I literally thought I was so crazy and didn't tell anyone forever until I randomly told my neighbours when we were drunk and they acted accepting but now my whole neighbourhood ignores
Those 3 points are true. 1. Everybody has intrusive thoughts 2. Thoughts are not reality - so don't ever feel guilty or ashamed 3. Don't suppress it, just let it go
I get the thoughts alot and I had them for like 10 months and I cant get rid of them I still get scared I just overthink it but I get scared because I dont want to think about it for like yrs my whole life
Bruh colli Sid Dali wait so how does one tell the difference between an intrusive random thought from what they truly identify with? Have heard from places that apparently people tend to find themselves acquainted or aligned or feeling like their intrusive thoughts?
I don't fear most of my intrusive thoughts cause they revolve around murder...that makes me sound like a very horrible person probably. To be fair though I only want it to happen to a couple people who are absolutely toxic. I'd never want to harm someone that didn't do anything wrong, or something minor. Like I wouldn't want to kill a person that called me a bad name once, or someone that may have shoved me once back in 5th grade or something. But when it's someone who's been a complete bully for over 17 years then that makes me want to do bad things to them.
ME. In the video she gives examples that are just "bad" thoughts but the ones I have are MESSED UP. And I HATE it. Like if I saw someone on a bike crossing the road instead of saying "it'd be terrible if he got ran over" which was HER example, my thought would be "it'd be funny if he got hit..." I DON'T MEANNN ITTT AHHH I THINK THERE'S SOMETHING REALLY WRONG WITH ME.
@@RM-xw2xg SAME. when she gave that example i was like ok i’d much rather have thoughts like that than the ones i have because they are just so so disgusting and make me feel like a monster. it’s been a month so i hope you’re doing better now
The more you surpress the thoughts the worse they become. I know it's scary and I know it makes you feel like a horrible or disgusting person but don't feel like that, I'm not lying when I say probably anybody you ask will say they get those thoughts. Don't fight the thoughts, don't give them a reaction, don't get upset about them that's what makes them stay. You're okay, I promise you. The fact that you find the thoughts disgusting and disturbing prove that you're a good person and know they're wrong. I believe in all of you!!!
Same story to all of us...we just get by, surroynd yourself with people, talk to people more, go out a bit, eventually you will live your life, and know we all going through same
I have some of the most bizarre and disturbing thoughts of them all. I really wish they would just stop allready. It really starts to get exhausting and annoying.
Has anyone ever been afraid they would wake up one day and be a serial killer? Like you know you wouldnt do it and you know it is evil, but you fear becoming crazy and wanting to kill everyone.
So you thought you would actually do it? Were you afraid of it? Or did you want to do it? Was it because you were seeing too many objects in your eyes and having to even it out a lot? Or just the thought of things somehow poking into your eyes? I used to think about knives stabbing into my feet if I sat on my knees and the balls of my feet because the tendon is stretched it and it would hurt if it happened. I always thought about it as a kid and it was annoying.
Adartia Were you afraid you would do it like "Noo no no NOOOO stop aaaagh I can...I cant stop nooo AAAA" and then you stab your own eyes out? Was it kind of like that? But you didnt do it and you really wouldnt do it. Its just the OCD, the idea of your eyes being poked out is distressing.
Bill Bo yeah but what about unwanted feelings toward something you know that’s not how you would ever feel? Because I feel so guilty and ashamed and I feel like I should just kill myself because of how much of a horrible person I feel like because of my uncomfortable uncontrollable thoughts and feelings.and I try to fight these feelings as well and I try it’s so hard tho.
Kanga 77 same they just come out of no where and it’s rrly bad what it is I’m very sad and it makes me things in my head pop up or random words that I just don’t want and it acts like I’m this person when I’m not and it seems so real
Always remember except the thought and move on and if they come back look at your left shoulder let’s say your left shoulder name is bob and let’s say your right shoulder is your parents if bob is ever trying to mess with you just tell bob quote Quote intrusive thoughts just tell bob to shut up and just know it’s not you it’s just thoughts
It’s worth living because Jesus lives guys! I know it’s hard, I’ve been battling it for about 4 years. But I KNOW that life is worth living because Jesus lives, there is hope! I’m not perfect by ANY means.. I struggle with thoughts almost constantly it seems like but I just want to put you guys to Jesus because there I hope and eternal life and forgiveness of sin only found in Him! 2 Timothy 1:7 “For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline.” “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.” Philippians 4:6-8 NASB A couple of verses that I find comfort in even in my weakest moments. There is a greater reality. Gods peace that is only in Jesus. I leave you with this. Matthew 11:28-30 ““Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.””
You're not alone and I have awful thoughts too. I know I'll never just go crazy and hurt anyone but I worry I'll randomly just go blank and turn into some awful person. I hate these thoughts more than anything.
Same!! I’ve always had intrusive thoughts but I think since a few days ago It keeps on coming and it’s not even me thinking it and I can’t control it. I’m literally going crazy
You might try meditation. There are lots of styles of it, and it really does help learning to "rest control" over your mind in a more deliberate way. ;o)
Can any of you please pray for me. There’s no excuse for my actions. These thoughts of doing bad things intrusive thoughts scare me. I don’t know if it’s my intrusive thoughts or is it me anymore
55522 I’ll pray for you my friend. Remember your thoughts are not reality and they say nothing about you as a person. Let the thoughts go and don’t give them any power. I struggle with intrusive thoughts as well, we’re all in this together. You can do it❤️❤️
Sry to hear. Just know that you're a good person and would never act on those bad thoughts. Focus on your breathing when they pop in your head and keep your mind busy. I've been listening to Michael Sealey meditation videos when I lay down at night. They're comforting. I suggest subscribing. You'll get through this! You're a good person. Don't doubt it!
Juavi8 this might be weird but the way I deal with it is I gave it an identity, let me explain. When *it* happens, I just think the words “dude, fuck off” or something along those lines as if I’m talking to someone. You know what, that is weird but it just adds something funny to it.
I finally just decided that the thoughts weren't really something I wanted to think about and that they weren't my fault. I quit trying to fight the thoughts. I just let them come. Eventually they stopped being a problem. It took many years of struggling with it before I figured it out. Just because you have a terrible thought does not mean you are a terrible person. If you were a horrible person, you wouldn't be so upset by the intrusive thought.
For all of you going through this remember that God loves you and that you will be free of this pray about it and remember that nothing is wrong with you
@@islafox7672 it may be very hard but remember one temporal action will deprive you of human experience. For every seven bad memories or outcomes there is one good one. People leave this earth because of fear, fear that things won't get better. They lose hope. Don't lose hope, life isn't ruined. The average human life span says you have so many years ahead of you before the finish line. You've lived through 1/3rd of that already. Things do get better gradually overtime 🙏
Since 2 weeks out of nowhere i started having very disturbing sexual intrusive thoughts with family members. Seriously, out of nowhere. And since then it's been hell. I can't get these thoughts out of my head. They ruin my day, my sleep. I can't function anymore. I would just close myself in a room or get out. Can't stay in one room with my family. I am so desperate. I hate myself.
Don't hate yourself! I've done the exact same thing and I'm sure other people all over the world have too. Just remember that thoughts are thoughts and they don't mean anything. The fact that you feel guilty means you know right from wrong and that you're a good person. Don't be ashamed. You mad me feel like I wasn't alone :)
That is exactly how I feel. Sometimes I doubt about the person I am. My days are ruined by these kind of thoughts. I feel so bad. Sometimes just want to close my eyes and disappear......
I go to therapy now. My therapist is helping me out a lot. To be honest the thoughts still terrify the crap out of me but i reduced them a bit and I feel like a human...
MunchkinKitties2469 This is a very common OCD theme...if you can, do a little reading on a site like IOCDF to find out more. Your intense reaction of horror, guilt, shame, etc is actually what fuels the thoughts even more. Everyone had thoughts like these and most can shrug it off bc they mean nothing. You analyzing and reacting to them makes them more "important" in your brain, which then produces them more. The BEST way to get rid of the thoughts is to let them exist in your head! Allow them to be there but give them no attention or value. After a bit, your brain will realize there is nothing to be alarmed about and it will stop the anxiety reaction. It is so counterintuitive but IT WORKS!
My intrusive thoughts are things like “what if so and so dies” or “what if this person I love gets seriously injured” and then I get paranoid that I might manifest it
same bro same. i think we should opena group chat or something to talk about it lmao. these thoughts arent real too but its really disturbing and freeels really really bad but i hope we get over it.
Bro, I had been having these intrusive thoughts for the past THREE WEEKS! they were horrible, I lost sleep, I never felt hungry because I was always so anxious, I felt guilty, I was scared of myself, I wasn’t happy and I noticed I avoided everything that reminded me of the thoughts. I’m so thankful for your video thought because it has helped me so much and I’ve never felt happier. ❤️ I thought I was going mad, you really saved my life. Thank u
Best advice I can give you if you have intrusive thoughts is meditating daily and constantly practice Awareness throughout the day. Practicing Awareness meand simply observing your sensory perceptions and your mind and feelings in a detached manner. Realize you are the observer and not the observed phenomena. You are completely free of all of your thoughts if you do not identify with them and simply observe them. Wishing you all the best 😊❤
At this point I don’t even have to have an actual image or “intrusive thought” just the thought of the thoughts makes me get anxious. Does that make sense? Like knowing the things I’ve thought makes me feel horrible...
I think this pandemic has to do with it too, stay at home orders and isolation, has emotionally and psychologically drained us all. I get anxious thinking about having the thoughts.
Does anyone else have intrusive thoughts about having intrusive thoughts. And then you think about telling someone what your intrusive thoughts are without wanting to and it spirals out of control. It makes me feel a bit dizzy
Killian Ward Sid Dali wait so how does one tell the difference between an intrusive random thought from what they truly identify with? Have heard from places that apparently people ik really well who come from decent and caring environments tend to find themselves acquainted or aligned or feeling like their intrusive thoughts? Or happen to agree with some pure evil, weird, messed up, and random thoughts, emotions, and urges that have popped up over the years and they feel so much less psychologically mature and they don’t see everyone else around them and they are scared to watch revenge movies from then on bc they are scared that antagonist may not deserve it or are bothered by worse villains being out there who don’t deserve vengeance, I can’t understand their issue and trying to support them
Killian Ward I think I’ve had similar experiences. Sometimes I’ll run into a sort of mental lull and I’ll be fine, but then I’ll suddenly have a thought that’s more or less “huh, it’s been a while since I thought about the intrusive thought”, followed by more obvious intrusive thoughts
Yes! Since most of my intrusive thoughts revolve around social interaction and relationships, I sometimes worry or have intrusive thoughts about one day in the future somehow losing control, perhaps with anger or confusion, and carrying one of the intrusive thoughts out by mistake because they’re always floating around in my mind.
This made me feel so much better I thought I was a psycho and I needed serious mental help and that one day the thoughts would come true. And I would say to my self that I'm a bad person I'm a crazy person for thinking these things. And I would finally be having a decent day and then boom! That thought would come into my head and i would keep thinking the same thing over and over again thank you for this video! :) 💞
Also what do I do? I'm only 12.... :/ and I don't know what to say to my mom I also have depersonlization and derealization and anxiety and depression I have so many disorders it's crazy what do I say to my mom or do I even say anything?
Just confide in your mother that you would like to be evaluated for disorders because you believe you may have one and it is affecting your life in negative ways. Don't tell her that you have all of those or she may think you are overreacting (like many without disorders do). Just let her know you are concerned about your mental health:) I hope you get help! I finally did this year and I feel much better
Choo Snau I'm actually starting therapy soon! And I have been talking to my mother about getting me into CBC therapy! She still doesn't know I have these thoughts she just thinks I want to do it because my OCD (which is why I'm having these intrusive thoughts)
This comment section is really comforting, it makes me realize I’m not the only one drowning in my thoughts; not being able to enjoy any part of my day without some random intrusive thought
The thoughts always equal fear. The "what if" I am an evil person? Or "what if" this person or even my pets don't love me?" Etc. etc... Don't give the thoughts power. Just let them pass. Kill that fear. I know from severe OCD. I've had it since I was a little kid, and I'm 38 today.
Jason W Baccaro wait so how does one tell the difference between an intrusive random thought from what they truly identify with? Have heard from places that apparently people ik really well who come from decent and caring environments tend to find themselves acquainted or aligned or feeling like their intrusive thoughts? Or happen to agree with some pure evil, weird, messed up, and random thoughts, emotions, and urges that have popped up over the years and they feel so much less psychologically mature and they don’t see everyone else around them and they are scared to watch revenge movies from then on bc they are scared that antagonist may not deserve it or are bothered by worse villains being out there who don’t deserve vengeance, I can’t understand their issue and trying to support them
@@marioavila9021 I do. Just a little. Plus I take walks, go out in the sun, try to eat healthy, and just...go with it. My OCD is nearly extinct now-a-days...
I have intrusive thoughts, intensely suffered for 6 years, almost suicidal, but recovered now. For the last 10 years, I did not have that thought. I have recovered from it. happy now.
Me: About to sleep My brain: Hey do you remember that really terrifying picture? Ooh! Let's make it more terrifying! Oh yeahhhhh that's more I like it Me: No you don't
TW: R@p3 Wanting to rape people, usually women, is normal? No, i do not think so. Crushing peoples heads and cutting someones skin, kidnapping them, gore, violence is normal to me, but raping, it hurts me that i think so, and what hurts me more is enjoying it.
@@FinnishNationalist123 tw mentions of rape , molestation , sexual intrusive thoughts I'm not sure abt r4pe specifically but sexual intrusive thoughts exist and they can be just as brutal as the regular violent, killing/death related ones. personally I've never had any r4pe ones but they can deal with m*l*sting to sexual harassment without the person ever intending to or have been in a traumatic situation where they would feel an urge to. and it can feel absolutely horrifying and make you question the worst things. I'm not sure to what extent sexual intrusive thoughts are normal, but they exist.
