Everything starts at home. My whole entire channel is dedicated to breaking generational curses in our community. These are the things that we have swept under the rug our entire lives. So many children born into chaos and turbulence and are expected to transition into society smoothly. I appreciate your transparency and honesty. Kesha, I pray this interview heals you in some way. ❤❤❤
I do not believe in, "Generational Curses", that Scripture does not support the claim of a "curse" from past generations. That's not like Voodoo rather than biblical. I believe in Generational Patterns of Sin that were modeled in front of children. The only solution is to be born again, regeneration of a renewed mind and heart ❤️ transformation, submitted under the Lordship of Christ. No believer is under a "curse" where you are indwelt with the Holy Spirit. If I believe in cursed, why would I repent if I'm cursed by something outside of ourselves. The curse was originated by the curse of Adam, yet Christ DESTROYED the power of the devil through The Cross and His resurrection. All sin now is a choice after the Redemption, that should move a believer to Repent.
Your channel is fantastic. I hope more women realize the power we have to nurture and foster healthy children and families… we can break harmful cycles.
We had generations of trauma. I was a latch key key that was never given a key. I had to break into my house every day after school. First started in elementary school. Cooked and cleaned since 8. Worked (on paper) since 13. I am a survivor of child SA and child abuse as well as a rape survivor. But, I have a master's degree and a good career. I am blessed. I am still here. Only trade-off? Never had kids.
Not just self awareness, but the willingness to stand up to the ignorance because others will weaponize their ignorance and make it a growing problem that causes others in the circle to also become a growing problem. It's hard to fix that when it's many against the few trying to change
This woman needs healing. She has been through so much. I understand what it feels like to have your whole heart and soul wrapped up in your children and I cannot imagine the pain of having all of your babies taken from you. Kesha, I hope you find the peace and strength within your soul to heal and be whole for yourself and your children. Stay strong mama.
When you finally get away from the people who caused you the pain in your childhood and then realize what characteristics are yours and which one's are learned behaviors you can then wirk on them. Everyday you grow and you fight to be the best you. You stop looking back, you stop wanting things from people who can't give it to you, realizing that the mother figure or father figure will Bennett be the people you want them to be and finally just allow them to be THEMSELVES then you see that EXPECTING THINGS FROM PEOPLE WHO CAN NOT GIVE IT TO YOU IS KEY FOR HEALING ❤
I raised my 3 kids alone and they turned out amazing and I instilled in them to break all cycles.The deck was stacked against them and me but my 3 are wonderful.So proud of all 3 of them.I came from a fucked up begining that I still carry with me to this day.I wanted more for mine and they make me so proud.Greatest thing I ever done is having my 3.
Kesha talks about how her mother doesn’t acknowledge the things she’s done and how they’ve impacted her. In the same sentence says she doesn’t understand where her oldest daughter gets her stubbornness. Kesha also fails to understand that having a 2 parent household is what caused her to lose her children. Kesha also seems to not take responsibility for ALL of the choices she made sucking as keeping extremely abusive men in her life.
I had my kids taken and got them back. While they were gone for 3 years I had to correct myself and fix myself and in turn this corrected and broke the generational curse of abandonment as my mom left me when I was 7. But it starts with self
I hate it when kids are forced to take on the responsibility of adults. It’s not your oldest child responsibility to raise their younger brothers and sisters that’s the parents job. If you don’t want to take care of your kids then don’t have them
When I was 17 years old I told my mother that the cycle would stop with me. She nodded from understanding. She knew I was serious. Other relatives didn't know until later when I never returned. I never had children. I refused to touch a drink with alcohol in it and I refused to smoke weed (or anything else). I was very serious. A man I met threatened my life on a voicemail and I had him hauled in to court the next morning to fine a restraining order. I did not sacrifice all of that to have some random guy ruin everything. Kesha needs to change, then her kids can. She is their role model. The father is their role model.
This is heavy, insightful though. So brave to share your experience and insights. This is a very needed and heartbreaking conversation to have. Lot of love for you ❤
It's all homes not just African American homes. White ppl have gone through the same no two parents in the household for the children, lots of domestic abuse, children being taken away and are living though the system, lots of drugs but when it comes to gangs I don't honestly have a clue about. I can't say yes or no to the gang part because I don't know so everyone is in the same category no matter what color they are it all starts from inside the home sad but true.
I absolutely agree I live in West Virginia and we have a large large amount of foster kids children that are being taken from their homes so many that there really aren't enough homes for the kids and alot of the foster homes have abuse so it's an epidemic here!
@@ashleysingley4560no we not. If you are still effected. That’s a you problem. After slavery black people were thriving, family oriented, and now we are more educated. But it is our present culture that is the problem and lack of accountability for self.
Kesha’s issue is she developed a soul tie and became addicted to a man that was jealous of her. He used reproductive abuse to keep her connected. She had a store, and potential to one day be successful. It made him feel powerful to “ make her lose everything“ Kesha never healed nor knew how to be a parent. It’s important to heal and grow so that you can set a solid foundation. But she kept including him because she was addicted to him. You can’t help a broken man, when you yourself are broken as a woman. Now she has broken children that she lost to a broken system
The idea that black most black men or the black society is somehow inherently dysfunctional is insane. Then Mark says why does it seem like the black community can't get it together when there are many families in his community that are just like the Whittiker family that he financially and emotionally supports even after being scammed. No race, culture is without its percentage of bad.
Exactly! They always take the worst things and call it “the black community “. My friends and I were all raised in 2 parent households and we all do well for ourselves.
7:31 OOOOO,OOOOO, I CAN ANSWER THAT ONE MARK! 🤚 (1st point) It turns out that in the 80s, a very popular president took it upon himself to fight communism, through funding a terrorist group called "the contras" However, he had to come up with funding somehow, and so he had the idea to sell drugs to the communities we can see as ghettos today. Now, as we all know drugs plus community doesn't equal the best outcomes for the residents look at (kensington, the tenderloin in sf, and your very own skid row) 😉 (2nd point ) BUT WAIT THERE IS MORE, The same president decided to later declare a war on drugs. which had drug dealers doing some serious time for possession/distribution. And so for anyone keeping score, if your mom or sister wasn't strung out on dope. then your dad or brother was locked up for selling it (3rd point the smoking gun) so put everything above together with the race relations, and the way black people viewed police due to interactions in previous decades. Add gangster rap/hip hop, and you get the *perfect storm* now music on the radio glorifies all the wrong messages. Or to those in the hood "a way out".(Hate the police/authority) which makes sense because, again the race relations at the time. (Selling the drugs yourself will get you nice things or noney) Kids already are predisposed to being impulsive. So How do you explain to a kid that fast money is bad in this environment. 🤷♂️ Plus, working-class blacks are seeing drug dealers with nice things as well. while they struggle and others battle addiction. police stopping by doing drug bust, locking said kids up and further destroying whatever is left. Not blaming the cops btw And im bearly scratching the surface..... this only happend 40 years ago. there are still people alive to tell you themselves what happened to the black community 😐
All of American history is a completely whitewashed lie. The Iran/Contra scandal should have imploded this demonic system, but, like all other high crimes, just got swept under the rug.
