    • @lilpopcandy
      @lilpopcandy Год назад

      @@cmaggie5748 true.

    • @diytwoincollege7079
      @diytwoincollege7079 Год назад +7

      The logistics are very interesting. That and finding out Shane’s body count.

    • @harrypottah8889
      @harrypottah8889 9 месяцев назад +1

      Imagine if we were never curious about each other. Would be a sad world indeed

    • @lilpopcandy
      @lilpopcandy 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@harrypottah8889 Imagine a world without ignorance 😌

  • @user-bd1du1ir3t
    @user-bd1du1ir3t 2 месяца назад +2

    Shane, how do you handle the emotional aspect of not being able to hold Hannah in your arms like a conventional relationship? Hannah do you miss not having the feeling of a strong mans arms around you? You obviously love each other very much and have to be creative. Do you ever feel that Hannahs needs aren't being met considering your limited mobility. Some people don't like to be touched a lot, and prefer a more emotional relationship? Hope your blessed with baby new soon!

  • @anandshakti1
    @anandshakti1 Год назад +9

    Thanks for being yourselves- it's so fun to watch and enjoy two folks who are just real and honest and heartfelt- wow-delightful.

  • @JoshuaFinancialPL
    @JoshuaFinancialPL 8 месяцев назад +1

    i am recovering from bowel surgery after cancer, and the experience has really opened my eyes to so many challenges that I only temporarily struggle to overcome, for some people challenges are permanent. Simply picking something up off the floor, for example.

  • @alexandrat.h.4290
    @alexandrat.h.4290 Год назад +11

    I think the best part of this is Hannah's stretching while Shane says "Maybe you don't need to do a split". Now I really want to watch your split journey ! 🤣

  • @TheJess4484
    @TheJess4484 Год назад +2

    Shane you're awesome!! Good luck with the splits Hannah!! Thanks for the ongoing content! Much appreciated!

  • @DevotedDisciple-x
    @DevotedDisciple-x Год назад +18

    This video answers zero questions that people respectfully, really have. Such as, a big part to intimacy is touch and looks, is it difficult to be turned on at times due to his appearance and fact that you have to completely do his moving for him? It isn't a mean question, just something I noticed a lot of people asking and rightfully so. Also, is viewers aren't as dumb as you may think. Hannah doing her "stretches" was obviously to keep desperate creeps interested and watching.

    • @Mario-ob8es
      @Mario-ob8es Год назад +7

      Lol this is like there 6th video milking the topic. It's just about views.
      They don't have sex. It's literally impossible as Shane's knees are stuck bent like that hugging his ribs.

    • @DevotedDisciple-x
      @DevotedDisciple-x Год назад +3

      @@Mario-ob8es Oh wow! I didn't know that and thank you for clarifying! My whole thing is for some reason a video of theirs was randomly recommended to me. I thought to myself, he's gotta be rich because it isn't at all common or probable the someone with his condition to be pulling, let alone marrying good looking young women. So I guess I started down the rabbit hole because I'm not hating if so, but I just wanted to hear her saying she married him money or at least so she wouldn't have to work.

    • @Mario-ob8es
      @Mario-ob8es Год назад +4

      @@DevotedDisciple-x Accurate. She lives in a 2 million dollar mansion thanks to this little show. It's no coincidence she's making a fortune from it.
      You'd think this would be obvious but a lot of people buy into this grift.

  • @RNKoriginalss
    @RNKoriginalss 7 месяцев назад +1

    Love yalls love and openness on this channel! I’m a disabled RN and have many major disabilities… but we manage too :). My honey is awesome either way his own challenges… thank yall

  • @Gofackyamotha
    @Gofackyamotha Год назад +13

    This is like your millionth video about your “intamacy” 😂

    • @Mario-ob8es
      @Mario-ob8es Год назад +13

      And still haven't explained a single thing lol almost as if it's BS for views

    • @forgottenpalace4472
      @forgottenpalace4472 5 месяцев назад

      It's just Hannah stretching.

