Moving on: How to heal and thrive after a breakup

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  • Опубликовано: 15 ноя 2024

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  • @danielromeo99
    @danielromeo99 Год назад +61

    Crazy how I discovers your channel yesterday, and you release this video while I’m going through my worst breakup. Insane. thank you.

    • @Ted1775
      @Ted1775 Год назад +4

      Same here on Thursday. Best wishes.

    • @larryotter6790
      @larryotter6790 Год назад +3

      Stay Strong Gentlemen 💪💯💥

    • @thebritish910
      @thebritish910 Год назад +2

      Hang in there bud, you are not alone. It gets easier in time. It’s their loss. Focus on what you can control and what things you joy. Live strong 💪!

    • @Niagara716
      @Niagara716 Год назад +4

      Ten years with her. Now 8 months after her leaving, I feel the same as the first day without her. This will take a while more. We were peanut butter and jelly in all we shared. Travel, camping, shooting sports, riding our motorcycles. Sucks to not have her next to me carving the curves on the mountain roads.

    • @ShiftingCloudsYT
      @ShiftingCloudsYT 11 месяцев назад +2

      ⁠@@Niagara716sounds like a number one hit song. Get that pain out! That last part about mountain curves can be a line in a song.

  • @jpoeste
    @jpoeste Год назад +94

    A man has to show to his ex wife that she lost him and not the contrary, if you become overweight, a drunk, a playboy and show resentment and anger at her, then she was right to leave you. The best thing to do is channel that negative energy into writing a jornal, poemes, make a song, workout until you get tired, work extra hours, go camping, your house is your reign, your man cave, give thanks for everything, learn something new and share your experiences, release that black cloud above you.
    Take time for yourself, the secret is this: stay at least 3 years with no relationships, go monk mode, grief time and in that time your ex already ran 3 or 4 dudes, stay moraly above her, this is a psicological warfare, you lost one battle but win the war of sanity, clearity and reason...

  • @davidkool5131
    @davidkool5131 Год назад +34

    This is all truth 💯👍🏼👊 My current true life situation... Imagine living in marriage together as lovebirds with thoughts to death to apart.. and in one beautiful day your life gets horribly upside down instantly!...You hearing your wife's voice loudly- " I don't love you anymore and don't respect you!!! I'm moving out and taking with me our son!"😵🤦🏻 After all this 16 years together..building family.. investing financially...time and all the efforts, having beautiful dreams together suddenly everything goes horrifically into the shutters...it's terrible horror, shock you get to experience like never before in your lifetime.... absolutely devastating feelings of desperation and suicidal thoughts!!! Women are unpredictable they are unstable in their emotions and always live their life in with the state of mind illusions of better life than they have in present...I'm not even mentioning about my mental health nor psychological trauma I received all these combined will affect deeply your confidence.... confidence is literally zero...no desire to live...🤦🏻 Women are initiators of all divorces and breakups they never feeling guilt of their consequences always living with false illusions that somewhere grass is greener...they just heartless bitches!!!

    • @MVProfits
      @MVProfits 29 дней назад +1

      Your comment is so spot on. I hope one year later it's better for you! I don't feel unworthy of a woman living me or anything, I just lost my trust in women. Sure I could be in a great relationship again...yet it can be taken away anytime. Like your story, mine, and thousands and thousands of other men. Would wants to build on such a shaky foundation?

  • @galadrielwoods2332
    @galadrielwoods2332 Год назад +28

    In my opinion the best way to "get back at them", if one has the self discipline, is to say nothing at all and ghost the person from the very moment the relationship is severed. That person will be in utter shock and confusion and loses all power. In most cases they will freak out sooner or later and beg for you to be with them again. Don't do it. Just savor the fact that you did not give them any power by complaining or going off on them. No matter how much of a storm is inside of you don't let them know it. Appear to not give AF about them by not saying a word and not responding to calls or messages. I realize this requires immense self discipline. You'll not ever regret it but you will likely regret giving your power away by complaining, insulting, or begging them.

    • @jamesmorgan7352
      @jamesmorgan7352 Год назад +3

      THIS IS THE BEST ADVISE I HAVE EVER GOTTEN FROM INTERNET.
      THANK YOU SWEETIE

    • @galadrielwoods2332
      @galadrielwoods2332 Год назад +1

      @@jamesmorgan7352 You are most welcome.