Her daughter being trafficked at 11 and her "acting out" her mothers response is whoop her... please please talk to your children ask what is wrong. Violence is clearly not the answer and this woman blaming generational curses is simply her not taking accountability smh
She said her daughter didn't tell her till she was grown. How could WE listen to the same thing, and you miss the key point lol? Comprehension is fundamental
@Reallionaire314 her daughter acting up is a cry for help. If she had taken time to talk to her daughter about why she is acting that way she would have known. The one with comprehension issues here is you. Smh
@@lm5661 this lady told HER truth and you twisting $hit up on some coulda/shoulda/would a.... Deal with the facts, the REALITY... NOT your feelings... Typical woman
Fear and poverty is what keeps people in familiar environments. Imagine moving to a new town and your parents are discriminated against at work, you’re discriminated at school by students and teachers, your neighbors complain about your music, your friends and family visiting, and now your children are acting out and the neighbors complain to the landlord and call CPS. You may as well have stayed in the hood. 😢
@@champfisk5613because the areas with the people that discriminate have the better resources. They think they are doing the best they can by their kids by bringing them to areas where the people want nothing to do with them.
I find her inspiring the story the trickle down the desire to stop the pattern is very relatable....n I love tht blue shiny hair color so pretty n metallic 💕😍
I hate that Mark made this a black issue, "why are so many African American struggling with doing the right thing"??? Seriously. The people on this channel, black white or brown are not a reflection of all. Not trying to downplay anybody's story or struggle, but a lot of us take parenthood seriously, protect and nourish our children, and are actually law-abiding citizens.
He’s right. Sadly…many people in that culture are violent and don’t want to work hard. They want fast $$ and material things. Education isn’t important and they have that violent pack mentality. Also, they think they are “owed” things in life without working for them.
Open your eyes or do some research. Mark is not incorrect. He’s not saying it doesn’t happen everywhere but it is very common in the black communities.
Man, y'all negros ALWAYS try to deflect from reality when it comes to the norm in the community. Accountability is missing in the community. The fact is in the community most kids grow up without THEIR biological father in the house. Im 42, I had my mother and father. Out of all the ppl I'm close to, I only know about 5-6 black ppl that grew up like me. That's SAD.... WE gotta do better and STOP running away from the realities of life.
That is why we as a black community need to break generational curses and realize that whooping our children immediately when they do something wrong was not the best form of discipline. Breaking that curse and understanding what is truly wrong with our children will break a lot of generations curses in our families.
Just to let ya know mark you spelt her name differently in the video and the caption. Is it keisha or kesha? She deserves to have it spelt right, sharing her story and being this vulnerable.
Thank you for letting Kesha tell her story. She seems so intelligent and it’s sad that she was dealt a lot of pet cards and she didn’t play the best hands, but I don’t think she had the instructions to the game either. She seems like a good person and she’s on the good path. I so appreciate what you do allowing people to talk until their story. It’s very therapeutic and it’s eye-opening for other peopleto realize that not, everybody is coming from the same place. Thank you, Mark.
To answer your question Mark (and put it simply), a lot of black people are suffering from the effects of slavery and racism. I don’t know why that is such a far-fetched idea for some, if black people in America never received healing care and reparations for this. There are racist systems still standing today…
Ok so slavery began in Africa and it's still happening right now , right now while you type up this bs. So do you hold your own ppl accountable and at what point do you as a black person stop using your skin color as a crutch and realize you need to take some responsibility for YOUR actions??
Excuses, excuses. Take responsibility for your life. My grandfather ( never knew him) was killed in the mines and my grandmother got nothing and raised 5 kids on her own. The mining industry years ago was terrible and abusive. I don’t go around claiming because my ancestors were abused the world owes me anything. Life’s unfair, deal with it and live your best life.
Exactly! It all comes down to a lack of resources for many. We are still suffering the affects of slavery, Jim Crow, etc no matter what the system in America is set to keep us at the bottom and gaslight us the whole way. It is sick how yt ppl deny the reality for many that is right in front of them. My heart breaks for Keisha 🥺 she has been through hell and the generational trauma just keeps repeating. I hope she can turn it around, get those babies, and right those wrongs.
7:18 the problem is not the home, is the American society built on racism and inequality. We black people in Africa and Europe, most of us are successful and have none of these problems, and trust me a lot of us have broken home and comes from poor background but we live in society built to help us thrive not to bring us down. And if you are left at the bottom of course gang banging and drugs looks the only way out.
Kesha we are all still learning! Appreciate your honesty and transparency in describing your experience. Hope you find and maintain the path to healing. It is a process.
Zero accountability for her own actions with this one. Get out there and make a difference if not for others for yourself youre in the most opportunistic country in the world.
Yep. I felt it too. CPS doesn’t just take them forever. They give you over a year to get it together. AND if my kids are taken I’m not going to go into drugs for 4 years I’m fighting my ssa off to ensure I’m straight when the time comes. Her oldest is in so much pain but she can’t “understand”. The child has been trafficked. That baby may never heal. I pray she does. But give her grace, hold her, take her to colleges and look into career ideas.
All african Americans are not all struggling to do the right thing Mark. Easy for you to say. A society who favours a white face in life, means you would never and can never understand the struggle of black people. Unfortunately some people have a bad start in life, no matter what race you are. It's about changing one's mindset and getting help and assistance to see where you can make better choices. I pray love, light, peace and continuous healing over your life Keisha💜🙏🏼
Please do not generalize about black men and women! Speak about your own experience. We can only break generational curses when we acknowledge our past, but take responsibility for our own actions.
Self awareness is needed. I feel like you're there and understand. I think you seem like a very genuine, sweet person. I wish you all the best. You did an amazing job coming through your own childhood. Don't put too much bad pressure on yourself. Give yourself some grace. Maybe just try to keep the bond with your kids and or continue to work on it. Even if they push you away. I think your heart will be happy and satisfied in the long run. I think they'll feel the same too. Even if they reject you they know when their heart deep down that's love from their mom trying to reconnect. I wish you all the best life can give. You are a courageous woman. Thank you for telling your story.
Domestic violence is such a hard cycle. Those poor people live in such fear and feel they have no escape. So many get killed just trying to leave. I wish there was a. Easy answer.
1950: 64% of Black men and 62% of Black women were married 1960: 61% of Black people were married. Black marriage rates began to fall even while the black middle class was growing, and they continued falling after 1980 even as black men's unemployment rates and real wages improved (although not relative to white men's). The Food Stamp Act of 1964 impacted the black family tremendously. Causing the men to abandon the home along with unemployment. The 1954 Supreme Court case Brown v. Board of Education outlawed segregation in public schools, but it took many years for most schools to be integrated. 70 years ago is not a very long time!!!! The 1980s crack epidemic, the prison system. America has literally tried to eradicate the black race in so many ways.
Praying for you Keisha. We have to live to fight another day and do our best regardless of circumstances. Our community has issues but we also have support systems, its just not mainstream. Keep fighting to better yourself and others. Stay positive sis!
Trying not to judge...as a childless woman who women try to make me guilty about (what I don't or do have, I should have millions cause I don't have kids etc. etc) I can't understand birthing a human and not KNOW them. The daughter was acting out cause she wanted mom to KNOW something was wrong...without her fully initiating her disclosure. To birth a human and not asking or showing you care...do people not ask ppl they love, simply, how is/was your day...???