  • @RollingDutchmann
    @RollingDutchmann Год назад +174

    Shane is a fucking sarcastic legend

    • @matthewcroskey3099
      @matthewcroskey3099 Год назад +6

      You are not following community guidelines!!!!

    • @RollingDutchmann
      @RollingDutchmann Год назад +13

      @@matthewcroskey3099 good

    • @connierohena5170
      @connierohena5170 Год назад +4

      🤣

    • @joshua1935
      @joshua1935 Год назад +2

      I agree. Also, I’m gay and think he’s very hawt

    • @Kinmoonify
      @Kinmoonify Год назад +1

      Im glad you think he has sex alot while being sarcastic, sounds great 🥰

  • @christinethemommy6094
    @christinethemommy6094 3 месяца назад +5

    The background to ur entire channel is “Look at me. Look at my body. Look how hot I am. Can you believe we’re married😮?” Mixed in with 9 billion advertisements.

  • @desiraelucas691
    @desiraelucas691 Год назад +8

    Lol I liked the less edited one from before. I liked the little candid “we have to cut that out”s. You guys are awesome.

  • @joespring7240
    @joespring7240 Год назад +7

    I don't get it. oy!

  • @lismi9178
    @lismi9178 Год назад +5

    There is such a lot to be learnt from you two 😊 adore your awareness work ❤

  • @billydipaola764
    @billydipaola764 7 месяцев назад +3

    She took that wheelchair social media money and ran as far as she possibly could with it😂

    • @EricaL2024
      @EricaL2024 6 месяцев назад +1

      Ran where? They’re still together.

  • @morganarbogast5710
    @morganarbogast5710 9 месяцев назад +2

    I feel like this video really just showed you guys completely to me in a new way, I just get you fully as a couple even more than before. Just seemed so chill and real, and the fact that Hannah is stretching the whole time casually is fucking HILARIOUS 😂 ❤ 🤟😁

  • @nBodyResearch
    @nBodyResearch Год назад +10

    this video answered none of my questions, lol

  • @cynthiaholland13
    @cynthiaholland13 5 месяцев назад +3

    How much movement does Shane have? Which limbs work are does he use during intimacy? How do you position yourself without hurting him

  • @green_eye_shy_guy
    @green_eye_shy_guy 10 месяцев назад +11

    Black Bigalow brought me here, this relationship is fake as hell🤣

    • @Miss.TJ516
      @Miss.TJ516 9 месяцев назад +7

      Literally 🤣🤣🤣

    • @forgottenpalace4472
      @forgottenpalace4472 5 месяцев назад +2

      And the comments are gross...apart from ours. Lol

  • @wildaswind04
    @wildaswind04 7 месяцев назад

    I think you guys have a beautiful relationship. You both show us what "True Love" actually is.

  • @tiffanynicole5920
    @tiffanynicole5920 Год назад +11

    Zero questions was answered in this Q&A video. In fact I have a lot more questions than answers now 😂

  • @tammy_99x93
    @tammy_99x93 7 месяцев назад

    I definitely understand where you were coming from about being nervous when you're with somebody new for the first time. Feeling insecure about your body and what not. At least that's how it was for me being a female. But the person that I am involved with is extremely patient and understanding and actually strives to help me overcome all my insecurities. Which he has already helped me with a bunch. I never liked people seeing my feet before because my toes are not completely straight. But I let him see them and he didn't even notice. Now I'm comfortable with that around him. We are both very sexual people and have a lot in common in that department. It also helps because of the fact that we've known each other since we were teenagers. I always had a thing for him, and years later after he was divorced, he reached out to me on Facebook and we instantly reconnected and things became romantic pretty fast. Which I was not expecting at all. You just never know and when there is chemistry there is chemistry. They're always has been between him and I. And I couldn't care less about anybody thinks about us

  • @compunurse
    @compunurse Год назад +5

    Differences in libido? Is the differences in libido specific to disability? Seems to me like that is a universal.

    • @JamaicanRain
      @JamaicanRain Год назад

      Some don’t get that it isn’t.

  • @guidofeliz8384
    @guidofeliz8384 Год назад +5

    Hannah, why does it seem that you are a bit rude to Shane in your video clips?