My personal way of coping with intrusive thoughts is to think of them like an annoying 13 year old kid who just keeps popping up and saying shitty things. Every time I have an intrusive thought I let them go by thinking something like, "shut the fuck up Timmy, go to bed!" and just kind of pretending it's a crappy shitty kid inside my head. Not sure if this is supposed to be something you do as I never got a diagnosis for it specifically along with my OCD because I didn't realise they were a thing other people had at the time, but it works for me.
I don't have OCD. I still get random intrusive thoughts... They aren't a problem because I can (usually) shake them off just by actively focusing on something else, and not mentally arguing with them. The sorts of thoughts I have more trouble with are anxiety. A situation will generate anxiety which brings up thoughts and memories that perpetuate anxiety. It makes it hard to break the state, and so hard to break the thoughts. On the other hand, if I have a quick compulsion to slap my hand down on a knife blade, I just go "Well that's a stupid idea." and move on. If it tries to stick around, I just find something else to focus on outside my head before it has a chance to steal energy and create loops.
Same. Because of this I never went out of the house. Scared of people. Fear fear fear 😨😱. I wanna connect with someone like this but no one replied it is disappointing.
Heres what I learned from intrusive thoughts and how i put an end to my fear in it. Ive decided to put my foot down and eradicate my fear for life. First off, everything Katy said in this video is simple and accurate. NOTHING is wrong with you, please stop punishing yourselves please. I know its annoying but at some point we must draw the line despite the fear. Here are a few things I learned from these thoughts and let me tell you, its been a journey. 1. I still have intrusive thoughts but nothing is wrong with having those thoughts, the simplest answer is your reaction period. 2. Stop looking at thoughts as pure or impure, the moment you do that, it'll freak your life out and anyone will go crazy because of that. Like i said, no thought is good or bad. 3. Anybody, and i mean anyone who had a negative thought, the moment you identify with it, your mind will be clouded by it to the point where you can see nothing else beyond it. All you see are these thoughts and you ruminate constantly because of that. 3. Overthinking is literal POISON please dont drink that poison. 4. Think of those thoughts as if it is like a tennis match. You find it interesting or tiring at first for a bit but you eventually stop the game. Your worn out sweaty and tired etc. However in terms of this thought process this tennis match is not stopping. Its like Imagine playing tennis for 24 hours. Thats whats happening in the mind. 5. u cannot stop what enters ur mind but the only way is to understand that youve mistaken yourself as the thought to be real about YOU which is not true. You have identified yourself with it. Stop that! 6. Thoughts are like rain. You cant control when the rain comes but you control the reaction. When it rains, u get annoyed for a small amount of time but eventually u let it go right? Because u know u didnt control it, it cane by itself. Its like with the thoughts ur trying to control something completely natural like rain. But instead with these negative thoughts they have fooled you into thinking they serve some kind of purpose or say something about you deep down which is FALSE. What i have learned is all thoughts are pure JUNK! They are meaningless. Acceptance of these thoughts is key and then letting them go. No they mean NOTHING about you. 7. Like Katy mentioned, EVERYONE yes EVERYONE has intrusive thoughts! Its natural and normal 8. Dont question WHY a thought came. That is like asking why its raining. Its absolutely meaningless 100%. The why only comes when you falsely accuse yourself of a nonexisting thing that has a 100% chance of never even happening. The moment you ask why is when endless possibilities are created in your mind. The moment you ask the question why is just disastrous because youre going to speculate anc come up with false theories. 9. Trust me, i have been there and its been a horrible shit show. I want you guys to live life again. 10. Asking and ruminating on what ifs is a endless spiral. The question of what if this or that is a free problem creator in the mind. Eradicate what ifs from your life please 🙏🏻 I wish everyone peace and joy 🙏🏻 Remember, you are NORMAL this small, meaningless thought has only been magnified in your head into something huge. Its valueless and I hope everyone can feel like themselves again soon ❤️
Mario Avila hey Mario, no I have never taken medicine before. Tbh, everything was natural. Also, there are helpful videos about overcoming anxiety. One of my favorite videos are from this channel called Vacate Fear. Its pretty cool and the guy overcame anxiety and will explain how. No worries, its all free, none of that paying bs. Wishing u well! 😊
Mario Avila Excercise in general is good. You can take all the supplements, exercise and don’t get mr wrong, health and general wise is good. But the deep root issue is simple, its the response to the anxiety and thoughts. Exercise and all that stuff is added things u can do but to solve this issue of anxiety is to accept the thoughts as they come and let them go. Check out Dr.Claire Weekes too! Shes amazing.
I've had intrusive thoughts and really struggled every single day all day long since it started when I was 12years old . I am now 21years old, so I've had this for almost half my lifetime. To this day I would reject the unwanted thoughts/images that would pop into my mind and hope I don't get them again. Now, after watching this video, I know for a fact that I can stop pondering on those random unwanted thoughts and images and move on with my life. I really want to thank you with all my heart for making this video. You have really changed my life in the most positive way. Thank you.
I find it interesting that most of the people I've talked to that have ocd (including me) started having intrusive thoughts/images at 11 or 12! I'm 17 now
Journey to MD wait so how does one tell the difference between an intrusive random thought from what they truly identify with? Have heard from places that apparently people ik really well who come from decent and caring environments tend to find themselves acquainted or aligned or feeling like their intrusive thoughts? Or happen to agree with some pure evil, weird, messed up, and random thoughts, emotions, and urges that have popped up over the years and they feel so much less psychologically mature and they don’t see everyone else around them and they are scared to watch revenge movies from then on bc they are scared that antagonist may not deserve it or are bothered by worse villains being out there who don’t deserve vengeance, I can’t understand their issue and trying to support them
__VioletArt but i feel like the moment you go see a therapist is the moment it means that "it’s real" and you make it official in your own mind that you have a big problem, and then it would be even worse to get rid of it
I have had Intrusive Thoughts for awhile now. I relate to many of you in the comments, my most recent sexual intrusive thought (that I hate myself for deeply for even thinking about) had to do with my dog. My brain almost instantly started throwing false truths to me, and even made me think it was true for awhile because of the guilt. It's insane how little thoughts can ruin our everyday lives. I'm so, so glad this is normal, and that other people experience it as well.
Wow I can't believe my brain is giving me so much pain from these thoughts Well that sucks Update: I'm doing well now and these thoughts are gone from my head I just wanted to say if I can do it you can do it peace out love you all
Same! My intrusive thought actually just told me why didn’t I go up to my psych teacher and tell him about these thoughts it could’ve helped? And I’m like noooo cause I’ve had some weird intrusive thoughts about all my teachers and they’re bad
Best advice I can give you if you have intrusive thoughts is meditating daily and constantly practice Awareness throughout the day. Practicing Awareness meand simply observing your sensory perceptions and your mind and feelings in a detached manner. Realize you are the observer and not the observed phenomena. You are completely free of all of your thoughts if you do not identify with them and simply observe them. Wishing you all the best 😊❤
I can't begin to tell you how this vlog helped me calm down. My intrusive thoughts have been kicking my ass lately and seeing that i'm not the only one has calmed me down so much. Sending love and light to everyone going through this or any form of anxiety or ocd. We are all better than this and I hope that one day we can all look bk on this years later and see how far we've come
Something I find helpful is realizing that the fact that you’re aware of these thoughts & so paranoid abt them shows that you’re not truly that way . You’re just worried you could be . That’s normal it’s called fear .
I literally watch this video everytime I get an intrusive thought and it does help so much because you help me think more rationally. especially the bit where you say thoughts don't equal reality and just because we think of it doesn't mean it's real. thank you!
I should do that to! Sometimes I say to myself “it’s just an Intrusive thought and not reality” and my intrusive thought responds which makes it worse but I’ll try that method and hopefully it works out
When I was trying to work I would struggle with intrusive thoughts. I researched and found out that it was common which brought me joy but once I tried to calm myself by saying "it's not true" and I would have an intrusive thought and be battling with my own mind all day at work. It got so repetitive that is felt draining to argue with myself all day and have to work in a clothing store during the holidays while already being stressed from the thought. I would literally come home and cry to my mother.
Angeline Productions It is very exhausting. And then when you try to get disability no one understands but I can't even explain the situation without going over all of the details which is also frustrating because I'm sure everyone with intrusive thoughts could agree that you do not want to tell people what it is that keeps replaying in your head. smh It's like you either have to work through it or be unemployed and broke.
I’ve struggled with intrusive thoughts for as long as I remember. They hit their peak in the first few weeks after my son was born. It took me 23 years before I broke down and started researching it, and when I learned it’s a common thing my life shifted. I spent literal years questioning if I was a psychopath.
Jessie Smith me too.. i laid awake at night panicking, thinking what if i actually want to do these sick things i keep thinking about. what if i just convinve myself i'm a good person but in reality i'm a twisted psychopath.
Best advice I can give you if you have intrusive thoughts is meditating daily and constantly practice Awareness throughout the day. Practicing Awareness means simply observing your sensory perceptions and your mind and feelings in a detached manner. Realize you are the observer and not the observed phenomena. You are completely free of all of your thoughts if you do not identify with them and simply observe them. Wishing you all the best 😊❤
Jennifer Ayala I think understanding that your thoughts are just thoughts and understanding ‘why I am doing that’ is very helpful to me. I haven’t been diagnosed, but I think I have O focused OCD. By understanding that, I tried to not let my mind use itself to conjure fear. Also remember that if Christ is for us, who could stand against us? Also avoid physical triggers... caffeine, nicotine, ect. My anxiety about it got to the point that I started twitching my chest muscle and ear, and not feeding into the urge to twitch helps significantly. Self soothing helps too, outloud telling yourself to relax is helpful.
Today's tip ♡ Like this video. When your struggling with intrusive thoughts, come watch this again. It will ground you and remind you that you are normal , and that these thoughts arent reality. Let them come.dont focus on them. Treat yourself even kinder when you have these thoughts. So that way your brain knows when they come you will soak your feet , read a book , whatever it is for you that you do to treat yourself. Then you will find they will happen less often , and thus find peace. God bless you all.
Lord I thank you for showing me this I deal with this almost everyday and sometimes its so bad that I have get on my knees and pray it away its horrible don't get me wrong it will go away but sometimes if something bad happen in my life all of sudden more negative thoughts starting rolling through my mind to destroy my day lord I thank you for sharing this I will def try it!
It helps to know I’m not alone and that it doesn’t define me as a person. I am a spiritual person and now, when I imagine something bad happening to someone, I pray that it won’t and that instead they will be safe, well, and blessed!
I'm a father that has intrusive thoughts. My intrusive thoughts focus on a sexual nature and I'm so fed up of them I hate it. Then I keep having doubts if I do hate them. It sucks. I have ocd and my brain always targets the people I love. I know for a fact I dont enjoy these thoughts and would be a better person if I didn't have them. Can anyone relate to what I'm going through? It would be nice to know im not alone.. :(
You are not alone man. I have that kind of thoughts from sexual nature as u say. Not only that. I have thoughts about strong reeeeal strong violence, like gore violence. Horrible stuff that doesnt even deserve being mentioned. Needless to say im a pacifist, i hate violence. I know for sure i would never hurt anyone (specially the ones i care about) but like the girl said, dont try to fight them. Just dont pay any attention to them. But more important, dont think u are a bad person bc, tho i dont know u, i know u are not a bad person.
Your not alone usally my thoughts have something to do about me were i imagine somebody i like starts beating me to death or i have this scenario were a situation would get so bad i would contemplate suicide but don't actually feel depressed or suicidal
my intrusive thoughts get very very graphic and disturbing and just scary so im glad that atleast some people have thoughts like these? it helps to know im maybe not insane like what my mind urges me to think i am.
ur nut I have the same thing. Started like 5 weeks ago. It does get better, but it takes a lot of time. I tried meditation for once. I don’t say it will take the problems away. But it sure gives you a new way to look to the thoughts in general. At first I could not have days without having bad feelings, but now I have some days were I can! :) Stay strong, you’re not alone!
Best advice I can give you if you have intrusive thoughts is meditating daily and constantly practice Awareness throughout the day. Practicing Awareness means simply observing your sensory perceptions and your mind and feelings in a detached manner. Realize you are the observer and not the observed phenomena. You are completely free of all of your thoughts if you do not identify with them and simply observe them. Wishing you all the best 😊❤
I sometimes get terrible disgusting intrusive thoughts about people I know and I used to suppress them by immediately thinking about my crush or something desirable to redirect the energy. What ended up happening is my brain associating my crush, or the good thing, with the intrusive thought, making them inescapable to the point of taking an emotional toll.
I’m 33 had these bad evil thoughts since I was very little like 7 years old. Thought I’d harm myself.... it’s never happened it’s just ocd and a thought and it has no power over me.
Best advice I can give you if you have intrusive thoughts is meditating daily and constantly practice Awareness throughout the day. Practicing Awareness means simply observing your sensory perceptions and your mind and feelings in a detached manner. Realize you are the observer and not the observed phenomena. You are completely free of all of your thoughts if you do not identify with them and simply observe them. Wishing you all the best 😊❤
Yep. Had em since kindergarten, where I literally wanted to kill all my classmates without any real reason... it’s really weird and annoying. But yeah, they can happen at young ages too
i have intrusive thoughts since a kid , it took my happiness ,i couldn't focus on anything , couldn't have a social life , i still have them but the thing is they dont have the same impact now , because i changed my reaction and perspective about them , i know , it's overwhelming , confusing , make you hate urself and say why me , it's hell . the main thought that helped me is to believe that i can change it , the belief , how could i make it happen , well my mind got used to negative thoughts ? im gonna make it get used to other things , i cant focus ? well ill find a way to do it , then i realised that it's heavily related to self esteem and self love , because if i have a bad thought that makes me feel bad bout myself , its because i dont estemate myself , im discusted while i see my face , but if we learn to love ourselves we would give to our selves breaks ,rethink , do what's best for us , and some thing else , the more u focus on IT , the bigger it will grow , so fill ur time , go outside , help others , make them smile , ull see theres always important , IT comes usualy to good people , cause they care alot , it reflects the oposite of what u want , so smile , ure doing fine........
