43:17 I think Munah's workshoping answer to bullies is pretty good. I sounds like she is getting the bully to exercise empathy, to put bullies in the shoes of someone connected to a victim of bullying. This approach is good if we are assuming the bully still has a heart and has some humanity in him/her. However, if these bullies heard her answer and were past victims of previous bullies (especially if their bullies were close friends, relatives, parents, siblings, loved ones), then this answer may not help because it would entice them more to project their pain/inferiority onto their current victims (i hope you can follow my train of thought). The silver lining to the above is that it provide key insight into this bully's life and past transgressions. Counsellors/therapists should be able to catch onto this projection and follow this thread of events, the domino effect, and trace back to the source that motivated this bully's action. That is where, perhaps, the healing could start. Just my 2 cents worth
From one ex-teacher who practices educational psychology positively: Sit both the bullies and victim(s) down for mentoring that breaks them down crying. Instead of assuming that these younger are hopeless when they could be helpless.
In my pov, the "by way of introduction", is usually used after your acquaintance have introduced you to someone who wants to contact you for a certain purpose, and this someone is approaching you thereafter.
Munah is one persona most missing in NUS back in 1980s when I was studying there - couldn't find a soulmate while studying boring subjects under boring lecturers.
Talking about how to let Bully see from victim perspective if their loved ones is bullied instead, i suggest asking people with power to give the answer
Good point triggers good points: 1) Powerful people might be 'powderful 'because many are protected and promoted into their positions as fast-tracked performers academically. 2) Putting more resources into mentoring capacities e.g. grooming peer mentors, can be a straight forward follow-up.
One basis to explain human behavior: We, a lot of us, are 'snakes and monkeys'. Snaky in our lone behaviors that could annoy others; monkeying in our crave for safety of belonging to a group to act out our primal need to hit out at the annoying person. Thus a snaky victim (or perceived to be) versus group belonging amounting to association with small gangs. Point to ponder by adults for the young and the younger: Force-fit them out into our managed reality and some would breach their tolerance levels and hit back at someone weaker. Victimhood can also be simply being dump and naive to remain individualistic and unsociable while co-existing in a community. While herd-instinct is a natural way to join a group of seemingly like-minded people in order to use group power and security to act out by hitting someone literally - to let out the steam. We are primal in essence at diverse levels - so facilitate the learning about human instincts for the young and the younger. As we dig their young brains to fit into adults managed reality.
By way of commenting , let me introduce myself, I am Marty, the great appreciator of yah lah but. If you see my comments please select it for one shiok comment. Good day to you sir. 😊
3:30 to 6:40 muna confirms she has no idea what she's talking about...i heard but i cannot confirm or don't know for sure...wtf. 😂😂😂 in fact, she probably has no idea of anything...
In singapore, would i be right to say, if you hit someone even in defence you are in trouble? If so, and the population being very afraid to get into trouble, will many be victims of bullying? For example, if not happy, singaporeans just pull out their handphones. Very kawaii
Just some clarification. If a civilian were to charge another civilian in court, it would be consider a civil suit. Even if the former were to win the case, the latter would only be fined. So if the father of the victim were to charge the bullies in court, he might only get monetary compensation. To get the bullies warned by the court, sent to a boy's home or jail, the father needs to make a police report. Only the DPP or Investigative Officer (IO) can charge the bullies in the criminal court and get the bullies punished by serving time. Finally, the most school can do is to do detention, suspension or caning. Their hands are tied.
Reduction to money for humanly irrational behavior is a lazy, modern way that some communities cannot afford to apply without concern for consequences when such youths grow up into positions of influence.
Love Munah in the podcast, hopefully you can invite her more often in the podcast!!
Munah is a lovely persona.
43:17 I think Munah's workshoping answer to bullies is pretty good.
I sounds like she is getting the bully to exercise empathy, to put bullies in the shoes of someone connected to a victim of bullying.
This approach is good if we are assuming the bully still has a heart and has some humanity in him/her.
However, if these bullies heard her answer and were past victims of previous bullies (especially if their bullies were close friends, relatives, parents, siblings, loved ones), then this answer may not help because it would entice them more to project their pain/inferiority onto their current victims (i hope you can follow my train of thought).
The silver lining to the above is that it provide key insight into this bully's life and past transgressions. Counsellors/therapists should be able to catch onto this projection and follow this thread of events, the domino effect, and trace back to the source that motivated this bully's action. That is where, perhaps, the healing could start.
Just my 2 cents worth
From one ex-teacher who practices educational psychology positively: Sit both the bullies and victim(s) down for mentoring that breaks them down crying. Instead of assuming that these younger are hopeless when they could be helpless.
Greeting from Melbourne. Nice to hear local voices again. Have been following your podcasts for quite sometime.😊
In my pov, the "by way of introduction", is usually used after your acquaintance have introduced you to someone who wants to contact you for a certain purpose, and this someone is approaching you thereafter.
Munah is one persona most missing in NUS back in 1980s when I was studying there - couldn't find a soulmate while studying boring subjects under boring lecturers.
Bullies come in all shapes and forms. In my time, we all had heard, seen or personally experienced classmates and friends being bullied by teachers.
Talking about how to let Bully see from victim perspective if their loved ones is bullied instead, i suggest asking people with power to give the answer
Good point triggers good points: 1) Powerful people might be 'powderful 'because many are protected and promoted into their positions as fast-tracked performers academically. 2) Putting more resources into mentoring capacities e.g. grooming peer mentors, can be a straight forward follow-up.
One basis to explain human behavior: We, a lot of us, are 'snakes and monkeys'. Snaky in our lone behaviors that could annoy others; monkeying in our crave for safety of belonging to a group to act out our primal need to hit out at the annoying person. Thus a snaky victim (or perceived to be) versus group belonging amounting to association with small gangs.
Point to ponder by adults for the young and the younger:
Force-fit them out into our managed reality and some would breach their tolerance levels and hit back at someone weaker.
Victimhood can also be simply being dump and naive to remain individualistic and unsociable while co-existing in a community. While herd-instinct is a natural way to join a group of seemingly like-minded people in order to use group power and security to act out by hitting someone literally - to let out the steam.
We are primal in essence at diverse levels - so facilitate the learning about human instincts for the young and the younger. As we dig their young brains to fit into adults managed reality.
By way of commenting , let me introduce myself, I am Marty, the great appreciator of yah lah but. If you see my comments please select it for one shiok comment. Good day to you sir. 😊
3:30 to 6:40 muna confirms she has no idea what she's talking about...i heard but i cannot confirm or don't know for sure...wtf. 😂😂😂 in fact, she probably has no idea of anything...
Archetype of Kamala Harris?
In singapore, would i be right to say, if you hit someone even in defence you are in trouble? If so, and the population being very afraid to get into trouble, will many be victims of bullying? For example, if not happy, singaporeans just pull out their handphones. Very kawaii
Just some clarification.
If a civilian were to charge another civilian in court, it would be consider a civil suit. Even if the former were to win the case, the latter would only be fined. So if the father of the victim were to charge the bullies in court, he might only get monetary compensation.
To get the bullies warned by the court, sent to a boy's home or jail, the father needs to make a police report. Only the DPP or Investigative Officer (IO) can charge the bullies in the criminal court and get the bullies punished by serving time.
Finally, the most school can do is to do detention, suspension or caning. Their hands are tied.
Reduction to money for humanly irrational behavior is a lazy, modern way that some communities cannot afford to apply without concern for consequences when such youths grow up into positions of influence.
Is or was Fakka Fuzz her bf?
We want also her two other frens the other 2 hot babes to rocket-boost this channel subscriber-ship