The only advice she needs is how to get away from him tbh. This is all textbook abusive behaviour - cutting her off from social support, controlling where she goes & who she meets, constantly accusing her of things she doesn't do, no regard for her privacy or her needs. And then crying/begging when she does try to leave. It's terrifying. Maybe he can change but she doesn't need to be the one to stay and fix him. Run.
I totally agree, this is straight up abusive behaviour :/ I feel so bad for the girl, if she has considered splitting up already she should do it. That kinda guy isn't good for anyone.
I completely agree! I took peer counseling as a class and learned about abusive relationships. They gave us a paper that had a cycle of what a typical abusive relationship is. He is doing exactly what was said on the cycle. Cut the lady away from her friends and family, controlling her and mentally or physically abusing her, say you're sorry by saying you love her, and then the cycle repeats.
And leave him ? He might go crazy and do stupid things... and is he going to be alone forever ? Idk... there's too much to think and too we don't know about...🤔
This show should have a doctor or a lawyer to help the guests. Someone who specializes on human behavior or health. These issues would not be fixed by a bunch of entertainers and comedians only.
Dee Armieee but this isn’t doctor Phil, I think the main point is to get advice from normal people and large numbers to see how wrong it is and the idols are literally idols so what they say really affects you bc you idolise them. If they had actual problems that needed help they would go to a therapist or dr Phil but that’s in America
This isn’t funny. She’s in a toxic relationship and they’re all just playing it off just because he’s handsome. Theres a fine line between being protective and controlling.
"they're all just playing it off because he's handsome" i swear sometimes I think the world I'm living in is a simulation because of how many likes you people get and how many of you idiots there are. They made ONE joke. ONE about his looks. You clearly weren't paying attention because throughout this video they were taking the matter very seriously... People like you just do not have any critical thinking skills.
Okay, you're telling me...he's unemployed, overprotective, inconsiderate, has the relationship skills of a 15 year old, and obsessive? Why is she married to him? She literally is so sweet and is very hard working. She needs someone that actually gets things done and trusts her. I bet he pressured her to marry him to if it was only after 6 months of dating.
in korea people value beauty over everything else. as one of the people in the video pointed out, a lot of women were probably mad before they saw him after hearing how he treated his wife, then they saw him and were like suddenly more accepting of it. they are blinded to the emotional abuse because of his good looks.
@@libbym3899 I don't think he is, people with obsessions like his usually wouldn't dip their toes in another pond. His world is her and it's pretty disturbing honestly... dude is seriously bent and needs some help. She needs to get away from him before she needs help too.
@@BIackCadillac A lot of people get jealous and paranoid because they're afraid their partner will do what they are already doing. If he can cheat, then that mean she has the ability to as well; and that thought drives them mad.
After she mentioned that she immigrated from China and is here alone, I'm even more worried for her. It's easy for her husband to abuse her, because she's isolated. She can't easily ask family and friends for help, and she may not know very well how to ask for help from the authorities if he does something creepier or violent, because the laws may be different than in China. Maybe her immigration status grants here fewer rights than Korean citizens. He might have picked her to be his wife exactly because she's more vulnerable than most Korean girls.
I honestly don’t care what he looks like, I just think all these things aren’t actually that bad. He’s a newly wed who was in past relationships where women lied and used him. If other guys did the same thing but in a way where they portrayed it as romantic then everyone would think they were romantic. It depends on what context the video is in.
This show always made me upset because they would always be passive with the people who really needed advice. One episode a child was truly having mental health issues because of her mom. Ofc they made it seem like the daughter was lacking. I felt sorry for the child because she came on the show for help...
Nothing productive happens in this show. Everyone comes here and leaves with a half-hearted promise, which i am sure not gonna be fulfilled. This one should be taken to police or something. This is not the right place.
I get the feeling that this goes way deeper than this show is portraying it. The way she recoiled just to avoid being touched by another man but instantly looked comfortable sat between two women had my alarm bells ringing, it isn't a natural way to behave and honestly im not surprised. There's something about her husband that looks so unsettling to me, even if I didn't know what his personality was like i'd still avoid this guy, he just makes me so uncomfortable.
Rebecca Young I agree. Something is really off about him. He's someone you don't wanna bump into on the street. I don't know how to explain the vibes he's giving, but they are not good vibes.
Agreed, he shown a sign of a psychopath, he doesn't show any emotion on his face and tend to agree with the advice just for the sake of seen being agreed with the counselors
I really feel for some of the people that submit their concerns on "Hello Counselor." These are real issues that need to be addressed by legit counselors and specialists. A show hosted by comedians and entertainers is not going to solve these deep issues.
Darnita Howard you are right. but some people don't have the money to go to a real counselor. moreover, sharing your problem and hearing other people opinion helps too. especially when you tell your problem to so many people (in a TV show) afterwards it's almost impossible not to change because so many people know about your problem.
@discodigaara I can totally see your point on that. I can agree and also know that a one-time appearance on a show isn't going to resolve those defined habits that must be worked over time. It may open the doors to more discussion and seeking of help. I think the show helps for some of the issues that may not be long held. But when it comes to compulsive behaviors, just having an audience to know you have issues isn't going to resolve replacing those behaviors to healthier ones. I think the show should consider at least having one professional sit on the panel
Nowadays, they invited real counselors.. And well at least from this show, if anything ever happened to the confessor, they're already known to public, and people may recognize them, and help them in the future.. There are always good people around us who are willing to help..
Yes. This is what I was thinking. I don't remember what episode or anything but I do remember watching one a while ago where someone was consuming something that was very unhealthy, so the Hello Counselor team sent them to get a checkup by an actual doctor to show them what they were doing to their body. I don't care if this is a real couple with a problem or actors with a script, either way they're on a TV show that's supposed to be helping people. Even if these people are actors, this is something that happens in real life. If it's not scripted they should have had them consult real psychologists. If it is scripted, they should have either still had a real psychologist analyze the situation and have them come on the show, or at least they should've done a little research on the matter. They shouldn't be putting this on tv to make it seem like this is a normal behavior. I started watching this episode several months ago and it made me so mad I had to stop watching it before it ended. And now several months later I came back to try to finish it and it made me livid again.
This looks like one of those bad relationships from a webtoon that people think is really cute at first because «awwe he’s broken and handsome» but then they realise its really unhealthy
his gaze was blank, and he had no expression at all make me cringe the way he looks at people, talks to people, and other, he just look like Richard Ramirez🤐😨
the husband is manipulative and mentally abusive. the wife needs to either seek professional help for him or leave him and get a restraining order. this is really serious and made me really sad for her.
EXO-L for life yeah it seems like something he would do. I feel the same and scared for her. She should cut all ties off with him and get a restraining order. Her best bet would probably be to go back to China so that she can be as far away from him as possible.
They seem to forgive him too much because of his appearance and his claims of loving his wife. If he truly loved her, he wouldn't be doing what he's been doing. He attached to her and it seems like he needs her more than she needs him. He's very emotionally manipulative and abusive, someone needs to help her out because all of her possible escapes have been blocked by this madman
Watching these older episodes stresses me out because is this girl even ok now? His body language throughout the entire episode, side-eyeing everyone, talking through basically clenched teeth, tongue in cheek showing annoyance, etc. It all screams that he was furious with her for making him come on TV and talk about him being emotional abusive towards her. I honestly hope that she left him because who knows what he might've done to her further down the line.
For people who keep saying that she needs to leave him, it’s not that easy to just get up and walk away from an abusive relationship/partner. A few things could happen if she decided to just leave/or try to: -He could make her feel guilty and win her back because she might love him too much to understand that the relationship isn’t right -He is abusing her physically, and threatening her that if she leaves he would do things to her etc. -He won’t leave her alone even if things end, like the stalking will continue. She’s married to him so filing for divorce is a long process and you never know what will happen during that time. These are a few things that are important to note when it comes to an abusive relationship. So no, it’s never easy to leave one. You have to take it into her perspective too, she scared of saying the truth about everything. She seemed nervous about being around guys and she flinched too. His face and expression shows that if she said anything he would clearly beat her or hurt her. His expression was so cold too, no emotion, just nothing. She looked scared by this. Hopefully she’s doing okay now but with these circumstances and how everything looked like during the questioning, she doesn’t seem safe. She needs help from law enforcement or family, anyone really. She could get seriously hurt, mentally and physically. On another note he seems like a serial killer. He’s possessive with her and is binding her to him. He shows no emotion and he seems dull. Also in the beginning when she was helped off the slide he gave her the “You better not cross that line” face. Like if she even touched or went near another guy she would be killed. That is very very concerning. I would like an update but it’s been a few years so now I’m even more worried.
WRONG!!! The husband is suspicious and insecure of the wife cheating because he is cheating / cheated on her so he lacks the respect for himself and her because of his decisions. he's taking his insecurities out on her.