Yes I can relate so much! I assume it started when I was like 10 years old but then it "stopped" happening to me ,during my adolescence I started to feel that I was a really anxious so that's how I realized that I have an anxiety disorder but more related with social situations ,what I didn't know at the time is that it was all related ,it was all part of my anxiety. In my last year of highschool a bunch of bad things happened to me ,so yeah I was really lonely with no friends and my grandma was dying of cancer ,all that really affected me so I started having intrusive thoughts again but soo strong and I also had a panic attack.I decided to start therapy ,back in 2015 ,to get well again what is funny is that it took time to realize that it was all the same ,I remembered that I had this thoughts when I was little but like then I grew up and forgot about it ,I thought it was nothing . Now I know that basically I suffered this my whole life,it's really confusing living like this I mean in the day I feel ok but when the night comes my anxiety comes as well and I start having these intrusive thoughts ,all I wish is to enjoy again my life and the things I used to do...
Nice one. I used to struggle with these thoughts. I’d sometimes speak out loud, like ‘no eww!’ and my wife would wonder what I was on about. Usually they are coming from a toxic feeling or when I’m feeling tense. But you’re so right when you say just let them float on by. I used waste so much energy fighting them.
I have bad thoughts that I wish would stop I'm a good person and would never act on them I think of hurting my pets or hurting someone and it makes me feel so bad of myself
thank you so much I've been having aweful thought that make me feel horrible about myself. I've been crying my eyes out and just feel completely disgusted with myself. but I know they're just thoughts and I won't act on them. its just so hard because I feel I like I shouldn't have these thoughts
I literally have been learning to laugh at these intrusive thoughts that I have been so scared of previously. and I never thought I could finally reach this point. It's irrational thoughts and fears that I would NEVER do which causes me and many others to psych ourselves out creating panic. Its really strange thinking that your mind has a section of its own makeup its just up to you to depict the true thoughts and feelings vs. the self torment in which your mind has learned to hold onto these thoughts, because being a human in society you want to justify everything. BUT! that's the thing you DO NOT!! have to justify a thought because (things that pop up into your head Do not cause a feared action which is the TRUE fear) The TRUE FEAR is that these thoughts will somehow trigger an action to make us something we are not which is why its like a scary movie you create in your mind and your the main character. I feel like many people have learned this anxiety and our minds have almost mimicked that release of the chemical (cortisol) which is the stress chemical that is released every-time these thoughts occur, it triggers that so your brain will replicate that same phenomenon because your trying to figure out why a thought created such an intense feeling, thoughts that release this cortisol will trick the brain and the brain will feel the need to conquer or figure out something. people who smoke cigarettes, marijuana, etc. drink alcohol regularly and or other substance regularly often get anxiety disorders it the name of the game. its like here's what you get for falling into temptation! I do not feel like medications truly fix the problem but only temporarily hide the problem. It is important to keep your mind clear by eating healthy exercising practice being MINDFUL not ( mind=full ) Also its important to realize that these thoughts wont ever truly go away until those thoughts truthfully don't effect you anymore. so instead of freaking out looking for re-assurance, breathe realize that this is a part of your OCD be happy you recognize it and pat yourself on the back because you didn't do the stupid crazy worst case scenario that you keep letting torcher your mind lol . prayer and meditation really helps also because it brings an acceptance and contentness,People with OCD and anxiety need to realize their brains are working on an over drive and it is not fair to your brain and body to work that hard over pointless exhausting thoughts. believe me I have been there and I just want to leave this comment showing that I also have and am continuing to let go of these irrational fears.Read more Show less
Tyler Cline wait so how does one tell the difference between an intrusive random thought from what they truly identify with? Have heard from places that apparently people ik really well who come from decent and caring environments tend to find themselves acquainted or aligned or feeling like their intrusive thoughts? Or happen to agree with some pure evil, weird, messed up, and random thoughts, emotions, and urges that have popped up over the years and they feel so much less psychologically mature and they don’t see everyone else around them and they are scared to watch revenge movies from then on bc they are scared that antagonist may not deserve it or are bothered by worse villains being out there who don’t deserve vengeance, I can’t understand their issue and trying to support them
I knew people that used to have intrusive thoughts, and What helped them decrease (because they are not going to disappear) is to have a plan e.g., when an intrusive thought comes into my mind I will ignore it. I will not try to stop it I will simply ignore it. It does take practice but it really helped them. One day I will start a page to help others Conquer these thoughts! God bless!
My problem is that even before i started getting intrusive thoughts, i loved to think about things and ruminate on ideas and imagine/daydream to get away, so i naturally like to analyse thoughts or ideas, the problem with this is that now i naturally do the same with these intrusive thoughts, and a vivid imagination makes them seem so real, and it feels almost impossible to get away from the mental images/words/thoughts, any suggestions?
I had anxiety issues (Still do.) but I have intrusive thoughts almost all the time I could enjoy something ever. Its like there ttying to destroy me inside and out. I recently started taking drugs because of the stress but I've came clean and I'm ready to make a better life, thank you so much. You make me feel better everyday. Truly thanks! From my heart. 😉😁😀
Flamez Interfunction wait so how does one tell the difference between an intrusive random thought from what they truly identify with? Have heard from places that apparently people ik really well who come from decent and caring environments tend to find themselves acquainted or aligned or feeling like their intrusive thoughts? Or happen to agree with some pure evil, weird, messed up, and random thoughts, emotions, and urges that have popped up over the years and they feel so much less psychologically mature and they don’t see everyone else around them and they are scared to watch revenge movies from then on bc they are scared that antagonist may not deserve it or are bothered by worse villains being out there who don’t deserve vengeance, I can’t understand their issue and trying to support them
I once heard a therapist compare intrusive thoughts to television static, or "snow". She said the thoughts are useless, and should be regarded as nothing more than noise. Do you agree with this?
Intrusive thoughts are just a reflection of that, for our mind and for it's nature, nothing is good or bad. It's we who tag something as good or bad based on social conventions, personal experiences, etc., and we do the same with our thoughts. I personally don't think intrusive thoughts are useless, I find them useful to contrast my own beliefs.
vio SUPWERdoze wait so how does one tell the difference between an intrusive random thought from what they truly identify with? Have heard from places that apparently people ik really well who come from decent and caring environments tend to find themselves acquainted or aligned or feeling like their intrusive thoughts? Or happen to agree with some pure evil, weird, messed up, and random thoughts, emotions, and urges that have popped up over the years and they feel so much less psychologically mature and they don’t see everyone else around them and they are scared to watch revenge movies from then on bc they are scared that antagonist may not deserve it or are bothered by worse villains being out there who don’t deserve vengeance, I can’t understand their issue and trying to support them
Best advice I can give you if you have intrusive thoughts is meditating daily and constantly practice Awareness throughout the day. Practicing Awareness means simply observing your sensory perceptions and your mind and feelings in a detached manner. Realize you are the observer and not the observed phenomena. You are completely free of all of your thoughts if you do not identify with them and simply observe them. Wishing you all the best 😊❤
I spent from 2003-2019 in prison! I was one of those guys who "will never change". It wasn't CBT, but DBT and a great therapist that helped me change my life. I'm now studying CBT so that I can continue in my progression in this society so that I can help others.
Your videos have helped me realize how deep in my mental illnesses I actually am. It's nearly impossible to be in denial and ignore it when everything you're saying describes me so accurately. I love your manner of speaking, as it's very concise and casual and "non-clinician-y" in the best possible way. You're approachable, easy to connect with, positive in your delivery, and don't make me feel like us mentally ill are a bunch of destitute freaks. I think I've reached a breaking point where I need to get some kind of help. I can safely say at the age of thirty that looking for some kind of quick fix, waiting it out, or convincing myself that the good days mean I'm fine, have not worked for me. Even the comments on your videos have been so helpful in articulating what it's like to live this way. Every story I read here slaps me in the face with its accuracy. I've been living like this my entire life, and it's good to finally know and finally BELIEVE that I'm not alone. Your videos, Kati, are finally helping me accept that the suffering I've experienced for most of my life is legitimate and that I shouldn't feel like such a failure and a terrible, shameful person for not having accomplished things in life. It makes sense and it's not my fault. I just need to use all the motivation I have within me to get help. Listening to you and reading the comments has given me some hope that I can learn to be kinder to myself and I don't have to suffer alone forever. Thank you. I mean, this is what I believe in this moment. Having lived with mental illnesses for so long and having them be an integral part of who I am, I've lost a great deal of trust in myself and my own judgments. Logic and reason have helped ground me somewhat, but I'm still never really sure if things I say or do are influenced by what I really, truly want and know is right, or by irrational mental illness. You often feel like an unreliable narrator in your own horrific novel, you know? There is also a classic fear of recovery for me, because illness is what I've known for so long and the uncertainty deters me. What will be left of me if my mental illnesses are being managed? Then that line of thinking can trigger an obsessive thought process, and you feel incredibly guilty in taking some kind of comfort in the familiar because of the nightmare that it's caused you and those around you (in this case, the familiar being mental illness, of course). I feel guilty for being ill AND guilty when I have good days, because I then start thinking, "Well, what if I'm not really that sick and I'm just doing this to myself for attention or some other reason?" But faking mental illness is probably also its own mental illness. The endless torment continues. I'm extremely ill and have been for a long time. It's gotten to the point where it seems like my mental illnesses perfectly complement and enhance the others. They sure make a killer team. It's difficult to distinguish where my anxiety ends and my OCD, depression, borderline, body dysmorphic disorder, and/or complex PTSD begin. The most recent psychological torment I've been experiencing is anxiety with intrusive thoughts that seem to trigger my OCD. Then the intrusive thoughts incorporate themselves into the OCD so that my compulsion is to force myself to think and saturate my mind with the disturbing, intrusive thoughts. The end "goal" is to execute this mind exercise in a specific way. It varies, but for example, there's an intrinsic, nonsensical belief that if I just think this thought accompanied by this image, in the right location "perfectly" or the "right" way, that will somehow make the cycle stop. In actuality, as you would expect, this perpetuates and exacerbates the cycle, and then generates another cycle or branches off into sub cycles. Does this make sense or sound familiar to anyone? Sorry this comment was so rambly. If someone can relate to anything I've said, please let me know. I wish everyone watching these videos well. NO ONE deserves to live with this persistent psychological torture.
Perfumaphilia i can relate not all the way but exiety has taken control deffentally for me it started when i was a kid my mom would get phone calls all the time that i won't get out of the bathroom and on top of things i had a learning disability got teased for that depression exiety attacks at had one the road almost got in an accident when iwas younger i thought something was trying to force me say something i didnt was say i have these evil thoughts in my head sometimes cant get them out so i burn the images in my mind to get rid of them or i think of an angel that helped and then what shes talking about when they just come and im always thinking something bads gonna happen i feel like my thinking process is so 😈 i appreciate had u have got to express and tell what ur going through to help other people cause u have helped me i know this was a year ago but i hope u doing ok and and have god in ur life
Something that has really helped me is asking in my head "Is this useful?" whenever have a negative or intrusive thought. I slowly forget about whatever they were after that and focus on something else. I saw it in another video and it really helps, it was such a relief.
my first intrusive thought that ever came into my life, i responded with a massive panic attack. but with self-awareness, we can really see the flaws of intrusive thinking, and let it go.
I had intrusive thoughts, one way of differentiating between your thoughts and intrusive thoughts is that intrusive thoughts scare you. People who general WANT to do these thoughts are not afraid of them, in fact they take pleasure in them and cultivate them. Intrusive thoughts are a slap in face, causing fear and adrenaline rushes not something we cultivated or take pleasure in. I hope that helps someone. It isn't you, unfortunately our bodies response...fear makes it worse. Antidepressants help, it helps the relieve the adrenaline rushes from the fear, once the fear response diminishes the intrusive thoughts aren't as powerful.
If i ever have my intrusive thoughts run a fade on me again, im just diving back to this comment section. You all made me feel very normal and comforted ❤️ it IS a normal process and don’t feel ashamed since they aren’t reality. Quarantine makes it hard to focus on anything else because we do the same thing every day, so i feel you.
im gonna break down into tears ... these stupid thoughts keep me awake and suffocate me all day when i have them, today is unfortunately one of those days. and if you’re here then you’re just like me. and i don’t want you to be alone. i’m looking to start maybe a virtual group therapy session for those of us who suffer from intrusive thoughts so we can build a small community where we validate and take care of each other. if you’re interested, reply and let me know. take care, and remember to drink water ! :)
I've been having these thoughts since January. They are so fucking annoying and terrifying. I've had panic attacks because of them and I'm not someone who usually has anxiety. I've had panic attacks at work, home, while driving, etc. I hate it. My girlfriend went to a farmhouse last month and that same weekend she was leaving (two days before), I was panicking over the thought of her leaving. I don't normally panic over small stuff like that. These thoughts are horrible. I hate having them. I spoke to a friend about it and I've considered talking to a therapist about it. These thoughts have kept me awake before. It's to the point I go to work and listen to music while working to avoid having panic attacks (thoughts happen a lot there). It's affecting my life. I found these videos a couple weeks ago and ever since then, I've been reading stuff on the thoughts and I feel a lot better but the thoughts are still there. No one I know in person other than my buddy knows I'm going through this. I'd love to be able to get rid of these thoughts and start living my life again like I used to. I've always been a happy and calm/relaxed person but these thoughts completely changed that. I'm trying to get rid of them completely but it is not working so far. It's terrible. Not a fun thing, that's for sure.