  • @JacobWohlClips
    @JacobWohlClips Год назад +11

    With anything in life, you’ve got to find some way to look at the bright side. So many people have mastered hobbies, crafted incredible physiques and built massive businesses after a breakup.

  • @bennycb6256
    @bennycb6256 Год назад +12

    Your videos about heartbreak came at the right time. The stories of others inspire me to keep pushing, even when I feel really down. Thank you

  • @kuyajuswa
    @kuyajuswa Год назад +11

    true.. lifting weights while going through breakup really helps.... I remember drinking everyday just to ease the pain, but it just made it worse... last month since I started working out calisthenics, I became better mentally... yes I became more accepting of about my heartbreak... and I became a better decision maker instead of reacting by impulse and emotional... working out really have a big impact of my moving on journey... then added by adding eating healthy and avoiding cigarettes and liquors....

  • @Ungranitodefe
    @Ungranitodefe Год назад +8

    So much wisdom in one video!! Thank you

  • @randomgeezer3456
    @randomgeezer3456 Год назад +7

    Great, concise collection of truth bombs again, sir. This came along just when I needed it - continuing to idealize my ex-wife, going back & forth as to whether to jump back into the dating deathmatch, etc. That said, I will respectfully register my disagreement with the advice to "send that blast message" to her. As some others have said, it might be used against the sender in a contentious divorce. In my own situation - while I'll freely admit that my ex is currently living rent-free in my head, I am damned if I'll give her the satisfaction of knowing that's the case.

  • @jsmorache
    @jsmorache Год назад +8

    Hey Big guy, sound is perfect now, loud and clear. Great videos keep up the great work.

  • @MrChip1217
    @MrChip1217 Год назад +3

    When you are angry, hit the heavy bag

  • @flipster7746
    @flipster7746 Год назад +2

    Thank you so much. You are Like an older Brother. Greetings from over Germany ❤

  • @VermontV8
    @VermontV8 Год назад

    A father's wisdom and knowledge many of us didn't have. Thank you for helping and saving men

  • @sd5458
    @sd5458 Год назад +1

    Wow sir. You hit the nail on the head with all of the things you've said. I'm two weeks on after "I love you but I'm not in love with you" after three years. I knew things weren't great but I thought we had enough of a connection to take the good with the bad as a unit. I feel like she gave up on us, but also that it's probably for the better. I had needs in the relationship I wasn't having fulfilled as well and it took a while to come to grips with that.
    Thanks again for your words George you know exactly what you're talking about and I'm making my list right now so that I can begin moving on.

  • @xxm.6980
    @xxm.6980 Год назад +2

    Sir I hope you see this comment! Found your channel few days ago and just broke up few hours ago, and damn! When you said “if you are on the receiving end you probably feel fairly unattractive and useless”. I just laughed😂. Sir you know too much and too well! Thank you for sharing your wisdom in such short video you have just helped me tremendously!

  • @50maxmen
    @50maxmen Год назад +2

    Wow, these are really great knowledge drops. I went trough a bad breakup about a year ago and so did a deep dive into psychology. I find these videos helpful tying up loose ends and ridding any residual
    Thank you sir

  • @indyd9322
    @indyd9322 4 месяца назад

    Lots of good points!
    I'm on the receiving of a divorce now. What's helping the most is focusing on my faith & values, exercise, and journaling.
    Writing about previous relationships at intervals of time helps me see more clearly what was good, what was bad, my part in the demise of the relationship, their part in the demise of the relationship, lessons learned, and what I would do differently in the future.
    There are definitely painful periods during a divorce, but I'm trying to see it as a learning experience.

  • @frankthebomb89
    @frankthebomb89 Год назад +2

    Thanks!

  • @rickyc711
    @rickyc711 Год назад +1

    Excellent video just what I needed. Thank you

  • @charlessiuda9080
    @charlessiuda9080 Год назад

    Going through it. Keeping myself in check through exercise etc. Great advice George.

  • @Whoa_wyd
    @Whoa_wyd 24 дня назад

    Great video. Thank you

  • @Nick_UnpluggedChristian
    @Nick_UnpluggedChristian Год назад +1

    Glad I hear this now. Needed it more months ago. But better late than never. Your content is very helpful going through my own relational/divorce issues.

  • @MartinVoois-b6i
    @MartinVoois-b6i 14 дней назад

    Thank you! 🤠👍

  • @obgo100
    @obgo100 4 месяца назад

    I never had a father figure in my life, so have had to learn a lot of things about being a man on my own. If you read these, I just want to say thanks. I went through a breakup earlier this year and handled it poorly. Your channel is advice I never knew I needed.