This guy needs professional help, he is kind of psycho. And it's written all over his face that he doesn't want to change, not at all. He just said it for the show. There is something seriously scary in this guy! The girl should have run away from him when she first find out his real persona. He will surely use their baby to attach her more to himself and imprison her. This case is much more serious than how they handle it. I wish all the best for the girl and her baby! :(
The husband's obsession is scary. He looks like the type that would go overboard and kill her and himself in a fit of jealousy. She is also pointing out some embarrassing things abut him and I feel like something terrible is going to happen with them.
She would obviously be so much better off without him, but I feel like if she broke it off with him, he would stalk her and do whatever else. I doubt he has the capacity to make her life better with an obsessive behaviour like that.
Mi W That's what I was thinking the entire time like why would you be so obsessed with your wife who made the commitment to stay with you for the rest of her life. if she loved you enough to marry you, then let her live her life!!! 😠😠😠😠😤😤😤😡😡😡
Marie Matthews He def needs to seek help. I hope things are ok after the airing. His pride was probably hurt a lot on this show and I know some Koreans really take the honor thing seriously which seems to result in suicides.
they do have the possibility to make money on this show and do earn some just starring anyway... idk if they also did that (exaggerated) to 1st earn money and 2nd maybe give him some airing bc he looks good and could be casted for something? like some other guests of the show... i really hope for them that this is the case!
I had a boyfriend who was just like the husband... He became abusive in the end. She really should leave while she can. Possessiveness and manipulation through fear is not Love. She deserves better than that toxic man.
I think the level of possessiveness this guy has means the relationship is already abusive. People, if your significant other ever tries to control you like this, run!
Honestly, the only thought that comes to mind is I fear for her. Monitoring, obsession, cutting her off from her friends, if she stays with him, for all we know he could start becoming violent and abusive. Seriously, fellow WOMEN, listen up. Never marry a man who still plays video games, unemployed (not even trying to get a job, I mean) and is obsessive. If he can't trust you then don't trust him. It's as simple as that. Don't fall for lines like, "because you're so gorgeous I'm scared another man will snatch you up." or "I love you so much I don't want to lose you or you to leave me, I'll die without you." It's called guilt tripping. Never fall for it. It may seem innocent enough, and sweet enough at first but it becomes scarier, more dangerous, and suffocating as time goes on. Most of the time it ends in abuse. Steer clear from these types of men, ladies.
FIRE deLIGHT Of course I agree with your comment, men like this suffer from low self esteem and there are so many better men out there, but why do you think playing video games is bad, it's just a hobby like some others, as long as he is not an addict (I might've misinterpretated your comment, if so I am sorry)
In defense of this poor girl, when she married him he had a job, he was laid off a couple months after they got married. Also her husband probably played it cool, rushed the relationship (they mentioned he proposed after only 6 months and they got married in a courthouse to lock her down asap), then he list his chill and started monitoring her every move and constantly putting her on the defensive by accusing her of cheating. It's not something that can be easily identified if they're being deceitful. I don't think using a specific hobby like video games or even being jobless as a symptom of an emotionally abusive relationship is accurate, you can be lazy af and not be abusive. It's lack of self control, insecurities, selfishness and hypocrisy combined that makes a big red flag. But if someone hides their temper and controlling nature until they feel you're invested in the relationship enough it's hard to spot. I've been in that situation and the relationship was rushed, even though I wasn't ready or interested the relationship became serious before i knew it because he was so manipulative. The smart ones are scarier lol
at first he'll spy on u, deleting everything, the next thing u know he started hit you, the at the end he's gonna kill u. RUN GIRL, U BETTER RUN FAR AWAY FROM THAT GUY.
Bruh dont think for one second this wont happen Ive seen it first hand... My mom she left him after years of physical abuse and she wouldnt take him back (he called every hour and got obsessed over her) One day after work he tried to run her over and tried other harmful things i mean to this day he does something once in a while and he manipulates people to thinking he was the victim
liz liz sorry to hear about your mom situation, you should have a restraining order. TRO, hope the pulis can do something i have watch something like this. The girl got really obsessed with her fiancé but the guy got so fed up, he broke the engagement, and after that met some nice girl, the girl got mad, started to get revenge but threatening his friends, family and neighbors, and made pulis calls, that the guy abuse her. But in the end, the guy cleared his name, it was on the news back then. Hope your mom is okay.
bts are fatties how could you tell, some of the most wanted killers are really handsome and model material, check the top ten most handsome killers and what they did, they could be your friend, your neighbor, colleague or ex, you could never tell what goes on people mind and how one minute they would explode, i have friends who are psychiatrist they cant tell what the guy thinking without hearing his thiughts, if he is just sick mentality
As a black woman watching this I actually had to pause the video cuz I got so damn mad lmao. Like...sigh...I feel to smack both of them for some reason.
Not really why should another man help her out why couldn’t a female help her instead. There’s nothing wrong with that. I wouldn’t want another women touching my man. People who disagree are the ones who end up getting cheated and not looking out for obvious signs like when another women is being too friendly with their man. I know he was just helping her out and at the time I probably wouldn’t even give it a thought but still
That's exactly what I was thinking. Usually when someone is so suspicious of their partner like that with no reason it's because they are doing it themselves.
yea, and I became especially suspicious when he was so concerned about "her safety", but was able to leave her alone for hours while he went out to "play games". It makes me think that he was out with another woman lol
Minboo YES lol he really wasn't making much sense towards the end there and it just sounded like he was lying. Like how long can you play with a claw machine LOL he's a mess but he is very attractive so I wouldn't be surprised if he was a playboy
It's crazy how this show takes such a real issue and turns it into something so cartoonish. I feel like I'm watching a My Little Pony version of Maury it's so ridiculous and outlandish. Like she's talking about how abusive he is and then pastel pink bubbly letters will come up and say "oh no!" or something. And then after reading that letter they made her slide down in the neon flashing slide into a ball pool. Like what is this???
Well that's Korean shows for you. If you watch a lot of korean shows you'll notice that most, if not every korean show will have these cartoon effects, no matter how serious the issue is.
I hate how the hosts try to justify things for him?? Like this is emotional abuse it's insane this isn't entertainment it's a serious issue they should deal with more professionally
Smol Hoseokie I know what you mean. I am so mad that the hosts are making light of the situation, and not telling her what she needs to hear. I don't know if abuse in America is seen differently than abuse in relationships in South Korea, but I feel anybody can see where he is behavior it's going to lead to in the future, and there is nothing funny about it. It's really dangerous for her.
Smol Hoseokie ugh ikr that's exactly what I was thinking this case doesn't fit the show at all...its way too serious to make jokes about it...they should've just got a woman who complained about her husbands eating habits or something
Going into a situation with a non biased perspective is dealing with it professionally. Both sides of the story need to be heard and questions/speculations in a non accusatory manner are helpful to get the most information out of both. If neither person feels as though they are being attacked immediately then things will happen a lot more smoothly further on down the line. As well as in situations like this; provoking the person who is "in the wrong" may be a horrible thing for whoever goes home with them.
I love a lot of books (wattpad) about possesive and obssess guys to girls and I love it but in real life, no. I hate obssession a lot. I can't imagine myself standing in the shoe of that girl. I feel bad for her.
***** i've just seen a lot of koreans being possessive and controling like that, but feel free to disagree.. Racist would be saying Asians,not koreans lol
this is exactly how my dad acts with my mom. it’s so extreme that he even suspects his OWN BROTHERS are flirting with my mother. but the thing that angers me the most is that he always, always manipulates my mom into thinking she’s the one who’s flirting around with other men. i really want to work soon so i can take my mom, myself, and my siblings away from him. he’s just a bastard that uses my mom. the saddest part is that my mom believes she can’t leave him because he might kill himself (because he threatened to do so in the past) and never let me and my siblings see her again if she leaves. i know he’s just doing it to keep her by his side.
i saw myself while reading this. i hope you're doing better now. i know it's easier said than done but hang in there, stay strong for you and your loved ones. there will be good days for all of us who deserve it and i'm sure you are one of those people ❤ (i hope i could get my words across, english isn't my first language)
I’m a much older woman who has experience with this situation,oftentimes a man is cheating when he is this possessive,That was my experience with my first serious boyfriend, and ex-husband of 8 years ,Pay attention ladies .
Watching so many Hello Counselor made me realize how shallow the society is. As long as a person looks pretty, then they can do whatever they want to the people around them. Victims of this type of abuse are taken lightly simply because their significant other is attractive. It's demeaning to everyone if people treat each other purely on looks alone. That's why there're so many concerns that are similar to this, why little girls who haven't even entered high school are getting bullied for their looks and have to turn to surgery. It's annoying and I wish that people could just look underneath a person's appearance for once on this show.
