show affection, get push and pull, force communication, talk about problems and feelings and feel like you need too much, talk about problems in past when he hurt and didn't want to be responsible - no way, silent treatment, but - always stand by him, respect demands - not the common ones, constantly give in to his demands, needs, and be hurt like you don't exist, not healthy, it ruined my relationship with myself for 3 years.
The third reason happened to me in a church. I was manipulated. I had no purpose, no sense of self, no boundaries. I was exactly proned to manipulation. I was all of the three.
So true. I prided myself into being open minded when it came to accepting ppl's flaws, so that's what I told myself but the truth is I downplayed myself into accepting ppl who were morally beneath me like having a history of drugs and or criminal activity and telling myself,"Well that was their past. Ppl change!" Being naive and not realizing that it wasn't their past. It was things they were still engaging in and the only time ppl change is when they put the time and effort into getting help. Also with my last relationship I had a huge problem with accepting my ex crossing other ppl's boundaries. Not at all relating it to me which makes me feel a bit ashamed that i would be ok with my ex backstabbing others as long as it wasn't me. Again very ignorant and naive to the fact that it's a reflection of how he treats all ppl.
Yes!! The openness! You are SOOOOOO spot on! AND the boundary testing….WOW!! Lost 🤯too! I seriously hope people are listening to you and HEARING you….the absolute TRUTH!!
People who don’t care if they cross other people’s boundaries…. Great explanation…. Usually that’s a person who crosses boundaries herself… She didn’t care that he cheated with her because she cheated on her husband as well. 2 people who cross boundaries, who have no problem lying, cheating, etc. found each other … 😅 Good riddance
Thank you 💖 That is such great information~excellent advice Ben. That is literally the first time I’ve heard anything taught~explained concerning this particular aspect of narcissism, and I’ve been learning~on a healing journey for the past 4 years due to being the victim of 40 years of malignant covert Narcopath abuse by my now Ex husband.
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I guess because we met in toxic work environment we bonded over the problems and situations. I’d say I was happy to have a friend to unload my own frustrations. Plus he seemed to be funny and collected as a lawyer and gosh he was talking a lot 🤪 too much so it was boring at times. However, he lied about being a single man 😅 so that was the deal breaker I’m happy I found out that. I guess if I had weaker boundaries he could manipulate me into situationship. As he is still married and lies to other women he dates now that he is single 😂 he changed job and I’m sure he is hunting new supply there telling them he is single!!!
There has to be a perfect balance. If you need help with something sometimes you really do need the help you ask for for a reason and higher purpose. Yet it has to come from both sides so if one side are not open in receiving or are not open to the devine purpose and keep the defenses up there is not much the other person can do it's sad because it's not what is suppose to happen. I don't mean it in a sexual or affair way. You can only reach out so many times. Helping is a good thing and can really help with healing, growing and soul purpose healing both people in a beautiful way. I hope you talk about this Ben in courage this.
Oh, interesting. I always wondered what kind of idiot would brag about bullying coworkers in meetings or even a boss. Or tells new girlfriend how he lied to his ex-wife. Well, I did not say anything. Not because I approve any of it but I was so confused. I was just silent on those moments and collected data. I am friendly and smiley - open. But I really do know who I am, what my values are, what I want and need and what I do not want in my life.
We had a one-on-one on Monday the 14th at 2:00 p.m. Eastern and I'm watching this video wondering what kind of vibe you got off of me if I were easily manipulated or not #teamclusterb
Ben, my late narc husband had an affair on/off for 5 years,we were together 30yrs before his passing last year. At the start of his affair he talked to me about how he felt about her,when I look back it sounds like he was in a trauma bond with his affair partner,can this happen?
This was interesting. My ex’s new girlfriend fits all 3 criteria. She was very open in offering to have sex with him. She told his daughter that she knew he was engaged, but he needed someone to talk to so she was there for him. He told his daughter that her children’s father had died 2 years ago, and that she needs a dad for her daughters. Sad thing is, he also told his 2 children that she’s been pushing him to get married, and he wants to start a new family over and have kids with her.
The new supply is lost and he has her doing things she would never do. He best friend is my ex narcissist brothers wife. She doesn’t like him so he has her secretly becoming his sex toy.
show affection, get push and pull, force communication, talk about problems and feelings and feel like you need too much, talk about problems in past when he hurt and didn't want to be responsible - no way, silent treatment, but - always stand by him, respect demands - not the common ones, constantly give in to his demands, needs, and be hurt like you don't exist, not healthy, it ruined my relationship with myself for 3 years.
How are you now? Have you started to take healing to next step?
The third reason happened to me in a church. I was manipulated. I had no purpose, no sense of self, no boundaries. I was exactly proned to manipulation. I was all of the three.