  • @Pala-t2p
    @Pala-t2p 9 месяцев назад

    7:47 - Thank you, George!
    Your comments at this point inspired me to make a pro and con list and all I can say is "WOW" 😲
    We were together 5.5 years and it's been almost 3 years since we split. I'd say I'm pretty much over the breakup and I've checked out of the dating market for a few months now with that being what it is. I still have days where I think about her and the relationship overall did make me a better person. I did a pro and con list and for every pro, there were 2-3 cons and I'm actually amazed and what's really important to me in a relationship and where she came up short.
    I'm no saint myself and I definitely made my share of mistakes (first serious relationship) but I'm truly blown away at the amount of cons vs. the pros. Some of the cons do include her behaviour after the split but I think it was important to add those as this still shows the true character of someone - I was apologetic and sincere in wanting to make things better and she discarded me like trash.
    This video is truly one for the ages and thank you for making this - I'm stunned! lol
    Thank you, Sir!!

  • @anatriellociucci1224
    @anatriellociucci1224 4 месяца назад +1

    If your life is a balanced mix of relationships/ hobbies/sports/travel, you can heal fast and tap into that inner power of yours. Learn to travel solo, play drums, dive etc. The moment she or you dump her, all you lose is a habit, the idea of "what could have been". Never over invest in ❤. I put that much effort and expect the same from her. Otherwise, there is a huge red flag.

  • @LONEWOLF..314-S-T-L
    @LONEWOLF..314-S-T-L Год назад

    GREAT TALKING POINTS SIR 💯👍🏾

  • @c.g.b.spender4355
    @c.g.b.spender4355 Год назад

    It is truly great advice! Thanks, sir!

  • @Sammy-rn9fk
    @Sammy-rn9fk 2 месяца назад

    The best revenge is living well

  • @Mfranzful
    @Mfranzful Год назад

    Im glad i found your channel

  • @tennbones
    @tennbones Год назад +1

    Awesome advice. Smoking my pipe and listening to you is purely therapeutic.

  • @Mfranzful
    @Mfranzful Год назад

    thanks for the amazing insight. Very helpful man

  • @MrIowahawks77
    @MrIowahawks77 7 месяцев назад +1

    I feel exactly like this like that im worthless now

  • @_keagzokay_2834
    @_keagzokay_2834 Год назад +1

    I've never been in a situation like this before. I've been dating a gal for 5 months everything was great. Within the months things was up and down. We fought we fixed things. Things weren't so much the same I felt that but I didn't know how to solve it. When she broke up with me the first time. I was hurt man like I couldn't let her go. I was so in love with her I didn't think she'd give up on me so soon considering after everything we been through. I tried convincing her to take me back since I can say I hurt her to but she did as well. She's the type to revenge. So during the process of trying to get her back it was hard really. I feel like I lost my masculinity cos everything I did from there on outwards was to show her that I'm worthy. I didn't realize that she was using me until she found wat she was looking for me. This meaning after the break up. She told me she loves me still but needs time to process wat happened between us. Within that being said 3 days after that I've not spoken to her. She told me and admitted to me that she flirted with another guy but it's was nothing serious. I was so blinded in love thinking she'd never cheat . But maybe she was thinking about cheating. She told me she'd blocked him to cover her lies up.i believed her.
    Man I swear ever since I've been trying to get her back I didn't want to listen to anybody coz I loved her so much. I also taught she was different, like u saying maybe she had good qualities that I've never experienced in a woman. She pushed me towards my goals, told me to put myself first and not her. All that was in the beginning of the relationship. But obviously as time went things changed. That's the only reason it Is hard for me to let go of her.
    Sometime this week I met a girl and I clicked with this other girl in one day. I realized I had so much to give why am I chasing my ex.
    I saw my ex gf with a guy first time this Wednesday late apparently. I was hurt I asked myself did she really move on that quickly. When u got home she told me it's a close friend obviously that's a lie. But I didn't beg her anymore my heart was at ease. This goes back to saying she used me as long as she could find what she's looking for. I'm hurt man I don't know how to move from here.
    One last thing. The days of me wanting to get her back was OK but kind of weird. She all of the sudden didn't want to have sex with me anymore telling me she's into sex anymore. But know I finally connected the dots. She's been stalling this guy all along and me being blinded by love not seeing she's using me really hurts. I did so much for her to get this treatment.