I understand what you’re saying. My mother drilled into my head “you can’t do nothing in life w/ a bunch of crumb crushers ‘round your feet”. This is from a woman that had a mother & father; married to my father until he passed at 92 years old (married for ‘bout 67, 68 yrs). I’ll leave it there for now…you’re 💯
We all have different trauma in our childhood. I'm also one of them. I held everything in until I was in my 30's. When I had my second child, I realized I needed help for myself finally and therapy has been the best decision I've ever made for myself. I'm grateful to have a smart, driven, well behaved 19 year old. I don't know how I got so lucky with him since he went through my rough times with me. My 6 year old has never seen that part of my life and I pray I can be a great influence for her. And I still pray to this day that my son has forgiven me for the past. I never got him taken away by the state but he was with family for the years that I was in prison. Prison was my life saver. I pray that this helps you heal. ❤I pray that you get peace of mind and a healing heart. Keep telling your truth until you are better
Bad decisions and lack of self accountability will lead you to lifetime of making excuses and pointing fingers the first thing she need to do is look in the mirror and address her own mistakes and maybe then she will realize her own actions is the main source of her current circumstances
This person will never take real accountability or responsibility for her own personal actions or reactions , it’s very complicated and complex, when life threw her curve ball after curve balls her whole life and never forced herself to take action and get out of those situations or relationships , if the state has taken away her children for all sorts of physical and mental abuse , she had probably gotten away with some pretty foul stuff over the years and her children had suffered greatly from some serious mental trauma and now have all sorts of mental health issues that are buried deep down , and pop out and show their faces on occasion, and probably do not respond well to help or assistance , cause anytime they acted out , they were abused and associate it with pain or harm 🤷🏻♂️ she chooses not to disclose all the facts and is trying to act as though she is the victim , although she very much was the victim as well without question or any therapy… ? And it seems as though she is trying to show herself in a good or better light , doesn’t even seem possible but here we are , and some can see that she is the victim, that is now victimizing her own children, there is also some alternative motives for herself as well trying get her children back in her life to possibly thrive out of a homeless shelter , and has probably lived most of her life as a welfare recipient, we need a police report of all the investigations and findings … but just like all humans in a society with all sorts of life pressure , we are some damaged souls who need more help and more time to wrap our heads around what happened and heal and choose a new life path we want to pursue idk but why are things more and more difficult, idk but too many things have been swept under the rug for decades upon decades, and there is nowhere to take this mess ❤ it’s a very unhealthy and unfortunate situation in this world today …😢 hope she finds a way to thrive cause it may be all down hill from here and she will be back in a prison , feels like the last days before a economic death spiral 🌀
Sorry but how the hell does your daughter start getting sex trafficked at 11 and you as a mother in the same home can't figure that out? She's 100% to blame. A real mother would be involved and know everything about her daughter's life ESPECIALLY at that age. She should be ashamed. The two parent house hold helps the child develop but I came from a single parent home and I was a wild kid then I became a single full time parent myself which I have been for 6 years now but my daughter is raised right and disciplined properly. Everyone has an excuse for everything but the problem starts with you as a parent. Do better, damn !
Thank you for this interview Mark. This beautiful woman is describing a system of family policing. What the criminal legal system does to Black men, the child welfare system does to Black women. It’s not just generational. It’s systemic.
Kesha is so insightful and you can tell she has thought about this and grown as a woman. Unfortunately this is the reality of so many young people being brought up in homes where the parents are to young, to immature, to uneducated and lost with no support to help them. I wish we had the answer to stop this cycle. Thank you for your honesty Kesha, I pray that you can grow, heal and sharing your story hopefully will help others.
She really needed to get this story out there and off her chest. Mark asked her about her parents and she put the whole story out there. Thank you Kesha for being so honest and vulnerable. Keep your head up and keep moving forward.
Your hair is beautiful. You are beautiful. Just be the example for Alanah. You are so right at generational curses. Mine goes back to late 1800s. I moved away from everyone and spent 4 years in hardcore therapy. I mean I broke the whole foundation down and that was my priority. Some days I balled in fetal and cried and slept. When I went back to the environment I left, I damn near lost my mind. Your family, so called friends won’t support you but me strong. Your other two daughters are fine. Heal so when you see them again you can host holiday dinners, help with their children. Pray on your babies daily. God is healer. Put your name on section 8 list if you don’t have housing. Iowa moves in like 3 months. The Dakota’s. Then get there and do intense therapy and you can move back after a year. Do a year out of that environment and you will flourish. Get a diagnosis for mental health. And baby you don’t need no man. Half the people out here ain’t happy with theirs. Fight. Be ready for those girls to come home to you, college educated and forgiving. Sometimes losing is what it takes to break all curses. Try to get Alanah in intense therapy. Be her example and I know she probably pisses you off sometimes w her ways but hold her, let her cry. Let her know her worth. Girl apply to Iowa section 8. You can’t grow where you got damaged at. My life was a mess. I’m still standing. I’m breaking the curse. GOD is your support. The programs are your support. Community is your support. I understand the mom dynamics. Momma and is not able to give you what you need. Accept it. Accept it. You have too to move on. Love her but you got to get past the perfect family. You are not alone in your story. Do not be ashamed. Mom is denying the molestation because it’s how her generation was. It happened to her. And she can’t admit she let it happened to you! She knows. Best advice I got to help me. My mother went through an everyday hell growing up. That is helping me forgive her. My momma made me a soldier. That’s enough for me. Please get checked for mental health issues. Above all get treated. I just heard you mention your two baby girls. I’m sorry about the one hospitalized. I would look into a lawsuit to sue CPS from traumatizing her more.
❤I’ll pray for this woman I feel so bad it’s such a shame. Most always follow in the parents habits not even knowing it’s the same situation as the parents ❤❤
Definitely hit home when she talked about saying I love you to your kids! I was never told that as a kid so I never told my kids when they were young. Now I tell them I love them all the time and they look at me like I’m crazy! But I make sure my grandkids hear it all the time. Can’t change the past but can make the future better 😢
Generational curses are so tough to break. The patterns are familiar and oddly comfortable because of the familiarity. Helpful is to be aware of something feeling comfortable and then checking it. You will see it from your past and then you can run away fast.
The struggles in the black community stem from systemic racism, if you arent given opportunities how are you going to "pull yourself up" by the bootstraps. There was alot done to the black community. Im glad so many of us are making our way so positively, but its not the same for all of us. Im sad for my people.
Cmon Kesha grab an upgrade...we are pulling for you...your past is long gone now do what takes to get a different perspective. Your daughter will follow hopefully, you are a beautiful person and I see a strong person who can turn this train around!❤❤❤❤
I had my children taken, and it's hard to feel the emotions because you feel a level of pain that is almost inhumane. Which causes most to use more drugs, so it will numb you, which causes more trauma, and you get caught in a cycle of pain and suffering. When I finally lost everything and my world was surrounded by predators that's the day I called on God and did what I had to like going into long term rehab far away from my community because you're less likely to be successful where the people you used drugs with still live. I got into therapy and had to focus on myself only. It's been six and a half years, and I'm finally in a place where I can forgive myself and others who hurt me. Life's not perfect because it's always going to be a rollercoaster because emotions for a person in recovery are always difficult. My life today is a true blessing from God even though I'm imperfect and life is messy. I suppose you come to a place where you learn how to deal with life on life's terms. I pray for all of you going through the pain of losing your babies to dhs. You can change yourself and live a life you can be at peace with if you choose to follow others before you and get all the help you can to heal.❤
Growing up in the worst parts of Chicago no matter what all my friends dads were in house working men then eventually move the families out of the hood. This whole man aren’t around is a lie. Sounds like a poor choices in the same bad man.