This really made me think about my response to my intrusive thoughts and anxiety. I'm very much a person who analyses things and maybe slightly too much in some cases and maybe that's the issue here. Maybe by analysing these thoughts it's just causing more harm. Great video!👍
I swear, so much of my intrusive thoughts i'm too scared to share with anyone, even a therapist, it's really hard, cause my intrusive thoughts are really, REALLY fucked up, scrolling down a bit i've had quite a bit of the same thoughts others have mentioned, but also stuff far worse than what's in the comments, things that are so intense, and horrible, and it's scary, you know what makes it more scary? fun fact, intrusive thoughts can also cause 'fake emotions/urges' as i call them, where for a moment you think you have an urge to act on the thought, which fuels the anxiety, and disgust, and pit in your stomach, but only in calming down, and reanalyzing you'll realize you actually have no intention to act on those thoughts, but their more like "what if" fears your mind is having, or at least i find that's my case, especially given my greatest fear is becoming a monster, or the very things i hate and condemn, especially morally, it's like my mind torments me with hypothetical thoughts/imagined situations of if i became those things, as if my mind is being hyper vigilant against itself in fear of becoming those things when in reality knowing myself, i would never become the things my intrusive thoughts make me think, i'm a very moral person, so having these thoughts makes my mind overreact in anxiety and dwell on them more, then the fears come in worrying if i am those thoughts, and so on, it's. hell.
this comments exactly describes my experience with those intrusive thoughts. I fear that if I let them go, I'm gonna act on them (and I actually see myself doing it in my head) 😟
This is exactly how i feel it is horrible and i feel a big rock in the pit of my stomach thinking if i let go of these thoughts what if i act on them.... but deep down i know I never would... but its the fear of thinking what i am capable of... its like the very things you hate the most your mind makes you think that is who you are just because its what you hate the most.
@@freedomartsandcrafts7965 I understand completely, even lately i've been having a surge of intrusive thoughts, it also feels like whatever intrusive thought bothers you most right now, your mind will produce an abundance of, it's almost like the theme of my intrusive thoughts changes depending on which type i focus on freaking out about, then my mind goes "oh? that's bothering you the most right now? here let me give you a truck full of that"
@@akira1086 yeah and for some reason I only focus on that particular thing but not other things that bother me i don't understand my mind and why I focus particularly on that but I do. I feel like im fucked up and that im going crazy
@@luciletepeeu3076 Sometimes i tend to be able to snap myself out of that if i can get myself to calm down, i can realize that that fake urge or emotions behind those intrusive thoughts, aren't actually a reflection of what i want to do, or who i am, but vividly imagined hypothetical situations of my fears coming true. What scares me more right now is opening up to people about the contents of my intrusive thoughts and worrying they'll think it's a reflection of me, and not understand that it's the opposite, it's a reflection of what i never want to do or become.
This is one of my TOP 3 favorite videos of yours. I have OCD (intrusive thoughts), BPD, anxiety & mild depression. Your videos really help me. It's very hard for me to find a psychologist who is very knowledgeable about a lot of different health issues & with whom I can "really" connect. You're it! God bless you for sharing your videos on RUclips and helping so many people like myself who struggle with mental health issues for free. ❤❤❤
I think my mom has these thoughts all the time. Every little thing that happens, to her or anyone else, she interprets as the end of the world. If she forgets an ingredient in a recipe, dishes are smashed and she calls herself a "piece of shit." Little mistakes equate to catastrophe in her mind. I don't always know what is bothering her, but I can tell she is constantly dwelling on something terrible, real or otherwise. It, honestly, is extremely painful to be around her. I love my mother. I just don't know how to help her.
@alaina im no expert but i would say its depression she has. when people are depressed they take things very hard on themself. when people get depressed or anxiety they can be impatient she should go to a doctor and i bet antidepressants would help her and maybe therapy. sometimes you have to try multiple antidepressants to find the one that works for you. my mom has been hard on herself and its depression for her. but once she takes her medication she is fine. so the brain can haunt you and act all weird on you when brain chemicals like seratonin are not balanced
This makes me feel a lot better. My anxiety has been so bad that coupled with having intrusive thoughts makes me go into a total freak out mood where everything feels like it's falling apart to the point where I get sick to my stomach and even throw up. :/
Thank you god for this video. I had an absolute terrible thought and dwelled and dwelled on it, beating myself up over. I jumped out of bed having an anxiety attack over a thought that I would never act on EVER. I just needed to hear that it’s just a thought and let it go. Your voice calmed me down and thinking clearly. This is literally my first awful thought like this and I couldn’t let it go all day. Thinking why would I ever think of something this awful. If you come across my comment, your not alone. Shake it off, it’s just a thought nothing is going to happen. Breathe and listen to her soothing voice even if you have to watch this video 100 times.
My intrusive thought is that i'm not real and I'm living in some kind of dream. to feel less worried I tap objects to make sure they're real, if I think I've forgotten to tap something I start to panic.
You both need to stop tapping and think about how its not real. Its a THOUGHT. In your HEAD. How small is that compared to the whole universe. Honestly, its kind of self centered. And im saying this because Ive had that kind of ocd thought too.
I used to feel like if the people around me didn't hear or notice me that I would disappear or be invisible and no one would be able to see or speak to me ever again
I have OCD and I’ve had a terrible intrusive thought for about a month now that I can’t stop thinking about. It’s taking over my life and I just want to sleep. Also, I can’t write down my intrusive thoughts because it validates them and then I feel worse. I don’t know what to do.
sometimes suicide will pop in to my brain. I love the state of my life in in right now. I'm happy. these type of thoughts are so random but I'm glad to know I'm not alone.
Nina Ross Sid Dali wait so how does one tell the difference between an intrusive random thought from what they truly identify with? Have heard from places that apparently people tend to find themselves acquainted or aligned or feeling like their intrusive thoughts are what they are or their reality and start to feel like them?
I teach people to not take ownership of these thoughts and in passing them off to fill the void with something good instead. Reaffirming goodness which in turn brings peace and joy and even love into being on the inside which becomes a fountain, so to speak one now becomes a fountain of life unto others. Oh! That frog budda is a crack up! LOL
Some of our best advice comes out of scripture, think on things that are good and also they say we have been made for fitting into a good life not so much just for ourselves but really for all those around us. This is what Katie is doing 24-7 with videos. Most people feel gratification when they think they have done something good and then feel good in their own Spirit. It only works for those who believe it just might work, which is faith in one's self. I didn't preach because this is a principal that's for all of life. Also, if you work on these things you are to busy to dwell on negative junk! One great truth is that you care enough to want to rid your self of these thoughts, so just say I refuse to take ownership of them!
I realized that it’s because we operate on anxiety, we expect things to go wrong and we fight it but it persists, instead of operating on appreciation, faith and hope, believing that good things will happen, that what you want will happen and seeing that in your mind, “focus on where you want to go, not on what you fear” - Tony Robbins, “stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being excited about what could go right” - Unknown
I was having an anxiety attack and I started searching on RUclips and I found this video and it was Kati so I knew it would be good and it actually was exactly what I was dealing with and this video grounded me and helped me stay calm during a really tough time. Thank you so much for this content, it means so much to me that you would do this.
This video made me feel a lot better- I’ve been having intrusive thoughts since I was 13, and I’m nearly 17 now. When I was younger, they were really bad, but as I’ve gotten older, they’ve just came and gone in cycles (if that makes sense.) They’ve gotten better as I’ve gotten older, but probably once or twice a year I’ll have a really, really bad episode. What I do when I get bad thoughts is say that “this is just a thought,” and that always seems to help. I’m a lot better now, but when I was younger I was convinced that I was a horrible person and that needed to go to prison before I lost control and hurt someone.
I am watching this in 2021 and I am so grateful to you Kati and to all those who have commented (3.5k). It is really helpful to know it's not just me and that so many of you have been brave and shared your thoughts and feelings on this distressing subject. Sending love out to you all 💖
the thoughts are annoying but the emotions and the amount of energy it consumes are the problems. On a bad day, I can't even focus since one thought comes after the other.
@Mikey Boi it varies. It takes months for some people and maybe even years for others. You just have to acknowledge that you are not your thoughts and you aren't a bad person for your thoughts and it'll start going away
When I found out that everyone has these thoughts it really helped.
Same it's such a relief
same!
Yes omg same.
I literally thought I was so crazy and didn't tell anyone forever until I randomly told my neighbours when we were drunk and they acted accepting but now my whole neighbourhood ignores
Same. from Calvin
Those 3 points are true.
1. Everybody has intrusive thoughts
2. Thoughts are not reality - so don't ever feel guilty or ashamed
3. Don't suppress it, just let it go
I get the thoughts alot and I had them for like 10 months and I cant get rid of them I still get scared I just overthink it but I get scared because I dont want to think about it for like yrs my whole life
Bruh colli Sid Dali wait so how does one tell the difference between an intrusive random thought from what they truly identify with? Have heard from places that apparently people tend to find themselves acquainted or aligned or feeling like their intrusive thoughts?
Just let it be
Well it's not that easy
Usually ,but not necessarily ,the thoughts are reality, that's why they are bothering you.
Who else fears that they are not intrusive thoughts and that there is actually something wrong but you know you would not do the intrusive thought
Me, I feel so terrible
I don't fear most of my intrusive thoughts cause they revolve around murder...that makes me sound like a very horrible person probably. To be fair though I only want it to happen to a couple people who are absolutely toxic. I'd never want to harm someone that didn't do anything wrong, or something minor. Like I wouldn't want to kill a person that called me a bad name once, or someone that may have shoved me once back in 5th grade or something. But when it's someone who's been a complete bully for over 17 years then that makes me want to do bad things to them.
I feel like that and it’s terrible
ME. In the video she gives examples that are just "bad" thoughts but the ones I have are MESSED UP. And I HATE it. Like if I saw someone on a bike crossing the road instead of saying "it'd be terrible if he got ran over" which was HER example, my thought would be "it'd be funny if he got hit..." I DON'T MEANNN ITTT AHHH I THINK THERE'S SOMETHING REALLY WRONG WITH ME.
@@RM-xw2xg SAME. when she gave that example i was like ok i’d much rather have thoughts like that than the ones i have because they are just so so disgusting and make me feel like a monster. it’s been a month so i hope you’re doing better now
The more you surpress the thoughts the worse they become. I know it's scary and I know it makes you feel like a horrible or disgusting person but don't feel like that, I'm not lying when I say probably anybody you ask will say they get those thoughts. Don't fight the thoughts, don't give them a reaction, don't get upset about them that's what makes them stay.
You're okay, I promise you. The fact that you find the thoughts disgusting and disturbing prove that you're a good person and know they're wrong. I believe in all of you!!!
ughkook this made me emotional, thank you.💜
Thank you I thought I was going crazy
Very important comment!
Can we talk more ? My intrusive thoughts are bad rn
mine have been horrible lately, reading this comment helped alot. thank you
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Honestly same
Same story to all of us...we just get by, surroynd yourself with people, talk to people more, go out a bit, eventually you will live your life, and know we all going through same
Yup. Struggled for 60 years
Me on daily basis
I have some of the most bizarre and disturbing thoughts of them all. I really wish they would just stop allready. It really starts to get exhausting and annoying.
I love how legitimately wholesome this comment section is
ikr. so much love. i guess pain and suffering generates grest love and compassion 😊
Wholesome stuff normally leads me to intrusive thoughts
Yes they’re all thinking about murdering their whole family.
Same, I think of horrible things that just ruin the moment
Has anyone ever been afraid they would wake up one day and be a serial killer? Like you know you wouldnt do it and you know it is evil, but you fear becoming crazy and wanting to kill everyone.
Adartia Like you might accidentally take your eyes out and you were afraid of it? Like with a knife?
So you thought you would actually do it? Were you afraid of it? Or did you want to do it?
Was it because you were seeing too many objects in your eyes and having to even it out a lot? Or just the thought of things somehow poking into your eyes?
I used to think about knives stabbing into my feet if I sat on my knees and the balls of my feet because the tendon is stretched it and it would hurt if it happened. I always thought about it as a kid and it was annoying.
Adartia Were you afraid you would do it like "Noo no no NOOOO stop aaaagh I can...I cant stop nooo AAAA" and then you stab your own eyes out? Was it kind of like that?
But you didnt do it and you really wouldnt do it. Its just the OCD, the idea of your eyes being poked out is distressing.
Adartia Yeah but the image was like that right? How did you get over it?
Adartia Did you think it would actually happen?
"Thoughts don't equal reality"
If your thoughts don't equal reality you dont have a problem, many peoples do.
Bill Bo yeah but what about unwanted feelings toward something you know that’s not how you would ever feel? Because I feel so guilty and ashamed and I feel like I should just kill myself because of how much of a horrible person I feel like because of my uncomfortable uncontrollable thoughts and feelings.and I try to fight these feelings as well and I try it’s so hard tho.
Kanga 77 same they just come out of no where and it’s rrly bad what it is I’m very sad and it makes me things in my head pop up or random words that I just don’t want and it acts like I’m this person when I’m not and it seems so real
Always remember except the thought and move on and if they come back look at your left shoulder let’s say your left shoulder name is bob and let’s say your right shoulder is your parents if bob is ever trying to mess with you just tell bob quote Quote intrusive thoughts just tell bob to shut up and just know it’s not you it’s just thoughts
Eh agree to disagree
I feel like my brain is bullying me every second of every day
Yep
Same:(
same
I just wanna cry. I want this to stop. I want my old life back.
Tanu Shukla same 😔
*holds baby*
Brain “THROW IT”
YES. I relate to this!
Literally me 😳
Lmaoo 🤣
Omg I relate
mbzzy I’m scared to even comment 😂
So emotionally draining.
It’s so exhausting ): makes me not want to live anymore
@@samanthamccarthy1633 Me too how are u doing nowadays
It’s worth living because Jesus lives guys! I know it’s hard, I’ve been battling it for about 4 years. But I KNOW that life is worth living because Jesus lives, there is hope! I’m not perfect by ANY means.. I struggle with thoughts almost constantly it seems like but I just want to put you guys to Jesus because there I hope and eternal life and forgiveness of sin only found in Him!