True. What they don't seem to realize is that respect and trust are more attractive than any pretty/handsome face. They seem to easily forgive attractive people and overlook their mistakes. A lot of serial killers are considered attractive, too. Not saying that this guy is one, just that a pretty face is not synonymous to a pretty personality.
it's not cause he's good looking there are many uglier men on the show and even old people and grandmas and fathers they still treat them the same way as they did this guy which is trying to reason trying to console make some light hearted jokes and then do the thing where they conclude with a message to each other. it's not just him they do it to everyone who's in the seat
@@jj-wl1jv no. Unfortunately it's not that. Abusers that come on this show come in different shapes and sizes and everytime the thing is treated as a joke.
She needs to run the hell away! This is only going to get worse. Soon he's not going to let her to see her own family, he's not going to let her wear anything other than what he chooses, he's not going to want her to make any eye contact with men in the street, and probably fight the men who make random eye contact with her. On top of that his immaturity is astounding. I know she wants to stay because he loves her SO much, and people think that's cute, but honestly the situation is extremely dangerous for her. I hope she has someone with some sense telling her the right things she needs to hear, and a support system to help her on her way.
How is deleting her male contacts understable? Trust in a relationship is soo important,, without it, it won't workout Hopefully they get their thing back together
몇살인지는 모르겠지만 본인 더 젊은 총각시절 이쁘고 본인이 컨트롤안되는 여러 여자 만나보다 상처많이 받고 솔직히 본인의 커리어나 능력은 안되서 또래나 이런저런조건 보는 한국여자는 못 만나겠으니 조선족에 타지에서 외롭고 본인이 컨트롤하기 편한여자 잡아서 급하게 혼인신고하고 잡아두는것같음 근데 결혼후 일은 더 안풀리니 저여자마저도 떠날까봐 집착하는것 같고..솔직히 한마디 더 붙힘 저남자 이상형은 저 아내분 아닐거임
this dude has a whole mess of issues omg... she must be with hi because of his looks. i was with a guy just look this and it was the lust and his sweet talking that kept me around for over a year and a half. RUN GIRL!!
He makes me feel so scared, idk something about him is very unsettling and the fact that he's physically attractive makes it even worse. He's so controlling, I feel like they should've addressed the issue more seriously
This is why you shouldn't get married too soon. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and I still think we need more time together to see if we should get married.
I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years now, but I still can't marry him, I'm only 23. I think that it's too early to marry, and these guys look quite young...
exactly, while watching hello counselor i keep wondering why r the audience so calm, while me in my bed screaming and cursing all the time out of frustation
@10:00 mark, the truth has been spoken. I love how Dongyeop called them out lol girls it ain't worth it just cuz he good looking and says sweet things to you. don't grin and bear it
When asked, she said she didn't marry him for love. She also said they'd only been dating 6 months and they had a quicky court house marriage, instead of a wedding AND she's pregnant. So it's safe for us to assume that it was a shot gun wedding (marrying because of pregnancy). I have a sick feeling that he knocked her up intentionally, so she'd feel obligated to marry him. He doesn't 'love' her, he 'owns' her. TT-TT
That sounds possible... I don't think she'll be able to get away from him though. With an obsessive behaviour like that, I'm sure that he'd stalk the sh*t outta her if she ever were to break up with him... But that's a lot more difficult now, as she's pregnant...
I really love 'Yandere' personalities in the actual game or stories on wattpad. But in real life, it's just scary. Like this one this, *isn't* love he's a _psycho_
I wouldn’t call him psycho because a psycho is someone who breaks the law to get what he/she wants, he’s just really controlling and obsessive but he should get help for it!
These hosts took an extremely dangerous situation very lightly. I don’t know why this show does not have a psychologist or a doctor who specialises in human science as part of the hosts. Why is it called hello counsellor when there is no counsellor anywhere?
저 남자 우울증이나 조울증일 확률 높다고 본다. 더 심하면 조현병까지도 볼 수 있음. 스타킹 찢어진거 가지고 저런 의심하는게 정상은 아님 절대. 남편 눈빛이 텅 비어있고 쎄함. 어린 시절 가정환경이 그리 좋지 못했을 가능성이 높고 자기 연민이 강함. 그 자기연민에 먹혀서 무능력한 자신에도 현실감각이 없고 자신감도 없음. 확실한 건 저건 정신병이고 완치는 쉽지 않음. 저 아내분이 안전이별하길 바랄뿐..
I wish I could see like an update on their relationship...like did this guy really change? Did he get more psychotically-obsessive or is he actually normal? Did he get a job?
When I read the comments before even watching I was thinking that it's not gonna be so bad. Boi I was wrong and on top of that I'm angry right now. I know that in Korea, women are not as equal as men, but this is ridiculous. He's just stalker...pure stalker. Arghh, I hope she got rid of him..
She can't just up and leave like that even if she disapproves of her husband's actions. A lot of women in those type of relationship always have a hard time leaving because they assume their husband will change eventually. I think there were times she thought about leaving him until she got pregnant and it made her second guess her actions. It's just my opinion on this matter, but she does look quite fed up with him already but at the same time, she's afraid of him and that if she does leave him, he'll track her down and harm both her and their baby.
after he started talking about being “obsessed” alarms bells went off in my head. he seems extremely toxic and manipulative. I think he knows he can manipulate her easier too since she’s alone in Korea with no family. I hope she leaves the relationship as soon as possible and gets away. He ain’t even attractive to me either just creepy...
This is so scary af. The husband is scary af. I feel bad for those who are being domestically abused without them knowing it's already a domestic abuse. omygod.
No, they give advice just fine. Don't be so ignorant. It's honestly sad seeing how many morons agree with you without realizing the point of this show @Roma Madhusudhan Obsessive =/= psycho You people are insane.
@@wheresmyrooptoff4056Now that I look at it, he does seem like someone with OLD (Obsessive Love Disorder). He constantly switches between being a loving partner, and doing who knows what behind the scenes to keep her away from other men. But my opinion about the "counselors" not being qualified to give advice still stands. They should at least add a few actual counselors to the cast, but keep their original cast for the comedic purpose.
@Roma Madhusudhan Again you miss the point of this show. Although many times in the past this show has featured qualified people that are even celebrities, this show is not meant to be a be-all, end-all solution to certain problems. Most often, this show covers issues that need publicity or are meant to bring families together in issues. People send in their own concerns so it's not even close to the show's fault for not having any "qualified" counselors, and there is no way that they could have the actual needed counselors on every show, who would not even give much better advice. As it is a live show, they do suggest going to actual counselling sessions in private where it is easier to talk instead of in front of an audience. This show is made for MOSTLY comedic purposes. Asking for proper doctors and counselors from what is an entertainment based family-help show is number one, setting your standards too high, and number two, just plain idiotic and ignorant. Hell, the celebrities they have on here are already qualified enough, and all have personal experiences that aid well when speaking to those who send concerns in.
Ugh this young woman reminds me of myself 6 years ago. My hubby and I got married within 6 months of meeting each other but unlike her we ended up having a baby which made things so worse! This man needs to grow the fuck up. He's exactly like my husband was when we first got together. He loved me, adored me and accepted all my flaws and vice versa but once we got married all the ugly came out. He was jealous and possessive and he didn't let me have no male friends but he had plenty of female friends. I was the one that worked and he was unemployed and stayed at home with the baby. Whenever I didn't work he'll go out to party or whatever he did and wouldn't call me but if I did that I'll never hear the end of it. This foolish man needs to get over his past relationships and his insecurities. It takes two for a marriage and a lot of compromises. He needs to realize she doesn't have to be with him and she can divorce him in a heart beat and move on with their lives. You can tell she does love him but his ways are wearing the relationship out. He needs to grow up and be a man. Oh if anyone's wondering my hubby and I will be married for 7 years now and he did grow up. It took some time and a lot of talk but we're great now! Unless the relationship is abusive and unhealthy you can work on it.
GumballGiggity i'm glad to hear things ultimately worked out for you & you husband. if u don't mind me asking what helped your husband grow out his initial poor behavior & habits? did you guys go to counseling or something or did at some point just realize his mistake and made changes on his own?
fatalblue he said in his own words: "it's because I love you and I didn't want to lose you, plus I got tired of the bullshit." We were married when I was 20 and he was 23, he'll be 30 in May so he finally grew up. 🤗
Divorcing in S.Korea has a stigma, like mental Health. It's really bad. Being a single mother is especially hard since there's like no government assistance programs for people in that position. It would be fine if no one acted upon their judgments if they hear a woman is divorced and or a single mother. But many aren't like that and it trickles down to children who will get bullied due to it. It is a flaw. U.S is a bit same just not as bad as S.Korea
I came out from the same situation. I divorced him and never remarried. The stalking and obsession thing are among of the unacceptable behaviour for me. It did ruined my life and gave me a trauma the reason why I chose to be single up to this day.