Ma’am you’re so strong. I applaud you for getting yourself clean, for leaving the abusive man, for doing the best you could with your children, and trying to get yourself clean life on the right track. You deserve love and support. I’m so sorry for the things you went through.
Mark you’re just flat out wrong for posing this question “why do so many African Americans struggle with just doing the right thing…?” Unacceptable. Internet do what you do best smh
Well..I'm black and we know why. Slavery. My therapist is a white man and has said this. It's generational. Sadly. It takes therapy and prayers to break these curses. I didn't find what Mark asked offensive.
Mark has done wonderful work for the Black community. As a Black woman, he asked a very legitimate question. I'm sorry you took his question so personal.
It's ok not to have kids if you weren't raised right, don't have financial means, don't want kids etc. I just want to make it clear I didn't feel I should bring kids into a messed up world. My parents were amazing hard working never even drank a beer infront of us kids. They did work a lot and I grew up in Miami which was is 💩 in my opinion the Spanish hood and that was enough for me inspite of my amazing parents to decide not to bring kids into the world.
Pure evil and selfishness when a person decides to have children knowing that they live a life of hell and the environment created for the child or children will be a nightmare I salute those that understand that they do not have the capacity nor capability to be mothers or fathers and as such they don't put themselves in the position of being parents sadly the lineage of trauma and Chaos in that family will continue simply just because as a society when do we stop being selfish with procreating just because one has a working reproductive system and not take into account that trauma,triggers,and chaos starts in vitro
I keep coming to check if you’ve brought Johnny on the channel. Where is he?! Is he okay?! He hasn’t been on in such a long time and I start to worry when it’s been a couple months . The johnny with the eyes closed guy lol
This was a heart wrenching interview. Even though domestic violence, addiction and mental illness do not discriminate, there is the issue of limited resources for the poor. The men and women reference in this video do have a hand in their circumstances. But I suspect they had little opportunity or support in earning a decent living. Hence, they reached for opportunities for fast money for survival. That lifestyle is dangerous and the families subject to these circumstances do not have a fighting chance from the start. There is no profit in victimizing the victims. A large part of this problem is societal. I know I am not saying anything new. But I think this still need to be said.
I can totally relate to you! I haven't been thru what you have, but youre the feelings are the same. It is hard but you're doing it. You & your mom get into some counseling. If she won't go, go by yourself. Love & peayers from Missouri. ❤
mark how can i have an interview with you? i’ve saw all of your appalachia interviews and im from appalachia myself and have a ton of stories and experiences from trauma, success, depression, addiction and other mental health issues. i’d love to have an interview and i’ve wanted one ever since i first saw your channel. got a lot of stuff that i’d like to get out in an interview too
Praying that God break those curses. We as a race , culture or people. Have been through a lot in this country. It might seems like it the individual fault but it's deeper than what society sees.
Her story makes me cry. She’s so transparent. I just think she needs to forgive herself. We often mourn our life and our decisions and what could’ve been. It looks different for everyone but it’s ultimately just a life or shame, guilt and regret.
One of my good friends had her children taken for emotional and mental abuse. She was being physically abused by her husband and her boys were seeing it all. In the eyes of the state, that is abusive.
We cannot constantly " just blame" the man or " just blame" the woman: It takes two to tangle. The problem is mate selection: Many women like these Bad Boys or Thug guys: This love for Thug men/Bad Boys exist in all communities,but it is exacerbated in the Black community. Most women do not like nerdy guys: They want guys who can make fast money. She said a lot of the men her mother met; a lot of the men her mother chose: I once met a White woman that said all White men are Bad because of molestation issues: Are all White,Black,Asian,Hispanic men Bad? Of course not!
Move out of California that would be the best thing you ever do for yourself New Mexico is a really cool state no hurricanes no tornadoes no earthquakes really good food and the people are nice
Everything starts at home. My whole entire channel is dedicated to breaking generational curses in our community. These are the things that we have swept under the rug our entire lives. So many children born into chaos and turbulence and are expected to transition into society smoothly. I appreciate your transparency and honesty. Kesha, I pray this interview heals you in some way. ❤❤❤
Ditto!
Blessings, love, and light! 🙏❤️✨️
I do not believe in, "Generational Curses", that Scripture does not support the claim of a "curse" from past generations. That's not like Voodoo rather than biblical. I believe in Generational Patterns of Sin that were modeled in front of children. The only solution is to be born again, regeneration of a renewed mind and heart ❤️ transformation, submitted under the Lordship of Christ. No believer is under a "curse" where you are indwelt with the Holy Spirit. If I believe in cursed, why would I repent if I'm cursed by something outside of ourselves. The curse was originated by the curse of Adam, yet Christ DESTROYED the power of the devil through The Cross and His resurrection. All sin now is a choice after the Redemption, that should move a believer to Repent.
@@seedofabraham0149What a powerful and eloquently written statement.
Goosebumps. ❤
"generational bad choices", NOT "curses". 👍👍
Your channel is fantastic. I hope more women realize the power we have to nurture and foster healthy children and families… we can break harmful cycles.
We had generations of trauma. I was a latch key key that was never given a key. I had to break into my house every day after school. First started in elementary school. Cooked and cleaned since 8. Worked (on paper) since 13. I am a survivor of child SA and child abuse as well as a rape survivor. But, I have a master's degree and a good career. I am blessed. I am still here. Only trade-off? Never had kids.
Good for you 🎉, this world has become an unfriendly place recently
Godbless you!
Adopting my wifes 2 boys saved my life from drugs , booze and a relapse to prison.
Sounds like you're strong enough to not blame your failures on a "curse"
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Domestic violence , drug abuse, and mental illness happens in every community, self awareness is the key to breaking the cycle.
Not just self awareness, but the willingness to stand up to the ignorance because others will weaponize their ignorance and make it a growing problem that causes others in the circle to also become a growing problem. It's hard to fix that when it's many against the few trying to change
You can be the most self aware person in the world, its what you DO with that self awareness.
@@1428monsterdrink Exactly, but you must force yourself to look at the people that surround you.
God is the way!
Some communities are more at risk and have less access to resources.
This woman needs healing. She has been through so much. I understand what it feels like to have your whole heart and soul wrapped up in your children and I cannot imagine the pain of having all of your babies taken from you. Kesha, I hope you find the peace and strength within your soul to heal and be whole for yourself and your children. Stay strong mama.
Thank you for your bravery in sharing your story. May you get the healing you need and deserve.
Healing can only come from given it to Christ. No other way!
What a stunning woman - she has such a warmth and compassion about her. This is a heavy watch but i gained so much strength thru this interview
When you finally get away from the people who caused you the pain in your childhood and then realize what characteristics are yours and which one's are learned behaviors you can then wirk on them. Everyday you grow and you fight to be the best you. You stop looking back, you stop wanting things from people who can't give it to you, realizing that the mother figure or father figure will Bennett be the people you want them to be and finally just allow them to be THEMSELVES then you see that EXPECTING THINGS FROM PEOPLE WHO CAN NOT GIVE IT TO YOU IS KEY FOR HEALING ❤
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I raised my 3 kids alone and they turned out amazing and I instilled in them to break all cycles.The deck was stacked against them and me but my 3 are wonderful.So proud of all 3 of them.I came from a fucked up begining that I still carry with me to this day.I wanted more for mine and they make me so proud.Greatest thing I ever done is having my 3.