  • @JanBanJoovi-ol1qv
    @JanBanJoovi-ol1qv 7 месяцев назад +5

    There’s definitely something else. No disrespect meant. But to sell an idea that it’s all about love just doesn’t make sense. If it’s a business partnership masquerading as a marriage, nothing wrong with that. They’re both adults and competition in social media is cutthroat, so a unique idea must be used. If he’s loaded, she’s got what he wants and he’s got what she needs, so there’s nothing wrong with that either. Real talk.

    • @untetheredmoon6971
      @untetheredmoon6971 7 месяцев назад

      ^ salty 😂

    • @JanBanJoovi-ol1qv
      @JanBanJoovi-ol1qv 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@untetheredmoon6971 im married with a fairly good looking wife🤣 salty is the only punchline of the gullible.

    • @forgottenpalace4472
      @forgottenpalace4472 5 месяцев назад

      Yep. Fake.

    • @l-kin3480
      @l-kin3480 5 месяцев назад

      ​@@JanBanJoovi-ol1qv* fairly good-looking. Oh your lucky lucky wife

  • @lc4life369
    @lc4life369 Год назад +7

    Nothing wrong with having conversations with your mom about intimacy. As long as it isnt graffic with details and your not saying private things that your partner wouldnt want you to say i think its pretty normal to talk about with family. Especially for advice from siblings😂 im not comfortable with it myself because im very shy but ive overheard my own family talking about it ect. And its an important conversation for parents to have with children so.

  • @ReeMommaTee
    @ReeMommaTee Год назад +6

    Looking good, guys! I love your videos. You’re doing great work!!

  • @Jackson-pu7gd
    @Jackson-pu7gd Год назад +13

    please do a collab with black bigalow! he's super keen and i would love to see you guys have a chat!!

  • @oceancat0450
    @oceancat0450 Год назад +14

    So boring. So repetitive. Awkward stretching.

  • @peaceseeker475
    @peaceseeker475 Год назад +3

    Your spirits are conspicuously brilliant and friendly, attractive and fun. Sending love from Vermont. ❤❤❤ You are classic like Lucy and Desi!

  • @NTGreekGal
    @NTGreekGal 6 месяцев назад +7

    This is comi g from a place of curiosity. If Shane has normal functioning, why go through IVF?

    • @forgottenpalace4472
      @forgottenpalace4472 5 месяцев назад +3

      Exactly. It's all fake.

    • @oober5150
      @oober5150 9 дней назад

      His medication depletes his sperm

    • @erinmayhill8723
      @erinmayhill8723 7 дней назад

      They’ve explained elsewhere that his sperm count is very low.

  • @ElizabethGreen-Frigo
    @ElizabethGreen-Frigo Месяц назад +1

    I hope the other vids aren’t so boring I almost fell asleep😂. Guarantee you if we made one ppl would not.😅

  • @TheNinjaPicker
    @TheNinjaPicker Год назад +18

    A well scripted show

  • @DlCKWALLACE
    @DlCKWALLACE Год назад +14

    Y'all have had so many videos about intimacy yet don't explain anything...

    • @JeffMcDuffie72MeridianGate
      @JeffMcDuffie72MeridianGate 7 месяцев назад +1

      It's simple. He pounds like Ron Jeremy on steroids.

    • @Bryman5000
      @Bryman5000 6 месяцев назад +1

      Because it’s fake. She’s the thirst trap and he’s the gimmick.

  • @4WhatItsWorth
    @4WhatItsWorth Год назад +2

    "Unrelated to intimacy" 😂😂😂 Shane, you're sharp as ever 👌

  • @pmc5431
    @pmc5431 Год назад +8

    Thanks for being open enough to do this. And your commercial is hilarious.