DAMN THIS MAN IS SOO ATTRACTIVE but he really needs to tone it down it sucks that he doesn't trust her. Must be trust in a relationship. I really hope that he changes his ways because she's a nice woman and she deserves a lot of love
Ashley Lopez guys like that don't change. He's a delusional loser that needs some intense psychiatric help and maybe locked away before he hurts her. This isn't a healthy marriage at all and I wouldn't be surprised if he does something terrible to her.
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The only advice she needs is how to get away from him tbh. This is all textbook abusive behaviour - cutting her off from social support, controlling where she goes & who she meets, constantly accusing her of things she doesn't do, no regard for her privacy or her needs. And then crying/begging when she does try to leave. It's terrifying. Maybe he can change but she doesn't need to be the one to stay and fix him. Run.
I agree! She needs to leave this relationship. It's not her job to fix him or wait for him to change.
I totally agree, this is straight up abusive behaviour :/ I feel so bad for the girl, if she has considered splitting up already she should do it. That kinda guy isn't good for anyone.
I agree with you. there's no point living in this kind of relationship. He will get more obsessive with her.
I completely agree! I took peer counseling as a class and learned about abusive relationships. They gave us a paper that had a cycle of what a typical abusive relationship is. He is doing exactly what was said on the cycle. Cut the lady away from her friends and family, controlling her and mentally or physically abusing her, say you're sorry by saying you love her, and then the cycle repeats.
And leave him ? He might go crazy and do stupid things... and is he going to be alone forever ? Idk... there's too much to think and too we don't know about...🤔
This show should have a doctor or a lawyer to help the guests. Someone who specializes on human behavior or health. These issues would not be fixed by a bunch of entertainers and comedians only.
Dee Armieee but this isn’t doctor Phil, I think the main point is to get advice from normal people and large numbers to see how wrong it is and the idols are literally idols so what they say really affects you bc you idolise them. If they had actual problems that needed help they would go to a therapist or dr Phil but that’s in America
This is a money making show, period.
trust me, it would make more money if the tracked progress and assisted these people. humans are always curious on what happens next such as myself
Tbh, they do get help from certain specialists according to the situation but they just dont do it for all cases.
One of the hosts has worked in the mental health field before in some capacity, he's referred to it before
Petition for an update about this woman's story. Who's with me?
I also want to know how she's doing. Cause that guy was seriously giving me bad vibes
@@cuteandbubbly5745 ikr same oof
I would like to know how she's doing. Her husband, I really don't like him at all.
@@kawaiibunnbunn im lowkey scared😬
@@cuteandbubbly5745 creepy guy ryt?😳
This isn’t funny. She’s in a toxic relationship and they’re all just playing it off just because he’s handsome. Theres a fine line between being protective and controlling.
He's handsome?
"they're all just playing it off because he's handsome"
i swear sometimes I think the world I'm living in is a simulation because of how many likes you people get and how many of you idiots there are.
They made ONE joke. ONE about his looks. You clearly weren't paying attention because throughout this video they were taking the matter very seriously...
People like you just do not have any critical thinking skills.
@@wheresmyrooptoff4056 I agree with uou.
This show doesn't take serious situation seriously no matter how handsome or ugly the abusers are.
There's also a thin line between love and hate.
I agree
Okay, you're telling me...he's unemployed, overprotective, inconsiderate, has the relationship skills of a 15 year old, and obsessive? Why is she married to him? She literally is so sweet and is very hard working. She needs someone that actually gets things done and trusts her. I bet he pressured her to marry him to if it was only after 6 months of dating.
*****
Exactly! And good on you for moving on :)
Hansol Bling She mentioned at the end that they are going to have a baby soon, so shotgun wedding?
dieulinh007 That's highly probable.
Hansol Bling she also chinese korean. she might need to marry to stay.
in korea people value beauty over everything else. as one of the people in the video pointed out, a lot of women were probably mad before they saw him after hearing how he treated his wife, then they saw him and were like suddenly more accepting of it. they are blinded to the emotional abuse because of his good looks.
He’s cheating. He stays out all night and can’t trust her to go to the corner store? The people who accuse the most, are the people who are guilty.
If hes cheating he wouldnt have time to stalk her all day lol
nada drew when he’s out all night he’s not stalking her. 🧐
@@libbym3899 I don't think he is, people with obsessions like his usually wouldn't dip their toes in another pond.
His world is her and it's pretty disturbing honestly... dude is seriously bent and needs some help.
She needs to get away from him before she needs help too.
@@BIackCadillac A lot of people get jealous and paranoid because they're afraid their partner will do what they are already doing. If he can cheat, then that mean she has the ability to as well; and that thought drives them mad.
He’s probably killing someone that time
After she mentioned that she immigrated from China and is here alone, I'm even more worried for her. It's easy for her husband to abuse her, because she's isolated. She can't easily ask family and friends for help, and she may not know very well how to ask for help from the authorities if he does something creepier or violent, because the laws may be different than in China. Maybe her immigration status grants here fewer rights than Korean citizens. He might have picked her to be his wife exactly because she's more vulnerable than most Korean girls.
Lala bit they mentioned she’s always out and has men around her all the time so I think it’s fair to say she has plenty of friends
@@outerworldwolf3599 I wonder why none of her male friends would come on the show?
Some of that is a bit of a stretch but I'm glad to see comments like this...
OUTERWORLDWOLF359 it’s obvious you didn’t watch the whole video lmao
i hate him.. flying to korea to kick his ass
Just because he's handsome doesn't make any of his behaviors okay! He's equally as disturbing and creepy as any other guy behaving this way
I honestly don’t care what he looks like, I just think all these things aren’t actually that bad. He’s a newly wed who was in past relationships where women lied and used him. If other guys did the same thing but in a way where they portrayed it as romantic then everyone would think they were romantic. It depends on what context the video is in.
i want to makeover his hair so bad lol (sorry for my english)
Honestly it’s really childish to be playing with claw machines and selling those toys for a business. Like what?!
he doesnt look handsome
Hes honestly not tho lmao so idek understand that part
This show always made me upset because they would always be passive with the people who really needed advice. One episode a child was truly having mental health issues because of her mom. Ofc they made it seem like the daughter was lacking. I felt sorry for the child because she came on the show for help...
Nothing productive happens in this show. Everyone comes here and leaves with a half-hearted promise, which i am sure not gonna be fulfilled. This one should be taken to police or something. This is not the right place.
I get the feeling that this goes way deeper than this show is portraying it. The way she recoiled just to avoid being touched by another man but instantly looked comfortable sat between two women had my alarm bells ringing, it isn't a natural way to behave and honestly im not surprised. There's something about her husband that looks so unsettling to me, even if I didn't know what his personality was like i'd still avoid this guy, he just makes me so uncomfortable.
Rebecca Young I agree. Something is really off about him. He's someone you don't wanna bump into on the street. I don't know how to explain the vibes he's giving, but they are not good vibes.
Agreed, he shown a sign of a psychopath, he doesn't show any emotion on his face and tend to agree with the advice just for the sake of seen being agreed with the counselors
Same. Agree with you guys. I went to the comments section just to look for comments like this to see if anyone else thinks so too.
Obsessions husband is scary, they can even kill you too, it's unsafe at ALL. He's too obsessed about where she goes or who she meets.
I think it's the hair
Girl you in danger. This relationship has murder suicide written all over it.
Stephanie Parker honestly,his face looks like cold blooded killer
titin buawel ae and she's obviously so sweet and earnest there alone. honestly my blood ran cold when she said they're having a baby.
Stephanie Parker ikr,i would rather being single mother than to live with man like him,she need to leave him for the sake of her baby and her safety.
titin buawel ae yes but they treat single mothers badly there. Maybe she should go back to China at least she would have her parents.
I feel sad for the girl, she pulled away so fast once they reminded her that it was a guy helping her to stand, she seemed so frightened.
This isn't about trust, it's about control. If he's doing this 3 months in, he'll be beating her before a year. She needs to RUN FAST
Agreed he sounds abusive I hope shes able to leave especially before they have kids
I really feel for some of the people that submit their concerns on "Hello Counselor." These are real issues that need to be addressed by legit counselors and specialists. A show hosted by comedians and entertainers is not going to solve these deep issues.
Darnita Howard you are right. but some people don't have the money to go to a real counselor. moreover, sharing your problem and hearing other people opinion helps too. especially when you tell your problem to so many people (in a TV show) afterwards it's almost impossible not to change because so many people know about your problem.
@discodigaara I can totally see your point on that. I can agree and also know that a one-time appearance on a show isn't going to resolve those defined habits that must be worked over time. It may open the doors to more discussion and seeking of help. I think the show helps for some of the issues that may not be long held. But when it comes to compulsive behaviors, just having an audience to know you have issues isn't going to resolve replacing those behaviors to healthier ones. I think the show should consider at least having one professional sit on the panel
Nowadays, they invited real counselors.. And well at least from this show, if anything ever happened to the confessor, they're already known to public, and people may recognize them, and help them in the future.. There are always good people around us who are willing to help..