So true. I prided myself into being open minded when it came to accepting ppl's flaws, so that's what I told myself but the truth is I downplayed myself into accepting ppl who were morally beneath me like having a history of drugs and or criminal activity and telling myself,"Well that was their past. Ppl change!" Being naive and not realizing that it wasn't their past. It was things they were still engaging in and the only time ppl change is when they put the time and effort into getting help. Also with my last relationship I had a huge problem with accepting my ex crossing other ppl's boundaries. Not at all relating it to me which makes me feel a bit ashamed that i would be ok with my ex backstabbing others as long as it wasn't me. Again very ignorant and naive to the fact that it's a reflection of how he treats all ppl.
Yes!! The openness! You are SOOOOOO spot on! AND the boundary testing….WOW!! Lost 🤯too! I seriously hope people are listening to you and HEARING you….the absolute TRUTH!!
People who don’t care if they cross other people’s boundaries…. Great explanation….
Usually that’s a person who crosses boundaries herself…
She didn’t care that he cheated with her because she cheated on her husband as well.
2 people who cross boundaries, who have no problem lying, cheating, etc. found each other … 😅 Good riddance
That’s insane I met my nex when I was literally lost . I had to call a friend to take me home .
Hope you are doing better!
Thank you 💖 That is such great information~excellent advice Ben. That is literally the first time I’ve heard anything taught~explained concerning this particular aspect of narcissism, and I’ve been learning~on a healing journey for the past 4 years due to being the victim of 40 years of malignant covert Narcopath abuse by my now Ex husband.
The way you are able to alter your actions is phenomenal 🙌🏻
WOW , I was all 3 of these
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Excellent!
Thank you Ben❤
I guess because we met in toxic work environment we bonded over the problems and situations. I’d say I was happy to have a friend to unload my own frustrations. Plus he seemed to be funny and collected as a lawyer and gosh he was talking a lot 🤪 too much so it was boring at times. However, he lied about being a single man 😅 so that was the deal breaker I’m happy I found out that. I guess if I had weaker boundaries he could manipulate me into situationship. As he is still married and lies to other women he dates now that he is single 😂 he changed job and I’m sure he is hunting new supply there telling them he is single!!!
There has to be a perfect balance. If you need help with something sometimes you really do need the help you ask for for a reason and higher purpose. Yet it has to come from both sides so if one side are not open in receiving or are not open to the devine purpose and keep the defenses up there is not much the other person can do it's sad because it's not what is suppose to happen. I don't mean it in a sexual or affair way. You can only reach out so many times. Helping is a good thing and can really help with healing, growing and soul purpose healing both people in a beautiful way. I hope you talk about this Ben in courage this.
Thank You!
Oh, interesting. I always wondered what kind of idiot would brag about bullying coworkers in meetings or even a boss. Or tells new girlfriend how he lied to his ex-wife. Well, I did not say anything. Not because I approve any of it but I was so confused. I was just silent on those moments and collected data.
I am friendly and smiley - open. But I really do know who I am, what my values are, what I want and need and what I do not want in my life.
We had a one-on-one on Monday the 14th at 2:00 p.m. Eastern and I'm watching this video wondering what kind of vibe you got off of me if I were easily manipulated or not #teamclusterb
Ben, my late narc husband had an affair on/off for 5 years,we were together 30yrs before his passing last year. At the start of his affair he talked to me about how he felt about her,when I look back it sounds like he was in a trauma bond with his affair partner,can this happen?
This was interesting. My ex’s new girlfriend fits all 3 criteria. She was very open in offering to have sex with him. She told his daughter that she knew he was engaged, but he needed someone to talk to so she was there for him. He told his daughter that her children’s father had died 2 years ago, and that she needs a dad for her daughters. Sad thing is, he also told his 2 children that she’s been pushing him to get married, and he wants to start a new family over and have kids with her.
Do you do personal sessions with victims meaning wife & kids??
Yes, and it depends with the kids. Email me here support@rawmotivations.com
My ex chose woman who were after divorce, or were left.
The new supply is lost and he has her doing things she would never do. He best friend is my ex narcissist brothers wife. She doesn’t like him so he has her secretly becoming his sex toy.
Thats bs the need to have purpose. Not everyone has to have purpose
What so you think people don't need a purpose and just a dead end life? That sounds so depressing. What is a life without purpose?
@@RawMotivations That sounds so depressing to be constantly chasing some goal(s). What is a life without chasing? Do you have problem imagine it?
@@DZ-jz8bj to live with a purpose and direction? I feel so bad for anyone that doesn’t have a vision of who they want to be
What if someone is abbsession with the other partner on sex cause of what she or he does to the narcs.has fanasty of that person todo to him.
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Are u a narcissist
yes