2 Timothy 1:7 “For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline.”
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.”
Philippians 4:6-8 NASB
A couple of verses that I find comfort in even in my weakest moments. There is a greater reality. Gods peace that is only in Jesus. I leave you with this. Matthew 11:28-30 ““Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.””
Samantha McCarthy read my last comment please! God loves you!
You're not alone and I have awful thoughts too. I know I'll never just go crazy and hurt anyone but I worry I'll randomly just go blank and turn into some awful person. I hate these thoughts more than anything.
quarantine made these thoughts more wild and it's eating me even more.
Same!! I’ve always had intrusive thoughts but I think since a few days ago It keeps on coming and it’s not even me thinking it and I can’t control it. I’m literally going crazy
You might try meditation. There are lots of styles of it, and it really does help learning to "rest control" over your mind in a more deliberate way. ;o)
Can any of you please pray for me. There’s no excuse for my actions. These thoughts of doing bad things intrusive thoughts scare me. I don’t know if it’s my intrusive thoughts or is it me anymore
Me too. It’s worse than it’s ever been for me
55522 I’ll pray for you my friend. Remember your thoughts are not reality and they say nothing about you as a person. Let the thoughts go and don’t give them any power. I struggle with intrusive thoughts as well, we’re all in this together. You can do it❤️❤️
"What are intrusive thoughts?"
The worst thing in the WORLD!!! 😨
MindyKay how are you doing now a year since you posted this?
Indeed.
Sry to hear. Just know that you're a good person and would never act on those bad thoughts. Focus on your breathing when they pop in your head and keep your mind busy. I've been listening to Michael Sealey meditation videos when I lay down at night. They're comforting. I suggest subscribing. You'll get through this! You're a good person. Don't doubt it!
Juavi8 this might be weird but the way I deal with it is I gave it an identity, let me explain.
When *it* happens, I just think the words “dude, fuck off” or something along those lines as if I’m talking to someone.
You know what, that is weird but it just adds something funny to it.
IKR ugh
I can distract myself sometimes, but it always comes back.
hanshotfirst1138 me too
thats the only thing that helps me.
I finally just decided that the thoughts weren't really something I wanted to think about and that they weren't my fault. I quit trying to fight the thoughts. I just let them come. Eventually they stopped being a problem. It took many years of struggling with it before I figured it out. Just because you have a terrible thought does not mean you are a terrible person. If you were a horrible person, you wouldn't be so upset by the intrusive thought.
You aren't supposed to just distract yourself from them, you are supposed to face them head on.
Mr. Myopicus yaaaasss!!
This comment section has made me feel much less alone on a very rough day. I'm grateful for you all.
My brain is so evil and has so many disturbing thoughts, I don't want to say what due to being very disturbing but my brain is brutal
PaRa WavEs how are you doing
same bruh
Same. Trust me. The reason I can't talk to anyone about it is because the thoughts are so horrible.
Cheese on Toast me too . And I’m rrly sad but I’m ashamed of it and it bothers me soo much
Queen. Kay it’s oki I love u
I think OCD happens when you take your negatives thoughts seriously, as if they were a warning
I can confirm.
🙃
.....i think mayhaps I need to see a psychologist
@@caitlinroche2265 mayhaps
I am liking this word
@@zingzingzingbah2259 mayhaps it is one of my favourite 😔
For all of you going through this remember that God loves you and that you will be free of this pray about it and remember that nothing is wrong with you
thank u so much. it’s really taken a toll on my mental health. i hate the way my brain thinks it makes me not want to live anymore.
@@islafox7672 it may be very hard but remember one temporal action will deprive you of human experience. For every seven bad memories or outcomes there is one good one. People leave this earth because of fear, fear that things won't get better. They lose hope. Don't lose hope, life isn't ruined. The average human life span says you have so many years ahead of you before the finish line. You've lived through 1/3rd of that already. Things do get better gradually overtime 🙏
Tysm😊
Thank you😢
Amen! Praise The Lord! 🙏🏻
Since 2 weeks out of nowhere i started having very disturbing sexual intrusive thoughts with family members. Seriously, out of nowhere. And since then it's been hell. I can't get these thoughts out of my head. They ruin my day, my sleep. I can't function anymore. I would just close myself in a room or get out. Can't stay in one room with my family. I am so desperate. I hate myself.
Don't hate yourself! I've done the exact same thing and I'm sure other people all over the world have too. Just remember that thoughts are thoughts and they don't mean anything. The fact that you feel guilty means you know right from wrong and that you're a good person. Don't be ashamed. You mad me feel like I wasn't alone :)
That is exactly how I feel. Sometimes I doubt about the person I am. My days are ruined by these kind of thoughts. I feel so bad. Sometimes just want to close my eyes and disappear......
I go to therapy now. My therapist is helping me out a lot. To be honest the thoughts still terrify the crap out of me but i reduced them a bit and I feel like a human...
MunchkinKitties2469 This is a very common OCD theme...if you can, do a little reading on a site like IOCDF to find out more. Your intense reaction of horror, guilt, shame, etc is actually what fuels the thoughts even more. Everyone had thoughts like these and most can shrug it off bc they mean nothing. You analyzing and reacting to them makes them more "important" in your brain, which then produces them more. The BEST way to get rid of the thoughts is to let them exist in your head! Allow them to be there but give them no attention or value. After a bit, your brain will realize there is nothing to be alarmed about and it will stop the anxiety reaction. It is so counterintuitive but IT WORKS!
+MunchkinKitties2469 "Your Faith has Made You Well" :) God Bless you
You make me feel sane. Praise God.
Amen ! 🤍
My intrusive thoughts are things like “what if so and so dies” or “what if this person I love gets seriously injured” and then I get paranoid that I might manifest it
why is this so relatable
THIS-
this is exactly the uncontrollable thought process that I spiral into CONSTANTLY
So glad I’m not alone 😓
same bro same. i think we should opena group chat or something to talk about it lmao. these thoughts arent real too but its really disturbing and freeels really really bad but i hope we get over it.
same..
I just wanted to let you know that this video saved my life. Thank you so much for everything you do, Kati.
do u feel like people read your mind?
Turi Gallegos ALL THE TIME
God bless you man
Win 👍
I truly hope she sees this!
Bro, I had been having these intrusive thoughts for the past THREE WEEKS! they were horrible, I lost sleep, I never felt hungry because I was always so anxious, I felt guilty, I was scared of myself, I wasn’t happy and I noticed I avoided everything that reminded me of the thoughts. I’m so thankful for your video thought because it has helped me so much and I’ve never felt happier. ❤️ I thought I was going mad, you really saved my life. Thank u
Brianna Marie what else has helped
Best advice I can give you if you have intrusive thoughts is meditating daily and constantly practice Awareness throughout the day. Practicing Awareness meand simply observing your sensory perceptions and your mind and feelings in a detached manner. Realize you are the observer and not the observed phenomena. You are completely free of all of your thoughts if you do not identify with them and simply observe them.
Wishing you all the best 😊❤
How are you today?
are you doing ok now?💗
8 months for me and they got worse 😞
At this point I don’t even have to have an actual image or “intrusive thought” just the thought of the thoughts makes me get anxious. Does that make sense? Like knowing the things I’ve thought makes me feel horrible...
I get that too, i wont be thinking about it but i still get this weird feeling sitting in my gut and i know it has to do with the thoughts
What are some of the thoughts
Same it makes me think I’m weird and awful
I think this pandemic has to do with it too, stay at home orders and isolation, has emotionally and psychologically drained us all. I get anxious thinking about having the thoughts.
Oh my land! Someone said it!
Does anyone else have intrusive thoughts about having intrusive thoughts. And then you think about telling someone what your intrusive thoughts are without wanting to and it spirals out of control. It makes me feel a bit dizzy
Killian Ward Sid Dali wait so how does one tell the difference between an intrusive random thought from what they truly identify with? Have heard from places that apparently people ik really well who come from decent and caring environments tend to find themselves acquainted or aligned or feeling like their intrusive thoughts? Or happen to agree with some pure evil, weird, messed up, and random thoughts, emotions, and urges that have popped up over the years and they feel so much less psychologically mature and they don’t see everyone else around them and they are scared to watch revenge movies from then on bc they are scared that antagonist may not deserve it or are bothered by worse villains being out there who don’t deserve vengeance, I can’t understand their issue and trying to support them
Killian Ward I think I’ve had similar experiences. Sometimes I’ll run into a sort of mental lull and I’ll be fine, but then I’ll suddenly have a thought that’s more or less “huh, it’s been a while since I thought about the intrusive thought”, followed by more obvious intrusive thoughts
Yes! Since most of my intrusive thoughts revolve around social interaction and relationships, I sometimes worry or have intrusive thoughts about one day in the future somehow losing control, perhaps with anger or confusion, and carrying one of the intrusive thoughts out by mistake because they’re always floating around in my mind.
Killian Ward what are some of those thoughts
Killian Ward are you taking meds
This made me feel so much better I thought I was a psycho and I needed serious mental help and that one day the thoughts would come true.
And I would say to my self that I'm a bad person I'm a crazy person for thinking these things.
And I would finally be having a decent day and then boom! That thought would come into my head and i would keep thinking the same thing over and over again thank you for this video! :) 💞
Also what do I do? I'm only 12.... :/ and I don't know what to say to my mom I also have depersonlization and derealization and anxiety and depression I have so many disorders it's crazy what do I say to my mom or do I even say anything?
Just confide in your mother that you would like to be evaluated for disorders because you believe you may have one and it is affecting your life in negative ways. Don't tell her that you have all of those or she may think you are overreacting (like many without disorders do). Just let her know you are concerned about your mental health:) I hope you get help! I finally did this year and I feel much better
Choo Snau I'm actually starting therapy soon! And I have been talking to my mother about getting me into CBC therapy! She still doesn't know I have these thoughts she just thinks I want to do it because my OCD (which is why I'm having these intrusive thoughts)
Elizabeth Weaver Same :3
Elizabeth Weaver had the same problem tried ssri pills that treats worrys bad thoughts anxiety and depression
This comment section is really comforting, it makes me realize I’m not the only one drowning in my thoughts; not being able to enjoy any part of my day without some random intrusive thought
Same I had also been praying so it's not so bad anymore
@@RainbowDjDash i have it but this comment section helped me i couldnt find what i have until now
The thoughts always equal fear. The "what if" I am an evil person? Or "what if" this person or even my pets don't love me?" Etc. etc...
Don't give the thoughts power. Just let them pass. Kill that fear.
I know from severe OCD. I've had it since I was a little kid, and I'm 38 today.
Jason W Baccaro You are very correct.
Hope 41 is treating you well buddy
Jason W Baccaro wait so how does one tell the difference between an intrusive random thought from what they truly identify with? Have heard from places that apparently people ik really well who come from decent and caring environments tend to find themselves acquainted or aligned or feeling like their intrusive thoughts? Or happen to agree with some pure evil, weird, messed up, and random thoughts, emotions, and urges that have popped up over the years and they feel so much less psychologically mature and they don’t see everyone else around them and they are scared to watch revenge movies from then on bc they are scared that antagonist may not deserve it or are bothered by worse villains being out there who don’t deserve vengeance, I can’t understand their issue and trying to support them
Jason W Baccaro did you take meds
@@marioavila9021 I do. Just a little. Plus I take walks, go out in the sun, try to eat healthy, and just...go with it. My OCD is nearly extinct now-a-days...
I feel like I'm loosing control...i cant tell anyone because I'm scared to
JUDAR The lion same I don’t know what to do
Seek therapy to address your concerns
@@tmcrawford4772 Seek therapy to address your concerns
Therapy!!!! FIND A GOOD PERSON 4 u and work on this situation
I relate so much
me - *is in a fast, moving car*
my brain - “open the door”
Yeah omg
&? I ve always had those kind of thoughts but never thought it is problem!!
Everyone has those thoughts. It’s not a problem. The problem is when you obsess over the thought
I actually did it🙈 in my head I was like if I had that thought then nothing bad will happen 😂😂😂🙈🙈🙈I was really young at that time😅
I actually did once when I was 5 years old lmao
I have intrusive thoughts, intensely suffered for 6 years, almost suicidal, but recovered now. For the last 10 years, I did not have that thought. I have recovered from it. happy now.
+Bahadur shah How did you?
I'm very happy for you! I hope you're well!!
Please share how you got delivered
Me too! I used to have it all the time from ages 15-20, but Clomipramine saved me and I haven't had any intrusive thought in years
God bless you 😘
Me: sitting In a moving car
My brain: Throw your phone out the window...
Me: At a play in a big fancy theater...
My brain: Start screaming right now.
omg how come i can relate to this so well
Kathy ZB i’ve thought of that too. Why do we think of these things it’s crazy
Me: About to sleep
My brain: Hey do you remember that really terrifying picture? Ooh! Let's make it more terrifying! Oh yeahhhhh that's more I like it
Me: No you don't
Your Dry Blazer bro, that’s why I’m here
ALSO INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS ARE NORMAL! you aren't weird or sociopathic! I promise!
thanks for the reassurance 😀😜😝
thank you!!
Our brains are so fucking annoying
TW: R@p3
Wanting to rape people, usually women, is normal? No, i do not think so. Crushing peoples heads and cutting someones skin, kidnapping them, gore, violence is normal to me, but raping, it hurts me that i think so, and what hurts me more is enjoying it.
@@FinnishNationalist123
tw mentions of rape , molestation , sexual intrusive thoughts
I'm not sure abt r4pe specifically but sexual intrusive thoughts exist and they can be just as brutal as the regular violent, killing/death related ones. personally I've never had any r4pe ones but they can deal with m*l*sting to sexual harassment without the person ever intending to or have been in a traumatic situation where they would feel an urge to. and it can feel absolutely horrifying and make you question the worst things. I'm not sure to what extent sexual intrusive thoughts are normal, but they exist.