I’m a cycle breaker myself❤
This is bragging, and this isn't even about you. Not everyone is you just call yourself lucky.. most of us are not
@@ayttiiie7I don't see It as bragging, but as of an accomplishment.
@@ayttiiie7no it’s not! Shut the hell up
@ayttiiie7 how can you encourage someone to aspire to something if they don't see it can be done? I don't see this as bragging at all.
Kesha talks about how her mother doesn’t acknowledge the things she’s done and how they’ve impacted her. In the same sentence says she doesn’t understand where her oldest daughter gets her stubbornness. Kesha also fails to understand that having a 2 parent household is what caused her to lose her children. Kesha also seems to not take responsibility for ALL of the choices she made sucking as keeping extremely abusive men in her life.
That’s the hood indoctrination. She’s trying and still needs help healing.
I had my kids taken and got them back. While they were gone for 3 years I had to correct myself and fix myself and in turn this corrected and broke the generational curse of abandonment as my mom left me when I was 7. But it starts with self
I’m proud of you ❤
That’s awesome! I’m proud of you!
@@CassieBee88 I appreciate that. Thank you
You go girl! Very proud of you! ❤❤❤
When a parent makes terrible decisions the children will lose respect for them and make the same mistakes🤷🏿♂️bad parenting makes unruly children
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I hate it when kids are forced to take on the responsibility of adults. It’s not your oldest child responsibility to raise their younger brothers and sisters that’s the parents job. If you don’t want to take care of your kids then don’t have them
When I was 17 years old I told my mother that the cycle would stop with me. She nodded from understanding. She knew I was serious. Other relatives didn't know until later when I never returned. I never had children. I refused to touch a drink with alcohol in it and I refused to smoke weed (or anything else). I was very serious. A man I met threatened my life on a voicemail and I had him hauled in to court the next morning to fine a restraining order. I did not sacrifice all of that to have some random guy ruin everything.
Kesha needs to change, then her kids can. She is their role model. The father is their role model.
This is heavy, insightful though. So brave to share your experience and insights. This is a very needed and heartbreaking conversation to have. Lot of love for you ❤
She blames everyone! No accountability!
It's all homes not just African American homes. White ppl have gone through the same no two parents in the household for the children, lots of domestic abuse, children being taken away and are living though the system, lots of drugs but when it comes to gangs I don't honestly have a clue about. I can't say yes or no to the gang part because I don't know so everyone is in the same category no matter what color they are it all starts from inside the home sad but true.
Yes true, notice how Mark only blames black folk ... Prisons are filled with white men, black men, Spanish men, etc.
I absolutely agree I live in West Virginia and we have a large large amount of foster kids children that are being taken from their homes so many that there really aren't enough homes for the kids and alot of the foster homes have abuse so it's an epidemic here!
Exactly
It’s not just African American homes but we are the ones systematically oppressed and still dealing with the effects of slavery…
@@ashleysingley4560no we not. If you are still effected. That’s a you problem. After slavery black people were thriving, family oriented, and now we are more educated. But it is our present culture that is the problem and lack of accountability for self.
Kesha’s issue is she developed a soul tie and became addicted to a man that was jealous of her. He used reproductive abuse to keep her connected. She had a store, and potential to one day be successful. It made him feel powerful to “ make her lose everything“ Kesha never healed nor knew how to be a parent. It’s important to heal and grow so that you can set a solid foundation. But she kept including him because she was addicted to him. You can’t help a broken man, when you yourself are broken as a woman. Now she has broken children that she lost to a broken system
Stop watching lifetime.......
@@AdvancedAIchatbotthey a learn few terms and buzzwords and never shut up.
lol everyone’s a psychologist on youtube
For Realzzzz
Very very true
The idea that
black most black men or the black society is somehow inherently dysfunctional is insane. Then Mark says why does it seem like the black community can't get it together when there are many families in his community that are just like the Whittiker family that he financially and emotionally supports even after being scammed. No race, culture is without its percentage of bad.
It’s really not insane. It’s very much true.
@@Xyz46786you do not know that for a fact. This world is huge
@@Xyz46786 you don't have a right to make that assumption.
Facts! Myself and 95% of my black friends and family come from 2 parent households. Poverty and class make a difference unfortunately.
Exactly! They always take the worst things and call it “the black community “. My friends and I were all raised in 2 parent households and we all do well for ourselves.
Sending you so much healing and breaking the bonds of generational addiction. Never ever give up❤ you are so brave.
7:31 OOOOO,OOOOO, I CAN ANSWER THAT ONE MARK! 🤚
(1st point) It turns out that in the 80s, a very popular president took it upon himself to fight communism, through funding a terrorist group called "the contras" However, he had to come up with funding somehow, and so he had the idea to sell drugs to the communities we can see as ghettos today.
Now, as we all know drugs plus community doesn't equal the best outcomes for the residents look at (kensington, the tenderloin in sf, and your very own skid row) 😉
(2nd point ) BUT WAIT THERE IS MORE, The same president decided to later declare a war on drugs. which had drug dealers doing some serious time for possession/distribution. And so for anyone keeping score, if your mom or sister wasn't strung out on dope. then your dad or brother was locked up for selling it
(3rd point the smoking gun)
so put everything above together with the race relations, and the way black people viewed police due to interactions in previous decades. Add gangster rap/hip hop, and you get the *perfect storm*
now music on the radio glorifies all the wrong messages. Or to those in the hood "a way out".(Hate the police/authority) which makes sense because, again the race relations at the time. (Selling the drugs yourself will get you nice things or noney) Kids already are predisposed to being impulsive. So How do you explain to a kid that fast money is bad in this environment. 🤷♂️
Plus, working-class blacks are seeing drug dealers with nice things as well. while they struggle and others battle addiction. police stopping by doing drug bust, locking said kids up and further destroying whatever is left. Not blaming the cops btw
And im bearly scratching the surface..... this only happend 40 years ago. there are still people alive to tell you themselves what happened to the black community 😐
Reagan ruined so much!
I saw personally how crack ruined the bay area in the 80s.
All of American history is a completely whitewashed lie. The Iran/Contra scandal should have imploded this demonic system, but, like all other high crimes, just got swept under the rug.
Exactly!!!
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Her daughter being trafficked at 11 and her "acting out" her mothers response is whoop her... please please talk to your children ask what is wrong. Violence is clearly not the answer and this woman blaming generational curses is simply her not taking accountability smh
She said her daughter didn't tell her till she was grown. How could WE listen to the same thing, and you miss the key point lol? Comprehension is fundamental
@Reallionaire314 her daughter acting up is a cry for help. If she had taken time to talk to her daughter about why she is acting that way she would have known. The one with comprehension issues here is you. Smh
@@lm5661 this lady told HER truth and you twisting $hit up on some coulda/shoulda/would a.... Deal with the facts, the REALITY... NOT your feelings... Typical woman
More taking responsibility and less blame 👍
Fear and poverty is what keeps people in familiar environments. Imagine moving to a new town and your parents are discriminated against at work, you’re discriminated at school by students and teachers, your neighbors complain about your music, your friends and family visiting, and now your children are acting out and the neighbors complain to the landlord and call CPS. You may as well have stayed in the hood. 😢
Why would your parents move around ppl that discriminate?