  • @xkingzx1
    @xkingzx1 Год назад +1

    Well done, very good advice people need to hear today..

  • @CraigKerwood-001
    @CraigKerwood-001 5 месяцев назад

    George, after 3 failed marriages you give me hope for something meaningful again. I have accepted responsibility for my part in the failures and am planning a new life in the Philippines. It's easy to say, "I'm never getting into a relationship again," but I believe I have a lot to offer another woman someday. Thanks for the encouragement.

  • @_keagzokay_2834
    @_keagzokay_2834 Год назад +1

    As you said in previous video is to see a pattern trend in how your relationship ended. Well wen I met her she was dating and what I can remember her boyfriend was cheating on her they had alots of fights and I was there being stalled. Right after she left her guy for me. Funny that's the exact same thing that happened to me not the me cheating part. But that's how my relationship ended to. She had someone on the line up. We just broke up officially a day ago and today I saw her status she's happy getting into the new relationship. I won't lie I'm hurt

  • @w.adammandelbaum1805
    @w.adammandelbaum1805 Год назад +10

    The problem with sending the flaming missive is even without any overt threat, if she makes a false accusation against you, that letter can be used against you as collateral support for her allegation. Further, show her your anger, show her the power she has over you. Sorry to disagree George.

    • @jpoeste
      @jpoeste Год назад +3

      The moment after she says that she wants to divorce, everything has to pass thru a lawyer's eyes including flaming letters...
      Communication is like this: Man - Man's lawyer - Ex wife's lawyer - Ex wife, back and forth...

  • @arielcandoleta5347
    @arielcandoleta5347 Год назад +2

    Thanks, George.

  • @mariuszp4530
    @mariuszp4530 Год назад +4

    You will be fine...You will be OK.
    all of un needs that 😐

  • @johncarmelo555
    @johncarmelo555 8 месяцев назад +1

    She is not your just your turn
    Andrew Dice Clay “owe!”

  • @blueocean4447
    @blueocean4447 Год назад +5

    I tried the gym but i felt dizzy because of heartbreak. It was a lot of emotional damage

  • @benrogers8315
    @benrogers8315 Год назад +7

    My marriage of 20 years came apart when we disagreed about the pandemic.

    • @t-pain3343
      @t-pain3343 11 месяцев назад +1

      That was just her excuse

    • @seanl904
      @seanl904 3 месяца назад

      Exactly

  • @WilliamMartinez-vq2bn
    @WilliamMartinez-vq2bn 5 месяцев назад

    Correction to go unnoticed

  • @WilliamMartinez-vq2bn
    @WilliamMartinez-vq2bn 5 месяцев назад

    All my life i have been a stern SOB in the eyes of all females in my life. My way or the highway,,,yet the very few that stayed with me live like royaltie ....my wife of 15yrs. Passsed due to cancer to he last breath was i want to be home with my papi. I did 80percent cooking, 80perct house cleaning 80percent food shopping because she deserved it.. if a woman is a really good woman men will not let her sit idol it is very rare for a very good woman not to to go unnoticed!!!!!!

  • @debabratabhattacharyya2266
    @debabratabhattacharyya2266 16 дней назад

    I could relate to it so much , thank you for the video. Is there a way to talk to you personally ? thanks

  • @joegonzales4749
    @joegonzales4749 4 месяца назад

    That phrase is true. She is never yours.

  • @uRefired69T
    @uRefired69T Год назад

    Sir can you make video on Anger....because since i was 8 years old i remembered i usually quit,shift and extremely angry until now in 28 years...i wanted to kill this anger but sometimes i loose my confidence

  • @interesting2491
    @interesting2491 Год назад +1

    Netflix the pain away

  • @andrewdoyle3238
    @andrewdoyle3238 5 месяцев назад

    I just got divorced a month ago and the pain is super overwhelming. 30 years done just like that. I am really really struggling.

  • @ByWelly
    @ByWelly 9 месяцев назад

    It's hard when there's children involved

  • @Gspook19
    @Gspook19 5 месяцев назад

    Its not so much we broke up, its more the fact that i will never have the connection we had again, never ever feit that before, i failed us both, i was the bad one

  • @williammagister369
    @williammagister369 Год назад +3

    Great advice, George!

  • @kyproset
    @kyproset Год назад

    I'd love to sign up for the unstuck newsletter, but the link says server not found.