My personal way of coping with intrusive thoughts is to think of them like an annoying 13 year old kid who just keeps popping up and saying shitty things. Every time I have an intrusive thought I let them go by thinking something like, "shut the fuck up Timmy, go to bed!" and just kind of pretending it's a crappy shitty kid inside my head. Not sure if this is supposed to be something you do as I never got a diagnosis for it specifically along with my OCD because I didn't realise they were a thing other people had at the time, but it works for me.
I don't have OCD. I still get random intrusive thoughts... They aren't a problem because I can (usually) shake them off just by actively focusing on something else, and not mentally arguing with them.
The sorts of thoughts I have more trouble with are anxiety. A situation will generate anxiety which brings up thoughts and memories that perpetuate anxiety. It makes it hard to break the state, and so hard to break the thoughts.
On the other hand, if I have a quick compulsion to slap my hand down on a knife blade, I just go "Well that's a stupid idea." and move on. If it tries to stick around, I just find something else to focus on outside my head before it has a chance to steal energy and create loops.
Haha, same :D But sometimes I'm worried I might be a schizo for talking to myself like that, XD. But I'm glad I'm not the only one doing this "trick".
This is brilliant I need to tell my friend about this coping method
haha this is great! definatley going to try this 😃
Renee Potter i love you😂😂❤️
I always get intrusive thoughts and then I get worried someone is reading my mind and can see what I’m thinking
Lydia Kelli same here. Does anyone know why that is?
I HAVE THIS TOO! It’s why I’m so glad that it’s currently impossible to read minds lol
@@victoriapeay3019 damn me too,im glad im not alone 3
I’m too! I think it’s OCD
Same. Because of this I never went out of the house. Scared of people. Fear fear fear 😨😱. I wanna connect with someone like this but no one replied it is disappointing.
Reading the comments made me calm, I thought I was the only one who has this...
Heres what I learned from intrusive thoughts and how i put an end to my fear in it. Ive decided to put my foot down and eradicate my fear for life. First off, everything Katy said in this video is simple and accurate. NOTHING is wrong with you, please stop punishing yourselves please. I know its annoying but at some point we must draw the line despite the fear. Here are a few things I learned from these thoughts and let me tell you, its been a journey.
1. I still have intrusive thoughts but nothing is wrong with having those thoughts, the simplest answer is your reaction period.
2. Stop looking at thoughts as pure or impure, the moment you do that, it'll freak your life out and anyone will go crazy because of that. Like i said, no thought is good or bad.
3. Anybody, and i mean anyone who had a negative thought, the moment you identify with it, your mind will be clouded by it to the point where you can see nothing else beyond it. All you see are these thoughts and you ruminate constantly because of that.
3. Overthinking is literal POISON please dont drink that poison.
4. Think of those thoughts as if it is like a tennis match. You find it interesting or tiring at first for a bit but you eventually stop the game. Your worn out sweaty and tired etc. However in terms of this thought process this tennis match is not stopping. Its like Imagine playing tennis for 24 hours. Thats whats happening in the mind.
5. u cannot stop what enters ur mind but the only way is to understand that youve mistaken yourself as the thought to be real about YOU which is not true. You have identified yourself with it. Stop that!
6. Thoughts are like rain. You cant control when the rain comes but you control the reaction. When it rains, u get annoyed for a small amount of time but eventually u let it go right? Because u know u didnt control it, it cane by itself. Its like with the thoughts ur trying to control something completely natural like rain. But instead with these negative thoughts they have fooled you into thinking they serve some kind of purpose or say something about you deep down which is FALSE. What i have learned is all thoughts are pure JUNK! They are meaningless. Acceptance of these thoughts is key and then letting them go. No they mean NOTHING about you.
7. Like Katy mentioned, EVERYONE yes EVERYONE has intrusive thoughts! Its natural and normal
8. Dont question WHY a thought came. That is like asking why its raining. Its absolutely meaningless 100%. The why only comes when you falsely accuse yourself of a nonexisting thing that has a 100% chance of never even happening. The moment you ask why is when endless possibilities are created in your mind. The moment you ask the question why is just disastrous because youre going to speculate anc come up with false theories.
9. Trust me, i have been there and its been a horrible shit show. I want you guys to live life again.
10. Asking and ruminating on what ifs is a endless spiral. The question of what if this or that is a free problem creator in the mind. Eradicate what ifs from your life please 🙏🏻
I wish everyone peace and joy 🙏🏻 Remember, you are NORMAL this small, meaningless thought has only been magnified in your head into something huge. Its valueless and I hope everyone can feel like themselves again soon ❤️
I love this. Thank you 💜
RAVLEEN SINGH did u take meds
Mario Avila hey Mario, no I have never taken medicine before. Tbh, everything was natural. Also, there are helpful videos about overcoming anxiety. One of my favorite videos are from this channel called Vacate Fear. Its pretty cool and the guy overcame anxiety and will explain how. No worries, its all free, none of that paying bs. Wishing u well! 😊
RAVLEEN SINGH how about exercise does that help also
Mario Avila Excercise in general is good. You can take all the supplements, exercise and don’t get mr wrong, health and general wise is good. But the deep root issue is simple, its the response to the anxiety and thoughts. Exercise and all that stuff is added things u can do but to solve this issue of anxiety is to accept the thoughts as they come and let them go. Check out Dr.Claire Weekes too! Shes amazing.
I've had intrusive thoughts and really struggled every single day all day long since it started when I was 12years old . I am now 21years old, so I've had this for almost half my lifetime. To this day I would reject the unwanted thoughts/images that would pop into my mind and hope I don't get them again. Now, after watching this video, I know for a fact that I can stop pondering on those random unwanted thoughts and images and move on with my life. I really want to thank you with all my heart for making this video. You have really changed my life in the most positive way. Thank you.
Issac Pre-Med I’m 12 and I’m having intrusive thoughts ..wow
I find it interesting that most of the people I've talked to that have ocd (including me) started having intrusive thoughts/images at 11 or 12! I'm 17 now
Journey to MD wait so how does one tell the difference between an intrusive random thought from what they truly identify with? Have heard from places that apparently people ik really well who come from decent and caring environments tend to find themselves acquainted or aligned or feeling like their intrusive thoughts? Or happen to agree with some pure evil, weird, messed up, and random thoughts, emotions, and urges that have popped up over the years and they feel so much less psychologically mature and they don’t see everyone else around them and they are scared to watch revenge movies from then on bc they are scared that antagonist may not deserve it or are bothered by worse villains being out there who don’t deserve vengeance, I can’t understand their issue and trying to support them
Thoughts does not equal reality... That's going to be my new mantra. That's one of the realest things I've ever heard.
I wanna tell my therapist about my intrusive thoughts but it's so scary and embarrassing ugh :((
How are you now have you told her? I'm going to therapy but only once a month, i've had the thoughts for 6 months
Kitty fairy can we talk
I have them bad and need reassurance and want to ask questions
__VioletArt but i feel like the moment you go see a therapist is the moment it means that "it’s real" and you make it official in your own mind that you have a big problem, and then it would be even worse to get rid of it
@@Fbitypeshit no, it means that your will to be alright is real, not your problem.
You have NO IDEA how much comfort you bring to people like me, Kati :-). Love your channel so much! Thank you!
I have had Intrusive Thoughts for awhile now. I relate to many of you in the comments, my most recent sexual intrusive thought (that I hate myself for deeply for even thinking about) had to do with my dog. My brain almost instantly started throwing false truths to me, and even made me think it was true for awhile because of the guilt. It's insane how little thoughts can ruin our everyday lives. I'm so, so glad this is normal, and that other people experience it as well.
are you okay now?
you okay now?
Wow I can't believe my brain is giving me so much pain from these thoughts
Well that sucks
Update: I'm doing well now and these thoughts are gone from my head I just wanted to say if I can do it you can do it peace out love you all
Same! My intrusive thought actually just told me why didn’t I go up to my psych teacher and tell him about these thoughts it could’ve helped? And I’m like noooo cause I’ve had some weird intrusive thoughts about all my teachers and they’re bad
What helped you?
Ngl jojo i kinda helped me get off with these thoughts
How did you get rid of then
Best advice I can give you if you have intrusive thoughts is meditating daily and constantly practice Awareness throughout the day. Practicing Awareness meand simply observing your sensory perceptions and your mind and feelings in a detached manner. Realize you are the observer and not the observed phenomena. You are completely free of all of your thoughts if you do not identify with them and simply observe them.
Wishing you all the best 😊❤
I can't begin to tell you how this vlog helped me calm down. My intrusive thoughts have been kicking my ass lately and seeing that i'm not the only one has calmed me down so much. Sending love and light to everyone going through this or any form of anxiety or ocd. We are all better than this and I hope that one day we can all look bk on this years later and see how far we've come
Something I find helpful is realizing that the fact that you’re aware of these thoughts & so paranoid abt them shows that you’re not truly that way . You’re just worried you could be . That’s normal it’s called fear .
I literally watch this video everytime I get an intrusive thought and it does help so much because you help me think more rationally. especially the bit where you say thoughts don't equal reality and just because we think of it doesn't mean it's real. thank you!
I should do that to! Sometimes I say to myself “it’s just an Intrusive thought and not reality” and my intrusive thought responds which makes it worse but I’ll try that method and hopefully it works out
When I was trying to work I would struggle with intrusive thoughts. I researched and found out that it was common which brought me joy but once I tried to calm myself by saying "it's not true" and I would have an intrusive thought and be battling with my own mind all day at work. It got so repetitive that is felt draining to argue with myself all day and have to work in a clothing store during the holidays while already being stressed from the thought. I would literally come home and cry to my mother.
I know and understand what you're going through. It's so exhausting and frustrating. I hope you find peace with your mind and your self.
Angeline Productions It is very exhausting. And then when you try to get disability no one understands but I can't even explain the situation without going over all of the details which is also frustrating because I'm sure everyone with intrusive thoughts could agree that you do not want to tell people what it is that keeps replaying in your head. smh It's like you either have to work through it or be unemployed and broke.
+Angeline Productions thank you!
Jaren C wow sis! Don’t worry Gods got your back, keep pushing through lots of love, I’m proud of you
@@autumxxleaves4186 😍 😍😍😍😍 amen
I’ve struggled with intrusive thoughts for as long as I remember. They hit their peak in the first few weeks after my son was born. It took me 23 years before I broke down and started researching it, and when I learned it’s a common thing my life shifted. I spent literal years questioning if I was a psychopath.
Jessie Smith me too.. i laid awake at night panicking, thinking what if i actually want to do these sick things i keep thinking about. what if i just convinve myself i'm a good person but in reality i'm a twisted psychopath.
Best advice I can give you if you have intrusive thoughts is meditating daily and constantly practice Awareness throughout the day. Practicing Awareness means simply observing your sensory perceptions and your mind and feelings in a detached manner. Realize you are the observer and not the observed phenomena. You are completely free of all of your thoughts if you do not identify with them and simply observe them.
Wishing you all the best 😊❤
SOOOOO many years thinking i had the devil inside of me hahahaha. Sometimes religion can mess you up!
Dannah Rey I believe in god,but I’ve had thoughts about this..do you know what to do?
Struggling with the same thing. Very difficult.
Jennifer Ayala I think understanding that your thoughts are just thoughts and understanding ‘why I am doing that’ is very helpful to me. I haven’t been diagnosed, but I think I have O focused OCD. By understanding that, I tried to not let my mind use itself to conjure fear. Also remember that if Christ is for us, who could stand against us? Also avoid physical triggers... caffeine, nicotine, ect. My anxiety about it got to the point that I started twitching my chest muscle and ear, and not feeding into the urge to twitch helps significantly. Self soothing helps too, outloud telling yourself to relax is helpful.
Omg that sounds like a scary obsession I’m so sorry :( hope you are doing better
Morgan White did u take meds
Today's tip ♡
Like this video.
When your struggling with intrusive thoughts, come watch this again.
It will ground you and remind you that you are normal , and that these thoughts arent reality.
Let them come.dont focus on them. Treat yourself even kinder when you have these thoughts.
So that way your brain knows when they come you will soak your feet , read a book , whatever it is for you that you do to treat yourself.
Then you will find they will happen less often , and thus find peace.
God bless you all.
God bless you too, thank you ❤️
We’re in this together, this comment section truly gave me some peace of mind. Wishing the best for all of you. 🙏🏽🤍
Lord I thank you for showing me this I deal with this almost everyday and sometimes its so bad that I have get on my knees and pray it away its horrible don't get me wrong it will go away but sometimes if something bad happen in my life all of sudden more negative thoughts starting rolling through my mind to destroy my day lord I thank you for sharing this I will def try it!
I have these and just want to cry I know they will get better
It helps to know I’m not alone and that it doesn’t define me as a person. I am a spiritual person and now, when I imagine something bad happening to someone, I pray that it won’t and that instead they will be safe, well, and blessed!
Please pray for me too
I'm a father that has intrusive thoughts.
My intrusive thoughts focus on a sexual nature and I'm so fed up of them I hate it.
Then I keep having doubts if I do hate them. It sucks.
I have ocd and my brain always targets the people I love. I know for a fact I dont enjoy these thoughts and would be a better person if I didn't have them.
Can anyone relate to what I'm going through? It would be nice to know im not alone.. :(
You are not alone man. I have that kind of thoughts from sexual nature as u say. Not only that. I have thoughts about strong reeeeal strong violence, like gore violence. Horrible stuff that doesnt even deserve being mentioned. Needless to say im a pacifist, i hate violence. I know for sure i would never hurt anyone (specially the ones i care about) but like the girl said, dont try to fight them. Just dont pay any attention to them. But more important, dont think u are a bad person bc, tho i dont know u, i know u are not a bad person.