@@champfisk5613because the areas with the people that discriminate have the better resources. They think they are doing the best they can by their kids by bringing them to areas where the people want nothing to do with them.
@@LasBlackUnicrn interesting point of view but if one was in their native country then no one would be able to tell the difference by looking at them
I find her inspiring the story the trickle down the desire to stop the pattern is very relatable....n I love tht blue shiny hair color so pretty n metallic 💕😍
I hate that Mark made this a black issue, "why are so many African American struggling with doing the right thing"??? Seriously. The people on this channel, black white or brown are not a reflection of all. Not trying to downplay anybody's story or struggle, but a lot of us take parenthood seriously, protect and nourish our children, and are actually law-abiding citizens.
He’s right. Sadly…many people in that culture are violent and don’t want to work hard. They want fast $$ and material things. Education isn’t important and they have that violent pack mentality. Also, they think they are “owed” things in life without working for them.
Open your eyes or do some research. Mark is not incorrect. He’s not saying it doesn’t happen everywhere but it is very common in the black communities.
I caught that too. I’m not feeling that AT ALL
Mark is right. Degenerate behavior is celebrated in the black community.
Man, y'all negros ALWAYS try to deflect from reality when it comes to the norm in the community. Accountability is missing in the community. The fact is in the community most kids grow up without THEIR biological father in the house. Im 42, I had my mother and father. Out of all the ppl I'm close to, I only know about 5-6 black ppl that grew up like me. That's SAD.... WE gotta do better and STOP running away from the realities of life.
That is why we as a black community need to break generational curses and realize that whooping our children immediately when they do something wrong was not the best form of discipline. Breaking that curse and understanding what is truly wrong with our children will break a lot of generations curses in our families.
@@ebonyeyes4122 Yes. Keep learning.
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Just to let ya know mark you spelt her name differently in the video and the caption. Is it keisha or kesha? She deserves to have it spelt right, sharing her story and being this vulnerable.
Thank you for letting Kesha tell her story. She seems so intelligent and it’s sad that she was dealt a lot of pet cards and she didn’t play the best hands, but I don’t think she had the instructions to the game either. She seems like a good person and she’s on the good path. I so appreciate what you do allowing people to talk until their story. It’s very therapeutic and it’s eye-opening for other peopleto realize that not, everybody is coming from the same place. Thank you, Mark.
Being born into a mess makes it almost impossible to step out of it without it getting stuck on your shoe.
To answer your question Mark (and put it simply), a lot of black people are suffering from the effects of slavery and racism.
I don’t know why that is such a far-fetched idea for some, if black people in America never received healing care and reparations for this. There are racist systems still standing today…
California's governor Newsom vetoed reparations.
Ok so slavery began in Africa and it's still happening right now , right now while you type up this bs. So do you hold your own ppl accountable and at what point do you as a black person stop using your skin color as a crutch and realize you need to take some responsibility for YOUR actions??
Excuses, excuses. Take responsibility for your life. My grandfather ( never knew him) was killed in the mines and my grandmother got nothing and raised 5 kids on her own. The mining industry years ago was terrible and abusive. I don’t go around claiming because my ancestors were abused the world owes me anything. Life’s unfair, deal with it and live your best life.
Exactly! It all comes down to a lack of resources for many. We are still suffering the affects of slavery, Jim Crow, etc no matter what the system in America is set to keep us at the bottom and gaslight us the whole way. It is sick how yt ppl deny the reality for many that is right in front of them. My heart breaks for Keisha 🥺 she has been through hell and the generational trauma just keeps repeating. I hope she can turn it around, get those babies, and right those wrongs.
7:18 the problem is not the home, is the American society built on racism and inequality. We black people in Africa and Europe, most of us are successful and have none of these problems, and trust me a lot of us have broken home and comes from poor background but we live in society built to help us thrive not to bring us down. And if you are left at the bottom of course gang banging and drugs looks the only way out.
America is not built on race. It was built be different races and it allows equal opportunity if you work for it.
This! 💯
What makes you think African and European black people are more successful? Do you have any statics to base that on? I'm so curious.
Nobody is buying that bull shit anymore
@@ThunderLips730 this!
Kesha we are all still learning! Appreciate your honesty and transparency in describing your experience. Hope you find and maintain the path to healing. It is a process.
Zero accountability for her own actions with this one. Get out there and make a difference if not for others for yourself youre in the most opportunistic country in the world.
If you knew the history and read the comment you wouldn’t say that, opportunity for what?
Yep. I felt it too. CPS doesn’t just take them forever. They give you over a year to get it together. AND if my kids are taken I’m not going to go into drugs for 4 years I’m fighting my ssa off to ensure I’m straight when the time comes. Her oldest is in so much pain but she can’t “understand”. The child has been trafficked. That baby may never heal. I pray she does. But give her grace, hold her, take her to colleges and look into career ideas.
I honestly feel for her. but life is about choices, a lot people go through things but decide to stop the cycle. especially from childhood trauma.
Not everyone can break the cycle. You make it seem like it is super easy. It is very hard when that is all you have seen since childhood
@@claudiaahwireng873 the people who have done that, will beg to differ
we all have our own individual karmas to process and work through
@@nerdyjock2100 It's not many people
All african Americans are not all struggling to do the right thing Mark. Easy for you to say. A society who favours a white face in life, means you would never and can never understand the struggle of black people. Unfortunately some people have a bad start in life, no matter what race you are. It's about changing one's mindset and getting help and assistance to see where you can make better choices. I pray love, light, peace and continuous healing over your life Keisha💜🙏🏼
Thank you for your transparency. I am sure your story will inspire others that are going through the same journey.
This woman is intelligent, I pray she finds her way!
Please do not generalize about black men and women! Speak about your own experience. We can only break generational curses when we acknowledge our past, but take responsibility for our own actions.
Come to Memphis , TN Mark it’s a lot of interesting ppl you can interview here ! Great content
Self awareness is needed. I feel like you're there and understand. I think you seem like a very genuine, sweet person. I wish you all the best. You did an amazing job coming through your own childhood. Don't put too much bad pressure on yourself. Give yourself some grace. Maybe just try to keep the bond with your kids and or continue to work on it. Even if they push you away. I think your heart will be happy and satisfied in the long run. I think they'll feel the same too. Even if they reject you they know when their heart deep down that's love from their mom trying to reconnect. I wish you all the best life can give. You are a courageous woman. Thank you for telling your story.
I really can relate to her on so many levels I feel her pain…sending prayers 🙏 stay strong 💪
Me too!❤❤❤
Domestic violence is such a hard cycle. Those poor people live in such fear and feel they have no escape. So many get killed just trying to leave. I wish there was a. Easy answer.
1950: 64% of Black men and 62% of Black women were married
1960: 61% of Black people were married. Black marriage rates began to fall even while the black middle class was growing, and they continued falling after 1980 even as black men's unemployment rates and real wages improved (although not relative to white men's). The Food Stamp Act of 1964 impacted the black family tremendously. Causing the men to abandon the home along with unemployment. The 1954 Supreme Court case Brown v. Board of Education outlawed segregation in public schools, but it took many years for most schools to be integrated. 70 years ago is not a very long time!!!! The 1980s crack epidemic, the prison system. America has literally tried to eradicate the black race in so many ways.