That sounds great, IF the cases aren't fake, like in a lot of realitys and tv shows.
Yes. This is what I was thinking. I don't remember what episode or anything but I do remember watching one a while ago where someone was consuming something that was very unhealthy, so the Hello Counselor team sent them to get a checkup by an actual doctor to show them what they were doing to their body. I don't care if this is a real couple with a problem or actors with a script, either way they're on a TV show that's supposed to be helping people. Even if these people are actors, this is something that happens in real life. If it's not scripted they should have had them consult real psychologists. If it is scripted, they should have either still had a real psychologist analyze the situation and have them come on the show, or at least they should've done a little research on the matter. They shouldn't be putting this on tv to make it seem like this is a normal behavior. I started watching this episode several months ago and it made me so mad I had to stop watching it before it ended. And now several months later I came back to try to finish it and it made me livid again.
This looks like one of those bad relationships from a webtoon that people think is really cute at first because «awwe he’s broken and handsome» but then they realise its really unhealthy
Norajousama agreed
Killing stalking?
Be Smart_ _Pom-Pom killing stalking huh 😏
Ara Ananda yup😏
and hes not handsome
his gaze was blank, and he had no expression at all make me cringe the way he looks at people, talks to people, and other, he just look like Richard Ramirez🤐😨
Omg u said it! That was my thought exactly from first glance. That vacant stare, barely an emotion showing.... Aye. 😩
what the hell I thought hell looked like Richard too
Who is Richard Ramirez?
Omg I thought that too in the second I saw him😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@ViickyGar a serial killer
The woman with the short hair seems to be the only one reacting appropriately to this!
I love her for that btw, who is she?!
B.Stargirl she is comedian Jang Doyeon
she looks like jeongyeon from twice
Otori Eiichi Pana Fairy Lights ღ I thought it was her
louna noona me too
Looks like twice jeongyeonnie
the husband is manipulative and mentally abusive. the wife needs to either seek professional help for him or leave him and get a restraining order. this is really serious and made me really sad for her.
EXO-L for life yeah it seems like something he would do. I feel the same and scared for her. She should cut all ties off with him and get a restraining order. Her best bet would probably be to go back to China so that she can be as far away from him as possible.
The worst is that she is pregnant, so if she leaves him she will be ostracized, that's why she'll be with him trying to change him :C
their reactions would be much different if the husband was ugly…
They seem to forgive him too much because of his appearance and his claims of loving his wife. If he truly loved her, he wouldn't be doing what he's been doing. He attached to her and it seems like he needs her more than she needs him. He's very emotionally manipulative and abusive, someone needs to help her out because all of her possible escapes have been blocked by this madman
whats with his appearance?
@@catch_me_if_you_can6596 they think he is handsome.
Watching these older episodes stresses me out because is this girl even ok now? His body language throughout the entire episode, side-eyeing everyone, talking through basically clenched teeth, tongue in cheek showing annoyance, etc. It all screams that he was furious with her for making him come on TV and talk about him being emotional abusive towards her. I honestly hope that she left him because who knows what he might've done to her further down the line.
Yeah .. true I hope she's doing fine
For people who keep saying that she needs to leave him, it’s not that easy to just get up and walk away from an abusive relationship/partner. A few things could happen if she decided to just leave/or try to:
-He could make her feel guilty and win her back because she might love him too much to understand that the relationship isn’t right
-He is abusing her physically, and threatening her that if she leaves he would do things to her etc.
-He won’t leave her alone even if things end, like the stalking will continue. She’s married to him so filing for divorce is a long process and you never know what will happen during that time.
These are a few things that are important to note when it comes to an abusive relationship. So no, it’s never easy to leave one. You have to take it into her perspective too, she scared of saying the truth about everything. She seemed nervous about being around guys and she flinched too.
His face and expression shows that if she said anything he would clearly beat her or hurt her. His expression was so cold too, no emotion, just nothing. She looked scared by this. Hopefully she’s doing okay now but with these circumstances and how everything looked like during the questioning, she doesn’t seem safe. She needs help from law enforcement or family, anyone really. She could get seriously hurt, mentally and physically.
On another note he seems like a serial killer. He’s possessive with her and is binding her to him. He shows no emotion and he seems dull. Also in the beginning when she was helped off the slide he gave her the “You better not cross that line” face. Like if she even touched or went near another guy she would be killed. That is very very concerning.
I would like an update but it’s been a few years so now I’m even more worried.
Well said, I'm worried too
Good thing she went on this show so everyone knows about this
same lets hope for the best
WRONG!!! The husband is suspicious and insecure of the wife cheating because he is cheating / cheated on her so he lacks the respect for himself and her because of his decisions. he's taking his insecurities out on her.
I agree with you.
Crystals Kiss you deserve to be the top comment.
yuh my thoughts exactly
TRUE THAT
That’s what my dad does. Idk why my mom is still with him. My siblings want them to divorce.
"I thought he was an actor!" ... "I thought he was a wild horse." LMAO 😂😂
aloha_camila 😂😂😂
SHIT, IM THINKING OF J-HOPE NOW, LOL
Yea
😂😂😂😂😂lol he's not that handsome guy
@@shahadalbasri9637 he looks like jonghyun from shinee idol face
2:22 this is so sad.. she got scared.. there might be more things behind the scenes we don't know, I don't trust that guy at all
This guy needs professional help, he is kind of psycho. And it's written all over his face that he doesn't want to change, not at all. He just said it for the show. There is something seriously scary in this guy! The girl should have run away from him when she first find out his real persona. He will surely use their baby to attach her more to himself and imprison her. This case is much more serious than how they handle it. I wish all the best for the girl and her baby! :(
i have jams for sure 👆 he's the kind of person that would have me trying to leave the country
The husband's obsession is scary. He looks like the type that would go overboard and kill her and himself in a fit of jealousy. She is also pointing out some embarrassing things abut him and I feel like something terrible is going to happen with them.
She would obviously be so much better off without him, but I feel like if she broke it off with him, he would stalk her and do whatever else. I doubt he has the capacity to make her life better with an obsessive behaviour like that.
Mi W That's what I was thinking the entire time like why would you be so obsessed with your wife who made the commitment to stay with you for the rest of her life. if she loved you enough to marry you, then let her live her life!!! 😠😠😠😠😤😤😤😡😡😡
Marie Matthews He def needs to seek help. I hope things are ok after the airing. His pride was probably hurt a lot on this show and I know some Koreans really take the honor thing seriously which seems to result in suicides.
they do have the possibility to make money on this show and do earn some just starring anyway... idk if they also did that (exaggerated) to 1st earn money and 2nd maybe give him some airing bc he looks good and could be casted for something? like some other guests of the show...
i really hope for them that this is the case!
Creedence CR Never thought about it that way. Maybe it was simply to get $. He looked scary at times so I hope so for her sake.
공감능력제로.능력제로. 자존감제로.마인드컨트럴제로.책임감제로..
눈빛이 쎄함. 여자분은 몸조심하셔야할텐데. ..
제가느낀 그대로네요
변변한 직업하나 못구하니 한국여자못사귀고 조선족 만난거지
그리고 진짜 남자 1도 안잘생김ㅡㅡ
@@SS-jp3tx 진짜요?
@@SS-jp3tx 1은 생겼는데
I had a boyfriend who was just like the husband... He became abusive in the end. She really should leave while she can. Possessiveness and manipulation through fear is not Love. She deserves better than that toxic man.
Lamp G go thing you're not going out with him anymore.
Lamp G it's terrifying honestly
I think the level of possessiveness this guy has means the relationship is already abusive. People, if your significant other ever tries to control you like this, run!
Honestly, the only thought that comes to mind is I fear for her. Monitoring, obsession, cutting her off from her friends, if she stays with him, for all we know he could start becoming violent and abusive. Seriously, fellow WOMEN, listen up. Never marry a man who still plays video games, unemployed (not even trying to get a job, I mean) and is obsessive. If he can't trust you then don't trust him. It's as simple as that. Don't fall for lines like, "because you're so gorgeous I'm scared another man will snatch you up." or "I love you so much I don't want to lose you or you to leave me, I'll die without you." It's called guilt tripping. Never fall for it. It may seem innocent enough, and sweet enough at first but it becomes scarier, more dangerous, and suffocating as time goes on. Most of the time it ends in abuse. Steer clear from these types of men, ladies.