  • @LunaVicious999
    @LunaVicious999 Год назад +1

    LMAO THE APP AD 😂😂😂 “happy birthday to meeee” 😂😭

  • @Brettsparadox
    @Brettsparadox Год назад +12

    Hannah is with Shane for more than his dazzling charm and beautiful soul. He's packing, you better believe it

  • @Blasfamous8
    @Blasfamous8 Год назад

    Love that you guys repeat content you’ve already done sometimes in order to educate newer viewers. IM an old school, OG subscriber- but it’s nice fir the kids lol

  • @msbkay
    @msbkay Год назад +3

    hannah!!! im working on my split too. when i hv had 1 too many drinks, my splits r great! 😂 bt when i lead my normal life n workout n stretch infrequently, im so tight i can barely do what u did in this video! im getting into a better practice of increasing my flexibility by using a SOBER split as a goal lol go girl!!
    and thx for sharing yall!!😊

  • @beckiehubley5798
    @beckiehubley5798 Год назад +2

    I had a friend in his 60's who could do the splits. He was a black belt in karate and often did his stuff, starting with stretching in parks. He would do the splits and lay on is stomach in that pisition. He once asked a couple young women to walk on his back. They did😮
    As long as you don't invite strangers to participate, i think you're good, Hannah!

  • @OverkastKellu
    @OverkastKellu Год назад +4

    OH BOY that ad was TOO MUCH XD

  • @joybrooks564
    @joybrooks564 Год назад +4

    Congratulations on your upcoming anniversary

  • @cq1903
    @cq1903 Год назад +11

    Why won't Shane date another disabled person? Or someone fat or really ugly or both?

    • @gokathygo
      @gokathygo Год назад +9

      Shane never dated anyone it’s all fake, fat ugly people wouldn’t even want shane

    • @stronggirl2251
      @stronggirl2251 Год назад +1

      Fat and ugly is equivalent to disabled?

    • @gokathygo
      @gokathygo Год назад +2

      @@stronggirl2251 well how come none of Shane’s women are fat and ugly?

    • @cq1903
      @cq1903 Год назад

      @@stronggirl2251 who said it was equivalent?
      I'm referring to someone the opposite of Hannah, is she fat and or ugly?
      She obviously good looking fit and has no visible disability

    • @stronggirl2251
      @stronggirl2251 Год назад

      @@cq1903 why does that bother you.. You're so vindictive to the point of seeing him with someone attractive upset you.. Ask yourself why do u feel that way.. Is it because u couldn't pull someone like her?

  • @kristinrodgers7210
    @kristinrodgers7210 Год назад +11

    Ok but like i still don't get how it works for you..

  • @jennysheets3763
    @jennysheets3763 Год назад +4

    Really impressed with the caliber of questions you selected! This is useful discussion.

  • @carolelcahill1502
    @carolelcahill1502 Год назад +12

    Your content just gets better and better! Thank you for sharing!!❤️❤️

  • @calliewilliams8124
    @calliewilliams8124 Год назад +9

    Thanks for re-inspiring me to work towards getting my splits, I’ve tried and failed so many times😅

  • @teresarouse2194
    @teresarouse2194 Год назад +21

    Alert alert alert !! Family members will be uncomfortable, dont watch. 😂😂😂😂👏👏👏
    Love these two. 💯❤️

  • @jamesfee6016
    @jamesfee6016 Год назад +6

    Hannah, I'd really like to know if there was an evolution to your seeing Shane as a sexual partner, or was that always there from the beginning? As many times in my life as I thought I'd met the "right" person (before my wife) looking back now, I don't think ANY OF THEM took me seriously as even having a sex. In fact I had one girl go so far as to tell me (after a year of knowing me) that she was only just BEGINNING to identify with me a person!!~~ Jim Fee

  • @jenniferwong4530
    @jenniferwong4530 11 месяцев назад +9

    There is not enough discussion about disability and sexuality. Thank you for making these videos. We don't need to know the details of how you have sex, just knowing you are both satisfied and happy together is enough. There is so much more to sex than missionary position. Sex is in the mind, the body is the tool. An open mind, a loving partner, a sense of humour and a little imagination is all you need. The parts work the same.

  • @kulaniwarner7262
    @kulaniwarner7262 Год назад +1

    Y'all are great! Thanks for sharing your lives with us.