  • @LONEWOLF..314-S-T-L
    @LONEWOLF..314-S-T-L Год назад

    SALUTE 👍🏾💯

  • @quantumpotential7639
    @quantumpotential7639 Год назад

    As always, the squat rack IS the solution. Never skip leg day fellers. And those boney under developed spindly calves, you can blast them hard at least twice a week. Don't forget your hack squats too. Thanks

    • @t-pain3343
      @t-pain3343 11 месяцев назад

      I like the farmers walk the most

  • @maciejfranckiewicz
    @maciejfranckiewicz Год назад

    🙏🏻

  • @MVProfits
    @MVProfits 29 дней назад

    I don't feel unworthy of a woman loving me or anything. I just lost my trust in women, in love, basically. Sure I could be in a great relationship again...yet fully knowing it can be taken away anytime. Like we read stories of that happening to thousands and thousands of other men. Women are fickle and always think they can get better. While we are baffled by how easily they discard what we build together, the extended families, etc. Things that even if they find a so called ideal man, it'd taken at least 2 years to rebuild. So fickle. Would wants to build on such a shaky foundation?

  • @johnm.7621
    @johnm.7621 Год назад

    Okay, once i drove head first against a wall when i sat on a bicycle with my hands up preventing from worse injury, another time i got with the wheel in the rails of the tram and somersaulted across the street and oh that reminds me of when i was younger when i crashed with the bicycle in a curve against a kind of garbage can BAM my finger was broken. When i learned a very wise thing in my life and only one thing... the thing is clearly never ever mount a bicycle in the rest of your life. Sometimes its a lot more wise to surrender to lessons life teaches you. lol

  • @probrickieexclusive
    @probrickieexclusive Год назад

    I kicked her to the curb after 9months of begging her to tell her adult sons to leave me alone.
    She failed. I sacked her, and gave a complete explanation in an email. She was the victim of her own demise. Resolve was something she had no clue of...I was immediately free.

  • @subhojeetchowdhury652
    @subhojeetchowdhury652 Год назад +3

    I have a question though but i only need the answer from you, now the question is i hurted her so she just don't want to be with me now she didn't say never want to be with me and its been more than a month that she didn't came to talk or when i tried she didn't wanted to listen anything from me she told me she loves me but wont come to me ever again now what should i do ? Should i keep quiet and just move on with life or should i become better and just wait for her without any expectations please help me out with this , means a lot 🙏🏻 through the video ❤

    • @ListenMySon
      @ListenMySon  Год назад +8

      No contact. Leave her in the past where she belongs.

    • @subhojeetchowdhury652
      @subhojeetchowdhury652 Год назад

      @@ListenMySon thanks a lot 🙏🏻 really appreciate how you are helping people through tough times, your advices based on your experiences really works so thanks again 🙏🏻❤️

  • @8dhe7dhehdueb
    @8dhe7dhehdueb 3 дня назад

    Nah, I disagree with the empty chair thing. I let them have it on a past relationship and it made things 5 times worse for us. No. On a recent relationship, I expressed my things on the phones notepad. Again and again, as if I was sending it to her viber. Took a few days of multiple texts. To her I said I forgive you, bye. That was it. Now looking back, I did the right thing. Did not insult her, did not let her have it, didn't look like a cuck, kept my conscience clear and didn't give her any satisfaction. The stoicism you speak of. Feels great NOW. Felt like cheating on myself 2 weeks ago. So to those who want to get even steven with their ex through letters and texts, don't. Silence and distance are powerful, for us. I'm not saying she cries about me lol. But I know I ain't crying about her, and I say this with honesty and not to just vent.
    My 2 cents.

  • @deciduousdiscipline9592
    @deciduousdiscipline9592 Год назад

    Useful. Thanks

  • @Big_OD23
    @Big_OD23 Год назад +1

    7:40 bro i know, 😢

  • @baryl3969
    @baryl3969 3 месяца назад

    This makes sense if she did wrong and left. In my case, he did wrong and I left him. He was hurt and couldn’t get pass me, came back into my life, didn’t change, so I left him for good because he couldn’t get his shiii together. In this case, I don’t think he has any rights to be hurt or angry at me other than himself. He ruined his relationship with me. He ruined my life. No one to blame for the loss but himself. So he can sit and wallow in shame and regret for the rest of his life.

  • @VD962
    @VD962 Год назад +3

    4:05 exactly she is never yours,because women love opportunistically .

  • @unfilteredparida
    @unfilteredparida Год назад +2

    please check your twitter dm