FIRE deLIGHT Of course I agree with your comment, men like this suffer from low self esteem and there are so many better men out there, but why do you think playing video games is bad, it's just a hobby like some others, as long as he is not an addict (I might've misinterpretated your comment, if so I am sorry)
FIRE deLIGHT how is playing videos games bad LMAO
@@ezarbeluh6616 I also want to know the reason😂😂
theres nothing wrong in playing videogames
In defense of this poor girl, when she married him he had a job, he was laid off a couple months after they got married. Also her husband probably played it cool, rushed the relationship (they mentioned he proposed after only 6 months and they got married in a courthouse to lock her down asap), then he list his chill and started monitoring her every move and constantly putting her on the defensive by accusing her of cheating. It's not something that can be easily identified if they're being deceitful. I don't think using a specific hobby like video games or even being jobless as a symptom of an emotionally abusive relationship is accurate, you can be lazy af and not be abusive. It's lack of self control, insecurities, selfishness and hypocrisy combined that makes a big red flag. But if someone hides their temper and controlling nature until they feel you're invested in the relationship enough it's hard to spot. I've been in that situation and the relationship was rushed, even though I wasn't ready or interested the relationship became serious before i knew it because he was so manipulative. The smart ones are scarier lol
Am i the only one who thinks that the husband doesn't look that handsome?
He looks kinda creepy to me
Yeah he looked creepy to me at first glance...and unstable
Better looking than no neck ed from 90 day fiance at least
no i also dont think he is handsome.. i got a really bad vibe from him
No, I am with you .he looks like a creep to me.
at first he'll spy on u, deleting everything, the next thing u know he started hit you, the at the end he's gonna kill u. RUN GIRL, U BETTER RUN FAR AWAY FROM THAT GUY.
Naah, she married him instead
Bruh dont think for one second this wont happen
Ive seen it first hand... My mom she left him after years of physical abuse and she wouldnt take him back (he called every hour and got obsessed over her)
One day after work he tried to run her over and tried other harmful things i mean to this day he does something once in a while and he manipulates people to thinking he was the victim
liz liz sorry to hear about your mom situation, you should have a restraining order. TRO, hope the pulis can do something i have watch something like this. The girl got really obsessed with her fiancé but the guy got so fed up, he broke the engagement, and after that met some nice girl, the girl got mad, started to get revenge but threatening his friends, family and neighbors, and made pulis calls, that the guy abuse her. But in the end, the guy cleared his name, it was on the news back then. Hope your mom is okay.
rapmonIE MONIE MONIE can't cut damn onion
You gotta dasi run run run from that boy!
bts are fatties how could you tell, some of the most wanted killers are really handsome and model material, check the top ten most handsome killers and what they did, they could be your friend, your neighbor, colleague or ex, you could never tell what goes on people mind and how one minute they would explode, i have friends who are psychiatrist they cant tell what the guy thinking without hearing his thiughts, if he is just sick mentality
GIRL. RUN.
As a black woman watching this I actually had to pause the video cuz I got so damn mad lmao. Like...sigh...I feel to smack both of them for some reason.
아니 어떻게 스타킹이 찢어진 걸 보고 저런 생각을 하지.. 진짜 으스스하고 무섭다...
저런애가 칼든다ㅡ
The look her husband gives after the yellow shirt guy holds her hand to help her out, at 2:25...makes even me feel scared for the girl- its dangerous.
Yea I noticed she quickly took her hand away too...she's prob used to being extra careful around other guys when her husband is watching
someone help out good sis
릴리 T. Poor Eunwoo
Yeah that look made me super uncomfortable and put me on edge
Not really why should another man help her out why couldn’t a female help her instead. There’s nothing wrong with that. I wouldn’t want another women touching my man. People who disagree are the ones who end up getting cheated and not looking out for obvious signs like when another women is being too friendly with their man. I know he was just helping her out and at the time I probably wouldn’t even give it a thought but still
Maybe he is so suspicious cause he's cheating on her, so the thought of her cheating on him freaks him out since he already knows his true nature.
That's exactly what I was thinking. Usually when someone is so suspicious of their partner like that with no reason it's because they are doing it themselves.
yea, and I became especially suspicious when he was so concerned about "her safety", but was able to leave her alone for hours while he went out to "play games". It makes me think that he was out with another woman lol
Minboo YES lol he really wasn't making much sense towards the end there and it just sounded like he was lying. Like how long can you play with a claw machine LOL he's a mess but he is very attractive so I wouldn't be surprised if he was a playboy
Ciana true true
But how would he be able to cheat if he is with her 24/7??
내가 볼때 남편 밖에서 분명 뻘짓 하고다닌다. 본인이 그러니까 와이프도 그러고 다닐까봐 의심하는거지. 뭐 눈에는 뭐만 보인다고 하잖아~
It's crazy how this show takes such a real issue and turns it into something so cartoonish. I feel like I'm watching a My Little Pony version of Maury it's so ridiculous and outlandish. Like she's talking about how abusive he is and then pastel pink bubbly letters will come up and say "oh no!" or something. And then after reading that letter they made her slide down in the neon flashing slide into a ball pool. Like what is this???
Well that's Korean shows for you. If you watch a lot of korean shows you'll notice that most, if not every korean show will have these cartoon effects, no matter how serious the issue is.
As if Maury isnt cartoonish? lmaoo The wife knew how the show was. She wanted to go on it knowing what its like.
They signed up for this. If they REALLY need a counselor they’ll ask for one.
Thais Morimoto tye
as far as I know there is some Korean policy that government said it so that's why they do it
I hate how the hosts try to justify things for him?? Like this is emotional abuse it's insane this isn't entertainment it's a serious issue they should deal with more professionally
Smol Hoseokie I know what you mean. I am so mad that the hosts are making light of the situation, and not telling her what she needs to hear. I don't know if abuse in America is seen differently than abuse in relationships in South Korea, but I feel anybody can see where he is behavior it's going to lead to in the future, and there is nothing funny about it. It's really dangerous for her.
Smol Hoseokie ugh ikr that's exactly what I was thinking this case doesn't fit the show at all...its way too serious to make jokes about it...they should've just got a woman who complained about her husbands eating habits or something
Going into a situation with a non biased perspective is dealing with it professionally. Both sides of the story need to be heard and questions/speculations in a non accusatory manner are helpful to get the most information out of both. If neither person feels as though they are being attacked immediately then things will happen a lot more smoothly further on down the line. As well as in situations like this; provoking the person who is "in the wrong" may be a horrible thing for whoever goes home with them.
woke shannon i
woke shannon that profile pic tho
저런남자 만나봤는데,, 결국 남자의 화려한 사생활로 헤어졌다ㅜㅜ 나는 구속하고 집에 일찍 들어가라 친구도 만나지마라 하면서 집에 일찍 들여보내놓고 지는 친구들이랑 밤새 여자들이랑 놀고... 그게 날 구속하는 이유 였지. 지가 신나게 노니까 나도 혹시 그럴까봐
그니깐요 내로남불~
맞아 나도 저런남자 만나봤는데 결국 지는 밤새 여자랑 놀고 바람피더라
I love a lot of books (wattpad) about possesive and obssess guys to girls and I love it but in real life, no. I hate obssession a lot. I can't imagine myself standing in the shoe of that girl. I feel bad for her.
True. I love obsessive guys in fiction LOL but in real life it's a different story.
ckim4evr Yeah...
V Taehyung what's your watt pad user
Xin Chen Oh I saw the story It's interesting...
V Taehyung OMG WATTPADERS 😂😂
"Deleting the numbers is understandable" um no
OMG. HAHAHAHAHA! IKR XD
those koreans..
agree with you. even in a marriage, we still need our own privacy
right? if he really feels uncomfortable about it he should take to her not go ahead and delete it himself
*****
i've just seen a lot of koreans being possessive and controling like that, but feel free to disagree.. Racist would be saying Asians,not koreans lol
this is exactly how my dad acts with my mom. it’s so extreme that he even suspects his OWN BROTHERS are flirting with my mother. but the thing that angers me the most is that he always, always manipulates my mom into thinking she’s the one who’s flirting around with other men. i really want to work soon so i can take my mom, myself, and my siblings away from him. he’s just a bastard that uses my mom.
the saddest part is that my mom believes she can’t leave him because he might kill himself (because he threatened to do so in the past) and never let me and my siblings see her again if she leaves. i know he’s just doing it to keep her by his side.
maria dav oof I wish I could do more but all I can say is I hope things get better soon.
Hi girl, How are you now? is everything fine?
Wow girl my story is so similar to youu
i saw myself while reading this. i hope you're doing better now. i know it's easier said than done but hang in there, stay strong for you and your loved ones. there will be good days for all of us who deserve it and i'm sure you are one of those people ❤ (i hope i could get my words across, english isn't my first language)
I hope your doing ok
Hun, he's possessive, controlling and stalks you. He has zero trust for you. He looks dusty. Leave him.
he looks dusty" VSJSVDISVDHDBD
" he looks dusty" lmao tf he's handsome af tho still a creep
I’m a much older woman who has experience with this situation,oftentimes a man is cheating when he is this possessive,That was my experience with my first serious boyfriend, and ex-husband of 8 years ,Pay attention ladies .
