Never Become Financially Dependent On A Man
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- Опубликовано: 6 фев 2025
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Who was warned about this but didn’t listen and learned the hard way?
Me. My mom warned me. 6 years ago I didn't listen. Had myself later evicted with myself n child. Had to move to a motel and fix my rental credit. While that man had gotten an apt because he had money I didn't and couldn't move right away because the eviction hit my rental credit. Never again. Mother didn't rub it in but she said it is a learning lesson. I miss her...
My mom & grandma tried to warn me before I moved to another city for a man last year. The only thing that saved me was that I’m an LVN/LPN & was able to make some fast money to get my own apartment. It was nothing but God for me to get away from him because I got approved the same day I applied for the apartment & was able to move into the place shortly after the approval.
A wise woman once said " never allow what a man brings to the table be all u have to eat"
This is why women should ignore that crap Ebony K Williams was saying recently.
Money before men.
I watched a mother of 8 struggle after her spouse died. I am definitely going to make a plan.
The alimony thing always makes me giggle because that doesn't exist in my country 😂 my mom was with my dad for 21 years and didn't work for that long, he droppef her like a hot potato as soon a ye found a high paying job!! she doesn't have a degree and she's 54!!
This the truth!! I set myself back 10 years messing around! As soon as they know your dependent the bad treatment starts
You're which means you are.
This is the problem.... for me, I couldn't handle the bad treatment
I couldnt.we move now 6 month.the disrespect stard Last week. I book my fly ticket to go back to Berlin 20of february. I dont spend years in abuse...we are in the process to get married...we will continue in distance. Cause i cant work in uk yet...but i cant take direspect or give à man wife benefit for free. You paid me and respect me.
I hope you are doing well
Some man confessed how he sold his business and relocated to another country and then told the courts that he lost all the money and so could not pay alimony.
I learned this from an older nurse. I witnessed what he did to her. He cashed in their investments before hand, put properties in family member’s names and relinquished his military retirement for disability (the rules on the benefits have changed now). She was left with three children and a home she had to scramble to figure out how to recover and pay. She’s Muslim; therefore, (fortunately for her) she lived in an area where they were extremely supportive. He left her with the home and mortgage, with no furniture. She recovered amazingly and is remarried to a very supportive husband. This was so eye-opening to me.
As usual she speaking facts the legal system definitely didn't care that I was abused that I quit my job to stay home and raise my three kids when he decided to dip I was the one that was reprimanded by the judge she acted like I was lazy and didn't want to do anything with my life. And now my son is 24 and I'm still owed over $30,000 in back child support.
Thank you for being so candid about this subject. I see countless tiktoks of women who will encourage others to be open to going overseas or outside their state to find love, but there's so much risk in doing that. We as women must ALWAYS have a backup plan because men can always switch up on you. You can hope for the best, but you must be prepared for the worst.
I have a joint account with my best friend. It’s a secret account that will never be revealed to any man. Unfortunately many people don’t have someone they can trust that much. I hope women can find at least one person they can do this with, as it makes me feel secure.
The legal system does not like disabled people! It doesn’t give a single FUQ if a man vowed to provide for you, then made you MORE sick & disabled via their mistreatment, before leaving you destitute & alone.
I’m so glad I found your TikTok (and some of your colleagues) during my marriage. Y’all helped me wake up to the ab*se I was enduring, all because he was “providing a roof.” Little did I know at that time he’d already stopped paying rent & was handing that money to another woman. Now I’m homeless going through a divorce.
I swear, everybody thinks they know the legal system. And yet are dead ass wrong 😅 saying "your the mom you'll get full custody you'll get everything or even half...NOPE!! They dont care! your so right!!❤
Nothing but facts!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I wanted to settle and let him keep all of the marital assets. He kept coming up with senseless dumb claims to keep me paying attorneys fees! I paid a ridiculous amount of money because the court system is about making money. $300 an hour for an attorney!! In the end he kept all the marital assets... the legal system is not a good option in my opinion... please listen to her! She knows what she is talking about!
Not one lie told.
I learned this the hard way.
Never again tho.