Praying for you Keisha. We have to live to fight another day and do our best regardless of circumstances. Our community has issues but we also have support systems, its just not mainstream. Keep fighting to better yourself and others. Stay positive sis!
Trying not to judge...as a childless woman who women try to make me guilty about (what I don't or do have, I should have millions cause I don't have kids etc. etc) I can't understand birthing a human and not KNOW them. The daughter was acting out cause she wanted mom to KNOW something was wrong...without her fully initiating her disclosure. To birth a human and not asking or showing you care...do people not ask ppl they love, simply, how is/was your day...???
I understand what you’re saying. My mother drilled into my head “you can’t do nothing in life w/ a bunch of crumb crushers ‘round your feet”. This is from a woman that had a mother & father; married to my father until he passed at 92 years old (married for ‘bout 67, 68 yrs). I’ll leave it there for now…you’re 💯
We all have different trauma in our childhood. I'm also one of them. I held everything in until I was in my 30's. When I had my second child, I realized I needed help for myself finally and therapy has been the best decision I've ever made for myself. I'm grateful to have a smart, driven, well behaved 19 year old. I don't know how I got so lucky with him since he went through my rough times with me. My 6 year old has never seen that part of my life and I pray I can be a great influence for her. And I still pray to this day that my son has forgiven me for the past. I never got him taken away by the state but he was with family for the years that I was in prison. Prison was my life saver. I pray that this helps you heal. ❤I pray that you get peace of mind and a healing heart. Keep telling your truth until you are better
Bad decisions and lack of self accountability will lead you to lifetime of making excuses and pointing fingers the first thing she need to do is look in the mirror and address her own mistakes and maybe then she will realize her own actions is the main source of her current circumstances
I agree, there comes a time in adulthood to stop blaming and start taking accountability and taking action.
This person will never take real accountability or responsibility for her own personal actions or reactions , it’s very complicated and complex, when life threw her curve ball after curve balls her whole life and never forced herself to take action and get out of those situations or relationships , if the state has taken away her children for all sorts of physical and mental abuse , she had probably gotten away with some pretty foul stuff over the years and her children had suffered greatly from some serious mental trauma and now have all sorts of mental health issues that are buried deep down , and pop out and show their faces on occasion, and probably do not respond well to help or assistance , cause anytime they acted out , they were abused and associate it with pain or harm 🤷🏻♂️ she chooses not to disclose all the facts and is trying to act as though she is the victim , although she very much was the victim as well without question or any therapy… ? And it seems as though she is trying to show herself in a good or better light , doesn’t even seem possible but here we are , and some can see that she is the victim, that is now victimizing her own children, there is also some alternative motives for herself as well trying get her children back in her life to possibly thrive out of a homeless shelter , and has probably lived most of her life as a welfare recipient, we need a police report of all the investigations and findings … but just like all humans in a society with all sorts of life pressure , we are some damaged souls who need more help and more time to wrap our heads around what happened and heal and choose a new life path we want to pursue idk but why are things more and more difficult, idk but too many things have been swept under the rug for decades upon decades, and there is nowhere to take this mess ❤ it’s a very unhealthy and unfortunate situation in this world today …😢 hope she finds a way to thrive cause it may be all down hill from here and she will be back in a prison , feels like the last days before a economic death spiral 🌀
Children are a blessing BUT having children with the wrong person under the wrong circumstances can take your life down down down.
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Good day from Florida! 😊
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Hoi from Leiden, Netherlands! Den Haag is my favourite city
Good day to you, from Canada 🇨🇦 😊
Sorry but how the hell does your daughter start getting sex trafficked at 11 and you as a mother in the same home can't figure that out? She's 100% to blame. A real mother would be involved and know everything about her daughter's life ESPECIALLY at that age. She should be ashamed.
The two parent house hold helps the child develop but I came from a single parent home and I was a wild kid then I became a single full time parent myself which I have been for 6 years now but my daughter is raised right and disciplined properly. Everyone has an excuse for everything but the problem starts with you as a parent. Do better, damn !
Thank you for this interview Mark. This beautiful woman is describing a system of family policing. What the criminal legal system does to Black men, the child welfare system does to Black women. It’s not just generational. It’s systemic.
Yup! Combined with 400+ years of theft of our collective wealth that has never been repaid.
My heart feels so much for her. She seems like such a lovely person if loved the right way.
If fathers don’t take their responsibilities, the world ain’t gotta be a better place.
Congrats on your sobriety, Kesha! I’m proud of you for that! ❤️
Kesha is so insightful and you can tell she has thought about this and grown as a woman. Unfortunately this is the reality of so many young people being brought up in homes where the parents are to young, to immature, to uneducated and lost with no support to help them. I wish we had the answer to stop this cycle. Thank you for your honesty Kesha, I pray that you can grow, heal and sharing your story hopefully will help others.
She really needed to get this story out there and off her chest. Mark asked her about her parents and she put the whole story out there. Thank you Kesha for being so honest and vulnerable. Keep your head up and keep moving forward.
Goodmorning
Thank you so much for this interview
Keisha my heart breaks for you! I’m so sorry!
Keep doing and working towards your goals. Take pride in the little things. Better days ahead.
Your hair is beautiful. You are beautiful. Just be the example for Alanah. You are so right at generational curses. Mine goes back to late 1800s. I moved away from everyone and spent 4 years in hardcore therapy. I mean I broke the whole foundation down and that was my priority. Some days I balled in fetal and cried and slept. When I went back to the environment I left, I damn near lost my mind. Your family, so called friends won’t support you but me strong. Your other two daughters are fine. Heal so when you see them again you can host holiday dinners, help with their children. Pray on your babies daily. God is healer. Put your name on section 8 list if you don’t have housing. Iowa moves in like 3 months. The Dakota’s. Then get there and do intense therapy and you can move back after a year. Do a year out of that environment and you will flourish. Get a diagnosis for mental health. And baby you don’t need no man. Half the people out here ain’t happy with theirs. Fight. Be ready for those girls to come home to you, college educated and forgiving. Sometimes losing is what it takes to break all curses. Try to get Alanah in intense therapy. Be her example and I know she probably pisses you off sometimes w her ways but hold her, let her cry. Let her know her worth. Girl apply to Iowa section 8. You can’t grow where you got damaged at. My life was a mess. I’m still standing. I’m breaking the curse. GOD is your support. The programs are your support. Community is your support. I understand the mom dynamics. Momma and is not able to give you what you need. Accept it. Accept it. You have too to move on. Love her but you got to get past the perfect family. You are not alone in your story. Do not be ashamed. Mom is denying the molestation because it’s how her generation was. It happened to her. And she can’t admit she let it happened to you! She knows. Best advice I got to help me. My mother went through an everyday hell growing up. That is helping me forgive her. My momma made me a soldier. That’s enough for me. Please get checked for mental health issues. Above all get treated. I just heard you mention your two baby girls. I’m sorry about the one hospitalized. I would look into a lawsuit to sue CPS from traumatizing her more.
I felt her pain...truly heartbreaking 😢
The lack of accountability for her eldest is wild. Do better for yourself and children.