Watching so many Hello Counselor made me realize how shallow the society is. As long as a person looks pretty, then they can do whatever they want to the people around them. Victims of this type of abuse are taken lightly simply because their significant other is attractive. It's demeaning to everyone if people treat each other purely on looks alone. That's why there're so many concerns that are similar to this, why little girls who haven't even entered high school are getting bullied for their looks and have to turn to surgery. It's annoying and I wish that people could just look underneath a person's appearance for once on this show.
True. What they don't seem to realize is that respect and trust are more attractive than any pretty/handsome face. They seem to easily forgive attractive people and overlook their mistakes. A lot of serial killers are considered attractive, too. Not saying that this guy is one, just that a pretty face is not synonymous to a pretty personality.
100% agreed
it's not cause he's good looking there are many uglier men on the show and even old people and grandmas and fathers they still treat them the same way as they did this guy which is trying to reason trying to console make some light hearted jokes and then do the thing where they conclude with a message to each other. it's not just him they do it to everyone who's in the seat
Lookism
@@jj-wl1jv no. Unfortunately it's not that. Abusers that come on this show come in different shapes and sizes and everytime the thing is treated as a joke.
She needs to run the hell away! This is only going to get worse. Soon he's not going to let her to see her own family, he's not going to let her wear anything other than what he chooses, he's not going to want her to make any eye contact with men in the street, and probably fight the men who make random eye contact with her. On top of that his immaturity is astounding. I know she wants to stay because he loves her SO much, and people think that's cute, but honestly the situation is extremely dangerous for her. I hope she has someone with some sense telling her the right things she needs to hear, and a support system to help her on her way.
shas1882 it's easier said than done, coming from someone who has family issues.
I don't think this is love. He doesn't love her. He's just doing it for himself, his ego.
How is deleting her male contacts understable?
Trust in a relationship is soo important,, without it, it won't workout
Hopefully they get their thing back together
Hopefully she will RUN
low key feel like this concern shouldnt be addressed on a TV show..he's kinda scary.
whensomeoneasksifimokay damn he looked like he's going to beat her when she went home.. a person can't be changed
Lovely ikr she’s probably dead now or “missing”
Literally.. this is an abusive relationship.
Bonnie Chun definitely. She needs to get out before it escalates even further. He sounds very insecure and possessive 😨
Bonnie Chun
몇살인지는 모르겠지만 본인 더 젊은 총각시절 이쁘고 본인이 컨트롤안되는 여러 여자 만나보다 상처많이 받고
솔직히 본인의 커리어나 능력은 안되서 또래나 이런저런조건 보는 한국여자는 못 만나겠으니 조선족에 타지에서 외롭고
본인이 컨트롤하기 편한여자 잡아서 급하게 혼인신고하고 잡아두는것같음
근데 결혼후 일은 더 안풀리니 저여자마저도 떠날까봐 집착하는것 같고..솔직히 한마디 더 붙힘 저남자 이상형은 저 아내분 아닐거임
내손에 노는여자?집에 두고 지는ㄱㅈㄹ
찌질이!자존감도없는....어렸을때 트라우마가 있어도?
딱 내가 하고싶은 말 대신 해줘서 개 사이다네 내가 딱 이런 새끼 만나본적있는데 개피곤하다 화장도 치마도 못입게하고 암튼 다 맞는말임
와 이게 맞는 것 같아요...
와 뭐야 심리상담사임?
인정!
그냥 찌질이임
that's infatuation not love..... he's so obsessed it's really creepy, I would blast if something like that happened to me
Gotta blast!
this kind of problem isn't for this kind of show... she should look for actual help from this situation.
이런 남자는 이혼 해도 무섭다 ㄷㄷ
도망가ㅡㅡㅡㅡ
Eunwoo looks like a lost child XD
I seriously feel bad for the girl, her husband just isn't cut for marriage.
He has the mentality of a 14 year old
Emilia Xi Are 14 year olds that possesive? :O
Fernanda Ruiz i think this person is talking about Eunwoo
zeinq I STARTED CRYING WHEN I SAW EUNWOO. HES SO ADDOBLE LMAO
zeinq isn't it Eunwoo from Astro?
this dude has a whole mess of issues omg... she must be with hi because of his looks. i was with a guy just look this and it was the lust and his sweet talking that kept me around for over a year and a half. RUN GIRL!!
@Liz Neptune same!!! I ran! lol
아무 표정이 없어...많은 결핍이 보여 걱정스러워. 무서울정도... 큰일이다.. 제발 별일 없기를
He makes me feel so scared, idk something about him is very unsettling and the fact that he's physically attractive makes it even worse. He's so controlling, I feel like they should've addressed the issue more seriously
BTS's Jams Honestly, he sounds like a sociopath to me.
omg same
He's attractive?
The intensity with which he stares at her is unnerving. Also, he doesn't smile.
Reminds me of the antagonist in the girl who can see smells acted by Namgoong Min
wow, I would rather marry a plain guy than get married with a handsome but delusional man like that
inndn mayeeem lol 'handsome'
He ain't even cute tho
조선족이라니까 도망갈까봐 그러는것두 있나보다
본방때도 보고 고구마 백개먹은 기분였는데 또 다시 보는내내 한숨밖에 안나온다
남자분도 주위에친구가 없을듯싶네
많이 부족한 사람이네
친구도 다손절~
I think the idols on this episode of hello counsellor were the most helpful
This is why you shouldn't get married too soon. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and I still think we need more time together to see if we should get married.
I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years now, but I still can't marry him, I'm only 23. I think that it's too early to marry, and these guys look quite young...
because I'm actually a chilli pepper. that's it. I'm a vegetable on the internet and I have a boyfriend.
I'm a girl, why wouldn't I like penises? :/
Martin S wow, congrats! not something that I myself would do, but if you're happy, that's all that matters!
Ri'AikaCröw h
Girl run before your life becomes an episode of fatal attraction
I couldn’t be let on this show, I really couldn’t. I’d be yelling and screaming and losing my temper like no other.
oof you’re spilling the real tea
this is maury show aka korean version lmao
exactly, while watching hello counselor i keep wondering why r the audience so calm, while me in my bed screaming and cursing all the time out of frustation
@@senosantoso8851 The audience looks disgusted/worried though. It's just the cultural differences.
OMG I KNOW it's like a really quiet dr phil
It's creepy that he's physically attractive. His looks make him an even scarier person.
Girl , rigggght?!
Jeffrey Dahmer was attractive too
어리숙한 여자하나 심어두고 하고 싶은대로 하고 사는 사람일뿐.
여자가 빨리 정신차리고 도만가는 방법뿐.
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저렇게 정신상태가 이상하고 책임감 없는 사람은 제발 결혼 안했으면.....
literal textbook abusive relationship
Holy shit I can't with your profile pic like I'm just here tryna be serious and all and that namjoon profile pic got me like 😂
@10:00 mark, the truth has been spoken. I love how Dongyeop called them out lol
girls it ain't worth it just cuz he good looking and says sweet things to you. don't grin and bear it
For psych students, this story is an example of a cognitive bias.
Really disappointing, I hope someone has an update
I wonder what made her want to get married to him in the first place.
He probably threatened to hurt himself or something if she didn't stay with him
Lee-Lee Mc that's such a toxic relationship, i hope she would move on from him
When asked, she said she didn't marry him for love. She also said they'd only been dating 6 months and they had a quicky court house marriage, instead of a wedding AND she's pregnant. So it's safe for us to assume that it was a shot gun wedding (marrying because of pregnancy). I have a sick feeling that he knocked her up intentionally, so she'd feel obligated to marry him. He doesn't 'love' her, he 'owns' her. TT-TT
That sounds possible... I don't think she'll be able to get away from him though. With an obsessive behaviour like that, I'm sure that he'd stalk the sh*t outta her if she ever were to break up with him... But that's a lot more difficult now, as she's pregnant...
That's so possible and very scary.
"he looks like a wild horse"
IMSVREAMING
In Korea, being told you look like a horse is a compliment.
red panda is it? J hope gets offended when someone calls him a horse
i choked
Plz divorce
He is not a human being
제발 이혼해요
사람이 아니에요....
저런 사람만나다가 살해 당해요
저런 정신병자랑 사느니
혼자 사는게 더욱 행복할듯 ㅠㅠ
I really love 'Yandere' personalities in the actual game or stories on wattpad. But in real life, it's just scary. Like this one this, *isn't* love he's a _psycho_
I wouldn’t call him psycho because a psycho is someone who breaks the law to get what he/she wants, he’s just really controlling and obsessive but he should get help for it!
I wouldn't really call this case "yandere" :/
Yoosung mystic messenger kind of yandere eh? Lol
mYsticMessyMe can you not? This case is serious ://
@@kissbabette a psycho is someone who has no sympathy and real human emotions
man i thought he was gonna kill eunwoo for touching his wife
egaliteryan4 ikr 😅
These hosts took an extremely dangerous situation very lightly. I don’t know why this show does not have a psychologist or a doctor who specialises in human science as part of the hosts. Why is it called hello counsellor when there is no counsellor anywhere?
this is 100% abusive and she needs to leave no matter what
When ppl use love as an excuse for obsession..