Yeah I have the same thoughts about if I hate my thoughts or not, like questioning if I am really like that, and it bothers me so much
Same your not alone
im 16 and i can relate, im scared i wont be able to live a normal life and have kids. makes me really sad
Your not alone usally my thoughts have something to do about me were i imagine somebody i like starts beating me to death or i have this scenario were a situation would get so bad i would contemplate suicide but don't actually feel depressed or suicidal
my intrusive thoughts get very very graphic and disturbing and just scary so im glad that atleast some people have thoughts like these? it helps to know im maybe not insane like what my mind urges me to think i am.
ur nut I have the same thing. Started like 5 weeks ago. It does get better, but it takes a lot of time. I tried meditation for once. I don’t say it will take the problems away. But it sure gives you a new way to look to the thoughts in general. At first I could not have days without having bad feelings, but now I have some days were I can! :) Stay strong, you’re not alone!
OuterSpaceLies are you taking therapy also, what ways did meds help
Best advice I can give you if you have intrusive thoughts is meditating daily and constantly practice Awareness throughout the day. Practicing Awareness means simply observing your sensory perceptions and your mind and feelings in a detached manner. Realize you are the observer and not the observed phenomena. You are completely free of all of your thoughts if you do not identify with them and simply observe them.
Wishing you all the best 😊❤
I sometimes get terrible disgusting intrusive thoughts about people I know and I used to suppress them by immediately thinking about my crush or something desirable to redirect the energy. What ended up happening is my brain associating my crush, or the good thing, with the intrusive thought, making them inescapable to the point of taking an emotional toll.
I’m 33 had these bad evil thoughts since I was very little like 7 years old. Thought I’d harm myself.... it’s never happened it’s just ocd and a thought and it has no power over me.
Best advice I can give you if you have intrusive thoughts is meditating daily and constantly practice Awareness throughout the day. Practicing Awareness means simply observing your sensory perceptions and your mind and feelings in a detached manner. Realize you are the observer and not the observed phenomena. You are completely free of all of your thoughts if you do not identify with them and simply observe them.
Wishing you all the best 😊❤
Yep. Had em since kindergarten, where I literally wanted to kill all my classmates without any real reason... it’s really weird and annoying. But yeah, they can happen at young ages too
i have intrusive thoughts since a kid , it took my happiness ,i couldn't focus on anything , couldn't have a social life , i still have them but the thing is they dont have the same impact now , because i changed my reaction and perspective about them , i know , it's overwhelming , confusing , make you hate urself and say why me , it's hell . the main thought that helped me is to believe that i can change it , the belief , how could i make it happen , well my mind got used to negative thoughts ? im gonna make it get used to other things , i cant focus ? well ill find a way to do it , then i realised that it's heavily related to self esteem and self love , because if i have a bad thought that makes me feel bad bout myself , its because i dont estemate myself , im discusted while i see my face , but if we learn to love ourselves we would give to our selves breaks ,rethink , do what's best for us , and some thing else , the more u focus on IT , the bigger it will grow , so fill ur time , go outside , help others , make them smile , ull see theres always important , IT comes usualy to good people , cause they care alot , it reflects the oposite of what u want , so smile , ure doing fine........
Yes I can relate so much! I assume it started when I was like 10 years old but then it "stopped" happening to me ,during my adolescence I started to feel that I was a really anxious so that's how I realized that I have an anxiety disorder but more related with social situations ,what I didn't know at the time is that it was all related ,it was all part of my anxiety. In my last year of highschool a bunch of bad things happened to me ,so yeah I was really lonely with no friends and my grandma was dying of cancer ,all that really affected me so I started having intrusive thoughts again but soo strong and I also had a panic attack.I decided to start therapy ,back in 2015 ,to get well again what is funny is that it took time to realize that it was all the same ,I remembered that I had this thoughts when I was little but like then I grew up and forgot about it ,I thought it was nothing . Now I know that basically I suffered this my whole life,it's really confusing living like this I mean in the day I feel ok but when the night comes my anxiety comes as well and I start having these intrusive thoughts ,all I wish is to enjoy again my life and the things I used to do...
Great comment brotha 🙌
Thank you so much
I noticed it stems from self-esteem issues too. Thank you for your insightful post.
I love you for commenting this
Nice one.
I used to struggle with these thoughts. I’d sometimes speak out loud, like ‘no eww!’ and my wife would wonder what I was on about.
Usually they are coming from a toxic feeling or when I’m feeling tense.
But you’re so right when you say just let them float on by.
I used waste so much energy fighting them.
I have bad thoughts that I wish would stop I'm a good person and would never act on them I think of hurting my pets or hurting someone and it makes me feel so bad of myself
Dream Gaming I KNOW RIGHT!
Dream Gaming how did you deal with it
Same here...
Pinky_the xwolf what have u done to help
How long have you dealt with that
thank you so much I've been having aweful thought that make me feel horrible about myself. I've been crying my eyes out and just feel completely disgusted with myself. but I know they're just thoughts and I won't act on them. its just so hard because I feel I like I shouldn't have these thoughts
how are you know same is happening with me
juventino noyola i have the same reaction your not alone.
Same :(
Any updates? It’s been 5 years
I literally have been learning to laugh at these intrusive thoughts that I have been so scared of previously. and I never thought I could finally reach this point. It's irrational thoughts and fears that I would NEVER do which causes me and many others to psych ourselves out creating panic. Its really strange thinking that your mind has a section of its own makeup its just up to you to depict the true thoughts and feelings vs. the self torment in which your mind has learned to hold onto these thoughts, because being a human in society you want to justify everything. BUT! that's the thing you DO NOT!! have to justify a thought because (things that pop up into your head Do not cause a feared action which is the TRUE fear) The TRUE FEAR is that these thoughts will somehow trigger an action to make us something we are not which is why its like a scary movie you create in your mind and your the main character. I feel like many people have learned this anxiety and our minds have almost mimicked that release of the chemical (cortisol) which is the stress chemical that is released every-time these thoughts occur, it triggers that so your brain will replicate that same phenomenon because your trying to figure out why a thought created such an intense feeling, thoughts that release this cortisol will trick the brain and the brain will feel the need to conquer or figure out something. people who smoke cigarettes, marijuana, etc. drink alcohol regularly and or other substance regularly often get anxiety disorders it the name of the game. its like here's what you get for falling into temptation! I do not feel like medications truly fix the problem but only temporarily hide the problem. It is important to keep your mind clear by eating healthy exercising practice being MINDFUL not ( mind=full ) Also its important to realize that these thoughts wont ever truly go away until those thoughts truthfully don't effect you anymore. so instead of freaking out looking for re-assurance, breathe realize that this is a part of your OCD be happy you recognize it and pat yourself on the back because you didn't do the stupid crazy worst case scenario that you keep letting torcher your mind lol . prayer and meditation really helps also because it brings an acceptance and contentness,People with OCD and anxiety need to realize their brains are working on an over drive and it is not fair to your brain and body to work that hard over pointless exhausting thoughts. believe me I have been there and I just want to leave this comment showing that I also have and am continuing to let go of these irrational fears.Read more Show less
your comment is very interesting and helpful, ty for posting. :)
Tyler Cline thank you
Tyler Cline thank you for your message really helped me. I. Felt so guilty I just cry everyday.
This comment helped me so much. Thank you.
Tyler Cline wait so how does one tell the difference between an intrusive random thought from what they truly identify with? Have heard from places that apparently people ik really well who come from decent and caring environments tend to find themselves acquainted or aligned or feeling like their intrusive thoughts? Or happen to agree with some pure evil, weird, messed up, and random thoughts, emotions, and urges that have popped up over the years and they feel so much less psychologically mature and they don’t see everyone else around them and they are scared to watch revenge movies from then on bc they are scared that antagonist may not deserve it or are bothered by worse villains being out there who don’t deserve vengeance, I can’t understand their issue and trying to support them
I knew people that used to have intrusive thoughts, and What helped them decrease (because they are not going to disappear) is to have a plan e.g., when an intrusive thought comes into my mind I will ignore it. I will not try to stop it I will simply ignore it. It does take practice but it really helped them. One day I will start a page to help others Conquer these thoughts! God bless!
My problem is that even before i started getting intrusive thoughts, i loved to think about things and ruminate on ideas and imagine/daydream to get away, so i naturally like to analyse thoughts or ideas, the problem with this is that now i naturally do the same with these intrusive thoughts, and a vivid imagination makes them seem so real, and it feels almost impossible to get away from the mental images/words/thoughts, any suggestions?
DeJect yep same here, it’s been nine months, have you felt better and if so how have you overcame these thoughts?
15 years of intrusive thoughts and mdd 😣
I think that's connected and it's harder to refuse those thoughts when they come in pictures. I understand what u mean
SAME 😱 I am a maladaptive daydreamer and I get obssesive thoughts . This two becomes one and kills me a little everytime
Same! I have a very very detailed visual memory and my intrusive thoughts take advantage of that.
Kati: Don't ignore your intrusive thoughts.
Me: proceeds to neckslap every bald guy standing behind me at an elevator.
😂😂😂
I’m laughing so hard right now 😭😂
😝😆🤪🤪🤪
not to diss your situation but I laughed my ass off at this comment
Haha
My thoughts control my life and I don't know what to do about this anymore.
same bro i’m dying
Same , we can get through it though
Meditate and practice Awareness
@@Tiredbad2002 Meditate and practice Awareness
I had anxiety issues (Still do.) but I have intrusive thoughts almost all the time I could enjoy something ever. Its like there ttying to destroy me inside and out. I recently started taking drugs because of the stress but I've came clean and I'm ready to make a better life, thank you so much. You make me feel better everyday. Truly thanks! From my heart. 😉😁😀
trying*** Sorry.
+Flamez Interfunction God Bless you :)
Flamez Interfunction wait so how does one tell the difference between an intrusive random thought from what they truly identify with? Have heard from places that apparently people ik really well who come from decent and caring environments tend to find themselves acquainted or aligned or feeling like their intrusive thoughts? Or happen to agree with some pure evil, weird, messed up, and random thoughts, emotions, and urges that have popped up over the years and they feel so much less psychologically mature and they don’t see everyone else around them and they are scared to watch revenge movies from then on bc they are scared that antagonist may not deserve it or are bothered by worse villains being out there who don’t deserve vengeance, I can’t understand their issue and trying to support them
How are you know?
I once heard a therapist compare intrusive thoughts to television static, or "snow". She said the thoughts are useless, and should be regarded as nothing more than noise. Do you agree with this?
Intrusive thoughts are just a reflection of that, for our mind and for it's nature, nothing is good or bad. It's we who tag something as good or bad based on social conventions, personal experiences, etc., and we do the same with our thoughts.
I personally don't think intrusive thoughts are useless, I find them useful to contrast my own beliefs.
vio SUPWERdoze wait so how does one tell the difference between an intrusive random thought from what they truly identify with? Have heard from places that apparently people ik really well who come from decent and caring environments tend to find themselves acquainted or aligned or feeling like their intrusive thoughts? Or happen to agree with some pure evil, weird, messed up, and random thoughts, emotions, and urges that have popped up over the years and they feel so much less psychologically mature and they don’t see everyone else around them and they are scared to watch revenge movies from then on bc they are scared that antagonist may not deserve it or are bothered by worse villains being out there who don’t deserve vengeance, I can’t understand their issue and trying to support them
"thoughts don't equal reality" such a simple yet challenging concept to tell my brain when it is on overdrive.
For me it's not compulsions, it's having really scary, vivid images that flash into my mind like of major accidents which is completely terrifying
Best advice I can give you if you have intrusive thoughts is meditating daily and constantly practice Awareness throughout the day. Practicing Awareness means simply observing your sensory perceptions and your mind and feelings in a detached manner. Realize you are the observer and not the observed phenomena. You are completely free of all of your thoughts if you do not identify with them and simply observe them.
Wishing you all the best 😊❤
I spent from 2003-2019 in prison! I was one of those guys who "will never change". It wasn't CBT, but DBT and a great therapist that helped me change my life. I'm now studying CBT so that I can continue in my progression in this society so that I can help others.
How are you doing now?
Me driving: ...
My brain: *DRIVE OFF THE ROAD INTO THAT TREE*
Same
Legit thought this yesterday driving to work
Your videos have helped me realize how deep in my mental illnesses I actually am. It's nearly impossible to be in denial and ignore it when everything you're saying describes me so accurately. I love your manner of speaking, as it's very concise and casual and "non-clinician-y" in the best possible way. You're approachable, easy to connect with, positive in your delivery, and don't make me feel like us mentally ill are a bunch of destitute freaks. I think I've reached a breaking point where I need to get some kind of help. I can safely say at the age of thirty that looking for some kind of quick fix, waiting it out, or convincing myself that the good days mean I'm fine, have not worked for me.
Even the comments on your videos have been so helpful in articulating what it's like to live this way. Every story I read here slaps me in the face with its accuracy. I've been living like this my entire life, and it's good to finally know and finally BELIEVE that I'm not alone. Your videos, Kati, are finally helping me accept that the suffering I've experienced for most of my life is legitimate and that I shouldn't feel like such a failure and a terrible, shameful person for not having accomplished things in life. It makes sense and it's not my fault. I just need to use all the motivation I have within me to get help. Listening to you and reading the comments has given me some hope that I can learn to be kinder to myself and I don't have to suffer alone forever. Thank you. I mean, this is what I believe in this moment. Having lived with mental illnesses for so long and having them be an integral part of who I am, I've lost a great deal of trust in myself and my own judgments. Logic and reason have helped ground me somewhat, but I'm still never really sure if things I say or do are influenced by what I really, truly want and know is right, or by irrational mental illness. You often feel like an unreliable narrator in your own horrific novel, you know? There is also a classic fear of recovery for me, because illness is what I've known for so long and the uncertainty deters me. What will be left of me if my mental illnesses are being managed? Then that line of thinking can trigger an obsessive thought process, and you feel incredibly guilty in taking some kind of comfort in the familiar because of the nightmare that it's caused you and those around you (in this case, the familiar being mental illness, of course). I feel guilty for being ill AND guilty when I have good days, because I then start thinking, "Well, what if I'm not really that sick and I'm just doing this to myself for attention or some other reason?" But faking mental illness is probably also its own mental illness. The endless torment continues.
