1. Men in the nigerian diaspora are prone to infidelity, mainly because of generational issues (e.g., their fathers are grandfathers were in polygamous marriages) and if that spiritual issue is not dealt with, it can affect them and their families. 2. The lawyer said something really interesting. He said that marriages don't stand the test of time in other countries because women know their rights... Very interesting comment. In other countries, women are taught to speak up and stand against being in a relationship that causing you harm, whether physical or emotional. 3. Another nugget that he mentioned was that people become more greedy for money and tend to micromanage finances and want to know where all the money is going when they migrate to another country. True. It is not easy to move to a completely different country and assimilate into the culture without feeling the pressure of not having money or not being financially stable or independent. It takes leadership and partnership. 4. It appears that many Nigerians that move to other countries are not aware that marriage is a journey that will have its own separate and unique phases. It is perfectly possible for a man to be the breadwinner before leaving the main country to now move to a different country and the wife may be a breadwinner. Like the lawyer mentioned with one example, it can only be for a small period of time because it takes time to go through the education system and be successful when you migrate. Some people are not patient or are rigid and believe that their spouse cannot go through phases and develop themselves. And it is also quite possible that some spouses are jealous of their spouse developing themselves further and getting into a higher tax bracket. Very interesting conversation. Because majority of the things that is discussed has nothing to do with love. It is practical and advisable to do a thorough investigation of someone before you marry them, because you will not stay in that relationship strictly based off of love. Edited for grammatical corrections
marriage is understanding, communication,openness - but common in Nigerian marriages (which we term happy) is abuse - men demand for women to submit but they refuse to love their wives as Christ love the church. Again be open, communicate and be understanding
Dear tvc there are genuine women who sincerely want marriage but the Nigerian man they married in Nigeria and he has come to the uk is only interested in using the Nigerian lady he married in Nigeria as a means of staying in the uk permanently and move on to another women.But yet he will lie to his family saying the lady did not want him in the house.
When Nigerians say a couple were happily married in Nigeria before relocating abroad, I usually wonder how? This couple may as well just be tolerating each other due to a lot of things which are usually at stake here. One being that people don't leave because of "what people will say" and because the church has ingrained it in their sub-concious that divorce is a no go area. Hence, they continue to stay together, managing each other and not necessarily that they were not having issues before relocating. If the truth be told, they know each other well enough to know things have fallen apart much more earlier. Secondly, often times Nigerian men don't know how to lead as the head of the family, instead they lord it over their wives due to that patriachal mindset they carry along with them when they relocate. This is actually the number one reason for problems in diasporan marriages. These men want to act exactly the way their forefathers acted forgetting that culture evolves. Some men feel insecure when they see their wives earning more than them as against what usually obtains in Nigeria. They fail to realise that those foreign nations they relocated to were also like that some years back but they evolved because they saw the need for women to contribute to societal development and the sooner we begin to realise that as a society and in Nigeria, the better for us
The simple truth is .....our culture is dead...even the ladies in the studio a deaf to what that man is saying. Stop wasting your time explaining...let people experience it them self. Simple 👌
1. Men in the nigerian diaspora are prone to infidelity, mainly because of generational issues (e.g., their fathers are grandfathers were in polygamous marriages) and if that spiritual issue is not dealt with, it can affect them and their families.
2. The lawyer said something really interesting. He said that marriages don't stand the test of time in other countries because women know their rights... Very interesting comment. In other countries, women are taught to speak up and stand against being in a relationship that causing you harm, whether physical or emotional.
3. Another nugget that he mentioned was that people become more greedy for money and tend to micromanage finances and want to know where all the money is going when they migrate to another country. True. It is not easy to move to a completely different country and assimilate into the culture without feeling the pressure of not having money or not being financially stable or independent. It takes leadership and partnership.
4. It appears that many Nigerians that move to other countries are not aware that marriage is a journey that will have its own separate and unique phases. It is perfectly possible for a man to be the breadwinner before leaving the main country to now move to a different country and the wife may be a breadwinner. Like the lawyer mentioned with one example, it can only be for a small period of time because it takes time to go through the education system and be successful when you migrate. Some people are not patient or are rigid and believe that their spouse cannot go through phases and develop themselves. And it is also quite possible that some spouses are jealous of their spouse developing themselves further and getting into a higher tax bracket.
Very interesting conversation. Because majority of the things that is discussed has nothing to do with love. It is practical and advisable to do a thorough investigation of someone before you marry them, because you will not stay in that relationship strictly based off of love.
Edited for grammatical corrections
The longest comment I have ever read 📚
Point no.1 💯 true, some men have Polygamy embedded in their DNA.
The lawyer is very factual and knowledgeable about the topic.
Peer pressure and shift in earning / domestic dynamics 📈📈📈
It simply shows that they were never solid before; someone was bearing something
This man is well informed
Welldone Sir.
marriage is understanding, communication,openness - but common in Nigerian marriages (which we term happy) is abuse - men demand for women to submit but they refuse to love their wives as Christ love the church. Again be open, communicate and be understanding
The marriage was already damaged from the onset....please. This has nothing to do with been in Diaspora
9:16 earnings is taxed… so, no hiding 😅 everything must be on the table
Dear tvc there are genuine women who sincerely want marriage but the Nigerian man they married in Nigeria and he has come to the uk is only interested in using the Nigerian lady he married in Nigeria as a means of staying in the uk permanently and move on to another women.But yet he will lie to his family saying the lady did not want him in the house.
When Nigerians say a couple were happily married in Nigeria before relocating abroad, I usually wonder how? This couple may as well just be tolerating each other due to a lot of things which are usually at stake here. One being that people don't leave because of "what people will say" and because the church has ingrained it in their sub-concious that divorce is a no go area. Hence, they continue to stay together, managing each other and not necessarily that they were not having issues before relocating. If the truth be told, they know each other well enough to know things have fallen apart much more earlier.
Secondly, often times Nigerian men don't know how to lead as the head of the family, instead they lord it over their wives due to that patriachal mindset they carry along with them when they relocate. This is actually the number one reason for problems in diasporan marriages. These men want to act exactly the way their forefathers acted forgetting that culture evolves.
Some men feel insecure when they see their wives earning more than them as against what usually obtains in Nigeria. They fail to realise that those foreign nations they relocated to were also like that some years back but they evolved because they saw the need for women to contribute to societal development and the sooner we begin to realise that as a society and in Nigeria, the better for us
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Honestly, the host looks very different to me today.
Am I the only one?
What happened?
indeed - she only hosts on Saturday as they started Saturday edition since beginning of the month
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OK.
Thanks so much.
The simple truth is .....our culture is dead...even the ladies in the studio a deaf to what that man is saying.
Stop wasting your time explaining...let people experience it them self.
Simple 👌