My friend had 2 kids with a man earning 6 figures who promised her the world. He cheated they broke up and she ended up in a homeless shelter with her two babies. She finally went to get child support after feeling 'guilty' about it. She gets only a few hundred a month in support due to him having other children and his salary decrease since he's out on work disability. Always be smart and plan your finances independently.
Love your videos you are helping woman
Joules u r a GEM 💎! Glad to see u and others whose channels I watch school women and young girls. I remember years ago(I'll be 64 on Friday the 13th) when I was a teenager, my mom would listen to 1010 WINS a radio news channel. There was this commercial that would air, advertising an insurance company and talking about financial freedom for women. The commercial started with a woman's voice quoting another woman who said: Every woman should have a purse of her own! I've never forgotten that and my mom told me to always have ur own!!! I stop depending on men long ago! Right now I'm preparing for a gray divorce but it's fine! I act my age not my shoe 👠 size, can't say that for the sorry POS I'm divorcing!!!! I've been where u were Joules, just going through it in NYC! Keep the gems coming Joules!!!! Luv ya girl!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️
Years ago I thought about being a SAHM and I quickly came to my senses. “Hake Naw.”
Not going to lie auntie, this video hits hard. Recently got married. I feel like I’m getting things I actually want, he’s about to move me into a great luxury apartment in the city… I feel happy BUT now I’m just thinking, I don’t have kids he doesn’t either…. It makes me wanna start saving money on the side he knows nothing about 😫😫😫😫
It’s just smart financially to hope for the best but plan for the worst. Even if he is “wonderful…” Wonderful people lose thier jobs. Wonderful people become ill. Wonderful people pass away. Wonderful people make bad decisions that make them not so wonder anymore because wonderful people are just people at the end of the day.
I learned the hard way to never depend on a man. Always have money saved and do not tell the man about your savings. Also, make sure you are working. So, everything you stated in this vlog I agree.💚
God showed me this for a reason. I hope it never happens and I don’t know why This came to me when I’m happy and married to the greatest husband but again, God may see something in my future that I can’t see so now I will be prepare just in case. Thank you God and Joules.
It’s just smart financially to hope for the best but plan for the worst. Even if he is “wonderful…” Wonderful people lose thier jobs. Wonderful people become ill. Wonderful people pass away. Wonderful people make bad decisions that make them not so wonder anymore because wonderful people are just people at the end of the day.
Just want to say I am loving your braids. Very pretty.
Thank you! My daughter did them😊
❤ I love you keep it up. My Mom was married to my Dad and and worked and taught me to work. Ppl always disrespect women that take care of themselves that's just stupid. I love watching you.
As always, you hit the target spot on Sis. Keep dropping jewels for us youngins. ✨💕
I've learned something new about the legal system and how they view women. Thanks for sharing your knowledge, Joules! I also appreciate some of the comments below. Striving to have my own, not depend on someone else.💯
Listen.
Girl, I love your attitude, keep up the great job girl👏👏👏😍👍
That part🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻✨✨💗
Your braids look pretty on you.
You are so right.
Thank you Ms. Joules for this message 8:56
AMEN,Sista!
I appreciate your videos. Greetings from Brazil. ❤
Thanks for watching!
I would have loved this advice from my family (particularly mom & dad) in my early 20's before my 'traditional' marriage & kids. This is too real 🙏 thanks!
This is divine confirmation and guidance being shared through, Joules! Thank you so much! It came right on time.
FACTS
Haha i have an actual law degree! My ex tried to persuade me to drop law school and my jobs "ill pay". I dropped him instead!
Great advice ❤
True that's why men who always lured I asked myself these questions and always told them once I finally got stable I will until then wait because they were like I will send you ticket and stuff I will meet your parents etc etc no I mean no why would I, and traumatic childhood made me get maturity at really young age as kid that no you have to be standing for yourself and take calculative measures
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I love you, you're a treasure.
Love the braids ❤❤❤❤❤
Ive tried to tell women who are dependent like tht on why its not a good idea...Well in called a hater and mad tht I have to work lol
2:35 !!! 💯💯💯🖤🖤🖤
Agreed.
Lovely nails
Shes right.. look at pumpkin and cindy viral sugar baby who got pregnant... he kicked her out and probably didn't want a kid
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