I'm extremely ill and have been for a long time. It's gotten to the point where it seems like my mental illnesses perfectly complement and enhance the others. They sure make a killer team. It's difficult to distinguish where my anxiety ends and my OCD, depression, borderline, body dysmorphic disorder, and/or complex PTSD begin. The most recent psychological torment I've been experiencing is anxiety with intrusive thoughts that seem to trigger my OCD. Then the intrusive thoughts incorporate themselves into the OCD so that my compulsion is to force myself to think and saturate my mind with the disturbing, intrusive thoughts. The end "goal" is to execute this mind exercise in a specific way. It varies, but for example, there's an intrinsic, nonsensical belief that if I just think this thought accompanied by this image, in the right location "perfectly" or the "right" way, that will somehow make the cycle stop. In actuality, as you would expect, this perpetuates and exacerbates the cycle, and then generates another cycle or branches off into sub cycles. Does this make sense or sound familiar to anyone?
Sorry this comment was so rambly. If someone can relate to anything I've said, please let me know. I wish everyone watching these videos well. NO ONE deserves to live with this persistent psychological torture.
Perfumaphilia i can relate not all the way but exiety has taken control deffentally for me it started when i was a kid my mom would get phone calls all the time that i won't get out of the bathroom and on top of things i had a learning disability got teased for that depression exiety attacks at had one the road almost got in an accident when iwas younger i thought something was trying to force me say something i didnt was say i have these evil thoughts in my head sometimes cant get them out so i burn the images in my mind to get rid of them or i think of an angel that helped and then what shes talking about when they just come and im always thinking something bads gonna happen i feel like my thinking process is so 😈 i appreciate had u have got to express and tell what ur going through to help other people cause u have helped me i know this was a year ago but i hope u doing ok and and have god in ur life
Something that has really helped me is asking in my head "Is this useful?" whenever have a negative or intrusive thought.
I slowly forget about whatever they were after that and focus on something else. I saw it in another video and it really helps, it was such a relief.
I wanna cry, the way you told the viewers the things is very kindly, thank you. I will try it.
my first intrusive thought that ever came into my life, i responded with a massive panic attack. but with self-awareness, we can really see the flaws of intrusive thinking, and let it go.
I had intrusive thoughts, one way of differentiating between your thoughts and intrusive thoughts is that intrusive thoughts scare you. People who general WANT to do these thoughts are not afraid of them, in fact they take pleasure in them and cultivate them. Intrusive thoughts are a slap in face, causing fear and adrenaline rushes not something we cultivated or take pleasure in. I hope that helps someone. It isn't you, unfortunately our bodies response...fear makes it worse. Antidepressants help, it helps the relieve the adrenaline rushes from the fear, once the fear response diminishes the intrusive thoughts aren't as powerful.
Tysm 💙
If i ever have my intrusive thoughts run a fade on me again, im just diving back to this comment section. You all made me feel very normal and comforted ❤️ it IS a normal process and don’t feel ashamed since they aren’t reality. Quarantine makes it hard to focus on anything else because we do the same thing every day, so i feel you.
This all started during quarantine I’ve never ever had these thoughts and all of a sudden I woke up one day like this and I hate it.
Yeah quarantine messed up a lot of mental health but it’s okay you’re not alone. Any updates ???
im gonna break down into tears ... these stupid thoughts keep me awake and suffocate me all day when i have them, today is unfortunately one of those days. and if you’re here then you’re just like me. and i don’t want you to be alone. i’m looking to start maybe a virtual group therapy session for those of us who suffer from intrusive thoughts so we can build a small community where we validate and take care of each other. if you’re interested, reply and let me know. take care, and remember to drink water ! :)
That sounds really great! I've struggle a lot with intrusive thoughts and never have a support system to go to and talk about it:)
I've been having these thoughts since January. They are so fucking annoying and terrifying. I've had panic attacks because of them and I'm not someone who usually has anxiety. I've had panic attacks at work, home, while driving, etc. I hate it. My girlfriend went to a farmhouse last month and that same weekend she was leaving (two days before), I was panicking over the thought of her leaving. I don't normally panic over small stuff like that. These thoughts are horrible. I hate having them. I spoke to a friend about it and I've considered talking to a therapist about it. These thoughts have kept me awake before. It's to the point I go to work and listen to music while working to avoid having panic attacks (thoughts happen a lot there). It's affecting my life. I found these videos a couple weeks ago and ever since then, I've been reading stuff on the thoughts and I feel a lot better but the thoughts are still there. No one I know in person other than my buddy knows I'm going through this. I'd love to be able to get rid of these thoughts and start living my life again like I used to. I've always been a happy and calm/relaxed person but these thoughts completely changed that. I'm trying to get rid of them completely but it is not working so far. It's terrible. Not a fun thing, that's for sure.
Where is the group and what is it called
This really made me think about my response to my intrusive thoughts and anxiety. I'm very much a person who analyses things and maybe slightly too much in some cases and maybe that's the issue here. Maybe by analysing these thoughts it's just causing more harm. Great video!👍
I swear, so much of my intrusive thoughts i'm too scared to share with anyone, even a therapist, it's really hard, cause my intrusive thoughts are really, REALLY fucked up, scrolling down a bit i've had quite a bit of the same thoughts others have mentioned, but also stuff far worse than what's in the comments, things that are so intense, and horrible, and it's scary, you know what makes it more scary? fun fact, intrusive thoughts can also cause 'fake emotions/urges' as i call them, where for a moment you think you have an urge to act on the thought, which fuels the anxiety, and disgust, and pit in your stomach, but only in calming down, and reanalyzing you'll realize you actually have no intention to act on those thoughts, but their more like "what if" fears your mind is having, or at least i find that's my case, especially given my greatest fear is becoming a monster, or the very things i hate and condemn, especially morally, it's like my mind torments me with hypothetical thoughts/imagined situations of if i became those things, as if my mind is being hyper vigilant against itself in fear of becoming those things when in reality knowing myself, i would never become the things my intrusive thoughts make me think, i'm a very moral person, so having these thoughts makes my mind overreact in anxiety and dwell on them more, then the fears come in worrying if i am those thoughts, and so on, it's. hell.
this comments exactly describes my experience with those intrusive thoughts. I fear that if I let them go, I'm gonna act on them (and I actually see myself doing it in my head) 😟
This is exactly how i feel it is horrible and i feel a big rock in the pit of my stomach thinking if i let go of these thoughts what if i act on them.... but deep down i know I never would... but its the fear of thinking what i am capable of... its like the very things you hate the most your mind makes you think that is who you are just because its what you hate the most.
@@freedomartsandcrafts7965 I understand completely, even lately i've been having a surge of intrusive thoughts, it also feels like whatever intrusive thought bothers you most right now, your mind will produce an abundance of, it's almost like the theme of my intrusive thoughts changes depending on which type i focus on freaking out about, then my mind goes "oh? that's bothering you the most right now? here let me give you a truck full of that"
@@akira1086 yeah and for some reason I only focus on that particular thing but not other things that bother me i don't understand my mind and why I focus particularly on that but I do. I feel like im fucked up and that im going crazy
@@luciletepeeu3076 Sometimes i tend to be able to snap myself out of that if i can get myself to calm down, i can realize that that fake urge or emotions behind those intrusive thoughts, aren't actually a reflection of what i want to do, or who i am, but vividly imagined hypothetical situations of my fears coming true. What scares me more right now is opening up to people about the contents of my intrusive thoughts and worrying they'll think it's a reflection of me, and not understand that it's the opposite, it's a reflection of what i never want to do or become.
This is one of my TOP 3 favorite videos of yours. I have OCD (intrusive thoughts), BPD, anxiety & mild depression. Your videos really help me. It's very hard for me to find a psychologist who is very knowledgeable about a lot of different health issues & with whom I can "really" connect. You're it! God bless you for sharing your videos on RUclips and helping so many people like myself who struggle with mental health issues for free.
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I think my mom has these thoughts all the time. Every little thing that happens, to her or anyone else, she interprets as the end of the world. If she forgets an ingredient in a recipe, dishes are smashed and she calls herself a "piece of shit." Little mistakes equate to catastrophe in her mind. I don't always know what is bothering her, but I can tell she is constantly dwelling on something terrible, real or otherwise. It, honestly, is extremely painful to be around her. I love my mother. I just don't know how to help her.
@alaina im no expert but i would say its depression she has. when people are depressed they take things very hard on themself. when people get depressed or anxiety they can be impatient she should go to a doctor and i bet antidepressants would help her and maybe therapy. sometimes you have to try multiple antidepressants to find the one that works for you. my mom has been hard on herself and its depression for her. but once she takes her medication she is fine. so the brain can haunt you and act all weird on you when brain chemicals like seratonin are not balanced
Same
This makes me feel a lot better. My anxiety has been so bad that coupled with having intrusive thoughts makes me go into a total freak out mood where everything feels like it's falling apart to the point where I get sick to my stomach and even throw up. :/
Thank you god for this video. I had an absolute terrible thought and dwelled and dwelled on it, beating myself up over. I jumped out of bed having an anxiety attack over a thought that I would never act on EVER. I just needed to hear that it’s just a thought and let it go. Your voice calmed me down and thinking clearly. This is literally my first awful thought like this and I couldn’t let it go all day. Thinking why would I ever think of something this awful. If you come across my comment, your not alone. Shake it off, it’s just a thought nothing is going to happen. Breathe and listen to her soothing voice even if you have to watch this video 100 times.
I’m here because I started suffering. I’ll look for help. Thank you.
My intrusive thought is that i'm not real and I'm living in some kind of dream. to feel less worried I tap objects to make sure they're real, if I think I've forgotten to tap something I start to panic.
Katherine Guy have you gotten over this? I deal with this a lot and don’t know how to deal with it
You both need to stop tapping and think about how its not real. Its a THOUGHT. In your HEAD. How small is that compared to the whole universe. Honestly, its kind of self centered. And im saying this because Ive had that kind of ocd thought too.
I used to feel like if the people around me didn't hear or notice me that I would disappear or be invisible and no one would be able to see or speak to me ever again
I have OCD and I’ve had a terrible intrusive thought for about a month now that I can’t stop thinking about. It’s taking over my life and I just want to sleep. Also, I can’t write down my intrusive thoughts because it validates them and then I feel worse. I don’t know what to do.
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What if you lit the paper on fire?
Try talking to one of your family members like your mom and dad.
sometimes suicide will pop in to my brain. I love the state of my life in in right now. I'm happy. these type of thoughts are so random but I'm glad to know I'm not alone.
I tried to suppress those thoughts but they only got worse
Dont suppress instead acknowledge then distract yourself.
Stupendous Jia is it Good to watch other or do other things or just do nothing?
I swear I thought it was just me, now I find humor in knowing, that I’m not the only, fugged up human in this universe, hell we all are. 🤦🏽♂️
Nina Ross Sid Dali wait so how does one tell the difference between an intrusive random thought from what they truly identify with? Have heard from places that apparently people tend to find themselves acquainted or aligned or feeling like their intrusive thoughts are what they are or their reality and start to feel like them?
@@Seasonal-Shadow_4674 i guess that when its with intrusive thoughts you feel disgusted and urge them out
I teach people to not take ownership of these thoughts and in passing them off to fill the void with something good instead. Reaffirming goodness which in turn brings peace and joy and even love into being on the inside which becomes a fountain, so to speak one now becomes a fountain of life unto others. Oh! That frog budda is a crack up! LOL
Jack Pullen can we talk I’m having trouble with mine
Jack Pullen what kind of things can I tell myself
Some of our best advice comes out of scripture, think on things that are good and also they say we have been made for fitting into a good life not so much just for ourselves but really for all those around us. This is what Katie is doing 24-7 with videos. Most people feel gratification when they think they have done something good and then feel good in their own Spirit. It only works for those who believe it just might work, which is faith in one's self. I didn't preach because this is a principal that's for all of life. Also, if you work on these things you are to busy to dwell on negative junk! One great truth is that you care enough to want to rid your self of these thoughts, so just say I refuse to take ownership of them!
I realized that it’s because we operate on anxiety, we expect things to go wrong and we fight it but it persists, instead of operating on appreciation, faith and hope, believing that good things will happen, that what you want will happen and seeing that in your mind, “focus on where you want to go, not on what you fear” - Tony Robbins, “stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being excited about what could go right” - Unknown
I was having an anxiety attack and I started searching on RUclips and I found this video and it was Kati so I knew it would be good and it actually was exactly what I was dealing with and this video grounded me and helped me stay calm during a really tough time. Thank you so much for this content, it means so much to me that you would do this.
Thank you so much I thought I was the only one having these thoughts I felt like a horrible person but I know now I’m gonna be ok
This video made me feel a lot better- I’ve been having intrusive thoughts since I was 13, and I’m nearly 17 now. When I was younger, they were really bad, but as I’ve gotten older, they’ve just came and gone in cycles (if that makes sense.) They’ve gotten better as I’ve gotten older, but probably once or twice a year I’ll have a really, really bad episode.
What I do when I get bad thoughts is say that “this is just a thought,” and that always seems to help. I’m a lot better now, but when I was younger I was convinced that I was a horrible person and that needed to go to prison before I lost control and hurt someone.
I am watching this in 2021 and I am so grateful to you Kati and to all those who have commented (3.5k). It is really helpful to know it's not just me and that so many of you have been brave and shared your thoughts and feelings on this distressing subject. Sending love out to you all 💖
the thoughts are annoying but the emotions and the amount of energy it consumes are the problems. On a bad day, I can't even focus since one thought comes after the other.
I’m so glad that I’m not the only one who struggles with this.
i always come here when i get intrusive thoughts and it really calms me down
@Mikey Boi i heard it goes away with time for for most people.
@Mikey Boi it varies. It takes months for some people and maybe even years for others. You just have to acknowledge that you are not your thoughts and you aren't a bad person for your thoughts and it'll start going away