  • @ericalavallee4625
    @ericalavallee4625 Год назад +15

    I'm praying you guys have a child❤

  • @galaxy8374
    @galaxy8374 Год назад +1

    Omg you have a reformer machine!! Having one in your own home is such a dream come true!!

    • @Ihsgshshsjsjzj
      @Ihsgshshsjsjzj 5 месяцев назад +1

      Ofcourse they earn a ton of money by fooling people with their fake relationship, look at that guy and intimacy 🤣🤣,

  • @lc4life369
    @lc4life369 Год назад +4

    If hannah ever does accomplish doing a split i hope she tells us. Its funny because ive made the goal of doing a split a few times in my life and gave up after maybe a week. So would love to see how she did it and how long it takes her.

  • @mashdeals6884
    @mashdeals6884 2 месяца назад

    I have a good question..Being that you take care of him and know everything about him ie. taking him to bathroom, cleaning him, washing him, having to do everything…housecleaning,cooking etc are you worried you will resent him and how does that effect sex. I know you love n adore him and of course it can’t be helped but I would think eventually you will maybe feel like you missed out in your young years. God has given him such a great gift in you. ** I’ve only been married 25yrs but I can tell you if my husband were in his position I would have a nurse help the majority of the time. I would never ever leave him but I would still want him to have individual privacy.

    • @FIRING_BLIND
      @FIRING_BLIND 27 дней назад

      That's fair! I think ultimately its probably dependent on the person. Your husband may want a nurse, but maybe he'd feel safer with you. All depends

  • @michelgreycoaching
    @michelgreycoaching Год назад +4

    As soon as Shane started in with the "alert, alert, alert" my brain flashbacked to past videos on this topic and I started losing my shit and giggling 🤣🤣🤣. Thanks so much for the blessing you two are.

  • @sionandjess
    @sionandjess Год назад +2

    Hannah I hope you get the splits sorted. Please do it slowly though !!Even through years of dancing I could never quite get there! You are not too far off. Shane your happy birthday fave made me laugh so much I woke my hubby up lol!!!!

    • @myreasonforlife.9511
      @myreasonforlife.9511 11 месяцев назад +1

      We wouldn't want a third Slit God didn't approve. 😂

  • @theresadaigle3929
    @theresadaigle3929 Год назад +3

    you guys are awesome Shane, you look like your strengnth has improved over the years. Have you noticed any changes? i noticed your head moving more and your foot move in this video. you both look great i apoligige if this is written poorly ilove you guys

  • @TheMattroloff
    @TheMattroloff Год назад +2

    You guys are amazing in every way

  • @bobs1356
    @bobs1356 Год назад +13

    I still can't believe it.

    • @Mario-ob8es
      @Mario-ob8es Год назад +10

      Yeah, it ain't happening. Literally impossible due to his knees being stuck bent.

    • @forgottenpalace4472
      @forgottenpalace4472 5 месяцев назад

      It's all fake.

    • @j-life8502
      @j-life8502 3 месяца назад

      Super gross! And incredibly disturbing. She has mental issues HANDS DOWN. he is like a child and the same size.

  • @jimlaw7942
    @jimlaw7942 Год назад +1

    Would u mind completely getting rid of junkyard mayhem & keep showing your daily lives??!!!! that's SOOOO MUCH MORE INTERESTING &
    L❤ved by me !!!

  • @linebrunelle1004
    @linebrunelle1004 Год назад +6

    The word intimacy is being used to indicate sex, physicality and such. However as you demonstrate often, intimacy is defined as the closeness, the connection a couple feels physical, spiritual, intellectual, psychological.

    • @linebrunelle1004
      @linebrunelle1004 Год назад +4

      the men who can't fathom such a closeness because they believe that sex/intimacy involves a lot of pumping action on their part, have a difficult time understanding that their relationships fail because of that narrow minded definition of their perceived ideal intimacy and yours thrive.

  • @nicole04050809
    @nicole04050809 5 месяцев назад

    Love & Pies-Lol I was laughing so hard i had tears streaming down my face. I loved it!