I'm praying for the lady's safety, it's been 4 years and I hope she's in a better position now.
I honestly thought the guy was gonna kill Eunwoo when he grabbed the girl's hand.
I'm being super real, if your significant other does this to you, run. Do not look back. You are in an abusive relationship, and a scary one at that.
저 남자 우울증이나 조울증일 확률 높다고 본다. 더 심하면 조현병까지도 볼 수 있음. 스타킹 찢어진거 가지고 저런 의심하는게 정상은 아님 절대. 남편 눈빛이 텅 비어있고 쎄함. 어린 시절 가정환경이 그리 좋지 못했을 가능성이 높고 자기 연민이 강함. 그 자기연민에 먹혀서 무능력한 자신에도 현실감각이 없고 자신감도 없음. 확실한 건 저건 정신병이고 완치는 쉽지 않음. 저 아내분이 안전이별하길 바랄뿐..
니 나 우울증벗어나
@@우희힝-p7w 악플쟁이 ㅎㅇ
눈빛이 텅비었다는 표현이 정확~~무서움ㅎ
눈빛이 텅~비어있다는것에 진짜 공감합니다 글쓰고보니까 부산지니님도 저랑 같은생각을 하셨네.....
I wish I could see like an update on their relationship...like did this guy really change? Did he get more psychotically-obsessive or is he actually normal? Did he get a job?
The same
@@snowvjimin6731 how do you know?
snow vjimin1 same!!
@@Serendipityismy lol i mean i also want to know😂😂Not telling he is the same
@@littlediphylleia8106 😂😂no ...i jus agree with the first cmt and i also want to know his current situation
When I read the comments before even watching I was thinking that it's not gonna be so bad. Boi I was wrong and on top of that I'm angry right now. I know that in Korea, women are not as equal as men, but this is ridiculous. He's just stalker...pure stalker. Arghh, I hope she got rid of him..
숨막혀...그냥 자기자신에 자신감이 없어서 여자가 떠날까봐 불안한 거 같은데..
kinda got the feeling the husband beat her up after this show.😑
Same.. I'm worried for her and her baby.
Get out of this relationship asap. You don't need a controlling freak bum.
They are married and she's pregnant. He will talk her into staying. That is how this man works. He is very toxic.
She can't just up and leave like that even if she disapproves of her husband's actions. A lot of women in those type of relationship always have a hard time leaving because they assume their husband will change eventually. I think there were times she thought about leaving him until she got pregnant and it made her second guess her actions. It's just my opinion on this matter, but she does look quite fed up with him already but at the same time, she's afraid of him and that if she does leave him, he'll track her down and harm both her and their baby.
after he started talking about being “obsessed” alarms bells went off in my head. he seems extremely toxic and manipulative. I think he knows he can manipulate her easier too since she’s alone in Korea with no family. I hope she leaves the relationship as soon as possible and gets away. He ain’t even attractive to me either just creepy...
No matter how attractive he is, his actions are scary, dangerous, and not cute at all. It's not funny tbh.
What does tbh
@gcute 5985 oh thanks
bruhh he's way overprotective
id rather stay single than having someone like him
Most men in Korea have this problem
Overprotective you say? Nah in all honesty it doesn't seem like protection and more like too control. The dude doesn't know his boundaries.
Taenism ; heol...
This situation screams "If I can't have you then no one will." Has this show even done a follow-up with her? Do they even know if she's still alive?
This is so scary af. The husband is scary af. I feel bad for those who are being domestically abused without them knowing it's already a domestic abuse. omygod.
they're really bad at giving advice
YES, and that's a real problem
Ikr it's always about adjusting and stuff. There IS NO ADJUSTING when dealing with psychos
No, they give advice just fine. Don't be so ignorant.
It's honestly sad seeing how many morons agree with you without realizing the point of this show
@Roma Madhusudhan
Obsessive =/= psycho
You people are insane.
@@wheresmyrooptoff4056Now that I look at it, he does seem like someone with OLD (Obsessive Love Disorder). He constantly switches between being a loving partner, and doing who knows what behind the scenes to keep her away from other men. But my opinion about the "counselors" not being qualified to give advice still stands. They should at least add a few actual counselors to the cast, but keep their original cast for the comedic purpose.
@Roma Madhusudhan
Again you miss the point of this show. Although many times in the past this show has featured qualified people that are even celebrities, this show is not meant to be a be-all, end-all solution to certain problems. Most often, this show covers issues that need publicity or are meant to bring families together in issues. People send in their own concerns so it's not even close to the show's fault for not having any "qualified" counselors, and there is no way that they could have the actual needed counselors on every show, who would not even give much better advice. As it is a live show, they do suggest going to actual counselling sessions in private where it is easier to talk instead of in front of an audience.
This show is made for MOSTLY comedic purposes. Asking for proper doctors and counselors from what is an entertainment based family-help show is number one, setting your standards too high, and number two, just plain idiotic and ignorant.
Hell, the celebrities they have on here are already qualified enough, and all have personal experiences that aid well when speaking to those who send concerns in.
Yall seem to forget handsome/beautiful people can be crazy as hell too💀
that husband looks like an abuser.
Vankaris Don’t judge someone by looks.
+Noy Thammavongsa It's not judging if it's painfully obvious, the guy has "psycho" written all over his face.
Eris Meredith .If they are not on Hello Counselor then maybe you will not know that he is like that.
bts_army I've met a lot of psychoes, trust me I know how they look and act like.
Eris Meredith ..Just be careful and dont say it to them.
Ugh this young woman reminds me of myself 6 years ago. My hubby and I got married within 6 months of meeting each other but unlike her we ended up having a baby which made things so worse!
This man needs to grow the fuck up. He's exactly like my husband was when we first got together. He loved me, adored me and accepted all my flaws and vice versa but once we got married all the ugly came out. He was jealous and possessive and he didn't let me have no male friends but he had plenty of female friends. I was the one that worked and he was unemployed and stayed at home with the baby. Whenever I didn't work he'll go out to party or whatever he did and wouldn't call me but if I did that I'll never hear the end of it. This foolish man needs to get over his past relationships and his insecurities. It takes two for a marriage and a lot of compromises. He needs to realize she doesn't have to be with him and she can divorce him in a heart beat and move on with their lives. You can tell she does love him but his ways are wearing the relationship out. He needs to grow up and be a man. Oh if anyone's wondering my hubby and I will be married for 7 years now and he did grow up. It took some time and a lot of talk but we're great now! Unless the relationship is abusive and unhealthy you can work on it.
GumballGiggity i'm glad to hear things ultimately worked out for you & you husband. if u don't mind me asking what helped your husband grow out his initial poor behavior & habits? did you guys go to counseling or something or did at some point just realize his mistake and made changes on his own?
fatalblue he said in his own words: "it's because I love you and I didn't want to lose you, plus I got tired of the bullshit." We were married when I was 20 and he was 23, he'll be 30 in May so he finally grew up. 🤗
Divorcing in S.Korea has a stigma, like mental Health. It's really bad. Being a single mother is especially hard since there's like no government assistance programs for people in that position.
It would be fine if no one acted upon their judgments if they hear a woman is divorced and or a single mother. But many aren't like that and it trickles down to children who will get bullied due to it.
It is a flaw. U.S is a bit same just not as bad as S.Korea
fatalblue did you seek professional help for him or for yourself? im curious he and this guy sounds like a narcissist
I really hope she leaves him. Seriously, they just got married and hes already like this. Now imagine how it will be later on? I feel so bad for her
He look scary and sound scary af
beetin kuan IKR he keeps a straight face when they joke with him and stuff
oh my gosh, she's got to get out of that relationship
I came out from the same situation. I divorced him and never remarried. The stalking and obsession thing are among of the unacceptable behaviour for me. It did ruined my life and gave me a trauma the reason why I chose to be single up to this day.
DAMN THIS MAN IS SOO ATTRACTIVE but he really needs to tone it down
it sucks that he doesn't trust her.
Must be trust in a relationship.
I really hope that he changes his ways because she's a nice woman and she deserves a lot of love
Ashley Lopez guys like that don't change. He's a delusional loser that needs some intense psychiatric help and maybe locked away before he hurts her. This isn't a healthy marriage at all and I wouldn't be surprised if he does something terrible to her.
지대신 돈벌어다줄 여자찿아서 결혼한듯
글구 지가 바람을 피는사람이기때문에 자기처럼 그럴까봐 여자를 잡고 의심하는걸수도 있음
의심하는남자들 대부분 지가구리니간 지가 바람 펴봐서 의심하는거지 공감!
가장 근거있는 답입~!!!!
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