Great story. Again. Thanks to your guest. Praying for all.❤
❤I’ll pray for this woman I feel so bad it’s such a shame. Most always follow in the parents habits not even knowing it’s the same situation as the parents ❤❤
Definitely hit home when she talked about saying I love you to your kids! I was never told that as a kid so I never told my kids when they were young. Now I tell them I love them all the time and they look at me like I’m crazy! But I make sure my grandkids hear it all the time. Can’t change the past but can make the future better 😢
Her Daughter is ANGRY!!!
this lady blames everyone, but takes zero accountability.
hmpf
Yep!
Generational curses are so tough to break. The patterns are familiar and oddly comfortable because of the familiarity. Helpful is to be aware of something feeling comfortable and then checking it. You will see it from your past and then you can run away fast.
She is an intelligent woman.
I pray she doesn’t seek out her youngest daughter. Leave her alone until you heal.
The struggles in the black community stem from systemic racism, if you arent given opportunities how are you going to "pull yourself up" by the bootstraps. There was alot done to the black community. Im glad so many of us are making our way so positively, but its not the same for all of us. Im sad for my people.
Cmon Kesha grab an upgrade...we are pulling for you...your past is long gone now do what takes to get a different perspective. Your daughter will follow hopefully, you are a beautiful person and I see a strong person who can turn this train around!❤❤❤❤
Generational Curse is a perfect title.
I just want to give her a hug
The problem is culture. Systemic cultural dysfunction, which leads to lack of marriage values, morals, dependency etc
I had my children taken, and it's hard to feel the emotions because you feel a level of pain that is almost inhumane. Which causes most to use more drugs, so it will numb you, which causes more trauma, and you get caught in a cycle of pain and suffering. When I finally lost everything and my world was surrounded by predators that's the day I called on God and did what I had to like going into long term rehab far away from my community because you're less likely to be successful where the people you used drugs with still live. I got into therapy and had to focus on myself only. It's been six and a half years, and I'm finally in a place where I can forgive myself and others who hurt me. Life's not perfect because it's always going to be a rollercoaster because emotions for a person in recovery are always difficult. My life today is a true blessing from God even though I'm imperfect and life is messy. I suppose you come to a place where you learn how to deal with life on life's terms. I pray for all of you going through the pain of losing your babies to dhs. You can change yourself and live a life you can be at peace with if you choose to follow others before you and get all the help you can to heal.❤
Forget Asriah...this lady could benefit from a Go Fund Me ❤
This video has to be shown to every BLM activist.
Growing up in the worst parts of Chicago no matter what all my friends dads were in house working men then eventually move the families out of the hood. This whole man aren’t around is a lie. Sounds like a poor choices in the same bad man.
I can verify this. Born and raised in Englewood/Auburn Gresham. And we had a different upbringing in the 80's and 90's
Denial is a powerful thing.
Ma’am you’re so strong. I applaud you for getting yourself clean, for leaving the abusive man, for doing the best you could with your children, and trying to get yourself clean life on the right track. You deserve love and support. I’m so sorry for the things you went through.
Mark you’re just flat out wrong for posing this question “why do so many African Americans struggle with just doing the right thing…?”
Unacceptable. Internet do what you do best smh
Like wtf this guy motivates are dark. My discernment goes crazy with him. He just like to exploit people for money especially young girls. Hes a cREEP
I think he started off good but started to let his “power” over ppl win. Now he cant stop taking pics of nudeless teens.
Well..I'm black and we know why. Slavery. My therapist is a white man and has said this. It's generational. Sadly. It takes therapy and prayers to break these curses. I didn't find what Mark asked offensive.
Mark has done wonderful work for the Black community. As a Black woman, he asked a very legitimate question. I'm sorry you took his question so personal.
@@NkiiA well… you’re Black right?!? You should be offended and the fact that you’re not screams enough
It's ok not to have kids if you weren't raised right, don't have financial means, don't want kids etc. I just want to make it clear I didn't feel I should bring kids into a messed up world. My parents were amazing hard working never even drank a beer infront of us kids. They did work a lot and I grew up in Miami which was is 💩 in my opinion the Spanish hood and that was enough for me inspite of my amazing parents to decide not to bring kids into the world.
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Pure evil and selfishness when a person decides to have children knowing that they live a life of hell and the environment created for the child or children will be a nightmare I salute those that understand that they do not have the capacity nor capability to be mothers or fathers and as such they don't put themselves in the position of being parents
sadly the lineage of trauma and Chaos in that family will continue simply just because as a society when do we stop being selfish with procreating just because one has a working reproductive system and not take into account that trauma,triggers,and chaos starts in vitro
Thanks Mark.
Count your blessings people & Kesha I see your heart ♥️ Hope things get better & you can work on relationships with your kids!!!
I keep coming to check if you’ve brought Johnny on the channel. Where is he?! Is he okay?! He hasn’t been on in such a long time and I start to worry when it’s been a couple months . The johnny with the eyes closed guy lol
What's a great example of a mother, blessings sending your way and to your family and kid's 🙏🫶🫂🥰🥰🎆🔥
Bless this poor soul. A path unguided.🙏
This was a heart wrenching interview. Even though domestic violence, addiction and mental illness do not discriminate, there is the issue of limited resources for the poor. The men and women reference in this video do have a hand in their circumstances. But I suspect they had little opportunity or support in earning a decent living. Hence, they reached for opportunities for fast money for survival. That lifestyle is dangerous and the families subject to these circumstances do not have a fighting chance from the start. There is no profit in victimizing the victims. A large part of this problem is societal. I know I am not saying anything new. But I think this still need to be said.
I can totally relate to you! I haven't been thru what you have, but youre the feelings are the same. It is hard but you're doing it. You & your mom get into some counseling. If she won't go, go by yourself. Love & peayers from Missouri. ❤
Hi Mark, from New Zealand. ‼️😊😊😊😊😊😊
Tragic sad life ...Bless her heart....She seems like such a cool woman
mark how can i have an interview with you? i’ve saw all of your appalachia interviews and im from appalachia myself and have a ton of stories and experiences from trauma, success, depression, addiction and other mental health issues. i’d love to have an interview and i’ve wanted one ever since i first saw your channel. got a lot of stuff that i’d like to get out in an interview too
There's an email with instructions in the channel description.
❤ The best to Kesha. She was thrown too many curve balls in her life.❤The first and worst was the trauma from her mother. That is really sad.
Praying that God break those curses. We as a race , culture or people. Have been through a lot in this country. It might seems like it the individual fault but it's deeper than what society sees.
Her story makes me cry. She’s so transparent. I just think she needs to forgive herself. We often mourn our life and our decisions and what could’ve been. It looks different for everyone but it’s ultimately just a life or shame, guilt and regret.
One of my good friends had her children taken for emotional and mental abuse. She was being physically abused by her husband and her boys were seeing it all. In the eyes of the state, that is abusive.
We cannot constantly " just blame" the man or " just blame" the woman: It takes two to tangle. The problem is mate selection: Many women like these Bad Boys or Thug guys: This love for Thug men/Bad Boys exist in all communities,but it is exacerbated in the Black community. Most women do not like nerdy guys: They want guys who can make fast money. She said a lot of the men her mother met; a lot of the men her mother chose: I once met a White woman that said all White men are Bad because of molestation issues: Are all White,Black,Asian,Hispanic men Bad? Of course not!
Move out of California that would be the best thing you ever do for yourself New Mexico is a really cool state no hurricanes no tornadoes no earthquakes really good food and the people are nice
I could tell that I liked this woman right of the bat .